WEBVTT - Ep. 85 "Man Down" with urologist Dr. Fenwa Millhouse 0:00:03.040 --> 0:00:07.080 We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who 0:00:07.240 --> 0:00:12.240 talk back. What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in 0:00:12.280 --> 0:00:14.800 for a new episode that We Talk Back, a show 0:00:14.840 --> 0:00:21.120 dedicated to you, niggas and thees hosl Hey girl, Hey girl, 0:00:22.000 --> 0:00:24.640 how y'all doing this? Me official Tim Bam once again. 0:00:24.760 --> 0:00:27.640 I love y'all. I love y'all so much. Thank y'all 0:00:27.680 --> 0:00:30.480 for coming back. We love you. AJ don't tell y'all, 0:00:30.520 --> 0:00:32.640 but she loves y'all too. I do be loving people. Listen, 0:00:32.640 --> 0:00:35.680 I but people disappoint you, you know, so I'll be 0:00:35.680 --> 0:00:38.400 like to tell people how I really feel about them. 0:00:38.479 --> 0:00:40.960 And he started doing some ship you like, It's like, 0:00:41.760 --> 0:00:46.839 now I gotta kill you. I never loved you anyway. 0:00:47.280 --> 0:00:50.559 How's your weekend? It's cool, girl. I um, I did 0:00:50.600 --> 0:00:54.959 like a little staycation with my friends and family at 0:00:55.040 --> 0:00:57.800 Kiawa Islands. You know, you know Charleston got like nice 0:00:57.840 --> 0:00:59.960 little elite islands around here with a white people be 0:01:00.120 --> 0:01:03.920 dumped off at driving Bentley's and ship. Yeah, that's what 0:01:03.960 --> 0:01:06.679 I was doing. Was very nice. And the wear a 0:01:06.720 --> 0:01:10.200 part about it. Here's here's the wear part. They actually 0:01:10.319 --> 0:01:13.959 import niggas from someplace else. To work on the island. 0:01:15.680 --> 0:01:23.160 Everybody on people from everybody was from Jamaica. They come 0:01:23.240 --> 0:01:27.120 on some type of work permit for seasonal hospitality work 0:01:27.959 --> 0:01:31.280 and they impoured them all over the world. Essentially, I 0:01:31.319 --> 0:01:33.640 bet you they I bet you they paid the cheaper 0:01:33.680 --> 0:01:35.679 than somebody from it. So that's what I was asking 0:01:35.680 --> 0:01:38.360 because Schaulston is expensive, especially the area I live in 0:01:38.400 --> 0:01:42.520 West Ashley, Like a one bedroom was almost two thousand 0:01:42.560 --> 0:01:47.160 dollars now a month. They are paying for their housing 0:01:47.280 --> 0:01:50.360 in the West Ashley for them to work, and they 0:01:50.400 --> 0:01:57.040 bust them to the island. Interesting, huh. I mean, if y'all, 0:01:57.320 --> 0:01:59.840 I guess they want like the Caribbean field, but we 0:02:00.000 --> 0:02:02.000 GEECHI I guess they don't want the ratchet that comes 0:02:02.000 --> 0:02:07.520 along with I boxed you. So they just import these 0:02:07.520 --> 0:02:10.440 people who you know, they grew up in hospitality because 0:02:10.440 --> 0:02:12.639 that's all like the that's the major industry in most 0:02:12.639 --> 0:02:15.320 of those Caribbean islands. But I feel like that is 0:02:15.360 --> 0:02:17.760 so wicked and I'm not done with it. That is, 0:02:17.840 --> 0:02:20.160 I'm not done with it at all. Do some research 0:02:20.200 --> 0:02:22.320 on the like, I try to see how the funk 0:02:22.440 --> 0:02:26.080 you can make money off them too. Sorry y'all, No no, no, 0:02:26.120 --> 0:02:28.480 we're gonna talk about this. A j Hand posted a 0:02:28.560 --> 0:02:31.679 bathing suit pick to her close friends, and you look 0:02:31.800 --> 0:02:34.000 so good? Why are you doing posted for everybody to see? 0:02:34.000 --> 0:02:38.400 Everybody need to see how good you look. I'm like 0:02:38.600 --> 0:02:41.799 one hole not to hole. Okay, I don't be wanting 0:02:41.840 --> 0:02:44.160 like that's not my image. Though I wanted like people 0:02:44.200 --> 0:02:46.040 to give me like the ooze and the odds and like, girl, 0:02:46.040 --> 0:02:48.919 you look good. I wanted that. Okay, That's obviously why 0:02:48.880 --> 0:02:51.919 I postal type of pictures. But I don't need that 0:02:52.040 --> 0:02:55.640 from everybody, just the people I funk with. That's it. 0:02:57.360 --> 0:03:00.720 Girl post I don't know, maybe maybe not. We'll see 0:03:01.639 --> 0:03:08.079 I screenshot. I'm gonna posted on your next birthday? What 0:03:08.120 --> 0:03:12.919 the hell you did? Worry about it? I really didn't 0:03:12.919 --> 0:03:16.200 do much of anything. Um. It was my cousin Aaron's birthday. 0:03:16.520 --> 0:03:18.440 She had a little brunch on Sunday, so I went 0:03:18.480 --> 0:03:20.920 to that. They all went out, but I did not 0:03:20.960 --> 0:03:22.840 go out. I've just been spending my time. I've been 0:03:22.919 --> 0:03:25.720 running every day. I've been running every day the past 0:03:25.760 --> 0:03:28.239 ten days straight. I've been doing at least four or 0:03:28.240 --> 0:03:33.040 five minutes to an hour. So my hair has been 0:03:33.200 --> 0:03:35.240 sleeped back in the ponytail. And I ain't been trying 0:03:35.240 --> 0:03:38.040 to drink her club or nothing. I'm just trying to 0:03:38.080 --> 0:03:40.920 get physically. It's this bitch on Instagram and I don't 0:03:40.960 --> 0:03:43.840 know her pictures, Like she has a body type like mine, 0:03:44.040 --> 0:03:45.800 and she's been working out for a year and she 0:03:45.840 --> 0:03:51.440 looked Jessica. She just sculp girl good. I got her 0:03:51.520 --> 0:03:54.480 screenshot and I got the phone I saw. I was like, 0:03:55.480 --> 0:03:59.800 motivated me right there. That's fact same, I said. But 0:03:59.800 --> 0:04:05.880 I got no titties like that, but everything it's me. Yeah, 0:04:06.240 --> 0:04:08.600 so she's that motivated me. I've been like in there 0:04:08.760 --> 0:04:11.040 running every day because I'm just starting with cardio. But 0:04:11.400 --> 0:04:14.040 once I'm going to Jamaica next week. Uh so after 0:04:14.120 --> 0:04:16.280 I get back, that's when I'm going to start incorporating 0:04:16.839 --> 0:04:19.800 a weight training. Girl. I definitely she I don't know 0:04:19.839 --> 0:04:22.440 how she came across my timeline. I definitely followed that 0:04:22.560 --> 0:04:27.080 ass and screenshot that got there picture like you cannot 0:04:27.080 --> 0:04:31.440 be walking around here that fine, and I'm not like 0:04:31.560 --> 0:04:33.520 That's how I felt too. So it's been running every 0:04:33.560 --> 0:04:37.600 two straight. Yeah, she was amazing. Let's get into the 0:04:37.720 --> 0:04:41.320 stupid internet news. What happened this uh past weekendes. Did 0:04:41.360 --> 0:04:45.800 y'all watch the VMAs? Okay, I did see some of this. 0:04:45.920 --> 0:04:48.839 Solizza was addressing h airy spirits because you know, he 0:04:48.880 --> 0:04:52.200 tried to come for her on Instagram talk about how 0:04:52.200 --> 0:04:57.200 she looked like the ship emoji. Just terrible. Yeah, like 0:04:57.279 --> 0:04:59.600 you're not even funny, Like I mean, he has been funny. 0:04:59.640 --> 0:05:02.719 I've remember remember him from Mad TV and like different 0:05:03.160 --> 0:05:05.719 programs that he did, and he has been funny. But 0:05:05.839 --> 0:05:09.119 that just wasn't. It was tasteless. It wasn't. It didn't 0:05:09.120 --> 0:05:11.279 make nobody laugh. It just made people angry and just 0:05:11.360 --> 0:05:14.279 some random hate. Even um Mike Epps came for his 0:05:14.360 --> 0:05:17.200 ass right quick. And the thing is that I wanted 0:05:17.240 --> 0:05:21.039 to talk about this story in particular because when men, 0:05:21.240 --> 0:05:24.200 men talk about women like were so shallow dog. When 0:05:24.200 --> 0:05:27.240 it comes to aesthetics, men are way more visual. Men 0:05:27.240 --> 0:05:31.080 are way more shallow because imagine a man that looks 0:05:31.120 --> 0:05:35.960 like him, regardless of what. If Lizza is big, she's 0:05:36.000 --> 0:05:39.720 a big, pretty ass girl, and I bet I bet 0:05:39.760 --> 0:05:43.920 you she smells nice as well. Okay, she's just really fluffy, 0:05:44.320 --> 0:05:47.240 But imagine you look like Mike Gap says, he looks sick. 0:05:48.240 --> 0:05:51.240 I believe because the pictures how he looks on the 0:05:51.400 --> 0:05:55.800 social media. So imagine you talking crazy about Liz. I 0:05:55.800 --> 0:05:59.560 didn't like that ship based off apperience and men do 0:05:59.640 --> 0:06:02.360 that just like me. Did you ever see that skit 0:06:02.480 --> 0:06:05.200 that Drew Ski did that one time he would like 0:06:05.320 --> 0:06:08.080 he had a dirty thing my girl, my girl, can't 0:06:08.080 --> 0:06:11.000 that girl gotta always keep rnning that. Meanwhile, you got 0:06:11.080 --> 0:06:15.680 dirty fingingails. Just all this nasty ship that men be 0:06:16.080 --> 0:06:18.520 haven't going on. And y'all just think that women just 0:06:18.560 --> 0:06:21.520 have to be like this perfect like even if you 0:06:21.560 --> 0:06:23.440 were too, you still think you would deserve a tin 0:06:23.680 --> 0:06:26.719 type men Like that's how guys be, and I don't 0:06:26.760 --> 0:06:30.120 like it. Yeah, I'm not here for that. You'll need 0:06:30.120 --> 0:06:33.159 to low y'all standards a little bit. You'll need to 0:06:33.360 --> 0:06:36.880 y'all need to recognize your hollow level. Men don't know 0:06:36.920 --> 0:06:43.920 that hollow level. Right. Oh that New Jersey art teacher, Uh, 0:06:44.080 --> 0:06:46.680 she responded to, if y'all have been paying attention, Uh, 0:06:46.839 --> 0:06:49.120 there's a teacher in New York and it looks like 0:06:49.160 --> 0:06:51.280 she may have had somebody work done. I don't know, 0:06:51.400 --> 0:06:55.600 but she's super curvy and they were calling for her 0:06:55.640 --> 0:07:00.080 to be fired over her body and she's saying that 0:07:00.800 --> 0:07:03.720 most of the people who are hating on her about 0:07:03.720 --> 0:07:06.520 her body and wanting her to be fired are not women. 0:07:07.040 --> 0:07:11.240 It's men, which was surprising to me because I just 0:07:11.240 --> 0:07:12.920 thought it might have been a lot of hating as 0:07:12.920 --> 0:07:17.600 bitches like jealous, yeah, or just you know, I don't 0:07:17.640 --> 0:07:20.720 but as men, she says, it's more men women are 0:07:20.800 --> 0:07:23.680 supporting her. But as long as you're a good educator 0:07:23.760 --> 0:07:25.480 and good with the children, I don't care what your 0:07:25.480 --> 0:07:29.360 body if you are teaching these kids and raising them 0:07:29.440 --> 0:07:32.080 up and help them raise good productive citizens, I don't 0:07:32.080 --> 0:07:34.760 care what your body looks. And I guess you know, 0:07:35.400 --> 0:07:39.920 we've always had this like perception of what teachers look like, 0:07:40.040 --> 0:07:42.480 and what doctors look like, and what lawyers look like. 0:07:42.920 --> 0:07:45.800 You know, so she doesn't have like the standard body type, 0:07:45.880 --> 0:07:48.480 or maybe she doesn't even wear like the the clothes 0:07:48.520 --> 0:07:50.400 that that you would think a teacher would wear. I 0:07:50.440 --> 0:07:52.200 don't know what teachers look like nowadays. I know they 0:07:52.240 --> 0:07:55.680 look younger than before, like you know, probably like we 0:07:55.680 --> 0:07:57.400 were when we were in school, Like the teachers now 0:07:57.440 --> 0:08:04.040 and look younger. But should you a dress um according 0:08:04.120 --> 0:08:08.360 to the profession I believe so, yes. So you got 0:08:08.400 --> 0:08:12.600 that big ass dunk. Maybe you shouldn't wear jackets to class, 0:08:13.320 --> 0:08:15.720 you know, but it doesn't look like she's wearing that 0:08:15.720 --> 0:08:17.840 stuff from the pictures I saw her. She wore like 0:08:17.880 --> 0:08:20.120 stuff that any teacher would wear. She just happens to 0:08:20.800 --> 0:08:24.920 curves in it. Can't you can't handle you can't. You 0:08:24.920 --> 0:08:26.920 can't not feel like Black women we've always gotten that 0:08:26.960 --> 0:08:29.440 type of heat like we can, especially even just going 0:08:29.520 --> 0:08:31.720 to school. Do you remember being in school and like 0:08:32.240 --> 0:08:34.120 being critiqued on what you had? You can have the 0:08:34.160 --> 0:08:36.920 same exact thing on that a white girl has on 0:08:37.000 --> 0:08:40.080 it because your body looks different than it. It's a problem, 0:08:40.440 --> 0:08:42.439 but it's not a problem with the child, because I'm 0:08:42.480 --> 0:08:45.320 a child in high school. Right. You're a grown adult 0:08:45.400 --> 0:08:48.360 male or a doubt adult woman looking at me in 0:08:48.360 --> 0:08:50.880 a sexual way. That don't have nothing to do with me, 0:08:51.200 --> 0:08:54.240 because why are you sexualizing my body in that way? So, 0:08:54.360 --> 0:08:56.280 but it's weird to me to think that it's it's 0:08:56.360 --> 0:08:59.120 men that are coming for her and not the women. 0:08:59.200 --> 0:09:02.960 I don't know, Yeah, I would think it would be 0:09:02.960 --> 0:09:06.040 the woman, the women, because remember it was that to 0:09:06.240 --> 0:09:11.040 remember that news host, she was the black girl as well, 0:09:11.160 --> 0:09:13.800 very cute, and it was the white women that was 0:09:13.840 --> 0:09:17.240 coming for her. They wanted, they didn't want the husband's 0:09:17.240 --> 0:09:20.280 watching her ass on TV no more. She's very beautiful, 0:09:20.640 --> 0:09:23.920 nice body. There was like Funk the Weather because I 0:09:23.960 --> 0:09:27.840 think she was like the weather girl that you won't 0:09:27.840 --> 0:09:30.520 need to know if it's raining or not right, but 0:09:30.679 --> 0:09:33.040 you'll see if it's raining tomorrow when you go outside. 0:09:36.760 --> 0:09:40.199 All right, tam, So listen you with your man, right, 0:09:40.800 --> 0:09:44.400 y'all religiously played a lottery together. You love him, at 0:09:44.480 --> 0:09:46.439 least you think you love him until you finally hit 0:09:46.480 --> 0:09:50.680 the lottery first, say, I don't know four point two 0:09:51.080 --> 0:09:56.320 million dollars? What are you doing? What I'm doing, I'm getting, 0:09:56.320 --> 0:09:58.640 I'm getting. It appends. If I love him like that 0:09:58.880 --> 0:10:01.080 like that, I'm keeping him. If I don't, he was 0:10:01.120 --> 0:10:04.959 just helping me. To my eye, it's up, bitch, I 0:10:05.080 --> 0:10:08.800 might throw him a little pee, right. So, like the 0:10:08.880 --> 0:10:11.600 story comes from Hollywood Unlocked. So apparently this woman. I 0:10:11.640 --> 0:10:14.960 think they might be European um because it says she 0:10:15.000 --> 0:10:18.520 won three point six million dollars, which is the equivalent 0:10:18.559 --> 0:10:26.640 of four point two million US dollars, But apparently um yep, Nottingham, England. 0:10:26.880 --> 0:10:29.720 She dumped her boyfriend at four years and cleaning winnings 0:10:29.760 --> 0:10:33.360 for herself. So she's forty, he's thirty nine, and were 0:10:33.360 --> 0:10:36.960 living together. Supposedly there was a thing where she's not 0:10:37.000 --> 0:10:39.080 supposed she doesn't have to pay bills just to play 0:10:39.120 --> 0:10:41.400 the lottery, and he would cover all the bills, and 0:10:41.400 --> 0:10:44.080 then once she won the money, she like dipped out 0:10:44.080 --> 0:10:46.240 on his ass. I don't know how to trate it is. 0:10:46.280 --> 0:10:49.480 Doesn't make sense to me. She should have got it 0:10:49.520 --> 0:10:53.679 in right. He should have got it in right. You know. 0:10:53.720 --> 0:10:56.200 Ain't that you can do now? Baby, If she was 0:10:56.240 --> 0:10:59.679 a decent person, she would give him a definitely. You know. 0:10:59.800 --> 0:11:01.960 It's just certain people I want to see happy in 0:11:02.040 --> 0:11:04.160 ball out with. I don't want to just have all 0:11:04.200 --> 0:11:06.320 the money by myself, so like, especially if I'm with 0:11:06.400 --> 0:11:09.920 somebody I love. Like Man, we're about to ask stupid 0:11:09.920 --> 0:11:15.840 out here. Okay, she don't like him, listen, right, she's 0:11:15.880 --> 0:11:18.079 just dealing with him, and she probably didn't think she 0:11:18.120 --> 0:11:22.480 would ever really win. Yep, and now she up. As 0:11:22.480 --> 0:11:24.880 soon as I hit the lottery, I'm going to find 0:11:24.960 --> 0:11:28.040 Jonathan Major's asks. I'm going to whatever city here, and 0:11:28.040 --> 0:11:30.360 I'm girl, if you don't stop talking about my boyfriend, 0:11:30.400 --> 0:11:33.680 what is your problem. You wanna fight, girl? You wanna 0:11:33.720 --> 0:11:38.920 you wanna? I told you if I want to fight, 0:11:40.400 --> 0:11:42.280 I tell you I've been running. I've got nothing to 0:11:42.360 --> 0:11:44.840 do with it. What what the what the what the 0:11:44.960 --> 0:11:48.880 has dude? I'm getting stronger, That's all I'm saying. That 0:11:50.559 --> 0:11:52.840 girl the next listen, don't talk about my man on 0:11:52.880 --> 0:11:56.959 this show and the girl every bit. Listen. If we 0:11:56.960 --> 0:12:01.160 were ever in the room with Jonathan Major's together, I 0:12:01.240 --> 0:12:08.880 might tell him you have heard yo. You never handled 0:12:08.920 --> 0:12:12.120 a bitch like that. Now you can have him dog Listen, 0:12:12.559 --> 0:12:15.880 you know what, you can have him. Ain't about to lie, Jonathan. 0:12:15.920 --> 0:12:18.760 Don't talk to her, Jonathan, don't talk to her. She 0:12:18.800 --> 0:12:24.599 has her piece. I never about to hate on the 0:12:24.679 --> 0:12:27.160 bench to get the nigger. Now, look, you got him 0:12:27.160 --> 0:12:32.000 because you you're willing to go too low. I'm like kiddy, 0:12:32.480 --> 0:12:35.280 I ain't but Chelle Obama, when you go low, I 0:12:35.360 --> 0:12:38.760 go low with your ass obviously going to hell where 0:12:38.840 --> 0:12:40.960 somebody go low. I don't even went low. I just 0:12:40.960 --> 0:12:43.080 said this is my man, and you just went low. 0:12:43.320 --> 0:12:47.960 Like what if he be like me to, I'll be like, 0:12:47.960 --> 0:12:50.360 well then, y'all I match made and haven't gonna hand 0:12:50.400 --> 0:12:55.800 over there stupid. All right, y'all, But then I would 0:12:55.800 --> 0:12:59.360 come to you and be like, bitch, don't do that, 0:13:02.800 --> 0:13:06.079 you stupid. I always set you up to getting those 0:13:06.120 --> 0:13:12.800 sickness for me. Thank you, friend. Y'all, we're talking. We're 0:13:12.840 --> 0:13:16.960 talking erectile dysfunction today. Okay, we're talking about penis is today. 0:13:17.800 --> 0:13:22.679 We're trying to help the community today. So y'all tune in. 0:13:22.840 --> 0:13:29.760 We'll be right back. All right, y'all. Listen, we have 0:13:29.800 --> 0:13:32.480 a very special guest on we talked back today. Listen. 0:13:32.559 --> 0:13:37.120 She is a board certified urologist. Okay, so, a couple 0:13:37.120 --> 0:13:40.520 of weeks ago, I was just thinking about different uh 0:13:40.840 --> 0:13:43.560 topics TAM and I could possibly talk about, and I 0:13:43.600 --> 0:13:50.640 thought about erectile dysfunction after a conversation, after a conversation 0:13:50.679 --> 0:13:53.760 with some men on clubhouse a couple of weeks ago, child, 0:13:53.800 --> 0:13:58.600 so listen, I found um Dr Finnwall mill House. She 0:13:58.800 --> 0:14:02.800 is again a board certifide eurologists. Tell us a little 0:14:02.800 --> 0:14:07.160 bit about yourself, ms uh or excuse me, Dr Millhouse 0:14:07.160 --> 0:14:13.800 Sorry sorry? Um. Yeah, So my name is Dr Fenwell Millhouse. 0:14:13.880 --> 0:14:18.120 I am a board certified urologist, which means I am 0:14:18.160 --> 0:14:22.960 a surgical specialist. We are surgeons, UM, but we specialize 0:14:22.960 --> 0:14:28.880 in the urinary tract and male reproductive system. UM. I 0:14:28.920 --> 0:14:35.560 am also fellowship trained in female pelvic medicine reconstructive surgery. 0:14:35.600 --> 0:14:38.680 What the heck is that? Well, that means that I'm 0:14:38.680 --> 0:14:42.720 I also do a lot of things that you would 0:14:42.720 --> 0:14:45.320 consider euro kind of coologist to do. So these are 0:14:46.200 --> 0:14:53.440 UM treating pelvic floor problems and uh urinary leakage and 0:14:53.680 --> 0:14:58.920 issues that primarily affect volvos or women. So I UM 0:14:58.960 --> 0:15:02.560 an x an exper in treating men and their private 0:15:02.600 --> 0:15:07.400 parts and women and their private parts UM, and I 0:15:07.480 --> 0:15:11.640 have been in practice for over seven years UM in 0:15:11.680 --> 0:15:15.800 a very large private practice as the go to public 0:15:15.840 --> 0:15:20.440 floor surgeons. So nice. Wow, that's dope. So you deal 0:15:20.480 --> 0:15:24.000 with dick's and pussies all day long? Yes I do. 0:15:24.120 --> 0:15:33.520 I love that. Please be normal? Okay, thank you. I 0:15:33.680 --> 0:15:36.760 want to know. I don't have no man yet, but 0:15:36.880 --> 0:15:40.000 when I get him, how can I make sure his 0:15:40.200 --> 0:15:48.240 dick stay hard forever forever? Okay? Yeah, I want to 0:15:48.280 --> 0:15:52.440 know definitely. So UM, this is great. This is a 0:15:52.440 --> 0:15:55.920 good question, and probably all men are wondering this too, 0:15:56.120 --> 0:15:59.800 are wanting this. So the most important thing is he's 0:16:00.000 --> 0:16:04.240 not to be healthy. Okay, so he has to live 0:16:04.400 --> 0:16:08.360 a healthy lifestyle. Was good for the heart is good 0:16:08.400 --> 0:16:12.440 for the dick. Okay, period point blank. Uh. If he's 0:16:12.480 --> 0:16:16.240 a smoker, no, now I can't do and I'm and okay, 0:16:16.280 --> 0:16:18.280 whenever I say smoke or people are like, well does 0:16:18.360 --> 0:16:25.360 we count? Okay, I'm talking clarify. Let me clarify. So 0:16:25.440 --> 0:16:27.960 we're talking about tobacco. You so not even just smoking 0:16:28.440 --> 0:16:31.440 to back tobacco that is like that that you're killing 0:16:31.440 --> 0:16:38.720 your dick. Okay, yep, yep. Marijuana you know, probably does 0:16:38.800 --> 0:16:42.240 not have at all the same risk as tobacco when 0:16:42.240 --> 0:16:47.880 it comes to blood flow. It might decrease libido and 0:16:48.000 --> 0:16:51.280 sperm count, but the actual mechanics probably are still going 0:16:51.320 --> 0:16:55.080 to be in working order. But a drug use in general, 0:16:55.120 --> 0:16:57.680 like illicit drug use, can tend to get in the 0:16:57.720 --> 0:17:01.760 way of erections. Also, it he's an excessive drinker, you 0:17:01.800 --> 0:17:05.960 want to roll that back. That whiskey dick is very real. Um, 0:17:06.200 --> 0:17:08.560 you drink too much. First of all, if you drink 0:17:08.600 --> 0:17:12.520 way too much, it's not cute, it's not sexy. Um, 0:17:12.600 --> 0:17:14.680 And so we aren't going to get moist. But then 0:17:14.800 --> 0:17:17.560 also the dick isn't gonna get as hard because the 0:17:17.720 --> 0:17:22.560 brain like can initiate that like proper stimuli to initiate 0:17:22.560 --> 0:17:29.960 the blood flow. UM. Exercise is fabulous for blood circulation. Goes. 0:17:30.359 --> 0:17:34.560 Make him see a doctor every year, sisters, Okay, make 0:17:34.680 --> 0:17:36.480 him go see a doctor every year. I don't care 0:17:36.560 --> 0:17:39.880 how buff, how well he in shape, he feels, how 0:17:39.880 --> 0:17:42.399 great he feels. That's why you see a doctor to 0:17:42.520 --> 0:17:46.120 make sure you're in good working order. UM. So many 0:17:46.160 --> 0:17:52.120 of our brothers have undiagnosed high blood pressure, high cholesterol. UM. 0:17:52.160 --> 0:17:55.640 I mean, I hate tesmans example, but Kevin Samuel's too 0:17:55.680 --> 0:17:59.840 young to just die croak over UM and so and 0:18:00.040 --> 0:18:01.760 I don't know if he was seeing a doctor or not. 0:18:02.040 --> 0:18:05.440 I don't know those details, but I you know it's 0:18:05.560 --> 0:18:08.719 UM are too often our young men, and I consider 0:18:08.760 --> 0:18:12.639 him young again, UM are losing their dick or losing 0:18:12.680 --> 0:18:16.240 their life to just not taking care of themselves. Those 0:18:16.280 --> 0:18:20.080 are the big things. So what we're talking about today, 0:18:20.160 --> 0:18:24.840 y'all is erectile dysfunction mainly. Okay. So I was having 0:18:24.840 --> 0:18:27.520 a conversation with a well, actually I wasn't having a conversation. 0:18:27.520 --> 0:18:30.240 I was listening to a bunch of guys talk crazy 0:18:30.240 --> 0:18:32.920 about women, Black women, in particular, and how we are 0:18:33.000 --> 0:18:35.840 diets and how we are the highest and diabetes and 0:18:35.920 --> 0:18:39.240 hyperprestion all these things that they too are you know, 0:18:39.320 --> 0:18:42.359 ranked the highest, and but for whatever reason, they don't 0:18:42.400 --> 0:18:44.800 think that, right. So I was real silent and I 0:18:44.840 --> 0:18:51.040 just came in with all the erectile dysfunction statistics. So 0:18:51.040 --> 0:18:53.280 why you're talking about women. Let's talk about those dicks 0:18:53.280 --> 0:18:56.280 for a minute, okay, and how they really don't work, 0:18:56.520 --> 0:18:59.080 and how you spend your whole life running through women 0:18:59.119 --> 0:19:01.160 and then you finally at this woman to settle down 0:19:01.200 --> 0:19:03.480 with and you want to give her the worst dick 0:19:03.720 --> 0:19:08.280 of her life for the rest of her life. That 0:19:08.359 --> 0:19:13.679 sounds real. That's what it is. Damn and damn we 0:19:13.720 --> 0:19:16.560 talk about him. We do talk about men settling down 0:19:16.600 --> 0:19:20.760 in that pendole, right, no more? Yeah, and it's not 0:19:20.880 --> 0:19:25.879 more for your wife and then stop running. Yeah, we 0:19:25.880 --> 0:19:32.800 don't want the leftovers. So how is dy usually diagnosed? Well, 0:19:33.000 --> 0:19:38.000 it's diagnosed because it is embarrassed, is you know, concerned? 0:19:38.000 --> 0:19:42.040 Mean when I will tell you this, when the penis 0:19:42.160 --> 0:19:45.439 isn't working, the men will then go see the doctor. 0:19:47.080 --> 0:19:50.440 So that's usually how they get to see the doctors. Like, Okay, 0:19:50.480 --> 0:19:53.840 we have a problem, let's fix it. And no matter 0:19:53.880 --> 0:19:56.920 how young or how old. I mean, I've had men 0:19:56.960 --> 0:19:59.679 in their nineties come in and be like, hey, I 0:19:59.720 --> 0:20:02.440 can't an erection. What we're gonna do? And I'm I'm 0:20:02.440 --> 0:20:05.359 happy I'm not an ageist, Like cool, great, awesome, I 0:20:05.560 --> 0:20:07.200 do who you're having sex with. No, I'm not having 0:20:07.200 --> 0:20:09.440 sex with anybody, but I just need this to work 0:20:09.520 --> 0:20:11.520 for me. Like they don't even have to have a 0:20:11.520 --> 0:20:14.680 partner or plans to have sex in the near future. 0:20:14.720 --> 0:20:16.320 They just want to make sure you don't want to 0:20:16.359 --> 0:20:19.040 see that. So they they come to us like it's 0:20:19.080 --> 0:20:23.360 not something we have to go dragging. And so usually 0:20:23.520 --> 0:20:27.400 it um starts off with the loss of morning erections. 0:20:27.440 --> 0:20:30.760 That morning would you don't notice it? And actually morning 0:20:30.840 --> 0:20:33.399 wood is just one event. You actually get erection throughout 0:20:33.400 --> 0:20:36.160 the night if you have a healthy penis. But again, 0:20:36.160 --> 0:20:39.159 a rectile is function usually starts off with I'm not 0:20:39.200 --> 0:20:43.560 waking up hard anymore, um, and then you know you don't, 0:20:44.240 --> 0:20:46.480 you don't last as long, and then maybe it's harder 0:20:46.520 --> 0:20:50.760 to get up. Um. So yeah, all right, yeah, and 0:20:50.920 --> 0:20:53.520 like what what what type of treatment? All right, So 0:20:53.640 --> 0:20:56.399 let's say I get this man we in love and 0:20:56.400 --> 0:21:01.480 then all of a sudden, God, please, but what kind 0:21:01.480 --> 0:21:05.879 of treatment? What would he need to seek? Like then 0:21:06.040 --> 0:21:08.480 after we discover that he does have like an issue 0:21:08.480 --> 0:21:12.840 aside from that's I was going to ask about their 0:21:12.920 --> 0:21:17.280 next So first of all, we should ease up, like 0:21:17.400 --> 0:21:20.359 if this, if this, want don't go rushing him to 0:21:20.400 --> 0:21:22.760 the doctor after like the first time, like, oh my god, 0:21:22.840 --> 0:21:25.920 you know, maybe we're coming straight to you dot the 0:21:26.000 --> 0:21:29.080 millhouse soon, do they dick don't work right? We run 0:21:29.080 --> 0:21:31.640 into We're coming straight to your office. Girl. I don't 0:21:31.680 --> 0:21:34.960 know what you're talking about, because it just might be 0:21:35.000 --> 0:21:38.320 a bad night again. Might not have too much to drink. 0:21:38.680 --> 0:21:40.879 You might be he might just be like, I'm not 0:21:40.920 --> 0:21:44.359 feeling her right now. You know, she's nagging me all day. 0:21:44.600 --> 0:21:46.800 I don't but you know, I don't, you know, So 0:21:47.320 --> 0:21:49.600 you know, we'll give one pass at least. But if 0:21:49.640 --> 0:21:53.960 it seems to be a pattern, obviously, absolutely start early 0:21:54.440 --> 0:21:59.760 to get to get attention. UM so certain treatment. So 0:22:00.160 --> 0:22:03.240 regardless of the type, most of the time the treatments 0:22:03.440 --> 0:22:06.880 are similar UM or regardless of the cause, I should say, 0:22:06.880 --> 0:22:10.240 of erectile dysfunction, UM, the treatment is basically about the 0:22:10.280 --> 0:22:14.320 same um. And one we screen for, like you know, 0:22:14.440 --> 0:22:19.600 just behavioral or psychologic issues. There's something called psychogenic or 0:22:19.600 --> 0:22:25.040 psychological erectile dysfunction. And that's when the mechanics work just fine. 0:22:25.600 --> 0:22:30.239 It's just there's mental, social, whatever psychologic issues that are 0:22:30.240 --> 0:22:34.520 blocking it. Yeah, you're depressed, your relationship being good, you 0:22:34.560 --> 0:22:39.160 have body image issues. Men can have body image issues. You, Um, 0:22:39.200 --> 0:22:42.080 you know, other things are happening, You're you're you have 0:22:42.200 --> 0:22:44.160 other you know, medical problems that are weighing you down. 0:22:44.160 --> 0:22:47.160 You're stressed, You're you know, stressed at work or whatever 0:22:47.240 --> 0:22:50.760 the case may be. So those things, um, we try 0:22:50.800 --> 0:22:53.320 to weed, try to weed for in the biggest way 0:22:53.359 --> 0:22:58.239 to distinguishes those men usually will have morning wood, right, 0:22:58.359 --> 0:23:00.840 because that's they can't control all that. So that's a 0:23:00.840 --> 0:23:02.840 good sign of a healthy penis. Oh they got morning 0:23:02.840 --> 0:23:05.040 would okay, great, but you just can't get it up 0:23:05.040 --> 0:23:07.439 in the bed, then you probably need a you know, 0:23:07.840 --> 0:23:11.520 to see a therapist, psychiatrists, those type of stuff. Um. 0:23:11.520 --> 0:23:15.080 But assuming it's not that, then it's you know, talking 0:23:15.080 --> 0:23:18.480 about all the lifestyle changes that I went through. Okay, 0:23:18.520 --> 0:23:20.320 that's when I'm having a heart to heart with these 0:23:20.320 --> 0:23:23.600 men and saying Okay, do you exercise, do you what 0:23:23.640 --> 0:23:25.159 do you eat? Have you been to the doctor in 0:23:25.200 --> 0:23:29.320 the last ten five, ten to last year? Um? Do 0:23:29.359 --> 0:23:32.640 you have diabetes? Do you you have diabetes is in control? 0:23:32.680 --> 0:23:35.800 Do you smoke? Do you use drugs? Um? And then 0:23:35.840 --> 0:23:39.480 we start with pills. So the pills, and these aren't 0:23:39.480 --> 0:23:45.440 the gas station crap that honey honeycomb stuff, rhino, you 0:23:45.440 --> 0:23:49.240 don't know what, you don't know what you're taken. Um. 0:23:49.280 --> 0:23:52.400 But yeah, these are like prescription medicines that we use 0:23:52.440 --> 0:23:58.160 that are now actually very affordable, very affordable now. Um, 0:23:58.200 --> 0:24:00.840 you don't got to spend a mint to get you 0:24:01.080 --> 0:24:03.960 the blue pill or the viagor or the sea alice. UM. 0:24:04.080 --> 0:24:07.000 And so those pills are given now. The pills, it 0:24:07.119 --> 0:24:09.040 kind of take some of the spontaneity out of it 0:24:09.040 --> 0:24:12.000