WEBVTT - Learning Lessons For 2024 (BA Q&A) 0:00:03.400 --> 0:00:07.000 It's time for the b a q a A to 0:00:07.120 --> 0:00:09.639 b a q A. Would you say the b a 0:00:10.039 --> 0:00:12.479 q A No, Man, Dad to b a q A 0:00:12.680 --> 0:00:16.919 Just Tiffan a Hey, Hey, hey, it's me Tiffany Bunch Denise. 0:00:17.840 --> 0:00:20.200 I'm here on behalf of brown ambition because Man is 0:00:20.239 --> 0:00:24.000 still out. But I am in the still honey, because 0:00:24.239 --> 0:00:27.320 we're gonna do a little brown ambision. Question answer. You 0:00:27.400 --> 0:00:29.960 have questions, I have some answers, but I am not 0:00:30.000 --> 0:00:33.400 your attorney. I'm not your doctor, I am not your 0:00:33.440 --> 0:00:37.720 financial advisor. I'm just a smart, cute brown girl that 0:00:37.840 --> 0:00:39.560 you know knows a thing or two. But you're gonna 0:00:39.560 --> 0:00:41.599 take my advice with the smallest grain of salt, and 0:00:41.680 --> 0:00:44.839 you are going to ask somebody else to take you 0:00:44.880 --> 0:00:47.600 on the finish line. Okay, AKA Sue your grandma, not me. 0:00:48.360 --> 0:00:51.000 All right, So today's b a q A it's gonna 0:00:51.000 --> 0:00:54.400 be a little different. I'm gonna answer like just a 0:00:54.440 --> 0:00:56.880 general question I've been getting about setting intention for the 0:00:56.880 --> 0:01:01.480 new year, and then I'm going to share a business 0:01:02.120 --> 0:01:05.360 answer or a business scenario, a mistake that I made 0:01:05.480 --> 0:01:07.960 and how I've been able to navigate through it. Okay, 0:01:08.200 --> 0:01:10.679 So that way you get a little money baqa, you 0:01:10.680 --> 0:01:15.040 get a little business baqa. Okay, So one setting your 0:01:15.040 --> 0:01:18.400 intention for the new year. Right. So we're in twenty 0:01:18.560 --> 0:01:23.399 twenty four, and it can be very easy to fall 0:01:23.480 --> 0:01:27.479 into the same old habits and we don't want it. 0:01:27.560 --> 0:01:31.399 We don't want it. So in order to have your 0:01:31.440 --> 0:01:33.760 life look different at the end, you have to do 0:01:33.800 --> 0:01:38.040 something differently. So I'd like to do something called dreamscaping. Okay, 0:01:38.120 --> 0:01:39.800 I don't know if I made up that word or not, 0:01:39.920 --> 0:01:44.240 but honey, I'm using it. So what is dreamscaping? Dreamscaping 0:01:44.360 --> 0:01:48.600 is when you dream across the landscape of your mind. Right, 0:01:49.000 --> 0:01:50.520 So I want you to think of like your mind 0:01:50.520 --> 0:01:54.960 as this big open field and rolling hills and blue 0:01:55.040 --> 0:02:02.280 skies and clouds, and it's it's like this open expanse 0:02:02.360 --> 0:02:05.160 of space. So I always like to think, like what 0:02:05.240 --> 0:02:07.400 Montana must look like like open, like they call a 0:02:07.440 --> 0:02:10.320 big sky country where all you see is sky and 0:02:10.480 --> 0:02:13.880 flat green land. That is where I want you to 0:02:14.080 --> 0:02:18.480 position your mind. If you're driving, cys focused on driving, 0:02:18.639 --> 0:02:22.200 but if you're sitting or walking or doing dishes or laundry, 0:02:22.680 --> 0:02:26.120 take a moment to close your eyes and imagine this big, open, 0:02:26.240 --> 0:02:29.880 wide space where the sky is blue, the clouds are puffing, 0:02:30.480 --> 0:02:33.720 the grass is green, and it's empty, and you get 0:02:33.800 --> 0:02:38.800 to add whatever you want into this beautiful, expansive space. 0:02:39.120 --> 0:02:42.400 It is important that the space feels expansive. If you 0:02:42.440 --> 0:02:45.960 cannot visualize it, Google is your guru. Go ahead on 0:02:46.040 --> 0:02:49.800 a Google Montana, big sky country, or big open space. 0:02:50.160 --> 0:02:53.880 You know, maybe you know that's a visual that doesn't 0:02:53.880 --> 0:02:55.520 help for you. Maybe you need to see the desert, 0:02:55.760 --> 0:02:59.400 maybe you need to see ocean. Whatever feels expansive to you. 0:02:59.520 --> 0:03:01.799 I want you to to visualize that and imagine that, 0:03:02.280 --> 0:03:05.320 and then I want you to start thinking about how 0:03:05.400 --> 0:03:07.440 you just start to fill this space with the things 0:03:07.480 --> 0:03:09.200 that you want to see by the end of the year. 0:03:09.560 --> 0:03:13.520 It is important that sometimes we dreamscape and we say 0:03:13.520 --> 0:03:15.400 what I want in five years or ten years or 0:03:15.400 --> 0:03:18.080 two months. That's great, but we're not doing that now. 0:03:18.520 --> 0:03:21.680 We're talking about how and who do I want to 0:03:21.720 --> 0:03:26.840 be December thirty first, twenty twenty four. That's the person 0:03:26.880 --> 0:03:28.840 we're looking at right now, right so you can use 0:03:28.880 --> 0:03:31.840 this dreamscaping for whatever, but for like for these purposes 0:03:31.840 --> 0:03:33.560 now at the beginning of the year, that's what we're 0:03:33.600 --> 0:03:36.280 looking at. I want you to imagine as you start 0:03:36.320 --> 0:03:39.800 to identify categories in your life, who and how do 0:03:39.840 --> 0:03:42.520 I want to be? So one question you can ask yourself. 0:03:42.560 --> 0:03:44.960 You can get yourself a notebook or like one of 0:03:44.960 --> 0:03:48.840 those those big like poster boards or you know they 0:03:48.840 --> 0:03:51.680 have like you ever see the paper that's like the 0:03:51.760 --> 0:03:54.720 chart paper or whatever, you know, and start to write 0:03:54.760 --> 0:03:57.520 down some categories that you want to add to the 0:03:57.560 --> 0:04:02.400 big expanse of space. So, categories include health, It might 0:04:02.400 --> 0:04:08.920 include partnership or relationships. It might include business or career. 0:04:10.480 --> 0:04:12.880 It might include So I want you to think of big, big, big, 0:04:13.000 --> 0:04:16.320 high level categories. I'm trying to think some of the ones. 0:04:16.360 --> 0:04:18.760 I might include adventure, that's what I have on mind. 0:04:20.240 --> 0:04:25.040 It might include finances, you know, hello hello, Right, So 0:04:25.400 --> 0:04:28.000 I want you to think of anywhere from three to 0:04:28.240 --> 0:04:30.640 six things. You know, if it's more, that's fine because 0:04:30.680 --> 0:04:33.320 we're not here to limit nobody, but at least three 0:04:33.440 --> 0:04:36.679 big expansive categories that you're going to start to fill 0:04:36.839 --> 0:04:41.200 this expansive space with. Right, So you have these things 0:04:41.240 --> 0:04:44.760 written down, you know, you can visualize them. I'm closing 0:04:44.800 --> 0:04:47.240 my eyes as well too, into this big, expansive big 0:04:47.279 --> 0:04:50.839 sky country. And then under each of these categories, I 0:04:50.880 --> 0:04:54.680 start to get a little bit more specific of Okay, 0:04:55.320 --> 0:04:57.159 how do I want to show up in this space 0:04:57.240 --> 0:05:00.560 by December thirty first, twenty twenty four or a year 0:05:00.600 --> 0:05:02.920 from now. So let's just say in the health space, 0:05:03.000 --> 0:05:05.440 for me, it might be like, Okay, in the health space, 0:05:05.680 --> 0:05:07.560 there might be a size I want to maintain, Like 0:05:07.640 --> 0:05:09.960 right now, your girl's a good nine ten, you know 0:05:10.000 --> 0:05:12.080 what I mean. I like, I think it's cute, you know, 0:05:12.200 --> 0:05:14.839 because I'm a woman of a certain Areas'm forty four 0:05:15.360 --> 0:05:17.240 and so like, you know, a four at least for 0:05:17.320 --> 0:05:19.719 my build is not cute. You know, for your bill 0:05:19.800 --> 0:05:22.120 it might be. But for me, like all through when 0:05:22.160 --> 0:05:24.080 I was younger, I was like a six, and honestly, 0:05:24.120 --> 0:05:27.400 a six for me was really skinny, just because the 0:05:27.440 --> 0:05:29.880 way I'm built, I'm tallest, like five seven, almost five 0:05:29.920 --> 0:05:33.359 to eight. You know, your girl got booty, and so 0:05:33.600 --> 0:05:35.640 at the age I am now, I find that an 0:05:35.720 --> 0:05:37.919 eight is a little too small for how I like 0:05:37.960 --> 0:05:41.040 to present physically. But like a nine ten, it's real cute. 0:05:41.080 --> 0:05:43.640 I look snatched. You know, you guys be compliment to me, like, 0:05:43.640 --> 0:05:46.880 gir you look good. I'm like, I know, I know anyway. Right, 0:05:47.080 --> 0:05:49.240 So for the health component, it might be I want 0:05:49.279 --> 0:05:52.600 to maintain a ten. But also for the health component, 0:05:52.920 --> 0:05:56.480 it might be I want to regularly visit, you know, 0:05:56.680 --> 0:05:58.719 keep my doctor's appointments because your girl ain't been going, 0:05:59.120 --> 0:06:01.800 you know all. So for the health component, I want 0:06:01.800 --> 0:06:04.400 to maintain my walking schedule and bump it up. So 0:06:04.480 --> 0:06:06.359 I started to do the five k training that I 0:06:06.360 --> 0:06:09.080 talked about last year late last year. Thank you guys 0:06:09.080 --> 0:06:11.680 for the app. I'm using the couch to five k app, 0:06:11.680 --> 0:06:14.800 which is awesome, and so like the you know that, 0:06:14.880 --> 0:06:17.360 I want to maintain and maybe even run a five k. 0:06:18.240 --> 0:06:20.640 I want to start strength training again. So these are 0:06:20.640 --> 0:06:24.520 some of the things under my health category. And so 0:06:24.720 --> 0:06:27.839 I'm in that space, I visualize myself what a strength 0:06:27.920 --> 0:06:30.760 strength training look like. I'm walking through the field. I 0:06:30.800 --> 0:06:34.280 see myself in the big expansive space using free rates, 0:06:34.600 --> 0:06:36.919 you know, I see myself in the big expansive place 0:06:37.279 --> 0:06:40.000 like for health for myself too. A friend of mine 0:06:40.040 --> 0:06:43.799 gets like vitamin drips every once in a while, every quarter, 0:06:44.400 --> 0:06:46.839 and she said it makes her feel amazing. And I 0:06:46.880 --> 0:06:48.840 kind of want to try a vitamin drip because I'm 0:06:48.839 --> 0:06:51.200 not gonna lie your girl don't take a vitamins like 0:06:51.200 --> 0:06:53.080 she should. And I'm like, I wonder if once a quarter, 0:06:53.279 --> 0:06:56.320 because I get sick every fall. It's even if I 0:06:56.400 --> 0:06:58.280 just do it once a year, right before I get 0:06:58.320 --> 0:07:01.000 sick in the fall. What does maybe vitamin C drip? 0:07:01.040 --> 0:07:03.640 What can that? Do? You know? For health? You know? 0:07:04.320 --> 0:07:07.120 Can I get massages more regularly? So these are some 0:07:07.200 --> 0:07:09.400 of the things that are in that I list under 0:07:09.400 --> 0:07:11.800 that category as I think to myself, how do I 0:07:11.840 --> 0:07:14.480 want my life to look by December thirty? First? Who 0:07:14.520 --> 0:07:16.720 do I want to be by December thirty? First? I 0:07:16.720 --> 0:07:20.080 imagine myself in the field doing these things. So that's 0:07:20.080 --> 0:07:23.480 step two, right. So step one is that you want 0:07:23.520 --> 0:07:26.760 to set the categories. Step two you want to start 0:07:26.800 --> 0:07:30.680 to list how you want to look, feel, taste, all 0:07:30.760 --> 0:07:34.320 that in those specific categories. And then step three is 0:07:35.080 --> 0:07:38.720 what does that look like month to month? So I 0:07:38.760 --> 0:07:41.040 start to get more specific. So I have a category 0:07:41.040 --> 0:07:44.280 called relationships, and one of those categories. One of the 0:07:44.360 --> 0:07:48.640 items in that category are friendships. Right, and so like 0:07:48.840 --> 0:07:52.440 that big category of relationships, one of the bullets is friendships. 0:07:52.680 --> 0:07:54.520 I was just talking to my friend Cabrell the other 0:07:54.600 --> 0:07:57.480 day when he's one of my best friends, and Cabrell 0:07:57.640 --> 0:07:59.960 is like this amazing foodie. He's got a great palace. 0:08:00.320 --> 0:08:02.800 Is always like introducing me to like really great restaurants 0:08:02.800 --> 0:08:07.640 and things. And there was a restaurant that was closing down. 0:08:07.680 --> 0:08:09.840 He's like, oh man, this was all my Tiffany Eats list. 0:08:10.160 --> 0:08:11.680 And I'm like, what's that? He said, I have a 0:08:11.680 --> 0:08:13.480 list of restaurants Tiffany because we go out to dinner 0:08:13.520 --> 0:08:15.840 or whatever and where it's like, here's a place that 0:08:15.880 --> 0:08:19.160 me and Tiffany can eat. And I thought, huh, how 0:08:19.160 --> 0:08:22.800 can I be more intentional? So I put down under 0:08:22.920 --> 0:08:30.280 so category relationships, bullet point friendship goals, like what it 0:08:30.320 --> 0:08:33.920 looks like monthly is what if on purpose every month 0:08:34.200 --> 0:08:37.640 Coubrella lie on like the third Friday of every month 0:08:38.080 --> 0:08:41.960 we go to a new restaurant on the Tiffany Eats list. 0:08:42.360 --> 0:08:44.080 Because it's one thing to say, like, oh, you know, 0:08:44.080 --> 0:08:45.679 I'm gonna do this thing. I'm gonna spend more time 0:08:45.679 --> 0:08:48.960 with my friends. But now I've gotten very specific, not 0:08:49.000 --> 0:08:52.240 pacific like the ocean. Don't do that. It's a new year. 0:08:52.520 --> 0:08:54.120 Some of you I've been saying Happy New Years with 0:08:54.200 --> 0:08:56.400 an S and it's upset me and my mama. So 0:08:56.559 --> 0:08:59.280 we're gonna take that s right, and we're gonna put 0:08:59.280 --> 0:09:04.280 it on specific right, Okay, come on back right, So 0:09:05.120 --> 0:09:08.880 like now I have it on my list. Okay, this 0:09:08.920 --> 0:09:11.840 is what it looks like. December thirty one. Tiffany is 0:09:11.880 --> 0:09:14.440 someone who goes out to dinner with Cabral on purpose, 0:09:14.679 --> 0:09:17.640 not just really need, like you free, I'm free on 0:09:17.720 --> 0:09:21.480 purpose every third Friday as long as we're both here, 0:09:21.480 --> 0:09:25.120 because he travels a lot to a new restaurant. Honestly, 0:09:25.200 --> 0:09:27.720 I'm like, well, I'm excited about that. And so my sisters, 0:09:27.760 --> 0:09:29.199 as you all know because I talk about them all 0:09:29.200 --> 0:09:31.280 the time, most of them live close to me, except 0:09:31.320 --> 0:09:34.360 for Karen, the oldest. She lives in Chicago. And so 0:09:35.080 --> 0:09:36.800 I said, I want to We were supposed to have 0:09:36.800 --> 0:09:38.559 a sister lunch. And so I was like, you know 0:09:38.640 --> 0:09:45.560 what relationships write big category under big category of relationships, family, right, 0:09:45.600 --> 0:09:48.280 that's the bullet and under family sisters. What can I 0:09:48.280 --> 0:09:51.120 do to connect with my sisters more regularly? The kids 0:09:51.160 --> 0:09:54.040 are in school, my sister Carol's kids, So if we 0:09:54.120 --> 0:09:56.360 do a sister lunch once a month, let's add that. 0:09:56.600 --> 0:09:58.200 But do you see how all of a sudden, it 0:09:58.240 --> 0:10:00.160 went from I want my life to be good? What 0:10:00.200 --> 0:10:03.200 does that even mean? What does that mean? You know? 0:10:03.360 --> 0:10:05.880 You start to now in that big expanse of space, 0:10:06.080 --> 0:10:08.400 I see my sisters and I having lunch different places. 0:10:08.520 --> 0:10:10.480 Or maybe here's the thing. Maybe me and my sisters 0:10:10.480 --> 0:10:12.840 we have lunch at the same place every month because 0:10:12.840 --> 0:10:16.160 it's not about exploring new places, it's about sisterly connection. Actually, 0:10:16.160 --> 0:10:17.480 now I'm saying that out loud, I'm like, I think 0:10:17.520 --> 0:10:19.880 I like that because then you become like, oh that 0:10:19.960 --> 0:10:22.720 those are the fabulous girls that come every third Wednesday? 0:10:22.840 --> 0:10:27.040 Or I liked that's cute, right, So maybe my sisters 0:10:27.080 --> 0:10:29.600 and I go to the same place every third Wednesday 0:10:29.640 --> 0:10:32.520 and me and Cabrell choose a different phrase every third Friday. 0:10:32.679 --> 0:10:35.160 Does that make sense? That, like, if you want your 0:10:35.200 --> 0:10:39.280 life to be different, you want to be intentional about 0:10:39.320 --> 0:10:42.319 how you're navigating, and you can't be intentional until you 0:10:42.400 --> 0:10:45.120 get clear. And once you get clear, what does that 0:10:45.200 --> 0:10:48.520 look like in action form? So now I'm gonna I'm 0:10:48.600 --> 0:10:51.400 creating this list of action form. Now do I believe 0:10:51.400 --> 0:10:53.440 I'm going to do it every single thing? Now? But 0:10:53.520 --> 0:10:55.920 if I have ten action things that I'm gonna do, 0:10:56.200 --> 0:10:59.200 but delightful action things, right, So like having dinner with 0:10:59.200 --> 0:11:01.679 cabrel or lunch my sisters. I mean, we're a crimea river. 0:11:01.720 --> 0:11:04.800 That's not bad, you know. But if the ten things 0:11:04.840 --> 0:11:08.079 I do, three of those things I have effectively transformed 0:11:08.120 --> 0:11:11.280 a part of my life. So December thirty one, Tiffany 0:11:11.480 --> 0:11:16.040 is a different Tiffany than January first, Tiffany. Does that 0:11:16.120 --> 0:11:18.839 make sense? And so that is one of the ways 0:11:18.880 --> 0:11:23.440 I dreamscape and what I suggest for you if you 0:11:23.440 --> 0:11:25.160 you know, it's so early on in the year, it's 0:11:25.160 --> 0:11:28.120 a great time to set intentions, you know. I believe 0:11:28.120 --> 0:11:30.880 that twenty twenty four is a year of intentions. To 0:11:30.960 --> 0:11:33.800 be intentional about how you're going to navigate, to be 0:11:33.880 --> 0:11:36.320 intentional about how you're going to show up. Like for me, 0:11:36.520 --> 0:11:40.120 I have adventure, and my big bullet under adventure is travel. 0:11:40.520 --> 0:11:44.120 So it's not enough to say I'm going to travel more. No, 0:11:44.679 --> 0:11:46.760 I was like, what does that mean? I started to 0:11:46.920 --> 0:11:50.839 list the places I wanted to see South Africa. I've 0:11:50.840 --> 0:11:52.959 always wanted to go. Guess what, I booked a trip 0:11:53.040 --> 0:11:56.160 just the other day. It's South Africa plus South Africa. 0:11:56.200 --> 0:11:59.920 It's like Botswana, South Africa's Namimbia. I think it's like 0:12:00.120 --> 0:12:02.840 four different countries that I'm going to in May with 0:12:02.880 --> 0:12:05.439 this like Black Girl travel group, which I'm so excited about. 0:12:05.720 --> 0:12:07.319 I was on the fence. I'm like, who whoa well, 0:12:07.640 --> 0:12:11.679 you said you wanted travel. You know you got specific. 0:12:11.720 --> 0:12:13.480 You said South Africa. This place is take me to 0:12:13.520 --> 0:12:16.319 South Africa and beyond deal with. I also want to 0:12:16.320 --> 0:12:19.079 see the Northern Lights. I read this study that said 0:12:19.120 --> 0:12:22.240 that the Northern Lights, which are like this beautiful light 0:12:22.360 --> 0:12:25.240 show that happens near like the North Pole. I'm like, 0:12:25.280 --> 0:12:28.800 so Alaska, Norway, Finland, you could see them there. They're 0:12:28.800 --> 0:12:31.240 going to be the strongest they've ever been in the 0:12:31.240 --> 0:12:33.520 next two years. So I want to see them. So 0:12:33.600 --> 0:12:35.760 I wrote that down. I want to see the Northern Lights, 0:12:35.840 --> 0:12:38.720 you know, and I should write that exactly where. So 0:12:38.920 --> 0:12:40.840 but do you see, the more specific you get, you 0:12:40.840 --> 0:12:43.640 can start to check things off. You know, it's hard 0:12:43.640 --> 0:12:46.000 to accomplish the thing that you've been vague about you vague. 0:12:46.040 --> 0:12:49.000 It's vague too, you know. Connectedness is something else on 0:12:49.000 --> 0:12:51.880 my list I've been. I got invited to a mastermind 0:12:51.920 --> 0:12:54.400 in Dubai, and y'all know I don't have a good 0:12:54.440 --> 0:12:56.040 time Dubai. Last time I went, I was like, I 0:12:56.080 --> 0:12:58.800 guess girl, it's a little too manufactured for me. But 0:12:58.880 --> 0:13:01.319 the people go into this mass and I honestly sound awesome. 0:13:01.520 --> 0:13:03.760 And one of my really good friends is going, and 0:13:03.800 --> 0:13:05.720 I was like, Tiffany, are you going for Dubai? Are 0:13:05.720 --> 0:13:10.000 you going for the connectedness on your dreamscaping chart? I 0:13:10.040 --> 0:13:12.840 was like, ooh, that's right, So guess what your girl's 0:13:12.840 --> 0:13:16.319 going to be in Dubai in March to navigate that connectedness. 0:13:16.360 --> 0:13:18.400 And look what happened. When I said yes, I called 0:13:18.440 --> 0:13:20.640 my girlfriend who's going. I was like, hey, girl, I 0:13:20.640 --> 0:13:23.520 heard your senior. You're going to this small Mastermind. It's 0:13:23.559 --> 0:13:25.520 just like eight of us. And a friend of mine 0:13:25.679 --> 0:13:28.160 owns a house in Dubai. She lives there and she's 0:13:28.160 --> 0:13:31.760 hosting us. And she's like yes, and I said, well, 0:13:31.920 --> 0:13:33.959 it's only a two day Mastermind. Girl, I'm not flying 0:13:34.000 --> 0:13:35.959 eighteen hours for two days. Do you want to stay 0:13:35.960 --> 0:13:37.960 in Dubai a little longer? Even though it's not my fave? 0:13:38.280 --> 0:13:40.480 And she was like, actually, after Dubai, I wanted to 0:13:40.520 --> 0:13:43.160 go to Singapore because I've always wanted to go. Do 0:13:43.200 --> 0:13:46.679 you want to go? I was like girl, it was 0:13:46.720 --> 0:13:50.280 to list, It's all my list, Neil. I was like, absolutely, 0:13:50.320 --> 0:13:52.920 I'd love to go. That was part of my connectedness. 0:13:52.960 --> 0:13:55.720 I want to connect with more people in the professional 0:13:55.760 --> 0:13:57.840 space where I am and now look what happened when 0:13:57.880 --> 0:14:00.840 I open myself up. So I hope that's some encouragement 0:14:00.880 --> 0:14:03.520 for you. I'm excited about twenty twenty four. As my 0:14:03.559 --> 0:14:06.960 sister Tracy said, it's gonna be a banner honey, a 0:14:07.000 --> 0:14:09.720 banner year. And if you are looking for tools and 0:14:09.720 --> 0:14:12.720 resources to help you with the financial part of your 0:14:14.000 --> 0:14:17.960 of your list, go to like follow my ig the Budgeanista. 0:14:18.040 --> 0:14:20.600 I did the five days of New Year. Literally, I 0:14:20.600 --> 0:14:23.360 have like on the first day of New Year, Budgeanista 0:14:23.520 --> 0:14:25.960 gave to me, so every day for five days, so 0:14:25.960 --> 0:14:27.880 today is the last day, so you should see it. 0:14:28.080 --> 0:14:31.520 But every day for five days I dropped two resources, 0:14:31.760 --> 0:14:33.920 one at noon, one at six pm. And you can 0:14:33.960 --> 0:14:37.400 still get access to all those resources for the next 0:14:37.520 --> 0:14:39.720 you know, I guess I don't know the next few 0:14:39.840 --> 0:14:41.920 weeks or whatever. So go hand on over to at 0:14:41.920 --> 0:14:45.120 the Budgetista. You will see them all labeled the days 0:14:45.120 --> 0:14:47.280 of the new year and the tools and resources you 0:14:47.320 --> 0:14:49.600 need to stay and get on financial track for twenty 0:14:49.720 --> 0:14:52.480 twenty four. A large part of them, more than half 0:14:52.480 --> 0:14:54.880 of them, are free guy, because you know your girl 0:14:54.920 --> 0:14:56.680 got you. I'm going to take a break and come 0:14:56.760 --> 0:15:00.760 right back with a business life lesson that you could 0:15:00.760 --> 0:15:02.560 take with you into the new year. So we'll be 0:15:02.560 --> 0:15:09.280 back in black and it ever. Honey, bye, and I'm 0:15:09.320 --> 0:15:14.880 back in black and brown. Okay, okay, So okay, we 0:15:14.920 --> 0:15:18.440 started with the good stuff. So I wanted to share 0:15:18.480 --> 0:15:22.960 a lesson that I've learned early on. So I don't 0:15:23.000 --> 0:15:25.480 typically make a ton of mistakes in business because I 0:15:25.520 --> 0:15:30.120 try to operate at the highest possible level. Okay, but 0:15:31.160 --> 0:15:33.600 I made a big mistake. So I had a partnership 0:15:34.240 --> 0:15:36.680 a little while ago with the organization with the company, 0:15:37.400 --> 0:15:42.640 and I trying to say what I have saying all things. 0:15:43.000 --> 0:15:46.480 The way I marketed was not aligned with how they 0:15:46.560 --> 0:15:50.560 show up in business. And it wasn't like I didn't 0:15:50.600 --> 0:15:53.040 do anything like wrong, like you know, you know, but 0:15:53.960 --> 0:15:56.800 I didn't read the room. I'll just say that. And 0:15:56.880 --> 0:15:58.360 I just had a call with them not too long 0:15:58.400 --> 0:16:00.640 ago where they gave me a bit a tongue lashing, 0:16:00.640 --> 0:16:02.800 which I'm not used to because crying honestly, you know, 0:16:02.880 --> 0:16:04.520 when you when you partner with the butcher in Neusta, 0:16:04.600 --> 0:16:07.120 we show up and show out right. So it was 0:16:07.160 --> 0:16:09.120 the first time in fifteen years I didn't get it right. 0:16:10.600 --> 0:16:12.680 And I was so glad that when I got on 0:16:12.720 --> 0:16:15.120 the phone because there was something there was like a 0:16:15.120 --> 0:16:17.720 glitch in the system. So I was calling about the glitch, 0:16:18.160 --> 0:16:20.680 and I was upset about the glitch. But something said, 0:16:20.680 --> 0:16:22.960 I know you're upset about the glitch, Tiffany, but it's 0:16:23.000 --> 0:16:25.920 the new year. We're gonna open pleasant, We're gonna you know, 0:16:25.920 --> 0:16:28.160 we're not gonna We're not gonna come out come in 0:16:28.280 --> 0:16:31.240 hot because of this glitch. And so you know, we 0:16:31.320 --> 0:16:32.840 had to call what I thought was gonna be about 0:16:32.840 --> 0:16:35.920 the glitch. And I'm so glad I didn't come in hot, 0:16:35.960 --> 0:16:38.400 like y'all. Y'all had a glitch. You need that fixing, 0:16:38.920 --> 0:16:41.920 you know, because that was my hoard. But something said, girl, 0:16:41.960 --> 0:16:44.200 we're not doing all that. I just said, hey, seems 0:16:44.240 --> 0:16:45.720 like there was a glitch. Let us know what we 0:16:45.720 --> 0:16:48.400 can do on this end to kind of like work around, 0:16:48.480 --> 0:16:51.040 and blah blah blah. Child. They was like, girl, yeah, 0:16:51.080 --> 0:16:53.240 ye about that glitch. You messed up in this way. 0:16:53.760 --> 0:16:56.920 I was like, say what and I did when I 0:16:56.920 --> 0:16:58.440 look back on it, and I'm like, wow, it was 0:16:58.480 --> 0:17:02.960 not intentional. And the first thing I did was I listened. 0:17:03.120 --> 0:17:06.199 I took it, and I said, you're absolutely right. I'm sorry. 0:17:07.280 --> 0:17:09.640 I see the mistake we made. Here's how we got there. 0:17:10.400 --> 0:17:13.120 Not to excuse it, but here's how we got there. 0:17:13.359 --> 0:17:16.200 I didn't blame anybody on my team, as I assumed 0:17:16.240 --> 0:17:19.800 full responsibility, and I said, here's how that choice was made. 0:17:20.040 --> 0:17:22.240 But looking back on it now, that was not the 0:17:22.280 --> 0:17:24.480 best choice. That's and I said that, and I said 0:17:24.480 --> 0:17:27.160 it was a mistake and it was not intentional, but 0:17:27.520 --> 0:17:29.720 you know, still the damage has been done. What can 0:17:29.800 --> 0:17:31.960 we do? I offered up some solutions about what I 0:17:31.960 --> 0:17:36.879 can do to remedy that, and it went from he 0:17:37.040 --> 0:17:39.119 was like, the person we were navigating with was rightfully 0:17:39.119 --> 0:17:40.960 angry when they first came out. They weren't rude at all, 0:17:41.080 --> 0:17:44.520 but you could feel the tension and it totally diffused. 0:17:44.520 --> 0:17:48.480 And he was like, Okay, you know, thank you for that. Basically, 0:17:48.560 --> 0:17:50.880 and you know what that glitch part. I could see 0:17:50.920 --> 0:17:52.760 our role in that. I mean, that was really kind 0:17:52.800 --> 0:17:56.680 of them to, you know, to to you know, take 0:17:56.720 --> 0:17:57.920 on some of that that was like, you know, a 0:17:58.000 --> 0:18:01.440 peace offering, and we navigated what it's going to look 0:18:01.480 --> 0:18:05.600 like moving forward, and you know, I was embarrassed because 0:18:05.680 --> 0:18:08.600 it wasn't a mistake because you know, in the moment, 0:18:08.760 --> 0:18:10.840 I did have second thoughts, but I was like, no, 0:18:11.160 --> 0:18:13.639 it should be fine. Hey it wasn't fine. Hey it 0:18:13.720 --> 0:18:18.679 was fine, But I am so glad that And so 0:18:18.880 --> 0:18:20.639 my on the team, I had a it was like 0:18:20.720 --> 0:18:22.199 two other women on our team that was on the 0:18:22.200 --> 0:18:25.280 call that were like kind of participated in this part 0:18:25.359 --> 0:18:28.879 of the business. And so the thing that I learned 0:18:29.680 --> 0:18:33.800 is that one, it is so important that even if 0:18:33.840 --> 0:18:39.240 someone has wronged you, like especially in business, to come 0:18:39.280 --> 0:18:43.080 in from a neutral place. It's human to be upset, right, 0:18:43.600 --> 0:18:47.240 but to try your best because one sometimes there's a 0:18:47.280 --> 0:18:50.280 bigger story at play here. And I could have really 0:18:50.280 --> 0:18:51.920 played myself if I was like first of all, second 0:18:51.960 --> 0:18:54.320 of all, third off that you know, but I didn't, 0:18:54.800 --> 0:18:57.600 you know. So one, I've learned that lesson time and 0:18:57.680 --> 0:18:59.520 time again. And honestly, there's a one on my team 0:18:59.680 --> 0:19:02.239 who taught me that, Sylvia, And don't mind shotting her out, 0:19:02.240 --> 0:19:05.720 because Sylvia is excellent. And I remember twice in a row, 0:19:05.920 --> 0:19:07.960 I thought, Sylvia didn't complete a thing, and we use 0:19:08.040 --> 0:19:11.080 this thing called slack, and in slack like you know, 0:19:11.160 --> 0:19:13.360 and like whatever channel that we were navigating, and there's 0:19:13.400 --> 0:19:15.960 other people in this channel. I said, hey, Sylvia, you 0:19:16.000 --> 0:19:18.080 didn't do that thing, and she was like I did. 0:19:18.480 --> 0:19:20.000 She sent me a screenshot of slack and I'm like, 0:19:20.000 --> 0:19:21.840 oh my bad. So meanwhile, this is in front of 0:19:21.840 --> 0:19:24.760 other people, other company people, and then I did it 0:19:24.800 --> 0:19:26.840 again like the next week, like, hey, Sylvia, I thought, 0:19:26.840 --> 0:19:28.600 I asked you for this thing, and she was like 0:19:28.760 --> 0:19:30.840 this other thing, and she's like I did, and I 0:19:30.880 --> 0:19:35.000 hadn't seen it. And then I realized. I said, you know, publicly, Sylvia, 0:19:35.040 --> 0:19:38.040 I'm so sorry because you've done the things and I 0:19:38.080 --> 0:19:40.080 didn't see it, and I'm so sorry. But I thought 0:19:40.080 --> 0:19:42.360 to myself, you know, it's better than being sorry not 0:19:42.440 --> 0:19:45.840 doing it. So it was it was that lesson that 0:19:46.040 --> 0:19:49.240 happened some years ago, and I told myself, I'm not 0:19:49.359 --> 0:19:53.639 going to assume a thing was done intentionally wrong or 0:19:53.680 --> 0:19:56.639 not done that. I'm going to ask more neutral questions 0:19:56.880 --> 0:19:59.280 like hey, Sylvia or whoever, can you give me an 0:19:59.400 --> 0:20:02.720 update on the thing do you see because then she 0:20:02.760 --> 0:20:04.360 could have been like, oh, yeah, it was done. Here's 0:20:04.400 --> 0:20:06.600 the screenshot. I'm like, oh, okay. Then I'm like, oh, child, 0:20:06.600 --> 0:20:09.320 I thought she didn't do it. I was wrong, But 0:20:09.359 --> 0:20:11.640 I didn't come at her that way because the truth 0:20:11.640 --> 0:20:13.800