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Speaker 1: Thank you, Cabe, I mean nephew Tommy. All right. Subject

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Speaker 1: my son's daddy is blocking my happiness. Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I was in a long distance relationship for four years,

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Speaker 1: and when I broke up with the guy, he moved

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Speaker 1: to my city and I ended up getting pregnant by him.

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Speaker 1: After the breakup, I was ready to be done with him,

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Speaker 1: but now I'm tied to his insecure, cry baby of

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Speaker 1: a man for life because of our son. We try

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Speaker 1: to co parent, but he cannot understand that that's it.

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Speaker 1: Nothing else. I was dating someone new for about three

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Speaker 1: months and I had tried to keep it from my ex,

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Speaker 1: but my son told his dad about how mommy and

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Speaker 1: Jake liked to watch TV with him. I got a

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Speaker 1: call from his dad in his whiny voice, he asked

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Speaker 1: me who Jake is. I told him Jake is a

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Speaker 1: great man, and he was very kind to our sons.

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Speaker 1: I could hear him sniffling, so I knew he was crying.

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Speaker 1: He told me he was on his way to my

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Speaker 1: house so we could talk. I had a dinner date

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Speaker 1: with Jake, so I told my ex that we'd have

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Speaker 1: to talk some other time. He popped up anyway, just

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Speaker 1: as Jake parked his car in front of my apartment.

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Speaker 1: I saw my ex talking to Jake, and then I

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Speaker 1: got a call from Jake. He said he was going

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Speaker 1: to take a rain check because my son's father was

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Speaker 1: visibly upset, and he thinks that I should talk to him.

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Speaker 1: I was so mad that I didn't let my ex

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Speaker 1: come in. I cursed him out in the hallway, and

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Speaker 1: I hope my neighbors heard it. I finally gave him

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Speaker 1: something to cry about. This is not the first time

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Speaker 1: he has pulled this stunt. He is blocking my happiness,

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Speaker 1: and he thinks I owe him a second chance since

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Speaker 1: we have a son together. Jake said he's not trying

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Speaker 1: to break up a family, and I understand and that,

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Speaker 1: but I had hoped that he would fight for me.

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Speaker 1: How do I get my cry baby X to find

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Speaker 1: himself a nice girl to date. Should I pick up

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Speaker 1: and move to another city? Listen, I'm glad you checked

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Speaker 1: your X. I'm glad you did that because he was

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Speaker 1: out of order to do what he did. But no,

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Speaker 1: you shouldn't move to another city. The baby needs his father.

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Speaker 1: They need to be in the same city if they can.

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Speaker 1: He needs that. You know, it's not about you and

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Speaker 1: your ex right now. It's about the baby should come first. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I know your son is already here, But my question

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Speaker 1: to you is why were you dipping back with your

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Speaker 1: X in the first place, I mean, without any protection

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Speaker 1: after you broke up with him. I know people do

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Speaker 1: it all the time, but you could have protected yourself.

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Speaker 1: Remember why you broke up with him in the first place.

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Speaker 1: So I'm just at a loss as to why you

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Speaker 1: think he has changed at all. I mean, you called

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Speaker 1: him an insecure cry baby, and what did you think

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Speaker 1: was going to happen? He showed you who he was.

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Speaker 1: You should have believed him. You know, you guys were

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Speaker 1: reckless to do this. So the best you can do

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Speaker 1: now is to talk to your baby daddy and try

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Speaker 1: to reason with him about some sort of responsible co

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Speaker 1: parenting here. Since that's not really happening. The baby comes first,

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Speaker 1: like I said, and Jake, like many men in his position,

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Speaker 1: doesn't want the drama. This is drama to Jake. All

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Speaker 1: this drama that comes with you and the baby daddy

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Speaker 1: and all of this stuff and driving up to your

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Speaker 1: house and cussing him out, all that's drama. Your ex

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Speaker 1: is full of it, this drama because he wants you back.

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Speaker 1: It's not that your new boyfriend, Jake doesn't care about

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Speaker 1: you and your son, obviously he does. It's just that

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Speaker 1: he sees you, your ex and your son as a family.

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Speaker 1: Like he said, he doesn't want to tamper with that.

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Speaker 1: He'd rather move on. And who can blame him with

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Speaker 1: all this stuff you got going on. So clean up

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Speaker 1: your mess first with your ex before you try to

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Speaker 1: get serious with the man. That's my advice to you,

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Speaker 1: Steve Well. Ain't this an interesting letter? I was debating

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Speaker 1: as I was listening to Shirley how I was going

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Speaker 1: to approach this letter. But it's only one way to

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Speaker 1: do it, straightforward, dead down the middle, as I go. Now,

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Speaker 1: you were in a long distance relationship, this woman writes

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Speaker 1: for four years. The subject is my dad. My son's

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Speaker 1: dad is blocking my happiness. You're in a long this

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Speaker 1: relationship for four years. When I broke up with the guy,

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Speaker 1: see long distance meaning you don't get to see him

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Speaker 1: all the time. He moved to my city and I

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Speaker 1: ended up getting pregnant by him. After the breakup, I

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Speaker 1: was already done with him. But now I'm tied to

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Speaker 1: this insecure cry baby of a man for life because

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Speaker 1: of our sons. We try to cope it, but he

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Speaker 1: can understand, not understand that that that's it, nothing else.

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Speaker 1: Now here's the letter. I was dating somebody for about

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Speaker 1: three months. I tried to keep it from my ex

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Speaker 1: mister insecure crapping, but my son told his dad about

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Speaker 1: how mommy and Jake like to watch TV with him.

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Speaker 1: I got a call from the daddy in his winey voice,

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Speaker 1: and he asked me who it? Who it Jake? And

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Speaker 1: so I told him Jake is a great man, and

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Speaker 1: he was very kind to our son. I can hear

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Speaker 1: him sniffling, so I knew he was crying, who it Jake?

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Speaker 1: Why why'd you watching TV? And in front of our son,

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Speaker 1: he told me doll was watching TV and he was

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Speaker 1: right there between y'all the whole man. How much he

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Speaker 1: like watching TV. What y'all, Oh you know, I oh

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Speaker 1: just won't Hello, why would you do that? Something like that?

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Speaker 1: You watching TV with this boy in front of our

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Speaker 1: so he trying to he got to go, he got

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Speaker 1: to go to school in the morning, and y'all got

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Speaker 1: in my watch watching TV with y'all. You go hang on, Steve, okay,

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Speaker 1: hang oh yeah you can. All right, we'll have part

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Speaker 1: two of your response coming up at twenty three minutes

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Speaker 1: after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter subject my son's daddy

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Speaker 1: is blocking my happiness. We'll get back into it right

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Speaker 1: after this. You're listening Harpy Morning Show. All right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry letters. The subject is my son's daddy,

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Speaker 1: it's blocking my happiness. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I got this.

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Speaker 1: Lady was in a long this relationship with this guy,

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Speaker 1: cry baby whinny man. She didn't know that about him

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Speaker 1: because she wasn't around him enough, you know. But and

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Speaker 1: there just Scott. She then he moved to the city

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Speaker 1: and y'all ended up. You got pregnant by him after

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Speaker 1: the breakup. I was already done with him because of

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Speaker 1: some other stuff that hap him. But now I'm tied

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Speaker 1: to this insecure crop David Man because of our sun.

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Speaker 1: We tried to cokepan, but he can't understand that that's

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Speaker 1: just gonna bee nothing else. Then you say he was

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Speaker 1: dating this new guy for about three months. I tried

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Speaker 1: to keep it from my answer, but my son told

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Speaker 1: us daddy how mommy and Jake like to watch TV

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Speaker 1: with him. I got a call from his daddy and

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Speaker 1: his winded boy. He who who is Jake? Don't act

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Speaker 1: like you don't know who he is? Who is Jake?

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Speaker 1: So I told him he was a very kind man,

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Speaker 1: and he was very kind to our Sun. I could

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Speaker 1: hear him stiffness, so I knew he was crying. Ask you, Jake,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna tell me that you here Jake was watch

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Speaker 1: your TV with your boy. He gotta go to school.

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Speaker 1: Wise here watch the kid. And I cried and sent

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Speaker 1: him here and trying to be the jown, trying to

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Speaker 1: be the father for his baby. You're gonna sit him here,

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Speaker 1: gonna sit up and watching TV with the Jake in

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Speaker 1: front in front of the baby. I knew he was crying.

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Speaker 1: He told me he was on my way to the

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Speaker 1: house so we could talk. I had a dinner on

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Speaker 1: the way the way, I'm coming over, so you can

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Speaker 1: see that. You gotta see me cry, just snippet that

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Speaker 1: ain't doing what I needed to do. He needed to

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Speaker 1: see me. I'm gonna drive on. Yeah, And so I

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Speaker 1: had a dinner date with Jake. So I told my

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Speaker 1: ex that we'd have to talk some other times. He

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Speaker 1: pop up anyway. Just as Jake parked his car in

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Speaker 1: front of my apartment, I saw my ex talking to Jake,

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Speaker 1: and then I got a call from Jake. Hey, Jake, Jake, Jake, Jake,

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Speaker 1: you look like you could be kind. She said that

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Speaker 1: you were kinds of me. I didn't Jake be calling you? Is?

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Speaker 1: I think you should know the other Hello yea, and

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Speaker 1: him is my son, and we was gonna be go,

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Speaker 1: but you was blocking because now you don't be at

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Speaker 1: all strong and everything, and I'm saying I'm dude. So

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Speaker 1: now Jake didn't nickname him, pay Jake calls him. So

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Speaker 1: Jake called. So you got a call from Jake, and

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Speaker 1: Jake said he was gonna take a rain check because

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Speaker 1: your son's father was visibly a sick and he thinks

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Speaker 1: I should talk to him. So he said this with

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Speaker 1: Jake said, I think you'll talk to him. So she said,

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Speaker 1: why are you calling him Pad? Then Jake said, coming,

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Speaker 1: that's the new nickname out game. She said, well, what

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Speaker 1: did that mean? He said, your son's puck ass daddy,

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Speaker 1: and so his pocket ass daddy to call up him,

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Speaker 1: and so you need to tell Pad you need to

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Speaker 1: talk to Pan. So I was so mad, I didn't

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Speaker 1: let my eggs come in. I cursed him out in

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Speaker 1: the hardway. Why are you cousin me around? Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: want to do him come here and watching me like

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Speaker 1: you been doing when Jake what you watch me? You

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Speaker 1: won't watch me with Jake and everything. And I would

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Speaker 1: have told Jake. I told me right now. I told

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Speaker 1: Jake outside, I said, you're breaking up and having family

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Speaker 1: and you needn't stop all this him because you didn't

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Speaker 1: call some other womenses out here, other women's out here

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Speaker 1: of me a kid. And so this is not the

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Speaker 1: first time he has pulled this stuff. He is blocking

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Speaker 1: my happiness and he thinks I wore him a second

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Speaker 1: chance because we have a son together. Jake said, he's

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Speaker 1: not trying to break up a family. I understand that,

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Speaker 1: but I had hoped that he would fight for me.

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Speaker 1: Jake said, well, I would fight for you, but I'm

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Speaker 1: not never hit a woman before, so I don't think said, well,

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Speaker 1: I can't fight for me because I ain't never hit

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Speaker 1: a woman before. Because a pad he's punk ass daddy,

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Speaker 1: keep acting like a woman. I just be elected to

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Speaker 1: be hard for me to fight here because I was

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Speaker 1: raised better than that. How do I get my cryberry

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Speaker 1: edge to find himself a nice girl today? You know?

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Speaker 1: Because yeah, I can't get nobody else know how I

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Speaker 1: be crying and stuff. And every time I'm want to

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Speaker 1: a relationship. I got start crying and telling them about you,

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Speaker 1: and then they don't want to be bothering me. Everybody

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Speaker 1: don't want to say like you was only want sleep

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Speaker 1: with me? And I was playing too, and all the

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Speaker 1: women just stit up and walk away. And you know

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Speaker 1: how I miss you? Know? I like to cry, you

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Speaker 1: don't go away, and I like a crime. Why you

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Speaker 1: wanna turn me down? Ain't nobody putting up with you,

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Speaker 1: but you know I need you, But I need somebody's

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Speaker 1: tollerate my fucking hand alight, I cried. I know today

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