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Speaker 1: We're gonna be talking about obsession to some degree, people

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Speaker 1: what we're talking about. And this submission, she had an

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Speaker 1: After hearing my email being read back, I cried. I

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Speaker 1: you updated. Isn't that nice? I could climax. I could

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Speaker 1: you have a celebrity crusher? Like who has been your

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Speaker 1: guess we would have never met Brandon. I don't even

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Speaker 1: That was well, we're still growing as a counseling couple,

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Speaker 1: make sure you don't get attached too quickly or anything

423
00:21:02,400 --> 00:21:05,439
Speaker 1: like that. You're a recovering codependent from what you were

424
00:21:05,520 --> 00:21:08,720
Speaker 1: codependent with your last partner. I was married for seven

425
00:21:08,840 --> 00:21:12,400
Speaker 1: years and that was like totally what destroyed our marriage.

426
00:21:12,400 --> 00:21:15,560
Speaker 1: We were both just totally codependent. It just devolves into

427
00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:18,439
Speaker 1: this toxicity. Talk more about that, Like, what what do

428
00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:20,520
Speaker 1: you mean? Can you give us a specific example, because

429
00:21:20,520 --> 00:21:21,920
Speaker 1: I think I have a lot of people probably feel

430
00:21:21,920 --> 00:21:25,440
Speaker 1: that way in their relationships. Yeah. Well, you know, for me,

431
00:21:25,680 --> 00:21:30,320
Speaker 1: my codependency was about affirmation. I needed constant affirmation that

432
00:21:30,359 --> 00:21:34,520
Speaker 1: someone loves me. Yeah that's annoying, Yeah, exactly right. Then

433
00:21:34,680 --> 00:21:38,840
Speaker 1: her codependency issue was mistrust. She just thought I was

434
00:21:38,880 --> 00:21:40,520
Speaker 1: cheating on her all the time. It sounds like you

435
00:21:40,640 --> 00:21:43,199
Speaker 1: both had the same problem. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know

436
00:21:43,320 --> 00:21:46,840
Speaker 1: we did exactly when we both decided to get help,

437
00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:49,600
Speaker 1: we just kind of grew apart after that. There was

438
00:21:49,640 --> 00:21:52,880
Speaker 1: just too much toxicity in that past. Were good. That's

439
00:21:52,880 --> 00:21:54,440
Speaker 1: good that you moved on. That's good that you're done

440
00:21:54,440 --> 00:21:56,080
Speaker 1: with that relationship. So you we don't want you to

441
00:21:56,080 --> 00:21:58,040
Speaker 1: repeat the same thing the second time. We want you

442
00:21:58,080 --> 00:22:00,679
Speaker 1: to have success. So okay, so the second date. What

443
00:22:00,720 --> 00:22:04,080
Speaker 1: happened on the second date? I had reservations for a

444
00:22:04,119 --> 00:22:07,760
Speaker 1: really nice restaurant in town, but it was outdoors and

445
00:22:07,800 --> 00:22:12,120
Speaker 1: it started raining, so they had to cancel everything, and

446
00:22:12,200 --> 00:22:14,960
Speaker 1: I had to reorganize like the entire date, like I

447
00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:18,239
Speaker 1: like within like an hour, So like I took it

448
00:22:18,280 --> 00:22:21,439
Speaker 1: down to like super low key, took her to my

449
00:22:21,480 --> 00:22:25,199
Speaker 1: favorite pizza place, and um, after that, we went to

450
00:22:25,240 --> 00:22:30,640
Speaker 1: the drive in. We watched Wonder Woman. Oh, I liked

451
00:22:30,640 --> 00:22:32,720
Speaker 1: it a lot, But I like Marvel movies more than

452
00:22:32,800 --> 00:22:34,199
Speaker 1: d C. But that was a good movie. Do you

453
00:22:34,240 --> 00:22:36,560
Speaker 1: know what that means? He might as well be speaking Japanese,

454
00:22:36,560 --> 00:22:39,920
Speaker 1: but I know, I know DC and Marvel Arrivals. I

455
00:22:39,960 --> 00:22:41,639
Speaker 1: do know that. Yes, Well, I was going to do

456
00:22:41,720 --> 00:22:43,679
Speaker 1: that the Marvel television show at one point, So I

457
00:22:43,720 --> 00:22:46,400
Speaker 1: did know. But okay, fine, that's yeah, we won't hold

458
00:22:46,440 --> 00:22:48,080
Speaker 1: that against you. You're a white male, of course you

459
00:22:48,119 --> 00:22:50,840
Speaker 1: love that ship, so okay. And then so you go

460
00:22:50,880 --> 00:22:52,399
Speaker 1: to the drive through. So how did the date end

461
00:22:52,400 --> 00:22:55,040
Speaker 1: the second night? It ended pretty well. We kissed a

462
00:22:55,040 --> 00:22:57,879
Speaker 1: few times, we were talking about a third date. And

463
00:22:57,920 --> 00:23:00,480
Speaker 1: then the next day she was hanging out with some

464
00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:02,359
Speaker 1: of her friends and she was like shooting me like

465
00:23:02,440 --> 00:23:05,000
Speaker 1: photos of her brunching and stuff. And I was hanging

466
00:23:05,000 --> 00:23:06,240
Speaker 1: out with some of my friends and I was shooting

467
00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:08,879
Speaker 1: her photos of us jamming because me and my friends

468
00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:11,639
Speaker 1: are all musicians and stuff. Oh by the way, I

469
00:23:11,640 --> 00:23:17,919
Speaker 1: know I'm light skinned, but I'm actually Chicano. Well it's

470
00:23:17,960 --> 00:23:19,720
Speaker 1: just that me and her like that. That's one of

471
00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:22,119
Speaker 1: our very similar things that we have, is that both

472
00:23:22,240 --> 00:23:27,280
Speaker 1: of our ancestors come from the original settlers of Riverside. Well,

473
00:23:27,280 --> 00:23:30,399
Speaker 1: we're not related, you know. Like that. That was like

474
00:23:30,440 --> 00:23:32,320
Speaker 1: a running joke for a couple of weeks there. It

475
00:23:32,359 --> 00:23:37,000
Speaker 1: was just like, okay, well, let's make sure we're not cousins. Okay,

476
00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:40,200
Speaker 1: so then you're not related. Check that box. That's great

477
00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:42,920
Speaker 1: to hear, but yeah, okay, So everything seemed to be

478
00:23:42,960 --> 00:23:45,280
Speaker 1: going fine the next day following the second day, and

479
00:23:45,280 --> 00:23:46,800
Speaker 1: then she just kind of goes to you like there

480
00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:51,679
Speaker 1: was no more communication. And in your submission you mentioned

481
00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:54,440
Speaker 1: possibly writing her attacks to kind of recap, like, hey,

482
00:23:54,520 --> 00:23:56,280
Speaker 1: sorry if I did something, Sorry if you think you're

483
00:23:56,280 --> 00:23:59,280
Speaker 1: feeling a certain way, what what happened there, and what's

484
00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:01,720
Speaker 1: the status. Well, she told me that she had some

485
00:24:01,760 --> 00:24:04,600
Speaker 1: stuff going on, but she also confirmed that she was

486
00:24:04,640 --> 00:24:07,000
Speaker 1: feeling like things were moving too fast. Oh she did

487
00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:09,880
Speaker 1: say that, Yeah, how did you react to that? When

488
00:24:09,920 --> 00:24:12,040
Speaker 1: she said that, I mean, like, I'm kind of self

489
00:24:12,080 --> 00:24:14,879
Speaker 1: aware of you know, that part of me. I was

490
00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:17,680
Speaker 1: just kind of like, that's cool. I kind of turned

491
00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:19,600
Speaker 1: you off that that's all right, you know. And she

492
00:24:19,720 --> 00:24:21,080
Speaker 1: was like, you know, I still want to be friends

493
00:24:21,080 --> 00:24:23,399
Speaker 1: because you know, we have so much comment and I

494
00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:25,760
Speaker 1: was all like, yeah, me too. I wasn't texting her

495
00:24:25,760 --> 00:24:27,119
Speaker 1: a lot or anything like that. I would just hit

496
00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:29,040
Speaker 1: her up every once in a while. And then one

497
00:24:29,119 --> 00:24:31,520
Speaker 1: day on our Instagram, I noticed that she blocked me,

498
00:24:31,800 --> 00:24:35,320
Speaker 1: and like I was like, oh, okay, I guess I

499
00:24:35,320 --> 00:24:38,639
Speaker 1: did something. So I sent her another last text and

500
00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:41,560
Speaker 1: I was just like, hey, I'm sorry if I offended

501
00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:44,440
Speaker 1: you in some way or anything like that, I'm terribly sorry.

502
00:24:44,920 --> 00:24:46,399
Speaker 1: And I was just kind of like, I don't I

503
00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:49,199
Speaker 1: don't know what I did. M okay. So, and I

504
00:24:49,240 --> 00:24:51,680
Speaker 1: have a lot of feelings and thoughts on this scenario,

505
00:24:51,920 --> 00:24:56,400
Speaker 1: But what in retrospect, like being self aware? Are there

506
00:24:56,440 --> 00:25:00,280
Speaker 1: certain things that you said or did that gay her

507
00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:04,760
Speaker 1: the impression that you wanted more than she wanted, or

508
00:25:04,800 --> 00:25:07,440
Speaker 1: that you wanted things to escalate a little bit more

509
00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:10,520
Speaker 1: quickly than maybe she had anticipated. Like, are there certain

510
00:25:10,560 --> 00:25:13,040
Speaker 1: moments that you see like Okay, I could have done

511
00:25:13,040 --> 00:25:15,359
Speaker 1: this differently, or that you'll take into the next interaction

512
00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:19,720
Speaker 1: that you will hopefully amend in some way. That's kind

513
00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:22,080
Speaker 1: of like what I wanted to ask, y'all, what can

514
00:25:22,119 --> 00:25:25,560
Speaker 1: I do to slow things down? How can I stop

515
00:25:25,640 --> 00:25:29,280
Speaker 1: this premature excitement? Were you trolling to her on Instagram

516
00:25:29,320 --> 00:25:31,520
Speaker 1: a lot? Like looking at her stories? If she's not

517
00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:33,560
Speaker 1: a public person, she could probably look and see who's

518
00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:36,280
Speaker 1: watching her stories. It sounds like something happened after they

519
00:25:36,320 --> 00:25:38,320
Speaker 1: went on the date that turned her off, that she

520
00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:40,760
Speaker 1: felt like you were all over her or something and

521
00:25:40,920 --> 00:25:43,520
Speaker 1: liking all of her photos or you know, sometimes girls

522
00:25:43,560 --> 00:25:45,879
Speaker 1: feel smothered like that, but like, yeah, you should totally

523
00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:48,200
Speaker 1: take that as an indicator to chill a little bit out,

524
00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:50,919
Speaker 1: because clearly you kind of for her to block you

525
00:25:50,920 --> 00:25:53,120
Speaker 1: on Instagram. I guess I know people do that a lot, right,

526
00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:57,080
Speaker 1: I mean, well, I'm a friend that blocks people. Yeah,

527
00:25:57,160 --> 00:25:59,119
Speaker 1: but I think that there were probably things leading up

528
00:25:59,119 --> 00:26:03,600
Speaker 1: to that signs maybe we're accounted for and like your

529
00:26:03,680 --> 00:26:05,919
Speaker 1: que car, Yeah, and you're saying it yourself, so that

530
00:26:05,960 --> 00:26:08,600
Speaker 1: means it's true. Yeah, Like you obviously have something to offer.

531
00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:13,080
Speaker 1: You know, your you seem kind, you're handsome, you know

532
00:26:13,200 --> 00:26:15,520
Speaker 1: that there is a problem that you're trying to resolve.

533
00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:17,919
Speaker 1: But there are also things that maybe you should be

534
00:26:17,960 --> 00:26:21,399
Speaker 1: a little bit more thoughtful about in terms of your interactions,

535
00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:23,920
Speaker 1: Like if you know that this is an issue, implement

536
00:26:24,000 --> 00:26:25,600
Speaker 1: certain rules for yourself. Like I used to have a

537
00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:28,600
Speaker 1: two text rule where I would send to an initial one.

538
00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:31,120
Speaker 1: If I didn't get response, I'd send one more generically,

539
00:26:31,560 --> 00:26:33,440
Speaker 1: and then if no response, that was it. Like it

540
00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:37,159
Speaker 1: shouldn't take much more than that. No one should have

541
00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:40,399
Speaker 1: to get to the point of blocking you. That's what

542
00:26:40,520 --> 00:26:43,119
Speaker 1: text too many. Yeah, I think you should subtract to text,

543
00:26:43,320 --> 00:26:46,000
Speaker 1: maybe just bring it down to one and then slowly

544
00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:49,879
Speaker 1: built back up to two. That sound advice. Yeah, I

545
00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:52,400
Speaker 1: like that idea a lot. Yeah. I wasn't rolling around

546
00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:54,200
Speaker 1: Instagram though, by the way, That's kind of like why

547
00:26:54,240 --> 00:26:59,720
Speaker 1: I was so shocked, because I was like, anyone right, right,

548
00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:02,600
Speaker 1: But anyone blocking you on Instagram that should be the

549
00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:05,880
Speaker 1: end of the interaction completely anyway, Like, don't follow up

550
00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:07,840
Speaker 1: on that. It's like some breaking up with somebody and

551
00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:10,480
Speaker 1: then having to tell them again. So, yeah, next time

552
00:27:10,520 --> 00:27:12,560
Speaker 1: the person blocks you on Instagram. Hopefully there won't be

553
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:14,440
Speaker 1: next time. Hopefully we can nip this in the bud,

554
00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:17,800
Speaker 1: but if the first time ever. Yeah, you also have

555
00:27:17,840 --> 00:27:21,159
Speaker 1: to give relationships or interactions room to grow. And I

556
00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:23,480
Speaker 1: think sometimes what happens is people get so like you

557
00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:25,800
Speaker 1: get so excited about it. They're just like they invest

558
00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:28,200
Speaker 1: all in. I do that with friends, and I've seen

559
00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:31,040
Speaker 1: the Brandon has no friends because you're friends. For me,

560
00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:33,280
Speaker 1: it's not the game of like, oh, what sort of

561
00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:35,359
Speaker 1: friendship dynamic are we gonna have. It's like we're friends

562
00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:37,840
Speaker 1: or not. And that's kind of that. But in a

563
00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:40,320
Speaker 1: relationship it's a little bit trickier. Because you have to

564
00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:44,159
Speaker 1: temper those interactions. You have to give them space. So

565
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:46,359
Speaker 1: if you get to the point where you want to

566
00:27:46,400 --> 00:27:49,080
Speaker 1: text this girl or not this specific girl because that's

567
00:27:49,119 --> 00:27:53,160
Speaker 1: wrap on her, but the next one text someone else,

568
00:27:53,720 --> 00:27:55,840
Speaker 1: like when you go to read true phone to check

569
00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:57,919
Speaker 1: on her or text her and she's not a message

570
00:27:58,000 --> 00:28:00,600
Speaker 1: to check on you, message of friend. Like, just apply

571
00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:04,800
Speaker 1: that energy into another relationship. And there's no point in

572
00:28:04,800 --> 00:28:07,760
Speaker 1: like watering a dead flower. So if you can see

573
00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:10,960
Speaker 1: that it's not blossoming, invest that energy into yourself for

574
00:28:11,040 --> 00:28:15,439
Speaker 1: someone else. Don't spend too much music, write music or

575
00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:17,680
Speaker 1: what do you do? You know, play an instrument, that's cool,

576
00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:19,800
Speaker 1: you know, put your channel and your stuff into that.

577
00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:24,120
Speaker 1: Someone's gonna love you soon. Yeah you seem lovable. Yeah,

578
00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:27,000
Speaker 1: you do seem lovable. Thank you, Thank you. I really

579
00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:30,600
Speaker 1: appreciate that, especially from from Chelsea. Thank you very much.

580
00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:33,359
Speaker 1: What about what about Brandan? Yeah, hey, there's no higher

581
00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:38,080
Speaker 1: there's no higher than a gay guy complimenting. That's very true,

582
00:28:38,240 --> 00:28:41,280
Speaker 1: that's very true. I just don't know you, but she

583
00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:45,520
Speaker 1: taste than I do, so it's probably a higher even

584
00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:49,040
Speaker 1: without it being her. It just has better taste. I

585
00:28:49,080 --> 00:28:51,920
Speaker 1: have no style so I guess my compliments void. I

586
00:28:51,960 --> 00:28:54,520
Speaker 1: didn't mean it in the mean way. Sorry, that's okay, fine,

587
00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:56,920
Speaker 1: we're just giving you ship. No, No, your compliment is

588
00:28:57,000 --> 00:29:00,120
Speaker 1: totally valid and I appreciate it. Yeah, and also you

589
00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:03,080
Speaker 1: do have a lot in common with the person. That's nice,

590
00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:05,680
Speaker 1: but don't take it too far with that. It's nice

591
00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:07,720
Speaker 1: that you both have the same heritage, and it's nice

592
00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:10,280
Speaker 1: that you both like the same beer. But like, those

593
00:29:10,320 --> 00:29:13,920
Speaker 1: aren't like cosmic signs from the universe. It's just coincidences.

594
00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:16,160
Speaker 1: So just like, don't take all of it so seriously.

595
00:29:17,440 --> 00:29:19,400
Speaker 1: You know, I like that a lot. Thank you. Okay,

596
00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:21,600
Speaker 1: there's hope, William. Let us know what's going on. I

597
00:29:21,600 --> 00:29:24,600
Speaker 1: would like an update on your next few dates on

598
00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:26,840
Speaker 1: what's going on, so keep us posted and just just

599
00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:30,280
Speaker 1: remember taking slow, like nothing's that serious. Yeah, take things slow.

600
00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:32,000
Speaker 1: And if I'm in that area and you still haven't

601
00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:33,400
Speaker 1: met a girlfriend, maybe I can come over and have

602
00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:38,160
Speaker 1: sex with you. Yeah, well yeah, or maybe even go

603
00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:39,680
Speaker 1: on a date. You know. Well, I don't think I

604
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:41,680
Speaker 1: need the date part. I mean, especially sounds like you

605
00:29:41,680 --> 00:29:43,800
Speaker 1: you like to you know, I would be more of

606
00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:46,600
Speaker 1: a sister transaction for attentions man, I'll save you. The

607
00:29:47,280 --> 00:29:50,840
Speaker 1: attention is very small, so just stick with the sacks

608
00:29:51,040 --> 00:29:53,400
Speaker 1: and then it's a it's a win, all right, Okay,

609
00:29:53,640 --> 00:29:58,840
Speaker 1: I'm taking that win, all right. Bye. But he was cute,

610
00:29:58,960 --> 00:30:02,080
Speaker 1: you know, Santa Claus cute Chicano kind of way, Like

611
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:04,360
Speaker 1: I love that. I love when men have like full

612
00:30:04,400 --> 00:30:07,280
Speaker 1: faces and beards and are playful. You know, so many

613
00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:10,880
Speaker 1: women are like really hard up for a man. So

614
00:30:10,920 --> 00:30:13,320
Speaker 1: many women really want to be with somebody, They really

615
00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:15,800
Speaker 1: want to be with a responsible person, or you know,

616
00:30:15,840 --> 00:30:17,840
Speaker 1: somebody's got a job and it's got their ship together.

617
00:30:18,560 --> 00:30:20,120
Speaker 1: And you know, I don't know how much she's got

618
00:30:20,120 --> 00:30:21,880
Speaker 1: a ship together because we didn't get into that. But

619
00:30:21,920 --> 00:30:24,680
Speaker 1: like I like to think that there's a lid for

620
00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:27,280
Speaker 1: every pot there and that's why I keep telling you,

621
00:30:27,320 --> 00:30:30,640
Speaker 1: we're going to find your lid. Like you're ready for

622
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:33,840
Speaker 1: a relationship, and I was ready for a relationship, and

623
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:36,320
Speaker 1: I've already changed my mind, so I think I think

624
00:30:36,360 --> 00:30:38,640
Speaker 1: I'm ready, and I'll never will be ready for a relationship.

625
00:30:39,080 --> 00:30:42,720
Speaker 1: It all just seems like too much work. And I

626
00:30:42,760 --> 00:30:46,040
Speaker 1: don't I really only because I'm very bored at this

627
00:30:46,080 --> 00:30:47,640
Speaker 1: point in my life. When I'm in l A for

628
00:30:47,640 --> 00:30:50,120
Speaker 1: some reason, I find myself bored. As soon as you

629
00:30:50,200 --> 00:30:54,240
Speaker 1: got back, you asked how to log into Tinder. No,

630
00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:56,840
Speaker 1: I want to Riah, and there were some hot guys

631
00:30:56,840 --> 00:30:59,880
Speaker 1: on Riya. But I did something wrong with my location,

632
00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:03,120
Speaker 1: so like I had changed my location in Vancouver when

633
00:31:03,160 --> 00:31:06,640
Speaker 1: I was in Whistler, and then I never changed it back.

634
00:31:06,760 --> 00:31:10,160
Speaker 1: So I was missing all these connections. And then there

635
00:31:10,240 --> 00:31:11,680
Speaker 1: was one cute guy and I was like, are you

636
00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:13,960
Speaker 1: He had a bunch of pictures of snowboarding and I

637
00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:16,520
Speaker 1: was like, are you skiing or snowboarding? He said snowboarding

638
00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:19,120
Speaker 1: and that was the end of that relationship. Grown men

639
00:31:19,200 --> 00:31:22,680
Speaker 1: on a snowboard. I need a guy who could ski.

640
00:31:22,920 --> 00:31:25,320
Speaker 1: It's like Peter Pants and more arrested development, Like get

641
00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:27,760
Speaker 1: on a set of skis like an adult, and it's

642
00:31:27,800 --> 00:31:30,080
Speaker 1: so much hotter, Like men's skiing is so much hotter

643
00:31:30,080 --> 00:31:32,920
Speaker 1: than a guy on a snow Snowboarding feels like younger,

644
00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:36,320
Speaker 1: like you're clinging to something. Do you when you have

645
00:31:36,360 --> 00:31:38,560
Speaker 1: an interaction with a guy on a dating app and

646
00:31:39,480 --> 00:31:41,480
Speaker 1: you're suddenly not into it for one reason or another,

647
00:31:41,480 --> 00:31:43,280
Speaker 1: do you tell them or will you just stop responding?

648
00:31:43,440 --> 00:31:45,440
Speaker 1: Usually just stopped responding, I mean, I don't owe them

649
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:47,000
Speaker 1: anything at that point, but I do like to tell

650
00:31:47,000 --> 00:31:48,920
Speaker 1: people when they do things that annoy me, like that

651
00:31:48,960 --> 00:31:51,560
Speaker 1: guy I was, I was seeing some guys sleeping with

652
00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:53,360
Speaker 1: some guy right before I left. When I went Whistler

653
00:31:53,440 --> 00:31:56,520
Speaker 1: this year in December, and I got there and he

654
00:31:56,720 --> 00:31:58,440
Speaker 1: and we was cute. We hung out a bunch of

655
00:31:58,440 --> 00:32:00,240
Speaker 1: times before I left. Was a nice guy. Yeah, met

656
00:32:00,280 --> 00:32:03,040
Speaker 1: him and then he sent me in Whistler like he

657
00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:04,760
Speaker 1: made this big thing that he was sending me gift,

658
00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:06,120
Speaker 1: that he was sending me gifts. He said it like

659
00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:07,760
Speaker 1: three times and then asked me if I found it

660
00:32:07,760 --> 00:32:10,479
Speaker 1: at my door three times, which was also annoying. And

661
00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:12,479
Speaker 1: then I found the gift and it was a black

662
00:32:12,640 --> 00:32:16,600
Speaker 1: dildo and I just thought, what why are you sending

663
00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:19,640
Speaker 1: me a vibrator? Like that's not funny, Like he thought

664
00:32:19,640 --> 00:32:22,080
Speaker 1: it was funny. He's like, oh, you're gonna love it.

665
00:32:22,080 --> 00:32:26,320
Speaker 1: It's like no, not first of all, like I'm not twelve,

666
00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:28,360
Speaker 1: and don't send me asked me about a gift like

667
00:32:28,400 --> 00:32:31,040
Speaker 1: a serrious like I thought it was something sweet or sincere,

668
00:32:31,160 --> 00:32:34,680
Speaker 1: like something like you know, useful exactly, like do you

669
00:32:34,720 --> 00:32:37,000
Speaker 1: ever use those heated gloves. I got you which heated

670
00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:40,760
Speaker 1: gloves the heat admits. Yeah, I use them all the time.

671
00:32:41,200 --> 00:32:42,760
Speaker 1: That's what I skew it. I wondered how they were.

672
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:45,600
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I said. I thought that's a thoughtful kid. Yeah,

673
00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:47,280
Speaker 1: that's a thoughtful gifts. I actually got a pair for

674
00:32:47,280 --> 00:32:49,360
Speaker 1: a for her birthday this year, and then I got

675
00:32:49,360 --> 00:32:50,840
Speaker 1: a pair for Kelly too, because she didn't have heat

676
00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:52,760
Speaker 1: to gloves. It's so nice to have your hands warm,

677
00:32:52,840 --> 00:32:55,120
Speaker 1: so you always default to a heat admit instead of

678
00:32:55,120 --> 00:32:57,960
Speaker 1: a dildo. Guys, Oh yeah, it's just dildo. It is

679
00:32:58,040 --> 00:32:59,959
Speaker 1: just such a gross And by the way, I've been

680
00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:02,160
Speaker 1: sent so many dildos. I mean I got three on

681
00:33:02,240 --> 00:33:05,120
Speaker 1: my birthday and whistler At got three dildos. So he's

682
00:33:05,160 --> 00:33:08,800
Speaker 1: let alone in his idiotic thinking. And then my friend

683
00:33:09,080 --> 00:33:11,360
Speaker 1: was like, I love this vibrator, and I was like,

684
00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:14,400
Speaker 1: oh my god, there's nothing more annoying than sitting around

685
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:17,840
Speaker 1: talking about viber. You got a fucking vibrator from your facialist. Okay,

686
00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:19,800
Speaker 1: so that's the next vibrator. I was going to say

687
00:33:19,840 --> 00:33:22,360
Speaker 1: that I got. Yeah, so Vanessa, who installed my neck

688
00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:29,480
Speaker 1: with my own blood? Everyone or like, it's all like

689
00:33:29,480 --> 00:33:31,680
Speaker 1: we're just yes, like we're all just trading like here,

690
00:33:31,720 --> 00:33:35,640
Speaker 1: why don't you I just don't use vibrators. I just don't.

691
00:33:35,680 --> 00:33:39,040
Speaker 1: Maybe I don't right. I think you've said that before,

692
00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:41,400
Speaker 1: that you're like people of a certain nature. It's like, oh, well,

693
00:33:41,440 --> 00:33:43,600
Speaker 1: if you don't have someone. I mean, no, I'm not

694
00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:46,760
Speaker 1: really big on masturbating. I mean you would think actually

695
00:33:46,800 --> 00:33:48,480
Speaker 1: that I have the time to do it, but so

696
00:33:48,840 --> 00:33:51,840
Speaker 1: sometimes but not really. Now, I don't know how you could.

697
00:33:51,840 --> 00:33:54,400
Speaker 1: You always have people of the house. You were either

698
00:33:54,480 --> 00:33:56,240
Speaker 1: asleep or you have people at the house, So I

699
00:33:56,240 --> 00:33:58,400
Speaker 1: don't know when you would have time to get about

700
00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:00,360
Speaker 1: belt walking. And I'm made jerking off in the middle

701
00:34:00,360 --> 00:34:04,400
Speaker 1: of that. You. Oh god, Brandon, come on, talk about

702
00:34:04,440 --> 00:34:09,560
Speaker 1: white privilege. Stop it. I think it's time for me

703
00:34:09,600 --> 00:34:11,839
Speaker 1: to charge my tesla. We're going to go to a break.

704
00:34:13,560 --> 00:34:16,120
Speaker 1: Oh sweetheart. Well, I feel like we gave some sound

705
00:34:16,120 --> 00:34:18,440
Speaker 1: advice today. It sounds like we're going to wrap things up.

706
00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:20,320
Speaker 1: By the tone of your voice, I think we should.

707
00:34:20,320 --> 00:34:22,520
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know how we could, how we

708
00:34:22,520 --> 00:34:25,080
Speaker 1: could top William And he doesn't sound like he wants

709
00:34:25,120 --> 00:34:27,520
Speaker 1: me to, so no, he doesn't want anything to do

710
00:34:27,560 --> 00:34:29,200
Speaker 1: with you. But he definitely would have sex with me

711
00:34:29,200 --> 00:34:31,239
Speaker 1: and be funny if I had sex with every drear.

712
00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:34,160
Speaker 1: Did he remind you of anyone that we know? It's

713
00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:36,480
Speaker 1: a hardy body type. Yeah. I we don't even know

714
00:34:36,520 --> 00:34:37,840
Speaker 1: what was going down from the neck down because we

715
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:39,040
Speaker 1: only saw him from the neck up, so I can

716
00:34:39,120 --> 00:34:41,880
Speaker 1: only imagine that his stomach matches his face. Yeah, and

717
00:34:41,880 --> 00:34:44,480
Speaker 1: he just seems like a thick, like a hearty man. Yeah.

718
00:34:44,600 --> 00:34:46,279
Speaker 1: I like that kind of look. I mean, I don't

719
00:34:46,280 --> 00:34:48,680
Speaker 1: really it's a kind of like a lumberjack look. It's

720
00:34:48,719 --> 00:34:50,880
Speaker 1: not really my thing, but I'm open to it. You

721
00:34:50,880 --> 00:34:53,239
Speaker 1: don't like too muscily. I like guys that are like

722
00:34:53,320 --> 00:34:56,160
Speaker 1: really fit, but not muscily, but like fit so I

723
00:34:56,160 --> 00:34:58,600
Speaker 1: can handle a little stomach like a little bit of meat.

724
00:34:58,800 --> 00:35:00,400
Speaker 1: But I don't like when guys are like, you have

725
00:35:00,440 --> 00:35:03,239
Speaker 1: a big belly, like, I'm not into that. I don't

726
00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:07,439
Speaker 1: like things flapping. No, you don't like persons right right,

727
00:35:07,520 --> 00:35:11,719
Speaker 1: but I do like them as friends. Well, now we know.

728
00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:14,919
Speaker 1: I just want to wish everybody happy St. Patrick's Day,

729
00:35:14,920 --> 00:35:17,839
Speaker 1: even though it's nowhere near March. You have no idea

730
00:35:17,880 --> 00:35:20,759
Speaker 1: when any holidays are because you don't celebrate anything I

731
00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:23,560
Speaker 1: know that same Patty's Day is Marche and that is

732
00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:27,240
Speaker 1: not close. Let's just plan on our summer vacation, Brandon,

733
00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:28,840
Speaker 1: why don't you start figuring out where I'm going to go,

734
00:35:29,280 --> 00:35:31,040
Speaker 1: where you're going to, where I'm going to, and you

735
00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:35,080
Speaker 1: know where I'm going where? Okay, so we have everyone

736
00:35:35,360 --> 00:35:37,480
Speaker 1: also keep an eye out for Chelsea stand up dates

737
00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:39,680
Speaker 1: because they're being added now that people are being vaccinated

738
00:35:39,680 --> 00:35:42,279
Speaker 1: and things are opening up. So she has dates in

739
00:35:42,600 --> 00:35:44,960
Speaker 1: July and Nashville, which I know off the top of

740
00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:47,560
Speaker 1: my head. Those are all sold out. So if you're

741
00:35:47,560 --> 00:35:49,600
Speaker 1: looking for something to do for your summer vacation, you

742
00:35:49,600 --> 00:35:53,120
Speaker 1: guys are performing all over the place. I'm performing at

743
00:35:53,160 --> 00:35:56,960
Speaker 1: Humphreys and San Diego. I'm performing at the Santa Barbara Bowl.

744
00:35:57,719 --> 00:36:00,719
Speaker 1: I'm performing in Vegas on of Light tenth at the

745
00:36:00,719 --> 00:36:04,319
Speaker 1: Mirage Santa Barbara Bowl. I think it's August one, and

746
00:36:04,360 --> 00:36:07,120
Speaker 1: then I'm doing a whole slew of dates all over

747
00:36:07,320 --> 00:36:10,319
Speaker 1: across the country. So new dates will be added. So

748
00:36:10,320 --> 00:36:13,560
Speaker 1: I dates right, We just added two new shows. So

749
00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:17,279
Speaker 1: oh and to my Canadian and brothers insist, well, my

750
00:36:18,120 --> 00:36:21,560
Speaker 1: that's really where I'm from now. To all my Canadians.

751
00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:24,560
Speaker 1: I will be touring in Canada. I just have not

752
00:36:24,600 --> 00:36:27,080
Speaker 1: announced those dates yet. So don't you worry. I will

753
00:36:27,120 --> 00:36:31,480
Speaker 1: never forget you. Are you kidding me? Are you fucking

754
00:36:31,560 --> 00:36:34,200
Speaker 1: kidding me? You know what, Canadians don't even say fucking

755
00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:37,239
Speaker 1: They're too polite. My point of that is, We're going

756
00:36:37,280 --> 00:36:39,919
Speaker 1: to Nashville for your stand up dates at Zany's, which

757
00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:41,719
Speaker 1: are all sold out. But then I'm going to stay

758
00:36:41,760 --> 00:36:43,880
Speaker 1: for a few extra days and I'm going to fucking Dollywood.

759
00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:47,239
Speaker 1: Oh my god, oh my. I wish you could say,

760
00:36:47,280 --> 00:36:49,879
Speaker 1: but you're going on your family vacation at the same

761
00:36:49,920 --> 00:36:54,160
Speaker 1: time you are going to climax all day long at that.

762
00:36:55,600 --> 00:36:58,560
Speaker 1: So Dollywood's like, is it like an amusements an amusement park.

763
00:36:58,640 --> 00:37:01,000
Speaker 1: She owns it, and I guess she's there sporadically. I

764
00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:02,840
Speaker 1: don't know if there's a Dolly calendar for me to

765
00:37:02,920 --> 00:37:05,120
Speaker 1: check to see, but I'm going to have to get

766
00:37:05,120 --> 00:37:07,359
Speaker 1: irving on the horn somebody to figure out when she's

767
00:37:07,360 --> 00:37:09,120
Speaker 1: going to be there. Oh yeah, I'm sure they can

768
00:37:09,160 --> 00:37:11,239
Speaker 1: help you out with that. Did you watch the Dolly documentary?

769
00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:13,640
Speaker 1: I started, I haven't finished it yet, but I just

770
00:37:13,719 --> 00:37:16,960
Speaker 1: love Dolly. Yeah, I know that like Dolly too. Yeah, everybody,

771
00:37:17,280 --> 00:37:20,760
Speaker 1: you had a Dolly shirt that you wore a lot

772
00:37:21,480 --> 00:37:25,239
Speaker 1: until it was fraying. You loved that, you were too

773
00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:28,080
Speaker 1: so many stand up shows. Finally someone said something, there's like,

774
00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:30,560
Speaker 1: what is going on? Right? It's just more of a

775
00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:33,040
Speaker 1: cute shirt though. But I do love Dolly. I love

776
00:37:33,120 --> 00:37:35,640
Speaker 1: Dolly and I love There's another good documentary on hbox

777
00:37:36,719 --> 00:37:39,080
Speaker 1: that's awesome. I haven't watched it, but I hear you

778
00:37:39,120 --> 00:37:41,439
Speaker 1: have a different appreciation for her. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah,

779
00:37:41,440 --> 00:37:43,239
Speaker 1: the way she can move her body, the way she

780
00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:45,960
Speaker 1: moves like when she was young, starting at well, I

781
00:37:46,000 --> 00:37:48,239
Speaker 1: mean she still can move her body, but she was

782
00:37:48,280 --> 00:37:50,279
Speaker 1: like so much older when she made it. She was

783
00:37:50,320 --> 00:37:52,640
Speaker 1: like it almost you know, fifty when she really hit

784
00:37:52,680 --> 00:37:57,040
Speaker 1: it without Ike when she left him, so god, Yeah,

785
00:37:57,040 --> 00:38:02,439
Speaker 1: she was such and amazing performer. Well that's a great

786
00:38:02,920 --> 00:38:05,040
Speaker 1: ending note. It's never too late. Doesn't matter how fucking

787
00:38:05,040 --> 00:38:06,920
Speaker 1: old you are, Guys, get out there and do what

788
00:38:06,960 --> 00:38:09,520
Speaker 1: you want to do. Yeah, go after menopause like it

789
00:38:09,600 --> 00:38:12,759
Speaker 1: owns you. I mean, like you own it. You're going

790
00:38:12,800 --> 00:38:14,879
Speaker 1: to own it. O O bye