WEBVTT - How To Heal Your Inner Child Feat. Devi Brown 0:00:01.080 --> 0:00:03.600 What's up, you guys. Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. 0:00:03.920 --> 0:00:06.560 On this week's episode, we are joined by Debbie Brown, 0:00:06.640 --> 0:00:10.720 who is the Chief Impact Officer at Choprah. She's also 0:00:10.800 --> 0:00:16.200 a mama author an overall just amazing human. On this 0:00:16.239 --> 0:00:19.040 week's episode, you can expect to hear about healing your 0:00:19.040 --> 0:00:24.840 inner child, identifying trauma, why children need someone to blame, what. 0:00:24.960 --> 0:00:29.120 Man in history is to blame for the unempowered woman and. 0:00:29.080 --> 0:00:33.840 I get a little emotional talking about a personal inner 0:00:33.920 --> 0:00:38.159 child realization that just happened. So make sure you guys 0:00:38.240 --> 0:00:41.159 tune in. I hope you guys enjoyed this episode featuring 0:00:41.320 --> 0:01:04.600 Debbie Brown. Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm 0:01:04.720 --> 0:01:09.119 Erica and I'm Mila and it's the first week of April. 0:01:10.280 --> 0:01:11.920 Happy spring hot. 0:01:12.920 --> 0:01:14.759 I know y'all love when I sing, and nobody loves 0:01:14.800 --> 0:01:16.360 it when you say you love when you sing? Okay, 0:01:17.200 --> 0:01:20.000 you are don't You are fucking off key all the time. 0:01:20.160 --> 0:01:21.560 Don't get me started. 0:01:22.080 --> 0:01:25.760 See you guys, what I tell you, don't let me 0:01:25.800 --> 0:01:29.160 freestyle on my voice. Okay. 0:01:29.319 --> 0:01:34.160 So it's April, and you know we just are we're 0:01:34.200 --> 0:01:36.640 getting out of money March, which I hope you guys 0:01:36.720 --> 0:01:40.840 enjoyed last month because we had some amazing guests. I 0:01:40.880 --> 0:01:46.559 feel very much more empowered about my finances. I'm really 0:01:46.560 --> 0:01:49.440 excited because we are going to be joining Loose Warrior 0:01:50.600 --> 0:01:54.160 for her Wealth Rules Everything Around Me course starting on 0:01:54.240 --> 0:01:56.520 May first and second. I'm pretty sure it's already sold out, 0:01:56.960 --> 0:02:00.480 but we are. She is partnering with us US and 0:02:00.520 --> 0:02:03.600 giving four scholarships to four of our listeners to join 0:02:03.640 --> 0:02:06.720 that class, and it's going to be amazing. So if 0:02:06.760 --> 0:02:09.640 you want to learn more about finances and feel more empowered, 0:02:11.000 --> 0:02:13.440 first of all, follow Loose Warrior because she's the shit. 0:02:14.280 --> 0:02:17.080 And secondly, make sure you keep look out for her 0:02:17.120 --> 0:02:19.120 next course because I think she's going to do another round, 0:02:19.280 --> 0:02:22.920 and look out for that giveaway because you could be 0:02:23.200 --> 0:02:24.000 in class with us. 0:02:24.160 --> 0:02:27.000 We're students. We're students again. Yeah, I want to take 0:02:27.000 --> 0:02:29.600 a class. I know I have for like two years. 0:02:29.880 --> 0:02:32.480 I'm very excited to start here with my finances. I'm 0:02:32.480 --> 0:02:36.640 feeling very empowered this April. It's spring. It's time to 0:02:36.680 --> 0:02:39.840 birth some shit. Erica and I are birthing lots of shit, 0:02:40.080 --> 0:02:44.040 so amazing, so many things. So I'm feeling I'm feeling springy. 0:02:44.040 --> 0:02:46.520 I'm feeling ready to give birth to all of our 0:02:46.560 --> 0:02:49.600 things and run with it so I can chill by 0:02:49.600 --> 0:02:50.440 the pool in the summer. 0:02:50.480 --> 0:02:52.080 You're gonna get you on that yap, baby. 0:02:52.480 --> 0:02:54.640 We're getting on this fucking yacht if it's the last 0:02:54.639 --> 0:02:56.160 thing I do. Can't wait. 0:02:57.040 --> 0:02:59.160 Well, I'm really excited because this month, I you know, 0:02:59.280 --> 0:03:01.720 there's not necessarily a theme per se, but I do 0:03:01.919 --> 0:03:06.320 want to focus on wellness, tapping back into our wellness, 0:03:06.400 --> 0:03:08.239 checking in with ourselves. You know, at the beginning of 0:03:08.280 --> 0:03:10.920 the year, we talked a lot about manifestation, and we 0:03:11.000 --> 0:03:14.040 talked a lot about you know, just healing. And so 0:03:14.400 --> 0:03:18.120 I'm just really excited because we have a special guest 0:03:18.160 --> 0:03:20.800 here who I feel like is going to like help, 0:03:21.280 --> 0:03:23.799 you know, kickstart this month off really in a really 0:03:23.880 --> 0:03:27.280 amazing way. So Debbie Brown, welcome to the show. 0:03:27.639 --> 0:03:31.400 Thank you. I'm so happy to be here with you. Guys. Welcome. 0:03:32.520 --> 0:03:34.520 And if you guys don't know who Debve is, well 0:03:34.560 --> 0:03:36.480 you will by the end of this episode, and you 0:03:36.560 --> 0:03:41.200 should anyway. She is the chief Impact Officer at Chopra 0:03:41.680 --> 0:03:44.800 and she has her own podcast called Dropping Gems with 0:03:44.880 --> 0:03:47.960 Debbie Brown, which is amazing. Like I was listening to 0:03:48.000 --> 0:03:49.640 it on the car ride here and I was like, 0:03:49.920 --> 0:03:52.040 screen recording. Should I like to come back to this? 0:03:52.200 --> 0:03:55.880 I was like yes, like what so make sure you 0:03:55.960 --> 0:03:57.960 check that out. So, but welcome deVie, Thank you so 0:03:58.040 --> 0:03:58.960 much for joining us. 0:03:59.040 --> 0:04:02.320 Thank you big fan of you guys. Really happy to 0:04:02.400 --> 0:04:04.080 be here and talk about all of the things. 0:04:05.120 --> 0:04:07.440 So I know, DEBI from like a hundred years ago, 0:04:07.520 --> 0:04:10.000 not one hundred. We're still young, but so young prior 0:04:10.040 --> 0:04:16.160 to children I just infant prior to children's And it's 0:04:16.160 --> 0:04:18.760 been so cool to watch your journey. And I know 0:04:19.000 --> 0:04:20.720 we talked a little bit before the episode and you 0:04:20.760 --> 0:04:23.520 said kind of like you've always been kind of, you know, 0:04:23.680 --> 0:04:25.640 trying to tap in into this space, but you kind 0:04:25.640 --> 0:04:28.599 of didn't always feel like the space to do it, 0:04:28.680 --> 0:04:31.400 or like yeah you be judged or something. Yeah, can 0:04:31.400 --> 0:04:32.960 you tell our listeners a little bit about you? 0:04:33.400 --> 0:04:37.080 Yeah, so I mean speaking to that like that, I'll 0:04:37.120 --> 0:04:39.560 start there. You know, I think when I think about 0:04:40.080 --> 0:04:42.040 being a seeker and just kind of being on. 0:04:42.000 --> 0:04:44.520 This path, part of what lent itself to that. 0:04:44.600 --> 0:04:46.440 And I don't know if anyone will identify with this, 0:04:46.600 --> 0:04:48.960 but like I was the only child raised by a 0:04:49.000 --> 0:04:51.839 single mom, and I was a latchkey kid for many years, 0:04:51.839 --> 0:04:55.440 and like by nature of that, you go inside, you know, 0:04:55.600 --> 0:04:57.440 like I was my only playmate as a kid. 0:04:57.680 --> 0:04:59.359 You know what, I never thought about that. I was 0:04:59.400 --> 0:05:01.520 just I was only child till I was like thirteen. 0:05:01.800 --> 0:05:02.839 Yeah. Yeah. 0:05:02.960 --> 0:05:05.320 And so usually, especially if you have a single parent, 0:05:05.800 --> 0:05:07.960 it lends itself to kind of like a high level 0:05:07.960 --> 0:05:10.400 of maturity really young, and you're navigating with a lot 0:05:10.440 --> 0:05:13.719 of adult language, like adult understanding, even if you're not 0:05:13.800 --> 0:05:15.960 ready for it. So it kind of lends itself to 0:05:16.000 --> 0:05:21.000 like a lot of natural ability to be in self inquiry, 0:05:21.160 --> 0:05:24.880 which I think is the foundation of our spiritual journey. 0:05:25.000 --> 0:05:26.040 It's curiosity. 0:05:26.520 --> 0:05:28.480 That's how we get to change, that's how we get 0:05:28.480 --> 0:05:30.120 to grow, that's how we get to heal. We get 0:05:30.160 --> 0:05:34.280 really curious about ourselves or our situations or how our 0:05:34.320 --> 0:05:37.560 life is unfolded, and we start seeking out the things. 0:05:37.360 --> 0:05:38.320 That we feel called to. 0:05:39.320 --> 0:05:41.440 So that like to that extent, like I, you know, 0:05:41.440 --> 0:05:43.400 I would consider myself I was the kid that, like 0:05:44.160 --> 0:05:47.640 the teenager that had self help books didn't apply most 0:05:47.640 --> 0:05:47.800 of it. 0:05:47.880 --> 0:05:50.040 Wait were they chickens through to the teenage song are? 0:05:50.320 --> 0:05:52.600 Because that was it was. 0:05:52.560 --> 0:05:56.880 Like the seven highly effective, you know, traits of teens and. 0:05:57.200 --> 0:05:58.479 You were reading that as a teenager. 0:05:58.520 --> 0:06:01.719 Yeah, you're very mature. Wow I was cold. This whatetererever? 0:06:03.560 --> 0:06:04.000 That too? 0:06:04.080 --> 0:06:05.760 Shout out to duality. 0:06:06.080 --> 0:06:07.800 But no, you know I think, I mean it took 0:06:07.800 --> 0:06:10.240 me years to apply as I think is the thing, right, 0:06:10.320 --> 0:06:13.040 Like we get the tools, but it's like when we 0:06:13.080 --> 0:06:15.359 embody is just about our divine timing. 0:06:15.440 --> 0:06:18.080 So like, intellectually I had the tools. 0:06:18.120 --> 0:06:20.640 Didn't always use them, but then as I got older, 0:06:20.640 --> 0:06:23.000 they started sinking into my heart and started being like 0:06:23.000 --> 0:06:25.520 a way of being. But yeah, I started my career 0:06:25.680 --> 0:06:28.240 in entertainment. That's how we met in the entertainment world 0:06:28.760 --> 0:06:32.240 many moons ago, and I was a radio personality for 0:06:32.279 --> 0:06:34.600 a while, did some TV, mostly worked in hip hop 0:06:35.240 --> 0:06:38.520 for close to fifteen years, and it was amazing. 0:06:38.640 --> 0:06:41.440 It fed my curiosity in so many ways. I loved 0:06:41.480 --> 0:06:42.120 the music. 0:06:43.720 --> 0:06:47.359 But then you know, I really felt called to spend 0:06:48.360 --> 0:06:51.520 like my three D life more connected to what my 0:06:51.560 --> 0:06:54.080 five D life looked like. So like I wanted to 0:06:54.240 --> 0:06:58.640 make the world that I was in for my work 0:06:59.000 --> 0:07:02.520 on Earth to also be more representative about how I 0:07:02.560 --> 0:07:05.039 actually spent my private time and like what I actually 0:07:05.080 --> 0:07:05.760 thought about and. 0:07:05.720 --> 0:07:07.800 What I was actually interested in it. 0:07:07.800 --> 0:07:10.720 It got harder, like I don't even in this moment, 0:07:10.760 --> 0:07:12.160 like I don't watch television at all. 0:07:12.400 --> 0:07:13.120 I listened to. 0:07:13.040 --> 0:07:16.080 The same three songs over and over frequency music like 0:07:16.800 --> 0:07:19.800 so it was just harder to stay or to feel 0:07:19.840 --> 0:07:22.680 like I had to really be enthusiastic about things that 0:07:22.880 --> 0:07:26.160 didn't feel like they're of interest to me in that moment. 0:07:26.320 --> 0:07:27.960 So I took the leap. 0:07:28.480 --> 0:07:33.160 Almost almost five years ago, I started my business Karma Bliss, 0:07:33.240 --> 0:07:38.400 and then the wellness kind of revolution really started happening 0:07:38.440 --> 0:07:39.120 and deepening in. 0:07:39.440 --> 0:07:40.280 That time span. 0:07:40.400 --> 0:07:43.000 And now I take up space in a multitude of ways, 0:07:43.000 --> 0:07:45.680 but yeah, I just mostly underneath it all, I feel 0:07:45.680 --> 0:07:47.640 grateful for the opportunity. 0:07:47.040 --> 0:07:48.800 To lead a really curious life. 0:07:49.400 --> 0:07:51.400 That's amazing. And I know that you're a mother too, 0:07:51.480 --> 0:07:53.640 and you have a little boy, how well is same? 0:07:53.960 --> 0:07:56.920 He will be three in May, when like, what a 0:07:57.000 --> 0:07:57.960 lucky child. 0:07:58.280 --> 0:08:00.960 You've right to have a mom that's done so much work, 0:08:01.000 --> 0:08:03.520 you know, and like I think for me and Mila too, 0:08:03.640 --> 0:08:06.160 like we I think being a parent allows you this 0:08:06.280 --> 0:08:10.160 unique opportunity to kind of like do everything that do 0:08:10.240 --> 0:08:12.800 everything over like question the things that you grew up 0:08:12.840 --> 0:08:18.360 knowing and change that perspective for your child, give them 0:08:18.400 --> 0:08:21.800 like more space and more grace in so many ways, 0:08:21.840 --> 0:08:26.320 whether that's you know, and play time, you know, boys 0:08:26.320 --> 0:08:29.600 playing with Marbie's and not being judged, or like little 0:08:29.600 --> 0:08:35.120 girls wearing crop tops and not like you know, sexualizes, yeah, 0:08:35.280 --> 0:08:38.200 or mom smoking weed and it not being the end 0:08:38.240 --> 0:08:41.319 of the motherfucking world, or. 0:08:41.400 --> 0:08:43.560 Just giving your child the gift of like taking a 0:08:43.640 --> 0:08:47.760 time out, identifying your feelings and labeling your emotions and 0:08:47.840 --> 0:08:51.160 like where our parents are like, right, you're. 0:08:51.120 --> 0:08:55.840 Fine, You're okay, right, you are alive. So it's like, what 0:08:55.920 --> 0:08:56.559 a gift to be. 0:08:56.480 --> 0:08:58.400 Able to have a mom that's aware and is doing 0:08:58.400 --> 0:09:01.360 the work and then offer that because I think that's yeah, 0:09:01.400 --> 0:09:03.120 that has been a big part of our journey, like 0:09:03.600 --> 0:09:06.360 figuring ourselves out and then in turn and being like, 0:09:06.360 --> 0:09:09.240 oh shit, we have this huge responsibility to not only 0:09:09.240 --> 0:09:13.040 figure ourselves out, but figure it out as quickly as possible, 0:09:13.080 --> 0:09:15.520 because we are an example of someone else, yeah, who 0:09:15.559 --> 0:09:17.719 inevitably will have to be figuring it out in their 0:09:17.760 --> 0:09:20.440 thirties if we don't start doing the work now so 0:09:20.480 --> 0:09:21.800 they can start doing the work now. 0:09:22.160 --> 0:09:24.760 Oh my god, that yeah, and it's like, you know 0:09:24.800 --> 0:09:27.439 what feels so good being a parent and like parenting 0:09:28.120 --> 0:09:32.559 with such thoughtfulness and such consideration. It's like every time 0:09:32.640 --> 0:09:35.720 we extend that kind of grace and dignity and unconditional 0:09:35.800 --> 0:09:38.319 love to our kid, we're just feeding it right back 0:09:38.360 --> 0:09:42.079 to ourselves. It's instantly filling our own hearts and healing 0:09:42.120 --> 0:09:45.640 wounds from childhood or giving us permission to like expand 0:09:45.679 --> 0:09:48.160 into the fullest versions that we are right now. You know, 0:09:48.760 --> 0:09:53.920 it's wild. Like before I had a child, I legitimately 0:09:54.000 --> 0:09:56.360 used to think people over exaggerated about how much they 0:09:56.440 --> 0:09:57.599 love their kids. 0:09:57.720 --> 0:09:59.719 You know what I mean, Like, Okay, we got it. 0:10:00.200 --> 0:10:03.360 I got It'd be like that my kid is my 0:10:03.520 --> 0:10:05.600 world and I'd be like, I get it. 0:10:05.679 --> 0:10:07.079 You gave birth, it's a child. 0:10:07.400 --> 0:10:09.520 And now I'm like, oh my god, this is the 0:10:09.640 --> 0:10:14.920 deepest taking life right, it's the greatest hit my sacred child. 0:10:15.080 --> 0:10:19.320 Like obsessed with being a mother, I could cry at 0:10:19.320 --> 0:10:20.360 the drop of the dime. 0:10:20.480 --> 0:10:24.280 At the bat. Right now I'm literally free. 0:10:25.240 --> 0:10:26.760 She's frollicking in the sand. 0:10:28.000 --> 0:10:30.160 Yeah they're watering nothing. I know. 0:10:33.960 --> 0:10:35.960 And see, you know what was like the greatest gift 0:10:35.960 --> 0:10:38.400 for me and being a mom? I feel like it 0:10:38.559 --> 0:10:42.480 healed when you stay open to it. Because motherhood is 0:10:42.520 --> 0:10:45.360 also one of the most triggering experiences you'll ever have 0:10:45.440 --> 0:10:48.760 in your life. Like you feel judged by your child, 0:10:48.880 --> 0:10:50.520 like you know, like if your kid is mad at 0:10:50.520 --> 0:10:53.040 you or doesn't want kisses, it's me, what's wrong with me? 0:10:53.240 --> 0:10:55.640 You know, by yourself. You feel judged by yourself, judge 0:10:55.640 --> 0:10:58.760 by your own parents. Yes, the guilt, you know. It's like, 0:10:58.840 --> 0:11:01.439 oh God, everyone is running to check on you with 0:11:01.480 --> 0:11:03.600 your pregnant and then the second the baby is here, 0:11:03.679 --> 0:11:06.280 like my organs are still all over the place, like. 0:11:06.200 --> 0:11:08.560 Oh, you're doing it wrong, and you're still doing it wrong. 0:11:08.400 --> 0:11:10.360 And you're like, oh, but how's the baby. Why aren't 0:11:10.400 --> 0:11:12.400 you doing more for the baby? Where is she? 0:11:12.640 --> 0:11:15.400 You're ware and she's ware. Why aren't you together? 0:11:16.520 --> 0:11:19.720 It is so it's oh God, so many things. 0:11:19.960 --> 0:11:22.959 But to it's like, like, my child looks exactly like me, right, 0:11:23.080 --> 0:11:26.840 like my son. We have the exact same face, still. 0:11:26.720 --> 0:11:27.360 My whole face. 0:11:28.400 --> 0:11:32.079 And it's interesting because through loving him, especially as a newborn, 0:11:32.440 --> 0:11:34.920 I was able to love myself more deeply, Like it 0:11:35.080 --> 0:11:39.360 really brought forward for me all any any like dormant 0:11:39.720 --> 0:11:43.480 againstness I had for myself, any feelings of not being 0:11:43.480 --> 0:11:46.200 in full acceptance of myself bounced off him. It's like 0:11:46.240 --> 0:11:48.000 even the small things that we might see in our 0:11:48.000 --> 0:11:51.320 faces and be like, oh I don't like that about me, 0:11:51.760 --> 0:11:53.320 I see it in his face and I'm like, this 0:11:53.360 --> 0:11:55.880 is the most gorgeous thing I've ever seen. So I'm like, 0:11:56.000 --> 0:11:59.120 I need to be reflecting this same kind of energy 0:11:59.160 --> 0:12:02.319 back to myself. I have to love me the same 0:12:02.360 --> 0:12:03.400 way that I love him. 0:12:03.640 --> 0:12:06.600 Yeah, yeah, no, I love that. It's so true. It does. 0:12:07.480 --> 0:12:10.920 It does tap into those dormant parts of yourself like 0:12:11.160 --> 0:12:14.360 you are like maybe ignored or maybe you didn't even 0:12:14.400 --> 0:12:18.360 realize we're there, and you're like, oh shit, yeah, that's 0:12:18.679 --> 0:12:19.480 that's not healed. 0:12:20.360 --> 0:12:22.600 It also gives you the opportunity, Like I've said this before, 0:12:22.640 --> 0:12:25.960 but when you would do anything for your child, and 0:12:26.040 --> 0:12:28.600 you know, they mess up or they fall down, and 0:12:28.640 --> 0:12:31.400 you encourage them and you're there to their every every 0:12:31.679 --> 0:12:32.679 you know, back and call. 0:12:32.800 --> 0:12:35.160 And then it dawned on me like I have to 0:12:35.360 --> 0:12:37.800 have the mother myself. I have the mother. 0:12:37.880 --> 0:12:39.840 I have to attend to myself the way I attend 0:12:39.840 --> 0:12:41.760 to my child and like be as gracious and as 0:12:41.760 --> 0:12:44.080 gentle and like you're going to fall down and you're 0:12:44.120 --> 0:12:44.360 going to. 0:12:44.360 --> 0:12:45.680 Get back up, and that's okay. 0:12:45.720 --> 0:12:48.480 And I think it's easy to apply that to when 0:12:48.480 --> 0:12:51.240 you're mothering a child because we're just we're innately we 0:12:51.320 --> 0:12:55.360 know to do that hopefully, but we forget to do 0:12:55.400 --> 0:12:58.040 that for ourselves, and then we beat ourselves up so much, 0:12:58.120 --> 0:13:01.120 and it's like a lot of us are just children. 0:13:01.679 --> 0:13:03.520 I feel like I'm a child all the time. I'm like, 0:13:03.559 --> 0:13:08.160 who the fuck gave me? And human I'm scared. I'm like, 0:13:08.240 --> 0:13:12.880 oh no, just to eat. Yeah, she's six, and I'm still. 0:13:12.679 --> 0:13:13.480 Like, that's my daughter. 0:13:13.480 --> 0:13:16.840 I'm like, that's my daughter, that's my daughter, that's my daughter, 0:13:19.240 --> 0:13:20.439 and mother, that's my daughter. 0:13:21.480 --> 0:13:23.680 That sounds like us talking about boyfriends. 0:13:24.440 --> 0:13:27.360 Were like, I have a boyfriend. We have a boo boyfriend. 0:13:27.760 --> 0:13:28.720 We don't have boyfriends anymore. 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:31.720 But so that one time that we did, we got really. 0:13:31.559 --> 0:13:34.400 Strange time because that's how aligned we are. Got boyfriends 0:13:34.400 --> 0:13:35.800 at the same time, pretty much broke up at the 0:13:35.840 --> 0:13:38.320 same time. It was it was like we had to 0:13:38.360 --> 0:13:40.960 practice saying that. I feel like that sometimes with Ironman, 0:13:41.000 --> 0:13:42.600 I don't feel like I obviously know I've a child 0:13:42.640 --> 0:13:45.040 and she's mine, but sometimes I look at her and 0:13:45.080 --> 0:13:45.439 I'm like. 0:13:46.400 --> 0:13:49.559 How are we here? We're here, We're still here. 0:13:49.679 --> 0:13:50.080 We're good. 0:13:50.280 --> 0:13:53.320 I'm not a teenager, like what Yeah, And I think. 0:13:53.200 --> 0:13:55.640 About like my younger self, and I was so adamant 0:13:55.679 --> 0:13:58.520 about never having kids, like I was really like, I 0:13:58.559 --> 0:14:00.480 did not want kids at all. It's funny. I was 0:14:00.520 --> 0:14:02.640 having this conversation with my brother because he was judging 0:14:02.679 --> 0:14:06.080 my parenting and he was like, he was like, that's 0:14:06.120 --> 0:14:07.000 because you're two this and. 0:14:06.960 --> 0:14:09.840 That, but which brother, my twenty one year. 0:14:09.760 --> 0:14:12.760 Old Oh of course, of course, someone with no children, no, 0:14:12.880 --> 0:14:15.160 neither one of my brothers, no, right, no experience it. 0:14:15.360 --> 0:14:18.240 Yeah, And he was like he was talking it was 0:14:18.240 --> 0:14:20.560 her eating habits, because my daughter's eating habits. Oh my god, 0:14:20.600 --> 0:14:24.000 they're just very annoying. She's just very Eric is ashamed, 0:14:24.720 --> 0:14:28.360 very we're making tiny progress, okay. But she had turkey 0:14:28.920 --> 0:14:30.960 pasta the other day. No, it wasn't there, but she 0:14:31.080 --> 0:14:34.200 liked it and it was sated. But he was just like, 0:14:34.240 --> 0:14:35.800 you're you know, you're to this, you're to that. And 0:14:35.840 --> 0:14:39.440 I was like, one day, when you have kids, you'll understand, okay, 0:14:39.680 --> 0:14:41.080 And he was like, I'm not having kids. I was 0:14:41.120 --> 0:14:43.600 like and That's what I said, and he's like, no 0:14:43.760 --> 0:14:45.840 for real, and I was like, no, for real, That's 0:14:45.840 --> 0:14:49.120 what I said, Like with that Gusto behind it too, 0:14:49.320 --> 0:14:53.160 like hell no. And now having one obviously, I couldn't 0:14:53.160 --> 0:14:57.000 imagine not having one and just totally shifts so much 0:14:57.000 --> 0:14:58.960 in you and make sure you have to tap into yourself, 0:14:59.480 --> 0:15:01.280 and I I think that's what. I don't know if 0:15:01.280 --> 0:15:03.320 we wanted to do the taro or we can do 0:15:03.360 --> 0:15:04.760 it at the end, but I think this is a 0:15:04.800 --> 0:15:07.040 good segue into what I wanted to talk to you about, 0:15:07.440 --> 0:15:14.120 which was healing your inner child and how important it 0:15:14.160 --> 0:15:18.520 is and how it can be a lifelong journey. I 0:15:18.520 --> 0:15:20.720 don't know if there's just like this one switch that 0:15:20.800 --> 0:15:23.720 like just turns on and suddenly like all the traumas 0:15:23.880 --> 0:15:26.440 or all the things that you've encountered as a child, 0:15:26.520 --> 0:15:30.120 or just you know they're healed. But it's something that 0:15:30.160 --> 0:15:32.480 I think it's important to tap into and check in 0:15:32.560 --> 0:15:37.640 on often. And I was listening to your episode about 0:15:37.680 --> 0:15:41.520 meeting your inner child, and I was listening and I 0:15:41.560 --> 0:15:43.760 totally connected to when you were saying that, like you're 0:15:43.800 --> 0:15:47.080 the strong friend and that people lead on you, and 0:15:47.280 --> 0:15:51.120 you know, you started you started that, like valuing yourself 0:15:51.160 --> 0:15:52.440 by how much you could. 0:15:52.320 --> 0:15:55.120 Take much hurt you could take? Yeah, how much? 0:15:55.560 --> 0:15:58.760 And I was like, oh my god, like we do that. 0:15:59.200 --> 0:16:01.960 I mean, not just the strong friend, but like women 0:16:02.080 --> 0:16:04.240 women It's fine. 0:16:04.240 --> 0:16:08.600 I'm okay, you know what, Like you know what I 0:16:08.600 --> 0:16:10.080 think about all the time when it comes to that. 0:16:10.200 --> 0:16:12.680 It's like, who was the first man that hated women? 0:16:12.880 --> 0:16:15.880 And how did he train everyone else to take his ways? 0:16:16.200 --> 0:16:19.160 You know, It's like what was the shift? Because women 0:16:19.240 --> 0:16:21.800 were always at the forefront of society and the forefront 0:16:21.800 --> 0:16:22.440 of households. 0:16:22.480 --> 0:16:24.200 We were the healers, we were the leaders. 0:16:24.800 --> 0:16:28.440 And then at some point things shifted, and then all 0:16:28.480 --> 0:16:31.080 books were written with women in a diminished role or 0:16:31.160 --> 0:16:32.960 not mentioned at all, you know, and all of a 0:16:32.960 --> 0:16:34.440 sudden women became. 0:16:36.040 --> 0:16:36.520 Some research. 0:16:36.600 --> 0:16:42.760 There's gotta be a trail back to this nigga. Okay, okay, I. 0:16:42.080 --> 0:16:44.760 Broke this nigga's heart, and it's the world has never 0:16:44.800 --> 0:16:45.400 been the same. 0:16:46.640 --> 0:16:53.400 Oh my god, Facebook group, Alexander, who the fuck did it? 0:16:54.200 --> 0:16:54.360 Yo? 0:16:54.520 --> 0:16:56.720 I think about it all the time because like even 0:16:56.760 --> 0:16:58.760 in the little things, like I'm one of those people 0:16:58.800 --> 0:17:00.920 that will like have an idea and then be like 0:17:01.160 --> 0:17:03.360 so committed to it and go down all the rabbit holes. 0:17:03.760 --> 0:17:06.359 But it's like little things, right, like when even we 0:17:06.400 --> 0:17:09.680 think of, like in Christianity, how Mary Magdalene. 0:17:09.320 --> 0:17:09.840 Is referred to. 0:17:10.640 --> 0:17:14.760 We're supposed to believe that she was a prostitute. That 0:17:15.000 --> 0:17:18.080 was never written or mentioned. She was one of Christ's disciples, 0:17:18.480 --> 0:17:21.440 you know. And it's like the six in the six 0:17:21.560 --> 0:17:23.639 hundreds or the I think it was like the early 0:17:23.720 --> 0:17:27.359 sixteen hundreds, one of the popes was giving an address 0:17:27.720 --> 0:17:30.720 and put one line in it that referred to her 0:17:30.760 --> 0:17:34.760 as like a woman of the night. Unsubstantiated. It was 0:17:34.880 --> 0:17:37.720 never in recorded history that this was truth, and then 0:17:37.720 --> 0:17:40.200 the men of the world ran with it, and ever 0:17:40.280 --> 0:17:42.560 since that's been part of the belief system that that's 0:17:42.600 --> 0:17:45.480 who she was. It was like one guy started a 0:17:45.560 --> 0:17:47.600 rumor about a woman and then okay, well. 0:17:47.480 --> 0:17:50.160 We got that billions we found him t. 0:17:53.800 --> 0:17:54.080 Wow. 0:17:54.240 --> 0:17:55.680 Yeah, yeah, that's so interesting. 0:17:55.720 --> 0:17:58.199 But it's like we think about shocking Actually, yeah, I 0:17:58.200 --> 0:17:59.840 think there's a rid of a lot of evil. Is 0:18:00.000 --> 0:18:02.320 the root of a hurt man? Oh my gosh, there's 0:18:02.320 --> 0:18:03.680 a lot of evil letics. 0:18:03.600 --> 0:18:06.960 And then we all get saddled with this this idea 0:18:07.080 --> 0:18:10.800 of martyrdom being the basis of our value system, you know. 0:18:10.880 --> 0:18:12.600 And it's like martyrdom. 0:18:12.280 --> 0:18:16.720 Is always self sacrificing, it's never allowing help, it's taking 0:18:16.840 --> 0:18:19.879 pride in all of the ways in which you are, 0:18:20.119 --> 0:18:25.200 you know, considered really considered just a tool and service 0:18:25.240 --> 0:18:28.080 to everyone else, you know. And it's like that somehow 0:18:28.119 --> 0:18:32.040 became the fabric of what the family structure in this 0:18:32.080 --> 0:18:34.479 country was supposed to look like, what women were supposed 0:18:34.480 --> 0:18:38.120 to look like. And it's like, nah, nah, not no more. 0:18:38.880 --> 0:18:41.159 I'm not taking on any of that mess. Like my 0:18:41.400 --> 0:18:43.240 love for myself comes first. 0:18:44.560 --> 0:18:47.359 Yes, No, I totally agree. And I do feel like 0:18:47.400 --> 0:18:51.080 there's like, I mean, I feel like throughout history there 0:18:51.080 --> 0:18:53.920 have been times where women there's been like this renaissance happening, 0:18:54.040 --> 0:18:56.160 right and I feel like right now there's a black 0:18:56.200 --> 0:18:59.920 renaissance happening. There's also like a renaissance of like female 0:19:00.240 --> 0:19:03.280 energy coming together and feeling more empowered and being able 0:19:03.320 --> 0:19:06.800 to say no, I don't believe that history, actually, sir, 0:19:06.920 --> 0:19:10.280 I don't. That doesn't sound about I'm good. 0:19:10.400 --> 0:19:11.280 That doesn't work for me. 0:19:12.560 --> 0:19:14.720 It's very off brand for me about Pope the sixth 0:19:14.800 --> 0:19:16.760 to me, don't do. 0:19:16.840 --> 0:19:18.159 Some researching it back to you. 0:19:19.600 --> 0:19:25.720 Oh my goodness, it's true. It's true. I've been talking 0:19:25.760 --> 0:19:27.680 to this guy who's like has a lot of rules, 0:19:28.560 --> 0:19:32.040 and recently he was trying to like really really justify 0:19:32.160 --> 0:19:37.320 why he should be able to like have a main 0:19:37.440 --> 0:19:41.919 woman and a wife and like also have concubines and 0:19:42.000 --> 0:19:44.560 like women on the side, but like but his wife 0:19:44.600 --> 0:19:47.760