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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, it wasn't man right now, I'm just pushing

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Speaker 3: That's how we figure it out, though.

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Speaker 1: No, I mean, and I'm doing a power cycle on

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Speaker 2: A bunch of texts this morning eight five, five, five, nine,

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Speaker 2: Jake chill at home. I think his voice is kind

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he's a good actor.

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Speaker 2: Though agreed about Jake g I was listening all morning.

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Speaker 2: Did Shelley win the show down yesterday?

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Speaker 4: Oh?

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Speaker 2: You didn't hear that part? That's the part that gets

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Speaker 2: us all the ratings. No, wonder. Maybe I also want

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Speaker 2: to say that the malfunction was strategically timed. They wait

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Speaker 2: screwing around with stuff. But that's nothing, that's nothing, rare

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Speaker 2: yea these guys love to do like software updates, Like

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Speaker 2: let's do a software It's seven thirty in the morning.

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Speaker 2: What's happening and there's nothing happening at the radio station

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Speaker 2: the middle of the Fred Show.

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Speaker 1: Let's do it.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna need to just take everything down and put

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Speaker 5: Happening on one side too, Like.

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Speaker 5: I'm just say like our listeners in Raleigh, they heard

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Speaker 2: I mean, it's a miracle that place is put together

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Speaker 1: That's the truth. The radio station in Raleigh.

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Speaker 2: I'm God, bless them, God bless Trevor and Berger and

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Speaker 2: The radio was invented at that place. It's it's God

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Speaker 2: What are some other texts? Oh, all the teachers going

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Speaker 5: Here and was waiting for the second part where he's

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Speaker 1: Sorry about that, good luck getting it back right. Got'd

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Speaker 2: Aaron Rodgers is trending today. He apparently regrets telling reporters

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Speaker 2: When I'm unemployed. I'll make sure her coffee is super

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Speaker 2: National Prosecco Day and National Fila Mignon Day. P secos

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Speaker 2: It's stay or go, It's uh zandras here. Hi Xander,

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Speaker 2: good morning, Hi, Good morning, Xandra. Tell us what's going on?

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Speaker 2: Because obviously you would call us to get our opinion

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Speaker 8: Yeah, No, I am calling for advice. I just kind

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Speaker 8: Sure, So, so recently, me and my boyfriend, we've just

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Speaker 8: This was recently, I went through his phone, which, I,

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Speaker 8: I ended up finding a conversation with him and his friends,

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Speaker 6: He was calling me names like like the B word.

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Speaker 6: You know, I can't I don't think I can say

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Speaker 2: Let's just not say so he was having a private

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I was a group chat with him and his bros.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so he's venting and he's calling you names, and

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Speaker 8: Yeah, and he was saying really nasty things, like he

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Speaker 1: Well, I'd love to know what people have to think.

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Speaker 2: So this guy's known to be a decent human being.

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Speaker 2: Like he's not mistreating you. He's not. He's kind to

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Speaker 2: Do you now one more question? Do you do you

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Speaker 6: I wouldn't have known.

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Speaker 8: But I mean, I want to know the truth about

441
00:20:22,880 --> 00:20:24,520
Speaker 8: what my boyfriend thinks about me.

442
00:20:24,880 --> 00:20:29,080
Speaker 2: But you've never said anything in a heated argument. I'm

443
00:20:29,080 --> 00:20:32,040
Speaker 2: not defending him saying derogatory things about you.

444
00:20:32,080 --> 00:20:32,480
Speaker 1: I'm not.

445
00:20:33,160 --> 00:20:35,560
Speaker 2: But what I am defending is people's right to get

446
00:20:35,600 --> 00:20:38,880
Speaker 2: angry and react, and it doesn't make their reaction right,

447
00:20:38,960 --> 00:20:40,280
Speaker 2: it doesn't make the words right.

448
00:20:41,000 --> 00:20:44,040
Speaker 1: But he should have apologized.

449
00:20:44,200 --> 00:20:46,399
Speaker 2: Again though the only reason you know is because you

450
00:20:46,840 --> 00:20:49,480
Speaker 2: kind of betrayed him. And again, not gaslighting you, but

451
00:20:49,640 --> 00:20:53,720
Speaker 2: like that shouldn't have happened either. That's an invasion of privacy.

452
00:20:53,760 --> 00:20:55,439
Speaker 2: I should have a right to event to my friends

453
00:20:55,440 --> 00:20:58,639
Speaker 2: and work through an issue, because in some ways that's healthy,

454
00:20:58,760 --> 00:21:01,520
Speaker 2: right because then you're getting that stuff off your chest,

455
00:21:01,720 --> 00:21:03,720
Speaker 2: you're not directing it at the person you're angry with,

456
00:21:03,920 --> 00:21:05,760
Speaker 2: and then you go solve the problem, which it sounds

457
00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:07,840
Speaker 2: like they were able to do and communicate and move

458
00:21:07,840 --> 00:21:11,760
Speaker 2: forward in a healthy way. You cannot tell me people

459
00:21:11,760 --> 00:21:13,679
Speaker 2: in this room. People call and you cannot tell me

460
00:21:13,720 --> 00:21:15,760
Speaker 2: that you have not said something about someone else to

461
00:21:15,880 --> 00:21:18,879
Speaker 2: someone else and then realize after the fact that I

462
00:21:18,880 --> 00:21:21,000
Speaker 2: should I never would have said that to that person.

463
00:21:21,000 --> 00:21:22,639
Speaker 11: I shouldn't have said it at all. Yeah, I'm the

464
00:21:22,720 --> 00:21:25,040
Speaker 11: queen of low blows. You guys know that, so I

465
00:21:25,320 --> 00:21:27,240
Speaker 11: might have to say this one out. But I feel

466
00:21:27,280 --> 00:21:30,040
Speaker 11: like as long as he apologizes and owns it and says, like, listen,

467
00:21:30,080 --> 00:21:32,040
Speaker 11: I'm sorry that I said that, and he doesn't do

468
00:21:32,119 --> 00:21:34,960
Speaker 11: it again, I think that's where I'm at because I

469
00:21:34,960 --> 00:21:36,800
Speaker 11: think if you're really sorry, then you're going to change

470
00:21:36,800 --> 00:21:37,320
Speaker 11: your behavior.

471
00:21:37,840 --> 00:21:39,840
Speaker 12: I'm going through the phone. I'm not mad at that.

472
00:21:39,880 --> 00:21:42,000
Speaker 12: I know that's really unpopular. I'm not mad at that idea.

473
00:21:42,440 --> 00:21:44,680
Speaker 12: I know, I know you hate it. I don't hate it,

474
00:21:44,720 --> 00:21:46,480
Speaker 12: And don't people have a right to be angry and

475
00:21:46,480 --> 00:21:48,480
Speaker 12: say things they don't mean? And again, yeah, I don't

476
00:21:48,520 --> 00:21:50,080
Speaker 12: know this guy, and I wasn't there for that. I

477
00:21:50,119 --> 00:21:52,520
Speaker 12: wasn't there for the confrontation, Sandra. But do you think

478
00:21:52,560 --> 00:21:55,560
Speaker 12: maybe he was just more stunned that he was caught

479
00:21:55,640 --> 00:21:57,800
Speaker 12: because you went through his stuff without him knowing.

480
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Speaker 1: Do you think maybe he.

481
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Speaker 2: Would have apologized if if you had found out a

482
00:22:00,960 --> 00:22:01,520
Speaker 2: different way.

483
00:22:03,600 --> 00:22:05,800
Speaker 6: I mean, how else would I have found out?

484
00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:06,560
Speaker 7: Well?

485
00:22:06,560 --> 00:22:08,919
Speaker 2: Okay, And do you think the relationship would have suffered

486
00:22:09,119 --> 00:22:11,040
Speaker 2: or would you have thought anything differently of him if

487
00:22:11,080 --> 00:22:12,680
Speaker 2: you didn't know that he said those things?

488
00:22:13,480 --> 00:22:14,720
Speaker 1: Probably not, Yeah, I.

489
00:22:14,640 --> 00:22:17,919
Speaker 8: Mean I would have been living in blissful ignorance, like

490
00:22:18,000 --> 00:22:20,000
Speaker 8: if I didn't know this. But the fact of the

491
00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:22,919
Speaker 8: matter is, like we could say all day long, oh what.

492
00:22:22,800 --> 00:22:24,919
Speaker 6: If this with this? But this is a situation.

493
00:22:25,359 --> 00:22:28,440
Speaker 1: But people have a right to scrrupt, don't they. Yes,

494
00:22:28,720 --> 00:22:30,680
Speaker 1: But I think and self correct.

495
00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:34,399
Speaker 10: I think the issue is more so like you're disrespecting

496
00:22:34,440 --> 00:22:37,320
Speaker 10: me to another group of people, Like I would almost

497
00:22:37,400 --> 00:22:39,600
Speaker 10: prefer that he had said this in the argument to

498
00:22:39,680 --> 00:22:41,640
Speaker 10: her and they could have worked out their issues there.

499
00:22:41,680 --> 00:22:44,320
Speaker 10: But you're literally disrespecting me to a whole other group

500
00:22:44,359 --> 00:22:46,680
Speaker 10: of people, taking our fight to a whole other level,

501
00:22:46,800 --> 00:22:50,040
Speaker 10: involving other people. And you're feeling this way about me.

502
00:22:50,240 --> 00:22:52,280
Speaker 10: I'm your partner, I'm your spouse. You should be able

503
00:22:52,359 --> 00:22:53,520
Speaker 10: to get that off your chest to me.

504
00:22:53,960 --> 00:22:56,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, But there's in any relationship, there's a certain group

505
00:22:56,840 --> 00:22:59,240
Speaker 2: of people on my side and her side that I

506
00:22:59,359 --> 00:23:01,879
Speaker 2: just assume when things aren't going well that there's communication

507
00:23:02,000 --> 00:23:03,840
Speaker 2: going on there, and in fact, in some ways I

508
00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:07,360
Speaker 2: might argue beyond even what he said and the fact

509
00:23:07,359 --> 00:23:09,439
Speaker 2: that you found it, I would I might argue that

510
00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:12,000
Speaker 2: it's it might be unfair for him to say a

511
00:23:12,040 --> 00:23:14,480
Speaker 2: lot of these things if he expects the relationship to

512
00:23:14,520 --> 00:23:17,439
Speaker 2: be resolved because depending on the you know, depth of

513
00:23:17,480 --> 00:23:20,280
Speaker 2: what he said. Now these people, you know, now that

514
00:23:20,280 --> 00:23:22,520
Speaker 2: they've gotten back together, things are working out, and now

515
00:23:22,520 --> 00:23:24,640
Speaker 2: everyone's going to get together again, and like people are,

516
00:23:24,720 --> 00:23:27,280
Speaker 2: you know, their thoughts are clouded, right, which is why

517
00:23:27,320 --> 00:23:30,760
Speaker 2: it can be tough to to really go in on

518
00:23:30,800 --> 00:23:34,600
Speaker 2: the person you're dating with friends because like maybe your version,

519
00:23:34,840 --> 00:23:37,640
Speaker 2: your your heated version, your emotional version, is not exactly

520
00:23:37,680 --> 00:23:39,960
Speaker 2: how it happened, and you're getting it off your chest

521
00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:42,320
Speaker 2: and you're feeling better and you're venting. But then whatever

522
00:23:42,359 --> 00:23:44,720
Speaker 2: you said is now something that weighs on people's minds.

523
00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:45,920
Speaker 2: And then when you call him and go, I got

524
00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:48,399
Speaker 2: back together with him, now they're thinking only of the

525
00:23:48,760 --> 00:23:50,600
Speaker 2: I don't know. It can be, it can be convoluted.

526
00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:52,520
Speaker 2: But at the same time, who else do you go to?

527
00:23:52,880 --> 00:23:55,240
Speaker 10: Who else do you go to?

528
00:23:55,480 --> 00:23:57,919
Speaker 2: You have a right to communicate to other people in

529
00:23:57,960 --> 00:23:59,040
Speaker 2: a way that can be forgiven.

530
00:23:59,160 --> 00:23:59,720
Speaker 1: You have a right.

531
00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:03,240
Speaker 10: Now you've tainted our relationship to everybody else, and the

532
00:24:03,320 --> 00:24:06,000
Speaker 10: same way you just explained, Like with my brothers, I

533
00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:08,719
Speaker 10: don't go to them about every time Big Tim pisses

534
00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:11,480
Speaker 10: me off, because they're not going to forget that me

535
00:24:11,520 --> 00:24:13,040
Speaker 10: and him to be fine in five minutes.

536
00:24:13,280 --> 00:24:14,119
Speaker 1: They're not going to forget.

537
00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:16,000
Speaker 2: I don't go to my sister either, But I do

538
00:24:16,040 --> 00:24:19,480
Speaker 2: have friends that have heard everything, and I know those people.

539
00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:21,480
Speaker 2: I know who to go to, and they're able to moderate.

540
00:24:21,640 --> 00:24:23,760
Speaker 2: Those people are able to go okay, because look, I've

541
00:24:23,760 --> 00:24:26,480
Speaker 2: got buddies who invented about their wives to me, and

542
00:24:26,520 --> 00:24:28,720
Speaker 2: I'm friends with their wives. But I'm able to stay

543
00:24:28,720 --> 00:24:30,879
Speaker 2: in my mind, Okay, Well you were my friend first,

544
00:24:30,920 --> 00:24:34,439
Speaker 2: and you're upset, and so I'm just gonna hear you

545
00:24:34,520 --> 00:24:36,359
Speaker 2: because you want to be heard right now. I'm not

546
00:24:36,400 --> 00:24:39,440
Speaker 2: internalizing that. And I think you know they the next

547
00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:41,080
Speaker 2: day they wake up or two days later, a week

548
00:24:41,119 --> 00:24:43,120
Speaker 2: or a month, they go, I don't feel that way anymore,

549
00:24:43,160 --> 00:24:45,320
Speaker 2: and then they're able to communicate in a helpful way

550
00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:46,480
Speaker 2: because they got it off their chest.

551
00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:49,200
Speaker 10: Yeah, but as your partner, if I see this communication,

552
00:24:49,760 --> 00:24:53,120
Speaker 10: then now my feelings have changed towards you, because now

553
00:24:53,160 --> 00:24:56,080
Speaker 10: I feel betrayed. You're having this discussion with somebody else

554
00:24:56,119 --> 00:24:58,600
Speaker 10: about our relationship when you haven't even approached me that way.

555
00:24:58,640 --> 00:25:00,960
Speaker 2: Fair enough, fair enough, Exandra. Right now, I'm going to

556
00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:02,480
Speaker 2: let you go have a great morning, and thank you

557
00:25:02,560 --> 00:25:03,200
Speaker 2: so much for calling.

558
00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:03,680
Speaker 1: Good luck.

559
00:25:04,800 --> 00:25:05,920
Speaker 6: Thank you. I appreciate it.

560
00:25:06,000 --> 00:25:07,200
Speaker 1: I don't know, Jay, what do you think.

561
00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:10,840
Speaker 3: I don't like going through the phone, that is not

562
00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:12,240
Speaker 3: unless I need to do unblock myself.

563
00:25:12,280 --> 00:25:15,960
Speaker 2: But she wouldn't have known about this, and she admitted

564
00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:18,800
Speaker 2: that this sort of stuff does not permeate into their relationship.

565
00:25:18,800 --> 00:25:21,040
Speaker 2: It's not like he's calling her names and abusing her

566
00:25:21,040 --> 00:25:23,320
Speaker 2: and being admits that that's not how he operates.

567
00:25:23,520 --> 00:25:25,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. I'm very big on like, I'm

568
00:25:25,760 --> 00:25:26,160
Speaker 1: very open.

569
00:25:26,200 --> 00:25:28,359
Speaker 3: I have to talk things out, so like everyone around me,

570
00:25:28,440 --> 00:25:31,080
Speaker 3: Like I'm sure you've heard me say things about Mike

571
00:25:31,119 --> 00:25:33,919
Speaker 3: and I get into an argument or whatever, it's not

572
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:37,680
Speaker 3: really fair because I think it does.

573
00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:39,720
Speaker 1: Change your view of him.

574
00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:42,520
Speaker 3: But I also think like people that really know me know,

575
00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:45,479
Speaker 3: like like you said, Fred, like I'm angry. I'm just

576
00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:47,800
Speaker 3: like you know, I wouldn't stay with someone if he

577
00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:51,080
Speaker 3: was like fundamentally a bad person, right, So like, I

578
00:25:51,119 --> 00:25:53,040
Speaker 3: don't know, but it is unfair to the other person.

579
00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:55,639
Speaker 3: So I see your point, Kiki, where it's like, you know,

580
00:25:55,800 --> 00:25:57,800
Speaker 3: it's not fair to bring other people in and they're

581
00:25:57,840 --> 00:26:00,440
Speaker 3: looking at you all crazy, because like Mike and I

582
00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:02,080
Speaker 3: went through a very hard time and I never thought

583
00:26:02,119 --> 00:26:06,119
Speaker 3: my parents were ever going to like forgive, Like I

584
00:26:06,160 --> 00:26:08,640
Speaker 3: thought it was like a done relationship with them, and

585
00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:10,960
Speaker 3: and you know, we worked through it, talked through it.

586
00:26:11,160 --> 00:26:11,760
Speaker 1: They're good.

587
00:26:11,920 --> 00:26:14,120
Speaker 3: But like you know, it's times like that where it's

588
00:26:14,119 --> 00:26:15,680
Speaker 3: like it could have went the other way and now

589
00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:19,359
Speaker 3: you're tarnishing how your significant other looks to people that

590
00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:20,159
Speaker 3: are important to you.

591
00:26:20,320 --> 00:26:21,320
Speaker 1: So that's a very slip.

592
00:26:21,359 --> 00:26:23,120
Speaker 2: There are a ton of variables here, but I will

593
00:26:23,400 --> 00:26:25,760
Speaker 2: I think I've pointed most of them out. But I

594
00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:29,119
Speaker 2: also think you're right about the parents, Like, once my

595
00:26:29,280 --> 00:26:32,199
Speaker 2: mom has made a decision, once I've involved her in

596
00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:35,840
Speaker 2: something bad and she's made a decision, it is admittedly

597
00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:39,119
Speaker 2: going to be very difficult, which is why I don't

598
00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:42,200
Speaker 2: involve certain people in my life unless I'm very positive

599
00:26:42,200 --> 00:26:45,000
Speaker 2: about the way that I feel. Because you know, my

600
00:26:45,080 --> 00:26:47,680
Speaker 2: mom and my sister are not people to flippantly vent

601
00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:51,280
Speaker 2: to because they're just not because they're not going to forget.

602
00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:53,520
Speaker 2: But some of my friends are. They can hear it

603
00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:57,160
Speaker 2: and go okay, all right, And then if I make

604
00:26:57,200 --> 00:26:59,200
Speaker 2: the judgment call to then go back to that person

605
00:26:59,240 --> 00:27:01,040
Speaker 2: or forgive them or word it out, well, then they

606
00:27:01,040 --> 00:27:03,600
Speaker 2: do too, because I did. Right now, There's only so

607
00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:05,240
Speaker 2: many times you can do that, and when it starts

608
00:27:05,280 --> 00:27:07,760
Speaker 2: to get into really abusive stuff or really really bad stuff,

609
00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:10,560
Speaker 2: I think there is an expiration day on people's patients. Oh,

610
00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:14,119
Speaker 2: but like you have a right to vent, you have

611
00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:16,480
Speaker 2: a right to say things you don't mean and say

612
00:27:16,480 --> 00:27:17,199
Speaker 2: that you're sorry.

613
00:27:17,760 --> 00:27:19,480
Speaker 1: Hey, Veronica, good morning. What do you think?

614
00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:21,520
Speaker 6: Good morning?

615
00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:24,040
Speaker 13: I am coming from a sentiment of place now. I

616
00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:27,560
Speaker 13: was married for twenty years to my late husband. We

617
00:27:27,680 --> 00:27:28,960
Speaker 13: lost him in twenty nineteen.

618
00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:30,000
Speaker 1: I'm sorry for your lost sir.

619
00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:33,320
Speaker 13: Yeah, he's battling cancer.

620
00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:35,760
Speaker 6: But we were together through our high school years.

621
00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:38,920
Speaker 13: We got married I was twenty three, and so I'm

622
00:27:39,040 --> 00:27:42,440
Speaker 13: very well versed in this type of situation. There were

623
00:27:42,520 --> 00:27:45,000
Speaker 13: a lot of things that I would vent to my sister,

624
00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:48,320
Speaker 13: to my friends about during an argument that I would.

625
00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:50,680
Speaker 6: Never say or disrespect him to his face.

626
00:27:50,960 --> 00:27:53,919
Speaker 13: Did I really mean them at the time, Maybe, but

627
00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:57,120
Speaker 13: I wouldn't. I didn't really mean them, Like I didn't

628
00:27:57,160 --> 00:27:57,880
Speaker 13: really hate him.

629
00:27:57,880 --> 00:27:59,040
Speaker 1: I didn't really you know.

630
00:27:59,160 --> 00:28:01,000
Speaker 13: The things that I would say to my sister or

631
00:28:01,040 --> 00:28:03,680
Speaker 13: my friends are not things that I would typically say

632
00:28:03,680 --> 00:28:06,480
Speaker 13: to his face. And then like we always had healthy arguments,

633
00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:09,360
Speaker 13: we never you know, he was never abusive. He never

634
00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:11,479
Speaker 13: called me out of my name to my face, at

635
00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:14,160
Speaker 13: least that I know of. But I mean, I did

636
00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:16,639
Speaker 13: that and I didn't really mean that. And it's like

637
00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:19,199
Speaker 13: I would never tell this girl. I would tell this

638
00:28:19,240 --> 00:28:22,040
Speaker 13: girl that it's you know, you said, Fred, you have

639
00:28:22,160 --> 00:28:24,199
Speaker 13: a right to vent? And did she have a right

640
00:28:24,240 --> 00:28:25,080
Speaker 13: to go through his phone?

641
00:28:25,119 --> 00:28:25,159
Speaker 14: No?

642
00:28:25,320 --> 00:28:27,480
Speaker 13: I never, Ever, in the twenty years that my husband

643
00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 13: and I were married, I never he never gave me

644
00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:32,119
Speaker 13: the reason to have to go through his phone, because,

645
00:28:32,160 --> 00:28:35,080
Speaker 13: like she said, he doesn't disrespect her to her face.

646
00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:37,480
Speaker 13: He doesn't like abuse her and do stuff like that.

647
00:28:37,560 --> 00:28:40,400
Speaker 13: But maybe quietly he did to his friends, but I

648
00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:42,840
Speaker 13: never knew about it, and it was okay because I

649
00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:45,320
Speaker 13: did it too. So I think, like you said, Fred,

650
00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:46,800
Speaker 13: I think a lot of people they have the right

651
00:28:46,800 --> 00:28:49,520
Speaker 13: to vent. And do you really mean those things. Maybe

652
00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:51,520
Speaker 13: in the moment and the heat of the moment, yeah,

653
00:28:51,720 --> 00:28:54,240
Speaker 13: but I would never ever do that to his face.

654
00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:56,080
Speaker 7: And I think she's she's.

655
00:28:56,240 --> 00:28:58,720
Speaker 13: Not overreacting, but she had a right to feel the

656
00:28:58,720 --> 00:29:01,840
Speaker 13: way she does. But I'm telling you, coming from the

657
00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:04,480
Speaker 13: place that I've been and losing my husband, I would

658
00:29:05,040 --> 00:29:08,360
Speaker 13: I just wish couples would be more forgiving and not

659
00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:10,920
Speaker 13: so quick to just call it quits all the time nowadays.

660
00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:13,880
Speaker 2: You know, Veronica Well said thank you have a great

661
00:29:13,960 --> 00:29:17,560
Speaker 2: day here too. There are just so few circumstances where

662
00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:19,600
Speaker 2: I think going through the phone is a good idea.

663
00:29:20,080 --> 00:29:22,480
Speaker 2: I mean, and yeah, you know, there's what do they

664
00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:27,080
Speaker 2: call that. I can't think of the term right now,

665
00:29:27,080 --> 00:29:30,040
Speaker 2: But it's like you were looking for something, you found it,

666
00:29:30,080 --> 00:29:33,719
Speaker 2: so you feel justified, and it's like, okay, was a

667
00:29:33,720 --> 00:29:35,240
Speaker 2: confirmation bias.

668
00:29:35,040 --> 00:29:35,959
Speaker 1: It's I don't know.

669
00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:39,960
Speaker 2: There's so few circumstances where I think you are justified

670
00:29:40,000 --> 00:29:42,880
Speaker 2: in going through people's stuff behind their back. And again,

671
00:29:43,120 --> 00:29:44,520
Speaker 2: I know people who are like, well, I did it

672
00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:45,960
Speaker 2: and I found out he was cheating or I found

673
00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:49,080
Speaker 2: out she was cheating, So I'm justified maybe, But how

674
00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:50,600
Speaker 2: about all the times that people do it they don't

675
00:29:50,600 --> 00:29:53,280
Speaker 2: find anything, or they find something benign, or they find

676
00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:55,160
Speaker 2: something that they didn't need to I mean, trust me,

677
00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:58,040
Speaker 2: I've had conversations about loved ones to people, and I've

678
00:29:58,080 --> 00:30:01,000
Speaker 2: said things that I regret saying and that I would

679
00:30:01,160 --> 00:30:03,800
Speaker 2: never say if I weren't angry. But I'd rather say

680
00:30:03,840 --> 00:30:05,800
Speaker 2: it to someone else and have them go all right, now,

681
00:30:05,880 --> 00:30:08,440
Speaker 2: let's like, Okay, you said it, now, let's talk about it.

682
00:30:08,560 --> 00:30:11,880
Speaker 2: Then say it to the person, because that could end everything.

683
00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:14,960
Speaker 2: That I might say something in the heat of the

684
00:30:15,000 --> 00:30:17,800
Speaker 2: moment that I'm never forgiven for. It's why I don't

685
00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:20,320
Speaker 2: get into big fights with people very often, because what

686
00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:24,520
Speaker 2: happens is the big fights they turn into you know,

687
00:30:24,680 --> 00:30:26,920
Speaker 2: do they turn into something about something else, and before

688
00:30:26,960 --> 00:30:28,880
Speaker 2: long you're not even fighting about the thing you were

689
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:32,000
Speaker 2: fighting about anymore. Now you're just hurting each other, and

690
00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:34,560
Speaker 2: you got to undo all that before you can solve

691
00:30:34,560 --> 00:30:36,920
Speaker 2: the actual problem. Anna, how you doing? Good morning?

692
00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:37,400
Speaker 6: All right?

693
00:30:38,000 --> 00:30:39,440
Speaker 7: Hi, good morning are you guys?

694
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:39,760
Speaker 2: Hey?

695
00:30:39,800 --> 00:30:41,200
Speaker 1: Thanks for carling, Thanks for listening. What do you want

696
00:30:41,240 --> 00:30:41,480
Speaker 1: to say?

697
00:30:43,200 --> 00:30:47,560
Speaker 7: So? I've been in a sixteen year plus relationship with

698
00:30:47,680 --> 00:30:54,400
Speaker 7: my current fyance and we have this agreement that you know,

699
00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:57,920
Speaker 7: when we have arguments between him and I only if

700
00:30:58,000 --> 00:31:01,959
Speaker 7: I need advice or anything like that. I don't really

701
00:31:02,000 --> 00:31:04,520
Speaker 7: go up to friends or family and about it because

702
00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 7: I think personally, when it comes to relationships, is between you,

703
00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:11,880
Speaker 7: you and the spouse or your partner. Yeah.

704
00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:13,600
Speaker 2: No, because that was the other point that we were making,

705
00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:14,920
Speaker 2: is we're kind of going back and forth here at

706
00:31:14,920 --> 00:31:17,560
Speaker 2: different scenarios. Is you know it is it can be

707
00:31:17,680 --> 00:31:21,480
Speaker 2: unfair to involve you know, your your inner circle because

708
00:31:21,600 --> 00:31:24,160
Speaker 2: you know, if you're just temporarily mad, or you have

709
00:31:24,240 --> 00:31:26,320
Speaker 2: some personal opinions, or you suspect some things and then

710
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:28,720
Speaker 2: maybe they're not true. Your friends don't forget that stuff.

711
00:31:28,800 --> 00:31:29,160
Speaker 4: Nope.

712
00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:31,360
Speaker 2: And there does come a time and maybe it's not

713
00:31:31,440 --> 00:31:33,280
Speaker 2: the first time or the second or the tenth, but

714
00:31:33,320 --> 00:31:34,960
Speaker 2: there does come a time where people are getting a

715
00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:37,959
Speaker 2: little tired of hearing about the stuff that's going on

716
00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:40,480
Speaker 2: that you're not doing anything about or that you know

717
00:31:40,520 --> 00:31:42,160
Speaker 2: what I mean, Like, there's only so many times you

718
00:31:42,160 --> 00:31:44,479
Speaker 2: can go to the well before people are like, I

719
00:31:44,520 --> 00:31:46,440
Speaker 2: love you and I'll support you, but I can't hear

720
00:31:46,440 --> 00:31:49,280
Speaker 2: this stuff anymore because it's like, yeah, if it's all true,

721
00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:51,960
Speaker 2: then do something. Handle your business right y.

722
00:31:52,480 --> 00:31:54,760
Speaker 7: Yeah, because I've had friends who come to me for

723
00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:57,880
Speaker 7: advice for relationships, which I don't mind. You know, I

724
00:31:57,880 --> 00:31:58,840
Speaker 7: don't mind doing.

725
00:31:58,640 --> 00:32:01,040
Speaker 6: That for you. But at the end of it's your decision.

726
00:32:01,080 --> 00:32:03,320
Speaker 13: You decide what you want to do with your relationship.

727
00:32:03,400 --> 00:32:05,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, you come to me fifty times and tell me

728
00:32:05,200 --> 00:32:07,600
Speaker 2: that your spouse is the enemy. At some point, I'm

729
00:32:07,600 --> 00:32:09,760
Speaker 2: gonna be like, there's a theme here, and it's only

730
00:32:09,760 --> 00:32:11,640
Speaker 2: so many times. There's only so many times I can

731
00:32:11,640 --> 00:32:14,000
Speaker 2: support you here. I'm not not your friend, I don't

732
00:32:14,080 --> 00:32:16,480
Speaker 2: not love you, but like, if all that's true, then

733
00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:17,760
Speaker 2: you got to handle this.

734
00:32:18,160 --> 00:32:20,960
Speaker 7: Yeah, And then they come tell me they're going to

735
00:32:21,000 --> 00:32:24,440
Speaker 7: break up with them, and then like at a weekend

736
00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:27,640
Speaker 7: party and I see him with her, I'm like, what happened?

737
00:32:27,800 --> 00:32:28,440
Speaker 1: That can be hard?

738
00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:29,120
Speaker 8: Broken up?

739
00:32:29,320 --> 00:32:30,840
Speaker 1: That can be hard because if you're.

740
00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:32,840
Speaker 7: A friend, I don't want to judge the guy either.

741
00:32:33,400 --> 00:32:35,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, and thank you, Anna, thank you for calling. If

742
00:32:35,280 --> 00:32:37,480
Speaker 2: you're a friend, then you oftentimes take on the weight

743
00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:41,200
Speaker 2: of your friend's dilemma. And like, how many times do

744
00:32:41,280 --> 00:32:45,280
Speaker 2: I have to to bear you know, the herd and

745
00:32:45,360 --> 00:32:46,960
Speaker 2: the you know what I mean? How many times do

746
00:32:47,000 --> 00:32:49,080
Speaker 2: I have to like be in the trenches with you before.

747
00:32:49,120 --> 00:32:54,520
Speaker 2: It's like, all right, are you gonna do something about this? Hey, Elizabeth, Hi, Hi,

748
00:32:55,040 --> 00:32:57,720
Speaker 2: good morning, stay or go? This woman called us She

749
00:32:58,200 --> 00:33:01,080
Speaker 2: went through her boyfriend's phone out after a few weeks

750
00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:01,680
Speaker 2: after a fight.

751
00:33:03,080 --> 00:33:03,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, can you hear me?

752
00:33:05,360 --> 00:33:07,480
Speaker 14: Okay, yeah, hold on, Elizabeth, hold on.

753
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:09,520
Speaker 2: Let me do my job real quick. So I'm just

754
00:33:09,560 --> 00:33:13,120
Speaker 2: recapping here. She went through her boyfriend's phone a few months,

755
00:33:13,160 --> 00:33:15,480
Speaker 2: a few weeks after a fight, only to find that

756
00:33:15,560 --> 00:33:17,120
Speaker 2: he had been venting to his friends in a very

757
00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:21,320
Speaker 2: negative way about her. And now she's she has access

758
00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:23,440
Speaker 2: to this information. She's upset. What do you think, Elizabeth.

759
00:33:24,800 --> 00:33:28,440
Speaker 15: I think they need to take a breath and just

760
00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:31,400
Speaker 15: give themselves, you know, a little bit of space. But

761
00:33:31,520 --> 00:33:35,080
Speaker 15: I don't think that either one of them should go necessarily.

762
00:33:35,880 --> 00:33:38,960
Speaker 15: And you know, I was hearing somebody else that was awful.

763
00:33:38,960 --> 00:33:42,280
Speaker 15: A widow. I'm a widow. She looked back at things

764
00:33:42,320 --> 00:33:45,480
Speaker 15: with a whole different view when the person's not there anymore,

765
00:33:46,680 --> 00:33:49,000
Speaker 15: and things in the heat of the moment, in the

766
00:33:49,120 --> 00:33:53,520
Speaker 15: acute situation, you need to explode. But overall that doesn't

767
00:33:53,560 --> 00:33:53,960
Speaker 15: mean that.

768
00:33:53,880 --> 00:33:54,400
Speaker 6: You hate that.

769
00:33:54,600 --> 00:33:56,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree, I agree with you.

770
00:33:56,600 --> 00:34:00,400
Speaker 15: At the same time, with the text messages. She's also

771
00:34:00,480 --> 00:34:03,000
Speaker 15: a person, and if she in the moment was getting

772
00:34:03,000 --> 00:34:06,080
Speaker 15: a vibe that something wasn't right, it's killing you to

773
00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:07,400
Speaker 15: not try and figure.

774
00:34:07,120 --> 00:34:08,000
Speaker 1: Out what that is.

775
00:34:08,280 --> 00:34:09,399
Speaker 8: So I don't blame her.

776
00:34:09,480 --> 00:34:11,920
Speaker 15: I don't like the idea, but I don't blame her

777
00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:14,040
Speaker 15: for going to a text message.

778
00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:15,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know.

779
00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:17,920
Speaker 2: I feel like if she'd never read that stuff, she

780
00:34:18,080 --> 00:34:20,000
Speaker 2: never would have known. And she wasn't you know, we

781
00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:22,319
Speaker 2: asked the question. She wasn't even getting the vibe like

782
00:34:22,640 --> 00:34:25,880
Speaker 2: things were okay. So they had moved past it, you know,

783
00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:28,319
Speaker 2: And so people make mistakes, people say things they don't mean,

784
00:34:28,320 --> 00:34:30,520
Speaker 2: they move on, they cope.

785
00:34:30,920 --> 00:34:32,200
Speaker 1: And now she's sort of.

786
00:34:32,120 --> 00:34:36,439
Speaker 2: Re regurgitating an old fight that he's that everyone had

787
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:39,759
Speaker 2: moved past. So don't I don't know about this, but Elizabeth,

788
00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:41,440
Speaker 2: I'm sorry for your loss, and thank you for Sharon.

789
00:34:41,520 --> 00:34:45,279
Speaker 1: Have a great day. Thank you, Love you guys, love

790
00:34:45,320 --> 00:34:47,799
Speaker 1: you too. I don't Christina, Hi, good morning.

791
00:34:48,360 --> 00:34:50,360
Speaker 4: Hi, good morning everyone, Hey welcome.

792
00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:51,560
Speaker 1: What do you want to say about stair ago?

793
00:34:52,520 --> 00:34:55,560
Speaker 4: Oh man, what a drama filled morning?

794
00:34:55,680 --> 00:34:56,120
Speaker 7: This is?

795
00:34:56,920 --> 00:34:57,040
Speaker 13: Well.

796
00:34:57,040 --> 00:34:59,080
Speaker 2: I think we're saying hold on for the record, Christine,

797
00:34:59,160 --> 00:35:01,520
Speaker 2: I think we've stayed on the I think we've stayed

798
00:35:01,520 --> 00:35:03,640
Speaker 2: on the air the whole hour, so that's less drama

799
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:04,960
Speaker 2: than we've been experiencing.

800
00:35:06,080 --> 00:35:08,239
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, you know.

801
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:10,200
Speaker 4: All I want to comment you is, I know the

802
00:35:10,239 --> 00:35:12,200
Speaker 4: type of behavior that she was doing, just going through

803
00:35:12,200 --> 00:35:14,279
Speaker 4: his phone and whatnot. When I would argue with my

804
00:35:14,320 --> 00:35:16,800
Speaker 4: boyfriend when I was much younger, I was just looking

805
00:35:16,840 --> 00:35:19,720
Speaker 4: for a reason to be above him and keep fighting

806
00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:23,440
Speaker 4: with him. And so I honestly believe that she was

807
00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:27,120
Speaker 4: looking for a reason to continue the argument, and the

808
00:35:27,200 --> 00:35:30,279
Speaker 4: fact that the trust is now broken, I don't think

809
00:35:30,320 --> 00:35:33,799
Speaker 4: that she felt secure in this relationship. The fact that

810
00:35:33,840 --> 00:35:36,400
Speaker 4: she's already hurting her own feelings going through his phone,

811
00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:40,160
Speaker 4: invading his privacy, like, it's just very mature in my opinion,

812
00:35:40,760 --> 00:35:43,440
Speaker 4: if you felt very secure and loved in your relationship,

813
00:35:43,520 --> 00:35:46,520
Speaker 4: regardless of you know, the fight, then you wouldn't be

814
00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:50,719
Speaker 4: going through your partner's phone. And well, I know very

815
00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:53,240
Speaker 4: well she's probably saying the same thing to her friends

816
00:35:53,239 --> 00:35:53,719
Speaker 4: about him.

817
00:35:53,800 --> 00:35:54,800
Speaker 6: She just hasn't been caught.

818
00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:58,040
Speaker 2: Oh well, and again, Christian, I can only speak to

819
00:35:58,080 --> 00:36:00,239
Speaker 2: my perspective of what I would do, But I'm a

820
00:36:00,280 --> 00:36:03,520
Speaker 2: highly imperfect person. I've said any number of things in

821
00:36:03,520 --> 00:36:06,719
Speaker 2: my life to other people about someone that I am

822
00:36:06,800 --> 00:36:09,000
Speaker 2: so glad I never said to them, I got it

823
00:36:09,040 --> 00:36:11,279
Speaker 2: off my chest. I said it. I regret it. It's

824
00:36:11,360 --> 00:36:14,120
Speaker 2: over and it was better that I I.

825
00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:14,840
Speaker 1: In fact, don't you.

826
00:36:14,800 --> 00:36:16,440
Speaker 2: Have people in your life who are like calm, Like

827
00:36:16,480 --> 00:36:19,040
Speaker 2: when you're upset with that person, call me, like my

828
00:36:19,120 --> 00:36:20,920
Speaker 2: therapist has said to me before, Like when I'm in

829
00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:22,719
Speaker 2: relationships out, yeah, call me.

830
00:36:23,320 --> 00:36:24,000
Speaker 1: Don't say it to that.

831
00:36:24,080 --> 00:36:25,600
Speaker 4: We're all done, You're like, you know what, I'm going

832
00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:28,000
Speaker 4: back to loving my partner. Yeah, but it's just a

833
00:36:28,080 --> 00:36:31,680
Speaker 4: sheer fact that the privacy was invaded. And I can't

834
00:36:31,680 --> 00:36:34,440
Speaker 4: imagine if she was in his shoes and if he

835
00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:37,480
Speaker 4: went through her phone and saw like her girlfriend's conversations,

836
00:36:37,520 --> 00:36:40,279
Speaker 4: if he were Roboto and say, oh look what you said.

837
00:36:40,400 --> 00:36:42,319
Speaker 4: Now let me get mad at you, even though we

838
00:36:42,360 --> 00:36:43,920
Speaker 4: haven't gone past the first fight yet.

839
00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:45,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, I hear you. Thank you, Christina.

840
00:36:45,520 --> 00:36:51,720
Speaker 14: Have a good day. By America. Jesus, Well, we're trying,

841
00:36:51,800 --> 00:36:54,680
Speaker 14: but this is by America. I mean to I want

842
00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:58,240
Speaker 14: to hear about this. This is passport gate. Yes, okay,

843
00:36:58,239 --> 00:36:58,960
Speaker 14: go ahead.

844
00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:00,520
Speaker 1: Deer blog, so we are.

845
00:37:00,960 --> 00:37:02,200
Speaker 6: I don't know what you want to call it.

846
00:37:02,400 --> 00:37:06,040
Speaker 9: Three or four days out from going to Greece. My

847
00:37:06,120 --> 00:37:09,280
Speaker 9: boyfriend and I so leaving the country, which requires a passport.

848
00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:10,960
Speaker 6: Okay, three days out.

849
00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:16,680
Speaker 9: We received his passport yesterday.

850
00:37:16,760 --> 00:37:17,359
Speaker 1: Oh my god.

851
00:37:17,480 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 9: Now my whole thing is like, don't you misplace it?

852
00:37:20,520 --> 00:37:22,759
Speaker 9: Like I told him, even if we break up in

853
00:37:22,800 --> 00:37:25,680
Speaker 9: the future, I will text you every time it's time

854
00:37:25,719 --> 00:37:27,920
Speaker 9: to renew, because no one should ever have to go

855
00:37:27,960 --> 00:37:28,600
Speaker 9: through this again.

856
00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:31,400
Speaker 1: Which so we have it. So we're armed, We're ready,

857
00:37:31,480 --> 00:37:32,880
Speaker 1: We're armed of the passport.

858
00:37:33,040 --> 00:37:35,719
Speaker 2: We had to call presidential contacts. I mean, it really

859
00:37:35,760 --> 00:37:39,359
Speaker 2: got serious. I called the embassy. Yeah, I mean I

860
00:37:39,360 --> 00:37:40,239
Speaker 2: got involved in this.

861
00:37:40,680 --> 00:37:43,320
Speaker 9: You did, And I'm very appreciative of you, very worried.

862
00:37:43,480 --> 00:37:45,759
Speaker 9: I mean, if anyone has any questions, I now know

863
00:37:45,800 --> 00:37:48,080
Speaker 9: how to do all of this. The funny part is

864
00:37:48,080 --> 00:37:50,560
Speaker 9: is that we're also doing an ATV tour while we're there,

865
00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:53,160
Speaker 9: and they are adamant that we need a valid license.

866
00:37:53,640 --> 00:37:56,080
Speaker 9: And I just realized right before my birthday that my

867
00:37:56,239 --> 00:37:59,640
Speaker 9: license was about to expire. So yesterday I also received

868
00:37:59,680 --> 00:38:00,560
Speaker 9: my brain knew lost.

869
00:38:02,120 --> 00:38:04,520
Speaker 2: Oh you fail to mention that part. You felt to

870
00:38:04,560 --> 00:38:06,640
Speaker 2: mention that we were waiting on something for Kailin.

871
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:08,480
Speaker 9: Too well, because I just found out because we did

872
00:38:08,520 --> 00:38:11,879
Speaker 9: our consultation with the lady who planned our trip, which

873
00:38:11,920 --> 00:38:14,080
Speaker 9: was very nice because I want it at work obviously,

874
00:38:14,120 --> 00:38:16,120
Speaker 9: so there was a fancy travel agent. But you know,

875
00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:17,920
Speaker 9: I just found out that I would need a I

876
00:38:17,960 --> 00:38:19,719
Speaker 9: thought in Greece they'd be like, no, girl, right, take

877
00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:23,080
Speaker 9: this ATV you know. So now we are good to go.

878
00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:25,799
Speaker 9: We are armed with the passport. But this whole game

879
00:38:25,880 --> 00:38:28,000
Speaker 9: of waiting until you're fourteen days out from your trip,

880
00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:31,000
Speaker 9: it's not for the faint of heart renew your passports

881
00:38:31,040 --> 00:38:32,879
Speaker 9: even if you don't know if you're going anywhere, because

882
00:38:32,880 --> 00:38:34,560
Speaker 9: you might end up dating someone who wants to take

883
00:38:34,600 --> 00:38:35,120
Speaker 9: you to Grease.

884
00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:36,960
Speaker 6: That's my word for the day.

885
00:38:37,239 --> 00:38:39,719
Speaker 1: And in this case, you're the one taking him to me.

886
00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:43,760
Speaker 2: You're flewing him, is what he He's getting flowed out, failure,

887
00:38:43,920 --> 00:38:48,680
Speaker 2: blued out by you. How are you saying, yeah, flewt out. Yeah,

888
00:38:50,040 --> 00:38:52,200
Speaker 2: you don't say it, but you do say it right.

889
00:38:52,239 --> 00:38:55,080
Speaker 9: And Paulina brought up today, She's like, in every argument

890
00:38:55,120 --> 00:38:57,400
Speaker 9: that you ever have for the rest of time, you

891
00:38:57,440 --> 00:38:59,680
Speaker 9: can say, remember when I brought you to Grease, I

892
00:38:59,719 --> 00:39:00,040
Speaker 9: took you.

893
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:00,680
Speaker 1: Asked Greece.

894
00:39:00,920 --> 00:39:05,200
Speaker 11: Right, this man better never pick a fight, never question

895
00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:08,959
Speaker 11: her ever, like nothing like like peace, peaceful life over here,

896
00:39:08,960 --> 00:39:09,919
Speaker 11: moving forward.

897
00:39:09,719 --> 00:39:11,480
Speaker 9: Right, because that could have taken a lot of people,

898
00:39:12,440 --> 00:39:13,440
Speaker 9: right once in a lifetime.

899
00:39:13,520 --> 00:39:15,600
Speaker 2: You certainly could have. And you too, you took no

900
00:39:15,640 --> 00:39:19,160
Speaker 2: passport having bearded man. Yeah, I tried it, but not

901
00:39:19,160 --> 00:39:20,520
Speaker 2: anymore because he has a passport.

902
00:39:20,600 --> 00:39:20,719
Speaker 7: Right.

903
00:39:20,760 --> 00:39:23,680
Speaker 6: Shaved years off my life's life, just one, this one.

904
00:39:23,760 --> 00:39:25,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, you didn't ask me to get involved,

905
00:39:25,400 --> 00:39:28,680
Speaker 2: but I finally had to get involved because a nervous,

906
00:39:28,880 --> 00:39:33,040
Speaker 2: disgruntled Kaylin is not Yeah, it's not the No, it's okay.

907
00:39:33,160 --> 00:39:33,960
Speaker 1: We all have our thing.

908
00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:35,799
Speaker 2: No one likes to be around me when I'm pissed

909
00:39:35,840 --> 00:39:39,160
Speaker 2: off either, but like it was a frenetic, nervous energy.

910
00:39:39,200 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 2: We we had to call in the reinforcement.

911
00:39:42,760 --> 00:39:43,759
Speaker 6: Yeah, because what was I gonna do?

912
00:39:43,840 --> 00:39:45,880
Speaker 9: Tell our boss who like organized this whole you know,

913
00:39:45,960 --> 00:39:48,839
Speaker 9: raffle or whatever. Sorry, can't go you know, or take

914
00:39:48,840 --> 00:39:50,640
Speaker 9: a random We'll.

915
00:39:50,480 --> 00:39:52,440
Speaker 1: Tell your boyfriend. I owe someone of the United Nations

916
00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:52,880
Speaker 1: a favor.

917
00:39:52,920 --> 00:39:55,239
Speaker 2: Now. So it's like, you know, honestly, like it's this

918
00:39:55,280 --> 00:39:57,080
Speaker 2: is a big deal and I don't know I may

919
00:39:57,080 --> 00:40:00,840
Speaker 2: need Yes, I mean need him to come through it.

920
00:40:01,160 --> 00:40:02,560
Speaker 2: At some point.

921
00:40:03,239 --> 00:40:04,160
Speaker 1: It's the frend Show.

922
00:40:05,000 --> 00:40:05,680
Speaker 9: Thank you,