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Speaker 1: subject talking in his sleep. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm married

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Speaker 1: to a man that overindulges in everything he does. He

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Speaker 1: believes in going big in life. If we're at dinner,

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Speaker 1: he has to invite all of his friends, male and female.

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Speaker 1: He is a big smoker too. He loves cigars, pipes, weed,

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Speaker 1: and hookah and there's a female in town that owns

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Speaker 1: the smoke shop, so he loves to be a big

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Speaker 1: really is a trip and I let him splurge because

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Speaker 1: he runs two successful shops in town. Starting to see

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Speaker 1: that I need to set limits on him for his

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Speaker 1: health and his safety. Healthwise, the smoking has him tired

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Speaker 1: far as his safety is concerned. I'm going to hurt

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Speaker 1: him if he does not stop all of this talking

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Speaker 1: in his sleep and mentioning a woman. It started a

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Speaker 1: month ago, and it was scary the first night because

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Speaker 1: was telling me about a woman named Daphanie that doesn't

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Speaker 1: was sleep. I went through his phone and didn't see

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Speaker 1: a Daphanie in his phone, in his context or its Texas,

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Speaker 1: so I let it go here. Lately, he still mentions Daphanie.

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Speaker 1: It's so weird that he's sang the same name over so.

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Speaker 1: I think he's talking about the owner of the smoke shop,

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Speaker 1: and maybe Daphanie is her middle name. Whoever Daphanie is,

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Speaker 1: doesn't like his cologne. I believe she might be real

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Speaker 1: because he is a sloppy, wet kisser. I've asked him

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Speaker 1: to seek help for his dreams and sleepwalking, but he

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Speaker 1: thinks it's because he's exhausted. I think Daphane may be

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Speaker 1: wearing him out. Does this sound normal to you? Do

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Speaker 1: you think he's cheating? You know what? None of this

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Speaker 1: sounds normal to me, None of it. None of it

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Speaker 1: makes sense. I think it's it's for me. It could

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Speaker 1: be the same thing with your husband. You know this,

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Speaker 1: this sleep talking situation harmless crazy talk. That's usually what

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Speaker 1: the experts say about sleep sleep talking. When you talk

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Speaker 1: and you're sleep, it doesn't mean anything. And you're concerned

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Speaker 1: because he keeps mentioning this one particular person. But like

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Speaker 1: I said, none of this makes sense to me. You

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Speaker 1: don't seem to be too too worried about it, especially

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Speaker 1: after you said Daphne might be wearing him out. I

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Speaker 1: gotta ask you, do you really want to get to

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Speaker 1: the bottom of this? I mean, you're curious enough to

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Speaker 1: write Steve and I and I know you said you're

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Speaker 1: going to hurt him concerning talking about Daphanie, But you

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Speaker 1: haven't even checked to see if the smoke shop owner's

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Speaker 1: name is really Daphanie. I just find that odd, because

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Speaker 1: just knowing that little piece of the puzzle will save

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Speaker 1: you a lot of unwanted stress. It'll make you even

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Speaker 1: more angry at your husband if her name is Daphanie.

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Speaker 1: But you could try to get to the truth at

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Speaker 1: least some of the information about her. You know, in

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Speaker 1: this case, it could be, you know, because of his

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Speaker 1: overindulgence in food and smoking all that stuff. It could

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Speaker 1: be it might be a little more serious than you think.

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Speaker 1: know until you talk to him. So I say, let

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Speaker 1: the investigation start. Let it begin, because you could be

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Speaker 1: creating a problem where there is Most experts say, like

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Speaker 1: I said, sleep talking is harmless. Steve, Well, here's my

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Speaker 1: response to the letter. I appreciate Shirley doing some research

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Speaker 1: saying finding out that most sleep talk is harmless and

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Speaker 1: all like this, you talk in your sleep. See, we

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Speaker 1: didn't know that twenty two years of sitting next to

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Speaker 1: Well that's probably because Shirley, we don't sleep with you,

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Speaker 1: so therefore we didn't know it. If you had the

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Speaker 1: I don't know if it's a problem, but it's gonna

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Speaker 1: have to stop round me. I don't know what you're doing. Look,

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Speaker 1: so here's your deal. You married to this guy who

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Speaker 1: overindulges in everything. He's a big smoker. He likes cigars, pipe, weed, hooker.

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Speaker 1: That's too much. What one do you do? Dog? I'm

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Speaker 1: a cigar guy, but I was a pipe guy first,

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Speaker 1: So I just like the cigars. Now. I have never

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Speaker 1: don't understand it. I don't get it. I don't know

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Speaker 1: how to take the big puss and blow out the

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Speaker 1: big smoke. But you gotta take it in your lungs

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Speaker 1: and do that. Not that's what I don't like. I'm

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Speaker 1: not good at that. So I don't care about smoking.

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Speaker 1: But he loved he too, smoked too damn much. He loves.

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Speaker 1: He got a weed and a hooker. And it's a

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Speaker 1: down that, showing out, spending a lot of money with her.

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Speaker 1: And he's a trip. But you let him splurge because

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Speaker 1: he runs too successful shops in town. I'm starting to

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Speaker 1: seat that you need to set some limits on him.

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Speaker 1: So now I'm curious, that's what these limits gonna be.

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Speaker 1: You say, because you have some health concerns for the

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Speaker 1: smoking has him tied and congested often, so he needs

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Speaker 1: to cut back. So how are you gonna do it?

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Speaker 1: Though I never did hear that plan. As far as

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Speaker 1: Now started a month ago, and the first night he

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Speaker 1: His eyes were closed the whole time he was talking

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Speaker 1: to me. He was telling me about a woman named

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Speaker 1: Daphne that don't like his cologne. I don't know what

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Speaker 1: to tell you. He hast to go get some help. Oh,

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Speaker 1: he says something. He's talking too much. He smoked too much,

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Speaker 1: and he talked too much. And I'm gonna come back

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Speaker 1: and tell you we're gonna have him. He'll get the prophecies,

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Speaker 1: all right, Hang on, Steve, Hang on. We'll have part

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Speaker 1: two of Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes

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Speaker 1: after the hour Today's Strawberry Letters subject talking in his sleep.

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Speaker 1: We'll be back right after this you're listening show, all right,

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, Let's recap today's very letter. H The

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Speaker 1: subject is talking in his fleet. Basically, people were dealing

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Speaker 1: who overindulgence in smoking. He smokes pipes, he smoked cigars,

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Speaker 1: he smoked weed, he smoked hookle. That's everything. That's everything,

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Speaker 1: pretty show. If he can't get his hands on nothing,

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Speaker 1: he gonna get a pack of cigarette. I think the

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Speaker 1: weed is in the hooker. It's a lot, and that

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Speaker 1: And you was gonna but you're gonna talk to him

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Speaker 1: and have him cut back. You didn't mention a plan

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Speaker 1: of having him cut back because health wise, he's tired,

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Speaker 1: Here the real problem. You have to hurt him if

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Speaker 1: he don't stop all this talking in his sleep and

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Speaker 1: mentioning a woman about a month ago. It was scary

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Speaker 1: the first night because he shook me me up. I

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Speaker 1: talking to him. He was telling me about a woman

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Speaker 1: named Daphne. That don't like his cologne. I started responding,

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Speaker 1: only to realize he was sleep Then you got him,

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Speaker 1: went through his phone and didn't see a Daphne in

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Speaker 1: his contacts attacks, so I let it go. Fuck you

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Speaker 1: think he hadn wrote it in that ass Daphne lady

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Speaker 1: you sad? And then here lately he still mentiones Daphnie,

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Speaker 1: and it's weird that he's saying the same name over

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Speaker 1: of the smoke shop, and maybe Daphne is her middle name.

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Speaker 1: Whoever Daphne is. She don't like the way he kisses,

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Speaker 1: be real because he's a sloppy, wet kisser. I've asked

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Speaker 1: him to seek help for his dreams and sleep talking,

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Speaker 1: but he thinks it's because he's exhausted. I think Daphne

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Speaker 1: may be wearing him out. Does this sound normal to you?

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Speaker 1: Do you think he's cheating? No, it don't sound normal

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Speaker 1: happen to know us? No, hell no, ain't normal. Why

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Speaker 1: it's normal? Hell? No? They ain't normal. It's abnormal. But

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Speaker 1: he got to get some help. But this kissing, well,

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Speaker 1: first of all, the kissing this crazy because to be

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Speaker 1: and never had corrected your kissing technique by now, it's ridiculous.

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Speaker 1: Once you get too complaints about your kissing, you should

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Speaker 1: make the adjustments. It ain't hard. You sloppy with kissing.

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Speaker 1: Swallow boy, libelow lighting up, slopping all over the place.

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Speaker 1: and there thing. Who are you going all over the place.

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Speaker 1: You're licking a plate, you're kissing him. I could fix

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Speaker 1: this problem. I know what it is. So anyway, now

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Speaker 1: let's get back to this sleep talking dog. Listen to me. Dog,

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Speaker 1: you have got to go and get yourself some help

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Speaker 1: because you run in your damn mouth. Now I know,

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Speaker 1: Shirley that did some research and found out to sleep

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Speaker 1: talking is absolutely harmless. But you saying the same tale name.

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Speaker 1: You got to get some health food because whoever Daphne is,

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Speaker 1: it's like the Rolling Stones song. I miss you. You've

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Speaker 1: my dream. Oh I miss you, child, one of the

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Speaker 1: greatest Rolling Stones songs ever bought. I bought a Rolling

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Speaker 1: Stone album because of that song. Go right Star in

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Speaker 1: my sleep. You've been haunting me in my dream. So

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Speaker 1: I miss you, child. I superto Rican Gas. That's just

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Speaker 1: to meet you boy boy. Anyway, Yeah, you gotta get

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Speaker 1: this problem solved, dog, because you're talking to damn much.

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Speaker 1: Now that's that's Daphanie real if he keeps saying it,

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Speaker 1: I don't know what to tell you. I don't know

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Speaker 1: what to tell you, but Daphinie is not gonna be

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Speaker 1: listed in the phone. Daphanie is under Doc Vader or

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Speaker 1: something like that. Still still under Daphie is under Dolphin

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Speaker 1: like it's an infra pad Daphanie spelled backwards? Boy? Or

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Speaker 1: serious is the matter with y'all boys? Y'all didn't know

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Speaker 1: y'all technical age. See, I had a black book. I

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Speaker 1: infrapad if you want to, and I would write the

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Speaker 1: why I just right now? Yeah, I'm just surprised at

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