WEBVTT - How To Navigate Burnout

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<v Speaker 1>dot com. Okay, okay, So today's question is not directly

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<v Speaker 1>from the mail AA. It's just something that's been coming

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<v Speaker 1>up oh lately. The question of how do you sidestep

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<v Speaker 1>burn out? So a lot of especially this is like

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<v Speaker 1>from my entrepreneurs in particular, but certainly this could be

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<v Speaker 1>for anyone. Lately, I have been hearing from a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of my entrepreneur friends about how burnt out they are.

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<v Speaker 1>When I tell you it is like a purveying theme.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't actually know an entrepreneur that is not feeling exhausted,

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<v Speaker 1>tired out, and I'm talking about the gamut. I have

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<v Speaker 1>friends who have made fifty million dollars in the last

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<v Speaker 1>couple of years. I'm sorry, and more. You know, I

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<v Speaker 1>have friends who are starting out one year in business

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<v Speaker 1>year one and you know, maybe me five thousand dollars,

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<v Speaker 1>and the girls are tired. The girls are tired. And

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<v Speaker 1>most recently, I saw a gentleman his name is Abu

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<v Speaker 1>on Instagram that I follow. He is like this master

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<v Speaker 1>like ad kind of marketing guy and he posted candidly.

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<v Speaker 1>So That's why I'm sharing it because it's all over

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<v Speaker 1>his social media how he is taking a break after

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<v Speaker 1>making millions and millions and millions and millions of dollars.

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<v Speaker 1>He is like, to what end? And I just wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to talk through, you know, like, what is that. I

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<v Speaker 1>think so many of us didn't grow up with the

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<v Speaker 1>whole lot, and you know, we kind of had this

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<v Speaker 1>idea that if we make a ton of money, it

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<v Speaker 1>will solve so much. And certainly money does solve a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of challenges, but not all the challenges, and sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>money will actually create new challenges that we did not anticipate.

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<v Speaker 1>And it can be really hard because don't nobody want

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<v Speaker 1>to hear about a millionaire crying about in my life,

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<v Speaker 1>So there's not a lot of safe spaces to share that,

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<v Speaker 1>like it's too much. But I'm seeing more and more people,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, stepping forward, whether it's publicly or just certainly

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<v Speaker 1>behind the scenes my friends, and I'm sharing how like

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<v Speaker 1>overworked and overwhelmed they've become. And I can say that

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<v Speaker 1>certainly I felt like that a few years ago where

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<v Speaker 1>I was at peak overworking war, I mean peak where

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<v Speaker 1>like I said, I was up thirty pounds, a blood

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<v Speaker 1>pressure was always fightd and I was like, I never

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<v Speaker 1>had high blood pressure. And that was when I was

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<v Speaker 1>at my peak, when my business was making eight figures

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<v Speaker 1>of a year and I was my most stressed. I

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<v Speaker 1>was so stressed, I felt like a balloon that had

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<v Speaker 1>been blown to capacity, but you know, you keep blowing

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<v Speaker 1>and you're like, is this the the Is this the

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<v Speaker 1>gust of air that will pop it? Oh? Not yet? Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>what about this one? Like you know you're blown the balloon?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wait? Is this it? Is this gonna pop the balloon?

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<v Speaker 1>And you don't know. Day by day you're putting a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit more air into a balloon that's already a

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<v Speaker 1>capacity and you don't know the day that it's going

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<v Speaker 1>to pop, but you know one day it will if

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<v Speaker 1>you continue. And what happens is, especially as you start

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<v Speaker 1>to get success, is that if you're not careful, you

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<v Speaker 1>will lose control of your own life. That your business,

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<v Speaker 1>your job, the thing that's bringing you success will start

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<v Speaker 1>to be in charge, not you, and you will feel

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<v Speaker 1>like you are a passenger on a runaway train, knowing

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<v Speaker 1>that although it is garnering you money and accolades and

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<v Speaker 1>everything else, it is also careening toward destruction. You can

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<v Speaker 1>see it and you're like, I don't know how to

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<v Speaker 1>get off. And if this sounds like you, you're probably

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<v Speaker 1>nodding like yeah, see, I say I've been there or

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<v Speaker 1>I'm there now. And it's really scary because you know,

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<v Speaker 1>not if, but when. When Will I crash? When will

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<v Speaker 1>this balloon pop? Will it be my health? Will I

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<v Speaker 1>have a heart attack? Will I break down? Will I

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<v Speaker 1>have a mental breakdown? Will I make a mistake and

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<v Speaker 1>destroy everything? You just know when? And it is the

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<v Speaker 1>scariest thing because you don't know what to do to

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<v Speaker 1>stop it. And I didn't know what to do. And

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<v Speaker 1>so about three or four years ago, I asked for

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<v Speaker 1>help because I just was at overwork and overwhelmed to

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<v Speaker 1>the point where I was like, I think I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>have a heart attack, like on someone around this, because

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<v Speaker 1>isn't that what high blood pressure at extended period of

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<v Speaker 1>time will do. I wasn't sleeping, I just I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I just said, I think I'm gonna have a heart

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<v Speaker 1>attack or something. My body is going to break down.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I started to ask for help, and I

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<v Speaker 1>knew I needed help in two places. One in business,

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<v Speaker 1>so I got a business coach, and then two I

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<v Speaker 1>got a therapist. And I had a therapist in college

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<v Speaker 1>when I was having a really hard time and so

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<v Speaker 1>but I knew I needed something, and so the business

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<v Speaker 1>coach helped a lot in restructuring the business, and certainly

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<v Speaker 1>it helped. But the biggest thing I took away from

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<v Speaker 1>the business coach is that the way I was managing

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<v Speaker 1>the business was not sustainable. So certainly the business coach

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<v Speaker 1>helped me to like restructure and see parts of the

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<v Speaker 1>team and the company that need to adjust. But I

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<v Speaker 1>realized that like, okay, that like this is great, and

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<v Speaker 1>certainly the business is doing better and the people are

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<v Speaker 1>on my team you know what to do, and we

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<v Speaker 1>have a real underlying business. Like as a result of

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<v Speaker 1>my business coach, I have a really good fundamental business

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<v Speaker 1>like currently right now I'm talking about HR I'm talking

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<v Speaker 1>about benefits, I'm talking about matching program for their four

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<v Speaker 1>one K I'm talking about employee handbook, I'm talking about KPIs,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm talking about you know what I mean like under

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<v Speaker 1>like I'm not you know, I do not just like

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<v Speaker 1>out here budget lisa ing or social media ing. No, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>I have a really good, underlying, fundamental sellable business like

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<v Speaker 1>this is a hardcore business. The business coach helped me

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<v Speaker 1>to get there, which is great, but it also made

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<v Speaker 1>me realize that like I could not systemize and organize

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<v Speaker 1>my way out of what I was really feeling, which

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<v Speaker 1>is this is still too much. And that's where the

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<v Speaker 1>therapist came in. She had me kind of take a

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<v Speaker 1>look at the life that I was living versus the

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<v Speaker 1>life that I wanted to live and learning to have

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<v Speaker 1>the courage to ask myself of that life. And it

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<v Speaker 1>was really hard because there would have to be a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of undoing, you know, and a lot of disappointing

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<v Speaker 1>of people, a lot of pulling back. Everyone had expectations

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<v Speaker 1>of me, and I had expectations of myself that I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't want to meet anymore. But I was too scared

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<v Speaker 1>to say. And it took really to really shake me

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<v Speaker 1>up because I was tiptoeing towards shifting. But what really

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<v Speaker 1>shook me up was when my husband passed away, to

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<v Speaker 1>suddenly everything that I was slowly tiptoeing and working toward

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<v Speaker 1>I did overnight because all the excuses I made before

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<v Speaker 1>about why I couldn't do a thing were gone, because

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<v Speaker 1>nothing brings more clarity like death and loss. Because I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, wait, why am I doing this again? Like

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<v Speaker 1>little honestly, I was anesome. I don't give a book

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<v Speaker 1>like that's what it was. I was really on some

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<v Speaker 1>out there's nothing I care about right now, I lost

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<v Speaker 1>my person. Whatever y'all talking about Kick Rocks. That's how

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<v Speaker 1>I felt everyone kick Cook Rocks, all this old timma expectation,

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<v Speaker 1>Kick Rocks on expectation, Kick Rocks, and I gotta do.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't owe you anything like my person is gone.

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<v Speaker 1>And so it brought so much clarity. In that year

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<v Speaker 1>I cleaned house. I let go of more than half

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<v Speaker 1>my team. Some people, just a handful of them I

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<v Speaker 1>felt bad about because they were delivering. But it's just

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<v Speaker 1>that we didn't have the capacity. So there is a

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<v Speaker 1>handful of people I felt bad about, but the vast

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<v Speaker 1>majority needed to go. They been needed to go. So

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<v Speaker 1>it was like Kick Rocks his ride. Y'all stay mad

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<v Speaker 1>at me. Keep my name out of your mouth, thoup, because

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<v Speaker 1>let me tell you something about my name in this industry.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not somebody who you want to drag. You don't

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<v Speaker 1>know who I know and who I've held. So everybody

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<v Speaker 1>keep it cute, and I'll keep it cute too, And

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<v Speaker 1>be mindful of who you tell that you work for me,

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm gonna be honest. Like I had to tell

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<v Speaker 1>a couple people, I see you got my name on

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<v Speaker 1>your site, which is cool, But if someone reaches out

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<v Speaker 1>to me, just know I'm gonna be honest about your

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<v Speaker 1>time here. As long as you okay with me being

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<v Speaker 1>honest about your time here, continue to keep my name

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<v Speaker 1>on your site. I can't toward tell you how many

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<v Speaker 1>people took my name off their site because they know

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<v Speaker 1>the work that they didn't do while they were here. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>so a different Tiffany came out. I didn't know how

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<v Speaker 1>to set boundaries before I let people walk all over me.

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<v Speaker 1>She's gone, you know. And I was slowly tiptoeing toward that,

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<v Speaker 1>and I wish I would have got to that per

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<v Speaker 1>place sooner. The space that I am in now. Book

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<v Speaker 1>launch had me a little bit stressed, as y'all know,

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<v Speaker 1>Like my book Made Home, the workbook version of Get

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<v Speaker 1>You with Money came out in November, so there was

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<v Speaker 1>about a month to two months of like, it was

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<v Speaker 1>a pretty hectic time. But besides that, your girl's not

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<v Speaker 1>doing all that I'm not. I mean, there are pulls

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<v Speaker 1>on me and I'm like, then you do it. You

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<v Speaker 1>want to done, so you do it. Like I said,

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<v Speaker 1>clear boundaries from family to business to I just have

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<v Speaker 1>to get rid of a potential partnership. The other day,

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<v Speaker 1>I said, yeah, this doesn't seem fair and it's not aligned. Sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh no, no, I said, no, sorry, But you will though,

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<v Speaker 1>because people will pull you to the depths of the

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<v Speaker 1>dirt and then when your body is broken, they will

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<v Speaker 1>step over it to then suck somebody else dry. It's

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<v Speaker 1>not happening anymore, I said, clear boundaries. I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to do it. Pick somebody else. You know, I'm nicer

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<v Speaker 1>about it if you allow me to. But if you

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<v Speaker 1>can't hear that you will, you're gonna feel I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to do it. Sorry, my mind's been made up.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the language I use now when like someone's

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<v Speaker 1>not listening, So I start off with thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not really a lot. Oh you don't listening. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm okay with people being okay. Drell my late husband

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<v Speaker 1>used to always say, and I didn't get it. He

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<v Speaker 1>would always say, I'd rather you be mad at me

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<v Speaker 1>than me be mad at you, meaning like, if one

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<v Speaker 1>of us got to be this point, it let it

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<v Speaker 1>be you. Let it be you. Why should I break

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<v Speaker 1>my back so you could be okay? Okay? You know,

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<v Speaker 1>like I am. I am all for equity. I believe

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<v Speaker 1>in fairness, but what I realize is oftentimes I'm the

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<v Speaker 1>only one at the table navigating from that place, and

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<v Speaker 1>so once I peak game that you would let me

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<v Speaker 1>drown just so you can have your space in the sun.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh it's on by, you know. And so as a

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<v Speaker 1>result of that, I have way more peace. I just

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<v Speaker 1>did an interview with The New Yorker the other day,

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<v Speaker 1>and like she was asking me about, like what my

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<v Speaker 1>day is a successful entrepreneur looks like my day starts

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<v Speaker 1>at ten and ends at three. I starts at ten am.

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<v Speaker 1>That's when my first quote unquote meeting or whatever starts,

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<v Speaker 1>because it takes typically like a two hour walk in

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<v Speaker 1>the morning. I like to have a slow morning, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>everybody can wait. And then at three, this is the

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<v Speaker 1>average day, you know, not during book launch or whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>but during the average day. At three, I'm done. No meetings, no,

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<v Speaker 1>no podcasts, no this, no that. No fit within the

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<v Speaker 1>confines of the boundaries that I've set. I don't take

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<v Speaker 1>meetings on Wednesdays, and I don't work on Fridays, and

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<v Speaker 1>I typically and I don't work weekends. Fit within the

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<v Speaker 1>confounds of the boundaries that I've set. Depending on where

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<v Speaker 1>you are in life, in business, or whatever, you might

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<v Speaker 1>not be able to have these boundaries, but you can

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<v Speaker 1>set some boundaries. It takes practice, it might take some

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<v Speaker 1>therapy to figure out why you're not setting it. But

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<v Speaker 1>you are deserving of setting healthy boundaries for yourself because

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<v Speaker 1>if you don't, you will be filled beyond capacity until

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<v Speaker 1>you pop to what end? To what end? You know?

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<v Speaker 1>And I am always viciously vetting, like I'm looking at

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<v Speaker 1>my life now and I'm like, what other things don't

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<v Speaker 1>suit me? And I'm making some tremendous changes as a result.

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<v Speaker 1>You're gonna see some major changes in the next year.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I don't want to do that anymore. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>you should. I don't want to do it anymore. And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm making changes not to have to. You know, like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm forty four now. I still got my knees, my bag,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I can still run. You know, I still

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<v Speaker 1>got my hairline, you know, good skin, child? What I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if I wasting these cute years? You know?

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<v Speaker 1>Now I want to travel more. I want to do

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<v Speaker 1>my work, my book again, my children's book. I want

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<v Speaker 1>to do a series. You know, there are things that

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<v Speaker 1>I want to do that. In order to have to

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<v Speaker 1>do them, I have to clear space, and so I'm

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<v Speaker 1>intentionally clearing space. And step one in recreating and unlifting

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<v Speaker 1>this burden of overwork and overwhelmed is to one acknowledge

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<v Speaker 1>this is not how I want it to go. Say

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<v Speaker 1>it out loud to yourself, tell your best, to tell someone.

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<v Speaker 1>That is step one. This is not how I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to go, this is not what I I don't like

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<v Speaker 1>it here, that's okay, say it, cry about it, or

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<v Speaker 1>whatever you gotta do. That's step one. Step two is

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<v Speaker 1>to admit I need help. I'm not sure actually how

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<v Speaker 1>to get out from this? I need help. Step two

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<v Speaker 1>is to say need help, and then step three is

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<v Speaker 1>to go find it. Is it a business coach, is

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<v Speaker 1>it a therapist? Is it my bestie? Is it my mama?

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<v Speaker 1>Is it my whatever that looks like? Ask for it.

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<v Speaker 1>Seek out the guides that you're going to need to

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<v Speaker 1>help navigate the process. I am the queen of asking

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<v Speaker 1>for help. Now, why should I figure it out my

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<v Speaker 1>own That might take me ten years, when with doctor

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<v Speaker 1>Green it takes me ten months. Ask for help. You

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<v Speaker 1>are deserving. Ask for help. That's step three. Ask for help,

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<v Speaker 1>ask for help, ask for help. Then step four to

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<v Speaker 1>start to put the help into practice. Doctor Green gives

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<v Speaker 1>me homework to do. I do it because what are

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<v Speaker 1>we doing? Like literally, there are things with doctor Green

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<v Speaker 1>that I was able to break the habits in ten

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<v Speaker 1>months that I have been navigating since I was ten

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<v Speaker 1>years old. Thirty years work it and through a thing,

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<v Speaker 1>and in ten months me and doctor Green broke it,

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<v Speaker 1>broke the habit. I'm like, damn, I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>spend thirty years working on a thing when I could

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<v Speaker 1>spend three months navigating and breaking it. So I put

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<v Speaker 1>I do the work. She gives me homework. I do

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<v Speaker 1>the work right, and then five like celebrate your wins

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<v Speaker 1>and acknowledge like the like give awareness to the thing,

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<v Speaker 1>like wow, I'm now training for a five K even

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<v Speaker 1>though I probably could do one now if I will't

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<v Speaker 1>because I walk like five miles a day. But I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to take my health to the next level. And

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<v Speaker 1>I said to myself, like I need something to reach toward.

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<v Speaker 1>So y'all gave me this really great app called couch

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<v Speaker 1>to five K. Thank you so much for the woman

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<v Speaker 1>who did that. And so I as I am training.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I'm reminding myself to celebrate the awareness, to

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<v Speaker 1>celebrate how far I've come. Today was like really day

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<v Speaker 1>one hour, although I've been I was playing with a

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<v Speaker 1>few apps, but today's my official day one. And as

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<v Speaker 1>I was like running in the middle of running, because

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<v Speaker 1>why should I wait until I won the five k?

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<v Speaker 1>In the middle, I said, look at you. I'm really

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<v Speaker 1>proud of you, Tiffany. You said you were going to

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<v Speaker 1>do a thing. You did a thing. You acknowledge that

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<v Speaker 1>you didn't like where you were physically. You said I

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<v Speaker 1>need help. That's number two. Three. You ask for help

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<v Speaker 1>right here on this podcast for a guide for help.

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<v Speaker 1>Y'all gave me apps. I'm now using it right then,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm doing what the help told me to do. That's four.

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<v Speaker 1>And then five, I am celebrating the awareness and the progress,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and then you repeat, that's it. If you

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<v Speaker 1>want to see yourself move forward, if you want to

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<v Speaker 1>break past this burnout, if you want to keep beyond

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<v Speaker 1>where you are now, those are the steps. We are

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<v Speaker 1>not meant to go this alone. You're not. One of

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<v Speaker 1>my friends has this quote that he always says that

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<v Speaker 1>the lone wolf perish in the winter but the pack survives.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you hear what I said? I said, the lone

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<v Speaker 1>wolf perishes in the winter, but the pack survives. What

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<v Speaker 1>does that mean? It means that you might survive on

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<v Speaker 1>your own in spring and fall, right even in summer. Okay, cute,

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<v Speaker 1>But eventually winter comes a time that's too hard to

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<v Speaker 1>navigate by yourself. You will not survive it, not successfully.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I don't care how much money you have,

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<v Speaker 1>how much influence, how much beauty, how much talent. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't care. At some point you need people. The sooner

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<v Speaker 1>you get good at asking for help, the faster you

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<v Speaker 1>get to where you're going. There's an African proverb. If

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<v Speaker 1>you want to go fast, go alone. If you want

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<v Speaker 1>to go far, go with others, ask for help. Okay, So,

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<v Speaker 1>like when you see your girl out here like this

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<v Speaker 1>year alone, I have lived it up. I went to

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<v Speaker 1>Kenya in January, Egypt in March, Paris, London, the Amafi

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<v Speaker 1>Coast in was that August, No, that was October, and

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<v Speaker 1>a bunch of other places in between, none of which

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<v Speaker 1>I shared on social media, because girl, I don't care.

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<v Speaker 1>But I share that I have been living in the

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<v Speaker 1>fullness that life has to offer me because life taught

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<v Speaker 1>me a valuable lesson that at some point you will

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<v Speaker 1>lose the things that you love, whether it's your favorite

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<v Speaker 1>pair of shoes or your favorite person, at some point,

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<v Speaker 1>you will lose the things that you love. Are you

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<v Speaker 1>maximizing your time with those things? I love to travel,

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<v Speaker 1>I love my friends, I love my family. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I love doing this podcast. I love Mandy Am. I

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<v Speaker 1>maximizing the time, the blessed treasure time that I have.

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<v Speaker 1>And you can't do that if you are wasting it

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<v Speaker 1>away on things don't bring you joy and peace and happiness.

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<v Speaker 1>Certainly as adults, there are things that we must do,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, as adults. But beyond that, so many of

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<v Speaker 1>us are spending time on things that not only don't

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<v Speaker 1>we have to do them, it doesn't even enjoy alignment

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<v Speaker 1>or happiness. You know, I'm off that, and I hope

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<v Speaker 1>that you're off that too. Okay, Well, before we take

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<v Speaker 1>a quick break, just remind remember if you are a businesswoman,

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<v Speaker 1>especially if you're a black woman in business, and you

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<v Speaker 1>would like some guidance, you know, I mentor via the

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<v Speaker 1>Patreon platform. I'm under my mentor Tiffany dot com, so

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<v Speaker 1>you can join us there's twenty bucks a month depending

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<v Speaker 1>when you listen to this, but it'll probably be there

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<v Speaker 1>for a while. Twenty bucks a month, and I do

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<v Speaker 1>a class once a month, I give resources every week,

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<v Speaker 1>I bring in guest speakers. I keep it at that

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<v Speaker 1>price point because so many people are wanting mentors and

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want stress, because I enjoy doing that. And

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<v Speaker 1>I will continue to mentor there until I don't feel

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<v Speaker 1>like it anymore and it doesn't bring me joy. I'll

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<v Speaker 1>get this good. Go ahead on over to mymenttor tippany

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<v Speaker 1>dot com if you're looking for mentorships specifically for business owners,

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<v Speaker 1>especially women, especially black women. But I don't turn anyone away.

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<v Speaker 1>That's just like I center black women over there. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>although the advice is good no matter who you are. Bye,