1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:21,680 Speaker 1: Hmmmm. Hello everyone, it's your girl Cheekies, and you've reached 2 00:00:21,680 --> 00:00:23,960 Speaker 1: the voice smail box for dear Cheekies, I'm here to 3 00:00:24,000 --> 00:00:26,720 Speaker 1: give you advice on anything and everything you need help with. 4 00:00:26,960 --> 00:00:29,240 Speaker 1: Maybe you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues 5 00:00:29,280 --> 00:00:32,000 Speaker 1: with your family, or maybe you need help figuring out 6 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:34,680 Speaker 1: how to balance your checkbook or how to start a business, 7 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:38,159 Speaker 1: whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember 8 00:00:38,280 --> 00:00:40,639 Speaker 1: these are my thoughts and opinions, and if you're suffering 9 00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:42,800 Speaker 1: from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from 10 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:45,800 Speaker 1: a qualified professional. All right, Now go ahead and leave 11 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:50,840 Speaker 1: your question at the sound of the babe huh. Now, 12 00:00:52,680 --> 00:00:57,240 Speaker 1: my question for you is how do you deal with friendships? 13 00:00:57,320 --> 00:01:00,360 Speaker 1: Like your best friend me? My best friend always are you. 14 00:01:00,560 --> 00:01:03,360 Speaker 1: We always find but we always come back to each other. 15 00:01:03,520 --> 00:01:06,040 Speaker 1: It's kind of a relationship in a way, and it's 16 00:01:06,040 --> 00:01:08,360 Speaker 1: so hard because you know, I feel like we stick 17 00:01:08,440 --> 00:01:10,959 Speaker 1: together because of the memory and I just don't want 18 00:01:10,959 --> 00:01:13,760 Speaker 1: to lose her as a friend. So my question for 19 00:01:13,800 --> 00:01:16,480 Speaker 1: you is how do you deal with that? Like, how 20 00:01:16,480 --> 00:01:18,800 Speaker 1: do you keep your friendships going? Or what do you know? 21 00:01:19,160 --> 00:01:22,280 Speaker 1: What stopped with the friendship? I love you and I'm 22 00:01:22,319 --> 00:01:26,720 Speaker 1: looking forward to hear your message. Jennifer, I love you too. 23 00:01:26,840 --> 00:01:29,480 Speaker 1: I love you too, baby, Thank you so much. This 24 00:01:29,560 --> 00:01:32,600 Speaker 1: is a good question because I went through this. I 25 00:01:32,680 --> 00:01:36,320 Speaker 1: had a friendship of like ten years um with someone 26 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:38,840 Speaker 1: that I considered my best best friend. I called her 27 00:01:39,040 --> 00:01:42,240 Speaker 1: my soul sister, and we just had a really bad 28 00:01:42,280 --> 00:01:45,520 Speaker 1: falling out. We just recently started kind of talking here 29 00:01:45,520 --> 00:01:47,760 Speaker 1: and there. Of course, things will never ever be the same. 30 00:01:47,800 --> 00:01:49,600 Speaker 1: It was just a really bad falling out. It broke 31 00:01:49,640 --> 00:01:51,440 Speaker 1: my heart and I'm sure it broke hers. We have 32 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:54,520 Speaker 1: to accept that some people are part of our life 33 00:01:54,800 --> 00:01:56,559 Speaker 1: in that season of our life, and they're not meant 34 00:01:56,600 --> 00:01:59,640 Speaker 1: to move forward in the next season of our life, 35 00:01:59,640 --> 00:02:01,560 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I came to the acceptance 36 00:02:01,600 --> 00:02:03,480 Speaker 1: of you know what, she helped me out through that 37 00:02:03,560 --> 00:02:06,160 Speaker 1: part and that's it, you know what I mean, And 38 00:02:06,240 --> 00:02:08,520 Speaker 1: I I'm gonna stick with the good memories and and 39 00:02:08,600 --> 00:02:11,240 Speaker 1: leave it at that. Now, in any relationship, I always 40 00:02:11,280 --> 00:02:13,720 Speaker 1: tell you guys this, if someone is bringing you more 41 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:19,560 Speaker 1: more sadness, more bitterness, they're making you more upset than happy, 42 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:23,000 Speaker 1: then that's an indication of I don't know if this 43 00:02:23,040 --> 00:02:25,760 Speaker 1: person should stay in my life. Now. I'm not saying 44 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:28,519 Speaker 1: for you to break this friendship up, not at all. 45 00:02:28,960 --> 00:02:30,960 Speaker 1: I think maybe you guys should try giving each other 46 00:02:31,040 --> 00:02:33,440 Speaker 1: some space. You know, if you're feeling this way, you're 47 00:02:33,440 --> 00:02:36,120 Speaker 1: obviously asking me this question because it's been on your mind, 48 00:02:36,160 --> 00:02:38,680 Speaker 1: it's heavy on your heart. So I think if you 49 00:02:38,720 --> 00:02:40,560 Speaker 1: have an open conversation and be like, look, I don't 50 00:02:40,600 --> 00:02:42,560 Speaker 1: want to lose you, and I want you to be 51 00:02:42,600 --> 00:02:44,640 Speaker 1: a part of my life forever. I just need some 52 00:02:44,720 --> 00:02:48,519 Speaker 1: time to kind of reflect. Maybe you do too, or 53 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:50,200 Speaker 1: maybe she just doesn't know how to say it herself. 54 00:02:50,200 --> 00:02:51,880 Speaker 1: But if you guys just say, hey, let's just take 55 00:02:51,919 --> 00:02:54,079 Speaker 1: some time apart a week or two weeks. I don't 56 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:55,840 Speaker 1: know how much time you guys spent together, but you 57 00:02:55,880 --> 00:02:58,720 Speaker 1: guys will know this amount of time will suffice for 58 00:02:58,760 --> 00:03:01,120 Speaker 1: me to figure out do I miss this person or 59 00:03:01,160 --> 00:03:04,320 Speaker 1: do I have more peace without this person? So I think, 60 00:03:04,720 --> 00:03:06,560 Speaker 1: in my heart of hearts, that's kind of what I 61 00:03:06,560 --> 00:03:09,040 Speaker 1: felt when I was listening to your message. Sometimes being 62 00:03:09,080 --> 00:03:12,560 Speaker 1: too in each other's face, come okay, it blurs your 63 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:17,440 Speaker 1: your clarity, your mental clarity when it's just too close. 64 00:03:17,720 --> 00:03:20,880 Speaker 1: When you create some space, it gives you a chance 65 00:03:20,919 --> 00:03:23,919 Speaker 1: to just analyze and reflect and think a little bit 66 00:03:24,280 --> 00:03:26,519 Speaker 1: so and hopefully that'll just I don't know, maybe you 67 00:03:26,560 --> 00:03:28,320 Speaker 1: guys will realize, you know what, like I miss you 68 00:03:28,360 --> 00:03:30,320 Speaker 1: so much, I love you, let's not fight so much, 69 00:03:30,360 --> 00:03:31,639 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like, let's let me a 70 00:03:31,720 --> 00:03:35,520 Speaker 1: pain in each other's ass. So, yeah, that is my suggestion, Jennifer, 71 00:03:35,600 --> 00:03:38,400 Speaker 1: and I hope that it helps. Let me know how 72 00:03:38,440 --> 00:03:45,000 Speaker 1: it goes, okay. Next up is a question from Estevan. 73 00:03:51,040 --> 00:04:17,840 Speaker 1: Okay is oh gena is the conflictus to exto so 74 00:04:17,920 --> 00:04:25,719 Speaker 1: the defense face in Instagram, I'm used teva cando. Wow, 75 00:04:26,160 --> 00:04:34,520 Speaker 1: there's a Columbia No manchesq romosocucarte grassies, grasses for defenders, 76 00:04:36,960 --> 00:05:00,800 Speaker 1: ganas no service men canta Columbia Columbiana as Koinia is 77 00:05:00,920 --> 00:05:11,400 Speaker 1: te moquera estras is the citecmo bolin sire so Jack 78 00:05:11,600 --> 00:05:28,000 Speaker 1: and jo nopen ce nopen sea, Loca mima rado is 79 00:05:28,080 --> 00:05:42,000 Speaker 1: InCAR and como to nomeco no cema serimusica and the 80 00:05:42,120 --> 00:05:50,960 Speaker 1: hard port open sea certan defici esta. Just Pocoma's court 81 00:05:51,480 --> 00:06:01,440 Speaker 1: is do no mas marina mascuria and medio portala meconnos 82 00:06:01,520 --> 00:06:13,760 Speaker 1: and just to Tranquila gamoo movi in is the on 83 00:06:13,880 --> 00:06:19,039 Speaker 1: Facebook and Instagram as the past. Real mente felis not 84 00:06:19,160 --> 00:06:33,440 Speaker 1: in the tempo and jo are okay teo so itam 85 00:06:33,480 --> 00:06:49,040 Speaker 1: bien apprentidos on no press, no press. Real Mente is 86 00:06:49,120 --> 00:06:58,760 Speaker 1: fruitar elda the grasses and your poresta grassies porque tenggoa, 87 00:06:58,920 --> 00:07:07,279 Speaker 1: porquete chobe. Real mente is fruit. There isaboi army esta, 88 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:40,160 Speaker 1: espirito cambia, felice metripas is the seas, No enola, gracias, prazias, 89 00:07:40,200 --> 00:07:56,800 Speaker 1: porto martel tiempo, espero ja Colombia is them esperoq inos Okay. Last, 90 00:07:56,840 --> 00:08:01,320 Speaker 1: but not least is a question from Maria. Hey cheeks 91 00:08:02,120 --> 00:08:04,480 Speaker 1: almost pass. First of all, I want to tell you 92 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:06,800 Speaker 1: that you're a great woman. I follow your journey and 93 00:08:06,880 --> 00:08:10,640 Speaker 1: I see your growth. Love your girl anyway, So right 94 00:08:10,680 --> 00:08:12,280 Speaker 1: now I'm at the point of my life where I 95 00:08:12,320 --> 00:08:14,640 Speaker 1: don't know what to do. I live in Houston. UM 96 00:08:15,000 --> 00:08:17,400 Speaker 1: Me and my husband got her house. Things have not 97 00:08:17,560 --> 00:08:22,440 Speaker 1: been working out. He has a drinking problem. Unless it 98 00:08:22,480 --> 00:08:25,520 Speaker 1: made he go on from Houston, Texas, and I've just 99 00:08:25,680 --> 00:08:28,720 Speaker 1: been thinking about moving to Dallas with my kids. UM. 100 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:31,520 Speaker 1: I have two little toddlers and I don't know what 101 00:08:31,640 --> 00:08:36,839 Speaker 1: to do anymore. It's the nothing because I've just been 102 00:08:36,880 --> 00:08:40,320 Speaker 1: staying at home with my kids and I just don't 103 00:08:40,320 --> 00:08:42,640 Speaker 1: have it together. So I don't know what to do. 104 00:08:42,840 --> 00:08:44,560 Speaker 1: I don't know if to make up, plan and leave. 105 00:08:45,280 --> 00:08:47,640 Speaker 1: It's just not working out. I can tell that both 106 00:08:47,679 --> 00:08:50,600 Speaker 1: of us still love each other, but I'm a cancer, 107 00:08:50,760 --> 00:08:53,439 Speaker 1: he's a Libra. We just don't get along and so 108 00:08:53,559 --> 00:08:57,520 Speaker 1: many things. I'm My kids are small. My old disc 109 00:08:57,559 --> 00:08:59,600 Speaker 1: goes to school now, but my little one still has 110 00:08:59,640 --> 00:09:06,240 Speaker 1: a year left. Okay, Maria, um, Well, thank you so 111 00:09:06,480 --> 00:09:09,720 Speaker 1: much for your love, for your support. I am very 112 00:09:09,840 --> 00:09:13,040 Speaker 1: grateful sending you a big, big hug. I'm sending you 113 00:09:13,080 --> 00:09:14,440 Speaker 1: a big hug because I could hear it in your 114 00:09:14,520 --> 00:09:18,360 Speaker 1: voice that you are very very confused and you don't 115 00:09:18,400 --> 00:09:22,000 Speaker 1: know which direction to take and you're hurting. I feel it. 116 00:09:22,640 --> 00:09:26,719 Speaker 1: I could hear it, and I'm glad that you came 117 00:09:26,760 --> 00:09:29,400 Speaker 1: to ask me, because I'm going to be honest with you, okay, 118 00:09:29,520 --> 00:09:32,080 Speaker 1: And this is very very touchy you guys, because again, 119 00:09:32,160 --> 00:09:34,319 Speaker 1: I'm not a therapist. I'm not a counselor, you know, 120 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:36,680 Speaker 1: and it's a relationship, so I'm not going to tell 121 00:09:36,720 --> 00:09:41,120 Speaker 1: you divorce him, leave him. I'm just going to line 122 00:09:41,160 --> 00:09:43,360 Speaker 1: it out for you and then you make the decision. 123 00:09:44,080 --> 00:09:49,920 Speaker 1: Um being with someone that has an addiction, that is 124 00:09:49,920 --> 00:09:54,480 Speaker 1: an alcoholic it is a disease. It is and I 125 00:09:54,600 --> 00:09:57,920 Speaker 1: commend you for for being there for him and sticking 126 00:09:57,960 --> 00:09:59,840 Speaker 1: by his side and trying to make it work because 127 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:01,959 Speaker 1: as you love each other and you guys have kids together. 128 00:10:02,559 --> 00:10:06,079 Speaker 1: Is they? But it's not easy. It's not easy, especially 129 00:10:06,400 --> 00:10:09,720 Speaker 1: if the person doesn't want to help themselves see us 130 00:10:09,760 --> 00:10:20,760 Speaker 1: eprisona nokiapasos necessario Sparra Gambier. Is they and they are 131 00:10:20,840 --> 00:10:24,640 Speaker 1: not only digging themselves in a hole, but they're also 132 00:10:24,800 --> 00:10:28,040 Speaker 1: digging other people in a hole. And you're a mother. 133 00:10:28,240 --> 00:10:32,360 Speaker 1: You have a responsibility to be an example to protect 134 00:10:32,400 --> 00:10:36,439 Speaker 1: your children. And if you're not happy, and if you're 135 00:10:36,480 --> 00:10:41,320 Speaker 1: feeling this way a lot more than feeling happy, than 136 00:10:41,360 --> 00:10:45,559 Speaker 1: feeling excited, than feeling motivated, then that is already a 137 00:10:45,679 --> 00:10:48,880 Speaker 1: red flag in my opinion. You know what I mean, 138 00:10:49,720 --> 00:10:51,679 Speaker 1: You have these kids and to me, they are the 139 00:10:51,760 --> 00:10:54,959 Speaker 1: priority of showing them and be an example for them. 140 00:10:55,120 --> 00:10:59,120 Speaker 1: And would you want this for your children? You know 141 00:10:59,160 --> 00:11:00,680 Speaker 1: what I mean? You have to ask yourself that question. 142 00:11:00,720 --> 00:11:02,000 Speaker 1: And what has helped me and what helped me in 143 00:11:02,080 --> 00:11:06,640 Speaker 1: my past was writing down the good things, the pros 144 00:11:06,800 --> 00:11:11,199 Speaker 1: about staying in this relationship, and then the cons of 145 00:11:11,320 --> 00:11:15,400 Speaker 1: staying in this relationship, what outweighs, What are there more 146 00:11:15,920 --> 00:11:19,320 Speaker 1: negative things are more positive things? Only you'll be able 147 00:11:19,320 --> 00:11:21,760 Speaker 1: to answer that if he hasn't tried to go to 148 00:11:21,880 --> 00:11:24,400 Speaker 1: a a or if he hasn't tried to go to 149 00:11:24,559 --> 00:11:27,960 Speaker 1: some type of like help, it's just and he doesn't 150 00:11:28,000 --> 00:11:30,839 Speaker 1: have the willpower to stop it for his family, then 151 00:11:30,920 --> 00:11:35,079 Speaker 1: he is putting his addiction the alcoholism first before you 152 00:11:35,200 --> 00:11:38,079 Speaker 1: and his kids. And and that worries me that especially 153 00:11:38,160 --> 00:11:41,160 Speaker 1: if you're feeling like this, And you should never, in 154 00:11:41,280 --> 00:11:44,240 Speaker 1: my opinion, stay with anybody out of pity because you 155 00:11:44,320 --> 00:11:47,000 Speaker 1: feel sorry for them. And you shouldn't stay with someone 156 00:11:47,480 --> 00:11:51,000 Speaker 1: because it's convenient, you know, because he takes care of 157 00:11:51,080 --> 00:11:52,679 Speaker 1: the bills, you know what I mean, Like, I get 158 00:11:52,720 --> 00:11:54,199 Speaker 1: it right now, you don't have a job and stuff, 159 00:11:54,200 --> 00:11:57,720 Speaker 1: But if you have someone in Dallas that could help 160 00:11:57,800 --> 00:11:59,760 Speaker 1: you with the kids while you go to work, I 161 00:11:59,760 --> 00:12:02,319 Speaker 1: don't know. Again, only you know all this stuff, but 162 00:12:02,400 --> 00:12:04,360 Speaker 1: I'm just kind of laying it out for you. You 163 00:12:04,600 --> 00:12:08,760 Speaker 1: have to put yourself and your children first right now, 164 00:12:08,800 --> 00:12:12,040 Speaker 1: because they still very much need you, especially if your 165 00:12:12,120 --> 00:12:17,280 Speaker 1: partner isn't doing his part in the relationship and bringing 166 00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:21,320 Speaker 1: you more problems than than good things. It's easier said 167 00:12:21,520 --> 00:12:23,959 Speaker 1: than done. I know this is a hard situation, and 168 00:12:24,120 --> 00:12:25,959 Speaker 1: I know it's something that's been tormenting your mind. I 169 00:12:26,080 --> 00:12:28,920 Speaker 1: can tell for a long time. But you are going 170 00:12:29,040 --> 00:12:32,599 Speaker 1: to feel much better making a decision, whether making a 171 00:12:32,640 --> 00:12:35,440 Speaker 1: decision of saying I am staying. This is the father 172 00:12:35,520 --> 00:12:37,920 Speaker 1: of my kids. I'm gonna stay in this relationship no 173 00:12:38,040 --> 00:12:39,640 Speaker 1: matter what. I'm going to work through it. I'm going 174 00:12:39,679 --> 00:12:43,480 Speaker 1: to help him, or the decision is I'm leaving. I 175 00:12:43,600 --> 00:12:45,800 Speaker 1: love him, but this is not safe for my kids, 176 00:12:45,920 --> 00:12:48,959 Speaker 1: is not safe for me. I'm leaving. I have to 177 00:12:49,040 --> 00:12:50,679 Speaker 1: do and I will leave it in god tiense and 178 00:12:50,760 --> 00:12:52,839 Speaker 1: I will figure it out one way or another. But 179 00:12:52,920 --> 00:12:54,480 Speaker 1: you need to make a decision because when you're in 180 00:12:54,520 --> 00:12:57,200 Speaker 1: the middle, it brings confusion. It doesn't give you clarity, 181 00:12:57,240 --> 00:12:59,240 Speaker 1: it doesn't allow you to keep going. It just brings 182 00:12:59,280 --> 00:13:01,120 Speaker 1: so much sad it is it's when you're in limbo. 183 00:13:01,480 --> 00:13:03,440 Speaker 1: So you have to make a solid decision and make 184 00:13:03,480 --> 00:13:06,320 Speaker 1: it soon, because time is of the essence and life 185 00:13:06,400 --> 00:13:08,719 Speaker 1: is beautiful, baby, Life is beautiful, and like you have 186 00:13:08,920 --> 00:13:10,680 Speaker 1: to enjoy it, and you have to be with someone 187 00:13:10,800 --> 00:13:13,400 Speaker 1: that loves you and embraces you and wants to be 188 00:13:13,520 --> 00:13:20,560 Speaker 1: the best version of themselves for you. That's what you deserve. Okay. So, Maria, 189 00:13:20,880 --> 00:13:23,199 Speaker 1: I really hope that I helped, and I swear to 190 00:13:23,280 --> 00:13:33,040 Speaker 1: you I am sending you and I am I'm praying 191 00:13:33,080 --> 00:13:34,800 Speaker 1: for you and your kids. Baby. I hope it gets 192 00:13:34,880 --> 00:13:38,800 Speaker 1: better one way or the other. Okay, guys, those are 193 00:13:38,840 --> 00:13:42,240 Speaker 1: all the questions we have for today. A big thank 194 00:13:42,280 --> 00:13:45,520 Speaker 1: you to Jennifer, to a Stevan and Maria. Please leave 195 00:13:45,600 --> 00:13:50,160 Speaker 1: me your questions at speak pipe dot com, slash Cheeckens 196 00:13:50,200 --> 00:14:00,360 Speaker 1: and Chill podcast. I'm looking forward to hearing from you. Yeah. 197 00:14:03,720 --> 00:14:06,120 Speaker 1: This is a production of I Heart Radio and the 198 00:14:06,240 --> 00:14:09,760 Speaker 1: Michael Dura podcast Network. Follow us on Instagram at Michael 199 00:14:09,800 --> 00:14:13,040 Speaker 1: Dura podcast and follow me chickys. That's c h I 200 00:14:13,240 --> 00:14:16,440 Speaker 1: q U I S. 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