WEBVTT - Introducing Dominant Stories with Jess Weiner

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<v Speaker 1>I have no idea what I'm passionate about. I'm too

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<v Speaker 1>old to start something new. People won't take me seriously

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<v Speaker 1>because how I look. I can't go after my dreams

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<v Speaker 1>because others rely on whether I'm not where I should.

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<v Speaker 1>Will never overcome what happened to me in my past.

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<v Speaker 1>I am exactly where I need to be. I am

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<v Speaker 1>exactly where I need to do. I'm exactly where I

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<v Speaker 1>need to be. Dominant stories are the stories that we

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<v Speaker 1>tell ourselves about ourselves. I don't sound smart enough, I

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<v Speaker 1>deserve to take up space. I'll never be able to

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<v Speaker 1>do what I want, whether it's true or not. It

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<v Speaker 1>affects how we act in the world. It affects the

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<v Speaker 1>choices we make. It affects the risks we take or

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<v Speaker 1>don't take. I'm Jess Weener, cultural expert and the host

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<v Speaker 1>of dominant stories. I have wrestled with dominant stories, probably

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<v Speaker 1>as far back as like eleven years old. Both my

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<v Speaker 1>parents are pretty chronic dieters, and so there was a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of focus on body image, a lot of fear

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<v Speaker 1>around food. For me, Dominant stories is a great entry

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<v Speaker 1>point for folks to realize that they've sort of programmed

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<v Speaker 1>a belief system within themselves that is actually shaping the

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<v Speaker 1>trajectory of their life. That little voice is still in there,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's not our voice, it's someone else's. Those are

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<v Speaker 1>all lies designed by culture and negative forces to keep

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<v Speaker 1>you small. Like they don't want you to thrive, they

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<v Speaker 1>don't want you to spread your wings. You know, we're

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<v Speaker 1>really talking to the thinkers and the movers and the

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<v Speaker 1>shakers of our world right now about what's shaping them.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't like my body in the first place. When

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<v Speaker 1>I got the diagnosis, it just pissed me off even

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<v Speaker 1>more and I was like, you always let me down.

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<v Speaker 1>The point is not to rid yourself of the voices.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just like, do you let them be in the

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<v Speaker 1>driver's seat or The big goal is we can rewrite

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<v Speaker 1>those stories, and that rewriting actually will change our lives.

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<v Speaker 1>Feelings are like a compass. They tell us what direction

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<v Speaker 1>to go, and if we don't pay attention to them,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like walking around with a faulty GPS. You have

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<v Speaker 1>no idea where you're going. Listen to Dominant Stories with

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<v Speaker 1>me Jess Weener every Wednesday on the I Heart Radio app,

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<v Speaker 1>Apple Podcast or wherever you listen to podcasts,