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Speaker 1: No, she was like, I've never been in love with anyone,

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Speaker 1: Well now I do know. I've been living with them

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Speaker 1: That perfect story. So we'll see you next time.

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Speaker 2: blaming me because he's definitely getting the ear fool. He's like, girl, oh,

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I think the only thing you could have slightly

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Speaker 2: catching strays on all sides here. Oh man, oh, Angie's back.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, are you feeling better after? Because you're you

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Speaker 2: The Michael Jordan flu game thing. Do you know about that? No? No,

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Speaker 2: real quick. So fiance uh OPI is dating George and

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Speaker 2: I'm glad she's still got a little bit of a cough.

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Speaker 2: But Op dates George and George used to day Ello,

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Speaker 1: Oh, He's like, you know what, I'm freaking. I'm standing

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, and he and apologized to George or.

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Speaker 2: that's sweet, that's sweet. Yeah, Uh, you're welcome. I was

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Speaker 2: During our childhood, he was my protector, the person I

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Speaker 1: And she's like, now you're not doing that. I'm not

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Speaker 2: Now I'm having to protect my sales. Ah.

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Speaker 1: I'm glad that it seemed because it seems like there

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, facts facts. Due to our age difference, we

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Speaker 2: that's sweet. I can't wait for my kid brothers. My

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I feel like Sam said that I developed a personality

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Speaker 2: You no, you know what? Maybe he was twelve, No,

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Speaker 2: it's probably sixteen. He and my brother started having a

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Speaker 2: and to make me happy. However, I am not able

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Speaker 2: to share my happiness with him anymore. I understand why

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Speaker 2: makeup and looked bad, really bad. During a family function.

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Speaker 1: What the frick? I I hate that. Oh.

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Speaker 2: David got mad and kicked him out for offending his sister.

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Speaker 2: This was the kind of brother he used to be,

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Speaker 2: And now see how he stays aside and allows his

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Speaker 1: It's really it's really sad because you know what it

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Speaker 2: And just like, for example, Steve Martin in only Murders

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, I agree, No, because I think that I

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Speaker 1: bothers me. I do not care that she is like

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Speaker 2: but I will never be quiet in front of this

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Speaker 1: Hmmm, put your foot down.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, oh yeah. I told my brother I love

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Speaker 2: but I told him I will accept his decision no

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he will always be my brother. But George is

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Speaker 2: and disgusting. We will still see my parents, but I'm

443
00:21:11,560 --> 00:21:14,480
Speaker 2: standing my ground and will not go to their house

444
00:21:14,600 --> 00:21:17,960
Speaker 2: if she is present. David and I cried a lot

445
00:21:18,160 --> 00:21:20,159
Speaker 2: for the first time in many years, and I felt

446
00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:24,160
Speaker 2: like I had my brother back. He apologized over and

447
00:21:24,240 --> 00:21:27,960
Speaker 2: over again and explained a lot of things to me,

448
00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:30,960
Speaker 2: which gave me the chance to understand him brother. But

449
00:21:31,320 --> 00:21:33,680
Speaker 2: at the same time, I'm so angry that I had

450
00:21:33,680 --> 00:21:36,280
Speaker 2: no idea what was happening to my brother. Some of

451
00:21:36,280 --> 00:21:39,600
Speaker 2: the people said I was a rebound for el oh,

452
00:21:39,680 --> 00:21:42,560
Speaker 2: some people said David was a rebound for Ella. But

453
00:21:42,680 --> 00:21:45,560
Speaker 2: it seemed they were both a rebound for each other.

454
00:21:46,359 --> 00:21:53,000
Speaker 2: What made them marry so that cancels out?

455
00:21:53,400 --> 00:21:55,159
Speaker 1: You want to explain a little bit more so, if

456
00:21:55,200 --> 00:21:59,640
Speaker 1: you're rebounding and then with another person who's rebonding, cancels out.

457
00:21:59,600 --> 00:22:01,920
Speaker 2: Cancel yees, So it's not a rebound. So it's not

458
00:22:01,920 --> 00:22:02,320
Speaker 2: a rebound.

459
00:22:02,480 --> 00:22:02,640
Speaker 1: Yeah.

460
00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:05,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, So actually they're in a super healthy relationship. Okay,

461
00:22:06,760 --> 00:22:08,680
Speaker 2: this is Sophia's golden advice.

462
00:22:08,880 --> 00:22:09,840
Speaker 1: It's cold and.

463
00:22:12,200 --> 00:22:15,879
Speaker 2: Oh my god. What made them merry so fast was

464
00:22:15,920 --> 00:22:18,879
Speaker 2: the age pressure. My brother was feeling like it was

465
00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:21,840
Speaker 2: very hard to connect with someone, and the prospect of

466
00:22:21,880 --> 00:22:23,879
Speaker 2: being able to have a family of his own seemed

467
00:22:24,160 --> 00:22:28,640
Speaker 2: very far away until Ella came along and offered him

468
00:22:28,640 --> 00:22:32,040
Speaker 2: the possibility to have exactly what he wanted without too

469
00:22:32,080 --> 00:22:34,960
Speaker 2: much struggle. So yeah, in the end, I guess we're

470
00:22:35,040 --> 00:22:37,840
Speaker 2: all some sort of messed up people in a way

471
00:22:37,960 --> 00:22:38,399
Speaker 2: or another.

472
00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:39,520
Speaker 1: That's the moral of the story.

473
00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:40,960
Speaker 2: And if you're a messed up person, you can join

474
00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:43,160
Speaker 2: his love every weekday at three pm PSD. Just tap

475
00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:46,399
Speaker 2: our profile, Just tap. I don't know what's going to happen.

476
00:22:46,880 --> 00:22:49,720
Speaker 2: David said he plans to take some time to go

477
00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:51,920
Speaker 2: away alone for a couple of days and to think

478
00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:54,280
Speaker 2: about what he wants to do. But he said that

479
00:22:54,560 --> 00:22:56,840
Speaker 2: when he'll be back, he wants to have a chat

480
00:22:56,840 --> 00:22:59,960
Speaker 2: with George to apologize to him as well for everything

481
00:23:00,080 --> 00:23:02,919
Speaker 2: that has happened. That's awesome, oka my brother knows that

482
00:23:02,960 --> 00:23:06,400
Speaker 2: everything Ellis says is false. He said. Everyone is able

483
00:23:06,400 --> 00:23:09,000
Speaker 2: to see how much George loves me and that we

484
00:23:09,080 --> 00:23:11,920
Speaker 2: make a great couple, and there's there are times when

485
00:23:11,960 --> 00:23:14,800
Speaker 2: he wished to also have something like this in his life.

486
00:23:15,200 --> 00:23:17,639
Speaker 2: All he told me he's proud of the woman I

487
00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:20,800
Speaker 2: have become, and that is no matter what happens, I

488
00:23:20,800 --> 00:23:23,840
Speaker 2: will always be his little sister. David said that.

489
00:23:24,040 --> 00:23:25,000
Speaker 1: This is so sad.

490
00:23:25,200 --> 00:23:27,760
Speaker 2: After this, I went home and cried some more with

491
00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:30,840
Speaker 2: George beside me. I've never tried to play strong and

492
00:23:30,840 --> 00:23:34,080
Speaker 2: deny myself to hurt to feel hurt for so long

493
00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:38,199
Speaker 2: that day. I've tried to play strong and denied to

494
00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:41,840
Speaker 2: feel hurt for so long that day yesterday, that I

495
00:23:41,840 --> 00:23:43,080
Speaker 2: have finally exploded.

496
00:23:43,359 --> 00:23:46,439
Speaker 1: I think it is I've tried so long to deny

497
00:23:46,480 --> 00:23:48,840
Speaker 1: feeling hurt that yesterday I felt like I exploded.

498
00:23:49,440 --> 00:23:52,560
Speaker 2: I've tried to play strong and deny myself to feel

499
00:23:52,600 --> 00:23:56,200
Speaker 2: hurt for so long that yesterday I have finally exploded.

500
00:23:56,560 --> 00:24:01,960
Speaker 2: But it was good because I now feel better. Oh wow, Yeah,

501
00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:04,120
Speaker 2: I would like to see an update after David comes

502
00:24:04,240 --> 00:24:06,159
Speaker 2: through his freaking census.

503
00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:06,920
Speaker 1: And Dan gets rid of Ella.

504
00:24:07,320 --> 00:24:10,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, that yeah, Oh wow.

505
00:24:10,400 --> 00:24:12,199
Speaker 1: This is so sad because it seems like he actually

506
00:24:12,240 --> 00:24:13,200
Speaker 1: really does love his sister.

507
00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:16,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, and he just can't he can't. He can't shake Ella,

508
00:24:16,720 --> 00:24:20,359
Speaker 2: can't shake Ella. That's good luck, Good luck, David. But

509
00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:23,080
Speaker 2: that's the end of this story, so we'll see you

510
00:24:23,240 --> 00:24:23,760
Speaker 2: next time.

511
00:24:24,280 --> 00:24:27,120
Speaker 1: My sister told me her husband called me a horrible name,

512
00:24:27,720 --> 00:24:30,560
Speaker 1: but she was lying. Why was she trying to make

513
00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:31,440
Speaker 1: her husband look bad?

514
00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:34,480
Speaker 2: Hmmmm? Some snake in going around here.

515
00:24:34,640 --> 00:24:37,639
Speaker 1: I twenty six, female, live in a small town with

516
00:24:37,720 --> 00:24:42,920
Speaker 1: a lot of family, aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, basically everyone

517
00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:46,240
Speaker 1: related to me lives here lovely. My sister Lilia twenty

518
00:24:46,280 --> 00:24:49,840
Speaker 1: eight female, married her husband Sean, thirty one male, last year.

519
00:24:50,240 --> 00:24:52,520
Speaker 1: I don't know him very well, but I don't have

520
00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:53,880
Speaker 1: a problem with him either.

521
00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:56,720
Speaker 2: Sounds like you're about to it's problem.

522
00:24:56,960 --> 00:24:59,800
Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from throw my sister sucks

523
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:03,399
Speaker 1: on the okay story to I'm subpured it. So every

524
00:25:03,400 --> 00:25:05,679
Speaker 1: other weekend, my mom will host a party type thing

525
00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:06,719
Speaker 1: for the whole family.

526
00:25:07,080 --> 00:25:08,920
Speaker 2: That's so fun. That is fun.

527
00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:12,720
Speaker 1: I love that there's food, decorations, music, et cetera. Everyone

528
00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:15,080
Speaker 1: has a blast every other weekend.

529
00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:18,280
Speaker 2: That's crazy. I love that my family does a little

530
00:25:18,320 --> 00:25:20,560
Speaker 2: get together every week on Sunday after church.

531
00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:23,080
Speaker 1: Love that man. My parents do it with my grandparents.

532
00:25:23,280 --> 00:25:26,199
Speaker 1: A few months ago, my sister started acting kind of

533
00:25:26,280 --> 00:25:29,280
Speaker 1: strange at these parties. Her husband isn't a very social

534
00:25:29,320 --> 00:25:32,080
Speaker 1: person from what I can tell. He usually stands off

535
00:25:32,119 --> 00:25:36,240
Speaker 1: to the side, sometimes without food. Lilia starts making comments,

536
00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:39,880
Speaker 1: usually to our immediate family, but sometimes to anyone who

537
00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:43,680
Speaker 1: will listen, about how Sean thinks the decorations look tacking,

538
00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:46,399
Speaker 1: or Sean thinks the music's too loud.

539
00:25:47,119 --> 00:25:52,119
Speaker 2: Seun doesn't care it's like she was like, that's just

540
00:25:52,240 --> 00:25:53,120
Speaker 2: vibe and dude.

541
00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:56,200
Speaker 1: At first, it was basically harmless, but the comments got

542
00:25:56,359 --> 00:25:57,439
Speaker 1: worse and worse.

543
00:25:57,520 --> 00:25:59,080
Speaker 2: Oh no, she's just looking to get a rise.

544
00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:02,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's like, what can I blame Sewna. She started

545
00:26:02,520 --> 00:26:05,359
Speaker 1: saying things like that outside of family parties too. The

546
00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:07,800
Speaker 1: weekend before last, she made small talk for a while

547
00:26:07,920 --> 00:26:10,760
Speaker 1: before saying, hmm, Sean doesn't look like he's having a

548
00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:13,440
Speaker 1: good time. I don't think he likes the food very much.

549
00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:16,200
Speaker 1: I can't really blame him. We usually don't eat at

550
00:26:16,359 --> 00:26:18,280
Speaker 1: low class restaurants like yours.

551
00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:22,120
Speaker 2: Sehn's just eating. Sean's like, it's pretty good. I think

552
00:26:22,160 --> 00:26:23,600
Speaker 2: Sean's just the most quiet guy.

553
00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:24,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, he just doesn't talk.

554
00:26:24,800 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's it.

555
00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:28,760
Speaker 1: Her comments always pissed me off, but this pushed me

556
00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:32,200
Speaker 1: pretty hard. My mom works really hard to make delicious

557
00:26:32,200 --> 00:26:34,639
Speaker 1: food for these parties. She's a chef at Olive Garden.

558
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:39,600
Speaker 1: Oh she's she's freaking amazing. Dude, quick, quick, okay, story Tom.

559
00:26:39,920 --> 00:26:42,680
Speaker 1: I know a guy that goes to my church back

560
00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:45,320
Speaker 1: in Tennessee. He is a chef at Olive Garden, and

561
00:26:45,359 --> 00:26:48,080
Speaker 1: whenever they opened up a new Olive Garden, they send

562
00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:52,359
Speaker 1: him damn opening weekend. Yeah, just to make people really

563
00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:54,520
Speaker 1: love Olive Garden. I've never been to an olive garden.

564
00:26:54,520 --> 00:26:56,639
Speaker 2: You've never been to an olive garden? What?

565
00:26:57,119 --> 00:26:59,080
Speaker 1: Nope? Never been to a Chili's.

566
00:26:59,320 --> 00:27:02,680
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm missing out there, dude. Olive Burn's kind of

567
00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:04,360
Speaker 2: a move. Okay, let's do it.

568
00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:07,040
Speaker 1: I guess my mom could tell I was getting upset,

569
00:27:07,119 --> 00:27:09,199
Speaker 1: so she pulled me aside and told me not to

570
00:27:09,240 --> 00:27:12,200
Speaker 1: say anything to Lila, that it wasn't a big deal.

571
00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:13,040
Speaker 1: Stuff like that.

572
00:27:13,480 --> 00:27:17,160
Speaker 2: I'm just saying this place is probably somewhere in the South.

573
00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:20,640
Speaker 2: You don't make fun of other people spoking. No, that's

574
00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:21,800
Speaker 2: the last thing you do.

575
00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:25,920
Speaker 1: Keep your mouth shut. I respected her wishes, even though

576
00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:28,680
Speaker 1: I really wanted to stand up for her. Last week,

577
00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 1: Lilia called and said, Sean's best friend is getting married.

578
00:27:32,240 --> 00:27:34,240
Speaker 1: I'm a wedding planner and she wants me to plan

579
00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:34,680
Speaker 1: the wedding.

580
00:27:35,040 --> 00:27:36,360
Speaker 2: I said, sure, let's go.

581
00:27:37,000 --> 00:27:39,720
Speaker 1: This weekend, Sewn's best friend and his fiance had a

582
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:43,919
Speaker 1: joint bachelor and bachelorette party. Lilia is a bridesmaid. She

583
00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:45,960
Speaker 1: invited me to come along so I could meet the

584
00:27:45,960 --> 00:27:49,560
Speaker 1: bride and groom and probably officially become their wedding pan. Okay,

585
00:27:50,280 --> 00:27:54,040
Speaker 1: when I arrived at the club, Lily immediate Lilia immediately

586
00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:56,840
Speaker 1: grabbed my wrist and pulled me to the bathroom. She said,

587
00:27:57,080 --> 00:27:59,720
Speaker 1: Sean isn't happy. No one will take you seriously as

588
00:27:59,760 --> 00:28:01,280
Speaker 1: a planner. If you dressed like a.

589
00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:03,480
Speaker 2: Slute.

590
00:28:04,240 --> 00:28:06,600
Speaker 1: You embarrassed him, and now the groom will blame him

591
00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:10,560
Speaker 1: for recommending a crappy planner. What you're at a club,

592
00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:14,080
Speaker 1: Come on, at a bachelorette party.

593
00:28:14,040 --> 00:28:15,760
Speaker 2: Like, what else she's supposed to do? You're supposed to

594
00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:17,399
Speaker 2: wear a suit? Yeah? Pants suit?

595
00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:19,800
Speaker 1: I had enough of her at that point. It felt

596
00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:21,960
Speaker 1: like she was just using Sean as an excuse to

597
00:28:22,040 --> 00:28:27,040
Speaker 1: voice her own opinions. Literally, it's like a ventral question.

598
00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:28,640
Speaker 2: Sean hates this.

599
00:28:30,000 --> 00:28:32,560
Speaker 1: If Sean thinks I'm a crappy wedding planner for dressing

600
00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:35,240
Speaker 1: normally for a dang club, hope he says he can

601
00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:37,680
Speaker 1: get the groom a new wedding part planner. I'm gonna

602
00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:40,600
Speaker 1: do that, I said. If Sean thinks I'm a crappy

603
00:28:40,600 --> 00:28:43,600
Speaker 1: wedding planner for dressing normally for a dang club, he

604
00:28:43,680 --> 00:28:46,680
Speaker 1: can get the groom a new wedding planner, and I

605
00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:48,080
Speaker 1: walked out and went home.

606
00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:49,640
Speaker 2: Am I the a hole?

607
00:28:49,720 --> 00:28:52,720
Speaker 1: And there is an update? You're not the a hole?

608
00:28:53,040 --> 00:28:53,880
Speaker 2: A doubt.

609
00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:56,040
Speaker 1: I don't think Sean said any of that.

610
00:28:56,080 --> 00:28:57,560
Speaker 2: I don't think he has opinion about nothing.

611
00:28:57,840 --> 00:29:00,680
Speaker 1: I don't think he even exists. I think he sits

612
00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:02,320
Speaker 1: in a corner and he just nods his head.

613
00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:03,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, dude.

614
00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:04,840
Speaker 1: I think he's one of those guys, like you know,

615
00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:07,400
Speaker 1: those blow up guys at a car dealership. They're just like, whoo,

616
00:29:07,720 --> 00:29:08,160
Speaker 1: that's Sean.

617
00:29:08,280 --> 00:29:11,320
Speaker 2: That's Sean. He's having a great time. He doesn't even

618
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:13,120
Speaker 2: know you're, like what you're wearing?

619
00:29:13,240 --> 00:29:17,680
Speaker 1: No, he's blind probably probably Yeah, oh man, your sister

620
00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:22,720
Speaker 1: sucks golly. Before we left, oh wait, update, I ended

621
00:29:22,800 --> 00:29:25,760
Speaker 1: up inviting Sean and Lilia out to lunch nice. Lilia

622
00:29:26,000 --> 00:29:28,200
Speaker 1: was still a little upset that I had dressed like

623
00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:31,680
Speaker 1: a salute at the club, but mostly things weren't fine.

624
00:29:31,840 --> 00:29:34,280
Speaker 1: What was she dressed like? Was she in a fold pansy?

625
00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:37,720
Speaker 2: She probably wasn't as hot as Obie Loser.

626
00:29:38,640 --> 00:29:40,680
Speaker 1: Before we left, I asked Sean if he thought my

627
00:29:40,720 --> 00:29:44,239
Speaker 1: outfit at the club was inappropriate. He said no. I

628
00:29:44,280 --> 00:29:48,000
Speaker 1: asked if he thought my mother's cooking was bad. He said, no, again,

629
00:29:48,040 --> 00:29:50,440
Speaker 1: he's doing it. She's freaking doing It's fun your advice.

630
00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:51,080
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.

631
00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:53,560
Speaker 1: This time he looked more confused. Before I could ask

632
00:29:53,640 --> 00:29:56,360
Speaker 1: him about another comment, Lilia grabbed his arm and pulled

633
00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:56,719
Speaker 1: him up.

634
00:29:56,800 --> 00:29:58,840
Speaker 2: She said they had to go. Dude, you did the

635
00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:02,320
Speaker 2: same reaction that he would have done.

636
00:30:02,360 --> 00:30:05,400
Speaker 1: Sean looked even more confused and told Lilia he wanted

637
00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:07,040
Speaker 1: to hear what I was going to say next.

638
00:30:07,240 --> 00:30:07,959
Speaker 2: Uh oh.

639
00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:10,640
Speaker 1: She looked visibly angry, and after I asked him if

640
00:30:10,640 --> 00:30:13,480
Speaker 1: he thought the decorations were tacky, Lilia said, if you're

641
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:16,160
Speaker 1: not coming, I'm leaving without you. She ran to the

642
00:30:16,200 --> 00:30:18,000
Speaker 1: car before either of us could stop her.

643
00:30:18,240 --> 00:30:20,480
Speaker 2: Oh no. Sean was really.

644
00:30:20,200 --> 00:30:23,080
Speaker 1: Confused and asked why I thought he didn't like the food,

645
00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:26,000
Speaker 1: et cetera. I told him the whole story of how

646
00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:28,800
Speaker 1: Lilia was telling me. In my immediate family, he was

647
00:30:28,840 --> 00:30:34,280
Speaker 1: saying rude things. He looked completely shocked. Now he said

648
00:30:34,280 --> 00:30:36,720
Speaker 1: he never said any of those things, and that he

649
00:30:36,800 --> 00:30:40,400
Speaker 1: thinks the parties are wonderful. He explained he's just a

650
00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:43,800
Speaker 1: little antisocial and gets nervous around people he doesn't know well,

651
00:30:44,120 --> 00:30:49,719
Speaker 1: which I totally get we freaking call this. He apologized

652
00:30:49,760 --> 00:30:52,080
Speaker 1: if anything he did was offensive, but I said.

653
00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:54,720
Speaker 2: There was no need for an apology. I was like,

654
00:30:55,560 --> 00:30:59,000
Speaker 2: I just don't talk. I'm just so shy. I didn't know.

655
00:30:59,280 --> 00:31:01,680
Speaker 2: I didn't know he was to be something wrong. Poush

656
00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:03,880
Speaker 2: on man, just enjoying the party.

657
00:31:04,680 --> 00:31:08,320
Speaker 1: People probably hate him, and he's like, I thought we

658
00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:09,160
Speaker 1: were all getting along.

659
00:31:10,800 --> 00:31:14,560
Speaker 2: I really liked your mom's breadsticks. Man.

660
00:31:14,720 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 1: This is like when you're at like a you're gonna

661
00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:20,400
Speaker 1: sleepover and you really want something from your parents. You're like, oh,

662
00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:26,440
Speaker 1: my friend, my friend wants ice cream. Yeah, I gave

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Speaker 1: him a ride home. Lilia took off with her car.

664
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Speaker 1: When we got there, my sister's car wasn't in the driveway.

665
00:31:33,400 --> 00:31:35,400
Speaker 1: I went to my mom's house next to drop off

666
00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:37,160
Speaker 1: some stuff I had for her in the car. When

667
00:31:37,160 --> 00:31:40,680
Speaker 1: I got there, Lilia's car was parked outside. She was

668
00:31:40,720 --> 00:31:43,240
Speaker 1: sitting at the dining table crying, and my mom was

669
00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:44,560
Speaker 1: doing her best to comfort her.

670
00:31:44,800 --> 00:31:46,400
Speaker 2: Ooh, she probably spread some lines.

671
00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:49,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, we all know she's a liar. When my sister

672
00:31:49,520 --> 00:31:53,240
Speaker 1: saw me, she started crying even harder. I sat down

673
00:31:53,280 --> 00:31:56,880
Speaker 1: and waited until she could calm down. When she finally did.

674
00:31:57,400 --> 00:31:59,920
Speaker 1: I gently asked why she was saying all those things.

675
00:32:00,560 --> 00:32:03,080
Speaker 1: Lila said, I don't know, to.

676
00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:03,760
Speaker 2: Make you hate him.

677
00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:07,880
Speaker 1: I guess My mom asked why she wanted us to

678
00:32:07,920 --> 00:32:10,480
Speaker 1: hate him. She'd kept replying to our questions with I

679
00:32:10,480 --> 00:32:13,320
Speaker 1: don't knows before admitting the truth. Uh.

680
00:32:13,320 --> 00:32:15,760
Speaker 2: Oh uh, oh, oh, okay, okay, okay, you just read it,

681
00:32:15,840 --> 00:32:18,480
Speaker 2: dang it. What do you think though, Uh, she's cheating

682
00:32:18,520 --> 00:32:22,040
Speaker 2: on him? No?

683
00:32:22,560 --> 00:32:22,720
Speaker 3: Uh.

684
00:32:22,920 --> 00:32:25,480
Speaker 1: She said she'd been feeling jealous since our brother Eric

685
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:27,920
Speaker 1: got married. Oh, she said, like he was getting all

686
00:32:27,960 --> 00:32:31,560
Speaker 1: the attention, especially when his wife announced her pregnancy. She

687
00:32:31,600 --> 00:32:34,000
Speaker 1: also said Eric was always the golden child growing up,

688
00:32:34,080 --> 00:32:36,960
Speaker 1: and she wanted people to notice her just this once.

689
00:32:37,200 --> 00:32:37,840
Speaker 2: Yeah.

690
00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:39,920
Speaker 1: I never thought he was the golden child. In fact,

691
00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:42,920
Speaker 1: Lilya seemed to be favored over him, but maybe I

692
00:32:42,960 --> 00:32:45,400
Speaker 1: was too wrapped up in my own stuff to notice.

693
00:32:45,480 --> 00:32:47,800
Speaker 1: My sister decided to stir up some drama to get

694
00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:50,880
Speaker 1: the attention back on her. She used Sean because no

695
00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:52,560
Speaker 1: one in the family knew him very well, and it

696
00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:54,840
Speaker 1: was easy because he didn't interact with a lot of people.

697
00:32:55,520 --> 00:32:59,040
Speaker 1: She claims she wanted the attention so badly, even if

698
00:32:59,080 --> 00:33:03,040
Speaker 1: it was negative, Wow, no such thing as bad press.

699
00:33:03,080 --> 00:33:07,080
Speaker 1: I guess apparently I will be a star, no matter

700
00:33:07,160 --> 00:33:07,880
Speaker 1: the cost, no.

701
00:33:07,960 --> 00:33:10,040
Speaker 2: Matter if it brings down Sean's name or not.

702
00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:12,400
Speaker 1: I don't care if I have to throw Sean under

703
00:33:12,400 --> 00:33:15,280
Speaker 1: the bus. She wanted to see how far we'd let

704
00:33:15,320 --> 00:33:18,680
Speaker 1: her go before one of us snapped. But you can

705
00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:22,280
Speaker 1: go far with us live every weekday a three pm

706
00:33:22,360 --> 00:33:23,320
Speaker 1: PSD on YouTube.

707
00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:27,320
Speaker 2: Just have her profile. This is crazy how siblings get

708
00:33:27,440 --> 00:33:31,280
Speaker 2: jealous of one another for things happening in their lives.

709
00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:34,880
Speaker 2: I'm just trying to think, if my brother is getting

710
00:33:34,920 --> 00:33:38,880
Speaker 2: married and I'm not getting married, I can only feel.

711
00:33:38,560 --> 00:33:40,760
Speaker 1: Happy for I cannot imagine being like.

712
00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:46,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, exactly, exactly, really weird.

713
00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:49,120
Speaker 1: But also like, what does Sean do here? I think

714
00:33:49,280 --> 00:33:50,760
Speaker 1: because I feel like if I was Sean, I'd be like,

715
00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:54,320
Speaker 1: it's time to break up. Maybe yeah, just poison me

716
00:33:54,320 --> 00:33:55,240
Speaker 1: against her whole family.

717
00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:58,320
Speaker 2: But I feel like Sean's just like I feel like

718
00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:00,680
Speaker 2: she's gonna she's gonna Lilya's going to.

719
00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:01,920
Speaker 1: Come back to him and she's like, I'm so.

720
00:34:01,840 --> 00:34:05,280
Speaker 2: Sorry, and he's like, okay, yeah, that's exactly what Sean's

721
00:34:05,360 --> 00:34:09,000
Speaker 2: gonna do. I would get rid of lily and keep Sean. Yeah, family,

722
00:34:09,080 --> 00:34:10,520
Speaker 2: I think so that's my move.

723
00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:14,479
Speaker 1: H there you go, that's our advice. After a long talk,

724
00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:17,440
Speaker 1: she promised never to do anything like this again and

725
00:34:17,640 --> 00:34:19,840
Speaker 1: admitted she mostly did all of this out of resentment

726
00:34:19,840 --> 00:34:23,320
Speaker 1: towards Eric for always stealing the spotlight. My mom promised

727
00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:25,600
Speaker 1: to pay more attention to her, and she apologized if

728
00:34:25,600 --> 00:34:28,040
Speaker 1: she ever made Lilia feel like Eric was better than her.

729
00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:32,279
Speaker 1: We all hugged it out. Earlier tonight, Lilya called me

730
00:34:32,320 --> 00:34:34,480
Speaker 1: and said she and Sean were going to couples therapy

731
00:34:34,920 --> 00:34:37,440
Speaker 1: and she was going to get individual therapy for herself.

732
00:34:37,920 --> 00:34:39,879
Speaker 1: I said, I was happy for her, and she can

733
00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:42,640
Speaker 1: come to me if she ever needs anything. I guess

734
00:34:42,640 --> 00:34:46,160
Speaker 1: that's it. I'll update again if anything else happens. Damn

735
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:50,840
Speaker 1: that positive ending. She just admitted to being jealous and

736
00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:51,800
Speaker 1: everything was perfect.

737
00:34:53,680 --> 00:34:57,920
Speaker 2: Okay, all right then, all right, that was an easy fix.

738
00:34:58,120 --> 00:35:02,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, a lot of easy fixes in this EPISO said, wait, no, yeah,

739
00:35:02,120 --> 00:35:05,400
Speaker 1: in this episode. Yeah, but that's the end of this story.

740
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Speaker 1: So if you love us, make sure to subscribe.

741
00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:11,719
Speaker 2: We love you and see it tomorrow.

742
00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:15,879
Speaker 3: My sister is a bully, so I threatened to throw

743
00:35:15,960 --> 00:35:19,440
Speaker 3: her stuff away to the streets where the bullies belong. Hi,

744
00:35:19,760 --> 00:35:22,320
Speaker 3: this is a long one and it's full of family drama,

745
00:35:22,480 --> 00:35:24,640
Speaker 3: so get ready. Oh boy, I'll try to make it

746
00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:27,560
Speaker 3: shorter by simplifying some of the events. I'm currently stuck

747
00:35:27,600 --> 00:35:30,480
Speaker 3: in a crappy situation that somehow affects almost everyone in

748
00:35:30,520 --> 00:35:33,520
Speaker 3: my family instead of the one person responsible for it.

749
00:35:33,960 --> 00:35:36,000
Speaker 3: For you to get a full picture of what exactly

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00:35:36,120 --> 00:35:39,440
Speaker 3: is happening, I have to explain the family dynamic. And

751
00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:42,920
Speaker 3: by the way, this comes from user a freight Requirement

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Speaker 3: thirty one on the r slash Okay storytime subreadit. When

753
00:35:45,800 --> 00:35:49,080
Speaker 3: I was about nine, my oldest sister, Amy fourteen at

754
00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:51,319
Speaker 3: the time, suddenly fell ill. She got bit by a

755
00:35:51,360 --> 00:35:55,200
Speaker 3: tick and the transferred lime disease revealed several others that

756
00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:58,239
Speaker 3: were hidden until that point. Oh shout out the tick

757
00:35:58,239 --> 00:36:01,080
Speaker 3: that bit you and gave you live disease. U saved

758
00:36:01,080 --> 00:36:04,840
Speaker 3: your life. Yeah, she found your other diseases. This caused

759
00:36:04,840 --> 00:36:07,160
Speaker 3: her to stay in the hospital for several months. As

760
00:36:07,200 --> 00:36:09,480
Speaker 3: you can imagine, this made her the dainty saint who

761
00:36:09,480 --> 00:36:11,919
Speaker 3: could do no wrong in my parents' eyes and would

762
00:36:11,960 --> 00:36:14,040
Speaker 3: always get what she wanted. When she came back home

763
00:36:14,080 --> 00:36:16,200
Speaker 3: and was forced to be homeschooled. Most of her friends

764
00:36:16,200 --> 00:36:18,719
Speaker 3: had lost interest in her. Oh that sucks. This made

765
00:36:18,719 --> 00:36:20,760
Speaker 3: her so upset that she would take all her anger

766
00:36:20,840 --> 00:36:23,040
Speaker 3: out on the rest of us. While she was mean before,

767
00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:25,719
Speaker 3: this made her straight up abusive. First she took it

768
00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:29,240
Speaker 3: out on my older sister Alex. But after Amy locked

769
00:36:29,280 --> 00:36:31,759
Speaker 3: her fresh out of the shower in nothing but a

770
00:36:31,760 --> 00:36:34,320
Speaker 3: towel on the balcony in the middle of the winter,

771
00:36:34,640 --> 00:36:35,640
Speaker 3: Alex started.

772
00:36:35,320 --> 00:36:36,239
Speaker 2: Avoiding going home.

773
00:36:36,320 --> 00:36:38,560
Speaker 3: She went as far as signing up for random free

774
00:36:38,600 --> 00:36:42,040
Speaker 3: classes just to stay away. I mean, look, getting locked

775
00:36:42,080 --> 00:36:44,760
Speaker 3: out in the winter cold, right out of a shower

776
00:36:45,000 --> 00:36:47,080
Speaker 3: not good. How do you let that happen to you?

777
00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:49,360
Speaker 3: I'm sorry? How do you put yourself in a position

778
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:51,600
Speaker 3: to be locked out of the house in the winter,

779
00:36:52,000 --> 00:36:53,560
Speaker 3: right after you get out of the shower.

780
00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:55,960
Speaker 2: On a balcony. This sounds like Alex's fault? Yeah, I mean,

781
00:36:56,080 --> 00:36:57,440
Speaker 2: not her fault. It was Alex's fault.

782
00:36:57,480 --> 00:37:00,520
Speaker 3: Not to victim blame, but how did you find yourself

783
00:37:00,520 --> 00:37:05,040
Speaker 3: in that situation? I'll tell you that that is that

784
00:37:05,160 --> 00:37:07,719
Speaker 3: is evil. We do not condone it. After that, it

785
00:37:07,760 --> 00:37:10,000
Speaker 3: was time for me and the youngest of us, Mia,

786
00:37:10,239 --> 00:37:12,879
Speaker 3: Amy would relentlessly belittle us, force us to do her

787
00:37:12,880 --> 00:37:15,479
Speaker 3: house chores, cook for her, et cetera, and.

788
00:37:15,400 --> 00:37:17,160
Speaker 2: If she didn't, she would beat us up.

789
00:37:17,320 --> 00:37:19,440
Speaker 3: At the time, I was about ten or eleven and

790
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:23,160
Speaker 3: Mia was seven or eight. Oh wow, this sounds really bad.

791
00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:25,520
Speaker 3: If you're wondering where our parents were as it was

792
00:37:25,520 --> 00:37:28,080
Speaker 3: all happening. They were busy. Our mom was running her

793
00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:31,560
Speaker 3: own shop while being the counselor of our commune, wow,

794
00:37:31,640 --> 00:37:35,520
Speaker 3: and dealing with my grandma's hospitalization. Our dad, on top

795
00:37:35,560 --> 00:37:38,600
Speaker 3: of helping our mom, was overworking himself to the bones

796
00:37:38,640 --> 00:37:41,960
Speaker 3: so he wouldn't get replaced due to her illness. Amy

797
00:37:42,040 --> 00:37:43,880
Speaker 3: was the apple of their eye and they would always

798
00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:48,400
Speaker 3: believe what she told them, no questions, no consequences, no nothing.

799
00:37:48,520 --> 00:37:51,960
Speaker 3: Even years later, after my father finally switched jobs and

800
00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:55,560
Speaker 3: the inheritance issues after my grandma's passing were solved, they

801
00:37:55,640 --> 00:37:58,279
Speaker 3: just turned a blind eye. During that time, Amy found

802
00:37:58,320 --> 00:38:02,120
Speaker 3: a new way of relieving her anger by drinking, which

803
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:05,759
Speaker 3: my parents also ignored. He has some l These are

804
00:38:05,800 --> 00:38:08,719
Speaker 3: some l per easy. These parents are not, you know,

805
00:38:08,800 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 3: intentive enough.

806
00:38:09,840 --> 00:38:11,880
Speaker 2: Do you have an uncle or like a grandpa that

807
00:38:11,960 --> 00:38:14,719
Speaker 2: like spent a bunch of money on like restoring her car.

808
00:38:14,880 --> 00:38:18,160
Speaker 2: In a way, Yes, I feel like Amy is that

809
00:38:18,320 --> 00:38:20,399
Speaker 2: in a way because she probably like spent a lot

810
00:38:20,440 --> 00:38:22,719
Speaker 2: of time in the hospital, which is probably expensive, and

811
00:38:22,760 --> 00:38:24,640
Speaker 2: her parents are like, she almost died, we have to

812
00:38:24,680 --> 00:38:27,440
Speaker 2: make sure that she's okay, so they'll kind of like

813
00:38:27,760 --> 00:38:30,360
Speaker 2: turn their eye to her and not really like condone

814
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:31,719
Speaker 2: any behavior that she's doing.

815
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Speaker 3: Interesting, so even though she's uh, they're in a commune.

816
00:38:34,840 --> 00:38:36,480
Speaker 3: They're they're like, we need to get a return on

817
00:38:36,640 --> 00:38:38,920
Speaker 3: our investment in our daughter. I guess, well, get at

818
00:38:38,960 --> 00:38:42,320
Speaker 3: the roi of our daughter after getting super lime disease.

819
00:38:42,480 --> 00:38:44,719
Speaker 3: We're gonna need some more profit incentive coming out of

820
00:38:44,760 --> 00:38:45,120
Speaker 3: our daughter.

821
00:38:45,200 --> 00:38:47,319
Speaker 2: Hey, this is the only way I can make sense

822
00:38:47,320 --> 00:38:49,520
Speaker 2: of this. Let me know the comments w you think

823
00:38:49,719 --> 00:38:51,239
Speaker 2: is the actual reason they're doing this.

824
00:38:51,320 --> 00:38:53,000
Speaker 3: But I mean, I think you're pretty on point where

825
00:38:53,000 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 3: it's like the child goes to hospital, gets violently ill, Yeah,

826
00:38:56,680 --> 00:38:58,879
Speaker 3: makes it out, and now they're the golden child who

827
00:38:58,880 --> 00:39:00,719
Speaker 3: can't do anything wrong because you remember, I almost died in

828
00:39:00,760 --> 00:39:03,280
Speaker 3: the hospital, relieving her anger by drinking, which.

829
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Speaker 2: My parents also ignored.

830
00:39:04,880 --> 00:39:07,440
Speaker 3: When Amy was finishing high school, our parents bought an

831
00:39:07,440 --> 00:39:09,880
Speaker 3: apartment that was meant to serve as a stepping stone

832
00:39:09,920 --> 00:39:11,920
Speaker 3: for all of us. The plan was that each of

833
00:39:12,000 --> 00:39:13,960
Speaker 3: us would live there for a little after we reached

834
00:39:13,960 --> 00:39:16,360
Speaker 3: seventeen or eighteen, so we could have a better understanding

835
00:39:16,360 --> 00:39:18,400
Speaker 3: of how it feels to live on your own and

836
00:39:18,480 --> 00:39:19,560
Speaker 3: have a better start.

837
00:39:19,680 --> 00:39:20,799
Speaker 2: Oh wow, that's a great plan.

838
00:39:20,880 --> 00:39:23,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's actually well, so much for the absentee parenting.

839
00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:25,160
Speaker 3: They're like, we're gonna get you all an apartment so

840
00:39:25,200 --> 00:39:27,200
Speaker 3: you can figure out what the real world feels like.

841
00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:30,200
Speaker 3: That's pretty cool. Amy and Alex were the first ones

842
00:39:30,239 --> 00:39:33,040
Speaker 3: to move in. After a few months, Alex started complaining

843
00:39:33,040 --> 00:39:35,840
Speaker 3: to our parents about Amy until it finally reached a

844
00:39:35,840 --> 00:39:39,560
Speaker 3: boiling point and Alex moved away. After that, Amy's boyfriend

845
00:39:39,600 --> 00:39:42,160
Speaker 3: moved in with her. They were dating for five years

846
00:39:42,280 --> 00:39:44,879
Speaker 3: and brought out the worst in each other. After they

847
00:39:44,920 --> 00:39:47,279
Speaker 3: finally broke up, it was time for me to move in.

848
00:39:47,480 --> 00:39:50,320
Speaker 3: I had to literally beg my parents because they wanted

849
00:39:50,360 --> 00:39:52,319
Speaker 3: to give the apartment to Amy since she's been living

850
00:39:52,320 --> 00:39:54,359
Speaker 3: there for so long. I had to remind them why

851
00:39:54,400 --> 00:39:57,480
Speaker 3: they bought it in the first place. When I moved in,

852
00:39:57,640 --> 00:40:00,759
Speaker 3: the once pristine apartment was a mess. Amy didn't take

853
00:40:00,800 --> 00:40:03,080
Speaker 3: care of her cats, she didn't clean, and when she

854
00:40:03,120 --> 00:40:05,720
Speaker 3: got angry, she would smash plates and cups on the floor.

855
00:40:05,800 --> 00:40:08,480
Speaker 3: I soon learned that Amy was not only abusing alcohol,

856
00:40:08,600 --> 00:40:12,800
Speaker 3: but she had also become a drug and spices sleep addicts.

857
00:40:12,880 --> 00:40:15,239
Speaker 2: Oh no, oh man Amy is.

858
00:40:15,600 --> 00:40:18,560
Speaker 3: Sometimes she would be invading my personal space to the

859
00:40:18,600 --> 00:40:21,000
Speaker 3: point that I had to lock my door almost twenty

860
00:40:21,000 --> 00:40:23,440
Speaker 3: four to seven. Sometimes she would be gone for days

861
00:40:23,480 --> 00:40:26,160
Speaker 3: without saying a word. After stealing some of my money.

862
00:40:26,200 --> 00:40:29,000
Speaker 3: I kept asking my parents for help or any action

863
00:40:29,160 --> 00:40:31,680
Speaker 3: to no avail. I finally snapped when I woke up

864
00:40:31,760 --> 00:40:34,400
Speaker 3: one day to a naked man in our kitchen for

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Speaker 3: the third time in.

866
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Speaker 2: A row naked man. Not only was he.

867
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Speaker 3: A naked man, he was the third naked man in

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Speaker 3: a row.

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Speaker 2: That's like you one naked man, tic tech toe, it's

870
00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:49,480
Speaker 2: four in a row. So yeah, mom, dad, help.

871
00:40:49,680 --> 00:40:52,120
Speaker 3: I told my parents that they either do something or

872
00:40:52,120 --> 00:40:55,120
Speaker 3: they're losing another daughter. They finally sent her to rehab

873
00:40:55,160 --> 00:40:57,479
Speaker 3: for four months and forced her to move in with them.

874
00:40:57,560 --> 00:40:59,960
Speaker 3: So that was about a year ago. While Amy took

875
00:41:00,120 --> 00:41:02,200
Speaker 3: most of her stuff, a lot of it is still here.

876
00:41:02,320 --> 00:41:04,680
Speaker 3: The obvious ones I packed and put in the basement,

877
00:41:04,760 --> 00:41:06,560
Speaker 3: but the things I wasn't sure about I left in

878
00:41:06,600 --> 00:41:08,720
Speaker 3: the apartment. There are so many boxes in the basement

879
00:41:08,760 --> 00:41:11,359
Speaker 3: that you can barely squeeze in between them. I've been

880
00:41:11,360 --> 00:41:13,279
Speaker 3: reminding her to take it away for months, but she

881
00:41:13,400 --> 00:41:15,000
Speaker 3: keeps shrugging it off, and so.

882
00:41:15,040 --> 00:41:15,680
Speaker 2: Do my parents.

883
00:41:15,719 --> 00:41:18,200
Speaker 3: Now that my partner has moved in, we really need

884
00:41:18,200 --> 00:41:21,840
Speaker 3: that space, and she still keeps waving it off. We

885
00:41:21,920 --> 00:41:24,200
Speaker 3: finally got fed up, and last week we typed up

886
00:41:24,200 --> 00:41:26,960
Speaker 3: a message to Amy, informing her once again of the

887
00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:30,040
Speaker 3: situation and asking her to take her things. Gotta take

888
00:41:30,080 --> 00:41:31,439
Speaker 3: your stuff, take it and get out.

889
00:41:31,520 --> 00:41:34,000
Speaker 2: We give her a deadline of two months.

890
00:41:34,200 --> 00:41:36,640
Speaker 3: We of course discussed it with my parents earlier and

891
00:41:36,640 --> 00:41:39,400
Speaker 3: got their approval as predicted. She threw a temper tantrum

892
00:41:39,440 --> 00:41:42,359
Speaker 3: about us being horrible and childish. When that didn't work

893
00:41:42,360 --> 00:41:44,399
Speaker 3: on us, she brought it up with my parents, who

894
00:41:44,440 --> 00:41:47,960
Speaker 3: called me to appease her. They tried to convince me

895
00:41:48,040 --> 00:41:49,960
Speaker 3: to give them more time, and we kept going back

896
00:41:49,960 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 3: and forth until Amy butted in and started screaming at me.

897
00:41:53,800 --> 00:41:56,680
Speaker 3: Our parents tried to calm her down, to no effect,

898
00:41:56,760 --> 00:41:59,359
Speaker 3: as she kept yelling over them that I don't respect her.

899
00:41:59,480 --> 00:42:02,239
Speaker 3: I snapped when she sarcastically asked, what will you do

900
00:42:02,280 --> 00:42:05,560
Speaker 3: if I don't take them throw them out? And I said, yes, ooh,

901
00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:08,360
Speaker 3: you gave her an idea. Yeah, you gave OPI an idea.

902
00:42:08,400 --> 00:42:08,680
Speaker 2: Amy.

903
00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:11,040
Speaker 3: I mean, that's what happens when you leave your stuff

904
00:42:11,040 --> 00:42:12,880
Speaker 3: in a place that you don't live at anymore and

905
00:42:12,920 --> 00:42:15,400
Speaker 3: someone else moves in. If this person wasn't your sister,

906
00:42:15,480 --> 00:42:18,280
Speaker 3: your stuff would have been on the curb months ago. Months,

907
00:42:18,640 --> 00:42:21,239
Speaker 3: I said, yes. She became quiet long enough for my

908
00:42:21,280 --> 00:42:23,400
Speaker 3: parents to ask me if I was serious, and I

909
00:42:23,480 --> 00:42:25,239
Speaker 3: told them that it's not my stuff, so it's not

910
00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:27,160
Speaker 3: my problem what happens to it, and if Amy cared

911
00:42:27,160 --> 00:42:29,439
Speaker 3: about it, she would have taken it a long time ago.

912
00:42:29,600 --> 00:42:31,920
Speaker 3: I told them, after the time is up, I'm leaving

913
00:42:32,000 --> 00:42:34,040
Speaker 3: all of it near the dumpster, and then I hung up.

914
00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:37,160
Speaker 3: After three days of silence, I got a call yesterday

915
00:42:37,200 --> 00:42:39,920
Speaker 3: from my mom that one comment turned our house into

916
00:42:40,000 --> 00:42:44,120
Speaker 3: a hell hole. Amy has been whining NonStop, yelling, crying,

917
00:42:44,160 --> 00:42:46,879
Speaker 3: and making it everyone's problem. My mom said that while

918
00:42:46,920 --> 00:42:49,920
Speaker 3: she understood my anger, she disapproved of my idea and

919
00:42:50,040 --> 00:42:52,840
Speaker 3: asked me if I couldn't just leave Amy's boxes in

920
00:42:52,920 --> 00:42:56,480
Speaker 3: a safe house or somewhere else safe. I firmly stood

921
00:42:56,480 --> 00:42:59,200
Speaker 3: by my decision, saying that she's been living easy for

922
00:42:59,280 --> 00:43:02,880
Speaker 3: so long, but she got too comfortable with everyone doing

923
00:43:03,120 --> 00:43:05,960
Speaker 3: whatever she wants. Now that I've cooled off, I'm wondering

924
00:43:06,000 --> 00:43:08,080
Speaker 3: if throwing all her things out would be too much?

925
00:43:08,239 --> 00:43:10,480
Speaker 3: Would I be the a hole if I threw out

926
00:43:10,520 --> 00:43:13,400
Speaker 3: my sister's stuff out of the basement. Thanks for reading.

927
00:43:13,520 --> 00:43:15,320
Speaker 3: English is not my first language, so forgive me for

928
00:43:15,360 --> 00:43:16,560
Speaker 3: any mistakes you are.

929
00:43:16,719 --> 00:43:17,120
Speaker 2: Forgive it.

930
00:43:17,160 --> 00:43:18,920
Speaker 3: Some of you asked if I live rent free. No,

931
00:43:19,120 --> 00:43:21,120
Speaker 3: I pay rent and all the expenses. That's been the

932
00:43:21,120 --> 00:43:23,279
Speaker 3: deal since day one of my living there. My rent

933
00:43:23,360 --> 00:43:25,000
Speaker 3: is not very high in this part of the city,

934
00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:26,840
Speaker 3: which is why my boyfriend moved in. He used to

935
00:43:26,880 --> 00:43:29,200
Speaker 3: pay almost twice as much as we do now. Surprisingly,

936
00:43:29,239 --> 00:43:31,120
Speaker 3: my parents were the ones urging him to do so.

937
00:43:31,320 --> 00:43:34,080
Speaker 3: Oh wow, they're encouraging this spirits. I've always wanted this

938
00:43:34,160 --> 00:43:40,320
Speaker 3: to be the boyfriend bachelor, the boyfriend apartment. Uh uh,

939
00:43:40,320 --> 00:43:42,960
Speaker 3: when it comes to me, who's the younger sister. She

940
00:43:43,080 --> 00:43:45,560
Speaker 3: doesn't want to live here. As Amy was moving out,

941
00:43:45,800 --> 00:43:47,840
Speaker 3: I tried to convince Mia to live with me, but

942
00:43:47,960 --> 00:43:50,719
Speaker 3: she declined. She said that all her friends were living

943
00:43:50,719 --> 00:43:52,600
Speaker 3: back home and she wanted to spend time with them

944
00:43:52,640 --> 00:43:55,160
Speaker 3: before she went to college. Okay, she's currently preparing to

945
00:43:55,200 --> 00:43:57,120
Speaker 3: move to university. By the way, you can hang out

946
00:43:57,120 --> 00:43:59,959
Speaker 3: with your friends, which are us, live on YouTube everyone

947
00:44:00,040 --> 00:44:01,239
Speaker 3: weekday at three PMPST.

948
00:44:01,560 --> 00:44:04,399
Speaker 2: Just tap our profile. It's crazy. OPI is the only

949
00:44:04,480 --> 00:44:07,279
Speaker 2: person in her family to stand up to Amy. Yeah,

950
00:44:07,600 --> 00:44:09,239
Speaker 2: she's she is standing her ground.

951
00:44:09,320 --> 00:44:12,239
Speaker 3: She's just trying to on principle, I'm saying that if

952
00:44:12,239 --> 00:44:14,400
Speaker 3: you really aren't gonna come get this stuff, I'm just

953
00:44:14,400 --> 00:44:16,440
Speaker 3: gonna throw it away because it's garbage. If you don't

954
00:44:16,480 --> 00:44:18,880
Speaker 3: give her the ultimatum, She's not gonna come. And she

955
00:44:18,960 --> 00:44:20,839
Speaker 3: might not even come with the ultimatum, which I think

956
00:44:20,880 --> 00:44:22,400
Speaker 3: is why the mom is like, can you maybe just

957
00:44:22,600 --> 00:44:25,360
Speaker 3: not throw it in the dumpster? Just put it somewhere else?

958
00:44:25,800 --> 00:44:27,640
Speaker 3: And it's like, what do you mean? It's like, so,

959
00:44:27,719 --> 00:44:29,200
Speaker 3: am I gonna have to pay for that? I have

960
00:44:29,239 --> 00:44:33,399
Speaker 3: to now pay for Amy's junk to be moved somewhere else. Yeah.

961
00:44:33,960 --> 00:44:35,480
Speaker 3: I think a lot of this is coming from like

962
00:44:35,520 --> 00:44:38,480
Speaker 3: the Golden Child dynamic of feeling like, you know, Amy's

963
00:44:38,520 --> 00:44:40,560
Speaker 3: gotten away with everything and always gets what she wants.

964
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:43,439
Speaker 3: So op's just being like, I'm not I'm not gonna

965
00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:46,200
Speaker 3: bend to this now. I'm setting a rule. If you

966
00:44:46,239 --> 00:44:49,160
Speaker 3: don't get this stuff, it is gone forever. My partner

967
00:44:49,160 --> 00:44:52,319
Speaker 3: and I are looking for a new apartment. With the

968
00:44:52,360 --> 00:44:55,399
Speaker 3: current situation in our country, it's very difficult, so we're

969
00:44:55,400 --> 00:44:57,320
Speaker 3: saving up now. He just got a raise and I

970
00:44:57,360 --> 00:45:00,319
Speaker 3: found a new, better paying job, so with some we

971
00:45:00,360 --> 00:45:02,160
Speaker 3: might be able to move within a year or less.

972
00:45:02,320 --> 00:45:04,760
Speaker 3: We don't plan on or want to live here forever.

973
00:45:04,880 --> 00:45:06,960
Speaker 3: Thanks for all your comments. We went through them and

974
00:45:07,000 --> 00:45:09,520
Speaker 3: decided to go with your idea of leaving amy stuff

975
00:45:09,560 --> 00:45:12,120
Speaker 3: on the front porch after the deadline. We don't have

976
00:45:12,160 --> 00:45:14,200
Speaker 3: a car, so we'll have to either rent one, pay

977
00:45:14,239 --> 00:45:16,240
Speaker 3: for a moving company, or ask one of our friends

978
00:45:16,280 --> 00:45:19,080
Speaker 3: to do us a solid. Anyway, if anything interesting happens,

979
00:45:19,160 --> 00:45:20,680
Speaker 3: i'll update you once more.

980
00:45:20,840 --> 00:45:23,040
Speaker 2: Thanks for reading. Thanks for all your comments. Oh wow,

981
00:45:23,120 --> 00:45:24,279
Speaker 2: so they decided, so.

982
00:45:24,239 --> 00:45:26,160
Speaker 3: It looks like they didn't drop it all off at

983
00:45:26,160 --> 00:45:29,480
Speaker 3: the dumpster. My sister is upset I didn't make her

984
00:45:29,480 --> 00:45:32,200
Speaker 3: a bridesmaid. Now she keeps talking behind my back.

985
00:45:32,280 --> 00:45:33,080
Speaker 1: That's so rude.

986
00:45:33,360 --> 00:45:36,400
Speaker 3: That is not very sisterly of her. Apologies for the

987
00:45:36,440 --> 00:45:38,719
Speaker 3: length of this, but please strap in and bear with

988
00:45:38,760 --> 00:45:41,880
Speaker 3: me on my background info, because there's a lot that's happened.

989
00:45:41,960 --> 00:45:44,400
Speaker 3: I twenty eight female, am getting married to my fiance,

990
00:45:44,600 --> 00:45:47,440
Speaker 3: twenty five male, in April of twenty twenty five. My

991
00:45:47,480 --> 00:45:50,000
Speaker 3: fiance and I were good friends for four years before

992
00:45:50,040 --> 00:45:52,719
Speaker 3: we started dating, and well before we got engaged, I

993
00:45:52,800 --> 00:45:54,520
Speaker 3: knew I was going to marry this man, and in

994
00:45:54,560 --> 00:45:57,319
Speaker 3: the last several months beforehand, I knew the proposal was

995
00:45:57,320 --> 00:45:57,919
Speaker 3: coming soon.

996
00:45:58,200 --> 00:45:58,799
Speaker 2: That's so cute.

997
00:45:58,880 --> 00:46:01,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's always nice when you have a Yeah. By

998
00:46:01,960 --> 00:46:05,040
Speaker 3: the way, this comes from user lady z thirty three

999
00:46:05,200 --> 00:46:07,960
Speaker 3: on the r slash Okay Storytime Supper. So I had

1000
00:46:08,000 --> 00:46:10,920
Speaker 3: already predetermined who would be my bridal party and had

1001
00:46:10,920 --> 00:46:14,120
Speaker 3: picked my closest friend as my maid of honor, another friend,

1002
00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:16,360
Speaker 3: a beloved coworker, and one of my soon to be

1003
00:46:16,400 --> 00:46:19,680
Speaker 3: sister in laws as bridesmaids to start. I never anticipated

1004
00:46:19,760 --> 00:46:21,920
Speaker 3: I would actually get married one day, let alone have

1005
00:46:21,960 --> 00:46:24,799
Speaker 3: an entire wedding. Growing up, I was the black sheep

1006
00:46:24,840 --> 00:46:27,560
Speaker 3: in my family and had insecurities, as most people do.

1007
00:46:27,680 --> 00:46:29,680
Speaker 3: I had a few family members who would hone in

1008
00:46:29,719 --> 00:46:32,960
Speaker 3: on those insecurities to bring me down further. And degrade

1009
00:46:32,960 --> 00:46:36,160
Speaker 3: me all well before I had even reached high school.

1010
00:46:36,200 --> 00:46:37,680
Speaker 1: I'm guessing it was your sister.

1011
00:46:37,800 --> 00:46:41,799
Speaker 3: Though my older sister currently thirty female, did not start this,

1012
00:46:42,320 --> 00:46:46,080
Speaker 3: she would chime in and further these experiences. I don't

1013
00:46:46,080 --> 00:46:49,160
Speaker 3: mean normal sibling banter, but things that were outright cruel

1014
00:46:49,320 --> 00:46:51,480
Speaker 3: in which I'd rather not repeat for the internet. Our

1015
00:46:51,520 --> 00:46:54,399
Speaker 3: relationship got better as adults, but I moved a few

1016
00:46:54,440 --> 00:46:56,200
Speaker 3: hours away to a new city.

1017
00:46:56,400 --> 00:46:57,280
Speaker 2: Long story short.

1018
00:46:57,360 --> 00:47:00,160
Speaker 3: She eventually had two kids and a life just as

1019
00:47:00,200 --> 00:47:03,400
Speaker 3: I did, but we weren't close anymore. Sibling banter, family drama,

1020
00:47:03,480 --> 00:47:05,640
Speaker 3: but not close enough for me to call her the

1021
00:47:05,640 --> 00:47:08,239
Speaker 3: moment I got engaged or the second I had tea

1022
00:47:08,360 --> 00:47:12,880
Speaker 3: to spill. Occasionally she would be mean or just immature,

1023
00:47:12,960 --> 00:47:14,640
Speaker 3: to the point that I didn't want to talk to her.

1024
00:47:14,680 --> 00:47:15,200
Speaker 2: As an adult.

1025
00:47:15,280 --> 00:47:17,600
Speaker 3: I voiced things that hurt my feelings or didn't make

1026
00:47:17,640 --> 00:47:19,720
Speaker 3: me feel good, but she either never took it seriously

1027
00:47:19,920 --> 00:47:23,480
Speaker 3: or blew me off. Classic behavior for people who don't

1028
00:47:23,520 --> 00:47:24,200
Speaker 3: respect you.

1029
00:47:24,920 --> 00:47:26,080
Speaker 2: They just blow you off.

1030
00:47:26,120 --> 00:47:27,200
Speaker 1: You don't need them in your life.

1031
00:47:27,280 --> 00:47:29,359
Speaker 3: Be like, hey, I kind of felt like this when

1032
00:47:29,360 --> 00:47:31,120
Speaker 3: you said this to me, and they'll just be like,

1033
00:47:31,280 --> 00:47:33,080
Speaker 3: shut up, loser, you suck.

1034
00:47:34,000 --> 00:47:35,319
Speaker 1: I wanted you to feel that way.

1035
00:47:35,760 --> 00:47:36,560
Speaker 2: To this point.

1036
00:47:36,640 --> 00:47:39,120
Speaker 3: Right now, I've only conversed with her through texts and

1037
00:47:39,160 --> 00:47:41,560
Speaker 3: I haven't even seen her in person in a year.

1038
00:47:41,680 --> 00:47:43,600
Speaker 3: My mom lives in the same city and I've seen

1039
00:47:43,640 --> 00:47:47,200
Speaker 3: her countless times. After my fiance proposed, we ultimately decided

1040
00:47:47,200 --> 00:47:49,640
Speaker 3: on each having eight people in our wedding party, and

1041
00:47:49,680 --> 00:47:51,719
Speaker 3: at no point did I consider my older sister. For

1042
00:47:51,800 --> 00:47:54,240
Speaker 3: relevant's sake, I will only mention a couple of key people.

1043
00:47:54,520 --> 00:47:56,880
Speaker 3: My younger sister, sixteen female, and a couple of my

1044
00:47:56,960 --> 00:48:00,640
Speaker 3: fiance's sisters were included in my bridal party, in addition

1045
00:48:00,680 --> 00:48:02,040
Speaker 3: to the women I mentioned earlier.

1046
00:48:02,120 --> 00:48:03,320
Speaker 2: I had asked each of them.

1047
00:48:03,160 --> 00:48:05,799
Speaker 3: To be bride'smaids within the week of my engagement so

1048
00:48:05,800 --> 00:48:09,040
Speaker 3: I could start planning immediately. A couple weeks after my engagement,

1049
00:48:09,080 --> 00:48:11,720
Speaker 3: my older sister and I were messaging about the wedding itself,

1050
00:48:11,880 --> 00:48:14,080
Speaker 3: dates and details of the venue I found, and at

1051
00:48:14,080 --> 00:48:16,320
Speaker 3: one point she said, it's okay. I wasn't invited in

1052
00:48:16,360 --> 00:48:17,040
Speaker 3: the bridal party.

1053
00:48:17,040 --> 00:48:19,960
Speaker 1: By the way, Yeah, because her bringing it up is

1054
00:48:20,000 --> 00:48:22,760
Speaker 1: definitely her being totally She's like, it's fun, totally fine, I'm.

1055
00:48:22,600 --> 00:48:24,440
Speaker 3: Glad you're okay with that thing that you have no

1056
00:48:24,560 --> 00:48:25,640
Speaker 3: control over whatsoever.

1057
00:48:25,760 --> 00:48:27,960
Speaker 1: We haven't talked in a year, but it's fun.

1058
00:48:28,160 --> 00:48:30,880
Speaker 3: Even if you weren't okay with it, nothing with James stilln't.

1059
00:48:31,000 --> 00:48:32,600
Speaker 1: You still wouldn't be in the party.

1060
00:48:32,880 --> 00:48:35,720
Speaker 3: I was caught off guard by the audacity. I felt,

1061
00:48:35,800 --> 00:48:38,480
Speaker 3: but truly didn't think that she expected to be a bridesmaid.

1062
00:48:38,640 --> 00:48:41,400
Speaker 3: Rather than being honest and telling her she's selfish and

1063
00:48:41,400 --> 00:48:43,880
Speaker 3: self centered, or even saying she's not in the bridal

1064
00:48:43,880 --> 00:48:47,000
Speaker 3: party because those are the people whom you love dearly

1065
00:48:47,080 --> 00:48:49,840
Speaker 3: and will undeniably be there to support you, I was

1066
00:48:49,920 --> 00:48:51,799
Speaker 3: half honest and told her I didn't think she wanted

1067
00:48:51,800 --> 00:48:53,759
Speaker 3: to be a bridesmaid. I didn't think there was a

1068
00:48:53,760 --> 00:48:57,200
Speaker 3: way I could politely explain that last bit about bride'smaids

1069
00:48:57,200 --> 00:49:00,560
Speaker 3: to her, because before planning a wedding, I didn't even know, well, that's.

1070
00:49:00,400 --> 00:49:01,640
Speaker 2: Why you picked those people.

1071
00:49:01,840 --> 00:49:04,799
Speaker 3: While asking for wedding details like the venue, the date,

1072
00:49:04,840 --> 00:49:07,560
Speaker 3: and the time, she mentioned that she'd be there if

1073
00:49:07,600 --> 00:49:09,959
Speaker 3: her managers let her off. I told her it would

1074
00:49:09,960 --> 00:49:12,960
Speaker 3: be ridiculous to not get approval for a sibling's wedding

1075
00:49:13,160 --> 00:49:14,560
Speaker 3: eight months in advance.

1076
00:49:14,680 --> 00:49:15,440
Speaker 2: Her response to.

1077
00:49:15,440 --> 00:49:19,680
Speaker 1: This was, well, they're petty, so sounds like you're petty.

1078
00:49:19,800 --> 00:49:21,840
Speaker 3: It's like, are they petty or are you just like

1079
00:49:22,120 --> 00:49:24,120
Speaker 3: not good at scheduling time off at work?

1080
00:49:24,200 --> 00:49:26,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like the day before she's like, hey, I

1081
00:49:26,320 --> 00:49:28,520
Speaker 1: would like to schedule this the tomorrow off, and.

1082
00:49:28,520 --> 00:49:31,960
Speaker 3: They're like like, we can't, can't do that. And then

1083
00:49:32,000 --> 00:49:34,400
Speaker 3: she's just like, wow, well they're parent petty, so petty

1084
00:49:34,440 --> 00:49:34,919
Speaker 3: over here.

1085
00:49:34,960 --> 00:49:36,680
Speaker 1: They wouldn't let me come to my sister's wedding.

1086
00:49:36,840 --> 00:49:39,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, what do you guys see Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers?

1087
00:49:39,440 --> 00:49:43,239
Speaker 2: Because you're soups, you're just all petty. Your soup's petty.

1088
00:49:43,800 --> 00:49:46,440
Speaker 3: I knew immediately she was going to use an excuse

1089
00:49:46,440 --> 00:49:49,080
Speaker 3: to not come to my wedding, which is fine, Yeah,

1090
00:49:49,120 --> 00:49:50,319
Speaker 3: you don't have to come, but.

1091
00:49:50,280 --> 00:49:51,680
Speaker 2: I'd rather be told that directly.

1092
00:49:51,760 --> 00:49:53,840
Speaker 3: A few weeks after this, I was planning a small

1093
00:49:53,840 --> 00:49:56,520
Speaker 3: weekend trip back to my home city for my bridal

1094
00:49:56,600 --> 00:49:58,560
Speaker 3: dress fitting. I wanted my mom to be present for

1095
00:49:58,600 --> 00:50:00,560
Speaker 3: that and decided I would love to have the extra

1096
00:50:00,600 --> 00:50:04,359
Speaker 3: support of a few bridesmaids and my fiance's mom, just

1097
00:50:04,400 --> 00:50:06,600
Speaker 3: the girlies, all of which I speak with and I

1098
00:50:06,640 --> 00:50:08,919
Speaker 3: see regularly. I was excited to have my mom meet

1099
00:50:08,920 --> 00:50:10,600
Speaker 3: and spend time with my soon to be mother in

1100
00:50:10,680 --> 00:50:11,720
Speaker 3: law and sister in laws.

1101
00:50:12,040 --> 00:50:13,040
Speaker 2: It all went great.

1102
00:50:13,600 --> 00:50:16,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, well, I love that, and I found my dress

1103
00:50:16,840 --> 00:50:20,160
Speaker 3: surrounded by care and support. During the trip, both my sisters,

1104
00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:23,000
Speaker 3: my mom, my fiance, and I had plans to go

1105
00:50:23,040 --> 00:50:25,799
Speaker 3: to dinner for my mom's birthday. Expensive restaurants aren't my

1106
00:50:25,840 --> 00:50:28,440
Speaker 3: mom's style, so nothing crazy, just dinner and a hangout.

1107
00:50:28,600 --> 00:50:31,200
Speaker 3: My older sister had said she couldn't afford to go

1108
00:50:31,520 --> 00:50:33,439
Speaker 3: and pay for dinner for herself and her kids, which

1109
00:50:33,480 --> 00:50:36,120
Speaker 3: I understood completely. If I wasn't paying for wedding costs

1110
00:50:36,160 --> 00:50:38,720
Speaker 3: and had the money, I would have paid for instead.

1111
00:50:38,920 --> 00:50:40,480
Speaker 3: I asked if she'd like to come to our b

1112
00:50:40,600 --> 00:50:43,120
Speaker 3: and B to hang out together for her birthday, meet

1113
00:50:43,120 --> 00:50:46,000
Speaker 3: my fiance, and so I could meet my month old niece.

1114
00:50:46,120 --> 00:50:48,960
Speaker 3: I even offered to cover her gas. She said she

1115
00:50:49,120 --> 00:50:52,160
Speaker 3: had to work door dash to feed her family, and

1116
00:50:52,200 --> 00:50:55,040
Speaker 3: I left it alone. But the day after these plans,

1117
00:50:55,120 --> 00:50:57,960
Speaker 3: on a weekend night, mind you, she was a couple

1118
00:50:58,040 --> 00:51:00,840
Speaker 3: hours away driving in a whole different seat for her.

1119
00:51:00,840 --> 00:51:02,360
Speaker 2: Husband bought a school.

1120
00:51:02,840 --> 00:51:06,080
Speaker 3: I'm confused they didn't elope or anything, but she refers

1121
00:51:06,120 --> 00:51:08,880
Speaker 3: to him as her husband. Arguably, she could be making

1122
00:51:08,920 --> 00:51:11,200
Speaker 3: more money than the previous night, but she couldn't stop

1123
00:51:11,239 --> 00:51:13,200
Speaker 3: by and visit. I'll take this moment to note that

1124
00:51:13,280 --> 00:51:15,840
Speaker 3: it's extremely rare for even my mom.

1125
00:51:15,600 --> 00:51:17,160
Speaker 2: To be able to go to her house to visit.

1126
00:51:17,200 --> 00:51:18,880
Speaker 3: There's always a reason no one can come by and

1127
00:51:18,920 --> 00:51:21,319
Speaker 3: see my nieces or my sister. Knowing that, it didn't

1128
00:51:21,320 --> 00:51:23,080
Speaker 3: cross my mind to go to her house to visit

1129
00:51:23,120 --> 00:51:25,440
Speaker 3: because it seemed like she just didn't want to see me.

1130
00:51:25,640 --> 00:51:27,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like she would have said come over

1131
00:51:28,200 --> 00:51:29,120
Speaker 1: if she wanted to see it.

1132
00:51:29,320 --> 00:51:31,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's what it's the boy who cried wolf

1133
00:51:32,000 --> 00:51:32,440
Speaker 3: or whatever.

1134
00:51:32,640 --> 00:51:33,080
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1135
00:51:33,120 --> 00:51:36,880
Speaker 3: About a week ago, I confronted my older sister because

1136
00:51:36,920 --> 00:51:39,160
Speaker 3: she refused to talk to me, but was pretty open

1137
00:51:39,200 --> 00:51:42,560
Speaker 3: with my family about how displeased she was with everything. Now,

1138
00:51:42,680 --> 00:51:45,040
Speaker 3: my sister has a tendency to twist words around and

1139
00:51:45,080 --> 00:51:47,400
Speaker 3: play the victims. So I made sure of two things.

1140
00:51:47,520 --> 00:51:49,680
Speaker 3: The first thing is I told my mom I was

1141
00:51:49,719 --> 00:51:52,239
Speaker 3: going to confront her, knowing that she would likely hear

1142
00:51:52,400 --> 00:51:54,960
Speaker 3: everything from my sister. And the second thing is that

1143
00:51:55,000 --> 00:51:58,120
Speaker 3: I made sure everything was done through text as proof

1144
00:51:58,200 --> 00:52:00,360
Speaker 3: that I was trying to fix things. I asked her

1145
00:52:00,440 --> 00:52:02,279
Speaker 3: what was going on between us, because I hadn't heard

1146
00:52:02,280 --> 00:52:04,600
Speaker 3: from her essentially since she said she would not be

1147
00:52:04,600 --> 00:52:06,160
Speaker 3: coming to the B and B, which was a few

1148
00:52:06,200 --> 00:52:08,800
Speaker 3: weeks ago, and I've been hearing things from other family members.

1149
00:52:08,840 --> 00:52:12,360
Speaker 3: I specifically said numerous times during our entire exchange that

1150
00:52:12,480 --> 00:52:15,160
Speaker 3: I'm not trying to be nasty or malicious, that I

1151
00:52:15,239 --> 00:52:17,640
Speaker 3: was just trying to clear the air and talk to

1152
00:52:17,680 --> 00:52:20,520
Speaker 3: her to fix the problem. She sent a long couple

1153
00:52:20,560 --> 00:52:23,120
Speaker 3: of messages, but I'll touch on the important parts. Well,

1154
00:52:23,200 --> 00:52:25,000
Speaker 3: let me ask you this, and maybe it's just me,

1155
00:52:25,360 --> 00:52:27,120
Speaker 3: but how would you feel if one of your little

1156
00:52:27,160 --> 00:52:29,960
Speaker 3: sisters you grew up with and protected didn't ask you

1157
00:52:30,040 --> 00:52:31,240
Speaker 3: to be in her wedding right away?

1158
00:52:31,400 --> 00:52:32,120
Speaker 2: Would you be hurt?

1159
00:52:32,280 --> 00:52:35,160
Speaker 1: I don't recall a lot of protection going on at

1160
00:52:35,160 --> 00:52:36,560
Speaker 1: the beginning of that story.

1161
00:52:36,760 --> 00:52:41,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't recall a very tight bond going down. Y'all.

1162
00:52:41,400 --> 00:52:43,000
Speaker 2: Weren't toys more.

1163
00:52:42,840 --> 00:52:45,560
Speaker 3: Things about how my fiance sisters and my little sister

1164
00:52:45,640 --> 00:52:47,719
Speaker 3: are in the bridal party, And then she talked about

1165
00:52:47,760 --> 00:52:50,000
Speaker 3: more things about how my fiance sister and my little

1166
00:52:50,040 --> 00:52:52,080
Speaker 3: sister in the bridal party. I had told her that

1167
00:52:52,160 --> 00:52:54,400
Speaker 3: I would be completely open and honest with her, so

1168
00:52:54,520 --> 00:52:56,640
Speaker 3: long as she gave me the courtesy of listening before

1169
00:52:56,719 --> 00:52:59,040
Speaker 3: jumping to conclusions. I told her that I wanted her

1170
00:52:59,080 --> 00:53:01,399
Speaker 3: to understand my thoughts on things. I was honest about

1171
00:53:01,440 --> 00:53:03,880
Speaker 3: what I should have said the first time, but again

1172
00:53:04,080 --> 00:53:06,680
Speaker 3: not nasty or rude. I told her how she didn't

1173
00:53:06,680 --> 00:53:09,520
Speaker 3: make me feel protected. She didn't really have my back.

1174
00:53:09,719 --> 00:53:12,280
Speaker 3: She piled on top of the bullying and degrading comments

1175
00:53:12,280 --> 00:53:14,600
Speaker 3: that I got from older family members. I know siblings

1176
00:53:14,680 --> 00:53:17,800
Speaker 3: joke and tease, but that didn't make me hurt any less.

1177
00:53:18,000 --> 00:53:20,040
Speaker 3: I then told her the real reason, how she makes

1178
00:53:20,080 --> 00:53:22,600
Speaker 3: fun of me and says hurtful things even as an adult.

1179
00:53:22,719 --> 00:53:24,160
Speaker 2: I told her she always brought.

1180
00:53:23,920 --> 00:53:26,400
Speaker 3: Herself to be the center of attention, but I also

1181
00:53:26,440 --> 00:53:28,480
Speaker 3: told her that when it came down to it, she

1182
00:53:28,520 --> 00:53:30,680
Speaker 3: wouldn't be there to love and support me. She only

1183
00:53:30,719 --> 00:53:32,759
Speaker 3: teases and makes fun of me when my wedding is

1184
00:53:32,800 --> 00:53:36,680
Speaker 3: not about her or anyone else except my fiance and I.

1185
00:53:37,200 --> 00:53:39,520
Speaker 3: She admitted to me that she was going to lie

1186
00:53:39,640 --> 00:53:42,240
Speaker 3: and say that her manager denied her time off request,

1187
00:53:42,480 --> 00:53:44,880
Speaker 3: which I already knew, but continue to tell me that

1188
00:53:44,920 --> 00:53:46,000
Speaker 3: she just didn't want to come.

1189
00:53:46,080 --> 00:53:46,360
Speaker 2: Wow.

1190
00:53:46,480 --> 00:53:48,919
Speaker 1: So She's like, I'm gonna I'm telling you now, I'm

1191
00:53:48,920 --> 00:53:51,719
Speaker 1: gonna lie later and say that I have work that

1192
00:53:52,080 --> 00:53:53,680
Speaker 1: I don't want. You know, know it's because I don't

1193
00:53:53,680 --> 00:53:54,080
Speaker 1: want to come.

1194
00:53:54,200 --> 00:53:57,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's she's just so messed up in the spirit

1195
00:53:57,080 --> 00:54:02,120
Speaker 3: of being honest. Yeah, I was totally going to lot, totally.

1196
00:54:01,760 --> 00:54:03,440
Speaker 2: Going to lie. But I am.

1197
00:54:03,440 --> 00:54:05,520
Speaker 1: Extremely upset that I'm not your bride's man.

1198
00:54:05,680 --> 00:54:07,799
Speaker 3: Doesn't count because I'm telling you about it now. Yeah,

1199
00:54:07,880 --> 00:54:10,279
Speaker 3: I'm telling you it would have happened. It's transparency, so

1200
00:54:10,320 --> 00:54:11,920
Speaker 3: now it's not. Now, I'm just not gonna come. I

1201
00:54:11,920 --> 00:54:14,080
Speaker 3: guess I had told her that her and her family

1202
00:54:14,120 --> 00:54:16,279
Speaker 3: were still invited and welcome to come, but if she

1203
00:54:16,320 --> 00:54:18,359
Speaker 3: didn't want to, I wouldn't even hold it against her.

1204
00:54:18,440 --> 00:54:20,160
Speaker 3: I really just wanted her to be honest with me

1205
00:54:20,239 --> 00:54:22,680
Speaker 3: and have a mature conversation about how she feels. But

1206
00:54:22,719 --> 00:54:25,319
Speaker 3: instead I got responses like, Okay, okay, it is what

1207
00:54:25,400 --> 00:54:27,520
Speaker 3: it is. Okay, glad we cleared the air. You know

1208
00:54:27,600 --> 00:54:31,880
Speaker 3: it's really okay? Is it? You? Joy Time us on Okay,

1209
00:54:31,960 --> 00:54:35,720
Speaker 3: story Time live on YouTube every weekday at three pm.

1210
00:54:35,840 --> 00:54:37,000
Speaker 2: Just tap on our profile.

1211
00:54:37,120 --> 00:54:39,480
Speaker 1: I think you your sister doesn't want to be there,

1212
00:54:39,800 --> 00:54:41,960
Speaker 1: So let her not be there. Yeah, you don't have

1213
00:54:42,000 --> 00:54:44,960
Speaker 1: to fight for her to stay. She's not supportive you

1214
00:54:45,000 --> 00:54:47,480
Speaker 1: and an't want her to be your bridesmaid. She doesn't

1215
00:54:47,480 --> 00:54:50,839
Speaker 1: want to come to the wedding. Yeah, let sleeping dogs lie.

1216
00:54:51,400 --> 00:54:53,600
Speaker 3: At the end, I told her that I loved her

1217
00:54:53,719 --> 00:54:55,960
Speaker 3: and I hope things between us will change, but I

1218
00:54:55,960 --> 00:54:58,319
Speaker 3: don't expect to ever have a response to that. We

1219
00:54:58,400 --> 00:55:00,799
Speaker 3: currently are not on speaking terms, and she told my

1220
00:55:00,880 --> 00:55:03,759
Speaker 3: mom she was done with everyone. My close family and

1221
00:55:03,800 --> 00:55:05,879
Speaker 3: friends have told me that they think she's jealous by

1222
00:55:05,880 --> 00:55:09,000
Speaker 3: the years of her pulling acts like this, with holding

1223
00:55:09,080 --> 00:55:11,440
Speaker 3: my family from seeing her on her or her kids,

1224
00:55:11,560 --> 00:55:13,440
Speaker 3: trash talking me left and right about how I'm the

1225
00:55:13,520 --> 00:55:15,680
Speaker 3: favorite child because I make the most money, and the

1226
00:55:15,760 --> 00:55:18,719
Speaker 3: constant backhanded comments. She's told my mom that we talked

1227
00:55:18,719 --> 00:55:20,919
Speaker 3: about being in each other's weddings since we were kids,

1228
00:55:21,040 --> 00:55:23,040
Speaker 3: but I think we said that once when I was

1229
00:55:23,080 --> 00:55:24,240
Speaker 3: maybe six years old.

1230
00:55:24,480 --> 00:55:26,400
Speaker 1: She's like, I remember I recorded you.

1231
00:55:26,760 --> 00:55:29,080
Speaker 2: That was my core memory. I remember we were gonna

1232
00:55:29,120 --> 00:55:29,720
Speaker 2: have our wedding.

1233
00:55:29,800 --> 00:55:31,080
Speaker 1: It was legally binding.

1234
00:55:31,200 --> 00:55:34,279
Speaker 3: She's like, my core memory is you bullying me my

1235
00:55:34,600 --> 00:55:35,640
Speaker 3: entire childhood.

1236
00:55:35,840 --> 00:55:38,040
Speaker 1: It's like I wasn't. I was six years old. I

1237
00:55:38,080 --> 00:55:39,200
Speaker 1: couldn't sign anything.

1238
00:55:39,440 --> 00:55:40,960
Speaker 2: I didn't even know how to write.

1239
00:55:41,400 --> 00:55:44,040
Speaker 3: I thought I was getting married to a cartoon when

1240
00:55:44,080 --> 00:55:46,279
Speaker 3: I was six years old. If you made it all

1241
00:55:46,280 --> 00:55:48,240
Speaker 3: the way here, thank you for your time and dedication.

1242
00:55:48,520 --> 00:55:50,080
Speaker 2: Am I the a hole? If anything?

1243
00:55:50,120 --> 00:55:53,600
Speaker 3: You sound like a fully matured and fully formed adult.

1244
00:55:53,719 --> 00:55:53,879
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1245
00:55:53,880 --> 00:55:58,480
Speaker 1: We tried to have a sure conversation will your sister yeah,

1246
00:55:58,520 --> 00:56:01,759
Speaker 1: which was not reciprocated because she is a child in

1247
00:56:01,840 --> 00:56:03,400
Speaker 1: an adoor dasher's body.

1248
00:56:04,239 --> 00:56:04,600
Speaker 2: Body.

1249
00:56:04,719 --> 00:56:05,840
Speaker 1: But that's the end of that story.

1250
00:56:05,960 --> 00:56:07,840
Speaker 3: So that is we'll see you next time, see you

1251
00:56:07,880 --> 00:56:08,319
Speaker 3: next time.

1252
00:56:08,680 --> 00:56:11,920
Speaker 1: My selfish brother always starts a fight, so I decided

1253
00:56:11,920 --> 00:56:15,760
Speaker 1: to go no contact with him. Cut off, cut him off. I,

1254
00:56:15,840 --> 00:56:18,279
Speaker 1: thirty five year female, am near the finish line of

1255
00:56:18,320 --> 00:56:21,160
Speaker 1: a difficult and high risk pregnancy. While my fiance and

1256
00:56:21,200 --> 00:56:23,600
Speaker 1: I were surprised I got pregnant due to my pre

1257
00:56:23,680 --> 00:56:26,720
Speaker 1: existing medical conditions, we were nonetheless very excited.

1258
00:56:26,920 --> 00:56:27,400
Speaker 2: Congrass.

1259
00:56:27,640 --> 00:56:30,360
Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Pink Lululemons on the

1260
00:56:30,400 --> 00:56:33,319
Speaker 1: Okay storytime subvered it, so we learned early on that

1261
00:56:33,360 --> 00:56:36,279
Speaker 1: we were expecting twins. I was referred to a high

1262
00:56:36,360 --> 00:56:39,520
Speaker 1: risk o BE due to multiple gestation, my age, and

1263
00:56:39,640 --> 00:56:44,400
Speaker 1: early near miscarriage symptoms. Unfortunately, at my follow up twelve

1264
00:56:44,520 --> 00:56:47,640
Speaker 1: week appointment, we learned one of the babies didn't make it.

1265
00:56:47,800 --> 00:56:51,640
Speaker 1: Oh after months of anxiety, genetic testing, being sent to

1266
00:56:51,680 --> 00:56:55,680
Speaker 1: an even higher risk specialty university obgyn, we finally got

1267
00:56:55,719 --> 00:56:58,200
Speaker 1: a clear that it seemed everything's okay with her baby,

1268
00:56:58,320 --> 00:57:00,879
Speaker 1: but I need to take it easy. I shared these

1269
00:57:00,920 --> 00:57:03,879
Speaker 1: experiences and fears with my family all along the way,

1270
00:57:04,040 --> 00:57:06,160
Speaker 1: so they know it's been a difficult journey so far.

1271
00:57:06,440 --> 00:57:09,040
Speaker 1: My brother, Mark, twenty five year male, has had a

1272
00:57:09,120 --> 00:57:11,520
Speaker 1: long history of always starting fights with me and my

1273
00:57:11,600 --> 00:57:14,920
Speaker 1: other brother over almost anything. If we don't acknowledge his

1274
00:57:14,960 --> 00:57:17,160
Speaker 1: point of view is the correct one, he beerates us

1275
00:57:17,240 --> 00:57:19,800
Speaker 1: until we give in and agree. Fast forward to this week.

1276
00:57:19,960 --> 00:57:22,160
Speaker 1: My dog has been staying with my parents since the

1277
00:57:22,160 --> 00:57:25,040
Speaker 1: beginning of my pregnancy because I found out I'm allergic

1278
00:57:25,080 --> 00:57:27,880
Speaker 1: to him. Since I stopped taking all my daily medications

1279
00:57:27,960 --> 00:57:31,800
Speaker 1: except prenatal supplements, I was breaking out in rashes. The

1280
00:57:31,840 --> 00:57:34,480
Speaker 1: allergy medication I need to take that works against my

1281
00:57:34,600 --> 00:57:37,480
Speaker 1: pet allergies is not approved by my doctor.

1282
00:57:37,880 --> 00:57:40,880
Speaker 3: No Oh, so ic she was already taking the anti

1283
00:57:40,960 --> 00:57:44,160
Speaker 3: acty medicine, probably for other reasons. Yeah, and then realize

1284
00:57:44,280 --> 00:57:45,960
Speaker 3: I'm also allergic to my dog.

1285
00:57:46,040 --> 00:57:47,920
Speaker 2: That really sucks, thinks.

1286
00:57:48,160 --> 00:57:50,520
Speaker 1: My parents agreed to house my dog until after the

1287
00:57:50,520 --> 00:57:53,080
Speaker 1: pregnancy and two to three months after the baby is born.

1288
00:57:53,200 --> 00:57:55,560
Speaker 1: My dog is not fixed, and I told my dad

1289
00:57:55,600 --> 00:57:57,720
Speaker 1: I can get him fixed before moving in with him,

1290
00:57:57,840 --> 00:58:01,000
Speaker 1: because they have an unfixed female dog. My dad adamantly

1291
00:58:01,040 --> 00:58:03,880
Speaker 1: refused because he said he always wanted to try being

1292
00:58:03,920 --> 00:58:07,160
Speaker 1: a doggie grandparent at least once before fixing his dog.

1293
00:58:07,560 --> 00:58:10,400
Speaker 1: He's like, cool, Oh, you can't fix your dog because

1294
00:58:10,520 --> 00:58:11,440
Speaker 1: I want puppies.

1295
00:58:12,080 --> 00:58:15,760
Speaker 2: I'm trying to make babies. Dog the babies. He's like,

1296
00:58:15,760 --> 00:58:19,400
Speaker 2: you're pregnant, I want more babies. I'm the matchmaker.

1297
00:58:19,920 --> 00:58:23,000
Speaker 1: Well, my dad's dog was expecting, but she needed to

1298
00:58:23,080 --> 00:58:26,720
Speaker 1: have an emergency sea section and the puppies didn't make it. No,

1299
00:58:26,760 --> 00:58:29,680
Speaker 1: this is so sad. I was visiting my parents when

1300
00:58:29,680 --> 00:58:32,080
Speaker 1: this happened. My dad wasn't back yet from the vet,

1301
00:58:32,160 --> 00:58:34,520
Speaker 1: and I received a call from my brother Mark. He

1302
00:58:34,600 --> 00:58:36,640
Speaker 1: tells me that my dad called him to tell him

1303
00:58:36,680 --> 00:58:39,720
Speaker 1: the bad news and that he not my dad, feels

1304
00:58:39,760 --> 00:58:41,760
Speaker 1: like it would be better if I take my dog

1305
00:58:41,800 --> 00:58:44,720
Speaker 1: home as my dad's dog will be recovering from her surgery.

1306
00:58:44,800 --> 00:58:47,520
Speaker 1: I found this odd because my parents have a large house,

1307
00:58:47,760 --> 00:58:50,960
Speaker 1: large yard, and kennels for the dogs to keep them separate.

1308
00:58:51,040 --> 00:58:53,280
Speaker 1: I asked him if this was my dad's request. He

1309
00:58:53,320 --> 00:58:55,480
Speaker 1: said no, but that he feels it would be better

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00:58:55,520 --> 00:58:58,200
Speaker 1: if I took him home for my dad's dog's sake.

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00:58:58,520 --> 00:59:01,240
Speaker 3: I want the dog that open he's allergic to while

1312
00:59:01,320 --> 00:59:03,720
Speaker 3: she's pregnant. Yeah, to be back in O piece.

1313
00:59:03,920 --> 00:59:06,720
Speaker 1: It's weird that it seems like they're prioritizing the dog's

1314
00:59:06,760 --> 00:59:08,200
Speaker 1: pregnancy over O piece.

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00:59:08,200 --> 00:59:10,880
Speaker 3: Even though it does suck, and I feel for the dog, Glarus.

1316
00:59:11,240 --> 00:59:18,240
Speaker 3: Maybe prioritize the maybe yeah, maybe human human baby pregnancy priority.

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00:59:18,480 --> 00:59:21,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe that's just me. So this is coming from

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00:59:21,000 --> 00:59:23,520
Speaker 1: the brother. Okay, for reference, my brother lives with my

1319
00:59:23,640 --> 00:59:25,880
Speaker 1: parents rent free and only has to pay for his

1320
00:59:25,920 --> 00:59:28,000
Speaker 1: car and phone bill. He has a part time job

1321
00:59:28,080 --> 00:59:30,800
Speaker 1: and helps around the house minimally. According to my parents

1322
00:59:30,880 --> 00:59:31,520
Speaker 1: or are you kidding me?

1323
00:59:31,560 --> 00:59:33,360
Speaker 2: This is because he doesn't want to have to take

1324
00:59:33,360 --> 00:59:34,160
Speaker 2: care of the dog.

1325
00:59:34,640 --> 00:59:35,160
Speaker 1: Dogs.

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00:59:35,280 --> 00:59:37,600
Speaker 2: There's too much dogs in the house. Yeah, you gotta

1327
00:59:37,600 --> 00:59:39,840
Speaker 2: get rid of one. Can you please take your dog back?

1328
00:59:40,000 --> 00:59:41,840
Speaker 2: I don't care that you pregnant. I don't want to

1329
00:59:41,880 --> 00:59:45,000
Speaker 2: deal with them. They're making me walk him.

1330
00:59:45,320 --> 00:59:47,000
Speaker 1: He has a part time job and helps around the

1331
00:59:47,000 --> 00:59:50,360
Speaker 1: house minimally, according to my parents. I was feeling conflicted

1332
00:59:50,400 --> 00:59:53,120
Speaker 1: because I felt really sad for my dad and his dog,

1333
00:59:53,280 --> 00:59:55,560
Speaker 1: but also now I can't take my dog home while

1334
00:59:55,600 --> 00:59:58,600
Speaker 1: thirty eight weeks pregnant, and my fiance is also focused

1335
00:59:58,680 --> 01:00:02,040
Speaker 1: on helping me out and the postpartum. I'm scheduled for

1336
01:00:02,080 --> 01:00:04,200
Speaker 1: a c section next week and feel like i'll be

1337
01:00:04,240 --> 01:00:06,840
Speaker 1: recovering from that as well. I asked my mom about it,

1338
01:00:06,880 --> 01:00:09,280
Speaker 1: relate my brother's concerns to her and asked her if

1339
01:00:09,280 --> 01:00:10,760
Speaker 1: she thinks I should take my dog home.

1340
01:00:10,840 --> 01:00:14,440
Speaker 3: She said absolutely that yeah, because she's sane, because she

1341
01:00:14,680 --> 01:00:17,760
Speaker 3: understands person that you're pregnant and that's a.

1342
01:00:17,760 --> 01:00:20,040
Speaker 1: Little bit more important than your dog's pregnancy.

1343
01:00:20,200 --> 01:00:22,760
Speaker 3: You don't need to take care of the dog right now, she.

1344
01:00:22,800 --> 01:00:25,600
Speaker 1: Said, absolutely not. That they have plenty of room to

1345
01:00:25,680 --> 01:00:28,120
Speaker 1: keep the dogs separated, and I should not risk my

1346
01:00:28,200 --> 01:00:31,480
Speaker 1: health or baby's health by risking having allergies to my

1347
01:00:31,560 --> 01:00:34,720
Speaker 1: dog or taking on extra care for him. So near

1348
01:00:34,760 --> 01:00:37,440
Speaker 1: my delivery date, my dad arrived home and hearing his

1349
01:00:37,520 --> 01:00:41,400
Speaker 1: sadness was utterly heartbreaking. He came home holding his dog

1350
01:00:41,520 --> 01:00:44,720
Speaker 1: and was very teary, and I just hugged him while

1351
01:00:44,720 --> 01:00:47,800
Speaker 1: he vented. His dog was alive and recovering. She was

1352
01:00:47,880 --> 01:00:50,280
Speaker 1: just a little sedated and got fixed so she can't

1353
01:00:50,280 --> 01:00:53,080
Speaker 1: get pregnant again. It was her puppies that didn't survive

1354
01:00:53,320 --> 01:00:56,040
Speaker 1: three total. I received a text from my brother a

1355
01:00:56,040 --> 01:00:59,400
Speaker 1: little few minutes later, and he stated that he would

1356
01:00:59,400 --> 01:01:01,960
Speaker 1: feel better if my dog wasn't around.

1357
01:01:02,200 --> 01:01:06,360
Speaker 2: Who cares what you think do? You're rendfree? You live

1358
01:01:06,440 --> 01:01:07,920
Speaker 2: there for free.

1359
01:01:08,080 --> 01:01:10,520
Speaker 1: You got you have no one living rent free in

1360
01:01:10,560 --> 01:01:13,959
Speaker 1: your body, and you're living rent free in your parents' house,

1361
01:01:14,240 --> 01:01:14,880
Speaker 1: so you don't have.

1362
01:01:14,840 --> 01:01:17,480
Speaker 2: A say I'm gonna hit you with the John Shut

1363
01:01:17,600 --> 01:01:18,479
Speaker 2: up is.

1364
01:01:18,800 --> 01:01:21,760
Speaker 1: Shut up exactly. He had a feeling my dad didn't

1365
01:01:21,760 --> 01:01:24,360
Speaker 1: know how to handle the possibility of something bad happening

1366
01:01:24,360 --> 01:01:26,560
Speaker 1: to the puppies, and he didn't want my dad's dog

1367
01:01:26,640 --> 01:01:29,640
Speaker 1: to go through a difficult surgery recovery. I go outside

1368
01:01:29,720 --> 01:01:31,880
Speaker 1: and call my brother and tell him. I talked about

1369
01:01:31,880 --> 01:01:34,240
Speaker 1: taking my dog home with my mom, and she said

1370
01:01:34,240 --> 01:01:36,240
Speaker 1: it was not necessary for me to take my dog.

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01:01:36,760 --> 01:01:38,920
Speaker 1: They would just keep them in separate kennels and that

1372
01:01:39,040 --> 01:01:42,040
Speaker 1: I can't take him anyways because I'm allergic dim and

1373
01:01:42,120 --> 01:01:44,760
Speaker 1: I'm thirty eight weeks pregnant and not sure I can

1374
01:01:44,800 --> 01:01:48,320
Speaker 1: care for him right now anyways. He just reiterated that

1375
01:01:48,520 --> 01:01:51,680
Speaker 1: he feels like, right now, my dad's dog needs space

1376
01:01:52,120 --> 01:01:54,280
Speaker 1: and it's not okay for my dog to be there.

1377
01:01:54,480 --> 01:01:55,800
Speaker 1: Why don't you shut up?

1378
01:01:56,040 --> 01:01:59,480
Speaker 3: I'm I'm so I want to throw this guy into

1379
01:01:59,520 --> 01:02:02,440
Speaker 3: the sun, into the sun. He's like, I really think

1380
01:02:02,480 --> 01:02:03,320
Speaker 3: the dog.

1381
01:02:05,960 --> 01:02:09,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, deserves a little bit more care for the dog.

1382
01:02:09,200 --> 01:02:11,680
Speaker 1: You know, the dog's going through really hard time. Might

1383
01:02:11,840 --> 01:02:13,640
Speaker 1: know you're just feeling a little sad.

1384
01:02:13,800 --> 01:02:15,760
Speaker 3: I'm just feeling a lot of empathy for this dog

1385
01:02:16,280 --> 01:02:19,720
Speaker 3: because I'm kind of an EmPATH because because I hate

1386
01:02:19,760 --> 01:02:20,240
Speaker 3: my sister.

1387
01:02:20,560 --> 01:02:22,960
Speaker 1: I hate my sister, and I love this dog. So

1388
01:02:26,040 --> 01:02:28,200
Speaker 1: I was honestly pissed off at this point and told

1389
01:02:28,240 --> 01:02:30,840
Speaker 1: him that again, I'm thirty eight weeks pregnant and I

1390
01:02:30,880 --> 01:02:33,840
Speaker 1: don't want to do anything extra to risk my health

1391
01:02:34,240 --> 01:02:36,040
Speaker 1: and that it feels like he cares more about a

1392
01:02:36,040 --> 01:02:39,120
Speaker 1: dog's health than his own sister. As soon as those

1393
01:02:39,160 --> 01:02:43,320
Speaker 1: words left my mouth, he started cussing. He told me, Ef, you,

1394
01:02:43,960 --> 01:02:46,920
Speaker 1: how dare I say that about him. I retaliated and

1395
01:02:46,960 --> 01:02:49,760
Speaker 1: also yelled at him on the phone. If you you

1396
01:02:49,840 --> 01:02:53,720
Speaker 1: are an entitled brat and a complete and utterly selfish idiot.

1397
01:02:53,880 --> 01:02:55,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, and up on him.

1398
01:02:55,280 --> 01:02:55,720
Speaker 3: I mean that.

1399
01:02:55,880 --> 01:02:58,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, you don't want to be like having to yell

1400
01:02:58,560 --> 01:03:00,960
Speaker 2: at people who are screaming at you. But he literally

1401
01:03:01,200 --> 01:03:02,880
Speaker 2: just proved that you're right.

1402
01:03:03,120 --> 01:03:07,600
Speaker 3: Like he's clearly prioritizing care you over the dog over you.

1403
01:03:08,120 --> 01:03:11,160
Speaker 1: I started crying in the backyard and started having very

1404
01:03:11,200 --> 01:03:13,400
Speaker 1: strong Braxton Hicks contractions.

1405
01:03:13,480 --> 01:03:13,680
Speaker 2: Oh.

1406
01:03:13,880 --> 01:03:16,320
Speaker 1: My parents asked me what happened. I told them about

1407
01:03:16,320 --> 01:03:19,400
Speaker 1: my brother's text and our phone conversation and us cussing

1408
01:03:19,400 --> 01:03:22,160
Speaker 1: each other out. My dad said, my brother acted out

1409
01:03:22,160 --> 01:03:24,960
Speaker 1: of line and that my dog is staying. You know

1410
01:03:25,000 --> 01:03:27,560
Speaker 1: what they should do, keep the dog, get rid of

1411
01:03:27,560 --> 01:03:27,840
Speaker 1: the brother.

1412
01:03:27,920 --> 01:03:28,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, get rid of the brother.

1413
01:03:29,160 --> 01:03:31,360
Speaker 3: Send the brother to get fixed, because this guy shouldn't

1414
01:03:31,360 --> 01:03:32,040
Speaker 3: be reproducing.

1415
01:03:32,200 --> 01:03:32,640
Speaker 2: Nope.

1416
01:03:32,720 --> 01:03:36,520
Speaker 1: My dad starts crying, stating he hates seeing his children fight.

1417
01:03:36,800 --> 01:03:39,760
Speaker 1: I felt horrible about making my dad cry. I apologize

1418
01:03:39,760 --> 01:03:41,760
Speaker 1: to my dad for fighting. But you know what would

1419
01:03:41,760 --> 01:03:44,760
Speaker 1: make me cry if you didn't join us live every

1420
01:03:44,800 --> 01:03:47,240
Speaker 1: week to three pm PST on YouTube. You just have

1421
01:03:47,320 --> 01:03:48,200
Speaker 1: to tap our profile.

1422
01:03:48,360 --> 01:03:51,320
Speaker 2: Just happen. Don't make her cry, don't make me, don't

1423
01:03:51,320 --> 01:03:52,320
Speaker 2: make me cry. Please.

1424
01:03:52,600 --> 01:03:54,120
Speaker 1: Well, what's your advice for o P.

1425
01:03:54,560 --> 01:03:58,080
Speaker 3: I mean I think that you've basically you know, you

1426
01:03:58,240 --> 01:04:01,240
Speaker 3: need to be taking it easy anyway. Yeah, and your

1427
01:04:01,280 --> 01:04:04,440
Speaker 3: brother is definitely not mature enough to even have the

1428
01:04:04,480 --> 01:04:05,760
Speaker 3: conversation with you about it.

1429
01:04:06,120 --> 01:04:06,320
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1430
01:04:06,680 --> 01:04:10,680
Speaker 1: I honestly think at least until after your you give birth,

1431
01:04:10,760 --> 01:04:13,240
Speaker 1: maybe we just put him on do not disturb, yeah,

1432
01:04:13,520 --> 01:04:15,080
Speaker 1: or block him just stop let him.

1433
01:04:15,000 --> 01:04:15,400
Speaker 2: Talk to you.

1434
01:04:15,880 --> 01:04:18,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, block the brother, don't don't let him get involved,

1435
01:04:18,720 --> 01:04:20,120
Speaker 3: and give you these contracts. I don't know what those

1436
01:04:20,120 --> 01:04:23,280
Speaker 3: contractions are, but they don't sound good. Painful, painful Braxton

1437
01:04:23,320 --> 01:04:25,960
Speaker 3: Higgs contractions. All because your brother is too selfish to

1438
01:04:26,040 --> 01:04:28,240
Speaker 3: even take care of a dog that he probably wouldn't

1439
01:04:28,240 --> 01:04:29,040
Speaker 3: have to take care.

1440
01:04:28,840 --> 01:04:30,160
Speaker 1: Of me, not even doing anything.

1441
01:04:30,200 --> 01:04:32,440
Speaker 3: The parents will take care of the dog just like

1442
01:04:32,480 --> 01:04:34,600
Speaker 3: they take care of him. Cut him off because he's

1443
01:04:34,640 --> 01:04:38,160
Speaker 3: affecting too much, too much stress. You're uterine area. He

1444
01:04:38,240 --> 01:04:40,080
Speaker 3: should not be influencing that.

1445
01:04:40,280 --> 01:04:42,480
Speaker 1: Nope, it's been a few days since the fight and

1446
01:04:42,520 --> 01:04:45,640
Speaker 1: my brother still hasn't apologized to me or my parents.

1447
01:04:45,960 --> 01:04:48,320
Speaker 1: My other brother and parents are telling me that I

1448
01:04:48,400 --> 01:04:50,680
Speaker 1: just need to ignore him for now, and that he'll

1449
01:04:50,720 --> 01:04:53,560
Speaker 1: never change, so just focus on my baby, and that

1450
01:04:53,720 --> 01:04:56,800
Speaker 1: eventually he'll start talking to me again. My parents said

1451
01:04:56,800 --> 01:04:59,520
Speaker 1: that whenever they disagree with him or question him on anything,

1452
01:04:59,600 --> 01:05:02,920
Speaker 1: he throws these fits and eventually talks to them again.

1453
01:05:03,040 --> 01:05:05,640
Speaker 1: There are numerous examples over the years of Mark just

1454
01:05:05,640 --> 01:05:09,200
Speaker 1: not caring about anyone other than himself. And I'm seriously

1455
01:05:09,240 --> 01:05:11,840
Speaker 1: considering going no contact with him for a while.

1456
01:05:12,080 --> 01:05:12,760
Speaker 2: I think you should.

1457
01:05:12,960 --> 01:05:15,320
Speaker 3: You one hundred percent should, because he's prioritizing a dog

1458
01:05:15,360 --> 01:05:15,680
Speaker 3: over you.

1459
01:05:16,200 --> 01:05:18,320
Speaker 1: My family said I'd be going overboard if I do

1460
01:05:18,360 --> 01:05:20,440
Speaker 1: cut him off, and that he's family and we should

1461
01:05:20,440 --> 01:05:23,200
Speaker 1: always stick together. Am I the ale for going load

1462
01:05:23,240 --> 01:05:25,720
Speaker 1: and no contact with my brother over this? No, you're

1463
01:05:25,720 --> 01:05:27,280
Speaker 1: not the ale. I think you should.

1464
01:05:27,600 --> 01:05:28,200
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1465
01:05:28,240 --> 01:05:30,640
Speaker 1: And also the fact that your parents and your other

1466
01:05:30,720 --> 01:05:34,320
Speaker 1: brother don't seem to be taking this as seriously.

1467
01:05:34,120 --> 01:05:35,160
Speaker 2: They really should.

1468
01:05:35,240 --> 01:05:37,160
Speaker 3: They really are kind of treating this like it's like,

1469
01:05:37,360 --> 01:05:41,480
Speaker 3: especially with your brother being You're like, yeah, don't worry

1470
01:05:41,600 --> 01:05:44,120
Speaker 3: if you just ignore him, he kind of comes.

1471
01:05:43,840 --> 01:05:45,480
Speaker 2: Around like he's a mellow out.

1472
01:05:45,600 --> 01:05:48,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like you know, it's like when we have we

1473
01:05:48,600 --> 01:05:50,920
Speaker 1: introduce Ava to people, I'm just just ignore her.

1474
01:05:51,160 --> 01:05:53,880
Speaker 2: She's gonna bark at you. She's got a bark, but

1475
01:05:55,720 --> 01:05:56,280
Speaker 2: we promised.

1476
01:05:56,480 --> 01:05:58,360
Speaker 3: Just give her some time to feel you're not pregnant

1477
01:05:58,360 --> 01:06:00,600
Speaker 3: and he'll really okay.

1478
01:06:00,840 --> 01:06:03,200
Speaker 1: Like, why is he still living with Why are you

1479
01:06:03,240 --> 01:06:05,919
Speaker 1: condoning his actions? The fact that they let him live

1480
01:06:06,040 --> 01:06:09,680
Speaker 1: rent free while he's behaving like this. He's not a child,

1481
01:06:09,920 --> 01:06:12,280
Speaker 1: but that is the end of that story. We'll see

1482
01:06:12,320 --> 01:06:12,800
Speaker 1: you next time.