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Speaker 1: What's up a Bachelor Happy Hour listeners. It's good to

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Speaker 1: be back with you all this week. I miss you

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Speaker 1: last week, but I'm so excited for this time around, Michelle,

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Speaker 1: because we have so much to go over we do,

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Speaker 1: especially you. I'm really happy that you're back with me today.

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Speaker 1: I miss you last week, but I'm so excited because

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Speaker 1: today it's all about you and Thomas and celebrating your

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Speaker 1: engagement and one of the greatest I think plot twists

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Speaker 1: or come back so whatever it is that Bachelor Nation

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Speaker 1: has ever experienced. Oh, I love that. Yeah, I'm excited.

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Speaker 1: I mean, this is the first time that Thomas and

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Speaker 1: I will be talking about our engagement. You get the

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Speaker 1: exclusive here people, so it's going to be a fun time.

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Speaker 1: Thomas is just upstairs now, so we'll bring him down shortly.

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Speaker 1: He'll be all set to join us and give you

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Speaker 1: all of the details from his side of when I

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Speaker 1: popped the question for him. But before that, Michelle, obviously

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Speaker 1: I missed you last week, but I'm so proud of

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Speaker 1: you for taking over the podcast and for handling it

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Speaker 1: all on your own. I had so much faith in you,

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Speaker 1: but you had a big, big announcement and obviously that

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Speaker 1: was that you were stepping away from teaching. And I

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Speaker 1: can understand, or I can, you know, kind of put

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Speaker 1: myself in your shoes. Obviously I've never been a teacher,

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Speaker 1: but I'm sure that was not an easy decision to

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Speaker 1: been seven days since you have announced that you're leaving

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Speaker 1: a weight has been lifted off your shoulders? Where are

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Speaker 1: you at right now? Yeah? Last week, last week was

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Speaker 1: a really emotional week. I know that for me, it

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Speaker 1: but but I'm also still kind of adjusting being into

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Speaker 1: the role that I am right now. Is because regardless

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Speaker 1: with media attention with others, you know that that would

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Speaker 1: be a really hard decision for me because I am

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Speaker 1: that decision, and then having to make that decision publicly,

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Speaker 1: has been lifted off my shoulders because I was able

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Speaker 1: to share since every time I think I post, someone's

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Speaker 1: like are you are you still teaching. Are you going

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Speaker 1: to be still teaching? So, you know, it was that

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Speaker 1: I and I finally was able to address it. But

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Speaker 1: I also do feel like the hardest part is probably

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Speaker 1: I know that I will continue to give that support

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Speaker 1: and from my family, from my friends, just from listeners.

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Speaker 1: sure so many other teachers out there can relate. I mean,

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Speaker 1: for you, it's not like you're leaving a typical office

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Speaker 1: was not taking lightly. I'm sure you put every thought

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Speaker 1: the exact same way, and this week is all about

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Speaker 1: Let's bring Tommy to step on the man of the

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Speaker 1: got her blessing. We should chatted about that for a

428
00:21:46,000 --> 00:21:48,200
Speaker 1: little bit. And she's like, oh, of course, honey, you

429
00:21:48,240 --> 00:21:50,119
Speaker 1: didn't even need to ask me, you know, like just

430
00:21:50,119 --> 00:21:51,760
Speaker 1: blowing it off like you're already part of the family,

431
00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:53,720
Speaker 1: no big deal. And then she starts to tell me

432
00:21:53,760 --> 00:21:56,560
Speaker 1: about her cat that got locked in addressed her and

433
00:21:56,600 --> 00:21:58,520
Speaker 1: it was so fattic couldn't get out. So she's like

434
00:21:58,520 --> 00:22:00,679
Speaker 1: telling me the story about the cat, and I'm like, okay,

435
00:22:00,680 --> 00:22:02,760
Speaker 1: Mama Jacobs, I love you. I just needed your blessing

436
00:22:02,760 --> 00:22:05,199
Speaker 1: because now I got to like go propose to him. Um.

437
00:22:05,880 --> 00:22:09,760
Speaker 1: But yeah, and we so, you know, the family got

438
00:22:09,800 --> 00:22:12,720
Speaker 1: the approval, which was great, um, you know, and I

439
00:22:12,960 --> 00:22:15,080
Speaker 1: made sure I like had this whole thing planned in

440
00:22:15,119 --> 00:22:16,639
Speaker 1: my head of what I wanted to say to him,

441
00:22:16,680 --> 00:22:18,320
Speaker 1: and then again I kind of blacked out, and then

442
00:22:18,359 --> 00:22:20,960
Speaker 1: he kept laughing, so I kept getting cut off to

443
00:22:21,000 --> 00:22:24,919
Speaker 1: be like, listen to me, sir, um, but but I

444
00:22:24,960 --> 00:22:27,320
Speaker 1: did make sure, you know, like to say, Thomas Jacobs,

445
00:22:27,400 --> 00:22:29,359
Speaker 1: I love you, will you marry me? I was like,

446
00:22:29,359 --> 00:22:31,640
Speaker 1: I just say to make sure that I get those

447
00:22:31,680 --> 00:22:35,399
Speaker 1: words in there, and then put the ringer on his ring,

448
00:22:38,280 --> 00:22:41,080
Speaker 1: the ring on his finger and it's been perfect, and

449
00:22:41,119 --> 00:22:45,040
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, yeah, done deal. So I mean, honestly,

450
00:22:45,080 --> 00:22:50,679
Speaker 1: Beck Thomas, this this woman thought of everything, everything, like

451
00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:53,840
Speaker 1: the detail that went into this, like planning, like sentiment

452
00:22:54,640 --> 00:22:57,000
Speaker 1: and all of that. How was it? Like, how did

453
00:22:57,040 --> 00:22:59,560
Speaker 1: friends and family respond? I mean we talked about mom

454
00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:01,800
Speaker 1: and Jacob ups and how she was you know, excited

455
00:23:01,800 --> 00:23:08,560
Speaker 1: and talked about the cat. How like how did everyone

456
00:23:08,600 --> 00:23:10,879
Speaker 1: else respond? Because honestly, this is not really something that

457
00:23:10,960 --> 00:23:14,960
Speaker 1: you ever hear about, right, Like it's so untraditional, which

458
00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:19,440
Speaker 1: I love, it's so empowering, but also it's like it

459
00:23:19,480 --> 00:23:23,720
Speaker 1: really does kind of like push people to think outside

460
00:23:23,760 --> 00:23:27,360
Speaker 1: and in different ways because everyone feels like the man

461
00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:29,679
Speaker 1: should be proposing to the you know, the woman, and

462
00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:32,640
Speaker 1: especially coming from a show where like that is very

463
00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:35,960
Speaker 1: much the tradition, right to like go outside that norm.

464
00:23:36,480 --> 00:23:39,600
Speaker 1: I absolutely love this. There was a common two words

465
00:23:39,680 --> 00:23:42,320
Speaker 1: that were always said whenever we told like my family

466
00:23:42,400 --> 00:23:49,720
Speaker 1: or friends. It was no way. That's awesome, perfect response.

467
00:23:50,880 --> 00:23:53,720
Speaker 1: And if you think about just the sensement, that's incredible

468
00:23:53,840 --> 00:23:57,480
Speaker 1: because you have someone who cares so much, like they

469
00:23:57,520 --> 00:24:00,240
Speaker 1: want to do that for you, like do something that

470
00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:03,960
Speaker 1: is just not done, talk about an uncommon gesture of love,

471
00:24:04,160 --> 00:24:06,480
Speaker 1: like outside of the ordinary, like you said at best, Michelle,

472
00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:08,240
Speaker 1: the amount of thought that has to go into that,

473
00:24:08,760 --> 00:24:12,000
Speaker 1: not only just the execution, but just also in the

474
00:24:12,080 --> 00:24:14,840
Speaker 1: courage of having that be an idea that you want

475
00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:18,080
Speaker 1: to act on, Like it's amazing. Yeah, it's amazing, and

476
00:24:18,119 --> 00:24:21,320
Speaker 1: I feel very fortunate to have been able to experience that.

477
00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:23,600
Speaker 1: I'm even more fortunate that it's with you, And I'm

478
00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:28,520
Speaker 1: just excited for this life. Yeah, like I'm just worried

479
00:24:28,600 --> 00:24:32,800
Speaker 1: for whatever, like good luck whoever proposes in Paradise, because

480
00:24:32,840 --> 00:24:36,760
Speaker 1: nobody's talking this one. I'm only thank god I are

481
00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:39,840
Speaker 1: already engaged, because that would have like that just like

482
00:24:39,920 --> 00:24:45,800
Speaker 1: jumped everything. Like it's amazing, and like here's the thing. Yeah,

483
00:24:46,000 --> 00:24:50,399
Speaker 1: usually very traditional that the man proposes to the woman.

484
00:24:50,560 --> 00:24:52,919
Speaker 1: But I remember being in eighth grade in dance and

485
00:24:53,000 --> 00:24:58,680
Speaker 1: at the recital, my ballet teacher proposed to her now husband.

486
00:24:58,680 --> 00:25:00,800
Speaker 1: I hope they're so together. I'm not sure, but I

487
00:25:00,840 --> 00:25:03,400
Speaker 1: remember as an eighth grader, what are you like thirteen?

488
00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:06,160
Speaker 1: At that age twelve or thirteen, I remember the first

489
00:25:06,200 --> 00:25:08,440
Speaker 1: thoughts were, Oh, that's weird, and then right away I

490
00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:11,800
Speaker 1: was like, that's kind of cool, like the and as

491
00:25:11,800 --> 00:25:15,200
Speaker 1: like I still remember that moment decades ago, being like, well,

492
00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:17,639
Speaker 1: that's kind of rad. You're switching to Norman and it's like,

493
00:25:18,240 --> 00:25:20,879
Speaker 1: you know, we've received so much love from people. But

494
00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:24,080
Speaker 1: I've also seen comments where people are like, she's desperate.

495
00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:28,040
Speaker 1: I would never allow like a woman to propose to

496
00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:30,480
Speaker 1: the man, Like I would never do this, And it's like, cool,

497
00:25:30,520 --> 00:25:33,560
Speaker 1: that's you, but why does it as a female? Why

498
00:25:33,840 --> 00:25:38,000
Speaker 1: does it make me desperate to want to with somebody?

499
00:25:38,560 --> 00:25:40,480
Speaker 1: If Thomas in a week were to do the exact

500
00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:42,679
Speaker 1: same thing, no one would say he's desperate. It like,

501
00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:44,680
Speaker 1: it doesn't make sense to me. The logic's not there.

502
00:25:44,680 --> 00:25:47,760
Speaker 1: And I was like, love is love and every relationship

503
00:25:47,960 --> 00:25:50,600
Speaker 1: is vastly different, so why not let us do what

504
00:25:50,720 --> 00:25:52,840
Speaker 1: works for us? And I knew, like he would be

505
00:25:52,880 --> 00:25:55,680
Speaker 1: so appreciative and supportive of it, and he would never

506
00:25:55,720 --> 00:25:57,920
Speaker 1: be offended if like the female proposed to the man,

507
00:25:58,080 --> 00:26:01,280
Speaker 1: So it's like, why should that matter or who does it? Like,

508
00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:04,160
Speaker 1: I've never been in a relationship, you know. Yes, I've

509
00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:05,680
Speaker 1: been engaged in the past, and I've been in other

510
00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:07,639
Speaker 1: relationships in the past, but I've never been in the

511
00:26:07,640 --> 00:26:11,520
Speaker 1: relationship where I'm like, I want a marriage and like

512
00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:14,560
Speaker 1: a lifetime and I want to you know, like, I'm

513
00:26:14,560 --> 00:26:16,199
Speaker 1: not scared to do that. Even in the past, I've

514
00:26:16,200 --> 00:26:17,760
Speaker 1: aways been like I don't love marriages for me, and

515
00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:20,040
Speaker 1: I've told my mom and friends that, like, I don't

516
00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:22,399
Speaker 1: know if marriage is for me. But it wasn't until

517
00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:25,200
Speaker 1: him where I'm like, oh, yeah, like now I see

518
00:26:25,200 --> 00:26:26,800
Speaker 1: it and I envision it and that's what I want,

519
00:26:26,840 --> 00:26:29,960
Speaker 1: and so why not show him how much I want

520
00:26:29,960 --> 00:26:32,720
Speaker 1: to commit to him into this relationship and our partnership

521
00:26:32,760 --> 00:26:35,760
Speaker 1: for a lifetime. So yeah, I say fuck fuck the

522
00:26:35,840 --> 00:26:40,000
Speaker 1: gender norms, like you everyone you have this like Elite

523
00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:45,239
Speaker 1: crew though, who else Chris and Bell? H Yeah, I

524
00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:50,719
Speaker 1: mean Judy, I'm like, weirdly enough, right after I propose him,

525
00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:53,480
Speaker 1: we went to Hawaii and we were I was watching

526
00:26:54,400 --> 00:26:56,160
Speaker 1: the whole We talked about this a few weeks ago.

527
00:26:56,400 --> 00:26:59,320
Speaker 1: To marry me Jennifer Lopez movie and she does it

528
00:26:59,400 --> 00:27:02,040
Speaker 1: to him, and she makes a comment. She's like, comment,

529
00:27:02,080 --> 00:27:04,520
Speaker 1: give me in. She's in a press interview. She's like,

530
00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:07,560
Speaker 1: you know, why should it hold me back if I'm

531
00:27:07,560 --> 00:27:10,280
Speaker 1: a woman to propose to somebody, like for so long

532
00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:13,199
Speaker 1: it's been tradition, but like, who cares if I rock

533
00:27:13,320 --> 00:27:14,879
Speaker 1: the boat. I'm gonna do this for me. And I

534
00:27:14,920 --> 00:27:20,320
Speaker 1: was like, oh yeah, girl, I get that boat. Yeah. Yeah,

535
00:27:20,359 --> 00:27:22,359
Speaker 1: So where you're saying, Judge Judy a second ago, by

536
00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:28,200
Speaker 1: the way, Yeah, I saw your face line up, Judge Judy,

537
00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:30,480
Speaker 1: doesn't I want to do it too, Judge Judy. That's

538
00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:34,800
Speaker 1: a strong, independent woman. Yeah. So I would love to

539
00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:37,920
Speaker 1: see somebody tell Judge Judy that she cannot propose to

540
00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:42,600
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Judge the least desperate woman out there people. Okay, So,

541
00:27:43,040 --> 00:27:45,679
Speaker 1: anyone out there who has any flak on anything, you

542
00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:47,560
Speaker 1: take it up with Judge Judy and you let me

543
00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:50,800
Speaker 1: know how that goes for you. Absolutely honestly right now.

544
00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:54,240
Speaker 1: I really, after this episode's over, I'm gonna go there's

545
00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:56,720
Speaker 1: got to be photos or video footage of that like that.

546
00:27:57,200 --> 00:27:59,760
Speaker 1: I want to see that my YouTube. Yeah, Judge, I

547
00:27:59,800 --> 00:28:03,080
Speaker 1: buy you imagine the speech, Judge Judy gave to someone

548
00:28:03,160 --> 00:28:06,640
Speaker 1: to propose like I would know. She probably just took

549
00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:09,560
Speaker 1: her gravel gravel and hit it and said say yes

550
00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:12,440
Speaker 1: or no. And then he's like, yes, she's the judge.

551
00:28:12,440 --> 00:28:15,080
Speaker 1: He passes the verdict. She's just like, you're gonna say yes,

552
00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:18,520
Speaker 1: I did this for you. You're saying yester week. Yeah.

553
00:28:18,600 --> 00:28:21,840
Speaker 1: So yeah, it's been a whirlwind, but that's kind of

554
00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:23,800
Speaker 1: how the day when oh, well, do I tell him

555
00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:26,840
Speaker 1: about the morning at the farmer's market That was nuts?

556
00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:29,879
Speaker 1: That was crazy? All right? Philis and Thomas. So we

557
00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:32,639
Speaker 1: after yo go, we walked to this farmer's market that's

558
00:28:33,000 --> 00:28:35,240
Speaker 1: in an area that we love but we've never been

559
00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:36,919
Speaker 1: there before. It was like a random like let's just

560
00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:39,280
Speaker 1: do this, and we pop in and we got these

561
00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:47,400
Speaker 1: these bracelets and there's different gemstones on them, and each

562
00:28:47,400 --> 00:28:50,200
Speaker 1: of them you're supposed to correspond to certain energies that

563
00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:52,840
Speaker 1: one you're putting out in the world too, what you're

564
00:28:52,880 --> 00:28:55,600
Speaker 1: trying to receive back in. And when we're looking through

565
00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:58,240
Speaker 1: these different bracelets, she's like, I offer readings if you'd

566
00:28:58,280 --> 00:29:01,240
Speaker 1: be interested in and then ihled about. I'm like, yeah, done,

567
00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:03,840
Speaker 1: let's do it. Shelby, what's up shout out Shelby at

568
00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:07,360
Speaker 1: hell christ Farmer's market. But she starts doing our readings

569
00:29:07,440 --> 00:29:10,960
Speaker 1: and she's about three cards in starkly out of nowhere.

570
00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:12,840
Speaker 1: She looks at Becca. She goes, let me see your hands,

571
00:29:12,920 --> 00:29:14,880
Speaker 1: so Beca put her hands out. She goes go away

572
00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:17,960
Speaker 1: and like banishes her. She's banished me. I had to leave,

573
00:29:18,640 --> 00:29:22,120
Speaker 1: really okay. And then right when beck is out of shot,

574
00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:23,479
Speaker 1: she looks at me and she goes, when you're proposing,

575
00:29:24,040 --> 00:29:27,040
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, soon gets coming up like soon,

576
00:29:27,640 --> 00:29:31,640
Speaker 1: and she shuffles two more cards. She goes celebrations in order.

577
00:29:32,360 --> 00:29:34,960
Speaker 1: The decisions already been made, soul mate, and those are

578
00:29:35,000 --> 00:29:37,760
Speaker 1: the next three cards that she pulled, Like after pulling

579
00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:41,880
Speaker 1: a card to banish Becca, this is this is like

580
00:29:42,400 --> 00:29:46,000
Speaker 1: proposal day. This was proposal day. We weren't even playing that.

581
00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:48,800
Speaker 1: I'm going to this farmer's part. It was just eight

582
00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:51,560
Speaker 1: hours before any of this happened. Okay. Wait, so when

583
00:29:51,600 --> 00:29:56,880
Speaker 1: she's when she's saying this right, because Becca is going elsewhere,

584
00:29:57,400 --> 00:30:00,360
Speaker 1: so she finishes my reading. That's where half and right

585
00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:03,280
Speaker 1: away after she sends back away, Becca comes back. Becca

586
00:30:03,360 --> 00:30:06,880
Speaker 1: gets a reading and hers where it really started getting crazy.

587
00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:08,680
Speaker 1: So we already had that her mind where she was

588
00:30:08,760 --> 00:30:11,320
Speaker 1: not privy to it whatsoever, so I had no idea.

589
00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:13,200
Speaker 1: I was like, well, I don't know what I'm walking into.

590
00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:16,360
Speaker 1: What's going on? This is weird. She starts a reading

591
00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:20,760
Speaker 1: for Becca and she starts pulling similar cards as far

592
00:30:20,800 --> 00:30:24,920
Speaker 1: as celebration the decision you have a decision to make.

593
00:30:25,000 --> 00:30:28,360
Speaker 1: And then the next carse this decision has already been chosen,

594
00:30:28,920 --> 00:30:32,240
Speaker 1: it's already been made. Do not worry, like, don't hesitate,

595
00:30:32,440 --> 00:30:34,680
Speaker 1: it's done. She knows it is that day. And then

596
00:30:34,680 --> 00:30:37,400
Speaker 1: we're really too don't know. Well one more in there

597
00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:40,400
Speaker 1: because I'm such a control freak. She's like, she's like,

598
00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:42,720
Speaker 1: you need to like let go of control and just

599
00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:44,640
Speaker 1: know that it's all going to work out. And it's like, oh,

600
00:30:44,680 --> 00:30:48,160
Speaker 1: thank you, okay, I needed that. Right after that, she

601
00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:50,920
Speaker 1: looks up she goes, what does a sunflower mean to you? Well,

602
00:30:50,960 --> 00:30:52,560
Speaker 1: no, no no, no, First she asked, she's like, what happened

603
00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:56,080
Speaker 1: to your dad? She's like, what happened with your dad?

604
00:30:56,640 --> 00:30:58,800
Speaker 1: And I was like, well, he passed away when I

605
00:30:58,840 --> 00:31:03,880
Speaker 1: was nineteen. And then she goes, what is a sunflower

606
00:31:03,880 --> 00:31:06,600
Speaker 1: meaning to you? And then sunflowers my personal favorite flower.

607
00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:10,360
Speaker 1: It's inside the wedding ring. There's a sunflower in it

608
00:31:10,400 --> 00:31:15,440
Speaker 1: represents Sophia to me, but also Steve, Becca's dad used

609
00:31:15,440 --> 00:31:18,000
Speaker 1: to grow sunflowers in the backyard and everything else. And

610
00:31:18,040 --> 00:31:21,960
Speaker 1: she goes, he's handing you a bouquet of sunflowers and

611
00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:24,760
Speaker 1: she's saying, this is Thomas, that my dad is handing

612
00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:27,720
Speaker 1: him of okay, of sunflowers. And we she obviously had

613
00:31:27,760 --> 00:31:30,720
Speaker 1: no idea that like that was our favorite flower, that anything,

614
00:31:31,600 --> 00:31:34,600
Speaker 1: no idea it was so it was like kids, it

615
00:31:34,640 --> 00:31:37,640
Speaker 1: was crazy. Were you just like taking it in right,

616
00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:43,320
Speaker 1: because like sobbing, Like I was sorry too, So Thomas.

617
00:31:43,360 --> 00:31:46,920
Speaker 1: At one point, did you ever like when Becca's away,

618
00:31:47,000 --> 00:31:50,280
Speaker 1: did you ever then like reconvene and tell her all

619
00:31:50,320 --> 00:31:52,600
Speaker 1: that kind of unfolded or you did you just like

620
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:54,560
Speaker 1: keep it to yourself And You're like, yeah, Well, the

621
00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:57,560
Speaker 1: one that I immediately told her she'll be also pulled

622
00:31:57,560 --> 00:31:58,920
Speaker 1: a card that we're gonna have two kids in the

623
00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:03,000
Speaker 1: first one's a boy. I was like, we're having the boy.

624
00:32:03,280 --> 00:32:05,360
Speaker 1: And then the cool thing about that is everything else

625
00:32:05,360 --> 00:32:07,440
Speaker 1: she said has come to fruition. So I'm like, all right,

626
00:32:07,640 --> 00:32:10,560
Speaker 1: done done. I was like, are you sure that's accurate.

627
00:32:10,640 --> 00:32:12,600
Speaker 1: You want to just do a little reread to make

628
00:32:12,600 --> 00:32:15,360
Speaker 1: sure it's not a girl. But when Becca came back

629
00:32:15,400 --> 00:32:18,000
Speaker 1: and at her reading like I was, I got very

630
00:32:18,040 --> 00:32:20,200
Speaker 1: similar cards. And then I told her later on, when

631
00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:22,360
Speaker 1: we're looking at some other stuff, I'm like, and she

632
00:32:22,520 --> 00:32:25,120
Speaker 1: told me, sould me. Yeah, So it was and it

633
00:32:25,200 --> 00:32:27,920
Speaker 1: was wild, like, oh my god, you you really can't

634
00:32:27,960 --> 00:32:32,480
Speaker 1: make this up right. It was so like the fact that, yeah,

635
00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:35,480
Speaker 1: like the sunflowers what got me. So I'm thank god

636
00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:37,480
Speaker 1: I had sung gost sun because I'm sitting there crying,

637
00:32:37,560 --> 00:32:39,480
Speaker 1: and I was like, and I know in the back

638
00:32:39,480 --> 00:32:41,640
Speaker 1: of my mind, you know later tonight I'm going to

639
00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:44,760
Speaker 1: be proposing to him. It's all perfect. And so I

640
00:32:44,840 --> 00:32:46,320
Speaker 1: was like, well, of course, now I have to buy

641
00:32:46,400 --> 00:32:49,400
Speaker 1: sunflowers to have there. So we bought sunflowers at the

642
00:32:49,400 --> 00:32:52,160
Speaker 1: farmer's market, and so I had set it up next

643
00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:55,960
Speaker 1: to Sophia's ashes, and yeah, I just wanted to make

644
00:32:55,960 --> 00:32:58,680
Speaker 1: it as personal to him and what he loves in

645
00:32:58,760 --> 00:33:02,040
Speaker 1: his life for that moment, and so I wanted to

646
00:33:02,040 --> 00:33:04,040
Speaker 1: make sure we obviously had been knowing Leo there, I

647
00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:07,320
Speaker 1: wanted to make sure Sophia was there. And then yeah,

648
00:33:07,400 --> 00:33:11,320
Speaker 1: just like some little little intimate things that he would

649
00:33:11,360 --> 00:33:14,120
Speaker 1: always remember that were extra special to Thomas. And I

650
00:33:14,640 --> 00:33:17,440
Speaker 1: still I'm blown away that after seeing all of this,

651
00:33:17,600 --> 00:33:23,640
Speaker 1: I still thought it was a dang wine f Yeah yeah,

652
00:33:23,760 --> 00:33:28,600
Speaker 1: and did anything buy this guy? So what that's insanely

653
00:33:28,720 --> 00:33:32,480
Speaker 1: special and just sounds like I mean, if you didn't

654
00:33:32,560 --> 00:33:34,960
Speaker 1: need one sign, if you if you didn't need two, three,

655
00:33:35,040 --> 00:33:38,000
Speaker 1: four five like that day, it was just gonna go

656
00:33:38,480 --> 00:33:42,960
Speaker 1: perfectly no matter what. Yeah, it was really cool. I

657
00:33:43,040 --> 00:33:46,440
Speaker 1: mean I'm very also curious about the timeline of these

658
00:33:46,520 --> 00:33:49,160
Speaker 1: children because you know, like everyone else fell into place.

659
00:33:49,240 --> 00:33:51,360
Speaker 1: So like, colleague, do we have to wait? You know,

660
00:33:52,280 --> 00:33:54,600
Speaker 1: oh you know, um give me a little bit, Well,

661
00:33:54,600 --> 00:33:56,840
Speaker 1: we got we have to we have to knock out

662
00:33:56,840 --> 00:34:01,360
Speaker 1: working on it. Do you know at this point it's

663
00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:05,560
Speaker 1: just we're joking around that I drive in chaos and

664
00:34:05,600 --> 00:34:07,760
Speaker 1: it's like get stuff done. She's like, ye had the

665
00:34:07,760 --> 00:34:10,120
Speaker 1: big plan stuff. I'm just gonna figure out to get

666
00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:13,480
Speaker 1: it done. Yeah. But the timeline we need to go

667
00:34:13,600 --> 00:34:17,280
Speaker 1: one B of the proposal is because I gotta ring. Um,

668
00:34:17,360 --> 00:34:20,520
Speaker 1: she she needs one at some point. Yeah. My fingers

669
00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:25,719
Speaker 1: feeling lowly over. We want we want to spend a

670
00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:28,760
Speaker 1: little time to enjoy just the engagement while we're planning

671
00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:30,560
Speaker 1: what we wanted for a wedding, because we're still up

672
00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:31,759
Speaker 1: in the air for how we want to do that.

673
00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:33,879
Speaker 1: If we want to have just I might be going

674
00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:36,080
Speaker 1: too far ahead and she might be stabbing the legs soon.

675
00:34:36,120 --> 00:34:37,719
Speaker 1: But if we want to have like a small elopement

676
00:34:38,080 --> 00:34:40,000
Speaker 1: and like a big party, or if we want to

677
00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:42,319
Speaker 1: have what style wedding and how we want to Yeah,

678
00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:44,399
Speaker 1: we have a lot to think about. And also, like

679
00:34:45,120 --> 00:34:47,760
Speaker 1: I mean, we're in the midst of trying to sell

680
00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:50,040
Speaker 1: his place and buy a house and all that. So

681
00:34:50,080 --> 00:34:51,960
Speaker 1: I'm like, let's just focus on that right now and

682
00:34:51,960 --> 00:34:54,680
Speaker 1: then the wedding will We'll figure it all out. And

683
00:34:54,680 --> 00:34:56,800
Speaker 1: we also have so so many people are getting married.

684
00:34:56,840 --> 00:34:58,640
Speaker 1: I'm like, we have when can we get married? Because

685
00:34:58,640 --> 00:35:02,480
Speaker 1: everyone else is getting married. So it's just fun time. Yeah,

686
00:35:02,600 --> 00:35:05,200
Speaker 1: good time time for you, good time. No. That is

687
00:35:05,320 --> 00:35:09,319
Speaker 1: just absolutely, absolutely wonderful. I had goosebump, Like I still

688
00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:12,040
Speaker 1: have goosebumps from you guys talking about just how everything

689
00:35:12,040 --> 00:35:15,759
Speaker 1: fell into place. It's been so cool to hear. Okay, So,

690
00:35:15,760 --> 00:35:20,600
Speaker 1: but Becca, did anyone help you or was this like

691
00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:26,600
Speaker 1: this was genuinely all your idea for the most part,

692
00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:29,920
Speaker 1: genuinely all my idea. I mean the only help really

693
00:35:30,080 --> 00:35:33,520
Speaker 1: was Brooke the jeweler, you know, who was going back

694
00:35:33,520 --> 00:35:37,080
Speaker 1: and forth with designs and everything like like that. And

695
00:35:37,080 --> 00:35:42,040
Speaker 1: then one of my best friends, whom she so when

696
00:35:42,080 --> 00:35:44,480
Speaker 1: I was a bad cherette. She was one of my

697
00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:46,839
Speaker 1: producers slash handler, and her and I got super close

698
00:35:47,000 --> 00:35:49,160
Speaker 1: years ago, and she's been my best friend. When I

699
00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:51,160
Speaker 1: moved to LA she lived a block from me, Like

700
00:35:51,200 --> 00:35:54,320
Speaker 1: we were inseparable together twenty four seven. She is literally

701
00:35:54,360 --> 00:35:57,000
Speaker 1: the reason that we are together. Yeah, she's really besides

702
00:35:57,040 --> 00:36:00,640
Speaker 1: like our moms and my sister, she was the one

703
00:36:00,719 --> 00:36:04,600
Speaker 1: who like knew everything, helped me from start to finish,

704
00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:07,480
Speaker 1: who like talked me through everything when I was nervous

705
00:36:07,560 --> 00:36:11,040
Speaker 1: and so um. Yeah, she was probably the main one

706
00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:15,000
Speaker 1: to get me to like where we are today. But yeah,

707
00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:18,359
Speaker 1: so other than that, like no one else though, no

708
00:36:18,360 --> 00:36:21,799
Speaker 1: one else knew at all. I mean, like this is

709
00:36:21,840 --> 00:36:25,640
Speaker 1: like one of the best kept secrets. Especially when I

710
00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:29,040
Speaker 1: when I heard, I was like, wait, we've filmed, because

711
00:36:29,040 --> 00:36:32,120
Speaker 1: we've filmed the podcast, like several podcasts since it all

712
00:36:32,120 --> 00:36:35,759
Speaker 1: like went down. I was like, dang, usually I can

713
00:36:35,800 --> 00:36:40,839
Speaker 1: like pick up on things. No, I'm still true too,

714
00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:43,000
Speaker 1: because I was wearing my ring, I wouldn't take it off.

715
00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:44,759
Speaker 1: She's like, well, maybe you don't wear I'm like, girl,

716
00:36:45,040 --> 00:36:46,719
Speaker 1: if you wanted me to not wear this ring, you

717
00:36:46,760 --> 00:36:49,680
Speaker 1: shouldn't have put it on my fingers. And honestly though,

718
00:36:50,160 --> 00:36:51,600
Speaker 1: I think if we would have, like if I would

719
00:36:51,600 --> 00:36:53,680
Speaker 1: have seen, I think I probably would have thought it's

720
00:36:53,680 --> 00:36:55,440
Speaker 1: like the or ring, because you and I have have

721
00:36:55,440 --> 00:36:57,920
Speaker 1: spoken about it. I was, I was, I was wearing it.

722
00:36:57,920 --> 00:37:02,120
Speaker 1: It's in all these photos were posting on something like

723
00:37:02,280 --> 00:37:05,880
Speaker 1: we're doing our normal lives. But it's also a perfect

724
00:37:05,880 --> 00:37:08,920
Speaker 1: indication of how far out of the normal thought process

725
00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:11,880
Speaker 1: for people. Right, I'm wearing an engagement ring, I'm posting

726
00:37:11,880 --> 00:37:14,480
Speaker 1: an engagement ring. I'm not hiding at all. And then

727
00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:16,640
Speaker 1: no one says you, well, like this, here's the thing.

728
00:37:16,640 --> 00:37:18,959
Speaker 1: The steps that like when we were in Hawaii, because

729
00:37:18,960 --> 00:37:20,719
Speaker 1: we were there for a wedding, and so I was like,

730
00:37:20,760 --> 00:37:22,840
Speaker 1: I don't want to take away from your friend's wedding.

731
00:37:23,480 --> 00:37:26,480
Speaker 1: That is the focus of why we're here. Don't tell anyone.

732
00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:29,880
Speaker 1: So we didn't, but he had posted a picture, you know,

733
00:37:29,920 --> 00:37:32,279
Speaker 1: just with his arm around me, and people saw the ring,

734
00:37:32,640 --> 00:37:35,600
Speaker 1: and people jumped from us just stating to us getting

735
00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:37,640
Speaker 1: married in Hawaii, like there was no one between no

736
00:37:37,640 --> 00:37:39,640
Speaker 1: one even it didn't even cross their minds that, like

737
00:37:40,080 --> 00:37:43,120
Speaker 1: went I had proposed to him. Which is cool because

738
00:37:43,239 --> 00:37:46,560
Speaker 1: in our lifetime we're going to see just a mindset

739
00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:49,400
Speaker 1: shift where I guarantee this is going to be something

740
00:37:49,440 --> 00:37:51,879
Speaker 1: that becomes more commonplace and you're going to see more

741
00:37:51,960 --> 00:37:55,680
Speaker 1: women feeling confident enough in their selves and their relationships

742
00:37:55,680 --> 00:37:58,359
Speaker 1: to propose. And for us, it was one of those

743
00:37:58,400 --> 00:38:01,680
Speaker 1: things we just got to enjoy it. It wasn't on

744
00:38:01,719 --> 00:38:04,399
Speaker 1: anyone else's radar, and it was just a special moment

745
00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:06,919
Speaker 1: between the two of us. And I feel like we're

746
00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:12,120
Speaker 1: gonna see a shift in our lifetimes. And I kind of, well, yeah,

747
00:38:12,239 --> 00:38:16,000
Speaker 1: that's the thing. It's like, you know, if somebody's traditional

748
00:38:16,080 --> 00:38:19,239
Speaker 1: and the woman wants the guy to propose, cool, But

749
00:38:19,280 --> 00:38:22,240
Speaker 1: if you know, there's also so much pressure that comes

750
00:38:22,239 --> 00:38:24,960
Speaker 1: with that, and so if somebody feels like they're in

751
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:28,359
Speaker 1: the position and want to switch it up like I did,

752
00:38:28,480 --> 00:38:31,239
Speaker 1: they should. And I hope that's more open. I hope

753
00:38:31,280 --> 00:38:33,960
Speaker 1: you know, especially well, our country is in a very

754
00:38:33,960 --> 00:38:38,000
Speaker 1: weird state. But you said someone who wants like who

755
00:38:38,120 --> 00:38:43,279
Speaker 1: who's like starting to think about proposing? I would do it.

756
00:38:43,560 --> 00:38:48,120
Speaker 1: I mean here, yeah, Like I said, everyone's relationship is different,

757
00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:52,040
Speaker 1: everyone's wedding is different, everyone's marriage is different. And so

758
00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:54,719
Speaker 1: you know, like why put so much pressure on just

759
00:38:54,800 --> 00:38:57,120
Speaker 1: like the one act of like the man has to

760
00:38:57,120 --> 00:39:00,520
Speaker 1: propose to the woman, like when everyone has way different

761
00:39:00,520 --> 00:39:02,880
Speaker 1: relationships and how they handle things and process things and

762
00:39:02,920 --> 00:39:06,200
Speaker 1: show love. Like if a woman wants to do it,

763
00:39:06,239 --> 00:39:10,360
Speaker 1: and you know, wants to take the lead by all means,

764
00:39:10,440 --> 00:39:13,040
Speaker 1: I say, hell, yeah, go for a girl. You know,

765
00:39:13,600 --> 00:39:15,560
Speaker 1: you look at a macro perspective. If you look at

766
00:39:15,600 --> 00:39:18,839
Speaker 1: a relationship and one partner or the other, whether it's

767
00:39:18,880 --> 00:39:21,840
Speaker 1: male or female, is confident enough to know that this

768
00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:24,040
Speaker 1: is the person spend their life with them. They know

769
00:39:24,120 --> 00:39:26,840
Speaker 1: them well enough, they have enough shared value that there's

770
00:39:26,920 --> 00:39:30,080
Speaker 1: no way the counterpart, if it's a woman proposing to

771
00:39:30,080 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 1: the man, isn't going to be compable with it. Because

772
00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:34,520
Speaker 1: I mean, if you're to that point where this is

773
00:39:34,600 --> 00:39:38,720
Speaker 1: my forever partner, clearly you're on the same wavelength. Clearly

774
00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:41,920
Speaker 1: you're confident that relationship that it's not This shouldn't be

775
00:39:41,960 --> 00:39:44,960
Speaker 1: an issue for anybody. For me, I think it's the

776
00:39:45,000 --> 00:39:48,200
Speaker 1: most dang flattering thing that could have possibly happen. Are

777
00:39:48,200 --> 00:39:51,080
Speaker 1: you kidding me? So I took with him though because

778
00:39:51,120 --> 00:39:53,440
Speaker 1: I popped the question. He has to plan the wedding

779
00:39:54,120 --> 00:39:57,160
Speaker 1: and then control freak that. I don't think I would

780
00:39:57,239 --> 00:40:00,840
Speaker 1: let that happen. Yes, oh my god, it is like it. No,

781
00:40:00,920 --> 00:40:04,879
Speaker 1: I love this. Since she proposed me, it immediately catapulted

782
00:40:04,920 --> 00:40:08,279
Speaker 1: me into trophy husband territory. It's just like, okay, it's

783
00:40:08,320 --> 00:40:10,640
Speaker 1: like this is this is, this is how it is.

784
00:40:10,840 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 1: I'm not mad at it, but okay, and also too,

785
00:40:13,160 --> 00:40:15,560
Speaker 1: I was thinking about it, just like going back. I

786
00:40:15,600 --> 00:40:19,759
Speaker 1: obviously was so nervous and yeah, but there's I think

787
00:40:20,000 --> 00:40:23,000
Speaker 1: so much pressure, like the wedding industry is huge just

788
00:40:23,120 --> 00:40:25,480
Speaker 1: in general, like the diamond industry is huge. Like there's

789
00:40:25,520 --> 00:40:28,759
Speaker 1: so much pressure all the time, I mean historically so

790
00:40:28,880 --> 00:40:31,960
Speaker 1: up until this point, like for the man to get

791
00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:35,200
Speaker 1: the nice, big diamond and like to have this elaborate,

792
00:40:35,440 --> 00:40:40,719
Speaker 1: extravagant like bouchelor like proposal, which for most people isn't attainable,

793
00:40:40,800 --> 00:40:45,440
Speaker 1: like just like financially, and so maybe this will like

794
00:40:45,600 --> 00:40:48,160
Speaker 1: allow more people just to see Okay, we don't have

795
00:40:48,200 --> 00:40:52,320
Speaker 1: to put this crazy big pressure on buying a super expensive,

796
00:40:53,239 --> 00:40:56,680
Speaker 1: massive ass ring or doing this like elaborate grand gesture

797
00:40:56,719 --> 00:40:59,799
Speaker 1: like you know, we did it very cost affloridably, like

798
00:41:00,280 --> 00:41:02,520
Speaker 1: in our own special way that I think meant more

799
00:41:02,560 --> 00:41:05,319
Speaker 1: to us than no offense to the show. But like

800
00:41:05,520 --> 00:41:10,759
Speaker 1: doing it TV, I'm just saying, but who who's to

801
00:41:10,840 --> 00:41:15,560
Speaker 1: say that? I mean, relationships where like a man is

802
00:41:15,719 --> 00:41:18,239
Speaker 1: proposing to a woman is going to be more successful

803
00:41:18,520 --> 00:41:20,840
Speaker 1: than a relationship where you know, the woman's proposing to

804
00:41:20,840 --> 00:41:23,560
Speaker 1: a man or yeah, or whatever direction it is going,

805
00:41:23,960 --> 00:41:26,120
Speaker 1: with whatever gender it's going. And so it's just like

806
00:41:27,160 --> 00:41:34,160
Speaker 1: I'm kind of excited to see because the Bachelor franchise,

807
00:41:34,600 --> 00:41:40,200
Speaker 1: right has been a very traditional way of just going

808
00:41:40,239 --> 00:41:44,160
Speaker 1: about relationships, you know, to some extent, and so it's

809
00:41:44,200 --> 00:41:49,200
Speaker 1: it's really cool to see this extremely non traditional, unexpected

810
00:41:49,840 --> 00:41:53,040
Speaker 1: moment yet that has so much sentiment, that has so

811
00:41:53,160 --> 00:41:56,920
Speaker 1: much love to it. I'm really excited to just like,

812
00:41:58,200 --> 00:41:59,719
Speaker 1: I don't know, I think I think you put an

813
00:41:59,719 --> 00:42:03,680
Speaker 1: idea and a lot of people's heads that would not

814
00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:06,200
Speaker 1: necessarily cross someone's mind. I mean, it didn't cross my

815
00:42:06,200 --> 00:42:09,439
Speaker 1: manage and cross Thomas's mind, right. Um, but but it's

816
00:42:09,480 --> 00:42:12,120
Speaker 1: pretty cool that two people who were in the spotlight

817
00:42:12,320 --> 00:42:16,719
Speaker 1: have been able to do that. And yeah, yeah, well

818
00:42:16,760 --> 00:42:21,200
Speaker 1: all I gotta say, some mal engagement rings sound on

819
00:42:21,239 --> 00:42:25,480
Speaker 1: the beaches of Paradise this season. Hey, at least allow

820
00:42:25,560 --> 00:42:28,560
Speaker 1: the option, that's all I have. No one decides to

821
00:42:28,600 --> 00:42:31,080
Speaker 1: do it, that's okay, but at least allow everyone the

822
00:42:31,160 --> 00:42:35,759
Speaker 1: option to have that. Arante. Last year's Paradise would have

823
00:42:35,840 --> 00:42:43,120
Speaker 1: ended different with Aaron and James if their mail engagement rings. Yeah,

824
00:42:43,360 --> 00:42:50,640
Speaker 1: one more love story for the books. Hey, that's very true,

825
00:42:49,040 --> 00:42:54,440
Speaker 1: do you, oh, James? Aaron? Absolutely, But I do like

826
00:42:54,520 --> 00:42:58,879
Speaker 1: the idea of having Thomas planned the wedding because can

827
00:42:58,920 --> 00:43:05,360
Speaker 1: you imagine that wedding? He would be I can't imagine,

828
00:43:05,440 --> 00:43:08,839
Speaker 1: you are. He's a very very good planner. Oh yeah,

829
00:43:08,840 --> 00:43:11,759
Speaker 1: he'd be. That's the thing. Like I mean, because I'm

830
00:43:11,800 --> 00:43:13,880
Speaker 1: a control freak, I don't think I would actually let

831
00:43:13,920 --> 00:43:16,359
Speaker 1: him do that. But I have no problem like if

832
00:43:16,400 --> 00:43:18,719
Speaker 1: we whatever, we decide, if it's big, small, I have

833
00:43:18,719 --> 00:43:21,920
Speaker 1: no problem having Like I would want him to help me.

834
00:43:21,920 --> 00:43:24,399
Speaker 1: I would want him to probably like do more than

835
00:43:24,520 --> 00:43:27,560
Speaker 1: like fifty fifty because I think like as far as

836
00:43:27,640 --> 00:43:31,720
Speaker 1: weddings I've seen with friends. It's always like my girlfriends

837
00:43:31,760 --> 00:43:33,440
Speaker 1: who are taking the lead and planning everything and just

838
00:43:33,480 --> 00:43:35,200
Speaker 1: being like, Okay, honey, this is what we're doing, this

839
00:43:35,280 --> 00:43:36,640
Speaker 1: is what it's going to be. And like if he

840
00:43:37,239 --> 00:43:39,360
Speaker 1: had to say and like actually had what he wanted,

841
00:43:39,400 --> 00:43:41,359
Speaker 1: I have no problem with that. It's like, please take

842
00:43:41,400 --> 00:43:43,000
Speaker 1: a load off me. I don't want to have to

843
00:43:43,000 --> 00:43:46,400
Speaker 1: worry about that, do you? So it would be zero

844
00:43:46,480 --> 00:43:48,759
Speaker 1: stress and all vibes. It would be amazing. I was

845
00:43:48,800 --> 00:43:50,880
Speaker 1: gonna say, who do you feel you feel like it's

846
00:43:50,920 --> 00:43:53,719
Speaker 1: gonna be the the one that's the most stressed out

847
00:43:53,800 --> 00:43:58,160
Speaker 1: during wedding planning. Me during during wedding planning or during life,

848
00:43:58,200 --> 00:44:02,000
Speaker 1: I'm stressed out constantly. It seems like there's a lot

849
00:44:02,080 --> 00:44:04,799
Speaker 1: to unpack there. This is my only emotion that I

850
00:44:04,840 --> 00:44:07,439
Speaker 1: think I ever know. So yeah, I like that. Would

851
00:44:07,440 --> 00:44:12,840
Speaker 1: you say, zero stress, vibe stress, all vibes, all vibes

852
00:44:12,920 --> 00:44:15,000
Speaker 1: That seems like it needs to go in like a

853
00:44:15,280 --> 00:44:21,319
Speaker 1: like a sign above, like someone, Okay, have you thought

854
00:44:21,360 --> 00:44:24,200
Speaker 1: about Okay, so Becca, you proposed to Thomas. Have you

855
00:44:24,320 --> 00:44:30,440
Speaker 1: thought about like last names? Oh yeah, we're gonna hyphenate.

856
00:44:31,719 --> 00:44:33,520
Speaker 1: Well yeah, well well I don't know the order. I

857
00:44:33,640 --> 00:44:36,000
Speaker 1: googled a few times, and typically allow made a name

858
00:44:36,040 --> 00:44:39,759
Speaker 1: first and then the turnal Yeah, well yeah, I don't

859
00:44:39,760 --> 00:44:42,600
Speaker 1: know if it matters, like kouffer in Jacob's or Jacob

860
00:44:42,920 --> 00:44:45,719
Speaker 1: Jacob's Kouffrin, but well, for sure hyphenate, and we'll have

861
00:44:45,719 --> 00:44:47,920
Speaker 1: our kids hyphenate too, like I want them to be.

862
00:44:48,320 --> 00:44:50,520
Speaker 1: I mean, they're both of us. So one of the

863
00:44:50,560 --> 00:44:53,960
Speaker 1: reasons that's also special, meaning especially for the kids, is

864
00:44:54,000 --> 00:44:57,120
Speaker 1: because since Becca lost her father and it's her and

865
00:44:57,120 --> 00:45:01,360
Speaker 1: her sister, I just don't want to see any scenario

866
00:45:01,440 --> 00:45:04,000
Speaker 1: where there's not a koup friend going around in the world.

867
00:45:04,480 --> 00:45:07,600
Speaker 1: And I think that's a special thing to happen, especially

868
00:45:07,640 --> 00:45:12,760
Speaker 1: since in the reading we did confirm we're having a boy. Boy. First,

869
00:45:13,520 --> 00:45:16,880
Speaker 1: I just snorted, was it was it? It was Shelby, Shelby.

870
00:45:16,880 --> 00:45:19,120
Speaker 1: We gotta get We need to get Shelby on the

871
00:45:19,120 --> 00:45:23,200
Speaker 1: podcast because I have a lot of questions for Shelby. Um,

872
00:45:23,320 --> 00:45:26,080
Speaker 1: but we need to keep bring the loop so that

873
00:45:26,200 --> 00:45:28,640
Speaker 1: like when this starts to take place, I want a

874
00:45:28,719 --> 00:45:32,120
Speaker 1: timeline from Shelby. I want to I want a few names.

875
00:45:32,840 --> 00:45:36,839
Speaker 1: She's it's so funny too, because she was so unassuming,

876
00:45:36,880 --> 00:45:38,520
Speaker 1: Like you know, when you think of a psychic, like

877
00:45:38,560 --> 00:45:40,719
Speaker 1: you said, think of somebody sitting there with like her

878
00:45:40,960 --> 00:45:45,160
Speaker 1: terror cards and like it's all yea like magical. Like

879
00:45:45,320 --> 00:45:47,600
Speaker 1: she's just standing there, like she's not even paying attention

880
00:45:47,640 --> 00:45:49,360
Speaker 1: to us. Half the time. She's like talking to kids

881
00:45:49,360 --> 00:45:52,160
Speaker 1: walking by. She's just like having a grandule time and

882
00:45:52,200 --> 00:45:54,120
Speaker 1: she'll be like, oh, yeah, like here's this or that,

883
00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:57,600
Speaker 1: Like she's she's just rad. Like I've never only met

884
00:45:57,600 --> 00:46:01,560
Speaker 1: her the one time, but just like cool and so yeah,

885
00:46:01,680 --> 00:46:03,799
Speaker 1: I'm like, and we weren't even planning that being there.

886
00:46:03,800 --> 00:46:05,439
Speaker 1: So the fact that it happened in the first place,

887
00:46:05,440 --> 00:46:08,560
Speaker 1: I was like a trust shelves. Yeah, like those are

888
00:46:08,560 --> 00:46:10,439
Speaker 1: the times where you actually, I mean like I feel

889
00:46:10,480 --> 00:46:12,600
Speaker 1: I've never been to a psychic before, but I feel like,

890
00:46:13,320 --> 00:46:15,160
Speaker 1: I mean I've wanted to try one, but I also

891
00:46:15,160 --> 00:46:17,799
Speaker 1: feel like walking into it. I'm you know, especially now

892
00:46:17,840 --> 00:46:20,879
Speaker 1: with how much information about all of us is out

893
00:46:20,920 --> 00:46:25,560
Speaker 1: on the internet, it's like, yeah, like everybody knows everything.

894
00:46:25,760 --> 00:46:29,000
Speaker 1: But yeah, I'm super skeptical. But the fact that that

895
00:46:29,080 --> 00:46:34,000
Speaker 1: happened organically, you have to believe it. Yeah, we're going

896
00:46:34,080 --> 00:46:38,040
Speaker 1: with that. Yeah, so that's our life today right now,

897
00:46:38,080 --> 00:46:41,120
Speaker 1: things have been great. Oh my gosh, Okay, well, so

898
00:46:41,280 --> 00:46:44,640
Speaker 1: how long until y'all really truly like jump into wedding planning?

899
00:46:44,800 --> 00:46:47,560
Speaker 1: And I know that you'll enjoy the engagement. But I

900
00:46:47,600 --> 00:46:50,239
Speaker 1: also feel like I can see, like Thomas getting a

901
00:46:50,480 --> 00:46:54,200
Speaker 1: see you like, let's plan this thing, snack it out.

902
00:46:54,200 --> 00:46:56,319
Speaker 1: It's like, we don't got anything planning for the next

903
00:46:56,320 --> 00:46:58,680
Speaker 1: seventy two hours. Give me thirty six. I got you,

904
00:46:58,760 --> 00:47:05,160
Speaker 1: I got I know. I mean we've like we've gone

905
00:47:05,160 --> 00:47:07,719
Speaker 1: over a couple of potential scenarios. I mean, her dad's

906
00:47:07,719 --> 00:47:09,919
Speaker 1: birthday is ten point four, and we're thinking maybe doing

907
00:47:09,960 --> 00:47:12,640
Speaker 1: something like that. But it's Tuesday this year, and we

908
00:47:12,719 --> 00:47:14,840
Speaker 1: want to Elope to want to a courthouse, so we

909
00:47:15,120 --> 00:47:20,799
Speaker 1: have touse just getting an example, just relatively speaking, So

910
00:47:20,800 --> 00:47:22,480
Speaker 1: we just have to decide what we wanted to look

911
00:47:22,520 --> 00:47:25,640
Speaker 1: like on that day. Yeah, and then from there just

912
00:47:25,719 --> 00:47:31,040
Speaker 1: dialing the details. I think realistically, and this is not

913
00:47:31,200 --> 00:47:33,759
Speaker 1: set in stone, So anyone out here listening, who's going

914
00:47:33,800 --> 00:47:35,719
Speaker 1: to be like you said this, and if we don't

915
00:47:35,760 --> 00:47:39,399
Speaker 1: do it, don't be mad. We probably will do a

916
00:47:39,480 --> 00:47:44,160
Speaker 1: small ceremony with just immediate family, that's it, and then

917
00:47:44,280 --> 00:47:48,439
Speaker 1: have a rager of a party later on. I want

918
00:47:48,480 --> 00:47:53,640
Speaker 1: like Gatsby themed prohibition food trucks, like just a fun

919
00:47:54,040 --> 00:47:56,759
Speaker 1: party later on. That's ideally what I'm going for, but

920
00:47:56,800 --> 00:47:59,120
Speaker 1: we'll see. And then as far as like that first portion,

921
00:47:59,360 --> 00:48:01,480
Speaker 1: the practical side of things, she needs her sister to

922
00:48:01,560 --> 00:48:03,400
Speaker 1: be there. There's no way we're not doing all without

923
00:48:03,400 --> 00:48:07,040
Speaker 1: her sister. She's pregnant and she's due in September. She

924
00:48:07,200 --> 00:48:10,040
Speaker 1: doesn't won't travel, so so that's gonna be. It's gonna

925
00:48:10,040 --> 00:48:12,600
Speaker 1: be predicated a lot on the schedule for the closest,

926
00:48:12,600 --> 00:48:15,759
Speaker 1: but we want at the wedding and then just like

927
00:48:15,840 --> 00:48:18,680
Speaker 1: she said, just throwing just the most awesome nineteen twenty

928
00:48:18,719 --> 00:48:21,600
Speaker 1: style rager after it's just gonna be. Yeah, it's gonna

929
00:48:21,640 --> 00:48:25,840
Speaker 1: be awesome. So we'll see. I'm excited, I know, k

930
00:48:26,920 --> 00:48:29,960
Speaker 1: if anything. We know now that y'all keep us on

931
00:48:30,000 --> 00:48:34,080
Speaker 1: her toes so we can imagine what's gonna come next.

932
00:48:34,520 --> 00:48:36,520
Speaker 1: But I'm also not the type of person to like

933
00:48:36,560 --> 00:48:39,160
Speaker 1: start planning a lot, So I'm gonna need somebody, ak

934
00:48:39,360 --> 00:48:42,040
Speaker 1: probably Thomas or somebody to be like, how you have

935
00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 1: to start planning something now, like but you just it's

936
00:48:45,239 --> 00:48:51,680
Speaker 1: like you just plan this like perfect sentimental proposal. Yeah,

937
00:48:51,719 --> 00:48:55,160
Speaker 1: I feel like you can't. Yeah, Thomas, had you been

938
00:48:55,160 --> 00:49:00,120
Speaker 1: planning something? Yeah already the gates like if that's it's

939
00:49:00,160 --> 00:49:03,120
Speaker 1: also one of the reasons why I appreciated the She

940
00:49:03,280 --> 00:49:07,080
Speaker 1: wanted it to show just sid of addition too, and

941
00:49:07,120 --> 00:49:09,759
Speaker 1: she even made remarks on it. So I don't want

942
00:49:09,760 --> 00:49:12,000
Speaker 1: to stick your plan. Yeah, I've had I've had it

943
00:49:12,040 --> 00:49:14,520
Speaker 1: planned out for a while. He kept telling me, though,

944
00:49:14,520 --> 00:49:17,080
Speaker 1: He's like, you're not getting engaged in Maui. Before I

945
00:49:17,160 --> 00:49:19,320
Speaker 1: proposed him, He's like, you're not getting engaged in Maui.

946
00:49:19,360 --> 00:49:21,359
Speaker 1: It's not happening, just looking around, And I just had

947
00:49:21,360 --> 00:49:22,920
Speaker 1: to tell her up friends with you to enjoy the

948
00:49:22,960 --> 00:49:24,560
Speaker 1: vacup like it's not happening a lot. But then I

949
00:49:24,560 --> 00:49:26,440
Speaker 1: got kind of confused because I was like, Okay, is

950
00:49:26,480 --> 00:49:29,799
Speaker 1: this reverse psychology where you're actually going to propose to

951
00:49:29,840 --> 00:49:32,920
Speaker 1: me and Maui? But no, I have no idea. Honestly,

952
00:49:33,000 --> 00:49:35,680
Speaker 1: don't have any idea because he keeps like joking around now,

953
00:49:35,760 --> 00:49:38,880
Speaker 1: saying different random times. So I'm like, whenever it happens,

954
00:49:38,880 --> 00:49:41,160
Speaker 1: it happened, might be next week at your pole, who knows,

955
00:49:41,200 --> 00:49:44,200
Speaker 1: we'll find out. I would she would love that. Well,

956
00:49:44,239 --> 00:49:47,520
Speaker 1: it has been absolutely awesome talking to you both. You

957
00:49:47,800 --> 00:49:50,160
Speaker 1: you guys always have come across like you're madly in

958
00:49:50,200 --> 00:49:52,799
Speaker 1: love and just like spending time with you. It is

959
00:49:52,880 --> 00:49:56,000
Speaker 1: so so genuine. But I think what's been really special

960
00:49:56,040 --> 00:49:58,239
Speaker 1: for me today is just see that continue to grow

961
00:49:58,239 --> 00:50:02,880
Speaker 1: through this and I'm excited. I'm so excited for you guys.

962
00:50:03,840 --> 00:50:07,560
Speaker 1: Oh I can't, I mean so much, can't celebrate so

963
00:50:07,600 --> 00:50:10,560
Speaker 1: many good times. Um, but Michelle, before we kick my

964
00:50:10,719 --> 00:50:16,120
Speaker 1: fiance off but it sounds so weird to say so,

965
00:50:16,320 --> 00:50:19,120
Speaker 1: but before we let him go, we gotta do our

966
00:50:19,200 --> 00:50:22,600
Speaker 1: rose and Thorne. So Michelle, you take it away this

967
00:50:22,640 --> 00:50:29,680
Speaker 1: week girl, Okay, Um, let's start with my rose would

968
00:50:29,760 --> 00:50:32,480
Speaker 1: be that. Um this weekend, I get to spend a

969
00:50:32,480 --> 00:50:35,239
Speaker 1: lot of time with my friends and I finally get

970
00:50:35,280 --> 00:50:37,400
Speaker 1: to see Nate because I've not seen him in like

971
00:50:37,600 --> 00:50:41,239
Speaker 1: four weeks. Damn the internet thought we all broke up,

972
00:50:41,280 --> 00:50:44,960
Speaker 1: but we still together and back at it. We are

973
00:50:45,080 --> 00:50:47,680
Speaker 1: back at it. Take that row. We had to reintroduce

974
00:50:47,719 --> 00:50:49,680
Speaker 1: ourselves though, because we haven't seen each other in so long.

975
00:50:49,960 --> 00:50:51,399
Speaker 1: But um, so I get to see Nate, I get

976
00:50:51,400 --> 00:50:54,200
Speaker 1: to see some friends. My thorn would be that the

977
00:50:54,280 --> 00:50:56,000
Speaker 1: end of the next week is gonna be a little

978
00:50:56,040 --> 00:50:59,440
Speaker 1: bit bitter sweet with stepping out of my classroom. Um,

979
00:50:59,520 --> 00:51:02,640
Speaker 1: but I'm ready for whatever is to come. So I'm

980
00:51:02,680 --> 00:51:05,160
Speaker 1: siting all good things, Michelle, all good things to come

981
00:51:05,200 --> 00:51:10,280
Speaker 1: your way. Yes you want to go you okay? Thank you. Next,

982
00:51:10,480 --> 00:51:14,560
Speaker 1: I will my rose and be a two partner here

983
00:51:14,760 --> 00:51:17,560
Speaker 1: first and foremost, Mama jo will come to town. Part

984
00:51:17,560 --> 00:51:20,160
Speaker 1: two that Mama Joe's a teacher for forever. So my

985
00:51:20,200 --> 00:51:22,520
Speaker 1: overall Rose goes out to all your teachers everywhere. I

986
00:51:22,560 --> 00:51:25,239
Speaker 1: know it's hechnic, Michelle. We've been able to live through

987
00:51:25,280 --> 00:51:29,719
Speaker 1: you firsthand. Stay strong, y'all. This country, these communities, they

988
00:51:30,000 --> 00:51:31,680
Speaker 1: couldn't be where they are without you guys, and you

989
00:51:31,680 --> 00:51:34,040
Speaker 1: guys are so appreciated and just sending all the love

990
00:51:34,040 --> 00:51:40,680
Speaker 1: we possibly can. And then my thorn is dealing with

991
00:51:40,760 --> 00:51:46,319
Speaker 1: some very frustrating circumstances and buying new homes. And that's

992
00:51:46,400 --> 00:51:49,320
Speaker 1: that's been. I have a few more gray hairs because

993
00:51:49,320 --> 00:51:52,480
Speaker 1: of this, this most recent one. But everything happens for

994
00:51:52,520 --> 00:51:55,080
Speaker 1: a reason, and I can't wait to where we end

995
00:51:55,120 --> 00:52:01,200
Speaker 1: up have home with this one right here, the good

996
00:52:01,200 --> 00:52:04,080
Speaker 1: old ball and chain. Um, I don't know, I feel

997
00:52:04,080 --> 00:52:05,920
Speaker 1: like those are going to be probably like the same. Yeah,

998
00:52:06,000 --> 00:52:10,560
Speaker 1: my thorn is just dealing with this headache of moving.

999
00:52:10,680 --> 00:52:16,440
Speaker 1: I thought you were gonna say, Thomas is no, this

1000
00:52:16,520 --> 00:52:19,360
Speaker 1: is horrible. We like it. Actually, it's growing on me.

1001
00:52:19,480 --> 00:52:20,880
Speaker 1: The more I look at you in the screen, it's

1002
00:52:20,920 --> 00:52:24,480
Speaker 1: growing up me. Ter Okay, So if you were to

1003
00:52:24,480 --> 00:52:27,040
Speaker 1: wear this like walking down you know what I mean,

1004
00:52:27,360 --> 00:52:30,600
Speaker 1: your wedding day, the day for the wedding day or

1005
00:52:30,600 --> 00:52:33,080
Speaker 1: maybe not, I would maybe say, like trim trim the

1006
00:52:33,120 --> 00:52:37,640
Speaker 1: st the wedding day, Okay, but I don't mind the

1007
00:52:37,680 --> 00:52:41,319
Speaker 1: shorting boundaries. Mustash will not be either on wedding day,

1008
00:52:41,360 --> 00:52:43,359
Speaker 1: nor will it probably be there tomorrow. So we'll see

1009
00:52:43,400 --> 00:52:46,200
Speaker 1: after we see top gun the stash is farm depending

1010
00:52:46,200 --> 00:52:49,759
Speaker 1: on how much I like it. Yeah, um. And then yeah,

1011
00:52:49,800 --> 00:52:52,920
Speaker 1: my rose is to kind of to play off Thomas,

1012
00:52:53,160 --> 00:52:55,160
Speaker 1: the fact that my mom and god mom are in town.

1013
00:52:55,640 --> 00:52:58,000
Speaker 1: My mom hasn't been able to be here since pre COVID,

1014
00:52:58,120 --> 00:53:00,440
Speaker 1: so it's been a while. So we to spend a

1015
00:53:00,480 --> 00:53:03,959
Speaker 1: week with her and I can't wait. And then yeah,

1016
00:53:04,040 --> 00:53:07,040
Speaker 1: just I mean finally being able to announce this and

1017
00:53:07,120 --> 00:53:11,080
Speaker 1: share that we're engaged officially. I just soak in all

1018
00:53:11,080 --> 00:53:13,160
Speaker 1: of the support and the love and just to be

1019
00:53:13,200 --> 00:53:14,959
Speaker 1: able to read all of the well wishes has been

1020
00:53:15,000 --> 00:53:18,280
Speaker 1: really really special. And so that's definitely the top top

1021
00:53:18,680 --> 00:53:23,680
Speaker 1: Rose for sure, the top top top top, Hey fun intended.

1022
00:53:23,719 --> 00:53:27,040
Speaker 1: I love it well. Becca and Thomas. Thank you so

1023
00:53:27,120 --> 00:53:31,719
Speaker 1: much for sharing details of your incredibly well planned special

1024
00:53:32,080 --> 00:53:34,120
Speaker 1: engagement with us. I know I speak for everyone in

1025
00:53:34,200 --> 00:53:37,000
Speaker 1: Baptolor Nation when I say we are all so so

1026
00:53:37,040 --> 00:53:40,239
Speaker 1: excited for you both and that way shoot a lifetime

1027
00:53:40,239 --> 00:53:43,960
Speaker 1: of happiness and love together. Oh thanks Michelle, and thanks Thomas.

1028
00:53:44,040 --> 00:53:49,400
Speaker 1: I love you, but I gotta kick you off now. Becca.

1029
00:53:49,520 --> 00:53:52,279
Speaker 1: That was so much fun. It is always such a

1030
00:53:52,320 --> 00:53:54,560
Speaker 1: straight to be able to talk to you and Thomas.

1031
00:53:54,640 --> 00:53:57,000
Speaker 1: You can see the love between you two every time.

1032
00:53:57,640 --> 00:54:00,520
Speaker 1: Oh thank you. Yeah, all God, that was so much.

1033
00:54:00,560 --> 00:54:04,600
Speaker 1: I just sounded so many stan there. Wow. Yes, a

1034
00:54:04,600 --> 00:54:08,400
Speaker 1: little Minnesotan's engaged. It comes out when I'm extra excited. No,

1035
00:54:08,560 --> 00:54:12,880
Speaker 1: that was such a blast. It's still crazy to say fiance,

1036
00:54:13,280 --> 00:54:16,640
Speaker 1: but there it is on the open. We had such

1037
00:54:16,640 --> 00:54:19,400
Speaker 1: a blast this week. So thank you Michelle and Thomas.

1038
00:54:19,520 --> 00:54:25,560
Speaker 1: Welcome back anytime, honey. And I'm like totally forgetting where

1039
00:54:25,600 --> 00:54:29,480
Speaker 1: I'm at right now in this lifetime Cloud nine. Cloud

1040
00:54:29,560 --> 00:54:32,280
Speaker 1: nine is where I'm at. I love that. But also

1041
00:54:32,520 --> 00:54:34,720
Speaker 1: a huge shout out to our bauch Our Happy Hour listeners.

1042
00:54:34,719 --> 00:54:36,480
Speaker 1: I did miss you guys last week, so it's good

1043
00:54:36,520 --> 00:54:39,480
Speaker 1: to be back again. And Michelle, as always, it's such

1044
00:54:39,480 --> 00:54:42,239
Speaker 1: a pleasure to be with you girl. Yes, and make

1045
00:54:42,280 --> 00:54:44,560
Speaker 1: sure to hit us up on social. You can follow

1046
00:54:44,640 --> 00:54:47,839
Speaker 1: us at Bachelor Happy Hour on Instagram and from there

1047
00:54:47,880 --> 00:54:50,000
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1048
00:54:50,000 --> 00:54:53,239
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1049
00:54:53,280 --> 00:54:56,440
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1050
00:54:56,480 --> 00:54:58,799
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1052
00:55:01,920 --> 00:55:05,600
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1053
00:55:05,680 --> 00:55:07,960
Speaker 1: next week. Bye.