WEBVTT - How Old Should My Daughter Date? 0:00:11.320 --> 0:00:15.160 Hey, everybody, welcome back to the podcast. I got you 0:00:15.240 --> 0:00:18.920 with me today. Oh yeah, I got my daughter in London. 0:00:19.160 --> 0:00:22.200 She's back. This is your second time. Everyone loved you. 0:00:23.720 --> 0:00:26.360 They were like crazy about you. They were like, this 0:00:26.440 --> 0:00:30.280 is She's the best question answer I've ever heard. So 0:00:30.320 --> 0:00:33.160 we brought you. Yes, we brought you back again. 0:00:34.120 --> 0:00:35.240 The comments not. 0:00:35.159 --> 0:00:39.440 Allowed to look at comments, I think mommy letchen. 0:00:40.040 --> 0:00:41.000 Yeah. 0:00:41.040 --> 0:00:42.879 So what we do is we answer your questions. You 0:00:42.920 --> 0:00:46.400 email podcast at grangersmith dot com and we'll put him 0:00:46.400 --> 0:00:49.360 in the queue. An man. Well, we'll get him ready 0:00:49.360 --> 0:00:54.600 for us, and we're gonna start right here. The subject 0:00:54.680 --> 0:00:59.120 is this is a lot. Okay, you ready for this? 0:00:59.440 --> 0:01:00.000 Yeah? 0:01:00.360 --> 0:01:01.639 How are you doing? By the way, before we get 0:01:01.640 --> 0:01:08.600 into this, good thirteen years old? Like thirteen years and 0:01:09.400 --> 0:01:14.760 almost two months? Yeah, just rocking it. Yeah, looking at fourteen, 0:01:14.800 --> 0:01:15.720 you're ready for fourteen? 0:01:16.040 --> 0:01:16.559 Not yet? 0:01:16.840 --> 0:01:20.160 Okay, Okay, you're just gonna enjoy thirteen as much as 0:01:20.160 --> 0:01:25.360 you can. Have a school going good? Yeah, are you 0:01:25.440 --> 0:01:26.960 been manipulated by the state? 0:01:27.760 --> 0:01:28.000 What? 0:01:29.319 --> 0:01:31.320 That's what? Probably? Now you're in a private school, so 0:01:31.360 --> 0:01:34.280 that's kind of impossible. You like school? 0:01:35.440 --> 0:01:35.959 Not really? 0:01:36.120 --> 0:01:39.320 What's your best subject? What does that mean? 0:01:39.920 --> 0:01:42.640 It's English language art. So it's like reading and writing. 0:01:42.280 --> 0:01:45.640 And stuff you like to read and write. Imagine that 0:01:48.040 --> 0:01:50.600 you know, Mama has a new book that she finished 0:01:51.320 --> 0:01:56.920 comes out. Do you know when it comes out? Summer 0:01:57.000 --> 0:02:00.720 of next year? Yeah, probably, or like end of next year. 0:02:00.840 --> 0:02:03.320 I think, Yeah, I read it on the plane the 0:02:03.360 --> 0:02:09.160 other day. Her original manuscript. Has she accid it? Yeah? 0:02:09.200 --> 0:02:10.720 Bill, I want to read it when it's all done. 0:02:10.760 --> 0:02:15.320 Okay, it's probably good. First question comes from Riley. Hello, 0:02:15.400 --> 0:02:17.919 mister Smith. My name is Riley. I'm sixteen year old. 0:02:18.040 --> 0:02:22.400 I'm a boy from Cabot, Pennsylvania. Throughout the past few months, 0:02:22.400 --> 0:02:25.760 I've been trying to get closer to God. I was 0:02:25.919 --> 0:02:28.679 really doing good with reading my Bible going to church 0:02:28.720 --> 0:02:31.520 every Sunday. I get busy at work in school and 0:02:31.639 --> 0:02:34.280 had no motivation to go to church or read my Bible. 0:02:34.320 --> 0:02:37.919 Now I've been feeling a lot of sadness and regret 0:02:38.200 --> 0:02:40.480 for doing so, and I'm not sure how to find 0:02:40.520 --> 0:02:43.400 the motivation. Recently, I've had a lot of problems with 0:02:43.440 --> 0:02:46.799 my stepfather. We have arguments every time we talk, and 0:02:46.960 --> 0:02:50.000 it's been very bad recently. It's been like this the 0:02:50.040 --> 0:02:52.840 past few years. I get along great with my father 0:02:52.960 --> 0:02:55.560 and my stepmom. But it's hard with my step father. 0:02:56.280 --> 0:02:59.320 I have prayed a lot for my stepdad, but it 0:02:59.480 --> 0:03:02.800 never seemed to change. Is it possible for someone to 0:03:02.880 --> 0:03:07.480 be so far gone that they can't be saved? I 0:03:07.520 --> 0:03:09.240 know this is a lot. Thank you for your time. 0:03:09.680 --> 0:03:13.840 Please come back to Butler. Pa. Do you kind of 0:03:13.880 --> 0:03:17.720 got Riley's story here? Yeah, it's a tough situation. Do 0:03:17.720 --> 0:03:20.280 you have friends that are in split families like this? 0:03:21.440 --> 0:03:24.880 It's always tough, isn't it to see it? And it 0:03:24.919 --> 0:03:30.000 seems like so many times there is a step one 0:03:30.000 --> 0:03:35.280 of the step mom or stepdad that there's the problem, right. Yeah, 0:03:35.400 --> 0:03:38.440 in this case Riley's case, it's the step dad. So 0:03:38.480 --> 0:03:41.000 do you have any thoughts for Riley? Before? Before I 0:03:41.040 --> 0:03:46.840 jump into his question, I'll let you. 0:03:46.880 --> 0:03:48.960 I'll you go and then I'll go out. 0:03:49.120 --> 0:03:52.680 Okay, I'll start at the beginning. He said he's been 0:03:52.680 --> 0:03:55.720 trying to get closer to God. He was doing really well. 0:03:56.000 --> 0:03:58.560 He was reading his Bible, going to church every Sunday, 0:03:58.880 --> 0:04:00.960 and then he got busy at work in school, and 0:04:01.000 --> 0:04:02.600 now he has no motivation to go to church or 0:04:02.640 --> 0:04:04.480 read his Bible. And he's been feeling a lot of 0:04:04.520 --> 0:04:09.280 sadness and regret for doing this. So well, that's like 0:04:09.320 --> 0:04:11.040 the first part of this question. Then the step the 0:04:11.040 --> 0:04:16.880 stepdad's the second part. So what usually happens, and this 0:04:17.000 --> 0:04:23.360 is very normal, Riley. You're going through seasons and there 0:04:23.360 --> 0:04:28.240 are times when we feel very close to God, and 0:04:28.279 --> 0:04:34.240 there's times we feel further away. Sometimes the closest not always, 0:04:34.240 --> 0:04:37.320 but sometimes the closeness with God is through trials are suffering. 0:04:38.279 --> 0:04:41.320 People look back at the time you lost a loved one, 0:04:41.400 --> 0:04:45.960 say you lose a grandparent, and you look back on 0:04:46.040 --> 0:04:47.840 that season and you say, I was really sad that I 0:04:47.800 --> 0:04:49.600 was going through a lot, but I was really close 0:04:49.640 --> 0:04:53.880 to God. My prayers were really intimate, and I was 0:04:54.400 --> 0:04:57.200 constantly thinking about God and constantly crying out to Him. 0:04:57.360 --> 0:04:58.800 And so we see that in the Bible too, that 0:04:58.800 --> 0:05:01.839 people are closer to God and suffering. They're also closer 0:05:01.880 --> 0:05:05.400 in like times like I did a couple weeks ago 0:05:05.440 --> 0:05:07.760 when I went out to the desert and spent five 0:05:07.839 --> 0:05:12.359 days out there, fasting, reading, praying. No one was around, 0:05:12.480 --> 0:05:15.200 so I was intentional about it. So I felt really 0:05:15.200 --> 0:05:19.080 close to God there too. But here's the key feel. 0:05:19.960 --> 0:05:23.320 I felt close to God. I felt close and suffering. 0:05:23.400 --> 0:05:26.160 I felt close in the desert. That's how I feel. 0:05:26.640 --> 0:05:36.960 You think God moves closer or further away from his people, No, 0:05:37.320 --> 0:05:37.800 he doesn't. 0:05:38.000 --> 0:05:41.120 Yeah, we meet, we moved closer further away. 0:05:41.640 --> 0:05:44.880 Yeah, well, our perception of it. We don't really move. 0:05:45.400 --> 0:05:49.000 It's our perception. God's like the island and we're on 0:05:49.040 --> 0:05:50.840 a canoe around the island. I think I've said that 0:05:50.920 --> 0:05:53.320 on this podcast. And so we kind of float around 0:05:53.320 --> 0:05:55.719 the island, and he's the island. He doesn't go anywhere. 0:05:55.880 --> 0:05:58.560 He's always right there, and sometimes we can't see him 0:05:58.600 --> 0:06:01.360 because there's fog, But does that make him not there 0:06:01.880 --> 0:06:06.880 or further away? And sometimes it's a sunny day and 0:06:06.880 --> 0:06:09.760 we're just laying on the beach right there on the island, 0:06:09.880 --> 0:06:12.560 and we feel closer than ever, But that doesn't make 0:06:12.720 --> 0:06:15.919 him any further away when we're in the fog. So 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:19.200 a lot of times it's just it's about how we feel. 0:06:20.040 --> 0:06:24.239 And that's what's going on with Riley, except for here's 0:06:24.320 --> 0:06:27.520 and then he adds another thing. He's also not reading 0:06:27.560 --> 0:06:31.880 his Bible and going to church every Sunday. So that's 0:06:31.920 --> 0:06:34.360 another thing. Reading your Bible and going to church every 0:06:34.360 --> 0:06:38.000 Sunday doesn't bring God in closer to you. It's the island, remember, 0:06:38.760 --> 0:06:42.600 but it does create fog if you're not there, because 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:45.680 you're not around His people. And so many times we 0:06:45.720 --> 0:06:49.760 see God and we feel his presence, and through the 0:06:49.760 --> 0:06:53.400 gifts of his people, he's acting with human agency. That 0:06:53.480 --> 0:06:57.800 means God uses people many times to give his blessings, 0:06:58.240 --> 0:07:01.000 or to give his wisdom, or to give his warnings 0:07:01.440 --> 0:07:05.800 or his encouragement. He uses people. Hey, I don't think 0:07:06.120 --> 0:07:08.160 I don't think you should be doing that. That could 0:07:08.200 --> 0:07:10.480 be Godly wisdom coming through one of his people to you. 0:07:10.800 --> 0:07:13.480 Happens all the time in the Bible. Or I just 0:07:13.520 --> 0:07:16.040 want to tell you what a joy it is to 0:07:16.040 --> 0:07:19.480 be around you. You're so encouraging to me. That could 0:07:19.480 --> 0:07:23.200 be a godly wisdom coming, Godly encouragement coming from one 0:07:23.200 --> 0:07:25.840 of his people to you. And if you're away from 0:07:25.880 --> 0:07:29.920 His people, specifically the church, the gathering of people. By 0:07:29.960 --> 0:07:32.880 the way, that's what that word church means. Ecclesia, that 0:07:32.960 --> 0:07:37.880 means the gathering. The word church and so many times 0:07:37.920 --> 0:07:40.440 I say it on this podcast doesn't mean a building. 0:07:42.360 --> 0:07:44.320 Do you know at a maus where we go to church. 0:07:45.600 --> 0:07:47.200 You know what they say at the beginning when we 0:07:47.240 --> 0:07:51.080 get there, they say, welcome to this gathering of a 0:07:51.160 --> 0:07:59.800 mais church. Yeah, so it's not welcome to the church, 0:08:00.000 --> 0:08:04.000 thanks for walking into the church. It's welcome to this, 0:08:04.960 --> 0:08:11.080 to today's gathering of us, our body, the body of Christ. 0:08:11.800 --> 0:08:13.920 So when you're away from that, you're like a little 0:08:14.000 --> 0:08:18.600 sheep out on a hillside, away from the flock and 0:08:18.680 --> 0:08:24.320 away from the shepherd, and you're hungry, you're lonely, you 0:08:25.040 --> 0:08:27.480 could be sick, you could be in trouble, and the 0:08:27.520 --> 0:08:30.280 flock doesn't know, and the shepherd's not there. The shepherd 0:08:30.360 --> 0:08:35.920 meaning pastor, that's what that word means. Pastor means shepherd, right, 0:08:36.800 --> 0:08:40.600 So you don't have a shepherd, a pastor. I'm talking 0:08:40.600 --> 0:08:45.560 about lowercase B, not our lowercase s. Lowercase shepherd, not 0:08:45.800 --> 0:08:49.880 the shepherd. But you're the human pastor. That's part of 0:08:49.920 --> 0:08:53.520 your gathering in the flock. When you're away from that, 0:08:54.160 --> 0:08:59.120 you are you're lost sheep. And then he says he's 0:08:59.160 --> 0:09:02.040 also not been reading his Bible. The Bible is a 0:09:02.040 --> 0:09:05.160 word of God, that is God speaking. When you disconnect 0:09:05.200 --> 0:09:08.040 that once again, the island doesn't move away. But now 0:09:08.080 --> 0:09:12.080 the fog is thick. You can't hear him. You don't 0:09:12.120 --> 0:09:16.600 know what he's saying. And so that's exactly why he 0:09:16.760 --> 0:09:22.520 feels sad. He feels like he's further away talking about 0:09:22.600 --> 0:09:27.800 Riley here. So this is interesting to think about, what 0:09:28.600 --> 0:09:35.240 why why is Riley not finding motivation? He knows that 0:09:35.360 --> 0:09:37.199 I'm going to say this on the podcast. He knows 0:09:38.000 --> 0:09:42.000 that I would say, Riley, you got to be reading 0:09:42.000 --> 0:09:45.480 your Bible. You've got to be gathering with the body, 0:09:45.679 --> 0:09:47.560 which is the Church. You need to be with him 0:09:47.600 --> 0:09:49.360 on Sunday, you need to be with him during the 0:09:49.360 --> 0:09:51.760 week too. He knows I'm going to say that, But 0:09:51.840 --> 0:09:54.600 yet he says, I don't have motivation. Why does he 0:09:54.679 --> 0:09:55.400 not have motivation? 0:09:56.200 --> 0:09:59.400 I've heard some people say that, like sometimes going to 0:09:59.480 --> 0:10:02.640 church feels more like a chore than something that like 0:10:02.679 --> 0:10:08.079 you want to do. And and also, since he knows 0:10:08.200 --> 0:10:10.840 that this is going to be on the podcast, a 0:10:10.840 --> 0:10:13.000 lot of people, if he's talked to other people about it, 0:10:13.040 --> 0:10:17.480 will probably have told him, like, just go read your Bible, 0:10:17.480 --> 0:10:19.480 It'll be good for you, like all that stuff. But 0:10:20.320 --> 0:10:22.360 I know going to school is good for me, but 0:10:22.400 --> 0:10:23.160 I don't want to do it. 0:10:23.600 --> 0:10:25.599 Well, there's a key there's a key sentence that he 0:10:25.679 --> 0:10:27.880 said right here, and you kind of hinted at it. 0:10:28.600 --> 0:10:34.440 He says, I got busy at work in school and 0:10:34.600 --> 0:10:36.600 had no motivation to go to church or read my Bible. 0:10:36.640 --> 0:10:39.880 So there's a cause and an effect. The cause is 0:10:40.080 --> 0:10:42.880 I got busy at work in school. The effect now 0:10:42.920 --> 0:10:45.480 I'm not motivated to go to church or read my Bible. 0:10:46.440 --> 0:10:49.320 So that was the cause. The cause is getting busy 0:10:49.360 --> 0:10:52.559 with the world. And so what's happening. And the reason 0:10:52.600 --> 0:10:55.560 he has no motivation is because he's now he's in 0:10:55.600 --> 0:10:57.280 a crowd of people, and this is this is speaking 0:10:57.280 --> 0:11:01.800 to everyone. He's in a crowd and everyone is shouting. 0:11:02.600 --> 0:11:07.520 Imagine you and I we go to a train station, Nah, 0:11:07.600 --> 0:11:10.200 there's not one in Austin an airport. We go to 0:11:10.240 --> 0:11:15.120 an airport and it's time to fly, and you there 0:11:15.200 --> 0:11:17.800 is a There is hundreds of hundreds of people in 0:11:17.800 --> 0:11:20.600 this terminal, and you don't know where I am, and 0:11:20.640 --> 0:11:24.360 I don't know where you are. Let's let's let's say 0:11:24.400 --> 0:11:26.600 that again. You don't know where I am, but I 0:11:26.640 --> 0:11:29.120 know where you are. Let's put it in the perspective 0:11:29.160 --> 0:11:31.640 of God. I know where you are, you don't know 0:11:31.679 --> 0:11:33.400 where I am, and I call it to you. I 0:11:33.440 --> 0:11:37.600 say London, and everyone's talking, everyone's talking, talking, talk, and 0:11:37.640 --> 0:11:41.720 here you don't know, you can't here. It's distracting. I say, London, 0:11:42.440 --> 0:11:46.240 you can't hear. That's this is where Riley is right now. 0:11:46.640 --> 0:11:48.880 There are too many voices in the world speaking, and 0:11:48.920 --> 0:11:51.280 sometimes you have to shut the voices off. And when 0:11:51.280 --> 0:11:53.560 you get to a place where you say, I have 0:11:53.640 --> 0:11:57.160 no motivation, I am saddened by this. I don't want 0:11:57.160 --> 0:11:58.720 to go to church. I don't want to read my Bible. 0:11:58.840 --> 0:12:02.040 You should go. Why I what do I have right 0:12:02.080 --> 0:12:05.160 now in the world. That's an extra voice that I 0:12:05.240 --> 0:12:08.840 need to stop. I need to stop. And I promise 0:12:08.880 --> 0:12:13.800 you it's not work in school. There's more. There's more 0:12:13.840 --> 0:12:19.160 stuff if it's not just work in school, because everyone 0:12:19.200 --> 0:12:21.520 needs to work and every kid needs to go to school. 0:12:22.320 --> 0:12:25.600 So we're not saying rather you should skip school or 0:12:25.600 --> 0:12:30.360 you should not work. We're saying everyone, me included. Everyone 0:12:30.559 --> 0:12:34.000 has a job and they work and they find time. 0:12:34.120 --> 0:12:37.640 So there's other voices coming in. It's the in between stuff. 0:12:37.960 --> 0:12:40.760 It's the shows he's watching, the songs he's listening to. 0:12:41.480 --> 0:12:44.240 It's the text that he's sending, it's the things he's 0:12:44.280 --> 0:12:47.800 looking up. These are these extra voices. So now let's 0:12:47.800 --> 0:12:51.400 get to the second part of the question. And he's 0:12:51.440 --> 0:12:54.240 having trouble now. He said, life is coming at him hard. 0:12:54.679 --> 0:12:59.080 He's on the island in a canoe. The waves are crashing, 0:12:59.280 --> 0:13:02.320 and he's it's completely foggy, you can't see the island. 0:13:02.640 --> 0:13:06.840 And when that's going on, now he's has this stepfather problem. 0:13:08.080 --> 0:13:12.040 And the stepfather comes in and and and Riley's thinking, 0:13:14.160 --> 0:13:17.400 is it possible for someone? He says, is it possible 0:13:17.440 --> 0:13:22.080 for someone to be too far gone to be saved? 0:13:23.000 --> 0:13:25.840 How do you answer Riley on that too far gone 0:13:25.840 --> 0:13:26.360 to be saved? 0:13:26.840 --> 0:13:34.280 Or could any human be too far gone to be saved? No? 0:13:35.200 --> 0:13:38.600 But because that would just mean if you put it 0:13:38.640 --> 0:13:41.120 like how you're saying the island, that would just mean 0:13:41.160 --> 0:13:44.360 you're boat's drifting away, but you can drive it back. 0:13:44.840 --> 0:13:52.120 Like okay, if Paul he was soul before and he 0:13:52.200 --> 0:13:55.400 was killing Christians and that's a terrible thing. And then 0:13:55.760 --> 0:13:59.319 God came to him and he was like, how many 0:13:59.360 --> 0:14:00.480 books in the wild did he write? 0:14:00.520 --> 0:14:07.360 Thirteen? About three fourths of the New Testament. So I 0:14:07.400 --> 0:14:09.040 don't know if it is thirteen. I don't I'm not 0:14:09.160 --> 0:14:10.320 exactly sure. Maybe you know that. 0:14:10.400 --> 0:14:14.040 I think it is so I don't think anyone can 0:14:14.120 --> 0:14:14.600 be too far. 0:14:15.000 --> 0:14:17.200 Pause, pause what you said? Go back to the story. 0:14:17.440 --> 0:14:21.680 You said, Saul was killing Christians. Okay, then then start. 0:14:21.520 --> 0:14:24.200 Again, Saul was killing Christians. 0:14:25.000 --> 0:14:27.200 What do you mean, repeat what you said earlier? I 0:14:27.200 --> 0:14:28.440 want to I want to make you repeat what you 0:14:28.480 --> 0:14:29.040 said earlier. 0:14:29.160 --> 0:14:32.280 Saul was killing Christians and then God came to him. 0:14:32.360 --> 0:14:38.400 And you see what happened? What Saul was doing that? 0:14:39.040 --> 0:14:40.960 And then what God came to him? 0:14:41.200 --> 0:14:48.400 Yes, yes, what did what did Saul do in that scenario? Nothing? 0:14:49.040 --> 0:14:55.200 God came to him. So the answer is no, no 0:14:55.240 --> 0:14:58.240 one could be too far gone. No one could be 0:14:58.320 --> 0:15:01.520 too far gone. So it doesn't matter if you're if 0:15:01.520 --> 0:15:06.800 you're a murderer, a blasphemer, whatever you've done in your life, 0:15:07.920 --> 0:15:10.680 no one could be too far gone. Now, it's it's 0:15:10.800 --> 0:15:14.600 a human responsibility to avoid hardening of the heart, because 0:15:15.240 --> 0:15:19.520 because not believing always comes from as a result of 0:15:19.840 --> 0:15:22.760 hardening of the heart. And so you can go further 0:15:22.840 --> 0:15:25.480 and further, and God gives you up to your passions. 0:15:25.520 --> 0:15:29.240 The Book of Roman says, who's another Paul letter? God 0:15:29.320 --> 0:15:31.760 gives you up to your passions. So we want to 0:15:31.800 --> 0:15:35.760 avoid at all costs being given up to our passions. 0:15:36.600 --> 0:15:40.360 So we stop, we repent. We believe in Gospel. We 0:15:40.480 --> 0:15:43.920 believe that Jesus died for sins, and we trust Him 0:15:43.920 --> 0:15:47.000 for the total forgiveness of our sins, and we're saved 0:15:47.000 --> 0:15:50.240 by grace through faith. This is not anything that we've 0:15:50.280 --> 0:15:54.880 done right, and so we don't want to be hardened 0:15:54.880 --> 0:15:57.720 in that way. But at the end of the day, 0:15:58.520 --> 0:16:01.400 God is sovereign, and like you said, said, God came 0:16:01.480 --> 0:16:03.960 to him, so no, no one could be too far gone. 0:16:04.840 --> 0:16:07.000 I think that's it. I think that's a pretty good 0:16:07.400 --> 0:16:13.160 I think that's it for Riley Go. Another one said 0:16:13.160 --> 0:16:21.000 another one subject heartbreak, Hey Granger, how do you prepare 0:16:21.360 --> 0:16:26.760 for a heartbreak? A person just gave me a sign 0:16:27.280 --> 0:16:31.200 that could be bad, also could be nothing. I'm not 0:16:31.240 --> 0:16:35.480 trying to expect bad, but trying to prepare, asking myself 0:16:36.840 --> 0:16:39.200 how could I say what the person meant to me 0:16:39.280 --> 0:16:44.080 without breaking down? How I'd leave on happy terms. I've 0:16:44.080 --> 0:16:47.880 been praying every day to God, over fully trusting in 0:16:47.920 --> 0:16:51.240 his plan, giving him full control, and knowing everything is 0:16:51.280 --> 0:16:54.040 for the greater good. I've been diving into the word 0:16:54.280 --> 0:16:57.280 in my community. I'm struggling. I'm in the cab of 0:16:57.280 --> 0:16:59.520 a truck. Give it to me straight. I appreciate all 0:16:59.560 --> 0:17:06.080 you do. This comes from d Oregon, twenty three years old. 0:17:06.880 --> 0:17:11.040 You understand the question I think I do. I think 0:17:11.040 --> 0:17:12.199 I do. I think too. 0:17:12.240 --> 0:17:14.080 I just don't know what they said, so it's kind 0:17:14.080 --> 0:17:14.440 of hard. 0:17:14.560 --> 0:17:20.800 It's a girl, right, yeah, Okay, what's the name D. 0:17:21.200 --> 0:17:29.639 It's just like a nickname. Oh, I honestly don't know. 0:17:30.760 --> 0:17:34.280 Let's just say it's a girl just for the sake 0:17:34.320 --> 0:17:38.800 of conversation. Okay, So it's a girl, and I believe 0:17:39.040 --> 0:17:47.200 she is preparing for a heartbreak because her boyfriend gave 0:17:47.240 --> 0:17:53.160 a sign something, maybe said something, did something, didn't do something, 0:17:54.119 --> 0:17:56.720 and D is overthinking it and thinking this could be 0:17:56.800 --> 0:17:59.600 really bad or it could be nothing. But then that 0:17:59.600 --> 0:18:03.639 makes D kind of look at herself and think maybe 0:18:03.640 --> 0:18:08.040 I should prepare for the worst. And I don't think 0:18:08.080 --> 0:18:11.119 I could think about this person without breaking down. I'd loved. 0:18:11.640 --> 0:18:13.919 I don't know how i'd leave on happy terms. And 0:18:13.960 --> 0:18:18.320 then I'm praying to God that I would be fully 0:18:18.320 --> 0:18:21.520 trusting in his plan. It sounds like he's a worrier 0:18:21.600 --> 0:18:26.480 a little bit, and it sounds like the way that 0:18:26.520 --> 0:18:27.919 this is worded. I don't know a lot about it. 0:18:27.960 --> 0:18:29.199 So we're in the cab of the truck. I need 0:18:29.240 --> 0:18:33.120 to ask more questions. But I think this boyfriend has 0:18:33.720 --> 0:18:37.720 started to become an idol to D. There's a worship 0:18:37.800 --> 0:18:41.920 element here. I don't know how I could talk about 0:18:41.920 --> 0:18:44.919 this person without breaking down. I don't know how I 0:18:44.960 --> 0:18:46.800 could be happy. Really, it's what D's saying, I don't 0:18:46.840 --> 0:18:49.000 know how it could be happy away from this person. 0:18:49.359 --> 0:18:52.040 And then the very next sentence, I've been praying every 0:18:52.119 --> 0:18:56.000 day to God over fully, trusting in his plan, giving 0:18:56.080 --> 0:18:59.040 him full control. First of all, the God already has 0:18:59.119 --> 0:19:02.879 full control. That's an interesting thing to think about. It's like, 0:19:02.920 --> 0:19:06.560 I want to give God full control. God's like, oh, 0:19:06.640 --> 0:19:10.719 did you think you had any Did you think you 0:19:10.760 --> 0:19:12.840 had You thought you had controlled that you were going 0:19:12.920 --> 0:19:15.960 to give to me. I am God. We could read 0:19:15.960 --> 0:19:17.920 this in the Book of Job. Read the back half 0:19:17.920 --> 0:19:20.480 of the Book of Job. If anyone's wondering about this. 0:19:22.400 --> 0:19:25.320 God is certainly in full control and doesn't need us 0:19:25.359 --> 0:19:29.399 to give him any We don't have any and and 0:19:29.480 --> 0:19:32.360 so it's his world we're living in it. He's got 0:19:32.400 --> 0:19:34.359 the whole world in his hands. And he is not 0:19:34.440 --> 0:19:41.520 in our hands at all. D. A. Carson has written 0:19:41.640 --> 0:19:45.040 a lot about this. J. I. Packer has written a 0:19:45.040 --> 0:19:49.040 book called Knowing God that's just fantastic, but understanding who 0:19:49.080 --> 0:19:52.000 God is. God doesn't need any more control. He already 0:19:52.000 --> 0:19:56.840 has it all. So what what you mean? And I 0:19:56.840 --> 0:20:01.280 think D what you what you're saying is you're wanting 0:20:01.320 --> 0:20:05.639 to submit to his full control. Surrender maybe is the 0:20:05.640 --> 0:20:13.440 word to his full control. So what does D do? 0:20:13.480 --> 0:20:17.840 We think the boyfriend's an idol struggling with trusting God? 0:20:18.280 --> 0:20:21.480 What does D do? 0:20:21.480 --> 0:20:29.480 Does it in the Bible say you can't have two idols? Yeah, 0:20:30.280 --> 0:20:32.359 maybe talk to the boyfriend. 0:20:32.840 --> 0:20:34.280 I think that's a great idea. 0:20:35.040 --> 0:20:38.040 Just like just sort of ask them what's going on 0:20:38.720 --> 0:20:41.680 or if they meant what they said, and just tell 0:20:41.720 --> 0:20:44.960 them how you feel. And if they don't, if they 0:20:45.040 --> 0:20:51.200 don't like understand or if they don't yeah, I guess understand, then. 0:20:52.680 --> 0:20:56.240 I think that's a really good idea. Honesty, vulnerability, just 0:20:56.320 --> 0:20:58.600 open up, just say hey, I think I got a 0:20:58.640 --> 0:21:03.400 bad sign. It could be nothing, but did you mean this? 0:21:03.560 --> 0:21:05.399 And is this where this is going? And if the 0:21:05.440 --> 0:21:08.280 boyfriends may give them a chance to say, yeah, that 0:21:08.520 --> 0:21:11.600 was and then okay, well then I'm gonna I'm gonna 0:21:11.600 --> 0:21:15.280 move on. The's asking how do you prepare for a heartbreak? 0:21:15.359 --> 0:21:19.840 You prepare for a heartbreak outside of marriage by not 0:21:19.920 --> 0:21:24.200 fully giving your heart, protecting your heart, protect your heart, 0:21:24.280 --> 0:21:29.280 d protect your heart at all costs. Protect it. How 0:21:29.320 --> 0:21:31.280 do you protect it? By not going too far? And 0:21:31.400 --> 0:21:37.160 so many different things emotionally, spiritually, physically, don't go too far, 0:21:37.720 --> 0:21:41.080 guard your heart, have tough conversations. So you know, I 0:21:41.119 --> 0:21:43.120 really like you, but this is I'm going to guard 0:21:43.160 --> 0:21:47.000 my heart in this situation. Don't go ahead. 0:21:47.160 --> 0:21:49.679 Sorry, I was thinking. This is actually happened to me 0:21:49.760 --> 0:21:52.960 before with a friend. And you don't have to give 0:21:53.000 --> 0:21:55.440 them one hundred percent, and you don't have to make 0:21:55.480 --> 0:21:59.440 them your number one because they'll take advantage of it. 0:22:00.080 --> 0:22:01.960 First of all, because you can't give they can't be 0:22:02.040 --> 0:22:04.600 number one. Yeah, that's God. And second of all, you 0:22:04.600 --> 0:22:07.359 can't give them one hundred percent because you're not married. 0:22:07.680 --> 0:22:08.120 Yeah. 0:22:08.440 --> 0:22:10.639 A lot of times people approach me wanting to start 0:22:10.640 --> 0:22:13.280 their own business and they ask about EE Apparel, and 0:22:13.320 --> 0:22:16.320 they ask about the e commerce side of things and 0:22:16.359 --> 0:22:20.359 the website and how we do that, and I usually 0:22:20.400 --> 0:22:23.840 say it was very difficult. 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Thousands of 0:22:59.480 --> 0:23:02.560 businesses use Shopify to take care of their customers and 0:23:02.680 --> 0:23:05.160 check out and you could do that too. Upgrade your 0:23:05.200 --> 0:23:08.840 business and get the same checkout we use with Shopify. 0:23:09.359 --> 0:23:11.879 Sign up for your one dollar per month trial period 0:23:11.880 --> 0:23:15.320 at shopify dot com slash granger all lowercase. Go to 0:23:15.359 --> 0:23:19.040 shopify dot com slash granger to upgrade your selling today 0:23:19.280 --> 0:23:24.760 shopify dot com slash Granger. Next question is very simple. 0:23:25.440 --> 0:23:27.840 It's Riley, but this is a different Riley. This is 0:23:27.880 --> 0:23:32.760 our y L e Y Riley from Montana sixteen years old, 0:23:33.640 --> 0:23:37.879 and Riley says, my question is how do I commit 0:23:38.119 --> 0:23:41.399 to Christ? Because I can't seem to do it? Also, 0:23:41.440 --> 0:23:43.400 how do I cut all the things that I find 0:23:43.440 --> 0:23:47.560 important that truly aren't important in the grand scheme of things? 0:23:47.600 --> 0:23:51.720 I appreciate it? Riley, that's a good, honest question for 0:23:51.880 --> 0:23:56.439 Riley from Montana. Where was the other Riley from do 0:23:56.440 --> 0:24:01.800 you remember Oregon? No? That was d do I don't know. 0:24:02.640 --> 0:24:07.560 This is the second Riley on the podcast. So do 0:24:07.600 --> 0:24:09.879 you have an answer? How do you commit to Christ? 0:24:09.920 --> 0:24:12.440 Because I'm trying so hard and I can't do it? 0:24:12.680 --> 0:24:22.640 You start, Okay, Yeah, let me start with the back 0:24:22.640 --> 0:24:24.320