1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:05,640 Speaker 1: Freads Show is only stay or go all right, Hannah 2 00:00:05,920 --> 00:00:07,560 Speaker 1: is here, by the way, you can always get as 3 00:00:07,600 --> 00:00:10,280 Speaker 1: your story dm us and all the socials Fread Show Radio, 4 00:00:10,360 --> 00:00:13,319 Speaker 1: d Freendshow, TikTok and Friendshow Radio dot com. 5 00:00:13,360 --> 00:00:16,599 Speaker 2: Hannah, Good morning, Good morning, Hi Hannah. 6 00:00:16,640 --> 00:00:19,600 Speaker 1: So you have this boyfriend a year and a half, 7 00:00:19,640 --> 00:00:23,000 Speaker 1: it says, and y'all are fighting, and so you thought, well, 8 00:00:23,040 --> 00:00:26,080 Speaker 1: I'm gonna call the Fread Show and these guys will 9 00:00:26,079 --> 00:00:29,080 Speaker 1: solve the problem for me. So yeah, sure, we'll brainstorm alltogether. Now, 10 00:00:29,080 --> 00:00:31,000 Speaker 1: what's going on? What are you fighting about with this man? 11 00:00:32,280 --> 00:00:34,199 Speaker 3: Well, like, we usually have a. 12 00:00:34,120 --> 00:00:38,920 Speaker 4: Really good relationship, but I really just want some advice 13 00:00:39,159 --> 00:00:40,599 Speaker 4: on like phone. 14 00:00:40,400 --> 00:00:44,440 Speaker 1: Etiquette, phone etiquette. Okay, what's this guy doing with his phone? 15 00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:47,639 Speaker 4: So Lead and Night were sitting on the couch and 16 00:00:47,760 --> 00:00:50,120 Speaker 4: he just started laughing at his phone. So I asked 17 00:00:50,159 --> 00:00:53,400 Speaker 4: him what's funny, and he told me, oh, it's nothing, 18 00:00:53,400 --> 00:00:57,880 Speaker 4: it's just our boy chat, our boys group chat. And 19 00:00:58,720 --> 00:01:00,520 Speaker 4: I asked like, oh, well, can I see it? Like 20 00:01:00,600 --> 00:01:02,960 Speaker 4: I you know, I just want to understand like what 21 00:01:03,040 --> 00:01:05,160 Speaker 4: the joke is, because you're you seem to be having 22 00:01:05,160 --> 00:01:08,039 Speaker 4: a really good time. And he called it away and 23 00:01:08,160 --> 00:01:09,640 Speaker 4: was like, oh, it's private. 24 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:17,399 Speaker 1: Okay, Well, I mean you all right, so you he's 25 00:01:17,480 --> 00:01:19,400 Speaker 1: over there first of all. I mean, I guess you 26 00:01:19,440 --> 00:01:21,840 Speaker 1: could argue that it's rude if he's just sitting there 27 00:01:21,840 --> 00:01:23,760 Speaker 1: with you and then he's on his phone and obsessed 28 00:01:23,800 --> 00:01:25,679 Speaker 1: with that. But I mean, okay, it happens. I mean, 29 00:01:25,760 --> 00:01:28,160 Speaker 1: do you guys live together or or just spend a 30 00:01:28,200 --> 00:01:28,959 Speaker 1: lot of time together. 31 00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:31,800 Speaker 4: Yeah, we lived together. I don't know. I just felt like, 32 00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:34,080 Speaker 4: there's nothing on my phone I wouldn't share. 33 00:01:34,400 --> 00:01:35,840 Speaker 2: So the guy's minding his own business. 34 00:01:35,840 --> 00:01:39,280 Speaker 1: He's in the boys chat or whatever, the guy's chat, 35 00:01:39,360 --> 00:01:41,320 Speaker 1: and he doesn't really want to show it to you now. 36 00:01:41,880 --> 00:01:43,640 Speaker 1: And you're saying that he could see the girls chat, 37 00:01:43,680 --> 00:01:46,559 Speaker 1: because I mean, the group chat is a thing he could. 38 00:01:46,680 --> 00:01:48,320 Speaker 1: You wouldn't mind if he went into your phone and 39 00:01:48,360 --> 00:01:50,200 Speaker 1: read through that, scrolled through all the things that you've 40 00:01:50,240 --> 00:01:51,160 Speaker 1: said to them. 41 00:01:51,600 --> 00:01:53,920 Speaker 2: I don't really no, huh. 42 00:01:53,960 --> 00:01:56,160 Speaker 1: You know how I feel about this. So, guys, everybody 43 00:01:56,240 --> 00:01:58,200 Speaker 1: has a right to privacy. Everybody has a right to 44 00:01:58,240 --> 00:02:03,040 Speaker 1: an outlet. And I don't think that everything is I'm 45 00:02:03,080 --> 00:02:05,240 Speaker 1: looking at you, pump now. I don't think that everything 46 00:02:05,680 --> 00:02:07,320 Speaker 1: has to be seen by everybody. 47 00:02:07,400 --> 00:02:08,040 Speaker 2: All the time. 48 00:02:08,560 --> 00:02:10,520 Speaker 1: Like, I think he has a right to have a 49 00:02:10,720 --> 00:02:15,280 Speaker 1: communication with his friends that he knows is a safe 50 00:02:15,280 --> 00:02:17,320 Speaker 1: place that he doesn't have to get, you know, spell 51 00:02:17,400 --> 00:02:21,240 Speaker 1: checked and content approved. And I think everyone's entitled to that. 52 00:02:21,280 --> 00:02:23,360 Speaker 1: And I'm sorry, but if someone tells you that they 53 00:02:23,440 --> 00:02:26,080 Speaker 1: don't have anything like that, I don't believe them. I 54 00:02:26,120 --> 00:02:27,800 Speaker 1: believe they have a fake email or you know, an 55 00:02:27,840 --> 00:02:30,079 Speaker 1: email somewhere you don't know about, or something not because 56 00:02:30,200 --> 00:02:33,600 Speaker 1: that there's necessarily anything nefarious going on. But I think 57 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:35,520 Speaker 1: it's just human. It's human for people to have their 58 00:02:35,560 --> 00:02:38,480 Speaker 1: own stuff. I mean, how would you feel if he 59 00:02:38,560 --> 00:02:41,760 Speaker 1: kind of just lingered at girls' night when all you 60 00:02:41,760 --> 00:02:43,840 Speaker 1: guys are sitting there doing whatever you guys do, talking 61 00:02:43,840 --> 00:02:46,280 Speaker 1: about you know whatever. Would you want him just sitting 62 00:02:46,280 --> 00:02:49,160 Speaker 1: there drinking an icy just listening to that? I mean no, 63 00:02:49,240 --> 00:02:51,080 Speaker 1: because I would imagine I'm going to answer it for you. 64 00:02:52,120 --> 00:02:54,280 Speaker 1: I would guess no, because you want a place where 65 00:02:54,320 --> 00:02:57,480 Speaker 1: you can go and not that you're there trashing him 66 00:02:57,560 --> 00:02:59,200 Speaker 1: or anybody else. But don't you want to feel like 67 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:01,320 Speaker 1: you can communicate freely without being judged? 68 00:03:03,240 --> 00:03:05,200 Speaker 4: Yeah, I guess I just worry that, like it's about 69 00:03:05,360 --> 00:03:09,760 Speaker 4: me or like something that is kind of bad, but 70 00:03:10,040 --> 00:03:11,399 Speaker 4: that is assuming the worst. 71 00:03:11,720 --> 00:03:13,480 Speaker 1: If he's talking negatively about you to his friends, you 72 00:03:13,520 --> 00:03:16,000 Speaker 1: got bigger problems than the group chat, in my opinion. 73 00:03:16,400 --> 00:03:18,160 Speaker 1: So if you have no reason to believe that he 74 00:03:18,200 --> 00:03:20,160 Speaker 1: would say anything bad about you, then I don't. I 75 00:03:20,160 --> 00:03:22,680 Speaker 1: don't know why you bother yourself with it, like let 76 00:03:22,760 --> 00:03:28,520 Speaker 1: him have it right, right? But yeah, well see, let 77 00:03:28,560 --> 00:03:30,480 Speaker 1: me let me see, by the way, what everybody has 78 00:03:30,520 --> 00:03:32,639 Speaker 1: to say eight five, five, five nine one one o 79 00:03:32,760 --> 00:03:35,720 Speaker 1: three five. Do you think that if you're in a relationship, 80 00:03:35,760 --> 00:03:39,240 Speaker 1: that you should have access to your partner's group chat? 81 00:03:39,320 --> 00:03:39,720 Speaker 2: Now? I don't. 82 00:03:39,880 --> 00:03:42,400 Speaker 1: We don't fly. I don't really have one. There's there's 83 00:03:42,440 --> 00:03:46,640 Speaker 1: not one chat in my phone. I mean there are 84 00:03:46,680 --> 00:03:49,440 Speaker 1: situational group chats where like three or four of us 85 00:03:49,480 --> 00:03:51,080 Speaker 1: are going out, so we're all on a message thing 86 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:53,480 Speaker 1: or whatever, or like you know, if there's a bachelor 87 00:03:53,520 --> 00:03:55,400 Speaker 1: party or something, everyone's on the on a group chat. 88 00:03:55,440 --> 00:03:57,920 Speaker 1: But like I wouldn't say there's one consistent group chat. 89 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:02,120 Speaker 1: But I have tech messages among friends that are just 90 00:04:02,240 --> 00:04:05,960 Speaker 1: stupid that I wouldn't want anyone to see because I 91 00:04:05,960 --> 00:04:08,400 Speaker 1: wouldn't want to be judged by that stupidity, But I don't. 92 00:04:08,560 --> 00:04:11,200 Speaker 1: I don't necessarily think that my phone should be a 93 00:04:11,200 --> 00:04:14,240 Speaker 1: fair game, not because I'm doing anything I shouldn't be doing, 94 00:04:14,280 --> 00:04:17,640 Speaker 1: but because it's kind of like that's mine, Like it's smile, 95 00:04:17,839 --> 00:04:19,960 Speaker 1: it's like it's a little bit of your phone's kind 96 00:04:19,960 --> 00:04:21,760 Speaker 1: of an insight into what's going on in your brain. 97 00:04:22,160 --> 00:04:23,640 Speaker 1: The same way that I wouldn't want people to see 98 00:04:23,640 --> 00:04:28,200 Speaker 1: my searches, not because they're all porn, they're not all sexual, 99 00:04:28,560 --> 00:04:30,400 Speaker 1: but like, I don't know, if I have a question 100 00:04:30,440 --> 00:04:33,200 Speaker 1: in my brain about anything, I'll google it because I 101 00:04:33,240 --> 00:04:35,720 Speaker 1: want the answer, and I don't necessarily think the same 102 00:04:35,760 --> 00:04:38,080 Speaker 1: way that if you take an inventory of everything we 103 00:04:38,080 --> 00:04:40,360 Speaker 1: talk about on this show every day, it looks totally random. 104 00:04:41,040 --> 00:04:42,560 Speaker 1: I think if you looked at everything I searched in 105 00:04:42,560 --> 00:04:44,680 Speaker 1: a given day, it look totally random. 106 00:04:44,800 --> 00:04:45,520 Speaker 2: I mean, yesterday it. 107 00:04:45,560 --> 00:04:48,880 Speaker 1: Was about horses, right, you know, the gestation period of 108 00:04:48,880 --> 00:04:50,760 Speaker 1: horses and why it took a year for this horse 109 00:04:50,800 --> 00:04:52,480 Speaker 1: to be born and why the mom doesn't like it, 110 00:04:52,960 --> 00:04:53,800 Speaker 1: among other things. 111 00:04:54,400 --> 00:04:55,880 Speaker 2: But you might look at that and go, what the 112 00:04:55,920 --> 00:04:57,880 Speaker 2: hell are you doing? So I don't. 113 00:04:57,920 --> 00:04:59,920 Speaker 1: I don't know, Hannah, I mean, would you want your 114 00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:02,479 Speaker 1: wait for to go through every inch of your phone. 115 00:05:03,920 --> 00:05:04,680 Speaker 1: I just feel. 116 00:05:04,440 --> 00:05:08,160 Speaker 4: Like, like you said, it's like someone's brain. So if 117 00:05:08,200 --> 00:05:10,719 Speaker 4: I can't know what's happening in his brain or his phone, 118 00:05:10,920 --> 00:05:12,520 Speaker 4: like I feel a distance. 119 00:05:12,680 --> 00:05:14,840 Speaker 1: But maybe you don't want to know, you know what 120 00:05:14,920 --> 00:05:16,599 Speaker 1: I mean? Like, I don't think everybody wants to know 121 00:05:16,640 --> 00:05:19,200 Speaker 1: what's happening inside of me, as long as I'm being 122 00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:22,880 Speaker 1: faithful and honest and a good human being to you, Like, 123 00:05:23,000 --> 00:05:25,840 Speaker 1: let me have my my little space. Like if the 124 00:05:25,880 --> 00:05:27,520 Speaker 1: guy had a diary, would you want to read it? 125 00:05:27,560 --> 00:05:29,640 Speaker 1: I mean you woul might want to, but would you 126 00:05:29,640 --> 00:05:31,040 Speaker 1: think you have a right to read it? Because I 127 00:05:31,080 --> 00:05:33,040 Speaker 1: don't necessarily think this is all that different. I think 128 00:05:33,080 --> 00:05:35,960 Speaker 1: friendly communication is privileged. 129 00:05:38,560 --> 00:05:40,200 Speaker 4: May maybe I don't know. 130 00:05:41,040 --> 00:05:42,560 Speaker 1: All right, well, let me take some phone calls on 131 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:43,840 Speaker 1: this hand, and I want to hear what Paulina has 132 00:05:43,839 --> 00:05:45,680 Speaker 1: to say because I know she disagrees with me. And uh, 133 00:05:45,720 --> 00:05:47,400 Speaker 1: and we'll go from there. But good luck, Hannah, thanks 134 00:05:47,440 --> 00:05:47,880 Speaker 1: for calling. 135 00:05:49,160 --> 00:05:49,479 Speaker 4: Thank you. 136 00:05:49,720 --> 00:05:51,880 Speaker 1: I eight five five five one three five. You can 137 00:05:51,920 --> 00:05:54,560 Speaker 1: call and text this same number. Pe you go ahead. 138 00:05:55,040 --> 00:05:56,400 Speaker 1: Why do you think that you should be able to 139 00:05:56,440 --> 00:05:57,479 Speaker 1: see Hobby's group chat? 140 00:05:58,160 --> 00:06:00,880 Speaker 5: Well, here's the thing. I feel like if you guys 141 00:06:00,960 --> 00:06:02,480 Speaker 5: know the thing is like, if you have nothing to hide, 142 00:06:02,480 --> 00:06:04,760 Speaker 5: then like whatever I see, I know hobbies. So if 143 00:06:04,800 --> 00:06:07,719 Speaker 5: they're talking about sports, which that's what they're talking about, 144 00:06:07,800 --> 00:06:10,560 Speaker 5: or this or that or some story something happened, like 145 00:06:10,720 --> 00:06:13,120 Speaker 5: I probably already know about it, and that's fine. I 146 00:06:13,160 --> 00:06:15,240 Speaker 5: don't read their messages because I can't dissect it. I 147 00:06:15,240 --> 00:06:17,840 Speaker 5: don't understand like sports talk and bro talk like when 148 00:06:17,880 --> 00:06:20,840 Speaker 5: straight men gets together. I don't understand sometimes and that's 149 00:06:21,000 --> 00:06:23,000 Speaker 5: what I've gotten from there. But I have been in 150 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:24,880 Speaker 5: a situation where you know, he's slapping at his phone 151 00:06:24,880 --> 00:06:26,560 Speaker 5: and I was kind of like, what's so funny kind 152 00:06:26,560 --> 00:06:28,440 Speaker 5: of thing, and he was like, oh, it's just a 153 00:06:28,480 --> 00:06:30,240 Speaker 5: group chat. But I'm like, but what's so funny? And 154 00:06:30,240 --> 00:06:32,159 Speaker 5: then my insecurities kick in and I admit it, and 155 00:06:32,160 --> 00:06:33,800 Speaker 5: I'm like, oh, Mary, you're talking about like big boobs 156 00:06:33,839 --> 00:06:35,160 Speaker 5: and stuff. I know you are, like you're talking about 157 00:06:35,160 --> 00:06:37,560 Speaker 5: other women, Like I just like my mind went crazy. 158 00:06:37,680 --> 00:06:39,159 Speaker 5: And he was like, do you want to see? And 159 00:06:39,200 --> 00:06:41,040 Speaker 5: I was like, well I did, but I was like no, 160 00:06:41,120 --> 00:06:42,880 Speaker 5: I don't. And he's like, we're talking about I don't 161 00:06:42,880 --> 00:06:45,000 Speaker 5: know something, some comedian things, something happened, I have some 162 00:06:45,080 --> 00:06:47,560 Speaker 5: scandal whatever in the sports world. I don't care. And 163 00:06:47,640 --> 00:06:49,400 Speaker 5: I was like, all right, cool, have your space, have 164 00:06:49,480 --> 00:06:51,840 Speaker 5: your whatever. The only thing is I know Freddie and 165 00:06:51,880 --> 00:06:53,640 Speaker 5: I talked about this too, like we don't have like 166 00:06:53,680 --> 00:06:56,280 Speaker 5: those like group chats, like my group chats are are 167 00:06:56,440 --> 00:06:59,120 Speaker 5: truly so silly, Like there's no scandal in the group chat, 168 00:06:59,160 --> 00:07:01,440 Speaker 5: there's no like crazy girl talk like it's honestly the 169 00:07:01,520 --> 00:07:03,760 Speaker 5: stupidest stuff you'll ever see. So if how he wants 170 00:07:03,800 --> 00:07:06,119 Speaker 5: to see it, like if he judges me, that's wild 171 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:07,960 Speaker 5: because he already knows I've said most of this stuff 172 00:07:07,960 --> 00:07:09,720 Speaker 5: out out, or he knows how I think he can 173 00:07:09,760 --> 00:07:11,920 Speaker 5: look through whatever he wants. I truly don't care. 174 00:07:12,120 --> 00:07:13,760 Speaker 1: I must say something, and I want you to hear 175 00:07:13,880 --> 00:07:16,440 Speaker 1: what I'm saying because I mean it wholeheartedly, even though 176 00:07:16,440 --> 00:07:19,320 Speaker 1: it might sound a little mean. You are well The 177 00:07:19,360 --> 00:07:24,040 Speaker 1: first part is, I mean, you are a capable, strong, confident, 178 00:07:24,080 --> 00:07:28,600 Speaker 1: powerful woman, seriously, and there's no button. When you do 179 00:07:28,640 --> 00:07:32,440 Speaker 1: stuff like that, it's devaluing all of those qualities about 180 00:07:32,440 --> 00:07:36,000 Speaker 1: yourself because you're You're all it's giving is control and insecurity. 181 00:07:36,320 --> 00:07:38,680 Speaker 1: But you don't you don't need to see that you're 182 00:07:38,680 --> 00:07:42,200 Speaker 1: married to a guy who you're confident, I believe wouldn't 183 00:07:42,240 --> 00:07:46,679 Speaker 1: cheat on you. He's upholding his values. It's your desire 184 00:07:46,720 --> 00:07:49,040 Speaker 1: to have all the information, to have control, and I 185 00:07:49,120 --> 00:07:51,320 Speaker 1: don't think, and I think what happens is you're you're 186 00:07:51,360 --> 00:07:54,440 Speaker 1: actually devaluing your own self by doing that, because you 187 00:07:54,480 --> 00:07:55,760 Speaker 1: have all these other qualities. 188 00:07:56,000 --> 00:07:57,840 Speaker 2: But when it's when it's let me see, let me see, 189 00:07:57,920 --> 00:07:58,920 Speaker 2: or what are you doing? What are you doing? You 190 00:07:58,960 --> 00:07:59,440 Speaker 2: want to see it? 191 00:07:59,520 --> 00:08:02,440 Speaker 1: No, it's a game that you shouldn't play because you 192 00:08:02,480 --> 00:08:04,800 Speaker 1: don't need to play it because people are entitled to 193 00:08:04,840 --> 00:08:07,800 Speaker 1: have private communication. And if you don't trust what he's saying, 194 00:08:08,080 --> 00:08:09,960 Speaker 1: that's a completely different problem. 195 00:08:10,080 --> 00:08:12,840 Speaker 5: I agree with that, And it's weirdly not even about trust. 196 00:08:12,880 --> 00:08:14,760 Speaker 5: For I think it's a control thing, Like I have 197 00:08:14,840 --> 00:08:17,240 Speaker 5: control issues, Like when we drive places, I have to 198 00:08:17,320 --> 00:08:19,360 Speaker 5: drive the vehicle. I won't be a passing your princess, 199 00:08:19,360 --> 00:08:19,800 Speaker 5: like I. 200 00:08:19,720 --> 00:08:20,440 Speaker 2: Have control issues. 201 00:08:20,480 --> 00:08:22,000 Speaker 1: If you and I were married, I would never let 202 00:08:22,040 --> 00:08:24,240 Speaker 1: you drive the vehicle because I've seen you drive a vehicle. 203 00:08:24,320 --> 00:08:26,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you. So my control issue would be my 204 00:08:26,560 --> 00:08:27,600 Speaker 2: life and preserve it. 205 00:08:27,680 --> 00:08:30,600 Speaker 5: Yes, well, tell that the hobby. But I just I 206 00:08:30,680 --> 00:08:32,800 Speaker 5: can't let him drive the car. I think it just 207 00:08:32,920 --> 00:08:34,800 Speaker 5: it could just be for me wanting to see what 208 00:08:34,840 --> 00:08:37,559 Speaker 5: they're talking about. Well, I trust him, I believe him. 209 00:08:37,800 --> 00:08:39,960 Speaker 5: I don't care they're talking about the stupidestuff I've ever 210 00:08:40,040 --> 00:08:40,559 Speaker 5: seen in my life. 211 00:08:40,679 --> 00:08:42,960 Speaker 2: I don't care. Welln there you go. Well, then problem solved. 212 00:08:42,960 --> 00:08:44,679 Speaker 5: But that only happened one time, and after that I 213 00:08:44,720 --> 00:08:46,600 Speaker 5: was like, Okay, I'm not even gonna like butt in 214 00:08:46,679 --> 00:08:48,480 Speaker 5: on these random combos. 215 00:08:49,960 --> 00:08:55,000 Speaker 1: Bridget how you doing, good morning, good morning, Hey, love 216 00:08:55,000 --> 00:08:56,679 Speaker 1: you too, thanks for listening. So this is this woman. 217 00:08:57,840 --> 00:09:00,679 Speaker 1: She's upset because she feels like something's going on in 218 00:09:00,720 --> 00:09:02,719 Speaker 1: the group chat, like she's missing out, like she's not 219 00:09:02,800 --> 00:09:05,360 Speaker 1: part of something, or or maybe they're talking about her, 220 00:09:05,640 --> 00:09:07,720 Speaker 1: and so she believes that she should get to see 221 00:09:07,720 --> 00:09:09,920 Speaker 1: it of her boyfriend of a year and a half. 222 00:09:09,960 --> 00:09:12,840 Speaker 1: And I argue, no, I don't think that she should. 223 00:09:12,880 --> 00:09:13,440 Speaker 1: What do you think? 224 00:09:14,960 --> 00:09:16,760 Speaker 3: I'm actually with you on this one. 225 00:09:17,480 --> 00:09:19,920 Speaker 1: I have this one. I got to qualify it on 226 00:09:20,000 --> 00:09:23,200 Speaker 1: this one. On this one, I say a lot of 227 00:09:23,320 --> 00:09:24,080 Speaker 1: things that makes sense. 228 00:09:24,720 --> 00:09:27,920 Speaker 3: Usually i'm with ladies, but I was actually in a 229 00:09:27,960 --> 00:09:31,720 Speaker 3: marriage where the expectation was that I show my phone. 230 00:09:32,559 --> 00:09:34,800 Speaker 3: I'm no longer in that marriage, and I'm in a 231 00:09:34,840 --> 00:09:39,120 Speaker 3: new relationships where there is absolutely no expectation because we 232 00:09:39,200 --> 00:09:42,160 Speaker 3: trust each other. And I'm not blaming the caller for, 233 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:46,480 Speaker 3: you know, having concerns, but if there's concerns, there's a 234 00:09:46,520 --> 00:09:48,800 Speaker 3: deeper issue there, Like I have nothing to hide, and 235 00:09:48,840 --> 00:09:50,840 Speaker 3: I would happily show my partner on the phone at 236 00:09:50,840 --> 00:09:53,920 Speaker 3: any time, but there's no need or expectation for me 237 00:09:53,960 --> 00:09:54,320 Speaker 3: to do so. 238 00:09:55,040 --> 00:09:56,079 Speaker 2: I'll be honest with you. 239 00:09:56,720 --> 00:09:59,240 Speaker 1: If I were in a relationship, I don't necessarily think 240 00:09:59,320 --> 00:10:02,360 Speaker 1: every community I have with my closest friends would make 241 00:10:02,760 --> 00:10:06,120 Speaker 1: would make my partner feel good because I'm allowed to 242 00:10:06,160 --> 00:10:09,240 Speaker 1: have thoughts that about other people or other things. I mean, 243 00:10:09,240 --> 00:10:11,920 Speaker 1: I'm not on there saying like I'm with an awful 244 00:10:11,960 --> 00:10:14,000 Speaker 1: human being or something. But like, let's say I get 245 00:10:14,000 --> 00:10:16,559 Speaker 1: in a fight with my significant other, or let's say 246 00:10:16,600 --> 00:10:18,800 Speaker 1: my friend is having a tough time in his marriage 247 00:10:18,840 --> 00:10:21,120 Speaker 1: or something and he wants to he has every right 248 00:10:21,320 --> 00:10:23,760 Speaker 1: to have an outlet and to communicate those things. And 249 00:10:24,320 --> 00:10:26,400 Speaker 1: being as though he trusts me and I trust him, well, 250 00:10:26,440 --> 00:10:29,520 Speaker 1: that's that's a lock box, right, Like it's never getting anywhere. 251 00:10:29,679 --> 00:10:32,079 Speaker 1: But I agree, and if you were agree, his wife 252 00:10:32,200 --> 00:10:34,280 Speaker 1: or somebody. I'm making this up because it's not happening. 253 00:10:34,280 --> 00:10:36,520 Speaker 1: But if if his girlfriend or wife or somewhere to 254 00:10:36,559 --> 00:10:39,080 Speaker 1: read this communication that's between the two of us, it 255 00:10:39,120 --> 00:10:41,480 Speaker 1: could cause a lot of problems because it's what's going 256 00:10:41,520 --> 00:10:43,360 Speaker 1: on in his head that he probably wouldn't say to her. 257 00:10:43,360 --> 00:10:45,600 Speaker 1: But maybe saying it to me and working it out 258 00:10:45,840 --> 00:10:49,400 Speaker 1: before he says it to her is actually to her benefit, 259 00:10:50,000 --> 00:10:51,400 Speaker 1: right right. 260 00:10:51,320 --> 00:10:53,880 Speaker 3: I agree? I agree, But that that goes back to 261 00:10:53,920 --> 00:10:57,080 Speaker 3: the whole problem of her concern that there's something there, 262 00:10:57,120 --> 00:10:58,920 Speaker 3: and if there is, that's a deeper issue that they 263 00:10:58,960 --> 00:10:59,760 Speaker 3: need to talk about. 264 00:11:00,040 --> 00:11:01,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree with that. Bridget Thank you so much 265 00:11:01,920 --> 00:11:03,360 Speaker 1: for calling for listening. Have a good day. 266 00:11:04,640 --> 00:11:05,560 Speaker 3: Thank you. 267 00:11:05,720 --> 00:11:08,760 Speaker 1: You gotta love the stuff. Go with his phone. 268 00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:12,320 Speaker 5: Doing better. I'm doing better, slowly, but surely therapy is helping. 269 00:11:12,320 --> 00:11:14,960 Speaker 5: This conversation is helping. I don't go through it like 270 00:11:15,000 --> 00:11:17,520 Speaker 5: that freely, because again, I don't want him to think 271 00:11:17,559 --> 00:11:19,760 Speaker 5: that exactly about me, like this little insecure woman that 272 00:11:19,800 --> 00:11:21,679 Speaker 5: I'm married to. I don't want my husband to think 273 00:11:21,720 --> 00:11:23,960 Speaker 5: of me like that. It's just very tempting when it's 274 00:11:23,960 --> 00:11:25,600 Speaker 5: sitting there and I'm like, what are the boys up? 275 00:11:25,640 --> 00:11:28,360 Speaker 2: To today. What are y'all talking about? Why are you 276 00:11:28,400 --> 00:11:30,120 Speaker 2: so quiet? Kiky? I figured you have something to say 277 00:11:30,160 --> 00:11:30,400 Speaker 2: about this. 278 00:11:30,520 --> 00:11:33,160 Speaker 6: Well, group chats don't really bother me because that's everybody 279 00:11:33,160 --> 00:11:35,160 Speaker 6: in there, just yeah, and I don't care about that. 280 00:11:35,240 --> 00:11:37,200 Speaker 6: I want to know why you text in pizza hood 281 00:11:37,360 --> 00:11:39,760 Speaker 6: like stuff like that, Like I'm looking who is actually 282 00:11:39,800 --> 00:11:42,360 Speaker 6: Buffalo Wow Wings in your phone? Because you know, yes, 283 00:11:42,440 --> 00:11:46,880 Speaker 6: I text Pizza Hut all the time. That's a green flag, 284 00:11:46,960 --> 00:11:48,000 Speaker 6: right like Pizza. 285 00:11:47,800 --> 00:11:50,840 Speaker 1: Hut and I are constantly. Actually it's more like Jet's pizza. 286 00:11:50,880 --> 00:11:53,040 Speaker 1: And you can text them, by the way, which is funny. 287 00:11:53,200 --> 00:11:56,040 Speaker 1: That's just an option to text them to deliver your pizza. Yeah, 288 00:11:56,280 --> 00:11:59,440 Speaker 1: so if you see Jet's pizza in someone's phone book, 289 00:11:59,480 --> 00:11:59,920 Speaker 1: that's real. 290 00:12:00,160 --> 00:12:02,959 Speaker 6: See, I'm checking numbers and stuff like that. And then 291 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:05,560 Speaker 6: I think Hannah's issue is girl, you never show it 292 00:12:05,640 --> 00:12:08,559 Speaker 6: in the moment you know he's over therekikikiki ha ha ha. 293 00:12:08,960 --> 00:12:11,079 Speaker 6: I'm going to be like, oh, I know what I'm 294 00:12:11,080 --> 00:12:13,480 Speaker 6: doing later. You know I would never do it. Wow, 295 00:12:13,520 --> 00:12:14,439 Speaker 6: you know, I would never be like. 296 00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:16,960 Speaker 2: What are you doing? Are you guys? Snooping? 297 00:12:17,120 --> 00:12:20,280 Speaker 1: Like it's never It's not good for so many reasons. 298 00:12:20,720 --> 00:12:23,720 Speaker 1: Hey Selena, good morning, how you doing. 299 00:12:23,720 --> 00:12:25,040 Speaker 2: Good morning? What did you want to say? 300 00:12:26,000 --> 00:12:27,760 Speaker 7: I just wanted to say that she really needs su 301 00:12:27,760 --> 00:12:31,360 Speaker 7: stop being so insecure, and not only should she respect 302 00:12:31,960 --> 00:12:35,240 Speaker 7: his privacy, but also the privacy of his friends. And 303 00:12:35,280 --> 00:12:38,000 Speaker 7: if you feel that you can't trust him because he's 304 00:12:38,080 --> 00:12:39,839 Speaker 7: laughing with his friends, and I think you're in the 305 00:12:39,880 --> 00:12:41,599 Speaker 7: wrong relationship, honey. 306 00:12:41,280 --> 00:12:44,320 Speaker 1: Because yeah, Selena, I'll tell you what is going on 307 00:12:44,360 --> 00:12:48,000 Speaker 1: in my messages. It's me, you know, spending all day 308 00:12:48,080 --> 00:12:51,000 Speaker 1: looking up content for the show, and I stumbled across 309 00:12:51,040 --> 00:12:52,760 Speaker 1: something that's funny, and I sent him to my friend, 310 00:12:52,760 --> 00:12:54,920 Speaker 1: and some of it is just ridiculous, Like some of 311 00:12:54,960 --> 00:12:58,559 Speaker 1: it is so ridiculous, stupid, immature, whatever. 312 00:12:58,720 --> 00:13:00,319 Speaker 2: I wouldn't want to be judged on that. 313 00:13:00,360 --> 00:13:02,920 Speaker 1: But like my friend knows that it's you know, if 314 00:13:02,920 --> 00:13:04,840 Speaker 1: I see something against like ha funny to that person 315 00:13:04,840 --> 00:13:06,280 Speaker 1: and I send it to them. But I wouldn't want 316 00:13:06,280 --> 00:13:08,640 Speaker 1: to be judged on what I'm sending to my friends 317 00:13:08,760 --> 00:13:10,959 Speaker 1: or or every thought I have in my brain or 318 00:13:11,000 --> 00:13:13,600 Speaker 1: every dumb inside joke that we have. It doesn't mean 319 00:13:13,600 --> 00:13:16,840 Speaker 1: that I'm sleeping with ten other women, you know. But 320 00:13:16,880 --> 00:13:18,640 Speaker 1: I also don't want to have to explain the context. 321 00:13:18,640 --> 00:13:19,840 Speaker 1: Sometimes I shouldn't have to. 322 00:13:21,040 --> 00:13:24,400 Speaker 7: Well, here's another thing. What if one of his friends 323 00:13:24,920 --> 00:13:28,520 Speaker 7: is sharing something like that and she could be friends 324 00:13:28,559 --> 00:13:31,120 Speaker 7: with one of the friend's girlfriends or something, and. 325 00:13:31,240 --> 00:13:34,440 Speaker 2: That's how you get your girlfriend. That's how you get 326 00:13:34,480 --> 00:13:36,000 Speaker 2: yourself kicked out. You know. 327 00:13:36,080 --> 00:13:38,080 Speaker 1: It's like the rules of fight club, you know what 328 00:13:38,120 --> 00:13:40,800 Speaker 1: I mean? Thank you, still have a good day. You're 329 00:13:40,800 --> 00:13:42,560 Speaker 1: welcome calling across her arms. 330 00:13:42,559 --> 00:13:46,360 Speaker 5: What So, I just had a thought because this actually 331 00:13:46,360 --> 00:13:49,400 Speaker 5: did happen to me, But what is what do you 332 00:13:49,440 --> 00:13:51,840 Speaker 5: do right when my husband asks me when I'm doing 333 00:13:51,840 --> 00:13:53,640 Speaker 5: the keky cock CODs myself. 334 00:13:53,320 --> 00:13:56,160 Speaker 2: And I'm laughing because while you're going key. 335 00:13:56,000 --> 00:14:00,520 Speaker 5: Co ha that one like this group in this room 336 00:14:00,559 --> 00:14:02,520 Speaker 5: the frend show, we have a group chat, and that's true, 337 00:14:02,520 --> 00:14:03,960 Speaker 5: we do. It's gone off a couple of times, and 338 00:14:04,120 --> 00:14:07,360 Speaker 5: I've actually laughed. I've giggled, and he's got He's asked me, oh, like, 339 00:14:07,400 --> 00:14:09,080 Speaker 5: what's so funny kind of things. I'm looking at my phone. 340 00:14:09,120 --> 00:14:12,240 Speaker 5: I'm laughing. I have no issue straight up telling him 341 00:14:12,400 --> 00:14:14,320 Speaker 5: like what is making me laugh? And there's usually a 342 00:14:14,360 --> 00:14:15,880 Speaker 5: story to it, so I'll big, Oh, this happened on 343 00:14:15,920 --> 00:14:17,839 Speaker 5: the show today. Or this happened behind the scenes and 344 00:14:17,920 --> 00:14:20,200 Speaker 5: this is why we're laughing about it. So like, why 345 00:14:20,240 --> 00:14:22,160 Speaker 5: can't he do that for me now that I'm thinking 346 00:14:22,200 --> 00:14:24,160 Speaker 5: about it. Why is it that like, oh, don't worry 347 00:14:24,160 --> 00:14:27,400 Speaker 5: about it, secularity like, But with him, he asked that 348 00:14:27,480 --> 00:14:29,600 Speaker 5: same question, and I have no problem telling him. 349 00:14:29,640 --> 00:14:32,000 Speaker 2: I mean, because it's funny if a fight. 350 00:14:32,240 --> 00:14:33,960 Speaker 1: If I'm sitting on the couch next to you and 351 00:14:34,000 --> 00:14:37,520 Speaker 1: I'm laughing hysterically at something and We're just sitting there. 352 00:14:37,400 --> 00:14:39,720 Speaker 2: In quiet, and I'm just I'm staring at. 353 00:14:39,640 --> 00:14:42,280 Speaker 1: My phone and laughing hysterically, I mean, that would be 354 00:14:42,360 --> 00:14:46,080 Speaker 1: rude not to include someone and in you know, whatever's 355 00:14:46,080 --> 00:14:49,000 Speaker 1: making you happy in that moment, that would be strange. Like, 356 00:14:49,040 --> 00:14:50,840 Speaker 1: but I'm you know, if I'm just sitting there texting 357 00:14:50,880 --> 00:14:52,800 Speaker 1: and we're just mine on our own business or whatever, 358 00:14:52,840 --> 00:14:54,440 Speaker 1: I don't think I should have to show you every 359 00:14:54,480 --> 00:14:56,840 Speaker 1: action I'm making on my phone, not at all, you 360 00:14:56,840 --> 00:14:58,200 Speaker 1: know what I mean. But like if I laugh out 361 00:14:58,200 --> 00:15:00,800 Speaker 1: loud in something, I mean, I might you an explanation 362 00:15:00,840 --> 00:15:02,600 Speaker 1: of some kind, but I'm not going to hand the 363 00:15:02,600 --> 00:15:04,440 Speaker 1: thing over for you to do a complete audit. 364 00:15:04,600 --> 00:15:06,800 Speaker 5: No, just let me know the story. Just just like, 365 00:15:06,840 --> 00:15:08,280 Speaker 5: fill me in. I want to laugh with you too. 366 00:15:08,320 --> 00:15:08,920 Speaker 5: If it's that. 367 00:15:08,920 --> 00:15:10,840 Speaker 2: Funny, I I gee, yeah. 368 00:15:10,920 --> 00:15:11,560 Speaker 1: What's wrong with that? 369 00:15:11,560 --> 00:15:13,520 Speaker 2: It's a friendly conversations. 370 00:15:13,040 --> 00:15:16,479 Speaker 1: That's different than being like hey, right, let me give 371 00:15:16,880 --> 00:15:19,239 Speaker 1: hey Carla, Hey. 372 00:15:19,240 --> 00:15:19,800 Speaker 2: Hey Carla. 373 00:15:19,960 --> 00:15:22,680 Speaker 1: So, just to recap here, this woman's upset because she 374 00:15:22,760 --> 00:15:25,440 Speaker 1: feels like her boyfriend's in this group chat with his 375 00:15:25,520 --> 00:15:27,640 Speaker 1: buddies and she wants to know what's going on in there, 376 00:15:27,680 --> 00:15:29,120 Speaker 1: and she feels kind of like she has a right 377 00:15:29,200 --> 00:15:31,680 Speaker 1: to know, and you know, I argue that she doesn't. 378 00:15:32,840 --> 00:15:33,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think. 379 00:15:33,960 --> 00:15:36,440 Speaker 8: I mean, okay, so how many times have you said 380 00:15:36,440 --> 00:15:38,880 Speaker 8: something to your partner and then they don't get it 381 00:15:38,920 --> 00:15:41,400 Speaker 8: and they're like that, or they'll give you a logical explanation. 382 00:15:41,920 --> 00:15:44,600 Speaker 8: Your group chat will give you all the dilulute stuff 383 00:15:44,600 --> 00:15:48,560 Speaker 8: that you want to listen to. Also, I am in 384 00:15:48,640 --> 00:15:51,160 Speaker 8: a group chat that's an all male group chat except 385 00:15:51,200 --> 00:15:53,640 Speaker 8: for me, and my husband's also in it, so I 386 00:15:53,720 --> 00:15:57,240 Speaker 8: get an insight into all the crazy stuff that they sink. 387 00:15:58,160 --> 00:16:01,120 Speaker 8: And let me tell you, you don't want to know. They 388 00:16:01,160 --> 00:16:05,520 Speaker 8: say such wild, crazy things. It's so unhinged, and I 389 00:16:05,520 --> 00:16:07,320 Speaker 8: feel privileged that I get to be in it, but 390 00:16:07,360 --> 00:16:09,800 Speaker 8: I have to remember sometimes like, oh snap, I. 391 00:16:09,760 --> 00:16:10,480 Speaker 5: Am part of the group. 392 00:16:10,520 --> 00:16:11,320 Speaker 8: I'm part of the boys. 393 00:16:11,360 --> 00:16:12,120 Speaker 5: I have to be cool. 394 00:16:12,160 --> 00:16:15,360 Speaker 8: I can't get mad about this. So sometimes it's better 395 00:16:15,400 --> 00:16:16,080 Speaker 8: that you don't know. 396 00:16:16,880 --> 00:16:19,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think there's probably stuff going on on both sides. 397 00:16:19,440 --> 00:16:21,040 Speaker 2: I just don't I don't need to be involved with. 398 00:16:21,560 --> 00:16:24,960 Speaker 2: I don't need to know what's going on. You know, 399 00:16:25,080 --> 00:16:25,760 Speaker 2: I don't know. 400 00:16:25,960 --> 00:16:27,200 Speaker 1: I know, That's what I mean though, like, and it 401 00:16:27,200 --> 00:16:29,600 Speaker 1: wouldn't be there'd be no context, and it might be 402 00:16:29,640 --> 00:16:31,760 Speaker 1: funny for the girls, but it's not funny to me. 403 00:16:31,920 --> 00:16:33,640 Speaker 1: And I don't know. So I could just leve. I 404 00:16:33,640 --> 00:16:35,600 Speaker 1: don't need to see that. Thank you, Carl, I have 405 00:16:35,640 --> 00:16:36,080 Speaker 1: a good day. 406 00:16:36,360 --> 00:16:36,760 Speaker 3: Thank you. 407 00:16:37,280 --> 00:16:39,040 Speaker 1: You all want to talk about girl stuff. I don't 408 00:16:39,080 --> 00:16:42,000 Speaker 1: have anything to contribute to that. I don't need to know. 409 00:16:42,320 --> 00:16:44,280 Speaker 1: There's probably that of information there. I don't need to know. 410 00:16:45,080 --> 00:16:47,760 Speaker 1: I mean, think about I don't know the last two 411 00:16:47,800 --> 00:16:51,120 Speaker 1: weeks of your girl group chats. Would you really want 412 00:16:51,120 --> 00:16:53,280 Speaker 1: a guy to read all that? Would your friends want 413 00:16:53,320 --> 00:16:54,120 Speaker 1: a guy to read all that? 414 00:16:54,520 --> 00:16:54,600 Speaker 3: No? 415 00:16:55,880 --> 00:16:58,239 Speaker 2: Anyway, so there you go, prom solved. 416 00:16:59,520 --> 00:17:01,960 Speaker 1: Girl, Save the snooper for later. I'd still like to 417 00:17:02,000 --> 00:17:03,880 Speaker 1: know why you're going to do it. Like Big Team 418 00:17:03,960 --> 00:17:08,840 Speaker 1: is always sexting Pizza Hut though about breadsticks and dipping 419 00:17:08,840 --> 00:17:11,080 Speaker 1: sauces and things that i'd let you know, the entertainer 420 00:17:11,160 --> 00:17:12,400 Speaker 1: reportant and showed me is keeky. 421 00:17:13,160 --> 00:17:16,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, they talk better than they site tell me about. 422 00:17:16,359 --> 00:17:19,280 Speaker 1: These are the radio blogs on the Fred Show, like 423 00:17:19,359 --> 00:17:22,120 Speaker 1: we're writing in our diaries, except we say them aloud. 424 00:17:22,160 --> 00:17:24,040 Speaker 1: We call them blogs. Paulina, Yes, go. 425 00:17:24,359 --> 00:17:30,080 Speaker 5: Thank you so much, dear blog man. My mom she's something, Marta, 426 00:17:30,359 --> 00:17:32,520 Speaker 5: My mom is something. I love her so much. She's 427 00:17:32,520 --> 00:17:35,560 Speaker 5: probably listening to us right now, live and local. And 428 00:17:35,680 --> 00:17:38,160 Speaker 5: the thing about my mom, though is, you know, parents 429 00:17:38,200 --> 00:17:40,560 Speaker 5: always say some crazy things. And I think she really 430 00:17:40,600 --> 00:17:43,639 Speaker 5: outdid herself yesterday because I was telling her we're on 431 00:17:43,680 --> 00:17:45,480 Speaker 5: the phone. She was driving and I was like, you know, 432 00:17:45,520 --> 00:17:48,520 Speaker 5: im like it's hard with Gigi, Like my baby is 433 00:17:48,800 --> 00:17:50,680 Speaker 5: fourteen months and i hate my parents do a whole 434 00:17:50,760 --> 00:17:54,080 Speaker 5: month thing. So I'm sorry, I know that's not cute, 435 00:17:54,080 --> 00:17:56,320 Speaker 5: but like she has fourteen months a little bit over 436 00:17:56,320 --> 00:18:00,359 Speaker 5: a year, and she is a lot. We're no longer 437 00:18:00,359 --> 00:18:02,440 Speaker 5: and like we're gonna sit here phase, you know, we're 438 00:18:02,440 --> 00:18:04,840 Speaker 5: gonna just do like no, we're not sitting anywhere there's 439 00:18:04,880 --> 00:18:08,000 Speaker 5: no sitting to be sat. Like we are moving everywhere, 440 00:18:08,320 --> 00:18:09,880 Speaker 5: and she's a lot you know, I'm trying to cook 441 00:18:09,960 --> 00:18:11,600 Speaker 5: and it's up up, and she said a lot of 442 00:18:11,600 --> 00:18:13,639 Speaker 5: words too for her age, and she's just like bawling 443 00:18:13,640 --> 00:18:15,399 Speaker 5: your eyes out because I'm not paying attention to her. 444 00:18:15,440 --> 00:18:18,360 Speaker 5: It's like it's it's getting really hard. And I told 445 00:18:18,359 --> 00:18:20,359 Speaker 5: my mom yesterday I need an event because parenting is 446 00:18:20,400 --> 00:18:22,199 Speaker 5: just so hard. Period. But I was like, yeah, it's 447 00:18:22,200 --> 00:18:24,480 Speaker 5: getting really difficult with her. I got to like find activities. 448 00:18:24,480 --> 00:18:25,880 Speaker 5: We got to sign up to like the park, dish, 449 00:18:26,160 --> 00:18:27,840 Speaker 5: we gotta do something. She has to go to school, 450 00:18:27,880 --> 00:18:32,120 Speaker 5: maybe go to like the military, go somewhere. I go somewhere, 451 00:18:32,240 --> 00:18:35,680 Speaker 5: like some camp, like I don't know. In this case, No, 452 00:18:38,320 --> 00:18:42,199 Speaker 5: it's just so hard. Somewhere where she'll go for like 453 00:18:42,240 --> 00:18:45,200 Speaker 5: a period of time, read our energy out, get it out. 454 00:18:45,840 --> 00:18:46,760 Speaker 5: It's too much for me. 455 00:18:50,240 --> 00:18:50,639 Speaker 2: Just kidding. 456 00:18:51,640 --> 00:18:54,200 Speaker 5: I mean listen, And I said, Mom, it's getting hard, 457 00:18:54,320 --> 00:18:57,240 Speaker 5: and she goes, instead of you know, giving support or 458 00:18:57,240 --> 00:19:00,359 Speaker 5: things that I need, like at that moment, she goes, Oh, yeah, 459 00:19:00,400 --> 00:19:01,720 Speaker 5: she needs a sibling. 460 00:19:02,080 --> 00:19:02,880 Speaker 2: I said, mother. 461 00:19:02,960 --> 00:19:05,000 Speaker 5: I thought she was joking. I said, a sibling. 462 00:19:05,200 --> 00:19:08,440 Speaker 1: I almost like I've never understood that my sister has 463 00:19:08,480 --> 00:19:10,480 Speaker 1: the same logic, and I think she's learning the hard 464 00:19:10,480 --> 00:19:12,639 Speaker 1: way that I'm not sure that's how that works. 465 00:19:12,840 --> 00:19:13,720 Speaker 2: I don't think that works. 466 00:19:13,720 --> 00:19:15,240 Speaker 1: I don't think you just pop out another kid and 467 00:19:15,280 --> 00:19:17,480 Speaker 1: then they just occupy each other. That's just not how 468 00:19:17,480 --> 00:19:17,880 Speaker 1: that goes. 469 00:19:18,600 --> 00:19:21,560 Speaker 5: You just gonna like, what feed my other newborn baby? 470 00:19:21,600 --> 00:19:26,320 Speaker 5: And chair and brazier? No, I agree, no, no, no, no, 471 00:19:27,119 --> 00:19:29,000 Speaker 5: I agree, ladies, enough out of you? 472 00:19:29,560 --> 00:19:31,720 Speaker 2: Is there any chance you'd consider it? No? 473 00:19:31,720 --> 00:19:35,679 Speaker 5: No, I'm trying to plan what I can do to 474 00:19:35,680 --> 00:19:39,120 Speaker 5: make sure it will never happen, like I'm yes, I'm 475 00:19:39,119 --> 00:19:42,360 Speaker 5: consulting medical professionals, like, what can we do too? 476 00:19:42,440 --> 00:19:43,680 Speaker 2: Pretty? She's gorgeous. 477 00:19:43,720 --> 00:19:46,399 Speaker 5: You can't not give us another pretty baby? Thank you, 478 00:19:46,560 --> 00:19:47,919 Speaker 5: thank you. 479 00:19:47,359 --> 00:19:50,680 Speaker 1: You don't have to race, of course it is no, 480 00:19:50,800 --> 00:19:52,480 Speaker 1: you don't have to do that, no pressure, you don't 481 00:19:52,520 --> 00:19:54,120 Speaker 1: have to do one. And I don't think it makes 482 00:19:54,160 --> 00:19:56,280 Speaker 1: life easier. I don't, I really don't. That's two kids 483 00:19:56,320 --> 00:19:58,400 Speaker 1: to feed. And I said, well, when they get older, 484 00:19:58,400 --> 00:19:59,320 Speaker 1: they'll play with each other. 485 00:19:59,200 --> 00:20:01,119 Speaker 5: Know, they'll fight with each exactly, and then I gotta go, 486 00:20:01,760 --> 00:20:04,600 Speaker 5: you know, get involved in that. They say that, okay, 487 00:20:04,600 --> 00:20:06,160 Speaker 5: think about the kids or I'm a one and done 488 00:20:06,200 --> 00:20:08,800 Speaker 5: kind of lady. They say that one kid is a vibe, 489 00:20:08,840 --> 00:20:11,200 Speaker 5: two kids is a lifestyle. I don't want a lifestyle. 490 00:20:11,240 --> 00:20:14,119 Speaker 5: I want a vibe. I want to vibe forever. You 491 00:20:14,119 --> 00:20:15,960 Speaker 5: know how easy it is to just get Jiji and 492 00:20:16,000 --> 00:20:18,520 Speaker 5: gold places and do things. Nothing parenting is easy, it's not. 493 00:20:18,560 --> 00:20:20,640 Speaker 5: It's the hardest thing I've ever done. But with one, 494 00:20:20,760 --> 00:20:23,719 Speaker 5: it's just doable. It's manageable. Like we're good either I 495 00:20:23,760 --> 00:20:26,680 Speaker 5: have or hobby. Grandma's are super involved right now, her 496 00:20:26,720 --> 00:20:29,720 Speaker 5: her teats, watching her her aunt, like we are a village. 497 00:20:29,760 --> 00:20:31,840 Speaker 5: We are strong, we are united. I think another baby 498 00:20:31,840 --> 00:20:34,800 Speaker 5: would destroy us all it maybe. 499 00:20:34,560 --> 00:20:35,439 Speaker 2: The downfall of me. 500 00:20:35,680 --> 00:20:38,200 Speaker 5: It would just be too much, you guys, No, I'm kidding. 501 00:20:38,280 --> 00:20:40,760 Speaker 5: I just I know I appreciate it because everyone's like, 502 00:20:40,800 --> 00:20:42,639 Speaker 5: she's so cute and this isn't mad, And I agree. 503 00:20:42,680 --> 00:20:43,560 Speaker 5: I think I made like. 504 00:20:43,560 --> 00:20:46,639 Speaker 1: A good looking Let's just leave it there, because you 505 00:20:46,680 --> 00:20:48,439 Speaker 1: never know what could happen the second time. I mean, 506 00:20:48,480 --> 00:20:50,760 Speaker 1: it could be a disaster, you know what I say. 507 00:20:51,240 --> 00:20:53,000 Speaker 1: So let's just you hit it out of the park 508 00:20:53,040 --> 00:20:55,840 Speaker 1: the first time, and you know it's it's requiring a 509 00:20:55,880 --> 00:20:58,160 Speaker 1: lot of your focus and energy, and so if you're 510 00:20:58,200 --> 00:20:59,400 Speaker 1: not compelled to have another one. 511 00:20:59,680 --> 00:21:02,919 Speaker 2: I I do not believe that it somehow is easier. 512 00:21:03,400 --> 00:21:06,040 Speaker 2: I don't. I just don't buy that. How is that? How? 513 00:21:06,200 --> 00:21:07,200 Speaker 2: It doesn't make any sense. 514 00:21:07,200 --> 00:21:10,400 Speaker 1: It's more expensive, it's got to be more stressful, it's 515 00:21:10,440 --> 00:21:11,080 Speaker 1: more human. 516 00:21:11,480 --> 00:21:13,400 Speaker 2: It's just I don't know. I don't don't. I don't 517 00:21:13,400 --> 00:21:13,679 Speaker 2: get that. 518 00:21:13,800 --> 00:21:15,760 Speaker 5: Yeah, Jake, my best friend she came over and my 519 00:21:15,760 --> 00:21:18,639 Speaker 5: besties Lucy, and she has two little ones, the shoe 520 00:21:18,720 --> 00:21:21,639 Speaker 5: and one literally like, yeah, so now three of us 521 00:21:21,680 --> 00:21:25,040 Speaker 5: are in the house on Saturday. I after everyone left, 522 00:21:25,080 --> 00:21:27,639 Speaker 5: I was so overwhelmed and overstimulated. I was like, this 523 00:21:27,760 --> 00:21:31,280 Speaker 5: is why one one is good. You guys, I'm still saying, 524 00:21:31,280 --> 00:21:31,920 Speaker 5: I'm still here. 525 00:21:32,119 --> 00:21:34,679 Speaker 2: Your mom she's crazy. 526 00:21:34,760 --> 00:21:37,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, well, because you know, I mean, she can say 527 00:21:37,600 --> 00:21:39,199 Speaker 1: that and then she can be helpful, but then she 528 00:21:39,200 --> 00:21:42,160 Speaker 1: can go home exactly. You know, so your vote only 529 00:21:42,200 --> 00:21:44,560 Speaker 1: counts half. Sorry, she gets to sleep and rest, right. 530 00:21:45,320 --> 00:21:47,040 Speaker 1: I feel like you don't have to because she already 531 00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:47,560 Speaker 1: did it once. 532 00:21:47,720 --> 00:21:49,440 Speaker 5: Yeah, she and this is the thing she did her time, 533 00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:51,119 Speaker 5: she did her thing. That's why you know, I'm grateful 534 00:21:51,119 --> 00:21:53,639 Speaker 5: that she was in jail. Right, like I'm so happy 535 00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:56,080 Speaker 5: that she's so helpful, but like exactly, like I can't 536 00:21:56,080 --> 00:21:59,080 Speaker 5: be responsible for two I am me and baby, it's 537 00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:00,720 Speaker 5: too cheer life about your sister. 538 00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:02,000 Speaker 2: You know what? 539 00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:03,240 Speaker 5: That's not about idea. 540 00:22:04,560 --> 00:22:06,840 Speaker 2: I was gonna say. I was gonna say, that's not 541 00:22:06,920 --> 00:22:07,600 Speaker 2: the that's not. 542 00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:10,399 Speaker 5: The example, that. 543 00:22:09,240 --> 00:22:10,959 Speaker 1: That's not the example to use, because I think my 544 00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:13,920 Speaker 1: mom can picture that too. Actually, a Fred Show