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Speaker 1: Buggle up and hold on tight. We got it. Fall

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Speaker 1: you here. It is a Strawberry letter subject he chose

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Speaker 1: his wife over me. Dear Stephen Shirley, I need your

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Speaker 1: advice because I really want to kick my dad's wife's behind.

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Speaker 1: I am a forty two year old single mother of

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Speaker 1: two kids. My children's dads don't help me financially, so

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Speaker 1: my father has helped me raise my kids for the

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Speaker 1: past fifteen years. Well, I recently lost my job and

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Speaker 1: everything went downhill. I wasn't able to pay my rent,

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Speaker 1: so I had to move out of my apartment. At

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Speaker 1: the beginning of this month. I called my dad to

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Speaker 1: moved back in with them. She said it's not their

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Speaker 1: of my kids dad's are losers. She said she will

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Speaker 1: no longer allow me to ruin my daddy's credit. Then

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Speaker 1: she told me to get off my fat blank and

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Speaker 1: start and start taking care of myself. Before she could finish,

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Speaker 1: I hung up on her. Yes, I have made plenty mistakes,

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Speaker 1: but I don't need her throwing them in my face.

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Speaker 1: So now my children and I are living with my girlfriend,

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Speaker 1: but we can't stay there much longer. My dad will

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Speaker 1: not speak to me until I apologize to his wife.

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Speaker 1: I told him that was never going to happen. Why

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Speaker 1: should I apologize to this woman? She hurt my feelings,

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Speaker 1: so she should apologize to me and let me move

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Speaker 1: in until I get back on my feet. I don't

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Speaker 1: feel like I'm wrong. This was my dad's way. This

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Speaker 1: was this was my dad way before he was her husband.

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, what do you think? Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope.

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Speaker 1: How wrong are you? You are just so wrong right here,

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Speaker 1: And the fact that you don't know this makes this

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Speaker 1: letter even more ridiculous. Okay, your father has every right

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Speaker 1: house too. Your dad doesn't owe you anything, Okay, he

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Speaker 1: with them. I mean, how much more is he supposed

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Speaker 1: to do for you at forty two, he's been helping

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Speaker 1: into enabling. Yes, your dad was you're enabler and he

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Speaker 1: is tired of it now and Wifeie is not having

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Speaker 1: They's been doing this for fifteen years? Yeah, come on, now,

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Speaker 1: it's time for you to take your baby's daddy's to

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Speaker 1: the financial help you need to you know, live your

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Speaker 1: life the way you need to live your life. And yes,

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Speaker 1: of course, apologize to your step mom and for your dad.

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Speaker 1: You're trying to make this and feel guilty for not

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Speaker 1: letting you get back in. They have every right to

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Speaker 1: do what they did, every right. Come on now, Steve, Yes,

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Speaker 1: come on boy. Steve Edie's type of letters where I excel. Yes,

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Speaker 1: my gift comes out in letters like this. Let me

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Speaker 1: take you down to it, because you really want to

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Speaker 1: kick your daddy's wife behind. I'm forty too, let's just

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Speaker 1: start that. Damn the single mother. Paul, you're fighty too,

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Speaker 1: what hevern? You ain't twenty four? You didn't flipped it.

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Speaker 1: You're farty too. You got two kids. Nothing's wrong here,

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Speaker 1: You're ready, ready. My children's dad's don't help me fight naturally,

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Speaker 1: so they're not sending no child none. So my father

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Speaker 1: don't worry about that. I do this a tommy with

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Speaker 1: Somebody'd been helping you with the damn kids, and they

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Speaker 1: I recently lost my job and everything went down. Hell,

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Speaker 1: That's cause it's her house. And the other reason it

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Speaker 1: the ninth time, nine damn times. You're forty two year

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Speaker 1: It ain't just the nine times. Oh that's big, But

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Speaker 1: I don't know loes they place to stay? Nine times?

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Speaker 1: Just ain't paying no damn rind mad his wife. Listen,

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Speaker 1: put out ste Mama, you're buying our phones in Georgia.

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Speaker 1: Your ASTs ain't paying the rent. Right this farty too

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Speaker 1: ain't the problem. You called your daddy because you lost

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Speaker 1: He putting my stepmother on the phone, and she screened, Hey,

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Speaker 1: now you ain't coming hell no, when you got bring it?

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Speaker 1: She said it would be the ninth time, and she

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Speaker 1: did not lie. She's business because you didn't dispute it.

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Speaker 1: Just the knife damn time that I moved back in

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Speaker 1: with them. She'd been there through eight moving She said,

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Speaker 1: it's not a problem that I can't keep a job

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Speaker 1: and that both my kids dads are losers. You slept

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Speaker 1: she says. She would no longer allow me to ruin

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Speaker 1: my daddy's credit. Here is what you really mad? Come on,

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Speaker 1: prompted this letter, right, she called your fat asswer See

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Speaker 1: that wasn't She wasn't gonna write this letter until she

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Speaker 1: of yourself. Lord. Now we have the letter. Now. Before

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Speaker 1: fat ass wiped you out. This is how the conversation.

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Speaker 1: Get off your fat ass and take care of yourself. Hey,

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Speaker 1: what is daddy and stepmama over there doing by themself? Anyway?

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Speaker 1: What did they do? They live it and they fought.

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Speaker 1: They probably set sixty to seventy. They don't want them

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Speaker 1: damn kids and the fat ass, and they even groceries.

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Speaker 1: They's already last time she was here. The one reason

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Speaker 1: to confession. Now I hung up on it. Yes, I

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Speaker 1: have made plenty of mistakes, but I don't need her

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Speaker 1: throwing them in my face. She ain't throw them in

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Speaker 1: keep dragging them. Damn key it back over there eight

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Speaker 1: times prior. It ain't that they throwing it in your face.

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Speaker 1: You keep bringing it to they face. So now my

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Speaker 1: can't stay there much longer. You know why, because your

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Speaker 1: eating groceries up over there too, and them two boys.

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Speaker 1: My dad would not speak to me until I apologized

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Speaker 1: to his wife, because see, you ain't just hang up.

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Speaker 1: See see what she called you, fat ass? Take care

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Speaker 1: of yourself. Oh oh you went out the house like

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Speaker 1: you had the waffern come back around. Oh you threw

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Speaker 1: I'm fat. Oh I'm fat. I ain't the only one fat.

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Speaker 1: Me and you ain't the same side. Because when I

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Speaker 1: come back. And that's why you gotta apologize. I told

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Speaker 1: in this woman's Oh are you stupid? Why should I

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Speaker 1: This was my dad way before he was a husband. Ya,

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Speaker 1: to leave all others and cleave unto her. That's your

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Speaker 1: steady replenishing ass. See, if you would get in the

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Speaker 1: But you're in the ass replenishing busins. You over there

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