1 00:00:12,360 --> 00:00:14,840 Speaker 1: I have a dating concept I'm launching called the Core. 2 00:00:15,200 --> 00:00:18,240 Speaker 1: I have already started it in beta in proof of concept. 3 00:00:18,320 --> 00:00:21,360 Speaker 1: It has been a social experiment. It has done extraordinarily 4 00:00:21,440 --> 00:00:24,840 Speaker 1: well and proven a theory that I had about dating 5 00:00:24,840 --> 00:00:27,800 Speaker 1: and how to do it, and proving what I believe 6 00:00:27,880 --> 00:00:30,640 Speaker 1: to be A quarter of the community that I'm working 7 00:00:30,720 --> 00:00:33,360 Speaker 1: with beliefs to be the most criminal aspect of dating, 8 00:00:33,360 --> 00:00:39,080 Speaker 1: which is matchmaking, the most frustrating of dating, which is apps. 9 00:00:39,680 --> 00:00:44,680 Speaker 1: And basically matchmakers tell women that men want younger models, 10 00:00:44,880 --> 00:00:48,120 Speaker 1: tell men that all women want money, and they take 11 00:00:48,240 --> 00:00:51,239 Speaker 1: women's money because women are the ones that are more desperate, 12 00:00:51,320 --> 00:00:53,440 Speaker 1: and then they use the very small group of men 13 00:00:53,800 --> 00:00:55,960 Speaker 1: to push them around to the same women who are 14 00:00:56,040 --> 00:00:58,480 Speaker 1: then seeing the same exact men on apps. 15 00:00:58,840 --> 00:01:00,000 Speaker 2: That's making them all frustrating. 16 00:01:00,680 --> 00:01:03,120 Speaker 1: But they have no return policy, and they've spent between 17 00:01:03,160 --> 00:01:06,000 Speaker 1: thirty and hundreds of thousands of dollars and they're actually 18 00:01:06,080 --> 00:01:10,199 Speaker 1: I rate now for some reason because see something say something. 19 00:01:10,640 --> 00:01:11,360 Speaker 2: I don't know. 20 00:01:11,520 --> 00:01:15,000 Speaker 1: Patti Stanger, well, I've met her and I've had her 21 00:01:15,040 --> 00:01:16,880 Speaker 1: set me up years ago with one man and it 22 00:01:16,959 --> 00:01:20,200 Speaker 1: was a good setup. I have worked with many matchmakers 23 00:01:20,360 --> 00:01:23,080 Speaker 1: because she's probably one of the most famous or the 24 00:01:23,200 --> 00:01:25,800 Speaker 1: most famous. I do not want to clump her in 25 00:01:25,880 --> 00:01:28,680 Speaker 1: with this, not because I am positive that people haven't 26 00:01:28,720 --> 00:01:30,560 Speaker 1: had this experience with this. She's in a service business 27 00:01:30,560 --> 00:01:33,680 Speaker 1: and I cannot be easy, nor will what I'm embarking on, 28 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:37,160 Speaker 1: but because I had one good date with her, which 29 00:01:37,200 --> 00:01:39,600 Speaker 1: is more than I've ever had from any other matchmaker. 30 00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:44,120 Speaker 1: But I will exclude Patti Stanger for argument's sake, because 31 00:01:44,160 --> 00:01:47,280 Speaker 1: I haven't worked with her. I haven't heard this specifically 32 00:01:47,440 --> 00:01:50,200 Speaker 1: about her. And I went on one date and I'm 33 00:01:50,200 --> 00:01:52,240 Speaker 1: a very literal person, like I don't like to I 34 00:01:52,320 --> 00:01:56,160 Speaker 1: like to clarify the most minute of details. So minute 35 00:01:56,160 --> 00:01:58,080 Speaker 1: detail is years ago she set me up with someone 36 00:01:58,120 --> 00:02:01,800 Speaker 1: and it was a decent date, and I hadn't paid 37 00:02:01,840 --> 00:02:05,600 Speaker 1: her and I was broke and couldn't have And I'm 38 00:02:05,600 --> 00:02:07,520 Speaker 1: not clumping her in here. And she happens to be 39 00:02:07,560 --> 00:02:09,720 Speaker 1: the most famous matchmaker, so she also could take the 40 00:02:09,760 --> 00:02:12,160 Speaker 1: biggest hit from what's about to go down and the 41 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:14,120 Speaker 1: articles that are about to be written about that space. 42 00:02:14,120 --> 00:02:16,760 Speaker 1: So I would like to formally exclude her from this 43 00:02:16,840 --> 00:02:19,800 Speaker 1: conversation for the time being, unless somebody knows something different. 44 00:02:19,840 --> 00:02:20,480 Speaker 2: But I do not. 45 00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:27,600 Speaker 1: There is something I want to discuss about dating, which 46 00:02:28,320 --> 00:02:31,120 Speaker 1: can apply to fitness. So you've heard about people that 47 00:02:31,160 --> 00:02:34,880 Speaker 1: will work out together, or do hikes together, or be 48 00:02:35,600 --> 00:02:38,600 Speaker 1: emotional support for each other when they're trying to either 49 00:02:38,639 --> 00:02:41,919 Speaker 1: lose weight or get in shape or stick to something. Well, 50 00:02:42,440 --> 00:02:45,280 Speaker 1: it works in dating too, And you could say that 51 00:02:45,320 --> 00:02:46,919 Speaker 1: a lot of women do that. Are ready because women 52 00:02:46,960 --> 00:02:49,840 Speaker 1: talk to each other. But think about who you're talking to, 53 00:02:50,280 --> 00:02:53,639 Speaker 1: think about the advice they're giving, think about their success rate, 54 00:02:53,680 --> 00:02:55,920 Speaker 1: think about where they are in the process. And I 55 00:02:55,960 --> 00:02:59,120 Speaker 1: say this because I have had many girlfriends that will 56 00:02:59,200 --> 00:03:01,040 Speaker 1: just agree with everything I say and just say, ah, 57 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:02,560 Speaker 1: why do you do that? Oh my god, that's gross. 58 00:03:02,600 --> 00:03:05,919 Speaker 1: I could never and you get in your head. But I, 59 00:03:06,360 --> 00:03:10,280 Speaker 1: during this dating concept, have a woman who's working on 60 00:03:10,320 --> 00:03:14,120 Speaker 1: it with me, and she too has been single, and 61 00:03:14,240 --> 00:03:17,280 Speaker 1: she's at a different era and chapter and because of me, 62 00:03:17,440 --> 00:03:19,840 Speaker 1: she says, I've inspired her to approach dating in a 63 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:22,560 Speaker 1: different manner, meaning be open. 64 00:03:22,680 --> 00:03:23,600 Speaker 2: We always are. 65 00:03:24,320 --> 00:03:27,639 Speaker 1: What's the result based people women sit down, the guy 66 00:03:27,680 --> 00:03:31,919 Speaker 1: has ugly shoes, or he has bad breath or something that, yes, 67 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:35,000 Speaker 1: would not be great, but that you throw the person out. 68 00:03:35,040 --> 00:03:36,080 Speaker 2: What if someone bore. 69 00:03:36,000 --> 00:03:38,320 Speaker 1: Ugly shoes or had style that you didn't like, but 70 00:03:38,320 --> 00:03:42,280 Speaker 1: they were a wonderful person. Sometimes someone's super successful or 71 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:46,120 Speaker 1: super creative is quirky in other ways, like Steve Jobs 72 00:03:46,680 --> 00:03:49,720 Speaker 1: barely bathed, but he was a genius. You know, Mark 73 00:03:49,800 --> 00:03:54,360 Speaker 1: Zuckerberg sits in a hoodie and jeans and he's a genius. 74 00:03:54,360 --> 00:03:57,920 Speaker 1: So like, it depends on what you want. Little things 75 00:03:57,920 --> 00:04:00,920 Speaker 1: don't have to mean everything. The day coach said to 76 00:04:00,960 --> 00:04:04,360 Speaker 1: me that this person is interviewing for the most important 77 00:04:04,640 --> 00:04:06,920 Speaker 1: position in the world, and you are as well. When 78 00:04:06,960 --> 00:04:10,640 Speaker 1: you date someone, so be open, like there could be 79 00:04:10,720 --> 00:04:13,320 Speaker 1: somebody who's great but may not know. Someone may not 80 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:15,160 Speaker 1: know what to wear, what to do. You don't want 81 00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:17,479 Speaker 1: someone perfect, you think you want someone to come in 82 00:04:17,560 --> 00:04:18,800 Speaker 1: looking like some supermodel. 83 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:20,479 Speaker 2: Be open is all I'm saying. 84 00:04:20,480 --> 00:04:22,520 Speaker 1: If someone's super nice to you and smart, but maybe 85 00:04:22,520 --> 00:04:23,800 Speaker 1: they give you the ick a little bit. 86 00:04:24,440 --> 00:04:26,080 Speaker 2: You can't be repulsed by someone. 87 00:04:26,120 --> 00:04:28,640 Speaker 1: But I've gone out with someone during the day and 88 00:04:28,640 --> 00:04:30,440 Speaker 1: seen them for a couple of hours and judged what 89 00:04:30,520 --> 00:04:33,640 Speaker 1: they did, said warn and then hours later have seen 90 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:37,000 Speaker 1: them dressed differently and thought of them differently, or the 91 00:04:37,000 --> 00:04:38,760 Speaker 1: way that they handle a crisis or the way they 92 00:04:38,800 --> 00:04:42,360 Speaker 1: handle your a holiday, or if you don't feel well 93 00:04:42,480 --> 00:04:46,200 Speaker 1: or anything like, just be more open. Okay, I'm just 94 00:04:46,240 --> 00:04:49,279 Speaker 1: saying be more open because it's also helpful, Like you 95 00:04:49,279 --> 00:04:51,800 Speaker 1: could meet someone amazing that's a nice person that is 96 00:04:51,839 --> 00:04:55,040 Speaker 1: not for you, and you could learn something through the process. 97 00:04:55,040 --> 00:04:57,279 Speaker 1: You could learn something about yourself, about men, you could 98 00:04:57,279 --> 00:05:00,320 Speaker 1: help someone else. You could refer them to someone one else, 99 00:05:00,360 --> 00:05:01,360 Speaker 1: introduce him to someone else. 100 00:05:01,440 --> 00:05:02,360 Speaker 2: Like be open. 101 00:05:02,400 --> 00:05:06,119 Speaker 1: I'm just saying, be positive, be open. Don't go if 102 00:05:06,480 --> 00:05:09,040 Speaker 1: you can't be positive and open. Like I just have 103 00:05:09,120 --> 00:05:12,360 Speaker 1: to say, I'm learning a lot about myself through this process, 104 00:05:12,400 --> 00:05:14,960 Speaker 1: and for the first time in my entire life, I'm 105 00:05:14,960 --> 00:05:18,200 Speaker 1: not results oriented. I don't shut somebody down just because 106 00:05:18,200 --> 00:05:20,000 Speaker 1: they did something wrong like I have in the past, 107 00:05:20,040 --> 00:05:22,320 Speaker 1: or because they don't see the world the way I do, 108 00:05:22,440 --> 00:05:24,120 Speaker 1: or because I can't picture myself with them. 109 00:05:24,160 --> 00:05:24,920 Speaker 2: You just don't know. 110 00:05:25,480 --> 00:05:27,719 Speaker 1: It's such an important decision. You can't make it in 111 00:05:27,760 --> 00:05:31,440 Speaker 1: a snapshot that doesn't make any sense. You can't make 112 00:05:31,480 --> 00:05:34,000 Speaker 1: it right away. You have to be open and let 113 00:05:34,040 --> 00:05:36,560 Speaker 1: it breathe. You ever have a sweater that you get 114 00:05:36,640 --> 00:05:38,359 Speaker 1: rid of and like it's on someone else and it 115 00:05:38,400 --> 00:05:39,720 Speaker 1: looks so good, and you're like, wait, I kind of 116 00:05:39,720 --> 00:05:41,960 Speaker 1: want that back. That could be a man. I had 117 00:05:41,960 --> 00:05:45,800 Speaker 1: an ex whose house was disgusting when I met him. 118 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:49,080 Speaker 1: When I tell you disgusting, there were things growing on 119 00:05:49,400 --> 00:05:55,080 Speaker 1: old vegetables in a cabinet. Not an exaggeration, Literally it 120 00:05:55,120 --> 00:05:58,200 Speaker 1: was disgusting. The bathroom was discussing, everything was discussing. He 121 00:05:58,320 --> 00:06:01,640 Speaker 1: is the most organized person you've ever met in your life. 122 00:06:01,640 --> 00:06:04,719 Speaker 1: Now you're welcome. His next girlfriend can send me a 123 00:06:04,760 --> 00:06:08,320 Speaker 1: fucking thank you note. So, don't be so judgmental if 124 00:06:08,360 --> 00:06:10,520 Speaker 1: you think you could possibly like something, if there's something 125 00:06:10,520 --> 00:06:12,360 Speaker 1: you did like about them, if you almost like them, 126 00:06:12,400 --> 00:06:15,000 Speaker 1: if you only didn't like something they were wearing, or 127 00:06:15,040 --> 00:06:18,520 Speaker 1: something that would normally be ridiculous, if you heard someone 128 00:06:18,520 --> 00:06:22,200 Speaker 1: else say it, Can you go out three times with them? 129 00:06:22,400 --> 00:06:25,440 Speaker 1: Like there's something to be said for. One is a drink, 130 00:06:25,560 --> 00:06:27,440 Speaker 1: One is a beach walk. One is a coffee date, 131 00:06:27,440 --> 00:06:28,880 Speaker 1: One is a dinner. One is just sit in a 132 00:06:28,920 --> 00:06:30,919 Speaker 1: lounge and have a drink at a hotel, but like 133 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:32,599 Speaker 1: not a bar, but like just where you could talk 134 00:06:32,600 --> 00:06:33,159 Speaker 1: to a person. 135 00:06:33,640 --> 00:06:34,840 Speaker 2: You really don't. 136 00:06:34,680 --> 00:06:37,839 Speaker 1: See someone unless you see them in multiple habitats. 137 00:06:38,240 --> 00:06:40,719 Speaker 2: Just do that for me please do it for yourself. 138 00:06:53,520 --> 00:06:57,840 Speaker 1: Men don't know what to wear, what to buy, how 139 00:06:57,839 --> 00:07:01,200 Speaker 1: to put it together. I always i'm talking to women. 140 00:07:01,360 --> 00:07:03,920 Speaker 1: I did not realize the gift that I have for men. Okay, 141 00:07:04,839 --> 00:07:09,080 Speaker 1: I had an ex boyfriend. I changed his entire wardrobe 142 00:07:09,120 --> 00:07:11,560 Speaker 1: and his life by doing it because he really had 143 00:07:11,600 --> 00:07:14,000 Speaker 1: no idea and all his clothes were old and he 144 00:07:14,040 --> 00:07:15,600 Speaker 1: didn't know how to put it together. And I didn't 145 00:07:15,600 --> 00:07:17,640 Speaker 1: even know that I had the skill set because I 146 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:21,200 Speaker 1: was able to just like bang into a store and 147 00:07:21,320 --> 00:07:23,280 Speaker 1: immediately say, that'll look good on you, that'll look good, 148 00:07:23,280 --> 00:07:24,960 Speaker 1: and you get that. Put that with that, put that 149 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:26,720 Speaker 1: with that. That's for a day, that's for the bathing suit. 150 00:07:26,720 --> 00:07:28,680 Speaker 1: That's so you were over the bathing suit. That's the shoe. 151 00:07:28,760 --> 00:07:30,760 Speaker 1: And I didn't really realize that there's a way of 152 00:07:30,840 --> 00:07:32,360 Speaker 1: thinking about it. And I'm not saying I have the 153 00:07:32,360 --> 00:07:34,120 Speaker 1: best style in the world, but I have the best 154 00:07:34,160 --> 00:07:37,240 Speaker 1: ger animals putting together style. So I did that once, 155 00:07:37,280 --> 00:07:39,760 Speaker 1: and I did it with another ex fiance, where like 156 00:07:39,920 --> 00:07:43,840 Speaker 1: I was largely in charge of what he bought and wore. 157 00:07:44,160 --> 00:07:47,840 Speaker 1: But recently there's someone that I met well, I had 158 00:07:47,840 --> 00:07:50,000 Speaker 1: known them for years. There's someone that I reconnected with 159 00:07:50,040 --> 00:07:52,960 Speaker 1: that I had known for years that was dressing in 160 00:07:53,000 --> 00:07:56,000 Speaker 1: a very juvenile manner, and I thought it was a style. 161 00:07:56,680 --> 00:08:00,280 Speaker 1: I thought it was his style. Like my daughter even caught. 162 00:08:00,440 --> 00:08:02,920 Speaker 1: She's like, it's very hipster, like it's very like backpack 163 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:05,280 Speaker 1: e Van's ash hipster and that's kind of like juvenile, 164 00:08:05,280 --> 00:08:07,200 Speaker 1: and I thought it is. But I thought it was 165 00:08:07,200 --> 00:08:09,480 Speaker 1: because it was an la person and his style was 166 00:08:09,560 --> 00:08:13,560 Speaker 1: just like sort of la Venice, Hollywood Hills, like super casual, 167 00:08:14,240 --> 00:08:17,240 Speaker 1: and in dating, women judge a man a lot by 168 00:08:17,240 --> 00:08:19,040 Speaker 1: what they're wearing, like it's a turn up. It could 169 00:08:19,040 --> 00:08:21,120 Speaker 1: give you the ick. I know a woman dating a man. 170 00:08:21,160 --> 00:08:21,880 Speaker 2: She sent me a picture. 171 00:08:21,920 --> 00:08:24,280 Speaker 1: She goes, I don't like what he's wearing, and everybody says, 172 00:08:24,280 --> 00:08:26,480 Speaker 1: but you can change it. But you don't really realize that. 173 00:08:26,560 --> 00:08:30,000 Speaker 1: You're thinking that that person wearing that has something to 174 00:08:30,040 --> 00:08:33,360 Speaker 1: do with them, like that that's like indicative of their 175 00:08:33,440 --> 00:08:35,640 Speaker 1: style or they're anything, and it's not. 176 00:08:36,040 --> 00:08:38,640 Speaker 2: It's literally not. They literally don't know. 177 00:08:39,320 --> 00:08:42,320 Speaker 1: So this guy had this hipster vibe and I thought 178 00:08:42,400 --> 00:08:45,800 Speaker 1: he was like hipsterish or juvenile or like stuck in 179 00:08:46,040 --> 00:08:49,520 Speaker 1: a fucking time capsule. I didn't realize that he had 180 00:08:49,559 --> 00:08:55,880 Speaker 1: not purchased intentionally. He had not purchased clothes intentionally for 181 00:08:56,040 --> 00:08:59,240 Speaker 1: twenty nine years. That doesn't mean that he wasn't at 182 00:08:59,240 --> 00:09:01,160 Speaker 1: a store and didn't see something and bought it, saw 183 00:09:01,200 --> 00:09:03,440 Speaker 1: something else, or decided he thought he knew what his 184 00:09:03,480 --> 00:09:03,960 Speaker 1: style was. 185 00:09:04,000 --> 00:09:04,719 Speaker 2: His style was. 186 00:09:05,040 --> 00:09:08,160 Speaker 1: Vintage, and then everything he's buying along the way is 187 00:09:08,200 --> 00:09:10,959 Speaker 1: just sort of like connected to that vibe. He definitely 188 00:09:10,960 --> 00:09:13,320 Speaker 1: had no style. He had not intentionally purchased clothing for 189 00:09:13,360 --> 00:09:15,400 Speaker 1: twenty nine years. Because this is a person with money 190 00:09:15,440 --> 00:09:18,880 Speaker 1: of means goodbuye whatever they want by gorgeous presents for 191 00:09:18,960 --> 00:09:22,400 Speaker 1: a woman, generous. All these things had no idea. So 192 00:09:22,480 --> 00:09:25,480 Speaker 1: one day I said, like, you're a little hipster for me. 193 00:09:25,880 --> 00:09:27,640 Speaker 1: I was like, I'm a little more attracted to something 194 00:09:27,679 --> 00:09:30,240 Speaker 1: more polished, blah blah blah. So he was trying to 195 00:09:30,440 --> 00:09:34,360 Speaker 1: like each time he went out, like dress more polished. 196 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:36,320 Speaker 1: I'm like, you have to be you. You can't be 197 00:09:36,400 --> 00:09:38,600 Speaker 1: who I like. You have to be you. Whatever you 198 00:09:38,640 --> 00:09:40,200 Speaker 1: want to wear, you have to do. That's who like 199 00:09:40,200 --> 00:09:44,120 Speaker 1: everybody is. So then I realized that he just didn't 200 00:09:44,520 --> 00:09:48,680 Speaker 1: have a style. It was almost like walking through the 201 00:09:48,760 --> 00:09:51,000 Speaker 1: refrigerator and just taking a bite of everything, Like there 202 00:09:51,040 --> 00:09:53,440 Speaker 1: was no strategy to it. It wasn't a meal, it 203 00:09:53,520 --> 00:09:55,560 Speaker 1: wasn't a choice, it wasn't a snack of it. So 204 00:09:55,640 --> 00:09:58,559 Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god. Okay, So he's like, 205 00:09:58,600 --> 00:10:01,280 Speaker 1: could you just send me some lin send me some 206 00:10:01,640 --> 00:10:03,920 Speaker 1: things that you like. So I was going to sound 207 00:10:03,960 --> 00:10:07,439 Speaker 1: like a couple of shirts. It turned into a several hour. 208 00:10:07,600 --> 00:10:11,000 Speaker 1: Every article of clothing this person got rid of their 209 00:10:11,400 --> 00:10:14,240 Speaker 1: entire closet, every article of clothing, which by the way, 210 00:10:14,320 --> 00:10:15,200 Speaker 1: needed to be done. 211 00:10:15,200 --> 00:10:16,200 Speaker 2: You cannot imagine. 212 00:10:16,240 --> 00:10:21,840 Speaker 1: Okay, and now has like mad amazing style because everything 213 00:10:22,120 --> 00:10:26,199 Speaker 1: he has is great because most of it is neutrals 214 00:10:26,200 --> 00:10:27,080 Speaker 1: that go with each other. 215 00:10:27,160 --> 00:10:28,160 Speaker 2: But wait, there's more. 216 00:10:28,440 --> 00:10:31,240 Speaker 1: Because even within the neutrals, even within the navies and 217 00:10:31,280 --> 00:10:33,600 Speaker 1: the grays and the browns and the beige and the 218 00:10:33,640 --> 00:10:36,240 Speaker 1: whites and the blacks and like not any major collar. 219 00:10:36,720 --> 00:10:39,559 Speaker 1: Even within that, he's not knowing what to wear with 220 00:10:39,720 --> 00:10:42,040 Speaker 1: anything else, like not even knowing does this get tucked in? 221 00:10:42,080 --> 00:10:43,680 Speaker 2: Does this have a belt? Does this? I was like what? 222 00:10:44,200 --> 00:10:47,240 Speaker 1: So then I went deeper and I took pile by pile, 223 00:10:47,320 --> 00:10:50,480 Speaker 1: I literally took Okay, these genes could go with this shirt, 224 00:10:50,520 --> 00:10:53,240 Speaker 1: which also could go with those shorts, this belt goes 225 00:10:53,240 --> 00:10:55,160 Speaker 1: with both. These shoes are going to stand here right 226 00:10:55,200 --> 00:10:57,240 Speaker 1: in between these two looks because it would go with both. 227 00:10:57,600 --> 00:10:59,720 Speaker 1: Next pile and I was like, this could go with 228 00:10:59,760 --> 00:11:02,880 Speaker 1: that that she goes to there and I literally did piles, 229 00:11:02,880 --> 00:11:04,720 Speaker 1: and I was like, take a picture of these piles 230 00:11:04,720 --> 00:11:05,880 Speaker 1: because you'll train yourself. 231 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:08,440 Speaker 2: You're training the person to know how to do it. 232 00:11:08,920 --> 00:11:10,520 Speaker 1: And then I was like, if you're going on a vacation, 233 00:11:10,720 --> 00:11:12,960 Speaker 1: get the packing cubes because you'll pack it like this. 234 00:11:13,120 --> 00:11:14,880 Speaker 2: You won't make a mistake, you'll know exactly. 235 00:11:15,280 --> 00:11:17,000 Speaker 1: And then it was like, wait, but what if you're chilly, 236 00:11:17,000 --> 00:11:20,000 Speaker 1: because you could fuck up a whole outfit with one piece. 237 00:11:20,040 --> 00:11:21,520 Speaker 1: So it was like, oh, I'll just wear that hoodie. 238 00:11:21,559 --> 00:11:23,360 Speaker 1: I'm like, no, this is like a nice outphit with 239 00:11:23,360 --> 00:11:25,560 Speaker 1: the Kashmere T shirt. You're not like putting a fucking 240 00:11:25,679 --> 00:11:27,440 Speaker 1: gap hoodie on top of that. So then it was 241 00:11:27,480 --> 00:11:29,600 Speaker 1: like Okay, now I'll fill in the blanks. And then 242 00:11:29,600 --> 00:11:32,400 Speaker 1: I went online again found links for the cardigans and 243 00:11:32,440 --> 00:11:33,960 Speaker 1: I was like, no, these are like cool men, like 244 00:11:33,960 --> 00:11:35,240 Speaker 1: you could wear this as a man and not be 245 00:11:35,280 --> 00:11:38,240 Speaker 1: like a grandfather. I am going to post every single 246 00:11:38,280 --> 00:11:41,520 Speaker 1: fucking piece that I bought because my best friend, who's 247 00:11:41,559 --> 00:11:44,640 Speaker 1: smart and wealthy and educated, she was like, wait, how 248 00:11:44,640 --> 00:11:45,800 Speaker 1: did you pick it out? I go, what do you mean? 249 00:11:45,840 --> 00:11:47,000 Speaker 1: How do you not pick it out? She goes, I 250 00:11:47,040 --> 00:11:49,160 Speaker 1: have to do for my sons. He goes, so fucking 251 00:11:49,200 --> 00:11:51,160 Speaker 1: do it. She's like, I'm like, how do you not know? 252 00:11:51,760 --> 00:11:53,680 Speaker 1: And she's like, I just don't know. I'm like, wow, 253 00:11:54,440 --> 00:11:56,160 Speaker 1: I think it's a skill set that I didn't even 254 00:11:56,200 --> 00:11:59,960 Speaker 1: realize was a skill because it wasn't just the picking up. 255 00:12:00,160 --> 00:12:02,000 Speaker 1: It was the style of picking out the taste not 256 00:12:02,080 --> 00:12:05,280 Speaker 1: of one thing, but of a whole wardrobe that speaks 257 00:12:05,280 --> 00:12:07,800 Speaker 1: to each other. Everything has to speak to everything else. 258 00:12:08,120 --> 00:12:10,760 Speaker 1: Every T shirt has to speak to any of the sweatpants, 259 00:12:10,760 --> 00:12:14,160 Speaker 1: to the sneakers, so it all goes upscale sneakers, knock 260 00:12:14,200 --> 00:12:17,080 Speaker 1: around sneakers. And you should really have only good. You 261 00:12:17,120 --> 00:12:19,240 Speaker 1: should love everything you have. Now, I'm not saying you 262 00:12:19,240 --> 00:12:21,760 Speaker 1: can afford to throw everything out, but piece by piece 263 00:12:21,840 --> 00:12:24,720 Speaker 1: it can be really inexpensive. And because it was Black 264 00:12:24,760 --> 00:12:27,640 Speaker 1: Friday and Cyber Monday, there's never been a better time 265 00:12:27,679 --> 00:12:30,680 Speaker 1: to decide to do something like this. I literally started 266 00:12:30,679 --> 00:12:33,559 Speaker 1: telling him the items the Thursday before Black Friday, so 267 00:12:33,600 --> 00:12:35,920 Speaker 1: he was able to get everything for a steal. 268 00:12:36,400 --> 00:12:36,960 Speaker 2: A steal. 269 00:12:37,480 --> 00:12:42,040 Speaker 1: I've said before that relationships are a puzzle. It's really wild. 270 00:12:42,240 --> 00:12:45,160 Speaker 1: You could be set up with someone who everything that 271 00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:47,400 Speaker 1: they are is everything you want, and then you're with 272 00:12:47,600 --> 00:12:52,000 Speaker 1: them and they could like slowly kiss you or talk 273 00:12:52,040 --> 00:12:56,240 Speaker 1: in a low voice, or snore or keep you up 274 00:12:56,280 --> 00:12:59,880 Speaker 1: at night, or eat strange or be weird. When you're 275 00:13:00,320 --> 00:13:01,839 Speaker 1: with them, they don't know where the fuck they're going, 276 00:13:01,920 --> 00:13:04,840 Speaker 1: or like like a thousand things, and you have to 277 00:13:04,960 --> 00:13:09,000 Speaker 1: pick what things make up your puzzle. You can't pick 278 00:13:09,040 --> 00:13:11,280 Speaker 1: them off. It's not gonna be perfect. It's a New 279 00:13:11,360 --> 00:13:14,559 Speaker 1: York City apartment. So how do you decide what is important? 280 00:13:14,640 --> 00:13:16,520 Speaker 1: Is if someone gives you the itck and the way 281 00:13:16,559 --> 00:13:20,040 Speaker 1: they kiss, can you teach them? If someone eats strange 282 00:13:20,160 --> 00:13:22,720 Speaker 1: or addresses terribly, can you fix that? 283 00:13:22,880 --> 00:13:22,960 Speaker 2: Like? 284 00:13:23,080 --> 00:13:25,840 Speaker 1: What is your puzzle? How are you going to piece 285 00:13:25,880 --> 00:13:29,959 Speaker 1: your puzzle together so you're not unrealistic and you're getting 286 00:13:30,040 --> 00:13:32,160 Speaker 1: what you need? What if someone has five kids? You 287 00:13:32,200 --> 00:13:34,080 Speaker 1: want kids, but they have five? What if someone has 288 00:13:34,200 --> 00:13:36,439 Speaker 1: zero kids? You think that's a red flag when it's 289 00:13:36,480 --> 00:13:40,040 Speaker 1: actually not. Men who do not have children or who 290 00:13:40,040 --> 00:13:43,080 Speaker 1: have not been married by a certain age are not 291 00:13:43,520 --> 00:13:47,520 Speaker 1: necessarily a red flag. A man who has not gotten 292 00:13:47,520 --> 00:13:51,199 Speaker 1: married by a certain age, who has done it solely 293 00:13:51,240 --> 00:13:53,160 Speaker 1: because they don't want to do it just to check 294 00:13:53,240 --> 00:13:55,800 Speaker 1: the box and don't want a divorce under their belt 295 00:13:55,880 --> 00:13:58,160 Speaker 1: just to make society or their family happy, is not 296 00:13:58,240 --> 00:14:00,679 Speaker 1: a red flag. And a man who has not had 297 00:14:00,760 --> 00:14:03,880 Speaker 1: kids because they wanted to only have kids if they 298 00:14:03,880 --> 00:14:06,040 Speaker 1: found their person, and they happen to have not found 299 00:14:06,040 --> 00:14:08,640 Speaker 1: their person is also not a red flag.