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Speaker 1: The Nikky Griser podcast, nik Gleaser, here's Nikki. Hello, welcome

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Speaker 1: to the show. It's Nick Lays a podcast. I'm here

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Speaker 1: in Los Angeles with Brian Frangie next to me. What's up?

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Speaker 1: Do you just decided to throw on the sun hat

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Speaker 1: over the headphones?

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Speaker 2: Yeah it doesn't fit.

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Speaker 1: Nope, it doesn't. You got a wain ask?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well it's hot out. It's one hundred degrees so

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Speaker 2: that's a way damn degrees sleep.

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Speaker 1: You dress like you're going on an expedition in the

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Speaker 1: Arctic most of the time, and it's one hundred and

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Speaker 1: ten degrees outside.

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Speaker 2: Now you know what, I dressed like an eighty five

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Speaker 2: year old man going to the beach. Yeah, that is it.

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Speaker 2: I don't want any sun to touch my skin at all.

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Speaker 1: You over, no, okay, just leave my visiline on the floor.

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Speaker 1: It's fine, it's fine. You only want to touch that. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you just like to cover up. You don't want to

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Speaker 1: get sun exposure.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to put on sunscreen because then I

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Speaker 2: get all sticky and then what I hate about sunscreen

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Speaker 2: is about around four pm m you start it starts

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Speaker 2: dripping into your eyes and then you start having an

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Speaker 2: eye pain and you start tearing up and I don't

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Speaker 2: want to deal with that. Is that so much task?

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Speaker 1: That's why you wear so many layers because you have

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Speaker 1: a You have a scarf that Noah pointed out, but

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Speaker 1: you said, it's not a scarf, it's a buff buff.

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Speaker 1: What's the difference between a buff and a scarf?

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Speaker 2: Well, a buff is made of cooling, moisture wicking material

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Speaker 2: that you can wet and it'll keep you cool if

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Speaker 2: you wet it with wet ye cold water.

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Speaker 1: That feels good.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's nice. And my my shirt is also very breathable.

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Speaker 2: It's probably actually cooler to wear this shirt than to

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Speaker 2: wear like a cotton T shirt.

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Speaker 1: Why not white though? Wouldn't a white color be butter

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Speaker 1: for not overheating?

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Speaker 2: I don't own a white one.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well that makes sense.

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Speaker 3: Ryan is highly flammable right now. All these materials will

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Speaker 3: just ignite if you.

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Speaker 2: What is everybody saying, aren't you hot? And search?

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Speaker 4: So we know that those are.

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Speaker 1: What I have a question though, sometimes when people walk

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Speaker 1: into this room that we are so frequently in here,

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Speaker 1: you will put the buff over your mouth.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, sometimes I do that?

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Speaker 1: Is that a what what you look like? You're about

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Speaker 1: to rob a bank. It looks like you're a little

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Speaker 1: a bandit on the run. Is that because sometimes you'll

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Speaker 1: do it and it's like almost like you want to

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Speaker 1: protect them from your breath or you're worried about COVID

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Speaker 1: or something, and and I can see them like tense up,

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Speaker 1: like what did I say? What did I do wrong?

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Speaker 1: But is it just a nervous habit.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if it's nervous.

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Speaker 1: I'm throwing nerves on it. Yeah, I think nervous.

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Speaker 2: I don't know why I just do it. I was

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Speaker 2: going to say it's because someone comes in here and stinks.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because they're far away. I thought that too, But.

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Speaker 2: No, it's just it's I think it's a little fun.

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Speaker 2: You know. I get bored sometimes and you know, pass

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Speaker 2: the time. I'll put my buff in different positions.

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Speaker 5: Okay, well I'm going to just so much more fun.

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Speaker 5: Why did you say it does make things so much

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Speaker 5: more fun?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, things are just I've never had so much fun

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Speaker 1: in prison. Yeah, it a new period. So every once

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Speaker 1: in a while, Yeah, it's it's something to play with.

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Speaker 1: I play with my necklaces. Girls have things to like

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Speaker 1: play with. Maybe he plays with their hair all the time, right,

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Speaker 1: that means she likes you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well yeah, if you're if you're a peacock.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well no, you don't even mean to girls just

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Speaker 1: start like kind of preening.

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Speaker 2: Yes.

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Speaker 1: Is that the word when when you like a boy

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Speaker 1: you just start kind of like trying to make it

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Speaker 1: look better. I guess. But you're also nervous, so you're just.

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Speaker 4: Like somebody I do this. I just rub my arms, yes,

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Speaker 4: a lot of arm rubbing.

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Speaker 1: Well, I think you do that because you're like trying

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Speaker 1: to draw attention to your arms and your skin, and

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Speaker 1: you're trying to be like like it's like almost a

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Speaker 1: sexual movement. Yes, is how I think that's it. I've

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Speaker 1: done that before.

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Speaker 2: Do you guys know the hug position in sex? No,

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Speaker 2: like to comfort yourself, you can go like this.

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Speaker 1: These okay, so you put your cross, your hands across

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Speaker 1: your chest. Okay, what and.

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Speaker 2: Then and then it makes your body it's your yeah,

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Speaker 2: and then it should soothe you. Oh yeah, but it

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Speaker 2: doesn't work.

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Speaker 1: I don't think that that would make me. So it's

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Speaker 1: almost like when you're you try to make it look

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Speaker 1: like you're making out with yourself from behind. I feel

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Speaker 1: like I've seen Nicky in this position. I do that

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Speaker 1: a lot. Yeah, I get I crunch up in a

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Speaker 1: little ball. I'm feeling anxious, I want Yeah, yeah, that

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Speaker 1: makes sense. I'm trying to get hugged by myself.

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Speaker 5: What is there tell when you're like attracted to someone, Nikki,

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Speaker 5: Have you ever been dumb that you do a certain.

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Speaker 1: I don't make eye contact and I'm really mean to

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Speaker 1: them and they have no idea. No, I think I

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Speaker 1: play with my hair and I'm I'll uh a smile lot,

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Speaker 1: and also try to seem disinterested in them, not make honestly,

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Speaker 1: not make too much eye contact, kind and probably talk

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Speaker 1: about sex stuff, try to get the conversation a little

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Speaker 1: bit sexual. And I know that some people. I think

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Speaker 1: in the past you've been like annoyed by girls that

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Speaker 1: do that, Onya. So I'm sorry to say I do that,

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Speaker 1: but I don't do it around people who have.

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Speaker 4: I've never been like, oh, your boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: If I advertize sex around Avi or Matt, it's not

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Speaker 1: because I'm wanting to fuck them. It's just because I

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Speaker 1: also happen to be interested in that topic regardless. But

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Speaker 1: I think that when I like a guy, I'll just

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Speaker 1: try to steer it to like not even sex like

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Speaker 1: relationships or like just and it's not for me to

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Speaker 1: be like think about me as your girlfriend. I want

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Speaker 1: to get information about their situation or how they might

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Speaker 1: be in bed, or like if they're a sexual person,

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Speaker 1: and I might try to get them to see me

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Speaker 1: in that light a little bit. I don't know.

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Speaker 5: I do think I have seen you once in a

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Speaker 5: while be like nervously antisocial, which I'm like, wait, why

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Speaker 5: is she not talking.

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Speaker 1: Now? I'm always confident anti No, Yeah, I think I

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Speaker 1: I do get quiet and nervous, and I get not funny,

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Speaker 1: like that's there's no funny. You can't mix the two.

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Speaker 1: If I dive a new thing, you guys, if you

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Speaker 1: don't want to come too fast, I figured this out.

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Speaker 1: Did I share this shit? If you're masturbating and you

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Speaker 1: are coming too fast? Aka me recently, and masturbation is

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Speaker 1: one of my favorite things. I like to like spend

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Speaker 1: a lot of time doing it. I like to like

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Speaker 1: what's it called? I think it's called gooning? Yes you can,

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Speaker 1: it's so embarrassing what this term is? What is what

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Speaker 1: gooning is? Like the face you make when you're about

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Speaker 1: to come, and I think they like coined gooning is

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Speaker 1: like when you try to extend Christmas Eve before the

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Speaker 1: Christmas so you just so you're just like, oh.

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Speaker 2: If you went home and and like your your families

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Speaker 2: out of Christmas decorations, like on December first and go,

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Speaker 2: you guys are really gooning Christmas this year.

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Speaker 1: I was always trying to goon Christmas. I was always

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Speaker 1: the last one to open present. I never wanted it

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Speaker 1: to end. I'm always the last person to open a

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Speaker 1: present because I want it. I just wanted to last forever. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and so I've been trying to I've always been very

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Speaker 1: good about not It's also called edging. Edging, Yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: same thing kind of gooning. And I think gooning has

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Speaker 1: a connotation that like somebody.

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Speaker 2: Sourcing you to goon. Oh yeah, like you're goon is

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Speaker 2: a negative connotation. Edging is like what you'll see on

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Speaker 2: read to be like I edge for forty five days,

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Speaker 2: yes I haven't come yet. And then gooning is like

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Speaker 2: you're just a little piece of shit. Gooning, Yeah, it

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Speaker 2: does have a negative. It can't come well. Goon used

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Speaker 2: to mean like you're a doofist?

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Speaker 1: Will you look it up? Noah, what the definition of

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Speaker 1: gooning is?

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Speaker 2: Please?

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Speaker 1: Because yeah, gooning doesn't sound good.

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Speaker 2: No, and there's the goonies. Oh okay, really goes on

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Speaker 2: for way too long.

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Speaker 3: Gooning is a state into which one gets when one

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Speaker 3: is highly aroused. Goooning typically typically describes male behavior rather

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Speaker 3: than female. According to Urban Dictionary.

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Speaker 1: I'm goon and what's a female goon?

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Speaker 2: Uh?

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Speaker 1: Gooness?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: But goon and and so I was having a lot

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Speaker 1: of trouble because I think ever after I got that

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Speaker 1: hormone pellet in my ass or whatever, like I can't goon.

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Speaker 1: I'm just like it's I don't know if this is relatable.

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Speaker 2: I don't even know.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to get too graphic because I don't.

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Speaker 1: It's just gross. But you know, when you like are

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Speaker 1: about to climax, like I usually have control over that moment,

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Speaker 1: and I can like not. I have a lot of

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Speaker 1: self control. It's almost like anorexic like where you're like,

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Speaker 1: I have a plate of food in front of me,

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna eat it even though I want it

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Speaker 1: so bad, and I'm like forcing myself not to and

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Speaker 1: I feel like superior, because I'm not like I just

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Speaker 1: I feel in control.

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Speaker 2: I have no control over it anymore.

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Speaker 1: In til I realized if I laugh, if I force

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Speaker 1: myself to laugh, even a fake laugh, a fake smile,

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Speaker 1: instantly deflates my arousal wow and takes the pressure away,

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Speaker 1: and then I can continue gooning. And so if you're

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Speaker 1: about to come start laughing, just a fake laugh, because

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Speaker 1: your body can't do both. You're it's it's it's almost

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Speaker 1: it's it's like physically impossible to both laugh and come.

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Speaker 2: You can't. It's there's, yeah, you can't be horny and

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Speaker 2: laughing at the same time.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they're both defenseless or something. There's they're the opposite things.

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Speaker 1: But so I found like the easiest thing.

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Speaker 2: The other night.

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Speaker 1: I just was like, oh, this is too soon. I

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Speaker 1: want to watch a couple more videos. I want to

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Speaker 1: extend this because it's like the most fun part. And

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Speaker 1: so I just go like, haha, like to myself, I mean,

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Speaker 1: it's fucking crazy. No, it's not sounding, but it works.

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Speaker 1: So if anyone wants to try that, just laugh or smile.

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Speaker 1: If you're with a person and so you don't want

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Speaker 1: to like laugh weirdly, just smile into a pillow or

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Speaker 1: something and would to God, your body like reacts to

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Speaker 1: your smiling as like we have to turn off the

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Speaker 1: thecomwaves has to stop.

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Speaker 2: It would be very confusing if someone saw you doing this,

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Speaker 2: you're gooning and you're going crazy.

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Speaker 1: I hope this hotel room's not haunted because those ghosts

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Speaker 1: have moved onto another room or they're sticking around, because

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Speaker 1: it's very entertaining.

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Speaker 1: Do you know what that means?

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Speaker 1: Because there's too many things. There's too many things now

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Speaker 4: You went with Ali for three months on this venture.

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Speaker 1: Do you watch alone the show?

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Speaker 2: I haven't watched it yet, but Nikki had many times.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and treated so curious how long you can survive? Okay,

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Speaker 1: So what did you learn in this wilderness course that

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Speaker 2: Well? Filter the rules of three, the rules of three.

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Speaker 1: The rules of three?

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Speaker 4: Days without Oh yeah we've done that, Niki.

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Speaker 1: Well that's right to me, not true? Yeah, okay, three

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Speaker 2: have huge true, oh Jesus Christ, if you have heat stroke,

439
00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:08,600
Speaker 2: you will just you won't die from the heat stroke.

440
00:21:08,640 --> 00:21:10,840
Speaker 2: You'll probably fall off a cliff and hit your head

441
00:21:10,840 --> 00:21:12,240
Speaker 2: on a rock and die that way.

442
00:21:12,520 --> 00:21:14,440
Speaker 1: Because you're just so weak and you're still trying.

443
00:21:14,280 --> 00:21:16,480
Speaker 2: To stumbling around. You don't know what's going on, you

444
00:21:16,480 --> 00:21:17,080
Speaker 2: don't know where you are.

445
00:21:17,240 --> 00:21:19,199
Speaker 1: You try to top on a cactus trying to get

446
00:21:19,240 --> 00:21:19,919
Speaker 1: the water out of that.

447
00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:23,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, No, it's not good that it would give me nothing.

448
00:21:23,440 --> 00:21:26,080
Speaker 4: I've been trying to get a reception on my phone.

449
00:21:25,840 --> 00:21:32,119
Speaker 1: And just like fly off, trying to post on TikTok. Yeah, yeah,

450
00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:34,600
Speaker 1: I uh did.

451
00:21:34,800 --> 00:21:35,040
Speaker 2: Yeah.

452
00:21:35,480 --> 00:21:36,879
Speaker 1: I was going to bring up the death that I

453
00:21:36,920 --> 00:21:39,600
Speaker 1: read about this weekend. Then I sent my friends this

454
00:21:39,680 --> 00:21:44,919
Speaker 1: woman was like sleeping in some grass, some tall grass,

455
00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:45,840
Speaker 1: like a homeless woman.

456
00:21:46,200 --> 00:21:46,680
Speaker 2: Okay.

457
00:21:47,000 --> 00:21:50,200
Speaker 1: And by the way, she didn't go home. Oh no,

458
00:21:50,840 --> 00:21:52,840
Speaker 1: she didn't look almost because they were like, well, that's

459
00:21:52,880 --> 00:21:56,160
Speaker 1: the new thing home. Anyone can be homeless now because

460
00:21:56,240 --> 00:21:59,040
Speaker 1: our fucking society is so fucked up. So there's recent

461
00:21:59,080 --> 00:22:01,160
Speaker 1: pictures of people who are homeless that do not look

462
00:22:01,160 --> 00:22:03,640
Speaker 1: homeless because they weren't homeless a week ago, but they

463
00:22:03,640 --> 00:22:06,880
Speaker 1: are homeless because they can't fucking afford to live anymore.

464
00:22:07,080 --> 00:22:08,960
Speaker 1: So she was like pictured. Her last picture was like

465
00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:10,520
Speaker 1: at a party with a guy. She has like a

466
00:22:10,520 --> 00:22:12,280
Speaker 1: normal outfit on. She has like a plate with like

467
00:22:12,280 --> 00:22:14,600
Speaker 1: some food on it. And that was like the picture

468
00:22:14,640 --> 00:22:16,880
Speaker 1: they showed at least that I saw. And then now

469
00:22:16,920 --> 00:22:21,160
Speaker 1: she's homeless and someone was a huge John Deere tractor

470
00:22:21,600 --> 00:22:23,720
Speaker 1: and apparently her family was like there were chunks of

471
00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:26,480
Speaker 1: her everywhere. God, But then they had a picture of

472
00:22:26,480 --> 00:22:29,800
Speaker 1: her jeans that she was wearing and like her top,

473
00:22:29,840 --> 00:22:31,760
Speaker 1: and there was no there was no blood or anything

474
00:22:31,800 --> 00:22:34,520
Speaker 1: on them. So I don't know what what was what,

475
00:22:34,760 --> 00:22:38,160
Speaker 1: But it was in Modesto, California, where Scott Peterson allegedly

476
00:22:38,240 --> 00:22:38,720
Speaker 1: killed Lacy.

477
00:22:38,800 --> 00:22:40,240
Speaker 2: Oh my god, not even allegedly.

478
00:22:40,280 --> 00:22:42,840
Speaker 1: I think he's convicted, but my friend Taylor McGraw says

479
00:22:42,880 --> 00:22:44,840
Speaker 1: that he's innocent, So who the fuck knows.

480
00:22:45,040 --> 00:22:48,520
Speaker 5: I've watched two Scott Peterson documentaries and what are you?

481
00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:50,880
Speaker 4: Very confusing? It's so confusing.

482
00:22:51,400 --> 00:22:53,360
Speaker 5: By that time you were watching, you're like, oh my god,

483
00:22:53,359 --> 00:22:55,440
Speaker 5: there might not have been time for him to do it.

484
00:22:55,520 --> 00:22:56,800
Speaker 5: He really was gone.

485
00:22:57,200 --> 00:23:00,360
Speaker 1: Taylor said, just because someone is cheating and there gets

486
00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:02,879
Speaker 1: murdered does not mean they did it. It could just

487
00:23:02,920 --> 00:23:07,120
Speaker 1: be a coincidence. Just because you're googling chloroform a life

488
00:23:07,200 --> 00:23:10,600
Speaker 1: insurance policy before they die, it could be coincidental. There

489
00:23:10,720 --> 00:23:13,879
Speaker 1: is someone out there that has googled chloroform or just

490
00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:17,760
Speaker 1: been interested in like is maybe and just their wife

491
00:23:17,800 --> 00:23:21,399
Speaker 1: happens to go missing, Yes, and then it looks so bad.

492
00:23:22,640 --> 00:23:25,240
Speaker 1: Everyone thinks you're guilty. But like, there is at least

493
00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:27,960
Speaker 1: one situation out there where that is coincidental, And that's

494
00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:30,800
Speaker 1: what Taylor says, is like's not, it's just coincidental that

495
00:23:30,840 --> 00:23:32,560
Speaker 1: he was cheating on his wife and lying about it

496
00:23:32,600 --> 00:23:34,199
Speaker 1: and all these things and wanting to get out and

497
00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:35,080
Speaker 1: then she goes missing.

498
00:23:35,320 --> 00:23:40,199
Speaker 5: Yeah, he's gone for an hour when Lacey's home, and

499
00:23:40,240 --> 00:23:42,800
Speaker 5: he's like riding his boat around the bay. And then

500
00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:46,160
Speaker 5: there's this robbery that happens across the street from Lacey's

501
00:23:46,160 --> 00:23:48,399
Speaker 5: house with these guys in a van and they're loading

502
00:23:48,400 --> 00:23:50,960
Speaker 5: shit from the house across the street, and Lacey goes,

503
00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:53,400
Speaker 5: what are you guys doing? What are you doing? And

504
00:23:53,440 --> 00:23:58,680
Speaker 5: a person, a neighbor drives by sees Lacey crouching near

505
00:23:58,720 --> 00:24:01,280
Speaker 5: the van, looking scared, and they're like it looked like

506
00:24:01,359 --> 00:24:03,400
Speaker 5: she was urinating or something.

507
00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:04,280
Speaker 1: That she looked afraid.

508
00:24:04,320 --> 00:24:09,240
Speaker 5: This story, they wouldn't admit that into court because of

509
00:24:09,280 --> 00:24:12,120
Speaker 5: some weird thing like, but it's in one of these

510
00:24:12,119 --> 00:24:14,159
Speaker 5: documentaries that the neighbors like, I drove by and I

511
00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:16,639
Speaker 5: saw Lacy talking to these guys and she looked a

512
00:24:16,640 --> 00:24:18,399
Speaker 5: little scared and I couldn't tell.

513
00:24:18,680 --> 00:24:20,480
Speaker 4: And somebody else was like, I saw Lee scared.

514
00:24:20,640 --> 00:24:23,320
Speaker 1: Anytime I'm talking to men in my neighbor's driveway.

515
00:24:23,840 --> 00:24:27,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, and that's also right around that time she was murdered.

516
00:24:27,560 --> 00:24:29,359
Speaker 1: I look scared all the time. If I got murdered,

517
00:24:29,359 --> 00:24:31,879
Speaker 1: people would be like I saw Nikky earlier day at

518
00:24:31,880 --> 00:24:35,239
Speaker 1: Starbucks looking scared talking to the barista about how this

519
00:24:35,280 --> 00:24:35,760
Speaker 1: was supposed to.

520
00:24:35,720 --> 00:24:36,280
Speaker 2: Be almond milk.

521
00:24:36,359 --> 00:24:38,840
Speaker 1: Like it would everyone would be implicated because I just

522
00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:42,920
Speaker 1: look like a guilt Like I'm just like crown by everyone. Yeah,

523
00:24:42,920 --> 00:24:44,879
Speaker 1: you know, do you mind if do you guys have

524
00:24:44,920 --> 00:24:46,879
Speaker 1: an extension court? I'm sorry forgot whatever?

525
00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:48,840
Speaker 2: Do you apologize quite frequently?

526
00:24:49,280 --> 00:24:52,480
Speaker 1: Yeah? I do, Yeah, but I am genuinely sorry. No,

527
00:24:52,680 --> 00:24:56,840
Speaker 1: it's existing. It's my mom's dad's fault. They got a

528
00:24:56,840 --> 00:25:01,760
Speaker 1: little randy on September eleventh. I think I was conceived

529
00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:04,440
Speaker 1: on their anniversary, the year anniversary of their wedding, because

530
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:05,240
Speaker 1: it kind of back.

531
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:06,159
Speaker 2: To September eleventh.

532
00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:08,480
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, my parents anniversary is September eleven.

533
00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:08,920
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

534
00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:10,240
Speaker 1: I've always known that day as a tragedy.

535
00:25:11,040 --> 00:25:11,600
Speaker 2: That's my joke.

536
00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:17,000
Speaker 1: But yeah, my other joke is that on their anniversary

537
00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:19,439
Speaker 1: every year, I you know, ride on their car with

538
00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:22,200
Speaker 1: like white shoe polish, like happy anniversary, and they have

539
00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:25,119
Speaker 1: to just drive around all day, but that would be

540
00:25:25,160 --> 00:25:28,960
Speaker 1: so awful. The two towers of your life, yeah they are.

541
00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:34,119
Speaker 1: I'm building seven and I don't know what any of

542
00:25:34,119 --> 00:25:37,720
Speaker 1: this is, so I forget what I was saying.

543
00:25:37,760 --> 00:25:42,320
Speaker 2: But you're always apologizing. But I think it's because it's yes,

544
00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:46,400
Speaker 2: you're apologizing for your existence, but you also you're recognizing

545
00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:50,440
Speaker 2: when other people might feel like a little bit bad,

546
00:25:50,600 --> 00:25:54,480
Speaker 2: and so you you're you're just acknowledging other people's experiences

547
00:25:54,520 --> 00:25:57,080
Speaker 2: by apologizing more so than I think most people would.

548
00:25:57,320 --> 00:26:00,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm very aware, but I don't like to pat

549
00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:03,720
Speaker 1: myself on the back about being like I'm so intuitive

550
00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:07,480
Speaker 1: about how people feel. But I feel like I might

551
00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:11,120
Speaker 1: be I don't know how other and maybe and I'm

552
00:26:11,160 --> 00:26:13,400
Speaker 1: projecting a lot of times like I would feel this way.

553
00:26:13,440 --> 00:26:16,840
Speaker 1: But I like to get ahead of anyone possibly thinking

554
00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:20,359
Speaker 1: I'm a bit or having and not to control the

555
00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:22,840
Speaker 1: narrative about me so much because I don't. I kind

556
00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:24,239
Speaker 1: of don't care when I find out people think I'm

557
00:26:24,240 --> 00:26:26,680
Speaker 1: a bit. I don't care if I was one. I'm

558
00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:28,479
Speaker 1: just like, Okay, well that's fine. I've kind of let

559
00:26:28,560 --> 00:26:30,680
Speaker 1: that go. But I just don't want people to think

560
00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:35,280
Speaker 1: like the other day, I changed my mind about something

561
00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:38,080
Speaker 1: that a lot of people had prepared something for, and

562
00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:41,159
Speaker 1: I felt bad because people had gotten to work early,

563
00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:43,520
Speaker 1: they had put a lot of work into, like thinking

564
00:26:43,520 --> 00:26:44,760
Speaker 1: that I was going to do this thing, and then

565
00:26:44,760 --> 00:26:46,400
Speaker 1: at the last minute, I was like, I don't want

566
00:26:46,440 --> 00:26:48,359
Speaker 1: to do this at all. I'm so mad. I should

567
00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:50,000
Speaker 1: have said no to this at the first start of

568
00:26:50,040 --> 00:26:51,919
Speaker 1: the thing. And so I had to send a lot

569
00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:54,800
Speaker 1: of text apologizing to each person that was involved. Yes,

570
00:26:55,320 --> 00:26:58,639
Speaker 1: just in case they thought I carelessly was just like,

571
00:26:59,240 --> 00:27:03,240
Speaker 1: you know, disregarding of their time and not and not caring,

572
00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:06,159
Speaker 1: because that would make me feel shitty. I would just

573
00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:09,040
Speaker 1: have I would be like, and I think when you're

574
00:27:12,760 --> 00:27:15,120
Speaker 1: I think it's easy for people to think that celebrities

575
00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:17,760
Speaker 1: think that they're better than everyone else, and there they

576
00:27:17,800 --> 00:27:19,679
Speaker 1: don't care about other people. And sometimes I don't like,

577
00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:22,399
Speaker 1: sometimes you get treated so nicely, you forget that all

578
00:27:22,440 --> 00:27:25,200
Speaker 1: the work that goes in to treat you so nicely. Yes,

579
00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:27,240
Speaker 1: and I like to try to remember that, I guess,

580
00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:29,080
Speaker 1: but I can be bad about it sometimes.

581
00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:32,560
Speaker 4: One of your generous with an apology, Yeah.

582
00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:35,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know. Thanks. One of your goals in life

583
00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:40,160
Speaker 2: is to have some on some set somewhere where you're

584
00:27:40,200 --> 00:27:43,520
Speaker 2: not on it. The hair and makeup person says, I

585
00:27:43,560 --> 00:27:45,520
Speaker 2: met Nikki Glazier and they go, oh, how was she,

586
00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:48,240
Speaker 2: and then go, she was actually really nice. Yes, that's

587
00:27:48,240 --> 00:27:48,640
Speaker 2: your goal.

588
00:27:48,760 --> 00:27:51,000
Speaker 1: I like, it always comes back to me when people.

589
00:27:51,200 --> 00:27:52,840
Speaker 1: I saw someone the other night and he said, my

590
00:27:52,880 --> 00:27:55,840
Speaker 1: girlfriend was a makeup artist for you on some project.

591
00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:58,360
Speaker 1: And I was like, and of course, I don't even

592
00:27:58,359 --> 00:28:00,320
Speaker 1: know why I got tense. I've never once been rude

593
00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:04,400
Speaker 1: to a makeup artist, and maybe maybe I have unintentionally,

594
00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:07,639
Speaker 1: but never intentionally. And I was still nervous. But he

595
00:28:07,720 --> 00:28:09,840
Speaker 1: was like, she said, you were so nice, and I

596
00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:12,240
Speaker 1: was like, ah, and I yeah, I do. I get

597
00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:15,159
Speaker 1: off from being one of the celebrities that people have

598
00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:18,320
Speaker 1: nice things to say about whatever. Just watching it.

599
00:28:18,640 --> 00:28:20,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, I was just watching an episode of The Car

600
00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:23,439
Speaker 5: Now she ends up and getting into this season, and

601
00:28:24,280 --> 00:28:27,520
Speaker 5: you kind of overlook moments when people might be rude.

602
00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:30,119
Speaker 5: But there's this one scene when Chris is getting her

603
00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:33,400
Speaker 5: makeup done by this guy, and he's like, they cut

604
00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:35,520
Speaker 5: off the scene, but it's right when he goes it

605
00:28:35,640 --> 00:28:38,960
Speaker 5: was so lovely meeting and she completely ignores him and

606
00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:42,600
Speaker 5: she's like, let's go shopping. Girls like completely ignores him twice.

607
00:28:42,640 --> 00:28:44,160
Speaker 5: And it was one of those things where if you're

608
00:28:44,200 --> 00:28:46,320
Speaker 5: watching the show, you wouldn't even notice it and it

609
00:28:46,320 --> 00:28:47,600
Speaker 5: would be like a nothing moment.

610
00:28:47,680 --> 00:28:48,440
Speaker 4: But I was saying that.

611
00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:51,440
Speaker 5: Was really rude, Like, yeah, he was talking to her

612
00:28:51,760 --> 00:28:54,880
Speaker 5: and he's like, you look beautiful. She doesn't address him.

613
00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:57,400
Speaker 5: She goes, I look amazing, and then he goes it

614
00:28:57,480 --> 00:29:00,160
Speaker 5: was so lovely meeting and she's just onto the next thing.

615
00:29:00,600 --> 00:29:02,160
Speaker 5: Nothing just gets out of the chair.

616
00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:04,280
Speaker 1: I kept myself doing that a lot, where I just

617
00:29:04,280 --> 00:29:06,600
Speaker 1: don't I'm just focused on what's next and I don't

618
00:29:06,640 --> 00:29:07,920
Speaker 1: hear the person next to me, and so I can

619
00:29:07,960 --> 00:29:11,240
Speaker 1: come off as rude and it's unintentional. This weekend, Carlisle,

620
00:29:11,720 --> 00:29:14,760
Speaker 1: I was over at her apartment and I was just

621
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:16,800
Speaker 1: feeling low and she's like, you need to do like

622
00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:21,600
Speaker 1: an NA d like a a V drip, and so

623
00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:23,800
Speaker 1: she's like, let me just call and so she calls

624
00:29:23,840 --> 00:29:26,560
Speaker 1: this like med spawn. She's like, you know, has them

625
00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:28,680
Speaker 1: on speaker and she's asking this girl all these questions

626
00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:32,400
Speaker 1: about NAD and it ends up being like seven hundred

627
00:29:32,440 --> 00:29:34,720
Speaker 1: and fifty dollars you can get an a NAD push

628
00:29:34,880 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 1: into your IV that you're already getting. But this is NAD.

629
00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:41,280
Speaker 1: I don't it's like energy. Yeah, it's like energy. It

630
00:29:41,360 --> 00:29:44,880
Speaker 1: like helps with brain fog. None of this stuffs I

631
00:29:44,920 --> 00:29:46,720
Speaker 1: really believe. I think it's all placebo.

632
00:29:47,000 --> 00:29:51,240
Speaker 2: That's like a ball, like I know in yeah, it

633
00:29:51,320 --> 00:29:53,920
Speaker 2: should shape that, but it's na D.

634
00:29:54,560 --> 00:29:56,520
Speaker 1: I don't know how you. I don't think people are

635
00:29:56,560 --> 00:29:58,040
Speaker 1: that like focused on balls.

636
00:29:58,160 --> 00:30:00,240
Speaker 2: You're upset, I'm spurry.

637
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:03,600
Speaker 1: So NAD. She's like, get it. She's like, if I

638
00:30:03,600 --> 00:30:07,080
Speaker 1: had your money, I would do this every day. She's

639
00:30:07,160 --> 00:30:09,240
Speaker 1: always telling you that. She's like, if I had your money,

640
00:30:09,360 --> 00:30:11,160
Speaker 1: I would do this to my neck, I would do

641
00:30:11,200 --> 00:30:13,120
Speaker 1: this to my face. I'm like, are you thinking what

642
00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:16,440
Speaker 1: I should do to my days? And nick? But she's

643
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:18,120
Speaker 1: always telling me things like that. So she's like, let

644
00:30:18,120 --> 00:30:19,800
Speaker 1: me just call, and so she calls and this girl

645
00:30:19,840 --> 00:30:22,600
Speaker 1: is like giving us all this information, talking for so long,

646
00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:24,880
Speaker 1: and then I just go to Carlis, I'll go I'm

647
00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:26,640
Speaker 1: not gonna do it, and she's like, Okay, thanks bye,

648
00:30:26,680 --> 00:30:28,800
Speaker 1: and like just hangs up on her really quick, and

649
00:30:28,800 --> 00:30:30,600
Speaker 1: the girls like have a great day, you know, like

650
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:33,479
Speaker 1: hangs up and I go Carla. That was so rude.

651
00:30:33,960 --> 00:30:36,520
Speaker 1: She was just focused on doing what I was telling

652
00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:38,880
Speaker 1: her to do, so she wasn't focused on the girl

653
00:30:38,880 --> 00:30:40,640
Speaker 1: on the other line. So she just hung up on

654
00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:43,240
Speaker 1: this girl. And I'm always when there are people that

655
00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:45,600
Speaker 1: help me on a phone call, I'm always like, I

656
00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:48,640
Speaker 1: wait for the thank you have a good day. You

657
00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:50,720
Speaker 1: have a good day too. I really appreciate your time.

658
00:30:50,840 --> 00:30:52,600
Speaker 1: Like I like to give them something so they don't.

659
00:30:52,720 --> 00:30:54,720
Speaker 1: So they don't cause I know the telemark erters have

660
00:30:54,800 --> 00:30:57,040
Speaker 1: lost faith in the world. Sure people are screwed to

661
00:30:57,040 --> 00:30:58,640
Speaker 1: them all day long, and I go call out. You

662
00:30:58,800 --> 00:31:02,720
Speaker 1: can't if someone has given you seven minutes of their

663
00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:05,600
Speaker 1: time going over their menu, what this thing does for you,

664
00:31:05,680 --> 00:31:08,960
Speaker 1: how the ivy's work, the pricing plan, it doesn't matter

665
00:31:08,960 --> 00:31:10,400
Speaker 1: if you're not going to use it. You have to

666
00:31:10,480 --> 00:31:14,120
Speaker 1: thank them for their time. And you know, I know

667
00:31:14,160 --> 00:31:17,080
Speaker 1: it's their job. But like I do hang up sometimes

668
00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:18,880
Speaker 1: when I get up spam call and she's like, Hi,

669
00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:21,440
Speaker 1: this is Tefan. I honey, I'm sorry, sorry, I can't

670
00:31:21,440 --> 00:31:23,280
Speaker 1: do this right now, bye, and I will hang up

671
00:31:23,320 --> 00:31:25,520
Speaker 1: without getting out. Her response from that's.

672
00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:28,000
Speaker 3: Different because that's that's someone trying to sell you something.

673
00:31:28,040 --> 00:31:32,040
Speaker 3: This is a receptionist mm hmm, who like unwilling, like

674
00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:33,280
Speaker 3: just just took the call.

675
00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:36,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, Carol, Yeah, you called her and that girl could

676
00:31:36,480 --> 00:31:38,520
Speaker 1: have customers lining up in front of her who she's

677
00:31:38,560 --> 00:31:41,040
Speaker 1: giving like the one minute finger two because she's talking.

678
00:31:41,040 --> 00:31:42,960
Speaker 1: We've all been into a place where they're on the

679
00:31:42,960 --> 00:31:45,240
Speaker 1: phone with someone who's asking about every fucking detail of

680
00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:47,800
Speaker 1: their menu, and you're like, bit's just look online.

681
00:31:47,520 --> 00:31:50,280
Speaker 2: Right, Why does the phone get precedence for the person

682
00:31:50,320 --> 00:31:53,960
Speaker 2: who's actually there. The phone always gets precedents.

683
00:31:53,440 --> 00:31:55,120
Speaker 1: Because it's ringing and it's annoying.

684
00:31:55,840 --> 00:31:59,080
Speaker 2: But I like, al yeah, sometimes they say hello, this

685
00:31:59,120 --> 00:32:00,560
Speaker 2: is the VET, please hold, and then they put you

686
00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:00,960
Speaker 2: on hold.

687
00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:03,120
Speaker 1: And then I'm in the counter and I'm freaking out

688
00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:04,800
Speaker 1: because that person's been on hold way too long.

689
00:32:04,920 --> 00:32:06,960
Speaker 2: They got a dying God. I've not got either side.

690
00:32:07,040 --> 00:32:09,080
Speaker 1: Oh, I stress out. I just don't get the call

691
00:32:09,160 --> 00:32:11,920
Speaker 1: and just take care of it. I'm I'm sorry, I'm

692
00:32:11,920 --> 00:32:12,400
Speaker 1: even here.

693
00:32:13,560 --> 00:32:18,200
Speaker 2: I meant to bring up though, another thing, another topic. Yeah,

694
00:32:18,280 --> 00:32:22,880
Speaker 2: the gil Go Beach murderer, Long Island's most famous unsolved murder.

695
00:32:23,680 --> 00:32:25,360
Speaker 2: This he was caught.

696
00:32:25,960 --> 00:32:28,520
Speaker 1: I don't know about this girls chat referenced it and

697
00:32:28,560 --> 00:32:31,000
Speaker 1: I just called it like the dildo beach murder. They

698
00:32:31,000 --> 00:32:33,720
Speaker 1: were making dildo references. I haven't heard about this. What

699
00:32:33,840 --> 00:32:34,080
Speaker 1: is this?

700
00:32:34,600 --> 00:32:38,160
Speaker 2: He is a guy who turns out he looks like

701
00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:41,120
Speaker 2: exactly what you think a serial killer would look like

702
00:32:41,200 --> 00:32:44,000
Speaker 2: every fucking time. Just describe him. You've never seen him, right, Okay,

703
00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:44,920
Speaker 2: describe this guy.

704
00:32:45,040 --> 00:32:53,880
Speaker 1: Bald, beautiful, uh like, age spots all over uh no,

705
00:32:54,440 --> 00:33:00,840
Speaker 1: iris just all pupil molestered glasses, that's okay, scraggling like

706
00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:06,040
Speaker 1: unkept hair. Let's go unkempt hair, yes, blondish I think so.

707
00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:07,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not trying.

708
00:33:07,160 --> 00:33:07,960
Speaker 1: Just messed up.

709
00:33:08,200 --> 00:33:11,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, borderline obs.

710
00:33:11,280 --> 00:33:16,760
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, border like like like a bigating man. Oh really?

711
00:33:16,920 --> 00:33:17,080
Speaker 5: Yes?

712
00:33:17,480 --> 00:33:18,600
Speaker 1: And what was heming?

713
00:33:19,720 --> 00:33:21,360
Speaker 2: Thee?

714
00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:21,840
Speaker 5: There is?

715
00:33:22,080 --> 00:33:25,680
Speaker 2: But he normally has glasses too, and he's an he

716
00:33:25,720 --> 00:33:27,520
Speaker 2: looks like a football coach. He's an architect.

717
00:33:28,120 --> 00:33:31,760
Speaker 1: Oh wow, he's not. You could tell he's probably a

718
00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:34,400
Speaker 1: good looking guy. At one point. I kind of like

719
00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:36,800
Speaker 1: his hair. It's kind of like dune up hair. It

720
00:33:36,880 --> 00:33:39,720
Speaker 1: has like, uh, that hair would have been killing it.

721
00:33:39,800 --> 00:33:43,640
Speaker 1: It's like Rob Thomas hair nineteen ninety nine. Rob Thomas

722
00:33:44,320 --> 00:33:44,600
Speaker 1: his hair.

723
00:33:45,360 --> 00:33:47,000
Speaker 2: Maybe he would have been killing it too.

724
00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:49,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, so what did you can't have that kind

725
00:33:49,880 --> 00:33:51,400
Speaker 1: of long hair if you're a serial killer.

726
00:33:51,960 --> 00:33:55,160
Speaker 2: That stuff's falling out and that's very noticeable. And then yeah,

727
00:33:55,280 --> 00:33:58,400
Speaker 2: dna oh yeah, no, no, well he was, he was.

728
00:33:58,720 --> 00:34:03,480
Speaker 2: He was very good at hiding his victims. He hid

729
00:34:03,560 --> 00:34:05,640
Speaker 2: them at Gilgo Beach in the marshes.

730
00:34:05,760 --> 00:34:07,400
Speaker 1: And how long was he murdering for?

731
00:34:08,160 --> 00:34:10,880
Speaker 2: He murdered From what I understand, I'm no expert, but

732
00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:15,600
Speaker 2: I believe he murdered four people and he buried them

733
00:34:15,640 --> 00:34:18,400
Speaker 2: in the marshes. And the thing about the marshes that

734
00:34:18,480 --> 00:34:23,440
Speaker 2: you bury a body in a marsh, it like decomposes instantaneously,

735
00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:24,840
Speaker 2: like animals eat it.

736
00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:26,120
Speaker 1: It's called a bog body.

737
00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:29,000
Speaker 2: A bog body. What's that?

738
00:34:30,000 --> 00:34:32,239
Speaker 1: Sounds like exactly tech talk where you try to get

739
00:34:33,040 --> 00:34:35,120
Speaker 1: like lay in a bog and it like eats your

740
00:34:35,200 --> 00:34:38,520
Speaker 1: fat or something. Okay, So he knew how to get

741
00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:40,320
Speaker 1: rid of these bodies fast, I guess so, or he

742
00:34:40,440 --> 00:34:41,040
Speaker 1: just got lucky.

743
00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:42,960
Speaker 2: But he put all the bodies in the same area

744
00:34:43,239 --> 00:34:47,400
Speaker 2: in Gilgo Beach and they were there for years and

745
00:34:47,920 --> 00:34:50,480
Speaker 2: he was not caught. That happened in like two thousand

746
00:34:50,480 --> 00:34:55,520
Speaker 2: and seven. There are four prostitutes yes, so there's more.

747
00:34:57,120 --> 00:35:00,360
Speaker 1: You can't just kill four prostitutes over twenty years, no

748
00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:01,960
Speaker 1: fucking way. There's got to be more.

749
00:35:02,280 --> 00:35:04,840
Speaker 2: So there's some funny and also disturbing things from I

750
00:35:04,920 --> 00:35:07,480
Speaker 2: read the my friend is actually a police officer in

751
00:35:07,640 --> 00:35:10,680
Speaker 2: Suffolk County where this happened, and he's like giving us

752
00:35:10,719 --> 00:35:14,080
Speaker 2: all the updates, and I read like the I don't

753
00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:16,560
Speaker 2: know the police reporter or whatever. And there's a couple

754
00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:19,480
Speaker 2: of funny things in it. Yeah. One of them is

755
00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:23,759
Speaker 2: the fourth person that he killed was a prostitute who

756
00:35:25,040 --> 00:35:28,560
Speaker 2: he went to the prostitute's house to have sex, and

757
00:35:29,239 --> 00:35:36,040
Speaker 2: she was performing what the report described as a ruse. Okay,

758
00:35:37,040 --> 00:35:39,320
Speaker 2: she performed a ruse where she had the guy. She

759
00:35:39,400 --> 00:35:41,040
Speaker 2: didn't know this guy, she was just talking on the phone.

760
00:35:41,239 --> 00:35:42,719
Speaker 2: She had the guy coming to his house. She's like,

761
00:35:42,920 --> 00:35:45,600
Speaker 2: give me whatever five hundred dollars and we're going to

762
00:35:45,680 --> 00:35:50,600
Speaker 2: have sex. And then the guy gave her the five

763
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:53,960
Speaker 2: hundred dollars and then she had another man come out

764
00:35:54,080 --> 00:35:57,680
Speaker 2: pretending to be her angry boyfriend, going oh the fuck

765
00:35:57,800 --> 00:35:59,680
Speaker 2: is this guy and then kicks him out to kicks

766
00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:02,080
Speaker 2: him out and they keep the money. Okay, little did

767
00:36:02,160 --> 00:36:05,719
Speaker 2: she know that this guy already murdered three prostitutes, so.

768
00:36:06,040 --> 00:36:07,160
Speaker 1: I think she has a guy there.

769
00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:09,799
Speaker 2: Good thing, she has a guy there. But now he's

770
00:36:09,960 --> 00:36:13,759
Speaker 2: like he's like zeroed in on her, and he he

771
00:36:13,880 --> 00:36:15,880
Speaker 2: calls her up and says, that wasn't very nice.

772
00:36:16,160 --> 00:36:19,440
Speaker 1: Oh wait, she did it to him, and he's scrammed.

773
00:36:19,520 --> 00:36:21,800
Speaker 2: He's scrammed, but he's not going to forget. He's not

774
00:36:21,920 --> 00:36:24,439
Speaker 2: going to forget. And she goes, that's not very nice.

775
00:36:24,719 --> 00:36:27,520
Speaker 2: Next time we do this, please make sure that your

776
00:36:27,560 --> 00:36:29,600
Speaker 2: boyfriend isn't there, or maybe he said like, let we'll

777
00:36:29,640 --> 00:36:33,759
Speaker 2: do it at a different location, a second location. Yeah, no,

778
00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:37,560
Speaker 2: that wasn't very nice. It's so scary, very nice, so

779
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:40,040
Speaker 2: scared when you know that he's a murderer, really scary.

780
00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:44,200
Speaker 2: So that was It was just funny that they described

781
00:36:44,200 --> 00:36:46,160
Speaker 2: it as a ruse in the report. Oh and then

782
00:36:46,200 --> 00:36:50,640
Speaker 2: she got prostitute, this guy cruise. She met up with

783
00:36:50,719 --> 00:36:53,600
Speaker 2: him again and he strangled her and threw in the morning.

784
00:36:53,680 --> 00:36:57,360
Speaker 1: We just say, like I think that we I think society,

785
00:36:58,360 --> 00:37:00,759
Speaker 1: I mean I know they do. They don't look prostitutes

786
00:37:00,760 --> 00:37:03,319
Speaker 1: as like real people, and I think that it can

787
00:37:03,360 --> 00:37:06,360
Speaker 1: be just like, oh, he just killed prostitutes. No, baggie,

788
00:37:06,960 --> 00:37:10,200
Speaker 1: they're just prostitutes. Do you know that? We're all prostitutes

789
00:37:10,480 --> 00:37:14,560
Speaker 1: really that just had better lives? Actually, in us, we

790
00:37:14,719 --> 00:37:17,640
Speaker 1: all could have been prostitutes if we just had shitty parents,

791
00:37:18,360 --> 00:37:21,560
Speaker 1: no fucking support, our whole lives. Except this one pimp

792
00:37:21,640 --> 00:37:23,960
Speaker 1: that showed us a little slice of kindness.

793
00:37:24,320 --> 00:37:25,359
Speaker 2: We are all.

794
00:37:26,040 --> 00:37:28,960
Speaker 1: We are all any anyway. I think sometimes you just

795
00:37:29,000 --> 00:37:31,880
Speaker 1: think I would never do that. I could never do that.

796
00:37:32,040 --> 00:37:34,560
Speaker 1: Like these women want to do this, they don't want

797
00:37:34,600 --> 00:37:37,400
Speaker 1: to do it. They're sex trafficked. They have no other options,

798
00:37:37,800 --> 00:37:39,480
Speaker 1: and they're no different than you and me, except that

799
00:37:39,520 --> 00:37:42,160
Speaker 1: they were just born into a better situation. And same

800
00:37:42,200 --> 00:37:43,799
Speaker 1: with a serial killer. To be honest with you too,

801
00:37:44,239 --> 00:37:46,040
Speaker 1: h we're all just lucky we did. We're born with

802
00:37:46,080 --> 00:37:47,400
Speaker 1: a serial killer's brain.

803
00:37:47,360 --> 00:37:49,560
Speaker 5: And all of us are just a month away from

804
00:37:50,440 --> 00:37:52,560
Speaker 5: being like that almost woman who got.

805
00:37:52,640 --> 00:37:56,600
Speaker 1: Lawnmower sleeping, And I mean she must have been opioiated

806
00:37:56,800 --> 00:38:01,080
Speaker 1: out because how do you not hear lawnmower approaching? I yeah,

807
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:03,279
Speaker 1: might have been in a deep sleep.

808
00:38:03,320 --> 00:38:05,080
Speaker 2: Why do you sleep? And that you shouldn't sleep in

809
00:38:05,120 --> 00:38:07,440
Speaker 2: the tall grass either, like there's ticks in there. It's

810
00:38:07,480 --> 00:38:10,960
Speaker 2: not comfortable. You should. I learned this from my she

811
00:38:11,080 --> 00:38:11,279
Speaker 2: was on.

812
00:38:11,560 --> 00:38:18,759
Speaker 1: Drugs, drugs and Brian's So what did you learn? Oh?

813
00:38:19,600 --> 00:38:21,360
Speaker 1: Uh were ten essentials?

814
00:38:21,719 --> 00:38:25,880
Speaker 2: Oh, I'd rather I don't want to say anything about that. Okay,

815
00:38:26,080 --> 00:38:28,200
Speaker 2: I'd rather, I mean, it's not interesting enough to say.

816
00:38:28,239 --> 00:38:30,200
Speaker 2: But at the gig beach murderer, I have more information,

817
00:38:30,480 --> 00:38:34,120
Speaker 2: Please tell I mean, I can tell you the ten essentials,

818
00:38:34,160 --> 00:38:36,359
Speaker 2: but it's like, okay, bring water.

819
00:38:38,280 --> 00:38:40,279
Speaker 1: Would he have sex with them first and then murder them?

820
00:38:40,320 --> 00:38:41,759
Speaker 1: And how would he murder them? Strangle them?

821
00:38:42,120 --> 00:38:42,759
Speaker 2: Strangle them?

822
00:38:43,080 --> 00:38:43,200
Speaker 5: Uh.

823
00:38:44,040 --> 00:38:46,560
Speaker 2: Another funny thing is that they asked that angry boyfriend

824
00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:50,560
Speaker 2: who was part of the ruse. Yeah, describe the guy

825
00:38:50,640 --> 00:38:53,320
Speaker 2: who came over when they were trying to investigate, and

826
00:38:53,480 --> 00:38:57,120
Speaker 2: he said, uh, he was quote, I'm not saying this.

827
00:38:57,239 --> 00:38:58,960
Speaker 2: He said this, and it's in the report. He was

828
00:38:59,040 --> 00:39:02,839
Speaker 2: big and scratch like an ogre. That was I thought

829
00:39:02,880 --> 00:39:03,400
Speaker 2: that was funny.

830
00:39:04,040 --> 00:39:05,240
Speaker 1: He's like have you seen Shrek?

831
00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:11,960
Speaker 2: Okay. The other funny thing about these murders is he

832
00:39:12,000 --> 00:39:15,120
Speaker 2: would only do it, uh when his wife went on vacation.

833
00:39:16,239 --> 00:39:18,320
Speaker 2: So this guy had a wife. He had a wife,

834
00:39:18,440 --> 00:39:20,120
Speaker 2: and he was an architect with a wife. And then

835
00:39:20,640 --> 00:39:24,040
Speaker 2: everyone buildings did he design I wonder the World Trade Center?

836
00:39:24,200 --> 00:39:29,640
Speaker 2: No he did, Oh my god, he designed I don't know,

837
00:39:29,840 --> 00:39:35,880
Speaker 2: probably some fucking uh you know, brutalist German bank or something.

838
00:39:36,120 --> 00:39:38,440
Speaker 1: There's buildings that you and I use every day that

839
00:39:38,520 --> 00:39:40,040
Speaker 1: this guy had a hand to make a hand in.

840
00:39:40,080 --> 00:39:40,200
Speaker 2: Man.

841
00:39:40,520 --> 00:39:42,799
Speaker 1: I'm sure some internet sleuth is going to find out

842
00:39:42,880 --> 00:39:44,719
Speaker 1: what they are and they're going to become a.

843
00:39:47,320 --> 00:39:47,520
Speaker 3: Well.

844
00:39:48,120 --> 00:39:51,479
Speaker 2: I do want to, uh say one more thing about

845
00:39:51,480 --> 00:39:54,880
Speaker 2: his wife. So his wife would go on vacation, and

846
00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:57,080
Speaker 2: every time she would go on vacation, he would go

847
00:39:57,239 --> 00:39:59,919
Speaker 2: murder somebody. So the first time she went to Ice,

848
00:40:00,440 --> 00:40:02,520
Speaker 2: the second time she went to Italy, and it's like,

849
00:40:03,200 --> 00:40:05,320
Speaker 2: from the wife's perspective, it's like if she just stopped

850
00:40:05,400 --> 00:40:08,719
Speaker 2: going on all these lavish solo vacations, those women would

851
00:40:08,719 --> 00:40:09,600
Speaker 2: still be alive.

852
00:40:09,520 --> 00:40:15,120
Speaker 1: Eat, prey, murder. Yeah, yeah, blame the woman, Yeah, blame

853
00:40:15,239 --> 00:40:19,040
Speaker 1: the woman on this one word was he He's like, Oh,

854
00:40:19,239 --> 00:40:22,640
Speaker 1: they justing to do get They need to murder to

855
00:40:22,760 --> 00:40:26,239
Speaker 1: feel alive. It becomes like this addiction for them, you know,

856
00:40:26,440 --> 00:40:29,279
Speaker 1: like they they just want it too bad. They they

857
00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:32,160
Speaker 1: know it's wrong. They wish I think that some of

858
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:35,520
Speaker 1: them wish they didn't have it Jeffrey Dahmer. Just from

859
00:40:35,600 --> 00:40:39,919
Speaker 1: watching that, you know, the mind Hunter, not even mind Hunter,

860
00:40:40,040 --> 00:40:42,520
Speaker 1: the one where what's his name isn't it Evan Peters.

861
00:40:43,320 --> 00:40:45,239
Speaker 1: It just seems like Jeffrey Dummer didn't want to be

862
00:40:45,320 --> 00:40:47,040
Speaker 1: a murderer. I don't mean to get on this whole

863
00:40:47,480 --> 00:40:49,320
Speaker 1: high horse of like these people don't choose it, but

864
00:40:49,360 --> 00:40:51,000
Speaker 1: they don't choose their murderous brain.

865
00:40:51,400 --> 00:40:53,879
Speaker 2: They don't want to, like no one wants to have it. Yeah,

866
00:40:54,080 --> 00:40:56,759
Speaker 2: but they do choose something. It's like if you're a pedophile,

867
00:40:56,840 --> 00:40:59,160
Speaker 2: you have a pedophile brain. But you can be a

868
00:40:59,239 --> 00:41:02,279
Speaker 2: pedophile and choose not to do things to kids. You

869
00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:02,960
Speaker 2: can be abraid.

870
00:41:03,000 --> 00:41:06,160
Speaker 1: You don't choose that. Your brain just is lucky enough

871
00:41:06,200 --> 00:41:08,360
Speaker 1: to be one of the pedophiles that doesn't want that

872
00:41:08,760 --> 00:41:11,399
Speaker 1: knows a way out, like you don't. There's no free will,

873
00:41:11,440 --> 00:41:13,759
Speaker 1: but so you don't choose anything. But they have a brain.

874
00:41:17,280 --> 00:41:20,160
Speaker 1: But yeah, no, yes, you could choose to try to

875
00:41:20,600 --> 00:41:22,400
Speaker 1: I don't believe in when we say choose, I'm not

876
00:41:22,560 --> 00:41:25,920
Speaker 1: thinking that it's actually your will choosing, but let's just

877
00:41:26,080 --> 00:41:28,319
Speaker 1: use that word. Yeah, you could choose to go get

878
00:41:28,360 --> 00:41:32,080
Speaker 1: help for these things. But imagine telling someone I want

879
00:41:32,120 --> 00:41:34,960
Speaker 1: to murder, like you can't. There's no safe places for

880
00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:38,160
Speaker 1: these people to go where they won't be reported, because

881
00:41:38,160 --> 00:41:42,040
Speaker 1: if someone has homicidal fantasies, they're gonna get reported, sure,

882
00:41:42,360 --> 00:41:44,600
Speaker 1: So they really have nowhere to go except to other

883
00:41:44,760 --> 00:41:48,040
Speaker 1: murderers to share or you know, like that fucking Idaho

884
00:41:48,239 --> 00:41:52,360
Speaker 1: murderer guy. Allegedly he went on subreddits and was like

885
00:41:53,760 --> 00:41:53,960
Speaker 1: do you.

886
00:41:55,719 --> 00:41:56,239
Speaker 5: He he?

887
00:41:56,320 --> 00:41:59,239
Speaker 1: What did he ask? He asked something about what it's

888
00:41:59,400 --> 00:42:02,360
Speaker 1: like he because he investigated murders. He was going to

889
00:42:02,560 --> 00:42:06,120
Speaker 1: school for criminology, and so he would just go on

890
00:42:06,160 --> 00:42:07,800
Speaker 1: these chat rooms and like talk about like what do

891
00:42:07,880 --> 00:42:10,800
Speaker 1: you think they felt after their first murder? And like

892
00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:16,200
Speaker 1: just wanted to hear about stuff like that. Yeah yeah, yeah,

893
00:42:17,040 --> 00:42:19,880
Speaker 1: oh god I can. But I also I will just

894
00:42:19,920 --> 00:42:22,320
Speaker 1: say that I know I can't wait for any information

895
00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:24,920
Speaker 1: to come out about that or the Delphi murders. Is

896
00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:27,000
Speaker 1: my is my number one. I want to know what

897
00:42:27,160 --> 00:42:30,120
Speaker 1: that motherfucker did and how his wife did not notice

898
00:42:31,280 --> 00:42:31,840
Speaker 1: that he was.

899
00:42:31,920 --> 00:42:35,120
Speaker 4: Likes like BTK or whatever his name was.

900
00:42:35,200 --> 00:42:37,880
Speaker 2: He he had a daughter and a wife crazy.

901
00:42:37,880 --> 00:42:39,600
Speaker 4: I think he had two kids maybe and they were

902
00:42:39,719 --> 00:42:41,239
Speaker 4: just like this guy and.

903
00:42:41,320 --> 00:42:45,240
Speaker 1: He was dormed for like twenty years and didn't kill anyone.

904
00:42:45,320 --> 00:42:47,800
Speaker 1: But then he just was like someone in the newspaper

905
00:42:47,880 --> 00:42:50,799
Speaker 1: we're talking about BTK. He had murdered and got away

906
00:42:50,840 --> 00:42:53,520
Speaker 1: with it forever. Because I was listening to John Mulaney's

907
00:42:53,760 --> 00:42:55,399
Speaker 1: stand up this weekend and he was talking about old

908
00:42:55,440 --> 00:42:58,399
Speaker 1: time murders. He's like, it's insane that anyone got caught

909
00:42:58,440 --> 00:43:00,360
Speaker 1: back then, because there would be there was no DNA evidence,

910
00:43:00,360 --> 00:43:01,680
Speaker 1: so there would be like a pool of blood and

911
00:43:01,719 --> 00:43:04,360
Speaker 1: the detective would be like mop this up, yees, like

912
00:43:04,960 --> 00:43:07,800
Speaker 1: let's draw a white chalk outline around the body. That'll

913
00:43:07,840 --> 00:43:11,160
Speaker 1: do something like you just like couldn't get caught because

914
00:43:11,200 --> 00:43:14,640
Speaker 1: there's no DNA. So BTK was getting away with murder literally.

915
00:43:15,040 --> 00:43:18,640
Speaker 1: And then years go by and someone in the Kansas

916
00:43:18,680 --> 00:43:22,279
Speaker 1: City Star newspaper was like, I guess this guy died

917
00:43:22,440 --> 00:43:25,000
Speaker 1: or something. You know, he or he just you know,

918
00:43:25,160 --> 00:43:28,719
Speaker 1: couldn't do it anymore. And he couldn't stand that because

919
00:43:28,760 --> 00:43:30,480
Speaker 1: he wanted to control the narrative. He didn't want people

920
00:43:30,480 --> 00:43:32,480
Speaker 1: to forget what he did, so he started like writing

921
00:43:32,560 --> 00:43:34,960
Speaker 1: into the Kansas City Star and then they traced one

922
00:43:35,000 --> 00:43:37,160
Speaker 1: of his dumb letters to a disk drive from his

923
00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:38,920
Speaker 1: church that he worked at. So if he would have

924
00:43:39,680 --> 00:43:41,880
Speaker 1: not had an ego about it, he would still be

925
00:43:42,000 --> 00:43:42,440
Speaker 1: out there.

926
00:43:42,719 --> 00:43:45,160
Speaker 3: How does that play into your free will thing? Then

927
00:43:45,840 --> 00:43:48,040
Speaker 3: if he was able to control himself and not do

928
00:43:48,160 --> 00:43:48,319
Speaker 3: it for.

929
00:43:48,400 --> 00:43:50,839
Speaker 1: Twenty two years, brain that was able to stop doing

930
00:43:50,880 --> 00:43:52,959
Speaker 1: it for whatever reason, you know, Like he was born

931
00:43:53,000 --> 00:43:56,600
Speaker 1: with a brain that had the capacity to stop, you know,

932
00:43:56,719 --> 00:43:59,440
Speaker 1: and some zero killers don't. And some molesters do have

933
00:43:59,520 --> 00:44:01,239
Speaker 1: a brain like oh, I want to fuck kids, but

934
00:44:01,719 --> 00:44:04,960
Speaker 1: they whatever, for whatever reason they are, they stumble upon

935
00:44:05,120 --> 00:44:07,680
Speaker 1: the right information where they're like, oh, there's a group

936
00:44:07,760 --> 00:44:10,680
Speaker 1: of people that talk about not offending. Oh I'm going

937
00:44:10,760 --> 00:44:13,040
Speaker 1: to join this. Like you have to be presented with that.

938
00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:14,840
Speaker 1: You have to you have to have a brain that

939
00:44:14,960 --> 00:44:17,200
Speaker 1: is capable of even thinking of that way out. So

940
00:44:17,360 --> 00:44:20,200
Speaker 1: like you know, when you reach for a glass, you

941
00:44:20,320 --> 00:44:22,720
Speaker 1: don't get to whatever hand do you think you choose

942
00:44:22,840 --> 00:44:25,640
Speaker 1: to reach that glass with? It's you can go, oh,

943
00:44:25,680 --> 00:44:27,520
Speaker 1: I'm choosing with my right hand. But what in my

944
00:44:27,640 --> 00:44:30,080
Speaker 1: brain made me choose my right hand? I wasn't there

945
00:44:30,120 --> 00:44:31,680
Speaker 1: for that decision. It just showed up.

946
00:44:32,320 --> 00:44:35,040
Speaker 2: But you think you have control over it, So I

947
00:44:35,200 --> 00:44:38,000
Speaker 2: won't get more but practically I don't want to debate

948
00:44:38,040 --> 00:44:40,440
Speaker 2: it either. But practically speaking, now debate it's just not

949
00:44:40,640 --> 00:44:43,680
Speaker 2: it doesn't exist. There's it's literally there's no chance. Perhaps

950
00:44:43,760 --> 00:44:47,160
Speaker 2: you're right about that, but practically speaking, it's just it's

951
00:44:47,200 --> 00:44:50,000
Speaker 2: not practical way to think about things.

952
00:44:50,200 --> 00:44:52,640
Speaker 1: It actually is for me because it makes me feel

953
00:44:54,440 --> 00:44:56,840
Speaker 1: talk about feeling guilty all the time and feeling sorry

954
00:44:56,920 --> 00:44:59,959
Speaker 1: all the time. And when I do like this small

955
00:45:00,200 --> 00:45:02,239
Speaker 1: I forgot to plug in my laptop for or last night,

956
00:45:02,239 --> 00:45:03,840
Speaker 1: I forgot to plug in my laptop for this, and

957
00:45:03,920 --> 00:45:07,120
Speaker 1: so we're, you know, fighting against a dying battery. I

958
00:45:08,320 --> 00:45:10,400
Speaker 1: let myself off the hook for that, because in no

959
00:45:10,680 --> 00:45:13,560
Speaker 1: world would I have ever chosen to have a half

960
00:45:13,600 --> 00:45:16,359
Speaker 1: full battery for this podcast this morning. There's no if

961
00:45:16,400 --> 00:45:19,800
Speaker 1: I had a choice, it would be full. But I

962
00:45:19,960 --> 00:45:22,440
Speaker 1: forgot to do it. Not because I chose to forget

963
00:45:22,600 --> 00:45:25,120
Speaker 1: or because I'm a negligent piece of shit. I just

964
00:45:25,680 --> 00:45:28,160
Speaker 1: didn't remember. And it's not my fault. My brain just

965
00:45:28,360 --> 00:45:32,160
Speaker 1: wasn't turned on that day. Or if I say something

966
00:45:32,280 --> 00:45:35,360
Speaker 1: stupid or I'm always I know my.

967
00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:37,800
Speaker 2: I just I'm not.

968
00:45:38,040 --> 00:45:40,759
Speaker 1: I'm not in charge of my brain. It's just I

969
00:45:40,960 --> 00:45:43,640
Speaker 1: wasn't you know, I don't. I don't take responsibility for

970
00:45:43,760 --> 00:45:45,879
Speaker 1: my talents because I just was born with the brain

971
00:45:45,920 --> 00:45:47,560
Speaker 1: that worked this way and I don't and I don't

972
00:45:47,600 --> 00:45:50,160
Speaker 1: have that means and it's not often that I do this.

973
00:45:50,280 --> 00:45:52,759
Speaker 1: But I don't have to take responsibility for my faults either,

974
00:45:53,040 --> 00:45:56,359
Speaker 1: because I didn't choose to be someone who ran over

975
00:45:56,440 --> 00:46:00,319
Speaker 1: that kid that July afternoon in two thousand and three. Wait,

976
00:46:00,400 --> 00:46:03,560
Speaker 1: what does that weigh on you? I don't even know

977
00:46:03,600 --> 00:46:07,480
Speaker 1: what you're talking about. No, uh so I let things

978
00:46:07,520 --> 00:46:09,880
Speaker 1: go a little bit easier that I like. I'm trying

979
00:46:09,920 --> 00:46:14,120
Speaker 1: my best and body bog bots. There's no bogs in

980
00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:14,560
Speaker 1: my area.

981
00:46:15,920 --> 00:46:18,200
Speaker 2: Yeah. So I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum

982
00:46:18,400 --> 00:46:18,719
Speaker 2: as you.

983
00:46:19,040 --> 00:46:19,239
Speaker 1: Yeah.

984
00:46:19,440 --> 00:46:22,560
Speaker 2: I think everyone is one responsible for everything they do,

985
00:46:22,640 --> 00:46:23,200
Speaker 2: even if they're not.

986
00:46:25,080 --> 00:46:27,560
Speaker 1: I want you to read this book free will Sam Harris.

987
00:46:30,400 --> 00:46:32,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's trying. He keeps trying to make me meditate

988
00:46:32,520 --> 00:46:35,319
Speaker 2: and I ten percent happier. I read that you did.

989
00:46:35,840 --> 00:46:36,840
Speaker 1: Let me tread, Brian.

990
00:46:36,960 --> 00:46:40,040
Speaker 4: There are a lot of spurious claims there are.

991
00:46:40,800 --> 00:46:43,080
Speaker 2: I read ten percent happier and I got ten percent

992
00:46:43,560 --> 00:46:44,080
Speaker 2: more bored.

993
00:46:44,600 --> 00:46:44,960
Speaker 1: Boom.

994
00:46:45,239 --> 00:46:47,320
Speaker 2: No, I did actually like it. I actually liked it.

995
00:46:50,120 --> 00:46:51,279
Speaker 5: I I have to.

996
00:46:51,719 --> 00:46:54,400
Speaker 1: I've been journaling recently a lot more and that's been

997
00:46:54,480 --> 00:46:57,840
Speaker 1: helping my mental health and uh, and crying, you know,

998
00:46:58,120 --> 00:46:59,120
Speaker 1: also helps a lot.

999
00:46:59,200 --> 00:47:01,040
Speaker 2: That helps them. That's an amazing tool.

1000
00:47:01,200 --> 00:47:04,200
Speaker 1: What the fuck I know how many times you have

1001
00:47:04,280 --> 00:47:06,600
Speaker 1: to stay it on this podcast. I'm just incredibly amazed

1002
00:47:06,600 --> 00:47:09,399
Speaker 1: at how crying alleviates so much right away.

1003
00:47:09,440 --> 00:47:13,359
Speaker 2: It's like you take a shitty, it's an emotional shit,

1004
00:47:13,440 --> 00:47:13,799
Speaker 2: and you just.

1005
00:47:13,800 --> 00:47:16,960
Speaker 1: Feel emptied out afterwards, you feel like bouncier. You just

1006
00:47:17,040 --> 00:47:19,399
Speaker 1: feel and I'm never I don't know why I don't

1007
00:47:19,440 --> 00:47:20,959
Speaker 1: do it. I'm not one of these people that cries

1008
00:47:20,960 --> 00:47:23,480
Speaker 1: and then gets embarrassed afterwards of like I'm sorry I cried,

1009
00:47:23,600 --> 00:47:26,320
Speaker 1: Like I really always just am like, oh good that happened.

1010
00:47:26,600 --> 00:47:28,640
Speaker 1: I don't have any shame around it. I don't get

1011
00:47:28,680 --> 00:47:30,040
Speaker 1: why I'm not crying all the time.

1012
00:47:30,360 --> 00:47:31,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, it's I think it's the same. You know,

1013
00:47:32,280 --> 00:47:36,520
Speaker 2: some couples get into really intense, yelling arguments and then

1014
00:47:36,520 --> 00:47:38,560
Speaker 2: they never related to them and they maybe bang out

1015
00:47:38,760 --> 00:47:40,879
Speaker 2: after that. Oh yeah, Like I think that's the same

1016
00:47:40,920 --> 00:47:42,480
Speaker 2: as crying for them. It's like we have to just

1017
00:47:42,560 --> 00:47:43,560
Speaker 2: do this every once in a while.

1018
00:47:43,920 --> 00:47:46,200
Speaker 1: I if you're one of those couples out there that

1019
00:47:46,360 --> 00:47:50,080
Speaker 1: can scream at each other. How do you do that

1020
00:47:50,360 --> 00:47:52,720
Speaker 1: and not fear that the person's gonna leave you forever?

1021
00:47:52,920 --> 00:47:54,880
Speaker 1: How the f I whenever I see women that are like,

1022
00:47:55,239 --> 00:47:57,279
Speaker 1: you need to fucking do this, and you never and

1023
00:47:57,360 --> 00:47:59,680
Speaker 1: they like are screaming at a man, I'm like, he's

1024
00:47:59,719 --> 00:48:00,600
Speaker 1: gonna leave you?

1025
00:48:00,800 --> 00:48:02,839
Speaker 2: What you should well you shouldn't get it. But if

1026
00:48:02,840 --> 00:48:04,960
Speaker 2: they're both yelling at each other and that's just their thing,

1027
00:48:05,080 --> 00:48:06,440
Speaker 2: then there's something like I.

1028
00:48:06,840 --> 00:48:09,719
Speaker 1: Can't I've never once, I think at one time I've

1029
00:48:09,800 --> 00:48:12,040
Speaker 1: yelled at Chris and it was not even at him.

1030
00:48:12,080 --> 00:48:13,920
Speaker 1: It was like at my therapist and it was supposed

1031
00:48:13,920 --> 00:48:15,759
Speaker 1: to bounce off of her and hit him, you know

1032
00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:18,759
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like it was and he was just

1033
00:48:18,920 --> 00:48:21,120
Speaker 1: like shell shot, like he couldn't even believe he was

1034
00:48:21,160 --> 00:48:24,000
Speaker 1: like what was that like? Where I'm just like and

1035
00:48:24,160 --> 00:48:27,000
Speaker 1: you know this, like, this's the only time I think

1036
00:48:27,040 --> 00:48:30,760
Speaker 1: I've ever raised my voice because I'm scared of being left.

1037
00:48:30,960 --> 00:48:34,120
Speaker 1: Why is everyone just so sure that everyone's gonna stay

1038
00:48:34,200 --> 00:48:34,840
Speaker 1: with them forever?

1039
00:48:35,200 --> 00:48:36,040
Speaker 2: Why does no one have.

1040
00:48:36,080 --> 00:48:38,879
Speaker 1: Abandonment issues like me? I would never ever want stand

1041
00:48:38,960 --> 00:48:42,760
Speaker 1: up to myself in a yelly way to almost anyone,

1042
00:48:42,880 --> 00:48:46,279
Speaker 1: but especially a lover, because I'm lucky to even have one.

1043
00:48:46,760 --> 00:48:49,799
Speaker 2: Mmm, I don't know, I can't. I don't know if

1044
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:52,920
Speaker 2: that's true. I mean I think, uh, I don't know.

1045
00:48:53,239 --> 00:48:56,040
Speaker 2: I mean your your your relationship has ended and started.

1046
00:48:56,120 --> 00:48:58,480
Speaker 2: So that's probably why you're afraid of that, because it

1047
00:48:58,600 --> 00:48:59,520
Speaker 2: actually has happened.

1048
00:48:59,719 --> 00:49:04,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, that is a good point, but I just I've

1049
00:49:04,239 --> 00:49:05,680
Speaker 1: yelled at my I can yell at my parents like

1050
00:49:05,719 --> 00:49:07,880
Speaker 1: that because they're never gonna leave. They love me unconditionally.

1051
00:49:07,960 --> 00:49:09,239
Speaker 1: And that's why I don't even know why I have

1052
00:49:09,320 --> 00:49:11,960
Speaker 1: these abandonment issues, because my parents never abandoned me. No,

1053
00:49:12,320 --> 00:49:16,600
Speaker 1: never emotionally, yes, all the time, I mean chronically, but

1054
00:49:16,840 --> 00:49:19,719
Speaker 1: physically they've never left. They're never going to leave until

1055
00:49:19,760 --> 00:49:20,920
Speaker 1: they die. And I don't want to think about that

1056
00:49:21,000 --> 00:49:23,040
Speaker 1: or I start crying. Okay, let's just go to break

1057
00:49:23,200 --> 00:49:24,640
Speaker 1: for a second and talk about this more when we

1058
00:49:24,760 --> 00:49:29,040
Speaker 1: get back. All right, we're back. Do you ever get

1059
00:49:29,040 --> 00:49:30,200
Speaker 1: any screaming matches?

1060
00:49:31,480 --> 00:49:34,160
Speaker 5: I've done that before. It doesn't feel good, and I

1061
00:49:34,560 --> 00:49:36,920
Speaker 5: cannot recover from that stuff. It takes me like three

1062
00:49:37,000 --> 00:49:40,759
Speaker 5: weeks to regain some sense of like trust in the

1063
00:49:40,840 --> 00:49:42,320
Speaker 5: other person in the relationship.

1064
00:49:42,440 --> 00:49:43,960
Speaker 4: So I'm not a yeller I had.

1065
00:49:44,160 --> 00:49:46,720
Speaker 5: You know, I've had a couple friends yell at me before,

1066
00:49:47,040 --> 00:49:50,719
Speaker 5: where I'm like, who do you like your friends put

1067
00:49:50,840 --> 00:49:53,000
Speaker 5: up with this shit like no, no, no, you can't.

1068
00:49:53,239 --> 00:49:55,360
Speaker 5: You can't talk to me like that. That's been the

1069
00:49:55,560 --> 00:49:57,920
Speaker 5: end of those friendships. I have one friend who screamed

1070
00:49:57,960 --> 00:50:01,200
Speaker 5: at me once and we're still friends, but I let her.

1071
00:50:01,160 --> 00:50:03,360
Speaker 2: Know, this is a boundary of yours.

1072
00:50:04,320 --> 00:50:06,319
Speaker 5: Yeah, I guess that's a boundary of mine. I keep

1073
00:50:06,400 --> 00:50:09,520
Speaker 5: thinking about that word since the Drama Hill thing.

1074
00:50:09,800 --> 00:50:11,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, and like what that means.

1075
00:50:12,280 --> 00:50:14,200
Speaker 5: Yeah, I felt like it was misused in a way,

1076
00:50:14,239 --> 00:50:16,759
Speaker 5: but I'm still trying to and it feels like the

1077
00:50:16,800 --> 00:50:19,000
Speaker 5: whole culture is like that's not a boundary, that's control,

1078
00:50:19,400 --> 00:50:22,000
Speaker 5: but like a boundary to me is something that I

1079
00:50:22,600 --> 00:50:26,480
Speaker 5: put up to protect myself. It's not something that I

1080
00:50:27,080 --> 00:50:31,320
Speaker 5: impose on you, Like you can respect my boundary, I

1081
00:50:31,360 --> 00:50:34,279
Speaker 5: guess or not. But anyway, I have had a friend

1082
00:50:34,360 --> 00:50:36,239
Speaker 5: scream at me, but Matt and I don't do that,

1083
00:50:36,520 --> 00:50:40,120
Speaker 5: Like I really don't like that, but we have. We've

1084
00:50:40,200 --> 00:50:43,719
Speaker 5: definitely said some words to each other before, yes, like

1085
00:50:43,960 --> 00:50:47,400
Speaker 5: loudly and fuck you or fuck off or whatever, but

1086
00:50:47,680 --> 00:50:50,040
Speaker 5: not a lot like I'm like you get one pass.

1087
00:50:50,840 --> 00:50:53,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, right, Well, we were talking about this weekend on

1088
00:50:53,320 --> 00:50:56,440
Speaker 1: the GC the Girl's Chat, and we're talking about when

1089
00:50:56,520 --> 00:51:00,080
Speaker 1: we get when a conversation well you know, like I

1090
00:51:00,480 --> 00:51:02,600
Speaker 1: you know, you get into something with your significant other

1091
00:51:02,760 --> 00:51:05,000
Speaker 1: end it just is so tense and the one person

1092
00:51:05,120 --> 00:51:08,400
Speaker 1: is annoyed and they're just like, Okay, it's good like

1093
00:51:08,520 --> 00:51:11,960
Speaker 1: that kind of thing, like that shit down like yeah, cool, no,

1094
00:51:12,640 --> 00:51:15,680
Speaker 1: sounds good like that kind of talk where like I mean, I'm.

1095
00:51:15,680 --> 00:51:16,200
Speaker 2: I'm do it.

1096
00:51:17,000 --> 00:51:19,400
Speaker 1: Who knows if it's it's probably worse than yelling at

1097
00:51:19,440 --> 00:51:21,040
Speaker 1: someone and telling them how you really feel. It's the

1098
00:51:21,280 --> 00:51:24,439
Speaker 1: other end of that, I guess on the other side

1099
00:51:24,440 --> 00:51:27,560
Speaker 1: of the things, it's just as unhealthy. But what do

1100
00:51:27,600 --> 00:51:29,800
Speaker 1: you do when someone says you're supposed to just probably

1101
00:51:29,840 --> 00:51:32,800
Speaker 1: calmly say I don't really appreciate your tone, or like,

1102
00:51:32,920 --> 00:51:34,719
Speaker 1: based on your tone, I feel like you might be

1103
00:51:34,800 --> 00:51:37,360
Speaker 1: mad at me right now? Can you tell me exactly

1104
00:51:37,440 --> 00:51:39,239
Speaker 1: how you're feeling? Is that what you're supposed to say?

1105
00:51:39,280 --> 00:51:44,120
Speaker 1: That's what I tried to do, that you're sensing them

1106
00:51:44,400 --> 00:51:47,640
Speaker 1: be that way shutting down? Yeah, you say based on

1107
00:51:48,680 --> 00:51:51,680
Speaker 1: your tone. I'm sensing that you're upset with me? Is

1108
00:51:51,760 --> 00:51:55,560
Speaker 1: that true? And could you tell me why? Or points?

1109
00:51:55,880 --> 00:51:59,200
Speaker 3: I think that points at them, like points to blame

1110
00:51:59,280 --> 00:52:02,600
Speaker 3: at them. I think in that scenario it's best to

1111
00:52:02,640 --> 00:52:05,200
Speaker 3: give them ten minutes and say, hey, how about we

1112
00:52:05,280 --> 00:52:08,800
Speaker 3: take ten minutes and then come back and talk about it.

1113
00:52:09,800 --> 00:52:12,080
Speaker 5: Yeah. I have a friend that does a lot of that,

1114
00:52:12,440 --> 00:52:14,719
Speaker 5: and I've learned over the years that the best thing

1115
00:52:14,840 --> 00:52:17,080
Speaker 5: to do is just give them a lot of room,

1116
00:52:17,560 --> 00:52:20,879
Speaker 5: because every time I've been like, what is this, it's

1117
00:52:21,080 --> 00:52:22,360
Speaker 5: like a fucking nightmare.

1118
00:52:22,520 --> 00:52:24,440
Speaker 4: It just gets worse if I point it out.

1119
00:52:24,480 --> 00:52:27,560
Speaker 3: It's like, have you ever been like really like I

1120
00:52:27,560 --> 00:52:29,600
Speaker 3: don't know, like heat it over something and someone tells

1121
00:52:29,640 --> 00:52:30,399
Speaker 3: you to calm down?

1122
00:52:30,719 --> 00:52:32,759
Speaker 1: Like what's the thing that you don't do? You don't

1123
00:52:32,800 --> 00:52:36,279
Speaker 1: calm down when someone says it, yes, relax and you

1124
00:52:36,480 --> 00:52:36,880
Speaker 1: just can't.

1125
00:52:37,080 --> 00:52:38,759
Speaker 5: Yeah, but how are you supposed to ignore it when

1126
00:52:38,840 --> 00:52:41,320
Speaker 5: somebody's just obviously being passive aggressive?

1127
00:52:41,400 --> 00:52:43,520
Speaker 2: It's like, yeah, I think that's this.

1128
00:52:43,680 --> 00:52:44,560
Speaker 4: I want to call it out.

1129
00:52:44,920 --> 00:52:46,680
Speaker 1: I think that you're right. It's something like, well, I

1130
00:52:46,760 --> 00:52:48,840
Speaker 1: since you're being passive aggressive right now, and that is

1131
00:52:48,880 --> 00:52:50,560
Speaker 1: probably going to make you very upset me saying that.

1132
00:52:50,640 --> 00:52:52,480
Speaker 1: So I'm going to take ten minutes and maybe you

1133
00:52:52,760 --> 00:52:55,439
Speaker 1: call me back when you maybe have had a change

1134
00:52:55,480 --> 00:52:57,240
Speaker 1: of heart and you want to talk in a different

1135
00:52:57,280 --> 00:52:59,480
Speaker 1: tone with me. But that seems that I really don't

1136
00:52:59,760 --> 00:53:00,640
Speaker 1: you punishing.

1137
00:53:00,760 --> 00:53:05,319
Speaker 2: You got to use the magic phrase, which is when

1138
00:53:05,440 --> 00:53:08,640
Speaker 2: you do X, it makes me feel X you oh

1139
00:53:09,280 --> 00:53:10,239
Speaker 2: that I really.

1140
00:53:10,280 --> 00:53:13,000
Speaker 1: Would like for X, Y and Z.

1141
00:53:14,160 --> 00:53:14,359
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1142
00:53:14,440 --> 00:53:19,319
Speaker 4: Right, you are annoying and when you.

1143
00:53:19,520 --> 00:53:22,680
Speaker 2: Act so fucking annoying, it makes me hate you. I

1144
00:53:22,840 --> 00:53:25,080
Speaker 2: wish you would do things that I liked.

1145
00:53:26,480 --> 00:53:28,920
Speaker 1: I what about this? This is when I use a lot.

1146
00:53:29,920 --> 00:53:32,400
Speaker 1: I know you're upset with me right now. Will you

1147
00:53:32,480 --> 00:53:35,919
Speaker 1: please take a second to realize that I've literally never

1148
00:53:36,120 --> 00:53:39,600
Speaker 1: in my life tried intentionally to make you mad or

1149
00:53:39,640 --> 00:53:42,799
Speaker 1: to hurt you. It's not within my it's not I've

1150
00:53:42,960 --> 00:53:46,120
Speaker 1: never wanted to hurt you. I've never done anything that

1151
00:53:46,239 --> 00:53:48,439
Speaker 1: I was purposely like. This is gonna make him feel

1152
00:53:48,520 --> 00:53:51,960
Speaker 1: worse about himself. So will you try to understand that

1153
00:53:52,080 --> 00:53:54,120
Speaker 1: maybe if you're feeling that way right now, it was

1154
00:53:54,200 --> 00:53:57,320
Speaker 1: by accident, and you could and I can, and you

1155
00:53:57,360 --> 00:53:59,640
Speaker 1: can find a way to forgive me, because if you

1156
00:53:59,840 --> 00:54:01,760
Speaker 1: if coming from a place of knowing. Do you believe

1157
00:54:01,800 --> 00:54:03,880
Speaker 1: that I would never try to hurt you?

1158
00:54:04,520 --> 00:54:05,160
Speaker 2: Do you believe that?

1159
00:54:05,560 --> 00:54:08,000
Speaker 1: Yes? Or no? Yes, I believe that you would never

1160
00:54:08,040 --> 00:54:09,440
Speaker 1: try to hurt me, because why would you be with

1161
00:54:09,520 --> 00:54:11,200
Speaker 1: someone that you think would ever try to hurt you.

1162
00:54:11,440 --> 00:54:14,080
Speaker 1: Let Yes, we've all said mean things. I can say

1163
00:54:14,120 --> 00:54:16,319
Speaker 1: that one time I have actually tried to hurt Chris

1164
00:54:16,400 --> 00:54:18,880
Speaker 1: by saying something, And it was in two thousand and

1165
00:54:20,040 --> 00:54:23,200
Speaker 1: like fourteen, and it was I was really hurt and

1166
00:54:23,280 --> 00:54:25,360
Speaker 1: I said something that I knew would like. It was

1167
00:54:25,400 --> 00:54:27,600
Speaker 1: passive aggressive, and I knew would hurt his feelings. And

1168
00:54:27,680 --> 00:54:29,560
Speaker 1: it was one time that I can even think of

1169
00:54:29,719 --> 00:54:32,239
Speaker 1: that I've ever wanted to hurt this person that I love.

1170
00:54:32,600 --> 00:54:34,279
Speaker 1: And I admitted to it. And it was not a

1171
00:54:34,360 --> 00:54:36,799
Speaker 1: good scene when I admitted to it, but at least

1172
00:54:37,239 --> 00:54:39,160
Speaker 1: but I said from that now you can trust me.

1173
00:54:39,239 --> 00:54:40,920
Speaker 1: I'll tell you if I ever do that again, if

1174
00:54:40,920 --> 00:54:45,040
Speaker 1: I catch myself being purposefully cruel. But if we're working

1175
00:54:45,080 --> 00:54:46,880
Speaker 1: from a place of I'm never trying to hurt you,

1176
00:54:47,520 --> 00:54:50,520
Speaker 1: even if it's subconsciously, maybe I am, at least consciously,

1177
00:54:50,600 --> 00:54:52,359
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to make you mad at me. All

1178
00:54:52,400 --> 00:54:53,879
Speaker 1: I want is for you to love me and never

1179
00:54:54,040 --> 00:54:57,000
Speaker 1: leave me. Can't you see that maybe I accidentally did

1180
00:54:57,080 --> 00:54:59,120
Speaker 1: this thing and you can forgive me for sure. And

1181
00:54:59,160 --> 00:55:00,960
Speaker 1: I think that's how to me a lot, is to

1182
00:55:01,040 --> 00:55:02,920
Speaker 1: remind him because I think a lot of times we

1183
00:55:03,000 --> 00:55:05,640
Speaker 1: get hurt because we think the other person is either

1184
00:55:06,719 --> 00:55:09,400
Speaker 1: you know, careless, meaning they're not trying but they're not

1185
00:55:09,719 --> 00:55:14,920
Speaker 1: actually trying not to right, or they are intentionally being cruel,

1186
00:55:15,239 --> 00:55:17,879
Speaker 1: which is just insane. And if you're ever with someone

1187
00:55:17,920 --> 00:55:20,960
Speaker 1: that repeatedly is intentionally being cruel to you, get the

1188
00:55:21,160 --> 00:55:21,759
Speaker 1: fuck out.

1189
00:55:22,120 --> 00:55:25,640
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's happened to me, right if you're isn't it?

1190
00:55:25,760 --> 00:55:29,959
Speaker 2: But isn't it amazing the restraint of the human race

1191
00:55:30,719 --> 00:55:37,960
Speaker 2: in that any which races? I just want to picture

1192
00:55:38,000 --> 00:55:41,520
Speaker 2: this person, you know, yeah, like the race of men

1193
00:55:41,600 --> 00:55:46,800
Speaker 2: with scraggly hair and glasses, ogres, the race of ogres

1194
00:55:47,000 --> 00:55:50,279
Speaker 2: and that bog brothers. Just think about this every day

1195
00:55:50,960 --> 00:55:54,719
Speaker 2: every day. You can we all have the power to

1196
00:55:55,000 --> 00:55:58,840
Speaker 2: truly hurt the people around us by saying something. Obviously

1197
00:55:58,920 --> 00:56:01,400
Speaker 2: you can like run them over your hard not including that,

1198
00:56:01,840 --> 00:56:05,239
Speaker 2: but you could, like there are things that you could

1199
00:56:05,280 --> 00:56:07,480
Speaker 2: come up with for for anybody in your life, Like

1200
00:56:07,560 --> 00:56:09,800
Speaker 2: if I said this to this person, it would really

1201
00:56:09,880 --> 00:56:12,520
Speaker 2: hurt them, and we all have the restraint to not

1202
00:56:12,760 --> 00:56:16,080
Speaker 2: do that. Isn't that something we all deserve over reward.

1203
00:56:16,400 --> 00:56:18,840
Speaker 5: I always think about that on an airplane too, Like

1204
00:56:19,160 --> 00:56:21,880
Speaker 5: how amazing is it that we have that we're all

1205
00:56:22,000 --> 00:56:24,920
Speaker 5: just sitting confined on this tiny tube and no one

1206
00:56:25,040 --> 00:56:27,239
Speaker 5: is like screaming or freaking out. I mean once in

1207
00:56:27,320 --> 00:56:31,200
Speaker 5: a while, but most flights are chill And isn't that

1208
00:56:31,400 --> 00:56:33,720
Speaker 5: nuts that, like, as a human race, we've all managed

1209
00:56:33,760 --> 00:56:36,960
Speaker 5: to just chill the fuck out for sometimes eight hours,

1210
00:56:37,680 --> 00:56:38,759
Speaker 5: seven hours.

1211
00:56:39,200 --> 00:56:43,239
Speaker 1: Quietly on this thing when probably a lot of us though,

1212
00:56:43,680 --> 00:56:46,160
Speaker 1: I think it's less about like respecting everyone else and

1213
00:56:46,280 --> 00:56:49,440
Speaker 1: knowing that if you cause sir, it's this is like

1214
00:56:49,680 --> 00:56:50,560
Speaker 1: you can't fuck around.

1215
00:56:50,560 --> 00:56:53,920
Speaker 2: That's evolutionary because like if you did that in the wild,

1216
00:56:54,000 --> 00:56:54,840
Speaker 2: they would just kill you.

1217
00:56:55,160 --> 00:57:00,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, you would be ostracized and you can't survive alone. Now, yeah,

1218
00:57:00,440 --> 00:57:03,560
Speaker 1: that's true, Like we need community, we need people helping us.

1219
00:57:03,920 --> 00:57:08,680
Speaker 1: That's why getting to like child rearing, that's why people

1220
00:57:08,760 --> 00:57:11,920
Speaker 1: feel so guilty about getting nannies. Bitch, you had uh,

1221
00:57:12,880 --> 00:57:15,040
Speaker 1: probably three hundred, I don't know how big their tribes

1222
00:57:15,080 --> 00:57:17,240
Speaker 1: were back when we were having kids, you had a

1223
00:57:17,360 --> 00:57:20,440
Speaker 1: whole tribe of women helping you rear a child back then. Yes,

1224
00:57:20,560 --> 00:57:23,800
Speaker 1: the Hillary Clinton book, it takes a village. It literally

1225
00:57:23,840 --> 00:57:26,320
Speaker 1: takes a village to raise a child. And so women

1226
00:57:26,400 --> 00:57:30,800
Speaker 1: are priding themselves on. Women pride themselves up being like,

1227
00:57:31,000 --> 00:57:33,840
Speaker 1: I'm a strong mother who doesn't need any nannies, doesn't

1228
00:57:33,880 --> 00:57:35,880
Speaker 1: need help. And I get it, Like, if you can't

1229
00:57:35,880 --> 00:57:39,360
Speaker 1: afford nannies, don't get you can't. You can't have them,

1230
00:57:39,360 --> 00:57:40,520
Speaker 1: and you got to do it on your own. And

1231
00:57:40,640 --> 00:57:41,960
Speaker 1: that's kind of what you signed up for. And it

1232
00:57:42,000 --> 00:57:44,200
Speaker 1: fucking sucks, and it's way harder than you even thought

1233
00:57:44,240 --> 00:57:45,520
Speaker 1: it was going to be. And I have so much

1234
00:57:45,520 --> 00:57:47,800
Speaker 1: empathy for you. But if you can afford a nanny's

1235
00:57:47,800 --> 00:57:49,760
Speaker 1: and you're being holier than now, like I need to

1236
00:57:49,800 --> 00:57:52,959
Speaker 1: do this on your own, you're doing your child a disservice. Yeah,

1237
00:57:53,160 --> 00:57:56,160
Speaker 1: because it's not the way you. You are not gonna

1238
00:57:56,200 --> 00:57:58,720
Speaker 1: be well rested, and you're not gonna be I would

1239
00:57:58,760 --> 00:57:59,960
Speaker 1: get so many fucking NaNs.

1240
00:58:00,480 --> 00:58:01,400
Speaker 2: I give so much help.

1241
00:58:01,440 --> 00:58:03,400
Speaker 1: So every time I see my kid, I am like

1242
00:58:03,760 --> 00:58:07,120
Speaker 1: the best version, the most loving, the most present, the

1243
00:58:07,240 --> 00:58:10,360
Speaker 1: most You know that that's what I would do, and

1244
00:58:10,400 --> 00:58:14,200
Speaker 1: I'd probably seem on the outside very neglectful of my child,

1245
00:58:14,280 --> 00:58:16,160
Speaker 1: and I'm not around them a lot, but it would

1246
00:58:16,200 --> 00:58:17,840
Speaker 1: be so I can show up as the best.

1247
00:58:18,400 --> 00:58:21,000
Speaker 5: I think a lot of moms are afraid that the

1248
00:58:21,120 --> 00:58:23,560
Speaker 5: nanny is gonna bond too much with the kid. I

1249
00:58:23,800 --> 00:58:27,040
Speaker 5: had lots of I think I went to nursery school

1250
00:58:27,080 --> 00:58:28,200
Speaker 5: and probably had babysitters.

1251
00:58:28,240 --> 00:58:29,640
Speaker 4: I don't remember any of them.

1252
00:58:29,800 --> 00:58:32,240
Speaker 1: That's why I tell my friends who get nervous about

1253
00:58:32,320 --> 00:58:34,920
Speaker 1: nanny having too much of a relationship with their child

1254
00:58:34,960 --> 00:58:38,560
Speaker 1: over them and I'm like, your kid won't fucking remember

1255
00:58:38,600 --> 00:58:39,160
Speaker 1: this woman.

1256
00:58:39,440 --> 00:58:41,600
Speaker 2: Consciously though, what about subconsciously?

1257
00:58:41,680 --> 00:58:44,040
Speaker 1: Maybe they've they've well, just make sure you get enough,

1258
00:58:45,320 --> 00:58:47,840
Speaker 1: Like don't only see your child an hour a day,

1259
00:58:48,000 --> 00:58:50,800
Speaker 1: Like don't don't be completely don't be like I can

1260
00:58:50,880 --> 00:58:52,800
Speaker 1: only give I'm only happy an hour day and that's

1261
00:58:52,840 --> 00:58:55,240
Speaker 1: only one. That's not what I'm saying, Like, you know,

1262
00:58:55,600 --> 00:58:58,919
Speaker 1: don't completely abandon your child. But like I would say,

1263
00:58:59,480 --> 00:59:01,680
Speaker 1: treat yourself to a massage, let the nanny take over

1264
00:59:01,800 --> 00:59:04,000
Speaker 1: for a bit, Like do nice self care things so

1265
00:59:04,080 --> 00:59:06,920
Speaker 1: when you do show up, you're relaxed and cool and

1266
00:59:07,480 --> 00:59:08,880
Speaker 1: loving and present.

1267
00:59:09,600 --> 00:59:11,600
Speaker 2: I would give my baby to the nanny for like,

1268
00:59:11,760 --> 00:59:16,760
Speaker 2: don't remember shit, man, the first like eight years and

1269
00:59:16,880 --> 00:59:17,800
Speaker 2: then I take it back.

1270
00:59:19,880 --> 00:59:22,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, I would have nanny's helping me out a lot,

1271
00:59:23,280 --> 00:59:25,240
Speaker 1: but I would also feel deep shame about that because

1272
00:59:25,280 --> 00:59:28,640
Speaker 1: our culture is so about like who's the best mom,

1273
00:59:29,040 --> 00:59:31,440
Speaker 1: and I'm just I'm momming so hard right now and

1274
00:59:31,600 --> 00:59:34,280
Speaker 1: I'm a mom. Like I was with someone recently and

1275
00:59:34,360 --> 00:59:35,320
Speaker 1: they didn't oh yeah.

1276
00:59:35,320 --> 00:59:35,560
Speaker 2: It was.

1277
00:59:37,400 --> 00:59:39,440
Speaker 1: Fourth of July weekend. I was with a couple that

1278
00:59:39,560 --> 00:59:43,280
Speaker 1: has a baby, and I'm not joking you. They never

1279
00:59:43,440 --> 00:59:47,080
Speaker 1: brought up the baby even once. Wow, And I was

1280
00:59:47,160 --> 00:59:49,640
Speaker 1: expecting it to be baby palooza, like, oh you hear

1281
00:59:49,680 --> 00:59:51,760
Speaker 1: about this baby. They missed the baby. Oh I wonder

1282
00:59:51,800 --> 00:59:53,240
Speaker 1: what the baby's doing. Oh, we just got a picture

1283
00:59:53,280 --> 00:59:55,840
Speaker 1: of the baby. Like I hear about Anya's dog more

1284
00:59:56,080 --> 00:59:58,040
Speaker 1: over a week and when they're not with the dog,

1285
00:59:58,160 --> 01:00:00,200
Speaker 1: then I heard about this baby. And it's it's not

1286
01:00:00,280 --> 01:00:04,640
Speaker 1: because they're bad parents. They just enjoyed their trip away

1287
01:00:04,680 --> 01:00:06,920
Speaker 1: from the baby and I. And when I did ask

1288
01:00:06,960 --> 01:00:08,720
Speaker 1: about the baby, my god, they had so much to

1289
01:00:08,760 --> 01:00:10,400
Speaker 1: say and it was like, you know, the damn broke

1290
01:00:10,480 --> 01:00:12,120
Speaker 1: and it's not like they were trying to withhold that.

1291
01:00:12,200 --> 01:00:14,800
Speaker 1: But they were just it just seemed like a healthy

1292
01:00:15,000 --> 01:00:18,200
Speaker 1: relationship where it's like the baby's fine, We're not going

1293
01:00:18,240 --> 01:00:21,400
Speaker 1: to be overly like, okay, I need to check it

1294
01:00:21,440 --> 01:00:23,120
Speaker 1: in constantly. It was just like it was the kind

1295
01:00:23,120 --> 01:00:24,400
Speaker 1: of parent I would want to be, and that I

1296
01:00:24,480 --> 01:00:26,240
Speaker 1: probably would not be able to be because I'm so

1297
01:00:26,400 --> 01:00:28,480
Speaker 1: worried about what other people think about me, or that

1298
01:00:28,640 --> 01:00:30,720
Speaker 1: nanny might tell people like she spends a lot of

1299
01:00:30,760 --> 01:00:32,800
Speaker 1: time getting foot massages and I'm here all the time,

1300
01:00:32,840 --> 01:00:35,479
Speaker 1: and then that gets spread around. So I'm not saying

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01:00:35,520 --> 01:00:37,200
Speaker 1: I could. I would want to be the type of

1302
01:00:37,280 --> 01:00:39,320
Speaker 1: person that could let my kid be with a nanny

1303
01:00:39,400 --> 01:00:44,240
Speaker 1: and kind of forget about it. Yeah, were you watched

1304
01:00:44,280 --> 01:00:47,160
Speaker 1: by nanny's and nanny's We never did.

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01:00:48,000 --> 01:00:51,720
Speaker 2: No, I had my grandma lived. Oh, I wanted to say.

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01:00:51,720 --> 01:00:53,080
Speaker 2: That's what I want to say, is that you did

1307
01:00:53,160 --> 01:00:58,120
Speaker 2: the right thing. I think the way to be truly

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01:00:58,200 --> 01:01:02,080
Speaker 2: happy is if we all live in small villages with

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01:01:02,720 --> 01:01:06,120
Speaker 2: with our with our families and friends, like the fact

1310
01:01:06,160 --> 01:01:08,720
Speaker 2: that like when we were in the wild or whatever,

1311
01:01:09,000 --> 01:01:14,080
Speaker 2: in tribal communities, we just lived with everybody we ever

1312
01:01:14,240 --> 01:01:16,960
Speaker 2: knew and loved or hated just everyone we ever knew

1313
01:01:17,040 --> 01:01:20,360
Speaker 2: altogether growing up, and then occasionally someone would go off

1314
01:01:20,440 --> 01:01:22,360
Speaker 2: into the tundra and we never see him again. But

1315
01:01:22,440 --> 01:01:25,560
Speaker 2: for the most part, you'd be raising this everybody be

1316
01:01:25,680 --> 01:01:27,280
Speaker 2: raising each other in this village. And by you going

1317
01:01:27,320 --> 01:01:30,520
Speaker 2: back to Saint Louis, I feel like you're kind of

1318
01:01:30,600 --> 01:01:33,760
Speaker 2: returning to that type of You're you're with your family,

1319
01:01:33,880 --> 01:01:35,840
Speaker 2: You're you're with people, you know, you're in You're in

1320
01:01:35,920 --> 01:01:38,640
Speaker 2: your familiar place, and I think that truly is the

1321
01:01:38,720 --> 01:01:41,880
Speaker 2: key to happiness, and I think that is why so

1322
01:01:42,000 --> 01:01:46,000
Speaker 2: many people are depressed. For example, me, my family is

1323
01:01:46,280 --> 01:01:49,480
Speaker 2: in every single corner of the United States of America,

1324
01:01:49,640 --> 01:01:52,520
Speaker 2: like I have Seattle, my sister's in Seattle, my brother

1325
01:01:52,640 --> 01:01:55,240
Speaker 2: is in Boston, my mom's in Florida, my dad's on

1326
01:01:55,320 --> 01:01:57,479
Speaker 2: Long Island, and I'm in la And it's like there's

1327
01:01:57,560 --> 01:02:02,920
Speaker 2: no chance that we'd ever and I feel like we

1328
01:02:03,160 --> 01:02:05,000
Speaker 2: should if we wanted to be happy, we need to

1329
01:02:05,160 --> 01:02:08,920
Speaker 2: return to that like village type of life. And that's

1330
01:02:08,920 --> 01:02:11,200
Speaker 2: also why I envy people who like live in France,

1331
01:02:12,720 --> 01:02:17,280
Speaker 2: because France, I just think those French have it all.

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Speaker 1: Final thought, yeah, keep going.

1333
01:02:19,720 --> 01:02:22,800
Speaker 2: I envy the folks that live in France because it's small.

1334
01:02:23,000 --> 01:02:27,520
Speaker 2: Because it's small. So imagine if everybody that you ever

1335
01:02:27,720 --> 01:02:31,560
Speaker 2: knew and loved lived in Pennsylvania. Yeah, and it's like, oh, well,

1336
01:02:31,640 --> 01:02:34,240
Speaker 2: my sister lives in Pittsburgh, even though I live in Harrisburg,

1337
01:02:34,280 --> 01:02:36,840
Speaker 2: and it's like, who fucking cares you drive two hours?

1338
01:02:36,960 --> 01:02:37,200
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1339
01:02:37,360 --> 01:02:40,360
Speaker 2: But in America, it's such a big country, so spread out.

1340
01:02:40,440 --> 01:02:43,360
Speaker 2: It's so spread out that you could be literally a

1341
01:02:43,560 --> 01:02:46,680
Speaker 2: six to seven hour flight away from your closest relative.

1342
01:02:46,880 --> 01:02:47,080
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1343
01:02:47,160 --> 01:02:51,040
Speaker 3: But wait, wouldn't that mean then that your tribe member

1344
01:02:51,080 --> 01:02:53,320
Speaker 3: would be that crazy neighbor with the possums.

1345
01:02:54,400 --> 01:02:57,880
Speaker 2: Yes, no, well maybe, but I live next to the

1346
01:02:58,000 --> 01:03:01,240
Speaker 2: possum person because I'm not with my tribe. Yeah. If

1347
01:03:01,320 --> 01:03:03,320
Speaker 2: I was with my tribe, that possume person would have

1348
01:03:03,360 --> 01:03:06,000
Speaker 2: been excommunicado. Yes, many years ago.

1349
01:03:06,080 --> 01:03:08,800
Speaker 1: Think you're right like I sensed. I think during the

1350
01:03:08,880 --> 01:03:11,160
Speaker 1: pandemic when I was at a very low point, not

1351
01:03:11,320 --> 01:03:13,120
Speaker 1: just because of pandemic, like a low point in my

1352
01:03:13,200 --> 01:03:15,520
Speaker 1: life anyway, and I was looking for an out because

1353
01:03:15,520 --> 01:03:17,680
Speaker 1: I was just stretched too thin, and I like was

1354
01:03:17,760 --> 01:03:20,720
Speaker 1: really struggling. The second I had an excuse to go

1355
01:03:20,800 --> 01:03:23,480
Speaker 1: back home, I like leapt at it. And now I'm

1356
01:03:23,480 --> 01:03:25,800
Speaker 1: out here in la and I miss my family so

1357
01:03:26,120 --> 01:03:29,080
Speaker 1: fucking much. I just miss being within ten miles of them.

1358
01:03:29,200 --> 01:03:31,200
Speaker 1: Oh like, even though we don't hang out every night.

1359
01:03:31,520 --> 01:03:33,720
Speaker 1: I watched Family Feud last night. We were on with

1360
01:03:33,880 --> 01:03:37,160
Speaker 1: against bb Rex's family on ABC. I don't know if

1361
01:03:37,200 --> 01:03:41,840
Speaker 1: you guys caught it, but I was like so excited

1362
01:03:41,920 --> 01:03:44,640
Speaker 1: to just see their faces and how cute they were.

1363
01:03:44,840 --> 01:03:47,560
Speaker 1: And I was just like missing them so fricking much,

1364
01:03:47,680 --> 01:03:51,920
Speaker 1: and tonight I have so cute. Yeah, Lauren was adorable,

1365
01:03:52,000 --> 01:03:54,600
Speaker 1: she looks amazing on TV. My mom was so pretty,

1366
01:03:54,720 --> 01:03:56,920
Speaker 1: and my dad was handsome and cool, and Matt was

1367
01:03:56,960 --> 01:04:01,160
Speaker 1: there and no, Matt was so hilary. We were so

1368
01:04:01,520 --> 01:04:03,960
Speaker 1: we're such a cuteie family. It made me so happy

1369
01:04:04,160 --> 01:04:06,840
Speaker 1: to be a part of such a tight knit family,

1370
01:04:06,880 --> 01:04:08,880
Speaker 1: and I do miss them so much, And it really

1371
01:04:09,040 --> 01:04:10,600
Speaker 1: is That's why I'm trying to get all of my

1372
01:04:10,680 --> 01:04:15,000
Speaker 1: friends in one place. I'm trying, like, ideally I would

1373
01:04:15,040 --> 01:04:17,160
Speaker 1: just live somewhere where we would all live together and

1374
01:04:17,280 --> 01:04:19,360
Speaker 1: all of our kids would hang out or you know,

1375
01:04:19,840 --> 01:04:23,520
Speaker 1: our dogs, and yeah, it really is, truly what makes

1376
01:04:23,560 --> 01:04:26,760
Speaker 1: me happy is being near family and friends, and I

1377
01:04:26,880 --> 01:04:29,760
Speaker 1: feel That's why it's just felt a little depressed this

1378
01:04:29,840 --> 01:04:33,440
Speaker 1: week because I'm like away from my boyfriend and just

1379
01:04:33,600 --> 01:04:39,200
Speaker 1: like my family and I'm just La. No one noticed it.

1380
01:04:39,320 --> 01:04:40,840
Speaker 1: She's like, every time you go to La, you seem

1381
01:04:40,840 --> 01:04:42,600
Speaker 1: to get to breast and I'm like, yeah, I think

1382
01:04:42,640 --> 01:04:44,200
Speaker 1: I do. Even Carla, I was like, why do you

1383
01:04:44,280 --> 01:04:48,120
Speaker 1: hate La? I'm so mad that you hate La every

1384
01:04:48,160 --> 01:04:49,520
Speaker 1: time you go. And it's like it's not that I'm

1385
01:04:49,600 --> 01:04:52,960
Speaker 1: like everyone's fake and too pretty. It's just like it

1386
01:04:53,120 --> 01:04:55,280
Speaker 1: just feels like everyone is kind of a lone wolf

1387
01:04:55,320 --> 01:04:58,080
Speaker 1: out here. There isn't that sense everyone's kind of I'm

1388
01:04:58,160 --> 01:05:00,440
Speaker 1: maybe picking up on that vibe that everyone's kind of struggling.

1389
01:05:00,800 --> 01:05:03,960
Speaker 1: And it's so fucking hot that my whole climate change

1390
01:05:04,520 --> 01:05:07,360
Speaker 1: stress that I feel constantly is like front and center here.

1391
01:05:07,800 --> 01:05:10,800
Speaker 1: You just feel it extra hard. She Tucson must be

1392
01:05:11,360 --> 01:05:13,840
Speaker 1: feeling like end of the world right now? Do you

1393
01:05:13,960 --> 01:05:14,240
Speaker 1: feel that?

1394
01:05:14,400 --> 01:05:16,200
Speaker 3: Like does the press of heat makes you think like

1395
01:05:16,760 --> 01:05:19,680
Speaker 3: how the world is dying? So, first of all, I

1396
01:05:19,880 --> 01:05:24,200
Speaker 3: love oppressive heat. I love it, and in Tucson it's great.

1397
01:05:24,280 --> 01:05:27,320
Speaker 3: Right now, I'm in New York and it's inhumid and

1398
01:05:27,400 --> 01:05:28,760
Speaker 3: it feels like I'm in an armpit.

1399
01:05:31,440 --> 01:05:34,200
Speaker 1: Well, I wanted to talk really quickly about Bbi Rexa

1400
01:05:34,560 --> 01:05:37,040
Speaker 1: because I played against her family last night. And then

1401
01:05:37,360 --> 01:05:42,760
Speaker 1: last night also was she I guess the night before

1402
01:05:43,400 --> 01:05:44,920
Speaker 1: her and she was on with her boyfriend. It was

1403
01:05:45,240 --> 01:05:48,320
Speaker 1: she her fan, her very handsome boyfriend who's friends with

1404
01:05:48,400 --> 01:05:51,160
Speaker 1: my boyfriend. They both work in production. And my boyfriend

1405
01:05:51,240 --> 01:05:52,640
Speaker 1: was like when I that day I was on set,

1406
01:05:52,720 --> 01:05:55,080
Speaker 1: he was like, her boyfriend might be there. He's a

1407
01:05:55,160 --> 01:05:57,160
Speaker 1: cool guy, he works, He's worked on these shows with me,

1408
01:05:57,240 --> 01:05:59,120
Speaker 1: and I was like, he's part of the team and

1409
01:05:59,200 --> 01:06:02,000
Speaker 1: he's like, wow, mus be nice. Now, Like I wish

1410
01:06:02,040 --> 01:06:03,760
Speaker 1: that Chris could have been there, but I had too

1411
01:06:03,760 --> 01:06:07,080
Speaker 1: big of a family. But then last night, speaking of

1412
01:06:07,160 --> 01:06:10,720
Speaker 1: our Jonah Hill talk, last week, Bibi Rexa posted on

1413
01:06:10,800 --> 01:06:13,160
Speaker 1: her Instagram story. It is now off, but she posted

1414
01:06:13,200 --> 01:06:16,840
Speaker 1: a DM from her boyfriend. Shit, so things aren't good

1415
01:06:16,880 --> 01:06:17,439
Speaker 1: between them.

1416
01:06:17,360 --> 01:06:19,760
Speaker 2: I guess. Oh man, So.

1417
01:06:22,080 --> 01:06:24,160
Speaker 1: The title of this is Bibe Rexa just dropped a

1418
01:06:24,240 --> 01:06:30,600
Speaker 1: DM from her boyfriend Kean Seferi Comma shames her wait

1419
01:06:30,800 --> 01:06:33,680
Speaker 1: in the DM. Okay, so this person's illiterate. Whoever wrote this?

1420
01:06:34,360 --> 01:06:34,640
Speaker 2: Okay?

1421
01:06:34,680 --> 01:06:37,080
Speaker 1: So this is from him? Hey, I never said you

1422
01:06:37,120 --> 01:06:39,000
Speaker 1: weren't beautiful, and I never said I didn't love you.

1423
01:06:39,160 --> 01:06:40,960
Speaker 1: In fact, I said how beautiful you are and how

1424
01:06:41,040 --> 01:06:43,040
Speaker 1: much I loved you. I don't know why they're dming.

1425
01:06:43,120 --> 01:06:46,320
Speaker 1: By the way, her boyfriend, who appeared on Family feud

1426
01:06:46,400 --> 01:06:48,320
Speaker 1: with her, so apparently they're very close they've been together.

1427
01:06:48,800 --> 01:06:51,640
Speaker 1: In response to no, there's no response, she doesn't share

1428
01:06:51,680 --> 01:06:55,520
Speaker 1: the what else? But I always said I would be

1429
01:06:55,560 --> 01:06:57,520
Speaker 1: honest with you, and your face was changing, so I

1430
01:06:57,600 --> 01:07:00,080
Speaker 1: told you it was that. That was the conversation we

1431
01:07:00,160 --> 01:07:02,360
Speaker 1: were having, and you asked, because I care, would you

1432
01:07:02,480 --> 01:07:05,160
Speaker 1: rather I lied to you? You gained fit thirty five pounds.

1433
01:07:05,240 --> 01:07:07,960
Speaker 1: Obviously you gained weight and your face changes. Question mark,

1434
01:07:08,120 --> 01:07:10,320
Speaker 1: Should I just pretend it didn't happen and that it's okay?

1435
01:07:10,600 --> 01:07:13,320
Speaker 1: Oh my god, come on, I gained three pounds and

1436
01:07:13,400 --> 01:07:15,560
Speaker 1: you call me chubs and fat doesn't mean you don't

1437
01:07:15,600 --> 01:07:17,720
Speaker 1: love me. If you're trying to find reasons to break up,

1438
01:07:17,800 --> 01:07:19,840
Speaker 1: this makes sense dot dot dot, but it's not the

1439
01:07:19,920 --> 01:07:22,960
Speaker 1: real reason. If you're unhappy with me, slash yourself, slash

1440
01:07:23,000 --> 01:07:24,760
Speaker 1: with life, and don't see a future with us, then

1441
01:07:24,840 --> 01:07:27,280
Speaker 1: that's okay, and that's the reason. Don't use something like

1442
01:07:27,360 --> 01:07:30,160
Speaker 1: that to weaponize your anger or anxiety or any insecurity

1443
01:07:30,400 --> 01:07:32,600
Speaker 1: you may have. You know, I always found you to

1444
01:07:32,680 --> 01:07:34,040
Speaker 1: be beautiful and loved you no matter what.

1445
01:07:34,360 --> 01:07:34,560
Speaker 2: I think.

1446
01:07:34,600 --> 01:07:36,680
Speaker 1: It's important for you to think about things and write

1447
01:07:36,760 --> 01:07:40,040
Speaker 1: things down, speak to a therapist. Oh god, screenshot this

1448
01:07:40,200 --> 01:07:42,760
Speaker 1: and posted on your Instagram socials. No, he didn't say that,

1449
01:07:43,120 --> 01:07:45,360
Speaker 1: and do this retreat thing to get to the root

1450
01:07:45,400 --> 01:07:47,400
Speaker 1: of the problem. Oh, let me know if you like

1451
01:07:47,520 --> 01:07:49,720
Speaker 1: to speak. If you let me know if you'd like

1452
01:07:49,800 --> 01:07:51,280
Speaker 1: to speak, if you need more clarity.

1453
01:07:51,520 --> 01:07:53,400
Speaker 2: Love you what an idiot?

1454
01:07:53,920 --> 01:07:54,160
Speaker 1: Really?

1455
01:07:54,640 --> 01:07:57,680
Speaker 2: Well, he just made like the most basic dumb ass

1456
01:07:57,800 --> 01:07:59,640
Speaker 2: Fred Flintstone mistakes.

1457
01:07:59,400 --> 01:08:02,240
Speaker 1: Which would which are what you don't comment on on

1458
01:08:02,400 --> 01:08:05,800
Speaker 1: your what if? She asked? Because it sounds like she did.

1459
01:08:06,080 --> 01:08:06,600
Speaker 5: She mean.

1460
01:08:08,680 --> 01:08:09,080
Speaker 1: My face?

1461
01:08:09,200 --> 01:08:12,040
Speaker 5: Never said I was beautiful? And do you think my

1462
01:08:12,160 --> 01:08:13,000
Speaker 5: face looks different?

1463
01:08:13,720 --> 01:08:15,360
Speaker 2: Oh my god, Well you can't fall for that. That's

1464
01:08:15,400 --> 01:08:16,200
Speaker 2: a trap, he says.

1465
01:08:16,240 --> 01:08:19,160
Speaker 1: That was the conversation we were having, and you asked, Okay,

1466
01:08:19,200 --> 01:08:21,719
Speaker 1: so she did ask It's a trap. Does my face

1467
01:08:21,760 --> 01:08:24,880
Speaker 1: look different? So she is she? I guess told him

1468
01:08:24,880 --> 01:08:27,280
Speaker 1: I've gained thirty five pounds. He's probably like, I'm not

1469
01:08:27,320 --> 01:08:29,280
Speaker 1: going to say anything, but she's like on a scale

1470
01:08:29,320 --> 01:08:30,720
Speaker 1: and she knows it. And then she goes, does my

1471
01:08:30,800 --> 01:08:33,639
Speaker 1: face look different? He says yes, And now she's posting

1472
01:08:33,720 --> 01:08:35,600
Speaker 1: this thinking everyone's going to like hate him, and I

1473
01:08:35,640 --> 01:08:39,679
Speaker 1: guess based on that, you know, the intro little line

1474
01:08:39,760 --> 01:08:42,280
Speaker 1: he shames her like, people are on board with that,

1475
01:08:42,439 --> 01:08:44,120
Speaker 1: and they did pick up on that, but she since

1476
01:08:44,200 --> 01:08:47,080
Speaker 1: removed it because I think the tightest turned and people

1477
01:08:47,160 --> 01:08:50,200
Speaker 1: are seeing this for what it is, which is, like you.

1478
01:08:50,320 --> 01:08:53,240
Speaker 2: Asked, right, No, I'm not. I I don't think it's

1479
01:08:53,280 --> 01:08:56,360
Speaker 2: like his fault or whatever. I'm just saying, be smarter

1480
01:08:56,520 --> 01:08:56,760
Speaker 2: than that.

1481
01:08:57,360 --> 01:08:58,679
Speaker 4: You don't fall into the trap.

1482
01:08:59,360 --> 01:09:02,519
Speaker 2: If bb Rexa goes, oh my god, am I fat?

1483
01:09:02,640 --> 01:09:02,800
Speaker 5: Now?

1484
01:09:03,640 --> 01:09:08,960
Speaker 2: I don't care who you are. You go No, you're beautiful, baby, And.

1485
01:09:09,000 --> 01:09:11,120
Speaker 1: Maybe your face looks bigger because someone threw a phone

1486
01:09:11,160 --> 01:09:13,720
Speaker 1: at it and it's swollen. That happened to her a

1487
01:09:13,800 --> 01:09:14,519
Speaker 1: couple of weeks ago.

1488
01:09:15,000 --> 01:09:18,479
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, I love you. You're so beautiful. I

1489
01:09:18,560 --> 01:09:19,720
Speaker 2: don't know, I don't care.

1490
01:09:19,880 --> 01:09:22,200
Speaker 1: I like that he gained three pounds of some fat

1491
01:09:22,280 --> 01:09:22,839
Speaker 1: and chubs.

1492
01:09:23,200 --> 01:09:23,400
Speaker 2: I know.

1493
01:09:23,880 --> 01:09:25,400
Speaker 1: He's like, I've dealt with this for a while.

1494
01:09:25,479 --> 01:09:29,200
Speaker 5: He also loves her clearly, and says, there's nothing like

1495
01:09:29,960 --> 01:09:32,840
Speaker 5: having your face change does not equal I don't love

1496
01:09:32,880 --> 01:09:33,360
Speaker 5: you anyeah.

1497
01:09:33,360 --> 01:09:35,000
Speaker 1: He said your face changed, but it doesn't mean he

1498
01:09:35,040 --> 01:09:36,640
Speaker 1: said I don't love you anymore and I don't want

1499
01:09:36,680 --> 01:09:38,360
Speaker 1: to have sex with you. And I like, who knows,

1500
01:09:38,439 --> 01:09:40,600
Speaker 1: Maybe that did get said, but it doesn't sound like

1501
01:09:40,680 --> 01:09:42,880
Speaker 1: it got said. What do you guys make of this?

1502
01:09:43,280 --> 01:09:44,759
Speaker 2: Anya same?

1503
01:09:44,920 --> 01:09:47,000
Speaker 5: I'm like, first of all, I want to see the

1504
01:09:47,000 --> 01:09:49,599
Speaker 5: whole context, But it does sound like she asked, am

1505
01:09:49,680 --> 01:09:52,439
Speaker 5: I beautiful? Why didn't you say it was beautiful? And

1506
01:09:53,200 --> 01:09:55,920
Speaker 5: he's just defending himself, And I don't think there's anything

1507
01:09:55,960 --> 01:09:58,920
Speaker 5: wrong with what he said. He actually sounds like, uh,

1508
01:09:59,520 --> 01:10:03,240
Speaker 5: like a emotionally mature guy. He's just saying, yeah, your

1509
01:10:03,280 --> 01:10:05,960
Speaker 5: face changed, you asked if it changed. It sounds like,

1510
01:10:06,080 --> 01:10:07,320
Speaker 5: but we don't know the context.

1511
01:10:07,400 --> 01:10:13,080
Speaker 1: So why's her embarrassing hosting these things? What people? I

1512
01:10:13,439 --> 01:10:16,479
Speaker 1: totally throw her phone at someone's face to get it

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01:10:16,560 --> 01:10:20,120
Speaker 1: away from her, because this is this is not a

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01:10:20,160 --> 01:10:21,439
Speaker 1: good look. What is happening?

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01:10:23,880 --> 01:10:27,000
Speaker 5: Girls are psyched to like put guys on blast, and

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01:10:27,120 --> 01:10:29,280
Speaker 5: it sounds like it might have bit her in the ass.

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01:10:29,479 --> 01:10:33,679
Speaker 5: She's clearly a beautiful woman. Yeah, and maybe she's going

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01:10:33,760 --> 01:10:36,719
Speaker 5: through something right now. Sounds like she's insecure, she about about.

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01:10:36,520 --> 01:10:38,439
Speaker 1: To go to her maybe she's on she changed medication

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01:10:38,640 --> 01:10:40,479
Speaker 1: or something. She's going to change it soon. It's going

1521
01:10:40,560 --> 01:10:42,080
Speaker 1: to be ozembic and we all know where this is

1522
01:10:42,120 --> 01:10:44,120
Speaker 1: going to go. And she's going to be as thin

1523
01:10:44,240 --> 01:10:47,479
Speaker 1: as as you know she wants to be at any point,

1524
01:10:47,640 --> 01:10:51,120
Speaker 1: So the tide will turn. And but I just don't

1525
01:10:51,320 --> 01:10:54,519
Speaker 1: like this whole put. If he gets back together with her,

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01:10:54,640 --> 01:10:59,160
Speaker 1: I mean, this has cost for breakup if anyone ever,

1527
01:10:59,640 --> 01:11:03,439
Speaker 1: it's an on my relationship altogether message. Oh god, no,

1528
01:11:03,760 --> 01:11:06,280
Speaker 1: that's a breach of trust. Yes, but I do you

1529
01:11:06,360 --> 01:11:07,840
Speaker 1: think he'll get back together with her?

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01:11:08,520 --> 01:11:09,200
Speaker 2: I mean I would.

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01:11:09,600 --> 01:11:15,800
Speaker 3: He sounds too emotionally mature too, especially after like like

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01:11:15,920 --> 01:11:18,240
Speaker 3: after showing that, because she has like how many followers

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01:11:18,280 --> 01:11:18,799
Speaker 3: on Instagram?

1534
01:11:19,080 --> 01:11:20,240
Speaker 1: I'm a million plus?

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01:11:20,640 --> 01:11:24,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, at least, Well, if I was this guy, this

1536
01:11:24,280 --> 01:11:27,040
Speaker 2: guy is in production. You know he's not famous guy.

1537
01:11:27,680 --> 01:11:30,000
Speaker 2: If I was that guy and I was dating bb

1538
01:11:30,160 --> 01:11:33,920
Speaker 2: rexa a maybe the most famous pop star besides Taylor

1539
01:11:33,960 --> 01:11:37,720
Speaker 2: Swift right now, well, no, but close, she's a she's

1540
01:11:37,760 --> 01:11:38,439
Speaker 2: bigger than Sting.

1541
01:11:38,840 --> 01:11:41,240
Speaker 1: You definitely asked us today what is a bb REXA

1542
01:11:41,320 --> 01:11:42,800
Speaker 1: song and then I sang it and you did not

1543
01:11:42,920 --> 01:11:43,439
Speaker 1: recognize it.

1544
01:11:43,560 --> 01:11:46,720
Speaker 2: So to even claim that she's I've seen her on

1545
01:11:46,800 --> 01:11:49,480
Speaker 2: billboards okay, yes, like Doja.

1546
01:11:49,240 --> 01:11:51,599
Speaker 1: Cat level Okay, yeah, yeah, she's pretty close.

1547
01:11:51,760 --> 01:11:54,080
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah. So if I if I was dating bb

1548
01:11:54,200 --> 01:11:56,679
Speaker 2: REXA and I was just like a regular production dude,

1549
01:11:57,640 --> 01:12:02,040
Speaker 2: I would give her many different opportunities to fuck up

1550
01:12:02,120 --> 01:12:05,080
Speaker 2: like that. And I'm still go back right Yeah. I mean,

1551
01:12:05,120 --> 01:12:09,280
Speaker 2: she's got to leash the size of what's a long rope?

1552
01:12:09,479 --> 01:12:14,920
Speaker 1: Example, I don't know, we were playing improv games yesterday.

1553
01:12:15,080 --> 01:12:16,120
Speaker 1: What's in your bag of fun?

1554
01:12:17,160 --> 01:12:18,160
Speaker 2: A long rope? Please?

1555
01:12:18,320 --> 01:12:18,479
Speaker 5: Yeah?

1556
01:12:18,479 --> 01:12:21,640
Speaker 4: A leash the size of a bungee cord into the

1557
01:12:21,720 --> 01:12:22,400
Speaker 4: Grand Canyon.

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01:12:22,760 --> 01:12:25,040
Speaker 2: Yeah okay, someone.

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01:12:24,840 --> 01:12:29,439
Speaker 1: Did their homework. Yeah okay, So but I want to say, really,

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01:12:30,040 --> 01:12:32,360
Speaker 1: the Family Feud was a great episode. Try to watch that.

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01:12:32,439 --> 01:12:34,240
Speaker 1: I guess maybe Hulu or something. I don't know where

1562
01:12:34,320 --> 01:12:37,000
Speaker 1: ABC things are, But with me and my family, it

1563
01:12:37,080 --> 01:12:41,800
Speaker 1: was so funny. We lost so badly. The score was like, uh,

1564
01:12:42,520 --> 01:12:46,080
Speaker 1: six eighty, like on the bb Rex's score, and we

1565
01:12:46,280 --> 01:12:50,920
Speaker 1: got thirteen points next to bb rexes six eighty.

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01:12:51,320 --> 01:12:51,960
Speaker 2: This is true.

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01:12:52,280 --> 01:12:55,120
Speaker 1: This family wept the floor with us, swept the floor

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01:12:55,160 --> 01:12:56,320
Speaker 1: with us and wept.

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01:12:57,000 --> 01:12:57,960
Speaker 4: We wept afterwards.

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01:12:58,760 --> 01:13:01,160
Speaker 1: It was so embarrassing. It was a lot leading up

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01:13:01,160 --> 01:13:03,200
Speaker 1: to that. My parents were deliriously tired because they're like

1572
01:13:03,280 --> 01:13:05,120
Speaker 1: eighteen slides had been canceled and they were supposed to

1573
01:13:05,120 --> 01:13:07,080
Speaker 1: get there the day before. They arrived literally forty five

1574
01:13:07,080 --> 01:13:09,640
Speaker 1: minutes before the show began, so we have all the

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01:13:09,680 --> 01:13:11,720
Speaker 1: excuses in the world. We also didn't know how to

1576
01:13:11,760 --> 01:13:14,680
Speaker 1: play the game. It was explained to us before, but

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01:13:14,840 --> 01:13:17,000
Speaker 1: I did not know that when you buzz in at first,

1578
01:13:18,040 --> 01:13:20,080
Speaker 1: if the person who hits the buzzer first, I thought,

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01:13:20,120 --> 01:13:21,720
Speaker 1: gets to go, and then it goes to their team.

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01:13:22,200 --> 01:13:24,599
Speaker 1: I didn't know they answer, and then the other person

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01:13:24,640 --> 01:13:27,080
Speaker 1: gets a chance to answer too. So when they went

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01:13:27,120 --> 01:13:28,519
Speaker 1: to me, I was just like, I don't know. I

1583
01:13:28,560 --> 01:13:31,200
Speaker 1: stopped thinking after she hit the buzzer before me. Sure

1584
01:13:31,439 --> 01:13:33,280
Speaker 1: I didn't know, and that's on me. I should have

1585
01:13:33,320 --> 01:13:35,280
Speaker 1: watched the show. And there's so many details I want

1586
01:13:35,280 --> 01:13:38,200
Speaker 1: to talk about, but I signed an MDA. But someday,

1587
01:13:38,320 --> 01:13:40,840
Speaker 1: maybe when I have a mental illness and it's taken

1588
01:13:40,880 --> 01:13:42,200
Speaker 1: over my brain, I'll share all of it.

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01:13:42,439 --> 01:13:42,880
Speaker 2: We got to go.

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01:13:43,160 --> 01:13:46,200
Speaker 1: Thank you for listening to the show. We'll be here tomorrow.

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01:13:46,479 --> 01:13:51,280
Speaker 1: I can't wait. And Dolaka and just wear a buff,

1592
01:13:51,360 --> 01:13:51,840
Speaker 1: not a scarf.