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Speaker 1: Subject my man is too gentle and loving. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I am a thirty six year old female in a

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Speaker 1: long distance relationship with a man and his early forties.

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Speaker 1: Things are good between us, and honestly, I am ready

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Speaker 1: to take things to the next level. I only have

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Speaker 1: one problem, and I'm hesitant to move on to move

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Speaker 1: to his hometown if he can't fix the problem. We

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Speaker 1: have been in a committed relationship for two years and

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Speaker 1: when we are intimate, he is very gentle and loving.

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Speaker 1: In the bedroom, he has kept his same routine the

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Speaker 1: entire time. He does not do anything freaky or exotic,

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Speaker 1: and he's very passionate. At first, it was okay, he

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Speaker 1: was clearly taking his time to please me, but now

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Speaker 1: I need him to do more. My sexual desires have

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Speaker 1: changed in my late thirties and I became more in

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Speaker 1: sync with my body. I want to have sex in

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Speaker 1: other places besides the bed, and I needed to be

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Speaker 1: a little kinky at times. How do I tell him

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Speaker 1: he is not giving me enough sex and that he

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Speaker 1: is pretty boring in the bedroom. I know this is

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Speaker 1: a conversation that I must have with him, but I

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Speaker 1: am honestly unsure how to tell him this. I don't

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Speaker 1: want to turn him off and appear to be a

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Speaker 1: little freak to him, but I am tired of straight

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Speaker 1: love making every time. I have a good thing going

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Speaker 1: with this man, and I don't want to ruin it.

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Speaker 1: I'm also scared that this may be all he has

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Speaker 1: to offer, or all he knows how to do. I

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Speaker 1: am not the type to cheat, but I am craving satisfaction.

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Speaker 1: Can you guys relate? Please give me some pointers? Well

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Speaker 1: what do you mean can we relate? Well? Yes, of

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Speaker 1: course you can relate it. Yeah, if this is your concern,

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Speaker 1: that's what we're here for. We'll try to help you,

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Speaker 1: for sure. You know, I just know that there are

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Speaker 1: so many people, especially women, who would love to be

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Speaker 1: in your shoes. Right now, you have a man who

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Speaker 1: is gentle and loving, and you say he's very passionate.

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Speaker 1: I mean some people would just stop right there, but no,

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Speaker 1: not you. That would be cool with them. But that's

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Speaker 1: not what you want. And you want what you want

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Speaker 1: and guess what that is? Okay too? So you ask,

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Speaker 1: how do you tell him? How do you tell him?

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Speaker 1: You're gonna have to tell him, you do know that,

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Speaker 1: because you don't want to cheat, like you say, and

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Speaker 1: you want other things to go down. You want it

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Speaker 1: to happen other places. I suggest that you tell him nicely.

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Speaker 1: I suggest that you tell him away from the bedroom,

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Speaker 1: like maybe you know, when you guys are just having

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Speaker 1: a conversation, you can just bring it up in a

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Speaker 1: nice way, or you know, if that doesn't work, you

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Speaker 1: can start showing him or you know, I like it

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Speaker 1: this way or I like it that way or something

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Speaker 1: like that. You know, will you take the risk of

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Speaker 1: him judging you? You? Maybe you maybe will, who knows?

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Speaker 1: But you want what you want. You know, you want

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Speaker 1: to do it where you want to do it, and

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Speaker 1: how you want to do it, and you have that right,

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Speaker 1: So you got to be woman enough and strong enough

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Speaker 1: to tell him. I just say, tell him in a

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Speaker 1: nice way. And if you can't tell him, then you

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Speaker 1: have to show him. But I would take it. Maybe

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Speaker 1: if you want to tell him in a conversation away

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Speaker 1: from the bedroom, you know, just a regular, normal conversation,

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Speaker 1: maybe at dinner. Steve, Well, yeah, y'ada, YadA, YadA, Shelley,

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Speaker 1: that's nice, saying so all that's good. My man is

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Speaker 1: too gentle and love it. Thirty six year old woman

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Speaker 1: in this long distant relationship with a man in his

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Speaker 1: early forties. Things is good and she ready to take

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Speaker 1: things to the next level. Only got one problem. She's

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Speaker 1: fix this problem. Well, they're in this community relationship, y'all

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Speaker 1: for two years, and when they intimate, he's very gentle

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Speaker 1: and loving. In the bed, he's kept the same routine

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Speaker 1: every time. That means she's getting bored. He does not

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Speaker 1: do anything freaky or exotic, but he's very passionate. At first,

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Speaker 1: it was okay, clearly taking his time to please me,

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Speaker 1: But now I need him to do more. This woman

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Speaker 1: says her sex and desires are changed in her late

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Speaker 1: I want to have sex and other places beside the bedroom,

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Speaker 1: and I need to be a little kinky at times.

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Speaker 1: How do I tell him he ain't giving me enough

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Speaker 1: sex and that he born in this bad room? You know,

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Speaker 1: I gotta have this conversation. I don't want to turn

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Speaker 1: That's all he knows. And you know I ain't to

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Speaker 1: type the cheap, but I need from him down here.

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Speaker 1: I come. You want to have sex in different places,

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Speaker 1: you can't tell on me. You just have to do it,

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Speaker 1: like y'all going to the bedroom in the same place,

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Speaker 1: same bed he walk in. Then what does she do?

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Speaker 1: You know you gotta just create opportunity. He walk in

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Speaker 1: the bed room, he neked. He don't see you in

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Speaker 1: that baby? What where are you at? Then? You hollow?

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Speaker 1: I'm out of him. You're here, well, look out the

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Speaker 1: window and that naked in the tree. You've got to

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Speaker 1: get him out his comfort zone. Baby, I better where

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Speaker 1: you at. I've got here in the kitchen. Half for

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Speaker 1: me is in the refrigerator, and that will cause him

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Speaker 1: to know that we will when we come back. I'll

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Speaker 1: have several scenarios that you can create to give him

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Speaker 1: after bed ruin, put most spice in your live. All right, listen,

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Speaker 1: we'll have part two of Steve's response coming up in

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Speaker 1: twenty three after the hour today Strawberry Letters, subject my

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Speaker 1: man is too gentle and loving. We'll get back into

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Speaker 1: it right after this. You're listening to show, Come on, Steve.

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Speaker 1: Let's recap today's Strawberry Letters, subject my man, It's too

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Speaker 1: gentle and loving. I think when we left off, she

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Speaker 1: woman's having this boring sexual relationship with this man and

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Speaker 1: she won't more. She wanted in more than one place,

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Speaker 1: and she wanted to be more exotic, and she wanted

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Speaker 1: to be a little kicking. She don't know how to

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Speaker 1: She's afraid that this may be more. Or you gotta

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Speaker 1: elevate the man's thinking. Like I said before, you gotta

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Speaker 1: do some stuff outside. You in a tree. I'm down here,

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Speaker 1: half of me is in the refrigerator. I ain't saying

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Speaker 1: trying to get him the baby. Where you at? I'm

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Speaker 1: gotta give him out the bedroom lovidual? Yeah right right, baby,

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Speaker 1: I'm naked. I'm looking for you. You ain't in the bedroom.

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Speaker 1: I'm in a living room, paul dancing. See you gonna

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Speaker 1: get him stand up? You know, baby baby, I just

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Speaker 1: got out the shower. Where you're at, I'm in the

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Speaker 1: get his mind. Yeah, yeah, yeah, baby baby, where you at,

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Speaker 1: I'm looking for you. I'm up in the attic sweating.

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Speaker 1: So you gotta get it. You got to get it

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Speaker 1: to when he wants, you know, baby baby, I've been

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Speaker 1: laying here where you up. I'm tied up in the

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Speaker 1: Let me go find out, though, baby baby, I'm ready

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Speaker 1: where you're at. I'm in the then choking myself. You try,

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Speaker 1: you're trying to get it to be a little more kinky.

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Speaker 1: You got to start. You got to introduce him now.

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Speaker 1: Now he can't find you it all now because you

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Speaker 1: didn't advance. Now he can't even find you in the

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Speaker 1: house no more. You're on the cell phone looking for you. Baby.

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Speaker 1: Where you're at? I'm down at the YCM. I'm down

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Speaker 1: on it. Well, not the bedroom half, baby, Where are

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Speaker 1: myself and the others own about. Yeah, I'm about to

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Speaker 1: do Yeah, I'm out in there. I'm in the backyard

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Speaker 1: digging a Oh. Yeah, baby, I'm trying to find you.

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Speaker 1: I'm in the garage in the hood. Ain't only van

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Speaker 1: up open? Yeah, that's really kinky, baby. I'm I can't

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Speaker 1: say you the house well yet. I know this's gonna

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Speaker 1: sound crazy, but they close. I'm down to check and cheese.

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Speaker 1: I'm laying in the ball you know the balls. Yeah. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: the game sounded. And that's what you gotta do. You

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Speaker 1: gotta introduce him. Any ideas, I'm gonna ask for a

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Speaker 1: reenacting man. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm in I'm baby. Where

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Speaker 1: you at? Baby, I'm in the pool and I let

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Speaker 1: holding on to the ceiling fan? Catch me when I

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Speaker 1: come around around the old times. I'm gonna be a

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Speaker 1: little busy and you catch me. Okay, Baby, every where

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Speaker 1: are you at? Hold on? I'm sliding die in the

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Speaker 1: baluster's naked backwards? Ready, I'm ready? And baby? Where you at?

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Speaker 1: Six flags? Putting the parks closed, sitting on the roller

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Speaker 1: different place? And I think that'll open his mind? Baby?

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Speaker 1: Where are you at? The baby strolling? We're both feet

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Speaker 1: you at? I'm down at the car wash. I'm all

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Speaker 1: Where you're at? Where's all that wind out here? I'm

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Speaker 1: coming round in the corner. I'm hanging on the back

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