Speaker 1: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who
Speaker 1: talk back. What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in
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Speaker 1: dedicated to you, niggas and thees hosl Hey girl, Hey girl,
Speaker 1: how y'all doing this? Me official Tim Bam once again.
Speaker 1: I love y'all. I love y'all so much. Thank y'all
Speaker 1: for coming back. We love you. AJ don't tell y'all,
Speaker 1: but she loves y'all too. I do be loving people. Listen,
Speaker 1: I but people disappoint you, you know, so I'll be
Speaker 1: like to tell people how I really feel about them.
Speaker 1: And he started doing some ship you like, It's like,
Speaker 1: now I gotta kill you. I never loved you anyway.
Speaker 1: How's your weekend? It's cool, girl. I um, I did
Speaker 1: like a little staycation with my friends and family at
Speaker 1: Kiawa Islands. You know, you know Charleston got like nice
Speaker 1: little elite islands around here with a white people be
Speaker 1: dumped off at driving Bentley's and ship. Yeah, that's what
Speaker 1: I was doing. Was very nice. And the wear a
Speaker 1: part about it. Here's here's the wear part. They actually
Speaker 1: import niggas from someplace else. To work on the island.
Speaker 1: Everybody on people from everybody was from Jamaica. They come
Speaker 1: on some type of work permit for seasonal hospitality work
Speaker 1: and they impoured them all over the world. Essentially, I
Speaker 1: bet you they I bet you they paid the cheaper
Speaker 1: than somebody from it. So that's what I was asking
Speaker 1: because Schaulston is expensive, especially the area I live in
Speaker 1: West Ashley, Like a one bedroom was almost two thousand
Speaker 1: dollars now a month. They are paying for their housing
Speaker 1: in the West Ashley for them to work, and they
Speaker 1: bust them to the island. Interesting, huh. I mean, if y'all,
Speaker 1: I guess they want like the Caribbean field, but we
Speaker 1: GEECHI I guess they don't want the ratchet that comes
Speaker 1: along with I boxed you. So they just import these
Speaker 1: people who you know, they grew up in hospitality because
Speaker 1: that's all like the that's the major industry in most
Speaker 1: of those Caribbean islands. But I feel like that is
Speaker 1: so wicked and I'm not done with it. That is,
Speaker 1: I'm not done with it at all. Do some research
Speaker 1: on the like, I try to see how the funk
Speaker 1: you can make money off them too. Sorry y'all, No no, no,
Speaker 1: we're gonna talk about this. A j Hand posted a
Speaker 1: bathing suit pick to her close friends, and you look
Speaker 1: so good? Why are you doing posted for everybody to see?
Speaker 1: Everybody need to see how good you look. I'm like
Speaker 1: one hole not to hole. Okay, I don't be wanting
Speaker 1: like that's not my image. Though I wanted like people
Speaker 1: to give me like the ooze and the odds and like, girl,
Speaker 1: you look good. I wanted that. Okay, That's obviously why
Speaker 1: I postal type of pictures. But I don't need that
Speaker 1: from everybody, just the people I funk with. That's it.
Speaker 1: Girl post I don't know, maybe maybe not. We'll see
Speaker 1: I screenshot. I'm gonna posted on your next birthday? What
Speaker 1: the hell you did? Worry about it? I really didn't
Speaker 1: do much of anything. Um. It was my cousin Aaron's birthday.
Speaker 1: She had a little brunch on Sunday, so I went
Speaker 1: to that. They all went out, but I did not
Speaker 1: go out. I've just been spending my time. I've been
Speaker 1: running every day. I've been running every day the past
Speaker 1: ten days straight. I've been doing at least four or
Speaker 1: five minutes to an hour. So my hair has been
Speaker 1: sleeped back in the ponytail. And I ain't been trying
Speaker 1: to drink her club or nothing. I'm just trying to
Speaker 1: get physically. It's this bitch on Instagram and I don't
Speaker 1: know her pictures, Like she has a body type like mine,
Speaker 1: and she's been working out for a year and she
Speaker 1: looked Jessica. She just sculp girl good. I got her
Speaker 1: screenshot and I got the phone I saw. I was like,
Speaker 1: motivated me right there. That's fact same, I said. But
Speaker 1: I got no titties like that, but everything it's me. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so she's that motivated me. I've been like in there
Speaker 1: running every day because I'm just starting with cardio. But
Speaker 1: once I'm going to Jamaica next week. Uh so after
Speaker 1: I get back, that's when I'm going to start incorporating
Speaker 1: a weight training. Girl. I definitely she I don't know
Speaker 1: how she came across my timeline. I definitely followed that
Speaker 1: ass and screenshot that got there picture like you cannot
Speaker 1: be walking around here that fine, and I'm not like
Speaker 1: That's how I felt too. So it's been running every
Speaker 1: two straight. Yeah, she was amazing. Let's get into the
Speaker 1: stupid internet news. What happened this uh past weekendes. Did
Speaker 1: y'all watch the VMAs? Okay, I did see some of this.
Speaker 1: Solizza was addressing h airy spirits because you know, he
Speaker 1: tried to come for her on Instagram talk about how
Speaker 1: she looked like the ship emoji. Just terrible. Yeah, like
Speaker 1: you're not even funny, Like I mean, he has been funny.
Speaker 1: I've remember remember him from Mad TV and like different
Speaker 1: programs that he did, and he has been funny. But
Speaker 1: that just wasn't. It was tasteless. It wasn't. It didn't
Speaker 1: make nobody laugh. It just made people angry and just
Speaker 1: some random hate. Even um Mike Epps came for his
Speaker 1: ass right quick. And the thing is that I wanted
Speaker 1: to talk about this story in particular because when men,
Speaker 1: men talk about women like were so shallow dog. When
Speaker 1: it comes to aesthetics, men are way more visual. Men
Speaker 1: are way more shallow because imagine a man that looks
Speaker 1: like him, regardless of what. If Lizza is big, she's
Speaker 1: a big, pretty ass girl, and I bet I bet
Speaker 1: you she smells nice as well. Okay, she's just really fluffy,
Speaker 1: But imagine you look like Mike Gap says, he looks sick.
Speaker 1: I believe because the pictures how he looks on the
Speaker 1: social media. So imagine you talking crazy about Liz. I
Speaker 1: didn't like that ship based off apperience and men do
Speaker 1: that just like me. Did you ever see that skit
Speaker 1: that Drew Ski did that one time he would like
Speaker 1: he had a dirty thing my girl, my girl, can't
Speaker 1: that girl gotta always keep rnning that. Meanwhile, you got
Speaker 1: dirty fingingails. Just all this nasty ship that men be
Speaker 1: haven't going on. And y'all just think that women just
Speaker 1: have to be like this perfect like even if you
Speaker 1: were too, you still think you would deserve a tin
Speaker 1: type men Like that's how guys be, and I don't
Speaker 1: like it. Yeah, I'm not here for that. You'll need
Speaker 1: to low y'all standards a little bit. You'll need to
Speaker 1: y'all need to recognize your hollow level. Men don't know
Speaker 1: that hollow level. Right. Oh that New Jersey art teacher, Uh,
Speaker 1: she responded to, if y'all have been paying attention, Uh,
Speaker 1: there's a teacher in New York and it looks like
Speaker 1: she may have had somebody work done. I don't know,
Speaker 1: but she's super curvy and they were calling for her
Speaker 1: to be fired over her body and she's saying that
Speaker 1: most of the people who are hating on her about
Speaker 1: her body and wanting her to be fired are not women.
Speaker 1: It's men, which was surprising to me because I just
Speaker 1: thought it might have been a lot of hating as
Speaker 1: bitches like jealous, yeah, or just you know, I don't
Speaker 1: but as men, she says, it's more men women are
Speaker 1: supporting her. But as long as you're a good educator
Speaker 1: and good with the children, I don't care what your
Speaker 1: body if you are teaching these kids and raising them
Speaker 1: up and help them raise good productive citizens, I don't
Speaker 1: care what your body looks. And I guess you know,
Speaker 1: we've always had this like perception of what teachers look like,
Speaker 1: and what doctors look like, and what lawyers look like.
Speaker 1: You know, so she doesn't have like the standard body type,
Speaker 1: or maybe she doesn't even wear like the the clothes
Speaker 1: that that you would think a teacher would wear. I
Speaker 1: don't know what teachers look like nowadays. I know they
Speaker 1: look younger than before, like you know, probably like we
Speaker 1: were when we were in school, Like the teachers now
Speaker 1: and look younger. But should you a dress um according
Speaker 1: to the profession I believe so, yes. So you got
Speaker 1: that big ass dunk. Maybe you shouldn't wear jackets to class,
Speaker 1: you know, but it doesn't look like she's wearing that
Speaker 1: stuff from the pictures I saw her. She wore like
Speaker 1: stuff that any teacher would wear. She just happens to
Speaker 1: curves in it. Can't you can't handle you can't. You
Speaker 1: can't not feel like Black women we've always gotten that
Speaker 1: type of heat like we can, especially even just going
Speaker 1: to school. Do you remember being in school and like
Speaker 1: being critiqued on what you had? You can have the
Speaker 1: same exact thing on that a white girl has on
Speaker 1: it because your body looks different than it. It's a problem,
Speaker 1: but it's not a problem with the child, because I'm
Speaker 1: a child in high school. Right. You're a grown adult
Speaker 1: male or a doubt adult woman looking at me in
Speaker 1: a sexual way. That don't have nothing to do with me,
Speaker 1: because why are you sexualizing my body in that way? So,
Speaker 1: but it's weird to me to think that it's it's
Speaker 1: men that are coming for her and not the women.
Speaker 1: I don't know, Yeah, I would think it would be
Speaker 1: the woman, the women, because remember it was that to
Speaker 1: remember that news host, she was the black girl as well,
Speaker 1: very cute, and it was the white women that was
Speaker 1: coming for her. They wanted, they didn't want the husband's
Speaker 1: watching her ass on TV no more. She's very beautiful,
Speaker 1: nice body. There was like Funk the Weather because I
Speaker 1: think she was like the weather girl that you won't
Speaker 1: need to know if it's raining or not right, but
Speaker 1: you'll see if it's raining tomorrow when you go outside.
Speaker 1: All right, tam, So listen you with your man, right,
Speaker 1: y'all religiously played a lottery together. You love him, at
Speaker 1: least you think you love him until you finally hit
Speaker 1: the lottery first, say, I don't know four point two
Speaker 1: million dollars? What are you doing? What I'm doing, I'm getting,
Speaker 1: I'm getting. It appends. If I love him like that
Speaker 1: like that, I'm keeping him. If I don't, he was
Speaker 1: just helping me. To my eye, it's up, bitch, I
Speaker 1: might throw him a little pee, right. So, like the
Speaker 1: story comes from Hollywood Unlocked. So apparently this woman. I
Speaker 1: think they might be European um because it says she
Speaker 1: won three point six million dollars, which is the equivalent
Speaker 1: of four point two million US dollars, But apparently um yep, Nottingham, England.
Speaker 1: She dumped her boyfriend at four years and cleaning winnings
Speaker 1: for herself. So she's forty, he's thirty nine, and were
Speaker 1: living together. Supposedly there was a thing where she's not
Speaker 1: supposed she doesn't have to pay bills just to play
Speaker 1: the lottery, and he would cover all the bills, and
Speaker 1: then once she won the money, she like dipped out
Speaker 1: on his ass. I don't know how to trate it is.
Speaker 1: Doesn't make sense to me. She should have got it
Speaker 1: in right. He should have got it in right. You know.
Speaker 1: Ain't that you can do now? Baby, If she was
Speaker 1: a decent person, she would give him a definitely. You know.
Speaker 1: It's just certain people I want to see happy in
Speaker 1: ball out with. I don't want to just have all
Speaker 1: the money by myself, so like, especially if I'm with
Speaker 1: somebody I love. Like Man, we're about to ask stupid
Speaker 1: out here. Okay, she don't like him, listen, right, she's
Speaker 1: just dealing with him, and she probably didn't think she
Speaker 1: would ever really win. Yep, and now she up. As
Speaker 1: soon as I hit the lottery, I'm going to find
Speaker 1: Jonathan Major's asks. I'm going to whatever city here, and
Speaker 1: I'm girl, if you don't stop talking about my boyfriend,
Speaker 1: what is your problem. You wanna fight, girl? You wanna
Speaker 1: you wanna? I told you if I want to fight,
Speaker 1: I tell you I've been running. I've got nothing to
Speaker 1: do with it. What what the what the what the
Speaker 1: has dude? I'm getting stronger, That's all I'm saying. That
Speaker 1: girl the next listen, don't talk about my man on
Speaker 1: this show and the girl every bit. Listen. If we
Speaker 1: were ever in the room with Jonathan Major's together, I
Speaker 1: might tell him you have heard yo. You never handled
Speaker 1: a bitch like that. Now you can have him dog Listen,
Speaker 1: you know what, you can have him. Ain't about to lie, Jonathan.
Speaker 1: Don't talk to her, Jonathan, don't talk to her. She
Speaker 1: has her piece. I never about to hate on the
Speaker 1: bench to get the nigger. Now, look, you got him
Speaker 1: because you you're willing to go too low. I'm like kiddy,
Speaker 1: I ain't but Chelle Obama, when you go low, I
Speaker 1: go low with your ass obviously going to hell where
Speaker 1: somebody go low. I don't even went low. I just
Speaker 1: said this is my man, and you just went low.
Speaker 1: Like what if he be like me to, I'll be like,
Speaker 1: well then, y'all I match made and haven't gonna hand
Speaker 1: over there stupid. All right, y'all, But then I would
Speaker 1: come to you and be like, bitch, don't do that,
Speaker 1: you stupid. I always set you up to getting those
Speaker 1: sickness for me. Thank you, friend. Y'all, we're talking. We're
Speaker 1: talking erectile dysfunction today. Okay, we're talking about penis is today.
Speaker 1: We're trying to help the community today. So y'all tune in.
Speaker 1: We'll be right back. All right, y'all. Listen, we have
Speaker 1: a very special guest on we talked back today. Listen.
Speaker 1: She is a board certified urologist. Okay, so, a couple
Speaker 1: of weeks ago, I was just thinking about different uh
Speaker 1: topics TAM and I could possibly talk about, and I
Speaker 1: thought about erectile dysfunction after a conversation, after a conversation
Speaker 1: with some men on clubhouse a couple of weeks ago, child,
Speaker 1: so listen, I found um Dr Finnwall mill House. She
Speaker 1: is again a board certifide eurologists. Tell us a little
Speaker 1: bit about yourself, ms uh or excuse me, Dr Millhouse
Speaker 1: Sorry sorry? Um. Yeah, So my name is Dr Fenwell Millhouse.
Speaker 1: I am a board certified urologist, which means I am
Speaker 1: a surgical specialist. We are surgeons, UM, but we specialize
Speaker 1: in the urinary tract and male reproductive system. UM. I
Speaker 1: am also fellowship trained in female pelvic medicine reconstructive surgery.
Speaker 1: What the heck is that? Well, that means that I'm
Speaker 1: I also do a lot of things that you would
Speaker 1: consider euro kind of coologist to do. So these are
Speaker 1: UM treating pelvic floor problems and uh urinary leakage and
Speaker 1: issues that primarily affect volvos or women. So I UM
Speaker 1: an x an exper in treating men and their private
Speaker 1: parts and women and their private parts UM, and I
Speaker 1: have been in practice for over seven years UM in
Speaker 1: a very large private practice as the go to public
Speaker 1: floor surgeons. So nice. Wow, that's dope. So you deal
Speaker 1: with dick's and pussies all day long? Yes I do.
Speaker 1: I love that. Please be normal? Okay, thank you. I
Speaker 1: want to know. I don't have no man yet, but
Speaker 1: when I get him, how can I make sure his
Speaker 1: dick stay hard forever forever? Okay? Yeah, I want to
Speaker 1: know definitely. So UM, this is great. This is a
Speaker 1: good question, and probably all men are wondering this too,
Speaker 1: are wanting this. So the most important thing is he's
Speaker 1: not to be healthy. Okay, so he has to live
Speaker 1: a healthy lifestyle. Was good for the heart is good
Speaker 1: for the dick. Okay, period point blank. Uh. If he's
Speaker 1: a smoker, no, now I can't do and I'm and okay,
Speaker 1: whenever I say smoke or people are like, well does
Speaker 1: we count? Okay, I'm talking clarify. Let me clarify. So
Speaker 1: we're talking about tobacco. You so not even just smoking
Speaker 1: to back tobacco that is like that that you're killing
Speaker 1: your dick. Okay, yep, yep. Marijuana you know, probably does
Speaker 1: not have at all the same risk as tobacco when
Speaker 1: it comes to blood flow. It might decrease libido and
Speaker 1: sperm count, but the actual mechanics probably are still going
Speaker 1: to be in working order. But a drug use in general,
Speaker 1: like illicit drug use, can tend to get in the
Speaker 1: way of erections. Also, it he's an excessive drinker, you
Speaker 1: want to roll that back. That whiskey dick is very real. Um,
Speaker 1: you drink too much. First of all, if you drink
Speaker 1: way too much, it's not cute, it's not sexy. Um,
Speaker 1: And so we aren't going to get moist. But then
Speaker 1: also the dick isn't gonna get as hard because the
Speaker 1: brain like can initiate that like proper stimuli to initiate
Speaker 1: the blood flow. UM. Exercise is fabulous for blood circulation. Goes.
Speaker 1: Make him see a doctor every year, sisters, Okay, make
Speaker 1: him go see a doctor every year. I don't care
Speaker 1: how buff, how well he in shape, he feels, how
Speaker 1: great he feels. That's why you see a doctor to
Speaker 1: make sure you're in good working order. UM. So many
Speaker 1: of our brothers have undiagnosed high blood pressure, high cholesterol. UM.
Speaker 1: I mean, I hate tesmans example, but Kevin Samuel's too
Speaker 1: young to just die croak over UM and so and
Speaker 1: I don't know if he was seeing a doctor or not.
Speaker 1: I don't know those details, but I you know it's
Speaker 1: UM are too often our young men, and I consider
Speaker 1: him young again, UM are losing their dick or losing
Speaker 1: their life to just not taking care of themselves. Those
Speaker 1: are the big things. So what we're talking about today,
Speaker 1: y'all is erectile dysfunction mainly. Okay. So I was having
Speaker 1: a conversation with a well, actually I wasn't having a conversation.
Speaker 1: I was listening to a bunch of guys talk crazy
Speaker 1: about women, Black women, in particular, and how we are
Speaker 1: diets and how we are the highest and diabetes and
Speaker 1: hyperprestion all these things that they too are you know,
Speaker 1: ranked the highest, and but for whatever reason, they don't
Speaker 1: think that, right. So I was real silent and I
Speaker 1: just came in with all the erectile dysfunction statistics. So
Speaker 1: why you're talking about women. Let's talk about those dicks
Speaker 1: for a minute, okay, and how they really don't work,
Speaker 1: and how you spend your whole life running through women
Speaker 1: and then you finally at this woman to settle down
Speaker 1: with and you want to give her the worst dick
Speaker 1: of her life for the rest of her life. That
Speaker 1: sounds real. That's what it is. Damn and damn we
Speaker 1: talk about him. We do talk about men settling down
Speaker 1: in that pendole, right, no more? Yeah, and it's not
Speaker 1: more for your wife and then stop running. Yeah, we
Speaker 1: don't want the leftovers. So how is dy usually diagnosed? Well,
Speaker 1: it's diagnosed because it is embarrassed, is you know, concerned?
Speaker 1: Mean when I will tell you this, when the penis
Speaker 1: isn't working, the men will then go see the doctor.
Speaker 1: So that's usually how they get to see the doctors. Like, Okay,
Speaker 1: we have a problem, let's fix it. And no matter
Speaker 1: how young or how old. I mean, I've had men
Speaker 1: in their nineties come in and be like, hey, I
Speaker 1: can't an erection. What we're gonna do? And I'm I'm
Speaker 1: happy I'm not an ageist, Like cool, great, awesome, I
Speaker 1: do who you're having sex with. No, I'm not having
Speaker 1: sex with anybody, but I just need this to work
Speaker 1: for me. Like they don't even have to have a
Speaker 1: partner or plans to have sex in the near future.
Speaker 1: They just want to make sure you don't want to
Speaker 1: see that. So they they come to us like it's
Speaker 1: not something we have to go dragging. And so usually
Speaker 1: it um starts off with the loss of morning erections.
Speaker 1: That morning would you don't notice it? And actually morning
Speaker 1: wood is just one event. You actually get erection throughout
Speaker 1: the night if you have a healthy penis. But again,
Speaker 1: a rectile is function usually starts off with I'm not
Speaker 1: waking up hard anymore, um, and then you know you don't,
Speaker 1: you don't last as long, and then maybe it's harder
Speaker 1: to get up. Um. So yeah, all right, yeah, and
Speaker 1: like what what what type of treatment? All right, So
Speaker 1: let's say I get this man we in love and
Speaker 1: then all of a sudden, God, please, but what kind
Speaker 1: of treatment? What would he need to seek? Like then
Speaker 1: after we discover that he does have like an issue
Speaker 1: aside from that's I was going to ask about their
Speaker 1: next So first of all, we should ease up, like
Speaker 1: if this, if this, want don't go rushing him to
Speaker 1: the doctor after like the first time, like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: you know, maybe we're coming straight to you dot the
Speaker 1: millhouse soon, do they dick don't work right? We run
Speaker 1: into We're coming straight to your office. Girl. I don't
Speaker 1: know what you're talking about, because it just might be
Speaker 1: a bad night again. Might not have too much to drink.
Speaker 1: You might be he might just be like, I'm not
Speaker 1: feeling her right now. You know, she's nagging me all day.
Speaker 1: I don't but you know, I don't, you know, So
Speaker 1: you know, we'll give one pass at least. But if
Speaker 1: it seems to be a pattern, obviously, absolutely start early
Speaker 1: to get to get attention. UM so certain treatment. So
Speaker 1: regardless of the type, most of the time the treatments
Speaker 1: are similar UM or regardless of the cause, I should say,
Speaker 1: of erectile dysfunction, UM, the treatment is basically about the
Speaker 1: same um. And one we screen for, like you know,
Speaker 1: just behavioral or psychologic issues. There's something called psychogenic or
Speaker 1: psychological erectile dysfunction. And that's when the mechanics work just fine.
Speaker 1: It's just there's mental, social, whatever psychologic issues that are
Speaker 1: blocking it. Yeah, you're depressed, your relationship being good, you
Speaker 1: have body image issues. Men can have body image issues. You, Um,
Speaker 1: you know, other things are happening, You're you're you have
Speaker 1: other you know, medical problems that are weighing you down.
Speaker 1: You're stressed, You're you know, stressed at work or whatever
Speaker 1: the case may be. So those things, um, we try
Speaker 1: to weed, try to weed for in the biggest way
Speaker 1: to distinguishes those men usually will have morning wood, right,
Speaker 1: because that's they can't control all that. So that's a
Speaker 1: good sign of a healthy penis. Oh they got morning
Speaker 1: would okay, great, but you just can't get it up
Speaker 1: in the bed, then you probably need a you know,
Speaker 1: to see a therapist, psychiatrists, those type of stuff. Um.
Speaker 1: But assuming it's not that, then it's you know, talking
Speaker 1: about all the lifestyle changes that I went through. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's when I'm having a heart to heart with these
Speaker 1: men and saying Okay, do you exercise, do you what
Speaker 1: do you eat? Have you been to the doctor in
Speaker 1: the last ten five, ten to last year? Um? Do
Speaker 1: you have diabetes? Do you you have diabetes is in control?
Speaker 1: Do you smoke? Do you use drugs? Um? And then
Speaker 1: we start with pills. So the pills, and these aren't
Speaker 1: the gas station crap that honey honeycomb stuff, rhino, you
Speaker 1: don't know what, you don't know what you're taken. Um.
Speaker 1: But yeah, these are like prescription medicines that we use
Speaker 1: that are now actually very affordable, very affordable now. Um,
Speaker 1: you don't got to spend a mint to get you
Speaker 1: the blue pill or the viagor or the sea alice. UM.
Speaker 1: And so those pills are given now. The pills, it
Speaker 1: kind of take some of the spontaneity out of it
Speaker 1: because you gotta plan and take it about an hour
Speaker 1: prior to sex. But you know it can work. Wonders
Speaker 1: are they dangerous because I'd have seen some cases stories
Speaker 1: where you know, the direction never went down, they had
Speaker 1: to go to the hospital and get their penis exploded.
Speaker 1: And my dad had something like that that kind of
Speaker 1: happened to my dad before. He like bust a blood
Speaker 1: vessel and his penis and look, I'm this is a
Speaker 1: very long time ago. And he was like, um, he
Speaker 1: told me he couldn't come. He was supposed to come
Speaker 1: to me to help me go find a car, right,
Speaker 1: and it didn't show up? Something like what happened? He
Speaker 1: was like, I strained myself. So we continued on with
Speaker 1: the conversation and I was like, so, what happened. You
Speaker 1: hurt your back or something like that. He was like, no,
Speaker 1: I strained my peck. I'm like, wait what So I'm
Speaker 1: assuming because I know he was taking viagraa and his
Speaker 1: wife is a little young, a lot younger. Okay, so
Speaker 1: I'm I was assuming like maybe he is that. Could
Speaker 1: that happen? Could you're a penis like a blood vessel
Speaker 1: because it's you know, erection a long period of time. Well, okay,
Speaker 1: so there's two different things you are talking about. Uh,
Speaker 1: you're talking about an erection that does not go down
Speaker 1: from you've already orgasm. Well, so that rarely happens with
Speaker 1: pills actually, unless you abuse the pills. I mean you're
Speaker 1: taking two, three, four, you know, times the dose, then yeah, maybe,
Speaker 1: but if you're taking the regular even the max dose,
Speaker 1: it rarely happens with pills. Now, one of the other
Speaker 1: ways we treat erectile dysfunction is penile injections, which is
Speaker 1: actually like an injection in the penis of medicine that
Speaker 1: increases blood flow to the penis. And this is for
Speaker 1: patients who actually usually are not doing well with pills.
Speaker 1: Pills aren't working. That has a much higher risk of
Speaker 1: a direction that doesn't go down, which is what we
Speaker 1: call priapism. So those patients, unfortunately sometimes so they'll come
Speaker 1: to my office and I'll give them the first injection
Speaker 1: and I give him a little small injection. I'm like, okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: it worked, and a couple of times unfortunately, and I
Speaker 1: prepped them for this, they've wounded up in the e
Speaker 1: R because they were like Dr Millhouse, I left your office,
Speaker 1: I went straight home, used it and it would not
Speaker 1: go down and it's still up. So they had to
Speaker 1: go to the e R. And when you have an
Speaker 1: erection that's lasting three four hours and not going down,
Speaker 1: it's number one painful. It is not a plus anymore.
Speaker 1: It's painful. Number two. It actually will can damage the
Speaker 1: penis um and ruin and decrease the ability to get
Speaker 1: an erection in the future. Um, and so it is
Speaker 1: something we need to treat. It's a it's a you know,
Speaker 1: a bit of a urologic emergency or urgent. See and
Speaker 1: somebody said it exploded. But what we do we do it.
Speaker 1: What we do do to treat it is we put
Speaker 1: needles in the penis and let the blood out, like
Speaker 1: release all that blood that's not getting out like out
Speaker 1: and it's a it's very bloody. Um. It's very satisfying
Speaker 1: as and for the patient. To the patients like, oh,
Speaker 1: it's almost like they came again, but just blood but blood.
Speaker 1: We numbed them up, so it's not like we're not like,
Speaker 1: you know, inhumane, so we know the lesson we put them. Yes,
Speaker 1: so that's what But your dad, I think he just
Speaker 1: popped a supervisual blood vessel. Like he was doing it
Speaker 1: too hard, just too much information. I don't want to know.
Speaker 1: Mr d like that put it up. I like my
Speaker 1: other thought, man, I just liked the thought that it
Speaker 1: just wouldn't go down and then like, yeah, he had
Speaker 1: like a medical issue. Uh. Does testosterone play a part
Speaker 1: in how your erection at all? That's an amazing that
Speaker 1: is probably the best question of the hour. So everybody
Speaker 1: always assumes I have erectile dysfunction, therefore I need testosterone.
Speaker 1: They come in saying that, like, I think I need testosterone,
Speaker 1: And the truth of the matter is testosterone is an
Speaker 1: indirect player. It is not the main player here. You
Speaker 1: can have a normal high testosterone and have issues with directions.
Speaker 1: You can have low testosterone and be hard as a rock. Okay,
Speaker 1: erections are about blood flow. It's about blood flow. Testosterone
Speaker 1: is a male hormone that is important for lipido, important
Speaker 1: for for you know, for fertility, for sperm um production.
Speaker 1: So that's you know its role um and so we
Speaker 1: may check it in the work up. But even if
Speaker 1: you have low testosterone and you have a rectile dysfunction,
Speaker 1: the treatment for your rectile dysfunction isn't just giving you
Speaker 1: testosterone only. The treatment is I need to treat your
Speaker 1: rectile dysfunction at the same time that I'm also helping
Speaker 1: you with your test low testosterone. M interesting, what so
Speaker 1: is there a difference between like, uh, erectile dysfunction and
Speaker 1: just impotence. Is there a difference really, but the basically
Speaker 1: the same thing. I mean. Rectile dysfunction is the medical
Speaker 1: term that we use impotence is I guess more like
Speaker 1: the public term of it, but it's basically referring to
Speaker 1: the same thing. Can't either rectile dysfunction. So let's just
Speaker 1: clarify what the heck is the The definition is basically
Speaker 1: you can't achieve because what is an erection. An erection
Speaker 1: is blood filling up the penis and getting it ridge
Speaker 1: it enough for penetration. Right, we know what it means.
Speaker 1: When the penis just isn't quite ready to penetrate and
Speaker 1: it's like soft, and my mom calls it a wet
Speaker 1: rag on. You're like, it's not quite right, Like you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, It ain't ready. So and if
Speaker 1: you have, your correction has to get firm enough that
Speaker 1: it penetrates. So if you can't do that, if it
Speaker 1: can't get firm enough for penetration, that is the writ
Speaker 1: down dysfunction. Or if you don't, if it lose if
Speaker 1: you lose that pet firmness quickly, so you can get
Speaker 1: it up, but you start and it gets to wet.
Speaker 1: So so that's what's so having fast like like a
Speaker 1: man coming too fast, that's not e d That's not
Speaker 1: to do with being having erectile dysfunction. It's just a
Speaker 1: quick pop. That is the second best question of the hour. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so that's totally different, right because when a man comes
Speaker 1: too fast, the dick is doing what it's supposed to do.
Speaker 1: When dick comes or ejaculates, then the body goes into Okay,
Speaker 1: now the blood can release. We're good, we've done, We've
Speaker 1: you know, achieve the goal. So the body is when
Speaker 1: the erection goes down after ejaculation, that's the normal response,
Speaker 1: all right. Blood is not supposed to stay in the
Speaker 1: penis after ejaculation. The problem is he's ejaculating to damn fact.
Speaker 1: So that's a separate issue. Yeah, there's a lot of that.
Speaker 1: Or he's just selfish? Is he just selfish? Because? Oh
Speaker 1: do men like how to me? I'm glad I'm a woman, okay,
Speaker 1: because I feel like it's a lot of pressure to
Speaker 1: be a man. As far as like when it comes
Speaker 1: to sex, okay, and finances. You gotta have money. You
Speaker 1: have the big dick. You gott have the big dick
Speaker 1: that works. Hey, I know how to work it. All
Speaker 1: these different things we do put a lot put a
Speaker 1: lot of pressure on them in um, you know, as
Speaker 1: far as sex. But so wait to say, Well, let
Speaker 1: me just say something here. Uh, big dick is not
Speaker 1: everything in and and of us orgasm with clitteral attention
Speaker 1: and stimulation. So a big old dick that's just you know,
Speaker 1: that's when you have pec pelvic floor pec pelvic floor
Speaker 1: problems up life. It doesn't feel doesn't it doesn't necessarily
Speaker 1: feel good. Well, if you have somebody who knows how
Speaker 1: to uh incorporate the clitterest to stroke that anterior vagina,
Speaker 1: the upper part of the vagina that's close to the
Speaker 1: outside actually, so you don't even need to go that
Speaker 1: deep to really get a woman of women too orgasm.
Speaker 1: You don't even need to go that deep. Mm hmm.
Speaker 1: What is a what is a by penis? Great buried
Speaker 1: penis is a penis at is? Okay, So the penis,
Speaker 1: it's not just what we see, Um, there's actually an
Speaker 1: internal part probably you know, Um, it's probably double the size.
Speaker 1: The whole penis is double the size. Half of it
Speaker 1: is inside. And so in a buried penis, what has
Speaker 1: happened is either that where it's attached, that inner part
Speaker 1: where it's attached is abnormal. So it's hiding what's supposed
Speaker 1: to be out, or that there's a lot of um
Speaker 1: fat over the area of the penis, Like there's a
Speaker 1: huge there's a sound of umm abdominal or what we
Speaker 1: can call man's pubis fat that is creating this buried penis.
Speaker 1: You know, you've got this fat in there, and then
Speaker 1: the penis is kind of just covered. Um. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: this is girl, my dick really ten inches half of
Speaker 1: it berries inside. Correct. It is when guys go get
Speaker 1: the penis uh surgeries to make their dick, so they
Speaker 1: like dig some of that dick out you put it.
Speaker 1: That's awesome. Excavate the dick. Yes, in a way, that's
Speaker 1: kind of what takes place. It's actually a really complex procedure.
Speaker 1: It is not a procedure that the average gurology, like
Speaker 1: a specialized gurologists do. Um. But basically, you know, we
Speaker 1: might have to separate some of the attachments of the
Speaker 1: inner part of that penis to get it to come out. Um.
Speaker 1: And so you're right, in a way, that's excavating the
Speaker 1: inner releasing that inner dick that just is waiting to
Speaker 1: you know, show with stuff. Um. Yes orright. So I
Speaker 1: was seeing that there's like various forms of e D
Speaker 1: tests like, uh, nocturnal penal stamp tests, what what is it? So?
Speaker 1: I think it's nocturnal penile too messence and penal to messens.
Speaker 1: So what that basically means is nocturnal erections or what
Speaker 1: we've simplified it to morning would. So we simplied to
Speaker 1: morning would because that's what men like they remember, right
Speaker 1: they wake up, Oh, an erection. But actually what I
Speaker 1: was alluding to, actually what's happening in a healthy penis
Speaker 1: is you're actually having multiple erections while you're sleeping, while
Speaker 1: you're dreaming. Okay, it's actually normal to have like I think,
Speaker 1: up to five a night, and so there are tests
Speaker 1: that we can do to see if a man is
Speaker 1: getting those erections while they sleep, almost like a sleep study.
Speaker 1: But for your dick, tell us the healthy you know,
Speaker 1: how wealthy a penis is, because if they're getting normal
Speaker 1: nocturnal penal to messens or nocturnal erections, I eat morning wood.
Speaker 1: It's great, the blood is flowing. Okay, you got you know,
Speaker 1: So that's um. That's a great test to separate. Does
Speaker 1: that firm tech cock Ring kind of help with that?
Speaker 1: It does? So are you a son with that company?
Speaker 1: Are you associated? Like, I just want to make sure
Speaker 1: before we talk about well, I you know, did some
Speaker 1: I did some work for them, they like. I love
Speaker 1: their Um. I love what they've designed. It's basically like
Speaker 1: an at home MPT test that anybody can can get.
Speaker 1: And I love that men can start to see and
Speaker 1: evaluate their own reptile fitness if you will. So you
Speaker 1: put this thing and actually they sent me one right
Speaker 1: and um, you know, I'm I. My husband is like
Speaker 1: my guinea pig for everything, so you know, I put
Speaker 1: this thing on him him and I was like, is
Speaker 1: it comfortable? Was if he's like yestually he's quite comfortable. Um.
Speaker 1: So the ring can stay on for hours, hours and hours.
Speaker 1: Let me just caution. Normal cock rings and sex toy
Speaker 1: cock rings and vibratory cock rings you cannot leave on
Speaker 1: there for hours. Okay. It can cause like a constriction
Speaker 1: on your penis and it's almost like that ring that
Speaker 1: you can't get off your finger and it's an emergency.
Speaker 1: So this is you know, caution advice, but this is
Speaker 1: designed the way they designed. It's easily you can take
Speaker 1: off and on and it's safe to put keep on
Speaker 1: there for up to twelve hours and so you can
Speaker 1: go to sleep and you um have your smartphone if
Speaker 1: you have the tech one, and it can measure how
Speaker 1: many erections you get overnight, and so you you can
Speaker 1: see that with that firm tech um ring. I know
Speaker 1: the cock rings. So though I've been with a guy,
Speaker 1: one guy, and I was surprised when I saw the thing,
Speaker 1: like he took his clothes off and then he had
Speaker 1: the cock ring on. I'm like, okay, but no warning nothing.
Speaker 1: What exactly is a cock ring for those of us
Speaker 1: who don't you know, Oh, okay, I'll take it. So,
Speaker 1: I mean, it's basically what you think of it. It's
Speaker 1: like a ring that goes over the penis. These it
Speaker 1: goes of the shaft or like, so there depends. Cock
Speaker 1: Rings can have different functions. Some cock rings are basically
Speaker 1: designed to help maintain the erection. Right. Erection is about
Speaker 1: blood flow and blood stain in the penis during sex.
Speaker 1: So sometimes cock rings are used almost like like elastic
Speaker 1: veins that are placed base to keep that blood in there. Okay,
Speaker 1: But some cock rings are just for pleasure, Like they vibrate,
Speaker 1: you know, and so they allow the penis holder to
Speaker 1: have the pleasure and then also the pen the valve
Speaker 1: of the vagina or whoever the pen whatever the penetra
Speaker 1: should say. It's just volve. It can be any any
Speaker 1: orifice um to have um pleasure too. So some are
Speaker 1: just for play and some are for function. Yeah, his
Speaker 1: is like really soft, like it, I can see how
Speaker 1: it could be comfortable. But listen, try that before you
Speaker 1: all didn't, right, you just kept that thing super hard
Speaker 1: for a long time. Okay, was the older was there
Speaker 1: something that a young man with me? Or but I
Speaker 1: think that Okay, that's another question I had for dr
Speaker 1: millhouses that you know, like we mentioned that these guys
Speaker 1: using the pills from the gas station and stuff like that.
Speaker 1: Like those cock rings are not like, you know, no
Speaker 1: type of medicine and they work as far as I'm concerned. Um, yeah,
Speaker 1: so they can be used for anybody. I mean, any
Speaker 1: penis that has some slightly constrictive band at the base
Speaker 1: might help keep that blood in there. So some again,
Speaker 1: some healthy penises and young men will use it just
Speaker 1: because they're like I want, you know, I don't want
Speaker 1: I want to go all night, you know what I'm saying. Um,
Speaker 1: And so it's not just for you know, old you
Speaker 1: know men who have issues, not by any means. So
Speaker 1: have you ever had somebody come in and you're looking
Speaker 1: it is digging you, like, I'm sorry, baby, what do
Speaker 1: you do? What do you do? Like? What what advice
Speaker 1: would you give somebody who is like it's just like
Speaker 1: nothing nothing. Yes, Well, the good news is at the
Speaker 1: end of the day, we can get a firm dick
Speaker 1: because we can do what's called an UH penal implant
Speaker 1: and inflatable penal implant or i p P. And what
Speaker 1: this is. It's a device that we surgically. This is
Speaker 1: a surgery that we do that we put inside the penis.
Speaker 1: It's like these inflatable rods that go on the top
Speaker 1: side on the inside of the penis too and um
Speaker 1: in the you know, there's different versions, but in the
Speaker 1: most commonly used version, which is called the three piece,
Speaker 1: the patient has a pump that we put in their
Speaker 1: scrolled them. All right, So this is a pump that
Speaker 1: you can't tell it's inside them, but they can easily
Speaker 1: press their scrolled them when they're ready to go pump
Speaker 1: it up like they really feels like that. It feels
Speaker 1: like the rebox, Yeah, And it inflates those rods and
Speaker 1: it gets them firm, and so now you have this
Speaker 1: firm dick that you can penetrate and you can go
Speaker 1: all night if you want to agreeing with that at all, Yep, exactly,
Speaker 1: it penetrates you and then when you're ready to stop,
Speaker 1: you just press a button and deeply. This is like
Speaker 1: a sneaker and it actually sounds like that when you
Speaker 1: press it. You kind of hear that sound. You're like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's been around for a long time. Actually a long time.
Speaker 1: So at the end of the day, we can now
Speaker 1: this is a surgery that isn't for everybody because some people,
Speaker 1: you know, have too many medical problems that you know,
Speaker 1: make it high risk and this and that, and it's
Speaker 1: certainly not like you can't go backwards. So if you
Speaker 1: get this implant and then you decide, oh, take it out,
Speaker 1: I want to see if pills will work. Don't work.
Speaker 1: Like that, it's done. You know, you can take the
Speaker 1: implant out, but you're not going to ever be able
Speaker 1: to get an erection with anything without that. So it's
Speaker 1: meant for men who really truly tried this, don't work,
Speaker 1: Try that don't work, Try this don't work. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: exhausted all the opects exactly correct. But it's a great option.
Speaker 1: It has like over patient and couple satisfaction you know, uh,
Speaker 1: when that usually get that procedure done. Usually, Yes, that's true.
Speaker 1: I mean we don't love putting it in younger patients
Speaker 1: because again it's it's kind of irreversible and that once
Speaker 1: we put those rods into that penis, then the blood
Speaker 1: getting into the penis naturally is done. It's not gonna
Speaker 1: happen because we have disrupted that process. Um, there is
Speaker 1: you know. I actually uh spoke to one of the
Speaker 1: gurus in Chicago who does a ton of these surgeries. UM.
Speaker 1: His name is Dr Larry Levine, and I asked him, um,
Speaker 1: what is the youngest patient he's done a penal implant on?
Speaker 1: And he told me a sixteen year old. And I
Speaker 1: asked him what the you know what circumstances and he said, um,
Speaker 1: sickle cell anemia. So sickle cell anemia, which is uh
Speaker 1: common in UH in our community, affects the penis um.
Speaker 1: The abnormal sickling blood causes these erections that don't go
Speaker 1: down and these are painful and these come back frequent,
Speaker 1: can come back frequently in some of these patients. And
Speaker 1: this poor um you know, young man had these crippling
Speaker 1: erections priapisms that would not come down, that kept coming
Speaker 1: to the e R all the time, and essentially over time,
Speaker 1: what that ruins, like I said, it ruins the erect
Speaker 1: the normal right tell fitness anyway. But by putting in
Speaker 1: that implant, it's stopped that process from happening for one,
Speaker 1: which is better for the patient. And then too, it
Speaker 1: just helped him get an erection when when he wanted
Speaker 1: like I want it now, I don't want it now.
Speaker 1: So that's that's not a usual circumstance, but that is
Speaker 1: a potential where it would be a young patient that
Speaker 1: we do. So the dick is separate from men's brains then,
Speaker 1: because what I'm trying to calculate is like what I'm
Speaker 1: trying to calculate exactly. So for women, for me, I
Speaker 1: have to be happy to have sex, right, I have
Speaker 1: to be like have this like it starts in the mind,
Speaker 1: I believe for most women before pussy starts working. So
Speaker 1: but from then you can just pump this ship up
Speaker 1: while you mentally don't want to have sex, Like how
Speaker 1: are you gonna, you know, have a how are you
Speaker 1: going to exact with that. Well, so yeah, I mean
Speaker 1: just because a man can get hard, so this is
Speaker 1: the game. You have to separate erection from orgasm or right,
Speaker 1: just because a man dick is hard doesn't necesarily mean
Speaker 1: he always wants to have sex. You can. Again, we've
Speaker 1: see nocturnal erections that's uncontrolled. We actually see patients get
Speaker 1: erections when they're under anesthesia. You can get an erection
Speaker 1: just from like a touch, but you're not really trying
Speaker 1: to have sex, okay. And so these things you may
Speaker 1: not be aroused enough to ejaculate, all right, um um.
Speaker 1: And for us, you're right for us, For us valva owners,
Speaker 1: for us women are arousal and certainly our orgasm is
Speaker 1: very much um connected to our brain. It's not all
Speaker 1: our brain, okay. Um. So there's a lot of us
Speaker 1: that aren't getting orgasms just because our partners don't know
Speaker 1: where to go. Um and and some of us don't
Speaker 1: know where to tell them where to go. We don't.
Speaker 1: We are not as familiar with our bodies. The guys
Speaker 1: are very familiar with their bodies, with their penis. We
Speaker 1: are like it's our evolve us. Our vaginas are like
Speaker 1: foreign land to a lot of us, which is a shame.
Speaker 1: Um and and changing think, I think slowly but thankfully.
Speaker 1: And so we need to know what feels good and
Speaker 1: what arouses us. But you're right, four place starts in
Speaker 1: the morning, yes, four place starts all day? Good movie sexy? Yes? Yes?
Speaker 1: What can I do for you? Yes? That's how you
Speaker 1: get it moist, not just right before you want to
Speaker 1: have sex with me? We don't arguing all day. Now
Speaker 1: you're tapping out. And now you think, come come on,
Speaker 1: come on, come on. I don't think we should. So
Speaker 1: it seems like they have all types of things to
Speaker 1: help with the rectile dysfunction. What about women who have
Speaker 1: lost like vaginal witness tightness? Yeah, we all right? This
Speaker 1: is like where are products? No one? So what answer
Speaker 1: is women? Who? Medicine has not cared about women? Why
Speaker 1: what is the Oh they need to be aroused, they
Speaker 1: need to have what is the benefit. So medicine has
Speaker 1: completely neglected us. And there's so many reasons. The patriarchy,
Speaker 1: the you know, male toxicity, the fact that we can
Speaker 1: procreation does not rely on us orgasming, right, A man
Speaker 1: has to orgasm to procreate, but women we don't. And
Speaker 1: so if the functionality of our reproduction. Does you can
Speaker 1: have a billion kids and not have one single orgasm,
Speaker 1: not have have painful sex, and have a billion kids.
Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying. So, UM, this is not right.
Speaker 1: This is kind of where I UM have created a
Speaker 1: passion and a niche for in my patients. I see
Speaker 1: all my men patients who have all these options to
Speaker 1: help them in their sexual dysfunctions, and my women patients
Speaker 1: are like help. No one knows what to do. I
Speaker 1: talked to that doctor, I talked to my guy in college.
Speaker 1: Is I talked, No one knows. They say, drink some wine.
Speaker 1: They say, oh, well, it's just normal. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. No, it's not normal. It's not normal. Painful,
Speaker 1: it's not You deserve to feel good when you're having sex.
Speaker 1: It should not just not be something that you're like. Uh,
Speaker 1: you see what I'm saying. So things are again slowly changing.
Speaker 1: There are more of us in the specialty that are
Speaker 1: UM taking the reins on this. UM. I have to
Speaker 1: shout out my uh sister in urology, and UM, she's white,
Speaker 1: but she's still my sister because she's super smart and
Speaker 1: awesome and expert in this. Dr Rachel Ruben, Um, she
Speaker 1: tackles a lot of this, but you mainly for lubrication.
Speaker 1: We talk about estrogen vaginally if you have been through menopause,
Speaker 1: estrogen vaginally is like bay, if your post menopausal. I mean,
Speaker 1: as soon as I hit menopause, I'm going to start
Speaker 1: using vaginal est all right, keep keep that, keep that
Speaker 1: tissue young and supple. You know what I'm saying. And
Speaker 1: not just for that, but also it also has other
Speaker 1: benefits like reducing UT's vaginal estrogen vaginal estrogen, baby, yes,
Speaker 1: and what where do you get that? Like? What is like?
Speaker 1: What is it that has to be prescribed? That's prescribed?
Speaker 1: It's not it's not hard to get. It's just needs
Speaker 1: to be prescribed. Um. And it comes in different forms
Speaker 1: like creams or suppositories, uh and such like that. So um,
Speaker 1: a little bit goes a long way. Um, it's not harmful.
Speaker 1: All of us get so freaked out with the word estrogen.
Speaker 1: It's hilarious. Men flocked to testosterone flock. They're like, give
Speaker 1: me more, give me more. We we get older, like,
Speaker 1: oh no, don't give me that estrogen. I can't. That's
Speaker 1: not normal. This is your body's hormone. Okay, you're suffering
Speaker 1: all of the menopausal symptoms. You do hot flashes. It's
Speaker 1: dry as a sierra down there. You're like, you cannot do,
Speaker 1: not have to suffer. Estrogen is different, is our hormone.
Speaker 1: So we they have succeeded in demonizing estrogen, and so
Speaker 1: we're trying to backtrack and say, listen, ladies, it has
Speaker 1: um some good. Uh, it has a lot of good. Actually. Um.
Speaker 1: Then there's using lubricants too, just like I had a
Speaker 1: TikTok about like using different lubricants, and I think especially
Speaker 1: in black community, we like get weird about using anything
Speaker 1: extra in the bedroom. I see that because like, you
Speaker 1: gotta have some type of lubricano hand, because even if
Speaker 1: you still are physically aroused, that condom is gonna dry
Speaker 1: your ship up. Something. You gotta have something aside from spit. Okay,
Speaker 1: which is a spit, o't mind a little bit. It's okay,
Speaker 1: it helps, it means, it gets it wet, but then
Speaker 1: you have to spend multiple times. You just have to
Speaker 1: do it multiple times. But yeah, the wetter the better,
Speaker 1: you know. So basically for a man, y'all got robot
Speaker 1: dicks with a scroll the pump. But for a woman,
Speaker 1: we got a little cream for you. That's it. We got. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we got a little bit creams and you know it
Speaker 1: ain't no pussy. So all right, one of um so
Speaker 1: in my a salon and one of the sweets. There's
Speaker 1: a lady who has she's a ran and she has
Speaker 1: this machine and she's like, oh, come try it, Come
Speaker 1: over and try it that she puts in your coat
Speaker 1: and it's supposed to like make your vagina tighter. And
Speaker 1: it's like some type of machine that you just she
Speaker 1: says it works, she does it, she said her she
Speaker 1: has four kids, and she said she used it to
Speaker 1: help with her tightness of her vagina or something that does.
Speaker 1: Why what? What? What? My first question is what? Why
Speaker 1: do you think your vagina needs to be tighter? That's
Speaker 1: my first because I believe that's also like a thing.
Speaker 1: Especially I don't know, like it's not money, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So, yeah, you gotta do a little exercise.
Speaker 1: But to say, oh I fell in or it was
Speaker 1: so big, like maybe your dick was small. Let's just maybe.
Speaker 1: But I mean, alright, so as you get older, your
Speaker 1: vagina does is not are your twenty two year old
Speaker 1: couchie is not your thirty six year old gucci. Right,
Speaker 1: well thirty six, I mean that's still young now, okay maybe,
Speaker 1: but I mean the tightness it does change over time. Right. Actually, Actually,
Speaker 1: if you have if you let's just take kids out
Speaker 1: of the equation. Okay, one woman at twenty and that
Speaker 1: woman at will go sixty. Okay, no kids, and um. Actually,
Speaker 1: what happens, what we see a lot of times is
Speaker 1: that vagina kind of contracts. It gets dry and it contracts. Okay,
Speaker 1: where we get this whole vagina gets wider. That's doesn't
Speaker 1: inherently happen just because we get older. It really doesn't.
Speaker 1: There's nothing that inherently happens just because we get older
Speaker 1: that makes our vagina whiten. Okay. And vaginas are they're
Speaker 1: supposed to expand and contract like when we when they
Speaker 1: when they penetration, they're expanding and then they contract. They're
Speaker 1: not like these things that, oh, once you've expanded it
Speaker 1: this far, that's it. You know, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Humans come out of there, Well, humans come out of it, right,
Speaker 1: and they come they come back. So there are pathologic
Speaker 1: there are vaginas that are too wide because of baby,
Speaker 1: lots of babies or babies, and um, they're not supportive
Speaker 1: as well. That's different. That is a medical condition that
Speaker 1: is bona fide, you know, but this notion that that's not.
Speaker 1: And that's most of this time that I see. It's like,
Speaker 1: oh well, it's just a lot of needs to be tight.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I think it's just again
Speaker 1: something that we've been fed that has no really no
Speaker 1: clear actual medical issue. Um, you can do you can
Speaker 1: be too tight. Okay, you can be do too many
Speaker 1: key goals and now sex hurts, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I mean, okay, so um we you know I don't
Speaker 1: want to I hate I shouldn't say. Hey, that's a
Speaker 1: strong word, but I think a sound person will market
Speaker 1: then the actual reasons why they're tightening the vagina. Oh,
Speaker 1: for this and this and this and this, Not just
Speaker 1: to tighten it because hey girl, hey says you need
Speaker 1: a tighter vagina. You know, I was just gonna do
Speaker 1: it because I have sometimes I have a break at
Speaker 1: word as well, a little bit. All right, you know
Speaker 1: it ain't no girl, so stupid lunch, Okay, mess around
Speaker 1: and get a loose couchie messing with a random machine.
Speaker 1: It's a random So basically, don't do that. I don't
Speaker 1: think you need it. What I mean, I don't. I've
Speaker 1: never had no kids. I don't feel like my coochie
Speaker 1: is loose. I was just gonna do it, Like what hurt?
Speaker 1: What would it hurt to be the tighter? You know?
Speaker 1: Like that's what I was thinking. It can hurt, Then
Speaker 1: it can't. It can't hurt too much. Tightness can be bad.
Speaker 1: You don't want that. Yes, it can make sex painful.
Speaker 1: So um, I meet some women that they're like, oh,
Speaker 1: sex hurts, and then I go and examine them and
Speaker 1: they're they, you know, like a kegel. They're just basically
Speaker 1: like a kegel at all times. And I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 1: you're just basically like this. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: You're not rely axed. Uh. And that is a problem
Speaker 1: that can cause painful sex. It can cause difficulty urinating
Speaker 1: or frequent urination when your pelvic floor muscles are too tight. Yeah,
Speaker 1: let's talk about squirting for a second. What is it?
Speaker 1: What is it? Can everybody do it? Is it? Pin?
Speaker 1: I know where it's coming from when I see the
Speaker 1: movies I can't say that I've never done it, per se.
Speaker 1: Can I just make a statement. I thought that rose
Speaker 1: and I used that thing, and I don't think that
Speaker 1: was a squirrel. I really think I peeed my whole bit,
Speaker 1: because what is rose? The little roles that it's a
Speaker 1: real popular sex toy. It looks like a rose and
Speaker 1: it's like a little like a little suction that you
Speaker 1: put on your cos Okay, it sucks, it got okay. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And when I think, I don't know if I squirt it,
Speaker 1: but I think I peeed up my whole bit. That
Speaker 1: was a I made a miss. It was a big nood.
Speaker 1: It felt great. I do it all the time. I
Speaker 1: but I think it is that so uh so female
Speaker 1: ejaculation takes different forms and um so female orgasm. I
Speaker 1: should say it takes different forms, and I you know,
Speaker 1: I don't want our audience to think that if you
Speaker 1: don't squirt that something's wrong with you. Um you can
Speaker 1: still orgasms, so you can have a more traditional ejaculate orgasm,
Speaker 1: which is a lot less messy and just feels like
Speaker 1: this spoozy wetness um as opposed to like a girsh
Speaker 1: um And that probably we believe is coming from what
Speaker 1: we call the Skemes glands. These are two. These are glands,
Speaker 1: paired glands, one on each side of our your rethrow.
Speaker 1: The throw is to the whole that we pee out of. Okay,
Speaker 1: so these are glands next to it. And so that
Speaker 1: type of orgasm is not urine inconsistency and doesn't really
Speaker 1: feel like it either. Um. Now squirting and by the way,
Speaker 1: what they show on porn is like exaggerated, right, So,
Speaker 1: but squirting feels like a gush like like and it's
Speaker 1: quite messy and it can feel like you're peen. And
Speaker 1: that's because and this is the big mystery we you know,
Speaker 1: there's been lots of analysis, but we we've shown that
Speaker 1: there is uria in that fluid and uria is a
Speaker 1: part is all is the main part of urine. And
Speaker 1: so it is likely diluted urine um that is coming out.
Speaker 1: See we don't have in a man. They ejaculate and
Speaker 1: p out of the same too, right, But it's just
Speaker 1: coming from different I mean, semen is different from urine, Okay.
Speaker 1: Semen comes from different organsms or or orgasms, different organs
Speaker 1: that they have, and urine comes from their bladder. For us.
Speaker 1: We don't really have like a semen. Well it's not semen,
Speaker 1: but you know, like an ejaculate producing organ that goes
Speaker 1: through the r urethra and so it is likely just
Speaker 1: um diluted urine that's being expelled out. It freaks people
Speaker 1: out because it feels like they're pain on the bed
Speaker 1: and it's messy and it kind of smells like pe
Speaker 1: maybe um, but it feels fabulous. You guys love it
Speaker 1: and they just do it later. The penises love it.
Speaker 1: They love it. They loved it. So I have patients
Speaker 1: who will come and be like Dr Mellows, I don't
Speaker 1: know what to do, like I feel I just pete,
Speaker 1: I pete during sex. And I'm asking them like, well,
Speaker 1: you know, feel good where you climax is like yes,
Speaker 1: but it freaked me out and this I'm just so embarrassed,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, baby, promise you promise you. Your partner
Speaker 1: is like so proud of himself or herself, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. They're they're like, yes, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Look what exactly from me. They're not worried
Speaker 1: about that. They're happy. So yeah, that can happen, and
Speaker 1: you know it's it's a beautiful thing. Sex is supposed
Speaker 1: to be messy, right, It's supposedly messy. If we just
Speaker 1: it's messy, it's wet, it's messy, so enjoy it. I
Speaker 1: just feel like I've never been able to get that
Speaker 1: gush feeling when you're penetration. Though it's usually like you know,
Speaker 1: when I'm getting some kind of lingus okay, yes, with
Speaker 1: some finger action involved, I'll have that feeling, but not
Speaker 1: during sex, like actual penetration. So that's that. That's why
Speaker 1: it leads me to think that maybe that's urine. I
Speaker 1: just feel like, im like I'm never good like that
Speaker 1: with a human being. The way the roles makes me
Speaker 1: feel I need to marry the roles. Why don't you
Speaker 1: wait a second, y'all if y'all want a gush like
Speaker 1: that with the human just you like, okay, let's use
Speaker 1: the toy and the like men who are not like,
Speaker 1: uh opposed to that, because some men they are jealous
Speaker 1: of the toys. I like them when they let me
Speaker 1: bring it. It's less pressure. I've been feeling like why
Speaker 1: do I need this? I only have the toy because
Speaker 1: I don't have no dick around. That's how I like.
Speaker 1: That's know, you shouldn't. You shouldn't feel that way. That's
Speaker 1: that is are us. So I totally agree with what
Speaker 1: you've said about men sometimes being intimidated by the toy.
Speaker 1: So let's just talk about black men too, because black
Speaker 1: men are different, you know what I'm saying. And black
Speaker 1: men definitely are probably more likely to potentially be thrown
Speaker 1: off because again, we in our community are not used
Speaker 1: to bringing additives into the bedroom. Okay, you bring your vagina,
Speaker 1: you bring your dick, and that's all that you need it. Okay,
Speaker 1: hawk rings and you know, vibrators and roses and whatnots.
Speaker 1: You know, why do we need all that? And Luke,
Speaker 1: but it can enhance it, Okay, it can enhance it.
Speaker 1: It's not taken away from what the partner is doing
Speaker 1: or what or whatever. It's not taken away from that.
Speaker 1: It's enhancing it for both of you all. And um,
Speaker 1: I think that if you want to introduce your man
Speaker 1: to a sex toy, don't bring like the big rod
Speaker 1: phallic looking. I don't even buy that type of things.
Speaker 1: I only do like little bullets there. It's like, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: start with the ones that don't look so much like
Speaker 1: a penis you know what I'm saying, and incorporate that
Speaker 1: and when he sees how you respond with that and
Speaker 1: the dick at the same time, Oh baby, he's gonna
Speaker 1: you know, and then maybe he can watch you. The
Speaker 1: other thing you can say is, oh baby, watch me.
Speaker 1: You know, like they enjoy watching us touch ourselves. Okay,
Speaker 1: watch me. So then they can watch you do what
Speaker 1: you do with your toy and they say, okay, alright,
Speaker 1: this is what I'm gonna do to her. I'd be
Speaker 1: so lazy with my toy. Like I'm so lazy with
Speaker 1: my toy. I just put it on it and I
Speaker 1: lay on the side. I'll be like two minutes, that's all.
Speaker 1: But the only thing with the toy is that thing.
Speaker 1: Get me there about a minute. If I got that
Speaker 1: man around like you're useless. Now go to bed because
Speaker 1: we can come again. You want to still do it?
Speaker 1: So and the toy and hug you. They can't rub
Speaker 1: your butt, like the toy can't get you a real intimacy. Okay,
Speaker 1: so I still want that. Yes, they does not right.
Speaker 1: I'd be like I'd be like, suck my titty as well.
Speaker 1: I do this, like yeah, that's I feel like to
Speaker 1: me a little bit, but we can come again and
Speaker 1: again and again. So who cares if you come the toy? Great?
Speaker 1: All right to go. So you know, with roe versus
Speaker 1: Wade and all this, have you seen an increase or
Speaker 1: an influx of men coming in for bisectomies? You do
Speaker 1: those procedures, right? Is that? Oh? Yes? So we in
Speaker 1: general the pattern is yes. Across the United States, there's
Speaker 1: been more increase in vasectomy with roe versus way being overturned. UM.
Speaker 1: I live in a state that roe versus weight where
Speaker 1: abortion is absolutely protected, UM, state of Illinois. So I
Speaker 1: think I haven't seen as great of like um of
Speaker 1: an increase. And I think again because we're in like
Speaker 1: a safe state if you will. UM. I have overall,
Speaker 1: just in the last two to four years, have seen
Speaker 1: more younger men get vasectomese like, more younger men, more
Speaker 1: men who who have never had kids just decided, nah,
Speaker 1: is there reversible at it? So it is technically reversible.
Speaker 1: Technically speaking, it is reversible, okay, but you have to
Speaker 1: understand the vasectomy was designed to permanently stop uh fertility. Okay.
Speaker 1: We cut clips, sometimes we burn, sometimes we stitch up.
Speaker 1: Though that vast too, okay, so, and what happens is
Speaker 1: just because you can sew it back together. First of all,
Speaker 1: sewing it back together is technically not like easy um,
Speaker 1: And we have to use a microscope. It's like a
Speaker 1: two resentially right, I mean, it's it's thinner than that um,
Speaker 1: thinner than floping too, so super super tuper duper small
Speaker 1: and um. And then we have to say, okay, now, sperm,
Speaker 1: you've been kind of like you know, m I A.
Speaker 1: We haven't been shipping you out for however long. Now resume.
Speaker 1: And what happens is your body is like no, like
Speaker 1: you cut us off and we're you know, your testicles
Speaker 1: may not produce good moving sperm that moved through that
Speaker 1: tube that you've reconnected. Okay, um. Sometimes it may be
Speaker 1: hard to reconnect the two because of the way the
Speaker 1: vasectomy was done, and if it's been longer and longer
Speaker 1: longer time period from vasectomy to reversal, the scar, tissue
Speaker 1: and what and whatnot can make it harder. So we
Speaker 1: always advise patients do not do a vasectomy with the
Speaker 1: intent of, you know, you're going to reverse it into
Speaker 1: three like years. That's not really how it's It's not
Speaker 1: a condom. It's not a condom. It's not our birth
Speaker 1: control where we can here, it's not it's it's it
Speaker 1: is meant to be a permanent form of um um
Speaker 1: a birth control for men. Okay, permanent form of birth
Speaker 1: control for men. Um just like our tubes being tied. Yeah,
Speaker 1: technically we can get our tubes read, you know, undone,
Speaker 1: But like the reality is that doesn't guarantee squat, doesn't
Speaker 1: guarantee that you might have like some in there and stuff. Yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: my mom had her tubes tied and got pregnant with
Speaker 1: my little sister. He didn't do the job. After she
Speaker 1: had my little sister, she's like, all right, this time
Speaker 1: time around my neck, so I can take the whole
Speaker 1: two out, take the whole two out. Yes, yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean the good news is even if you've had a basectomy,
Speaker 1: you can um you know, we can get sperm out
Speaker 1: of your testicle if you can't conceive naturally and use that.
Speaker 1: Oh so you're not necessarily Yeah, I have one more question.
Speaker 1: So I always see this on TV. All right, the
Speaker 1: ahead of man come in and pull his dick out
Speaker 1: and they hold his nuts and they're like cough for me,
Speaker 1: What does that. What is that? What do you learn
Speaker 1: by coughing and holding some nuts because I've been doing
Speaker 1: that to my boo sometimes, but i'd just be playing.
Speaker 1: I don't know what's going on. I just you gotta
Speaker 1: stick the thing in it. But at the same time, though,
Speaker 1: to feel the prostate right now, really, oh I didn't
Speaker 1: no no no, no no no. The coughing is more
Speaker 1: to check to check for a hernia. So a hernia
Speaker 1: is like, uh, you know, like the inner parts of
Speaker 1: the abdomen is coming down into the scroll them. So
Speaker 1: that's what it does. When you cough. It puts pressure
Speaker 1: into your abdomen that gets translated, and so that's what
Speaker 1: we're trying to ditect detect. It's so stupid, girl, I'll
Speaker 1: just be holding nuts like cough baby. It's more than
Speaker 1: holding the nuts though. They do just be doing that
Speaker 1: on TV. But of course he is. Tell people where
Speaker 1: they can find you. I plug yourself, please, I will.
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