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Speaker 1: your favorite store. Second day. Have you ever been out
Speaker 1: somewhere and seen like one of those old phone booths
Speaker 1: that's still around and you're like, oh my god, I
Speaker 1: forgot about those. Seriously, my kids came across one not
Speaker 1: long ago and they didn't know what it was. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you doing that? Why are there so many buttons? It's
Speaker 1: like when you walk into a business and they have
Speaker 1: a fax machine in the office and they're like, Wow,
Speaker 1: did I step back in time. One of our listeners
Speaker 1: says she met a guy in an old fashioned kind
Speaker 1: of place. All right. Her name is Kara, and she
Speaker 1: emailed our show for help. Hey Carol, what's up? Hey guys,
Speaker 1: how are you? I feel like you met him at
Speaker 1: the mall or something. Tell us about the guy that
Speaker 1: she met. What's his name and where did you meet him? So?
Speaker 1: His name is Clinton and we actually met at a bookstore.
Speaker 1: Oh that is fast. Yeah, I can't believe those are
Speaker 1: still around. Ye. Hey, support your local bookstores, the independent ones. Awesome. Yeah, yeah, nobody.
Speaker 1: I thought I draw a parade or something. Big reader. Now,
Speaker 1: So what happened with you and Clinton? How did you
Speaker 1: end up meeting? So we actually were in the same book, Aisle.
Speaker 1: I'm really into Dolores Cannon. She was like a medium,
Speaker 1: kind of into that metaphysical stuff. Oh nice, Hosy doesn't
Speaker 1: know what he's talk He was into that world too, well, yeah, apparently. So, yeah,
Speaker 1: he kind of approached me first, and you know, we
Speaker 1: were just talking about the books that we were into,
Speaker 1: and we've probably talked for a good I don't know,
Speaker 1: twenty minut it okay, and then he actually asked me
Speaker 1: for my number. Okay. Oh god, was your heart like
Speaker 1: Pumpin written? It was? It was so like kind of
Speaker 1: like movie scene. It was really kind of cool. You know.
Speaker 1: So what did you guys end up doing when you
Speaker 1: went up for a date or was this a date? Well,
Speaker 1: we were texting. We texted for like a week trying
Speaker 1: to set up a date. We just really couldn't get
Speaker 1: our schedules together, and so this was kind of really ironic.
Speaker 1: The book that I had purchased that day. When I
Speaker 1: took it home, it was ripped in the back and
Speaker 1: I didn't realize it whenever, like the last few pages
Speaker 1: were ripped. So I just wanted to return it. And
Speaker 1: when I returned the book, he was there again. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: So we just titch at it for a minute, and
Speaker 1: then you know, we finally set up the date and
Speaker 1: the like, the other thing that's kind of odd is
Speaker 1: our date was at a coffee shop that was actually
Speaker 1: near that bookstore, and I'm like, I don't know, like
Speaker 1: I'm just some type of way because I want to
Speaker 1: kind of get out of that scene. Like I'm really
Speaker 1: into this guy, but I feel like the wait, did
Speaker 1: you do the coffee date? Yeah? Yeah, how was that?
Speaker 1: I mean there was no flirting. It felt friendly. I
Speaker 1: was flirting, but I don't know. This is why I
Speaker 1: need your help, because I'm really bad at this. I
Speaker 1: don't I don't know if maybe it's just my paranoia
Speaker 1: that's getting to me, but I just I want to
Speaker 1: like go out with him, like let's take a night
Speaker 1: and get all dressed up and go out and really
Speaker 1: get to know each other. And so this like coffee
Speaker 1: shop stuff. So you're saying you weren't impressed with his
Speaker 1: date decisions and you were looking for something a little
Speaker 1: more elaborate, maybe like a dinner in a movie. So
Speaker 1: I think I think it sounds like she wants to
Speaker 1: go drinking with him and have a real da It
Speaker 1: sounds like to me, or like breakfast and lunch a
Speaker 1: little friend zony, you know, yeah, I mean breakfast is
Speaker 1: only sexy if it's the next morning. Yeah, totally okay.
Speaker 1: But so since you're disappointing coffee date, has he tried
Speaker 1: to reach out to you at all? I mean we
Speaker 1: texted just like silly little messages here and there. He's
Speaker 1: not like blowing me off completely. I just don't feel
Speaker 1: like he wants like an actual, like go out on
Speaker 1: the town date. Why do you feel that, though, because
Speaker 1: he hasn't really taken me out. It's it's just really
Speaker 1: strange because you know, he asked me for my number,
Speaker 1: but a couple of times that I've seen him, you know,
Speaker 1: we were surrounded at books or coffee ye, And it's
Speaker 1: not really like progressing in a more romantic way. So
Speaker 1: you're taking charge of the situation. Yeah, you want at
Speaker 1: least move from the coffee shop to the Cinnabon, Like
Speaker 1: you know, at this point, I would totally take Cinnabon
Speaker 1: over another coffee. So are you looking for us to
Speaker 1: try to switch his mind on the friend zone thing
Speaker 1: or do you just want an explanation? Well? Both, I
Speaker 1: would like an explanation, and I mean, I really would
Speaker 1: like to have something more with this guy. I'm really
Speaker 1: into him. He seems really cool. He's not really the
Speaker 1: type of guy that I would go out with, so
Speaker 1: I think I'm really fascinated with that because I usually state,
Speaker 1: you know, jockeys kind of guys. Okay, it's wealthy men. No,
Speaker 1: she said, jockey. She likes little guys. Okay, well, let's
Speaker 1: find out what's going on with this guy. We're gonna
Speaker 1: play a song, we'll come back, we'll call him and
Speaker 1: try and get your second date update. Okay, Kara, thank
Speaker 1: you if you're just tuning in for the second date update.
Speaker 1: One of our listeners, Kara, met a guy named Clinton
Speaker 1: at a bookstore while they were perusing the same aisle
Speaker 1: for reading materials, and they ended up hanging out at
Speaker 1: a coffee shop near the bookstore, and she found out
Speaker 1: she really likes him, and right now they are texting,
Speaker 1: but she feels like she's not getting the vibe that
Speaker 1: he wants to continue to pursue their connection and go
Speaker 1: on a bigger, more romantic style date, and she's not
Speaker 1: really sure why that is. So she's reached out to
Speaker 1: us for help. And Kara, I was thinking about this
Speaker 1: during the break. Have you ever considered that you might
Speaker 1: not be sending him strong enough romantic vibes where he'll
Speaker 1: know that you're interested because guys just aren't very good
Speaker 1: at reading signs and women. I actually never thought of
Speaker 1: that idea. Sometimes you really have to paint a clear
Speaker 1: picture for us. So, if it comes down to it, Kara,
Speaker 1: are you willing to wear sexy lingerie in the bookstore
Speaker 1: to really just send the message so that Clinton knows
Speaker 1: for sure? Hay, I'm interested in more than just a
Speaker 1: coffee hang out. How do you feel about that, Kara?
Speaker 1: I mean, I think going it with an overcoade on
Speaker 1: and like like, I like ar if he's that dumb,
Speaker 1: I mean, come on, I just dropped my bookmark. All
Speaker 1: of a sudden, Jose has taken up reading. Yeah, very strange.
Speaker 1: Pon't take it to a four Star restaurant after he
Speaker 1: sees that. I mean, I'm willing to really do anything.
Speaker 1: I just, you know, want to see where he's at
Speaker 1: with this. Okay, and we're good. You go log onto
Speaker 1: some like Victoria's Secret websites and I'll talk to Clinton
Speaker 1: while we do that. Okay, on to Victoria's Secret while
Speaker 1: we're all right, it's justin ki obviously Savage fenty that
Speaker 1: everybody's you go find that. We're going to do Clinton's
Speaker 1: phone number. Ready to do this. She's on the website. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: she's she's searching. Hi. Good, I'm down number right now
Speaker 1: here we go. Hello, Hi, I'm looking to speak with Clinton. Um,
Speaker 1: this is him speaking? Is this hy Clinton? My name
Speaker 1: is Jeffrey from the radio show Brook and Jeffrey in
Speaker 1: the Morning. Do you have a second to talk with us? Um?
Speaker 1: I guess. So. We do a segment on our show
Speaker 1: called a second Date Update. That's where if you go
Speaker 1: out with someone and afterwards, if that person isn't calling
Speaker 1: you back, you can email us and we'll reach out
Speaker 1: to your date or you to figure out why they've
Speaker 1: been avoiding you. Okay, And so we got an email
Speaker 1: recently from a girl who says she had a very
Speaker 1: nice time hanging out with you, and she's hoping to
Speaker 1: pursue more of a romantic connection. Her name is Kara.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, and I guess it's not like totally normal
Speaker 1: because she did say you guys have been texting back
Speaker 1: and forth. It's not like you haven't ghosted or anything.
Speaker 1: She hasn't accused you of that. Yeah. No, carry is
Speaker 1: a great girl. M Yeah, why is that anytime she's great?
Speaker 1: That's friends zoned? What are you talking about? Want her
Speaker 1: to say never met a hot girl that I wanted
Speaker 1: to hook up with that. I'm like, she's great, Okay.
Speaker 1: It's the tone of when you say great, it's like yeah,
Speaker 1: she's like, oh yeah, but she's great. Is good? But
Speaker 1: like she's great? Yeah's not okay? Just ask you, guys,
Speaker 1: Just ask you. Are you friends zoning her? I mean
Speaker 1: I'm just getting to know her, and you know that's
Speaker 1: she's kind of how it's been going. Yeah okay, okay.
Speaker 1: I mean, to be fair, Haara thinks that you're great too,
Speaker 1: and she really wants to get to know you more.
Speaker 1: She doesn't she had a nice time hanging out with you.
Speaker 1: But if she's been completely honest, she feels like you're
Speaker 1: not that interested in taking things further. Is that true?
Speaker 1: I wouldn't say that's true. I'm definitely interested, but there's
Speaker 1: there's just some things that, um, you know, I'm taking
Speaker 1: my time with and just you know, being a bit
Speaker 1: protective of the situation we need to bring up with
Speaker 1: your current girlfriend. Yeah, that that does sound like what
Speaker 1: you're saying. Yeah, why are you HEAs say situation? Are
Speaker 1: you single? Oh? Yeah I am, I'm single. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: So when did you plan on calling her and taking
Speaker 1: her out again? We've been talking and trying to you know,
Speaker 1: coordinate our schedule. It's just been a bit tough. That's
Speaker 1: the thing. She's tired of talking. She wants to do something.
Speaker 1: I mean, you've got to understand too, like people are
Speaker 1: jaded in the dating world right now, right she feels
Speaker 1: like you're gonna ghost is what it feels like. You know,
Speaker 1: the entire situation with Kara is it's really been gnawing
Speaker 1: at me, and I obviously I'm not sure on how
Speaker 1: to discuss it with her, but it is something that,
Speaker 1: you know, it's been bothering me. I do eventually want
Speaker 1: to talk to her about Okay, okay, So there is
Speaker 1: something underlying for why you're taking your time with this.
Speaker 1: Would you mind telling us about it? Maybe we could
Speaker 1: help you through it. You can even be really general
Speaker 1: about it, you don't have to get too specific. But
Speaker 1: we're trying to help out one of our listeners. I mean,
Speaker 1: she's worried if this goes on any longer, it's going
Speaker 1: to end up in the friend zone for her too.
Speaker 1: So let's fix this now. Okay. Well, I don't know
Speaker 1: how much she's told you guys in terms of how
Speaker 1: we met and whatnot, but we met at this bookstore
Speaker 1: and it was a might sound tevy, but a really
Speaker 1: magical moment and that is cute. She did say that
Speaker 1: it felt like it was like a movie scene, like
Speaker 1: it was a meat cute. So what's the problem. Well,
Speaker 1: the issue is as I actually was heading to work
Speaker 1: when we met, and where I was heading to work
Speaker 1: is actually at that bookstore, and I didn't want her
Speaker 1: to know that I work there because it just felt
Speaker 1: like it would have ruined the moment. It was just
Speaker 1: such a great moment. And so you know, we've been meeting,
Speaker 1: we've met a couple of times, and I know that
Speaker 1: it's usually around the bookstore or why. I don't understand.
Speaker 1: I'm not understanding. Why would it be bad if she
Speaker 1: knows that you work at the books. I don't get
Speaker 1: that either. I don't know. I just it's not the
Speaker 1: most attractive job position, especially considering getting to know her
Speaker 1: in the brief time that we have spent together. A
Speaker 1: lot of the guys that she's dated, you know, they've
Speaker 1: had a bit more real type of jobs. And yes,
Speaker 1: and now and now I feel a bit conflicted because
Speaker 1: we've known each other now for a little bit over
Speaker 1: a month, and I feel like I should have just
Speaker 1: told her from the beginning, And now I just it
Speaker 1: feels awkward, and I don't know how to tell her
Speaker 1: that sweet really is. But I also think like you
Speaker 1: shouldn't compare yourself to the guy she dated in the past.
Speaker 1: Those guys obviously didn't work out, and she's a book lover,
Speaker 1: Like what could be better? She gets discounts, I mean,
Speaker 1: rat to be fair, she kind of should compare him
Speaker 1: to the other guys from the past, based on the
Speaker 1: type of dates that she says that she wants. I mean,
Speaker 1: I would hope that she would be understanding. I just
Speaker 1: don't want this to be a deal breaker, and I
Speaker 1: kind of feel like, now it's a bit too far.
Speaker 1: So yeah, well yeah, well, I mean I do wonder
Speaker 1: how Kara feels about this, because actually I need to
Speaker 1: let you know, Clinton that she's on the other line
Speaker 1: listening and wants to talk to you. Wait. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: I forgot you guys can talk to each other. Yeah,
Speaker 1: this is She's been listening to me this whole time.
Speaker 1: Yes there, Oh my god, here Clinton, high oh listen.
Speaker 1: I'm actually so relieved, Like, if that's really the reason,
Speaker 1: please don't be embarrassed. I think that's awesome. Like, I mean,
Speaker 1: it's nice to hear you say that, that makes you
Speaker 1: happy and whatnot. But I don't know if you remember
Speaker 1: the conversation we had about the other guys who dated
Speaker 1: and the jobs that they've had, not necessarily m on
Speaker 1: the bookstore level, so I just thought that they treated
Speaker 1: me not well. So I don't job status doesn't really
Speaker 1: matter to me. I mean, as long as you're a
Speaker 1: decent person. Well, okay, I mean that's great to hear,
Speaker 1: but I just want you to know it's not you know,
Speaker 1: I work at a bookstore, like it, I don't make
Speaker 1: a lot of money there. It's not like I take
Speaker 1: your fancy places like you're used to and whatnot. So hey,
Speaker 1: you get a twenty percent discount at that bookstore cafe.
Speaker 1: Don't sell yourself short. You definitely get your discount. You guys,
Speaker 1: we have our own money. She can take you out.
Speaker 1: Oh I'm a simple girl. I don't you know. I
Speaker 1: don't really need wined and dined all the time, maybe
Speaker 1: just every once in a while. You know, I wanted
Speaker 1: to do that, and I've wanted to take you out.
Speaker 1: It's just been a bit tough with with my schedule.
Speaker 1: But I hope that we can definitely make that happen,
Speaker 1: especially now that you know what's going on. All right, Well,
Speaker 1: I mean this sounds like it's going well. And really, Clinton,
Speaker 1: I have a red Lobster gift card with your name
Speaker 1: on it. Oh yes, show me those cheddar biscuits. We're
Speaker 1: really moving up here. Would you like to go out
Speaker 1: on another date with Kara? We will pay for it.
Speaker 1: I would love to go out with her, And that's
Speaker 1: very generous to you, guys, But I should let you
Speaker 1: know I am allergic to shellfish. Okay, show up. You
Speaker 1: can just get the sides of spaking biscuits. Yeah, we
Speaker 1: have a lot of gift cards. We'll find one that
Speaker 1: doesn't serve seafood and you guys can go there. I
Speaker 1: would love that. I appreciate that. Oh, you guys are
Speaker 1: so cute. Are you excited, Kara? I mean I was excited,
Speaker 1: but the shellfish thing is kind of a dealbreaker for me. What.
Speaker 1: Oh she's got jokes, Yes he does. All right, Well,
Speaker 1: congratulations to you two. Thank you so much, guys, but
Speaker 1: definitely hold on to that lingerie. Okay, Kara, Oh okay,
Speaker 1: wait what lingerie? Oh you'll find out soon, but don't worry.
Speaker 1: Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.