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Speaker 1: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who

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Speaker 1: talk back.

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Speaker 2: What's up, y'all?

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Speaker 3: Thank you for tuning in for a new episode of

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Speaker 3: We Talk Back, a show dedicated to you niggas and

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Speaker 3: these hoes.

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Speaker 2: Hey, girl. Hey, girl.

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Speaker 1: How y'all doing? It's me, Official Tam Bam once again.

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Speaker 1: I love y'all. I love y'all so much. Thank y'all

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Speaker 1: for coming back. We love you. AJ don't tell y'all,

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Speaker 1: but she love y'all too.

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Speaker 2: I do be loving people.

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Speaker 3: Listen, if people disappoint you, you know, so I'll be

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Speaker 3: liking to tell people how I really feel about them.

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Speaker 3: When they start doing some shit you don't like, it's like, nah,

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Speaker 3: I gotta kill you. I never loved you anyway, nigga.

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Speaker 1: How was your weekend? It was cool, girl.

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Speaker 3: I did like a little staycation with my friends and family.

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Speaker 3: At Kiowa Island, you know Charleston got like nice little

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Speaker 3: elite islands around here where the white people be dumped

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Speaker 3: off at driving Bentleys and shit. Yeah, that's what I

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Speaker 3: was doing. It was very nice. And the where part

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Speaker 3: about it, here's the where part. They actually import niggas

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Speaker 3: from someplace else to work on the island.

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Speaker 2: Everybody on the island- Is that higher?

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Speaker 1: People from Charleston?

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Speaker 4: Yes.

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Speaker 2: Everybody was from Jamaica.

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Speaker 3: They come on some type of work permit for seasonal

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Speaker 3: hospitality work, and they import them all over the world, essentially.

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Speaker 1: I bet you they pay cheaper than somebody from actual Charleston.

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Speaker 3: So that's what I was asking, because Charleston is expensive,

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Speaker 3: especially the area I live in, West Ashley. Like, a

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Speaker 3: one-bedroom is almost $ 2, 000 now a month. They are paying

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Speaker 3: for their housing in West Ashley for them to work,

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Speaker 3: and they bus them to the islands.

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Speaker 1: Hmm.

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Speaker 2: Interesting, huh?

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Speaker 3: I mean, if y'all want, I guess they want like

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Speaker 3: the Caribbean feel, but we Geechee, I guess they don't

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Speaker 3: want the ratchet that comes along with Geechee.

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Speaker 1: I box you in your lip.

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Speaker 3: So they just import these people who, you know, they

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Speaker 3: grew up in hospitality because that's all, that's the major

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Speaker 2: But I feel like that is so wicked and I'm

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Speaker 2: not done with it.

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Speaker 1: That is weird.

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Speaker 2: I'm not done with it at all.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Do some research on that, friend.

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Speaker 2: I try to see how the fuck I can make

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Speaker 2: money off them, too. Sorry, y'all.

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Speaker 1: No, no, no. We're going to talk about this. AJ

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Speaker 1: had posted a bathing suit pic to her close friends,

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Speaker 1: and you look so good. Why you didn't post it

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Speaker 1: for everybody to see? Everybody need to see how good

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Speaker 3: I'm like one hoe, not two hoe, okay? I don't

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Speaker 3: be want, like that's not my image though. I wanted

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Speaker 3: like people to give me like the oohs and the

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Speaker 3: ahs and like, girl, you look good.

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Speaker 2: I wanted that. Okay. That's obviously why people post those

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Speaker 2: type of pictures, but I don't need that from everybody.

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Speaker 2: Just the people I fuck with. That's it.

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Speaker 1: Girl, post that baby suit picture.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. Maybe, maybe not. We'll see.

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Speaker 1: I screenshotted. I'm going to post it on your next birthday.

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Speaker 2: What the hell you did this weekend? Don't worry about it.

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Speaker 1: I really didn't do much of anything. It was my

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Speaker 1: so I went to that. They all went out, but

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Speaker 1: I did not go out. I just been spending my time.

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Speaker 1: I've been running every day. I've been running every day

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Speaker 1: the past 10 days straight. I've been doing at least

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Speaker 1: don't know. Her pictures, like she has a body type

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Speaker 2: Looks fucking amazing.

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Speaker 1: Is it the Jessica, the J-Sculpt girl?

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Speaker 5: Yes.

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Speaker 3: Girl, why I got her screenshot on my goddamn phone?

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Speaker 3: I was like, yo, that's my body.

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Speaker 2: Me too, bitch.

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Speaker 1: She motivated me.

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Speaker 2: I was like, that's my body right there.

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Speaker 1: That's, in fact, same. Except I ain't got no titties

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Speaker 2: But everything else is me.

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Speaker 1: So she done motivated me. I've been like in there

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Speaker 1: running every day because I'm just starting with cardio. But

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Speaker 2: Girl, I definitely, I don't know how she came across

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Speaker 2: my timeline.

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Speaker 3: I definitely followed that ass and screenshot that goddamn picture. Like,

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Speaker 3: you cannot be walking around here that fine and I'm not. Like,

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Speaker 3: what am I doing with my life?

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Speaker 1: That's how I felt too. So a bitch been running

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Speaker 1: every 10 days straight.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she looks amazing.

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Speaker 1: Let's get into the stupid internet news. What happened this

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Speaker 2: Did y'all watch the VMAs?

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 1: I did see some of it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so Lizzo was addressing Aries Spears because, you know,

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Speaker 3: he tried to come for her on Instagram.

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Speaker 2: Talk about how she looked like the shit emoji. Just terrible.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Like, you're not even funny. Like, I mean, he

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Speaker 1: but that just wasn't, it was tasteless. It wasn't, it

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Speaker 3: And just some random hate. Even Mike Epps came for

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Speaker 3: his ass right quick. And the thing is, is that

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Speaker 3: I wanted to talk about this story in particular because

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Speaker 3: when it comes to aesthetics, men are way more visual.

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Speaker 3: looks like him. Regardless of what, if Lizzo is big,

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Speaker 2: Pretty ass girl. And I bet you she smells nice

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Speaker 3: Okay.

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Speaker 2: She's just really fluffy.

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Speaker 3: But imagine you look like Mike F says he looks sick.

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Speaker 3: I believe him because the pictures and that's how he

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Speaker 1: Based off appearance. Yeah, it was just black.

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Speaker 3: And men do that. It was just black and poor taste.

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Speaker 3: Did you ever see that skit that Drewski did that

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Speaker 2: He was like, oh, my girl.

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Speaker 3: My girl can't. My girl got to always keep her

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Speaker 3: nails done. Meanwhile, you got dirty fingernails.

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Speaker 1: Right. And holes in your jaw.

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Speaker 3: Just all this nasty shit that men be having going on.

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Speaker 3: And y'all just think that women just have to be

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Speaker 2: That's how guys be. And I don't like it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not here for that.

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Speaker 2: Y'all need to lower y'all standards a little bit.

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Speaker 3: Y'all need to recognize your holler level.

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Speaker 2: Men don't know their holler level. Right.

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Speaker 1: Oh, that New Jersey art teacher, she responded to, if

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Speaker 1: and they were calling for her to be fired over

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Speaker 1: her to be fired are not women. It's men. Which

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Speaker 1: Or just, you know, I don't, but it's men. She

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Speaker 1: says it's more men. Women are supporting her. But as

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Speaker 1: long as you're a good educator and good with the children,

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Speaker 1: I don't care what your body looks like.

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Speaker 2: Exactly.

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Speaker 1: If you are teaching these kids and raising them up

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Speaker 1: what your body look like.

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Speaker 3: And I guess, you know, we've always had this, like,

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Speaker 3: doesn't have, like, the standard body type or maybe she

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Speaker 1: But it doesn't look like she's wearing that stuff. From

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Speaker 2: Have curves in it.

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Speaker 1: And some shit you can't handle. Yeah, you can't handle.

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Speaker 3: And I feel like black women, we've always gotten that

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Speaker 3: you remember being in school and being critiqued on what

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Speaker 3: looks different in it, it's a problem. But it's not

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Speaker 3: a problem with the child, because I'm a child in

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Speaker 3: high school, right? You're a grown adult male or adult

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Speaker 3: woman looking at me in a sexual way.

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Speaker 2: That don't have nothing to do with me. Right.

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Speaker 3: Because why are you sexualizing my body in that way?

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Speaker 3: But it's weird to me to think that it's men

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Speaker 3: that are coming for her and not the women.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I would think it would be the women. Because remember

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Speaker 3: it was that.

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Speaker 1: Me too. You remember that news host?

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Speaker 2: She was a black girl as well. Very cute. Oh, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 2: And it was the white women that was coming for her.

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Speaker 3: They didn't want their husbands watching their ass on fucking

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Speaker 3: TV no more.

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Speaker 2: She was very beautiful. Nice body.

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Speaker 1: They were like, fuck the weather. Because I think she

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Speaker 1: was like the weather girl.

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Speaker 2: Bitch, you won't need to know if it's raining or not.

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Speaker 5: Right.

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Speaker 1: Bitch, you'll see if it's raining tomorrow when you go outside.

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Speaker 2: All right, Tam. So listen, you with your man, right?

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Speaker 3: Y'all religiously played a lottery together.

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Speaker 2: You love him.

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Speaker 3: At least you think you love him until you finally

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Speaker 3: hit the fucking lottery.

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Speaker 2: For say, I don't know, $ 4. 2 million? What you doing?

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Speaker 1: What I'm doing? It depends. If I love him like that,

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Speaker 3: This story comes from Hollywood Unlocked, so apparently this woman,

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Speaker 3: Supposedly there was a thing where she doesn't have to

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Speaker 2: I don't know how true that is. It doesn't make

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Speaker 1: She should have got it in writing. He should have

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Speaker 2: Exactly.

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Speaker 1: It ain't nothing you can do now, baby. If she

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Speaker 3: You know, it's just certain people I want to see

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Speaker 2: She don't like him.

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Speaker 3: At all.

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Speaker 1: She's just dealing with him. And she probably didn't think

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Speaker 1: And now she up. As soon as I hit the lottery,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to find Jonathan Major's ass. I'm going to

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Speaker 2: Girl, if you don't stop talking about my boyfriend, what

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Speaker 2: is your problem? You want to fight? Girl. You want

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Speaker 2: to F-I-T? I told you. F-I-T. You want to fight?

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Speaker 1: I told you I've been running.

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Speaker 2: That don't got nothing to do with it. What them

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Speaker 1: I'm getting stronger. That's all I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: You're bobbing weave.

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Speaker 1: That's all I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: Girl, listen, don't talk about my man on this show

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Speaker 1: Girl, every bitch want their stuff when it comes to that. Listen,

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Speaker 1: if we were ever in a room with Jonathan Majors together-

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Speaker 1: I might tell him you have herpes. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Yo! I ain't never hit on a bitch like that now.

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Speaker 2: You can have him. Dog, listen. You know what? You

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Speaker 1: Jonathan, don't talk to her. Jonathan, don't talk to her.

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Speaker 1: She has herpes.

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Speaker 3: I ain't never about to hit on a bitch to

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Speaker 2: Look, you got him because you willing to go too low. Ooh!

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Speaker 1: I'm like Candy Michelle Obama when you go low I

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Speaker 3: With your ass obviously you going to hell when somebody

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Speaker 3: if he be like.

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Speaker 1: Me too I be like well then y'all a match

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Speaker 1: made in heaven go ahead over there stupid alright y'all

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Speaker 1: but then I would come to you and be like

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Speaker 2: You stupid. I wouldn't set you up to get no sickness, friend.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, friend.

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Speaker 3: Y'all, we talking erectile dysfunction today, okay? We talking about

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Speaker 3: penises today. We're trying to help the community today. So

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Speaker 2: We'll be right back. All right, y'all.

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Speaker 3: Listen, we have a very special guest on We Talk

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Speaker 3: Back today. Listen, she is a board-certified urologist. Okay, so

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Speaker 3: a couple weeks ago, I was just thinking about different

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Speaker 2: After a conversation.

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Speaker 1: After.

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Speaker 3: A conversation with some men on Clubhouse a couple weeks ago, child.

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Speaker 2: So listen, I found... Dr. Fenwa Milhouse. She is, again,

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Speaker 2: a board-certified urologist. Tell us a little bit about yourself, Dr. Milhouse.

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Speaker 5: Sorry.

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Speaker 2: Sorry.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so my name is Dr. Fenwa Milhouse. I am

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Speaker 4: a board-certified urologist, which means I am a surgical specialist.

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Speaker 4: We are surgeons, but we specialize in the urinary tract

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Speaker 4: and and male reproductive system. I am also fellowship trained

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Speaker 4: that means that I also do a lot of things

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Speaker 4: are treating pelvic floor problems and urinary leakage, and issues

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Speaker 4: for over seven years in a very large private practice

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Speaker 4: as the go-to pelvic floor surgeon.

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Speaker 2: Nice.

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Speaker 1: Wow, that's dope.

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Speaker 3: Mm-hmm.

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Speaker 1: So you deal with dicks and pussies all day long.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I do.

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Speaker 1: I love this show.

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Speaker 2: Please be normal.

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Speaker 3: Okay, thank you.

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Speaker 1: I want to know, I don't have no man yet,

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Speaker 1: but when I get him, how can I make sure

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Speaker 1: his dick stay hard forever?

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Speaker 3: Forever.

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Speaker 4: Forever. Okay.

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Speaker 2: That's how we started. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I want to know. Definitely.

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Speaker 4: So this is great. This is a good question. And

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Speaker 4: probably all men are wondering this too, are wanting this.

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Speaker 4: So the most important thing is he's got to be healthy. Okay.

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Speaker 4: So he has to live a healthy lifestyle. What's good

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Speaker 4: for the heart is good for the dick. Okay. Period.

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Speaker 4: Point blank. If he's a smoker, no, no, can't do.

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Speaker 4: And I'm, and okay. Whenever I say smoker, people are like, well,

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Speaker 4: does weed count? Okay. I'm talking. Let me clarify. So

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Speaker 4: we're talking about tobacco use. So not even just smoking. Tobacco,

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Speaker 4: that is so like that you're killing your dick. Okay.

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Speaker 4: Yep. Marijuana, you know, probably alcohol. does not have at

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Speaker 4: all the same risk as tobacco when it comes to

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Speaker 4: if he's an excessive drinker, you want to roll that back.

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Speaker 4: Whiskey dick is very real. You drink too much, first

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Speaker 4: of all, if you drink way too much, it's not cute.

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Speaker 4: It's not sexy. And so we aren't going to get moist,

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Speaker 4: but then also the dick isn't going to get as

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Speaker 4: initiate the blood flow. Exercise is fabulous for blood circulation.

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Speaker 4: Make him see a doctor every year. Sisters, okay? Make

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Speaker 4: him go see a doctor every year. I don't care

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Speaker 4: how buff how well he in shape he feels, how

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Speaker 4: make sure you're in good working order. So many of

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Speaker 4: I hate to use him in his example, but Kevin

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Speaker 4: Samuels too young to just die, croak over. And so,

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Speaker 4: and I don't know if he was seeing a doctor

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Speaker 4: it's far too often our young men, and I consider

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Speaker 3: So what we're talking about today, y'all, is erectile dysfunction, mainly. Okay.

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Speaker 5: Okay.

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Speaker 3: So I was having a conversation with, well, actually I

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Speaker 3: talk about those dicks for a minute, okay? And how

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Speaker 3: they really don't work. And how you spend your whole

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Speaker 2: Give her the worst dick of her life for the

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Speaker 1: That sounds real bleak.

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Speaker 2: That's what it is. Damn, AJ. We do talk about

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Speaker 1: And it's not.

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Speaker 2: Fair for your wife.

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Speaker 1: They don't stop running.

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Speaker 4: That's not fair.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: You don't want the leftovers.

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Speaker 2: So how is ED usually diagnosed?

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Speaker 4: Well, it's diagnosed because of manhood. Is embarrassed, is concerned.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I will tell you this, when the penis

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Speaker 4: So that's usually how they get to see the doctor

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Speaker 4: And no matter how young or how old, I mean,

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Speaker 4: I've had men in their nineties come in and be like, Hey,

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Speaker 4: I can't get an erection. What are we going to do?

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Speaker 4: And I'm happy. I'm not an ageist. Like, cool, great, awesome.

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Speaker 4: Who are you having sex with? No, I'm not having

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Speaker 4: They just want to make sure you don't want to

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Speaker 4: starts off with, ooh, I'm not waking up hard anymore.

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Speaker 4: And then, you know, you don't last as long. And

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Speaker 2: All right, y'all.

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Speaker 1: And like, what type of treatment? All right, so let's

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Speaker 1: say I get this man, we in love, and then

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Speaker 1: all of a sudden his dick stopped working. God, please

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Speaker 1: never happen. But what kind of treatment would he need

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Speaker 1: to seek like then after we discover that he does

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Speaker 1: have like an issue?

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Speaker 2: Aside from gas patient pills.

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Speaker 1: That's why I was going to ask about that next.

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Speaker 4: So first of all. we should ease up. Like if it's,

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Speaker 4: if it's one, don't go rushing him to the doctor

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Speaker 4: after like the first time, like, Oh my God, you did, you.

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Speaker 1: Know, baby, we coming straight to you.

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Speaker 5: Uh, Dr.

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Speaker 1: Millhouse, soon as that dick don't work.

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Speaker 5: Right.

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00:21:28,609 --> 00:21:31,350
Speaker 1: We run into, we coming straight to your office, girl.

447
00:21:31,369 --> 00:21:34,350
Speaker 1: I don't know what you're talking about.

448
00:21:34,369 --> 00:21:36,840
Speaker 4: Cause it just might be a bad night. My, again,

449
00:21:36,859 --> 00:21:39,460
Speaker 4: might not have had too much to drink. You might be,

450
00:21:39,580 --> 00:21:42,140
Speaker 4: he might just be like, I'm not feeling hurt right now.

451
00:21:42,700 --> 00:21:45,270
Speaker 4: you know, she's nagging me all day. I don't, but

452
00:21:45,330 --> 00:21:47,810
Speaker 4: you know, I don't, you know, so, you know, we'll

453
00:21:47,850 --> 00:21:50,389
Speaker 4: give one pass at least, but if it seems to

454
00:21:50,470 --> 00:21:55,450
Speaker 4: be a pattern, obviously absolutely start early to get an,

455
00:21:55,790 --> 00:22:01,369
Speaker 4: to get attention. So certain treatment. So regardless of the type,

456
00:22:01,609 --> 00:22:05,830
Speaker 4: most of the time, the treatments are similar or regardless

457
00:22:05,850 --> 00:22:08,850
Speaker 4: of the cause, I should say of erectile dysfunction. The

458
00:22:08,930 --> 00:22:12,900
Speaker 4: treatment is basically about the same. And again, one, we

459
00:22:12,920 --> 00:22:17,330
Speaker 4: screen for like, you know, just behavioral or, or psychological issues.

460
00:22:17,369 --> 00:22:21,869
Speaker 4: There's something called psychogenic or psychological erectile dysfunction. And that's

461
00:22:21,930 --> 00:22:28,630
Speaker 4: when the mechanics work just fine. It's just, there's mental, social, whatever,

462
00:22:28,780 --> 00:22:30,800
Speaker 4: psychological issues that are blocking it.

463
00:22:30,820 --> 00:22:31,159
Speaker 2: Yeah.

464
00:22:31,500 --> 00:22:36,060
Speaker 4: You're depressed. Your relationship ain't good. You have body image issues.

465
00:22:36,140 --> 00:22:39,540
Speaker 4: Men can have body image issues. You, um, you know,

466
00:22:40,470 --> 00:22:42,869
Speaker 4: other things are happening. You're, you're, you have other, you know,

467
00:22:42,910 --> 00:22:45,730
Speaker 4: medical problems that are weighing you down. You're stressed, you're,

468
00:22:45,810 --> 00:22:47,930
Speaker 4: you know, stressed at work or whatever the case may be.

469
00:22:48,050 --> 00:22:52,210
Speaker 4: So those things we try to weed, try to weed for.

470
00:22:52,230 --> 00:22:56,670
Speaker 4: And the biggest way to distinguish is those men usually

471
00:22:56,690 --> 00:23:00,270
Speaker 4: will have morning wood, right? Cause that's, they can't control that.

472
00:23:00,350 --> 00:23:02,290
Speaker 4: So that's a good sign of a healthy penis. Oh,

473
00:23:02,310 --> 00:23:04,650
Speaker 4: they got morning wood. Okay, great. But you just can't

474
00:23:04,690 --> 00:23:07,080
Speaker 4: get it up in the bed. Then you probably need a,

475
00:23:07,230 --> 00:23:10,380
Speaker 4: you know, to see a therapist, psychiatrist, those types of stuff.

476
00:23:11,590 --> 00:23:15,110
Speaker 4: But assuming it's not that, then it's, you know, talking

477
00:23:15,130 --> 00:23:18,209
Speaker 4: about all the lifestyle changes that I went through. Okay.

478
00:23:18,550 --> 00:23:20,310
Speaker 4: That's when I'm having a heart to heart with these

479
00:23:20,369 --> 00:23:23,630
Speaker 4: men and saying, okay, do you exercise? Do you, what

480
00:23:23,670 --> 00:23:25,210
Speaker 4: do you eat? Have you been to the doctor in

481
00:23:25,230 --> 00:23:29,470
Speaker 4: the last 10, 5, 10, 2, last year? Do you

482
00:23:29,510 --> 00:23:32,050
Speaker 4: have diabetes? Do you, if you have diabetes, is it

483
00:23:32,130 --> 00:23:35,659
Speaker 4: in control? Do you smoke? Do you use drugs? And

484
00:23:35,680 --> 00:23:39,220
Speaker 4: then we start with pills. So the pills, and these

485
00:23:39,260 --> 00:23:40,419
Speaker 4: aren't the gas station pills.

486
00:23:41,290 --> 00:23:43,110
Speaker 1: That honey, that honeycomb stuff.

487
00:23:43,450 --> 00:23:49,940
Speaker 4: You don't know what you've taken. Um, but yeah, these

488
00:23:50,020 --> 00:23:53,000
Speaker 4: are like prescription medicines that we use that are now

489
00:23:53,200 --> 00:23:58,700
Speaker 4: actually very affordable, very affordable. Now, um, you don't got

490
00:23:58,720 --> 00:24:01,720
Speaker 4: to spend a mint to get your, the blue pill

491
00:24:01,760 --> 00:24:05,000
Speaker 4: or the Viagra or the Cialis. Um, and so those

492
00:24:05,060 --> 00:24:07,580
Speaker 4: pills are given now the pills They kind of take

493
00:24:07,619 --> 00:24:09,540
Speaker 4: some of the spontaneity out of it because you got

494
00:24:09,560 --> 00:24:14,030
Speaker 4: to plan and take it about an hour prior to sex. But,

495
00:24:14,830 --> 00:24:16,170
Speaker 4: you know, it can work wonders.

496
00:24:17,090 --> 00:24:21,250
Speaker 1: Are they dangerous? Those pills. Because I've seen some cases,

497
00:24:21,290 --> 00:24:24,590
Speaker 1: stories where, you know, the erection never went down. They

498
00:24:24,609 --> 00:24:27,590
Speaker 1: had to go to the hospital and get their penis exploded.

499
00:24:27,710 --> 00:24:30,820
Speaker 2: My dad had an incident like that.

500
00:24:30,940 --> 00:24:33,500
Speaker 3: That kind of happened to my dad before he like

501
00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:36,199
Speaker 3: bust a blood vessel in his penis.

502
00:24:38,420 --> 00:24:38,919
Speaker 4: And what?

503
00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:42,139
Speaker 3: Look, this is a very long time ago. And he

504
00:24:42,180 --> 00:24:45,020
Speaker 3: was like, he told me he couldn't come. He was

505
00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:47,090
Speaker 3: supposed to come to me to help me go find

506
00:24:47,119 --> 00:24:47,690
Speaker 3: a car. Right.

507
00:24:48,350 --> 00:24:50,490
Speaker 2: And he didn't show up. So I'm like, what happened?

508
00:24:50,510 --> 00:24:52,530
Speaker 3: He was like, I strained myself. So we continued on

509
00:24:52,550 --> 00:24:54,790
Speaker 3: with the conversation. And I was like, so what happened?

510
00:24:54,810 --> 00:24:57,550
Speaker 3: You hurt your back or something like that? He was like, no,

511
00:24:59,130 --> 00:25:00,090
Speaker 3: I strained my pecker.

512
00:25:00,230 --> 00:25:01,270
Speaker 2: I'm like, wait, what?

513
00:25:01,950 --> 00:25:04,720
Speaker 3: So I'm assuming because I know he was taking Viagra

514
00:25:05,060 --> 00:25:06,960
Speaker 3: and his wife is a little young, a lot younger.

515
00:25:06,980 --> 00:25:07,440
Speaker 1: Okay.

516
00:25:07,900 --> 00:25:12,140
Speaker 3: So I was assuming like maybe he, is that, could

517
00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:15,429
Speaker 3: that happen? Could your penis, like a blood vessel, because it's,

518
00:25:15,930 --> 00:25:18,330
Speaker 3: you know, erect for a long period of time.

519
00:25:19,790 --> 00:25:20,530
Speaker 2: Well, okay.

520
00:25:20,570 --> 00:25:24,210
Speaker 4: So there's two different things y'all are talking about. You're

521
00:25:24,230 --> 00:25:27,110
Speaker 4: talking about an erection that does not go down.

522
00:25:27,150 --> 00:25:27,490
Speaker 2: From pills.

523
00:25:27,530 --> 00:25:32,980
Speaker 4: Like you've already orgasmed. Well, so that rarely happens with pills, actually,

524
00:25:33,060 --> 00:25:36,990
Speaker 4: unless you abuse the pills. I mean, you're taking pills. two, three,

525
00:25:37,030 --> 00:25:40,390
Speaker 4: four times the dose, then yeah, maybe. But if you're

526
00:25:40,410 --> 00:25:43,820
Speaker 4: taking the regular, even the max dose, it rarely happens

527
00:25:43,859 --> 00:25:47,200
Speaker 4: with pills. Now, one of the other ways we treat

528
00:25:47,220 --> 00:25:51,159
Speaker 4: erectile dysfunction is penile injections, which is actual like an

529
00:25:51,220 --> 00:25:55,220
Speaker 4: injection in the penis of medicine that increases blood flow

530
00:25:55,420 --> 00:25:58,080
Speaker 4: to the penis. And this is for patients who actually

531
00:25:58,460 --> 00:26:01,199
Speaker 4: usually are not doing well with pills. Pills aren't working.

532
00:26:01,920 --> 00:26:05,199
Speaker 4: That has a much higher risk of an erection that

533
00:26:05,220 --> 00:26:07,580
Speaker 4: doesn't go down, which is what we call priapism. So

534
00:26:07,640 --> 00:26:11,540
Speaker 4: those patients, unfortunately, sometimes, so they'll come to my office

535
00:26:11,580 --> 00:26:14,010
Speaker 4: and I'll give them the first injection. And I give

536
00:26:14,030 --> 00:26:16,869
Speaker 4: them a little small injection. I'm like, okay, yay, it worked.

537
00:26:17,010 --> 00:26:20,110
Speaker 4: And a couple times, unfortunately, and I prepped them for this,

538
00:26:20,170 --> 00:26:22,850
Speaker 4: they wound it up in the ER because they were like, Dr. Milhouse,

539
00:26:22,950 --> 00:26:26,510
Speaker 4: I left your office. I went straight home, used it,

540
00:26:26,750 --> 00:26:29,580
Speaker 4: and it would not go down. And it's still up.

541
00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:31,629
Speaker 4: So they had to go to the ER. And when

542
00:26:31,670 --> 00:26:34,840
Speaker 4: you have an erection that's lasting three, four hours and

543
00:26:34,970 --> 00:26:38,040
Speaker 4: not going down, it's number one, painful. It is not

544
00:26:38,600 --> 00:26:45,420
Speaker 4: a plus anymore. It's painful. Number two, it actually can

545
00:26:45,520 --> 00:26:50,629
Speaker 4: damage the penis and decrease the ability to get an

546
00:26:50,690 --> 00:26:54,850
Speaker 4: erection in the future. And so it is something we

547
00:26:54,869 --> 00:26:59,490
Speaker 4: need to treat. It's a bit of a urologic emergency

548
00:26:59,550 --> 00:27:03,810
Speaker 4: or urgency thing. And somebody said it exploded. But what

549
00:27:03,850 --> 00:27:07,050
Speaker 4: we do, we do, it is kind of gruesome. What

550
00:27:07,070 --> 00:27:09,859
Speaker 4: we do do to treat it is we put needles

551
00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:13,420
Speaker 4: in the penis and let the blood out, like release

552
00:27:13,540 --> 00:27:16,199
Speaker 4: all that blood that's not getting out, like out. And

553
00:27:16,260 --> 00:27:23,950
Speaker 4: it's very bloody. It's very satisfying. And for the patient too,

554
00:27:23,970 --> 00:27:24,889
Speaker 4: the patient's like, oh.

555
00:27:26,260 --> 00:27:29,750
Speaker 1: Release. It's almost like they came again, but just blood.

556
00:27:30,010 --> 00:27:30,490
Speaker 2: But blood.

557
00:27:30,650 --> 00:27:32,830
Speaker 4: We numb them up. So it's not like, we're not like.

558
00:27:33,430 --> 00:27:35,619
Speaker 4: you know, inhumane. So we numb them up and we

559
00:27:35,640 --> 00:27:39,820
Speaker 4: put the, yes. So that's what, but your dad, I

560
00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:42,340
Speaker 4: think he just popped a superficial blood vessel. Like he

561
00:27:42,380 --> 00:27:43,540
Speaker 4: was doing it too hard.

562
00:27:45,320 --> 00:27:48,180
Speaker 1: Too much information. I don't want to know Mr. Jerome

563
00:27:48,200 --> 00:27:48,680
Speaker 1: like that.

564
00:27:53,290 --> 00:27:55,330
Speaker 3: I like my other thought better. I just like the

565
00:27:55,350 --> 00:27:58,250
Speaker 3: thought that it just wouldn't go down. And then like, yeah,

566
00:27:58,290 --> 00:28:00,170
Speaker 3: he had a, like a medical issue. Yeah.

567
00:28:00,190 --> 00:28:01,470
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.

568
00:28:03,619 --> 00:28:08,080
Speaker 1: Does testosterone play a part in how your erection at all?

569
00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:11,460
Speaker 4: That's an amazing question. That is probably the best question

570
00:28:11,640 --> 00:28:19,450
Speaker 4: of the hour. So everybody always assumes I have erectile dysfunction,

571
00:28:19,510 --> 00:28:22,250
Speaker 4: therefore I need testosterone. They come in saying that, like,

572
00:28:22,290 --> 00:28:25,250
Speaker 4: I think I need testosterone. And the truth of the

573
00:28:25,290 --> 00:28:30,240
Speaker 4: matter is testosterone is an indirect player. It is not

574
00:28:30,380 --> 00:28:34,850
Speaker 4: the main player here. You can have a normal high

575
00:28:34,930 --> 00:28:38,850
Speaker 4: testosterone and have issues with erections. You can have low

576
00:28:38,910 --> 00:28:43,290
Speaker 4: testosterone and be hard as a rock, okay? Erections are

577
00:28:43,350 --> 00:28:48,010
Speaker 4: about blood flow. It's about blood flow. Testosterone is the

578
00:28:48,050 --> 00:28:54,170
Speaker 4: male hormone that is important for libido, important for, you know,

579
00:28:54,670 --> 00:28:59,990
Speaker 4: for fertility, for sperm production. So that's, you know, its role.

580
00:29:00,970 --> 00:29:04,960
Speaker 4: And so... We may check it in the workup, but

581
00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:08,740
Speaker 4: even if you have low testosterone and you have erectile dysfunction,

582
00:29:08,800 --> 00:29:11,610
Speaker 4: the treatment for your erectile dysfunction isn't just giving you

583
00:29:11,640 --> 00:29:15,160
Speaker 4: testosterone only. The treatment is I need to treat your

584
00:29:15,180 --> 00:29:18,010
Speaker 4: erectile dysfunction at the same time that I'm also helping

585
00:29:18,050 --> 00:29:19,650
Speaker 4: you with your low testosterone.

586
00:29:21,270 --> 00:29:22,710
Speaker 1: Interesting.

587
00:29:23,350 --> 00:29:28,290
Speaker 3: So is there a difference between erectile dysfunction and just impotence?

588
00:29:28,690 --> 00:29:29,630
Speaker 3: Is there a difference really?

589
00:29:31,270 --> 00:29:34,530
Speaker 4: They're basically the same thing. I mean, erectile dysfunction is

590
00:29:34,590 --> 00:29:36,950
Speaker 4: the medical term that we use. Impotence is, I guess,

591
00:29:37,030 --> 00:29:40,640
Speaker 4: more like the public's term of it. but it's basically

592
00:29:40,660 --> 00:29:44,170
Speaker 4: referring to the same thing. Can't either erectile dysfunction. So

593
00:29:44,190 --> 00:29:49,290
Speaker 4: let's just clarify what the heck is the definition is

594
00:29:49,410 --> 00:29:55,130
Speaker 4: basically you can't achieve because what is an erection? An

595
00:29:55,190 --> 00:29:59,510
Speaker 4: erection is blood filling up the penis and getting it

596
00:29:59,730 --> 00:30:04,520
Speaker 4: rigid enough for penetration, right? We know what it means

597
00:30:04,600 --> 00:30:07,660
Speaker 4: when the penis just isn't quite ready to penetrate and

598
00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:09,000
Speaker 4: it's like soft.

599
00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:12,050
Speaker 2: And- My mom calls it a wet rag. Okay.

600
00:30:12,130 --> 00:30:13,510
Speaker 1: A wet noodle.

601
00:30:13,650 --> 00:30:16,550
Speaker 4: And you're like, it's not quite right. Like, you know

602
00:30:16,570 --> 00:30:20,170
Speaker 4: what I'm saying? It ain't ready. So- And so if you,

603
00:30:20,510 --> 00:30:24,050
Speaker 4: your erection has to get firm enough that it penetrates.

604
00:30:24,510 --> 00:30:26,850
Speaker 4: So if you can't do that, if it can't get

605
00:30:26,910 --> 00:30:30,330
Speaker 4: firm enough for penetration, that is erectile dysfunction. Or if

606
00:30:30,370 --> 00:30:34,070
Speaker 4: you don't, if it lose, if you lose that firmness quickly,

607
00:30:34,250 --> 00:30:36,780
Speaker 4: so you, you can get it up, but you start

608
00:30:36,880 --> 00:30:39,680
Speaker 4: and it gets wet. So, so that's what.

609
00:30:39,710 --> 00:30:42,880
Speaker 3: So having fast, like, like a man coming too fast,

610
00:30:42,900 --> 00:30:45,600
Speaker 3: that's not ED. That's not, it has nothing to do

611
00:30:45,620 --> 00:30:47,660
Speaker 3: with being, having erectile dysfunction.

612
00:30:47,700 --> 00:30:49,400
Speaker 2: It's just, A quick popper.

613
00:30:49,420 --> 00:30:53,890
Speaker 4: That is the second best question of the hour. Yeah.

614
00:30:53,970 --> 00:30:56,230
Speaker 4: So that's totally different, right? Because when a man comes

615
00:30:56,270 --> 00:30:59,530
Speaker 4: too fast, the dick is doing what it's supposed to do.

616
00:30:59,610 --> 00:31:04,700
Speaker 4: When a dick comes or ejaculates, then the body goes into, okay,

617
00:31:04,740 --> 00:31:07,080
Speaker 4: now the blood can release. We good. We've done, we've,

618
00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:10,400
Speaker 4: you know, achieved the goal. So the body is when

619
00:31:10,420 --> 00:31:14,020
Speaker 4: the erection goes down after ejaculation, that's the normal response.

620
00:31:14,600 --> 00:31:15,000
Speaker 2: All right.

621
00:31:15,590 --> 00:31:18,090
Speaker 4: Blood is not supposed to stay in the penis after ejaculation.

622
00:31:18,130 --> 00:31:20,930
Speaker 4: The problem is he's ejaculating too damn fast. So that's

623
00:31:20,990 --> 00:31:21,750
Speaker 4: a separate issue.

624
00:31:21,810 --> 00:31:22,070
Speaker 2: Yeah.

625
00:31:24,190 --> 00:31:25,030
Speaker 4: There's a lot of that.

626
00:31:26,450 --> 00:31:26,890
Speaker 1: Too.

627
00:31:27,270 --> 00:31:30,860
Speaker 2: Is that mental or he's just selfish? Is he just selfish?

628
00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:35,459
Speaker 3: Cause do men like how, to me, I'm glad I'm

629
00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:35,840
Speaker 3: a woman.

630
00:31:36,300 --> 00:31:36,580
Speaker 2: Okay.

631
00:31:36,740 --> 00:31:38,220
Speaker 3: Cause I feel like there's a lot of pressure to

632
00:31:38,260 --> 00:31:39,860
Speaker 3: be a man as far as like when it comes

633
00:31:39,900 --> 00:31:40,300
Speaker 3: to sex.

634
00:31:40,480 --> 00:31:42,990
Speaker 2: Okay. And finances. You got to have money. You got

635
00:31:43,010 --> 00:31:44,070
Speaker 2: to have the big dick. You got to have the

636
00:31:44,090 --> 00:31:46,150
Speaker 2: big dick that works. And you got to know how

637
00:31:46,190 --> 00:31:46,670
Speaker 2: to work it.

638
00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:48,980
Speaker 3: All these different things, we do put a lot of

639
00:31:49,020 --> 00:31:52,080
Speaker 3: pressure on men, you know, as far as sex.

640
00:31:53,020 --> 00:31:56,100
Speaker 2: So, wait a second.

641
00:31:56,300 --> 00:32:00,780
Speaker 4: Well, let me just say something here. Big dick is

642
00:32:00,860 --> 00:32:09,350
Speaker 4: not everything. Absolutely not. And 90% of us orgasm with clitoral...

643
00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:13,560
Speaker 4: attention and stimulation. So a big old dick that's just,

644
00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:14,960
Speaker 4: you know.

645
00:32:15,020 --> 00:32:19,620
Speaker 3: That's when you have pelvic floor problems.

646
00:32:20,220 --> 00:32:22,240
Speaker 2: When you begin to beat up your whole life.

647
00:32:23,840 --> 00:32:29,000
Speaker 4: It doesn't necessarily feel good. But if you have somebody

648
00:32:29,020 --> 00:32:34,060
Speaker 4: who knows how to incorporate the clitoris to stroke that

649
00:32:34,300 --> 00:32:38,560
Speaker 4: anterior vagina, that upper part of the vagina, That's close

650
00:32:38,620 --> 00:32:40,800
Speaker 4: to the outside actually. So you don't even need to

651
00:32:40,860 --> 00:32:44,880
Speaker 4: go that deep to really get a woman, 90% of

652
00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:52,440
Speaker 4: women to orgasm. You don't even need to go that deep.

653
00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:55,100
Speaker 1: What is a buried penis?

654
00:32:56,620 --> 00:33:01,670
Speaker 4: Great. Buried penis is a penis that is okay. So

655
00:33:01,690 --> 00:33:06,070
Speaker 4: the penis is not just what we see. Um, there's

656
00:33:06,250 --> 00:33:11,180
Speaker 4: actually an internal part. It's probably, you know, um, it's

657
00:33:11,200 --> 00:33:14,080
Speaker 4: probably double the size. The whole penis is double the size.

658
00:33:14,540 --> 00:33:17,680
Speaker 4: Half of it is inside. And so in a buried penis,

659
00:33:18,340 --> 00:33:21,900
Speaker 4: what is happened is either that where it's attached, that

660
00:33:21,980 --> 00:33:25,360
Speaker 4: inner part where it's attached is abnormal. So it's hiding

661
00:33:26,050 --> 00:33:31,550
Speaker 4: what's supposed to be out or that there's a lot of, um,

662
00:33:32,240 --> 00:33:36,050
Speaker 4: fat over the area of the penis. Like there's a

663
00:33:36,160 --> 00:33:44,490
Speaker 4: huge abdominal or what we can call Mons pubis fat

664
00:33:44,870 --> 00:33:47,870
Speaker 4: that is creating this buried penis. You know, you got

665
00:33:47,890 --> 00:33:50,830
Speaker 4: this fat in there and then the penis is kind

666
00:33:50,890 --> 00:33:53,540
Speaker 4: of just covered. Um, Yes.

667
00:33:53,620 --> 00:33:56,290
Speaker 1: So you'd be like, girl, my dick really 10 inches,

668
00:33:56,310 --> 00:33:58,510
Speaker 1: half of it buried. It's inside.

669
00:33:58,710 --> 00:33:59,190
Speaker 4: Correct.

670
00:33:59,410 --> 00:33:59,790
Speaker 1: It is.

671
00:33:59,850 --> 00:34:03,950
Speaker 3: So when guys go get the penis surgeries to make

672
00:34:03,970 --> 00:34:04,260
Speaker 3: their dick.

673
00:34:04,340 --> 00:34:05,000
Speaker 1: Excavated. Yeah.

674
00:34:05,020 --> 00:34:06,720
Speaker 2: So they like dig some of that dick out.

675
00:34:08,780 --> 00:34:09,400
Speaker 4: That's awesome.

676
00:34:11,660 --> 00:34:12,620
Speaker 2: Excavate the dick.

677
00:34:14,600 --> 00:34:17,580
Speaker 4: Yes. In a way, that's kind of what takes place.

678
00:34:17,640 --> 00:34:21,190
Speaker 4: It's actually a really complex procedure. It is not a

679
00:34:21,250 --> 00:34:26,989
Speaker 4: procedure that the average urologist, like specialized urologists do. But basically,

680
00:34:27,150 --> 00:34:29,549
Speaker 4: you know, we might have to separate some of the

681
00:34:29,610 --> 00:34:32,339
Speaker 4: attachments of the inner part of that penis to get

682
00:34:32,620 --> 00:34:36,120
Speaker 4: it to come out more. And so you're right in

683
00:34:36,160 --> 00:34:39,480
Speaker 4: a way that it's excavating the inner, releasing that inner

684
00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:42,690
Speaker 4: dick that just is waiting to you know show its

685
00:34:42,730 --> 00:34:44,719
Speaker 4: stuff um yes.

686
00:34:47,580 --> 00:34:51,020
Speaker 1: All right so i was seeing that there's like various

687
00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:57,770
Speaker 1: forms of ed tests like uh nocturnal penile stamp test

688
00:34:57,950 --> 00:34:58,670
Speaker 1: what what is.

689
00:34:58,650 --> 00:35:07,340
Speaker 4: That so i think it's nocturnal penile tumescence tumescence and MPT,

690
00:35:07,660 --> 00:35:13,620
Speaker 4: nocturnal tumescence. So what that basically means is nocturnal erections

691
00:35:14,000 --> 00:35:16,819
Speaker 4: or what we've simplified it to morning wood. So we

692
00:35:16,840 --> 00:35:21,220
Speaker 4: simplify it to morning wood because that's what men, like

693
00:35:21,510 --> 00:35:24,730
Speaker 4: they remember, right? They wake up, oh, an erection. But

694
00:35:24,989 --> 00:35:27,549
Speaker 4: actually what I was alluding to, actually what's happening in

695
00:35:27,590 --> 00:35:31,509
Speaker 4: a healthy penis is you're actually having multiple erections while

696
00:35:31,530 --> 00:35:34,780
Speaker 4: you're sleeping and while you're dreaming, okay? It's actually normal

697
00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:38,620
Speaker 4: to have like, I think up to five. night and

698
00:35:38,739 --> 00:35:41,839
Speaker 4: so there are tests that you we can do to

699
00:35:42,000 --> 00:35:44,339
Speaker 4: see if a man is getting those erections while they

700
00:35:44,440 --> 00:35:46,939
Speaker 4: sleep almost like a sleep study but for your dick

701
00:35:47,640 --> 00:35:50,480
Speaker 4: i'm sorry.

702
00:35:50,510 --> 00:35:53,730
Speaker 5: Tell us the healthy so childish you know how healthy

703
00:35:53,790 --> 00:35:56,910
Speaker 5: a penis is because if they're getting normal nocturnal penile

704
00:35:56,969 --> 00:36:01,770
Speaker 5: tumescence or nocturnal erections i.e morning woods great the blood

705
00:36:01,830 --> 00:36:06,170
Speaker 5: is flowing okay you got you know so That's a

706
00:36:06,210 --> 00:36:09,170
Speaker 5: great test to separate the different types.

707
00:36:09,190 --> 00:36:12,989
Speaker 2: Does that firm tech cock ring kind of help with that?

708
00:36:14,710 --> 00:36:18,220
Speaker 2: It does. Are you associated with that company? Are you associated?

709
00:36:18,530 --> 00:36:21,960
Speaker 2: I just want to make sure before we talk about that.

710
00:36:22,180 --> 00:36:29,160
Speaker 4: Well, I did some work for them. I love what

711
00:36:29,200 --> 00:36:35,819
Speaker 4: they've designed. It's basically like an at-home NPT test. anybody can,

712
00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:39,620
Speaker 4: can get. And I love that men can start to

713
00:36:39,739 --> 00:36:43,419
Speaker 4: see and evaluate their own erectile fitness, if you will.

714
00:36:43,739 --> 00:36:45,700
Speaker 4: So you put this thing in and actually they sent

715
00:36:45,739 --> 00:36:49,259
Speaker 4: me one, right. And, um, you know, I'm, I, my

716
00:36:49,320 --> 00:36:51,860
Speaker 4: husband is like my Guinea pig for everything. So I,

717
00:36:52,250 --> 00:36:54,230
Speaker 4: you know, I put this thing on him, him and,

718
00:36:54,450 --> 00:36:56,509
Speaker 4: and I was like, is it comfortable? Was it, he's like, yes,

719
00:36:56,530 --> 00:37:00,230
Speaker 4: she's quite comfortable. Um, so the ring can stay on

720
00:37:00,290 --> 00:37:04,020
Speaker 4: for hours, hours and hours, hours. Let me just caution

721
00:37:04,400 --> 00:37:09,820
Speaker 4: normal cock rings and sex toy cock rings and vibratory

722
00:37:09,840 --> 00:37:13,470
Speaker 4: cock rings. You cannot leave on there for hours. Okay.

723
00:37:14,110 --> 00:37:17,029
Speaker 4: It can cause like a constriction on your penis. And

724
00:37:17,450 --> 00:37:19,390
Speaker 4: it's almost like that ring that you can't get off

725
00:37:19,430 --> 00:37:22,629
Speaker 4: your finger and it's an emergency. So this is, you know,

726
00:37:22,690 --> 00:37:26,690
Speaker 4: caution advised, but this is designed the way they designed.

727
00:37:26,750 --> 00:37:29,069
Speaker 4: It's easily, you can take off and on and it's

728
00:37:29,170 --> 00:37:31,129
Speaker 4: safe to put, keep on there for up to 12 hours.

729
00:37:31,860 --> 00:37:34,450
Speaker 4: And so you can go to sleep and you have

730
00:37:34,489 --> 00:37:37,489
Speaker 4: your smartphone, if you have the tech one, and it

731
00:37:37,530 --> 00:37:41,250
Speaker 4: can measure how many erections you get overnight. And so

732
00:37:41,290 --> 00:37:45,270
Speaker 4: you can see that with that firm tech ring.

733
00:37:45,370 --> 00:37:45,629
Speaker 2: I know.

734
00:37:45,670 --> 00:37:46,109
Speaker 4: Isn't that cool?

735
00:37:46,130 --> 00:37:47,310
Speaker 2: The cock ring is a cool though.

736
00:37:47,410 --> 00:37:49,359
Speaker 3: I've been with a guy, one guy, and I was

737
00:37:49,380 --> 00:37:51,799
Speaker 3: surprised when I saw the thing, like he took his

738
00:37:51,840 --> 00:37:52,980
Speaker 3: clothes off and then he had the.

739
00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:56,560
Speaker 2: Cock ring on. I'm like, okay. But no warning, nothing.

740
00:37:56,800 --> 00:37:57,000
Speaker 3: Yeah.

741
00:37:57,040 --> 00:37:59,180
Speaker 1: What exactly is a cock ring for those of us

742
00:37:59,219 --> 00:38:02,060
Speaker 1: who don't really know? Oh, okay.

743
00:38:02,180 --> 00:38:03,719
Speaker 4: I'll take it. So, I mean, it's basically what you

744
00:38:03,739 --> 00:38:05,580
Speaker 4: think of it. It's like a ring that goes over

745
00:38:05,620 --> 00:38:06,200
Speaker 4: the penis.

746
00:38:06,219 --> 00:38:10,180
Speaker 1: It goes at the base of the shaft or like

747
00:38:10,420 --> 00:38:11,060
Speaker 1: near the head?

748
00:38:11,400 --> 00:38:14,100
Speaker 4: So that depends. Cock rings can have different functions. Some

749
00:38:14,160 --> 00:38:18,580
Speaker 4: cock rings are basically designed to help maintain the erection, right?

750
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:22,120
Speaker 4: Erection is about blood flow and blood stain in the

751
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:26,030
Speaker 4: penis during sex. So sometimes cock rings are used almost

752
00:38:26,070 --> 00:38:29,589
Speaker 4: like elastic bands that are placed at the base to

753
00:38:29,670 --> 00:38:32,290
Speaker 4: keep that blood in there, okay? But some cock rings

754
00:38:32,330 --> 00:38:35,259
Speaker 4: are just for pleasure. Like they vibrate, you know, and

755
00:38:35,280 --> 00:38:37,779
Speaker 4: so they allow the penis holder to have pleasure. And

756
00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:40,440
Speaker 4: then also the pen, the, the, the vulva, the vagina,

757
00:38:40,460 --> 00:38:43,040
Speaker 4: whoever the pen, whatever the penetration say, it's just vulvas

758
00:38:43,080 --> 00:38:48,070
Speaker 4: and vagina. It can be any, any orifice to have

759
00:38:48,530 --> 00:38:51,089
Speaker 4: pleasure too. So some are just for play and some

760
00:38:51,130 --> 00:38:51,810
Speaker 4: are for function.

761
00:38:52,190 --> 00:38:52,330
Speaker 3: Yeah.

762
00:38:52,370 --> 00:38:53,750
Speaker 2: His is like really soft.

763
00:38:54,310 --> 00:38:58,480
Speaker 3: Like it, I can see how it could be comfortable, but, Listen,

764
00:38:58,620 --> 00:38:59,880
Speaker 3: try that before y'all.

765
00:38:59,640 --> 00:39:01,700
Speaker 4: Get- Did it vibrate? Did it do any cool tricks?

766
00:39:01,719 --> 00:39:02,459
Speaker 2: No, no cool tricks.

767
00:39:02,500 --> 00:39:06,480
Speaker 3: It just kept that thing super hard for a long time.

768
00:39:07,200 --> 00:39:07,840
Speaker 1: Was he older?

769
00:39:07,860 --> 00:39:08,180
Speaker 3: Yes.

770
00:39:08,219 --> 00:39:10,020
Speaker 1: Was that something that a young man would need?

771
00:39:10,360 --> 00:39:14,260
Speaker 3: He's older, but I think that, okay, that's another question

772
00:39:14,300 --> 00:39:16,980
Speaker 3: I had for Dr. Milhouse is that, you know, like

773
00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:18,920
Speaker 3: we mentioned that these guys using the pills from the

774
00:39:19,400 --> 00:39:22,280
Speaker 3: gas station and stuff like that, like those cock rings

775
00:39:22,380 --> 00:39:25,700
Speaker 3: are not like, you know, no type of medicine and

776
00:39:25,719 --> 00:39:26,070
Speaker 3: they work.

777
00:39:27,310 --> 00:39:28,480
Speaker 2: As far as I'm concerned.

778
00:39:28,510 --> 00:39:31,589
Speaker 4: Um, yeah, so they, they can be used for anybody.

779
00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:35,540
Speaker 4: I mean, any penis that has a, some slightly constrictive

780
00:39:35,580 --> 00:39:39,260
Speaker 4: band at the base might help in keep that blood

781
00:39:39,460 --> 00:39:43,399
Speaker 4: in there. So some, again, some healthy penises and young

782
00:39:43,460 --> 00:39:45,219
Speaker 4: men will use it just cause they're like, I want,

783
00:39:45,520 --> 00:39:46,980
Speaker 4: you know, I don't want, I want to go all night.

784
00:39:47,420 --> 00:39:50,509
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying? Um, Um, and so it's

785
00:39:50,590 --> 00:39:54,460
Speaker 4: not just for, you know, old, you know, men who

786
00:39:54,480 --> 00:39:56,160
Speaker 4: have issues, not by any means.

787
00:39:57,460 --> 00:39:59,700
Speaker 1: So have you ever had somebody come in and you're

788
00:39:59,719 --> 00:40:01,459
Speaker 1: looking at his dick and you're like, I'm sorry, baby,

789
00:40:01,480 --> 00:40:04,040
Speaker 1: that dick is dead. What do you do? What do

790
00:40:04,080 --> 00:40:06,520
Speaker 1: you do? Like, what, what advice would you give somebody

791
00:40:06,560 --> 00:40:08,360
Speaker 1: who is like, it's just like nothing.

792
00:40:11,510 --> 00:40:11,790
Speaker 3: Yes.

793
00:40:12,070 --> 00:40:16,450
Speaker 4: Well, the good news is at the end of the day,

794
00:40:16,670 --> 00:40:20,190
Speaker 4: we can get a firm dick. Because we can do

795
00:40:20,210 --> 00:40:26,750
Speaker 4: what's called a penile implant, an inflatable penile implant or IPP.

796
00:40:27,290 --> 00:40:30,090
Speaker 4: And what this is, it's a device that we surgically,

797
00:40:30,110 --> 00:40:32,680
Speaker 4: this is a surgery that we do that we put

798
00:40:32,860 --> 00:40:36,860
Speaker 4: inside the penis. It's like these inflatable rods that go

799
00:40:38,960 --> 00:40:44,720
Speaker 4: on the inside of the penis too. And there's different versions,

800
00:40:44,780 --> 00:40:46,730
Speaker 4: but in the most commonly used version, which is called

801
00:40:46,750 --> 00:40:49,879
Speaker 4: the three-piece implant, The patient has a pump that we

802
00:40:49,920 --> 00:40:51,020
Speaker 4: put in their scrotum.

803
00:40:51,219 --> 00:40:51,600
Speaker 1: All right.

804
00:40:51,620 --> 00:40:54,060
Speaker 4: So this is a pump that you can't tell it's

805
00:40:54,100 --> 00:40:57,180
Speaker 4: inside them, but they can easily press their scrotum when

806
00:40:57,200 --> 00:40:59,049
Speaker 4: they're ready to go pump it up.

807
00:40:59,510 --> 00:41:00,210
Speaker 1: Like the Reeboks?

808
00:41:00,230 --> 00:41:02,450
Speaker 2: Yeah, like the sneakers. Yes.

809
00:41:02,570 --> 00:41:06,190
Speaker 4: It really feels like that. It feels like the Reeboks. Yeah.

810
00:41:07,030 --> 00:41:09,950
Speaker 4: And it inflates those rods and it gets them firm.

811
00:41:10,630 --> 00:41:13,920
Speaker 4: And so now you have this firm dick that you

812
00:41:13,960 --> 00:41:16,380
Speaker 4: can penetrate. And you can go all night if you

813
00:41:16,420 --> 00:41:16,779
Speaker 4: want to.

814
00:41:16,860 --> 00:41:20,580
Speaker 1: And still come. And it comes in everything. Oh, yeah, yeah.

815
00:41:20,620 --> 00:41:23,469
Speaker 4: We're not interfering with that at all. Yep, exactly. It

816
00:41:23,510 --> 00:41:26,250
Speaker 4: penetrates you. And then when you're ready to stop, you

817
00:41:26,290 --> 00:41:30,280
Speaker 4: just press a button and deflate it.

818
00:41:30,310 --> 00:41:31,370
Speaker 1: Just like the sneaker.

819
00:41:34,130 --> 00:41:35,940
Speaker 4: And it actually sounds like that. When you press it,

820
00:41:35,950 --> 00:41:38,140
Speaker 4: you kind of hear that sound. You're like.

821
00:41:38,400 --> 00:41:39,360
Speaker 2: Oh, hell no.

822
00:41:39,380 --> 00:41:42,100
Speaker 1: That is amazing. What will they think of next?

823
00:41:42,580 --> 00:41:43,419
Speaker 2: Pump it up, Nick.

824
00:41:43,840 --> 00:41:47,200
Speaker 4: That's been around for a long time, actually, a long time.

825
00:41:47,239 --> 00:41:49,029
Speaker 4: So at the end of the day, we can, now

826
00:41:49,090 --> 00:41:52,110
Speaker 4: this is a surgery that isn't for everybody because some people,

827
00:41:52,650 --> 00:41:55,270
Speaker 4: you know, have too many medical problems that, you know,

828
00:41:55,430 --> 00:41:58,210
Speaker 4: make it high risk and this and that. And it's

829
00:41:58,270 --> 00:42:03,589
Speaker 4: certainly not like, you can't go backwards. So if you

830
00:42:03,610 --> 00:42:06,710
Speaker 4: get this implant and then you decide, oh, take it out.

831
00:42:06,730 --> 00:42:08,730
Speaker 4: I want to see if pills will work. Don't work

832
00:42:08,750 --> 00:42:11,130
Speaker 4: like that. It's done. You know, you can take the

833
00:42:11,190 --> 00:42:13,379
Speaker 4: implant out, but you're not going to ever be able

834
00:42:13,410 --> 00:42:17,350
Speaker 4: to get an erection with anything without that. So it's

835
00:42:17,530 --> 00:42:20,989
Speaker 4: meant for men who really, truly tried this, don't work,

836
00:42:21,010 --> 00:42:22,740
Speaker 4: try that, don't work, try this, don't work.

837
00:42:23,820 --> 00:42:25,219
Speaker 1: And exhausted all the options.

838
00:42:25,300 --> 00:42:25,820
Speaker 5: Exactly.

839
00:42:26,000 --> 00:42:31,259
Speaker 4: Correct. But it's a great option. It has like over 90%

840
00:42:31,260 --> 00:42:35,230
Speaker 4: patient and couple satisfaction, you know, when it works.

841
00:42:35,250 --> 00:42:37,150
Speaker 3: So would you say it's older men that usually get

842
00:42:37,190 --> 00:42:38,089
Speaker 3: that procedure done?

843
00:42:39,330 --> 00:42:43,219
Speaker 4: Usually. Yes, that's true. I mean, we don't love putting

844
00:42:43,260 --> 00:42:48,270
Speaker 4: it in younger patients because again, it's, it's kind of

845
00:42:48,330 --> 00:42:51,730
Speaker 4: irreversible in that once we put those rods into that penis,

846
00:42:52,350 --> 00:42:57,250
Speaker 4: then the blood getting into the penis naturally is done.

847
00:42:57,450 --> 00:43:00,860
Speaker 4: It's not going to happen because we have disrupted that process.

848
00:43:02,060 --> 00:43:06,080
Speaker 4: There is, I, you know, I actually spoke to one

849
00:43:06,100 --> 00:43:08,940
Speaker 4: of the gurus in Chicago who does a ton of

850
00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:12,540
Speaker 4: these surgeries and Um, his name is Dr. Larry Levine.

851
00:43:12,600 --> 00:43:15,400
Speaker 4: And I asked him, um, what is the youngest patient

852
00:43:15,440 --> 00:43:18,180
Speaker 4: he's done a penile implant on? And he told me

853
00:43:18,200 --> 00:43:20,710
Speaker 4: a 16 year old. And I asked him what the,

854
00:43:20,890 --> 00:43:23,990
Speaker 4: you know, what circumstances, and he said, um, sickle cell anemia.

855
00:43:24,010 --> 00:43:28,230
Speaker 4: So sickle cell anemia, uh, which is, uh, common in, uh,

856
00:43:28,330 --> 00:43:33,780
Speaker 4: in our community affects the penis. Um, the abnormal sickling

857
00:43:34,000 --> 00:43:37,779
Speaker 4: blood causes these erections that don't go down and these

858
00:43:37,820 --> 00:43:42,580
Speaker 4: are painful. And these come back frequent, can come back

859
00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:46,510
Speaker 4: frequently in some of these patients. And this poor, you know,

860
00:43:46,590 --> 00:43:51,509
Speaker 4: young man had these crippling erections, priapisms that would not

861
00:43:52,150 --> 00:43:55,170
Speaker 4: come down, that kept coming to the ER all the time.

862
00:43:55,190 --> 00:43:58,510
Speaker 4: And essentially over time, what that ruins, like I said,

863
00:43:58,530 --> 00:44:02,840
Speaker 4: it ruins the normal erectile fitness anyway. But by putting

864
00:44:02,860 --> 00:44:05,940
Speaker 4: in that implant, it stopped that process from happening for one,

865
00:44:06,400 --> 00:44:09,390
Speaker 4: which is better for the patient. And then two, it

866
00:44:09,410 --> 00:44:12,149
Speaker 4: just helped him get an erection when he wanted. Like,

867
00:44:12,250 --> 00:44:13,850
Speaker 4: I want it now. I don't want it now. So

868
00:44:14,250 --> 00:44:18,310
Speaker 4: that's not a usual circumstance, but that is a potential

869
00:44:18,350 --> 00:44:20,190
Speaker 4: where it would be a young patient that we'd do that.

870
00:44:20,210 --> 00:44:23,569
Speaker 3: So the dick is separate from men's brains then. Because

871
00:44:23,610 --> 00:44:27,440
Speaker 3: what I'm trying to calculate is like, what I'm trying

872
00:44:27,460 --> 00:44:27,799
Speaker 3: to calculate.

873
00:44:27,820 --> 00:44:28,540
Speaker 4: Got his own brain.

874
00:44:28,560 --> 00:44:32,500
Speaker 2: Exactly. So for women, for me, I have to be

875
00:44:32,560 --> 00:44:33,719
Speaker 2: happy to have sex, right?

876
00:44:34,320 --> 00:44:36,640
Speaker 3: I have to be like, have this, like it starts

877
00:44:36,680 --> 00:44:40,840
Speaker 3: in the mind, I believe for most women before pussy

878
00:44:40,860 --> 00:44:43,580
Speaker 3: starts working. So, but for men, you could just pump

879
00:44:43,600 --> 00:44:46,009
Speaker 3: this shit up while you mentally don't want to have sex.

880
00:44:46,110 --> 00:44:48,160
Speaker 2: Like, how are you going to, you know, have a,

881
00:44:48,710 --> 00:44:50,090
Speaker 2: how are you going to ejaculate?

882
00:44:51,130 --> 00:44:55,190
Speaker 4: Well, so yeah, I mean, so just because a man

883
00:44:55,230 --> 00:44:57,549
Speaker 4: can get hard. So this is the thing. We have

884
00:44:57,570 --> 00:45:00,969
Speaker 4: to separate erection from orgasm or gestation. Just because a

885
00:45:01,010 --> 00:45:03,420
Speaker 4: man can get dick is hard. Doesn't necessarily mean he

886
00:45:03,440 --> 00:45:05,900
Speaker 4: always wants to have sex. You can, again, we've seen

887
00:45:06,400 --> 00:45:10,739
Speaker 4: nocturnal erections. That's uncontrolled. We actually see patients get erections

888
00:45:10,760 --> 00:45:13,850
Speaker 4: when they're under anesthesia. You can get an erection just

889
00:45:13,890 --> 00:45:16,090
Speaker 4: from like a touch, but you're not really trying to

890
00:45:16,130 --> 00:45:18,969
Speaker 4: have sex. Okay. And so these things, you may not

891
00:45:19,170 --> 00:45:21,210
Speaker 4: be aroused enough to ejaculate.

892
00:45:21,469 --> 00:45:21,790
Speaker 2: All right.

893
00:45:23,950 --> 00:45:28,160
Speaker 4: And for us, you're right. For us, for us, vulva owners,

894
00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:34,180
Speaker 4: for us, women are, arousal and certainly our orgasm is

895
00:45:34,430 --> 00:45:39,560
Speaker 4: very much um connected to our brain it's not all

896
00:45:39,620 --> 00:45:43,620
Speaker 4: our brain okay um so there's a lot of us

897
00:45:43,640 --> 00:45:48,040
Speaker 4: that aren't getting orgasms just because our partners don't know

898
00:45:48,460 --> 00:45:51,930
Speaker 4: where to go right um and and some of us

899
00:45:52,010 --> 00:45:54,549
Speaker 4: don't know where to tell them where to go too

900
00:45:54,989 --> 00:45:59,660
Speaker 4: right We don't, we are not as familiar with our bodies.

901
00:46:00,630 --> 00:46:03,150
Speaker 4: The guys are very familiar with their bodies, with their penis.

902
00:46:03,590 --> 00:46:06,350
Speaker 4: We are like, it's our vulvas, our vaginas are like

903
00:46:06,670 --> 00:46:09,170
Speaker 4: a foreign land to a lot of us, which is

904
00:46:09,190 --> 00:46:13,660
Speaker 4: a shame. And I will, and changing, I think slowly,

905
00:46:13,680 --> 00:46:16,089
Speaker 4: but thankfully, And so we need to know what feels

906
00:46:16,130 --> 00:46:19,650
Speaker 4: good and what arouses us. But you're right. Foreplay starts

907
00:46:19,770 --> 00:46:20,450
Speaker 4: in the morning.

908
00:46:20,610 --> 00:46:21,070
Speaker 2: Yes.

909
00:46:21,190 --> 00:46:25,050
Speaker 4: Foreplay starts with- All day. Good morning, sexy. Yes.

910
00:46:25,469 --> 00:46:25,890
Speaker 2: All day.

911
00:46:25,910 --> 00:46:26,290
Speaker 5: Yes.

912
00:46:26,370 --> 00:46:27,489
Speaker 4: What can I do for you?

913
00:46:27,790 --> 00:46:28,360
Speaker 5: Yes.

914
00:46:28,430 --> 00:46:29,509
Speaker 4: That's how you get it moist.

915
00:46:30,640 --> 00:46:32,819
Speaker 3: Not just right before you want to have sex with me.

916
00:46:32,840 --> 00:46:35,299
Speaker 3: We done been arguing all day long. And now you

917
00:46:35,320 --> 00:46:35,920
Speaker 3: tapping me.

918
00:46:35,920 --> 00:46:36,340
Speaker 5: On my shoulder.

919
00:46:36,380 --> 00:46:40,260
Speaker 1: Get. One titty lick. And now you think I'm ready.

920
00:46:40,420 --> 00:46:41,180
Speaker 2: One titty lick.

921
00:46:41,200 --> 00:46:41,620
Speaker 1: Come on.

922
00:46:41,680 --> 00:46:44,009
Speaker 2: Come on. Come on.

923
00:46:44,370 --> 00:46:45,730
Speaker 1: Yes.

924
00:46:45,810 --> 00:46:47,530
Speaker 2: I don't think we should.

925
00:46:48,290 --> 00:46:51,190
Speaker 1: So it seems like they have all types of things

926
00:46:51,330 --> 00:46:55,489
Speaker 1: to help with erectile dysfunction. What about women who have

927
00:46:55,570 --> 00:47:02,810
Speaker 1: lost like vaginal wetness or tightness? Yeah.

928
00:47:03,210 --> 00:47:03,609
Speaker 5: All right.

929
00:47:03,630 --> 00:47:06,130
Speaker 2: So this is like, we're our product.

930
00:47:07,170 --> 00:47:07,589
Speaker 5: No one.

931
00:47:08,010 --> 00:47:13,370
Speaker 4: So the short answer is women who can, medicine has

932
00:47:13,410 --> 00:47:17,140
Speaker 4: not cared about women. Why? What is the, Oh, they

933
00:47:17,180 --> 00:47:19,680
Speaker 4: need to be aroused. They need to have a, what

934
00:47:19,820 --> 00:47:24,140
Speaker 4: is the benefit? So medicine has completely neglected us. And

935
00:47:24,160 --> 00:47:29,730
Speaker 4: there's so many reasons, the patriarchy, the, you know, male toxicity,

936
00:47:29,830 --> 00:47:34,509
Speaker 4: the fact that we can procreation does not rely on

937
00:47:34,710 --> 00:47:38,070
Speaker 4: us orgasming, right? A man has to orgasm to procreate,

938
00:47:38,110 --> 00:47:41,480
Speaker 4: but women, we don't. And so the functionality of our

939
00:47:41,520 --> 00:47:44,049
Speaker 4: reproduction does not, You can have a billion kids and

940
00:47:44,090 --> 00:47:46,980
Speaker 4: not have one single orgasm, not have painful sex and

941
00:47:47,020 --> 00:47:49,460
Speaker 4: have a billion kids. You see what I'm saying? So

942
00:47:50,140 --> 00:47:52,980
Speaker 4: this is not right. This is kind of where I

943
00:47:54,080 --> 00:47:57,720
Speaker 4: have created a passion and a niche for in my patients.

944
00:47:57,840 --> 00:48:00,560
Speaker 4: I see all my men patients who have all these

945
00:48:00,780 --> 00:48:04,040
Speaker 4: options to help them in their sexual dysfunctions. And my

946
00:48:04,260 --> 00:48:07,259
Speaker 4: women patients are like, help. No one knows what to do.

947
00:48:07,440 --> 00:48:09,899
Speaker 4: I talked to that doctor. I talked to my gynecologist.

948
00:48:09,940 --> 00:48:12,180
Speaker 4: I talked, no one knows. They say, drink some wine.

949
00:48:12,630 --> 00:48:14,930
Speaker 4: They say, oh, well, it's just normal. You know what

950
00:48:14,950 --> 00:48:18,170
Speaker 4: I'm saying? No, it's not normal. It's not normal. Painful

951
00:48:18,250 --> 00:48:21,890
Speaker 4: is not it. You deserve to feel good when you're

952
00:48:21,910 --> 00:48:24,450
Speaker 4: having sex. It should not just not be something that

953
00:48:24,469 --> 00:48:28,030
Speaker 4: you're like, you see what I'm saying? So things are, again,

954
00:48:28,130 --> 00:48:32,910
Speaker 4: slowly changing. There are more of us in the specialty

955
00:48:32,950 --> 00:48:38,100
Speaker 4: that are taking the reins on this. Um, I, uh,

956
00:48:38,200 --> 00:48:43,029
Speaker 4: I have to shout out my, uh, sister in urology and, um,

957
00:48:43,290 --> 00:48:45,750
Speaker 4: she's white, but she's still my sister because she's super

958
00:48:45,770 --> 00:48:51,410
Speaker 4: smart and awesome. And, um, expert in this Dr. Rachel Rubin. Um,

959
00:48:51,710 --> 00:48:55,739
Speaker 4: she tackles a lot of this, but you mainly for lubrication,

960
00:48:56,160 --> 00:48:59,600
Speaker 4: we talk about estrogen vaginally. If you have been through menopause,

961
00:48:59,719 --> 00:49:04,440
Speaker 4: estrogen vaginally is important. Like bae, if you're postmenopausal. I mean,

962
00:49:04,480 --> 00:49:06,279
Speaker 4: as soon as I hit menopause, I'm going to start

963
00:49:06,340 --> 00:49:07,860
Speaker 4: using vaginal estrogen.

964
00:49:08,020 --> 00:49:09,219
Speaker 5: All right.

965
00:49:09,670 --> 00:49:13,670
Speaker 4: Keep that tissue young and supple. You know what I'm saying?

966
00:49:13,810 --> 00:49:16,759
Speaker 4: And not just for that, but it also has other

967
00:49:16,800 --> 00:49:18,200
Speaker 4: benefits like reducing UTIs.

968
00:49:18,239 --> 00:49:19,480
Speaker 2: Is it vaginal estrogen?

969
00:49:20,580 --> 00:49:22,259
Speaker 4: Vaginal estrogen, baby. Yes.

970
00:49:22,340 --> 00:49:24,759
Speaker 1: And where do you get that? What is it?

971
00:49:25,120 --> 00:49:28,489
Speaker 4: That has to be prescribed. That's prescribed. It's not hard

972
00:49:28,510 --> 00:49:31,899
Speaker 4: to get. It just needs to be prescribed. Um, and

973
00:49:32,080 --> 00:49:36,380
Speaker 4: it comes in different forms like creams or suppositories, uh,

974
00:49:36,500 --> 00:49:39,640
Speaker 4: and such like that. So, um, a little bit goes

975
00:49:39,780 --> 00:49:43,279
Speaker 4: a long way. Um, it's not harmful. All of us

976
00:49:43,340 --> 00:49:46,480
Speaker 4: get so freaked out with the word estrogen. It's hilarious.

977
00:49:46,900 --> 00:49:49,980
Speaker 4: Men flock to testosterone flock. They're like, give me more,

978
00:49:50,020 --> 00:49:50,319
Speaker 4: give me more.

979
00:49:50,880 --> 00:49:51,879
Speaker 2: We, we get older.

980
00:49:51,900 --> 00:49:54,339
Speaker 4: We're like, Oh no, don't give me that estrogen. I can't,

981
00:49:54,390 --> 00:49:57,900
Speaker 4: that's not normal. This is your body's hormone, right?

982
00:49:58,400 --> 00:49:58,700
Speaker 5: Okay.

983
00:49:58,739 --> 00:50:01,860
Speaker 4: You're suffering all of these menopausal symptoms. You do a

984
00:50:01,900 --> 00:50:05,939
Speaker 4: hot flashes. It's dry as a Sierra down there. You're like,

985
00:50:06,680 --> 00:50:10,910
Speaker 4: you can do not have to suffer. Estrogen is a,

986
00:50:10,989 --> 00:50:15,670
Speaker 4: is our hormone. So we, they have succeeded in demonizing estrogen.

987
00:50:16,290 --> 00:50:19,230
Speaker 4: And so we're trying to backtrack and say, listen, ladies, it,

988
00:50:19,630 --> 00:50:23,640
Speaker 4: it has some good. It has a lot of good actually.

989
00:50:24,380 --> 00:50:27,320
Speaker 4: Then there's using lubricants too. Just like I had a

990
00:50:27,980 --> 00:50:31,560
Speaker 4: TikTok about like using different lubricants. And I think, especially

991
00:50:31,600 --> 00:50:36,060
Speaker 4: in black community, we like get weird about using anything

992
00:50:36,160 --> 00:50:41,090
Speaker 4: extra in the bedroom. I see that.

993
00:50:41,130 --> 00:50:42,890
Speaker 2: Like you got to have some type of lubricant on

994
00:50:42,930 --> 00:50:43,910
Speaker 2: hand because even if.

995
00:50:43,890 --> 00:50:47,850
Speaker 3: You still are physically aroused, that condom is going to

996
00:50:47,870 --> 00:50:49,729
Speaker 3: dry your shit up some. So you got to have

997
00:50:49,790 --> 00:50:51,370
Speaker 3: something aside from spit.

998
00:50:53,160 --> 00:50:59,100
Speaker 1: Okay no they just using spit i don't mind a

999
00:50:59,140 --> 00:51:01,710
Speaker 1: little bit okay.

1000
00:51:01,469 --> 00:51:03,830
Speaker 4: Spit helps it i mean it gets it wet but

1001
00:51:03,850 --> 00:51:06,430
Speaker 4: then it drops oh yes you have to spit multiple.

1002
00:51:06,130 --> 00:51:08,609
Speaker 1: Times you just have to do.

1003
00:51:08,590 --> 00:51:11,670
Speaker 4: It multiple times but yeah the wetter the better you know.

1004
00:51:11,469 --> 00:51:16,779
Speaker 1: So basically for a man y'all got robot dicks with

1005
00:51:16,840 --> 00:51:19,710
Speaker 1: a scrotum pump But for a woman, we got a

1006
00:51:19,730 --> 00:51:20,569
Speaker 1: little cream for you.

1007
00:51:20,590 --> 00:51:21,009
Speaker 2: That's it.

1008
00:51:21,830 --> 00:51:23,880
Speaker 4: We got some other stuff. Yeah, we got a little

1009
00:51:23,890 --> 00:51:25,820
Speaker 4: bit of creams and, you know.

1010
00:51:25,920 --> 00:51:28,420
Speaker 2: We got no pussy pumps.

1011
00:51:28,480 --> 00:51:33,400
Speaker 1: Ain't no pussy. So, all right. So, I have a salon.

1012
00:51:33,460 --> 00:51:35,549
Speaker 1: And one of the suites, there's a lady who has,

1013
00:51:35,910 --> 00:51:39,989
Speaker 1: she's an RN. And she has this machine. And she's like, oh,

1014
00:51:40,010 --> 00:51:42,029
Speaker 1: come try it. Come over and try it. That she

1015
00:51:42,050 --> 00:51:45,330
Speaker 1: puts in your coot. And it's supposed to, like, make

1016
00:51:45,350 --> 00:51:48,279
Speaker 1: your vagina tighter, right? And it's like some type of

1017
00:51:48,320 --> 00:51:52,020
Speaker 1: machine that you just, she says it works. She does it.

1018
00:51:52,020 --> 00:51:54,040
Speaker 1: And she said her, she has four kids and she

1019
00:51:54,080 --> 00:51:57,100
Speaker 1: said she used it to help with her tightness or

1020
00:51:57,160 --> 00:51:57,660
Speaker 1: her vagina.

1021
00:51:57,680 --> 00:51:59,240
Speaker 2: Kegel exercise or something.

1022
00:51:59,280 --> 00:51:59,580
Speaker 1: It does.

1023
00:51:59,940 --> 00:52:01,480
Speaker 2: But why, what, what, why?

1024
00:52:01,960 --> 00:52:04,920
Speaker 4: My first question is what, why do you think your

1025
00:52:04,940 --> 00:52:07,880
Speaker 4: vagina needs to be tighter? That's my first question.

1026
00:52:07,920 --> 00:52:10,960
Speaker 2: Because I believe that's also like a thing, especially, I

1027
00:52:10,980 --> 00:52:13,670
Speaker 2: don't know. Yes. Like, It's a muscle. You know what

1028
00:52:13,710 --> 00:52:16,069
Speaker 2: I'm saying? So yeah, you got to do a little exercise,

1029
00:52:16,130 --> 00:52:19,469
Speaker 2: but to say, oh, I fell in or it was

1030
00:52:19,530 --> 00:52:22,870
Speaker 2: so big. Like maybe your dick was small. Let's just maybe.

1031
00:52:23,850 --> 00:52:26,390
Speaker 1: But I mean, all right. So as you get older,

1032
00:52:26,670 --> 00:52:29,549
Speaker 1: your vagina does is not it. Are your 22 year

1033
00:52:29,590 --> 00:52:31,750
Speaker 1: old coochie is not your 36 year old coochie, right?

1034
00:52:32,850 --> 00:52:35,290
Speaker 4: Well, 36. I mean, that's still young now. Okay.

1035
00:52:35,330 --> 00:52:35,650
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1036
00:52:35,670 --> 00:52:38,890
Speaker 1: But I mean the tightness, it does change over time, right?

1037
00:52:39,130 --> 00:52:46,080
Speaker 4: Oh, actually, actually. If you have, if you, let's just

1038
00:52:46,120 --> 00:52:50,799
Speaker 4: take kids out of the equation. Okay. One woman at

1039
00:52:50,800 --> 00:52:57,370
Speaker 4: 20 and that woman at we'll go 60. Okay. No kids. And, um,

1040
00:52:58,330 --> 00:53:01,270
Speaker 4: actually what happens, what we see a lot of times

1041
00:53:01,310 --> 00:53:04,910
Speaker 4: is that vagina kind of contracts. It gets dry and

1042
00:53:04,969 --> 00:53:05,870
Speaker 4: it contracts.

1043
00:53:05,890 --> 00:53:06,270
Speaker 3: Okay.

1044
00:53:06,290 --> 00:53:09,930
Speaker 4: Okay. Where we get this whole vagina gets wider, that

1045
00:53:09,969 --> 00:53:12,780
Speaker 4: doesn't inherently happen just because we get older. It really doesn't.

1046
00:53:12,950 --> 00:53:15,719
Speaker 4: There's nothing that inherently happens just because we get older

1047
00:53:15,760 --> 00:53:19,779
Speaker 4: that makes our vagina widen. Okay. And vaginas are, they're

1048
00:53:19,800 --> 00:53:24,759
Speaker 4: supposed to expand and contract. Like when we, when they, penetration,

1049
00:53:24,800 --> 00:53:28,000
Speaker 4: they're expanding and then they contract. They're not. like these

1050
00:53:28,100 --> 00:53:31,799
Speaker 4: things that, oh, once you've expanded it this far, that's it.

1051
00:53:31,860 --> 00:53:33,370
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying?

1052
00:53:33,570 --> 00:53:34,710
Speaker 2: Humans come out of there.

1053
00:53:35,270 --> 00:53:36,370
Speaker 4: Well, humans come out.

1054
00:53:36,310 --> 00:53:37,070
Speaker 2: Of it, right?

1055
00:53:37,510 --> 00:53:42,400
Speaker 4: And they come back. So there are pathologic, there are

1056
00:53:42,900 --> 00:53:48,180
Speaker 4: vaginas that are too wide because of lots of babies

1057
00:53:48,260 --> 00:53:52,580
Speaker 4: or babies and Um, they're not supportive as well. That's different.

1058
00:53:52,600 --> 00:53:56,580
Speaker 4: That is a medical condition that is bona fide, you know,

1059
00:53:56,780 --> 00:54:00,600
Speaker 4: but this notion that that's not it. And that's most

1060
00:54:00,640 --> 00:54:02,520
Speaker 4: of this time that I see is like, oh, well,

1061
00:54:02,540 --> 00:54:06,180
Speaker 4: it just needs to be tight. You know what I'm saying?

1062
00:54:06,780 --> 00:54:10,140
Speaker 4: I think is just, again, something that we've been fed.

1063
00:54:11,170 --> 00:54:16,049
Speaker 4: that has no really, no clear actual medical issue, you

1064
00:54:16,090 --> 00:54:19,330
Speaker 4: can do, you can be too tight, okay? You can be,

1065
00:54:19,710 --> 00:54:25,110
Speaker 4: do too many Kegels and now sex hurts. You know

1066
00:54:25,130 --> 00:54:30,649
Speaker 4: what I'm saying? I mean, ugh, okay? So we, you know,

1067
00:54:32,830 --> 00:54:35,529
Speaker 4: I don't wanna, I hate, I shouldn't say hate, that's

1068
00:54:35,550 --> 00:54:41,009
Speaker 4: a strong word, but I think a sound person will

1069
00:54:41,090 --> 00:54:45,150
Speaker 4: market the actual reasons why they're tightening the vagina. Oh,

1070
00:54:45,190 --> 00:54:46,790
Speaker 4: for this and this and this and this, not just

1071
00:54:46,810 --> 00:54:48,890
Speaker 4: to tighten it. Cause Hey girl, Hey sis, you need

1072
00:54:48,930 --> 00:54:49,660
Speaker 4: a tighter vagina.

1073
00:54:50,239 --> 00:54:51,279
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? I was just going to

1074
00:54:51,300 --> 00:54:53,140
Speaker 1: do it because I have, sometimes I have a break

1075
00:54:53,219 --> 00:54:57,600
Speaker 1: at work.

1076
00:54:58,360 --> 00:55:00,219
Speaker 4: Might as well tighten things a little bit. Yeah.

1077
00:55:00,239 --> 00:55:00,589
Speaker 3: Right.

1078
00:55:00,630 --> 00:55:02,170
Speaker 1: You know, it ain't no real reason.

1079
00:55:09,180 --> 00:55:17,609
Speaker 3: Girl you so stupid go eat lunch okay mess around

1080
00:55:17,640 --> 00:55:20,090
Speaker 3: and get a loose coochie messing with some random machine

1081
00:55:20,150 --> 00:55:22,810
Speaker 3: and some random so basically don't do that.

1082
00:55:22,610 --> 00:55:25,890
Speaker 4: I don't think you need it what.

1083
00:55:25,890 --> 00:55:27,590
Speaker 1: I mean I don't I never had no kids I

1084
00:55:27,630 --> 00:55:29,529
Speaker 1: don't feel like my coochie is loose I was just

1085
00:55:29,550 --> 00:55:32,089
Speaker 1: gonna do it like what hurt what would it hurt

1086
00:55:32,110 --> 00:55:33,969
Speaker 1: to be tighter you know like that's what I was

1087
00:55:33,989 --> 00:55:34,650
Speaker 1: thinking like.

1088
00:55:34,630 --> 00:55:38,440
Speaker 4: It can hurt Then it can't hurt. Too much tightness

1089
00:55:38,480 --> 00:55:39,879
Speaker 4: can be bad. You don't want that.

1090
00:55:40,520 --> 00:55:40,759
Speaker 2: Yes.

1091
00:55:41,680 --> 00:55:45,250
Speaker 4: It can make sex painful. So I meet some women

1092
00:55:45,310 --> 00:55:47,950
Speaker 4: that they're like, oh, sex hurts. And then I go

1093
00:55:48,070 --> 00:55:52,450
Speaker 4: and examine them. And they're like a Kegel. They're just

1094
00:55:52,469 --> 00:55:56,649
Speaker 4: basically like a Kegel at all times. And I'm like, okay,

1095
00:55:56,670 --> 00:55:59,310
Speaker 4: you're just basically like this. You know what I'm saying?

1096
00:55:59,330 --> 00:56:02,759
Speaker 4: You're not relaxed. And that is a problem that can

1097
00:56:02,820 --> 00:56:06,880
Speaker 4: cause painful sex. It can cause difficulty urinating or frequent

1098
00:56:06,980 --> 00:56:12,840
Speaker 4: urination when your pelvic floor muscles are too tight. Yep.

1099
00:56:13,070 --> 00:56:14,839
Speaker 2: Let's talk about squirting for a second.

1100
00:56:16,450 --> 00:56:17,140
Speaker 1: What is it?

1101
00:56:18,469 --> 00:56:21,590
Speaker 2: What is it? And can everybody do it? Is it peeing?

1102
00:56:22,790 --> 00:56:25,150
Speaker 3: I know where it's coming from when I see the movies.

1103
00:56:25,510 --> 00:56:28,110
Speaker 3: I can't say mine has ever done it per se.

1104
00:56:28,530 --> 00:56:31,239
Speaker 1: Can I just make a statement? I bought that rose,

1105
00:56:32,020 --> 00:56:34,120
Speaker 1: and I used that thing, and I don't think that

1106
00:56:34,160 --> 00:56:36,180
Speaker 1: was a squirt. I really think I peed my whole

1107
00:56:36,219 --> 00:56:36,680
Speaker 1: bed up.

1108
00:56:36,719 --> 00:56:38,400
Speaker 4: Because- What is a rose? What?

1109
00:56:38,420 --> 00:56:39,600
Speaker 2: You know that little rose thing?

1110
00:56:39,620 --> 00:56:42,359
Speaker 1: The little rose that is a real popular sex toy.

1111
00:56:42,380 --> 00:56:45,419
Speaker 1: It looks like a rose, and it's like a little

1112
00:56:45,500 --> 00:56:47,920
Speaker 1: suction that you put on your clitoris. Oh, okay.

1113
00:56:47,940 --> 00:56:49,430
Speaker 4: It sucks it. Gotcha. Okay. Yeah.

1114
00:56:49,719 --> 00:56:50,340
Speaker 2: And what happened?

1115
00:56:51,219 --> 00:56:53,730
Speaker 1: I don't know if I squirted, but I think I

1116
00:56:53,770 --> 00:56:56,969
Speaker 1: peed up my whole bed. I made a mess. It

1117
00:56:56,989 --> 00:56:59,410
Speaker 1: was a big mess. It felt great. I do it

1118
00:56:59,450 --> 00:57:01,330
Speaker 1: all the time. I love it.

1119
00:57:01,370 --> 00:57:03,190
Speaker 2: Are you peeing in the bed all the time?

1120
00:57:03,830 --> 00:57:08,070
Speaker 1: I think it's... Is it squirting? Great.

1121
00:57:08,450 --> 00:57:09,580
Speaker 2: Okay, go.

1122
00:57:11,600 --> 00:57:12,520
Speaker 1: Ahead. I'm sorry.

1123
00:57:12,920 --> 00:57:18,560
Speaker 4: Female ejaculation takes different forms. So female orgasm, I should say,

1124
00:57:18,620 --> 00:57:22,500
Speaker 4: takes different forms. And I don't want our audience to

1125
00:57:22,520 --> 00:57:25,460
Speaker 4: think that if you don't squirt that something's wrong with you.

1126
00:57:26,220 --> 00:57:28,820
Speaker 4: You can still orgasm. So You can have a more

1127
00:57:28,880 --> 00:57:33,530
Speaker 4: traditional ejaculate orgasm, which is a lot less messy and

1128
00:57:33,850 --> 00:57:38,270
Speaker 4: just feels like this oozy wetness as opposed to like

1129
00:57:38,370 --> 00:57:42,610
Speaker 4: a gersh. And that probably we believe is coming from

1130
00:57:42,910 --> 00:57:45,560
Speaker 4: what we call the skeins glands. These are two, these

1131
00:57:45,600 --> 00:57:49,060
Speaker 4: are glands, paired glands, one on each side of our urethra.

1132
00:57:49,100 --> 00:57:52,020
Speaker 4: The urethra is the hole that we pee out of. Okay.

1133
00:57:52,300 --> 00:57:55,260
Speaker 4: So these are glands next to it. And so that

1134
00:57:55,340 --> 00:57:59,919
Speaker 4: type of orgasm is not, urine inconsistency. It doesn't really

1135
00:57:59,960 --> 00:58:04,560
Speaker 4: feel like it either. Um, now squirting. And by the way,

1136
00:58:04,640 --> 00:58:07,570
Speaker 4: what they show on porn is like exaggerated, right? So,

1137
00:58:07,990 --> 00:58:11,630
Speaker 4: but squirting feels like a gush, like a, like, and

1138
00:58:11,670 --> 00:58:15,170
Speaker 4: it's quite messy and it can feel like you're peeing.

1139
00:58:15,630 --> 00:58:17,970
Speaker 4: And that's because, and this is the big mystery. We,

1140
00:58:18,090 --> 00:58:21,770
Speaker 4: you know, there's been lots of analysis, but we've shown

1141
00:58:21,810 --> 00:58:25,750
Speaker 4: that there is urea in that fluid and urea is

1142
00:58:25,810 --> 00:58:28,350
Speaker 4: a part is all is, the main part of urine.

1143
00:58:28,790 --> 00:58:34,090
Speaker 4: And so it is likely diluted urine that is coming out. See,

1144
00:58:34,180 --> 00:58:38,060
Speaker 4: we don't have, in a man, they ejaculate and pee

1145
00:58:38,100 --> 00:58:40,760
Speaker 4: out of the same tube, right? But it's just coming

1146
00:58:40,800 --> 00:58:44,640
Speaker 4: from different, I mean, semen is different from urine, okay?

1147
00:58:44,700 --> 00:58:49,419
Speaker 4: Semen comes from different orgasms, different organs that they have.

1148
00:58:50,220 --> 00:58:52,780
Speaker 4: And urine comes from their bladder. For us, we don't

1149
00:58:52,890 --> 00:58:56,720
Speaker 4: really have like a semen- Well, it's not semen, but

1150
00:58:56,740 --> 00:59:00,280
Speaker 4: you know, like an ejaculate producing organ that goes through

1151
00:59:00,300 --> 00:59:04,810
Speaker 4: the urethra. And so it is likely just diluted urine

1152
00:59:04,830 --> 00:59:08,370
Speaker 4: that's being expelled out. It freaks people out because it

1153
00:59:08,410 --> 00:59:11,480
Speaker 4: feels like they're peeing on the bed. and messy and

1154
00:59:11,520 --> 00:59:15,370
Speaker 4: it kind of smells like pee maybe, but it feels fabulous.

1155
00:59:16,870 --> 00:59:19,730
Speaker 2: Many guys love it. They don't care if you're peeing

1156
00:59:19,750 --> 00:59:21,550
Speaker 2: on them or not. Just do it, ladies.

1157
00:59:21,590 --> 00:59:25,980
Speaker 4: The penises love it. They love it. So I have

1158
00:59:26,020 --> 00:59:28,460
Speaker 4: patients who will come and be like, Dr. Milhouse, I

1159
00:59:28,480 --> 00:59:30,740
Speaker 4: don't know what to do. Like, I feel, I just peed.

1160
00:59:31,400 --> 00:59:33,240
Speaker 4: I peed during sex and I'm asking them like, well,

1161
00:59:33,260 --> 00:59:36,220
Speaker 4: you know, did it feel good? Were you climaxed? He's like, yes,

1162
00:59:36,280 --> 00:59:38,380
Speaker 4: but it freaked me out. And this, I'm just so embarrassed.

1163
00:59:38,860 --> 00:59:42,870
Speaker 4: And I'm like, baby, promise you, promise you your partner

1164
00:59:42,990 --> 00:59:45,830
Speaker 4: is like so proud of himself or herself. You know

1165
00:59:45,850 --> 00:59:48,189
Speaker 4: what I'm saying? They're like, yes. You know what I'm saying?

1166
00:59:48,490 --> 00:59:49,870
Speaker 1: Look what I did.

1167
00:59:49,990 --> 00:59:54,390
Speaker 4: Exactly. They're not worried about that. They're happy. So, Yeah,

1168
00:59:54,430 --> 00:59:58,790
Speaker 4: that can happen. And, you know, it's a beautiful thing.

1169
00:59:58,850 --> 01:00:01,350
Speaker 4: Sex is supposed to be messy, right? It's supposed to

1170
01:00:01,390 --> 01:00:04,370
Speaker 4: be messy. If we just accept it's messy, it's wet,

1171
01:00:04,450 --> 01:00:06,650
Speaker 4: it's messy. So enjoy it.

1172
01:00:07,810 --> 01:00:09,340
Speaker 3: I just feel like I've never been able to get

1173
01:00:09,380 --> 01:00:13,979
Speaker 3: that gush feeling when you're in penetration, though. It's usually like,

1174
01:00:14,540 --> 01:00:17,520
Speaker 3: you know, when I'm getting some cunnilingus, okay?

1175
01:00:17,980 --> 01:00:18,260
Speaker 1: Yes.

1176
01:00:18,360 --> 01:00:20,200
Speaker 2: With some finger action involved.

1177
01:00:20,830 --> 01:00:24,330
Speaker 3: I'll have that feeling, but not during sex, like actual penetration.

1178
01:00:24,350 --> 01:00:26,570
Speaker 3: So that's why it leads me to think that maybe

1179
01:00:26,590 --> 01:00:27,590
Speaker 3: that's urine.

1180
01:00:28,110 --> 01:00:31,030
Speaker 1: I just feel like I'm never gushed like that with

1181
01:00:31,050 --> 01:00:33,380
Speaker 1: a human being, the way the rose make me feel.

1182
01:00:33,420 --> 01:00:36,580
Speaker 1: I need to marry the rose.

1183
01:00:36,660 --> 01:00:38,460
Speaker 4: Wait a second, y'all. If y'all want to gush like

1184
01:00:38,500 --> 01:00:41,520
Speaker 4: that with a human, just you like, okay, let's use

1185
01:00:41,540 --> 01:00:43,660
Speaker 4: the toy and the dick at the same time.

1186
01:00:43,680 --> 01:00:46,890
Speaker 3: I like men who are not like opposed to that

1187
01:00:46,950 --> 01:00:49,010
Speaker 3: because some men, they are jealous of the toys.

1188
01:00:49,640 --> 01:00:50,910
Speaker 2: I like them when they let me bring it.

1189
01:00:51,940 --> 01:00:54,220
Speaker 1: It's less pressure for you. I be feeling like, why

1190
01:00:54,260 --> 01:00:56,320
Speaker 1: do I need this? I only have the toy because

1191
01:00:56,390 --> 01:00:58,270
Speaker 1: I don't have no dick around. That's how I feel.

1192
01:00:58,290 --> 01:00:59,510
Speaker 2: I like both of them.

1193
01:01:00,010 --> 01:01:04,210
Speaker 4: No, you shouldn't. You shouldn't feel that way. That is our...

1194
01:01:04,910 --> 01:01:08,030
Speaker 4: So I totally agree with what you said about men

1195
01:01:08,170 --> 01:01:11,330
Speaker 4: sometimes being intimidated by the toy. So let's just talk

1196
01:01:11,350 --> 01:01:13,490
Speaker 4: about Black men too because Black men are different. You

1197
01:01:13,510 --> 01:01:16,350
Speaker 4: know what I'm saying? And Black men definitely are probably

1198
01:01:16,490 --> 01:01:20,700
Speaker 4: more likely to... potentially be thrown off because again, we

1199
01:01:20,840 --> 01:01:25,250
Speaker 4: in our community are not used to bringing additives into

1200
01:01:25,290 --> 01:01:28,390
Speaker 4: the bedroom. Okay. You bring your vagina, you bring your

1201
01:01:28,410 --> 01:01:29,610
Speaker 4: dick and that's all that you need.

1202
01:01:30,150 --> 01:01:32,090
Speaker 1: Or another person, but that's it.

1203
01:01:32,110 --> 01:01:32,290
Speaker 5: Yes.

1204
01:01:32,610 --> 01:01:38,280
Speaker 4: Okay. Cock rings and, you know, vibrators and roses and whatnots. Well,

1205
01:01:38,320 --> 01:01:39,900
Speaker 4: you know, why do we need all that? And lube,

1206
01:01:40,360 --> 01:01:44,270
Speaker 4: but it can enhance it. Okay. It can enhance it.

1207
01:01:44,400 --> 01:01:47,740
Speaker 4: It's not taken away from what the partner's doing. or whatever,

1208
01:01:47,820 --> 01:01:50,400
Speaker 4: it's not taking away from that. It's enhancing it for

1209
01:01:50,460 --> 01:01:53,700
Speaker 4: both of you all. And I think that if you

1210
01:01:53,720 --> 01:01:57,110
Speaker 4: want to introduce your man to a sex toy, don't

1211
01:01:57,510 --> 01:02:00,430
Speaker 4: bring like the big rod phallic looking ones.

1212
01:02:02,090 --> 01:02:03,850
Speaker 2: I don't even buy those type of things. I only

1213
01:02:03,870 --> 01:02:04,690
Speaker 2: do like little bullets.

1214
01:02:04,730 --> 01:02:08,970
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't either. Yeah, yeah. Start with the ones

1215
01:02:09,010 --> 01:02:10,750
Speaker 4: that don't look so much like a penis. You know

1216
01:02:10,770 --> 01:02:14,130
Speaker 4: what I'm saying? And incorporate that. And when he sees

1217
01:02:14,190 --> 01:02:17,760
Speaker 4: how you respond with That and the dick at the

1218
01:02:17,800 --> 01:02:20,120
Speaker 4: same time. Oh, baby, he's going to, you know, and

1219
01:02:20,160 --> 01:02:22,600
Speaker 4: then he can watch you. The other thing you can

1220
01:02:22,640 --> 01:02:25,380
Speaker 4: say is, oh, baby, watch me. You know, like they

1221
01:02:25,980 --> 01:02:29,340
Speaker 4: enjoy watching us touch ourselves. OK, watch me. So then

1222
01:02:29,380 --> 01:02:31,340
Speaker 4: they can watch you do what you do with your

1223
01:02:31,380 --> 01:02:33,100
Speaker 4: toy and say, OK, all right, this is what I'm

1224
01:02:33,120 --> 01:02:33,780
Speaker 4: going to do to her.

1225
01:02:34,590 --> 01:02:37,710
Speaker 3: I'd be so lazy with my toy though. I'm so

1226
01:02:37,730 --> 01:02:39,590
Speaker 3: lazy with my toy. I just put it on there

1227
01:02:39,650 --> 01:02:43,820
Speaker 3: and I lay on the side. That's fine. That'd be

1228
01:02:43,840 --> 01:02:44,500
Speaker 3: like two minutes.

1229
01:02:44,520 --> 01:02:47,780
Speaker 1: That's what all of us do. The only thing with

1230
01:02:47,800 --> 01:02:50,620
Speaker 1: the toy is that thing get me there in about

1231
01:02:50,680 --> 01:02:53,530
Speaker 1: a minute thirty seconds. If I got that man around,

1232
01:02:53,550 --> 01:02:56,270
Speaker 1: I'd be like, you're useless now. Go to bed.

1233
01:02:56,330 --> 01:02:57,470
Speaker 4: No, because we can come again.

1234
01:02:57,490 --> 01:02:59,790
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd be wanting to still do it. And the

1235
01:02:59,810 --> 01:03:00,830
Speaker 2: toy can't hug you.

1236
01:03:00,870 --> 01:03:03,750
Speaker 3: The toy can't rub your butt. Like, The toy can't

1237
01:03:03,770 --> 01:03:04,990
Speaker 3: give you no real intimacy.

1238
01:03:05,090 --> 01:03:07,250
Speaker 2: Okay. So I still want that.

1239
01:03:07,110 --> 01:03:07,680
Speaker 1: From a man.

1240
01:03:09,220 --> 01:03:09,640
Speaker 4: Yes.

1241
01:03:10,000 --> 01:03:11,560
Speaker 1: The toy does not rub your butt.

1242
01:03:11,580 --> 01:03:15,660
Speaker 2: That is right. I'd be like, suck my titties while

1243
01:03:15,700 --> 01:03:16,180
Speaker 2: I do this.

1244
01:03:16,300 --> 01:03:18,770
Speaker 3: Like, yeah, that's like, I feel like a threesome to

1245
01:03:18,810 --> 01:03:20,150
Speaker 3: me a little bit.

1246
01:03:22,050 --> 01:03:24,010
Speaker 4: But we can come again and again and again. So

1247
01:03:24,050 --> 01:03:25,610
Speaker 4: who cares if you come with the toy? Great.

1248
01:03:25,720 --> 01:03:27,780
Speaker 1: All right. Right.

1249
01:03:28,040 --> 01:03:30,220
Speaker 3: So, you know, with Roe versus Wade and all this,

1250
01:03:30,260 --> 01:03:32,930
Speaker 3: have you seen an increase or an influx of men

1251
01:03:33,010 --> 01:03:33,470
Speaker 3: coming in.

1252
01:03:33,430 --> 01:03:35,790
Speaker 2: For a vasectomy? You do those procedures, right?

1253
01:03:36,650 --> 01:03:37,430
Speaker 1: Is that what?

1254
01:03:37,530 --> 01:03:37,910
Speaker 4: Oh, yes.

1255
01:03:38,370 --> 01:03:38,510
Speaker 5: Yep.

1256
01:03:39,890 --> 01:03:44,530
Speaker 4: So we in general, the the pattern is, yes, across

1257
01:03:44,550 --> 01:03:49,160
Speaker 4: the United States, there's been more increase in vasectomy with

1258
01:03:49,340 --> 01:03:54,100
Speaker 4: Roe versus Wade being overturned. I live in a state

1259
01:03:54,920 --> 01:04:00,200
Speaker 4: where abortion is absolutely protected, state of Illinois. So I

1260
01:04:00,360 --> 01:04:06,220
Speaker 4: think I haven't seen as great of an increase. And

1261
01:04:06,240 --> 01:04:09,110
Speaker 4: I think, again, because we're in a safe state, if

1262
01:04:09,130 --> 01:04:15,210
Speaker 4: you will. I have overall, just in the last two

1263
01:04:15,230 --> 01:04:19,990
Speaker 4: to four years, have seen more younger men get vasectomies,

1264
01:04:20,090 --> 01:04:23,100
Speaker 4: like more younger men, more men who've who have never

1265
01:04:23,120 --> 01:04:25,440
Speaker 4: had kids just deciding like, nah.

1266
01:04:26,220 --> 01:04:27,460
Speaker 1: Is that reversible at all?

1267
01:04:28,800 --> 01:04:34,290
Speaker 4: So it is technically reversible. Technically speaking, it is reversible.

1268
01:04:34,450 --> 01:04:34,750
Speaker 1: Okay.

1269
01:04:35,410 --> 01:04:38,950
Speaker 4: But you have to understand the vasectomy was designed to

1270
01:04:39,110 --> 01:04:46,740
Speaker 4: permanently stop a fertility. Okay. We cut clips. Sometimes we burn.

1271
01:04:46,800 --> 01:04:51,600
Speaker 4: Sometimes we stitch up though that vast tube. Okay. So,

1272
01:04:51,940 --> 01:04:54,930
Speaker 4: and what happens is just cause you can sew it

1273
01:04:55,010 --> 01:04:57,270
Speaker 4: back together. First of all, sewing it back together is

1274
01:04:57,350 --> 01:05:02,030
Speaker 4: technically not like easy. Um, and we have to use

1275
01:05:02,090 --> 01:05:03,170
Speaker 4: a microscope because.

1276
01:05:03,070 --> 01:05:05,670
Speaker 2: It's so small. It's like a fallopian tube essentially.

1277
01:05:05,710 --> 01:05:05,950
Speaker 1: Right.

1278
01:05:06,230 --> 01:05:10,180
Speaker 4: I mean, it's, it's thinner than that. Um, thinner than

1279
01:05:10,200 --> 01:05:15,940
Speaker 4: a fallopian tube. So super, super, super, super small. And, um, and, um,

1280
01:05:16,510 --> 01:05:20,010
Speaker 4: Then we have to say, okay, now sperm, you've been

1281
01:05:20,070 --> 01:05:24,230
Speaker 4: kind of like, you know, MIA, we haven't been shipping

1282
01:05:24,270 --> 01:05:28,430
Speaker 4: you out for however long now resume. And what happens

1283
01:05:28,490 --> 01:05:31,620
Speaker 4: is your body's like, no, like you cut us off

1284
01:05:31,700 --> 01:05:35,720
Speaker 4: and we're, you know, your testicles may not produce good

1285
01:05:35,980 --> 01:05:41,100
Speaker 4: moving sperm that move through that tube that you've reconnected. Okay. Um,

1286
01:05:41,380 --> 01:05:44,200
Speaker 4: sometimes it may be hard to reconnect the two because

1287
01:05:44,220 --> 01:05:46,120
Speaker 4: of the way the vasectomy was done. And if it's

1288
01:05:46,140 --> 01:05:50,430
Speaker 4: been longer and longer, longer time period from vasectomy to reversal,

1289
01:05:50,830 --> 01:05:53,850
Speaker 4: the scar tissue and what, and whatnot can make it harder.

1290
01:05:53,890 --> 01:05:57,830
Speaker 4: So we always advise patients do not do a vasectomy

1291
01:05:57,970 --> 01:05:59,950
Speaker 4: with the intent of, you know, you're going to reverse

1292
01:05:59,970 --> 01:06:02,330
Speaker 4: it in two, three years. That's not really how it's

1293
01:06:03,030 --> 01:06:03,320
Speaker 4: should be.

1294
01:06:03,370 --> 01:06:04,240
Speaker 1: It's not a condom.

1295
01:06:04,610 --> 01:06:06,540
Speaker 4: It's not a condom. It's not our birth control where

1296
01:06:06,580 --> 01:06:09,440
Speaker 4: we can, it's not, it's, it's, it is meant to

1297
01:06:09,480 --> 01:06:13,970
Speaker 4: be a permanent thing. form of, um, um, a birth

1298
01:06:14,010 --> 01:06:18,419
Speaker 4: control for men. Okay. Permanent form of birth control for men. Um,

1299
01:06:18,640 --> 01:06:20,180
Speaker 4: just like our tubes being tied.

1300
01:06:20,220 --> 01:06:20,439
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1301
01:06:20,480 --> 01:06:23,200
Speaker 4: Technically we can get our tubes read, you know, undone,

1302
01:06:23,220 --> 01:06:26,340
Speaker 4: but like the reality is that doesn't guarantee squat. It

1303
01:06:26,360 --> 01:06:27,180
Speaker 4: doesn't guarantee that.

1304
01:06:27,100 --> 01:06:29,420
Speaker 2: You might have like some scar tissue in there and stuff.

1305
01:06:30,090 --> 01:06:30,930
Speaker 2: I mean, yes.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. Yep.

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Speaker 1: My mom had her tubes tied and got pregnant with

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Speaker 1: my little sister.

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Speaker 4: Oh, well, they didn't do a good job.

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01:06:40,340 --> 01:06:42,120
Speaker 1: After she had my little sister she was like alright

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01:06:42,140 --> 01:06:43,990
Speaker 1: this time tie them around my neck so I can

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Speaker 1: see them.

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Speaker 4: Take the whole tube out yeah just take the whole

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01:06:50,090 --> 01:06:53,190
Speaker 4: tube out I mean the good news is even if

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01:06:53,210 --> 01:06:56,370
Speaker 4: you've had a vasectomy you can we can get sperm

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01:06:56,390 --> 01:06:59,480
Speaker 4: out of your testicle if you can't conceive naturally and

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01:06:59,600 --> 01:07:04,480
Speaker 4: use that so you're not necessarily yeah.

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Speaker 1: I have one more question So I always see this

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Speaker 1: on TV.

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Speaker 4: All right.

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01:07:10,290 --> 01:07:11,970
Speaker 1: They'll have a man come in and pull his dick

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01:07:12,050 --> 01:07:13,910
Speaker 1: out and they hold his nuts and they're like, cough.

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Speaker 2: What is that? What is that?

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01:07:16,430 --> 01:07:18,630
Speaker 1: What do you learn by coughing and holding some nuts?

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01:07:18,930 --> 01:07:21,120
Speaker 1: Because I'm doing that to my boo sometimes, but I

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01:07:21,140 --> 01:07:23,040
Speaker 1: just be playing. I don't know what's going on. I

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01:07:23,060 --> 01:07:25,080
Speaker 1: just grab his nuts and say cough.

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Speaker 3: You got to stick the finger in the butt at

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Speaker 3: the same time, though, to feel the prostate, right?

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Speaker 2: Oh, really?

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01:07:29,540 --> 01:07:29,620
Speaker 3: Yeah.

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01:07:30,940 --> 01:07:31,640
Speaker 1: Oh, I didn't know that.

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01:07:31,740 --> 01:07:32,660
Speaker 2: Oh, no, no, no, no, no.

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Speaker 4: The coughing is more to check for a hernia. Oh.

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Speaker 4: So a hernia is like, you know, like the inner

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01:07:40,380 --> 01:07:42,560
Speaker 4: parts of the abdomen is coming down into the scrotum.

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Speaker 4: So that's what it does. When you cough, it puts

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Speaker 4: pressure into your abdomen that gets translated. And so that's

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Speaker 4: what we're trying to detect when we do that.

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Speaker 1: You're so stupid, girl. I just be holding nuts like, cough, baby, cough.

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Speaker 4: It's more than just holding the nuts though. They do

1342
01:08:01,720 --> 01:08:03,760
Speaker 4: just be doing that on TV, but of course TV is.

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01:08:04,220 --> 01:08:05,100
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay.

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01:08:05,400 --> 01:08:09,160
Speaker 1: Tell people where they can find you, like plug yourself, please.

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01:08:09,760 --> 01:08:10,400
Speaker 1: I will.

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01:08:10,560 --> 01:08:12,910
Speaker 4: So first of all, I want to thank you, Tam

1347
01:08:12,950 --> 01:08:15,110
Speaker 4: Bam and AJ for having me on your show. This

1348
01:08:15,150 --> 01:08:18,930
Speaker 4: has been fun. I'm happy to come back anytime. I

1349
01:08:19,310 --> 01:08:24,870
Speaker 4: love talking about- Pussy and penis and sex and pelvic

1350
01:08:24,910 --> 01:08:28,269
Speaker 4: floor and all that sloppiness. So if you want to

1351
01:08:28,310 --> 01:08:32,840
Speaker 4: learn more about these things, I am on. So my

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01:08:32,860 --> 01:08:39,700
Speaker 4: website is yourfavoriteurologist.com. Yourfavoriteurologist.com. Go to my website, subscribe. You

1353
01:08:39,740 --> 01:08:42,240
Speaker 4: can see stuff that I've done. You can be in

1354
01:08:42,280 --> 01:08:46,680
Speaker 4: the know with everything that's happening with me. Um, I have,

1355
01:08:46,760 --> 01:08:53,460
Speaker 4: I'm on Instagram at Dr. Milhouse. That's D-R-M-I-L-H-O-U-S-E. So Milhouse

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Speaker 4: is with one L or if you just search in Instagram,

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Speaker 4: hashtag your favorite urologist, it'll be me. Um, On Twitter

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Speaker 4: at your favorite urologist, Twitter, sorry, TikTok at your favorite

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01:09:05,680 --> 01:09:09,540
Speaker 4: urologist too. And I have a YouTube channel, Dr. Milhouse,

1360
01:09:09,580 --> 01:09:12,420
Speaker 4: your favorite urologist. So your favorite urologist, can't go wrong.

1361
01:09:12,439 --> 01:09:13,620
Speaker 4: You can find me that way.

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01:09:13,640 --> 01:09:14,360
Speaker 1: Across the board.

1363
01:09:14,780 --> 01:09:18,080
Speaker 2: She's active on social media too. Like she got a real...

1364
01:09:20,010 --> 01:09:21,160
Speaker 2: Social media presence.

1365
01:09:22,540 --> 01:09:23,960
Speaker 4: It's a whole other job, honey.

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01:09:24,300 --> 01:09:26,760
Speaker 3: Tell us about it. What we just don't feel like yet.

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01:09:26,780 --> 01:09:31,200
Speaker 2: Yeah. All right, y'all.

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01:09:31,270 --> 01:09:36,630
Speaker 3: Listen, if you enjoyed this dick talk, please tune in

1369
01:09:36,770 --> 01:09:39,490
Speaker 3: every Thursday on the iHeartRadio app or wherever the fuck

1370
01:09:39,510 --> 01:09:41,970
Speaker 3: you get your podcast at. This is your co-host AJ

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01:09:41,990 --> 01:09:45,800
Speaker 3: Holiday 2.0. Y'all follow me on Instagram. Keep sending them

1372
01:09:45,880 --> 01:09:49,760
Speaker 3: dumb bitch stories. We talk back POD at Gmail or

1373
01:09:49,800 --> 01:09:51,340
Speaker 3: you can hit us up in the DMs.

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01:09:51,979 --> 01:09:52,730
Speaker 2: Whichever one.

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01:09:54,189 --> 01:09:56,689
Speaker 1: Y'all, it's me, Official Tambam. Again, I love y'all. Thank

1376
01:09:56,710 --> 01:09:59,430
Speaker 1: y'all so much for tuning in to another episode. Also

1377
01:09:59,470 --> 01:10:02,189
Speaker 1: send us your Ask a Black Friend. I'm still, I

1378
01:10:02,229 --> 01:10:05,430
Speaker 1: still want those questions from our white listeners. We're your

1379
01:10:05,470 --> 01:10:08,820
Speaker 1: black friends. Ask us a question. We're here to answer

1380
01:10:08,860 --> 01:10:11,600
Speaker 1: those questions for you. Y'all remember to speak now.

1381
01:10:11,620 --> 01:10:12,840
Speaker 2: And never hold your peace.

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01:10:14,300 --> 01:10:14,680
Speaker 1: Deuces.

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01:10:15,040 --> 01:10:15,240
Speaker 2: Bye.