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You're not 19 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:50,159 Speaker 1: supposed to know. No, no, no, don't do it. 20 00:00:50,200 --> 00:00:52,720 Speaker 2: That's the more, you know, moment of the day, like 21 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:54,600 Speaker 2: writing in our diaries, except we say them aloud. 22 00:00:54,600 --> 00:00:57,160 Speaker 1: We call them blogs. Caitlin go deer blog. 23 00:00:57,480 --> 00:00:59,960 Speaker 4: So I have to ask you, guys, if it is 24 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:00,400 Speaker 4: it ever? 25 00:01:00,480 --> 00:01:00,880 Speaker 1: Okay? 26 00:01:01,520 --> 00:01:07,039 Speaker 4: For me to call out a friend's partner husband in 27 00:01:07,080 --> 00:01:10,240 Speaker 4: this case. Okay, So I was eating with both of 28 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:14,720 Speaker 4: them recently and he said a comment that made me 29 00:01:14,840 --> 00:01:17,760 Speaker 4: want to jump across the table and smack him, but 30 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:20,759 Speaker 4: I did not. I did not choose violence that day. 31 00:01:20,840 --> 00:01:24,880 Speaker 4: So we were eating and we sat down and he goes, Babe, 32 00:01:25,520 --> 00:01:29,680 Speaker 4: I'm starving. We didn't eat lunch today, and you never 33 00:01:29,720 --> 00:01:34,480 Speaker 4: miss a meal excuse. So there's a couple issues that 34 00:01:34,520 --> 00:01:37,560 Speaker 4: I have with this comment. First of all, seeing their fridge. 35 00:01:37,560 --> 00:01:39,360 Speaker 4: They have a ton of food in their fridge, so 36 00:01:39,680 --> 00:01:43,039 Speaker 4: if he was hungry, he could have made himself some lunch. 37 00:01:43,280 --> 00:01:46,360 Speaker 4: He doesn't need her to do that. Second of all, 38 00:01:47,680 --> 00:01:49,920 Speaker 4: I don't need anyone tell me I never miss a meal. 39 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:52,160 Speaker 4: I don't miss meals, but I don't need someone reminding 40 00:01:52,200 --> 00:01:55,400 Speaker 4: me of that. And third of all, we both smirked 41 00:01:55,400 --> 00:01:56,920 Speaker 4: at each other, my friend and I, because what he 42 00:01:56,960 --> 00:01:59,120 Speaker 4: didn't know is we snuck through the Taco Bell drive through, 43 00:01:59,200 --> 00:02:00,760 Speaker 4: so we're not starving. 44 00:02:01,400 --> 00:02:04,000 Speaker 1: We did not get him. I read book offended. Did 45 00:02:04,040 --> 00:02:08,440 Speaker 1: she look sad by it? Yeah? Yeah? Wow, Well I 46 00:02:08,840 --> 00:02:10,880 Speaker 1: do feel like it's probably for them to work out. 47 00:02:11,320 --> 00:02:13,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. I don't know that you need 48 00:02:13,440 --> 00:02:15,480 Speaker 2: to step in. I mean, I understand that the natural 49 00:02:15,520 --> 00:02:17,600 Speaker 2: desire to want to defend your friend, but I also 50 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:22,200 Speaker 2: think it's like I don't know. I mean, when you know, 51 00:02:22,400 --> 00:02:24,920 Speaker 2: probably when you left, he got an earful about it. 52 00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:26,800 Speaker 1: So I don't know. She actually asked me why I 53 00:02:26,800 --> 00:02:29,920 Speaker 1: didn't say anything. Really, yeah, I don't think that's your job. 54 00:02:30,160 --> 00:02:31,720 Speaker 4: I don't think so either, and I didn't want to 55 00:02:31,720 --> 00:02:35,040 Speaker 4: get involved. But I was like girl, and she was like, yeah, 56 00:02:35,040 --> 00:02:37,079 Speaker 4: you should have said that, and I was like, oh, really, okay, 57 00:02:37,200 --> 00:02:38,080 Speaker 4: I don't know the rules. 58 00:02:38,160 --> 00:02:41,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, because I don't know, like I mean, obviously if 59 00:02:41,320 --> 00:02:43,639 Speaker 2: it were something like really hurtful, I mean, which could 60 00:02:43,639 --> 00:02:46,840 Speaker 2: that could be interpreting really hurtful, but like I'm physical 61 00:02:47,000 --> 00:02:49,040 Speaker 2: or something else, like yeah, of course you intervened, but 62 00:02:49,320 --> 00:02:51,239 Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't necessarily want to get involved 63 00:02:51,240 --> 00:02:54,440 Speaker 2: in people's no sense of humor or passive aggressiveness or 64 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:56,800 Speaker 2: whatever it is, because I don't I don't know, and 65 00:02:56,840 --> 00:03:01,679 Speaker 2: then I stand to alienate myself from that gl inadvertently 66 00:03:01,760 --> 00:03:04,760 Speaker 2: if I'm overreacting. So I don't know. Maybe later I 67 00:03:04,760 --> 00:03:06,320 Speaker 2: would check with my friend and make sure that she 68 00:03:06,480 --> 00:03:08,880 Speaker 2: was okay. But no, I don't think it's fair for 69 00:03:08,919 --> 00:03:12,800 Speaker 2: people to expect you to jump in on their relationship 70 00:03:13,000 --> 00:03:13,919 Speaker 2: sort of squabbles. 71 00:03:14,000 --> 00:03:15,920 Speaker 4: Yeah, no, she wasn't like upset with me or anything. 72 00:03:15,919 --> 00:03:19,040 Speaker 1: But like when we talked about it later, I was like, girl, yeah, 73 00:03:19,080 --> 00:03:20,160 Speaker 1: you know, what did he say? 74 00:03:20,280 --> 00:03:22,560 Speaker 3: I would just say one thing, okay, and I'm not 75 00:03:22,800 --> 00:03:24,679 Speaker 3: gonna go to the floor with it, but I will say, 76 00:03:25,040 --> 00:03:28,760 Speaker 3: let's normalize one thing, and that's making people uncomfortable when 77 00:03:28,800 --> 00:03:30,640 Speaker 3: they want to make someone else uncomfortable. 78 00:03:30,720 --> 00:03:33,160 Speaker 1: Do you feel what I'm saying. I'm big on that. 79 00:03:33,280 --> 00:03:35,520 Speaker 3: So like if Hobby ever said that, if he would never, 80 00:03:35,560 --> 00:03:37,760 Speaker 3: but if he did, I give you guys permission to 81 00:03:37,760 --> 00:03:40,360 Speaker 3: make him uncomfortable, like call him out on something. 82 00:03:40,040 --> 00:03:41,400 Speaker 1: And I will be right there. 83 00:03:41,800 --> 00:03:44,080 Speaker 3: Okaygg you want, I will cheer you on because I 84 00:03:44,120 --> 00:03:46,200 Speaker 3: feel like we give people too much permission to like 85 00:03:46,320 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 3: just I don't know, disrespect other people or say things 86 00:03:48,680 --> 00:03:51,360 Speaker 3: like slick stuff, you know, And if I don't stick 87 00:03:51,440 --> 00:03:53,120 Speaker 3: up for myself in that moment, I give you guys 88 00:03:53,160 --> 00:03:53,760 Speaker 3: permission too. 89 00:03:53,960 --> 00:03:55,520 Speaker 1: But we don't have any perspective now. 90 00:03:55,560 --> 00:03:58,200 Speaker 2: Pauline, like we know now that she was upset and 91 00:03:58,280 --> 00:04:00,640 Speaker 2: wishes that that that camein, had come to her defense, 92 00:04:00,640 --> 00:04:02,720 Speaker 2: but in the moment, I don't know if that's not 93 00:04:02,800 --> 00:04:05,240 Speaker 2: just some silly little game that the two of them play, 94 00:04:05,360 --> 00:04:05,720 Speaker 2: and then. 95 00:04:05,720 --> 00:04:07,520 Speaker 3: We could be silly together and I'm not being funny. 96 00:04:07,520 --> 00:04:10,720 Speaker 2: I think it's for me to again, short of something 97 00:04:10,760 --> 00:04:13,920 Speaker 2: that's like dire, I don't think or dangerous. 98 00:04:14,000 --> 00:04:14,600 Speaker 1: I don't know that. 99 00:04:14,640 --> 00:04:16,600 Speaker 2: I think it's for me to inject myself and other 100 00:04:16,600 --> 00:04:19,120 Speaker 2: people's relationships because I got to think, if you're saying 101 00:04:19,160 --> 00:04:20,920 Speaker 2: it in front of me, in front of me, then 102 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:24,520 Speaker 2: you don't mean you're more than I would like to believe. 103 00:04:24,560 --> 00:04:26,599 Speaker 2: If I know all parties involved, that you're not actually 104 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:28,600 Speaker 2: trying to be hurtful, that you're being silly. Even if 105 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:30,640 Speaker 2: you are being hurtful, but then that's for the other 106 00:04:30,680 --> 00:04:32,520 Speaker 2: that's for you to straighten out with your. 107 00:04:32,440 --> 00:04:35,359 Speaker 1: Husband, not me. But I give you permission to be 108 00:04:35,480 --> 00:04:36,360 Speaker 1: just a silly back. 109 00:04:36,400 --> 00:04:39,040 Speaker 3: And I'm only saying this because again, like we give 110 00:04:39,080 --> 00:04:41,800 Speaker 3: people too much permission and room and leeway to do 111 00:04:41,880 --> 00:04:42,719 Speaker 3: these kind of things. 112 00:04:43,000 --> 00:04:45,320 Speaker 1: Just be silly back, be like, oh how about you 113 00:04:45,360 --> 00:04:46,800 Speaker 1: can't get up and make a sandwich yourself? 114 00:04:49,480 --> 00:04:50,200 Speaker 3: Yes I can't. 115 00:04:50,440 --> 00:04:52,800 Speaker 1: That's extremely combative. What you just I. 116 00:04:55,040 --> 00:04:56,800 Speaker 2: But that's how I hate to say this, but that's 117 00:04:56,839 --> 00:04:59,280 Speaker 2: how you get yourself like not liked by the partner, 118 00:04:59,480 --> 00:05:01,840 Speaker 2: and then that's how it causes problems. And you can 119 00:05:01,880 --> 00:05:04,719 Speaker 2: sit here and say like, yeah, well, well that's their problem, 120 00:05:04,960 --> 00:05:08,080 Speaker 2: but then you're unfortunately, as we've all seen, their problem 121 00:05:08,120 --> 00:05:11,279 Speaker 2: becomes your problem. And I hear what you're saying, but like, yeah, 122 00:05:11,600 --> 00:05:13,560 Speaker 2: I don't know that in your home. It's for me 123 00:05:13,640 --> 00:05:16,000 Speaker 2: to be passive aggressive with you on your comment when 124 00:05:16,000 --> 00:05:17,480 Speaker 2: I don't have all the context. 125 00:05:18,440 --> 00:05:20,960 Speaker 1: True, I don't blame you, Yeah, you don't blame you. 126 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:22,760 Speaker 4: We had just started the night and like we were 127 00:05:22,760 --> 00:05:25,119 Speaker 4: gonna be together all night, the three of us, and actually, 128 00:05:25,160 --> 00:05:27,159 Speaker 4: for once I held my tongue, which I've never done. 129 00:05:27,200 --> 00:05:29,160 Speaker 2: Because you could have made the evening very uncomfortable. I 130 00:05:29,200 --> 00:05:31,720 Speaker 2: understand both sides of this, but it's like I don't know. 131 00:05:32,120 --> 00:05:34,679 Speaker 4: Yeah, but like with in certain situations and with certain 132 00:05:34,680 --> 00:05:37,560 Speaker 4: people and certain friends partners, maybe I feel that I 133 00:05:37,600 --> 00:05:40,400 Speaker 4: can I didn't know what was going on, and honestly, 134 00:05:40,640 --> 00:05:42,680 Speaker 4: the comment stunned me so much that I was silent 135 00:05:43,040 --> 00:05:45,560 Speaker 4: because I was like, what, you can't say that, especially 136 00:05:45,560 --> 00:05:46,960 Speaker 4: to a woman, Like don't say that. 137 00:05:47,200 --> 00:05:47,680 Speaker 1: I guess you. 138 00:05:47,600 --> 00:05:50,520 Speaker 2: Could test it by doing by responding self in a 139 00:05:50,560 --> 00:05:53,600 Speaker 2: self different any way about yourself. I guess you could 140 00:05:53,600 --> 00:05:57,000 Speaker 2: be like, oh, I know, I'm kind of hungry. 141 00:05:56,800 --> 00:05:57,599 Speaker 1: Or I don't know something. 142 00:05:57,880 --> 00:05:59,680 Speaker 2: You could say something like but I think if you're like, 143 00:06:00,040 --> 00:06:01,960 Speaker 2: I can't believe you just said that, you know, in 144 00:06:02,000 --> 00:06:04,520 Speaker 2: defense of your friend, it's like, oh, whoa, because then 145 00:06:04,560 --> 00:06:06,160 Speaker 2: all of a sudden, making gas like you and make 146 00:06:06,200 --> 00:06:08,760 Speaker 2: you look like you're overreacting, and then before long you're right. 147 00:06:08,760 --> 00:06:11,320 Speaker 2: The rest of the evening sucks because because you had 148 00:06:11,360 --> 00:06:12,080 Speaker 2: to open your mouth. 149 00:06:12,480 --> 00:06:14,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, I just I was like, oh my goodness. 150 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:17,440 Speaker 2: But I sometimes I have to tell myself, and I'm 151 00:06:17,480 --> 00:06:19,320 Speaker 2: not very good at this, and to your point, sometimes 152 00:06:19,360 --> 00:06:21,560 Speaker 2: I have to remind myself I don't have to have 153 00:06:21,600 --> 00:06:24,839 Speaker 2: a comment about everything. I don't have to contribute to 154 00:06:24,880 --> 00:06:28,560 Speaker 2: every conversation. My voice doesn't always need to be heard, 155 00:06:29,480 --> 00:06:32,000 Speaker 2: because I like to have something to say about everything. 156 00:06:32,240 --> 00:06:35,560 Speaker 1: I'm learning. No, you're right, you're right, I'm learning this 157 00:06:35,640 --> 00:06:37,640 Speaker 1: is me. I'm talking about me. This is not this 158 00:06:37,680 --> 00:06:41,280 Speaker 1: is not me, like you know that projecting onto you. 159 00:06:41,440 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 2: It's like, sometimes I want to have a comment about everything, 160 00:06:44,520 --> 00:06:47,640 Speaker 2: and sometimes it's like I need to say, Okay. 161 00:06:47,279 --> 00:06:49,880 Speaker 1: I was. I was very proud of myself because you 162 00:06:49,920 --> 00:06:51,480 Speaker 1: could have made the rest of your night really bad. 163 00:06:51,640 --> 00:06:55,120 Speaker 4: I resisted an urge and I had an urge. But yeah, 164 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:58,200 Speaker 4: it's it depends on the the friend, the husband and 165 00:06:58,240 --> 00:06:58,919 Speaker 4: the situation. 166 00:06:59,160 --> 00:07:00,839 Speaker 1: And I actually, for once in my life. 167 00:07:00,680 --> 00:07:02,480 Speaker 4: Held my tongue and I'm proud. But I was just 168 00:07:02,560 --> 00:07:05,200 Speaker 4: wondering what you guys thought about calling out someone else's partner, 169 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:08,360 Speaker 4: because just word of wisdom for men or anyone, really 170 00:07:08,440 --> 00:07:10,320 Speaker 4: don't remind someone that they don't miss any meals. 171 00:07:10,480 --> 00:07:13,520 Speaker 2: Yeah that's but again, I think it's the level of comfort, 172 00:07:13,560 --> 00:07:15,559 Speaker 2: Like if you knew, like there are people, there are couples. 173 00:07:15,640 --> 00:07:18,520 Speaker 2: I know them both well enough that I could say something. 174 00:07:18,880 --> 00:07:20,600 Speaker 2: There are some that I don't know the sense of 175 00:07:20,680 --> 00:07:23,400 Speaker 2: humor or the sensibilities or or the context, and then 176 00:07:23,440 --> 00:07:25,160 Speaker 2: I wouldn't say anything. But I think you have to 177 00:07:25,160 --> 00:07:28,240 Speaker 2: be self aware enough to know. In my opinion, now, again, 178 00:07:28,280 --> 00:07:30,560 Speaker 2: if it's if it's hurtful or abusive or someone, then 179 00:07:30,560 --> 00:07:33,000 Speaker 2: I'm a punch in his face periods. 180 00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:34,960 Speaker 1: But I don't know. 181 00:07:35,000 --> 00:07:37,000 Speaker 2: For all I know, right before I walked in, she 182 00:07:37,120 --> 00:07:39,960 Speaker 2: made a fat joke to him, and. 183 00:07:39,800 --> 00:07:43,920 Speaker 1: Now you're punching him. 184 00:07:44,320 --> 00:07:47,320 Speaker 2: It's never like those jokes are usually not funny, but 185 00:07:47,360 --> 00:07:49,040 Speaker 2: like again, I don't know what happened earlier in the 186 00:07:49,080 --> 00:07:51,520 Speaker 2: day or yesterday, or like what their little stupid jokes, 187 00:07:51,880 --> 00:07:54,320 Speaker 2: you know what their silly little humor is