WEBVTT - Liliana: Date My Vico, First! 0:00:05.800 --> 0:00:06.920 Be going. 0:00:07.160 --> 0:00:09.639 What are you going? What's going on? 0:00:11.560 --> 0:00:14.480 Everyone is being so secret. Nobody's telling me anything. They 0:00:14.480 --> 0:00:17.320 haven't given me the games for today. What's going on? 0:00:18.200 --> 0:00:20.600 Well, we do have a surprise for you. 0:00:20.640 --> 0:00:24.680 Maybe it's a little portobello. I've been wanting one, Maybe 0:00:24.680 --> 0:00:28.560 some fussy slippers. I know what it is. Oh yeah, 0:00:28.680 --> 0:00:31.520 it go for a young handsome man to hold. 0:00:31.240 --> 0:00:32.800 My purse when I goes shopping. 0:00:33.479 --> 0:00:39.199 Okay, you are getting closer. I'm going to introduce the 0:00:39.240 --> 0:00:42.559 show and then let you in on the little secret. 0:00:42.600 --> 0:00:43.159 How about that. 0:00:43.760 --> 0:00:48.360 Welcome listeners to a very special episode of Date My 0:00:48.560 --> 0:00:53.920 Awilita first so special, we might even have a new 0:00:54.040 --> 0:00:56.920 name for the episode. If you are one of our 0:00:57.320 --> 0:01:00.480 loyal listeners, you'll know that usually our episode to start 0:01:00.520 --> 0:01:03.600 off with a meaning a main dater, and then we 0:01:03.680 --> 0:01:08.200 introduced three lucky contestants who vi for the main dater's 0:01:08.400 --> 0:01:12.639 love by impressing you. Alita, Leanna, what did you say 0:01:12.959 --> 0:01:15.280 Your last guess was. 0:01:15.640 --> 0:01:19.840 That would be a handsome young man to hold my purse? 0:01:20.520 --> 0:01:26.319 What if it was three handsome man to hold your purse? 0:01:26.480 --> 0:01:30.480 Of course one purse, but I know what they can hold. 0:01:30.560 --> 0:01:35.360 Just bring them on? Yeah, really, really, bring Are you serious? 0:01:35.560 --> 0:01:40.920 That's our surprise. With that said, welcome to date my 0:01:41.280 --> 0:01:45.800 Vico first this week. The twist is that three handsome 0:01:46.080 --> 0:01:52.760 eligible bachelors must impress me Vico as they changing changing 0:01:53.080 --> 0:01:56.160 duel for a date with miss Anita herself. 0:01:56.320 --> 0:01:59.400 So you're going to decide and you're going to introduce 0:01:59.480 --> 0:02:01.200 me and just gonna handle the whole thing. 0:02:01.280 --> 0:02:05.760 I'm a grab the whole episode by its just say it, 0:02:06.000 --> 0:02:08.360 the ball, by the balls and the ovarason. I'm gonna 0:02:08.400 --> 0:02:09.639 take over Folly. 0:02:10.400 --> 0:02:15.560 Oh, I'm so ready, Mivihico. Are you going to introduce me? 0:02:15.760 --> 0:02:16.079 Oh? 0:02:16.240 --> 0:02:22.000 It will be my absolute pleasure and delight, our ol Wilita. 0:02:22.120 --> 0:02:24.279 Liliana is a real. 0:02:24.280 --> 0:02:25.320 Pissy and queen. 0:02:26.000 --> 0:02:30.200 She wears her heart and her tears on her sleeve. 0:02:30.840 --> 0:02:35.320 A true romantic, she believes in people leaning into their 0:02:35.400 --> 0:02:39.960 vulnerability and trying out, making a connection and opening their heart. 0:02:40.480 --> 0:02:44.160 But don't think Liliana is only about what's inside. She 0:02:44.240 --> 0:02:48.600 wants someone of sizzling. We are talking, ready to sell 0:02:48.720 --> 0:02:50.880 that keep up with her on the dance floor. 0:02:51.240 --> 0:02:52.560 Hat, isn't that right, Leanna? 0:02:52.720 --> 0:02:56.679 Yeah, that's exactly what I want, Lilliana. 0:02:57.080 --> 0:03:01.640 We all know about those five now, what have you 0:03:01.760 --> 0:03:04.239 learned and what are you looking for now? 0:03:04.680 --> 0:03:09.400 You know, I didn't learn as much from the marriages 0:03:09.919 --> 0:03:13.920 as much as I did about learning about myself from 0:03:13.960 --> 0:03:16.919 the years that passed after. And every year I think 0:03:16.960 --> 0:03:18.800 I'm going to date, and every year I think I'm 0:03:18.840 --> 0:03:21.320 going to find someone, And every year you get busier 0:03:21.440 --> 0:03:24.359 and you do more things with life, and then you 0:03:24.480 --> 0:03:28.480 just start kind of becoming a little recluse and just 0:03:28.520 --> 0:03:32.240 staying home, not wanting that companionship anymore. 0:03:32.440 --> 0:03:32.760 M hm. 0:03:33.160 --> 0:03:36.520 I definitely want affection. I'm a touchy, pheely kind of 0:03:36.520 --> 0:03:40.440 a person, also talking because I love to talk, as 0:03:40.480 --> 0:03:46.760 everyone knows, and of course that they have something that 0:03:46.800 --> 0:03:50.240 they've based their life on, some belief or some structure, 0:03:50.640 --> 0:03:52.720 that they have a job. I don't want anybody that 0:03:52.800 --> 0:03:54.960 I have to support, and I don't want anybody having 0:03:55.000 --> 0:03:57.000 to support me either. Now. 0:03:57.160 --> 0:03:59.400 I know that you said that you've learned a lot 0:03:59.640 --> 0:04:03.960 posts to these relationships. Is there anything that you've noticed 0:04:04.080 --> 0:04:08.480 in these past relationships that are patterns that you have 0:04:08.640 --> 0:04:11.840 raised awareness around and don't want to repeat. 0:04:12.320 --> 0:04:15.960 You know, Number one, I was so young. Number two 0:04:16.200 --> 0:04:20.520 it was abusive. Number three was trying to just find 0:04:20.560 --> 0:04:23.599 something else. So as the years go by, then four 0:04:23.720 --> 0:04:27.320 comes in. I think that the main thing of all 0:04:27.360 --> 0:04:31.360 of this was to finally on number five, I learned 0:04:31.520 --> 0:04:35.520 to be kinder. I learned to realize that I was 0:04:35.640 --> 0:04:40.440 being mean, and I mean that I didn't do it intentionally. 0:04:40.480 --> 0:04:43.159 I didn't want to hurt anyone, but I found that 0:04:43.240 --> 0:04:46.359 the only way that sometimes you, when you don't know 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:50.400 any better, to push someone away is you treat them wrong. 0:04:51.600 --> 0:04:54.480 And I wanted him to be out of my life. 0:04:54.600 --> 0:04:57.839 I wanted him to be happy somewhere else with someone else, 0:04:58.440 --> 0:05:01.520 with someone younger. He was twenty years younger than me. 0:05:02.800 --> 0:05:05.479 And as the years go by, you start questioning all 0:05:05.480 --> 0:05:09.440 your choices. And unfortunately, as much as I adored him, 0:05:09.880 --> 0:05:13.040 and to this day still you know, love him as 0:05:13.080 --> 0:05:16.359 a human being. I'm glad he is where he is at, 0:05:16.440 --> 0:05:18.240 and I'm glad for all the things that he taught me. 0:05:18.320 --> 0:05:20.440 He taught me how to have a best friend and 0:05:20.480 --> 0:05:20.920 a man. 0:05:21.160 --> 0:05:22.919 How did it look like to have a best friend 0:05:22.920 --> 0:05:23.520 and a man? 0:05:23.680 --> 0:05:26.919 I could talk to him about anything for hours. I 0:05:26.960 --> 0:05:29.919 remember one time I was working because I worked with 0:05:30.040 --> 0:05:33.920 LAPD for twenty five years, and I remember one day 0:05:33.920 --> 0:05:36.400 I got into trouble and something was going on, and 0:05:36.440 --> 0:05:39.240 not only he would sit down and listen and talk 0:05:39.320 --> 0:05:42.680 to me and make me feel better, but he fought 0:05:42.760 --> 0:05:47.279 for me and wrote letters to the department about you know, 0:05:47.360 --> 0:05:50.400 how they were treating me. I mean he went beyond 0:05:50.560 --> 0:05:53.120 that that. I mean he showed me love. 0:05:53.640 --> 0:05:55.960 Are you looking for someone as well that's pretty adventurous 0:05:55.960 --> 0:05:56.720 in the bedroom? 0:05:56.880 --> 0:06:00.560 Why not? I mean, at this age, if I can move, 0:06:01.080 --> 0:06:01.880 I'll try it. 0:06:03.040 --> 0:06:07.520 Do you want this new dynamic to center more around 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:13.599 emotional connection with more tender forms of physical intimacy, or 0:06:13.640 --> 0:06:17.359 do you want something that also can be physically passionate 0:06:17.400 --> 0:06:19.480 in a more sexual way or sensual way? 0:06:19.760 --> 0:06:20.920 How about all of the above? 0:06:21.000 --> 0:06:21.719 All in the above? 0:06:21.920 --> 0:06:22.320 All right? 0:06:22.480 --> 0:06:25.200 Just making sure, No, it's. 0:06:27.160 --> 0:06:29.520 To tell you the truth. The way I have felt 0:06:29.520 --> 0:06:33.159 in these fourteen years is that I never not only 0:06:33.279 --> 0:06:36.840 have loved, but received that love that people talk about. 0:06:37.800 --> 0:06:41.000 And oh no, I don't want to cry. But I'm 0:06:41.040 --> 0:06:43.280 still alive. I still want to give it and I 0:06:43.360 --> 0:06:45.479 still want to receive it. I don't want to be judged. 0:06:46.200 --> 0:06:48.560 And when someone who's going to stand by me, he's 0:06:48.600 --> 0:06:51.480 going to accept me for what I am, who is open, 0:06:51.480 --> 0:06:54.240 who is humble, who is kind, who is loving? Is 0:06:54.279 --> 0:06:57.200 that too much to us, especially at my age? 0:06:57.360 --> 0:06:58.400 Not really, not at all. 0:06:58.520 --> 0:07:02.000 These are very achievable requests. 0:07:02.279 --> 0:07:05.880 So if we can find it in one person for sure. 0:07:06.200 --> 0:07:09.120 Now, with that said, how do you want to carry 0:07:09.120 --> 0:07:14.520 yourself during potential conflict and how your ideal future partner 0:07:14.640 --> 0:07:16.440 would carry himself during conflict? 0:07:16.440 --> 0:07:17.960 What would be your ideal situation? 0:07:18.400 --> 0:07:20.880 You know, at this age, there is no running away 0:07:20.920 --> 0:07:23.720 from anything. You know, I'm going to take a couple 0:07:23.760 --> 0:07:25.760 of days, or I'm going to go outside and walk 0:07:25.800 --> 0:07:27.960 it off. No, walk it off with me. Let's both 0:07:28.000 --> 0:07:30.320 take a walk and in the process let's discuss what 0:07:30.520 --> 0:07:31.040 just happened. 0:07:31.240 --> 0:07:33.640 But sometimes people need a little bit of space, you know, 0:07:33.720 --> 0:07:36.000 and they sometimes genuinely want to take the walk, like 0:07:36.120 --> 0:07:37.840 on themselves so they can process. 0:07:37.960 --> 0:07:41.760 You're absolutely right. If this person is asking me and 0:07:41.800 --> 0:07:44.680 explaining to me, communication is what's going to see us through. 0:07:44.720 --> 0:07:45.880 That's the end of that story. 0:07:46.080 --> 0:07:46.760 Just tell me a. 0:07:46.840 --> 0:07:49.160 Listen, babe, you know, let me just have a couple hours, 0:07:49.160 --> 0:07:50.960 we'll talk about it again. Hey, I'm fine. 0:07:51.120 --> 0:07:54.800 Are you looking for someone that would be interested eventually 0:07:55.040 --> 0:07:57.880 in cohabitating together or do you like to have your 0:07:57.920 --> 0:08:00.920 own space or what how does that look like for you? 0:08:00.960 --> 0:08:03.440 In this moment, I would only have to say that 0:08:03.600 --> 0:08:07.880 it would take a very special person because at the 0:08:08.000 --> 0:08:10.920 very beginning of it all, when I started getting married 0:08:10.960 --> 0:08:14.560 into number one, it was a desperate need to never 0:08:14.600 --> 0:08:18.400 be alone that saw me through five of them. You know, 0:08:18.600 --> 0:08:21.320 I was heard, I needed love, I wanted hugs. I 0:08:21.360 --> 0:08:24.320 wanted to have someone to take care of me. It 0:08:24.440 --> 0:08:26.880 never did really come to fruition, and I had to 0:08:26.960 --> 0:08:30.880 keep on moving and moving. So at this point, yes, 0:08:30.960 --> 0:08:32.840 I would be interested down the road. 0:08:33.440 --> 0:08:35.480 How does your love and your care look like? How 0:08:35.480 --> 0:08:36.160 do you give that? 0:08:36.320 --> 0:08:37.080 What do I give? 0:08:38.280 --> 0:08:38.600 Oh? 0:08:39.440 --> 0:08:44.600 I hug, I compliment. When I say I love you, 0:08:44.760 --> 0:08:48.880 I mean it. I do little things or prepare special 0:08:49.000 --> 0:08:53.640 meals or surprises. I think I mentioned to you I 0:08:53.880 --> 0:08:56.640 love surprises. Though I've never been on the receiving end, 0:08:57.080 --> 0:09:01.440 I'd love to give them. With my last marriage, my 0:09:01.600 --> 0:09:07.720 last relationship, it was abundantly an exchange giving receiving not 0:09:07.840 --> 0:09:15.120 only of affection, but conversation and many many gifts. We 0:09:15.160 --> 0:09:19.640 talk about making wrong choices, Yeah, I will always remember 0:09:19.640 --> 0:09:25.559 that one. 0:09:22.920 --> 0:09:25.959 Well, I will keep all of this in mind. 0:09:26.520 --> 0:09:31.720 I am very, very, very excited to grill these gentlemen 0:09:32.240 --> 0:09:36.200 and see if they are worthy of your love and 0:09:36.240 --> 0:09:40.520 your care, and your attentiveness and your effervescence. 0:09:40.679 --> 0:09:42.400 I trust my future. It's in your hands. 0:09:42.440 --> 0:09:45.199 Ah, here we go, Here we go. Let's get ready. 0:09:45.280 --> 0:09:48.480 Let's put the pressure on on these gentlemen. They better 0:09:48.679 --> 0:09:52.560 hold on to their pantaloons or I'll hold them for them, 0:09:54.120 --> 0:09:58.800 or that or that. We'll be back after the break. 0:10:00.679 --> 0:10:05.960 Welcome back today, my Ilani the first. All right, So 0:10:06.320 --> 0:10:09.440 if you are ready to go incognito mode, we will 0:10:09.440 --> 0:10:12.880 bring in the contestants, and we want to hear your 0:10:12.960 --> 0:10:18.080 own commentary, so share your thoughts in real time. I 0:10:18.160 --> 0:10:21.000 will and we will reconvene as we typically do with 0:10:21.080 --> 0:10:23.800 our main data in a bit to hear your thoughts. 0:10:23.559 --> 0:10:23.760 You know. 0:10:23.800 --> 0:10:27.520 And as a wise woman who once told me, open 0:10:27.559 --> 0:10:31.439 your heart, open your mind, and I am just asking 0:10:31.520 --> 0:10:40.079 for honest day, Vehico time to date my Vico first, 0:10:40.200 --> 0:10:42.960 to be of many of those contestants. It is such 0:10:43.360 --> 0:10:47.120 a treat to have you all here. So today we're 0:10:47.160 --> 0:10:49.720 flipping our show on its head. It's time for me 0:10:49.800 --> 0:10:52.439 to call the shots. So if you make it far enough, 0:10:52.600 --> 0:10:55.160 you learn why. So it's just gonna be me and 0:10:55.240 --> 0:10:59.360 you boys. First up, we got Chris. Chris is a 0:10:59.440 --> 0:11:03.760 fifty five year old actor who lives in La Chris 0:11:03.840 --> 0:11:07.600 is a proudly twelve years sober and has lots of 0:11:07.679 --> 0:11:10.480 plans and is excited for the future. Heck yes, I'm 0:11:10.480 --> 0:11:13.360 also so proud of you. Chris is interested in dating 0:11:13.360 --> 0:11:16.920 someone who will have a nuanced conversation and can handle 0:11:17.080 --> 0:11:21.360 a lot of high energy. Hell's yeah, he gets bored easily, 0:11:21.559 --> 0:11:24.120 so he is in look for someone who has adventure 0:11:24.240 --> 0:11:26.400 to add to his already full life. 0:11:26.920 --> 0:11:32.760 Welcome Chris, Chris, Thank you. Thank Next up we have Billy. 0:11:33.360 --> 0:11:38.440 Billy followed a girlfriend abroad and when they didn't work out, 0:11:38.640 --> 0:11:40.120 he stayed abroad. 0:11:40.320 --> 0:11:41.280 Talk about adventure. 0:11:41.679 --> 0:11:45.840 Billy lived there for three decades and has only recently 0:11:45.880 --> 0:11:49.480 returned to the US. Billy is sixty six years old 0:11:49.520 --> 0:11:53.600 and has been a wellness fitness coach. I mean, y'all, yeah, 0:11:53.640 --> 0:11:55.880 you can see it, you can see it, and is 0:11:55.920 --> 0:11:59.960 looking for healthiness and activeness and a partner. Billy is cruel, 0:12:00.200 --> 0:12:03.320 working on a book and has a miniature Schnauzer who 0:12:03.400 --> 0:12:04.319 is his companion. 0:12:04.400 --> 0:12:05.640 Oh how cute I Billy. 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:12.480 And last, but certainly not least we got Mitch. Mitch 0:12:12.720 --> 0:12:16.080 had epilepsy when he was a child slash teenager and 0:12:16.160 --> 0:12:21.600 almost died. Oh and his near death experience has given 0:12:21.640 --> 0:12:25.120 him and an appreciation for life that he always carries 0:12:25.160 --> 0:12:25.560 with him. 0:12:25.840 --> 0:12:26.439 I love that. 0:12:26.960 --> 0:12:32.520 Mitch is currently semi retired and has been a ski instructor, columnist, actor, 0:12:32.679 --> 0:12:36.840 and wedding offician, which says he takes very seriously. 0:12:37.000 --> 0:12:40.520 Okay, someone else is in the business of love. I see. 0:12:41.880 --> 0:12:43.560 Mitch says he was blessed by. 0:12:43.480 --> 0:12:47.000 Good jeans, hell's yeah, I can see that, and athletic parents, 0:12:47.280 --> 0:12:50.840 and was raised by an intelligent, strong mom. His green 0:12:50.880 --> 0:12:52.200 flags are humor. 0:12:52.160 --> 0:12:53.360 And nice legs. 0:12:53.720 --> 0:12:56.240 Welcome Mitch. 0:12:57.440 --> 0:12:58.000 Thanks guys. 0:12:58.840 --> 0:13:02.120 Before we get into the any gritty, the intimate stuff, 0:13:02.480 --> 0:13:04.839 we'll start with something a little bit you know, chill. 0:13:05.080 --> 0:13:05.839 You know what I'm saying. 0:13:05.920 --> 0:13:09.120 We're gonna play some games, break the eyes, warm up. 0:13:09.360 --> 0:13:11.960 So with that said, let's get right in. 0:13:12.760 --> 0:13:16.959 Our main dater is a bit of a dancer herself 0:13:17.520 --> 0:13:20.280 and expects her partner to be able to, you know, 0:13:20.400 --> 0:13:23.960 bust a move or two. So in this game of 0:13:24.440 --> 0:13:29.400 Save the Last Dance, imagine you are at the nightclub 0:13:29.760 --> 0:13:32.560 and the ending of the night is approaching, and you 0:13:32.640 --> 0:13:35.600 see the lady in the red dress. 0:13:35.840 --> 0:13:39.400 I mean, I am talking about a boom, you know 0:13:39.480 --> 0:13:40.080 what I'm saying. 0:13:40.520 --> 0:13:45.400 She looks eager for that one final dance to close 0:13:45.600 --> 0:13:51.040 the evening, and it's your objective to woo this lady. 0:13:51.720 --> 0:13:54.840 So what would you say in order to get her 0:13:54.880 --> 0:13:57.720 to hit the dance floor by your side? 0:13:57.880 --> 0:13:59.680 It just has to show those bicips, all. 0:13:59.640 --> 0:14:01.880 Right, book, Chris, go ahead, lead me to it. 0:14:03.280 --> 0:14:06.840 Me sure. I get a lot of joy from dancing, 0:14:07.000 --> 0:14:08.920 so I pretty much just let myself go. 0:14:10.400 --> 0:14:13.880 So I'm envisioning just really like dance enough to her. 0:14:14.800 --> 0:14:18.120 Just spit it out, just. 0:14:17.600 --> 0:14:21.000 Whatever whatever the dance style is, and get right up 0:14:21.040 --> 0:14:22.840 there and give it her my energy. 0:14:23.240 --> 0:14:24.360 Seeing how she reacts. 0:14:24.400 --> 0:14:27.120 Do you say anything or you just like show your 0:14:27.160 --> 0:14:29.120 physical Yeah, throw yourself at me. 0:14:29.320 --> 0:14:32.360 No, I want to feel that. It's not about the words, right, 0:14:32.440 --> 0:14:35.520 It's about the energy. So you know, I'm going to see. 0:14:35.360 --> 0:14:38.280 In her eyes absolutely and then begin that exchange. I 0:14:38.360 --> 0:14:42.240 love that, Mitch. What's your approach? Do you say anything? 0:14:42.280 --> 0:14:44.200 Do you show the physical? What's up? 0:14:44.520 --> 0:14:46.640 I think I would just simply walk up and say 0:14:46.680 --> 0:14:49.040 something along the lines of you know, there couldn't be 0:14:49.080 --> 0:14:51.560 anything better the night than just have one dance with 0:14:51.600 --> 0:14:52.840 you and off of my hand. 0:14:53.360 --> 0:14:59.040 All right, that's what's said NASA smooth interrect So that's 0:14:59.080 --> 0:15:02.760 what's what about you, billy, what's your approach? 0:15:03.880 --> 0:15:05.560 Well, what I'd do is I'd go up to her, 0:15:05.560 --> 0:15:08.440 because I wouldn't know what style of dance, whether or 0:15:08.480 --> 0:15:10.880 not it'd be salts or whatnot, and I'd say, hey, 0:15:11.040 --> 0:15:14.920 do you remember the time when these dance arenas were 0:15:14.960 --> 0:15:17.800 like in Saturday Night Fever with John Travolta. Do you 0:15:17.840 --> 0:15:21.640 remember Ben Vereen in All That Dance? And do you 0:15:21.680 --> 0:15:26.440 remember Debbie Allen in Fame? Hey, if you don't, we 0:15:26.440 --> 0:15:29.000 can talk about this. But what we have to do 0:15:29.040 --> 0:15:31.080 is we have to get warmed up first. So let's 0:15:31.160 --> 0:15:33.160 just go out on the floor and we'll go ahead, 0:15:33.200 --> 0:15:35.440 and you know, go ahead and move around a little bit. 0:15:35.760 --> 0:15:38.480 And as we're dancing, if the song slows down, if 0:15:38.480 --> 0:15:40.440 the music slows down, or if you want to know, 0:15:40.480 --> 0:15:44.080 we just talk about the error, because I'm figuring we 0:15:44.200 --> 0:15:47.760 come from that same generation and these young people out 0:15:47.760 --> 0:15:50.480 here they know nothing about what real dance is about. 0:15:51.520 --> 0:15:55.040 Okay, And then show off to all these young people absolutely, 0:15:55.400 --> 0:15:58.200 I would be in the crowd waiting for the show. 0:15:58.320 --> 0:16:01.840 I'm so here for this throwing it, Billy, here's the 0:16:01.880 --> 0:16:06.960 next game. Here's the thing. I gotta be honest. Sometimes 0:16:07.040 --> 0:16:10.120 when I get dating advice, I kind of roll my 0:16:10.200 --> 0:16:13.600 eyes because you know, dating is a journey and it's 0:16:13.640 --> 0:16:17.360 different for everybody, and sometimes it's no, it's is gonna 0:16:17.360 --> 0:16:17.760 be different. 0:16:18.120 --> 0:16:18.800 But not today. 0:16:18.800 --> 0:16:21.800 Today, I actually want to hear the advice you all 0:16:21.840 --> 0:16:25.320 have about dating. I want to know both the best 0:16:25.400 --> 0:16:29.360 advice and the worst advice. But here's the little twist. 0:16:29.680 --> 0:16:33.640 I'm going to give you some bonus information on our 0:16:33.680 --> 0:16:40.360 main dater. She grew up watching the novels and loves 0:16:40.440 --> 0:16:45.920 to watch a little salacious drama. So today we're going 0:16:46.000 --> 0:16:49.400 to ask you for the best and worst advice that 0:16:49.480 --> 0:16:53.800 you've ever received, but then a novela style. For example, 0:16:54.160 --> 0:16:58.440 the best dating advice that I have received is to 0:16:58.480 --> 0:17:02.520 not let your ego rule your love life. But if 0:17:02.560 --> 0:17:05.480 I were to give it in the renovela style, I 0:17:05.480 --> 0:17:11.200 would say, no, mos the ego, No, don't do it, 0:17:11.680 --> 0:17:16.000 please do not let it rule your love life. Something 0:17:16.080 --> 0:17:23.440 like that. Okay, So with that, Billy, start us off 0:17:23.480 --> 0:17:26.520 on this let's start with the best dating advice. 0:17:27.520 --> 0:17:28.439 Best dating advice. 0:17:30.600 --> 0:17:34.040 They take time, they go from week to week to 0:17:34.160 --> 0:17:39.240 week to week. It evolves, just like love. 0:17:40.000 --> 0:17:40.399 None of that. 0:17:40.560 --> 0:17:41.240 Netflix. 0:17:41.320 --> 0:17:45.399 Gotta do everything in one shot dating, man, that's the 0:17:45.440 --> 0:17:47.800 way you do it to get to know people, date 0:17:48.600 --> 0:17:49.560 soap opera style. 0:17:50.080 --> 0:17:51.600 I love him that. 0:17:51.800 --> 0:17:52.159 What's up? 0:17:52.200 --> 0:17:55.639 That is correct? Yeah, dating takes time, it takes weeks. 0:17:55.680 --> 0:17:57.359 It's an ever learning process. 0:17:57.560 --> 0:17:58.920 I'm into that. I'm into that. 0:17:59.400 --> 0:17:59.640 Mitch. 0:18:00.080 --> 0:18:03.080 What's your best dating advice? Superper style? 0:18:03.760 --> 0:18:04.520 Brian to do that? 0:18:04.640 --> 0:18:05.000 Yeah? 0:18:05.040 --> 0:18:09.119 Well okay, yeah, so could I say? So, you know, 0:18:09.960 --> 0:18:12.680 dating that breaks your heart, there's your part. And you 0:18:12.760 --> 0:18:16.480 know what, usually because people are being real, you gotta 0:18:16.480 --> 0:18:19.040 be real. Maybe just kind of bringing up be be 0:18:19.160 --> 0:18:20.879 your heart, because your heart that's what matters. 0:18:21.240 --> 0:18:22.439 Bringing out, be real, be you. 0:18:22.960 --> 0:18:24.600 Okay, he just made me cry. 0:18:24.840 --> 0:18:26.080 I love that. I love that. 0:18:26.119 --> 0:18:26.560 I love that. 0:18:26.640 --> 0:18:28.080 Yes, be real, be you. 0:18:29.000 --> 0:18:32.920 Wise woman once told me that open your mind, open 0:18:33.000 --> 0:18:36.520 your heart, and and just be you, and that really 0:18:36.640 --> 0:18:39.560 is the path that takes us to connecting with other people. 0:18:39.600 --> 0:18:40.560 So I love that. 0:18:41.200 --> 0:18:43.280 Chris, what's your best dating advice? 0:18:43.560 --> 0:18:44.760 The in knowla style? 0:18:45.080 --> 0:18:45.760 Let me see. 0:18:49.359 --> 0:18:51.680 That is a very interesting question. 0:18:54.000 --> 0:19:05.639 Yes, you must do more listening talking. Okay, it's not 0:19:05.720 --> 0:19:07.240 a very good Spanish. 0:19:07.320 --> 0:19:09.960 But it was precise doing more listening than talking, and 0:19:10.080 --> 0:19:13.280 so frekingly, yeah, being an active listener is a very 0:19:13.880 --> 0:19:15.600 it's a practice. It's a practice. 0:19:15.920 --> 0:19:17.240 So I love all this. 0:19:17.760 --> 0:19:20.840 Let's go ahead and now get to the worst dating 0:19:20.880 --> 0:19:26.000 advice that you have ever received. For example, I'm your 0:19:26.400 --> 0:19:30.439 or sometimes it is best to leave some parts of 0:19:30.480 --> 0:19:33.560 the truth so you don't hurt their feelings. He's okay 0:19:35.040 --> 0:19:38.399 that you should never leave parts of the truth. Ever, 0:19:39.160 --> 0:19:43.480 to not hurt someone's feelings eventually is gonna bite you 0:19:43.800 --> 0:19:49.560 in the buttocks. Let's reverse it, Chris, start us off. 0:19:49.640 --> 0:19:51.520 What's the worst dating advice. 0:19:54.080 --> 0:19:57.080 I'll be completely honest with you. I've never gotten any 0:19:57.119 --> 0:19:59.200 bad dating advice. I've never really gotten a lot of 0:19:59.280 --> 0:20:02.520 dating advice in general. I'd never been the big hater, 0:20:03.760 --> 0:20:05.120 so I never really. 0:20:05.040 --> 0:20:07.600 Was officially in the dating world. Per se. 0:20:07.920 --> 0:20:09.359 What that makes sense? 0:20:09.520 --> 0:20:13.200 No, that's I'm very curious about this, me too. I'm 0:20:13.200 --> 0:20:18.840 bookmarking that one. Honesty and transparency. Mitch, what is the 0:20:18.880 --> 0:20:20.160 worst dating advice? 0:20:21.000 --> 0:20:23.840 This whole thing about bring your best on the first date, 0:20:24.440 --> 0:20:27.760 bring you bring your heart. This impressing thing. 0:20:27.800 --> 0:20:29.399 You know, so many people say, you know you're going 0:20:29.480 --> 0:20:31.480 the first date, you got to really impress them, You've 0:20:31.480 --> 0:20:34.440 got to blow them away. Don't impress me. What impresses 0:20:34.480 --> 0:20:35.280 me is the hat. 0:20:35.600 --> 0:20:36.159 There you go. 0:20:36.480 --> 0:20:39.240 Yeah, performance, But was it that you said earlier that 0:20:39.359 --> 0:20:42.800 like oftentimes like people bring in their quote unquote best 0:20:42.880 --> 0:20:45.000 version and then they are just like performing for you, 0:20:45.040 --> 0:20:47.000 and you're like, wait, but who are you? Like, what's 0:20:47.040 --> 0:20:49.399 what's happening there? What's the real you? We're done with 0:20:49.440 --> 0:20:50.719 that zero performance? 0:20:51.000 --> 0:20:53.480 Yeah, you know. And the thing is I tell people, look, 0:20:53.520 --> 0:20:55.760 you want somebody to fall in with person A, and 0:20:55.800 --> 0:20:58.360 you're really person b that's a recipe for disaster. 0:20:58.720 --> 0:21:02.840 I'm so freaking lutely I have learned of the hard way. 0:21:04.359 --> 0:21:07.200 Cute Billy, what's your worst dating advice? 0:21:07.880 --> 0:21:10.159 Well, you know, and I appreciate what Mitchell said in 0:21:10.280 --> 0:21:14.640 terms of not pretending, and I would add something to that, 0:21:14.800 --> 0:21:18.359 and that would be to not be macho. I mean, 0:21:18.400 --> 0:21:20.840 we have this tendency as males to be macho and 0:21:20.920 --> 0:21:24.200 we don't allow ourselves to be vulnerable. And I think 0:21:24.200 --> 0:21:28.159 that's really important, especially when we're dealing with the opposite sex, 0:21:29.000 --> 0:21:31.160 because the way we see the world and the way 0:21:31.200 --> 0:21:34.000 they see the world is entirely different. So being vulnerable 0:21:34.440 --> 0:21:38.200 allows us to open up. And if that doesn't work, 0:21:38.760 --> 0:21:41.800 then that's fine. But this whole thing about being mauchhole 0:21:41.880 --> 0:21:43.760 and you got to be this and be that as 0:21:43.800 --> 0:21:45.760 a man, and you know, be strong and all that. 0:21:46.800 --> 0:21:48.879 After the years that we've been on this planet, I 0:21:48.960 --> 0:21:52.680 think we've learned our lesson and that is sensitivity. 0:21:53.080 --> 0:21:56.679 It's ah, well. 0:21:56.560 --> 0:22:00.720