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Speaker 3: My mother in law ruined my hair in my sleep

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Speaker 3: because she thought I was cheating on her son.

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Speaker 1: Just cut off her hair.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, easy eye for an eye. So I'm still processing this,

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Speaker 3: but I need to get it off my chest. Last

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Speaker 3: night I woke up and realized someone had destroyed my hair.

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Speaker 1: This is a woman's worst night.

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Speaker 3: I mean, would you like to have your hair shade off?

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Speaker 1: No? Is it exclusive to women? That a not but

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Speaker 1: it is more extreme for women.

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Speaker 3: I guess it's there's a if you have long hair.

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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from ev Stevie on the

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Speaker 3: Okay Storytime suburt it so one side is a jagged

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Speaker 3: pixie cut and the other side hangs awkwardly past my shoulder.

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Speaker 3: First I thought I was losing my mind. Maybe I

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Speaker 3: sleep walked or something, but no. I confronted my husband

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Speaker 3: Tim because he's been acting weird lately, but he denied it.

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Speaker 3: Then he drops the bombshell. My mom might have done it.

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Speaker 3: He was in on it.

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Speaker 1: He was so in on it he knew.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Apparently, my mother in law, let's call her Diane,

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Speaker 3: is convinced I've been cheating on Tim. Why because last

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Speaker 1: With the coworker with his side sitting though for the.

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Speaker 3: Record, the coworker, Kyle, is gay, and we were literally

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Speaker 3: talking about work. But Diane decided I must be having

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Speaker 3: an affair, and instead of you know, talking to me

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Speaker 3: of the night with scissors and went full Edward's scissor

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Speaker 1: I don't believe this is real.

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Speaker 3: I mean, no, peace convinced it is. This morning, I

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Speaker 3: twice before our humiliating my son. I was fuming. I

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Speaker 3: told her Kyle isn't even into women, but she just

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Speaker 1: Say, they they're all gay these days.

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Speaker 3: I didn't even know how to respond to that level

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Speaker 3: of delusion. Tim is horrified and apologetic, but I'm struggling here.

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Speaker 3: This woman violated my personal space, destroyed my hair, and

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Speaker 3: Any advice, because I'm honestly at a loss year and

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Speaker 3: there isn't at it.

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Speaker 1: Oh that was a short one.

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Speaker 3: There's more, Okay, there's there's so much more to this story.

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Speaker 1: The fact that he is at all like, I don't

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Speaker 1: know which way to go. There's you know, there's good

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Speaker 3: Like always caught between his mom and Opie. His mom

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Speaker 1: I don't think Opie is saying. He's not saying that.

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Speaker 1: I think he's just like, how do I navigate these

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. I feel like he's got some

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Speaker 3: some hard boundaries for sure, personally conspiracy theory. I think

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Speaker 1: What do you think here?

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Speaker 2: It sounds like again he's like, my mom may have

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Speaker 3: How did she break into the house. But there is

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Speaker 3: an edit. My husband and I will be going to

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Speaker 3: I'm sitting here crying in my friend's guest room, completely broken,

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Speaker 3: I don't know where else to go. I need advice,

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Speaker 3: a sense of support, something to help hold myself together.

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Speaker 3: But these accusations, they're just making me feel even more alone.

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Speaker 3: Look what you've done, Alex, help what helank you? If

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Speaker 3: you can't believe me, fine, but please don't make this

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Speaker 3: And there is an update update. My mother in law

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Speaker 1: Now I've found out my husband helped her. I was

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Speaker 1: freaking right. I did not believe that you didn't believe me.

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Speaker 1: It's not your opinion. Wow, Okay, well I was right,

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Speaker 1: so jokes on you.

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Speaker 3: Out of the conversation we had with Diane this morning,

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Speaker 3: I know my husband Tim was acting weird. At first,

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Speaker 3: when he dropped the bombshell. Apparently Diane didn't come up

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Speaker 1: He was the villain mastermind.

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Speaker 3: Tim admitted that he knew about it ahead of time

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Speaker 3: In fact, he led her into our house that night

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, not.

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Speaker 3: You immediately have to get divorced. Tim said he didn't

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Speaker 3: I'm so sorry. I was just confused, but I honestly

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Speaker 1: Part of me.

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Speaker 3: Wants to file a police report on both of them

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Speaker 3: That's incredibly lowbar.

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Speaker 1: That is the truth. You do deserve better than that.

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Speaker 3: Thank you to everyone who has supported me through this.

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Speaker 3: Your comments and advice have meant the world, and I'm

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Speaker 3: truly grateful for the kindness and understanding. It's helping me

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Speaker 1: But what do you think OP should do one? I

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Speaker 1: Especially I'm not justified. Let me finish not justifying his

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Speaker 3: every time I'm strongly considering filing for divorce. The thought

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Speaker 1: Damn my god, Mike freakin drop and op.

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Speaker 3: He continues, I'm going through an incredibly traumatic situation and

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Speaker 3: We're probably live right now. I've documented everything, photos of

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Speaker 1: the Miranda situation?

439
00:19:28,680 --> 00:19:30,639
Speaker 3: This is after the Marnin This is four years after

440
00:19:30,680 --> 00:19:34,800
Speaker 3: the Miranda situation, and it seems like they haven't fixed anything.

441
00:19:34,920 --> 00:19:36,960
Speaker 1: Really, Oh, he said, my husband didn't even take my

442
00:19:37,000 --> 00:19:39,800
Speaker 1: hand to comfort me, but my sister did. Third massive

443
00:19:39,840 --> 00:19:42,639
Speaker 1: red flag here, but I did not even recognize it

444
00:19:42,680 --> 00:19:45,359
Speaker 1: at first because it was so so sad, and my

445
00:19:45,480 --> 00:19:48,399
Speaker 1: sister was there for me. Fast forward to August twenty

446
00:19:48,400 --> 00:19:51,600
Speaker 1: twenty two. This is getting important for later. A warm

447
00:19:51,760 --> 00:19:55,080
Speaker 1: August Saturday morning, around nine am, I got a call

448
00:19:55,119 --> 00:19:57,720
Speaker 1: from my friend Sandra. I picked up the phone and

449
00:19:57,760 --> 00:20:00,000
Speaker 1: said hi and laughed because I was happy to hear

450
00:20:00,119 --> 00:20:02,040
Speaker 1: from her. She had two little kids and a mom

451
00:20:02,040 --> 00:20:04,440
Speaker 1: that required care, so I not often got the chance

452
00:20:04,480 --> 00:20:06,200
Speaker 1: to talk to her, and she lived in another state.

453
00:20:06,240 --> 00:20:09,320
Speaker 1: But on the phone was not Sondra, it was my sister.

454
00:20:09,640 --> 00:20:13,520
Speaker 1: I could barely hear her because she was crying very hard.

455
00:20:13,720 --> 00:20:16,359
Speaker 1: My alarm bells went off and I asked my sister

456
00:20:16,400 --> 00:20:20,679
Speaker 1: what happened. She told me Sandra had passed away that morning.

457
00:20:20,800 --> 00:20:24,119
Speaker 1: She was thirty nine years old and she had what

458
00:20:24,280 --> 00:20:28,280
Speaker 1: two child kid. I was in shock, complete shock. I

459
00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:31,360
Speaker 1: won't go into details here, but it was ruled natural

460
00:20:31,560 --> 00:20:34,520
Speaker 1: passing away. As you can imagine, I started crying and

461
00:20:34,560 --> 00:20:37,600
Speaker 1: I thought about the kids and the widower. Just oh

462
00:20:37,640 --> 00:20:40,920
Speaker 1: my god, No, that can't be real. No, I could

463
00:20:40,920 --> 00:20:43,600
Speaker 1: start crying right now. It still hurts as if it

464
00:20:43,640 --> 00:20:46,720
Speaker 1: was just today that it happened. Her funeral was a

465
00:20:46,720 --> 00:20:48,879
Speaker 1: few weeks later, and my husband and I took a

466
00:20:48,880 --> 00:20:51,800
Speaker 1: few days off of work to attend the funeral. Everybody

467
00:20:51,840 --> 00:20:54,520
Speaker 1: was there, also my ex best friend. We haven't talked

468
00:20:54,520 --> 00:20:56,359
Speaker 1: to each other for over a year at that time,

469
00:20:56,400 --> 00:20:58,240
Speaker 1: but I was the one who called her and told

470
00:20:58,280 --> 00:21:02,280
Speaker 1: her about Sandra's passing. Are in contact again since then? Okay,

471
00:21:02,440 --> 00:21:05,359
Speaker 1: the funeral. My husband decided to not sit next to

472
00:21:05,400 --> 00:21:08,760
Speaker 1: me during the funeral. Yes, you read that right, and

473
00:21:08,840 --> 00:21:11,800
Speaker 1: not comfort. I don't get that. I don't understand what

474
00:21:12,480 --> 00:21:15,680
Speaker 1: is at this point? Does your husband hate you? Yeah?

475
00:21:15,800 --> 00:21:19,639
Speaker 1: Or does he? Is he just so uncomfortable with showing

476
00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:23,680
Speaker 1: with passing away. Yeah, doesn't know how to comfort comfort

477
00:21:23,720 --> 00:21:24,520
Speaker 1: his wife.

478
00:21:24,240 --> 00:21:28,000
Speaker 3: Because this is insane. This is insane behavior too. Not once,

479
00:21:28,040 --> 00:21:31,960
Speaker 3: but two times at like actually three three times. This

480
00:21:32,040 --> 00:21:34,960
Speaker 3: is the third time, not be able to comfort someone

481
00:21:34,960 --> 00:21:36,080
Speaker 3: who is mourning.

482
00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:39,439
Speaker 1: Home Again, I asked him why he didn't comfort me again,

483
00:21:39,720 --> 00:21:42,320
Speaker 1: he told me that I am a grown up woman

484
00:21:42,560 --> 00:21:44,800
Speaker 1: and I have to deal with it on my own,

485
00:21:45,000 --> 00:21:48,200
Speaker 1: and that I'm not his priority. As you can imagine,

486
00:21:48,280 --> 00:21:51,600
Speaker 1: I cried every fricking single night, and he had the

487
00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:54,320
Speaker 1: audacity to tell me that end quote. Yes I heard

488
00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:57,399
Speaker 1: you crying, end quote, and didn't do anything. What a

489
00:21:57,440 --> 00:22:00,560
Speaker 1: piece of crap. Now here comes the kicker. One day

490
00:22:00,600 --> 00:22:04,080
Speaker 1: before or one day after the funeral, he exchanged numbers

491
00:22:04,080 --> 00:22:07,040
Speaker 1: with another woman I didn't know. Nine months later I

492
00:22:07,119 --> 00:22:10,160
Speaker 1: caught wind of it because his phone rang very often.

493
00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:13,159
Speaker 1: I asked him who this was and who he was

494
00:22:13,280 --> 00:22:15,880
Speaker 1: riding with. He stupidly showed me the chat.

495
00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:17,720
Speaker 3: Thing.

496
00:22:18,080 --> 00:22:19,359
Speaker 1: He's like, he's like, here you go.

497
00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:22,960
Speaker 3: He doesn't care. The thing is that we've seen multiple times.

498
00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:24,879
Speaker 3: It seems like he's like, oh, like he's doing this

499
00:22:25,000 --> 00:22:27,200
Speaker 3: and like doesn't realize or he's like trying to hide it.

500
00:22:27,320 --> 00:22:28,720
Speaker 1: No, seems like it just doesn't care.

501
00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:30,680
Speaker 3: He doesn't care about you at all.

502
00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:33,680
Speaker 1: Like given pain left and right, and like whatever, you.

503
00:22:33,640 --> 00:22:35,399
Speaker 3: Don't deserve to be comforted. I'm cheating?

504
00:22:35,640 --> 00:22:38,240
Speaker 1: What of it? What of it? Assuming He and Tessa

505
00:22:38,359 --> 00:22:40,720
Speaker 1: fake name met during the days of the funeral, and

506
00:22:40,760 --> 00:22:44,560
Speaker 1: his first words in the chat were quote, Hi, little one,

507
00:22:45,880 --> 00:22:50,080
Speaker 1: I finally have your number. I just overflowed the chat

508
00:22:50,280 --> 00:22:53,280
Speaker 1: and at one point I read that he complimented her

509
00:22:53,440 --> 00:22:55,760
Speaker 1: on her beautiful hair. You need to know that my

510
00:22:55,960 --> 00:22:59,399
Speaker 1: hair started falling out massively after I got the news

511
00:22:59,440 --> 00:23:02,480
Speaker 1: of Sondra because the shock, and my husband knew that

512
00:23:02,680 --> 00:23:04,639
Speaker 1: very well. I went to the doctor to get checked,

513
00:23:04,680 --> 00:23:07,240
Speaker 1: but everything was okay. It was definitely because of the shock.

514
00:23:07,320 --> 00:23:10,880
Speaker 1: He comforted her because of some stress with her boyfriend

515
00:23:10,920 --> 00:23:14,159
Speaker 1: at the time. Also, as you can imagine, I went ballistic.

516
00:23:14,320 --> 00:23:16,000
Speaker 1: Not even that he told me, I'm a grown up

517
00:23:16,040 --> 00:23:17,679
Speaker 1: woman who needs to deal with the death of my

518
00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:20,760
Speaker 1: beloved friend on my own. I'm not his priority. No,

519
00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:23,080
Speaker 1: he thought it was a really good idea to give

520
00:23:23,160 --> 00:23:28,200
Speaker 1: some b his number and comfort her because some relationship issues.

521
00:23:28,280 --> 00:23:30,840
Speaker 1: I mean, what the F And I asked him why

522
00:23:30,840 --> 00:23:34,040
Speaker 1: he comforted her and not me. He entered quote, she

523
00:23:34,200 --> 00:23:37,479
Speaker 1: had a bad time and needed help. Yep, he really

524
00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:40,800
Speaker 1: said that right into my face. Guess what happened. I

525
00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:45,280
Speaker 1: slapped him hard got I was so devastated and angry.

526
00:23:45,600 --> 00:23:48,040
Speaker 1: How could he do something like that to me. I

527
00:23:48,119 --> 00:23:50,600
Speaker 1: never had any suspicion of what he was capable of

528
00:23:51,359 --> 00:23:54,600
Speaker 1: doing something like that. I always trusted him completely. What

529
00:23:54,640 --> 00:23:57,760
Speaker 1: a fool I was. No, you just trust your partner

530
00:23:58,280 --> 00:24:01,560
Speaker 1: as you should trust a partner, not this partner, that

531
00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:04,000
Speaker 1: part Please, don't trust this partner. Don't trust this one.

532
00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:06,119
Speaker 1: And again. I should have let him there and then again,

533
00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:09,280
Speaker 1: but I didn't. Tessa lived a few states away, so

534
00:24:09,320 --> 00:24:12,440
Speaker 1: I could be sure that nothing physical ever happened between them,

535
00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:14,960
Speaker 1: but it was still a betrayal. He swore to never

536
00:24:15,119 --> 00:24:17,640
Speaker 1: ever gave his number to another woman, and to ask

537
00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:19,960
Speaker 1: me if he would met some new friends, if it

538
00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:23,280
Speaker 1: would be okay, if numbers would be exchanged. In January

539
00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:25,880
Speaker 1: this year, he went to rehab because of some back

540
00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:29,120
Speaker 1: pain issues. During that time, we had not much contact

541
00:24:29,119 --> 00:24:32,879
Speaker 1: because divorce is on the table since December twenty twenty third,

542
00:24:32,960 --> 00:24:34,679
Speaker 1: but we wanted to work things out. I hear you

543
00:24:34,760 --> 00:24:37,200
Speaker 1: asking Why didn't you leave him earlier? Why did you

544
00:24:37,200 --> 00:24:39,960
Speaker 1: stay so long? I married him because I love him.

545
00:24:40,160 --> 00:24:42,280
Speaker 1: I gave my ward to stay in good times and

546
00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:45,320
Speaker 1: bad times, and I don't take that easy. I wanted

547
00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:47,680
Speaker 1: to grow old with him. I could picture us sitting

548
00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:50,960
Speaker 1: on the sofa, watching the movies we like, laughing at

549
00:24:51,000 --> 00:24:53,840
Speaker 1: old jokes and cuddling. Boy, was I wrong.

550
00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:56,639
Speaker 3: I wonder really quick if OP is from like a

551
00:24:56,680 --> 00:25:02,439
Speaker 3: religious background because of this like pretty steadfast refusal to

552
00:25:02,520 --> 00:25:05,960
Speaker 3: divorce or like hesitancy to this divorce.

553
00:25:06,000 --> 00:25:08,359
Speaker 1: I think it's possible. And I also just think that's

554
00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:13,160
Speaker 1: the narrative that is given to all most Western cultures around,

555
00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:16,919
Speaker 1: like this romantic fairy tale of You're gonna be with

556
00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:19,680
Speaker 1: one person for the rest of your life, through everything,

557
00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:23,359
Speaker 1: and then when people are mistreated, this narrative is so

558
00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:29,639
Speaker 1: not serving because it locks people into situations that harm them. AnyWho,

559
00:25:29,760 --> 00:25:32,879
Speaker 1: After three weeks of rehab, he came home. We haven't

560
00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:35,080
Speaker 1: talked much during his rehab, but we were friendly with

561
00:25:35,119 --> 00:25:38,879
Speaker 1: each other. Everything seemed normal. After an hour of his return,

562
00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:41,480
Speaker 1: he started getting angry. He said, I had blocked him

563
00:25:41,480 --> 00:25:44,040
Speaker 1: on whatstep and everything? I was taken aback? What we

564
00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:46,399
Speaker 1: just texted the day before. What is happening here? I

565
00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:48,800
Speaker 1: asked him straight if he had exchanged numbers with some

566
00:25:48,880 --> 00:25:52,800
Speaker 1: woman again. He said, quote, no, just with men that

567
00:25:52,880 --> 00:25:55,600
Speaker 1: were in his rehab groove. His phone again started to

568
00:25:55,680 --> 00:25:58,200
Speaker 1: ring very often, and you know what is coming next?

569
00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:01,040
Speaker 1: Of course I got suspicious. He told me it was eBay.

570
00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:05,439
Speaker 3: What I was like, Hey, it's eBay, just wanted to

571
00:26:05,520 --> 00:26:08,320
Speaker 3: link up, just running the kissry little face.

572
00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:10,320
Speaker 1: He's like, it's Domino's babe.

573
00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:12,639
Speaker 2: Jill said, they love me.

574
00:26:13,080 --> 00:26:16,159
Speaker 1: Oh that's so sweet of this company. Haha. Do you

575
00:26:16,200 --> 00:26:19,280
Speaker 1: really think I'm that stupid? So I waited, and one

576
00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:22,000
Speaker 1: day he took out the trash. I got his phone

577
00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:24,480
Speaker 1: and went through his what's that messages, and there it

578
00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:26,800
Speaker 1: was a chat with Cindy fick name, in which he

579
00:26:26,840 --> 00:26:29,840
Speaker 1: told her that he's asking me about my feelings and

580
00:26:29,840 --> 00:26:32,880
Speaker 1: that he is the one making all compromises and so

581
00:26:32,960 --> 00:26:35,720
Speaker 1: on and so on. I said nothing. A few days later,

582
00:26:35,760 --> 00:26:38,920
Speaker 1: in the afternoon, his phone again rang all the time,

583
00:26:38,960 --> 00:26:41,000
Speaker 1: but this time I told him, I know it's not eBay,

584
00:26:41,040 --> 00:26:45,520
Speaker 1: and he said, fine, it's Walmart. You got me. I

585
00:26:45,600 --> 00:26:48,240
Speaker 1: told him to show me his phone, and there another

586
00:26:48,359 --> 00:26:52,720
Speaker 1: woman with him about but massages. We had really big

587
00:26:52,760 --> 00:26:54,919
Speaker 1: fights about all of that, and I cried like I

588
00:26:55,080 --> 00:26:58,840
Speaker 1: never cried before. He did not even bother to apologize.

589
00:26:58,880 --> 00:27:02,160
Speaker 1: He said they were those friends. Classic right. I may

590
00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:04,680
Speaker 1: have been naive, but I'm not stupid. One week later,

591
00:27:04,760 --> 00:27:06,640
Speaker 1: he let me go through his phone again. This guy

592
00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:11,359
Speaker 1: is like, just like balls, they literally don't care. He's like, yeah, literally,

593
00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:14,359
Speaker 1: and you will not believe whom he was texting with.

594
00:27:14,440 --> 00:27:17,120
Speaker 1: I found one name I didn't recognize and looked into

595
00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:20,359
Speaker 1: the chat. I scrolled and scrolled end up. You remember

596
00:27:20,400 --> 00:27:23,639
Speaker 1: the name Miranda. Yes, on top of that chat, I

597
00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:26,520
Speaker 1: saw her name. One year after my grandma passed, she

598
00:27:26,600 --> 00:27:29,639
Speaker 1: had contacted him again. He did not block her like

599
00:27:29,720 --> 00:27:32,560
Speaker 1: he promised to what he.

600
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:35,000
Speaker 3: Didn't go follow through this promises.

601
00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:37,840
Speaker 1: He didn't. It's the truth. I believe it. I believe

602
00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:39,840
Speaker 1: it in a way. He did not block her, so

603
00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:42,480
Speaker 1: she had the opportunity to contact him. For all these years,

604
00:27:42,520 --> 00:27:46,080
Speaker 1: he met her, texted her, ranted about me with her,

605
00:27:46,119 --> 00:27:49,200
Speaker 1: and lied to me for eight whole years. All in all,

606
00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:52,239
Speaker 1: I found seven different women whom he was texting with

607
00:27:52,280 --> 00:27:54,439
Speaker 1: and lying about me. He told all of them that

608
00:27:54,520 --> 00:27:57,320
Speaker 1: I was the bad guy in this marriage. Four years

609
00:27:57,359 --> 00:27:59,399
Speaker 1: ago we moved into the flat we're now living in.

610
00:27:59,560 --> 00:28:03,200
Speaker 1: Now I know why he wanted this flat in this area, Miranda,

611
00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:06,240
Speaker 1: Get this is living just two.

612
00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:08,360
Speaker 2: Blocks away, right under your nose.

613
00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:13,960
Speaker 1: Right under great My trust in him is completely shattered.

614
00:28:14,080 --> 00:28:16,480
Speaker 1: So much more things have happened over the years with him,

615
00:28:16,520 --> 00:28:18,680
Speaker 1: and I can only guess that he has a narcissistic

616
00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:21,960
Speaker 1: personality disorder would also be a complete new posts explain

617
00:28:22,160 --> 00:28:25,119
Speaker 1: that here I trusted him, I still love him. I

618
00:28:25,240 --> 00:28:27,720
Speaker 1: try my best, and we could all agree that it's sure.

619
00:28:27,840 --> 00:28:30,840
Speaker 1: I've made mistakes too. Everybody does and I have no exception.

620
00:28:30,960 --> 00:28:31,560
Speaker 1: We love a self.

621
00:28:31,600 --> 00:28:34,159
Speaker 3: You're aware of being with him. That's the only mistake

622
00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:34,600
Speaker 3: I've seen.

623
00:28:34,720 --> 00:28:37,560
Speaker 1: Well, maybe they made mistakes. Didn't write it in that's true.

624
00:28:37,800 --> 00:28:38,880
Speaker 3: It's a biased post.

625
00:28:39,040 --> 00:28:40,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, there is no way to get him to act

626
00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:43,720
Speaker 1: as a husband, to behave with respect, to accept boundaries

627
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:46,680
Speaker 1: and respect them, not to cross the lines to make compromises.

628
00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:49,200
Speaker 1: And what really hurts is him bad mouthing me in

629
00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 1: front of woman I don't even know. Runn Hee has

630
00:28:51,520 --> 00:28:54,400
Speaker 1: smear campaign against me because he got caught. He is

631
00:28:54,480 --> 00:28:57,920
Speaker 1: now telling everybody that I am the one who did

632
00:28:57,960 --> 00:29:00,640
Speaker 1: what he did. There's no way in I would ever

633
00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:03,280
Speaker 1: betray someone like that. One thing he also said is

634
00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:06,520
Speaker 1: that I wasn't there for him when his mom passed away,

635
00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:07,920
Speaker 1: the odd dad.

636
00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:09,800
Speaker 2: He's a compulsive liar too.

637
00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:12,320
Speaker 1: I had the flu of fever and everything, but I

638
00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:14,640
Speaker 1: still attended my mother in law's funeral.

639
00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:18,280
Speaker 3: She was actively sick, and he's like, you weren't there

640
00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:20,640
Speaker 3: for me twenty four seven. You didn't make me any soup.

641
00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:23,520
Speaker 1: He earns the money and is aware of the fact

642
00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:25,960
Speaker 1: that I depend on him financially. I try to save

643
00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:28,520
Speaker 1: money to get out of there. He's a pathological liar.

644
00:29:28,560 --> 00:29:31,240
Speaker 1: He lies about everything and to everybody. I'm so fed

645
00:29:31,320 --> 00:29:34,600
Speaker 1: up with this now, all right, we're getting to this lie.

646
00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:37,760
Speaker 1: I forgot the title. We got to the title. Okay,

647
00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:42,760
Speaker 1: that gave so much context. Okay, he's diagnosed with cancer.

648
00:29:43,040 --> 00:29:45,320
Speaker 1: Some of my friends say it's the karma he was

649
00:29:45,360 --> 00:29:47,600
Speaker 1: getting for what he has done to me. So here

650
00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:50,520
Speaker 1: is my session. Would I be the ahole if I

651
00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:53,200
Speaker 1: leave him? Even though he has cancer and maybe would

652
00:29:53,240 --> 00:29:56,840
Speaker 1: need help to recover. It's a relatively simple surgery. The

653
00:29:56,880 --> 00:29:59,280
Speaker 1: cancer will be easy to remove, and he won't eat

654
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Speaker 1: chemo or something like, I leave him, is this like

655
00:30:01,720 --> 00:30:05,040
Speaker 1: like a skin character. Yeah, it's going to be two hours.

656
00:30:05,080 --> 00:30:06,640
Speaker 1: You're gonna be back to normal. I have a friend.

657
00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:08,800
Speaker 3: I had a friend who had cancer and it just

658
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Speaker 3: got it removed and it was Yeah, it was fortunately fine.

659
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Speaker 1: It's it's common form, like very scary things cancer.

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00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:19,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, no to so so scary and like anyone who's

661
00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:21,840
Speaker 3: gone through that, like it is a very scary process.

662
00:30:22,400 --> 00:30:25,880
Speaker 1: But if you're like, should I stay with my husband.

663
00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:27,720
Speaker 3: Who could literally just get this cancer is thing removed

664
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Speaker 3: and be fine, then don't.

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Speaker 1: Stay with him. Doctor is telling you it's a simple surgery.

666
00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:34,080
Speaker 1: It's going to be fun. Leave him also, even if

667
00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:37,400
Speaker 1: you like that, believe him. Yeah I agree with that too.

668
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Speaker 3: Like literally leave him regardless you don't know him. He's

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Speaker 3: an adult.

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Speaker 1: I cry almost every day. That is not me. I'm

671
00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:45,880
Speaker 1: a person who will always help and be there for

672
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Speaker 1: the ones I love. He let me cry all alone

673
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Speaker 1: when my girlfriend passed away, and I confess I let

674
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Speaker 1: him cry alone when he got his diagnosis. I told

675
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Speaker 1: him why I want him to not dare crying in

676
00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:59,680
Speaker 1: front of me. That that is harsh, but it is understandable. Yeah,

677
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Speaker 1: if your partners. I told you they don't give an

678
00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:05,280
Speaker 1: f about your emotions, it's going to be pretty hard

679
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Speaker 1: to give an f about their remo.

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Speaker 3: But also, like if you if this is the only

681
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Speaker 3: like if you're like I don't care about your emotions

682
00:31:10,760 --> 00:31:12,680
Speaker 3: and then you stay together, it's just like why.

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00:31:12,800 --> 00:31:15,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, he told you so long ago he doesn't

684
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Speaker 1: care about your emotions. Like it's been eight years. I

685
00:31:17,680 --> 00:31:19,840
Speaker 1: gave him the taste of his own medicine. And I

686
00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:22,600
Speaker 1: also confess I don't regret it. I know that I'm

687
00:31:22,600 --> 00:31:24,520
Speaker 1: not that kind of person. That is not who I

688
00:31:24,520 --> 00:31:27,240
Speaker 1: want to be. Any Further, I'm ready for your judgment.

689
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Speaker 1: Thanks for reading, and for the ones among you who

690
00:31:29,320 --> 00:31:32,200
Speaker 1: are dealing with similar situations, please stay strong. There are

691
00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:34,040
Speaker 1: people who are loving. There is an update.

692
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Speaker 3: I have no judgment other than like, divorce. That is

693
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Speaker 3: the only advice I can get.

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Speaker 1: It makes no sense from our context. Yeah, everything you've

695
00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:45,080
Speaker 1: been given, it makes no sense for either of you

696
00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:47,760
Speaker 1: to stay in this Relationshi, Nope, nope, all right? Update?

697
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Speaker 1: Why did I not leave earlier? Because only at the

698
00:31:50,040 --> 00:31:52,200
Speaker 1: last one point five years bad things have ended added

699
00:31:52,280 --> 00:31:54,440
Speaker 1: up drastically, and only six months ago I started to

700
00:31:54,480 --> 00:31:56,880
Speaker 1: realize that he has a pattern of his behavior. I

701
00:31:56,920 --> 00:31:59,720
Speaker 1: started looking deeper into questions I had and asked in

702
00:31:59,760 --> 00:32:02,320
Speaker 1: different groups to maybe tell me what I'm dealing with here.

703
00:32:02,400 --> 00:32:04,760
Speaker 1: It took me long to realize what he was doing,

704
00:32:04,880 --> 00:32:07,240
Speaker 1: how he was doing it, and what situations he did

705
00:32:07,240 --> 00:32:11,120
Speaker 1: this or that. And by the way, we swear we

706
00:32:11,160 --> 00:32:14,120
Speaker 1: have happier stories. We swear you just have to join

707
00:32:14,200 --> 00:32:16,240
Speaker 1: us live on YouTube and Facebook every day at three

708
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Speaker 1: pm PSD. And we're probably live right now. Is just

709
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Speaker 1: have our probile go check it. There's another relevant update,

710
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Speaker 1: but let's discuss we already did. Unless you have thoughts.

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00:32:24,160 --> 00:32:26,400
Speaker 3: Honestly, yeah, my final thought is you just need to.

712
00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:31,840
Speaker 1: Leave divorce, divorce, divorce, divorce, divorce, divorce, divorce, divorce. Ev

713
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Speaker 1: I'm not one to join the divorce chant and I'm champion.

714
00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:39,760
Speaker 1: I'm chatting gotta all right. My sister now saw what

715
00:32:39,840 --> 00:32:42,800
Speaker 1: a person he is too. Before I was isolated by him,

716
00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:45,200
Speaker 1: no one believed me. Now my sister is fighting for

717
00:32:45,240 --> 00:32:48,040
Speaker 1: me like a lioness. I also told some friends about

718
00:32:48,040 --> 00:32:50,600
Speaker 1: my situation. I'm searching for help and I get help.

719
00:32:50,720 --> 00:32:52,959
Speaker 1: Next week. I will seek help from our social system

720
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:55,560
Speaker 1: and contact my lawyer to get the documents for him

721
00:32:55,560 --> 00:32:57,760
Speaker 1: for spousal support. I know that I have nothing when

722
00:32:57,800 --> 00:33:00,600
Speaker 1: I leave. I mean nothing, no bed, no friend, know nothing.

723
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Speaker 1: But I would rather have nothing than staying in this

724
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Speaker 1: marriage with a man childhood is nothing but complain about

725
00:33:05,640 --> 00:33:07,959
Speaker 1: my behavior and treating me like craft. The reason why

726
00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:11,440
Speaker 1: I asked my question is still because of in good

727
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Speaker 1: times and bad time, but I see it only counts

728
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Speaker 1: for his bad time.

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Speaker 3: Yes, there we go. No, I think it's just knowing

730
00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:23,280
Speaker 3: that like we women at to fight for divorce and

731
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Speaker 3: you know it's it's a it's a rite that you

732
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Speaker 3: should exercise when needed.

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Speaker 1: Yum, I know, Um, It's just no, I'm eating a date,

734
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Speaker 1: even a freaking date. John here og host. We're gonna

735
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Speaker 1: get back to these stories, but a quick free minute

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Speaker 3: My husband cheated on me, but wants me to lie

738
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Speaker 3: to his family. Hi, guys, I'm extremely conflicted over what

739
00:33:52,120 --> 00:33:55,320
Speaker 3: to do in this situation and any advice is greatly appreciated.

740
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Speaker 3: Thank you so much in advance. I'm sorry for it

741
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Speaker 3: being such a long post. My husband twenty mins and

742
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Speaker 3: I twenty female have been together since March of twenty nineteen,

743
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Speaker 3: so six years this coming March.

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Speaker 1: Wow. So they got together when they were like fourteen

745
00:34:08,600 --> 00:34:13,080
Speaker 1: little babies. Whoa, yeah, oh my god. Yeah yeah.

746
00:34:13,120 --> 00:34:16,360
Speaker 3: We've been through a lot of hardships together throughout our relationship.

747
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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from top signature ninety three

748
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Speaker 3: sixteen on the Okay storytime Separate. So at the very

749
00:34:21,880 --> 00:34:24,960
Speaker 3: beginning of a relationship, I was diagnosed with diabetes, which

750
00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:27,919
Speaker 3: was a huge lifestyle change for me. My mother became

751
00:34:28,040 --> 00:34:30,640
Speaker 3: very sick in September twenty twenty, and being that we

752
00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:33,160
Speaker 3: were still so young and in high school, in order

753
00:34:33,239 --> 00:34:36,160
Speaker 3: to stay together, I moved from Louisiana to Arkansas with

754
00:34:36,239 --> 00:34:38,640
Speaker 3: him because my mother and I had been evicted from

755
00:34:38,680 --> 00:34:41,160
Speaker 3: our apartment and she wasn't able to support me any

756
00:34:41,239 --> 00:34:44,359
Speaker 3: longer in high school. You moved to be with him?

757
00:34:44,560 --> 00:34:48,560
Speaker 1: Wow? He came yeah, with his family, I assume.

758
00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:51,560
Speaker 3: So he came from an a family situation which didn't

759
00:34:52,000 --> 00:34:55,520
Speaker 3: improve after I moved in. In February of twenty twenty one,

760
00:34:55,680 --> 00:34:58,520
Speaker 3: my mother passed away. I was incredibly close with her,

761
00:34:58,560 --> 00:35:01,360
Speaker 3: and I was devastated to I still don't think I

762
00:35:01,440 --> 00:35:04,000
Speaker 3: fully recovered from her passing away. At this time, I

763
00:35:04,080 --> 00:35:06,600
Speaker 3: was enrolled in an online school, so being that I

764
00:35:06,640 --> 00:35:08,400
Speaker 3: was at home and his mother had to work to

765
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Speaker 3: support his two younger siblings, I took care of them,

766
00:35:11,239 --> 00:35:13,840
Speaker 3: two female and one male at the time for between

767
00:35:13,880 --> 00:35:16,160
Speaker 3: eight to twelve hours a day while trying to finish

768
00:35:16,239 --> 00:35:17,719
Speaker 3: high school and grieve my mother.

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Speaker 1: That's a lot that is grieving a parent. You just

770
00:35:20,719 --> 00:35:24,120
Speaker 1: car killers, stay with a new partner, newish partner, and

771
00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:25,920
Speaker 1: you're taking care of two kids.

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00:35:26,280 --> 00:35:28,759
Speaker 3: Eventually, his mom and the two babies were kicked out

773
00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:31,600
Speaker 3: of the house and she became homeless. Me and my

774
00:35:31,680 --> 00:35:35,240
Speaker 3: husband supported them and collectively spent thousands on hotels, food,

775
00:35:35,280 --> 00:35:36,279
Speaker 3: and other necessities.

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Speaker 1: How, oh, yeah, you're in How How.

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Speaker 3: Did the situation persisted for around a year? When she

778
00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:44,160
Speaker 3: was kicked out of the house, she didn't have a car,

779
00:35:44,280 --> 00:35:46,279
Speaker 3: so I gave her my car and she used it

780
00:35:46,320 --> 00:35:48,919
Speaker 3: for over two years. This was a very hard time

781
00:35:48,960 --> 00:35:50,960
Speaker 3: for me, and I believed it changed me as a

782
00:35:50,960 --> 00:35:54,200
Speaker 3: person and affected our relationship in a huge way. In

783
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Speaker 3: twenty twenty two, after graduating high school, we both moved

784
00:35:57,239 --> 00:36:00,400
Speaker 3: away and began to build a life. After enrolling in college,

785
00:36:00,520 --> 00:36:03,040
Speaker 3: he realized in order for him to live in an

786
00:36:03,040 --> 00:36:05,760
Speaker 3: apartment with me off campus, as I am not enrolled

787
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:07,920
Speaker 3: as a student. We would have to be married and

788
00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:11,279
Speaker 3: present the marriage certificate to his college. Okay, so that

789
00:36:11,400 --> 00:36:13,640
Speaker 3: kind of well, I mean sometimes they just say, like,

790
00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:16,359
Speaker 3: you can't have this housing unless you know you guys

791
00:36:16,400 --> 00:36:17,960
Speaker 3: are it's like a legal thing.

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00:36:17,840 --> 00:36:19,839
Speaker 2: Maybe because it's maybe because it's like yeah, because it's

793
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Speaker 2: student housing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and.

795
00:36:23,719 --> 00:36:26,040
Speaker 2: Off and a piece on a student.

796
00:36:26,120 --> 00:36:28,680
Speaker 3: All first year students were required to live on campus

797
00:36:28,719 --> 00:36:31,200
Speaker 3: if they weren't able to provide an exemption. At the time,

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00:36:31,280 --> 00:36:33,880
Speaker 3: it made complete sense to us. We had lived together

799
00:36:33,880 --> 00:36:36,200
Speaker 3: for almost two years already, so the thought of living

800
00:36:36,239 --> 00:36:39,040
Speaker 3: apart made no sense. We of course planned to marry

801
00:36:39,080 --> 00:36:42,080
Speaker 3: in the future anyway, so it seemed only logical. After

802
00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:44,960
Speaker 3: getting out of our prior situation, life was only supposed

803
00:36:44,960 --> 00:36:47,080
Speaker 3: to get better. We lived in the apartment together for

804
00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:50,200
Speaker 3: a year before moving into a house that we now rent. Eventually,

805
00:36:50,320 --> 00:36:53,120
Speaker 3: his brother, seventeen male at the time, was able to

806
00:36:53,160 --> 00:36:55,120
Speaker 3: move away from his mom and come live with us

807
00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:57,960
Speaker 3: at the new house. Throughout our entire relationship, we have

808
00:36:58,040 --> 00:37:02,399
Speaker 3: always had a volatile areda. We both witnessed domestic our

809
00:37:02,560 --> 00:37:05,799
Speaker 3: entire childhoods and I feel that contributed the way we

810
00:37:05,920 --> 00:37:06,720
Speaker 3: end up fighting.

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Speaker 1: For sure. It's your model of effics.

812
00:37:09,480 --> 00:37:11,799
Speaker 3: It's incredibly hard to admit, but we both went through

813
00:37:11,840 --> 00:37:14,920
Speaker 3: emotional and physical from one another. Things would escalate and

814
00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:17,120
Speaker 3: we would both say and do things that we both

815
00:37:17,160 --> 00:37:19,480
Speaker 3: admit we were ashamed of. There were several times in

816
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:22,160
Speaker 3: which we almost broke up after a fight. Looking back,

817
00:37:22,200 --> 00:37:24,200
Speaker 3: we should have broken up a long time ago, and

818
00:37:24,280 --> 00:37:27,080
Speaker 3: I realized that now. Definitely like a lot of trauma

819
00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:29,520
Speaker 3: bonding going on here, especially because you've been together since

820
00:37:29,520 --> 00:37:33,319
Speaker 3: you were like teenagers, and we're together like in this

821
00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:36,000
Speaker 3: kind of not great household after you lost your mom.

822
00:37:36,080 --> 00:37:38,759
Speaker 3: I have a wonderful relationship with his grandmother. I love

823
00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:41,000
Speaker 3: her very much, and she makes it known how much

824
00:37:41,040 --> 00:37:43,400
Speaker 3: she loves me. From the beginning of a relationship, she

825
00:37:43,440 --> 00:37:46,280
Speaker 3: has always been there and made me feel so loved

826
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Speaker 3: and cared for. Though I had a rocky relationship with

827
00:37:48,719 --> 00:37:50,680
Speaker 3: his mom in the beginning, at this point we have

828
00:37:50,760 --> 00:37:53,560
Speaker 3: reconciled and I have a great relationship with her as well.

829
00:37:53,680 --> 00:37:56,520
Speaker 3: She also tells me she loves and misses me anytime

830
00:37:56,560 --> 00:37:58,799
Speaker 3: we talk on the phone. All this context to say,

831
00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:02,760
Speaker 3: after years of disagreements and trying to make things work.

832
00:38:02,880 --> 00:38:05,200
Speaker 3: My husband has fallen out of love with me. He

833
00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:06,719
Speaker 3: made it clear to me that he felt we were

834
00:38:06,760 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 3: incompatible and that we were no longer the same people

835
00:38:09,719 --> 00:38:12,120
Speaker 3: that had gotten together at fifteen. How could you be?

836
00:38:12,920 --> 00:38:16,480
Speaker 3: No one is I am? I am so far from

837
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Speaker 3: the person I was at fifteen.

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Speaker 1: And it's great, it's good. That is how it should go.

839
00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:24,160
Speaker 1: But just the question is, like, maybe the two people

840
00:38:24,200 --> 00:38:26,680
Speaker 1: at fifteen were good for each other. Yeah, and now

841
00:38:26,800 --> 00:38:28,480
Speaker 1: it seems like again he's saying, like.

842
00:38:28,440 --> 00:38:30,560
Speaker 3: Maybe you needed each other at that point and that

843
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:32,520
Speaker 3: was really helpful in that time of your life.

844
00:38:32,520 --> 00:38:34,640
Speaker 1: But yeah, it goes back to what we were saying

845
00:38:34,680 --> 00:38:37,920
Speaker 1: earlier of like this continuous choice.

846
00:38:37,719 --> 00:38:40,200
Speaker 3: Until it's no longer beneficial.

847
00:38:39,800 --> 00:38:42,799
Speaker 1: For the longer serving each person, And then you know

848
00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:45,240
Speaker 1: it served each other for a while, and that's great,

849
00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:46,520
Speaker 1: but you gotta go separate ways.

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Speaker 3: He expressed the desire for me to work on myself,

851
00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:53,240
Speaker 3: improve my emotional control, become more independent, gain hobbies, et cetera.

852
00:38:53,360 --> 00:38:56,120
Speaker 3: I felt completely broken, but he promised me we would

853
00:38:56,120 --> 00:38:58,440
Speaker 3: stay friends and still be there for each other. The

854
00:38:58,440 --> 00:39:01,319
Speaker 3: breakup was three weeks. He told me he was staying

855
00:39:01,320 --> 00:39:03,080
Speaker 3: with one of his friends until I was able to

856
00:39:03,080 --> 00:39:05,120
Speaker 3: move out. For the first week, not much changed. We

857
00:39:05,120 --> 00:39:07,719
Speaker 3: were still calling each other pet names, saying I love you,

858
00:39:07,760 --> 00:39:10,960
Speaker 3: and being physically affectionate with each other, hugging small kisses.

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Speaker 1: It's gonna be hard to break, yeah, but sometimes you

860
00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:16,200
Speaker 1: need a little like you do, ramp it down, out

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Speaker 1: of it.

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00:39:16,560 --> 00:39:19,319
Speaker 3: Oh, that's yeah true. Throughout the second week, things became

863
00:39:19,400 --> 00:39:22,040
Speaker 3: a little more distant. We talked less over the phone,

864
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Speaker 3: and it was incredibly difficult for me to be on

865
00:39:24,120 --> 00:39:27,000
Speaker 3: my own. However, things were different in person. He still

866
00:39:27,040 --> 00:39:29,239
Speaker 3: acted like he cared for me and still told me

867
00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:32,560
Speaker 3: he loved me, hugged me, apologized for how hard everything

868
00:39:32,600 --> 00:39:35,080
Speaker 3: has been. This Monday, I found out he's been staying

869
00:39:35,080 --> 00:39:37,840
Speaker 3: with another woman rather than one of his friends.

870
00:39:38,040 --> 00:39:40,280
Speaker 1: Is it a woman friend a friend that is a woman.

871
00:39:40,360 --> 00:39:42,560
Speaker 1: That's the question. Is is it a friend that's a

872
00:39:42,560 --> 00:39:43,680
Speaker 1: woman or is it a woman friend?

873
00:39:43,719 --> 00:39:45,960
Speaker 3: I found out because the messages popped up on our

874
00:39:45,960 --> 00:39:48,240
Speaker 3: iPad that we share. I know it was an invasion

875
00:39:48,239 --> 00:39:50,600
Speaker 3: of their privacy, but I couldn't help but read everything

876
00:39:50,680 --> 00:39:53,279
Speaker 3: before I confronted him. There were messages talking about them

877
00:39:53,280 --> 00:39:55,839
Speaker 3: having spicy sleep, messages about how much. They miss each

878
00:39:55,880 --> 00:39:58,479
Speaker 3: other all the time, Pictures of things that I gave

879
00:39:58,600 --> 00:40:01,279
Speaker 3: him that he gave to her. What the most devastating

880
00:40:01,320 --> 00:40:04,440
Speaker 3: part was them saying I love you. This is definitely

881
00:40:04,480 --> 00:40:06,359
Speaker 3: something that was going on before they broke up.

882
00:40:06,600 --> 00:40:08,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, what is this three weeks after three weeks? You

883
00:40:08,960 --> 00:40:11,680
Speaker 1: don't You don't fall in love three weeks.

884
00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:14,040
Speaker 2: After fall in love very quickly.

885
00:40:14,200 --> 00:40:16,600
Speaker 3: Okay, you shouldn't be saying I love you after three

886
00:40:16,640 --> 00:40:18,200
Speaker 3: weeks after you broke up.

887
00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:21,600
Speaker 2: Yeah. No, I'm not defending that. I'm not defending You're wrong.

888
00:40:21,800 --> 00:40:23,839
Speaker 1: And how are they saying they miss each other? They

889
00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:25,759
Speaker 1: haven't even had enough time in the relationships.

890
00:40:26,120 --> 00:40:28,359
Speaker 2: You don't even know each other. Yeah, so they're like

891
00:40:28,480 --> 00:40:31,239
Speaker 2: living they're living together, didn't know each other's middle names yet?

892
00:40:31,400 --> 00:40:32,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, for real.

893
00:40:32,320 --> 00:40:34,919
Speaker 3: When I confronted him, he explained how terribly he felt

894
00:40:34,960 --> 00:40:37,719
Speaker 3: about the way he handled the situation and explained his

895
00:40:37,800 --> 00:40:40,120
Speaker 3: reasons for why he hadn't told me. He swore up

896
00:40:40,160 --> 00:40:41,799
Speaker 3: and down that he broke up with me as soon

897
00:40:41,840 --> 00:40:43,680
Speaker 3: as he started having feelings for her, and that he

898
00:40:43,760 --> 00:40:45,760
Speaker 3: hadn't flirted with her prior whatsoever.

899
00:40:45,920 --> 00:40:47,720
Speaker 1: It's hard to that is hard to believe.

900
00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:50,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, I begged him for explanation on how he got

901
00:40:50,120 --> 00:40:51,839
Speaker 3: all in love with someone if he had only been

902
00:40:51,920 --> 00:40:55,160
Speaker 3: talking to her for two weeks. We haven't even started

903
00:40:55,160 --> 00:40:58,440
Speaker 3: to pursue our divorce yet. We've had several long conversations

904
00:40:58,440 --> 00:41:00,680
Speaker 3: since then, and it hasn't gotten any easier.

905
00:41:00,719 --> 00:41:03,960
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, that's a whole thing. Like they're not

906
00:41:04,000 --> 00:41:05,040
Speaker 1: even divorced yet.

907
00:41:05,160 --> 00:41:08,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, after everything we went through, my love for him

908
00:41:08,160 --> 00:41:10,160
Speaker 3: runs very deep, and to hear that he was already

909
00:41:10,160 --> 00:41:13,000
Speaker 3: in love with somebody else didn't make any sense to me. Now,

910
00:41:13,040 --> 00:41:15,040
Speaker 3: to finally get to my question, he had me go

911
00:41:15,120 --> 00:41:17,320
Speaker 3: to Thanksgiving with them, and we didn't tell his family

912
00:41:17,440 --> 00:41:19,640
Speaker 3: at that point. His birthday is on the ninth, and

913
00:41:19,719 --> 00:41:22,120
Speaker 3: both sets of his grandparents are going to have lunch

914
00:41:22,120 --> 00:41:24,239
Speaker 3: with us to celebrate. His mom is coming to stay

915
00:41:24,239 --> 00:41:26,640
Speaker 3: at the house the sixth through the tenth. How should

916
00:41:26,640 --> 00:41:28,840
Speaker 3: I handle these next few days? Do I have the

917
00:41:28,920 --> 00:41:30,840
Speaker 3: right to tell any of them that he's been staying

918
00:41:30,840 --> 00:41:33,040
Speaker 3: with another woman who he's in love with. I don't

919
00:41:33,040 --> 00:41:35,000
Speaker 3: want to lie for him, especially if he goes over

920
00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:37,240
Speaker 3: to hang out with her while his mom is here,

921
00:41:37,480 --> 00:41:39,279
Speaker 3: And I don't want to lie to you, So I'm

922
00:41:39,280 --> 00:41:41,240
Speaker 3: going to tell you that you should join us live

923
00:41:41,480 --> 00:41:44,640
Speaker 3: every weekday at three PMPSD on YouTube, Facebook, TikTok, and Twitch.

924
00:41:44,920 --> 00:41:47,080
Speaker 1: Just tap our profile. That's the truth, dang true.

925
00:41:47,160 --> 00:41:48,520
Speaker 3: There's a little bit more to the story.

926
00:41:48,520 --> 00:41:49,920
Speaker 1: But what do we think? Do we think? Can we

927
00:41:49,960 --> 00:41:52,960
Speaker 1: do a poll, tell the family or not? I think

928
00:41:53,160 --> 00:41:58,200
Speaker 1: it's not your responsibility to cover it up and lie

929
00:41:58,280 --> 00:42:00,720
Speaker 1: to his family. But I just don't THENK you should

930
00:42:00,719 --> 00:42:04,239
Speaker 1: put yourself in that situation in the first place. Yeah,

931
00:42:04,239 --> 00:42:07,400
Speaker 1: I think I don't think op he should go spend

932
00:42:07,440 --> 00:42:11,359
Speaker 1: time with his family and act like everything's normal when

933
00:42:11,400 --> 00:42:14,080
Speaker 1: it's not, Like, yeah, don't do that to yourself. You

934
00:42:14,080 --> 00:42:15,560
Speaker 1: don't owe anyone anything.

935
00:42:15,680 --> 00:42:18,400
Speaker 3: I agree with that. My only thing is that she

936
00:42:18,560 --> 00:42:21,359
Speaker 3: seems to be have a very close relationship with them,

937
00:42:21,400 --> 00:42:23,799
Speaker 3: having lost her mom and seemingly like she doesn't have

938
00:42:23,840 --> 00:42:26,480
Speaker 3: any family besides them, So I also understand that is

939
00:42:26,560 --> 00:42:28,839
Speaker 3: kind of difficult of the point of like don't go

940
00:42:28,920 --> 00:42:30,880
Speaker 3: visit them, you know, But yeah, I don't think you

941
00:42:30,920 --> 00:42:33,640
Speaker 3: owe them anything. It's really like if they ask you,

942
00:42:33,760 --> 00:42:35,200
Speaker 3: then like, don't live for him.

943
00:42:35,320 --> 00:42:37,879
Speaker 1: And it's also like a conversation you could have with

944
00:42:38,320 --> 00:42:41,239
Speaker 1: you know, your ex and say like, hey, I'm not

945
00:42:41,280 --> 00:42:42,879
Speaker 1: trying to throw you under the bus, but if I'm

946
00:42:42,880 --> 00:42:45,520
Speaker 1: not going to live someone else about something exactly.

947
00:42:45,600 --> 00:42:47,600
Speaker 3: But there is a little bit more to this story.

948
00:42:47,920 --> 00:42:49,920
Speaker 1: Read that crap. He doesn't think.

949
00:42:49,719 --> 00:42:52,560
Speaker 3: It's any of his family's business how the relationship started

950
00:42:52,640 --> 00:42:54,799
Speaker 3: and says that the only reason I would tell them

951
00:42:54,840 --> 00:42:56,759
Speaker 3: is to hurt him. He wants us to simply tell

952
00:42:56,800 --> 00:42:58,759
Speaker 3: them that we had issues that we couldn't resolve. I

953
00:42:58,760 --> 00:43:00,440
Speaker 3: don't want to hurt him, but I I also don't

954
00:43:00,440 --> 00:43:01,799
Speaker 3: want to have to life. I don't feel as though

955
00:43:01,800 --> 00:43:03,360
Speaker 3: I owe him that. I just don't want to be

956
00:43:03,360 --> 00:43:05,760
Speaker 3: the spiteful person he's making me out to be. How

957
00:43:05,920 --> 00:43:09,440
Speaker 3: do I proceed? And there are some comments common. One says,

958
00:43:09,560 --> 00:43:11,239
Speaker 3: you tell the family the truth he doesn't love you

959
00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:14,040
Speaker 3: anymore and is having an affair, rather than then divorcing

960
00:43:14,080 --> 00:43:16,520
Speaker 3: you like a decent man. Should you can share your truth?

961
00:43:16,560 --> 00:43:18,120
Speaker 3: Why do you want to keep the truth hidden? Your

962
00:43:18,200 --> 00:43:20,720
Speaker 3: husband has blamed you for him leaving, and you believe

963
00:43:20,760 --> 00:43:22,759
Speaker 3: him he has an a fair Rather, don't take the

964
00:43:22,760 --> 00:43:25,400
Speaker 3: blame for him being an ale, stand up for yourself.

965
00:43:25,560 --> 00:43:27,880
Speaker 3: You should matter more to you than he should. And

966
00:43:27,920 --> 00:43:30,600
Speaker 3: comment two, do not lie to them? To protect his affair.

967
00:43:30,760 --> 00:43:33,120
Speaker 3: He is trying to protect her. If his family, who

968
00:43:33,160 --> 00:43:35,560
Speaker 3: loves you so much, finds finds out that he cheated

969
00:43:35,600 --> 00:43:37,000
Speaker 3: with her, it's going to be harder for him to

970
00:43:37,040 --> 00:43:40,120
Speaker 3: win them over to her side. It's manipulation on his part.

971
00:43:40,239 --> 00:43:42,920
Speaker 3: Please don't be his dormat and stop with affection and

972
00:43:42,960 --> 00:43:45,680
Speaker 3: pretending like things are fine and comment three. He wants

973
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:47,839
Speaker 3: to hide his affair because he knows his family won't

974
00:43:47,920 --> 00:43:49,759
Speaker 3: like it. It's time for him to grow up and

975
00:43:49,800 --> 00:43:52,719
Speaker 3: take responsibility for his choices. He chose to cheat, and

976
00:43:52,760 --> 00:43:54,560
Speaker 3: he chose to leave for the other woman. Oh, he

977
00:43:54,640 --> 00:43:57,000
Speaker 3: can certainly tell his family what he did. In fact,

978
00:43:57,080 --> 00:43:58,920
Speaker 3: she could tell them ahead of time that he has

979
00:43:58,960 --> 00:44:01,000
Speaker 3: moved out, so she is assumes they will want to

980
00:44:01,040 --> 00:44:04,320
Speaker 3: stay with him and his girlfriend toss him straight into

981
00:44:04,360 --> 00:44:06,640
Speaker 3: the fire. Comment four. I believe they should know, but

982
00:44:06,680 --> 00:44:08,880
Speaker 3: I also believe you don't have to go and celebrate

983
00:44:08,920 --> 00:44:10,319
Speaker 3: with him, which is kind of what you were saying.

984
00:44:10,400 --> 00:44:12,200
Speaker 3: Or are you ready to play happy family for a

985
00:44:12,200 --> 00:44:14,640
Speaker 3: few days for his sake? Also, why are you expected

986
00:44:14,640 --> 00:44:16,560
Speaker 3: to move out of the home? And that is the

987
00:44:16,719 --> 00:44:21,720
Speaker 3: end of that story. I posted on Facebook saying Santa

988
00:44:21,719 --> 00:44:26,480
Speaker 3: Claus wasn't real. My sister's furious. I can't believe I

989
00:44:26,520 --> 00:44:28,840
Speaker 3: even need to post this, but here we go. I

990
00:44:28,920 --> 00:44:32,040
Speaker 3: posted the Ryan Reynolds Deadpool meme where he tells kids

991
00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:35,799
Speaker 3: about Spicy Sleep and says how Santa isn't real. What

992
00:44:36,160 --> 00:44:38,960
Speaker 3: my niece, who just turned thirteen, has a Facebook account

993
00:44:39,000 --> 00:44:41,880
Speaker 3: that is about a week old. I honestly forgot I

994
00:44:41,920 --> 00:44:44,359
Speaker 3: even had her as a friend. By the way, this

995
00:44:44,440 --> 00:44:48,640
Speaker 3: comes from GFJQ twenty three on the Okay Storytime subburdate.

996
00:44:49,040 --> 00:44:52,080
Speaker 3: So my sister called me furious. Apparently she had to

997
00:44:52,120 --> 00:44:54,520
Speaker 3: come clean to both my nieces. The other one is eleven,

998
00:44:55,000 --> 00:44:57,880
Speaker 3: and now they're so upset they couldn't go to school today.

999
00:44:57,960 --> 00:45:01,040
Speaker 3: I thought she had told them years ago about Santa,

1000
00:45:01,280 --> 00:45:04,120
Speaker 3: but I still felt bad and apologized. She says that

1001
00:45:04,160 --> 00:45:06,200
Speaker 3: it's not good enough, and that I need to publicly

1002
00:45:06,239 --> 00:45:09,880
Speaker 3: say how Santa is real and provide proof to my

1003
00:45:09,960 --> 00:45:12,000
Speaker 3: nieces how I believe Santa is real.

1004
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:13,840
Speaker 1: I refuse.

1005
00:45:14,440 --> 00:45:17,240
Speaker 3: I think they are far too old to be believing

1006
00:45:17,280 --> 00:45:21,080
Speaker 3: in Santa. Still, my mother and father sided with my sister,

1007
00:45:21,160 --> 00:45:23,279
Speaker 3: saying I shouldn't ruin my niece's Christmas.

1008
00:45:23,800 --> 00:45:28,440
Speaker 1: It's March bro she wants you to go online and

1009
00:45:28,600 --> 00:45:29,960
Speaker 1: post how Santa.

1010
00:45:29,760 --> 00:45:32,880
Speaker 3: Is real, and she's gonna put oh pie's posting an apology.

1011
00:45:32,960 --> 00:45:37,719
Speaker 3: She's like, it's like a YouTube apology video. I'm sorry.

1012
00:45:37,840 --> 00:45:40,360
Speaker 3: My mother and father sided with my sister, saying I

1013
00:45:40,400 --> 00:45:43,799
Speaker 3: shouldn't ruin my niece's Christmas it's March and take away

1014
00:45:43,840 --> 00:45:47,399
Speaker 3: their childhood prematurely. I feel like I'm in crazy town.

1015
00:45:48,320 --> 00:45:50,680
Speaker 3: I just sent an email saying I'm sorry the incident

1016
00:45:50,760 --> 00:45:53,440
Speaker 3: happened and that my nieces are hurting, but that I'm

1017
00:45:53,440 --> 00:45:55,799
Speaker 3: not going to pretend Santa exists because I feel that

1018
00:45:55,960 --> 00:45:58,719
Speaker 3: is an unreasonable request. My parents have said that they

1019
00:45:58,719 --> 00:46:02,000
Speaker 3: are disappointed with me and my oh and my sister

1020
00:46:02,080 --> 00:46:04,600
Speaker 3: said until I agreed to lie about Sanna that she's

1021
00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:05,880
Speaker 3: going no contact.

1022
00:46:05,920 --> 00:46:07,480
Speaker 1: Oh what am I wrong?

1023
00:46:07,600 --> 00:46:09,879
Speaker 3: That thirteen and eleven is a fine age to stop

1024
00:46:09,880 --> 00:46:12,239
Speaker 3: believing in Santa. I get that they're all upset, but

1025
00:46:12,440 --> 00:46:15,960
Speaker 3: isn't this an inevitable part of growing up? Usually my

1026
00:46:16,000 --> 00:46:18,880
Speaker 3: family is reasonable, so I'm a bit shocked about this all. Honestly,

1027
00:46:19,480 --> 00:46:22,400
Speaker 3: my sister and her family aren't even Christian. Yes, I

1028
00:46:22,440 --> 00:46:24,840
Speaker 3: know Santa isn't a Christian thing, but Christmas is a

1029
00:46:24,920 --> 00:46:27,520
Speaker 3: Christian holiday. We never really made a big deal of

1030
00:46:27,600 --> 00:46:30,520
Speaker 3: Christmas beyond eating good food and opening a few gifts,

1031
00:46:31,040 --> 00:46:33,480
Speaker 3: and there isn't at it. I think your family is

1032
00:46:33,520 --> 00:46:38,160
Speaker 3: being unreasonable. I think that's kind of silly, Like, how

1033
00:46:38,200 --> 00:46:41,279
Speaker 3: are they going to protect their kids from the entire internet?

1034
00:46:41,800 --> 00:46:44,080
Speaker 3: I'm sure there was there were gonna be tons of

1035
00:46:44,120 --> 00:46:47,920
Speaker 3: posts like if they were on it around Christmas, tons

1036
00:46:47,920 --> 00:46:48,680
Speaker 3: of post about it.

1037
00:46:48,800 --> 00:46:51,600
Speaker 1: And again, they let me on the internet, they.

1038
00:46:51,560 --> 00:46:54,000
Speaker 3: Let Alex on the internet, watch out.

1039
00:46:54,640 --> 00:46:56,680
Speaker 1: On the internet. And you're gonna get mad at your

1040
00:46:56,719 --> 00:47:00,839
Speaker 1: sister for yeah, adding to posting a meme. If you

1041
00:47:00,880 --> 00:47:02,960
Speaker 1: want to protect your kids and that's.

1042
00:47:02,800 --> 00:47:04,640
Speaker 3: Your decision, free access to the internet.

1043
00:47:04,960 --> 00:47:07,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, you did a bad job of protecting your kids

1044
00:47:07,560 --> 00:47:09,920
Speaker 1: in the ways that you want to. That's the reason

1045
00:47:09,960 --> 00:47:12,799
Speaker 1: they found out about the post, not because OPI made

1046
00:47:12,800 --> 00:47:14,719
Speaker 1: the post, because you let them on the internet.

1047
00:47:14,880 --> 00:47:17,239
Speaker 3: Yeah. I called my sister out on this whole BS

1048
00:47:17,360 --> 00:47:19,839
Speaker 3: situation and for making up lies to try and.

1049
00:47:19,800 --> 00:47:20,680
Speaker 1: Make me feel bad.

1050
00:47:20,800 --> 00:47:24,160
Speaker 3: Oh, she called my parents crying. So my parents told

1051
00:47:24,160 --> 00:47:26,240
Speaker 3: me their standard line of having me be the bigger

1052
00:47:26,280 --> 00:47:28,400
Speaker 3: person and patch things up. Why has OP got to

1053
00:47:28,400 --> 00:47:29,040
Speaker 3: be the per person?

1054
00:47:29,080 --> 00:47:31,360
Speaker 1: Because that's the standard line. Not this time.

1055
00:47:31,520 --> 00:47:33,680
Speaker 3: I told them to quit sticking their nose into an

1056
00:47:33,719 --> 00:47:36,240
Speaker 3: argument that has nothing to do with them. But honestly,

1057
00:47:36,280 --> 00:47:39,120
Speaker 3: I'm so pissed off they can all f off for

1058
00:47:39,160 --> 00:47:42,839
Speaker 3: a while. I'm not responding to anyone unless I get

1059
00:47:42,880 --> 00:47:45,040
Speaker 3: an apology and edit number two.

1060
00:47:45,280 --> 00:47:47,200
Speaker 1: Crazy tone sister.

1061
00:47:46,960 --> 00:47:49,759
Speaker 3: Says, I can't believe you responded to Nicie after I

1062
00:47:49,880 --> 00:47:51,279
Speaker 3: told you not to talk to her.

1063
00:47:51,440 --> 00:47:52,600
Speaker 1: It's disrespectful to me.

1064
00:47:52,760 --> 00:47:55,000
Speaker 3: Op you mean you're just upset you got caught in

1065
00:47:55,040 --> 00:47:56,360
Speaker 3: a lie, Sister.

1066
00:47:56,680 --> 00:47:59,520
Speaker 1: It wasn't a lie. It was a justified exaggeration to

1067
00:47:59,560 --> 00:48:01,560
Speaker 1: prove what me?

1068
00:48:02,440 --> 00:48:05,759
Speaker 3: What effing point, sister? That your words and actions on

1069
00:48:05,760 --> 00:48:08,760
Speaker 3: Facebook a consequences.

1070
00:48:07,920 --> 00:48:12,120
Speaker 1: And it's it's your responsibility to lay down the consequences. Me.

1071
00:48:12,719 --> 00:48:14,759
Speaker 3: Let me get this straight. You won't let me talk

1072
00:48:14,760 --> 00:48:17,520
Speaker 3: to my nieces because I posted a meme about Santa

1073
00:48:17,640 --> 00:48:20,640
Speaker 3: not existing, even though they don't believe in Santa anymore?

1074
00:48:21,080 --> 00:48:23,560
Speaker 1: Sister, what if they were younger? Me?

1075
00:48:24,120 --> 00:48:27,680
Speaker 3: They aren't? What the f kind of logic is that, Sister?

1076
00:48:28,000 --> 00:48:30,200
Speaker 3: I can't talk to you when you're being unreasonable and

1077
00:48:30,280 --> 00:48:34,040
Speaker 3: refuse to see the point me. Okay, good luck with

1078
00:48:34,080 --> 00:48:37,080
Speaker 3: that when you're ready to apologize, you can send me

1079
00:48:37,239 --> 00:48:39,719
Speaker 3: a message. Sister, What the F do I have to

1080
00:48:39,760 --> 00:48:42,960
Speaker 3: apologize for? Don't even know why you're upset when I'm

1081
00:48:42,960 --> 00:48:44,600
Speaker 3: the only one with the right to be upset.

1082
00:48:44,640 --> 00:48:46,000
Speaker 1: Here me figure it out.

1083
00:48:46,120 --> 00:48:48,799
Speaker 2: Oh that's actually really funny, dude.

1084
00:48:49,400 --> 00:48:52,280
Speaker 1: Is op like normally like this or she like finally

1085
00:48:52,320 --> 00:48:55,200
Speaker 1: taking a scandal taking anyone's crap?

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Speaker 3: No more, I'm freaking done. Edit number three. You know

1087
00:48:59,360 --> 00:49:02,240
Speaker 3: this isn't no normal behavior for my sister. I reached

1088
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Speaker 3: out to my brother in law and he says he's

1089
00:49:04,520 --> 00:49:07,840
Speaker 3: been concerned the past few days. It's been like a

1090
00:49:07,880 --> 00:49:11,160
Speaker 3: switch was flipped and she started acting nuts. He's going

1091
00:49:11,200 --> 00:49:13,040
Speaker 3: to make her an appointment with their doctors.

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Speaker 1: Oh, it might just be stressed.

1093
00:49:14,760 --> 00:49:18,560
Speaker 3: But never hurts to check it out. And some relevant comments.

1094
00:49:18,880 --> 00:49:21,759
Speaker 3: Lonnie Lee three says your sister is having difficulty with

1095
00:49:21,800 --> 00:49:24,800
Speaker 3: her daughters growing up. If the kids really started believing

1096
00:49:24,800 --> 00:49:27,520
Speaker 3: in Santa, then she had been keeping them ignorant slash

1097
00:49:27,560 --> 00:49:30,560
Speaker 3: innocent to a degree that borders on abusive. Do the

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00:49:30,600 --> 00:49:32,680
Speaker 3: girls know the Easter Bunny and the tooth Fairy aren't

1099
00:49:32,719 --> 00:49:35,759
Speaker 3: real either? Your parents are enabling your sister's weirdness. I

1100
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Speaker 3: guess you could post that, yes, Virginia, there is a

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00:49:38,160 --> 00:49:41,919
Speaker 3: Santa Paus letter, but I surely wouldn't do anything more

1102
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Speaker 3: than that. Your sister should be more worried about the

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00:49:44,120 --> 00:49:46,480
Speaker 3: thirteen year old finding a baby in the cabbage patch

1104
00:49:46,800 --> 00:49:49,040
Speaker 3: than leaving milk and cookies for a man in a

1105
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Speaker 3: red suit roast. The weird thing is my sister is

1106
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Speaker 3: a very spicy sleep positive parent. My nieces know all

1107
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Speaker 3: about spicy sleep, birth control and stuff like that.

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Speaker 1: That's why I brought it up.

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00:49:59,000 --> 00:50:02,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, Oh, spicy sleep is okay when they're ready for it.

1110
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Speaker 3: But Santa Claus not being real is a horrible thing. Right,

1111
00:50:05,400 --> 00:50:07,120
Speaker 3: and there is an updates.

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Speaker 1: Okay, before the update, there is for sure something.

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Speaker 3: There's something going on, especially because they said the brother

1114
00:50:15,200 --> 00:50:16,879
Speaker 3: in law even was like, I don't know, I don't know.

1115
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Speaker 1: Something's really weird. Yeah. Yeah, for most things, there's usually

1116
00:50:20,840 --> 00:50:24,680
Speaker 1: something going on. This thing seems like there's something big

1117
00:50:24,719 --> 00:50:27,560
Speaker 1: going on. We don't know it. She's not sharing it,

1118
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Speaker 1: but something's going on in the shadows.

1119
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Speaker 3: To summarize the last post, I posted a Ryan Reynolds

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00:50:33,920 --> 00:50:36,719
Speaker 3: meme about Santa Claus not being real on Facebook, which

1121
00:50:36,719 --> 00:50:38,000
Speaker 3: my thirteen year old niece.

1122
00:50:37,840 --> 00:50:40,360
Speaker 1: Saw how dare you? How dare you?

1123
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Speaker 3: My sister flipped out about it and wanted me to

1124
00:50:42,880 --> 00:50:46,200
Speaker 3: publicly rescind and say how Santa is real. But I

1125
00:50:46,200 --> 00:50:48,040
Speaker 3: thought my nieces were too old to believe in that

1126
00:50:48,080 --> 00:50:52,360
Speaker 3: stuff and refused. It led to a crazy fight between us. Anyway,

1127
00:50:52,600 --> 00:50:55,320
Speaker 3: I talked to my nieces and neither of them believe

1128
00:50:55,320 --> 00:50:57,680
Speaker 3: in Santa, so they were baffled about the fight. I

1129
00:50:57,760 --> 00:51:00,000
Speaker 3: talked to my brother in law and he said, myself

1130
00:51:00,320 --> 00:51:02,680
Speaker 3: has been flying off the handle lately. We agreed she

1131
00:51:02,680 --> 00:51:04,920
Speaker 3: should probably get a check up, and he convinced her

1132
00:51:04,960 --> 00:51:08,239
Speaker 3: to go to the doctor. On to the update. They

1133
00:51:08,239 --> 00:51:11,600
Speaker 3: did an MRI and nothing showed up. Then they did

1134
00:51:11,640 --> 00:51:14,960
Speaker 3: some blood work, which looked fine except some elevated cholesterol.

1135
00:51:15,080 --> 00:51:17,480
Speaker 3: She isn't pregnant. They pretty much wrote her off as

1136
00:51:17,520 --> 00:51:20,600
Speaker 3: a crazy person and sent her to a psychologist for stress.

1137
00:51:21,120 --> 00:51:23,440
Speaker 3: After a session, the psychologist told her to do some

1138
00:51:23,680 --> 00:51:25,920
Speaker 3: deep breathing and sent her away as fixed.

1139
00:51:26,120 --> 00:51:27,680
Speaker 1: I'm annoyed. I'm mad.

1140
00:51:27,840 --> 00:51:31,400
Speaker 3: I'm annoyed because this is freaking doctors not believing that

1141
00:51:31,400 --> 00:51:34,880
Speaker 3: there's something wrong with women and just assuming that it's like, oh,

1142
00:51:34,960 --> 00:51:38,400
Speaker 3: that being crazy and not actually digging deeper the idea.

1143
00:51:38,800 --> 00:51:42,080
Speaker 1: I mean, just therapists that have no idea what it

1144
00:51:42,120 --> 00:51:45,680
Speaker 1: means to support someone emotionally and just say, oh, just

1145
00:51:45,680 --> 00:51:48,840
Speaker 1: give it little, a little tip out. Like my whole

1146
00:51:48,920 --> 00:51:52,760
Speaker 1: childhood was going to therapists because of a severe OCD

1147
00:51:53,120 --> 00:51:55,400
Speaker 1: and them giving me little tips and not knowing how

1148
00:51:55,440 --> 00:51:58,680
Speaker 1: to support someone. Yeah, that needs to learn how to

1149
00:51:58,719 --> 00:52:02,480
Speaker 1: build relationship, a healthy relationship with themselves. Yeah, And so

1150
00:52:02,520 --> 00:52:05,560
Speaker 1: I'm pissed off when therapists do that. And then also,

1151
00:52:05,920 --> 00:52:08,680
Speaker 1: my first thought wouldn't be like something physically is wrong

1152
00:52:08,719 --> 00:52:11,960
Speaker 1: with her. I would say, well, yeah, it's possible. My

1153
00:52:12,040 --> 00:52:15,520
Speaker 1: first thought is usually like some emotional trigger is going off,

1154
00:52:16,280 --> 00:52:20,239
Speaker 1: and I would my thought would be to take her

1155
00:52:20,280 --> 00:52:24,200
Speaker 1: to a therapist to explore whatever emotional dynamics going on.

1156
00:52:24,320 --> 00:52:27,479
Speaker 3: She got worse. She stopped sleeping and barely ate, yet

1157
00:52:27,520 --> 00:52:30,319
Speaker 3: still gain weight. Any small annoyance would send her into

1158
00:52:30,360 --> 00:52:33,080
Speaker 3: a rage. Commercials were making her so upset she would

1159
00:52:33,160 --> 00:52:35,520
Speaker 3: ugly cry. I asked my brother in law if they

1160
00:52:35,560 --> 00:52:38,160
Speaker 3: tested hormone levels or anything like that, and he said

1161
00:52:38,160 --> 00:52:41,399
Speaker 3: the doctors didn't feel it was necessary. I hate these

1162
00:52:41,440 --> 00:52:44,200
Speaker 3: freaking doctors. This comes back, like, I hate this when

1163
00:52:44,239 --> 00:52:47,600
Speaker 3: people don't the doctors don't believe women when they're like, hey,

1164
00:52:47,960 --> 00:52:50,600
Speaker 3: something's going wrong. I don't know what's like why I'm

1165
00:52:50,640 --> 00:52:53,680
Speaker 3: feeling this way, and they're like, oh, it's it's probably

1166
00:52:53,719 --> 00:52:56,719
Speaker 3: your like on your period. She called me one day,

1167
00:52:56,760 --> 00:52:59,759
Speaker 3: crying and apologizing, saying she was the worst sister ever

1168
00:52:59,840 --> 00:53:02,360
Speaker 3: and I had every right to hate her. She was

1169
00:53:02,440 --> 00:53:06,279
Speaker 3: so devastated she ruined our relationship and such it was

1170
00:53:06,719 --> 00:53:09,200
Speaker 3: weird and not my sister. So when I got a

1171
00:53:09,280 --> 00:53:10,920
Speaker 3: chance to speak, I told her she was going to

1172
00:53:10,960 --> 00:53:13,960
Speaker 3: see my doctor, and I wasn't taking no for an answer.

1173
00:53:14,080 --> 00:53:16,359
Speaker 3: I set up an appointment, and my doctor ordered a

1174
00:53:16,400 --> 00:53:20,160
Speaker 3: full blood panel including hormone and vitamins before my sister

1175
00:53:20,280 --> 00:53:23,239
Speaker 3: drove to town for her appointment. When my sister drove up,

1176
00:53:23,320 --> 00:53:26,080
Speaker 3: we spent the morning shopping and she was unpredictable. One

1177
00:53:26,120 --> 00:53:28,520
Speaker 3: minute she was happy and the next yelling about some

1178
00:53:28,600 --> 00:53:32,600
Speaker 3: perceived slight That effing pretentious makeup counter Bee just looked

1179
00:53:32,600 --> 00:53:35,360
Speaker 3: at me funny for my cheap store makeup. Was uncomfortable,

1180
00:53:35,400 --> 00:53:38,560
Speaker 3: so I just walked on eggshells to keep her from exploding. Anyway,

1181
00:53:38,760 --> 00:53:41,960
Speaker 3: results of the blood work and a good doctor paramenopause,

1182
00:53:43,200 --> 00:53:45,320
Speaker 3: and then you have it. She just needed a freaking

1183
00:53:45,360 --> 00:53:48,200
Speaker 3: good doctor to actually give her a diagnosis instead of

1184
00:53:48,239 --> 00:53:51,520
Speaker 3: saying that she was romonal. Her hormones are completely abnormal.

1185
00:53:51,960 --> 00:53:54,080
Speaker 3: None of her doctors would even consider it because she

1186
00:53:54,200 --> 00:53:57,200
Speaker 3: was too young for menopause, so they didn't even bother

1187
00:53:57,360 --> 00:53:58,160
Speaker 3: running the tests.

1188
00:53:58,360 --> 00:53:59,840
Speaker 1: Uh so frustrated.

1189
00:54:00,080 --> 00:54:04,200
Speaker 3: Ah, She'll be coming up with a care plan with

1190
00:54:04,239 --> 00:54:07,200
Speaker 3: my doctor for hormone replacement therapy and diet change to

1191
00:54:07,239 --> 00:54:10,920
Speaker 3: hopefully get back on track. She's still a nutcase right now.

1192
00:54:11,000 --> 00:54:13,520
Speaker 3: For example, she'll call me crying the other night because

1193
00:54:13,560 --> 00:54:17,160
Speaker 3: she will never have more kids what her husband had

1194
00:54:17,160 --> 00:54:19,520
Speaker 3: of the second meet years ago. I'm driving to her

1195
00:54:19,560 --> 00:54:21,719
Speaker 3: place next weekend and we're going to batch cook a

1196
00:54:21,719 --> 00:54:24,279
Speaker 3: bunch of meals for her new diet plan. I'll be

1197
00:54:24,280 --> 00:54:26,440
Speaker 3: doing it with her as I could stand to eat healthier,

1198
00:54:26,640 --> 00:54:28,960
Speaker 3: so it'll be a slow process, but we have a

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Speaker 3: diagnosis and a plan. I'm taking her appers as crazy

1200
00:54:33,480 --> 00:54:36,719
Speaker 3: hormones right now because it'll take a while to even out,

1201
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Speaker 3: but you know it doesn't take a while. Joining us

1202
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Speaker 3: live every weekday three PMPSD on YouTube, Facebook, and TikTok.

1203
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Speaker 3: We're probably live right now, go check it out.

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Speaker 1: Probably I'm live.

1205
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Speaker 3: I got her a dark chocolate cake for Easter that said,

1206
00:54:48,640 --> 00:54:51,000
Speaker 3: happy reverse Easter when the Easter Buddy.

1207
00:54:50,719 --> 00:54:51,840
Speaker 1: Takes back your eggs.

1208
00:54:53,000 --> 00:54:57,200
Speaker 3: That's so funny because I'm kind of a She thought

1209
00:54:57,239 --> 00:55:00,560
Speaker 3: I'm hilarious though, so we're good, and edit moved the

1210
00:55:00,600 --> 00:55:03,359
Speaker 3: comment about being bipolar, though my sister in law has

1211
00:55:03,400 --> 00:55:07,160
Speaker 3: professionally diagnosed by polarism and does have wildly swinging moods

1212
00:55:07,200 --> 00:55:10,359
Speaker 3: within minutes sometimes, though usually a manic high or low

1213
00:55:10,440 --> 00:55:13,319
Speaker 3: last week's. It wasn't my intention to slur a group

1214
00:55:13,360 --> 00:55:15,759
Speaker 3: of people. My sister was acting very much like my

1215
00:55:15,800 --> 00:55:17,880
Speaker 3: sister in law can act sometimes, so it was the

1216
00:55:17,920 --> 00:55:20,840
Speaker 3: best reference I could make. I apologize for fending anyone.

1217
00:55:20,880 --> 00:55:22,800
Speaker 3: This is the best thing ever. So glad you figured

1218
00:55:22,800 --> 00:55:24,919
Speaker 3: it out. Good for you for realizing she was totally

1219
00:55:24,960 --> 00:55:27,200
Speaker 3: out of whack and helping her get back on track.

1220
00:55:27,480 --> 00:55:28,960
Speaker 3: Good luck. I mean, yeah, if you had listened to

1221
00:55:29,000 --> 00:55:31,480
Speaker 3: your parents, she would have gone on being not well.

1222
00:55:31,800 --> 00:55:34,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, and not kind of support and helpe she needed, Opie.

1223
00:55:34,640 --> 00:55:37,759
Speaker 3: Says, well, like I said, it wasn't abnormal for teenage sister.

1224
00:55:37,960 --> 00:55:40,600
Speaker 3: She was a huge drama queen back then it was

1225
00:55:40,680 --> 00:55:43,640
Speaker 3: abnormal for thirty six year old sister. I guess she's

1226
00:55:43,680 --> 00:55:45,640
Speaker 3: sensitive to hormone fluctuations.

1227
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Speaker 1: That is the end of that story, Sam here og host.

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Speaker 1: We're going to get back to these stories. But here's

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Speaker 1: three minutes fads from our sponsors. First, my brothers stall

1230
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Speaker 1: our robot mop, so we changed the locks on him.

1231
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Speaker 1: My brother, Chris, twenty seven year old male fake name,

1232
00:56:04,600 --> 00:56:07,920
Speaker 1: moved in with my boyfriend twenty eight year old male,

1233
00:56:08,320 --> 00:56:10,719
Speaker 1: and I, twenty six year old females seven years ago.

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Speaker 1: We took pity on him after he was kicked out

1235
00:56:12,680 --> 00:56:16,120
Speaker 1: of my childhood home for substance use and was sleeping

1236
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Speaker 1: in his car. By the way, this comes from you,

1237
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Speaker 1: Dwight troop beats on the roka start, so the storytime

1238
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Speaker 1: subread it. So at first Chris and my boyfriend got

1239
00:56:25,640 --> 00:56:28,839
Speaker 1: along great. After a few years of living together, Chris

1240
00:56:28,880 --> 00:56:32,879
Speaker 1: became more reclusive and distant from us. Both chores were

1241
00:56:32,920 --> 00:56:34,960
Speaker 1: not being done around the house, and I was getting

1242
00:56:34,960 --> 00:56:37,719
Speaker 1: sick of cleaning up after him and his negative attitude.

1243
00:56:38,040 --> 00:56:39,920
Speaker 1: Six months prior to the end of our lease, I

1244
00:56:39,960 --> 00:56:43,319
Speaker 1: told Chris that he had defined another living situation. He

1245
00:56:43,360 --> 00:56:45,560
Speaker 1: did finally move out a few weeks prior to the

1246
00:56:45,680 --> 00:56:47,760
Speaker 1: end of our lease, and I thought we all agreed

1247
00:56:47,760 --> 00:56:51,080
Speaker 1: about splitting up shared appliances and valuables. One thing we

1248
00:56:51,120 --> 00:56:54,520
Speaker 1: did not discuss was our shared robot mopping device. One

1249
00:56:54,520 --> 00:56:56,800
Speaker 1: thing we did not discuss was our shared robot mope

1250
00:56:56,840 --> 00:56:59,880
Speaker 1: mopping device. We acquired this one day at my grandmother's

1251
00:57:00,280 --> 00:57:03,120
Speaker 1: a few years ago. She was moving and offered it

1252
00:57:03,160 --> 00:57:04,920
Speaker 1: to all three of us as she would not be

1253
00:57:05,080 --> 00:57:08,319
Speaker 1: using it, so we brought that little robot home. This

1254
00:57:08,480 --> 00:57:11,640
Speaker 1: ling is nothing fancy, just a small device you feel

1255
00:57:11,680 --> 00:57:15,320
Speaker 1: with cleaning solution and attached disposable mop pads. Let me

1256
00:57:15,360 --> 00:57:18,400
Speaker 1: be clear, in the four years we've had this thing,

1257
00:57:18,760 --> 00:57:23,920
Speaker 1: Chris has not once paid for any replacement mopping pads.

1258
00:57:23,960 --> 00:57:27,520
Speaker 1: Never had ever turned the thing on. It was always

1259
00:57:27,600 --> 00:57:30,680
Speaker 1: boyfriend or I splitting the costs of pads and setting

1260
00:57:30,680 --> 00:57:33,280
Speaker 1: this thing up to run nightly so we'd all wake

1261
00:57:33,360 --> 00:57:37,320
Speaker 1: up to clean floors downstairs. Chris hasn't to return his

1262
00:57:37,440 --> 00:57:40,439
Speaker 1: key because he's still slowly moving out. It's been over

1263
00:57:40,480 --> 00:57:43,800
Speaker 1: a month now. He always showed up unannounced to our

1264
00:57:43,840 --> 00:57:47,560
Speaker 1: home to gather boxes and his belongings. Sometimes he wouldn't

1265
00:57:47,560 --> 00:57:49,520
Speaker 1: even realize he was there while we had been out.

1266
00:57:49,680 --> 00:57:53,080
Speaker 1: Last night boyfriend was looking for our little shit. That's

1267
00:57:53,080 --> 00:57:56,760
Speaker 1: why it's been taking so long. He's a beef. Last

1268
00:57:56,840 --> 00:57:59,040
Speaker 1: night boyfriend was looking for our little robot friend as

1269
00:57:59,040 --> 00:58:01,960
Speaker 1: we had just got to new had deliver delivered for it.

1270
00:58:02,000 --> 00:58:04,640
Speaker 1: Turns out, after going crazy looking for his thing. In

1271
00:58:04,680 --> 00:58:08,080
Speaker 1: texting Chris, he did take it, claiming, yeah, this was

1272
00:58:08,120 --> 00:58:10,920
Speaker 1: the last straw. We had been so accommodating to this

1273
00:58:11,000 --> 00:58:13,360
Speaker 1: man for years. I just can't believe Chris had the

1274
00:58:13,400 --> 00:58:18,320
Speaker 1: addacity to take our beloved robot clinging friend without a word.

1275
00:58:18,400 --> 00:58:21,880
Speaker 1: That's a kidnapping right there. Yeah. I have let Chris

1276
00:58:22,000 --> 00:58:24,920
Speaker 1: know that we are no longer comfortable with him coming

1277
00:58:24,960 --> 00:58:27,160
Speaker 1: by unannounced, and if he needs anything, we will look

1278
00:58:27,200 --> 00:58:29,400
Speaker 1: for it ourselves. I also said he could return his

1279
00:58:29,480 --> 00:58:31,400
Speaker 1: keys to the office and we will pick it up.

1280
00:58:31,960 --> 00:58:35,840
Speaker 1: His response, it's about to get dirty. It's about to

1281
00:58:35,880 --> 00:58:36,640
Speaker 1: get real.

1282
00:58:37,120 --> 00:58:38,040
Speaker 2: The mop's not here.

1283
00:58:38,440 --> 00:58:41,800
Speaker 1: Stop being weird. I don't want any of your trash crap.

1284
00:58:42,080 --> 00:58:46,040
Speaker 1: Already had all of my useful grow equipment stolen. Anyways,

1285
00:58:46,120 --> 00:58:50,240
Speaker 1: stop texting me before you make me mad. The grol

1286
00:58:50,360 --> 00:58:54,959
Speaker 1: stuff referred to here is indoor Greenhouse and Hydroponics, which

1287
00:58:55,040 --> 00:58:58,760
Speaker 1: was verbally agreed for an even split of material since

1288
00:58:58,800 --> 00:59:02,720
Speaker 1: both Chris and boyfriend acquired the equipment together, so he

1289
00:59:02,760 --> 00:59:07,280
Speaker 1: already supposedly he already that Yeah, we split weird. So

1290
00:59:07,520 --> 00:59:09,960
Speaker 1: Boyfriend ordered a camera that will be here tomorrow. I've

1291
00:59:09,960 --> 00:59:12,120
Speaker 1: contacted the leasing office to make them aware of the

1292
00:59:12,120 --> 00:59:15,120
Speaker 1: animosity between us and requested the locks to be changed.

1293
00:59:15,680 --> 00:59:18,080
Speaker 1: I just want to know. Am I going too far?

1294
00:59:18,560 --> 00:59:21,400
Speaker 1: This robot is not at all expensive, but it's more

1295
00:59:21,400 --> 00:59:24,640
Speaker 1: about the principle to me, I feel disrespected. We all

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00:59:24,680 --> 00:59:26,920
Speaker 1: have to see each other next week for Thanksgiving, and

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00:59:27,040 --> 00:59:31,480
Speaker 1: I know it will be awkward. Some of Op's comments commenter,

1298
00:59:32,240 --> 00:59:36,040
Speaker 1: not the a hole, Your freeloading brother took the final

1299
00:59:36,160 --> 00:59:39,640
Speaker 1: step over the line. WHOA came in hot Ope. I

1300
00:59:39,680 --> 00:59:41,880
Speaker 1: appreciate your reply, thanks for taking them down to read.

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00:59:42,320 --> 00:59:44,960
Speaker 1: I agree he's a free loader and an arrogant one

1302
00:59:45,080 --> 00:59:48,680
Speaker 1: at the living situation. He's officially moved out more than

1303
00:59:48,720 --> 00:59:52,000
Speaker 1: a month ago now and has his own new residence. Also,

1304
00:59:52,160 --> 00:59:54,919
Speaker 1: we have only been staying at this townhouse for one

1305
00:59:55,000 --> 00:59:57,440
Speaker 1: year and a month. We had all moved out together

1306
00:59:57,480 --> 01:00:01,760
Speaker 1: from our previous living situation. The robo We absolutely loved

1307
01:00:01,800 --> 01:00:05,280
Speaker 1: this robot. One of my boyfriend and my favorite pastime

1308
01:00:05,440 --> 01:00:08,680
Speaker 1: was to get stoned and watch this little guy go

1309
01:00:08,800 --> 01:00:11,800
Speaker 1: back and forth cleaning our floors. So there is an

1310
01:00:11,840 --> 01:00:15,200
Speaker 1: emotional behind there is. I almost feel like this was

1311
01:00:15,240 --> 01:00:19,720
Speaker 1: intentionally taken from us to prevent enjoyment and as an

1312
01:00:19,760 --> 01:00:25,680
Speaker 1: intentional inconvenience. Commenter, you took in a substance, user, What

1313
01:00:25,800 --> 01:00:30,400
Speaker 1: did you expect? Oop? I thought I had almost lost

1314
01:00:30,520 --> 01:00:33,640
Speaker 1: my brother, though that had probably clouded my judgment. It

1315
01:00:33,680 --> 01:00:38,280
Speaker 1: was an unintentional overuse from a laced substance. Was supposed

1316
01:00:38,320 --> 01:00:41,320
Speaker 1: to just be psilocybin. That's what I was told. Did

1317
01:00:41,360 --> 01:00:44,520
Speaker 1: he tell you? Hey told me the story being kicked out,

1318
01:00:44,560 --> 01:00:47,680
Speaker 1: but it was corroborated by my mom and siblings. It

1319
01:00:47,720 --> 01:00:50,880
Speaker 1: does seem like he didn't realize what the substance actually was.

1320
01:00:51,240 --> 01:00:54,080
Speaker 1: But I guess I'll play stupid games. But I guess

1321
01:00:54,160 --> 01:00:58,280
Speaker 1: play stupid games, win stupid prizes fits commenter. Has he

1322
01:00:58,320 --> 01:01:01,000
Speaker 1: ever taken any responsibility for what got him kicked out?

1323
01:01:01,520 --> 01:01:03,640
Speaker 1: Or was it never his fault? What kind of housemate

1324
01:01:03,760 --> 01:01:06,880
Speaker 1: was he? Boyfriend was very patient because that's a lot

1325
01:01:06,880 --> 01:01:09,400
Speaker 1: of drama no one needs. Have you apologized the boyfriend

1326
01:01:09,440 --> 01:01:13,120
Speaker 1: for disrespecting his home. Ope. The main reason we wanted

1327
01:01:13,200 --> 01:01:16,160
Speaker 1: him to move out was space for boyfriend and I

1328
01:01:16,200 --> 01:01:19,120
Speaker 1: as a couple. We're planning an engagement soon. We want

1329
01:01:19,160 --> 01:01:21,760
Speaker 1: to move on with our lives. It was quite weird

1330
01:01:21,760 --> 01:01:24,360
Speaker 1: to live with, especially towards the end. Did it clean

1331
01:01:24,440 --> 01:01:27,400
Speaker 1: up the mess on the stove or coffee area after himself?

1332
01:01:27,640 --> 01:01:29,800
Speaker 1: I don't think he took out the trash once and

1333
01:01:29,880 --> 01:01:34,280
Speaker 1: I had to ask, So there was some communication around, lie,

1334
01:01:34,320 --> 01:01:35,959
Speaker 1: we need you to do something, and he still wasn't

1335
01:01:35,960 --> 01:01:38,760
Speaker 1: doing it. I've apologized to my boyfriend for letting this

1336
01:01:38,880 --> 01:01:41,120
Speaker 1: go on for so long, but I should really put

1337
01:01:41,120 --> 01:01:44,320
Speaker 1: a note on something together for him. Thanks. Also, it

1338
01:01:44,840 --> 01:01:48,600
Speaker 1: was a mutual decision. Hm, I see what you actually

1339
01:01:48,640 --> 01:01:51,000
Speaker 1: mean by getting kicked out. And yes, he fully admitted

1340
01:01:51,000 --> 01:01:53,400
Speaker 1: that he was at fault for the substances. As far

1341
01:01:53,440 --> 01:01:56,880
Speaker 1: as I know, he doesn't do hard substances, only legal

1342
01:01:57,200 --> 01:02:01,040
Speaker 1: Mary Jay and psychedelics. Your brother in a hall who

1343
01:02:01,040 --> 01:02:05,240
Speaker 1: seems to have some entitlement and anger management issues. I

1344
01:02:05,320 --> 01:02:08,400
Speaker 1: go no contact with him asap. Oh Op. We were

1345
01:02:08,480 --> 01:02:12,800
Speaker 1: low contact as it was a while living together. We

1346
01:02:12,920 --> 01:02:16,160
Speaker 1: hardly spoke at all and he would walk in and

1347
01:02:16,200 --> 01:02:19,800
Speaker 1: ignore us, no hello or goodbye commentary. Please tell me

1348
01:02:19,880 --> 01:02:23,280
Speaker 1: you charged him some sort of rent? Oh op? Oh yes.

1349
01:02:23,520 --> 01:02:26,040
Speaker 1: Originally we all stayed in boyfriends childhood home and we

1350
01:02:26,080 --> 01:02:29,560
Speaker 1: didn't have rent, so he didn't either. But we when

1351
01:02:29,560 --> 01:02:32,840
Speaker 1: we all moved on to rented spaces, he did contribute

1352
01:02:32,880 --> 01:02:36,680
Speaker 1: one third. What does he want with the robot anyways?

1353
01:02:37,360 --> 01:02:39,920
Speaker 1: He only wants the mopping robot now that he has

1354
01:02:40,000 --> 01:02:43,240
Speaker 1: hardwood floors now, But we've always lived in a house

1355
01:02:43,240 --> 01:02:45,280
Speaker 1: where this robot was useful. He just didn't want to

1356
01:02:45,320 --> 01:02:48,320
Speaker 1: contribute to our shared space. He also had the audacity

1357
01:02:48,440 --> 01:02:51,400
Speaker 1: to say his contributions to cleaning the robe the floor

1358
01:02:51,680 --> 01:02:54,360
Speaker 1: was the robot itself that was given to us and

1359
01:02:54,400 --> 01:02:57,160
Speaker 1: we did not pay for He did not pay for it. Update.

1360
01:02:58,040 --> 01:02:59,720
Speaker 1: I decided to reach out to my brother and ask

1361
01:02:59,800 --> 01:03:02,440
Speaker 1: him nicely to bring our robot to Thanksgiving so we

1362
01:03:02,440 --> 01:03:06,040
Speaker 1: could bring him back home. Here's the messages so far. Me.

1363
01:03:06,240 --> 01:03:08,680
Speaker 1: I've got some time to think about this and got

1364
01:03:08,680 --> 01:03:12,560
Speaker 1: to some different perspectives. I don't believe the robot belongs

1365
01:03:12,600 --> 01:03:15,439
Speaker 1: to you. I really appreciate it if you could bring

1366
01:03:15,480 --> 01:03:18,480
Speaker 1: it with you to Thanksgiving so we could bring it

1367
01:03:18,680 --> 01:03:21,920
Speaker 1: back home. I feel as though we've been very accommodating

1368
01:03:22,000 --> 01:03:23,760
Speaker 1: to you over the years you've lived with us, and

1369
01:03:23,840 --> 01:03:27,160
Speaker 1: taking a shared applying to that any discussion is not

1370
01:03:27,360 --> 01:03:32,040
Speaker 1: only disrespectful but shows your lack of consideration for us.

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01:03:32,200 --> 01:03:34,800
Speaker 1: So we'd like our robot back, since really he is

1372
01:03:34,960 --> 01:03:38,480
Speaker 1: ours after years of using and up keeping without any

1373
01:03:38,760 --> 01:03:42,080
Speaker 1: help from you. Chris, I've gotten some time to think

1374
01:03:42,120 --> 01:03:46,080
Speaker 1: about and I want the I want the TV from

1375
01:03:46,120 --> 01:03:49,000
Speaker 1: Grandma's as well, So go ahead and bring it over

1376
01:03:49,080 --> 01:03:50,000
Speaker 1: when you get a chance.

1377
01:03:50,040 --> 01:03:53,000
Speaker 3: This is a ransom, I don't think so.

1378
01:03:53,600 --> 01:03:55,360
Speaker 1: I think he's just like I think it's more like

1379
01:03:55,360 --> 01:03:57,640
Speaker 1: a costant situation. I think it's more like an fu

1380
01:03:57,800 --> 01:03:59,960
Speaker 1: give me the TV and I'm gonna keep the robot.

1381
01:04:00,200 --> 01:04:00,560
Speaker 1: That's how I.

1382
01:04:00,680 --> 01:04:01,880
Speaker 3: Oh, he's not even gonna get it back.

1383
01:04:02,000 --> 01:04:06,800
Speaker 1: What do you think, Kian, Oh, it's not as robot.

1384
01:04:07,000 --> 01:04:08,680
Speaker 2: I mean he's like, no, no, no.

1385
01:04:08,680 --> 01:04:10,160
Speaker 1: What do you think means bad? Oh?

1386
01:04:10,200 --> 01:04:10,280
Speaker 3: Oh?

1387
01:04:10,480 --> 01:04:13,520
Speaker 2: Oh, yeah, it's a hostage situation. You think he's saying, yeah,

1388
01:04:13,840 --> 01:04:16,000
Speaker 2: give me the ransom money, give me the ransom for

1389
01:04:16,040 --> 01:04:19,080
Speaker 2: Grandma's TV, and no one gets hurt.

1390
01:04:19,280 --> 01:04:23,560
Speaker 1: Op responded in text. TV was also given to us specifically.

1391
01:04:23,760 --> 01:04:26,240
Speaker 1: I'm not sure why you think that's yours as well,

1392
01:04:26,400 --> 01:04:30,480
Speaker 1: question mark, Chris, everything was given to you, apparently. She

1393
01:04:30,640 --> 01:04:32,720
Speaker 1: asked me if I wanted the robot while I was

1394
01:04:32,720 --> 01:04:35,320
Speaker 1: in the kitchen, and I said, yes, that's how it went,

1395
01:04:35,600 --> 01:04:38,200
Speaker 1: end of story. I don't give two craps what you

1396
01:04:38,240 --> 01:04:40,840
Speaker 1: think is yours or not. If I let you borrow

1397
01:04:40,880 --> 01:04:46,440
Speaker 1: something because I'm not using it, it doesn't make it yours. Okay.

1398
01:04:46,520 --> 01:04:49,200
Speaker 1: So so brothers come in with a new story. Here

1399
01:04:49,360 --> 01:04:52,280
Speaker 1: he got he's got new facts, new facts, but we

1400
01:04:52,320 --> 01:04:56,040
Speaker 1: don't know if they're facts, says as I remember it.

1401
01:04:56,120 --> 01:04:58,840
Speaker 1: We were all there at the time she offered, and

1402
01:04:58,920 --> 01:05:02,400
Speaker 1: I even tried to dec since it's still useful, but

1403
01:05:02,560 --> 01:05:04,720
Speaker 1: she insisted it was given to all of us as

1404
01:05:04,760 --> 01:05:07,040
Speaker 1: a shared household. If you think it was yours, you

1405
01:05:07,120 --> 01:05:10,320
Speaker 1: should have had discussions with us first before taking it

1406
01:05:10,400 --> 01:05:14,400
Speaker 1: while we were out. Chris, you remember wrong, and I

1407
01:05:14,480 --> 01:05:17,320
Speaker 1: don't need to have a discussion about my own things.

1408
01:05:17,920 --> 01:05:21,720
Speaker 1: Not to mention boyfriend moving shady taking crap out of

1409
01:05:21,720 --> 01:05:24,600
Speaker 1: the tent while I was gone, thinking I wouldn't notice. Lol,

1410
01:05:24,720 --> 01:05:27,640
Speaker 1: How is that any different? I didn't bring it up

1411
01:05:27,640 --> 01:05:29,960
Speaker 1: because I'm a bigger person. I don't really care anymore.

1412
01:05:30,160 --> 01:05:32,400
Speaker 1: I want to put this terrible part of my life

1413
01:05:32,520 --> 01:05:35,800
Speaker 1: behind me, and if you don't leave it be, I'm

1414
01:05:35,800 --> 01:05:40,880
Speaker 1: going to leave you behind as well. Escalating it the

1415
01:05:40,920 --> 01:05:44,840
Speaker 1: most important thing. The robot question we have, question I

1416
01:05:44,880 --> 01:05:49,200
Speaker 1: have is he just escalating out of the blue and

1417
01:05:49,240 --> 01:05:54,120
Speaker 1: this is like totally ridiculous? Or is there some things

1418
01:05:54,160 --> 01:05:57,880
Speaker 1: we don't know about op mistreating the brother?

1419
01:05:58,120 --> 01:06:00,800
Speaker 3: Mmmmm, there's always two sad the story.

1420
01:06:00,720 --> 01:06:03,400
Speaker 1: Always two sides. We don't know the other side of

1421
01:06:03,400 --> 01:06:05,560
Speaker 1: this story. He said, this was I want to leave

1422
01:06:05,600 --> 01:06:08,920
Speaker 1: this terrible part of my life behind Why is it terrible?

1423
01:06:09,360 --> 01:06:12,440
Speaker 1: Is he making it up? Or maybe he was mistreated?

1424
01:06:12,520 --> 01:06:15,200
Speaker 1: Maybe we don't know me. You and boyfriend had a

1425
01:06:15,200 --> 01:06:18,080
Speaker 1: discussion about splitting up the gross stuff, which he thought

1426
01:06:18,120 --> 01:06:21,280
Speaker 1: went amicably. You aren't very being very mature, and I

1427
01:06:21,320 --> 01:06:24,200
Speaker 1: don't want someone that can can't have a simple conversation

1428
01:06:24,280 --> 01:06:28,320
Speaker 1: about shared items in my life anyways. Woo, So I

1429
01:06:28,360 --> 01:06:30,600
Speaker 1: guess that's it looks like we will not be getting

1430
01:06:30,600 --> 01:06:33,120
Speaker 1: our little friend back. You're gonna be okay?

1431
01:06:33,200 --> 01:06:33,280
Speaker 3: No.

1432
01:06:35,000 --> 01:06:37,360
Speaker 1: Thank you all for your support and interacting with this post.

1433
01:06:37,400 --> 01:06:39,520
Speaker 1: This was my second post ever and to see it blow.

1434
01:06:39,520 --> 01:06:42,720
Speaker 1: It was a crazy feeling. No, you're telling me we

1435
01:06:42,840 --> 01:06:45,040
Speaker 1: went through that whole story. You don't even get your

1436
01:06:45,160 --> 01:06:51,560
Speaker 1: child back two hours later, actually after the convo boyfriend

1437
01:06:51,720 --> 01:06:53,720
Speaker 1: just had with him. We might be seeing our friend

1438
01:06:53,720 --> 01:06:57,520
Speaker 1: again soon. Look out next Thursday for an update Update

1439
01:06:57,560 --> 01:07:00,720
Speaker 1: number two boo hello again. I just wanted to start

1440
01:07:00,760 --> 01:07:03,040
Speaker 1: by saying thank you for all your judgments on my

1441
01:07:03,120 --> 01:07:06,280
Speaker 1: last post. I read every comment and gave each perspective

1442
01:07:06,360 --> 01:07:10,000
Speaker 1: some thoughts. Ultimately, you guys helped me gain the confidence

1443
01:07:10,040 --> 01:07:14,280
Speaker 1: to stand up for myself and ask for our robot back.

1444
01:07:14,440 --> 01:07:17,760
Speaker 1: But I included my text conversation with my brother Chris

1445
01:07:17,800 --> 01:07:20,280
Speaker 1: in the comments to my last post to summarize. I

1446
01:07:20,320 --> 01:07:23,680
Speaker 1: asked as politely as I could for our mopping robot back,

1447
01:07:23,800 --> 01:07:26,600
Speaker 1: as well as stated the reasons why it belonged to us.

1448
01:07:26,800 --> 01:07:29,160
Speaker 1: Chris refused to see reason and pretty much said he

1449
01:07:29,200 --> 01:07:30,920
Speaker 1: would be cutting me out of his life if I

1450
01:07:31,000 --> 01:07:34,520
Speaker 1: keep bringing this up. My wonderful boyfriend couldn't sit back

1451
01:07:34,520 --> 01:07:37,600
Speaker 1: and let him be disrespectful to us anymore. He had

1452
01:07:37,600 --> 01:07:40,400
Speaker 1: his own conversation with Chris, which for privacy reasons cannot

1453
01:07:40,400 --> 01:07:43,400
Speaker 1: be shared. Dang was this through text over.

1454
01:07:43,240 --> 01:07:44,640
Speaker 3: These in combat.

1455
01:07:44,640 --> 01:07:47,080
Speaker 1: I think it was over text. Boyfriend ended up taking

1456
01:07:47,120 --> 01:07:49,880
Speaker 1: some of your guys' device and threatened. Boyfriend ended up

1457
01:07:49,880 --> 01:07:52,440
Speaker 1: taking some of your guys' advice and threatened to reveal

1458
01:07:52,520 --> 01:07:56,040
Speaker 1: specific information to our family if our robot was not

1459
01:07:56,080 --> 01:07:59,280
Speaker 1: returned on Thanksgiving. This was last Thursday, so I had

1460
01:07:59,360 --> 01:08:02,520
Speaker 1: one week to make a decision. After a quiet week,

1461
01:08:02,560 --> 01:08:05,880
Speaker 1: I was preparing myself to drop a gosh darn bomb

1462
01:08:05,920 --> 01:08:08,200
Speaker 1: on family dinner. But then I went out to start

1463
01:08:08,240 --> 01:08:10,720
Speaker 1: warming up my car Wednesday night and there was a

1464
01:08:10,760 --> 01:08:15,520
Speaker 1: bush my front. Oh my god. I didn't order anything,

1465
01:08:15,560 --> 01:08:18,839
Speaker 1: and as I picked up the bucks noticed it wasn't sealed.

1466
01:08:19,160 --> 01:08:22,160
Speaker 1: Oh and if you want to seal your lips and

1467
01:08:22,200 --> 01:08:25,960
Speaker 1: not share award, join us live on YouTube and Facebook

1468
01:08:26,000 --> 01:08:29,960
Speaker 1: every weekday at three. We're probably live right now.

1469
01:08:30,040 --> 01:08:33,840
Speaker 2: Chat threats. Did you just threaten everyone?

1470
01:08:34,600 --> 01:08:37,920
Speaker 1: I guess Chris decided that a mopping robot was not

1471
01:08:38,080 --> 01:08:41,160
Speaker 1: worth ruining his reputation with our family. He will not

1472
01:08:41,200 --> 01:08:43,880
Speaker 1: be bothering us anymore, and we will be low slash

1473
01:08:43,960 --> 01:08:47,960
Speaker 1: no contact from now on. Dang you like, are you

1474
01:08:48,080 --> 01:08:48,680
Speaker 1: happy with that?

1475
01:08:49,320 --> 01:08:51,719
Speaker 3: I mean, it sounds like she's Honestly, I can't imagine

1476
01:08:51,760 --> 01:08:54,280
Speaker 3: the relationship was that strong before this, you know, like.

1477
01:08:54,200 --> 01:08:56,920
Speaker 1: This, it sposed to have been just like a like

1478
01:08:57,040 --> 01:09:01,639
Speaker 1: just a final yeah situation. Positive from all this drama,

1479
01:09:02,120 --> 01:09:05,639
Speaker 1: boyfriend and I are utilizing our new home monitoring cameras

1480
01:09:05,680 --> 01:09:09,160
Speaker 1: to watch our pets, our dogs and cats activities while

1481
01:09:09,160 --> 01:09:12,200
Speaker 1: home alone are so entertaining. It brought us a lot

1482
01:09:12,200 --> 01:09:15,200
Speaker 1: of joy to check in on them. Family photo will

1483
01:09:15,240 --> 01:09:18,240
Speaker 1: be posted in comments of pets and robot. Image description

1484
01:09:18,640 --> 01:09:23,840
Speaker 1: Opie's tupups the cat and the robot. Now it's done.

1485
01:09:23,880 --> 01:09:27,160
Speaker 3: My sister claimed that my friend is her baby daddy.

1486
01:09:27,400 --> 01:09:30,280
Speaker 3: I demanded a DNA tests.

1487
01:09:31,120 --> 01:09:31,759
Speaker 1: That's the truth.

1488
01:09:32,439 --> 01:09:35,880
Speaker 3: I Michael Mailed twenty eight and my sister Chloe twenty

1489
01:09:35,920 --> 01:09:39,599
Speaker 3: six have always had a difficult relationship. When my mother

1490
01:09:39,720 --> 01:09:42,720
Speaker 3: was pregnant with my sister, there were some complications and

1491
01:09:42,760 --> 01:09:45,280
Speaker 3: she only had about a five percent chance of being

1492
01:09:45,360 --> 01:09:49,280
Speaker 3: born healthy. She was born healthy and had no health issues.

1493
01:09:49,760 --> 01:09:52,160
Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from Long Game twenty ten

1494
01:09:52,240 --> 01:09:54,320
Speaker 3: on the Okay Storytime Supparate it. Due to this, my

1495
01:09:54,400 --> 01:09:58,000
Speaker 3: mother and father have always favored her over me. Examples

1496
01:09:58,000 --> 01:10:02,479
Speaker 3: include buying her presents on my my birthday. But like so,

1497
01:10:02,600 --> 01:10:06,040
Speaker 3: she doesn't feel left out letting her plan my birthday

1498
01:10:06,120 --> 01:10:09,040
Speaker 3: parties and inviting her friends. This has gone on my

1499
01:10:09,200 --> 01:10:13,320
Speaker 3: whole life. Chloe wants something equals she gets it, whether

1500
01:10:13,360 --> 01:10:17,160
Speaker 3: it's right then, right there, or over time nagging until

1501
01:10:17,200 --> 01:10:19,599
Speaker 3: she gets it. We grew up fairly poor and struggled

1502
01:10:19,600 --> 01:10:21,960
Speaker 3: for money, but my parents would take out loans for

1503
01:10:22,000 --> 01:10:24,840
Speaker 3: her birthdays to get her the best new phones, laptops,

1504
01:10:24,920 --> 01:10:27,360
Speaker 3: you name it. I, on the other hand, would get

1505
01:10:27,479 --> 01:10:28,639
Speaker 3: essentials like socks.

1506
01:10:28,920 --> 01:10:31,519
Speaker 1: Did we take out loans for birthday presents.

1507
01:10:31,680 --> 01:10:33,240
Speaker 3: When I was due to go to college, I had

1508
01:10:33,280 --> 01:10:35,839
Speaker 3: to work my butt off and put myself through college.

1509
01:10:36,280 --> 01:10:38,200
Speaker 3: When it was her time, I found out my parents

1510
01:10:38,200 --> 01:10:40,439
Speaker 3: had set up a savings account and put money in

1511
01:10:40,520 --> 01:10:44,559
Speaker 3: it every paycheck to save her to save for her fees,

1512
01:10:45,080 --> 01:10:48,320
Speaker 3: meaning she had almost no student fees. When I was

1513
01:10:48,360 --> 01:10:51,120
Speaker 3: at college, I met my best friend Adam and we

1514
01:10:51,200 --> 01:10:55,960
Speaker 3: bonded very quickly through Whilst at college, he met Taylor.

1515
01:10:56,120 --> 01:10:58,799
Speaker 3: After about two years of dating, Adam and Taylor married.

1516
01:10:58,920 --> 01:11:01,479
Speaker 3: My sister threw a tan about not being invited at

1517
01:11:01,479 --> 01:11:04,720
Speaker 3: the time and felt entitled about coming as I was

1518
01:11:04,760 --> 01:11:07,439
Speaker 3: going and was the best man. Adam did end up

1519
01:11:07,439 --> 01:11:09,759
Speaker 3: giving in and inviting her just to keep the peace.

1520
01:11:09,960 --> 01:11:12,759
Speaker 3: In twenty twenty, Taylor passed away in a car crash.

1521
01:11:13,439 --> 01:11:15,680
Speaker 3: She was also pregnant at the time, so it was

1522
01:11:15,720 --> 01:11:17,200
Speaker 3: a huge blow for Adam.

1523
01:11:17,600 --> 01:11:18,000
Speaker 1: Tragedy.

1524
01:11:18,040 --> 01:11:20,559
Speaker 3: His whole future was wiped out in one evening.

1525
01:11:20,760 --> 01:11:21,080
Speaker 1: Wow.

1526
01:11:22,200 --> 01:11:24,240
Speaker 3: I was there for Adam and helped him arrange for

1527
01:11:24,280 --> 01:11:28,120
Speaker 3: the funerals. Throughout this whole time, Chloe wanted to be involved,

1528
01:11:28,600 --> 01:11:31,439
Speaker 3: but thankfully she wasn't, otherwise their funerals would have been

1529
01:11:31,479 --> 01:11:34,280
Speaker 3: the Chloe Show. In early twenty twenty one, Chloe called

1530
01:11:34,320 --> 01:11:36,519
Speaker 3: me and asked to meet me at our parents' house.

1531
01:11:36,960 --> 01:11:39,720
Speaker 3: I went and they were all sat down in the

1532
01:11:39,800 --> 01:11:42,240
Speaker 3: living room. This is when Chloe told me that she

1533
01:11:42,400 --> 01:11:46,040
Speaker 3: was six months pregnant and that Adam was the father.

1534
01:11:46,439 --> 01:11:51,600
Speaker 3: Oh dang, Obviously I was shocked. I didn't even know

1535
01:11:51,680 --> 01:11:53,880
Speaker 3: Adam liked her in that way. This is where things

1536
01:11:53,920 --> 01:11:57,360
Speaker 3: get complicated. Adam and Chloe had a one night stand

1537
01:11:57,479 --> 01:12:00,360
Speaker 3: and she felt pregnant. When she told Adam of it,

1538
01:12:00,400 --> 01:12:02,000
Speaker 3: he said that he didn't want to be involved in

1539
01:12:02,000 --> 01:12:04,920
Speaker 3: the baby's life and that sleeping with her was a

1540
01:12:05,000 --> 01:12:07,880
Speaker 3: huge mistake. He needed to focus on getting in a

1541
01:12:07,880 --> 01:12:10,920
Speaker 3: better state mentally, and this wouldn't be fair on a baby.

1542
01:12:11,640 --> 01:12:14,720
Speaker 3: Adam was wanting to be reunited with Taylor. Chloe said

1543
01:12:14,760 --> 01:12:17,439
Speaker 3: she understood and wouldn't pressure him at all, but she

1544
01:12:17,520 --> 01:12:20,760
Speaker 3: wanted to keep the baby throughout her whole pregnancy. Adam

1545
01:12:20,800 --> 01:12:23,639
Speaker 3: worked on himself and always made it clear to her

1546
01:12:23,680 --> 01:12:25,439
Speaker 3: that he didn't want to be part of her or

1547
01:12:25,479 --> 01:12:29,599
Speaker 3: the baby's life. When the baby was born, Chloe named

1548
01:12:29,720 --> 01:12:34,760
Speaker 3: the baby Angelica Rose. This was the exact same as

1549
01:12:34,840 --> 01:12:38,680
Speaker 3: Adam and Taylor's baby, and she knew this. That's disgusting,

1550
01:12:39,400 --> 01:12:42,360
Speaker 3: That is despicable. She also sent him a picture of

1551
01:12:42,400 --> 01:12:45,799
Speaker 3: Angelica which read, God brought me back to you, daddy.

1552
01:12:46,080 --> 01:12:49,639
Speaker 3: Adam flipped. I think it was an even bigger reminder

1553
01:12:49,720 --> 01:12:53,720
Speaker 3: to him of everything he'd lost since giving birth. My

1554
01:12:53,800 --> 01:12:56,680
Speaker 3: sister has been slandering at him all of our social media,

1555
01:12:56,800 --> 01:13:00,559
Speaker 3: calling him a deadbeat dad, etc. And bad mouthing every

1556
01:13:00,640 --> 01:13:04,479
Speaker 3: chance she gets. My opinion on this, albeit unpopular at

1557
01:13:04,520 --> 01:13:07,559
Speaker 3: it as it is that he isn't a deadbeat dad

1558
01:13:07,600 --> 01:13:10,920
Speaker 3: because he simply isn't a dad, not to Chloe's baby anyway.

1559
01:13:11,560 --> 01:13:14,160
Speaker 3: I truly believe that Chloe made the decision to carry

1560
01:13:14,160 --> 01:13:17,479
Speaker 3: on with her pregnancy under the full knowledge she'd be

1561
01:13:17,520 --> 01:13:18,320
Speaker 3: doing it alone.

1562
01:13:18,360 --> 01:13:18,880
Speaker 1: He told her.

1563
01:13:19,400 --> 01:13:20,960
Speaker 3: I told her from the start. I mean, as long

1564
01:13:20,960 --> 01:13:22,120
Speaker 3: as he's playing child.

1565
01:13:21,840 --> 01:13:24,400
Speaker 1: Support, Yeah, he told her from the very beginning, I'm

1566
01:13:24,479 --> 01:13:25,400
Speaker 1: not going to be that role.

1567
01:13:25,920 --> 01:13:27,920
Speaker 3: I see it as she tried to force him into

1568
01:13:27,960 --> 01:13:31,200
Speaker 3: having this baby and being a father. Now, imagine if

1569
01:13:31,240 --> 01:13:33,200
Speaker 3: the roles were reversed. If a man got a woman

1570
01:13:33,240 --> 01:13:35,960
Speaker 3: pregnant and refused any of her please of not wanting

1571
01:13:36,000 --> 01:13:38,880
Speaker 3: the baby, people would call that man a monster and

1572
01:13:38,920 --> 01:13:41,040
Speaker 3: the woman a victim. But when it comes to a

1573
01:13:41,080 --> 01:13:44,160
Speaker 3: woman forcing a man into becoming a father, he's a deadbeat.

1574
01:13:44,479 --> 01:13:47,760
Speaker 3: Last weekend, myself, Chloe and Angelica Rose were at her

1575
01:13:47,880 --> 01:13:50,400
Speaker 3: parents for my mother's birthday, and Chloe went on her

1576
01:13:50,520 --> 01:13:53,639
Speaker 3: usual rant about Adam and my parents started to join

1577
01:13:53,680 --> 01:13:56,479
Speaker 3: in too. Now I just lost it and told them

1578
01:13:56,520 --> 01:13:59,600
Speaker 3: all exactly how I see it, that Chloe tried to

1579
01:13:59,680 --> 01:14:03,040
Speaker 3: baby trap Adham and it backfired. But he was honest

1580
01:14:03,040 --> 01:14:05,000
Speaker 3: with her about why he didn't want to be involved,

1581
01:14:05,080 --> 01:14:07,240
Speaker 3: and that when Chloe named her baby what she did,

1582
01:14:07,680 --> 01:14:09,640
Speaker 3: that this was really a kick in the teeth for

1583
01:14:09,680 --> 01:14:12,519
Speaker 3: Adam and one of the cruelest things I have ever

1584
01:14:12,560 --> 01:14:16,479
Speaker 3: seen anyone do. Of course, like everything with my parents

1585
01:14:16,520 --> 01:14:19,680
Speaker 3: and Chloe. They sided with her and told me I

1586
01:14:19,800 --> 01:14:22,000
Speaker 3: was out of order for saying my beliefs to Chloe

1587
01:14:22,000 --> 01:14:23,200
Speaker 3: and I was kicked out of the house.

1588
01:14:23,280 --> 01:14:27,320
Speaker 1: WHOA your family is whack? Yeah, they're pretty delusional about

1589
01:14:27,320 --> 01:14:29,880
Speaker 1: this Chloe yeah golden child thing.

1590
01:14:30,160 --> 01:14:32,519
Speaker 3: Chloe has now also blocked me on everything, and I

1591
01:14:32,520 --> 01:14:34,479
Speaker 3: have been told that she has told my niece, whom

1592
01:14:34,479 --> 01:14:36,760
Speaker 3: I love and I've looked after every single Wednesday and

1593
01:14:36,800 --> 01:14:40,920
Speaker 3: Thursday since she was born, that I am passed away.

1594
01:14:41,040 --> 01:14:43,320
Speaker 3: I honestly don't know how I can fix this, and

1595
01:14:43,400 --> 01:14:45,880
Speaker 3: even if I want to, I am thinking. I am

1596
01:14:45,920 --> 01:14:49,360
Speaker 3: thinking about phoning CPS on her, but don't know if

1597
01:14:49,400 --> 01:14:51,720
Speaker 3: I can or they wouldn't care. I can't stand the

1598
01:14:51,760 --> 01:14:53,920
Speaker 3: thought of my niece thinking I was passed away as

1599
01:14:53,960 --> 01:14:56,160
Speaker 3: we were very close. Wait, she actually.

1600
01:14:55,720 --> 01:14:57,440
Speaker 1: Thinks you're full gone.

1601
01:14:58,280 --> 01:15:00,439
Speaker 3: I think if I apologize, she might let me see

1602
01:15:00,439 --> 01:15:02,759
Speaker 3: Angelica Rose again. But I don't know if I should

1603
01:15:02,800 --> 01:15:06,040
Speaker 3: apologize for just being honest with Chloe that she chose

1604
01:15:06,080 --> 01:15:08,880
Speaker 3: this life for herself and now needs to deal with it.

1605
01:15:09,320 --> 01:15:11,080
Speaker 3: But am I the a hole or should I have

1606
01:15:11,160 --> 01:15:13,360
Speaker 3: just kept my mouth shut? And there is an update

1607
01:15:13,479 --> 01:15:16,439
Speaker 3: so this blew up a lot more than expected. Some

1608
01:15:16,520 --> 01:15:19,320
Speaker 3: people on here have mentioned document and everything, so that's

1609
01:15:19,360 --> 01:15:22,760
Speaker 3: exactly what I'm gonna do. I've started so far with

1610
01:15:22,880 --> 01:15:25,680
Speaker 3: asking a mutual friend to screenshot everything my sister has

1611
01:15:25,720 --> 01:15:28,719
Speaker 3: shared on her Facebook re me and I put every

1612
01:15:28,760 --> 01:15:31,479
Speaker 3: photo I've ever taken of me an Angelical Rose in

1613
01:15:31,520 --> 01:15:34,799
Speaker 3: a folder, and I will be making physical copies of everything.

1614
01:15:35,320 --> 01:15:37,960
Speaker 3: I also messaged my parents yesterday asking if I could

1615
01:15:37,960 --> 01:15:40,320
Speaker 3: come over and speak with them. They have said yes,

1616
01:15:40,880 --> 01:15:43,120
Speaker 3: and I will be going round at the weekend. I

1617
01:15:43,120 --> 01:15:46,120
Speaker 3: am also going to be recording this conversation and talking

1618
01:15:46,160 --> 01:15:49,400
Speaker 3: about Angelica Rose to them, and I'm also considering laying

1619
01:15:49,560 --> 01:15:52,120
Speaker 3: everything out on the table about how they've made me

1620
01:15:52,200 --> 01:15:55,960
Speaker 3: feel my whole life. After that, I'm going no contact

1621
01:15:55,960 --> 01:15:57,840
Speaker 3: with them both if it goes the way I think

1622
01:15:57,840 --> 01:16:01,400
Speaker 3: it does. In terms of Adam and Ada, I don't

1623
01:16:01,439 --> 01:16:04,559
Speaker 3: think one was ever done. He never contested being the father,

1624
01:16:05,080 --> 01:16:07,479
Speaker 3: as he never intended to be round for the baby anyway.

1625
01:16:07,920 --> 01:16:11,519
Speaker 3: Although he isn't physically a presence in the Angelica's life,

1626
01:16:12,000 --> 01:16:14,800
Speaker 3: he does support my sister financially, which is what he

1627
01:16:14,840 --> 01:16:17,639
Speaker 3: said he'd always do. I have a lot of Angelica

1628
01:16:17,680 --> 01:16:19,439
Speaker 3: stuff at my house given that she used to be

1629
01:16:19,520 --> 01:16:22,000
Speaker 3: here two days a week. So I'm gonna speak with

1630
01:16:22,040 --> 01:16:24,040
Speaker 3: Adam about doing a DNA test to see if he

1631
01:16:24,120 --> 01:16:27,240
Speaker 3: really is hurt biodad. Both me and Adam worked for

1632
01:16:27,280 --> 01:16:29,879
Speaker 3: the same company and both have put in a transfer request,

1633
01:16:30,360 --> 01:16:32,880
Speaker 3: mine to get away from my family, and his was

1634
01:16:32,920 --> 01:16:35,879
Speaker 3: so he could have a fresh start somewhere new. Hopefully

1635
01:16:35,880 --> 01:16:38,160
Speaker 3: both get approved and we will be moving.

1636
01:16:38,240 --> 01:16:39,679
Speaker 1: To a new state, new beginning.

1637
01:16:39,800 --> 01:16:43,439
Speaker 3: And there is another update. But I think the I

1638
01:16:43,439 --> 01:16:45,639
Speaker 3: mean on Adam's and a DNA test.

1639
01:16:45,479 --> 01:16:46,080
Speaker 1: Would be smart.

1640
01:16:46,320 --> 01:16:49,439
Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure, especially if he's financially supporting.

1641
01:16:49,920 --> 01:16:53,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that would be smart. And also with

1642
01:16:53,439 --> 01:16:58,160
Speaker 1: like the collecting evidence thing, someone said it's going to

1643
01:16:58,280 --> 01:17:02,680
Speaker 1: escalate from here, and that's fair, But at this point,

1644
01:17:03,040 --> 01:17:07,639
Speaker 1: who you collecting evidence from? No one. It's in totally

1645
01:17:07,800 --> 01:17:12,600
Speaker 1: in Opie's sister's choice. If she wants her brother to

1646
01:17:12,640 --> 01:17:15,600
Speaker 1: have a relationship with the daughter, No one or no

1647
01:17:16,920 --> 01:17:21,920
Speaker 1: agency could force her. Yeah, to allow the brother to

1648
01:17:21,960 --> 01:17:26,360
Speaker 1: see the child. He doesn't have ownership or possession over

1649
01:17:26,400 --> 01:17:26,759
Speaker 1: the child.

1650
01:17:26,920 --> 01:17:29,160
Speaker 3: I met my parents after my first update, and it

1651
01:17:29,240 --> 01:17:31,840
Speaker 3: went exactly how I thought. They told me that I

1652
01:17:31,840 --> 01:17:34,920
Speaker 3: shouldn't have told Chloe how I felt, and worse, they

1653
01:17:34,960 --> 01:17:37,760
Speaker 3: don't think she's done anything wrong, even though I have

1654
01:17:37,840 --> 01:17:40,800
Speaker 3: given them all the context of how Chloe got Angelica's name.

1655
01:17:41,280 --> 01:17:43,160
Speaker 3: They both said that they didn't know.

1656
01:17:43,760 --> 01:17:46,439
Speaker 1: I know that they did, but whatever, and then they

1657
01:17:46,520 --> 01:17:46,960
Speaker 1: know now.

1658
01:17:47,160 --> 01:17:50,439
Speaker 3: So I then blew up and completely opened up about

1659
01:17:50,439 --> 01:17:53,040
Speaker 3: how they made me feel my whole life. And then

1660
01:17:53,120 --> 01:17:55,640
Speaker 3: this was followed by the classic I guess I'm just

1661
01:17:55,680 --> 01:17:59,479
Speaker 3: a terrible mother, to which I told my mom, yes

1662
01:18:00,120 --> 01:18:02,400
Speaker 3: you are. I will be going no contact with all

1663
01:18:02,479 --> 01:18:05,120
Speaker 3: of them from now on, and I can honestly say

1664
01:18:05,200 --> 01:18:07,639
Speaker 3: I feel a lot better not having any of them

1665
01:18:07,640 --> 01:18:10,880
Speaker 3: around anymore. I showed Adam all of the comments on this,

1666
01:18:11,000 --> 01:18:13,120
Speaker 3: and he has agreed that he's okay with doing a

1667
01:18:13,160 --> 01:18:15,680
Speaker 3: secret DNA test to see if Angelica Rose is his.

1668
01:18:16,040 --> 01:18:18,439
Speaker 3: But you know it's not a secret. Tell us joining

1669
01:18:18,520 --> 01:18:21,000
Speaker 3: us live every weekday at three pm PSD on YouTube,

1670
01:18:21,040 --> 01:18:21,920
Speaker 3: Facebook and TikTok.

1671
01:18:21,960 --> 01:18:22,839
Speaker 1: Just tap our profile.

1672
01:18:23,520 --> 01:18:25,240
Speaker 3: I think you should do a DNA test, but I

1673
01:18:25,240 --> 01:18:26,880
Speaker 3: don't know if the secret is the best way to

1674
01:18:26,920 --> 01:18:29,200
Speaker 3: do it, especially if you want to do something legally.

1675
01:18:29,360 --> 01:18:31,479
Speaker 3: If they found out that they did something, maybe.

1676
01:18:31,439 --> 01:18:32,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, it could it could shoot you in the foot

1677
01:18:33,000 --> 01:18:36,120
Speaker 1: later on. Also, people are going to be mad at

1678
01:18:36,120 --> 01:18:36,840
Speaker 1: me for saying this.

1679
01:18:37,080 --> 01:18:38,840
Speaker 2: Oh no, I don't even say it, though, you.

1680
01:18:39,000 --> 01:18:39,719
Speaker 1: Gotta say.

1681
01:18:43,520 --> 01:18:43,720
Speaker 2: Don't.

1682
01:18:43,920 --> 01:18:49,160
Speaker 1: It's not me, stop me, No one can. Okay. The

1683
01:18:49,240 --> 01:18:54,040
Speaker 1: parents have been awful. Yeah, I want to preface with

1684
01:18:54,200 --> 01:18:58,880
Speaker 1: that they have treated the sister as the golden child

1685
01:18:59,040 --> 01:19:03,040
Speaker 1: their whole life and then to get her education. To

1686
01:19:03,080 --> 01:19:08,439
Speaker 1: pay for her education over OPI is like huge. So

1687
01:19:08,520 --> 01:19:11,920
Speaker 1: they have acted terribly. And at the same time, I

1688
01:19:12,000 --> 01:19:17,120
Speaker 1: will say, if you are in an argument about something

1689
01:19:17,160 --> 01:19:19,439
Speaker 1: that you are triggered about, they are triggered about that

1690
01:19:19,479 --> 01:19:22,160
Speaker 1: it's happening right now, and you want to throw in

1691
01:19:22,400 --> 01:19:25,920
Speaker 1: the whole span of your life's relation dynamics with them

1692
01:19:26,240 --> 01:19:29,280
Speaker 1: and get upset that they're not going to respond reasonably

1693
01:19:29,320 --> 01:19:34,320
Speaker 1: to it. No crap, Like, no crap, They're not going

1694
01:19:34,400 --> 01:19:38,400
Speaker 1: to have the capacity to respond the way you want

1695
01:19:38,400 --> 01:19:40,720
Speaker 1: them to, or to take it all in and to

1696
01:19:40,840 --> 01:19:45,200
Speaker 1: actually consider your perspective. They never would have. They never

1697
01:19:45,240 --> 01:19:47,920
Speaker 1: were going to be able to if you just jumble

1698
01:19:48,000 --> 01:19:51,840
Speaker 1: the up and then your feelings that you've had your

1699
01:19:51,840 --> 01:19:54,720
Speaker 1: whole life and have never shared it with them in

1700
01:19:54,920 --> 01:19:58,000
Speaker 1: its entirety, if you just jumble it out all at

1701
01:19:58,040 --> 01:20:00,479
Speaker 1: them at the same time. Of course, I'm not gonna respond.

1702
01:20:00,680 --> 01:20:02,720
Speaker 3: I really hope she isn't, and to be honest, I

1703
01:20:02,720 --> 01:20:05,599
Speaker 3: am beginning to think she isn't, especially after what Chloe

1704
01:20:05,680 --> 01:20:08,840
Speaker 3: has been doing recently. In terms of our jobs, both

1705
01:20:08,880 --> 01:20:12,040
Speaker 3: transfers have been agreed. Our bosses know about our situations

1706
01:20:12,080 --> 01:20:14,559
Speaker 3: and don't want to risk us leaving the company altogether,

1707
01:20:14,680 --> 01:20:17,160
Speaker 3: so we will both be moving to a new state

1708
01:20:17,200 --> 01:20:19,400
Speaker 3: in the next few months. So everything is starting to

1709
01:20:19,439 --> 01:20:19,840
Speaker 3: look up.

1710
01:20:20,080 --> 01:20:20,759
Speaker 1: Let's go, baby.

1711
01:20:20,880 --> 01:20:23,000
Speaker 3: I will try to update this again once we get

1712
01:20:23,000 --> 01:20:25,559
Speaker 3: the DNA results back or if anything else hits the fan,

1713
01:20:26,120 --> 01:20:29,360
Speaker 3: but for now, thank you everyone. I was ninety nine

1714
01:20:29,400 --> 01:20:31,680
Speaker 3: percent sure I wasn't in the wrong, but there was

1715
01:20:31,800 --> 01:20:34,280
Speaker 3: one percent that kept telling me, and that is the

1716
01:20:34,600 --> 01:20:35,639
Speaker 3: end of that story.