1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:01,800 Speaker 1: Come on tell me buck, I'm up and hold on tight. 2 00:00:01,880 --> 00:00:05,359 Speaker 1: We got it for you. Here it is strawberry letter. Subject, 3 00:00:05,680 --> 00:00:09,959 Speaker 1: I'm a cute Christian. I've never heard that. I've never 4 00:00:10,000 --> 00:00:12,840 Speaker 1: heard that before, but here we go. Subject again, I'm 5 00:00:12,880 --> 00:00:17,000 Speaker 1: a cute Christian. Here Stephen Shirley. I'm a thirty two 6 00:00:17,079 --> 00:00:19,920 Speaker 1: year old newly divorced mom of a one year old child. 7 00:00:20,200 --> 00:00:23,160 Speaker 1: I haven't dated in a long time, so I decided 8 00:00:23,160 --> 00:00:27,040 Speaker 1: an online Christian dating site instead of suffering through blind 9 00:00:27,160 --> 00:00:30,200 Speaker 1: dates and meeting losers whenever I'm out with my girlfriends. 10 00:00:30,520 --> 00:00:32,800 Speaker 1: I've been on the Christian dating site a few months 11 00:00:32,800 --> 00:00:35,000 Speaker 1: and I met a nice thirty nine year old man. 12 00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:38,760 Speaker 1: We've been chatting and talking for the last month. We've 13 00:00:38,800 --> 00:00:42,240 Speaker 1: exchanged several pictures since we met, and he has yet 14 00:00:42,520 --> 00:00:46,680 Speaker 1: to compliment me on my looks. I'm not sure if 15 00:00:46,720 --> 00:00:49,720 Speaker 1: there is a physical attraction for him because he hasn't 16 00:00:49,760 --> 00:00:53,440 Speaker 1: said anything. Now I know I am a beautiful woman, 17 00:00:53,680 --> 00:00:55,959 Speaker 1: and all of my male friends tell me I am 18 00:00:56,000 --> 00:00:58,800 Speaker 1: gorgeous and I won't be single for long. I have 19 00:00:58,920 --> 00:01:01,520 Speaker 1: lost all of my baby weight and I'm slender with 20 00:01:01,560 --> 00:01:05,600 Speaker 1: a great shape. I am not insecure about my looks. 21 00:01:05,640 --> 00:01:09,360 Speaker 1: At all, But I can't understand why he's choosing to 22 00:01:09,440 --> 00:01:13,119 Speaker 1: overlook my looks. He has complimented me on my dedication 23 00:01:13,160 --> 00:01:16,800 Speaker 1: to my Christian values, how I'm raising my child as 24 00:01:16,800 --> 00:01:19,520 Speaker 1: a single mom, and the fact that I have a 25 00:01:19,560 --> 00:01:23,160 Speaker 1: great job, my own home, and a nice car, but 26 00:01:23,360 --> 00:01:29,520 Speaker 1: never anything about my looks, my hair, my smile, things nothing. 27 00:01:30,360 --> 00:01:32,600 Speaker 1: I would hope that he's into me as much as 28 00:01:32,640 --> 00:01:36,520 Speaker 1: I'm into him, because we seem to be compatible, but 29 00:01:36,640 --> 00:01:39,520 Speaker 1: you can really can you really be compatible if there's 30 00:01:39,560 --> 00:01:42,640 Speaker 1: no physical attraction? Could it be that he does think 31 00:01:42,640 --> 00:01:45,440 Speaker 1: I'm beautiful but doesn't want to tell me just yet. 32 00:01:46,120 --> 00:01:48,320 Speaker 1: I don't have time to play mind games with anyone 33 00:01:48,360 --> 00:01:50,480 Speaker 1: that I meet, So should I just come out and 34 00:01:50,560 --> 00:01:54,000 Speaker 1: ask him I'm a cute Christian whether he sees it 35 00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:57,320 Speaker 1: or not. Again, I've never heard anyone say I'm a 36 00:01:57,400 --> 00:02:02,480 Speaker 1: cute Christian. But so I gotta tell you this. If 37 00:02:02,520 --> 00:02:04,720 Speaker 1: you know you're attractive or cute as you say in 38 00:02:04,720 --> 00:02:07,720 Speaker 1: the letter, and that all your male friends tell you 39 00:02:07,720 --> 00:02:09,600 Speaker 1: you're cute, and you won't be single for long and 40 00:02:09,639 --> 00:02:11,840 Speaker 1: all of that, well what more do you need? I mean, 41 00:02:11,919 --> 00:02:15,600 Speaker 1: you don't even know this man, right, So why do 42 00:02:15,639 --> 00:02:18,919 Speaker 1: you need validation from him. You say you're not insecure, 43 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:22,280 Speaker 1: but this letter reeks of insecurity to me. I mean, 44 00:02:22,320 --> 00:02:25,000 Speaker 1: that's so important to you for him to compliment you 45 00:02:25,040 --> 00:02:28,160 Speaker 1: on your looks. Was your husband that you divorced? He 46 00:02:28,200 --> 00:02:30,440 Speaker 1: not compliment you on your looks. You didn't mention that 47 00:02:30,800 --> 00:02:33,440 Speaker 1: is this something? It sounds like it's something you really need, 48 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:38,440 Speaker 1: and that reeks of insecurity as far as I'm concerned. 49 00:02:38,480 --> 00:02:40,399 Speaker 1: You look in the mirror, you passed by the mirror. 50 00:02:40,560 --> 00:02:42,399 Speaker 1: You know what you look like. You know if you're 51 00:02:42,520 --> 00:02:45,040 Speaker 1: an attractive woman. You say you've lost your baby weight, 52 00:02:45,400 --> 00:02:47,600 Speaker 1: you know you got your figure back and all of that. 53 00:02:47,919 --> 00:02:51,200 Speaker 1: So you don't need validation from this man. Now, remember 54 00:02:51,280 --> 00:02:54,799 Speaker 1: this is a Christian site and he's complimenting you on 55 00:02:54,960 --> 00:03:00,240 Speaker 1: Christian things. Okay, what's wrong with him complimenting you on 56 00:03:00,520 --> 00:03:03,560 Speaker 1: your dedication to your Christian values, how you're raising your 57 00:03:03,600 --> 00:03:06,120 Speaker 1: child as a single single mom, and the fact that 58 00:03:06,160 --> 00:03:09,480 Speaker 1: you have a great job and you're accomplished. That's really nice. 59 00:03:10,080 --> 00:03:12,239 Speaker 1: But he never says anything about your looks. You say, 60 00:03:12,280 --> 00:03:16,120 Speaker 1: he never says anything about your smile. Now, men are visual, 61 00:03:16,280 --> 00:03:19,480 Speaker 1: they are very visual. They like, you know, a beautiful 62 00:03:19,520 --> 00:03:23,280 Speaker 1: woman that's no secret with anyone. I don't think men 63 00:03:23,320 --> 00:03:26,320 Speaker 1: are very visual. Maybe he wants to wait until you 64 00:03:26,320 --> 00:03:28,840 Speaker 1: guys meet in person to tell you how gorgeous you 65 00:03:28,880 --> 00:03:31,399 Speaker 1: are or something like that. I think you should play 66 00:03:31,440 --> 00:03:34,120 Speaker 1: this out. I don't think you should rush to judgment 67 00:03:34,200 --> 00:03:36,520 Speaker 1: just because he hasn't said anything like that. If you 68 00:03:36,560 --> 00:03:38,920 Speaker 1: already know you're confident, I'm going to tell you something 69 00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:42,680 Speaker 1: that makes you even more beautiful. And that's inner beauty, 70 00:03:42,080 --> 00:03:45,480 Speaker 1: and that's confident. Okay, that's what a lot of men 71 00:03:45,760 --> 00:03:49,160 Speaker 1: are attracted to, not just your outer beauty. So don't 72 00:03:49,240 --> 00:03:52,640 Speaker 1: let your insecurity start showing. Because he hasn't said. A 73 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:55,280 Speaker 1: man that you met online hasn't said that you look good. 74 00:03:55,520 --> 00:03:58,400 Speaker 1: That's coming. If you look good and all of that, 75 00:03:58,520 --> 00:04:00,680 Speaker 1: it's going to come. You don't gonna have to worry 76 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:08,280 Speaker 1: about that. Junior. Wait, well, I believe go ahead. I 77 00:04:08,320 --> 00:04:12,240 Speaker 1: don't know what to say about this letter, but yeah, 78 00:04:12,280 --> 00:04:15,120 Speaker 1: I have to own this one here, Timmy. Uh, because 79 00:04:15,160 --> 00:04:19,400 Speaker 1: you're a Christian, because I'm a Christian. All right, Yeah, 80 00:04:19,440 --> 00:04:23,120 Speaker 1: I'm a Christian. She's a Christian. Now, it's two things 81 00:04:23,160 --> 00:04:26,880 Speaker 1: happening here. Ahead. See, either you're dating a blind man 82 00:04:29,080 --> 00:04:32,840 Speaker 1: or you're just not cute. See that's today's title of 83 00:04:32,920 --> 00:04:37,039 Speaker 1: the sermon. Either you're dating the blind man? Are you 84 00:04:37,160 --> 00:04:39,760 Speaker 1: just not cute? Well, I'm gonna tell you why I 85 00:04:39,839 --> 00:04:42,000 Speaker 1: say that. Let me just don't get right to it. 86 00:04:42,000 --> 00:04:44,680 Speaker 1: Imma tell you why I say that, Because because men 87 00:04:44,800 --> 00:04:49,920 Speaker 1: don't wait long, because say what they really see. Take 88 00:04:49,960 --> 00:04:52,880 Speaker 1: it to men don't wait long to say what they 89 00:04:52,960 --> 00:04:56,359 Speaker 1: really see. Preach. See if you fine, I'm gonna say. Fine. 90 00:04:57,960 --> 00:05:00,719 Speaker 1: See if you're attractive, I'm gonna say, are you attracted? 91 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:03,080 Speaker 1: Come on? Come, this man sitting here with you the 92 00:05:03,080 --> 00:05:07,040 Speaker 1: whole time ain't mentioned it. Either he blind or you 93 00:05:07,200 --> 00:05:09,159 Speaker 1: just not cute. But I tell you the Christian I 94 00:05:09,200 --> 00:05:15,440 Speaker 1: did see. I see a conceited Christian. I'm not sure 95 00:05:15,440 --> 00:05:17,800 Speaker 1: if you're cute, but I know there's a materialistic Christian. 96 00:05:18,640 --> 00:05:21,040 Speaker 1: I'm not saying that you're not cute, but your show 97 00:05:21,160 --> 00:05:24,560 Speaker 1: is enough of sticks. Low self esteem Christian. Yeah, I 98 00:05:24,600 --> 00:05:29,080 Speaker 1: don't know about this, but you need validation Christian. You 99 00:05:29,160 --> 00:05:33,320 Speaker 1: are an attention seeking Christian. You a date site Christian. 100 00:05:33,960 --> 00:05:36,400 Speaker 1: You need somebody to help you. Woman. I'm just gonna 101 00:05:36,400 --> 00:05:38,719 Speaker 1: put a tea like this. Come on, you're gonna mess 102 00:05:38,760 --> 00:05:41,880 Speaker 1: around and looking lose a good man because you wants 103 00:05:41,920 --> 00:05:45,159 Speaker 1: to be seen. See what about your inter beauty? Does 104 00:05:45,200 --> 00:05:47,640 Speaker 1: that exist? Are you a cooking Christian? Because we need 105 00:05:47,640 --> 00:05:52,560 Speaker 1: a lot of them out here? On said, are you 106 00:05:52,600 --> 00:05:56,800 Speaker 1: a house seeing that you're not a cooking Christian? You 107 00:05:57,000 --> 00:06:00,160 Speaker 1: took offense because that's what you're not. But there the 108 00:06:00,240 --> 00:06:03,080 Speaker 1: Christians you could beat. How about you a house cleaning Christian? 109 00:06:03,279 --> 00:06:06,599 Speaker 1: Can you do that? Can you keep a clean car? Christian? 110 00:06:06,600 --> 00:06:10,599 Speaker 1: Can you do that? Can you fall the finish sheet? Christian? Man? 111 00:06:10,760 --> 00:06:13,760 Speaker 1: Can you beat that? For me? Astor Christian? I need? 112 00:06:14,680 --> 00:06:18,039 Speaker 1: I'll take my seat. All right, all right, we'll have 113 00:06:18,160 --> 00:06:21,680 Speaker 1: part two of the Strawberry Letter, subject I'm a cute Christian. 114 00:06:21,880 --> 00:06:25,000 Speaker 1: I've never heard that before. He's subject I'm a cute Christian. 115 00:06:25,040 --> 00:06:27,440 Speaker 1: Thirty two year old newly divorced woman wrote in she 116 00:06:27,520 --> 00:06:29,640 Speaker 1: has a one year old child. She is in data 117 00:06:29,640 --> 00:06:31,600 Speaker 1: in a long time, so she went on a Christian 118 00:06:31,720 --> 00:06:35,000 Speaker 1: online dating site. She met a really nice thirty nine 119 00:06:35,080 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 1: year old man. She says they've been chatting it up 120 00:06:38,120 --> 00:06:41,520 Speaker 1: and talking for about the last month. They've exchanged pictures 121 00:06:41,560 --> 00:06:44,240 Speaker 1: and all of that stuff. Never once says he commented 122 00:06:44,320 --> 00:06:48,280 Speaker 1: on her looks and this is concerning for her taken 123 00:06:48,279 --> 00:06:51,200 Speaker 1: aback because she wants him to say how beautiful and 124 00:06:51,240 --> 00:06:53,359 Speaker 1: fine and cute she is, because she thinks she's a 125 00:06:53,400 --> 00:06:57,560 Speaker 1: cute Christian. She says she's not insecure about her looks, 126 00:06:57,560 --> 00:07:00,120 Speaker 1: though she says that right here in the letter. She 127 00:07:00,160 --> 00:07:03,560 Speaker 1: says she's complimented. The Christian that she met online has 128 00:07:03,600 --> 00:07:08,440 Speaker 1: complimented her on everything her how her Christian values her, 129 00:07:08,560 --> 00:07:10,880 Speaker 1: her the fact that she's a good mom, and et cetera, 130 00:07:10,960 --> 00:07:14,400 Speaker 1: et cetera, but nothing on her physical attraction or about 131 00:07:14,440 --> 00:07:16,920 Speaker 1: her looks, her hair, or her smile. She says, should 132 00:07:16,960 --> 00:07:19,280 Speaker 1: she just come out and ask him? She says, she's 133 00:07:19,320 --> 00:07:22,200 Speaker 1: a cute Christian whether he sees it or not. Jay, 134 00:07:22,360 --> 00:07:27,200 Speaker 1: what you got? I just want to continue with well, 135 00:07:27,320 --> 00:07:32,200 Speaker 1: brother Junior left off, because if you read the Bible, 136 00:07:32,200 --> 00:07:35,480 Speaker 1: and I read some of it, not all of it, 137 00:07:36,440 --> 00:07:39,760 Speaker 1: I have not read the whole thing all your life 138 00:07:39,960 --> 00:07:42,240 Speaker 1: that I read it all. But I know for effect 139 00:07:42,320 --> 00:07:46,240 Speaker 1: from talk until Christians that the word cute ain't in 140 00:07:46,240 --> 00:07:51,160 Speaker 1: the Bible, the Bible at all. God never said Sutton 141 00:07:51,240 --> 00:07:55,320 Speaker 1: said was cute, or Sutonseus was fine, or Sun had 142 00:07:55,400 --> 00:08:02,760 Speaker 1: long's babyweight, but good it does speak to the ugly. Now, 143 00:08:02,760 --> 00:08:04,800 Speaker 1: I'll tell you what the Bible says ugly, because it 144 00:08:04,840 --> 00:08:08,560 Speaker 1: doesn't say the word ugly. It says tender. I if 145 00:08:08,600 --> 00:08:12,600 Speaker 1: the are the tender, that means that's not good to 146 00:08:12,840 --> 00:08:15,640 Speaker 1: look at it. So as long as he had not 147 00:08:15,880 --> 00:08:20,680 Speaker 1: said you are not tender I, which means ugly. If 148 00:08:20,680 --> 00:08:22,960 Speaker 1: you don't understand, like I said, I ain't read all 149 00:08:22,960 --> 00:08:25,440 Speaker 1: the Bible. I won't confess that I ain't read at all. 150 00:08:25,800 --> 00:08:28,000 Speaker 1: And I'm not preaching to you that I read everything 151 00:08:28,080 --> 00:08:32,760 Speaker 1: in the Bible. But and maybe just maybe he used 152 00:08:32,840 --> 00:08:36,280 Speaker 1: to people shoot up in you. You know what I'm saying. 153 00:08:36,679 --> 00:08:39,640 Speaker 1: That's all I'm saying. You are you are not tender. 154 00:08:39,760 --> 00:08:41,920 Speaker 1: I ain't. I ain't read all the bibble. Let me 155 00:08:41,960 --> 00:08:43,679 Speaker 1: just say that you might be able to thumb do 156 00:08:43,840 --> 00:08:46,160 Speaker 1: that and see what I'm wrong. But I ain't read 157 00:08:46,200 --> 00:08:49,080 Speaker 1: at all. Well, I'm preaching for what I read and 158 00:08:49,240 --> 00:08:52,280 Speaker 1: what I know. He has not said you are tender 159 00:08:52,400 --> 00:08:55,480 Speaker 1: I meaning ugly. So as long as he ain't said that, 160 00:08:55,960 --> 00:08:58,920 Speaker 1: it sounds like to me, I swell, I ain't read 161 00:08:58,960 --> 00:09:00,800 Speaker 1: all the Bible, read a lot of it, read a 162 00:09:00,840 --> 00:09:04,400 Speaker 1: lot of it. We get it pastor I read a 163 00:09:04,400 --> 00:09:06,200 Speaker 1: lot of it, but I ain't read it all now, 164 00:09:06,200 --> 00:09:08,080 Speaker 1: and they have people out there who've read it all. 165 00:09:08,800 --> 00:09:14,720 Speaker 1: I'm not that guy. But you got a church. But 166 00:09:14,920 --> 00:09:18,760 Speaker 1: as long as he has not said you are not tender, 167 00:09:19,800 --> 00:09:22,280 Speaker 1: you have okay, okay, Now, I don't miss up a 168 00:09:22,360 --> 00:09:26,920 Speaker 1: good thing just because you think you're cute. Maybe just 169 00:09:27,320 --> 00:09:32,600 Speaker 1: maybe he used to somebody cute it than you, And 170 00:09:32,679 --> 00:09:34,559 Speaker 1: that's all you had to go about. And that's all 171 00:09:34,600 --> 00:09:36,080 Speaker 1: you had to go by the fact that he had 172 00:09:36,120 --> 00:09:38,120 Speaker 1: not said that. I'm thumbing through the Bible right now 173 00:09:38,160 --> 00:09:41,720 Speaker 1: and I'm looking at watching the word cute in it. 174 00:09:41,960 --> 00:09:45,400 Speaker 1: It says fearlessly and wonderfully made. Yeah, yes, it's a 175 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:48,560 Speaker 1: great book. And one day, one day I will read 176 00:09:48,559 --> 00:09:52,079 Speaker 1: it all. But I had I'm coming to you a 177 00:09:52,840 --> 00:09:54,720 Speaker 1: thank you that I ain't read it all all right, 178 00:09:55,920 --> 00:09:58,440 Speaker 1: I got to say about that. All right, come on 179 00:09:58,720 --> 00:10:05,640 Speaker 1: us thinking it, come up ast to Tommy. I'm gonna 180 00:10:05,679 --> 00:10:08,880 Speaker 1: try to straighten this thing out, close it out. Since 181 00:10:08,920 --> 00:10:10,679 Speaker 1: we're preaching this thing, and I didn't know that's what 182 00:10:10,679 --> 00:10:12,319 Speaker 1: we were doing. But since we're doing, and then that 183 00:10:12,440 --> 00:10:18,040 Speaker 1: that that that what we're doing. I'm gonna use today's 184 00:10:18,080 --> 00:10:27,160 Speaker 1: text as you are and ugly Christian with a beautiful spirit. 185 00:10:27,679 --> 00:10:31,280 Speaker 1: Huh huh, all right, one more time. You are a 186 00:10:31,559 --> 00:10:40,920 Speaker 1: ugly Christian with a beautiful spirit. Now take it from 187 00:10:40,960 --> 00:10:44,440 Speaker 1: a handsome sexy Christian, because that's what I am. You 188 00:10:44,480 --> 00:10:48,600 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. Huh And yeah, I'm I'm I'm 189 00:10:49,160 --> 00:10:54,520 Speaker 1: I am a handsome and sexy Christian. You know when 190 00:10:54,520 --> 00:10:58,600 Speaker 1: you see me, when you when you see me, I 191 00:10:58,800 --> 00:11:03,240 Speaker 1: make you uh uh slava all over yourself. I'm that 192 00:11:03,360 --> 00:11:06,680 Speaker 1: kind of sex and Christian when you see me, Wow, 193 00:11:06,760 --> 00:11:10,480 Speaker 1: you know you make more chestnuts. Say boy, move, let 194 00:11:10,480 --> 00:11:12,160 Speaker 1: me try to get the time. And when you see 195 00:11:12,280 --> 00:11:16,400 Speaker 1: me like that, I'm meant sex and kind of Christie. 196 00:11:16,520 --> 00:11:19,400 Speaker 1: And you know I'm saying, when you see me, you 197 00:11:19,559 --> 00:11:22,240 Speaker 1: make your mard more boy if you don't get out 198 00:11:22,280 --> 00:11:26,920 Speaker 1: from in front of time. And when you see me, 199 00:11:27,200 --> 00:11:30,920 Speaker 1: when you see how sexy I'm really you, that's because 200 00:11:30,960 --> 00:11:34,840 Speaker 1: that's the kind of sexy I be whole, I transgress. 201 00:11:34,840 --> 00:11:36,559 Speaker 1: That's the kind of the kind of the kind of 202 00:11:36,600 --> 00:11:39,080 Speaker 1: sexy that is within me. But seeing you, you, you 203 00:11:39,360 --> 00:11:43,160 Speaker 1: ugly Christian. Uh, we gotta go. You can email us 204 00:11:43,160 --> 00:11:47,760 Speaker 1: your Instagram. 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