WEBVTT - Unleashing Confidence: A Conversation with Jasmine Sanders

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<v Speaker 1>And so I used to believe it was all about

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<v Speaker 1>the collection of things. And so what I began to

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<v Speaker 1>do was say, if I buy, I must use, and

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<v Speaker 1>if I don't use, I can no longer buy. And

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<v Speaker 1>so all the shoes you see behind me, I tell

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<v Speaker 1>people all the time. They say, oh, you're showing off

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<v Speaker 1>all your shoe collection. No, baby, this is my journey.

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<v Speaker 1>This is my journey. Each shoe represents something that I

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<v Speaker 1>went through, how hard it was. The higher the heel,

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<v Speaker 1>the more difficult the struggle.

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<v Speaker 2>Our guest this week is an exceptional multimedia personality, a

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<v Speaker 2>passionate adoption advocate and a true inspiration who has risen

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<v Speaker 2>from foster care to media stardom. Her unwavering dedication to

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<v Speaker 2>empowering women and championing adoption makes.

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<v Speaker 3>Her a remarkable presence.

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<v Speaker 2>You might recognize her as the co host of The

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<v Speaker 2>blg we Show and blgque Uncut, as well as multiple

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<v Speaker 2>other podcasts. Join us today as we delve into her

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<v Speaker 2>incredible journey and the meaningful impact of her work. In

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<v Speaker 2>this captivating conversation, Moneymovers, please give a warm.

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<v Speaker 3>Welcome to Jasmine Sanders.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi.

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<v Speaker 1>Jasmin, Hi, thank you so much for having me at FYI.

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<v Speaker 1>I need to caption that so I can use it

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<v Speaker 1>for my bio in the future.

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<v Speaker 3>I like the way you're out it. It was nice.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like who is this woman that she is

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<v Speaker 1>speaking of. Oh that's me, that's me.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, pat yourself on the back, Sis. I'm so happy

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<v Speaker 2>to have you here and all that is true. We're

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<v Speaker 2>going to unpack so much more of who you are

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<v Speaker 2>and what you've done and how you got here and

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<v Speaker 2>all the lives you've touched. And I'm so excited to

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<v Speaker 2>introduce you to our Moneymover's audience today.

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<v Speaker 3>So welcome, thank you, thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so happy to be here. Anytime that I have

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<v Speaker 1>the opportunity to speak to another sister, I absolutely love it.

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<v Speaker 1>I believe in supporting and I believe in in the

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<v Speaker 1>life that you live. If you're not sharing lessons from

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<v Speaker 1>your journey, I don't care how much money you make,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care how good you do, you are living

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<v Speaker 1>in vain. You have to share it. That's the most

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<v Speaker 1>important thing to me. So thank you for allowing me

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<v Speaker 1>to grace your platform.

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<v Speaker 3>Exactly what it's all about.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's why I love Like sometimes I have these

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<v Speaker 2>pinch mean moments where I'm like, we're just going to

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<v Speaker 2>share and tell other people and inspire, and then you know,

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<v Speaker 2>it always comes full circle when someone comes back and

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<v Speaker 2>they'll be like, I heard Jasmine's story and this really

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<v Speaker 2>resonated with me, and this caused me to do something

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<v Speaker 2>different and make my money move.

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<v Speaker 3>In my life. I always start off.

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<v Speaker 2>By asking people and we're you know, you talk very

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<v Speaker 2>vocally about having grown up in foster care and here

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<v Speaker 2>you are, and I know there is a long journey

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<v Speaker 2>before there, but I want to start off because I

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<v Speaker 2>ask everybody this go back to little Jasmine, and how

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<v Speaker 2>did you really think about money, whether it was in

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<v Speaker 2>foster care or who were the people that really instilled

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<v Speaker 2>thoughts of money? And this is a really broad question

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<v Speaker 2>for so many, but what did that look like as

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<v Speaker 2>a young person to you?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I will be fully transparent and say that for

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<v Speaker 1>me money we didn't really have a great conversation or

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<v Speaker 1>a bad conversation about money. Now, I didn't actually grow

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<v Speaker 1>up in the foster care system, but I was there

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<v Speaker 1>for about five years before I got my forever family,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, I had a lot of lessons to

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<v Speaker 1>learn as an adult because the way my mama looked

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<v Speaker 1>at money, I looked at money and that was it's

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<v Speaker 1>always there, it's easily accessible, and you just spend it

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<v Speaker 1>as soon as you get it, and so she had

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<v Speaker 1>a terrible relationship with money. Now I will say we

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<v Speaker 1>were not in debt, but it was an unfair burden

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<v Speaker 1>that was placed on my dad that I didn't understand

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<v Speaker 1>until later. So my mama would say, I want it.

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<v Speaker 1>My daddy would have worked hard and go get it.

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<v Speaker 1>But then I noticed that my mama shopped every single day,

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<v Speaker 1>which trickled down to me, you know, And I would say,

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<v Speaker 1>she would write these checks. Now I'm dating myself because

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<v Speaker 1>people don't use checks anymore, but she would write. What

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I got to get me some of

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<v Speaker 1>these little paper things, so I too can buy things.

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<v Speaker 1>And I did not understand the connection between the check

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<v Speaker 1>the bank account and the money or the money that

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't in the bank account. So I grew up believing

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<v Speaker 1>that the money was the check and not that the

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<v Speaker 1>money was in the bank and the check represented what

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<v Speaker 1>you had or what you didn't have. And so so

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<v Speaker 1>many of us, so many of us. And you know,

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<v Speaker 1>another really big lesson was I watched my mama a

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<v Speaker 1>mass all of these clothes. Don't jail, are you about

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<v Speaker 1>these shoes behind me? But she amassed all of these

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<v Speaker 1>clothes and she never wore them. And so I used

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<v Speaker 1>to believe it was all about the collection of things.

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<v Speaker 1>And so what I began to do was say, if

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<v Speaker 1>I buy, I must use, and if I don't use,

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<v Speaker 1>I can no longer buy. And so all the shoes

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<v Speaker 1>you see behind me, I tell people all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>They say, oh, you're showing off all your shoe collection. No, baby,

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<v Speaker 1>this is my journey. This is my journey. Each shoe

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<v Speaker 1>represents something that I went through, how hard it was.

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<v Speaker 1>The higher the heel, the more difficult the struggle. That's

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<v Speaker 1>why you see I'm over here with the chunkies because

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<v Speaker 1>they're a little lower because I had to come down. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>So this is the life that I've walked in, that's right.

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<v Speaker 1>And if I pan a little to the left, you'll

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<v Speaker 1>see my sneakers. That means that I understood that there

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<v Speaker 1>were some things that I had to run through and

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<v Speaker 1>not tiptoe through, you know what I mean. And so

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<v Speaker 1>with the moment, I'm just dropping jewels. Pick them up

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<v Speaker 1>as you need them. I honestly believe now when I buy,

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<v Speaker 1>when I no longer use and they no longer serve me,

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<v Speaker 1>they go to someone else, so that someone else can

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<v Speaker 1>now take a journey either in my shoes or begin

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<v Speaker 1>to walk a path of their own, which is something

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<v Speaker 1>my mama never did. She died with all of these

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<v Speaker 1>clothes in the closet with tags on, and I said,

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<v Speaker 1>that will not be me.

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<v Speaker 2>That is so interesting and fascinating, and it's it's you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think until we start having these conversations that

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<v Speaker 2>we unpack the stuff.

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<v Speaker 3>Like it's so nuanced, right, and so when you're.

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<v Speaker 2>Family, it was like, we have this money, we buy

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<v Speaker 2>all these things, but we don't touch it was still

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<v Speaker 2>like the idea of like putting the plastic on the

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<v Speaker 2>couch like period.

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<v Speaker 3>That was it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, yes, and I'm glad for you you recognize like

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted to do something different.

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<v Speaker 3>I want to wear these things. It's not just about

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<v Speaker 3>amassing your wealth in things. You got it. It has

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<v Speaker 3>to be useful in your life. It has to.

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<v Speaker 1>But it took. It took my mother's death and me

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<v Speaker 1>actually going through her closet because I was never allowed

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<v Speaker 1>to go through her closet. So going through her closet

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<v Speaker 1>and seeing these tags, all I could think was it

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<v Speaker 1>represented what she missed. And by the way, what was

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<v Speaker 1>she waiting for? What was the opportunity that never came

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<v Speaker 1>that she did not wear this gorgeous outfit that she

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<v Speaker 1>paid all of this money for. And so now I

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<v Speaker 1>will put on a gorgeous outfit for no damn reason

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<v Speaker 1>because me too.

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<v Speaker 3>People.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm one of those people where I have lots of stuff,

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<v Speaker 2>but they are my things, they are my treasures. But

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<v Speaker 2>I definitely have like zero tags on items in my closet,

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<v Speaker 2>probably zero, And I have a lot of friends who

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<v Speaker 2>are the exact opposite.

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<v Speaker 3>But I wear it. I wear it over and over.

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<v Speaker 2>You're going to be sick of me in this thing

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<v Speaker 2>because it's my favorite this month or whatever. Like I

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<v Speaker 2>wear my stuff because I think I've gone through the

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<v Speaker 2>stages where I feel like the correlation between having stuff

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<v Speaker 2>showing people you know, and especially with Instagram, now I

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<v Speaker 2>think it's very different because you have to show it

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<v Speaker 2>on the gram or else you don't have it, whereas

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<v Speaker 2>in our parents twn, well you know.

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<v Speaker 1>And the way I look at that is I am

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<v Speaker 1>worthy of something that belongs just to me, So I

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<v Speaker 1>don't need to share with the world because once I

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<v Speaker 1>do that, it is no longer mine. And now people

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<v Speaker 1>feel as though they have permission to say, oh, you

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<v Speaker 1>wore that before, or I've seen that before. Now I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not going to give you that kind of permission. This

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<v Speaker 1>is mine. I bought it for my own gentification, and

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<v Speaker 1>I can wear it whenever I want, as often as

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<v Speaker 1>I want to, and it is what it is.

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