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Speaker 1: This is Unbreakable with Jay Glazer, a mental health podcast

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Speaker 1: helping you out of the gray and into the blue.

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Speaker 1: Now here's Jay Glazer. Welcome in everybody to Unbreakable, a

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Speaker 1: mental health podcast with Jay Glazer. I am Jay Glazier,

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Speaker 1: and I am really really excited about today's guest because

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Speaker 1: when I first started talking about my mental health and

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Speaker 1: when I when I was very open about it, I

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Speaker 1: got a call from this guy and he said, Man,

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Speaker 1: I want you to start sharing your story with the world.

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Speaker 1: And and his audience is huge. His audience is so big,

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Speaker 1: and I'm a little jealous here. His book, The Power

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Speaker 1: of One More is the number one book of all

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Speaker 1: books this year and only came out in June, so

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Speaker 1: he sold six hundred thousand copies. Um. Just incredible human being,

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Speaker 1: a really really good friend. He's on a t V.

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Speaker 1: He has a TV show now called Change with Ed

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Speaker 1: my Lett, which brings us to our guest and my luck.

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Speaker 1: How are you, brother? Man, It's so good to be

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Speaker 1: with you speaking about when you were on my show.

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Speaker 1: I've done four shows. I've never had a reaction close

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Speaker 1: to the one that you and I had together. Man,

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Speaker 1: we still every brother every single week to this day,

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Speaker 1: we keep getting messages about that show. Not just lives

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Speaker 1: that you changed, as you know because you know this,

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Speaker 1: but lives you actually saved that hour that we spent

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Speaker 1: together on the show. It makes me actually, just as

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Speaker 1: I said i'd expect, it makes me emotional because they're

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Speaker 1: actually were live saved by what you did on the

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Speaker 1: show that day. So I'm super honored to be with you, brother,

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Speaker 1: So thank you for having me. What what wasn't? Why

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Speaker 1: do you? Because I also same thing. All of a

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Speaker 1: sudden people started reaching and I had been very open

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Speaker 1: about it before the book. I wanted to I don't

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Speaker 1: I don't want to wait from Breakable the book to

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Speaker 1: come out to be able to help change life and

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Speaker 1: save lives and lifting and power. So I started doing

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Speaker 1: it on my social media. But man, the reaction I

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Speaker 1: got on your show, like you're saying, what was it? Like?

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Speaker 1: What did we do? Tell me what I did? What

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Speaker 1: we did that made it your most powerful show? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I didn't. I didn't do anything you did. Um I

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Speaker 1: think no, no, no, you're a big part of it, brother. Show. Well,

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Speaker 1: I've done fun of them, so somehow yours was different.

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Speaker 1: So I have the one thing every show was in

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Speaker 1: common is me and the one thing that was different

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Speaker 1: about this one is you. So but I will tell

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Speaker 1: you I think it's your vulnerability. At first, it's the topic.

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Speaker 1: More and more people are starting to feel like, hey,

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Speaker 1: I can talk about the fact that I struggle with

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Speaker 1: my mental health. Somewhere on the spectrum of it right

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Speaker 1: all the way from you know, there's suicidal and they

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Speaker 1: have those super great days like you talk about all

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Speaker 1: the way down to hey, man, I just worried too much.

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Speaker 1: I have too much fear, I have too much anxiety.

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Speaker 1: There's a spectrum of it. I think your vulnerability and

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Speaker 1: your willingness to say for from two things one year

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Speaker 1: public person. So that's rare. It's one thing if no

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Speaker 1: one knows you and you're like, hey, I want to

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Speaker 1: through and this is how I found my path. It's

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Speaker 1: another thing when, to some extent, you take a risk.

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Speaker 1: At first you did, it was a risk to say, hey,

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Speaker 1: part of it. And then not balnestly, there's something about

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Speaker 1: and this is how I found my way out. When

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Speaker 1: It was more like, hey, I'm still on this journey,

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Speaker 1: and I'm super grateful for it, but I think that's

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Speaker 1: up and I'm learning to be good with my funked upness.

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Speaker 1: How just say I'm sucked up and I'm good with

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Speaker 1: motivated me to go do all these great things. You also,

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Speaker 1: you're a master motivator. This is what you do right,

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Speaker 1: and it all comes also for you. The ability to

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Speaker 1: go build people up from the inside out. Yeah, when

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Speaker 1: did you realize that you have? I guess kind of

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Speaker 1: that special gift if you will. Well, I just believe

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Speaker 1: not anything about me, man, it really isn't. My dad

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Speaker 1: Power of One. When he made one decision, tried to

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Speaker 1: The Bible says, hey, where there's no vision, the people

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Speaker 1: They say, I want to make a difference. So people

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Speaker 1: have a vision. Their issue is it's depth perception. It's

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Speaker 1: with this belief system that it's years and years and

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Speaker 1: around next Tuesday. That's saying that you just say, I

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Speaker 1: say it's one more and so now there's a part

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Speaker 1: decision away, I'm next tuesday away, I'm a meetingum And

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Speaker 1: you proved it. You've struggled with this for years, You've

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Speaker 1: So that's number one, and then number two. I have

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Speaker 1: The root of inspirational, the word is to be in spirit,

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Speaker 1: means to touch someone in their heart right. The only

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Speaker 1: way you touch someone in your heart, brother, is that

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Speaker 1: you are willing to reveal your imperfections. You want to

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Speaker 1: for me, I'm all about these are my imperfections. These

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Speaker 1: You probably have some of them too. And then that

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Speaker 1: as to me saying I'm funked up and good fun.

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Speaker 1: I don't brag about my successes. I brag about my scars.

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Speaker 1: We all got scars, and my scars of what makes

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Speaker 1: me different? My scars what allows me to walk in

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Speaker 1: and didn't should not allowed to use that to build

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Speaker 1: you up? And why does that matter? Because if we

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Speaker 1: there always I'm always about growth? Like why do you

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Speaker 1: Why do you want to show your scars? I do too?

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Speaker 1: And I think that anyone listening to this, they wouldn't

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Speaker 1: Never forget this. Everybody Jay's proving it. I think I

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Speaker 1: prove it in life. You were most qualified to help

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Speaker 1: that's why we have heroes like your friend DJ Dwane Johnson.

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Speaker 1: When if so many people look up to Dwyane, I

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Speaker 1: think it's because he's also a big vulnerable dude, because

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Speaker 1: I don't have made this money man, my relationship my

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Speaker 1: dad was a certain way, I've had these insecurities. He's

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Speaker 1: I'm most qualified to help who I used to be.

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Speaker 1: Jay Glazer, is anybody listening to this? So the irony

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Speaker 1: is the very things that you think in life disqualify

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Speaker 1: great life, don't lie. Those are actually the qualifiers. If

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Speaker 1: all those people who suffer from the same things. And

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Speaker 1: or anything like that. Being of service could simply be

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Speaker 1: all have scars we've been through, so we all have ways.

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Speaker 1: You know. I gave a speech recently and it was

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Speaker 1: talk about it because my suffering just exactly what you're saying, though,

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Speaker 1: my suffering gives me the ability to communicate, not my schooling,

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Speaker 1: because I fucking sucked at school. It's terrible at school. Man.

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Speaker 1: them are I just worry. I like magnify things, and

425
00:19:36,800 --> 00:19:39,520
Speaker 1: I'll make some small stuff seem like end of the

426
00:19:39,720 --> 00:19:41,879
Speaker 1: universe stuff even to this day. I got hundreds of

427
00:19:41,880 --> 00:19:43,560
Speaker 1: millions of bucks, I got a great wife, I got

428
00:19:43,600 --> 00:19:45,880
Speaker 1: a great family, I got great friends. And I'll wake

429
00:19:45,960 --> 00:19:48,920
Speaker 1: up some days like just worked up, and the only

430
00:19:48,920 --> 00:19:50,200
Speaker 1: thing that gets me out of it often was like,

431
00:19:50,440 --> 00:19:53,040
Speaker 1: is this really gonna matter when I'm gone? Like? What

432
00:19:53,160 --> 00:19:55,240
Speaker 1: is it? How big a deal is this really? And

433
00:19:55,280 --> 00:19:58,080
Speaker 1: what do you say? You you make a point to stop,

434
00:19:58,720 --> 00:20:02,680
Speaker 1: yes the cost the spiraling down, and say to yourself,

435
00:20:02,920 --> 00:20:05,440
Speaker 1: will this matter when I'm gone? I try to change

436
00:20:05,480 --> 00:20:08,560
Speaker 1: the context, right, because what I do is I magnified

437
00:20:08,600 --> 00:20:10,840
Speaker 1: in the moment, I can't see anything, but it it's

438
00:20:10,880 --> 00:20:12,280
Speaker 1: like a tunnel, you know this, when we get down,

439
00:20:12,280 --> 00:20:15,320
Speaker 1: there's that starts to happen, right, And I just try

440
00:20:15,320 --> 00:20:17,080
Speaker 1: to get out of the tunnel by getting above it,

441
00:20:17,119 --> 00:20:20,640
Speaker 1: and I'll go, does this really matter? Really? Twenty years

442
00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:22,679
Speaker 1: from now, five years fro now, if I was to

443
00:20:22,720 --> 00:20:25,760
Speaker 1: die tomorrow, does this really matter? And it helps give

444
00:20:25,800 --> 00:20:28,840
Speaker 1: me some peace about the context of it. So that's

445
00:20:28,880 --> 00:20:32,479
Speaker 1: why I do it. Man, Just absolutely incredible. That's so,

446
00:20:32,520 --> 00:20:36,080
Speaker 1: when did you realize at what point did you go, Man,

447
00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:38,119
Speaker 1: I I'm able to help a lot of people, And

448
00:20:38,160 --> 00:20:41,520
Speaker 1: when did you start seeing um? Because because people think,

449
00:20:41,640 --> 00:20:44,600
Speaker 1: you know, they see you're super successful now, but we

450
00:20:44,640 --> 00:20:46,639
Speaker 1: all have to Like, for me, it took eleven years

451
00:20:46,840 --> 00:20:48,800
Speaker 1: for me to get a full time pitcheck. It was

452
00:20:48,880 --> 00:20:51,399
Speaker 1: far away from me from my success. But every single

453
00:20:51,400 --> 00:20:53,680
Speaker 1: week I thought that next Tuesday would be the week

454
00:20:53,720 --> 00:20:55,440
Speaker 1: I made it. So it allowed me to go through

455
00:20:55,480 --> 00:20:58,440
Speaker 1: the eleven years of rejection. And I want people to

456
00:20:58,480 --> 00:21:01,639
Speaker 1: understand that my overnight success was eleven years. Okay, how

457
00:21:01,680 --> 00:21:04,200
Speaker 1: was the overnight success? Tell me how you know your

458
00:21:04,440 --> 00:21:06,560
Speaker 1: journey of when you realize, man, I could have a

459
00:21:06,560 --> 00:21:08,800
Speaker 1: big voice to help people. Yeah, I wonder if I'm

460
00:21:08,800 --> 00:21:10,960
Speaker 1: even realized that now, Like I still have a hard

461
00:21:10,960 --> 00:21:14,520
Speaker 1: time accepting the fact that I'm I still struggle with that. Dude,

462
00:21:14,560 --> 00:21:16,800
Speaker 1: I always think this makes sound crazy. I still think

463
00:21:16,800 --> 00:21:19,520
Speaker 1: something this could go away tomorrow. You know that keeps

464
00:21:19,560 --> 00:21:22,520
Speaker 1: me focused and sure that I do. I have a

465
00:21:22,520 --> 00:21:23,840
Speaker 1: little bit of that, like it could go away. I

466
00:21:23,880 --> 00:21:26,679
Speaker 1: don't ever really feel like I'm there. But the rock

467
00:21:26,720 --> 00:21:28,720
Speaker 1: still thinks he's gonna be broken next week and that's

468
00:21:28,760 --> 00:21:31,000
Speaker 1: seven bucks in his pocket. Yeah, I do too. I'm

469
00:21:31,040 --> 00:21:33,439
Speaker 1: the same exact way. But I think that on the

470
00:21:33,480 --> 00:21:36,760
Speaker 1: other side of temporary pain, if you can survive the temporary,

471
00:21:36,880 --> 00:21:39,600
Speaker 1: you meet another version of yourself. I just believe this.

472
00:21:39,760 --> 00:21:41,720
Speaker 1: So whatever you're going through, it's temporary, and if you

473
00:21:41,720 --> 00:21:43,879
Speaker 1: can remember, if you can survive it, you can do

474
00:21:43,960 --> 00:21:45,919
Speaker 1: a side. You meet another part of you. I've been

475
00:21:45,920 --> 00:21:48,800
Speaker 1: able to be pretty successful with like not that much talent.

476
00:21:49,160 --> 00:21:52,320
Speaker 1: I'm not like uh high i Q I'm not I'm

477
00:21:52,359 --> 00:21:56,560
Speaker 1: not six four. I'm okay looking, but I ain't Brad Pitt.

478
00:21:56,640 --> 00:21:59,560
Speaker 1: You know, like I've been able to I've been done

479
00:21:59,560 --> 00:22:02,960
Speaker 1: well in with two skills. Here's what they are. Number One,

480
00:22:03,119 --> 00:22:06,080
Speaker 1: I love people and I'm I'm present when I'm with people,

481
00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:10,360
Speaker 1: Like I love him and I believe in him. Yeah,

482
00:22:10,400 --> 00:22:13,120
Speaker 1: I K I got get a get better with that. Yeah,

483
00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:15,520
Speaker 1: I'm just I'm good at that, and then too, I'm

484
00:22:15,520 --> 00:22:18,360
Speaker 1: a good talker. What does that come from? Five years old?

485
00:22:18,359 --> 00:22:20,880
Speaker 1: My dad's an alcoholic. Well, my dad would come through

486
00:22:20,880 --> 00:22:22,840
Speaker 1: that front door, man, I had to read him, and

487
00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:25,000
Speaker 1: if he was drunk, I had to get my three

488
00:22:25,040 --> 00:22:27,280
Speaker 1: sisters upstairs and tell my mom, go take a shower,

489
00:22:27,680 --> 00:22:29,680
Speaker 1: and I'd be down there with this dude and I

490
00:22:29,760 --> 00:22:31,479
Speaker 1: had to read him when he come through them five. Man,

491
00:22:31,520 --> 00:22:34,600
Speaker 1: I'm reading this man is how's his tie tiede? What's

492
00:22:34,600 --> 00:22:37,280
Speaker 1: his breath like? How's he slurring his words? How's he walking?

493
00:22:37,320 --> 00:22:40,200
Speaker 1: If he's sober, we're aving dinner, We're good. If he's drunk, Mimi,

494
00:22:40,240 --> 00:22:42,440
Speaker 1: get enter an eric upstairs. Mom, waa, go take a shower.

495
00:22:42,440 --> 00:22:45,320
Speaker 1: And I would be left downstairs with this man at

496
00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:48,119
Speaker 1: five and six years old, and I'd read him. And

497
00:22:48,160 --> 00:22:50,040
Speaker 1: once I could read him, then I had to talk.

498
00:22:50,160 --> 00:22:51,720
Speaker 1: And I try to try to get him away from

499
00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:53,760
Speaker 1: the liquor cabinet jay because my dad was gonna throw

500
00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:56,760
Speaker 1: back eight beef eater Jin's man, bam bam, bam bam.

501
00:22:56,760 --> 00:22:59,120
Speaker 1: I thought every dad did that, and I grab his hands,

502
00:22:59,119 --> 00:23:01,400
Speaker 1: Hey dad, Daddy, I got I look up and I'm

503
00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:03,280
Speaker 1: scared of him. I got a ninety three on my

504
00:23:03,280 --> 00:23:06,800
Speaker 1: spelling test. Dad, I had to Jackson baseball. I try

505
00:23:06,880 --> 00:23:08,400
Speaker 1: to talk to me. You did. And if I could

506
00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:10,560
Speaker 1: get him over the couch and I could talk to

507
00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:12,920
Speaker 1: him for like an hour, heat, sober up, and bad

508
00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:15,920
Speaker 1: stuff wouldn't happen if I didn't do it. You don't

509
00:23:15,920 --> 00:23:18,280
Speaker 1: want to know what would happen. And little did I

510
00:23:18,320 --> 00:23:21,000
Speaker 1: know what was happening, man was I was surviving this

511
00:23:21,040 --> 00:23:24,520
Speaker 1: temporary pain. I was developing the two skills that I

512
00:23:24,520 --> 00:23:27,960
Speaker 1: would use to change millions of other people's lives and

513
00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:30,879
Speaker 1: make hundreds of millions of dollars in business because I

514
00:23:30,960 --> 00:23:33,760
Speaker 1: survived this temporary pain. A lot of times in life

515
00:23:33,760 --> 00:23:36,520
Speaker 1: when you're going through pain, realized it will be temporary,

516
00:23:36,560 --> 00:23:38,760
Speaker 1: and on the other side of it, you're gonna meet

517
00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:42,000
Speaker 1: some element of you that you didn't have before. And

518
00:23:42,040 --> 00:23:45,760
Speaker 1: that's what's happened to you. Years of pain, years of

519
00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:48,920
Speaker 1: this pain, and finally to get a little bit to

520
00:23:49,000 --> 00:23:53,320
Speaker 1: the other side. Sometimes you've discovered this voice in you

521
00:23:54,160 --> 00:23:56,879
Speaker 1: that's a different voice. It's not just the sports voice.

522
00:23:56,880 --> 00:23:58,560
Speaker 1: It's not the M M. A voice, it's not the

523
00:23:58,560 --> 00:24:03,080
Speaker 1: coach voice. This different voice. It's this. Frankly, it's a

524
00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:07,840
Speaker 1: healing voice, and you've discovered it only because of your pain.

525
00:24:08,600 --> 00:24:13,320
Speaker 1: I'm only great with people and a good communicator because

526
00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:16,679
Speaker 1: of that pain. So there is some extent that cross

527
00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:20,320
Speaker 1: I bared, that cross you bared, the cross someone's bearing

528
00:24:20,320 --> 00:24:23,800
Speaker 1: that's listening to this is the actual thing that's going

529
00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:26,280
Speaker 1: to uncover elements of you that are going to change

530
00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:29,760
Speaker 1: other people's lives. That's what makes us magical, right, the pain.

531
00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:35,520
Speaker 1: And in my book, and I say this now, for years, man,

532
00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:40,520
Speaker 1: I just felt cursed with depression anxiety. And now because

533
00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:44,200
Speaker 1: of this, because of the reaction of your show, reaction

534
00:24:44,440 --> 00:24:47,560
Speaker 1: of people of the podcast when I post her the book,

535
00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:49,760
Speaker 1: now for the first time, I feel like God bless

536
00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:54,280
Speaker 1: me with depression anxiety. And that's a powerful, really powerful

537
00:24:54,280 --> 00:24:57,159
Speaker 1: shift from being a victim to being powerful and to

538
00:24:57,200 --> 00:24:59,640
Speaker 1: be able to use something to help others. I mean,

539
00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:02,199
Speaker 1: we're here to be of service to everybody else, right,

540
00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:04,680
Speaker 1: And that was a that for me, was a really

541
00:25:04,720 --> 00:25:07,520
Speaker 1: big healing moment. And I still get angry that I'm

542
00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:08,920
Speaker 1: that I feel this way, that I wake up, that

543
00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:11,920
Speaker 1: I woke up Friday crying for no reason whatsoever, and

544
00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:13,679
Speaker 1: I couldn't get out of it, and I did everything

545
00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:15,479
Speaker 1: I was supposed to do to get out of it.

546
00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:19,480
Speaker 1: So does it suck, Yeah, fucking sucks. But now I

547
00:25:19,560 --> 00:25:22,800
Speaker 1: have a hy like man. This was a blessing to

548
00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:26,880
Speaker 1: help so many others and moms and dads and grandparents

549
00:25:26,920 --> 00:25:29,959
Speaker 1: and husbands and wives and sons and daughters. It's just

550
00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:34,360
Speaker 1: been beautiful. What has been the one or two messages

551
00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:39,040
Speaker 1: if you have gotten that has really lifted you up? Well,

552
00:25:39,040 --> 00:25:42,080
Speaker 1: one of the one's about you, so yeah, yeah, yeah,

553
00:25:42,119 --> 00:25:43,600
Speaker 1: so this one's you. I just give you the one

554
00:25:43,640 --> 00:25:46,000
Speaker 1: because it's you. So I had a really busy this

555
00:25:46,080 --> 00:25:49,320
Speaker 1: last week. I had five speaking engagements in five states

556
00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:52,639
Speaker 1: and four days. And um, one of them was a

557
00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:54,919
Speaker 1: really unique one. I spoke at this big thing in Dallas.

558
00:25:54,920 --> 00:25:56,240
Speaker 1: I had to fly to Salt Lake City and this

559
00:25:56,280 --> 00:26:00,840
Speaker 1: event was at this dude's house. And it's all real

560
00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:06,400
Speaker 1: masculine male influencers, like real big dudes, dudely dude, dudely dude,

561
00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:09,080
Speaker 1: like the dude lest of the dude ly dudes. And

562
00:26:09,119 --> 00:26:12,240
Speaker 1: so I spoke and uh spoke in this guy's living room.

563
00:26:12,240 --> 00:26:14,960
Speaker 1: Actually it was really an interesting experience. So it's like

564
00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:17,200
Speaker 1: a Hunter people there. I speaking these dudes living room

565
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:18,760
Speaker 1: and I'm just getting all fired up because it's men,

566
00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:21,480
Speaker 1: so I can get real alpha and I'm done, and

567
00:26:21,520 --> 00:26:23,200
Speaker 1: you know, people come up and now we're just smoking

568
00:26:23,240 --> 00:26:26,320
Speaker 1: cigars and drinking some tequila and whiskey around the deal,

569
00:26:26,920 --> 00:26:32,040
Speaker 1: being even more dudely right, and I'm I'm real dudely

570
00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:35,320
Speaker 1: after about five of these whiskey and ELA's right. And

571
00:26:35,400 --> 00:26:38,000
Speaker 1: so anyway, this guy, this guy's got a helicopter there.

572
00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:39,640
Speaker 1: He's like, hey, you wanna take a helicopter? Right, it's

573
00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:42,080
Speaker 1: at night, and only because I'm in these whiskeys and tequilas,

574
00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:43,960
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, let's go. So we get in this helicopter.

575
00:26:44,160 --> 00:26:46,440
Speaker 1: I take a ride at night around Salt Lake City.

576
00:26:46,480 --> 00:26:49,040
Speaker 1: I'm scared shitless and we land and I get off

577
00:26:49,080 --> 00:26:51,720
Speaker 1: the helicopter and probably the dude leest dude that's there

578
00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:53,760
Speaker 1: is waiting for me when I get off the helicopter

579
00:26:54,160 --> 00:26:57,280
Speaker 1: and he's crying. This is just Friday, bro. He's crying

580
00:26:57,320 --> 00:26:59,040
Speaker 1: pretty heavy and he's kind of trying to hold the

581
00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:01,160
Speaker 1: he's kind of white in his face with the tears,

582
00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:03,120
Speaker 1: and he goes this, man, I want to tell you something.

583
00:27:03,200 --> 00:27:05,120
Speaker 1: You change my life. And I'm like, thank you so much,

584
00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:07,000
Speaker 1: because no, man, I've been listening to you for years.

585
00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:08,960
Speaker 1: Like I can't even tell him a better husband and

586
00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:11,800
Speaker 1: better father. And then as we're walking, he goes, can

587
00:27:11,800 --> 00:27:13,439
Speaker 1: we just get a private minute? And we're in the

588
00:27:13,560 --> 00:27:16,280
Speaker 1: dark in this guy's yard. There's no lights. It's kind

589
00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:18,960
Speaker 1: of weird at first, and then he goes, um, how

590
00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:21,200
Speaker 1: well do you know j Glazer? And I go, I've

591
00:27:21,200 --> 00:27:23,760
Speaker 1: got to know Jay pretty well. Man. He goes, please

592
00:27:23,760 --> 00:27:26,320
Speaker 1: tell me he's real, and I go, bro like the

593
00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:28,440
Speaker 1: realist man like is the type of dude that'll just

594
00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:29,919
Speaker 1: send you a message like, hey man, I love you,

595
00:27:29,920 --> 00:27:32,320
Speaker 1: I'm thinking about you, I care about you. You know,

596
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:35,679
Speaker 1: he's a real He's a real dude. This dude just starts.

597
00:27:35,720 --> 00:27:39,280
Speaker 1: He's not now tearing, he's like pouring water and he goes,

598
00:27:39,320 --> 00:27:41,240
Speaker 1: I just want you to know, man, that you changed

599
00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:46,040
Speaker 1: my life. But Glazer saved my life. And he said, uh.

600
00:27:46,119 --> 00:27:48,080
Speaker 1: He goes, he said that helicopter you were just on.

601
00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:51,760
Speaker 1: He goes, I have one, and not that one. I

602
00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:54,960
Speaker 1: have one, and he said, um, for about three days,

603
00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:58,639
Speaker 1: I was having these fantasies almost about running my helicopter

604
00:27:58,760 --> 00:28:01,159
Speaker 1: into that mountain and he points set the mountain. I

605
00:28:01,200 --> 00:28:03,800
Speaker 1: was gonna take my helicopter into that mountain. I wanted

606
00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:05,640
Speaker 1: to end it. And I don't know why. I wanted

607
00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:07,959
Speaker 1: it to be dramatic. And I kept thinking about my

608
00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:09,639
Speaker 1: wife and kids and I shouldn't do this and I

609
00:28:09,680 --> 00:28:12,919
Speaker 1: shouldn't do this, but I wanted to do it. And

610
00:28:12,960 --> 00:28:16,600
Speaker 1: he said, um, I'm driving to work on a Wednesday,

611
00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:19,480
Speaker 1: and I put your show on with Jay and he said, Bro,

612
00:28:19,600 --> 00:28:22,479
Speaker 1: I pulled over at six o'clock in the morning. I

613
00:28:22,560 --> 00:28:24,639
Speaker 1: pull over on the side of the road and I

614
00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:27,679
Speaker 1: didn't drive, and I just listened and I listened, and

615
00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 1: then I played it back the last half hour. I

616
00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:33,280
Speaker 1: played it back again, and it saved my life. It

617
00:28:33,480 --> 00:28:36,639
Speaker 1: saved my life. Yeah, I just wanted to know he

618
00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:38,640
Speaker 1: was real. And I said, Bro, he's a percent real.

619
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:42,360
Speaker 1: So you just never know. Brother, that's you imagine this

620
00:28:42,400 --> 00:28:45,600
Speaker 1: man with the family, taking his helicopter and just ending it. Man,

621
00:28:45,600 --> 00:28:48,040
Speaker 1: I appreciate you sharing that because every time I hear that,

622
00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:52,000
Speaker 1: you can see I'm yeah, I'm crying right now. I'm um, man,

623
00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:56,440
Speaker 1: something will happen today, bro, See just today, I think

624
00:28:56,480 --> 00:28:59,480
Speaker 1: that these things happened with you and and other people's work,

625
00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:02,640
Speaker 1: but actually with you right now more than you know,

626
00:29:02,760 --> 00:29:05,480
Speaker 1: because these are just the people that tell you, right,

627
00:29:05,920 --> 00:29:07,800
Speaker 1: I'm going to this in my life to like people

628
00:29:07,840 --> 00:29:09,560
Speaker 1: that I see an airports kind of look at me

629
00:29:09,560 --> 00:29:11,280
Speaker 1: and they want to come up to me, but they don't.

630
00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:14,520
Speaker 1: This is just the ones telling you. Imagine all the

631
00:29:14,560 --> 00:29:16,280
Speaker 1: ones you are just like, hey man, I'm never gonna

632
00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:18,560
Speaker 1: say this out loud. When I was thinking about doing

633
00:29:18,560 --> 00:29:21,040
Speaker 1: this and just this quiet thing happened and I changed.

634
00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:23,240
Speaker 1: There's way more of those that will never tell you

635
00:29:23,360 --> 00:29:25,360
Speaker 1: than there are the ones telling you thank you for

636
00:29:25,400 --> 00:29:28,200
Speaker 1: sharing this. Thank you, thank you because you you see

637
00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:29,960
Speaker 1: how much you lifted me up. And I hope you

638
00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:32,880
Speaker 1: could tell this dude how much he lifted me up

639
00:29:32,920 --> 00:29:35,280
Speaker 1: by telling me this story also. And I'll continue to

640
00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:38,120
Speaker 1: do this. I'll continue to live people and empower and savement.

641
00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:41,000
Speaker 1: Just be real, that's the thing. If you could be.

642
00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:43,080
Speaker 1: And people used always saying to me, why used to

643
00:29:43,120 --> 00:29:46,440
Speaker 1: trust in sports? And I say, just funk, I am

644
00:29:46,440 --> 00:29:48,960
Speaker 1: a I'm a authetic Like love me or hate me,

645
00:29:49,040 --> 00:29:52,600
Speaker 1: you know who you're getting in the world where nowadays

646
00:29:53,040 --> 00:29:56,880
Speaker 1: it's it's it's filtered. I think the authenticity is ringing

647
00:29:57,240 --> 00:30:00,000
Speaker 1: ringing louder, which I'm proud of and I'll never I'll

648
00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:03,040
Speaker 1: will never change that. It doesn't just ring louder bro, Like,

649
00:30:03,360 --> 00:30:06,240
Speaker 1: uh it doesn't. You just caught me, bro, Yeah, it's not.

650
00:30:06,520 --> 00:30:10,440
Speaker 1: That's not that's not a like on Instagram. That's and

651
00:30:10,480 --> 00:30:12,160
Speaker 1: by the way, you know, I was thinking of I

652
00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:14,000
Speaker 1: drove back that night because a couple of people said

653
00:30:14,040 --> 00:30:15,960
Speaker 1: some nice things to me about some stuff I had done.

654
00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:17,760
Speaker 1: And I never thought about it this way because a

655
00:30:17,760 --> 00:30:20,520
Speaker 1: lot of these dudes were dad's and uh, I was

656
00:30:20,600 --> 00:30:22,440
Speaker 1: driving back, I think about this particular man with you

657
00:30:22,480 --> 00:30:25,080
Speaker 1: because he wasn't like there weren't tears, like he was

658
00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:30,360
Speaker 1: flowing water right. Well, I thought about his children. And

659
00:30:30,360 --> 00:30:32,080
Speaker 1: there was another guy there that said something with me

660
00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:33,880
Speaker 1: that I'll keep with me and him, But I thought

661
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 1: about his children. I'm like, man, what an honor to

662
00:30:36,680 --> 00:30:39,880
Speaker 1: know that me like this child of an alcoholic or like,

663
00:30:39,960 --> 00:30:42,000
Speaker 1: I didn't just help this man. You didn't just help

664
00:30:42,040 --> 00:30:45,680
Speaker 1: that guy brother. You saved his wife's This man has

665
00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:49,080
Speaker 1: two children. You saved this children. His children went to

666
00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:53,000
Speaker 1: school that Friday with a loving, alive father, not knowing

667
00:30:53,240 --> 00:30:57,200
Speaker 1: they would have gone to school that Friday without a dad.

668
00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:00,680
Speaker 1: So think about those and then someday what happens to

669
00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:04,560
Speaker 1: that child. So the ripple effects for anybody listening to this,

670
00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:08,600
Speaker 1: of you just helping other humans is immeasurable. There is

671
00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:11,520
Speaker 1: a ripple effect that happens when you do it that

672
00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:14,920
Speaker 1: you can't measure. It's not just the person that says

673
00:31:14,960 --> 00:31:17,480
Speaker 1: you've helped them, it's all the ones who don't tell you.

674
00:31:17,760 --> 00:31:20,960
Speaker 1: But it's all the people that they're charged with protecting

675
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:23,960
Speaker 1: or leading in their life and as children in life,

676
00:31:23,960 --> 00:31:27,480
Speaker 1: when you have kids, most lessons are kids get are caught,

677
00:31:27,640 --> 00:31:30,760
Speaker 1: not taught. My dad didn't teach me how to worry.

678
00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:33,200
Speaker 1: I caught it. I didn't teach me how to have

679
00:31:33,240 --> 00:31:36,640
Speaker 1: anxiety and fear. I caught it by just being around him.

680
00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:39,160
Speaker 1: Oftentimes in life we don't turn out like our parents.

681
00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:41,880
Speaker 1: We have a different career, we think different, we operate different,

682
00:31:42,160 --> 00:31:45,000
Speaker 1: but we do catch their emotions a lot. Yes, we

683
00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:47,600
Speaker 1: grew up in chaos. When you grow up in chaos,

684
00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:49,880
Speaker 1: it could either break you or it could build you.

685
00:31:49,960 --> 00:31:52,360
Speaker 1: For me, it's built a couple of great careers for

686
00:31:52,440 --> 00:31:55,360
Speaker 1: me because I'm sucking great in chaos in calm, but

687
00:31:55,480 --> 00:31:57,760
Speaker 1: I'm great in chaos. Tom before I get in trouble,

688
00:31:57,840 --> 00:31:59,480
Speaker 1: I want to learn how to exist in calm. I

689
00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:02,680
Speaker 1: want I'd like to to not always being cast or

690
00:32:02,720 --> 00:32:05,800
Speaker 1: cost cast. It's it's hard to be friends with Jay Glazer.

691
00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:08,720
Speaker 1: Maybe that's why we're such good friends because about three

692
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:11,040
Speaker 1: use the word I used. I grew up in chaos

693
00:32:11,360 --> 00:32:14,440
Speaker 1: and I was bragging on a PEAT performance show that

694
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:16,440
Speaker 1: I was on a TV show like three years ago.

695
00:32:16,520 --> 00:32:18,480
Speaker 1: I heard my for like a one millionth time. I said,

696
00:32:18,560 --> 00:32:20,680
Speaker 1: let me tell you about me, man, I operate amazing

697
00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:23,240
Speaker 1: and chaos because I grew up and I even knew why,

698
00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:25,760
Speaker 1: I just like you did. And then after the show,

699
00:32:26,120 --> 00:32:28,440
Speaker 1: my wife's like, do you ever think that's why you

700
00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:32,000
Speaker 1: created all the time? And do you know be the

701
00:32:32,000 --> 00:32:35,000
Speaker 1: wife of someone who's constantly creating chaos? Do you know

702
00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:37,280
Speaker 1: what it's like to be the the mom of someone

703
00:32:37,320 --> 00:32:39,560
Speaker 1: who's called And I thought about it. I'm like, that's

704
00:32:39,560 --> 00:32:41,440
Speaker 1: a cool thing to brag about, because we both do.

705
00:32:41,920 --> 00:32:44,000
Speaker 1: But I don't want to live the rest of my

706
00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:47,239
Speaker 1: damn life in this chaos all the time. And I

707
00:32:47,320 --> 00:32:50,040
Speaker 1: have learned to create I call it equanimity. In my book,

708
00:32:50,080 --> 00:32:52,400
Speaker 1: I have a chapter on equanimity, which is to learn

709
00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:56,240
Speaker 1: to be calm under dress because I don't want stressful

710
00:32:56,280 --> 00:32:58,560
Speaker 1: situations not to be in my life. I like pressure,

711
00:32:59,040 --> 00:33:01,960
Speaker 1: I like, but it's been different chain pressure and chaos.

712
00:33:02,240 --> 00:33:05,800
Speaker 1: Big difference. It's huge different pressure, no problem. Chaos. We're

713
00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:08,800
Speaker 1: throwing everybody else's life upside down. Also, you nailed it.

714
00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:11,160
Speaker 1: That's the problem. Think about who you admire in your life.

715
00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:15,240
Speaker 1: Take football, whoever you like. Take say Brady's your friend, right,

716
00:33:15,520 --> 00:33:18,080
Speaker 1: what do we really admire about it? It's his ability

717
00:33:18,160 --> 00:33:24,240
Speaker 1: to find equanimity or calmness under duress. So it's easy

718
00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:26,280
Speaker 1: to throw a touchdown in the first quarter when it's

719
00:33:26,360 --> 00:33:29,280
Speaker 1: zip zip. It's a lot different when you're down to

720
00:33:29,440 --> 00:33:32,520
Speaker 1: three and this drive has to score in the Super

721
00:33:32,560 --> 00:33:36,200
Speaker 1: Bowl to play. And his ability to be calm under dress.

722
00:33:36,320 --> 00:33:38,800
Speaker 1: Whoever you admire in football, I'm just picking one guy, right, No, No,

723
00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:41,440
Speaker 1: you're right. But it's like, well, let's switch it around,

724
00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:43,880
Speaker 1: because it's almost like you're saying, like, the way I've

725
00:33:43,920 --> 00:33:48,000
Speaker 1: lived my life is I've had to start down nothing

726
00:33:48,000 --> 00:33:50,120
Speaker 1: in every game and then the lights come on. Okay,

727
00:33:50,120 --> 00:33:51,920
Speaker 1: now I got chaos, Now I can go well, that's

728
00:33:51,920 --> 00:33:53,840
Speaker 1: not a healthy way to live, you got it. It's

729
00:33:53,880 --> 00:33:55,520
Speaker 1: not a healthy way to go, you know. And that's

730
00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:59,040
Speaker 1: what And look, I'm still learning how to like Okay,

731
00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:01,640
Speaker 1: So when I live in calm, um, I worry. It's

732
00:34:01,640 --> 00:34:04,040
Speaker 1: all I do because I don't know any other way

733
00:34:04,440 --> 00:34:06,840
Speaker 1: but to live in chaos. So that's when the roommates

734
00:34:06,840 --> 00:34:09,480
Speaker 1: in my head start talking really bad to each other.

735
00:34:09,960 --> 00:34:14,200
Speaker 1: And that's when, right when I'm calm of a panic

736
00:34:14,200 --> 00:34:18,240
Speaker 1: attack and anxiety attack. And that's why I'm learning rules

737
00:34:18,280 --> 00:34:21,600
Speaker 1: to to understand how to exist in the blue and

738
00:34:21,680 --> 00:34:24,560
Speaker 1: the calm and not seek out the cast, because the

739
00:34:24,640 --> 00:34:28,560
Speaker 1: chaos hurts everybody else. Like I said, like, and it's

740
00:34:28,560 --> 00:34:31,000
Speaker 1: hard for me to say, but man, with my cast,

741
00:34:31,080 --> 00:34:33,520
Speaker 1: my mental health issues, it's hard to be friends with

742
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:36,400
Speaker 1: Jay Glazer. Me too. We both both of us have

743
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:39,479
Speaker 1: friends that would say, hey, man, it's explains you now.

744
00:34:39,960 --> 00:34:42,000
Speaker 1: It hurts to say it though, right Like for me,

745
00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:44,440
Speaker 1: it hurts me to say it. But at the same time,

746
00:34:45,200 --> 00:34:47,240
Speaker 1: I said, man, it's hard to be friends with Jay Glazer,

747
00:34:47,280 --> 00:34:49,560
Speaker 1: But look at the people who still are, like, look

748
00:34:49,600 --> 00:34:52,280
Speaker 1: at the people who've hung in there. Those are real friends.

749
00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:55,040
Speaker 1: Those are pall bearers. Also, the rewards of being your

750
00:34:55,080 --> 00:34:57,359
Speaker 1: friend is this loyal dude, Is this dude you can

751
00:34:57,360 --> 00:34:59,520
Speaker 1: call and go, hey, I'm in the gray, help me.

752
00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:03,040
Speaker 1: So when they're chaos is bad, I will step the

753
00:35:03,080 --> 00:35:05,000
Speaker 1: funk up. I'll give you something that's help me. I

754
00:35:05,040 --> 00:35:07,200
Speaker 1: wrote about it, and we're both tolling our books. But

755
00:35:07,800 --> 00:35:10,600
Speaker 1: so when you're when kids are little, they're usually happier

756
00:35:10,600 --> 00:35:13,600
Speaker 1: than most adults. Why is that because kids operate out

757
00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:18,279
Speaker 1: of imagination, out of creativity, not history and memory. And

758
00:35:18,320 --> 00:35:20,839
Speaker 1: so there's two types of operating systems in life. Most

759
00:35:20,880 --> 00:35:23,080
Speaker 1: people operate out of history and memory. We're talking earlier

760
00:35:23,080 --> 00:35:25,920
Speaker 1: about our friends. If everybody around all the times like

761
00:35:25,960 --> 00:35:28,279
Speaker 1: hey man, remember remember remember you know, hey man, you

762
00:35:28,280 --> 00:35:31,320
Speaker 1: remember that party? You remember that thing? If everybody's only

763
00:35:31,480 --> 00:35:34,400
Speaker 1: doing that, and you and I have friends with great pasts,

764
00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:36,160
Speaker 1: so we could sit around and do that all the time,

765
00:35:36,200 --> 00:35:38,560
Speaker 1: and we do a little bit. But my friends often

766
00:35:38,600 --> 00:35:41,640
Speaker 1: operate out of imagination and vision. So they've got a

767
00:35:41,640 --> 00:35:43,399
Speaker 1: great past, but they're like, hey man, here's what I'm

768
00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:45,480
Speaker 1: working on right now. You know this, Here's what I'm

769
00:35:45,520 --> 00:35:47,400
Speaker 1: working on. Here's what I'm going here's what I'm focused on.

770
00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:50,920
Speaker 1: So that For me, the chaos part of it, I've

771
00:35:50,920 --> 00:35:54,720
Speaker 1: directed it to a positive chaos. My chaos now is imagination.

772
00:35:54,880 --> 00:35:56,600
Speaker 1: Like for you writing the book, are you creating this

773
00:35:56,680 --> 00:36:00,440
Speaker 1: content that's imaginative to some extent, it's creative. So for

774
00:36:00,560 --> 00:36:02,839
Speaker 1: my way out of the calm, I can't just sit

775
00:36:02,880 --> 00:36:04,920
Speaker 1: around on a beach and like just lay there for months.

776
00:36:04,920 --> 00:36:06,919
Speaker 1: It's just I'm never gonna be able to do that.

777
00:36:07,360 --> 00:36:08,960
Speaker 1: But what I can do is I can sit on

778
00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:10,759
Speaker 1: a beach and go, hey, man, here's what I'm working on.

779
00:36:10,960 --> 00:36:13,200
Speaker 1: Here's what I'm thinking about, Here's where I'm going, here's

780
00:36:13,239 --> 00:36:15,000
Speaker 1: my vision, here's what i'm gonna help people, Here's what

781
00:36:15,000 --> 00:36:18,040
Speaker 1: I'm gonna create. And that allows me to not be

782
00:36:18,160 --> 00:36:20,440
Speaker 1: in the dirty chaos. It amous me to be in

783
00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:23,600
Speaker 1: the beautiful chaos. So for me, it's not escaping chaos,

784
00:36:24,080 --> 00:36:26,880
Speaker 1: it's a different version of it. Like I think that

785
00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:30,520
Speaker 1: you talked about Dwayne earlier or the Rock, he's a creative,

786
00:36:31,200 --> 00:36:33,600
Speaker 1: genius guy. He's oh and he's not in the past.

787
00:36:34,239 --> 00:36:36,240
Speaker 1: He'll look at it learn from it. But he's like, hey,

788
00:36:36,280 --> 00:36:38,680
Speaker 1: I got Black Adam coming out, I got this, I'm

789
00:36:38,680 --> 00:36:42,080
Speaker 1: doing that, I'm doing this, And he's creating. That's a

790
00:36:42,080 --> 00:36:44,960
Speaker 1: beautiful chaos. That's a genius. And for those of you

791
00:36:45,000 --> 00:36:47,160
Speaker 1: that struggle with your mental health, here's one thing I believe.

792
00:36:47,160 --> 00:36:48,920
Speaker 1: I think Glazer has this. I think I have it.

793
00:36:48,960 --> 00:36:52,359
Speaker 1: I think I think typically people who have some sort

794
00:36:52,400 --> 00:36:55,359
Speaker 1: of mental health issues have a form of genius in

795
00:36:55,440 --> 00:36:58,640
Speaker 1: them that that is a little bit special, it's a

796
00:36:58,680 --> 00:37:01,319
Speaker 1: little bit unique, and and they actually start to use

797
00:37:01,360 --> 00:37:06,920
Speaker 1: imagination as instead of memory and history. That chaos starts

798
00:37:06,960 --> 00:37:10,399
Speaker 1: to become a genius of imagining and creating. And that's

799
00:37:10,400 --> 00:37:13,080
Speaker 1: why I've seen most of the most brilliant people I know,

800
00:37:13,400 --> 00:37:16,440
Speaker 1: and you know, Jay struggle with some There's a few

801
00:37:16,520 --> 00:37:18,080
Speaker 1: dudes they just got their act together. And I don't

802
00:37:18,080 --> 00:37:20,719
Speaker 1: get those guys, right, I don't get those guys. But

803
00:37:21,080 --> 00:37:22,799
Speaker 1: by the way, some of them might even be more

804
00:37:22,920 --> 00:37:25,360
Speaker 1: creative and more successful if they had a little of

805
00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:28,080
Speaker 1: this thing. We a little crazy. So for you use

806
00:37:28,160 --> 00:37:30,960
Speaker 1: it to be imagining and dreaming and envisioning, that's the

807
00:37:31,000 --> 00:37:34,680
Speaker 1: state I get into. Mhm. You kind of stopped right

808
00:37:34,680 --> 00:37:38,840
Speaker 1: there and you're saying that's the state I get into. Okay,

809
00:37:39,320 --> 00:37:43,120
Speaker 1: I force it. Okay, when did you make that decision

810
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:46,440
Speaker 1: to start forcing it? Because it didn't like at one

811
00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:48,200
Speaker 1: point you have to say, hey, I'm gonna do this,

812
00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:50,719
Speaker 1: how long ago and how long did it take you

813
00:37:50,760 --> 00:37:53,200
Speaker 1: to do that? And I'm asking you because I'm trying

814
00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:56,000
Speaker 1: to learn right now exactly what took me a couple

815
00:37:56,000 --> 00:37:58,600
Speaker 1: of years of like permanently being able to get into it.

816
00:37:58,719 --> 00:38:00,960
Speaker 1: But where it came from was my dad. My dad

817
00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:02,680
Speaker 1: got sober j and I said, hey, Dad, are you

818
00:38:02,719 --> 00:38:05,439
Speaker 1: never gonna drink again? And my dad says, I can't

819
00:38:05,440 --> 00:38:07,359
Speaker 1: promise you that, man, I can tell you this. I'm

820
00:38:07,360 --> 00:38:09,759
Speaker 1: not gonna drink for one more day. And that ended

821
00:38:09,840 --> 00:38:12,160
Speaker 1: up being one more day. The rest of my dad's

822
00:38:12,160 --> 00:38:14,640
Speaker 1: life was one more day. And I would ask my dad,

823
00:38:14,640 --> 00:38:17,440
Speaker 1: go how do you keep it away? How do you

824
00:38:17,560 --> 00:38:19,600
Speaker 1: keep it away? And he goes, well, I can't sit

825
00:38:19,640 --> 00:38:23,040
Speaker 1: around and try not to think about not drinking. That

826
00:38:23,080 --> 00:38:25,480
Speaker 1: don't work. I said, so what do you think about?

827
00:38:25,680 --> 00:38:28,319
Speaker 1: And he goes, I just imagine, I dream? What do

828
00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:29,759
Speaker 1: I want to work on? What do I want to build?

829
00:38:29,760 --> 00:38:31,000
Speaker 1: Where am I going to my career? What do I

830
00:38:31,040 --> 00:38:33,640
Speaker 1: want to take the family? What book should I be reading?

831
00:38:33,640 --> 00:38:35,640
Speaker 1: What think? What? What part of my body am I

832
00:38:35,680 --> 00:38:37,440
Speaker 1: working on? So he's like, because you and I have

833
00:38:37,480 --> 00:38:38,879
Speaker 1: both said to each other, man, one of my ways

834
00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:41,279
Speaker 1: out is if I can move my body, that's our

835
00:38:41,360 --> 00:38:43,920
Speaker 1: one trick, pony. But for my dad, he's like, it

836
00:38:43,960 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 1: wasn't just moving my body, it was moving my imagination.

837
00:38:47,040 --> 00:38:48,960
Speaker 1: It's moving this And I went, Dad, you're kidding me.

838
00:38:49,000 --> 00:38:51,360
Speaker 1: So the way you're not drinking isn't just like trying

839
00:38:51,440 --> 00:38:54,360
Speaker 1: not to drink, trying not to be in the gray.

840
00:38:54,440 --> 00:38:57,920
Speaker 1: He's like, of course not. I'm imagining and I'm creating.

841
00:38:57,920 --> 00:38:59,560
Speaker 1: So it's my dad was a banker. It's not like

842
00:38:59,560 --> 00:39:01,840
Speaker 1: my dad at the like unbelieving on an artist or

843
00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:05,080
Speaker 1: a singer right or on TV just a guy. Right.

844
00:39:05,480 --> 00:39:07,160
Speaker 1: But my Dad's like, yeah, man, I'm just envisioning, Like

845
00:39:07,200 --> 00:39:08,799
Speaker 1: what when when the next year looked? Like where am

846
00:39:08,800 --> 00:39:10,520
Speaker 1: I going? What do I want to be? Who could

847
00:39:10,520 --> 00:39:13,640
Speaker 1: I help? Also not drink? And so my dad started

848
00:39:13,680 --> 00:39:16,400
Speaker 1: to really get into his program of helping other people

849
00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:20,960
Speaker 1: with their sobriety. And so my dad's pathway out was

850
00:39:21,280 --> 00:39:24,359
Speaker 1: think about it, Jay. My dad was once an alcoholic

851
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:26,759
Speaker 1: and no longer was that qualified him to help the

852
00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:29,640
Speaker 1: person he used to be. That became a superpower, that

853
00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:32,600
Speaker 1: became it and he would imagine different ways of doing it,

854
00:39:32,600 --> 00:39:35,319
Speaker 1: in different ways of communicating, and different ways of getting

855
00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:37,239
Speaker 1: up at the meeting and saying, Hi, I'm ed, I'm

856
00:39:37,239 --> 00:39:39,719
Speaker 1: an alcoholic, and and he would create and he goes

857
00:39:40,000 --> 00:39:42,960
Speaker 1: that fills the chaos in my brain that would have

858
00:39:43,040 --> 00:39:45,480
Speaker 1: otherwise caused me to drink. That's where I learned it. Yeah,

859
00:39:45,600 --> 00:39:47,520
Speaker 1: that's beautiful. And again that's why I want people to

860
00:39:47,760 --> 00:39:50,279
Speaker 1: really hear that loud and clear. What you think has

861
00:39:50,280 --> 00:39:52,640
Speaker 1: made you funked up in the past and you've overcome

862
00:39:52,640 --> 00:39:57,360
Speaker 1: it is really your superpower, Bingo. It's your superpower. And

863
00:39:57,400 --> 00:40:00,280
Speaker 1: even if, like if you had health issues, it didn't

864
00:40:00,280 --> 00:40:02,640
Speaker 1: break you. You came through the other side of that tunnel.

865
00:40:03,080 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 1: You could apply that knowledge that you have that strength

866
00:40:06,920 --> 00:40:10,120
Speaker 1: to other areas of your life. I got a guy

867
00:40:10,160 --> 00:40:14,600
Speaker 1: that I love whose son has some form of he's

868
00:40:14,640 --> 00:40:17,439
Speaker 1: on the spectrum a little bit autistically, Okay. They brought

869
00:40:17,480 --> 00:40:19,160
Speaker 1: him to all these different teachers to help him with

870
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:22,000
Speaker 1: his learning disabilities. They all were wonderful and good people.

871
00:40:22,600 --> 00:40:25,319
Speaker 1: Then he finally has a teacher now who's completely changed him.

872
00:40:25,320 --> 00:40:27,319
Speaker 1: And you know what the difference was this teachers on

873
00:40:27,360 --> 00:40:32,200
Speaker 1: the spectrum. Also, this teacher has a scotch of autism

874
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:35,400
Speaker 1: when they were a kid, that teachers most qualified to

875
00:40:35,480 --> 00:40:38,160
Speaker 1: help this little boy who's got the same condition. There's

876
00:40:38,200 --> 00:40:41,560
Speaker 1: just a relatability when you have a similar pain of somebody,

877
00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:44,880
Speaker 1: an energy connection that's on our souls and our spirits

878
00:40:44,920 --> 00:40:47,719
Speaker 1: that you can't put into words. But when Jay Glazer

879
00:40:47,760 --> 00:40:50,239
Speaker 1: talks about being in the gray, if you're in the gray,

880
00:40:50,600 --> 00:40:54,319
Speaker 1: you feel something in your your spirit. He's not motivating you,

881
00:40:54,480 --> 00:40:58,160
Speaker 1: he's inspiring, he's touching your spirit. There's just some energy

882
00:40:58,200 --> 00:41:01,840
Speaker 1: transfer when there's a shared pain that you can't replicate

883
00:41:01,880 --> 00:41:04,480
Speaker 1: any other way. So that pain is not just a

884
00:41:04,520 --> 00:41:07,399
Speaker 1: little bit of a gift, It is the actual thing

885
00:41:07,719 --> 00:41:09,920
Speaker 1: man that will help you. You don't know this, but

886
00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:12,880
Speaker 1: my first career out of college, I played college baseball

887
00:41:12,920 --> 00:41:14,640
Speaker 1: and I got hurt and appro ended a career that

888
00:41:14,640 --> 00:41:17,080
Speaker 1: would have ended anyway. I have a business major. I

889
00:41:17,080 --> 00:41:19,239
Speaker 1: can't find a job. I worked at an orphanage bro

890
00:41:19,800 --> 00:41:22,040
Speaker 1: my boys. I worked at McKinley Home for boys. My

891
00:41:22,080 --> 00:41:24,239
Speaker 1: boys were all eight to ten years old. I'm not

892
00:41:24,280 --> 00:41:26,479
Speaker 1: a psychologist. I don't have any kids of my own.

893
00:41:26,600 --> 00:41:28,960
Speaker 1: What the heck qualified me to work with these boys?

894
00:41:29,160 --> 00:41:33,759
Speaker 1: My boys, their parents were dead, incarcerated, or had molested them.

895
00:41:33,800 --> 00:41:36,680
Speaker 1: What did I have in common with these boys? Shared

896
00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:41,319
Speaker 1: childhood pain? And there was something about my being, my

897
00:41:41,480 --> 00:41:45,040
Speaker 1: spirit that they knew I saw them, they knew I

898
00:41:45,120 --> 00:41:48,239
Speaker 1: got them. Of all the millions of dollars I've made, bro,

899
00:41:48,719 --> 00:41:51,760
Speaker 1: my favorite time of my career was making six dollars

900
00:41:51,760 --> 00:41:54,200
Speaker 1: and eighty cents an hour at McKinley Home for Boys.

901
00:41:54,600 --> 00:41:57,080
Speaker 1: With my boys, I took them to school, I took

902
00:41:57,120 --> 00:41:59,680
Speaker 1: them trick or treating. I was their father, the twenty

903
00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:03,759
Speaker 1: two years old. Yes, but I got placed there and

904
00:42:03,800 --> 00:42:07,080
Speaker 1: I belonged there without any of the degrees, without any

905
00:42:07,200 --> 00:42:09,680
Speaker 1: children of my own. But I got these eyes man

906
00:42:09,760 --> 00:42:12,360
Speaker 1: of a kid was neglected and they had them, and

907
00:42:12,480 --> 00:42:15,560
Speaker 1: somehow that energy on my soul and my spirit they felt.

908
00:42:15,800 --> 00:42:18,000
Speaker 1: That's what glazers got. When it comes to mental health,

909
00:42:18,160 --> 00:42:21,279
Speaker 1: you can't explain it, but you feel something because he

910
00:42:21,920 --> 00:42:24,640
Speaker 1: is going through what you've gone through. So any of

911
00:42:24,680 --> 00:42:30,040
Speaker 1: you listening to this, that's your superpower, like literally, energetically, spiritually,

912
00:42:30,040 --> 00:42:33,600
Speaker 1: it's your superpower. Man. That's that's that is so beautiful.

913
00:42:33,640 --> 00:42:36,040
Speaker 1: That's again the thing is how are you of service?

914
00:42:36,040 --> 00:42:37,839
Speaker 1: Like we gotta be a service. And here you are

915
00:42:38,160 --> 00:42:40,279
Speaker 1: and you're probably seeing they're going funck. Life sucks. Now

916
00:42:40,320 --> 00:42:43,400
Speaker 1: you look back and life was great, it was incredible.

917
00:42:43,520 --> 00:42:46,360
Speaker 1: I was like your while, it's not an antidepressant, that

918
00:42:46,520 --> 00:42:50,840
Speaker 1: is yes. I'm like, man, my dream ended, Baseball's over.

919
00:42:51,040 --> 00:42:53,040
Speaker 1: I don't know what I want to do. I can't

920
00:42:53,040 --> 00:42:55,719
Speaker 1: find a freaking job. Oh great, six dollars and eighty

921
00:42:55,800 --> 00:42:57,960
Speaker 1: cents an hour? What is this ship? And I walk

922
00:42:58,040 --> 00:43:01,160
Speaker 1: in and it changed my life? And here's what's nuts, Jay,

923
00:43:01,400 --> 00:43:03,200
Speaker 1: You know I got the job. You're gonna love how

924
00:43:03,239 --> 00:43:06,160
Speaker 1: the universe connects things. I got the job because I'm

925
00:43:06,200 --> 00:43:08,960
Speaker 1: back at my old man's house. I'm living on in

926
00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:12,400
Speaker 1: the same bed I grew up in. My dad gets sober,

927
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:15,960
Speaker 1: goes to his first a A meeting, comes back and goes,

928
00:43:16,120 --> 00:43:18,319
Speaker 1: I got your excuse because I got your fucking job.

929
00:43:18,520 --> 00:43:20,200
Speaker 1: I go, well, what is it? He goes, you don't

930
00:43:20,200 --> 00:43:22,080
Speaker 1: get the fucking pick you're eating out of my fridge.

931
00:43:22,080 --> 00:43:25,120
Speaker 1: Get your house down there tomorrow. And what it was

932
00:43:25,120 --> 00:43:26,960
Speaker 1: was this dude I got. I show up there. I go, hey,

933
00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:28,359
Speaker 1: I'm here for the job. What is I don't even

934
00:43:28,360 --> 00:43:30,000
Speaker 1: know what it is? They go, I go, the guy's

935
00:43:30,080 --> 00:43:32,319
Speaker 1: names Tim. My dad met him. They're like, they got

936
00:43:32,400 --> 00:43:33,920
Speaker 1: three Tims at work. Here. I go, well, my dad

937
00:43:33,960 --> 00:43:35,680
Speaker 1: met him at an a meeting and they go, oh,

938
00:43:35,840 --> 00:43:40,080
Speaker 1: drunk Tim, that's kind of go to it's a but

939
00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:43,520
Speaker 1: what isn't amazing that my dad's drinking prepared me to

940
00:43:43,560 --> 00:43:46,560
Speaker 1: help the boys, and my dad making the decision to

941
00:43:46,600 --> 00:43:49,040
Speaker 1: get sober, had him meet Tim, who got me the

942
00:43:49,160 --> 00:43:54,200
Speaker 1: job with these boys. It's amazing. That's the universe conspires

943
00:43:54,200 --> 00:43:56,600
Speaker 1: to help us. It's for us, it's not against us.

944
00:43:56,640 --> 00:43:59,000
Speaker 1: When you have a mental health struggles, it's hard to

945
00:43:59,440 --> 00:44:02,440
Speaker 1: think that it's it's your your victim. Like for me,

946
00:44:02,480 --> 00:44:04,960
Speaker 1: I'm always like, man, universe against me? Why am I

947
00:44:04,960 --> 00:44:07,239
Speaker 1: so on loves? Why am I a lovable It's not

948
00:44:07,360 --> 00:44:10,279
Speaker 1: The universe conspires to help us. Now one was against us.

949
00:44:10,400 --> 00:44:12,600
Speaker 1: We just gotta figure out, Okay, why do we have

950
00:44:12,680 --> 00:44:15,239
Speaker 1: certain pain and how would he how do we use that? Pan?

951
00:44:15,719 --> 00:44:18,120
Speaker 1: Tell Bus it's exactly what you and I both do.

952
00:44:18,200 --> 00:44:20,600
Speaker 1: And it was working there Bro that I was like,

953
00:44:21,520 --> 00:44:23,880
Speaker 1: I think I like this helping people think better than business.

954
00:44:24,520 --> 00:44:26,520
Speaker 1: So if I'm gonna build businesses, they have to have

955
00:44:26,600 --> 00:44:29,399
Speaker 1: one qualifier. They gotta help humans otherwise I don't want

956
00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:31,920
Speaker 1: to do them, and that sort of started this journey

957
00:44:31,920 --> 00:44:34,120
Speaker 1: of little that I know. I'm in there with eight

958
00:44:34,160 --> 00:44:36,399
Speaker 1: boys that are eight years old, and I'm helping them

959
00:44:36,520 --> 00:44:38,520
Speaker 1: change their life. Little do I know that. Okay, now

960
00:44:38,520 --> 00:44:41,080
Speaker 1: I'm speaking in front of eighty thousand like because of that.

961
00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:43,719
Speaker 1: Heck would have thought they change your life all the

962
00:44:43,760 --> 00:44:46,319
Speaker 1: way around. It changed my life, and this is I'm

963
00:44:46,360 --> 00:44:49,440
Speaker 1: watching it change yours. Dude. A guy comes up to

964
00:44:49,480 --> 00:44:51,840
Speaker 1: me Friday and tells me that he's gonna take a

965
00:44:51,880 --> 00:44:54,920
Speaker 1: helicopter into a mountain and he hears you on my show,

966
00:44:55,520 --> 00:44:58,279
Speaker 1: and what is it? Eight months six months later, he's

967
00:44:58,320 --> 00:45:02,920
Speaker 1: at this event living his dream life. It's incredible, incredible, credible.

968
00:45:04,000 --> 00:45:06,200
Speaker 1: It's like, man, I've done a lot of cool stuff

969
00:45:06,239 --> 00:45:07,879
Speaker 1: in life. You've done a lot of cool stuff in life.

970
00:45:08,120 --> 00:45:10,800
Speaker 1: There is nothing like you saw it. You said the story.

971
00:45:10,840 --> 00:45:12,920
Speaker 1: I cried. I don't get used to it. I got

972
00:45:13,040 --> 00:45:15,319
Speaker 1: used to being on TV. I got used to the

973
00:45:15,360 --> 00:45:17,719
Speaker 1: accolades like I used to fame and all. I don't

974
00:45:17,760 --> 00:45:21,840
Speaker 1: get used to hearing man, you saved my life. I

975
00:45:21,880 --> 00:45:24,920
Speaker 1: hope I never do right. It's just it's beautiful, and

976
00:45:24,960 --> 00:45:27,319
Speaker 1: I hope you don't. I hope the same thing, like

977
00:45:27,360 --> 00:45:29,359
Speaker 1: you got so excited to tell the story. I hope

978
00:45:29,400 --> 00:45:32,040
Speaker 1: you understand too what you're doing for the world. Man

979
00:45:32,080 --> 00:45:34,640
Speaker 1: and they say, hey, if you help one, like Dwayne

980
00:45:34,680 --> 00:45:36,720
Speaker 1: will constantly hit me up and go, hey, just remember

981
00:45:36,920 --> 00:45:39,440
Speaker 1: it's if you help one, because he doesn't want me

982
00:45:39,440 --> 00:45:42,359
Speaker 1: putting pressure on myself. I'm not helping him, and I'll

983
00:45:42,360 --> 00:45:44,160
Speaker 1: do that. I'm not helping enough from now, but enough,

984
00:45:44,280 --> 00:45:46,240
Speaker 1: I haven't reached enough people. I haven't helped enough people.

985
00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:48,480
Speaker 1: And I'll get down to myself. No, no, no, no,

986
00:45:48,840 --> 00:45:51,799
Speaker 1: you help one. And he just constantly reminds me of that.

987
00:45:52,080 --> 00:45:54,200
Speaker 1: What a great friend, and help you that advice that's

988
00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:56,759
Speaker 1: good for me to hear. By the way to yes,

989
00:45:56,920 --> 00:46:00,239
Speaker 1: because people too often we start we compare ourselves. Hey,

990
00:46:00,239 --> 00:46:02,399
Speaker 1: we compare ourselves to everybody else, but be we start

991
00:46:02,400 --> 00:46:05,000
Speaker 1: comparing ourselves to what we don't have instead of what

992
00:46:05,040 --> 00:46:08,719
Speaker 1: we already have. And we've done so fucking much. If

993
00:46:08,840 --> 00:46:12,759
Speaker 1: little Ed or little Jay said, hey, you're gonna do this, this, this,

994
00:46:13,520 --> 00:46:15,439
Speaker 1: we would say, just where we are in our lives

995
00:46:15,520 --> 00:46:17,520
Speaker 1: right now, we tell that to little kid and us

996
00:46:17,880 --> 00:46:20,560
Speaker 1: a little kid, go, do we really do that? What

997
00:46:21,080 --> 00:46:24,560
Speaker 1: are you serious? Instead, you and I compare ourselves. We

998
00:46:24,600 --> 00:46:27,919
Speaker 1: haven't done enough, but enough, It's got to be enough.

999
00:46:27,960 --> 00:46:31,560
Speaker 1: So Dwayne will remind me, Hey, you hope about one.

1000
00:46:31,760 --> 00:46:34,279
Speaker 1: That's why you started this and it and it checks me,

1001
00:46:34,360 --> 00:46:38,440
Speaker 1: makes me check myself every once in a while. Please

1002
00:46:38,520 --> 00:46:40,359
Speaker 1: please keep you. I will remind you. I remind you

1003
00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:42,879
Speaker 1: before I let you go. I know we've gone way

1004
00:46:42,960 --> 00:46:45,520
Speaker 1: way over. Um, so I appreciate you. I don't know

1005
00:46:45,520 --> 00:46:46,680
Speaker 1: if you have any more time. I just want one

1006
00:46:46,680 --> 00:46:49,120
Speaker 1: more question. And I'm loving this, man. I love you.

1007
00:46:49,400 --> 00:46:52,959
Speaker 1: Give me your unbreakable moment, a moment in life that

1008
00:46:53,320 --> 00:46:56,960
Speaker 1: could have broken you almost did but didn't, and you

1009
00:46:57,080 --> 00:46:58,880
Speaker 1: came through the other side of that tunnel. Yeah. I

1010
00:46:58,920 --> 00:47:02,120
Speaker 1: was an entrepreneur, really in my career and I was

1011
00:47:02,200 --> 00:47:04,600
Speaker 1: running out of money and I had to go to

1012
00:47:04,680 --> 00:47:06,479
Speaker 1: the I remember I was in l A. I'm driving

1013
00:47:06,520 --> 00:47:09,200
Speaker 1: a Honda cr X. I'll never forget this, and Uh,

1014
00:47:09,239 --> 00:47:11,080
Speaker 1: I pull up to this appointment. I do my little

1015
00:47:11,080 --> 00:47:13,120
Speaker 1: pitch in their house. They say no, I come out

1016
00:47:13,200 --> 00:47:15,440
Speaker 1: and they had broken into my car and uh that

1017
00:47:15,560 --> 00:47:17,400
Speaker 1: was the days where they would steal car stereos. You know,

1018
00:47:17,400 --> 00:47:21,520
Speaker 1: if you had a ken Wood or an album. Right, Well,

1019
00:47:21,520 --> 00:47:23,040
Speaker 1: I had a san you know, so I'm like, what

1020
00:47:23,080 --> 00:47:25,440
Speaker 1: the hell they breaking into my car board? This freaking

1021
00:47:25,520 --> 00:47:30,000
Speaker 1: criminal stole my passenger seat. Now, dude, like, you gotta

1022
00:47:30,000 --> 00:47:34,400
Speaker 1: be a passenger seat and furniture. It's true story. You

1023
00:47:34,480 --> 00:47:37,000
Speaker 1: gotta be a very specific criminal to be in the

1024
00:47:37,040 --> 00:47:41,239
Speaker 1: market for a passenger seat of a Honda freaking CRX.

1025
00:47:41,440 --> 00:47:43,160
Speaker 1: And I remember, just like, dude, this is the lowest

1026
00:47:43,160 --> 00:47:45,040
Speaker 1: point in my life. I got this shitty car, I

1027
00:47:45,080 --> 00:47:47,120
Speaker 1: got no money. I don't know if I have enough

1028
00:47:47,120 --> 00:47:49,040
Speaker 1: gas to get back to where I live. And I

1029
00:47:49,040 --> 00:47:51,920
Speaker 1: remember I ended up putting a rock there where my

1030
00:47:51,920 --> 00:47:53,839
Speaker 1: buddy could sit on it. You drive back and we're

1031
00:47:53,840 --> 00:47:55,960
Speaker 1: going to the A T M. And I'm praying, bro,

1032
00:47:56,719 --> 00:47:59,239
Speaker 1: I'm praying, I hope I got twenty one bucks into

1033
00:47:59,280 --> 00:48:02,160
Speaker 1: this count because only spent out twenty dollars to get gas.

1034
00:48:02,200 --> 00:48:03,880
Speaker 1: Please let me have twenty one bucks on there. And

1035
00:48:03,920 --> 00:48:05,799
Speaker 1: I go to put my coat in and it won't

1036
00:48:05,840 --> 00:48:09,000
Speaker 1: spit the twenty out in sufficient money. Now I don't

1037
00:48:09,000 --> 00:48:11,239
Speaker 1: have the money to get back, and I literally was

1038
00:48:11,320 --> 00:48:14,759
Speaker 1: at the gas station and I begged for money. I

1039
00:48:14,840 --> 00:48:16,759
Speaker 1: begged you money, I said, I was walking up to

1040
00:48:16,800 --> 00:48:19,239
Speaker 1: people saying, hey, listen, I'm sorry to bother you. I'm

1041
00:48:19,280 --> 00:48:21,319
Speaker 1: stuck here in l A. Someone broke into my car.

1042
00:48:21,640 --> 00:48:24,239
Speaker 1: There's the seat that's missing, and no one would give

1043
00:48:24,239 --> 00:48:26,759
Speaker 1: me money. I'm there like two hours, and finally this

1044
00:48:26,800 --> 00:48:28,319
Speaker 1: guy's like, well, how much do you need to get back.

1045
00:48:28,320 --> 00:48:30,160
Speaker 1: I'm like, man, if you give me the ten dollars,

1046
00:48:30,160 --> 00:48:31,719
Speaker 1: you give me your name, I will get you the

1047
00:48:31,760 --> 00:48:34,600
Speaker 1: money back. This dude gives me the ten bucks and

1048
00:48:34,640 --> 00:48:37,839
Speaker 1: I get back and I called my dad and I say, hey,

1049
00:48:37,880 --> 00:48:41,480
Speaker 1: I'm I'm out, I'm out, I'm gonna I'm I'm quitting.

1050
00:48:41,800 --> 00:48:44,640
Speaker 1: I'm out of here. And my dad, who I had

1051
00:48:44,719 --> 00:48:47,000
Speaker 1: already asked many times, are you never gonna drink again?

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00:48:47,000 --> 00:48:49,280
Speaker 1: With sec I'd say, Dad, are you never gonna drink again?

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00:48:49,600 --> 00:48:51,239
Speaker 1: And he would always say, I can't promise you that.

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00:48:51,280 --> 00:48:53,279
Speaker 1: But I told you I'm not gonna drink for one

1055
00:48:53,280 --> 00:48:55,400
Speaker 1: more day. And I said, so I'm quittin man, I

1056
00:48:55,440 --> 00:48:57,880
Speaker 1: got no money. It's my dad goes, hey, man, you

1057
00:48:57,920 --> 00:49:00,359
Speaker 1: know you don't you don't have to decide you're never

1058
00:49:00,440 --> 00:49:03,640
Speaker 1: gonna quit. Just don't quit for one more day. Just

1059
00:49:03,680 --> 00:49:05,880
Speaker 1: don't quit the one more day. And I woke up

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00:49:05,880 --> 00:49:07,200
Speaker 1: the next day and I'm like, I don't feel like

1061
00:49:07,239 --> 00:49:10,920
Speaker 1: quitting quite as much, you know, money that day. And

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Speaker 1: the third day my dad called me, he goes you

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Speaker 1: all right, and I go, I don't even have the

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Speaker 1: ten bucks to send this guy back. My dad wasn't

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00:49:16,360 --> 00:49:18,080
Speaker 1: one of these dudes like hey, I'll help you. He's

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00:49:18,120 --> 00:49:19,920
Speaker 1: just like hey, he goes, well, hanging there, man, just

1067
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Speaker 1: don't quit for one more day. And the sixth day,

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Speaker 1: I landed a pretty damn good account back in those days,

1069
00:49:25,960 --> 00:49:27,399
Speaker 1: and I was able to send the guy that ten

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00:49:27,440 --> 00:49:31,480
Speaker 1: bucks back, and that led to mean at that time,

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Speaker 1: about two years later, I'm making a million year and

1072
00:49:33,360 --> 00:49:35,720
Speaker 1: blah blah blah blah blah. But it was the moment

1073
00:49:35,760 --> 00:49:39,120
Speaker 1: of me deciding, in my most down, dark moment of

1074
00:49:39,239 --> 00:49:41,399
Speaker 1: just don't quit for today. And I think that that's

1075
00:49:41,400 --> 00:49:44,040
Speaker 1: a metaphor for every area of life, like just don't

1076
00:49:44,120 --> 00:49:47,520
Speaker 1: quit today, Just don't quit today, Just don't give in today.

1077
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Speaker 1: Just don't give up today, and for the rest of

1078
00:49:50,640 --> 00:49:53,160
Speaker 1: my life. Man, it's now like thirty some odd years later.

1079
00:49:53,239 --> 00:49:55,360
Speaker 1: Many times my backs went up against the wall and

1080
00:49:55,400 --> 00:49:57,759
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know what, I just ain't gonna quit

1081
00:49:57,800 --> 00:50:00,080
Speaker 1: for today, and that serves me really, really well in

1082
00:50:00,120 --> 00:50:01,920
Speaker 1: my life. And thank god I didn't quit, because I've

1083
00:50:01,920 --> 00:50:04,239
Speaker 1: helt millions of people and I've been able to do

1084
00:50:04,320 --> 00:50:07,640
Speaker 1: this with you, and I was millimeters bro And by

1085
00:50:07,680 --> 00:50:10,880
Speaker 1: the way, would have been justified in quitting. The same

1086
00:50:10,920 --> 00:50:13,759
Speaker 1: person would have quit the same Glazer after nine years

1087
00:50:13,760 --> 00:50:17,120
Speaker 1: and we're like, it's a working eight years after five years.

1088
00:50:17,360 --> 00:50:22,080
Speaker 1: Just remember this. Unrealistic people rule the world. Remember this.

1089
00:50:22,160 --> 00:50:26,480
Speaker 1: Everybody weird, rich and I mean rich, emotionally, rich in friendships,

1090
00:50:26,560 --> 00:50:31,000
Speaker 1: rich in money, and normal poor. I think everybody's always

1091
00:50:31,040 --> 00:50:33,360
Speaker 1: thinking I want to be normal. I know you thought this.

1092
00:50:33,480 --> 00:50:36,280
Speaker 1: I wish I was just more normal. As I'm fifty

1093
00:50:36,280 --> 00:50:38,520
Speaker 1: one years old, I don't want ship to do with

1094
00:50:38,640 --> 00:50:42,320
Speaker 1: being normal. I like being weird. I like being unrealistic.

1095
00:50:42,680 --> 00:50:46,839
Speaker 1: I like being different. I like my weirdness. And you

1096
00:50:46,840 --> 00:50:49,360
Speaker 1: know what, most of the people I'm around, including Glazer,

1097
00:50:49,840 --> 00:50:52,400
Speaker 1: we're all a little bit cook. We're all a little

1098
00:50:52,400 --> 00:50:55,160
Speaker 1: bit weird. And I like being weird. And thank god

1099
00:50:55,200 --> 00:50:56,840
Speaker 1: I didn't quit that day, And thank god I'm a

1100
00:50:56,880 --> 00:50:59,280
Speaker 1: little weird. And if you've got a little weird in you,

1101
00:50:59,280 --> 00:51:01,200
Speaker 1: you probably got a better chance of having a rich

1102
00:51:01,280 --> 00:51:04,480
Speaker 1: life than if you were normal. Screw normal, man, I

1103
00:51:04,560 --> 00:51:07,479
Speaker 1: got a hashtag, motherfucker I'm different. Yeah, it was good,

1104
00:51:07,520 --> 00:51:10,399
Speaker 1: different leads of success. Yeah. I try and tell people

1105
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Speaker 1: all the time in our combat bets all the time

1106
00:51:12,200 --> 00:51:14,640
Speaker 1: and our charities, don't be a face in the crowd,

1107
00:51:14,640 --> 00:51:18,680
Speaker 1: be the fucking proud, be your own crowd. Absolutely. Yeah,

1108
00:51:18,920 --> 00:51:21,880
Speaker 1: I am fucking different, and too many of us try it,

1109
00:51:21,960 --> 00:51:26,000
Speaker 1: just trying to just fit in. Yeah, no, let's not

1110
00:51:26,040 --> 00:51:30,120
Speaker 1: fit in. Don't conformity. Conforming to the norm is the

1111
00:51:30,239 --> 00:51:34,319
Speaker 1: ultimate forum of cowardice. You want to be like everybody else,

1112
00:51:34,360 --> 00:51:37,720
Speaker 1: that's coward It takes courage to be different, could be different,

1113
00:51:38,080 --> 00:51:41,920
Speaker 1: courage to be scary. Yes, you damn right. It is scary. Absolutely,

1114
00:51:42,120 --> 00:51:47,120
Speaker 1: Cowardice is cowardice is conformity so great unbelieved. Yeah, we

1115
00:51:47,160 --> 00:51:49,160
Speaker 1: can go. I'm gonna listen. You gotta have me back

1116
00:51:49,200 --> 00:51:52,440
Speaker 1: on your podcast that Many Lives. I'm gonna have you

1117
00:51:52,480 --> 00:51:54,600
Speaker 1: back on this one again. Let's just keep doing it

1118
00:51:54,760 --> 00:51:58,480
Speaker 1: because it's just man, just still here from people that

1119
00:51:58,560 --> 00:52:00,719
Speaker 1: we've lifted them up. Man, I'm out to be your friend.

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00:52:00,719 --> 00:52:03,880
Speaker 1: I'm proud of you. I'm proud of you. Give me

1121
00:52:03,920 --> 00:52:06,520
Speaker 1: that forum to do what I've been meant to do. Yeah,

1122
00:52:06,680 --> 00:52:08,440
Speaker 1: And I appreciate you, man. I just want you to

1123
00:52:08,520 --> 00:52:10,800
Speaker 1: know that I'm really really I love you man, and

1124
00:52:11,360 --> 00:52:13,080
Speaker 1: do anything I can ever do. You're coming back on

1125
00:52:13,160 --> 00:52:15,759
Speaker 1: I'll come back on here. Anything. Anybody listening today, I'm

1126
00:52:15,760 --> 00:52:18,000
Speaker 1: in Tell people again. Hey, tell us where we can

1127
00:52:18,040 --> 00:52:19,640
Speaker 1: see you, where we could read you, where we could

1128
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Speaker 1: find you. Everything. Yeah, anything that says ed my Let

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Speaker 1: E D M y l E T T Instagram, my podcast,

1130
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Speaker 1: my book whatever. The podcast was called the Ed my

1131
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Speaker 1: Lett Show. TV show is called TV shows called Change

1132
00:52:31,920 --> 00:52:33,360
Speaker 1: with ed my Let You can get it in the

1133
00:52:33,400 --> 00:52:36,120
Speaker 1: link in my bio on Instagram. Great, and the book

1134
00:52:36,200 --> 00:52:39,080
Speaker 1: is called the Power of One More love it man,

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Speaker 1: how about that number one selling book this year. I

1136
00:52:42,040 --> 00:52:47,840
Speaker 1: gotta catch up, ship, bro. I love you man, appreciate

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Speaker 1: your grateful for you