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Speaker 1: Buckle up, hold on tight. We got it for you here.

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Speaker 1: It is a strawbery letter. Dear Stephen Shirley. I am

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Speaker 1: a twenty nine year old single guy and I've been

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Speaker 1: attracted to a twenty seven year old beautiful woman for

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Speaker 1: four months and I finally got the nerve to ask

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Speaker 1: her for her number. When I met her, I did

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Speaker 1: everything in my power to sweep her off her feet.

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Speaker 1: I am a police officer and I work the night shift,

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Speaker 1: so I'm home during the day. She is my mail carrier,

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Speaker 1: and it was an instant attraction when I saw her.

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Speaker 1: I wait each day for her to come by. I

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Speaker 1: get out of bed and go buy her chick filet

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Speaker 1: and Popeyes, McDonald's and all kinds of snacks on a

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Speaker 1: daily basis. Some days I surprised her with flowers, and

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Speaker 1: I even bought a necklace for her and I left

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Speaker 1: it in her mail truck. She is a single mother,

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Speaker 1: so she said, she appreciates the kind gestures and surprises.

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Speaker 1: We talk on the phone occasionally, but I want to

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Speaker 1: take this relationship further and really get to know her.

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Speaker 1: More than a few times I have called her and

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Speaker 1: she has an answered or called me back. She has

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Speaker 1: said she was either sleep or busy with her daughter.

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Speaker 1: We went on one date recently, but it was during

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Speaker 1: her work shift, so she couldn't really sit and chat

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Speaker 1: like I wanted her to. I feel like she's showing

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Speaker 1: me signs that she's not really interested. But I'm having

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Speaker 1: a hard time walking away because she is beautiful, has

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Speaker 1: a good job, and as a nice girl. I feel

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Speaker 1: that there's something special about her. I made it clear

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Speaker 1: how I feel about her, and she told me that

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Speaker 1: she's not dating right now, just focusing on her career.

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Speaker 1: I've been feeling foolish because I have not stopped spoiling

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Speaker 1: her during the day. I need to know if I

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Speaker 1: should stop and see if she misses me and reaches out,

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Speaker 1: or should I keep it, keep it up a while

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Speaker 1: longer and see if she comes around. Please advise, Gee,

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Speaker 1: you can't take a hint. Hum. Uh you know, you're

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Speaker 1: you're trying way too hard. It's almost, you know, to

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Speaker 1: the point of, uh, you know, kind of I don't

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Speaker 1: want to say stalker because that's a serious term, but

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Speaker 1: you're you're you're kind of over there with all your

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Speaker 1: your gestures. I mean, you're a nice guy. It seems

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Speaker 1: you're thoughtful. You generous buying her flowers and snacks and

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Speaker 1: even jewelry. Uh, it seems like you're a good man,

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Speaker 1: But I don't know. You know you're a police officer. Uh.

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Speaker 1: She's told you that she's focusing on her career. That

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Speaker 1: is code when someone doesn't want to hurt your feelings

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Speaker 1: to tell you that they're not interested. Okay, When you

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Speaker 1: call her and she doesn't answer and she says she

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Speaker 1: was sleep or busy with her daughter, that's another code

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Speaker 1: telling you stop calling her. She doesn't want to be bothered.

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Speaker 1: You went on a date with her. How can you

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Speaker 1: even call this a date? It was during her work shift.

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Speaker 1: You couldn't even sit out and chat with her. It

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Speaker 1: doesn't sound like you guys have anything in common. You said,

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Speaker 1: you feel like she's showing you signs that she's not

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Speaker 1: really interested. She is. She is showing you signs she

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Speaker 1: is not interested. You're having a hard time walking away

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Speaker 1: because she's beautiful and she has a good job, and

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Speaker 1: she's a nice girl, and that all may be true,

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Speaker 1: but the feeling has to be reciprocated. She has to

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Speaker 1: feel the same way, and nothing in this letter is

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Speaker 1: showing me that she feels the same way about you

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Speaker 1: as you do about her. So if I were you,

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Speaker 1: I would back off. I would back off instead of

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Speaker 1: waiting till she comes with all these gifts. She doesn't

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Speaker 1: seem interested. I think you should move on, Steve Doll, Doll,

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Speaker 1: don't listen to nothing, Surely said, listen to me, Doll.

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Speaker 1: Everything Sureley said about the woman, it's one truth. She's

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Speaker 1: not interested. She's not reciprocating the things you waiting on

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Speaker 1: her to come around. She ain't came around. She's not interested.

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Speaker 1: You can't take her hint all that's true. But dog,

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Speaker 1: this is the business we end. We hunt. Show me

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Speaker 1: the deal that wants to get shot, Show me the

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Speaker 1: fish that wants to get caught. Show me the turkey

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Speaker 1: that wants to dine in the woods. But deal turns

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Speaker 1: into venison, fish turns into filets. Turkey goals with dressing.

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Speaker 1: Work it out for yourself, boy, don't you give up

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Speaker 1: this man. She could be the one you have to pursue.

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Speaker 1: It's only been foe most She twenty seven. She told

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Speaker 1: She said, how hard you got to focus? Put that

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Speaker 1: damn stuff in that bag. Let read these addresses and

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Speaker 1: put it in the box. Ignore that she's your male carrier.

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Speaker 1: As soon as you saw her, U was a tract.

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Speaker 1: You wait for it to come back. You get out

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Speaker 1: of bed to go by her. Now he here ware,

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Speaker 1: I thank you making a mistake. Chick fil A, Popeyes

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Speaker 1: McDonald You gotta stop with the fat snacks. I knew

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Speaker 1: you were gonna say something about that. Steve, you got

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Speaker 1: to stop with the fat snacks. Slow down, slow down

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Speaker 1: a little bit. Let's let's we gotta do another approach.

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Speaker 1: Some days I surprised her with flowers. That was kind

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Speaker 1: of cool. I bought a necklace for her and left

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Speaker 1: for her male truck. Okay, she's a single mother, she says.

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Speaker 1: She appreciates the kind gestures and surprises. We talk on

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Speaker 1: the phone occasionally. She'd gave you her number. Don't worry

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Speaker 1: about what Sirley talking about. Keep the pursuit, pursue, crack

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Speaker 1: the code, all right, hang on, hang on, you have more.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure. Twenty nine year old police officer then got

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Speaker 1: attracted to his twenty seven year old beautiful male carrier.

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Speaker 1: She's a single mother. He's done everything in his power

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Speaker 1: to sweep off her feet. He worked the night shift,

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Speaker 1: so I'm home during the day. She's my male carrier.

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Speaker 1: Instant attraction shoots. I saw. I wait for it to

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Speaker 1: come back. I get out of bed. I bout Chick

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Speaker 1: fil A, Popeyes McDonald's. I told you early. It stopped

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Speaker 1: are police, offer sup run her information, get her tag number.

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Speaker 1: Oh you're a cop. See you gotta what's happening to

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Speaker 1: you right now? Is you come across a little corny

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Speaker 1: with the bags of food. Because you make a woman think,

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Speaker 1: oh he think I'm fat. Oh dude, I look like

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Speaker 1: I won't just fast food every day. You got her

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Speaker 1: just come across a little corny. That's probably what's happening.

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Speaker 1: You just come across a little corny, So you gotta

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Speaker 1: change the approach here. But you cannot stop the pursuit

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Speaker 1: the pursuit is real. Keep trying break her down with persistence, sincerity,

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Speaker 1: That's what wins hearts over. She says, she just don't

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Speaker 1: She was at work, so what she said? Yeah, she went.

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Speaker 1: Now I've called her and she has an answered or

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Speaker 1: That's real. We went on one date recently, but it

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Speaker 1: showing you signs that she ain't interested. But what I

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Speaker 1: got to do with what we do? That ain't got

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Speaker 1: nothing to do with who we are. Not many women

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Speaker 1: I had to pursue. It wasn't interested in me. I

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Speaker 1: was interested in them. Hey, Steve, can I see something? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Remember that you told her? You told me the story.

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Speaker 1: I think you told it on the air too. I

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Speaker 1: don't know if you're working at the Ford company. But

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Speaker 1: I WoT her down that Ford Motor Company. I love you. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: every day, dog, I WoT her down. Dog. Everybody laughing

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Speaker 1: at me. Hard man, she man. She been at three years.

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Speaker 1: They never went out with none of us. That's none

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Speaker 1: of y'all. Every day I got you don't want me now,

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Speaker 1: that's because you don't see how good I am. I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna keep showing you goodness. I've been feeling foolish because

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Speaker 1: I had not stopped spoiling her during the day. I

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Speaker 1: she misses me and reaches out. You could try that game.

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Speaker 1: But once that fall so you mess around and take

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Speaker 1: a day off. Other players as day gonna take days off.

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Speaker 1: Say it. You know, on a little week or two

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Speaker 1: you take off. Maybe another dude slide in. You ain't

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Speaker 1: got no time to take off this saint no game, dude,

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Speaker 1: that pressure. Yes, back, skip the fat meals, change the

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Speaker 1: change the game. Stop putting stuff in the trunk. Send

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Speaker 1: stuff to the baby. There you go, get to the baby.

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Speaker 1: Get to the baby. Back pass sneakers a bike. If

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Speaker 1: you love a woman's child and she can see that, boy, boy, man, boy,

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Speaker 1: you got to change your approach. Who ain't gonna love

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Speaker 1: swing shoe game up, come on twenty nine. That's what

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Speaker 1: we do. Hunt. We pursue that which we think deserves

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Speaker 1: the pursuit. The Constitution says every American has the right

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Speaker 1: to the pursuit of happiness. She is your happiness. Why

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Speaker 1: would you not pursue her? You just got to change

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Speaker 1: the route in which you're taken. Do you hear me? Boy? Boy?

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Speaker 1: Do you hear me speech? You don't think he's wasting

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Speaker 1: his stunt with her? Hell no, he ain't got nothing

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Speaker 1: but time. How you wasting your time? And the girl

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Speaker 1: got time for that? You're right? But I have so

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Speaker 1: much stuff, Pilo sandwiches. Don't even put it in the box.

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Speaker 1: Put it in my hand. Put it in my hand. Stuff.

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Speaker 1: Find out how old her baby is, find out what

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Speaker 1: uniforms costs, or something. Man, pay for a field trip,

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Speaker 1: do something. Yeah, that's what he does. I've been doing

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Speaker 1: that since. Can't state. I would love to meet your

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Speaker 1: Let me show you the benefit of me. If you

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