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Speaker 1: Remence. Lena comes one or two points seven, kiss family,

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Speaker 1: Calm down. Those are two words that can go the

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Speaker 1: wrong way. Yeah, calm down. Don't have to calm down?

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Speaker 1: And then you thinking like that. No, not like that.

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Speaker 1: But every time I hear calm down, it just makes

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Speaker 1: my blood boil. You have no patience, be patient? Makes

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Speaker 1: my blood boil. Okay, So we're about to pay a bill.

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Speaker 1: That's the story on the tents. Then on Thursdays we

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Speaker 1: pay your bills all day long, starting early and going

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Speaker 1: into the evening. Julia is one or two seven. Juliet,

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Speaker 1: thanks for reaching out to us. How are you good?

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Speaker 1: How are you Ryan? We're doing well. Thank you for asking.

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Speaker 1: So are you calling about a relationship thing or a

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Speaker 1: work thing? Um? Kind of a relationship thing? Okay? Are

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Speaker 1: you looking for some guidance? Yes, I'm looking for some guidance. Well,

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Speaker 1: we're all here, sisny tiny myself, so tell us what's

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Speaker 1: going on? Awesome? Thank you. So I'm literally the only

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Speaker 1: single person left in my life. Every person I know

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Speaker 1: it's in a relationship, engaged, married, having kids, and so

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Speaker 1: I feel sort of stuck at thirty years old and

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Speaker 1: being more single and alone than i've ever felt before.

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Speaker 1: And I'm trying, yes, and I'm trying my best to

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Speaker 1: not get caught in timelines and truly believing that the

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Speaker 1: right person is coming in at the right time. But

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Speaker 1: I can't really help but compare. And I recently went

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Speaker 1: into a spiral because, um, one of my friends getting

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Speaker 1: married is freezing her eggs and that's something that I

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Speaker 1: haven't gone on top of either. And she's getting married,

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Speaker 1: um in time. And I know you felt like this before,

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Speaker 1: So if you all have any any tips to get

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Speaker 1: out of this mindset, I would so appreciate. How do

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Speaker 1: you have a breakthrough in that mindset? It's funny, I've

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Speaker 1: had it like every step of the way. In my

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Speaker 1: mid twenties, all my sorority sisters were getting married and

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Speaker 1: having kids and I was like, so far from that,

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Speaker 1: And so I mean I had to make new friend

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Speaker 1: mean I made new friends and I was in a

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Speaker 1: they were not um, so I had to make all

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Speaker 1: new friends. And I think I just had to really

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Speaker 1: lean in on my faith and just know that like

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Speaker 1: everybody's timing is different, and every seat you have you're

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Speaker 1: in every season for a reason, and I think that, um,

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Speaker 1: that was my season to build my career. And I

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Speaker 1: know that I probably wouldn't have made a lot of

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Speaker 1: those decisions had I been in a serious relationship. So hindsight,

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Speaker 1: obviously is is easier than in the moment. And when

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Speaker 1: it comes to freezing your eggs, I feel like everybody

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Speaker 1: has an opinion and everybody has um and it comes

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Speaker 1: from a good place. You know, people telling you to

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Speaker 1: freeze your eggs, it's coming from a good place. But

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Speaker 1: just know if you don't feel that desire to freeze

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Speaker 1: your eggs, and it's not the end all be all.

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Speaker 1: I still haven't frozen my eggs. I'm thirty five, and

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Speaker 1: people tell me to do it all the time. I

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Speaker 1: went and got them checked and I had a lot

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Speaker 1: more peace of mind after I did that. So maybe

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Speaker 1: be proactive and that's in that sense, but just don't

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Speaker 1: listen to other people and just know that like it's

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Speaker 1: going to happen for you when it's meant to happen

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Speaker 1: for you. I love that. Thank you, Cary, You're welcome.

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Speaker 1: I'm just sitting back watching the advice being given, enjoying

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Speaker 1: that advice. It's great advice. Thank you. Julia, you hang

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Speaker 1: on the phone and give Marianna your address hold on. Yeah, definitely, Yeah, definitely.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to send her my book. Oh when it

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Speaker 1: comes out, Yeah, when it comes out. But I feel

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Speaker 1: like everything she's thinking about is everything. A lot of

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Speaker 1: stuff I wrote about timelines and comparing yourself to other

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Speaker 1: people is a real problem. Yeah. Uh, all of us

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Speaker 1: here guilty of that because I go through those phases

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Speaker 1: where I'm like, oh my gosh, everybody around me has

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Speaker 1: done more things in terms of phases of life than

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Speaker 1: I and I've just worked, and for me, I feel like, oh,

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Speaker 1: that's do so much time. But you start thinking about it,

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Speaker 1: let's just assume, I mean, I'm gonna die, you know, Okay,

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Speaker 1: we need to I will die at some point, right,

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Speaker 1: I mean, let's let's say I wait ten more years.

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Speaker 1: We all might, I might, We all might go tomorrow

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Speaker 1: if I wait ten more years. Yeah, if I wait

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Speaker 1: ten more years, right, some fifty something like twenty years?

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Speaker 1: That kids in college, what am I dead? Doctor? My

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Speaker 1: doctor is telling me things like that, But I don't

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Speaker 1: know if he's just trying to make me. Can't live

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Speaker 1: in that fear of that you're going to die? Like,

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Speaker 1: what is that that fear? I fel like I had

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Speaker 1: with the medicine, longevity is going to be a big thing.

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Speaker 1: You know. Like my dad's about turn eighty and he

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Speaker 1: is like as strong as I've ever seen him. I

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Speaker 1: look at fifties thirty, that's the way I look at it,

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Speaker 1: and I think I'm right. I think you're right too.

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Speaker 1: But I'm gonna stop compare myself to my friends. I'm good,

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Speaker 1: fifty is thirty basically right, And in the eighties and

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Speaker 1: new fifty eighties fifty, I'm telling you pay your bills

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