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Speaker 2: Matthew was on the phone today for a first a
Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Selena.
Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we're gonna call her and
Speaker 2: see if she tell us why she's ghosting him and
Speaker 2: maybe get him another day. But first, Matthew, how long
Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from Selena?
Speaker 3: About a week?
Speaker 2: Okay? Have you been hitting her up to try to
Speaker 2: get a hold of her.
Speaker 3: I'm to ask her what day was agoing about ego,
Speaker 3: She's so busy. I kind of checked it after that
Speaker 3: one more time for she had some availability coming up,
Speaker 3: I responded, And I'm not gonna like keep paying on.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it can get creepy real quick with that.
Speaker 3: I'm not trying to do that.
Speaker 1: Crush your soul the more times you don't get Yeah, okay, well,
Speaker 1: how is the date though? Must have been great if
Speaker 1: you want to get a hold of her.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I thought it went great. We might
Speaker 3: at work I work in the IK department, or I
Speaker 3: did Selena as in the kind executive I helped probably
Speaker 3: some computer issues at work. We had some chemistry. I
Speaker 3: felt like pretty obvious right from the get go. I
Speaker 3: worked up in nerve to ask her out. She said
Speaker 3: like she was into it. She told me she liked
Speaker 3: lemons on Martini's, so I know it's a perfect spot.
Speaker 3: It's a really cool spot. I got told Hollywood vibe,
Speaker 3: which I always always liked a lot. We had some drinks.
Speaker 3: I did not have a lemon drop. I hadn't dry Martini,
Speaker 3: but but she had some some kind of big well
Speaker 3: and everything. We talked about dreams features stuff like that,
Speaker 3: kind of in a lighthearted way. I mean it felt
Speaker 3: really good and I was I was really slightly had
Speaker 3: a pretty intensive makeout session in the dark corner we were.
Speaker 3: I mean it felt like you know, kids in school.
Speaker 3: I mean a lot of that kind of giggly energy
Speaker 3: and sat me have the date split up. That was
Speaker 3: pretty much it. I thought it looked really good. I
Speaker 3: a little bit to get hold of it. I would
Speaker 3: like to understand, you know, about to kind of honestly
Speaker 3: how to cuss on it for a while. So when
Speaker 3: it broke up that she you know, doesn't seem to
Speaker 3: be willing to respond at least.
Speaker 2: Anything happened on the date that you think could be
Speaker 2: a reason she's not calling you back.
Speaker 3: I mean, the only thing I can think of is
Speaker 3: I actually did just get let go from the job
Speaker 3: that we worked together. So she said at the end
Speaker 3: of the state, you know, see it work, and I
Speaker 3: had to be like, I don't even want to be
Speaker 3: the salon. So I told her that I actually, you know,
Speaker 3: wasn't working there anymore. So I kind of thought would
Speaker 3: actually be a good thing because it removes the possibility
Speaker 3: of like, you know, the office politics and that sort
Speaker 3: of thing, takes the pressure off of that. That's only
Speaker 3: the only thing I could think of that might have
Speaker 3: gone wrong with it, unless I has just totally misread,
Speaker 3: you know, the signals, and I guess, which is always
Speaker 3: a possibility. But that's only one thing I can think of,
Speaker 3: is it I got let go?
Speaker 1: Does she feel like kind of a shallow person that
Speaker 1: would be like, I am not dating a guy who's unemployed.
Speaker 3: I mean, maybe, don't. I didn't get that buy from
Speaker 3: her at all. I mean, she seemed pretty down to
Speaker 3: earth and like, you know, I mean that strikes me
Speaker 3: as just being kind of sort of sighted, and so
Speaker 3: she didn't striking that way at all. But I mean,
Speaker 3: I guess it's a possibility.
Speaker 2: Okay, did you guys kiss and stuff at the end
Speaker 2: they made out in the dark?
Speaker 3: We were making out, but you were making out, you know,
Speaker 3: we made out the bar at the very ample. I
Speaker 3: said that, no, but yeah, maybe that was a warning
Speaker 3: sign or some sort. But did you guys like finalists
Speaker 3: good vibe? We definitely talked about seeing to other account
Speaker 3: the owner in the day. Yeah, I mean that was
Speaker 3: on the table for sure.
Speaker 2: Okay, well, we'll see if we can figure it out
Speaker 2: for you. Then we'll play a song, come back and
Speaker 2: call her in social tell so why she's ghosting you,
Speaker 2: and maybe get you another date. Okay, okay, so good,
Speaker 2: all right, cool, play a song, come back, and get
Speaker 2: your first a follow up next if you're just joining
Speaker 2: us for today's first day follow up. Matthew is on
Speaker 2: the phone and he's getting hosted by Selena. So in
Speaker 2: a few minutes we're gonna call her and see if
Speaker 2: she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get
Speaker 2: him another date. But before we do that, Matthew, why
Speaker 2: don't you refresh our memory on your date with Selena?
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, so I thought it went really well we
Speaker 3: had some chemistry from when we worked together. The day
Speaker 3: was great, good drinks, good vibe. We've made out. It
Speaker 3: seemed like there was some definite intensity. I thought things
Speaker 3: were going great. We started talking about next time, next meetings,
Speaker 3: next dates, And the one thing I could think of
Speaker 3: that went wrong is at the end, I had to
Speaker 3: tell her that I was no longer with the company
Speaker 3: that we worked at together, and that that's one of
Speaker 3: my guests as to why she's decided a ghost. That's
Speaker 3: just a guest, though.
Speaker 2: All Right, are you ready for us to call her?
Speaker 3: Sure, I'd love to. I'd love to have another shot.
Speaker 2: All right, here we go.
Speaker 3: Man.
Speaker 2: Hello, Hi'm asking to Selena. Please.
Speaker 3: This is Selena.
Speaker 2: Hey Selena, how are you? My name is Jewbel. I'm
Speaker 2: calling from radio show. It's called The Jebel Show. Yeah, hi, Selena,
Speaker 2: the whole show's here. I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, Hi, Hi, Hi.
Speaker 2: You listen to the show.
Speaker 3: I do.
Speaker 4: I'm a fan. This is exciting.
Speaker 2: Oh sweet, thank you? Well, do you have any idea
Speaker 2: while we're calling you?
Speaker 3: I'm a little bit scared.
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is the first date follow up. So you
Speaker 2: went on a date with somebody recently and have been
Speaker 2: ghosting them and they emailed us. Do you know who
Speaker 2: would email us about you?
Speaker 4: I have a.
Speaker 3: Pretty good idea.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you want to take a shot at it?
Speaker 4: Is it Matthew?
Speaker 2: Yes, it is Matthew. You are correct. Matthews told us
Speaker 2: he really liked you told us about your date. But
Speaker 2: he says, you've been ghosting for over a week now.
Speaker 2: What happened?
Speaker 4: Yeah, oh man, I feel bad, sing Matthew because he
Speaker 4: told me that he wants to live in a treehouse. Yeah,
Speaker 4: like for his real house, I think, And like he
Speaker 4: he told me we worked. I don't know if he
Speaker 4: told you, but we worked at the same company and
Speaker 4: he told me that, like towards the end of the day,
Speaker 4: I said, like, oh, see you at work, and he
Speaker 4: told me that he had lost his job there, which
Speaker 4: was fine, like that that's a that's yeah. I felt
Speaker 4: really bad for him that that happened.
Speaker 3: But he just had like he said, he has no.
Speaker 4: Plan, and he was like, you know, I'm sure everything's
Speaker 4: everything's going to be fine, and I living in a
Speaker 4: treehouse sounds perfect, And like he he did that he
Speaker 4: wanted to live in like one of the fancy want
Speaker 4: like the glamping kind of situation treehouses. But at the
Speaker 4: same time, I feel like, I mean, I definitely am
Speaker 4: not interested in living in a treehouse, and I'm looking
Speaker 4: for like a serious partner. And like, at first I
Speaker 4: thought he was joking, because you know, I mean, that's
Speaker 4: like a funny thing to but then he like actually
Speaker 4: went into this whole thing about his friend and how
Speaker 4: his friend lives in a treehouse and how his friend
Speaker 4: like has saved him so much money and he has
Speaker 4: like no more like drama, and you know, he's like
Speaker 4: a volunteer at different schools and he's playing music and
Speaker 4: like that's all well and good for like a you know,
Speaker 4: like a burning man type.
Speaker 2: Like to me, I'm kind of interested, but I don't
Speaker 2: think that feels stressful. And when it comes to like
Speaker 2: a relationship, though.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm like, what where am I going to plug
Speaker 4: in my glow dirt?
Speaker 3: You know what I mean?
Speaker 2: Do they have like fancy treehouses?
Speaker 1: I mean it does sound kind of at least like
Speaker 1: anyone that you could can you live in them?
Speaker 2: Do you run power to a treehouse? For sure? Really
Speaker 2: you could look.
Speaker 4: In a treehouse, but like you can't have like kids,
Speaker 4: you know, what I mean. I'm like long term, I'm like,
Speaker 4: this is going nowhere.
Speaker 2: So like you have like a you know, yeah, you
Speaker 2: probably can. I'm pretty sure there are treehouses that have
Speaker 2: showers and stuff. Actually there are. I think you could.
Speaker 1: Build like technically a real house in the tree.
Speaker 2: Well I don't know how big of a house he's
Speaker 2: trying to build in the tree, right, but you know
Speaker 2: that could Well that's a good point though.
Speaker 1: If you're starting to really fast forward kids, you imagine
Speaker 1: your kids running around in a treehouse.
Speaker 4: Amazing.
Speaker 1: I have to build some kind of like what do
Speaker 1: you call it, hammock net underneath of it.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, thank you for being honest with us. I
Speaker 2: appreciate that.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: And I don't know if you remember or not, Selena,
Speaker 2: but during these first day follow ups, the person that
Speaker 2: emailed us is on the phone. So Matthew has been
Speaker 2: listening this whole time and is on the phone and
Speaker 2: wants to talk to you.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, he told were cool and the things I
Speaker 3: remember you saying that you always were on the spend
Speaker 3: the night and one, so it would be like yeah
Speaker 3: like that, yeah, like.
Speaker 4: For for vacation, I'm like, I'm not gonna want to
Speaker 4: live in a treehouse. Matthew, like, I want to like
Speaker 4: st a venture in a treehouse, and then I want
Speaker 4: like to go back to reality, like go back to
Speaker 4: my life.
Speaker 3: You know, I'm not like urge you to live in
Speaker 3: a treehouse planning to one to have one. It was
Speaker 3: just sort of a there's something we could do. I
Speaker 3: don't know, it was just something talk.
Speaker 2: It's kind of a good sign though, Matthew. She really
Speaker 2: like fast forward to see the future with you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I.
Speaker 4: Guess I just mean like so, I mean it's like
Speaker 4: beyond the I'm just like you have no plan, Like
Speaker 4: I'm just like living in a treehouse with no plan.
Speaker 4: It's just like me, I was like, oh, big red flag.
Speaker 3: Well so that I don't have a plan. I just
Speaker 3: have as means to take some time and figure out
Speaker 3: what I'm going to do next. I don't really actually
Speaker 3: have to work. I just do it because I like it.
Speaker 3: So if I'm not feeling it, I don't. But there's
Speaker 3: the same thing as I'm not having a plan.
Speaker 4: Are you Like what do you mean, like, are you
Speaker 4: like a secret billionaire or something like you don't have
Speaker 4: to work?
Speaker 3: I mean I'm not a billionaire. But I have some money.
Speaker 3: I'm independently well.
Speaker 2: People to say, oh, so it would probably be a
Speaker 2: very nice treehouse day.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I gotta say for me, are not like what
Speaker 3: Grandpa made in the backyard when a kid. I'm talking
Speaker 3: about like a house's in a tree, okay, with plumbing
Speaker 3: and showers and you know, you could put in your
Speaker 3: phone charger for sure. But I mean if you don't
Speaker 3: want that, that's that's fine. I don't know exactly what
Speaker 3: the next maybe year that has more in terms of plans,
Speaker 3: but I mean, all I know is I definitely would
Speaker 3: like to have the opportunity to spend more time explaining.
Speaker 2: Selena, would you like to go out with Matthew again?
Speaker 2: We'll pay for it.
Speaker 4: I mean, so you would be willing to like live
Speaker 4: in a house house.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean we could. I would be willing to
Speaker 3: live in a house with not a tree in sight?
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you got enough money to cut them down.
Speaker 1: It sounds like yeah, I mean sounds like you guys
Speaker 1: really like each other.
Speaker 2: There's a lot of negotiating happening here.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, that's a sticking point that can be,
Speaker 3: that can be, that's that's negotiable.
Speaker 2: What do you think Selena one more shot, Slen, he's rich, Nina.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I would be willing to give it another shot.
Speaker 3: I think I had a different.
Speaker 4: Understanding what you.
Speaker 2: Okay, congratulations Matthew, you got another date.
Speaker 3: He Selene, I'm so glad that you're wanting to give
Speaker 3: another shot. You can appreciate why I wouldn't like lead
Speaker 3: with money just off the top, but yeah, I sew
Speaker 3: for fun, so I'm going to another shot. Thank you.
Speaker 2: Money got her back in though. Jule's first date follow
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