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Speaker 1: Mhm, call hot, Come come baby, Hobby, you came.

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Speaker 2: You call. Welcome back to good Mom's Bad Choices. This

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Speaker 2: is Erica and I'm Mela, and I'm smoking some sage,

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Speaker 2: well not smoking it, but burning, smudging some smudging sage

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Speaker 2: across our bodies because we need it. We need it.

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Speaker 3: Start taking deep breaths in the beginning of each episode.

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Speaker 2: Together, Let's do it together, guys, already one, two, three, in.

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Speaker 4: Hal When I do breathing exercises, I like to inhale

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Speaker 4: all my stress and give it one one last review,

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Speaker 4: all the tension, feel it and all my body, and

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Speaker 4: then I imagine myself blowing it all out and releasing

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Speaker 4: it back into the universe, never to come back again.

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Speaker 2: Ever. Hh that was nice. How are you? I am good? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: How's your week so far?

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Speaker 4: My week is good. I'm stressed out, but it's still good.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I'm learning to balance my stress levels. We've been really

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Speaker 3: diving into work this week. It's only Wednesday, but for.

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Speaker 4: Me, that always helps because even if I can't organize

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Speaker 4: my other thoughts, at least other shit is happening, you know, Like, Okay,

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Speaker 4: everything's a clusterfucked, but this is good.

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Speaker 2: You've definitely been diving into work. We've been like workhorses.

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Speaker 4: We've sent like fifteen emails, which is the maximum of

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Speaker 4: emails we've ever sent.

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Speaker 3: In forty eight hour period.

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Speaker 2: Well, it's because we care so much about the content

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Speaker 2: of the email, so we have to really take our

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Speaker 2: time to curate each emails. They all are personalized and

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Speaker 2: all those things hopefully come back to serve as well,

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Speaker 2: which they have they have. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I think one of our themes this month, these last

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Speaker 4: few months have been alignment. And it's strangely oddly, I

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Speaker 4: know we say this a lot, or maybe we haven't.

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Speaker 4: Everything aligns in the oddest way, Like we'll speak one

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Speaker 4: person up and then literally like meet that person, we'll

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Speaker 4: speak one thing up, and then like the perfect person

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Speaker 4: to help collaborate with that just appears in our clutch.

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Speaker 2: So it's almost like you know what. I think it

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Speaker 2: started at the pool. Remember when we had those phone

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Speaker 2: calls that came in and it was like crazy like the.

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Speaker 4: Happening yeah and those yeah, And then we went to

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Speaker 4: Coachella and Florence and the machine, right, the Florence machine,

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Speaker 4: and even before the Florence and the machine, like the

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, yeah, it's been quite it.

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Speaker 4: It's been you know what, it's like God patting us

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Speaker 2: You're on the right You're on the right path.

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Speaker 3: See you see how this is working out.

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Speaker 2: It's because you're on the right path.

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Speaker 3: So that's cool.

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Speaker 4: And I think when you were in your in the

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Speaker 4: right space and doing what the universe will send you

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Speaker 4: assurance that way, even the slightest ways. M h. Even

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Speaker 4: with like with Mary with Coachella, Mary's our intern, y'all,

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Speaker 3: Just so much, just so much things that so many things,

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Speaker 4: Like the mystic, the mystic of it all is this

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Speaker 2: That I'm happy about. Yeah, that's true.

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Speaker 3: There's a whole list of ship that's not going right.

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Speaker 4: The whole list of bills that need to be paid

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Speaker 3: What about you? What's been up this week?

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Speaker 2: What's up?

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Speaker 3: What did I do?

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Speaker 2: I've just been chilling with Iri. I don't have her today.

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Speaker 2: She's with her dad. Her dad's finally back in town,

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Speaker 2: night because actually I went on It wasn't a date.

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Speaker 2: It definitely was not a date. It was like a

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Speaker 3: What do you mean, like his bottom lip, that's.

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Speaker 2: Why he's trembling Lipay. Don't remember I kissed him and

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he's a guy I met on Tinder last year.

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Speaker 2: One of my first like twinder tender experiences. We met

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Speaker 2: That ended a long time ago last summer, but I

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Speaker 3: And it was supposed to be a double date, but

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Speaker 2: I'm glad it was. I'm glad it was. I'm glad

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Speaker 4: I kind of think that was his excuse to hang

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't really have I don't know, Like I

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Speaker 2: Is it going to be awkward? I'm not really, there's

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Speaker 3: Even after like two tequilas, only because.

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Speaker 2: I had been celibate for a month and I'm horny.

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Speaker 2: But I had to like talk to myself, like dude,

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Speaker 2: But I guess I could have flirted more if I

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Speaker 2: to do that. Yeah, and we just talked. I literally

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Speaker 4: I think that's important after a long term relationship period

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Speaker 2: But the thing is important, But a lot of people

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Speaker 2: it's like, really, it was a gift that you.

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Speaker 3: Knew it could happen. It's real.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And you know, even when we stopped dating, he

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Speaker 2: their guests they're getting pretty serious and yeah, and he

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Speaker 2: I did last night. I also got drunk somehow. I mean,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and then I opened her computer and it was

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Speaker 2: And also apparently left my door open because this morning

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Speaker 4: First of all, she's the scariest bitch I know. If

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Speaker 3: I'm like, bitch, you knew I was on my.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you're drunk, Like what drunk is fine?

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Speaker 2: Literally, someone just did walk in my house last night.

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Speaker 4: Somebody wrote by the way, one night last summer, I

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Speaker 4: Not sure what the fuck I was thinking, you're thinking

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Speaker 2: I've been like, go go go go, go out of town,

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Speaker 3: So I like, could be so fucking draining.

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Speaker 2: I'm just happy to be home for more than like

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Speaker 3: But we will be in New York at the end

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we're coming to New York May first. So when

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Speaker 2: I'm going out there also with my two friends, the Ashleys.

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna do some cool podcast shot out there.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we're interviewing some good people out there. I'm so excited. Yes,

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Speaker 4: So news abortion, what the fuck is happening?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's the beginning. This is how it starts. Like

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Speaker 2: little by little, they just start taking away your rights.

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Speaker 2: if you were raped, you can not get abortion in

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Speaker 2: the cases of incest. A doctor who performs an abortion

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Speaker 2: can get up to ninety nine years in prison.

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Speaker 4: And in Georgia, if you get an abortion after this

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Speaker 4: sixth week six week mark, then it's also a federal

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Speaker 2: And if you go out of state, oh you get

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Speaker 2: an abortion, you can also go to jail as well,

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Speaker 2: because it's committing a criminal act. I don't remember what

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Speaker 2: the term was, but what the fuck like six weeks?

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Speaker 2: Like I didn't even know I was pregnant until like

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Speaker 2: eight weeks snitch me either. I was at all types

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like are you taking care of my vagina three

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Speaker 4: Not recall before you know, legal abortion, people were doing

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Speaker 2: Are you going to educate more people and like intraceptives,

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Speaker 2: because you're not doing that either, especially taking away funding

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Speaker 4: It's really scary, because shit, I had an abortion in

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Speaker 4: I had an abortioned in college too, Like I hardly

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Speaker 2: It's crazy that these men are making decisions for our bodies.

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Speaker 2: You've thrown away your children.

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Speaker 3: So essentially you should go to fucking jail.

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Speaker 2: Too, right, Yeah, Like why are we the ones that

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Speaker 3: Because they can do it and all they gotta do

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Speaker 2: So the guy has no no, like there's no repercussions

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Speaker 2: for him getting you pregnant. It's like takes two to tango,

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Speaker 3: I just want to know who are like the people.

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Speaker 3: This shit has been.

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Speaker 4: Long gone, Like who's still in the oppressing hard for

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Speaker 2: If whether your pro choice or pro life, whether you

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Speaker 2: Like that's fine. When you start passing law to restrict

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Speaker 2: crazy to me. How is that? How is that even?

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Speaker 2: How did that pass? I don't understand.

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Speaker 3: I want to know what when is it going to

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Speaker 4: Is it going to continue? And if so, what a

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Speaker 4: with my making decisions that I'm going to work, Like

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Speaker 4: it was just that was and when women started pressing

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Speaker 4: we were just like, well, it's not broken, Like why

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Speaker 4: You know, but it's not broken, like saying the system

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Speaker 4: And I'm just like, as enlightened and as far as

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Speaker 2: It's because those people are being empowered by the state

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Speaker 3: Right right, which is totally backwards.

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Speaker 2: And I don't know, I don't understand what they have

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Speaker 2: a lot of the passing of things is for agenda purposes,

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Speaker 2: Like I just don't understand how. I'm wondering if there's

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Speaker 3: Oh, there's always some what is or is it?

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Speaker 2: Or is it is it really about the money or

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Speaker 2: you know, to get other things passed. If I pass this,

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Speaker 2: then I'll get voted next to you. Too, I'll stay

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Speaker 3: I'll get funding for.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think it's that there's definitely an agenda. I

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Speaker 2: Of course, I'm just wondering if they're really monetarial, like

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Speaker 3: Sure, if i'll go down like rabbit hole.

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Speaker 2: Google grapple hole, we can find out. Yes, I don't know,

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Speaker 2: also getting outside of the abortion thing, like just just

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Speaker 4: Like hers being like real about how she was expected,

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Speaker 4: Like but did she say she's like, yeah, a part

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Speaker 4: I'm you know that he's constantly getting female attention and

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Speaker 3: Do you guys not want to fuck me?

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Speaker 4: And the basic niggas went nuts with their bullshit. There's

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Speaker 3: Not fucking hearing what she said?

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Speaker 4: Sayings like if Ayisha's worried about guy's fucking her, there's

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Speaker 2: Because Aisha wants to get fucked too. She's just like

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Speaker 4: Has a you know, a millionaire husband, a Christian man,

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Speaker 3: And she just wants to get fucked by other guys.

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Speaker 4: And I was just like, oh my god, men are

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Speaker 2: I've always and I'm like, what, like, yeah, I flirted

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Speaker 2: do you know what I mean? Because they respect They

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Speaker 2: I think it's that's really what it comes down to,

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Speaker 4: Okay, do you think do you think that women are

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Speaker 2: Like?

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Speaker 3: Do you think that's just a sneaky bitch thing?

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Speaker 3: So we have that competition.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a competition. We have that. Even if you're

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Speaker 3: That and felt like ha ha done what like got

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Speaker 2: Just flirt someone that you knew you shouldn't be flirting with.

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Speaker 2: Who does it more, I would say I feel like women.

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Speaker 3: That's a fucked up but it's probably true also.

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Speaker 2: Because men also make you feel like you have to

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: that's so backwards that ship. I'm like, are we progressing?

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Speaker 3: Are we still here or not?

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Speaker 2: But we're not though, because even the most I was like, seriously,

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Speaker 5: Don't even one of those quote I hate this quote,

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Speaker 5: I was like, oh wow, I thought you were so

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Speaker 5: But it's funny how you could be so woke but

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Speaker 2: It's literally like misogynist's in hipster clothing. And then it's

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Speaker 3: Youse so you look super like you do yoga?

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Speaker 2: You say yoga, you call me a queen. You call

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Speaker 2: me a queen, but like what but I'm but I'm

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Speaker 3: Guys right, Oh my god, that shit.

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Speaker 2: I don't want that type. You don't want to bring

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Speaker 2: the things that men say. And I'd be like, little,

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Speaker 2: do you know? I did all that shit and now

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Speaker 2: You love it because it doesn't matter, It doesn't define

439
00:21:53,960 --> 00:21:54,280
Speaker 2: who I am.

440
00:21:54,760 --> 00:21:55,600
Speaker 3: Y life goes on.

441
00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:57,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just so strange.

442
00:21:58,640 --> 00:22:00,960
Speaker 4: I know, this guy told me the other day that

443
00:22:02,119 --> 00:22:04,760
Speaker 4: he's an alpha male and he doesn't want to date

444
00:22:04,760 --> 00:22:08,120
Speaker 4: an alpha female like that does not work because he

445
00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:11,600
Speaker 4: needs her to listen, like she doesn't want someone telling

446
00:22:11,640 --> 00:22:12,040
Speaker 4: him what to do.

447
00:22:12,119 --> 00:22:12,840
Speaker 2: That's like my dad.

448
00:22:14,119 --> 00:22:15,560
Speaker 3: I mean, I think it's cool to though who you

449
00:22:15,560 --> 00:22:16,240
Speaker 3: pair well with.

450
00:22:16,760 --> 00:22:19,120
Speaker 2: But I think I mean, I can say the same thing.

451
00:22:19,240 --> 00:22:21,960
Speaker 2: I know, I know, I'm cool with an alpha femle,

452
00:22:22,040 --> 00:22:25,880
Speaker 2: but I do feel we are bound to butt heads.

453
00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:27,560
Speaker 2: I've experienced it.

454
00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:29,480
Speaker 3: And then don't you want an alpha male?

455
00:22:29,880 --> 00:22:36,080
Speaker 2: I want like a mix of an empatha EmPATH EmPATH

456
00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:40,000
Speaker 2: EmPATH EmPATH and an alpha like I need a like

457
00:22:40,119 --> 00:22:43,760
Speaker 2: EmPATH doesn't mean not alpha. But like I said, if

458
00:22:43,760 --> 00:22:46,240
Speaker 2: you're talking about the categories, that path is not on

459
00:22:46,280 --> 00:22:46,840
Speaker 2: the category.

460
00:22:46,920 --> 00:22:49,080
Speaker 3: It's like it was like alpha beta.

461
00:22:49,240 --> 00:22:54,639
Speaker 2: Yeah, and the EmPATH is defined under Wait what's the episode.

462
00:22:54,240 --> 00:22:55,800
Speaker 3: Of there's another one alpha?

463
00:22:56,359 --> 00:22:59,800
Speaker 2: It's the other one that's beta. Was one is the

464
00:22:59,800 --> 00:23:00,760
Speaker 2: one in the middle.

465
00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:01,720
Speaker 3: But there's another one?

466
00:23:01,760 --> 00:23:02,040
Speaker 2: I know?

467
00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:05,560
Speaker 3: Fucksa?

468
00:23:06,560 --> 00:23:10,000
Speaker 2: Okay, Wow, I don't have to google that. I don't

469
00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:14,120
Speaker 2: have my phone. Wait why is that? Why? I can't

470
00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:16,720
Speaker 2: I remember what it's called. We did have a lopposite

471
00:23:16,760 --> 00:23:24,600
Speaker 2: on the mail versus five five? Are you looking it up? No?

472
00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:27,040
Speaker 2: You're reading a sorry sorry what the.

473
00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:29,080
Speaker 3: Direct?

474
00:23:29,160 --> 00:23:34,400
Speaker 2: Reading a text message? Anyway? I guess.

475
00:23:36,080 --> 00:23:38,240
Speaker 3: I guess all this is said, keep fighting, ladies.

476
00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:39,800
Speaker 2: You've got a lot of work, a lot of work

477
00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:42,679
Speaker 2: to do, guys. I don't I don't know what to

478
00:23:42,720 --> 00:23:43,600
Speaker 2: say about any of that.

479
00:23:43,720 --> 00:23:46,639
Speaker 3: Omega there's no omega.

480
00:23:48,200 --> 00:23:57,760
Speaker 2: Wait is no, I don't think so to say alpha opposite.

481
00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:02,159
Speaker 4: And I saw that Steph Curry came out and like

482
00:24:02,200 --> 00:24:04,399
Speaker 4: supported her publicly because.

483
00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:06,359
Speaker 3: He's, as he should, smart enough to know what the

484
00:24:06,359 --> 00:24:07,160
Speaker 3: fuck she was saying.

485
00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:11,399
Speaker 2: Okay, I don't know. I can't find it.

486
00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:12,880
Speaker 3: So today's topic.

487
00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:22,600
Speaker 2: Five ways to not be a psychopath when dating. We

488
00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:27,000
Speaker 2: may or may not follow these five rules. They're interchangeable.

489
00:24:27,880 --> 00:24:31,440
Speaker 2: No one's perfect. We're just saying you shouldn't this is

490
00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:34,000
Speaker 2: what you shouldn't do. We're just saying if we were perfect,

491
00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:35,840
Speaker 2: this is what we wouldn't do. This is what we

492
00:24:35,880 --> 00:24:37,120
Speaker 2: would do or would not do.

493
00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:38,560
Speaker 3: If you date, and.

494
00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:46,000
Speaker 4: You commonly hear yourself being called crazy to acting too crazy,

495
00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:50,600
Speaker 4: doing too much. Sometimes these niggas be wrong, but sometimes

496
00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:51,520
Speaker 4: you're doing too.

497
00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:53,920
Speaker 2: Much, so sometimes you're being extra.

498
00:24:54,359 --> 00:24:56,560
Speaker 3: Here's are some couple of things. Let you know if

499
00:24:56,560 --> 00:24:57,320
Speaker 3: you're doing too much.

500
00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:05,400
Speaker 2: Oh, don't sleep with someone one time and then fall

501
00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:05,760
Speaker 2: in love.

502
00:25:06,119 --> 00:25:06,679
Speaker 3: Don't do it.

503
00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:07,560
Speaker 2: Don't do that shit.

504
00:25:08,200 --> 00:25:10,280
Speaker 3: It's only going to harm you, it's.

505
00:25:10,160 --> 00:25:14,080
Speaker 2: Only going to confuse you because really you're not in love.

506
00:25:14,280 --> 00:25:16,120
Speaker 2: Let's just be real. You just don't fall in love.

507
00:25:16,160 --> 00:25:19,080
Speaker 2: I don't care how deep the connection was. It was

508
00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:21,680
Speaker 2: so it was like the best I was best sex

509
00:25:21,720 --> 00:25:24,200
Speaker 2: I've ever had. I'm in love. No, you're not, bitch,

510
00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:25,000
Speaker 2: You're not in love.

511
00:25:25,160 --> 00:25:27,760
Speaker 3: You're confused. You have sex.

512
00:25:27,880 --> 00:25:32,160
Speaker 2: Brain digmatized, Yeah, digmatized and detoxing is what you need.

513
00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:35,000
Speaker 2: You need a good detoxing. I've currently just started my detox,

514
00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:37,919
Speaker 2: so if you'd like to join me, I'm day thirty

515
00:25:37,960 --> 00:25:43,400
Speaker 2: in and Jimilla's almost six months in, which wow, I'm

516
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:47,359
Speaker 2: so proud of you. I have a long way to go,

517
00:25:47,440 --> 00:25:51,359
Speaker 2: and I'm going crazy the last few days. I feel

518
00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:52,120
Speaker 2: like a dog in heat.

519
00:25:52,320 --> 00:25:54,120
Speaker 3: No literally that there's those spouts.

520
00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:57,320
Speaker 2: I'm like why, I'm like, no, do I'm like do

521
00:25:57,400 --> 00:25:58,760
Speaker 2: I want to do this? Why am I doing this?

522
00:25:58,760 --> 00:26:00,080
Speaker 2: Fuck this shit? I don't need to do this. And

523
00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:02,879
Speaker 2: then I'm like, wait, you need to do this? I

524
00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:06,320
Speaker 2: think anyway, that's number one.

525
00:26:06,520 --> 00:26:09,040
Speaker 4: Also, if you think, if you know you're the type

526
00:26:09,040 --> 00:26:12,879
Speaker 4: of person that like cannot separate fake feelings from sex,

527
00:26:13,320 --> 00:26:16,439
Speaker 4: don't have sex, you might enjoy the detox, you know,

528
00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:18,360
Speaker 4: and we all could do it because I just think

529
00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:21,880
Speaker 4: vaginally that's how it works. We get a little clouded

530
00:26:22,119 --> 00:26:24,640
Speaker 4: because it's fun, and then you know.

531
00:26:26,119 --> 00:26:27,240
Speaker 3: It didn't. Smoke settles.

532
00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:29,920
Speaker 2: The smoke settles, we come up for air and.

533
00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:32,879
Speaker 4: You're like, wait is this or yeah, then other things

534
00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:35,720
Speaker 4: happen that you don't want to happen, and then you

535
00:26:35,760 --> 00:26:38,320
Speaker 4: react a certain way because you've set yourself up from

536
00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:41,280
Speaker 4: fulfilure from the beginning for fucking when you shouldn't have.

537
00:26:41,440 --> 00:26:42,320
Speaker 2: So basically, don't.

538
00:26:42,119 --> 00:26:46,159
Speaker 4: Have sex until you really know the person and you

539
00:26:46,200 --> 00:26:48,040
Speaker 4: know you know, yeah, you're cool.

540
00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:58,200
Speaker 2: Oh okay, So this is another one that's like so annoying, annoying.

541
00:26:58,240 --> 00:26:58,800
Speaker 2: I don't do this.

542
00:26:59,000 --> 00:26:59,720
Speaker 3: I don't do this yet.

543
00:26:59,800 --> 00:27:01,960
Speaker 2: There's no way I do this, no way, but I

544
00:27:02,000 --> 00:27:04,720
Speaker 2: know someone who's listening. Does this ship stop.

545
00:27:05,520 --> 00:27:08,520
Speaker 4: If you text someone and they don't text you back,

546
00:27:09,359 --> 00:27:11,520
Speaker 4: or you've asked a question, don't follow up with the

547
00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:15,359
Speaker 4: question mark. Okay, that's so fucking annoying. If they saw

548
00:27:15,440 --> 00:27:17,000
Speaker 4: this question, they miss.

549
00:27:16,920 --> 00:27:19,120
Speaker 2: It, saw it, or they will see it, and they're

550
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:21,560
Speaker 2: also going to see that second question mark and immediately

551
00:27:21,560 --> 00:27:22,200
Speaker 2: get annoyed.

552
00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:25,440
Speaker 4: Definitely, don't continue to just have a conversation by yourself

553
00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:27,320
Speaker 4: like oh, never mind, it's cool.

554
00:27:27,640 --> 00:27:28,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, don't write that.

555
00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:31,880
Speaker 3: Don't do that, Like sorry, if I was bothering you, Like.

556
00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:34,920
Speaker 2: Oh sorry, if I was bothering you, that's so hard.

557
00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:39,199
Speaker 2: Just go go type that shit in your notes if

558
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:42,000
Speaker 2: you need to get it out, but don't ever send it.

559
00:27:41,960 --> 00:27:44,960
Speaker 3: Just like a yo, and then you know, then you wait.

560
00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:47,840
Speaker 2: Or sometimes what I've had to do is not be crazy,

561
00:27:48,160 --> 00:27:50,960
Speaker 2: is low key delete the whole text chain so they're

562
00:27:50,960 --> 00:27:52,720
Speaker 2: not even in my messages. Have you ever done that

563
00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:55,600
Speaker 2: you don't want to leave? I mean, it's hard because

564
00:27:55,640 --> 00:27:57,720
Speaker 2: then you delete pictures and shit, so you have to

565
00:27:57,760 --> 00:28:00,240
Speaker 2: really commit to it. No like this is it hate

566
00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:10,959
Speaker 2: or take screenshots so you always have, but that sometimes

567
00:28:11,119 --> 00:28:12,919
Speaker 2: is a good one. It's like, just delete that, just

568
00:28:12,920 --> 00:28:14,919
Speaker 2: relate the whole thing. There's nothing there.

569
00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:16,920
Speaker 4: To remind me I need to really shit anyway, because

570
00:28:16,920 --> 00:28:17,840
Speaker 4: that'd be whole on the ship.

571
00:28:18,359 --> 00:28:22,800
Speaker 2: That's kind of like deefcluttering your life. Your life, Like

572
00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:25,639
Speaker 2: just like how you do spring cleaning your closet, you

573
00:28:25,640 --> 00:28:29,760
Speaker 2: need to do spring cleaning your text messages and clear

574
00:28:29,800 --> 00:28:32,520
Speaker 2: some shit out. I feel like it clears out any

575
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:35,520
Speaker 2: possibility of you going backwards to to go read some

576
00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:38,440
Speaker 2: shit and revisit how you felt those feelings, because we

577
00:28:38,560 --> 00:28:46,880
Speaker 2: do that shit. Okay, So that's number two. We probably

578
00:28:46,880 --> 00:28:50,560
Speaker 2: have more than five. We have more than five. Oh

579
00:28:50,640 --> 00:28:53,120
Speaker 2: so if you do spend the night going back to

580
00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:56,000
Speaker 2: sleeping over and sleeping with people, Oh well we'll get

581
00:28:56,040 --> 00:28:58,000
Speaker 2: to that too. Okay, if you do spend the night,

582
00:28:59,280 --> 00:29:04,320
Speaker 2: don't overstay. You're welcome. Just leave, Just just leave or

583
00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:07,720
Speaker 2: just feel it out, but don't overstay. Yeah, there's nothing

584
00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:10,400
Speaker 2: worse than like someone not picking up on social cues.

585
00:29:10,480 --> 00:29:14,760
Speaker 4: Yes, social cues or bit it's crucial that you realize

586
00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:22,320
Speaker 4: if niggas shying to get rid of you. Crucial, crucial,

587
00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:25,240
Speaker 4: like you know what it's time to go, you know,

588
00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:28,320
Speaker 4: like you got to pick up on the vibe of things.

589
00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:30,440
Speaker 3: Did he tell you to stay?

590
00:29:31,400 --> 00:29:33,560
Speaker 2: And also you know, make him miss you a little bit?

591
00:29:33,720 --> 00:29:36,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, sometimes you gotta go. Actually you should have gotta go.

592
00:29:36,240 --> 00:29:38,880
Speaker 2: You should always gotta go. And until that niggas your nigga.

593
00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:42,600
Speaker 2: Yeah right right, Yeah, I need to pick up. I

594
00:29:42,680 --> 00:29:44,240
Speaker 2: need to work on that.

595
00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:47,280
Speaker 3: May or may not.

596
00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:50,440
Speaker 2: Need to work on that. No, I think I'm really

597
00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:52,360
Speaker 2: good at knowing what social cues as far as like

598
00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:54,320
Speaker 2: if he wants me to go or not. I'm not

599
00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:57,680
Speaker 2: good at like walking away, walking away even if he

600
00:29:57,760 --> 00:30:00,280
Speaker 2: does like if he does want me to stay, sometimes

601
00:30:00,320 --> 00:30:03,000
Speaker 2: you still got to like go, do you know, get

602
00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:03,480
Speaker 2: out of there?

603
00:30:03,600 --> 00:30:05,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, it is. I think it is.

604
00:30:05,080 --> 00:30:06,840
Speaker 6: It's funny and that it's not even necessarily a game.

605
00:30:06,960 --> 00:30:08,640
Speaker 6: I think it's healthy for him to miss you.

606
00:30:08,960 --> 00:30:13,719
Speaker 2: I think that space space creating space early on, so

607
00:30:13,760 --> 00:30:16,160
Speaker 2: that you know, that's if you do get into a

608
00:30:16,200 --> 00:30:20,200
Speaker 2: relationship with that person when you already understand like you're

609
00:30:20,200 --> 00:30:22,280
Speaker 2: not going to get in one of those relationships where

610
00:30:22,280 --> 00:30:23,760
Speaker 2: your friends never see you again.

611
00:30:24,200 --> 00:30:26,720
Speaker 4: What happens with those relationships is you get in routine.

612
00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:29,640
Speaker 4: He gets used to singing all the time, You get

613
00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:31,680
Speaker 4: used to singing in the times. So anything that veers

614
00:30:31,760 --> 00:30:36,080
Speaker 4: or shifts from that routine is feels strange, It feels violating,

615
00:30:36,120 --> 00:30:37,719
Speaker 4: it feels like you've been left behind.

616
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:38,040
Speaker 2: Yeah.

617
00:30:38,040 --> 00:30:41,600
Speaker 4: But if you establish that independence in that space early

618
00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:43,480
Speaker 4: on in a healthy manner, even though it's hard because

619
00:30:43,480 --> 00:30:46,720
Speaker 4: you're in honeymoon phace, fight it super hard, it's important

620
00:30:46,760 --> 00:30:48,920
Speaker 4: and it does make you miss each other a little

621
00:30:48,960 --> 00:30:50,520
Speaker 4: bit more, and it does you know.

622
00:30:50,800 --> 00:30:53,680
Speaker 3: The truth is it is like a little it's a

623
00:30:53,840 --> 00:30:54,880
Speaker 3: it's a chase.

624
00:30:55,400 --> 00:30:58,040
Speaker 4: We all less for the little bit of a chase,

625
00:30:58,120 --> 00:31:01,080
Speaker 4: A little bit of the you know, so I think.

626
00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:05,800
Speaker 2: It also kind of like eliminates all these expectations. You know,

627
00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:08,360
Speaker 2: you expecting it's the weekend. What do you mean when

628
00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:09,160
Speaker 2: I hang out right? Oh?

629
00:31:09,280 --> 00:31:11,440
Speaker 3: Oh, I just thought because you were off at too. Yeah,

630
00:31:11,640 --> 00:31:12,320
Speaker 3: you didn't tell me.

631
00:31:12,280 --> 00:31:14,320
Speaker 2: He's been off of fork for since for like an hour.

632
00:31:14,320 --> 00:31:15,400
Speaker 3: I don't understand what's going on.

633
00:31:18,040 --> 00:31:19,880
Speaker 2: You broke that down really well. That was like I

634
00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:21,760
Speaker 2: felt like I was in therapy right now. That was

635
00:31:22,200 --> 00:31:22,680
Speaker 2: really good.

636
00:31:22,760 --> 00:31:24,800
Speaker 3: I have been told that I should be a therapist.

637
00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:29,280
Speaker 2: That was really good. So then there's fake Instagram accounts

638
00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:32,480
Speaker 2: and Facebook accounts and just fake accounts, take emails.

639
00:31:33,240 --> 00:31:36,000
Speaker 4: It's really fucked up with social media because there's too

640
00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:40,480
Speaker 4: much access and if you don't have the same access,

641
00:31:40,520 --> 00:31:42,760
Speaker 4: you're like wondering what the fuck is going on over there?

642
00:31:42,880 --> 00:31:48,800
Speaker 3: You know, what the fuck is happening.

643
00:31:49,320 --> 00:31:52,959
Speaker 4: So, you know, you find yourself the crazy part of yourself.

644
00:31:52,960 --> 00:31:55,120
Speaker 4: It's all we all have a little bit of crazyiness.

645
00:31:55,240 --> 00:31:57,360
Speaker 4: We've got a fighter, you know, like get out of here.

646
00:31:58,320 --> 00:32:00,640
Speaker 4: And the part that says, like look on your friend's

647
00:32:00,760 --> 00:32:03,560
Speaker 4: Instagram to look at his story to see what he's doing.

648
00:32:03,600 --> 00:32:05,680
Speaker 3: That I'm able to see that you're looking at his story,

649
00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:09,120
Speaker 3: or maybe create a secret fake account so.

650
00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:12,720
Speaker 4: You can always see the story without having to go

651
00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:14,760
Speaker 4: to your.

652
00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:17,760
Speaker 2: It's like that very liberating, freely okay feeling.

653
00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:20,640
Speaker 4: But when you when you can freely stop it, can

654
00:32:20,800 --> 00:32:21,880
Speaker 4: it gets obsessive.

655
00:32:23,320 --> 00:32:24,280
Speaker 3: Because I've done it.

656
00:32:24,960 --> 00:32:28,040
Speaker 4: My friend gave me her passwords, so it's just freely stocking.

657
00:32:28,640 --> 00:32:30,720
Speaker 4: So I didn't at least when I I could just

658
00:32:30,720 --> 00:32:32,280
Speaker 4: look at my friend's phone. It's not all the time,

659
00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:33,680
Speaker 4: but I don't always see that friend. I'm like, when

660
00:32:33,680 --> 00:32:35,480
Speaker 4: I do stand, I'm like, oh, let me see, let

661
00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:37,400
Speaker 4: me see your phone real click, let me see your

662
00:32:37,440 --> 00:32:40,480
Speaker 4: secret account so I can go stock. But yes, putting

663
00:32:40,680 --> 00:32:43,680
Speaker 4: a secret account on your own phone is very unhealthy

664
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:45,480
Speaker 4: for your mental help.

665
00:32:48,120 --> 00:32:49,600
Speaker 3: Because sometimes you would if you see a.

666
00:32:49,600 --> 00:32:51,720
Speaker 4: Chick and then it looks kind of close, but it

667
00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:53,080
Speaker 4: also looks platonic.

668
00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:54,880
Speaker 3: But what the fuck? Who the fuck is that?

669
00:32:55,000 --> 00:32:55,560
Speaker 2: Oh is that?

670
00:32:57,880 --> 00:32:59,920
Speaker 3: Then your mind starts doing crazy shit.

671
00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:06,240
Speaker 2: Mm hmmmmmm hmmm. So so I'm I like, I've definitely,

672
00:33:06,280 --> 00:33:10,160
Speaker 2: I definitely I could even currently have a secret Instagram.

673
00:33:10,200 --> 00:33:16,040
Speaker 2: Did you see let me see? I don't. I haven't

674
00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:18,120
Speaker 2: used it in a long time, but I did use

675
00:33:18,160 --> 00:33:21,520
Speaker 2: it for like a week straight for once, and then

676
00:33:21,880 --> 00:33:23,280
Speaker 2: I was like, I have to get off here, but

677
00:33:23,680 --> 00:33:25,480
Speaker 2: so but I still didn't delete it, so it's still

678
00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:27,720
Speaker 2: there just in case, you know, just in case.

679
00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:32,480
Speaker 4: It's also unhealthy if you're not be like they're private

680
00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:35,440
Speaker 4: and you don't follow them, but then you go on Facebook.

681
00:33:39,960 --> 00:33:41,080
Speaker 3: If you find yourself a.

682
00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:47,560
Speaker 4: Casion on faceicook, just to see if it's linked to

683
00:33:47,640 --> 00:33:49,800
Speaker 4: their Instagram and then you can see what's going on.

684
00:33:50,040 --> 00:33:52,280
Speaker 3: That's that could possibly be a little crazy too.

685
00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:54,240
Speaker 2: I didn't even know that was an option, But that's

686
00:33:54,280 --> 00:33:56,240
Speaker 2: good to know. I wonder where you picked that one up.

687
00:33:57,320 --> 00:34:00,720
Speaker 3: This girl, I know crazy.

688
00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:07,640
Speaker 2: Also, Yeah, it's just gonna ruin your day, and yeah,

689
00:34:07,720 --> 00:34:10,440
Speaker 2: your whole day. You're literally also making up stories in

690
00:34:10,480 --> 00:34:10,799
Speaker 2: your head.

691
00:34:10,840 --> 00:34:12,520
Speaker 3: Okay, you will mope for no reason.

692
00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:15,239
Speaker 2: You literally are actually making up stories. There might be

693
00:34:15,360 --> 00:34:17,719
Speaker 2: truth in the stories, but you don't know all the truth.

694
00:34:17,560 --> 00:34:19,759
Speaker 4: And it's probably not your business because it's not your

695
00:34:19,760 --> 00:34:23,279
Speaker 4: man right right above all.

696
00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:25,400
Speaker 2: And but that and going off of that, you know,

697
00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:27,720
Speaker 2: don't put all your eggs in one basket.

698
00:34:28,360 --> 00:34:29,960
Speaker 3: And this is a big one. This is a big one.

699
00:34:30,000 --> 00:34:30,239
Speaker 2: Guys.

700
00:34:30,239 --> 00:34:34,319
Speaker 4: I've always been told you gotta have some backup on

701
00:34:34,360 --> 00:34:37,439
Speaker 4: the other burners, just because it's healthy.

702
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:40,440
Speaker 2: Especially if you're just in the dating phase and it's like,

703
00:34:41,480 --> 00:34:44,560
Speaker 2: you know, you don't know what he's doing and unless

704
00:34:44,600 --> 00:34:46,440
Speaker 2: you guys are talking about it and not lying to

705
00:34:46,520 --> 00:34:47,719
Speaker 2: each other, you.

706
00:34:47,680 --> 00:34:52,400
Speaker 3: Know, like don't assume and don't assume.

707
00:34:53,000 --> 00:34:55,520
Speaker 2: Let's say you have to go and seek this out,

708
00:34:55,640 --> 00:34:58,320
Speaker 2: like if you're gonna start dating, you must look also

709
00:34:58,440 --> 00:35:00,719
Speaker 2: for other people. But like, don't be closed off to

710
00:35:00,800 --> 00:35:03,919
Speaker 2: the to the to the possibility or the energy even

711
00:35:03,960 --> 00:35:06,040
Speaker 2: you're out, don't be like I can't talk to you

712
00:35:06,080 --> 00:35:09,080
Speaker 2: because don't do that shit because he's not doing that ship.

713
00:35:09,400 --> 00:35:11,360
Speaker 4: And even though it's true, like I know because I

714
00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:13,560
Speaker 4: joined Hine a couple of months ago, and like who

715
00:35:13,920 --> 00:35:14,719
Speaker 4: it's a lot of.

716
00:35:14,760 --> 00:35:17,600
Speaker 3: Energy, Like it's it's a very big distraction.

717
00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:21,440
Speaker 4: It's almost I had to stop looking at it because

718
00:35:21,640 --> 00:35:22,920
Speaker 4: it's too much energy.

719
00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:24,600
Speaker 3: It's too much exchange, it's too much.

720
00:35:24,640 --> 00:35:26,319
Speaker 4: Okay, now text me, okay, no, don't text like I'm

721
00:35:26,320 --> 00:35:27,920
Speaker 4: gonna hang out, Like don't realize.

722
00:35:27,680 --> 00:35:32,000
Speaker 3: This person looking back at the profile like I was sreferent.

723
00:35:33,040 --> 00:35:35,560
Speaker 4: But so you don't have to like max out and

724
00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:40,440
Speaker 4: do it intentionally, like you said, seeking it, but stay

725
00:35:40,440 --> 00:35:42,640
Speaker 4: open and keep in mind to that person's pebbly also

726
00:35:42,719 --> 00:35:43,359
Speaker 4: doing the same thing.

727
00:35:43,680 --> 00:35:48,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's something I've like because for me,

728
00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:53,799
Speaker 2: I'm I'm so from so I guess addicted to being

729
00:35:53,840 --> 00:35:57,759
Speaker 2: in relationships. I've always been back to back relationship that,

730
00:35:58,120 --> 00:36:00,200
Speaker 2: especially and especially coming out of a relationship with I

731
00:36:00,239 --> 00:36:04,960
Speaker 2: was in for so long and you know, finally like

732
00:36:05,040 --> 00:36:07,080
Speaker 2: meeting someone that I'm like, oh my god, I feel

733
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:09,560
Speaker 2: feelings again. I have real feelings, right should I can

734
00:36:09,600 --> 00:36:12,040
Speaker 2: still feel oh my god, I love you right like,

735
00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:13,680
Speaker 2: oh my god, I do, oh my god, Let's just

736
00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:16,719
Speaker 2: be together like that habit again. Like this one is

737
00:36:16,719 --> 00:36:19,319
Speaker 2: when I've had to check myself on because of like

738
00:36:19,400 --> 00:36:22,520
Speaker 2: the relationship that I am sharing with someone right now,

739
00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:25,520
Speaker 2: but also knowing that we're not together.

740
00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:28,279
Speaker 4: Well, you know what it is, it's hard to want

741
00:36:28,280 --> 00:36:29,799
Speaker 4: to hang out with someone else.

742
00:36:30,080 --> 00:36:32,640
Speaker 3: When you really like one person. Yeah, I don't really

743
00:36:32,760 --> 00:36:34,040
Speaker 3: want to hang out with anybody else.

744
00:36:33,960 --> 00:36:39,040
Speaker 4: Because you're the funnest like stupid, but at this think, Yeah,

745
00:36:39,080 --> 00:36:41,320
Speaker 4: I just think it's I just think.

746
00:36:41,160 --> 00:36:44,480
Speaker 3: It's healthy to try. Yeah, I think to enjoy others.

747
00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:45,239
Speaker 2: I think so too.

748
00:36:45,440 --> 00:36:49,440
Speaker 4: Unless you're not crazy and you can understand that. You know,

749
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:51,120
Speaker 4: it doesn't mean you're exclusive.

750
00:36:50,840 --> 00:36:54,600
Speaker 2: And it doesn't like it doesn't mean it's like how

751
00:36:54,640 --> 00:36:58,120
Speaker 2: to say, dimming or making whatever you share with the

752
00:36:58,160 --> 00:37:00,759
Speaker 2: person that you really like the most currently, And it

753
00:37:00,760 --> 00:37:03,840
Speaker 2: doesn't mean like you're like shitting on that relationship. It

754
00:37:03,960 --> 00:37:05,360
Speaker 2: just means like you're.

755
00:37:05,200 --> 00:37:07,680
Speaker 4: Still fostering the other relationships that maybe you were you

756
00:37:07,760 --> 00:37:08,600
Speaker 4: had before.

757
00:37:08,320 --> 00:37:11,800
Speaker 2: You met that person. Yeah, unless you guys have agreed

758
00:37:11,880 --> 00:37:15,280
Speaker 2: that we're working towards being in a relationship, then than fine.

759
00:37:15,480 --> 00:37:16,239
Speaker 3: These rules are.

760
00:37:16,160 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 4: For more like early on dating or after dating, or

761
00:37:19,680 --> 00:37:21,719
Speaker 4: if you're not together and have them dinner, you're not

762
00:37:21,760 --> 00:37:24,160
Speaker 4: going to be Yeah.

763
00:37:24,440 --> 00:37:27,920
Speaker 2: The next thing I would say is, don't keep going

764
00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:31,279
Speaker 2: out of your way if they don't women.

765
00:37:31,360 --> 00:37:33,440
Speaker 3: Ladies go out of your way period, ladies.

766
00:37:33,600 --> 00:37:36,160
Speaker 2: And we are nurturers by nature. We want to give,

767
00:37:36,239 --> 00:37:38,239
Speaker 2: we want to show up, we want to support what

768
00:37:38,520 --> 00:37:40,759
Speaker 2: we want. We want what we want, what we want it.

769
00:37:40,840 --> 00:37:45,080
Speaker 2: But you don't be real, because then that's why you

770
00:37:45,120 --> 00:37:48,960
Speaker 2: get disappointed, because damn i'd throw like me, I've driven

771
00:37:49,120 --> 00:37:51,480
Speaker 2: every day down to see you. And then they get

772
00:37:51,560 --> 00:37:53,799
Speaker 2: used to that shit and they don't feel like they

773
00:37:53,840 --> 00:37:55,719
Speaker 2: have to anymore. They don't feel like they have to

774
00:37:55,960 --> 00:37:58,719
Speaker 2: because you've made it so easy for them that you like,

775
00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:01,560
Speaker 2: these are habits that you're building within your relationship before

776
00:38:01,600 --> 00:38:04,920
Speaker 2: it's even a relationship, you know, and it's like you

777
00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:08,879
Speaker 2: have to just you gotta make them work for it too.

778
00:38:09,239 --> 00:38:13,799
Speaker 4: Just don't overgive, because it sometimes slaps you in the face.

779
00:38:13,760 --> 00:38:16,200
Speaker 2: And just because you're over sometimes I think we overgive

780
00:38:16,239 --> 00:38:17,680
Speaker 2: with the hope. But maybe if I just do this,

781
00:38:18,360 --> 00:38:20,200
Speaker 2: don't want to be with and they want to they

782
00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:20,719
Speaker 2: want to be with me.

783
00:38:21,120 --> 00:38:21,840
Speaker 3: I want to be with you.

784
00:38:21,920 --> 00:38:25,000
Speaker 2: They'll see how amazing I am and hot, I'm a writer.

785
00:38:25,320 --> 00:38:25,840
Speaker 2: I'm down.

786
00:38:26,280 --> 00:38:29,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, no, fuck no, that's not how men. Oh

787
00:38:30,000 --> 00:38:31,759
Speaker 3: my god, I've had my heart broken this.

788
00:38:31,760 --> 00:38:33,279
Speaker 2: Way, Like that's not how they think.

789
00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:39,520
Speaker 3: Sitting somewhere like I'm so dumb. Why did they do this?

790
00:38:40,040 --> 00:38:44,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, keep your schedule that you have to, just whatever

791
00:38:44,360 --> 00:38:47,239
Speaker 2: you had plan. Don't derail all of your plans to

792
00:38:47,280 --> 00:38:49,799
Speaker 2: go hang out with someone. Okay, you're gonna do that

793
00:38:49,880 --> 00:38:52,880
Speaker 2: sometimes that's fine, but don't make that shit a fucking habit.

794
00:38:53,040 --> 00:38:55,160
Speaker 2: You know, Like every time this person calls, you.

795
00:38:55,120 --> 00:38:56,440
Speaker 3: Come running, You come running.

796
00:38:56,760 --> 00:38:59,520
Speaker 2: Plans canceled, like oh nope, we're not doing that anymore. Oh,

797
00:38:59,600 --> 00:39:03,279
Speaker 2: let's hurt. Yep, we gotta go, you know, like, don't

798
00:39:03,320 --> 00:39:06,200
Speaker 2: do that, just don't m m because they're not doing

799
00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:13,720
Speaker 2: that ship for you. Yeah, I agree.

800
00:39:15,000 --> 00:39:16,840
Speaker 3: I'm just thinking about all.

801
00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:17,560
Speaker 2: The times you've done that.

802
00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:20,080
Speaker 3: Yes, oh my god, all the time I'm doing it.

803
00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:22,080
Speaker 2: I still I'm right now, I'm in a phase right

804
00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:25,360
Speaker 2: now of undoing that right now because I was so

805
00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:28,319
Speaker 2: I'm so like I care about this person that I'm

806
00:39:28,400 --> 00:39:31,000
Speaker 2: dating so much, and like we do have a connection

807
00:39:31,280 --> 00:39:35,040
Speaker 2: that like is unlike any I don't care. How is no?

808
00:39:35,320 --> 00:39:38,799
Speaker 2: I know you're right, but it's like but that. But

809
00:39:39,080 --> 00:39:40,799
Speaker 2: but girl, when you're in it, you know you feel

810
00:39:40,840 --> 00:39:44,080
Speaker 2: the same way. Oh I know. You know literally it's

811
00:39:44,120 --> 00:39:47,000
Speaker 2: so easy to like say it to someone else because

812
00:39:47,000 --> 00:39:48,600
Speaker 2: even it's easy for me to say it to you.

813
00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:50,840
Speaker 2: You know, you're going to go drive up north.

814
00:39:52,120 --> 00:39:55,760
Speaker 3: For the same person who shitted it on me like bad.

815
00:39:55,920 --> 00:39:59,960
Speaker 2: Right, And it's like same with me, like you know,

816
00:40:00,520 --> 00:40:02,719
Speaker 2: making all the effort to go see this person all

817
00:40:02,760 --> 00:40:04,680
Speaker 2: the time when I'm the one with a child, when

818
00:40:04,680 --> 00:40:08,360
Speaker 2: I'm the one that you know, maybe like I don't know,

819
00:40:08,360 --> 00:40:09,839
Speaker 2: there's just not a balance and a lot of it's

820
00:40:09,880 --> 00:40:11,480
Speaker 2: my fault because I'm the one that's been like, well,

821
00:40:11,520 --> 00:40:13,279
Speaker 2: I just come down there. I'll just go down there.

822
00:40:13,560 --> 00:40:16,400
Speaker 2: I have the friends there, like finding my finding excuses

823
00:40:16,400 --> 00:40:18,239
Speaker 2: to be down there like a crazy person too, like hey,

824
00:40:18,280 --> 00:40:20,920
Speaker 2: I'm just down here, just over here.

825
00:40:21,640 --> 00:40:23,520
Speaker 3: I love the dirty home.

826
00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:28,000
Speaker 2: I found myself downtown And what are you doing available? Okay,

827
00:40:28,000 --> 00:40:38,160
Speaker 2: that's fine, but I guess I'll stick around around, eat something. Yeah, work,

828
00:40:40,440 --> 00:40:42,960
Speaker 2: But it's hard. That one's really hard, I think, I

829
00:40:43,000 --> 00:40:46,840
Speaker 2: think especially for women, because we've been actually conditioned to

830
00:40:46,880 --> 00:40:49,160
Speaker 2: feeling like we have to take. The more we show

831
00:40:49,200 --> 00:40:51,480
Speaker 2: someone we can take care of them, that makes us

832
00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:55,239
Speaker 2: worthy of love, worthy of attention, right showing you that

833
00:40:55,320 --> 00:40:57,359
Speaker 2: I'm I'm a nurture. I'm a nurture that I can

834
00:40:57,400 --> 00:40:59,680
Speaker 2: take care of you. I can take care of anything.

835
00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:03,400
Speaker 2: I'll bend backwards for you like it's yeah.

836
00:41:03,320 --> 00:41:07,880
Speaker 4: Like, which goes back to keeping your schedule and oh okay,

837
00:41:07,960 --> 00:41:11,640
Speaker 4: So from one of our I can can maybe consider.

838
00:41:11,320 --> 00:41:13,480
Speaker 3: This a dating bible of all time.

839
00:41:15,080 --> 00:41:17,920
Speaker 4: I really encourage anyone to pick it up and just

840
00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:20,719
Speaker 4: keep it in their back pocket. It's called Why Men

841
00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:26,440
Speaker 4: Love Bitches. Just honestly the Bible of all bibles on dating,

842
00:41:26,560 --> 00:41:29,800
Speaker 4: and I really believe in sticking by it.

843
00:41:29,840 --> 00:41:32,840
Speaker 3: And one of the things she says, because wow, she keeps.

844
00:41:32,600 --> 00:41:38,040
Speaker 4: It really real, a literary mass a literary fucking masterpiece.

845
00:41:38,480 --> 00:41:41,439
Speaker 4: And I think one of the chapters goes something like this,

846
00:41:42,560 --> 00:41:46,319
Speaker 4: don't even don't even cook. Don't make them even popcorn,

847
00:41:46,880 --> 00:41:50,120
Speaker 4: maybe popcorn, you know, like, don't be making meals. Don't

848
00:41:50,120 --> 00:41:53,480
Speaker 4: be like, don't get them used to nothing, because that's

849
00:41:53,719 --> 00:41:56,880
Speaker 4: that's a giving in a relationship sense, if you're just

850
00:41:57,080 --> 00:42:01,880
Speaker 4: dating a motherfucker, honestly, like, give them bare minimum because

851
00:42:01,920 --> 00:42:05,760
Speaker 4: you want them to want more. And that's why maybe

852
00:42:05,760 --> 00:42:07,719
Speaker 4: some chips you may be so And I think she says,

853
00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:08,719
Speaker 4: throw the chips at them.

854
00:42:10,040 --> 00:42:11,319
Speaker 3: It's not even like in a bowl.

855
00:42:11,480 --> 00:42:12,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, she says, don't even put the shit in a

856
00:42:12,960 --> 00:42:16,160
Speaker 4: bowl like a bag will do, or else you're taking

857
00:42:16,200 --> 00:42:19,160
Speaker 4: me out. And again, it's not these these it's not

858
00:42:19,200 --> 00:42:23,440
Speaker 4: really the rules, but it's the way you have to

859
00:42:23,480 --> 00:42:27,480
Speaker 4: speak to men because they're slow, you know, there's only

860
00:42:27,560 --> 00:42:28,280
Speaker 4: certain things.

861
00:42:28,280 --> 00:42:30,040
Speaker 2: See. But then I feel like the woman who is

862
00:42:30,320 --> 00:42:33,439
Speaker 2: listening to this that literally can't imagine throwing a bag

863
00:42:33,440 --> 00:42:35,960
Speaker 2: of chips that a man is thinking. But then I'm not

864
00:42:36,000 --> 00:42:37,360
Speaker 2: wifey material.

865
00:42:37,200 --> 00:42:40,520
Speaker 4: Right, and he needs to know that we're not here

866
00:42:40,560 --> 00:42:44,640
Speaker 4: to convince you we're wifey material. When it's time for

867
00:42:44,680 --> 00:42:48,520
Speaker 4: you to get girlfriend material level, package will graduate to there.

868
00:42:48,880 --> 00:42:51,520
Speaker 4: But until then, I'm not treating you like I'm you're

869
00:42:51,600 --> 00:42:54,239
Speaker 4: my man, and you're not. And I think that's the

870
00:42:54,320 --> 00:42:57,080
Speaker 4: huge misconception. Maybe if I act like a girlfriend up

871
00:42:57,120 --> 00:43:01,319
Speaker 4: and then I'll graduate to girlfriend material girlfriend level, but

872
00:43:01,360 --> 00:43:03,680
Speaker 4: that rarely happens because you will stay.

873
00:43:03,400 --> 00:43:07,440
Speaker 2: At this because you've already given away the milk for free. Essentially,

874
00:43:07,640 --> 00:43:08,439
Speaker 2: why by the cow?

875
00:43:08,640 --> 00:43:09,520
Speaker 3: Why by the cow?

876
00:43:09,560 --> 00:43:11,000
Speaker 4: And I know that's the oldest one in the book,

877
00:43:11,040 --> 00:43:16,520
Speaker 4: but it's true. That is one of the biggest nuggets

878
00:43:16,560 --> 00:43:18,960
Speaker 4: of the book, along with so many I'm gonna have

879
00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:20,800
Speaker 4: to highlight and say a smile.

880
00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:23,600
Speaker 2: It's so true. And I'm guilty of that too, Like

881
00:43:24,120 --> 00:43:26,520
Speaker 2: not even it's not even so that I would like,

882
00:43:26,920 --> 00:43:28,920
Speaker 2: it's not for the purpose of like, then make me

883
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:32,000
Speaker 2: your girlfriend. It's just like, I'm a nurturer by nature.

884
00:43:32,080 --> 00:43:34,520
Speaker 2: I like to take care of people, and I really

885
00:43:34,600 --> 00:43:36,279
Speaker 2: like you, and yeah, I do. I like to take

886
00:43:36,320 --> 00:43:36,759
Speaker 2: care of people.

887
00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:40,800
Speaker 4: But it's like, but what is that I want you

888
00:43:40,880 --> 00:43:42,319
Speaker 4: to like me, so I like to take care of

889
00:43:42,320 --> 00:43:44,720
Speaker 4: you or no, I do like taking care of you people.

890
00:43:45,000 --> 00:43:48,640
Speaker 2: But I just have always felt like in relationships somehow

891
00:43:48,680 --> 00:43:52,080
Speaker 2: I was disappointed because they weren't. It wasn't that it

892
00:43:52,120 --> 00:43:54,799
Speaker 2: doesdn't seem like it was reciprocated in the way that

893
00:43:54,840 --> 00:43:56,840
Speaker 2: I thought it should be because of what I was doing.

894
00:43:57,040 --> 00:44:01,200
Speaker 2: And now that I'm not in a relationship, obviously those

895
00:44:01,200 --> 00:44:04,359
Speaker 2: habits have appeared again. But I'm trying really hard to

896
00:44:04,480 --> 00:44:07,680
Speaker 2: check them now, even in the relationship air quotes that

897
00:44:07,719 --> 00:44:10,200
Speaker 2: I'm in right now, because I've already started to set

898
00:44:10,239 --> 00:44:15,440
Speaker 2: this this like routine of I'll go to you, I'll

899
00:44:15,440 --> 00:44:18,239
Speaker 2: do this, I like to give you things and like,

900
00:44:18,400 --> 00:44:22,080
Speaker 2: you know, like when I'm traveling, I'm thoughtful, and then

901
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:24,640
Speaker 2: if it's not reciprocated, I'm disappointed. But the only person

902
00:44:24,640 --> 00:44:26,000
Speaker 2: to blame is myself.

903
00:44:25,640 --> 00:44:27,320
Speaker 3: Because you have some sort of expectation.

904
00:44:27,560 --> 00:44:30,640
Speaker 2: I have expectation. But also I did everything like I

905
00:44:30,719 --> 00:44:34,120
Speaker 2: never made it have to, you know, like now that

906
00:44:34,480 --> 00:44:36,760
Speaker 2: I'm saying, okay, I really don't feel like driving there anymore.

907
00:44:36,800 --> 00:44:39,000
Speaker 2: Now I'm really going to see how much this person

908
00:44:39,040 --> 00:44:41,279
Speaker 2: actually wants to hang out with me, or if we

909
00:44:41,360 --> 00:44:43,479
Speaker 2: hang out out of convenience and this or he hangs

910
00:44:43,520 --> 00:44:45,480
Speaker 2: out with me out of convenience, not because not even

911
00:44:45,520 --> 00:44:48,480
Speaker 2: out of convenience, Like I'm there's a love there for sure, undeniable,

912
00:44:48,560 --> 00:44:51,759
Speaker 2: but like how strong is it? Is it because of

913
00:44:51,800 --> 00:44:56,640
Speaker 2: the convenience of it? Or like will you what else do?

914
00:44:56,640 --> 00:44:57,680
Speaker 2: What are you willing to do? Well?

915
00:44:57,719 --> 00:45:00,200
Speaker 4: That brings us to another one, which is a huge one.

916
00:45:00,360 --> 00:45:02,800
Speaker 4: I mean, I always say, don't have expectations of people.

917
00:45:02,920 --> 00:45:04,719
Speaker 4: That's the number one that's the number one way to

918
00:45:04,719 --> 00:45:08,640
Speaker 4: be disappointed. You will you will be disappointed having expectations, period.

919
00:45:09,400 --> 00:45:11,160
Speaker 3: But I think the biggest.

920
00:45:10,680 --> 00:45:16,080
Speaker 4: One is, like you said, is uh really really paying

921
00:45:16,120 --> 00:45:20,400
Speaker 4: attention to actions and not words? Actions? Actions? What is

922
00:45:20,400 --> 00:45:22,920
Speaker 4: this person doing? I know it feels like this, it

923
00:45:22,960 --> 00:45:26,400
Speaker 4: feels like love. This feels like love, but what are

924
00:45:26,440 --> 00:45:28,160
Speaker 4: the what are the actions showing?

925
00:45:28,320 --> 00:45:28,520
Speaker 2: You know?

926
00:45:30,800 --> 00:45:33,759
Speaker 3: Because that shit's pretty flucking.

927
00:45:33,520 --> 00:45:35,759
Speaker 2: That's so It's crazy how some talk can make you

928
00:45:35,800 --> 00:45:38,360
Speaker 2: forget about some actions. Like you can be mad about

929
00:45:38,360 --> 00:45:41,160
Speaker 2: some shit and then they'll talk you, like talk you down,

930
00:45:41,719 --> 00:45:44,040
Speaker 2: like and like make you feel chill about it, like okay,

931
00:45:44,800 --> 00:45:46,919
Speaker 2: all right, Like maybe he's right, Like well he said

932
00:45:46,960 --> 00:45:50,400
Speaker 2: he's gonna start doing that, and then like that that

933
00:45:50,400 --> 00:45:52,040
Speaker 2: that holds on. You hold on to that for like

934
00:45:52,080 --> 00:45:54,239
Speaker 2: a few days, and then it pops up again, and

935
00:45:54,239 --> 00:45:57,360
Speaker 2: then the conversation happens again. It's just I feel like

936
00:45:59,520 --> 00:46:04,160
Speaker 2: ladies don't ignore the actions. It's so hard because you

937
00:46:04,200 --> 00:46:07,120
Speaker 2: want to get people. You want to believe that, oh

938
00:46:07,160 --> 00:46:10,040
Speaker 2: it's just that one time, or you know, it's it's fine,

939
00:46:10,120 --> 00:46:10,960
Speaker 2: I can deal with it.

940
00:46:11,200 --> 00:46:12,120
Speaker 3: Maybe I always tripping.

941
00:46:12,320 --> 00:46:21,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, you weren't tripping. Another one is this is

942
00:46:21,520 --> 00:46:26,200
Speaker 2: our last one? Yeah, our last one, which is probably

943
00:46:26,239 --> 00:46:30,040
Speaker 2: it's really important and really really really annoying.

944
00:46:30,040 --> 00:46:33,560
Speaker 3: Really annoying, really immature, and please don't do this.

945
00:46:34,200 --> 00:46:40,040
Speaker 2: Social media subliminals. No, social media subliminals.

946
00:46:39,600 --> 00:46:45,759
Speaker 4: Do not socially subliminally talk shit. It's so dumb.

947
00:46:46,800 --> 00:46:47,680
Speaker 3: Oh my god.

948
00:46:48,000 --> 00:46:51,239
Speaker 4: The quotes, the quotes. First of all, everybody knows you're

949
00:46:51,239 --> 00:46:51,960
Speaker 4: going through something.

950
00:46:52,400 --> 00:46:57,479
Speaker 2: The Maya Angela quote, Oh my god, there's so many

951
00:46:57,520 --> 00:47:06,320
Speaker 2: good ones. Or the rap versus yeah, the rat verst captions, memes,

952
00:47:06,360 --> 00:47:06,919
Speaker 2: all of them.

953
00:47:07,480 --> 00:47:10,359
Speaker 3: Don't do it, don't give it a week or two.

954
00:47:11,000 --> 00:47:13,080
Speaker 2: Just calm down and then come back and think about it.

955
00:47:13,160 --> 00:47:16,960
Speaker 3: Right, yeah, because it's just it's so obvious.

956
00:47:17,560 --> 00:47:20,440
Speaker 4: Just text just tell them, Yeah, just pick up the

957
00:47:20,440 --> 00:47:22,879
Speaker 4: phone because type of bitch I am.

958
00:47:23,000 --> 00:47:26,520
Speaker 3: If you're going to say something, just call me because

959
00:47:26,560 --> 00:47:27,640
Speaker 3: that's what I'm going to do for you.

960
00:47:28,160 --> 00:47:31,200
Speaker 2: Have people put up people put up social subliminals.

961
00:47:31,560 --> 00:47:33,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah.

962
00:47:34,239 --> 00:47:35,839
Speaker 2: It's so stupid, so dumb.

963
00:47:36,719 --> 00:47:37,560
Speaker 3: Yeah for sure.

964
00:47:37,600 --> 00:47:39,640
Speaker 2: Have you ever put up a social media subliminal? Oh?

965
00:47:39,680 --> 00:47:42,160
Speaker 3: For sure? Definitely.

966
00:47:42,320 --> 00:47:46,920
Speaker 2: One hundred is also for me to tell myself stop

967
00:47:46,960 --> 00:47:49,839
Speaker 2: doing that ship bitch. That's don't be lame.

968
00:47:50,400 --> 00:47:54,000
Speaker 3: Have I No, I'm sure I have, ah for sure.

969
00:47:55,680 --> 00:47:57,719
Speaker 2: Also a lot of the social because I do post

970
00:47:57,719 --> 00:48:00,280
Speaker 2: a lot of quotes and stuff. They're really reminders.

971
00:47:59,800 --> 00:48:03,760
Speaker 3: To my right be better note to sell.

972
00:48:03,800 --> 00:48:10,279
Speaker 2: Reminders for myself. But those are the five to eight

973
00:48:12,080 --> 00:48:18,239
Speaker 2: ways to not be a psycho when dating. I hope

974
00:48:18,239 --> 00:48:20,719
Speaker 2: this resonates with you like it is with.

975
00:48:20,640 --> 00:48:23,960
Speaker 4: Me, because this was motivated by one of our advice

976
00:48:24,040 --> 00:48:25,120
Speaker 4: questions and our DMS.

977
00:48:25,200 --> 00:48:27,160
Speaker 3: Well, it wasn't motivated. This is just something all people

978
00:48:27,200 --> 00:48:27,600
Speaker 3: need to know.

979
00:48:28,120 --> 00:48:32,000
Speaker 4: But she said, how long should it take you to

980
00:48:32,080 --> 00:48:33,239
Speaker 4: get over an X?

981
00:48:34,239 --> 00:48:35,600
Speaker 3: We said, bitch, we don't know.

982
00:48:36,640 --> 00:48:39,719
Speaker 2: I read that it's double I half the time you

983
00:48:39,719 --> 00:48:42,520
Speaker 2: were together. So if you were together for someone for

984
00:48:42,520 --> 00:48:44,799
Speaker 2: four years, don take two years to get over that month.

985
00:48:45,600 --> 00:48:51,160
Speaker 2: It's math equation. Everybody knows. Everybody knows basically three point

986
00:48:51,200 --> 00:48:55,040
Speaker 2: five years to go. Well, no, it's almost been two years.

987
00:48:55,040 --> 00:48:58,120
Speaker 2: It would be two years in September. Crazy that it's

988
00:48:58,160 --> 00:49:00,760
Speaker 2: almost been two years. I was thinking about that, like, wow,

989
00:49:01,480 --> 00:49:04,400
Speaker 2: like two years have gone by to think about like

990
00:49:04,480 --> 00:49:07,239
Speaker 2: where I was two years ago to now. I mean

991
00:49:07,280 --> 00:49:11,560
Speaker 2: I'm still irritated, which so that maybe goes and falls

992
00:49:11,560 --> 00:49:13,200
Speaker 2: in line with this three and a half year thing.

993
00:49:13,320 --> 00:49:15,320
Speaker 2: Maybe I feel like in by three and a half,

994
00:49:15,440 --> 00:49:19,040
Speaker 2: like it'll be totally cool, cool, So maybe I feel

995
00:49:19,040 --> 00:49:21,319
Speaker 2: like that there is some truth in it. And it's

996
00:49:21,320 --> 00:49:23,160
Speaker 2: not even that I'm not over him.

997
00:49:23,360 --> 00:49:25,560
Speaker 3: It's like, wait, so you're on two years, not three

998
00:49:25,560 --> 00:49:25,839
Speaker 3: and a half.

999
00:49:25,840 --> 00:49:27,560
Speaker 2: I'm two and a half okay, So no I'm not.

1000
00:49:27,600 --> 00:49:30,640
Speaker 2: I'm almost two okay, And three and a half would

1001
00:49:30,640 --> 00:49:36,279
Speaker 2: be the amount of time divided divided by seven, right,

1002
00:49:36,440 --> 00:49:38,520
Speaker 2: yea two divided by seven Yeah, three and a half,

1003
00:49:38,680 --> 00:49:44,479
Speaker 2: got it. It's just crazy to think about how time

1004
00:49:44,600 --> 00:49:47,000
Speaker 2: passes in that way, how you're with someone for so

1005
00:49:47,160 --> 00:49:48,880
Speaker 2: long and then like it's over.

1006
00:49:49,239 --> 00:49:52,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's funny how we just have periods and chapters

1007
00:49:52,480 --> 00:49:55,880
Speaker 4: of our lives, of friendships, of states we've lived, just

1008
00:49:56,000 --> 00:49:59,080
Speaker 4: like when things were so normal, that was such a

1009
00:49:59,160 --> 00:50:01,520
Speaker 4: routine and and now you're here.

1010
00:50:02,320 --> 00:50:04,439
Speaker 2: You know. When I found that picture under my bed,

1011
00:50:04,680 --> 00:50:07,440
Speaker 2: I was cleaning out under my bed and I found

1012
00:50:07,440 --> 00:50:10,840
Speaker 2: this photo of me and my baby Daddy was like

1013
00:50:10,880 --> 00:50:12,839
Speaker 2: the first photo we ever took at the do over,

1014
00:50:14,360 --> 00:50:17,040
Speaker 2: like a thousand years ago, and I was looking at

1015
00:50:17,120 --> 00:50:19,560
Speaker 2: us and thinking about like how we felt about each

1016
00:50:19,600 --> 00:50:22,200
Speaker 2: other in that picture, you know, and it was the

1017
00:50:22,320 --> 00:50:26,799
Speaker 2: beginning of our relationship. Like everything, there was nothing between us.

1018
00:50:26,880 --> 00:50:30,719
Speaker 2: There was no history, there was no disappointment, there was

1019
00:50:30,760 --> 00:50:36,600
Speaker 2: no baby, there was no fucking all of it, you know,

1020
00:50:36,800 --> 00:50:40,359
Speaker 2: And I'm like, wow, something beautiful in that though, right,

1021
00:50:40,600 --> 00:50:43,920
Speaker 2: you know, to see the journey of like that picture

1022
00:50:44,120 --> 00:50:46,640
Speaker 2: till now. And it's not like it's a bad journey.

1023
00:50:46,680 --> 00:50:48,480
Speaker 2: It's just we're in a weird place. And I'm sure

1024
00:50:48,520 --> 00:50:50,880
Speaker 2: in like fifteen years, I'll think about this moment that

1025
00:50:50,880 --> 00:50:53,600
Speaker 2: we're in now and it'll be different then too, right.

1026
00:50:54,680 --> 00:50:58,360
Speaker 3: So it's just good always I'll be connected.

1027
00:50:58,560 --> 00:51:01,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, I have no choice of a kid exactly.

1028
00:51:07,880 --> 00:51:12,800
Speaker 4: All right, Well, that concludes our show for today, Happy

1029
00:51:12,880 --> 00:51:14,640
Speaker 4: hump Day, Happy hump day.

1030
00:51:15,000 --> 00:51:16,680
Speaker 3: Oh, happy masturbation month.

1031
00:51:17,320 --> 00:51:21,319
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, it's always masturbation month for me.

1032
00:51:22,520 --> 00:51:26,040
Speaker 3: We know. Little rabbit over.

1033
00:51:25,880 --> 00:51:28,200
Speaker 2: Here Chamila opened up my computer and saw the porn

1034
00:51:28,200 --> 00:51:30,520
Speaker 2: I was watching. But I wasn't actually watching that porn,

1035
00:51:30,640 --> 00:51:31,760
Speaker 2: and it was like really embarrassing.

1036
00:51:31,760 --> 00:51:33,520
Speaker 3: It was big booty white girl porn.

1037
00:51:36,200 --> 00:51:38,719
Speaker 2: I wasn't looking for that. I was looking What was

1038
00:51:38,719 --> 00:51:39,319
Speaker 2: I looking for?

1039
00:51:39,480 --> 00:51:42,879
Speaker 4: I was on gang Bros, Big booty white Girls.

1040
00:51:42,600 --> 00:51:43,240
Speaker 2: Bang Bros.

1041
00:51:43,719 --> 00:51:47,680
Speaker 3: Sorry what did I say? Gang Bro Bang Bros, Big

1042
00:51:47,719 --> 00:51:50,760
Speaker 3: booty white girls? Like, oh, is this the porn you search?

1043
00:51:51,080 --> 00:51:52,800
Speaker 3: Sometimes I do search that porn because.

1044
00:51:52,600 --> 00:51:55,600
Speaker 2: I like Alexis Texas and she but apparently she said

1045
00:51:55,600 --> 00:52:01,040
Speaker 2: some racist shit, so her now no Texas, Texas. And

1046
00:52:01,160 --> 00:52:04,120
Speaker 2: she used to live in my building downtown too. The

1047
00:52:04,120 --> 00:52:07,719
Speaker 2: porn stars are racist? Great, Yeah, she's big booty white

1048
00:52:07,719 --> 00:52:11,400
Speaker 2: girl that has sex with sometimes black guys. But I

1049
00:52:11,440 --> 00:52:12,839
Speaker 2: guess she doesn't well that's what it was. She doesn't

1050
00:52:12,880 --> 00:52:14,240
Speaker 2: like to have sex with black guys anymore.

1051
00:52:15,520 --> 00:52:16,200
Speaker 4: I don't know.

1052
00:52:17,480 --> 00:52:19,080
Speaker 3: Anyway, is that offensive?

1053
00:52:20,200 --> 00:52:23,920
Speaker 2: Should I share my like porn playlist with people? They'll

1054
00:52:23,880 --> 00:52:27,440
Speaker 2: be nice? You know. I subscribe to the newsletter that

1055
00:52:27,440 --> 00:52:28,120
Speaker 2: would be a gonna do.

1056
00:52:28,160 --> 00:52:30,600
Speaker 4: You should subscribe to the newsletter. We just we're doing

1057
00:52:30,640 --> 00:52:33,440
Speaker 4: some cool ship over there. Yeah, we're doing secret meetups,

1058
00:52:33,920 --> 00:52:35,279
Speaker 4: we're doing some keep in touch.

1059
00:52:35,480 --> 00:52:38,719
Speaker 3: We're spilling a lot of ship secretly, and.

1060
00:52:39,440 --> 00:52:43,239
Speaker 2: Yeah we are. We just, yeah, we have this newsletter

1061
00:52:43,320 --> 00:52:45,080
Speaker 2: that you know, you get to know us a little,

1062
00:52:45,120 --> 00:52:49,000
Speaker 2: even more intimately than maybe we reveal here on the pod.

1063
00:52:49,120 --> 00:52:52,520
Speaker 3: If you can imagine, Yeah, how much deeper can you go? Right?

1064
00:52:53,360 --> 00:52:58,520
Speaker 4: Okay, back to Lexix Texas not wanting the black guys anymore?

1065
00:52:59,280 --> 00:53:00,000
Speaker 2: Dude, that's racist.

1066
00:53:00,440 --> 00:53:02,160
Speaker 4: I have some friends, white friends who are like, I

1067
00:53:02,200 --> 00:53:04,280
Speaker 4: don't I don't do black guys, and I'm like, cool,

1068
00:53:04,960 --> 00:53:06,000
Speaker 4: it doesn't bother me.

1069
00:53:06,480 --> 00:53:09,120
Speaker 2: I go, I don't know. I think maybe it was because.

1070
00:53:08,880 --> 00:53:11,440
Speaker 7: It's porn, Like how dare you have a cutoff? Like

1071
00:53:11,560 --> 00:53:14,239
Speaker 7: how like I don't know, I don't, I don't know.

1072
00:53:14,760 --> 00:53:19,960
Speaker 7: I guess you're right, I mean, like why, like right,

1073
00:53:20,120 --> 00:53:22,719
Speaker 7: like why did she probably likes black people? She just

1074
00:53:22,800 --> 00:53:24,319
Speaker 7: might not don't want to fuck black guys?

1075
00:53:24,640 --> 00:53:29,200
Speaker 2: More power to me, more for me. Actually, I don't

1076
00:53:29,200 --> 00:53:32,160
Speaker 2: want to fuck an Well that's not true.

1077
00:53:33,160 --> 00:53:34,080
Speaker 3: You don't want to fuck anyone.

1078
00:53:34,120 --> 00:53:35,279
Speaker 2: I was saying. I don't know if I want to

1079
00:53:35,280 --> 00:53:38,160
Speaker 2: suck a porn star. But it's not it's not like

1080
00:53:38,280 --> 00:53:40,120
Speaker 2: in the car. It's like not on my radar.

1081
00:53:40,320 --> 00:53:45,080
Speaker 7: But you know, if it happened, maybe I've definitely fucked

1082
00:53:45,080 --> 00:53:45,600
Speaker 7: a porn star.

1083
00:53:45,640 --> 00:53:49,279
Speaker 3: I already said that, like twenty times. I'm very proud.

1084
00:53:49,960 --> 00:53:52,480
Speaker 3: There may be one or two others.

1085
00:53:52,719 --> 00:53:54,759
Speaker 2: Was it? Was it like porn? Was it like as

1086
00:53:54,800 --> 00:53:56,440
Speaker 2: good as was it one? Some of the best sex

1087
00:53:56,480 --> 00:53:57,000
Speaker 2: you've had? Yeah?

1088
00:53:57,080 --> 00:53:59,840
Speaker 6: For sure, he has gray sex. So he lived up

1089
00:53:59,840 --> 00:54:03,879
Speaker 6: to his expectation of the expectations because sometimes see porn stars,

1090
00:54:03,880 --> 00:54:05,560
Speaker 6: I'm like, I have no desire to have sex with you.

1091
00:54:05,560 --> 00:54:08,520
Speaker 6: You you do all that fucking and you still funck bad.

1092
00:54:08,600 --> 00:54:10,880
Speaker 4: No, he's really good. And I fucked him for a

1093
00:54:10,960 --> 00:54:14,920
Speaker 4: long time and it consistently was good. But he's not

1094
00:54:14,960 --> 00:54:18,080
Speaker 4: a good kisser. And exactly you.

1095
00:54:18,040 --> 00:54:20,120
Speaker 2: Never had to do that blast like the last thing

1096
00:54:20,160 --> 00:54:21,480
Speaker 2: on his agenda.

1097
00:54:21,640 --> 00:54:23,080
Speaker 3: But I made out with a porn star recently and

1098
00:54:23,080 --> 00:54:24,919
Speaker 3: it was nice you did? Yeah?

1099
00:54:25,239 --> 00:54:26,439
Speaker 2: Oh female or male?

1100
00:54:26,840 --> 00:54:32,319
Speaker 3: Male? Anyway, we are going to say one more thing,

1101
00:54:32,600 --> 00:54:37,480
Speaker 3: corn racism.

1102
00:54:37,480 --> 00:54:38,279
Speaker 2: Where was I going with?

1103
00:54:41,120 --> 00:54:41,880
Speaker 3: Slipped my mind?

1104
00:54:43,360 --> 00:54:46,880
Speaker 2: All right, well, we shall catch you next week, y'all.

1105
00:54:47,400 --> 00:54:59,600
Speaker 2: Have a good week, eddie us do that breathing every morning?

1106
00:55:00,200 --> 00:55:00,399
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1107
00:55:01,000 --> 00:55:12,160
Speaker 1: They call happy happy day. Baby, you call call hock call, can.

1108
00:55:13,880 --> 00:55:17,239
Speaker 2: You call call Happy happy day?

1109
00:55:21,120 --> 00:55:23,399
Speaker 5: Tell me do you think a man

1110
00:55:26,880 --> 00:55:27,640
Speaker 3: You as well