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Speaker 2: Thanks for listening to us.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, is uh, I don't know if your

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Speaker 1: I feel like you Maybe you know you're supposed to

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Speaker 1: this sort of smut. All right, So there was a

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Speaker 1: Monday night football NFL doubleheader. The Bucks beat the Texans.

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Speaker 1: You had the Texans, yes? And then the Chargers beat

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Speaker 1: the Raiders. Did you have the Chargers?

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Speaker 2: Did the Raiders?

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Speaker 1: So?

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Speaker 1: Five and ten for the pick. It took a long

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Speaker 1: five and ten. Dan, Now, I know you're heading to

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Speaker 1: And there is proof that I did it. There's a

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Speaker 1: I wasn't even on the I was before Fox and

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Speaker 1: I just I just said, hey, look, Ryan Secrets is

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Speaker 1: chew gum on TV. That's what I said. I said

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Speaker 1: what I said. Okay, And but no, I don't know

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Speaker 1: who's going to do it this year. I'm sure some

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Speaker 1: but you are going, so I'll need your picks in

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Speaker 1: against whatever you say, because things aren't going very well.

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Speaker 1: Tom Brady though big announcement. He was teasing this. Tom

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Speaker 1: Brady is coming out of retirement to play flag football

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Speaker 1: for the inaugural Fanatics Flag Football Classic on March twenty

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Speaker 1: first Kingdom Arena in Saudi Arabia. The event marks Brady's

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Speaker 1: The tournament features three teams of eight players each including

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Speaker 1: current NFL stars like Saquon Barkley, Ceedee Lamb, Christa McCaffrey,

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Speaker 1: Tyreek Hills, Oas Gardner, Miles Garrett, and Max Crosby. Gronk

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Speaker 1: will be part of it as well, and the teams

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Speaker 1: are coached by Pete Carroll, Sean Payton, and Kyle Shanahan.

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Speaker 1: The games will follow five on five flag football rules

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Speaker 1: The event will broadcast live on Fox Sports and to

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Speaker 1: I'm little surprised some of these guys are able to

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Speaker 1: don't need to be out there messing around playing flag football,

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Speaker 1: like Sakwon Barkley, You're one of the best players in

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Speaker 1: That's all you know, seet injured doing that, right exactly.

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Speaker 1: This is huge news this morning for you, Kiki. A

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Speaker 1: Year's long saga over national security man anything not to

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Speaker 1: speak with Chinese leaders on Friday to finalize the deal,

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Speaker 1: It's mine now. Daylight saving time is making us fatter.

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Speaker 1: a lightning daily schedules with our natural circadian rhythms to

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Speaker 1: in case you were wondering, but yes, those of us

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Speaker 2: A million percent contended, is not good for you. Not

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Speaker 2: It's got starches, right, So I mean it's not that. Oh,

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Speaker 2: It's not gonna work out well for you. And then

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Speaker 5: You know, I didn't need to nap, not that I

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Speaker 5: Well, you crave crappier food for lack of a better term,

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Speaker 1: I'll eat after your work and then I take a

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Speaker 1: And so if you work third shift or you work overnights,

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Speaker 1: and you feel sick. You feel anyway, So this makes

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Speaker 1: sense to me. A woman her name is Isis, and

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Speaker 2: I've never met an Isis in my life. Yeah, well

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Speaker 2: You said, I said, I said free, guilty verdict.

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Speaker 1: the unluckiest criminal on the planet is a guy who

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Speaker 1: that's really not good. If you carjack nuns with a

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Speaker 1: We don't carjack people with a weapon or a fake weapon,

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Speaker 2: You know what I mean? Like, ask him first? Are

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Speaker 2: you nuns? You know? Like, because this could be bad

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Speaker 1: It's nationally a lot of days today, guys, National Guacamole Day,

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Speaker 1: Family Day, National Plato Day, and National Voter Registration Date.

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Speaker 1: Stay or Go all right, let's talk to Chris. Hi, Chris,

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Speaker 1: how you doing doing good? Chris, Welcome to the program.

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Speaker 1: You found a secret stash of money that your wife

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Speaker 1: was hiding from you. Yeah, why what's the context here?

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Speaker 1: I gotta understand.

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Speaker 7: Okay, So I work, she's she's a stay at home mom.

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Speaker 7: She hasn't had like like a.

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Speaker 2: Real job in you're careful careful.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, well, I mean you know what I mean, like,

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Speaker 1: Not had an outside of the home paid position. I

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 7: I love where she runs the house. She's amazing, yes,

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Speaker 2: Earn a salary from that, understand.

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Speaker 7: So I found out that she's kind of somehow been

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Speaker 7: We're very honest with each other. And she said that

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Speaker 7: it started during the pandemic just because she was you know,

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Speaker 7: she said, she said, it's it's for both of.

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Speaker 1: Us, okay, but you didn't know about it. And just

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Speaker 1: to be clear, you you, so you make you bring

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Speaker 1: home the money. It goes into an account. She has

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Speaker 1: That's for both of you, except both of you didn't

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Speaker 7: Just to be clear, No, No, that's that's exactly it.

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Speaker 7: And that's why I'm having a hard time believing this

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Speaker 7: The pandemic was five years ago.

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Speaker 1: There's probably a lot of money in here now. She

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Speaker 7: Yeah, And so I, you know, I told him, like,

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Speaker 7: this feels like you're kind.

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Speaker 8: Of it's, for lack of a better term, it feels

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Speaker 8: like you're kind of stealing from me because you know,

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Speaker 8: she doesn't she doesn't have a job like that.

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Speaker 7: It just feels off.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So she said that she's setting this money aside

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Speaker 1: And and okay, but you didn't know about it, and

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Speaker 1: if you hadn't but if you hadn't seen this, this account.

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Speaker 1: Then you wouldn't have known it even existed, Like this

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Speaker 2: About exactly exactly right now?

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Speaker 1: Are you a spender? Like do you have an issue?

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Speaker 1: Is there an issue in your relationship with with? Do

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Speaker 1: Do you think she's Is she doing this as like

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Speaker 1: don't trust that you'll do it?

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Speaker 2: Is it? Or are you pretty okay?

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Speaker 9: No?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 7: No, no, we I mean we do okay, you know

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Speaker 7: there's just like everybody like there's good months and bad months,

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Speaker 3: We do?

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Speaker 7: We do? Okay?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this is my mom. By the way, I think

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Speaker 1: you're married. This is my dad calling because my mom

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Speaker 1: think my dad has any idea. My grandmother did this too,

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Speaker 1: it was from the depression. Well, my mom wasn't alive

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Speaker 1: during the depression, but my grandparents.

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Speaker 2: Were, and I get that, and my mom.

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Speaker 1: And my grandmother was like this. My grandmother hid money

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Speaker 1: generational in my family to hide money from their from spouses,

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Speaker 1: if you're being honest with us, and you're saying that

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Speaker 1: know why she couldn't just and what it's for you

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Speaker 1: never know. But what is you never know is that

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Speaker 1: like it's for when I divorce you. And I mean,

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Speaker 1: I don't mean to take this to the very you know,

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Speaker 1: saving for five years. I mean, what kind of how

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Speaker 7: Yep, a couple thousand dollars.

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Speaker 1: Now, another question is does she have any like Have

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Speaker 1: you guys decided, hey, you're raising the kids and taking

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Speaker 2: That is a very important job. It's a hard job.

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Speaker 1: So you know you can set aside x amount of

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Speaker 1: you guys discussed maybe and this would be something she

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Speaker 7: We do have an agreement in sense like that. So

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Speaker 7: girl's site, so I'm gonna be you know, touching that account. Okay,

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Speaker 1: Or she needs to buy something, or I'm gonna buy

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't love to have to.

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Speaker 1: Go to my spouse every time and go, hey, can

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Speaker 2: You know or whatever.

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Speaker 1: It's like yeah, okay, So so you know, maybe she's

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Speaker 1: I don't know if this has ever happened to you.

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Speaker 1: Before I want to I want to hear from the people, Chris,

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Speaker 1: I appreciate it. Man, have the radio and I'll see

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Speaker 1: what people have to say. Good luck, right, thank you?

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Speaker 1: A lot of text about this, But you know, I

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Speaker 1: don't know, Kiki, you you seem to think this is okay.

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Speaker 1: Why wouldn't you just say, Hey, I'm pulling five hundred

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Speaker 2: And it's ruining none of your business.

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Speaker 6: I don't see a problem with this at all, and

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Speaker 6: I don't. And she didn't take that. She's not taking

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Speaker 6: it out to do whatever she wants to do with it.

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Speaker 6: She's taking it out for them.

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Speaker 2: But if it's for them, then why doesn't he know?

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Speaker 2: He doesn't need to know, of.

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Speaker 6: Course, if it's for them, but now he does know.

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Speaker 6: So it's not like she's lying and hiding, I mean

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Speaker 2: Found it, you know, when he found it.

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Speaker 8: Yes, you have when.

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Speaker 6: You especially when you are a stay at home parent,

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Speaker 6: He might lose his job to AI if he come

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Speaker 6: home and hey, y'all took his job. I got I

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Speaker 6: got a little fund on the side, baby, for both

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Speaker 6: of us. That's all she's doing.

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Speaker 2: But you're assuming she was going to tell him about that.

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Speaker 6: Well, yes, I will tell you as long as we're together.

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Speaker 6: Now if we break up, that's my money. You didn't

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Speaker 6: need to know about it. I don't see anything wrong

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Speaker 1: If she has, she has every right to want to

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Speaker 1: She's a big saver. I don't think my dad is.

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Speaker 1: So there's just a lot of elements to this. But

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Speaker 1: I don't know why you don't just disclose that. I

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Speaker 1: that's mine. It's you still have access to it. But

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Speaker 6: Because I don't even to say it, I don't need

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Speaker 6: I'm thinking about it all day, thinking about how I

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Speaker 2: I don't even you should invest in paying the toll way.

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Speaker 2: I don't need you to see. I don't need you

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Speaker 2: to think about that. You should invest in paying the irs.

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Speaker 6: Like you know that extra thousand dollars you got you

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Speaker 6: should pay. No, I don't need you to send me

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Speaker 6: what I should do. I just need you to not

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Speaker 6: have Mercy fun. I learned about it as a five

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Speaker 1: Just say that I don't know, Hey, is it tin

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Speaker 1: keys saying name yeap, hey, how you doing so? This

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Speaker 9: I think that's perfectly acceptable. Women have been doing this

436
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Speaker 9: since the dawn of time, especially if they've had to

437
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Speaker 9: be the stay at home moms. In every single culture,

438
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Speaker 9: you will find that women have been hoarding some sort

439
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Speaker 9: of financial wealth because they, as a society were just

440
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Speaker 9: told that they're not important and they needed an easy

441
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Speaker 9: way out. Indians, Indian women have their gold. I was

442
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Speaker 9: gifted so much gold. I got married twenty years ago

443
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Speaker 9: and I have it. Yes, my husband knows about it. However,

444
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Speaker 9: it's not a big deal. Did I used to stay

445
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Speaker 9: at home mom? Absolutely? And no. You should never have

446
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Speaker 9: to ask your significant other if you can send any money,

447
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Speaker 9: especially if you're putting the same or more amount of

448
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Speaker 9: work into that relationship, into making that family happy. And

449
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Speaker 9: I think what happened to this bro is that it's

450
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Speaker 9: the situation where, oh my god, it doesn't matter until

451
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Speaker 9: it finally happens to me, and now I'm going to

452
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Speaker 9: make a big deal about it. It's like, no, no,

453
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Speaker 9: it's a fantastical job.

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Speaker 7: Yep.

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Speaker 2: I agree with everything you're saying.

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Speaker 1: Everything you said is true, But why not just say that,

457
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Speaker 1: why not just establish that in a relationship, this is

458
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Speaker 1: what I deserve, this is what I need, and so

459
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Speaker 1: this is what I'm going to do. And then and

460
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Speaker 1: then he knows. But it's the hiding part that makes

461
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Speaker 1: me wonder why, because.

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Speaker 9: She most likely does not feel confident and comfortable enough

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Speaker 9: to actually tell herself. And that's something that's a little

464
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Speaker 9: bit deeper that they need to dive into. And it's

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Speaker 9: not because I have no idea what their relationship is, like,

466
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Speaker 9: no of us to do, right, We're just going off

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Speaker 9: with this quote unquote sixty second video that he decided

468
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Speaker 9: to put out there, and so I think you just

469
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Speaker 9: need to figure it out on a deeper level. But

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Speaker 9: majority of women, the reason why they don't tell their

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Speaker 9: spouses is because there has been something that has happened

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Speaker 9: in the relationship and or they've been conditioned by the

473
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Speaker 9: women before them because that's what they know.

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Speaker 1: Okay, fair enough, you make a lot of good points.

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Speaker 1: That's just for me. The transparency would be in my

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Speaker 1: relationship with me, I would just want to know. But

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Speaker 1: that's all good. Thank you, have a good day, you too,

478
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Speaker 1: Glad you call you, because this is what happens when

479
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Speaker 1: you don't know and you find it. It's like what

480
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Speaker 1: are you saving up for an escape? You know, like

481
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Speaker 1: when you break out an Alcatraz? Like what are we

482
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Speaker 1: doing here, Jessica?

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Speaker 4: Hi?

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Speaker 2: Hey, you saying leaves a guy? Okay, lor're jumping right

485
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Speaker 2: to that, you sho leave him?

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Speaker 4: Because at first I was saying that this must be

487
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Speaker 4: at least one hundred thousand. She's been, you know, skimming

488
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Speaker 4: off the top.

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Speaker 2: But how can you do one hundred thousand? Are these people.

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Speaker 4: The way he was calling in about his wife, I

491
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Speaker 4: was like, oh, this is huge, So what do you

492
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Speaker 4: say at two thousand dollars? I'm like, did he even

493
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Speaker 4: just call in about two thousand dollars? Because that's just

494
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Speaker 4: the thing that because I'm a numbers girl, so that

495
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Speaker 4: kind of pretty much comes down to four hundred bucks

496
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Speaker 4: a year thirty three dollars a month, which is nothing.

497
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Speaker 4: And she might feel some kind of way about not

498
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Speaker 4: earning money on her own. It just might want to

499
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Speaker 4: have something like they say, oh, school, you have a

500
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Speaker 4: little money set. Its south for a rainy day, and

501
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Speaker 4: there's nothing wrong with that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, fair enough, fair enough, Thank you, Jessica. You're welcome.

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Speaker 2: I have a good day.

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Speaker 1: No, I mean, hey, look, I got no issue any

505
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Speaker 1: of this except for the lack of transparency. Hey Megan, Hi, Hey,

506
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Speaker 1: what's going on? Hey, good morning, welcome, thanks for listening.

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Speaker 1: What do you think So.

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Speaker 2: She's planning on leaving you?

509
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Speaker 3: No?

510
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Speaker 2: No, no, what's leaving me? That's what I don't know to

511
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Speaker 2: do with it.

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Speaker 4: That's true, that's true.

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Speaker 10: No, it could be a ton of different things. Well, like,

514
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Speaker 10: like I was saying, my husband, he's the one that

515
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Speaker 10: works so but he also has a separate account for me,

516
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Speaker 10: and then this hidden account that I didn't know about

517
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Speaker 10: until I knew about it. But I think maybe if

518
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Speaker 10: it were for me, I would probably be using it to,

519
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Speaker 10: like you said, not ask him for so much. But

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Speaker 10: this would be the account that I pull from, like

521
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Speaker 10: for the house, like sundryes, toilet trees, things where it's

522
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Speaker 10: it's petty, but it's important. So I'm not going to

523
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Speaker 10: keep coming and asking you. Meanwhile, if I want to

524
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Speaker 10: buy a new shirt or if I want to buy some.

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Speaker 4: Jewelry, yeah, I'm definitely going to put that bug in

526
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Speaker 4: your ear so you can take it out of the account.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, all right, yeah, no, I appreciate you. Have

528
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Speaker 2: a good day.

529
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Speaker 8: You too.

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Speaker 1: We got a secret bank account? He visit verg verged verge.

531
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Speaker 1: You got a secret bank account? How much in there?

532
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Speaker 1: And how long you have been doing this?

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Speaker 3: Since I was eleven? Okay, yeah, my grandfather started a

534
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Speaker 3: bank account for me at his credit union and he

535
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Speaker 3: would put money in there on my birthday all the time.

536
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Speaker 3: And I have I basically take like one hundred to

537
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Speaker 3: three hundred dollars off the top of my check and

538
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Speaker 3: pop it in there every time.

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Speaker 1: Okay, And you're married and or your partner whomever doesn't

540
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Speaker 1: know about.

541
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Speaker 3: This, correct?

542
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Speaker 1: But is it your money? Those like I say, yours?

543
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Speaker 1: It's kind of both of you. Is it coming out

544
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Speaker 1: of your paycheck or is it coming out of his?

545
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Speaker 1: And he doesn't know?

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Speaker 11: And wow, So I was working for five years prior

547
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Speaker 11: to that, I was a stay at home mom for

548
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Speaker 11: ten right now now I'm on medical leave, and.

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Speaker 3: So it's about the side hustle. And I don't feel

550
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Speaker 3: that my side hustle has anything to do with him.

551
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Speaker 4: Now.

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Speaker 1: But what's your hesitation to tell him nothing you said

553
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Speaker 1: is wrong? I just wonder what is your hesitation to

554
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Speaker 1: let him know that you're doing this?

555
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Speaker 3: Sure?

556
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Speaker 2: Sure?

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Speaker 3: He so he'd got some trauma and he had no

558
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Speaker 3: control over his childhood, so he has OCD and likes

559
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Speaker 3: to try and get his hands on everything. And there's

560
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Speaker 3: just certain things that he has no business being involved with,

561
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Speaker 3: including what I send money on. And I used to

562
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Speaker 3: have to ask him for money for things I needed

563
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Speaker 3: and when he told me no, I was like, Okay,

564
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Speaker 3: well we need a different course of action here.

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Speaker 1: Marriage sounds rad like I just can't wait, aren't you excited? Yes, God,

566
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Speaker 1: I'm starting forever and just yeah, amazing you really.

567
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Speaker 2: Yeah.

568
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Speaker 3: Marriage is the hardest thing I've ever done.

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Speaker 2: Really Yeah, Hey sounds great. Yeah yeah.

570
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Speaker 1: To hide your money, apparently, hide your kids, hide your wife.

571
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Speaker 4: Hide your money.

572
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Speaker 7: I got a little college fund for the kids.

573
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Speaker 4: Go in.

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Speaker 3: You know, I got my funds. So if I need

575
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Speaker 3: to do whatever, I have a.

576
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Speaker 1: Go bag ready. Apparently's say you can get out in

577
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Speaker 1: the middle of the night.

578
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Speaker 7: Also have a.

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Speaker 1: Go Oh jesus, hey, blink twice if you need help, Okay,

580
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Speaker 1: call us anytime.

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Speaker 2: Have a good day you do