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Speaker 1: This is from DeAndre on Steve HARVEFM. DeAndre says I

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Speaker 1: still live at home along with my older brother and

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Speaker 1: my younger sister who's still in high school. Most of

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Speaker 1: my extra income goes toward helping my parents and covering

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Speaker 1: costs for my sister, who competes on an elite travel

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Speaker 1: volleyball team, which means a lot of costly out of

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Speaker 1: state tournaments. I don't resent supporting her, and I know

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Speaker 1: my parents are doing their best, but it's hard not

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Speaker 1: to notice that my older brother also lives here and

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Speaker 1: contributes absolutely nothing. Everyone else helps keep the household running

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Speaker 1: and make sacrifices so my sister can keep competing while

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Speaker 1: he just takes advantage of it. Should I step to

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Speaker 1: him and ask him to contribute or should I move back?

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Speaker 2: Absolutely? Absolutely? Absolutely absolutely?

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Speaker 3: Or yeah, you should step to your brother or and

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Speaker 3: the next option is to move out and just send

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Speaker 3: your sister to help that.

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Speaker 1: You want to send, Okay, uh huh.

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Speaker 3: I'm not taking care of no grown able body, man,

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Speaker 3: That's what I'm not going to do.

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Speaker 2: I'm not going to do that, even though I do that.

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Speaker 2: What I'm sorry inside voice was talking.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the first time. Maybe in a long time.

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Speaker 1: You've done that.

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Speaker 3: I just said something that I realized and I'm doing that.

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Speaker 3: Why as soon as I said it, I went, hey,

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Speaker 3: you doing that?

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Speaker 2: What is you talking about?

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Speaker 3: You would never support a grown what? Okay?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, but you should step in and say something

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Speaker 1: or move out?

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Speaker 2: Okay? Hey man, everybody kicking in around here. But you

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Speaker 2: what's up? Bro?

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Speaker 3: You my big brother? Man, you ain't set an example

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Speaker 3: for me, for our little sister. It's a disappointment to

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Speaker 3: our parents. Man, what you're doing. Bro, you gotta step up.

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Speaker 3: Many brothers can have that conversation.

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Speaker 2: For sure.

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Speaker 3: I never had to say that to my brothers because

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Speaker 3: it just there's no way you was in my daddy's house.

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Speaker 3: It wasn't working. I've been working since our teen years.

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Speaker 3: So hey, I ain't never seen my brother not have

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Speaker 3: a job, not my brother daddy that you're gonna do

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Speaker 3: something though.

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Speaker 2: A dog?

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Speaker 3: What you're talking about, Dane Hine? You better get on

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Speaker 3: there in a car wash? You got to do something?

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Speaker 1: Okay?

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Speaker 3: All right?

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Speaker 1: All right, we have time for another one.

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Speaker 2: Steve.

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Speaker 1: This is from Nicole and Steve BARBFMN. Cole says, my

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Speaker 1: husband and I are equal partners. In our marriage and

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Speaker 1: our finances. Recently, his parents have needed some financial help,

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Speaker 1: but his dad will only discuss it with my husband

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Speaker 1: and refuses to include me in the conversation. When my

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Speaker 1: husband told him that any decision would need to involve

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Speaker 1: me too, his dad got offended and said it was

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Speaker 1: quote family business and didn't concern me. Am I overreacting?

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Speaker 1: Since he's asking for our help, should I insist that

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Speaker 1: I'd be part of a conversation and decision.

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Speaker 3: Well, here's the deal. His father's old school. His father

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Speaker 3: old school. He'dne went to his son about the decision

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Speaker 3: that he needed to help with his son, your son

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Speaker 3: who thene got into this new style relationship where everything

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Speaker 3: fifty to fifty, which is not and decided that you

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Speaker 3: have to be included. The father's offended because, hey, man,

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Speaker 3: I'm coming to you like a man. I raised you

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Speaker 3: to be a man. This is us talking.

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Speaker 1: Now.

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Speaker 3: He ain't saying that he shouldn't confide in you, but

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Speaker 3: in him his pride. Don't want to come in here

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Speaker 3: and ask his probably pride, don't want to ask his

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Speaker 3: daughter in law for no help. Yeah, just keep it

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Speaker 3: between the men and do it like that. You shouldn't

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Speaker 3: be offended by that. You should have to understand that's

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Speaker 3: the old school way of doing stuff. You know, like

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Speaker 3: if I fell on hard times, I wouldn't go to

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Speaker 3: my son and then sit I ask his wife for

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Speaker 3: some help. I asked my son and then remind him

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Speaker 3: of what all I've done for you. And if it

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Speaker 3: wasn't thing, no way, So you know, don't hate me

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Speaker 3: have to say that marriage is never fifty to fifty.

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Speaker 3: I don't know why y'all keep trying to make it

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Speaker 3: that marriage is eighty five.

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Speaker 2: Fifteen. Women get eighty five, we get fifteen.

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Speaker 3: Go over there, get show fifteen, make yourself happy, get

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Speaker 3: yourself a little man, cave a little garage space, and

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Speaker 3: deal with it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, your money is mine and my money is money.

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Speaker 1: Your money is.

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Speaker 2: Our, that's mine. I ain't never seen that fifty to

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Speaker 2: fifty work. That's just so nice.

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Speaker 1: All right, we'll have more of the Steve Harvey Morning

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Speaker 1: Show coming up.

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Speaker 2: Well, is it fifty fifty at your house?

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Speaker 3: Tom?

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Speaker 2: Right after that?

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Speaker 1: Oh no, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show