WEBVTT - Dating 101: Don't be a Psycho

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<v Speaker 1>Mhm, call hot, Come come baby, Hobby, you came.

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<v Speaker 2>You call. Welcome back to good Mom's Bad Choices. This

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<v Speaker 2>is Erica and I'm Mela, and I'm smoking some sage,

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<v Speaker 2>well not smoking it, but burning, smudging some smudging sage

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<v Speaker 2>across our bodies because we need it. We need it.

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<v Speaker 3>Start taking deep breaths in the beginning of each episode.

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<v Speaker 2>Together, Let's do it together, guys, already one, two, three, in.

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<v Speaker 4>Hal When I do breathing exercises, I like to inhale

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<v Speaker 4>all my stress and give it one one last review,

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<v Speaker 4>all the tension, feel it and all my body, and

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<v Speaker 4>then I imagine myself blowing it all out and releasing

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<v Speaker 4>it back into the universe, never to come back again.

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<v Speaker 2>Ever. Hh that was nice. How are you? I am good? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>How's your week so far?

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<v Speaker 4>My week is good. I'm stressed out, but it's still good.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm learning to balance my stress levels. We've been really

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<v Speaker 3>diving into work this week. It's only Wednesday, but for.

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<v Speaker 4>Me, that always helps because even if I can't organize

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<v Speaker 4>my other thoughts, at least other shit is happening, you know, Like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 4>everything's a clusterfucked, but this is good.

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<v Speaker 2>You've definitely been diving into work. We've been like workhorses.

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<v Speaker 4>We've sent like fifteen emails, which is the maximum of

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<v Speaker 4>emails we've ever sent.

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<v Speaker 3>In forty eight hour period.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, it's because we care so much about the content

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<v Speaker 2>of the email, so we have to really take our

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<v Speaker 2>time to curate each emails. They all are personalized and

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<v Speaker 2>all those things hopefully come back to serve as well,

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<v Speaker 2>which they have they have. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>I think one of our themes this month, these last

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<v Speaker 4>few months have been alignment. And it's strangely oddly, I

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<v Speaker 4>know we say this a lot, or maybe we haven't.

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<v Speaker 4>Everything aligns in the oddest way, Like we'll speak one

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<v Speaker 4>person up and then literally like meet that person, we'll

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<v Speaker 4>speak one thing up, and then like the perfect person

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<v Speaker 4>to help collaborate with that just appears in our clutch.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's almost like you know what. I think it

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<v Speaker 2>started at the pool. Remember when we had those phone

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<v Speaker 2>calls that came in and it was like crazy like the.

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<v Speaker 4>Happening yeah and those yeah, And then we went to

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<v Speaker 4>Coachella and Florence and the machine, right, the Florence machine,

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<v Speaker 4>and even before the Florence and the machine, like the

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<v Speaker 4>contact we wanted to make at the party.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you know, yeah, it's been quite it.

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<v Speaker 4>It's been you know what, it's like God patting us

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<v Speaker 4>on the shoulder and saying.

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<v Speaker 2>You're on the right You're on the right path.

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<v Speaker 3>See you see how this is working out.

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<v Speaker 2>It's because you're on the right path.

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<v Speaker 3>So that's cool.

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<v Speaker 4>And I think when you were in your in the

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<v Speaker 4>right space and doing what the universe will send you

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<v Speaker 4>assurance that way, even the slightest ways. M h. Even

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<v Speaker 4>with like with Mary with Coachella, Mary's our intern, y'all,

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<v Speaker 4>Mary's our intern.

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<v Speaker 3>Just so much, just so much things that so many things,

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<v Speaker 3>so much things, so much thing, so much, so much.

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<v Speaker 4>Like the mystic, the mystic of it all is this

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<v Speaker 4>is just like kind of reminds me like the mystical

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<v Speaker 4>magic part of life, you know it is. It is

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<v Speaker 4>a story we are, we are creating in We are

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<v Speaker 4>very much in control of that manifestation, so.

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<v Speaker 2>That I'm happy about. Yeah, that's true.

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<v Speaker 3>There's a whole list of ship that's not going right.

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<v Speaker 4>The whole list of bills that need to be paid

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<v Speaker 4>and ship, but overall, there's weed for that, and you know,

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<v Speaker 4>there's manifestation for the rest and that's cool.

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<v Speaker 3>What about you? What's been up this week?

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<v Speaker 2>What's up?

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<v Speaker 3>What did I do?

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<v Speaker 2>I've just been chilling with Iri. I don't have her today.

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<v Speaker 2>She's with her dad. Her dad's finally back in town,

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<v Speaker 2>so now he has her. And I text Jamila last

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<v Speaker 2>night because actually I went on It wasn't a date.

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<v Speaker 2>It definitely was not a date. It was like a

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<v Speaker 2>meet up catch up with Trembling lip Bay. So it

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<v Speaker 2>was his lip trembling only trump in my mouth. So

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know because that didn't happen.

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<v Speaker 3>What do you mean, like his bottom lip, that's.

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<v Speaker 2>Why he's trembling Lipay. Don't remember I kissed him and

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<v Speaker 2>it was like vibrating in my mouth. Okay, anyway, if

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<v Speaker 2>you don't, if you're just like catching up on the podcast,

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<v Speaker 2>you didn't hear like the story of Trembling Lippey. He's

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<v Speaker 2>a guy I met on Tinder.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that's in the first episode.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, he's a guy I met on Tinder last year.

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<v Speaker 2>One of my first like twinder tender experiences. We met

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<v Speaker 2>at sun Dance in Utah, met on a mountain top

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<v Speaker 2>because we were skiing. We connected. He met me. It

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<v Speaker 2>was it was pretty incredible, Like we met, we skied

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<v Speaker 2>all day, we made out, his lip trembled in my mouth,

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<v Speaker 2>and we started dating for a while. We're no longer dating.

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<v Speaker 2>That ended a long time ago last summer, but I

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<v Speaker 2>haven't seen him in a while, and so Jamila randomly

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<v Speaker 2>matched with one of his best friends on hinge and

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<v Speaker 2>went on a date with him, and so they've been trying,

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<v Speaker 2>they've we've been trying to like do like a double

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<v Speaker 2>meetup situation, but it didn't happen. So last night I

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<v Speaker 2>went to meet up with him and chat and catch up.

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<v Speaker 3>And it was supposed to be a double date, but

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<v Speaker 3>my day get stuck at work.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm glad it was. I'm glad it was. I'm glad

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<v Speaker 2>it happened the way it did because we haven't talked

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<v Speaker 2>in a while and we caught up and it was cool.

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<v Speaker 4>I kind of think that was his excuse to hang

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<v Speaker 4>out with you, Like he was pitching for the double

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<v Speaker 4>date because he thought like he needed like a reason

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<v Speaker 4>to hang out with you.

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<v Speaker 3>M clearly that's not true.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't really have I don't know, Like I

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<v Speaker 2>was wondering, like what the what was going to be

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<v Speaker 2>like when we met, Like Is it gonna be attraction?

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<v Speaker 2>Is it going to be awkward? I'm not really, there's

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<v Speaker 2>not really attraction.

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<v Speaker 3>Even after like two tequilas, only because.

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<v Speaker 2>I had been celibate for a month and I'm horny.

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<v Speaker 2>But I had to like talk to myself, like dude,

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<v Speaker 2>not It wasn't even like the opportunity to presented itself.

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<v Speaker 2>But I guess I could have flirted more if I

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<v Speaker 2>felt that way, but I just didn't feel like bad

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<v Speaker 2>to do that. Yeah, and we just talked. I literally

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<v Speaker 2>was like thank you because this was like the first

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<v Speaker 2>person that I dated outside of my baby daddy, and

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<v Speaker 2>like because of all of like the lies that happened

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<v Speaker 2>in my last relationship, I was like psycho about transparency

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<v Speaker 2>and he was totally down for it and gave me

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<v Speaker 2>that was so transparent when we dated, Like anything I

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<v Speaker 2>asked him, he would just tell me the truth.

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<v Speaker 4>I think that's important after a long term relationship period

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<v Speaker 4>because I think long term relationships cloud that.

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<v Speaker 2>But the thing is important, But a lot of people

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<v Speaker 2>can't do it, you know, or they say they can

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<v Speaker 2>and they're like, oh, I don't know. He did that

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<v Speaker 2>for me, and like I'm so grateful for that. Because

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<v Speaker 2>it's like, really, it was a gift that you.

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<v Speaker 3>Knew it could happen. It's real.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And you know, even when we stopped dating, he

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<v Speaker 2>told me like, hey, I'm gonna start dating someone else

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<v Speaker 2>more seriously. And we talked about that too. We talked

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<v Speaker 2>about her and like what that was. And it's interesting

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<v Speaker 2>to know now more so his thought process when it

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<v Speaker 2>came to that. So he's now dating somebody different and

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<v Speaker 2>their guests they're getting pretty serious and yeah, and he

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<v Speaker 2>thanked me too, like, Yo, you really set the bar

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<v Speaker 2>when it comes to communication and transparency. So that's what

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<v Speaker 2>I did last night. I also got drunk somehow. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>we did take a shot and then I had a

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<v Speaker 2>marg I had like two margarita's, and then we got

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<v Speaker 2>to them. We went to sit at the bar towards

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<v Speaker 2>the end, and then the bartender gave me another shot

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<v Speaker 2>for free. When I got home, I masturbated.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and then I opened her computer and it was

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<v Speaker 3>on porn per the usual.

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<v Speaker 2>And also apparently left my door open because this morning

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<v Speaker 2>I woke up and my door was opened for this.

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<v Speaker 4>First of all, she's the scariest bitch I know. If

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<v Speaker 4>I come in the door knowing. I'm like, I'm five

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<v Speaker 4>minutes away. And then I opened there. I was like,

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<v Speaker 4>why did you just bust in?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, bitch, you knew I was on my.

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<v Speaker 2>Wife, but little like I heard the mailman and but

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<v Speaker 2>it sounded like wee different the way he put the

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<v Speaker 2>mail in, And it felt like a door opened, and

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, what the fuck? It probably was light

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<v Speaker 2>and then I opened the door. You know, I locked it.

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<v Speaker 2>The door was locked, but open.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you're drunk, Like what drunk is fine?

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<v Speaker 2>Literally, someone just did walk in my house last night.

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<v Speaker 2>It was crazy. So yeah, but.

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<v Speaker 3>Did you put that on our story that you that

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<v Speaker 3>you left your door on lock?

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<v Speaker 4>Somebody wrote by the way, one night last summer, I

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<v Speaker 4>woke up and my.

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<v Speaker 3>Car was still on the driveway.

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<v Speaker 4>Not sure what the fuck I was thinking, you're thinking

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<v Speaker 4>tequila's which you were thinking.

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<v Speaker 2>Apparently I was too funny.

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<v Speaker 3>I've done that for sure, left my Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Other than that, I've just been like trying to rest. Girl.

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<v Speaker 2>I've been like, go go go go, go out of town,

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<v Speaker 2>out of town, out of town, go go go. So

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<v Speaker 2>I've just been at home. I've just been like not

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<v Speaker 2>really wanting to go far places unless an uber is

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<v Speaker 2>driving me there and.

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<v Speaker 3>So I like, could be so fucking draining.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just happy to be home for more than like

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<v Speaker 2>two weeks and just chilling.

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<v Speaker 3>But we will be in New York at the end

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<v Speaker 3>of the month.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we're coming to New York May first. So when

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<v Speaker 2>anyone wants to stay hang out, email us hang out

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<v Speaker 2>or guide us to cool, cool spots let me know.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going out there also with my two friends, the Ashleys.

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<v Speaker 2>Shout out to the Ashleys.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna do some cool podcast shot out there.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we're interviewing some good people out there. I'm so excited. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>particularly Philly for one of those people. Fingers crossed anyway.

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<v Speaker 4>So news abortion, what the fuck is happening?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's the beginning. This is how it starts. Like

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<v Speaker 2>little by little, they just start taking away your rights.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if you guys saw in the news,

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<v Speaker 2>but Alabama pretty much passed a pretty much all abortion

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<v Speaker 2>band in Alabama. Basically, you can not get an abortion

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<v Speaker 2>if you were raped, you can not get abortion in

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<v Speaker 2>the cases of incest. A doctor who performs an abortion

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<v Speaker 2>can get up to ninety nine years in prison.

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<v Speaker 4>And in Georgia, if you get an abortion after this

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<v Speaker 4>sixth week six week mark, then it's also a federal

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<v Speaker 4>crime and there will be criminal charges against you.

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<v Speaker 2>And if you go out of state, oh you get

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<v Speaker 2>an abortion, you can also go to jail as well,

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<v Speaker 2>because it's committing a criminal act. I don't remember what

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<v Speaker 2>the term was, but what the fuck like six weeks?

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<v Speaker 2>Like I didn't even know I was pregnant until like

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<v Speaker 2>eight weeks snitch me either. I was at all types

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<v Speaker 2>of shit right, Like, how what do you mean?

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<v Speaker 4>I just think that overall, no government should put their

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<v Speaker 4>hands in the pussy pot. It's not yours, pussy prell like,

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<v Speaker 4>this has nothing to do with you. This vagina is

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<v Speaker 4>handled things.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like are you taking care of my vagina three

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<v Speaker 2>hundred and sixty five days of the year?

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<v Speaker 3>And then did they.

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<v Speaker 4>Not recall before you know, legal abortion, people were doing

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<v Speaker 4>fucking easy shit hangar abortions and people were dying in

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<v Speaker 4>back alleys. Girls were throwing their babies in the trash.

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<v Speaker 4>So and I mean, it's fucked up, And what's the solution.

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<v Speaker 4>What is your I'm curious as to what is the solution.

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<v Speaker 3>You think people are going to be fucking less because

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<v Speaker 3>that's not going to happen.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you going to educate more people and like intraceptives,

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<v Speaker 2>because you're not doing that either, especially taking away funding

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<v Speaker 2>for like programs like Planned Parenthood. Who do that? Like,

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<v Speaker 2>It's just I don't understand it.

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<v Speaker 4>It's really scary, because shit, I had an abortion in

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<v Speaker 4>high school, but I was like I got pregnant, I

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<v Speaker 4>was like fifteen. I ended up over that period I

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<v Speaker 4>turned sixteen, but you know, I went to Planned Parenthood

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<v Speaker 4>and I didn't tell my mom. My mom ended up

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<v Speaker 4>finding out the day of because I missed school and

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<v Speaker 4>they called.

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<v Speaker 2>But I can't imagine what the like.

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<v Speaker 4>I had an abortioned in college too, Like I hardly

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<v Speaker 4>equipped to raise the child I had when I was

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<v Speaker 4>twenty six.

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<v Speaker 3>So oh, I just can't imagine.

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<v Speaker 4>Being forced legally to have have had those kids, you know, Like,

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<v Speaker 4>and I don't think it should be used as a

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<v Speaker 4>form of birth control by any means. However, I definitely

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<v Speaker 4>don't think that this is a solution. I definitely, especially

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<v Speaker 4>when they cut back even fund funding for education period,

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<v Speaker 4>you know.

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<v Speaker 3>So I think the government's getting fucked up.

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<v Speaker 2>It's crazy that these men are making decisions for our bodies.

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<v Speaker 4>I saw a meme that said, Uh, coming ejaculation is

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<v Speaker 4>murder if you ejaculate that that's the point of conception.

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<v Speaker 4>There's a life that you've you've made not able to

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<v Speaker 4>come come to fruition.

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<v Speaker 2>You've thrown away your children.

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<v Speaker 3>So essentially you should go to fucking jail.

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<v Speaker 2>Too, right, Yeah, Like why are we the ones that

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<v Speaker 2>are criminalized.

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<v Speaker 3>Because they can do it and all they gotta do

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<v Speaker 3>is fucking nut.

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<v Speaker 2>So the guy has no no, like there's no repercussions

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<v Speaker 2>for him getting you pregnant. It's like takes two to tango,

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<v Speaker 2>my mom managa, Like.

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<v Speaker 3>I just want to know who are like the people.

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<v Speaker 4>In the government and these towns that are still fighting

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<v Speaker 4>for this.

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<v Speaker 3>This shit has been.

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<v Speaker 4>Long gone, Like who's still in the oppressing hard for

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<v Speaker 4>you know, abortion is wrong, Like you need to not

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<v Speaker 4>be in the government. First of all, I don't believe

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<v Speaker 4>religion and government should be in the same pot. And

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<v Speaker 4>I think a lot of the abstinence and there's a

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<v Speaker 4>lot of religion about when the conception is equal as

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<v Speaker 4>a child or you know, at what point it becomes

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<v Speaker 4>a human. But I just I feel like it's still

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<v Speaker 4>religiously rooted, and I don't think religion and politics go together.

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<v Speaker 3>In any it's it's just barbaric.

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<v Speaker 2>If whether your pro choice or pro life, whether you

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<v Speaker 2>believe that you know, people should get abortions, or you

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<v Speaker 2>believe what your beliefs are for yourself and your body,

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<v Speaker 2>Like that's fine. When you start passing law to restrict

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<v Speaker 2>people from doing things that, like, especially in the cases

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<v Speaker 2>of like like, are you you're telling me that if

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<v Speaker 2>I got raped, I have to have this baby? Like

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<v Speaker 2>are you kidding? I didn't ask for this, you know

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<v Speaker 2>what I mean? Like, that's that's crazy to me. That's

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<v Speaker 2>crazy to me. How is that? How is that even?

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<v Speaker 2>How did that pass? I don't understand.

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<v Speaker 3>I want to know what when is it going to

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<v Speaker 3>get appealed? How long is this gonna last?

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<v Speaker 4>Is it going to continue? And if so, what a

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<v Speaker 4>setback for women? I was just watching this Netflix movie

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<v Speaker 4>about the Kennedy's, about the girl that drowned in the

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<v Speaker 4>car with one of the Kennedys, And at the time,

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<v Speaker 4>it's like the sixties, and women didn't really have a

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<v Speaker 4>lot of rights, you know, they were just like, okay

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<v Speaker 4>with my making decisions that I'm going to work, Like

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<v Speaker 4>it was just that was and when women started pressing

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<v Speaker 4>for rights. This woman was on camera saying she was like,

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<v Speaker 4>we were just like, well, it's not broken, Like why

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<v Speaker 4>are we making.

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<v Speaker 2>A big ruckus?

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<v Speaker 4>You know, but it's not broken, like saying the system

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<v Speaker 4>wasn't broken. So what women started fighting for, like women's rights.

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<v Speaker 4>It was kind of like a burning bras And they

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<v Speaker 4>were like almost like why are you doing all this?

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<v Speaker 4>You know, women were so used to being a certain position,

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<v Speaker 4>And I'm just like, as enlightened and as far as

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<v Speaker 4>we've come, how is it that we've been being pulled

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<v Speaker 4>this far back.

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<v Speaker 2>It's because those people are being empowered by the state

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<v Speaker 2>of our politics right now.

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<v Speaker 3>Right right, which is totally backwards.

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<v Speaker 2>And I don't know, I don't understand what they have

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of the passing of things is for agenda purposes,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I just don't understand how. I'm wondering if there's

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<v Speaker 2>some sort of bend they get to do they save

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<v Speaker 2>money doing this?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, there's always some what is or is it?

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<v Speaker 2>Or is it is it really about the money or

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<v Speaker 2>is it actually just about appealing to a certain demographic,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, to get other things passed. If I pass this,

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<v Speaker 2>then I'll get voted next to you. Too, I'll stay

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<v Speaker 2>I'll stay in my position. I'll stay in the seat

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<v Speaker 2>because I voted for something that this is what they

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<v Speaker 2>feel really strongly about. And then I'll get this other

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<v Speaker 2>shit that I actually care about past because.

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<v Speaker 3>I'll get funding for.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I think it's that there's definitely an agenda. I

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<v Speaker 4>don't think anything in politics is not.

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<v Speaker 2>Of course, I'm just wondering if they're really monetarial, like

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<v Speaker 2>are they gaining a lot substantial money by passing this line?

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<v Speaker 3>Sure, if i'll go down like rabbit hole.

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<v Speaker 2>Google grapple hole, we can find out. Yes, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>it's it's so crazy, it's crazy. And then you know,

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<v Speaker 2>also getting outside of the abortion thing, like just just

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<v Speaker 2>the ship that people that people do and say about women,

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<v Speaker 2>like the Ayisha Kuri thing.

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<v Speaker 4>Like hers being like real about how she was expected,

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<v Speaker 4>Like but did she say she's like, yeah, a part

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<v Speaker 4>of me even though I know I'm beautiful, I know

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<v Speaker 4>I'm you know that he's constantly getting female attention and

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<v Speaker 4>sometimes I'm like, damn, am I not desirable?

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<v Speaker 3>Do you guys not want to fuck me?

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<v Speaker 4>And the basic niggas went nuts with their bullshit. There's

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<v Speaker 4>lack of understanding for the English language, and like, is anybody.

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<v Speaker 3>Not fucking hearing what she said?

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<v Speaker 4>Sayings like if Ayisha's worried about guy's fucking her, there's

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<v Speaker 4>no good women. Women ain't shit because Aisha, like because

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<v Speaker 4>Ayisha is fucking not.

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<v Speaker 2>Because Aisha wants to get fucked too. She's just like

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<v Speaker 2>all these homes right right she no one of meme

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<v Speaker 2>was like she.

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<v Speaker 4>Has a you know, a millionaire husband, a Christian man,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, three beautiful kids' she's married, what more can

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<v Speaker 4>she ask for?

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<v Speaker 3>And she just wants to get fucked by other guys.

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<v Speaker 3>Bitches ain't shit.

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<v Speaker 4>And I was just like, oh my god, men are

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<v Speaker 4>so basic.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, it's funny when she said that, it's I

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<v Speaker 2>felt like I could relate to that, you know, dating

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<v Speaker 2>like my baby daddy, Like other men just were like

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<v Speaker 2>either scared of him, like Dade was like, they just

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<v Speaker 2>didn't fuck with me even if there were, like I

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<v Speaker 2>would find out later after like you know, no longer

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<v Speaker 2>being with him out of respect for him, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>and he they'd be like, you know, I've always liked you,

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<v Speaker 2>I've always and I'm like, what, like, yeah, I flirted

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<v Speaker 2>with you, and I'm like when and I think it's like,

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<v Speaker 2>no one is going to flirt with Steph Curry's wife,

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<v Speaker 2>do you know what I mean? Because they respect They

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<v Speaker 2>respect him so much. He's the star player, he has

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<v Speaker 2>all the money. Why would she want me? You know?

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's that's really what it comes down to,

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<v Speaker 2>the insecurity and the fake respect. You know.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, do you think do you think that women are

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<v Speaker 4>generally more disrespectful in other people's relationships than men are?

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<v Speaker 3>Period?

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<v Speaker 2>Like?

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<v Speaker 3>Do you think that's just a sneaky bitch thing?

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<v Speaker 2>I have to say unfortunately. And the reason I say that, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>because we've always been paired against each other more than

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<v Speaker 2>men have.

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<v Speaker 3>So we have that competition.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's a competition. We have that. Even if you're

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<v Speaker 2>the best bitch in the world, a great person, you

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<v Speaker 2>can't tell me that you've never done.

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<v Speaker 3>That and felt like ha ha done what like got

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<v Speaker 3>somebody else's man?

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<v Speaker 2>Just flirt someone that you knew you shouldn't be flirting with.

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<v Speaker 2>That's taken that by another woman. Period. Every woman has

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<v Speaker 2>done that. I don't give a fuck how nice or

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<v Speaker 2>church going you are. It doesn't mean you're a bad person,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's just it's kind of like.

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<v Speaker 3>Like naughty, like something like something bad. So I think

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<v Speaker 3>that I also think men definitely, But if you're asking.

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<v Speaker 2>Who does it more, I would say I feel like women.

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<v Speaker 3>That's a fucked up but it's probably true also.

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<v Speaker 2>Because men also make you feel like you have to

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<v Speaker 2>compete too write for them. They like that ship, so

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>Right whereas for a.

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<v Speaker 2>Woman like That's what I'm saying, like between the abortioning,

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<v Speaker 2>that's so backwards that ship. I'm like, are we progressing?

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<v Speaker 3>Are we still here or not?

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<v Speaker 2>But we're not though, because even the most I was like, seriously,

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<v Speaker 2>some of the most woke people are so misogynistic, low

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<v Speaker 2>key they don't even realize that, I know.

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<v Speaker 5>Don't even one of those quote I hate this quote,

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<v Speaker 5>like this word, but woke men. I'll have conversationships and

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<v Speaker 5>I was like, oh wow, I thought you were so

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<v Speaker 5>much smarter, but you're still so got to. I'm conditioned too,

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<v Speaker 5>But it's funny how you could be so woke but

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<v Speaker 5>in the same breath not half as much, Like you

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<v Speaker 5>don't see us as human, like you really see us

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<v Speaker 5>as different, you know, like in some ways you feel

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<v Speaker 5>superior that I'm supposed to do certain things and if

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<v Speaker 5>I do outside of that, then that makes me this.

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<v Speaker 2>It's literally like misogynist's in hipster clothing. And then it's

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<v Speaker 2>confusing because you're like, wait, wait is that.

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<v Speaker 3>Youse so you look super like you do yoga?

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<v Speaker 2>You say yoga, you call me a queen. You call

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<v Speaker 2>me a queen, but like what but I'm but I'm

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<v Speaker 2>a hope because I stuck with ten.

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<v Speaker 3>Guys right, Oh my god, that shit.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want that type. You don't want to bring

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<v Speaker 2>that type of girl home? And what It's so funny

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<v Speaker 2>the things that men say. And I'd be like, little,

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<v Speaker 2>do you know? I did all that shit and now

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<v Speaker 2>you brought me home, right, you know?

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<v Speaker 3>And you love it.

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<v Speaker 2>You love it because it doesn't matter, It doesn't define

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<v Speaker 2>who I am.

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<v Speaker 3>Y life goes on.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's just so strange.

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<v Speaker 4>I know, this guy told me the other day that

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<v Speaker 4>he's an alpha male and he doesn't want to date

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<v Speaker 4>an alpha female like that does not work because he

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<v Speaker 4>needs her to listen, like she doesn't want someone telling

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<v Speaker 4>him what to do.

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<v Speaker 2>That's like my dad.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I think it's cool to though who you

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<v Speaker 3>pair well with.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think I mean, I can say the same thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, I know, I'm cool with an alpha femle,

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<v Speaker 2>but I do feel we are bound to butt heads.

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<v Speaker 2>I've experienced it.

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<v Speaker 3>And then don't you want an alpha male?

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<v Speaker 2>I want like a mix of an empatha EmPATH EmPATH

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<v Speaker 2>EmPATH EmPATH and an alpha like I need a like

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<v Speaker 2>EmPATH doesn't mean not alpha. But like I said, if

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<v Speaker 2>you're talking about the categories, that path is not on

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<v Speaker 2>the category.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like it was like alpha beta.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and the EmPATH is defined under Wait what's the episode.

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<v Speaker 3>Of there's another one alpha?

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<v Speaker 2>It's the other one that's beta. Was one is the

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<v Speaker 2>one in the middle.

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<v Speaker 3>But there's another one?

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<v Speaker 2>I know?

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<v Speaker 3>Fucksa?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Wow, I don't have to google that. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>have my phone. Wait why is that? Why? I can't

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<v Speaker 2>I remember what it's called. We did have a lopposite

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<v Speaker 2>on the mail versus five five? Are you looking it up? No?

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<v Speaker 2>You're reading a sorry sorry what the.

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<v Speaker 3>Direct?

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<v Speaker 2>Reading a text message? Anyway? I guess.

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<v Speaker 3>I guess all this is said, keep fighting, ladies.

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<v Speaker 2>You've got a lot of work, a lot of work

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<v Speaker 2>to do, guys. I don't I don't know what to

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<v Speaker 2>say about any of that.

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<v Speaker 3>Omega there's no omega.

0:23:48.200 --> 0:23:57.760
<v Speaker 2>Wait is no, I don't think so to say alpha opposite.

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<v Speaker 4>And I saw that Steph Curry came out and like

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<v Speaker 4>supported her publicly because.

0:24:04.119 --> 0:24:06.359
<v Speaker 3>He's, as he should, smart enough to know what the

0:24:06.359 --> 0:24:07.160
<v Speaker 3>fuck she was saying.

0:24:09.080 --> 0:24:11.399
<v Speaker 2>Okay, I don't know. I can't find it.

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<v Speaker 3>So today's topic.

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<v Speaker 2>Five ways to not be a psychopath when dating. We

0:24:22.680 --> 0:24:27.000
<v Speaker 2>may or may not follow these five rules. They're interchangeable.

0:24:27.880 --> 0:24:31.440
<v Speaker 2>No one's perfect. We're just saying you shouldn't this is

0:24:31.440 --> 0:24:34.000
<v Speaker 2>what you shouldn't do. We're just saying if we were perfect,

0:24:34.080 --> 0:24:35.840
<v Speaker 2>this is what we wouldn't do. This is what we

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<v Speaker 2>would do or would not do.

0:24:37.280 --> 0:24:38.560
<v Speaker 3>If you date, and.

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<v Speaker 4>You commonly hear yourself being called crazy to acting too crazy,

0:24:46.080 --> 0:24:50.600
<v Speaker 4>doing too much. Sometimes these niggas be wrong, but sometimes

0:24:50.840 --> 0:24:51.520
<v Speaker 4>you're doing too.

0:24:51.480 --> 0:24:53.920
<v Speaker 2>Much, so sometimes you're being extra.

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<v Speaker 3>Here's are some couple of things. Let you know if

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<v Speaker 3>you're doing too much.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, don't sleep with someone one time and then fall

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<v Speaker 2>in love.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't do that shit.

0:25:08.200 --> 0:25:10.280
<v Speaker 3>It's only going to harm you, it's.

0:25:10.160 --> 0:25:14.080
<v Speaker 2>Only going to confuse you because really you're not in love.

0:25:14.280 --> 0:25:16.120
<v Speaker 2>Let's just be real. You just don't fall in love.

0:25:16.160 --> 0:25:19.080
<v Speaker 2>I don't care how deep the connection was. It was

0:25:19.119 --> 0:25:21.680
<v Speaker 2>so it was like the best I was best sex

0:25:21.720 --> 0:25:24.200
<v Speaker 2>I've ever had. I'm in love. No, you're not, bitch,

0:25:24.280 --> 0:25:25.000
<v Speaker 2>You're not in love.

0:25:25.160 --> 0:25:27.760
<v Speaker 3>You're confused. You have sex.

0:25:27.880 --> 0:25:32.160
<v Speaker 2>Brain digmatized, Yeah, digmatized and detoxing is what you need.

0:25:32.240 --> 0:25:35.000
<v Speaker 2>You need a good detoxing. I've currently just started my detox,

0:25:35.000 --> 0:25:37.919
<v Speaker 2>so if you'd like to join me, I'm day thirty

0:25:37.960 --> 0:25:43.400
<v Speaker 2>in and Jimilla's almost six months in, which wow, I'm

0:25:43.440 --> 0:25:47.359
<v Speaker 2>so proud of you. I have a long way to go,

0:25:47.440 --> 0:25:51.359
<v Speaker 2>and I'm going crazy the last few days. I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like a dog in heat.

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<v Speaker 3>No literally that there's those spouts.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like why, I'm like, no, do I'm like do

0:25:57.400 --> 0:25:58.760
<v Speaker 2>I want to do this? Why am I doing this?

0:25:58.760 --> 0:26:00.080
<v Speaker 2>Fuck this shit? I don't need to do this. And

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<v Speaker 2>then I'm like, wait, you need to do this? I

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<v Speaker 2>think anyway, that's number one.

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<v Speaker 4>Also, if you think, if you know you're the type

0:26:09.040 --> 0:26:12.879
<v Speaker 4>of person that like cannot separate fake feelings from sex,

0:26:13.320 --> 0:26:16.439
<v Speaker 4>don't have sex, you might enjoy the detox, you know,

0:26:16.520 --> 0:26:18.360
<v Speaker 4>and we all could do it because I just think

0:26:18.480 --> 0:26:21.880
<v Speaker 4>vaginally that's how it works. We get a little clouded

0:26:22.119 --> 0:26:24.640
<v Speaker 4>because it's fun, and then you know.

0:26:26.119 --> 0:26:27.240
<v Speaker 3>It didn't. Smoke settles.

0:26:27.320 --> 0:26:29.920
<v Speaker 2>The smoke settles, we come up for air and.

0:26:30.200 --> 0:26:32.879
<v Speaker 4>You're like, wait is this or yeah, then other things

0:26:32.920 --> 0:26:35.720
<v Speaker 4>happen that you don't want to happen, and then you

0:26:35.760 --> 0:26:38.320
<v Speaker 4>react a certain way because you've set yourself up from

0:26:38.400 --> 0:26:41.280
<v Speaker 4>fulfilure from the beginning for fucking when you shouldn't have.

0:26:41.440 --> 0:26:42.320
<v Speaker 2>So basically, don't.

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<v Speaker 4>Have sex until you really know the person and you

0:26:46.200 --> 0:26:48.040
<v Speaker 4>know you know, yeah, you're cool.

0:26:51.560 --> 0:26:58.200
<v Speaker 2>Oh okay, So this is another one that's like so annoying, annoying.

0:26:58.240 --> 0:26:58.800
<v Speaker 2>I don't do this.

0:26:59.000 --> 0:26:59.720
<v Speaker 3>I don't do this yet.

0:26:59.800 --> 0:27:01.960
<v Speaker 2>There's no way I do this, no way, but I

0:27:02.000 --> 0:27:04.720
<v Speaker 2>know someone who's listening. Does this ship stop.

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<v Speaker 4>If you text someone and they don't text you back,

0:27:09.359 --> 0:27:11.520
<v Speaker 4>or you've asked a question, don't follow up with the

0:27:11.600 --> 0:27:15.359
<v Speaker 4>question mark. Okay, that's so fucking annoying. If they saw

0:27:15.440 --> 0:27:17.000
<v Speaker 4>this question, they miss.

0:27:16.920 --> 0:27:19.120
<v Speaker 2>It, saw it, or they will see it, and they're

0:27:19.160 --> 0:27:21.560
<v Speaker 2>also going to see that second question mark and immediately

0:27:21.560 --> 0:27:22.200
<v Speaker 2>get annoyed.

0:27:22.480 --> 0:27:25.440
<v Speaker 4>Definitely, don't continue to just have a conversation by yourself

0:27:25.600 --> 0:27:27.320
<v Speaker 4>like oh, never mind, it's cool.

0:27:27.640 --> 0:27:28.399
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, don't write that.

0:27:28.560 --> 0:27:31.880
<v Speaker 3>Don't do that, Like sorry, if I was bothering you, Like.

0:27:31.880 --> 0:27:34.920
<v Speaker 2>Oh sorry, if I was bothering you, that's so hard.

0:27:35.240 --> 0:27:39.199
<v Speaker 2>Just go go type that shit in your notes if

0:27:39.240 --> 0:27:42.000
<v Speaker 2>you need to get it out, but don't ever send it.

0:27:41.960 --> 0:27:44.960
<v Speaker 3>Just like a yo, and then you know, then you wait.

0:27:45.480 --> 0:27:47.840
<v Speaker 2>Or sometimes what I've had to do is not be crazy,

0:27:48.160 --> 0:27:50.960
<v Speaker 2>is low key delete the whole text chain so they're

0:27:50.960 --> 0:27:52.720
<v Speaker 2>not even in my messages. Have you ever done that

0:27:53.760 --> 0:27:55.600
<v Speaker 2>you don't want to leave? I mean, it's hard because

0:27:55.640 --> 0:27:57.720
<v Speaker 2>then you delete pictures and shit, so you have to

0:27:57.760 --> 0:28:00.240
<v Speaker 2>really commit to it. No like this is it hate

0:28:00.600 --> 0:28:10.959
<v Speaker 2>or take screenshots so you always have, but that sometimes

0:28:11.119 --> 0:28:12.919
<v Speaker 2>is a good one. It's like, just delete that, just

0:28:12.920 --> 0:28:14.919
<v Speaker 2>relate the whole thing. There's nothing there.

0:28:14.840 --> 0:28:16.920
<v Speaker 4>To remind me I need to really shit anyway, because

0:28:16.920 --> 0:28:17.840
<v Speaker 4>that'd be whole on the ship.

0:28:18.359 --> 0:28:22.800
<v Speaker 2>That's kind of like deefcluttering your life. Your life, Like

0:28:22.960 --> 0:28:25.639
<v Speaker 2>just like how you do spring cleaning your closet, you

0:28:25.640 --> 0:28:29.760
<v Speaker 2>need to do spring cleaning your text messages and clear

0:28:29.800 --> 0:28:32.520
<v Speaker 2>some shit out. I feel like it clears out any

0:28:32.560 --> 0:28:35.520
<v Speaker 2>possibility of you going backwards to to go read some

0:28:35.600 --> 0:28:38.440
<v Speaker 2>shit and revisit how you felt those feelings, because we

0:28:38.560 --> 0:28:46.880
<v Speaker 2>do that shit. Okay, So that's number two. We probably

0:28:46.880 --> 0:28:50.560
<v Speaker 2>have more than five. We have more than five. Oh

0:28:50.640 --> 0:28:53.120
<v Speaker 2>so if you do spend the night going back to

0:28:53.160 --> 0:28:56.000
<v Speaker 2>sleeping over and sleeping with people, Oh well we'll get

0:28:56.040 --> 0:28:58.000
<v Speaker 2>to that too. Okay, if you do spend the night,

0:28:59.280 --> 0:29:04.320
<v Speaker 2>don't overstay. You're welcome. Just leave, Just just leave or

0:29:04.440 --> 0:29:07.720
<v Speaker 2>just feel it out, but don't overstay. Yeah, there's nothing

0:29:07.760 --> 0:29:10.400
<v Speaker 2>worse than like someone not picking up on social cues.

0:29:10.480 --> 0:29:14.760
<v Speaker 4>Yes, social cues or bit it's crucial that you realize

0:29:15.040 --> 0:29:22.320
<v Speaker 4>if niggas shying to get rid of you. Crucial, crucial,

0:29:23.200 --> 0:29:25.240
<v Speaker 4>like you know what it's time to go, you know,

0:29:25.600 --> 0:29:28.320
<v Speaker 4>like you got to pick up on the vibe of things.

0:29:28.680 --> 0:29:30.440
<v Speaker 3>Did he tell you to stay?

0:29:31.400 --> 0:29:33.560
<v Speaker 2>And also you know, make him miss you a little bit?

0:29:33.720 --> 0:29:36.160
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, sometimes you gotta go. Actually you should have gotta go.

0:29:36.240 --> 0:29:38.880
<v Speaker 2>You should always gotta go. And until that niggas your nigga.

0:29:39.000 --> 0:29:42.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah right right, Yeah, I need to pick up. I

0:29:42.680 --> 0:29:44.240
<v Speaker 2>need to work on that.

0:29:46.240 --> 0:29:47.280
<v Speaker 3>May or may not.

0:29:48.840 --> 0:29:50.440
<v Speaker 2>Need to work on that. No, I think I'm really

0:29:50.440 --> 0:29:52.360
<v Speaker 2>good at knowing what social cues as far as like

0:29:52.360 --> 0:29:54.320
<v Speaker 2>if he wants me to go or not. I'm not

0:29:54.360 --> 0:29:57.680
<v Speaker 2>good at like walking away, walking away even if he

0:29:57.760 --> 0:30:00.280
<v Speaker 2>does like if he does want me to stay, sometimes

0:30:00.320 --> 0:30:03.000
<v Speaker 2>you still got to like go, do you know, get

0:30:03.000 --> 0:30:03.480
<v Speaker 2>out of there?

0:30:03.600 --> 0:30:05.000
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it is. I think it is.

0:30:05.080 --> 0:30:06.840
<v Speaker 6>It's funny and that it's not even necessarily a game.

0:30:06.960 --> 0:30:08.640
<v Speaker 6>I think it's healthy for him to miss you.

0:30:08.960 --> 0:30:13.719
<v Speaker 2>I think that space space creating space early on, so

0:30:13.760 --> 0:30:16.160
<v Speaker 2>that you know, that's if you do get into a

0:30:16.200 --> 0:30:20.200
<v Speaker 2>relationship with that person when you already understand like you're

0:30:20.200 --> 0:30:22.280
<v Speaker 2>not going to get in one of those relationships where

0:30:22.280 --> 0:30:23.760
<v Speaker 2>your friends never see you again.

0:30:24.200 --> 0:30:26.720
<v Speaker 4>What happens with those relationships is you get in routine.

0:30:27.240 --> 0:30:29.640
<v Speaker 4>He gets used to singing all the time, You get

0:30:29.720 --> 0:30:31.680
<v Speaker 4>used to singing in the times. So anything that veers

0:30:31.760 --> 0:30:36.080
<v Speaker 4>or shifts from that routine is feels strange, It feels violating,

0:30:36.120 --> 0:30:37.719
<v Speaker 4>it feels like you've been left behind.

0:30:37.800 --> 0:30:38.040
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:30:38.040 --> 0:30:41.600
<v Speaker 4>But if you establish that independence in that space early

0:30:41.640 --> 0:30:43.480
<v Speaker 4>on in a healthy manner, even though it's hard because

0:30:43.480 --> 0:30:46.720
<v Speaker 4>you're in honeymoon phace, fight it super hard, it's important

0:30:46.760 --> 0:30:48.920
<v Speaker 4>and it does make you miss each other a little

0:30:48.960 --> 0:30:50.520
<v Speaker 4>bit more, and it does you know.

0:30:50.800 --> 0:30:53.680
<v Speaker 3>The truth is it is like a little it's a

0:30:53.840 --> 0:30:54.880
<v Speaker 3>it's a chase.

0:30:55.400 --> 0:30:58.040
<v Speaker 4>We all less for the little bit of a chase,

0:30:58.120 --> 0:31:01.080
<v Speaker 4>A little bit of the you know, so I think.

0:31:00.960 --> 0:31:05.800
<v Speaker 2>It also kind of like eliminates all these expectations. You know,

0:31:06.040 --> 0:31:08.360
<v Speaker 2>you expecting it's the weekend. What do you mean when

0:31:08.320 --> 0:31:09.160
<v Speaker 2>I hang out right? Oh?

0:31:09.280 --> 0:31:11.440
<v Speaker 3>Oh, I just thought because you were off at too. Yeah,

0:31:11.640 --> 0:31:12.320
<v Speaker 3>you didn't tell me.

0:31:12.280 --> 0:31:14.320
<v Speaker 2>He's been off of fork for since for like an hour.

0:31:14.320 --> 0:31:15.400
<v Speaker 3>I don't understand what's going on.

0:31:18.040 --> 0:31:19.880
<v Speaker 2>You broke that down really well. That was like I

0:31:19.880 --> 0:31:21.760
<v Speaker 2>felt like I was in therapy right now. That was

0:31:22.200 --> 0:31:22.680
<v Speaker 2>really good.

0:31:22.760 --> 0:31:24.800
<v Speaker 3>I have been told that I should be a therapist.

0:31:24.840 --> 0:31:29.280
<v Speaker 2>That was really good. So then there's fake Instagram accounts

0:31:29.280 --> 0:31:32.480
<v Speaker 2>and Facebook accounts and just fake accounts, take emails.

0:31:33.240 --> 0:31:36.000
<v Speaker 4>It's really fucked up with social media because there's too

0:31:36.120 --> 0:31:40.480
<v Speaker 4>much access and if you don't have the same access,

0:31:40.520 --> 0:31:42.760
<v Speaker 4>you're like wondering what the fuck is going on over there?

0:31:42.880 --> 0:31:48.800
<v Speaker 3>You know, what the fuck is happening.

0:31:49.320 --> 0:31:52.959
<v Speaker 4>So, you know, you find yourself the crazy part of yourself.

0:31:52.960 --> 0:31:55.120
<v Speaker 4>It's all we all have a little bit of crazyiness.

0:31:55.240 --> 0:31:57.360
<v Speaker 4>We've got a fighter, you know, like get out of here.

0:31:58.320 --> 0:32:00.640
<v Speaker 4>And the part that says, like look on your friend's

0:32:00.760 --> 0:32:03.560
<v Speaker 4>Instagram to look at his story to see what he's doing.

0:32:03.600 --> 0:32:05.680
<v Speaker 3>That I'm able to see that you're looking at his story,

0:32:06.520 --> 0:32:09.120
<v Speaker 3>or maybe create a secret fake account so.

0:32:09.000 --> 0:32:12.720
<v Speaker 4>You can always see the story without having to go

0:32:12.760 --> 0:32:14.760
<v Speaker 4>to your.

0:32:14.800 --> 0:32:17.760
<v Speaker 2>It's like that very liberating, freely okay feeling.

0:32:17.960 --> 0:32:20.640
<v Speaker 4>But when you when you can freely stop it, can

0:32:20.800 --> 0:32:21.880
<v Speaker 4>it gets obsessive.

0:32:23.320 --> 0:32:24.280
<v Speaker 3>Because I've done it.

0:32:24.960 --> 0:32:28.040
<v Speaker 4>My friend gave me her passwords, so it's just freely stocking.

0:32:28.640 --> 0:32:30.720
<v Speaker 4>So I didn't at least when I I could just

0:32:30.720 --> 0:32:32.280
<v Speaker 4>look at my friend's phone. It's not all the time,

0:32:32.280 --> 0:32:33.680
<v Speaker 4>but I don't always see that friend. I'm like, when

0:32:33.680 --> 0:32:35.480
<v Speaker 4>I do stand, I'm like, oh, let me see, let

0:32:35.520 --> 0:32:37.400
<v Speaker 4>me see your phone real click, let me see your

0:32:37.440 --> 0:32:40.480
<v Speaker 4>secret account so I can go stock. But yes, putting

0:32:40.680 --> 0:32:43.680
<v Speaker 4>a secret account on your own phone is very unhealthy

0:32:44.000 --> 0:32:45.480
<v Speaker 4>for your mental help.

0:32:48.120 --> 0:32:49.600
<v Speaker 3>Because sometimes you would if you see a.

0:32:49.600 --> 0:32:51.720
<v Speaker 4>Chick and then it looks kind of close, but it

0:32:51.760 --> 0:32:53.080
<v Speaker 4>also looks platonic.

0:32:53.200 --> 0:32:54.880
<v Speaker 3>But what the fuck? Who the fuck is that?

0:32:55.000 --> 0:32:55.560
<v Speaker 2>Oh is that?

0:32:57.880 --> 0:32:59.920
<v Speaker 3>Then your mind starts doing crazy shit.

0:33:00.200 --> 0:33:06.240
<v Speaker 2>Mm hmmmmmm hmmm. So so I'm I like, I've definitely,

0:33:06.280 --> 0:33:10.160
<v Speaker 2>I definitely I could even currently have a secret Instagram.

0:33:10.200 --> 0:33:16.040
<v Speaker 2>Did you see let me see? I don't. I haven't

0:33:16.120 --> 0:33:18.120
<v Speaker 2>used it in a long time, but I did use

0:33:18.160 --> 0:33:21.520
<v Speaker 2>it for like a week straight for once, and then

0:33:21.880 --> 0:33:23.280
<v Speaker 2>I was like, I have to get off here, but

0:33:23.680 --> 0:33:25.480
<v Speaker 2>so but I still didn't delete it, so it's still

0:33:25.480 --> 0:33:27.720
<v Speaker 2>there just in case, you know, just in case.

0:33:28.160 --> 0:33:32.480
<v Speaker 4>It's also unhealthy if you're not be like they're private

0:33:32.520 --> 0:33:35.440
<v Speaker 4>and you don't follow them, but then you go on Facebook.

0:33:39.960 --> 0:33:41.080
<v Speaker 3>If you find yourself a.

0:33:41.120 --> 0:33:47.560
<v Speaker 4>Casion on faceicook, just to see if it's linked to

0:33:47.640 --> 0:33:49.800
<v Speaker 4>their Instagram and then you can see what's going on.

0:33:50.040 --> 0:33:52.280
<v Speaker 3>That's that could possibly be a little crazy too.

0:33:52.760 --> 0:33:54.240
<v Speaker 2>I didn't even know that was an option, But that's

0:33:54.280 --> 0:33:56.240
<v Speaker 2>good to know. I wonder where you picked that one up.

0:33:57.320 --> 0:34:00.720
<v Speaker 3>This girl, I know crazy.

0:34:04.400 --> 0:34:07.640
<v Speaker 2>Also, Yeah, it's just gonna ruin your day, and yeah,

0:34:07.720 --> 0:34:10.440
<v Speaker 2>your whole day. You're literally also making up stories in

0:34:10.480 --> 0:34:10.799
<v Speaker 2>your head.

0:34:10.840 --> 0:34:12.520
<v Speaker 3>Okay, you will mope for no reason.

0:34:12.640 --> 0:34:15.239
<v Speaker 2>You literally are actually making up stories. There might be

0:34:15.360 --> 0:34:17.719
<v Speaker 2>truth in the stories, but you don't know all the truth.

0:34:17.560 --> 0:34:19.759
<v Speaker 4>And it's probably not your business because it's not your

0:34:19.760 --> 0:34:23.279
<v Speaker 4>man right right above all.

0:34:23.080 --> 0:34:25.400
<v Speaker 2>And but that and going off of that, you know,

0:34:25.840 --> 0:34:27.720
<v Speaker 2>don't put all your eggs in one basket.

0:34:28.360 --> 0:34:29.960
<v Speaker 3>And this is a big one. This is a big one.

0:34:30.000 --> 0:34:30.239
<v Speaker 2>Guys.

0:34:30.239 --> 0:34:34.319
<v Speaker 4>I've always been told you gotta have some backup on

0:34:34.360 --> 0:34:37.439
<v Speaker 4>the other burners, just because it's healthy.

0:34:37.880 --> 0:34:40.440
<v Speaker 2>Especially if you're just in the dating phase and it's like,

0:34:41.480 --> 0:34:44.560
<v Speaker 2>you know, you don't know what he's doing and unless

0:34:44.600 --> 0:34:46.440
<v Speaker 2>you guys are talking about it and not lying to

0:34:46.520 --> 0:34:47.719
<v Speaker 2>each other, you.

0:34:47.680 --> 0:34:52.400
<v Speaker 3>Know, like don't assume and don't assume.

0:34:53.000 --> 0:34:55.520
<v Speaker 2>Let's say you have to go and seek this out,

0:34:55.640 --> 0:34:58.320
<v Speaker 2>like if you're gonna start dating, you must look also

0:34:58.440 --> 0:35:00.719
<v Speaker 2>for other people. But like, don't be closed off to

0:35:00.800 --> 0:35:03.919
<v Speaker 2>the to the to the possibility or the energy even

0:35:03.960 --> 0:35:06.040
<v Speaker 2>you're out, don't be like I can't talk to you

0:35:06.080 --> 0:35:09.080
<v Speaker 2>because don't do that shit because he's not doing that ship.

0:35:09.400 --> 0:35:11.360
<v Speaker 4>And even though it's true, like I know because I

0:35:11.480 --> 0:35:13.560
<v Speaker 4>joined Hine a couple of months ago, and like who

0:35:13.920 --> 0:35:14.719
<v Speaker 4>it's a lot of.

0:35:14.760 --> 0:35:17.600
<v Speaker 3>Energy, Like it's it's a very big distraction.

0:35:17.760 --> 0:35:21.440
<v Speaker 4>It's almost I had to stop looking at it because

0:35:21.640 --> 0:35:22.920
<v Speaker 4>it's too much energy.

0:35:22.960 --> 0:35:24.600
<v Speaker 3>It's too much exchange, it's too much.

0:35:24.640 --> 0:35:26.319
<v Speaker 4>Okay, now text me, okay, no, don't text like I'm

0:35:26.320 --> 0:35:27.920
<v Speaker 4>gonna hang out, Like don't realize.

0:35:27.680 --> 0:35:32.000
<v Speaker 3>This person looking back at the profile like I was sreferent.

0:35:33.040 --> 0:35:35.560
<v Speaker 4>But so you don't have to like max out and

0:35:36.640 --> 0:35:40.440
<v Speaker 4>do it intentionally, like you said, seeking it, but stay

0:35:40.440 --> 0:35:42.640
<v Speaker 4>open and keep in mind to that person's pebbly also

0:35:42.719 --> 0:35:43.359
<v Speaker 4>doing the same thing.

0:35:43.680 --> 0:35:48.879
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think that's something I've like because for me,

0:35:49.160 --> 0:35:53.799
<v Speaker 2>I'm I'm so from so I guess addicted to being

0:35:53.840 --> 0:35:57.759
<v Speaker 2>in relationships. I've always been back to back relationship that,

0:35:58.120 --> 0:36:00.200
<v Speaker 2>especially and especially coming out of a relationship with I

0:36:00.239 --> 0:36:04.960
<v Speaker 2>was in for so long and you know, finally like

0:36:05.040 --> 0:36:07.080
<v Speaker 2>meeting someone that I'm like, oh my god, I feel

0:36:07.080 --> 0:36:09.560
<v Speaker 2>feelings again. I have real feelings, right should I can

0:36:09.600 --> 0:36:12.040
<v Speaker 2>still feel oh my god, I love you right like,

0:36:12.200 --> 0:36:13.680
<v Speaker 2>oh my god, I do, oh my god, Let's just

0:36:13.680 --> 0:36:16.719
<v Speaker 2>be together like that habit again. Like this one is

0:36:16.719 --> 0:36:19.319
<v Speaker 2>when I've had to check myself on because of like

0:36:19.400 --> 0:36:22.520
<v Speaker 2>the relationship that I am sharing with someone right now,

0:36:22.920 --> 0:36:25.520
<v Speaker 2>but also knowing that we're not together.

0:36:25.760 --> 0:36:28.279
<v Speaker 4>Well, you know what it is, it's hard to want

0:36:28.280 --> 0:36:29.799
<v Speaker 4>to hang out with someone else.

0:36:30.080 --> 0:36:32.640
<v Speaker 3>When you really like one person. Yeah, I don't really

0:36:32.760 --> 0:36:34.040
<v Speaker 3>want to hang out with anybody else.

0:36:33.960 --> 0:36:39.040
<v Speaker 4>Because you're the funnest like stupid, but at this think, Yeah,

0:36:39.080 --> 0:36:41.320
<v Speaker 4>I just think it's I just think.

0:36:41.160 --> 0:36:44.480
<v Speaker 3>It's healthy to try. Yeah, I think to enjoy others.

0:36:44.640 --> 0:36:45.239
<v Speaker 2>I think so too.

0:36:45.440 --> 0:36:49.440
<v Speaker 4>Unless you're not crazy and you can understand that. You know,

0:36:49.680 --> 0:36:51.120
<v Speaker 4>it doesn't mean you're exclusive.

0:36:50.840 --> 0:36:54.600
<v Speaker 2>And it doesn't like it doesn't mean it's like how

0:36:54.640 --> 0:36:58.120
<v Speaker 2>to say, dimming or making whatever you share with the

0:36:58.160 --> 0:37:00.759
<v Speaker 2>person that you really like the most currently, And it

0:37:00.760 --> 0:37:03.840
<v Speaker 2>doesn't mean like you're like shitting on that relationship. It

0:37:03.960 --> 0:37:05.360
<v Speaker 2>just means like you're.

0:37:05.200 --> 0:37:07.680
<v Speaker 4>Still fostering the other relationships that maybe you were you

0:37:07.760 --> 0:37:08.600
<v Speaker 4>had before.

0:37:08.320 --> 0:37:11.800
<v Speaker 2>You met that person. Yeah, unless you guys have agreed

0:37:11.880 --> 0:37:15.280
<v Speaker 2>that we're working towards being in a relationship, then than fine.

0:37:15.480 --> 0:37:16.239
<v Speaker 3>These rules are.

0:37:16.160 --> 0:37:19.560
<v Speaker 4>For more like early on dating or after dating, or

0:37:19.680 --> 0:37:21.719
<v Speaker 4>if you're not together and have them dinner, you're not

0:37:21.760 --> 0:37:24.160
<v Speaker 4>going to be Yeah.

0:37:24.440 --> 0:37:27.920
<v Speaker 2>The next thing I would say is, don't keep going

0:37:28.080 --> 0:37:31.279
<v Speaker 2>out of your way if they don't women.

0:37:31.360 --> 0:37:33.440
<v Speaker 3>Ladies go out of your way period, ladies.

0:37:33.600 --> 0:37:36.160
<v Speaker 2>And we are nurturers by nature. We want to give,

0:37:36.239 --> 0:37:38.239
<v Speaker 2>we want to show up, we want to support what

0:37:38.520 --> 0:37:40.759
<v Speaker 2>we want. We want what we want, what we want it.

0:37:40.840 --> 0:37:45.080
<v Speaker 2>But you don't be real, because then that's why you

0:37:45.120 --> 0:37:48.960
<v Speaker 2>get disappointed, because damn i'd throw like me, I've driven

0:37:49.120 --> 0:37:51.480
<v Speaker 2>every day down to see you. And then they get

0:37:51.560 --> 0:37:53.799
<v Speaker 2>used to that shit and they don't feel like they

0:37:53.840 --> 0:37:55.719
<v Speaker 2>have to anymore. They don't feel like they have to

0:37:55.960 --> 0:37:58.719
<v Speaker 2>because you've made it so easy for them that you like,

0:37:58.960 --> 0:38:01.560
<v Speaker 2>these are habits that you're building within your relationship before

0:38:01.600 --> 0:38:04.920
<v Speaker 2>it's even a relationship, you know, and it's like you

0:38:05.000 --> 0:38:08.879
<v Speaker 2>have to just you gotta make them work for it too.

0:38:09.239 --> 0:38:13.799
<v Speaker 4>Just don't overgive, because it sometimes slaps you in the face.

0:38:13.760 --> 0:38:16.200
<v Speaker 2>And just because you're over sometimes I think we overgive

0:38:16.239 --> 0:38:17.680
<v Speaker 2>with the hope. But maybe if I just do this,

0:38:18.360 --> 0:38:20.200
<v Speaker 2>don't want to be with and they want to they

0:38:20.239 --> 0:38:20.719
<v Speaker 2>want to be with me.

0:38:21.120 --> 0:38:21.840
<v Speaker 3>I want to be with you.

0:38:21.920 --> 0:38:25.000
<v Speaker 2>They'll see how amazing I am and hot, I'm a writer.

0:38:25.320 --> 0:38:25.840
<v Speaker 2>I'm down.

0:38:26.280 --> 0:38:29.920
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, no, no, fuck no, that's not how men. Oh

0:38:30.000 --> 0:38:31.759
<v Speaker 3>my god, I've had my heart broken this.

0:38:31.760 --> 0:38:33.279
<v Speaker 2>Way, Like that's not how they think.

0:38:33.400 --> 0:38:39.520
<v Speaker 3>Sitting somewhere like I'm so dumb. Why did they do this?

0:38:40.040 --> 0:38:44.320
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, keep your schedule that you have to, just whatever

0:38:44.360 --> 0:38:47.239
<v Speaker 2>you had plan. Don't derail all of your plans to

0:38:47.280 --> 0:38:49.799
<v Speaker 2>go hang out with someone. Okay, you're gonna do that

0:38:49.880 --> 0:38:52.880
<v Speaker 2>sometimes that's fine, but don't make that shit a fucking habit.

0:38:53.040 --> 0:38:55.160
<v Speaker 2>You know, Like every time this person calls, you.

0:38:55.120 --> 0:38:56.440
<v Speaker 3>Come running, You come running.

0:38:56.760 --> 0:38:59.520
<v Speaker 2>Plans canceled, like oh nope, we're not doing that anymore. Oh,

0:38:59.600 --> 0:39:03.279
<v Speaker 2>let's hurt. Yep, we gotta go, you know, like, don't

0:39:03.320 --> 0:39:06.200
<v Speaker 2>do that, just don't m m because they're not doing

0:39:06.200 --> 0:39:13.720
<v Speaker 2>that ship for you. Yeah, I agree.

0:39:15.000 --> 0:39:16.840
<v Speaker 3>I'm just thinking about all.

0:39:16.719 --> 0:39:17.560
<v Speaker 2>The times you've done that.

0:39:17.680 --> 0:39:20.080
<v Speaker 3>Yes, oh my god, all the time I'm doing it.

0:39:20.200 --> 0:39:22.080
<v Speaker 2>I still I'm right now, I'm in a phase right

0:39:22.080 --> 0:39:25.360
<v Speaker 2>now of undoing that right now because I was so

0:39:25.560 --> 0:39:28.319
<v Speaker 2>I'm so like I care about this person that I'm

0:39:28.400 --> 0:39:31.000
<v Speaker 2>dating so much, and like we do have a connection

0:39:31.280 --> 0:39:35.040
<v Speaker 2>that like is unlike any I don't care. How is no?

0:39:35.320 --> 0:39:38.799
<v Speaker 2>I know you're right, but it's like but that. But

0:39:39.080 --> 0:39:40.799
<v Speaker 2>but girl, when you're in it, you know you feel

0:39:40.840 --> 0:39:44.080
<v Speaker 2>the same way. Oh I know. You know literally it's

0:39:44.120 --> 0:39:47.000
<v Speaker 2>so easy to like say it to someone else because

0:39:47.000 --> 0:39:48.600
<v Speaker 2>even it's easy for me to say it to you.

0:39:48.600 --> 0:39:50.840
<v Speaker 2>You know, you're going to go drive up north.

0:39:52.120 --> 0:39:55.760
<v Speaker 3>For the same person who shitted it on me like bad.

0:39:55.920 --> 0:39:59.960
<v Speaker 2>Right, And it's like same with me, like you know,

0:40:00.520 --> 0:40:02.719
<v Speaker 2>making all the effort to go see this person all

0:40:02.760 --> 0:40:04.680
<v Speaker 2>the time when I'm the one with a child, when

0:40:04.680 --> 0:40:08.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm the one that you know, maybe like I don't know,

0:40:08.360 --> 0:40:09.839
<v Speaker 2>there's just not a balance and a lot of it's

0:40:09.880 --> 0:40:11.480
<v Speaker 2>my fault because I'm the one that's been like, well,

0:40:11.520 --> 0:40:13.279
<v Speaker 2>I just come down there. I'll just go down there.

0:40:13.560 --> 0:40:16.400
<v Speaker 2>I have the friends there, like finding my finding excuses

0:40:16.400 --> 0:40:18.239
<v Speaker 2>to be down there like a crazy person too, like hey,

0:40:18.280 --> 0:40:20.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm just down here, just over here.

0:40:21.640 --> 0:40:23.520
<v Speaker 3>I love the dirty home.

0:40:23.840 --> 0:40:28.000
<v Speaker 2>I found myself downtown And what are you doing available? Okay,

0:40:28.000 --> 0:40:38.160
<v Speaker 2>that's fine, but I guess I'll stick around around, eat something. Yeah, work,

0:40:40.440 --> 0:40:42.960
<v Speaker 2>But it's hard. That one's really hard, I think, I

0:40:43.000 --> 0:40:46.840
<v Speaker 2>think especially for women, because we've been actually conditioned to

0:40:46.880 --> 0:40:49.160
<v Speaker 2>feeling like we have to take. The more we show

0:40:49.200 --> 0:40:51.480
<v Speaker 2>someone we can take care of them, that makes us

0:40:51.520 --> 0:40:55.239
<v Speaker 2>worthy of love, worthy of attention, right showing you that

0:40:55.320 --> 0:40:57.359
<v Speaker 2>I'm I'm a nurture. I'm a nurture that I can

0:40:57.400 --> 0:40:59.680
<v Speaker 2>take care of you. I can take care of anything.

0:40:59.760 --> 0:41:03.400
<v Speaker 2>I'll bend backwards for you like it's yeah.

0:41:03.320 --> 0:41:07.880
<v Speaker 4>Like, which goes back to keeping your schedule and oh okay,

0:41:07.960 --> 0:41:11.640
<v Speaker 4>So from one of our I can can maybe consider.

0:41:11.320 --> 0:41:13.480
<v Speaker 3>This a dating bible of all time.

0:41:15.080 --> 0:41:17.920
<v Speaker 4>I really encourage anyone to pick it up and just

0:41:18.000 --> 0:41:20.719
<v Speaker 4>keep it in their back pocket. It's called Why Men

0:41:20.760 --> 0:41:26.440
<v Speaker 4>Love Bitches. Just honestly the Bible of all bibles on dating,

0:41:26.560 --> 0:41:29.800
<v Speaker 4>and I really believe in sticking by it.

0:41:29.840 --> 0:41:32.840
<v Speaker 3>And one of the things she says, because wow, she keeps.

0:41:32.600 --> 0:41:38.040
<v Speaker 4>It really real, a literary mass a literary fucking masterpiece.

0:41:38.480 --> 0:41:41.439
<v Speaker 4>And I think one of the chapters goes something like this,

0:41:42.560 --> 0:41:46.319
<v Speaker 4>don't even don't even cook. Don't make them even popcorn,

0:41:46.880 --> 0:41:50.120
<v Speaker 4>maybe popcorn, you know, like, don't be making meals. Don't

0:41:50.120 --> 0:41:53.480
<v Speaker 4>be like, don't get them used to nothing, because that's

0:41:53.719 --> 0:41:56.880
<v Speaker 4>that's a giving in a relationship sense, if you're just

0:41:57.080 --> 0:42:01.880
<v Speaker 4>dating a motherfucker, honestly, like, give them bare minimum because

0:42:01.920 --> 0:42:05.760
<v Speaker 4>you want them to want more. And that's why maybe

0:42:05.760 --> 0:42:07.719
<v Speaker 4>some chips you may be so And I think she says,

0:42:07.760 --> 0:42:08.719
<v Speaker 4>throw the chips at them.

0:42:10.040 --> 0:42:11.319
<v Speaker 3>It's not even like in a bowl.

0:42:11.480 --> 0:42:12.960
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, she says, don't even put the shit in a

0:42:12.960 --> 0:42:16.160
<v Speaker 4>bowl like a bag will do, or else you're taking

0:42:16.200 --> 0:42:19.160
<v Speaker 4>me out. And again, it's not these these it's not

0:42:19.200 --> 0:42:23.440
<v Speaker 4>really the rules, but it's the way you have to

0:42:23.480 --> 0:42:27.480
<v Speaker 4>speak to men because they're slow, you know, there's only

0:42:27.560 --> 0:42:28.280
<v Speaker 4>certain things.

0:42:28.280 --> 0:42:30.040
<v Speaker 2>See. But then I feel like the woman who is

0:42:30.320 --> 0:42:33.439
<v Speaker 2>listening to this that literally can't imagine throwing a bag

0:42:33.440 --> 0:42:35.960
<v Speaker 2>of chips that a man is thinking. But then I'm not

0:42:36.000 --> 0:42:37.360
<v Speaker 2>wifey material.

0:42:37.200 --> 0:42:40.520
<v Speaker 4>Right, and he needs to know that we're not here

0:42:40.560 --> 0:42:44.640
<v Speaker 4>to convince you we're wifey material. When it's time for

0:42:44.680 --> 0:42:48.520
<v Speaker 4>you to get girlfriend material level, package will graduate to there.

0:42:48.880 --> 0:42:51.520
<v Speaker 4>But until then, I'm not treating you like I'm you're

0:42:51.600 --> 0:42:54.239
<v Speaker 4>my man, and you're not. And I think that's the

0:42:54.320 --> 0:42:57.080
<v Speaker 4>huge misconception. Maybe if I act like a girlfriend up

0:42:57.120 --> 0:43:01.319
<v Speaker 4>and then I'll graduate to girlfriend material girlfriend level, but

0:43:01.360 --> 0:43:03.680
<v Speaker 4>that rarely happens because you will stay.

0:43:03.400 --> 0:43:07.440
<v Speaker 2>At this because you've already given away the milk for free. Essentially,

0:43:07.640 --> 0:43:08.439
<v Speaker 2>why by the cow?

0:43:08.640 --> 0:43:09.520
<v Speaker 3>Why by the cow?

0:43:09.560 --> 0:43:11.000
<v Speaker 4>And I know that's the oldest one in the book,

0:43:11.040 --> 0:43:16.520
<v Speaker 4>but it's true. That is one of the biggest nuggets

0:43:16.560 --> 0:43:18.960
<v Speaker 4>of the book, along with so many I'm gonna have

0:43:19.000 --> 0:43:20.800
<v Speaker 4>to highlight and say a smile.

0:43:20.920 --> 0:43:23.600
<v Speaker 2>It's so true. And I'm guilty of that too, Like

0:43:24.120 --> 0:43:26.520
<v Speaker 2>not even it's not even so that I would like,

0:43:26.920 --> 0:43:28.920
<v Speaker 2>it's not for the purpose of like, then make me

0:43:28.960 --> 0:43:32.000
<v Speaker 2>your girlfriend. It's just like, I'm a nurturer by nature.

0:43:32.080 --> 0:43:34.520
<v Speaker 2>I like to take care of people, and I really

0:43:34.600 --> 0:43:36.279
<v Speaker 2>like you, and yeah, I do. I like to take

0:43:36.320 --> 0:43:36.759
<v Speaker 2>care of people.

0:43:36.800 --> 0:43:40.800
<v Speaker 4>But it's like, but what is that I want you

0:43:40.880 --> 0:43:42.319
<v Speaker 4>to like me, so I like to take care of

0:43:42.320 --> 0:43:44.720
<v Speaker 4>you or no, I do like taking care of you people.

0:43:45.000 --> 0:43:48.640
<v Speaker 2>But I just have always felt like in relationships somehow

0:43:48.680 --> 0:43:52.080
<v Speaker 2>I was disappointed because they weren't. It wasn't that it

0:43:52.120 --> 0:43:54.799
<v Speaker 2>doesdn't seem like it was reciprocated in the way that

0:43:54.840 --> 0:43:56.840
<v Speaker 2>I thought it should be because of what I was doing.

0:43:57.040 --> 0:44:01.200
<v Speaker 2>And now that I'm not in a relationship, obviously those

0:44:01.200 --> 0:44:04.359
<v Speaker 2>habits have appeared again. But I'm trying really hard to

0:44:04.480 --> 0:44:07.680
<v Speaker 2>check them now, even in the relationship air quotes that

0:44:07.719 --> 0:44:10.200
<v Speaker 2>I'm in right now, because I've already started to set

0:44:10.239 --> 0:44:15.440
<v Speaker 2>this this like routine of I'll go to you, I'll

0:44:15.440 --> 0:44:18.239
<v Speaker 2>do this, I like to give you things and like,

0:44:18.400 --> 0:44:22.080
<v Speaker 2>you know, like when I'm traveling, I'm thoughtful, and then

0:44:22.120 --> 0:44:24.640
<v Speaker 2>if it's not reciprocated, I'm disappointed. But the only person

0:44:24.640 --> 0:44:26.000
<v Speaker 2>to blame is myself.

0:44:25.640 --> 0:44:27.320
<v Speaker 3>Because you have some sort of expectation.

0:44:27.560 --> 0:44:30.640
<v Speaker 2>I have expectation. But also I did everything like I

0:44:30.719 --> 0:44:34.120
<v Speaker 2>never made it have to, you know, like now that

0:44:34.480 --> 0:44:36.760
<v Speaker 2>I'm saying, okay, I really don't feel like driving there anymore.

0:44:36.800 --> 0:44:39.000
<v Speaker 2>Now I'm really going to see how much this person

0:44:39.040 --> 0:44:41.279
<v Speaker 2>actually wants to hang out with me, or if we

0:44:41.360 --> 0:44:43.479
<v Speaker 2>hang out out of convenience and this or he hangs

0:44:43.520 --> 0:44:45.480
<v Speaker 2>out with me out of convenience, not because not even

0:44:45.520 --> 0:44:48.480
<v Speaker 2>out of convenience, Like I'm there's a love there for sure, undeniable,

0:44:48.560 --> 0:44:51.759
<v Speaker 2>but like how strong is it? Is it because of

0:44:51.800 --> 0:44:56.640
<v Speaker 2>the convenience of it? Or like will you what else do?

0:44:56.640 --> 0:44:57.680
<v Speaker 2>What are you willing to do? Well?

0:44:57.719 --> 0:45:00.200
<v Speaker 4>That brings us to another one, which is a huge one.

0:45:00.360 --> 0:45:02.800
<v Speaker 4>I mean, I always say, don't have expectations of people.

0:45:02.920 --> 0:45:04.719
<v Speaker 4>That's the number one that's the number one way to

0:45:04.719 --> 0:45:08.640
<v Speaker 4>be disappointed. You will you will be disappointed having expectations, period.

0:45:09.400 --> 0:45:11.160
<v Speaker 3>But I think the biggest.

0:45:10.680 --> 0:45:16.080
<v Speaker 4>One is, like you said, is uh really really paying

0:45:16.120 --> 0:45:20.400
<v Speaker 4>attention to actions and not words? Actions? Actions? What is

0:45:20.400 --> 0:45:22.920
<v Speaker 4>this person doing? I know it feels like this, it

0:45:22.960 --> 0:45:26.400
<v Speaker 4>feels like love. This feels like love, but what are

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<v Speaker 4>the what are the actions showing?

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<v Speaker 2>You know?

0:45:30.800 --> 0:45:33.759
<v Speaker 3>Because that shit's pretty flucking.

0:45:33.520 --> 0:45:35.759
<v Speaker 2>That's so It's crazy how some talk can make you

0:45:35.800 --> 0:45:38.360
<v Speaker 2>forget about some actions. Like you can be mad about

0:45:38.360 --> 0:45:41.160
<v Speaker 2>some shit and then they'll talk you, like talk you down,

0:45:41.719 --> 0:45:44.040
<v Speaker 2>like and like make you feel chill about it, like okay,

0:45:44.800 --> 0:45:46.919
<v Speaker 2>all right, Like maybe he's right, Like well he said

0:45:46.960 --> 0:45:50.400
<v Speaker 2>he's gonna start doing that, and then like that that

0:45:50.400 --> 0:45:52.040
<v Speaker 2>that holds on. You hold on to that for like

0:45:52.080 --> 0:45:54.239
<v Speaker 2>a few days, and then it pops up again, and

0:45:54.239 --> 0:45:57.360
<v Speaker 2>then the conversation happens again. It's just I feel like

0:45:59.520 --> 0:46:04.160
<v Speaker 2>ladies don't ignore the actions. It's so hard because you

0:46:04.200 --> 0:46:07.120
<v Speaker 2>want to get people. You want to believe that, oh

0:46:07.160 --> 0:46:10.040
<v Speaker 2>it's just that one time, or you know, it's it's fine,

0:46:10.120 --> 0:46:10.960
<v Speaker 2>I can deal with it.

0:46:11.200 --> 0:46:12.120
<v Speaker 3>Maybe I always tripping.

0:46:12.320 --> 0:46:21.480
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, no, you weren't tripping. Another one is this is

0:46:21.520 --> 0:46:26.200
<v Speaker 2>our last one? Yeah, our last one, which is probably

0:46:26.239 --> 0:46:30.040
<v Speaker 2>it's really important and really really really annoying.

0:46:30.040 --> 0:46:33.560
<v Speaker 3>Really annoying, really immature, and please don't do this.

0:46:34.200 --> 0:46:40.040
<v Speaker 2>Social media subliminals. No, social media subliminals.

0:46:39.600 --> 0:46:45.759
<v Speaker 4>Do not socially subliminally talk shit. It's so dumb.

0:46:46.800 --> 0:46:47.680
<v Speaker 3>Oh my god.

0:46:48.000 --> 0:46:51.239
<v Speaker 4>The quotes, the quotes. First of all, everybody knows you're

0:46:51.239 --> 0:46:51.960
<v Speaker 4>going through something.

0:46:52.400 --> 0:46:57.479
<v Speaker 2>The Maya Angela quote, Oh my god, there's so many

0:46:57.520 --> 0:47:06.320
<v Speaker 2>good ones. Or the rap versus yeah, the rat verst captions, memes,

0:47:06.360 --> 0:47:06.919
<v Speaker 2>all of them.

0:47:07.480 --> 0:47:10.359
<v Speaker 3>Don't do it, don't give it a week or two.

0:47:11.000 --> 0:47:13.080
<v Speaker 2>Just calm down and then come back and think about it.

0:47:13.160 --> 0:47:16.960
<v Speaker 3>Right, yeah, because it's just it's so obvious.

0:47:17.560 --> 0:47:20.440
<v Speaker 4>Just text just tell them, Yeah, just pick up the

0:47:20.440 --> 0:47:22.879
<v Speaker 4>phone because type of bitch I am.

0:47:23.000 --> 0:47:26.520
<v Speaker 3>If you're going to say something, just call me because

0:47:26.560 --> 0:47:27.640
<v Speaker 3>that's what I'm going to do for you.

0:47:28.160 --> 0:47:31.200
<v Speaker 2>Have people put up people put up social subliminals.

0:47:31.560 --> 0:47:33.560
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, yeah.

0:47:34.239 --> 0:47:35.839
<v Speaker 2>It's so stupid, so dumb.

0:47:36.719 --> 0:47:37.560
<v Speaker 3>Yeah for sure.

0:47:37.600 --> 0:47:39.640
<v Speaker 2>Have you ever put up a social media subliminal? Oh?

0:47:39.680 --> 0:47:42.160
<v Speaker 3>For sure? Definitely.

0:47:42.320 --> 0:47:46.920
<v Speaker 2>One hundred is also for me to tell myself stop

0:47:46.960 --> 0:47:49.839
<v Speaker 2>doing that ship bitch. That's don't be lame.

0:47:50.400 --> 0:47:54.000
<v Speaker 3>Have I No, I'm sure I have, ah for sure.

0:47:55.680 --> 0:47:57.719
<v Speaker 2>Also a lot of the social because I do post

0:47:57.719 --> 0:48:00.280
<v Speaker 2>a lot of quotes and stuff. They're really reminders.

0:47:59.800 --> 0:48:03.760
<v Speaker 3>To my right be better note to sell.

0:48:03.800 --> 0:48:10.279
<v Speaker 2>Reminders for myself. But those are the five to eight

0:48:12.080 --> 0:48:18.239
<v Speaker 2>ways to not be a psycho when dating. I hope

0:48:18.239 --> 0:48:20.719
<v Speaker 2>this resonates with you like it is with.

0:48:20.640 --> 0:48:23.960
<v Speaker 4>Me, because this was motivated by one of our advice

0:48:24.040 --> 0:48:25.120
<v Speaker 4>questions and our DMS.

0:48:25.200 --> 0:48:27.160
<v Speaker 3>Well, it wasn't motivated. This is just something all people

0:48:27.200 --> 0:48:27.600
<v Speaker 3>need to know.

0:48:28.120 --> 0:48:32.000
<v Speaker 4>But she said, how long should it take you to

0:48:32.080 --> 0:48:33.239
<v Speaker 4>get over an X?

0:48:34.239 --> 0:48:35.600
<v Speaker 3>We said, bitch, we don't know.

0:48:36.640 --> 0:48:39.719
<v Speaker 2>I read that it's double I half the time you

0:48:39.719 --> 0:48:42.520
<v Speaker 2>were together. So if you were together for someone for

0:48:42.520 --> 0:48:44.799
<v Speaker 2>four years, don take two years to get over that month.

0:48:45.600 --> 0:48:51.160
<v Speaker 2>It's math equation. Everybody knows. Everybody knows basically three point

0:48:51.200 --> 0:48:55.040
<v Speaker 2>five years to go. Well, no, it's almost been two years.

0:48:55.040 --> 0:48:58.120
<v Speaker 2>It would be two years in September. Crazy that it's

0:48:58.160 --> 0:49:00.760
<v Speaker 2>almost been two years. I was thinking about that, like, wow,

0:49:01.480 --> 0:49:04.400
<v Speaker 2>like two years have gone by to think about like

0:49:04.480 --> 0:49:07.239
<v Speaker 2>where I was two years ago to now. I mean

0:49:07.280 --> 0:49:11.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm still irritated, which so that maybe goes and falls

0:49:11.560 --> 0:49:13.200
<v Speaker 2>in line with this three and a half year thing.

0:49:13.320 --> 0:49:15.320
<v Speaker 2>Maybe I feel like in by three and a half,

0:49:15.440 --> 0:49:19.040
<v Speaker 2>like it'll be totally cool, cool, So maybe I feel

0:49:19.040 --> 0:49:21.319
<v Speaker 2>like that there is some truth in it. And it's

0:49:21.320 --> 0:49:23.160
<v Speaker 2>not even that I'm not over him.

0:49:23.360 --> 0:49:25.560
<v Speaker 3>It's like, wait, so you're on two years, not three

0:49:25.560 --> 0:49:25.839
<v Speaker 3>and a half.

0:49:25.840 --> 0:49:27.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm two and a half okay, So no I'm not.

0:49:27.600 --> 0:49:30.640
<v Speaker 2>I'm almost two okay, And three and a half would

0:49:30.640 --> 0:49:36.279
<v Speaker 2>be the amount of time divided divided by seven, right,

0:49:36.440 --> 0:49:38.520
<v Speaker 2>yea two divided by seven Yeah, three and a half,

0:49:38.680 --> 0:49:44.479
<v Speaker 2>got it. It's just crazy to think about how time

0:49:44.600 --> 0:49:47.000
<v Speaker 2>passes in that way, how you're with someone for so

0:49:47.160 --> 0:49:48.880
<v Speaker 2>long and then like it's over.

0:49:49.239 --> 0:49:52.480
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it's funny how we just have periods and chapters

0:49:52.480 --> 0:49:55.880
<v Speaker 4>of our lives, of friendships, of states we've lived, just

0:49:56.000 --> 0:49:59.080
<v Speaker 4>like when things were so normal, that was such a

0:49:59.160 --> 0:50:01.520
<v Speaker 4>routine and and now you're here.

0:50:02.320 --> 0:50:04.439
<v Speaker 2>You know. When I found that picture under my bed,

0:50:04.680 --> 0:50:07.440
<v Speaker 2>I was cleaning out under my bed and I found

0:50:07.440 --> 0:50:10.840
<v Speaker 2>this photo of me and my baby Daddy was like

0:50:10.880 --> 0:50:12.839
<v Speaker 2>the first photo we ever took at the do over,

0:50:14.360 --> 0:50:17.040
<v Speaker 2>like a thousand years ago, and I was looking at

0:50:17.120 --> 0:50:19.560
<v Speaker 2>us and thinking about like how we felt about each

0:50:19.600 --> 0:50:22.200
<v Speaker 2>other in that picture, you know, and it was the

0:50:22.320 --> 0:50:26.799
<v Speaker 2>beginning of our relationship. Like everything, there was nothing between us.

0:50:26.880 --> 0:50:30.719
<v Speaker 2>There was no history, there was no disappointment, there was

0:50:30.760 --> 0:50:36.600
<v Speaker 2>no baby, there was no fucking all of it, you know,

0:50:36.800 --> 0:50:40.359
<v Speaker 2>And I'm like, wow, something beautiful in that though, right,

0:50:40.600 --> 0:50:43.920
<v Speaker 2>you know, to see the journey of like that picture

0:50:44.120 --> 0:50:46.640
<v Speaker 2>till now. And it's not like it's a bad journey.

0:50:46.680 --> 0:50:48.480
<v Speaker 2>It's just we're in a weird place. And I'm sure

0:50:48.520 --> 0:50:50.880
<v Speaker 2>in like fifteen years, I'll think about this moment that

0:50:50.880 --> 0:50:53.600
<v Speaker 2>we're in now and it'll be different then too, right.

0:50:54.680 --> 0:50:58.360
<v Speaker 3>So it's just good always I'll be connected.

0:50:58.560 --> 0:51:01.880
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I have no choice of a kid exactly.

0:51:07.880 --> 0:51:12.800
<v Speaker 4>All right, Well, that concludes our show for today, Happy

0:51:12.880 --> 0:51:14.640
<v Speaker 4>hump Day, Happy hump day.

0:51:15.000 --> 0:51:16.680
<v Speaker 3>Oh, happy masturbation month.

0:51:17.320 --> 0:51:21.319
<v Speaker 2>Yes, yes, it's always masturbation month for me.

0:51:22.520 --> 0:51:26.040
<v Speaker 3>We know. Little rabbit over.

0:51:25.880 --> 0:51:28.200
<v Speaker 2>Here Chamila opened up my computer and saw the porn

0:51:28.200 --> 0:51:30.520
<v Speaker 2>I was watching. But I wasn't actually watching that porn,

0:51:30.640 --> 0:51:31.760
<v Speaker 2>and it was like really embarrassing.

0:51:31.760 --> 0:51:33.520
<v Speaker 3>It was big booty white girl porn.

0:51:36.200 --> 0:51:38.719
<v Speaker 2>I wasn't looking for that. I was looking What was

0:51:38.719 --> 0:51:39.319
<v Speaker 2>I looking for?

0:51:39.480 --> 0:51:42.879
<v Speaker 4>I was on gang Bros, Big booty white Girls.

0:51:42.600 --> 0:51:43.240
<v Speaker 2>Bang Bros.

0:51:43.719 --> 0:51:47.680
<v Speaker 3>Sorry what did I say? Gang Bro Bang Bros, Big

0:51:47.719 --> 0:51:50.760
<v Speaker 3>booty white girls? Like, oh, is this the porn you search?

0:51:51.080 --> 0:51:52.800
<v Speaker 3>Sometimes I do search that porn because.

0:51:52.600 --> 0:51:55.600
<v Speaker 2>I like Alexis Texas and she but apparently she said

0:51:55.600 --> 0:52:01.040
<v Speaker 2>some racist shit, so her now no Texas, Texas. And

0:52:01.160 --> 0:52:04.120
<v Speaker 2>she used to live in my building downtown too. The

0:52:04.120 --> 0:52:07.719
<v Speaker 2>porn stars are racist? Great, Yeah, she's big booty white

0:52:07.719 --> 0:52:11.400
<v Speaker 2>girl that has sex with sometimes black guys. But I

0:52:11.440 --> 0:52:12.839
<v Speaker 2>guess she doesn't well that's what it was. She doesn't

0:52:12.880 --> 0:52:14.240
<v Speaker 2>like to have sex with black guys anymore.

0:52:15.520 --> 0:52:16.200
<v Speaker 4>I don't know.

0:52:17.480 --> 0:52:19.080
<v Speaker 3>Anyway, is that offensive?

0:52:20.200 --> 0:52:23.920
<v Speaker 2>Should I share my like porn playlist with people? They'll

0:52:23.880 --> 0:52:27.440
<v Speaker 2>be nice? You know. I subscribe to the newsletter that

0:52:27.440 --> 0:52:28.120
<v Speaker 2>would be a gonna do.

0:52:28.160 --> 0:52:30.600
<v Speaker 4>You should subscribe to the newsletter. We just we're doing

0:52:30.640 --> 0:52:33.440
<v Speaker 4>some cool ship over there. Yeah, we're doing secret meetups,

0:52:33.920 --> 0:52:35.279
<v Speaker 4>we're doing some keep in touch.

0:52:35.480 --> 0:52:38.719
<v Speaker 3>We're spilling a lot of ship secretly, and.

0:52:39.440 --> 0:52:43.239
<v Speaker 2>Yeah we are. We just, yeah, we have this newsletter

0:52:43.320 --> 0:52:45.080
<v Speaker 2>that you know, you get to know us a little,

0:52:45.120 --> 0:52:49.000
<v Speaker 2>even more intimately than maybe we reveal here on the pod.

0:52:49.120 --> 0:52:52.520
<v Speaker 3>If you can imagine, Yeah, how much deeper can you go? Right?

0:52:53.360 --> 0:52:58.520
<v Speaker 4>Okay, back to Lexix Texas not wanting the black guys anymore?

0:52:59.280 --> 0:53:00.000
<v Speaker 2>Dude, that's racist.

0:53:00.440 --> 0:53:02.160
<v Speaker 4>I have some friends, white friends who are like, I

0:53:02.200 --> 0:53:04.280
<v Speaker 4>don't I don't do black guys, and I'm like, cool,

0:53:04.960 --> 0:53:06.000
<v Speaker 4>it doesn't bother me.

0:53:06.480 --> 0:53:09.120
<v Speaker 2>I go, I don't know. I think maybe it was because.

0:53:08.880 --> 0:53:11.440
<v Speaker 7>It's porn, Like how dare you have a cutoff? Like

0:53:11.560 --> 0:53:14.239
<v Speaker 7>how like I don't know, I don't, I don't know.

0:53:14.760 --> 0:53:19.960
<v Speaker 7>I guess you're right, I mean, like why, like right,

0:53:20.120 --> 0:53:22.719
<v Speaker 7>like why did she probably likes black people? She just

0:53:22.800 --> 0:53:24.319
<v Speaker 7>might not don't want to fuck black guys?

0:53:24.640 --> 0:53:29.200
<v Speaker 2>More power to me, more for me. Actually, I don't

0:53:29.200 --> 0:53:32.160
<v Speaker 2>want to fuck an Well that's not true.

0:53:33.160 --> 0:53:34.080
<v Speaker 3>You don't want to fuck anyone.

0:53:34.120 --> 0:53:35.279
<v Speaker 2>I was saying. I don't know if I want to

0:53:35.280 --> 0:53:38.160
<v Speaker 2>suck a porn star. But it's not it's not like

0:53:38.280 --> 0:53:40.120
<v Speaker 2>in the car. It's like not on my radar.

0:53:40.320 --> 0:53:45.080
<v Speaker 7>But you know, if it happened, maybe I've definitely fucked

0:53:45.080 --> 0:53:45.600
<v Speaker 7>a porn star.

0:53:45.640 --> 0:53:49.279
<v Speaker 3>I already said that, like twenty times. I'm very proud.

0:53:49.960 --> 0:53:52.480
<v Speaker 3>There may be one or two others.

0:53:52.719 --> 0:53:54.759
<v Speaker 2>Was it? Was it like porn? Was it like as

0:53:54.800 --> 0:53:56.440
<v Speaker 2>good as was it one? Some of the best sex

0:53:56.480 --> 0:53:57.000
<v Speaker 2>you've had? Yeah?

0:53:57.080 --> 0:53:59.840
<v Speaker 6>For sure, he has gray sex. So he lived up

0:53:59.840 --> 0:54:03.879
<v Speaker 6>to his expectation of the expectations because sometimes see porn stars,

0:54:03.880 --> 0:54:05.560
<v Speaker 6>I'm like, I have no desire to have sex with you.

0:54:05.560 --> 0:54:08.520
<v Speaker 6>You you do all that fucking and you still funck bad.

0:54:08.600 --> 0:54:10.880
<v Speaker 4>No, he's really good. And I fucked him for a

0:54:10.960 --> 0:54:14.920
<v Speaker 4>long time and it consistently was good. But he's not

0:54:14.960 --> 0:54:18.080
<v Speaker 4>a good kisser. And exactly you.

0:54:18.040 --> 0:54:20.120
<v Speaker 2>Never had to do that blast like the last thing

0:54:20.160 --> 0:54:21.480
<v Speaker 2>on his agenda.

0:54:21.640 --> 0:54:23.080
<v Speaker 3>But I made out with a porn star recently and

0:54:23.080 --> 0:54:24.919
<v Speaker 3>it was nice you did? Yeah?

0:54:25.239 --> 0:54:26.439
<v Speaker 2>Oh female or male?

0:54:26.840 --> 0:54:32.319
<v Speaker 3>Male? Anyway, we are going to say one more thing,

0:54:32.600 --> 0:54:37.480
<v Speaker 3>corn racism.

0:54:37.480 --> 0:54:38.279
<v Speaker 2>Where was I going with?

0:54:41.120 --> 0:54:41.880
<v Speaker 3>Slipped my mind?

0:54:43.360 --> 0:54:46.880
<v Speaker 2>All right, well, we shall catch you next week, y'all.

0:54:47.400 --> 0:54:59.600
<v Speaker 2>Have a good week, eddie us do that breathing every morning?

0:55:00.200 --> 0:55:00.399
<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

0:55:01.000 --> 0:55:12.160
<v Speaker 1>They call happy happy day. Baby, you call call hock call, can.

0:55:13.880 --> 0:55:17.239
<v Speaker 2>You call call Happy happy day?

0:55:21.120 --> 0:55:23.399
<v Speaker 5>Tell me do you think a man

0:55:26.880 --> 0:55:27.640
<v Speaker 3>You as well