WEBVTT - Power over Dick Feat. We Talk Back Podcast 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.520 Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife. 0:00:03.680 --> 0:00:06.960 She cleaned, cared for her children and the man of 0:00:07.000 --> 0:00:09.880 the house, and of course she didn't talk back. She 0:00:10.039 --> 0:00:12.760 was both obedient and soft by nature. She was a 0:00:12.800 --> 0:00:15.640 good woman who always made good choices. 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:19.079 Shared that shit off, we're good Mom's bad choices. Who's 0:00:19.079 --> 0:00:19.640 single mom? 0:00:19.680 --> 0:00:20.040 Who said? 0:00:20.079 --> 0:00:22.320 But the patriarchy shared all their bad choices? 0:00:22.440 --> 0:00:24.680 Sound out they were so bad after all, we're experts. 0:00:24.720 --> 0:00:26.600 Overchairs and your new vesties. 0:00:26.720 --> 0:00:33.120 Sit back and enjoy the ride, can bat Hello and 0:00:33.159 --> 0:00:36.320 welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and 0:00:36.360 --> 0:00:40.800 I'm Mila, and it's Wednesday, bitches, what did it do? 0:00:40.920 --> 0:00:45.559 Happy Hemp Day, Happy hump Day. Today, you guys, we 0:00:45.640 --> 0:00:50.760 have a very special episode. You know, we signed to 0:00:51.240 --> 0:00:55.040 Black Effects a year ago. That's almost our year anniversary, 0:00:56.160 --> 0:00:58.800 and I don't think we've ever collabed with anyone on 0:00:58.840 --> 0:00:59.680 the network yet. 0:01:00.080 --> 0:01:02.040 So this episode, have we no right? 0:01:02.640 --> 0:01:06.000 I guess not. You know half of decisions decisions that 0:01:06.040 --> 0:01:08.399 we had Mandy on. But this is the first this 0:01:08.480 --> 0:01:12.800 is the first time finale. 0:01:11.800 --> 0:01:13.280 And this has been a long time in the making, 0:01:13.319 --> 0:01:16.319 so I'm really really excited to welcome to the show 0:01:17.000 --> 0:01:20.679 AJ and Tammy of We Talk Back podcast and our 0:01:20.720 --> 0:01:26.080 fellow Black Effect network cousins, You're a Girl. 0:01:30.319 --> 0:01:32.800 It makes sense that we would we would start our 0:01:32.840 --> 0:01:36.640 debut of linking up with our Black Effect cousins with 0:01:36.720 --> 0:01:40.840 another female led bessie podcast like Buttter. What better podcasts 0:01:40.840 --> 0:01:44.679 should we collab with? Makes perfect cuiche for sure. 0:01:45.160 --> 0:01:46.440 Yeah, I'm excited. 0:01:47.360 --> 0:01:50.360 Yes, So ladies, how long ago did y'all start your show? 0:01:51.840 --> 0:01:59.240 How did fruition our anniversary is along with the network? Yeah, essentially, Yeah, we. 0:01:59.240 --> 0:02:06.760 Launched with the network. Yeah, so five years ago, me 0:02:06.840 --> 0:02:10.320 and AJ, but we we had already started like talking 0:02:10.320 --> 0:02:13.960 about being podcasters and getting the things together to start 0:02:13.960 --> 0:02:17.680 our podcast before the network. And then AJ got with 0:02:17.800 --> 0:02:20.200 Charlamagne and we got on the network. So we I 0:02:20.240 --> 0:02:22.640 think we were one of the only shows that started 0:02:23.000 --> 0:02:25.760 with the network, right, a brand. 0:02:25.520 --> 0:02:28.400 New show, origin and original show. 0:02:29.040 --> 0:02:33.639 Yes, yeah, it was then we we think, Yeah, we've 0:02:33.639 --> 0:02:36.160 been called babies, so we own that. 0:02:38.200 --> 0:02:44.600 Yes, the show before we named our show, we Talked Back, 0:02:44.880 --> 0:02:48.360 it was what was it a j oh pod? 0:02:48.800 --> 0:02:50.040 Power over Dick. 0:02:52.760 --> 0:02:55.760 Not power over jd and like, oh so a play 0:02:55.800 --> 0:02:56.520 on the word pod. 0:02:56.639 --> 0:03:01.200 Yeah, yes, and so I used tammy stomach and created 0:03:01.240 --> 0:03:02.919 like you know, like a tupac tattoo. 0:03:05.040 --> 0:03:08.240 You're like, m B, wait, y'all have this photo because 0:03:08.240 --> 0:03:09.640 I need the photo. Where's the photo? 0:03:11.560 --> 0:03:12.920 Like we had to send it to you because it 0:03:13.000 --> 0:03:15.880 was hilarious. 0:03:15.400 --> 0:03:19.040 But what happened with black fact? They're like, no, let's 0:03:19.120 --> 0:03:20.480 let's not launch the pod. 0:03:20.880 --> 0:03:25.080 Ratchet ass loved that name and I was told I 0:03:25.120 --> 0:03:27.040 was just like, what dick in the name? 0:03:27.480 --> 0:03:30.040 I don't what dick in the name? Like, I was just. 0:03:31.600 --> 0:03:33.840 It was po d It was an abbreviation of Dick. 0:03:34.080 --> 0:03:37.800 Right. Imagine like going around and saying power. 0:03:37.480 --> 0:03:39.320 Over I mean that's going to be a long that's 0:03:39.320 --> 0:03:41.560 going to be a long life of saying that over 0:03:41.640 --> 0:03:42.240 and over and over. 0:03:42.280 --> 0:03:43.680 You gotta really be committed. 0:03:44.600 --> 0:03:47.560 I mean there's some power in saying power over Dick weekly, 0:03:47.800 --> 0:03:54.600 weekly and weekly, no rights basically like these niggas right, No, 0:03:54.720 --> 0:03:57.520 I mean we're talking about like the power like pussy power, 0:03:57.800 --> 0:03:59.720 just like the power to not succumb to the dick. 0:03:59.840 --> 0:04:02.680 Like what is the what was this power? All the 0:04:02.720 --> 0:04:03.880 power everything, all the thing? 0:04:04.240 --> 0:04:06.000 What made yeah, what made you guys wanted to call 0:04:06.040 --> 0:04:08.880 it power over Dick? What was what does that mean, you. 0:04:08.800 --> 0:04:10.720 Know a lot a lot of times it's just like, 0:04:10.760 --> 0:04:12.480 you know, how you write me shit on Facebook and 0:04:12.480 --> 0:04:14.200 then like five six years later you go back and 0:04:14.200 --> 0:04:16.080 reread that. She's like, dish, what the fuck was I 0:04:16.120 --> 0:04:21.599 talking about? That's basically I don't know what I was 0:04:21.640 --> 0:04:23.800 on at the time, but yeah. 0:04:23.680 --> 0:04:28.839 It's always pod though. Okay, wait, I speaking of Facebook. 0:04:28.880 --> 0:04:33.279 I recently went way back in my Facebook, like way 0:04:33.440 --> 0:04:37.600 like original Facebook, and why was I making like and 0:04:37.600 --> 0:04:39.120 this was the thing I remember, like a lot of 0:04:39.120 --> 0:04:42.600 people were doing this. You would lead long ass video 0:04:42.880 --> 0:04:46.960 messages on people's pages, like just talking to the camera 0:04:47.080 --> 0:04:49.800 like a solo like a solo podcast. Like I have 0:04:49.920 --> 0:04:53.600 like twenty minute videos of me talking to my gay bestie. 0:04:53.600 --> 0:04:57.000 He's not even involved, it's just me. And I was 0:04:57.040 --> 0:05:00.719 like excited to be a podcaster. Yeah, I just left 0:05:00.720 --> 0:05:01.600 it on his page. 0:05:02.040 --> 0:05:04.640 I'm like, what the fuck? I don't remember. 0:05:05.200 --> 0:05:07.240 Oh, okay, girl, maybe it was just me shit, I 0:05:07.240 --> 0:05:10.080 don't know, but I was like, what, why was I 0:05:10.200 --> 0:05:13.960 leaving these long telegrams on this niggas page for everyone 0:05:14.000 --> 0:05:15.240 to see. 0:05:15.400 --> 0:05:17.840 I did not recall those videos either. 0:05:18.520 --> 0:05:21.719 I'm telling you just go back because Facebook has evolved. Okay, 0:05:21.800 --> 0:05:23.040 because I remember, I can remember. 0:05:23.080 --> 0:05:25.320 I don't know how old y'all are, but I remember 0:05:25.360 --> 0:05:27.080 when I couldn't even get on Facebook. You had to 0:05:27.080 --> 0:05:30.760 have like a college email address, and I couldn't. 0:05:31.839 --> 0:05:34.599 Yeah, basically you were older than y'all. Okay, because he 0:05:34.680 --> 0:05:38.680 definitely had college email addresses to start Facebook. Well, I 0:05:38.720 --> 0:05:41.720 mean Facebook started here freshman year. 0:05:42.279 --> 0:05:42.559 Okay. 0:05:42.600 --> 0:05:45.200 So Facebook came out like my senior year of high school. 0:05:45.240 --> 0:05:47.800 So you know, then I couldn't wait to graduate because 0:05:47.800 --> 0:05:50.440 everyone was talking about the Facebook. And I was like, 0:05:50.520 --> 0:05:52.400 oh my bitch, once I get this e dot eedu, 0:05:52.520 --> 0:05:53.359 bitch is over with. 0:05:55.279 --> 0:05:57.200 And apparently did you. 0:05:57.320 --> 0:06:01.279 I was just leaving long voicemails. I did have Black Planet, 0:06:02.279 --> 0:06:03.680 I did barely use it. 0:06:04.160 --> 0:06:05.760 But do you guys remember the party line? 0:06:06.440 --> 0:06:09.920 Oh yeah, the party Remember press nine? 0:06:09.920 --> 0:06:10.520 If you want to. 0:06:10.520 --> 0:06:13.240 Check the voicemails you had your and then you and 0:06:13.240 --> 0:06:15.039 then you go back and check your voicemail and be 0:06:15.080 --> 0:06:18.080 like random but like, hey, I'm so cute. I'm in 0:06:18.120 --> 0:06:20.880 Englewood and like like that's. 0:06:20.800 --> 0:06:23.599 Problematic as fuck. Why are we just listening to niggas voices? 0:06:23.640 --> 0:06:25.159 And like that's how you know you're a horny, Like 0:06:25.160 --> 0:06:27.080 a horny hormonal teenager. 0:06:28.480 --> 0:06:30.520 Because I was like twelve or thirteen. Oh my god, 0:06:30.560 --> 0:06:32.800 my daughter's ten. What the fuck Jesus your Christ. 0:06:33.080 --> 0:06:34.800 You know when you're ready to. 0:06:34.839 --> 0:06:38.480 Jump her, if you're gonna be a hell, you gotta 0:06:38.480 --> 0:06:43.159 get jumped in like a real point. But you know 0:06:43.240 --> 0:06:47.640 what I feel like, oh okay, like beat her up. 0:06:47.839 --> 0:06:52.000 I feel the kids are not as hormonal, Like I 0:06:52.000 --> 0:06:54.680 know they're exposed to more, but I feel like the 0:06:54.760 --> 0:06:56.720 kids are not as like we couldn't wait to get 0:06:56.720 --> 0:06:58.039 out the house to go to the movies, so you 0:06:58.040 --> 0:07:01.200 can exactly make out for their brain, their brain dew. 0:07:01.600 --> 0:07:03.520 They're not even thinking about other people. They're just thinking 0:07:03.520 --> 0:07:05.840 about playing with people online. Like they're just like that's 0:07:05.920 --> 0:07:07.840 the furthest thing from their mind. And I'm like. 0:07:08.160 --> 0:07:10.480 Perfect watching people play online. 0:07:10.520 --> 0:07:13.880 I'll never understand, like watching people play video games on 0:07:13.960 --> 0:07:15.720 YouTube instead. 0:07:15.440 --> 0:07:17.840 Of playing all right, yeah, like wrap it out, it's 0:07:17.920 --> 0:07:18.480 human time. 0:07:18.960 --> 0:07:21.200 Why should people open gifts that are not yours? Like 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:23.240 what the fuck Globo? 0:07:23.800 --> 0:07:25.960 Or that ship where they wear the hoodies in a 0:07:26.080 --> 0:07:29.120 hundred degree weather, Like I don't understand what is that about? 0:07:29.520 --> 0:07:32.560 Like I remember doing that though I remember like I'm hot, 0:07:32.560 --> 0:07:34.320 but I'm not going to take off my sweatshirt, like 0:07:34.520 --> 0:07:36.560 I literally remember it so vivid. 0:07:36.840 --> 0:07:39.360 Body odor was too aggressive for me to be sweat 0:07:39.520 --> 0:07:44.240 through this goddamn sweat okay, bitch, like the hormones were hormoning. 0:07:44.320 --> 0:07:46.080 I could not risk it all that way. 0:07:46.360 --> 0:07:49.000 I really can do some scientific research on this, because 0:07:49.040 --> 0:07:50.760 I really specifically, I don't know if it's about like 0:07:50.760 --> 0:07:53.000 body confidence or comfortability. I feel like it's like a 0:07:53.000 --> 0:07:54.920 comfort item. That's what I think it is, something like 0:07:55.000 --> 0:07:57.720 psychologically your sweatshirt is you're covered up because I'm drived 0:07:57.720 --> 0:07:59.440 by the junior high now and I see kids and 0:07:59.560 --> 0:08:01.360 we live an it's hot as fuck and they're wearing 0:08:01.400 --> 0:08:03.600 a speadshirt, Like what the fuck? And then I remember 0:08:04.040 --> 0:08:06.520 doing that hot shit that I just don't I'm gonna 0:08:06.520 --> 0:08:07.880 have to do more scientific research. 0:08:07.880 --> 0:08:10.240 I really need to have to be some science to that, 0:08:11.480 --> 0:08:15.800 because it seems very mismo. Is it? 0:08:16.680 --> 0:08:23.560 Email stage? Yeah, there's unavoidable things as a as a 0:08:23.720 --> 0:08:27.119 like a teenager, like you're gonna go email, You're gonna 0:08:27.120 --> 0:08:29.280 maybe be hot, but keep your sweatshirt on. 0:08:30.160 --> 0:08:31.560 Wait where did y'all grow up? 0:08:32.280 --> 0:08:34.200 South Carolina? Yeah? 0:08:34.480 --> 0:08:38.080 Carols, and when did you? When did you guys become friends. 0:08:39.160 --> 0:08:42.040 So we met in college, was like, okay, we didn't. 0:08:42.080 --> 0:08:44.199 We didn't really start hanging out, hanging out till like 0:08:44.360 --> 0:08:46.120 what twenty sixteen when both. 0:08:45.920 --> 0:08:48.000 Of us are living in Charlotte, North Carolina. 0:08:49.040 --> 0:08:53.880 Yeah, but don't college and don't Yeah, we was one 0:08:53.880 --> 0:08:54.840 of them years. 0:08:55.720 --> 0:08:57.040 What college did you guys go to? 0:08:57.160 --> 0:08:58.200 Not one of them? 0:08:58.480 --> 0:09:00.520 Benedict College and gonna be side. 0:09:00.520 --> 0:09:05.200 Okay, I went to HBC too. How did you guys 0:09:05.200 --> 0:09:07.600 reconnect after not being friends in college but being at 0:09:07.600 --> 0:09:08.200 the same college. 0:09:08.400 --> 0:09:10.960 We weren't not not friends, we were friends. We just 0:09:12.200 --> 0:09:15.079 we were living in different places, you know, because you 0:09:15.120 --> 0:09:17.959 went to Saint Louis after college, right, and then came back. 0:09:18.400 --> 0:09:22.680 I went to Atlanta Saint Lewis and then back. Yeah, 0:09:22.960 --> 0:09:23.360 we just. 0:09:23.320 --> 0:09:25.959 Were in the same Charlotte. Yeah, we just happened to 0:09:26.000 --> 0:09:28.200 be in the same city again. So that's how we 0:09:28.200 --> 0:09:29.360 rekindled our friendship. 0:09:30.480 --> 0:09:32.280 And then we killed your friendship. And then he said, 0:09:32.280 --> 0:09:33.920 we're gonna do power over Decks next. 0:09:34.280 --> 0:09:36.600 So we would just be on the phone, like yeah, 0:09:36.880 --> 0:09:39.000 we would be on the phone like just for hours, 0:09:39.080 --> 0:09:41.200 just laughing and joking. And then AJ was like, we 0:09:41.240 --> 0:09:42.840 need to do a podcast. We funny. 0:09:43.200 --> 0:09:44.760 That's really wast content. 0:09:45.679 --> 0:09:48.520 Yeah, that's really how it happened. And in power y'all. 0:09:48.679 --> 0:09:50.520 Talk on the phone now, Like do y'all talk on 0:09:50.559 --> 0:09:51.280 the phone often? 0:09:52.400 --> 0:09:52.640 You know? 0:09:52.800 --> 0:09:54.640 Now that you say that, it has to be like 0:09:54.679 --> 0:09:57.560 something very important that we needed to convey verse, like 0:09:57.760 --> 0:10:00.920 because usually whether we be in person or text messaging. 0:10:01.520 --> 0:10:03.320 But like I feel like it's very rare. That was 0:10:03.480 --> 0:10:06.280 like a voice call, like, hey, this is important, I 0:10:06.320 --> 0:10:07.720 got breaking news. 0:10:08.600 --> 0:10:11.200 Yeah, because I think we're to use your content on 0:10:11.240 --> 0:10:12.960 the phone, is what I write. 0:10:13.920 --> 0:10:16.280 Don't because we got to record on Wednesday. 0:10:17.280 --> 0:10:19.160 Sometimes we'll be on the phone. I feel like we'd 0:10:19.200 --> 0:10:21.160 be like, damn, we should have saved that ship for 0:10:21.240 --> 0:10:24.480 the episode because it was just too good. But you 0:10:24.480 --> 0:10:25.559 can't do as well. 0:10:25.600 --> 0:10:27.960 Just you got need to just hit the record button 0:10:28.000 --> 0:10:29.800 on your computer or just let it run while y'all 0:10:30.280 --> 0:10:31.800 it's a call AJ real quick. 0:10:31.840 --> 0:10:33.559 I know some shit's gonna pop up from here. 0:10:35.240 --> 0:10:35.440 I know. 0:10:35.480 --> 0:10:35.920 I feel you. 0:10:35.960 --> 0:10:38.280 I feel like like talking on the phone, Like I 0:10:38.360 --> 0:10:41.280 just remember like being like young and like talking. 0:10:40.960 --> 0:10:43.280 For hours four or. 0:10:43.120 --> 0:10:47.319 Five, breathing on that motherfucker five. 0:10:47.600 --> 0:10:48.400 Mila still does that. 0:10:48.400 --> 0:10:53.480 Though you always say this, you always Tad literally would 0:10:53.480 --> 0:10:56.319 come to her house, you guys, and you would have 0:10:56.360 --> 0:10:59.040 a nigga on FaceTime and for like an hour and 0:10:59.040 --> 0:11:00.840 I would have no idea. 0:11:00.640 --> 0:11:03.240 No words were no words were being said. He was 0:11:03.320 --> 0:11:07.120 just watching her. He was watching her, and I was like, wait, 0:11:07.200 --> 0:11:07.840 someone's here. 0:11:09.320 --> 0:11:10.480 The fuck Orlando. 0:11:11.080 --> 0:11:12.520 And for her. 0:11:13.880 --> 0:11:15.640 Not making this up, I did not pull this out 0:11:15.679 --> 0:11:17.000 of my ass. This is a phone. 0:11:17.080 --> 0:11:22.559 This is a fact back fact. No, no, just said 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:24.319 it's beautiful. It's very nostalgic. 0:11:25.040 --> 0:11:27.320 I don't like being on the phone. I really actually 0:11:27.360 --> 0:11:29.560 hate it. Actually recently actually is like, I know you 0:11:29.600 --> 0:11:31.040 hate the phone. That's why I don't really call you 0:11:31.080 --> 0:11:33.880 that much. I'm like, really, thank you for for seeing 0:11:33.880 --> 0:11:37.000 me and respecting me. Orlando just he would force me 0:11:37.040 --> 0:11:38.199 to be on the phone, and he's like, you don't 0:11:38.200 --> 0:11:39.320 want you want to hang up? You don't want to 0:11:39.320 --> 0:11:40.839 you want to hang up now. I'm like, yes, nigga, 0:11:40.960 --> 0:11:42.720 you're gonna be home in two hours. We lived together 0:11:43.360 --> 0:11:45.319 to talk about No, for. 0:11:45.320 --> 0:11:47.559 Real, if we live together, I'm not talking to you 0:11:47.679 --> 0:11:48.920 during the day. I'm talk to me. 0:11:48.960 --> 0:11:51.040 Get home. Like, literally, I don't give a fuck. Don't 0:11:51.040 --> 0:11:52.520 call my phone and I'm not calling you as I 0:11:52.520 --> 0:11:54.560 don't give a fuck. Where are you at, I'll see 0:11:54.559 --> 0:11:55.199 you need you to hear. 0:11:55.600 --> 0:11:59.239 Let me tell you something I talk about. I FaceTime everybody. 0:11:59.280 --> 0:12:00.800 I don't call anyone. 0:12:01.840 --> 0:12:02.680 Well you're one of those. 0:12:03.320 --> 0:12:07.840 Oh you're one of them girl, everybody I don't call. 0:12:09.000 --> 0:12:10.240 Oh no, weird? 0:12:11.559 --> 0:12:17.880 Yeah, yeah, I need you to book an appointment, bitch, Like, what. 0:12:17.800 --> 0:12:21.280 Are you talking about? Hold on, I don't know where 0:12:21.280 --> 0:12:22.319 I'm atter, what I'm doing? 0:12:22.360 --> 0:12:25.080 Hello, this is going on in the world. I can't 0:12:25.120 --> 0:12:28.120 also focus on a FaceTime certain people. 0:12:28.160 --> 0:12:29.520 I don't give a fuck if they FaceTime me. 0:12:29.600 --> 0:12:31.520 But if we don't talk very often and I pop 0:12:31.600 --> 0:12:33.520 up with the FaceTime from you, I'm gonna be like, 0:12:33.800 --> 0:12:34.320 what's is? 0:12:34.440 --> 0:12:35.120 What's happening? 0:12:35.240 --> 0:12:35.760 What's that's? 0:12:36.240 --> 0:12:37.760 Where? Is there an emergency? 0:12:38.080 --> 0:12:41.840 Like I wouldn't just like when we were setting up 0:12:41.840 --> 0:12:43.200 the show. I wouldn't just be like, oh, let me 0:12:43.280 --> 0:12:45.280 just FaceTime Erica like that would have been weird. 0:12:48.400 --> 0:12:49.920 You want to FaceTime me, Tammy? 0:12:50.040 --> 0:12:51.800 What are you doing over there? Taking so long? 0:12:52.160 --> 0:12:52.880 What is going on? 0:12:53.120 --> 0:12:55.240 Show? Show me the setup? Let me let me see 0:12:55.240 --> 0:12:56.400 where you're running behind, bitch. 0:12:56.840 --> 0:12:58.360 That's why it took me so long to even get 0:12:58.360 --> 0:13:01.720 an iPhone because I just felt like iPhone people just 0:13:01.840 --> 0:13:04.080 want to be fucking nosy, like they just want to 0:13:04.120 --> 0:13:06.920 know what you're doing, and bitch, get out my business. 0:13:07.360 --> 0:13:09.320 Yeah, it's a while to get an iPhone. 0:13:09.640 --> 0:13:13.079 Anytime a man who doesn't have an iPhone, he's a cheater. 0:13:14.679 --> 0:13:17.480 No, have you seen the new technology on the iPhone 0:13:17.520 --> 0:13:22.640 where if I FaceTime, if I FaceTime Erica, she if 0:13:22.679 --> 0:13:25.360 she screens shares, there's an option for me to control 0:13:25.440 --> 0:13:27.600 the phone so she can agree. And if I'm like, 0:13:27.640 --> 0:13:29.120 if I'm a bitch and she's my nigga and I 0:13:29.120 --> 0:13:30.719 think you're doing some cheating as ship, I'll be like, 0:13:30.760 --> 0:13:32.640 give me access to your give me give me your 0:13:32.640 --> 0:13:35.480 access and then she'll say access and then I can 0:13:35.520 --> 0:13:38.199 literally go to her DMS, I can go to Instagram, 0:13:38.240 --> 0:13:41.600 I can go through it, Like what I am controlling 0:13:41.720 --> 0:13:43.560 the phone, bitch with my finger from here? 0:13:44.080 --> 0:13:47.120 Why would they do that? They're trying to get purpose. 0:13:47.800 --> 0:13:49.760 Get niggas caught up, Like that's the only That's all 0:13:49.800 --> 0:13:51.040 I could think of, was like, if I had a 0:13:51.120 --> 0:13:53.040 cheating ass nigga, I'd be like, give give me the 0:13:53.080 --> 0:13:54.880 access right now, because I'm gonna look through all your 0:13:54.920 --> 0:13:56.840 GMS and if you don't know you're cheating, fuck you. 0:13:57.280 --> 0:14:01.839 That's my practic side. Well, I can't imagine that. 0:14:02.440 --> 0:14:04.400 I like surprises. I'm not looking for ship. 0:14:06.559 --> 0:14:09.120 I don't like surprises. I'll wait, I'll wait to find 0:14:09.120 --> 0:14:10.040 out if you're cheating on me. 0:14:11.320 --> 0:14:13.280 I'm not like a dumb bitch. So I hope that 0:14:13.320 --> 0:14:15.560 you are allowing me to do so, Okay, don't make me. 0:14:16.000 --> 0:14:18.199 Jamila's the one who's forced me to go through people's phones. 0:14:18.240 --> 0:14:20.400 I'm like, you a j I'd be like, it's going, 0:14:20.520 --> 0:14:23.200 it's gonna pop up. Guy's gonna protect me no matter what. 0:14:23.600 --> 0:14:25.440 But then I'm like, I'm like, God, this could have 0:14:25.440 --> 0:14:28.600 been expedited done digging. 0:14:29.120 --> 0:14:33.320 There's a lot of Mila bashing. Okay, you saved my life. 0:14:33.480 --> 0:14:35.160 Thank god they made me go through that niggas phone. 0:14:36.000 --> 0:14:38.560 I told you because I know the signs. I was like, 0:14:38.640 --> 0:14:41.360 he looks you to your phone, go to his phone 0:14:41.960 --> 0:14:43.280 to do it. I was like, who's your phone? And 0:14:43.320 --> 0:14:44.840 he didn't find shit. Then he found some ship that 0:14:44.880 --> 0:14:48.120 made it some ship that it wasn't, and I was like, 0:14:48.200 --> 0:14:50.080 I was like, I told her, Like okay, I don't 0:14:50.080 --> 0:14:51.600 know if anyone else needs to hear this. Maybe you 0:14:51.680 --> 0:14:53.760 need tips and tricks on how to go through your 0:14:53.800 --> 0:14:56.360 niggas phone and I've retired for going through niggas phones, 0:14:56.360 --> 0:14:58.360 but I'm here to give you the tips and tricks. Okay, 0:14:58.760 --> 0:14:59.920 here are tricks. 0:14:59.680 --> 0:15:03.560 To go niggas phoned with Mila step A. 0:15:03.840 --> 0:15:05.640 If you have to go through these tips and trips, 0:15:05.720 --> 0:15:10.000 you probably need to leave them alone anyway. But number one, 0:15:11.160 --> 0:15:13.920 go out, have a great time, get him drunk, be drinking, 0:15:16.240 --> 0:15:18.720 and then you have your homegirl, okay, or somebody else 0:15:19.240 --> 0:15:21.520 in the middle of the very pop innight, like, oh shit, 0:15:21.640 --> 0:15:24.000 my phone's not working. Can I use your phone real quick? 0:15:24.480 --> 0:15:26.880 And you can either have them go in the bathroom 0:15:26.960 --> 0:15:28.640 and go haym on it because they're not thinking that 0:15:28.680 --> 0:15:31.720 your homegirl's gonna go through it for you, screenshot everything, 0:15:31.920 --> 0:15:34.600 send it to your homegirl, then delete the screenshot or 0:15:34.600 --> 0:15:37.880 air drop them, or like I told Erica, you can 0:15:37.920 --> 0:15:43.320 also get them drunk again and then say, oh wait, 0:15:43.320 --> 0:15:46.000 what's your code. I'm gonna play this song. That's what 0:15:46.040 --> 0:15:49.120 I did, totally not thinking about anything. I'm just going 0:15:49.160 --> 0:15:50.920 through the song and then you're gonna remember it with 0:15:51.000 --> 0:15:53.160 your fucking laser memory. Even if you'd to write it 0:15:53.200 --> 0:15:55.000 down in your notes really quickly, because if you smoke 0:15:55.040 --> 0:15:56.280 a lot of well, you're not gonna remember and they're 0:15:56.280 --> 0:15:59.080 gonna be mad. And then later when he's knocked out 0:15:59.120 --> 0:16:01.000 from drinking so much and you have a lot of 0:16:01.040 --> 0:16:04.560 time and he's like really deep snoring, then you really 0:16:04.600 --> 0:16:06.960 get into it, and then you make sure you process 0:16:07.080 --> 0:16:09.760 every single thing and maybe make notes so he can't 0:16:09.760 --> 0:16:12.040 confuse you when he wakes up. And then you wake 0:16:12.080 --> 0:16:14.400 him up out of his drunken slumber and say wake 0:16:15.560 --> 0:16:18.640 and he's all like disarrayed and drunk and confused, and 0:16:20.280 --> 0:16:21.960 you had a couple of flaps in there, just a 0:16:22.320 --> 0:16:24.560 extra extra get it off real quick, and then so 0:16:24.680 --> 0:16:26.000 Ha's frown out of him and say, fuck you. 0:16:27.160 --> 0:16:29.760 It has a man ever woken y'all up? After going 0:16:29.800 --> 0:16:30.880 through your cell phone. 0:16:30.760 --> 0:16:33.120 Yeah, this is this happened with this person. He woke 0:16:33.200 --> 0:16:36.720 me up out of my slumber sitting at the end 0:16:36.800 --> 0:16:41.200 of the bed like humph, I knew it. And I 0:16:41.320 --> 0:16:43.720 was like, you knew what, nigga away, what did you know? 0:16:44.280 --> 0:16:46.040 There was nothing. He was making it up. And that's 0:16:46.080 --> 0:16:49.280 when Mila was like, these are the steps, bitch. Unfortunately 0:16:49.360 --> 0:16:51.400 I did it on vacation at my one of my 0:16:51.440 --> 0:16:54.120 best friend's weddings, So you stuck. 0:16:54.280 --> 0:16:57.080 We were stuck in another country together. 0:16:57.640 --> 0:16:59.360 I didn't tell her what to do after she's found 0:16:59.400 --> 0:17:00.360 the evidence and get that. 0:17:00.440 --> 0:17:02.760 Well, then I made him call Jamila and tell her 0:17:02.840 --> 0:17:05.800 that he ain't ship. I said, call my friend and 0:17:05.920 --> 0:17:08.000 tell her you ain't shit. Tell her what you did, 0:17:08.119 --> 0:17:13.800 and he did it. I wish we could have recorded 0:17:13.840 --> 0:17:16.440 that phone, but what with who? 0:17:16.640 --> 0:17:19.520 What the fuck are you talking about? You're disgusting and 0:17:19.600 --> 0:17:20.560 you're fucking. 0:17:22.080 --> 0:17:24.600 First of all, you never ruined a vacation though. 0:17:25.680 --> 0:17:26.120 Yeah. 0:17:26.359 --> 0:17:29.280 Now we carried on after that, we we we we 0:17:28.840 --> 0:17:30.960 we we cursed each other while I cursed him out, 0:17:31.400 --> 0:17:35.040 and then we did because it was my friend's wedding 0:17:35.080 --> 0:17:37.400 was the next night, the next day, and I was like, well, 0:17:37.400 --> 0:17:40.680 what I'm not gonna do is disappear you and then 0:17:40.760 --> 0:17:43.440 make bitches feel like where the fuck did this nigga go, 0:17:43.680 --> 0:17:46.399 and like take attention away from my friend. So I 0:17:46.520 --> 0:17:48.760 just was like, listen, we're just gonna fucking act like 0:17:48.800 --> 0:17:52.159 everything's fine. And I just got really really drunk and 0:17:52.240 --> 0:17:54.120 we had a great time. And then at the very 0:17:54.240 --> 0:18:00.280 end time I did Yeah, I was on. I was thinking, 0:18:03.160 --> 0:18:07.440 I had a great time, and and then he kept 0:18:07.440 --> 0:18:09.240 trying to extend the trip because he knew like when 0:18:09.240 --> 0:18:12.000 this trip was over, this was over. And I was like, yeah, 0:18:12.080 --> 0:18:14.320 let's extend it. Come on, keeps, come on, let's go. 0:18:15.040 --> 0:18:17.320 And then we extended it like two days. 0:18:17.359 --> 0:18:20.760 Yeah, I know, you're cheating on me. I know, it's 0:18:20.760 --> 0:18:24.120 make a longer, let's say, and hibernation longer. Perfect I did. 0:18:24.160 --> 0:18:30.200 I made him get a better room and everything. I mean, 0:18:30.240 --> 0:18:32.479 it was devastating. I felt like I was gonna throw 0:18:32.600 --> 0:18:34.640 up every like, you know, two hours. 0:18:34.680 --> 0:18:38.439 But but then the moment he left, like yeah, I 0:18:38.520 --> 0:18:40.320 was like, oh my god, that's when I broke down. 0:18:40.359 --> 0:18:42.560 I was like, oh yeah, I can't believe it. 0:18:44.040 --> 0:18:45.520 And then we broke up, and then we got back together 0:18:45.560 --> 0:18:47.359 like six months later, and then we broke up again, 0:18:47.480 --> 0:18:48.440 and then that was done. 0:18:49.600 --> 0:18:54.639 And that is what we call dictimatization, ladies, that's digimization. 0:18:55.880 --> 0:18:57.680 He digmatized by that dick. 0:18:59.040 --> 0:18:59.720 Power over Dick. 0:18:59.800 --> 0:19:01.960 See if I only if I had, if only I 0:19:01.960 --> 0:19:03.840 had some power over that over the dick. 0:19:04.040 --> 0:19:08.520 Of course, some political thinking political we need, we need. 0:19:08.359 --> 0:19:10.280 Like a skit like you know how like you know 0:19:10.280 --> 0:19:15.680 how Dave Chappelle had that skit white power every time 0:19:16.640 --> 0:19:18.600 every time one of your homegrows has children, Just. 0:19:20.359 --> 0:19:23.919 Dick, it was a bad choice. It was bad choices. 0:19:24.240 --> 0:19:27.439 Speaking of bad choices, we have a segment on our 0:19:27.440 --> 0:19:28.880 show called bad Choice of the Week. 0:19:28.960 --> 0:19:31.920 Do any of you ladies have any bad choices you've 0:19:31.920 --> 0:19:32.480 made this week? 0:19:32.640 --> 0:19:36.680 Bad mom? Not a bad mom, but a bad mom. 0:19:37.119 --> 0:19:45.639 So good. I'm lising I do. And I'm gonna be 0:19:45.880 --> 0:19:49.719 fully transparent with you guys about come on, going on. 0:19:51.000 --> 0:19:52.520 So I've been dealing with this whyan. 0:19:55.280 --> 0:19:58.320 We have a question before we proceed, what ages Whyan? 0:19:58.520 --> 0:19:59.720 Is it like thirty and under? 0:20:01.280 --> 0:20:01.600 Yes? 0:20:03.600 --> 0:20:06.239 I think thirty thirty? Yeah, I think like thirty two 0:20:06.280 --> 0:20:06.720 and under? 0:20:07.000 --> 0:20:07.640 Okay? 0:20:08.040 --> 0:20:09.879 Or is it or is it just like amount of 0:20:09.960 --> 0:20:12.520 years younger than you? Because if you're like, if say 0:20:12.560 --> 0:20:15.040 you're like sixty, is a y n like a forty 0:20:15.119 --> 0:20:15.520 year old? 0:20:15.640 --> 0:20:17.800 Like you know what I'm saying, Like, does it it 0:20:18.040 --> 0:20:19.480 just based on how old you are? 0:20:20.600 --> 0:20:20.960 You know? 0:20:21.040 --> 0:20:22.240 I think it's under thirty? 0:20:22.480 --> 0:20:22.720 Okay? 0:20:22.720 --> 0:20:24.840 God, God nothing young? 0:20:25.119 --> 0:20:28.200 They young? 0:20:28.840 --> 0:20:30.200 If you sixty, they young? 0:20:30.520 --> 0:20:34.119 Shitam okay, Tam, tell us you're a bad choice. 0:20:34.520 --> 0:20:36.800 They younger than you, but not for the earth. You know, 0:20:36.840 --> 0:20:44.359 they just younger than you. So this like, I've been 0:20:44.440 --> 0:20:47.280 lying to me this whole time, all right. So he 0:20:47.320 --> 0:20:51.520 said he was going on a family vacation this week, right, 0:20:51.640 --> 0:20:56.520 his mom and his dad and his sister, and all 0:20:56.560 --> 0:20:59.560 week he just was like, oh, Jamaica, I ain't got 0:20:59.560 --> 0:21:02.000 no certain servis. He couldn't talk to me on the 0:21:02.000 --> 0:21:04.679 phone at all, you guys, right, no. 0:21:04.880 --> 0:21:08.200 Service in Jamaica, nigga, you're not in Iceland exactly. 0:21:09.480 --> 0:21:11.199 This is the first time out of the country, let 0:21:11.280 --> 0:21:11.840 me just say that. 0:21:12.000 --> 0:21:15.200 So he's making his first time out of the country. 0:21:15.320 --> 0:21:22.159 He's making yes, so he's making rookie mistakes. So when 0:21:22.200 --> 0:21:24.760 he gets back, he's texting me. I started ignoring his 0:21:24.800 --> 0:21:27.640 text because boy, who you playing with? Right, So then 0:21:27.680 --> 0:21:30.480 he comes home and he's like, oh, I miss you, 0:21:30.600 --> 0:21:33.200 and I ignore him and then he's like, I made 0:21:33.200 --> 0:21:36.040 it back, not that you care. Ignore him again. So 0:21:36.080 --> 0:21:39.480 then later on I'm like, who the fuck you was with? 0:21:40.320 --> 0:21:42.640 And he was like what do you mean? He was like, 0:21:43.600 --> 0:21:45.800 I was like, who the fuck were you with? You 0:21:45.880 --> 0:21:48.159 told me you were with your parents and your sister, 0:21:48.400 --> 0:21:50.800 but who were you really with? He was like, I 0:21:50.840 --> 0:21:54.200 was just with family. I'm like, send me a picture 0:21:54.320 --> 0:21:58.520 of you and your family in Jamaica. Send me a picture. 0:21:58.640 --> 0:22:02.240 If you can send me a picture, I'll apologize. 0:22:03.200 --> 0:22:08.280 So y'all he said this betigue and you ai Sorah 0:22:08.520 --> 0:22:09.080 dot Bom. 0:22:09.560 --> 0:22:12.520 So the doctor gotten for a while, right, a picture 0:22:12.560 --> 0:22:17.320 comes through and it's him. No, it's not him, it's 0:22:17.320 --> 0:22:19.800 his family. And they're on a plane, like you know, 0:22:20.000 --> 0:22:24.040 like we're happy, They're about to take off somewhere. I 0:22:24.160 --> 0:22:28.040 was like, you think I'm fucking stupid. And I didn't 0:22:28.040 --> 0:22:30.760 even have no evidence of this being a lie like this. 0:22:31.080 --> 0:22:32.800 Yes, this intuition you had. 0:22:32.880 --> 0:22:36.479 All the evidence was he was he in the photo 0:22:36.680 --> 0:22:37.879 with this family, know. 0:22:38.000 --> 0:22:39.760 It was he was taking the picture, but it was 0:22:39.760 --> 0:22:42.000 his whole family on this plane. But you know, like 0:22:42.359 --> 0:22:45.000 with iPhone, if you save a picture that someone. 0:22:44.800 --> 0:22:48.800 Sends you, you can see the date everything. 0:22:49.960 --> 0:22:51.680 So it did not drop down to the bottom of 0:22:53.119 --> 0:22:55.720 So clearly this did not happen this week. This happened 0:22:55.720 --> 0:22:57.600 some other times. So then I went to my recently 0:22:57.640 --> 0:23:00.240 added photos and I scrolled up so I could see 0:23:00.280 --> 0:23:03.280 the time stamp. October fifth, twenty twenty three. Boy, who 0:23:03.280 --> 0:23:06.520 the fuck is you playing with? Who is you playing 0:23:06.520 --> 0:23:13.440 with you here. 0:23:10.440 --> 0:23:12.520 And you and you even got a lie to me, nigga, 0:23:12.560 --> 0:23:13.359 I don't give a fuck. 0:23:13.840 --> 0:23:16.920 Why are you lying? Why are you lying? I've said 0:23:16.920 --> 0:23:19.800 to this man so many times, you can tell the truth. 0:23:19.840 --> 0:23:22.639 Is still have your way. I've told him that, like, 0:23:22.720 --> 0:23:25.320 you don't have to lie. There's no reason. 0:23:25.960 --> 0:23:27.680 You'll have more of a way if you're telling the truth. 0:23:27.720 --> 0:23:29.200 I respect the real nigga more. 0:23:29.680 --> 0:23:32.400 Exactly. So, this nigga is trying to send me old 0:23:32.400 --> 0:23:34.360 pictures from twenty twenty three? Make it? First of all, 0:23:34.440 --> 0:23:37.280 does screenshot it? Then send it? Dummy? You don't send 0:23:37.280 --> 0:23:38.000 it straight FW. 0:23:39.920 --> 0:23:41.840 But even that's going to be suspicious because now it's 0:23:41.920 --> 0:23:45.439 time stamp for today, touche. 0:23:46.280 --> 0:23:48.600 You can set whatever date you want. You can set 0:23:48.640 --> 0:23:50.199 whatever date you want that day. 0:23:51.119 --> 0:23:51.359 Aj. 0:23:51.760 --> 0:23:53.640 We don't need anybody knowing this information. 0:23:53.760 --> 0:24:00.359 Okay, change yah, you can do it. But so here's 0:24:00.359 --> 0:24:05.080 the dumb part, because I'm probably go fuck with him again. 0:24:05.119 --> 0:24:05.600 I ain't. 0:24:10.320 --> 0:24:11.840 So damn the dick is that? Good? 0:24:13.560 --> 0:24:13.800 Girl? 0:24:13.840 --> 0:24:15.600 We need to exert this power, baby? 0:24:15.760 --> 0:24:16.560 Where's the power? 0:24:16.680 --> 0:24:17.000 Baby? 0:24:18.800 --> 0:24:22.080 Bitch ice for some time. I don't put him on 0:24:22.119 --> 0:24:24.440 ice for some time, but I'm probably going back. 0:24:24.680 --> 0:24:26.360 It must be good it must be good, it must 0:24:26.400 --> 0:24:26.920 be real good. 0:24:27.440 --> 0:24:34.119 It's good. But mhmm, like we were watching binge watching 0:24:34.160 --> 0:24:36.640 Stranger Things and there's a new season about to come out. 0:24:37.600 --> 0:24:39.200 Bitch, I'm something done with you. 0:24:40.560 --> 0:24:44.840 I'm so done not did need a Stranger Things buddy 0:24:44.880 --> 0:24:46.080 watching person. 0:24:48.240 --> 0:24:49.040 Girl FaceTime? 0:24:49.480 --> 0:24:53.560 I'll watch Stranger Things with you. So do you care 0:24:53.640 --> 0:24:55.520 who he was with? Do you have questions? Do you 0:24:55.560 --> 0:24:57.440 need updates to or is it just. 0:24:57.720 --> 0:25:00.880 I know exactly who he was with, so bem was. 0:25:00.800 --> 0:25:05.000 Hey or like a former girlfriend or what baby mama? 0:25:07.000 --> 0:25:07.800 Does he live with her? 0:25:08.160 --> 0:25:08.360 No? 0:25:10.440 --> 0:25:13.480 Okay, he's trying to get his family back tam damn. 0:25:16.960 --> 0:25:19.439 And I'm trying to see what happens to eleven okay. 0:25:19.520 --> 0:25:24.120 So okay, well I hope it comes back before November. 0:25:24.480 --> 0:25:26.040 What happens to eleven two? Okay? 0:25:26.119 --> 0:25:29.399 I'm invested in Stranger Things also, Okay, So if it 0:25:29.400 --> 0:25:31.480 doesn't work out, bitch, you can FaceTime me, we can 0:25:31.520 --> 0:25:32.160 watch it together. 0:25:32.240 --> 0:25:34.080 Okay. 0:25:34.200 --> 0:25:37.600 I mean honest, honestly, I feel like if you're aware 0:25:37.800 --> 0:25:41.000 of your like stupid bitchness, Like if you're making an aware, 0:25:41.160 --> 0:25:43.439 this informed decision, you're not like he's gonna be my 0:25:43.560 --> 0:25:45.840 husband and he's gonna leave his baby mama and we're 0:25:45.880 --> 0:25:48.600 gonna run off and have a twenty nine year old baby. Like, 0:25:48.640 --> 0:25:50.879 it don't really matters. So as long as like the 0:25:50.920 --> 0:25:54.280 bad choice is conscious and you're not like hurting yourself 0:25:54.280 --> 0:25:56.359 in the process. I feel like, if you want to 0:25:56.400 --> 0:25:58.960 go get the dick and also say tell him you're stupid, 0:25:59.000 --> 0:25:59.960 I still have the upper hand. 0:26:00.040 --> 0:26:05.159 I do it, perious, Perioeah, well that's not bad for 0:26:05.280 --> 0:26:08.840 this week. You got one agent. Don't leave me out 0:26:08.840 --> 0:26:09.280 here by. 0:26:11.800 --> 0:26:14.840 I don't like, I don't have a bad I mean 0:26:14.880 --> 0:26:15.160 you can't. 0:26:15.280 --> 0:26:18.720 That's a really hard one to to outdo. 0:26:19.160 --> 0:26:22.040 I hope his baby mama. I hope his baby mama 0:26:22.040 --> 0:26:24.800 doesn't listen to these podcasts because she's gonna be She's 0:26:24.800 --> 0:26:26.119 gonna know the other side of the story. 0:26:26.160 --> 0:26:28.399 Now right right, we were just in Jamaica. 0:26:28.520 --> 0:26:31.840 I'm just in Jamain love Stranger Things, right? 0:26:33.600 --> 0:26:35.480 You talking to me about this Stranger Thing? 0:26:35.560 --> 0:26:37.919 Shit? You've been watching it lately, haven't you? What a 0:26:37.920 --> 0:26:43.960 geek bitch A bitch named Tam. 0:26:41.960 --> 0:26:43.680 Not a geek bitch. AJ. 0:26:46.600 --> 0:26:47.760 I like Stranger Things too? 0:26:50.040 --> 0:26:52.199 AJ. Are you dating? Like I do you have a boyfriend? 0:26:52.320 --> 0:26:53.080 What your love life? 0:26:53.160 --> 0:26:54.240 Like I do. 0:26:54.600 --> 0:26:57.040 Look, and this is why I said Whyians are thirty 0:26:57.080 --> 0:26:59.400 two and under, because this nigga is thirty three. 0:27:02.240 --> 0:27:05.960 Their own ass man. Okay, he's in his Jesus year. Okay, 0:27:06.040 --> 0:27:08.840 he doesn't exactly delivered. Okay, the year the Lord. 0:27:08.920 --> 0:27:12.240 Okay, it's a good number. So yeah, I'm in a relationship, Chab, 0:27:12.240 --> 0:27:13.399 I'd be in and out. 0:27:13.280 --> 0:27:14.040 Sticking and moving. 0:27:14.359 --> 0:27:16.520 So I got out on one. 0:27:18.280 --> 0:27:21.040 Yes, how long have you guys been together? 0:27:21.040 --> 0:27:23.119 Because she seems kind of surprised, I know, not your 0:27:23.160 --> 0:27:26.320 best friend, not having the update hold on, seems. 0:27:25.960 --> 0:27:28.119 Like this is her first time she's heard this, this news. 0:27:28.160 --> 0:27:32.159 But let me let me just before she answers, I listen. 0:27:32.280 --> 0:27:36.440 I admire AJ so much for how she This girl 0:27:36.560 --> 0:27:39.320 is gonna have a man. Okay, she is gonna have 0:27:39.880 --> 0:27:44.679 I've been like single, single for almost ten years. She's 0:27:44.760 --> 0:27:47.360 had she will have her a man. That's my man, 0:27:47.440 --> 0:27:52.320 My man, my man. I'm like, damn, it's a man. 0:27:53.560 --> 0:27:56.840 Well, this is how long do your relationships usually last? AJ? 0:27:57.040 --> 0:27:59.920 Okay, so the last and the last ten years? 0:28:00.119 --> 0:28:00.239 Right? 0:28:00.280 --> 0:28:05.800 I have had two serious relationships, one engaged and then 0:28:05.840 --> 0:28:08.199 the other one has been a relationship since I was eighteen. 0:28:08.240 --> 0:28:11.120 Basically that I ended this year. The guy who I'm 0:28:11.200 --> 0:28:13.760 dating now, we just started dating in July and our 0:28:13.760 --> 0:28:16.160 first date was in Puerto Rico, Like we met up 0:28:16.160 --> 0:28:18.760 in Puerto Rico. That was my first time seeing him. 0:28:19.080 --> 0:28:21.320 So yeah, it was like it was like through just 0:28:21.400 --> 0:28:23.600 like Instagram or social media or something like that. 0:28:23.720 --> 0:28:25.800 Yeah, he had been in my DM since like twenty 0:28:25.840 --> 0:28:29.320 twenty one. So sorry to the exes who was listening 0:28:29.320 --> 0:28:31.960 to this. Yes, I do be fratenizing, get a little bit. 0:28:32.359 --> 0:28:36.560 Okay, So yeah, just in the case, just a little 0:28:36.600 --> 0:28:38.760 bit working on that, right because I know that me 0:28:38.840 --> 0:28:41.840 fratenizing has always been like a problem in relationships. 0:28:41.880 --> 0:28:43.640 But I feel like everybody do it. I'm just on 0:28:44.200 --> 0:28:46.080 you begetting a girl. Don't be putting off all of 0:28:46.120 --> 0:28:47.120 this category bitch. 0:28:47.240 --> 0:28:52.840 So is initiate to fratenizing, but I'll participate, Okay, Like 0:28:52.880 --> 0:28:57.320 I don't initiate, but I will participate. Right, So somebody 0:28:57.360 --> 0:29:01.480 like hit me up, maybe not tech like damn ship, Like, yeah, 0:29:01.520 --> 0:29:03.640 I'm gonna flirt back a little bit. 0:29:04.160 --> 0:29:06.000 Might leave you on red for a little. 0:29:05.720 --> 0:29:08.400 Bit, but yeah, I like to are you gonna pick 0:29:08.440 --> 0:29:09.520 up the phone and make a phone call? 0:29:11.160 --> 0:29:14.000 I really know or if I even if I know 0:29:14.080 --> 0:29:15.160 I have, like I have had. 0:29:15.040 --> 0:29:17.520 A couple of people in over the years that I 0:29:17.560 --> 0:29:20.320 will act like I'm gonna do some ship and it 0:29:20.480 --> 0:29:22.280 just I just never smoke through. I just like to 0:29:22.280 --> 0:29:22.880 talk about it. 0:29:23.000 --> 0:29:25.360 But you're like a fake ho. That's what I call it. 0:29:25.400 --> 0:29:27.880 Fake ho. Like you might like pretend like you're gonna 0:29:27.880 --> 0:29:29.920 do it like a girl and then you'll never act 0:29:29.960 --> 0:29:30.240 on it. 0:29:30.680 --> 0:29:31.320 Just practicing. 0:29:31.800 --> 0:29:33.360 I see if I still got it a little bit, 0:29:34.360 --> 0:29:39.080 you stille. No, I've been working on and off for 0:29:39.280 --> 0:29:40.720 I have not been fratnizing. 0:29:41.360 --> 0:29:47.120 Yeah, I have not been your podcast. Yes, you do 0:29:47.400 --> 0:29:48.440 listen to the podcast. 0:29:49.880 --> 0:29:51.760 Have you guys ever dated a man who didn't listen 0:29:51.760 --> 0:29:53.400 to the podcast that knows you have a podcast? 0:29:53.440 --> 0:29:53.600 Souse? 0:29:53.600 --> 0:29:56.120 I feel like it's like leaving a fucking cake on 0:29:56.200 --> 0:29:58.680 a table and a baby next to it, like, okay, 0:29:58.720 --> 0:30:02.360 here's all my business. Don't push play man we first 0:30:02.400 --> 0:30:03.480 started back. 0:30:05.160 --> 0:30:07.320 I don't feel like you guys listen to this soil. 0:30:07.640 --> 0:30:11.480 So a j Where is your You're not why? 0:30:11.480 --> 0:30:16.600 I am from Jersey, chah okay. 0:30:16.040 --> 0:30:18.280 But you're in North Carolina or South Carolina. 0:30:18.080 --> 0:30:19.800 South Carolina, Charleston, South Carolina. 0:30:20.360 --> 0:30:22.400 How would you say dating, Like, how is your experience 0:30:22.440 --> 0:30:24.440 in dating down south? I feel like down south there's 0:30:24.480 --> 0:30:26.360 like more gentlemen Like that sounds like there's gonna be 0:30:26.360 --> 0:30:28.880 a wholesome men ready to be husbands and like in 0:30:28.960 --> 0:30:29.720 South Carolina. 0:30:30.360 --> 0:30:31.959 I mean most of the people who I have been 0:30:31.960 --> 0:30:35.880 in relationships with have been from the South, and it'd 0:30:35.920 --> 0:30:37.880 be some bullshit for real, you know what I'm saying. 0:30:37.880 --> 0:30:40.440 They might they might take care of you, but they 0:30:40.480 --> 0:30:41.840 definitely still be on some bullshit. 0:30:42.480 --> 0:30:46.560 I think you're negotiables, Like what are you? Non negotiables 0:30:46.560 --> 0:30:48.680 and relationships both y'all. 0:30:51.840 --> 0:30:52.959 Are non negotiable. 0:30:54.800 --> 0:30:55.760 Mus should be changing. 0:30:55.960 --> 0:30:57.640 That's you cannot. 0:30:58.280 --> 0:31:01.080 It depends like you cannot. 0:31:01.360 --> 0:31:04.320 Like what I realized because of my last relationship is 0:31:04.360 --> 0:31:07.440 that in order to cohabitate with somebody like, y'all really 0:31:07.480 --> 0:31:11.200 have to be aligned when it comes to like cleanliness 0:31:11.320 --> 0:31:14.800 right and cleaning up behind yourself. Because I feel like 0:31:15.520 --> 0:31:17.520 I'm trying to figure out, like how niggas keep their 0:31:17.520 --> 0:31:20.960 ship when they bodyself you know. Well, but I've been 0:31:20.960 --> 0:31:23.520 to some men some men's house and it was like neat, 0:31:23.640 --> 0:31:26.080 nice whatever. But it's almost like when they live with you, 0:31:26.240 --> 0:31:29.800 they expect you to clean up after them, like when 0:31:29.840 --> 0:31:32.800 y'all live together, well, it's last lived with somebody. 0:31:32.960 --> 0:31:35.680 Oh this year, oh this year. 0:31:36.400 --> 0:31:40.280 Yeah, so yeah, like you gotta be evenly yoked when 0:31:40.320 --> 0:31:40.920 it comes. 0:31:40.720 --> 0:31:42.960 To like they. 0:31:44.680 --> 0:31:47.640 Moved out and they've moved on. He has a new 0:31:47.760 --> 0:31:52.600 she has a new book. Nigga. I want to I 0:31:52.640 --> 0:31:57.040 want to say strongly as strong I strongly agree because 0:31:57.080 --> 0:31:59.960 I just recently went out of town for like six days. 0:32:00.440 --> 0:32:06.240 And when I say, Orlando did not, it was it 0:32:06.240 --> 0:32:07.760 was almost a test, like you know, you're rushing and 0:32:07.760 --> 0:32:09.920 you're leaving out the door, like I had like dropped 0:32:09.920 --> 0:32:12.520 a jacket, like at a scarf on the floor. When 0:32:12.560 --> 0:32:15.080 I say, I came back and the scarf and the 0:32:15.560 --> 0:32:18.200 bag were in the middle of the floor, like it 0:32:18.240 --> 0:32:20.600 would take more effort to step over than to pick 0:32:20.640 --> 0:32:24.600 it up. I was like, yo, my nigga, like you 0:32:24.600 --> 0:32:28.720 don't see my jacket, Like, oh, it's yours and it's 0:32:28.760 --> 0:32:29.800 your house. 0:32:30.160 --> 0:32:32.200 Right, and how often do I clean up after you? 0:32:32.760 --> 0:32:35.560 It looked almost identical. It looked like I had just 0:32:35.680 --> 0:32:37.720 left the house to the airport. I was I couldn't 0:32:37.720 --> 0:32:40.720 believe that he had been living here for six days 0:32:40.920 --> 0:32:44.840 and just totally oblivious of the shit. And he's like, 0:32:44.880 --> 0:32:46.160 you know, I'll working at a job and you can't 0:32:46.160 --> 0:32:48.040 tell him shit, you know, not work at twelve hour day. 0:32:48.080 --> 0:32:50.240 I said, Nigga, that doesn't mean shit. You still have 0:32:50.320 --> 0:32:53.200 to put shit away. And then I had like an 0:32:53.280 --> 0:32:55.960 organizer come today and he messaged me. He's like, I 0:32:56.000 --> 0:32:59.239 think having help with the organization and cleaning is going 0:32:59.280 --> 0:33:01.560 to save our marriage. And I said absolutely, because I 0:33:01.640 --> 0:33:03.600 literally was thinking about, like maybe I didn't get my 0:33:03.640 --> 0:33:07.680 own apartment because what the fucker you're talking about for 0:33:07.760 --> 0:33:11.640 six days? You stepped over the same goddamn jacket. So yes, 0:33:11.760 --> 0:33:12.720 I totally understand. 0:33:13.240 --> 0:33:15.520 I think, yeah, I'm for like even like when I 0:33:15.560 --> 0:33:18.440 buy a home and I'm living with my husband or 0:33:18.440 --> 0:33:21.080 whoever whatever, I need my own room and I need 0:33:21.080 --> 0:33:24.320 my own fucking bathroom, Like yeah, that shit is oval. 0:33:24.720 --> 0:33:27.160 I need my own space in order for the shit 0:33:27.240 --> 0:33:27.800 to work. 0:33:29.200 --> 0:33:29.440 Good. 0:33:29.800 --> 0:33:33.600 This nia live out of town, But yeah, what about you, Tom? 0:33:33.760 --> 0:33:40.640 So honestly, I'm struggling. I'm working on setting because I 0:33:40.680 --> 0:33:44.280 set firm boundaries, right, but then when I like somebody 0:33:44.360 --> 0:33:46.840 or I love them, I start living outside of those 0:33:46.880 --> 0:33:53.160 boundaries to coexist with this person. So in my next relationship. 0:33:53.840 --> 0:33:56.600 I'm going to try to stay in that box and 0:33:56.640 --> 0:34:01.120 not fold for whoever I'm So that's why I say 0:34:01.160 --> 0:34:04.760 it depends because that's something I that's not my strong suit. 0:34:05.320 --> 0:34:08.239 I'm a cancer, and I just feel like we just 0:34:08.280 --> 0:34:13.399 turn into a mush when we love somebody. So that's 0:34:13.440 --> 0:34:14.280 my honest answer. 0:34:15.120 --> 0:34:15.759 What's your sign? 0:34:15.800 --> 0:34:18.640 A j Gemini? Oh? 0:34:18.840 --> 0:34:19.240 Jemini? 0:34:20.160 --> 0:34:21.200 On your birthdays? 0:34:21.840 --> 0:34:23.759 June eighth, in July sixteenth? 0:34:24.920 --> 0:34:26.399 Okay, what about y'all? 0:34:26.400 --> 0:34:27.680 What's y'all you cancer? 0:34:28.000 --> 0:34:28.720 I'm a cancer. 0:34:29.280 --> 0:34:30.040 I'm a scorpio. 0:34:31.680 --> 0:34:32.920 What what's your birthday is? 0:34:34.160 --> 0:34:35.080 October twenty fifth? 0:34:36.000 --> 0:34:38.440 Oh, you got a birthday coming up in a few minutes. 0:34:38.840 --> 0:34:48.239 I do, I do. I'm getting that plan wiser. That's 0:34:48.280 --> 0:34:49.680 what I'm gonna sart to say. I'm not getting older, 0:34:49.680 --> 0:34:54.560 I'm getting wiser. I'm going at the bay as of now, 0:34:54.680 --> 0:34:56.920 I'm going to the Bay and I'm gonna go to 0:34:56.960 --> 0:35:00.000 the forest and chill for like two days. My man 0:35:00.040 --> 0:35:02.920 and family. There's a wedding in the family on my birthday, 0:35:03.360 --> 0:35:05.200 which I was like, I've been going back and forth 0:35:05.239 --> 0:35:06.080 about because I. 0:35:06.040 --> 0:35:07.080 Get weird on my birthday. 0:35:07.120 --> 0:35:08.600 I don't know if y'all relate to this, but I've 0:35:08.840 --> 0:35:11.279 always like my around my birthday, I get like kind 0:35:11.320 --> 0:35:14.040 of depressed. I get like anxious, I like I want 0:35:14.080 --> 0:35:15.960 to do stuff, but I also want to be left alone. 0:35:16.000 --> 0:35:18.080 But then like as it nears, I get annoyed that 0:35:18.280 --> 0:35:20.360 like no one has thought of me and planned anything 0:35:20.440 --> 0:35:22.360 for me. But then also like I don't want to 0:35:22.360 --> 0:35:23.960 see any of you bitches, And then I'm like, wait, 0:35:24.040 --> 0:35:24.760 I love you please. 0:35:25.280 --> 0:35:26.480 So confusing at all? 0:35:27.760 --> 0:35:28.840 I just said it was confusing. 0:35:30.480 --> 0:35:32.840 And so last year I've shared on the podcast, I 0:35:32.880 --> 0:35:36.160 went and went into a hole an Oregon, like a literal, 0:35:36.200 --> 0:35:37.320 actual hole in the ground. 0:35:37.320 --> 0:35:38.600 I went on a darkness retreat. 0:35:39.280 --> 0:35:40.440 I saw your posts. 0:35:40.120 --> 0:35:44.359 On that, and so I was rebirthed last year out 0:35:44.360 --> 0:35:49.200 of the womb of the earth. And so I'm having 0:35:49.200 --> 0:35:51.680 a different relationship with my birthday and actually putting less 0:35:51.719 --> 0:35:54.600 emphasis I think on the birthday day. So that's why 0:35:54.600 --> 0:35:56.680 I was like, maybe I should just I'm me, just 0:35:56.719 --> 0:35:58.240 go to this wedding on my birthday. 0:35:58.360 --> 0:36:01.080 It's fine, but then part of me is do, like I. 0:36:01.000 --> 0:36:02.840 Really want to go to someone that's fucking wording on 0:36:02.880 --> 0:36:07.960 my motherfucking birthday, my motherfucking like Erica. Hey, there's other 0:36:08.040 --> 0:36:12.799 days there's other birthdays after that. So my man, his 0:36:12.880 --> 0:36:16.480 birthday is three days after mine, so we're gonna be together. 0:36:16.480 --> 0:36:18.319 So we're gonna do something after that. 0:36:18.920 --> 0:36:21.919 As of now, I'm still contemplating because I am quick 0:36:21.960 --> 0:36:24.680 to switch it up last minute, So we'll see where 0:36:24.719 --> 0:36:25.120 I land. 0:36:25.480 --> 0:36:27.319 Oh, you got about you got about ten days to 0:36:27.360 --> 0:36:27.920 switch it up. 0:36:28.360 --> 0:36:35.239 I know, well, technically you too. You were reborn last year, 0:36:35.320 --> 0:36:38.800 so technically you're turning too. Bitch. You're very youthful, exactly. 0:36:39.840 --> 0:36:43.920 Remember I'm actually younger than you, Jamala. Now I'm two. 0:36:45.120 --> 0:36:47.279 Jamila is twenty four, so I'm two. 0:36:50.960 --> 0:36:52.920 Ye got it? Damn right. 0:36:54.080 --> 0:36:57.120 What's your birthday? Me? 0:36:57.239 --> 0:36:59.319 I'm June twenty second. I'm like the first day of 0:36:59.320 --> 0:37:04.600 cancers about Yeah, answer, I'm a gemn answer, But I 0:37:04.600 --> 0:37:07.200 feel like I have more cancer traits, but only the 0:37:07.239 --> 0:37:08.960 good Gemini traits. 0:37:09.560 --> 0:37:12.719 I mean, what the fuck does that mean? All the 0:37:12.760 --> 0:37:13.919 Gemini traits are good? 0:37:14.640 --> 0:37:20.160 Well, well, you know that's arguable. You know, you guys 0:37:20.160 --> 0:37:21.080 have some thing, you know. 0:37:21.880 --> 0:37:24.080 I don't know why we get so much hate like y'all, 0:37:24.080 --> 0:37:26.640 Like you know, Gemini are the only humans. 0:37:26.440 --> 0:37:27.200 Of the zodiac. 0:37:27.239 --> 0:37:29.520 The rest of y'all bitches is like animals and signs 0:37:29.520 --> 0:37:30.600 and symbols and shit. 0:37:30.400 --> 0:37:34.160 And humans can't be trusted. History has proven that humans 0:37:34.239 --> 0:37:37.799 really can't be trusted. That's the problem, or two of them, 0:37:37.840 --> 0:37:38.839 so what the fuck? 0:37:40.080 --> 0:37:44.160 Very confusing, no mutable. See that's the difference. People like, 0:37:44.239 --> 0:37:46.520 we aren't too faced and none of that shit. We 0:37:46.760 --> 0:37:49.600 just on what you want. That's okay. That's why I 0:37:49.640 --> 0:37:51.920 way to look at it. I actually be working on 0:37:52.120 --> 0:37:55.040 not being on with other people on and not allowing 0:37:55.120 --> 0:37:57.680 other people to change my energy. 0:37:57.920 --> 0:37:59.960 I really weren't really, really really hot. 0:38:00.480 --> 0:38:02.439 I need to do better at that. That is something 0:38:02.480 --> 0:38:04.200 I am working on this year because I think as 0:38:04.239 --> 0:38:06.840 a cancer I can take on other people's energy really easily. 0:38:06.920 --> 0:38:09.200 Just as an EmPATH, I can literally be at a 0:38:09.239 --> 0:38:11.000 concert and I see like a bitch that I don't 0:38:11.040 --> 0:38:14.480 know across the fucking walkway crying and I'm like, are 0:38:14.520 --> 0:38:18.360 you okay? Like you don't even know her, leave her alone. 0:38:18.760 --> 0:38:22.600 You're having a good time, okay, bro. That's why I understand. 0:38:22.160 --> 0:38:25.640 That you cannot watch Gray's Anatomy, because I carry that 0:38:25.719 --> 0:38:28.919 ship with me all day. They'd be like, what's going 0:38:28.000 --> 0:38:32.360 to like? Somebody dras Anatomy? Like I really so? I 0:38:32.400 --> 0:38:38.000 won't watch that Extreme Home makeover. Forget about it. I'm 0:38:38.040 --> 0:38:38.919 not watching that ship. 0:38:40.400 --> 0:38:42.160 Have you Home Bankover? 0:38:43.200 --> 0:38:47.400 I cannot that that will make that will make me. 0:38:47.600 --> 0:38:49.360 That's a sad. That's sad. It's beautiful. 0:38:49.400 --> 0:38:51.720 It's beautiful at the end because these people really needed 0:38:51.719 --> 0:38:52.400 those homes. 0:38:52.480 --> 0:38:55.240 Girl, I know, I felieve you. I cry. 0:38:55.280 --> 0:38:57.200 I lost it after watching that ship. 0:38:58.040 --> 0:39:02.640 Yo, what kind of transformation on when they're homeless? 0:39:02.719 --> 0:39:05.040 Like, what do you mean they have like the most 0:39:05.480 --> 0:39:06.800 worst story. 0:39:07.440 --> 0:39:10.560 It'll be like the sad story, like my grandma lost 0:39:10.560 --> 0:39:13.200 her eye trying to help me bake a cake and 0:39:13.239 --> 0:39:16.960 now she can't see she got one, like just all 0:39:17.000 --> 0:39:19.799 the worst story and then they just get this beautiful home. 0:39:19.960 --> 0:39:22.440 Grandma get a new eye, and you just being there. 0:39:22.320 --> 0:39:27.080 Like not you go on ag TV trauma bonding. 0:39:27.360 --> 0:39:29.480 Oh my god, with some shit. 0:39:30.520 --> 0:39:31.120 I'd be crying. 0:39:31.120 --> 0:39:33.680 I'd be crying for like for like chef kids, Okay, 0:39:34.200 --> 0:39:35.560 those kids making them food. 0:39:35.600 --> 0:39:39.320 They'd be making me so proud. Girl, I'm not it's shambles. 0:39:40.640 --> 0:39:41.520 Watched too much TV? 0:39:41.840 --> 0:39:43.399 Yes, because what are you talking about? 0:39:43.560 --> 0:39:45.359 I don't watch them anymore. I had to stop because 0:39:45.360 --> 0:39:46.680 I'd be crying. I was just on the Internet. 0:39:46.760 --> 0:39:49.799 Yesterday I opened up a post without any sort of context, 0:39:49.960 --> 0:39:51.719 and it made me cry. I was like, what the 0:39:52.719 --> 0:39:56.239 Internet in general is just very like it's just violating, 0:39:56.520 --> 0:39:59.080 Like they don't even do trigger warnings no more. Okay, 0:39:59.200 --> 0:40:02.160 Like I really have to stop watching Amanda Steals' content 0:40:02.200 --> 0:40:05.080 because I'm like, bitch, like tell me before you fucking 0:40:05.120 --> 0:40:06.160 about to post this shit? 0:40:06.239 --> 0:40:06.439 Girl? 0:40:06.520 --> 0:40:08.480 Are you not love the black woman getting beat up 0:40:08.520 --> 0:40:10.719 in Jacksonville, Florida by the police. 0:40:11.520 --> 0:40:14.920 That I saw, Yes, that one, Yes, actually that was 0:40:14.960 --> 0:40:16.440 the one that made me cry. And then the same 0:40:16.560 --> 0:40:17.879 day I saw another one about this. 0:40:17.840 --> 0:40:22.160 Little girl who these little these two little. 0:40:21.840 --> 0:40:24.640 Boys like tempted her out of her out of her 0:40:24.680 --> 0:40:27.560 house and was like maybe like five or five or 0:40:27.600 --> 0:40:31.160 six and ripped her hair out in the field and 0:40:31.360 --> 0:40:31.920 did a whole. 0:40:31.800 --> 0:40:33.279 Bunch of other horrible shit. I don't even want to 0:40:33.320 --> 0:40:33.719 stay here. 0:40:34.120 --> 0:40:36.680 But like I guess the city was like trying to 0:40:36.680 --> 0:40:39.359 be like, oh, they're kids, we're not going to prosecute them. 0:40:39.400 --> 0:40:42.000 And they did horrible things to this baby. And it 0:40:42.040 --> 0:40:44.080 took like so, I mean, I guess it took social 0:40:44.160 --> 0:40:46.080 media for it to get any attention. And now things 0:40:46.120 --> 0:40:48.200 are happening. But like before they were just gonna like 0:40:48.239 --> 0:40:50.880 wrap it up and be like she's she's she lived. 0:40:51.360 --> 0:40:53.080 Pardon it was completely did. 0:40:52.920 --> 0:40:55.239 A lot of bad things eight and nine years old, though, 0:40:55.239 --> 0:40:57.080 But just imagine the things that these kids are being 0:40:57.080 --> 0:40:59.960 exposed to online that are shaping or psyche. 0:41:00.200 --> 0:41:01.480 We'll talk about social media. 0:41:01.480 --> 0:41:02.040 As adults. 0:41:02.120 --> 0:41:03.879 You get on social media, you see some happy shit, 0:41:04.239 --> 0:41:05.319 the next lives and slack. 0:41:05.600 --> 0:41:06.240 It's nice. 0:41:06.320 --> 0:41:07.400 It's on purpose. 0:41:07.560 --> 0:41:10.560 It's on purpose to numb you so that everything is like, yeah, 0:41:10.600 --> 0:41:12.880 you're watching murder and then you're watching a tutorial, and 0:41:12.880 --> 0:41:14.600 then you're watching a dance, and then you're watching another 0:41:14.680 --> 0:41:17.520 murder and then you you know, it's like it's it's insane. 0:41:18.080 --> 0:41:20.520 My daughter the other day, I'm driving. 0:41:20.160 --> 0:41:22.719 And she's like, Mommy, you're so lucky that you're born 0:41:22.760 --> 0:41:28.360 in the nineteen hundreds. And I was like, okay, yeah, I'm. 0:41:30.680 --> 0:41:31.560 Slavery life. 0:41:32.160 --> 0:41:36.520 Okay, slight shade, but whatevs. And she was like no, 0:41:36.680 --> 0:41:39.560 because like you got to experience like the two thousands, 0:41:39.640 --> 0:41:42.799 like the early two thousands, and you know, like I'll 0:41:42.800 --> 0:41:44.879 never be able to experience that. I'll never be able 0:41:44.920 --> 0:41:47.640 to like experience that time in life. And just like 0:41:47.800 --> 0:41:49.560 I'm a kid, You'll never be able to experience this time. 0:41:49.560 --> 0:41:51.640 But I kind of wish that I could have experienced 0:41:51.640 --> 0:41:54.160 that time because not everybody was on their phone all 0:41:54.200 --> 0:41:54.560 the time. 0:41:55.200 --> 0:41:58.080 And I was like, oh my god. I was like, yeah, 0:41:58.120 --> 0:41:58.720 it's true. 0:41:58.840 --> 0:42:00.960 I mean, my daughter she'd be she has a phone, 0:42:01.000 --> 0:42:02.960 and she'd be on it, not as much as like 0:42:03.000 --> 0:42:06.560 some like some like some kids I see, but but 0:42:06.680 --> 0:42:10.359 still she's she's plugged in. But just the fact that 0:42:10.400 --> 0:42:13.560 she even had that clarity, I was like, damn, you're right, 0:42:13.600 --> 0:42:15.439 And I said, yeah, you're I was like, I didn't 0:42:15.480 --> 0:42:17.719 even have social media until I was I mean I 0:42:17.760 --> 0:42:20.840 had MySpace, and I guess I had Facebook, but. 0:42:20.719 --> 0:42:23.400 Not a lot from like a like a landline. 0:42:23.000 --> 0:42:24.040 Not to capacity. 0:42:24.840 --> 0:42:28.000 Yeah, like there was my Space on my phone. Like 0:42:28.040 --> 0:42:29.600 I had to go on my Dell. 0:42:30.600 --> 0:42:33.000 P dial up and then no one could use the phone. 0:42:33.040 --> 0:42:34.800 It was like you had to schedule that shit. Remember, 0:42:35.239 --> 0:42:36.520 like you had two lines. 0:42:37.640 --> 0:42:41.000 And kids now think that when they're born they automatically 0:42:41.040 --> 0:42:43.040 get a cell phone. Like my niece one of my 0:42:43.040 --> 0:42:45.880 oldest seasons twenty seven, and she was fist that my 0:42:45.960 --> 0:42:47.759 sister was making her pay her own cell phone bill. 0:42:47.800 --> 0:42:49.440 Now I'm like, bitch, you're twenty seven. 0:42:50.200 --> 0:42:50.800 I was paying. 0:42:50.920 --> 0:42:52.640 I bought you a cell phone as a teenager. I'm 0:42:52.719 --> 0:42:54.960 twenty paying in this little girl's cell phone bill. Like 0:42:55.000 --> 0:42:57.360 you've never had to pay a cell phone bill. It 0:42:57.400 --> 0:42:59.440 doesn't come with birth, bitch. 0:43:00.719 --> 0:43:03.160 This is my birth certificate, my plan, my plan, because 0:43:03.200 --> 0:43:03.600 my birth. 0:43:03.440 --> 0:43:07.120 Certificate exactly like Girl used. 0:43:07.040 --> 0:43:11.520 To wait till she finds out about health insurance, Girl pinion. 0:43:16.640 --> 0:43:21.719 And I know we're lucky to have. Like it's such 0:43:21.800 --> 0:43:23.880 interesting that, like, yeah, like we're probably the last of 0:43:23.920 --> 0:43:26.799 the Mohicans who got to experience the full range because 0:43:26.800 --> 0:43:30.760 we're pretty indoctrinated in social media. But just in general, 0:43:30.880 --> 0:43:35.080 like dating is different. Like, you know, I was listening 0:43:35.080 --> 0:43:38.640 to one of guys' podcasts and you were talking about 0:43:40.040 --> 0:43:46.520 you were talking about, uh Cam Newton's baby mom, Jasmine 0:43:46.560 --> 0:43:50.600 Brown or whatever being a pigmy and like how she 0:43:50.719 --> 0:43:51.920 used to do like a lot of her content was 0:43:51.960 --> 0:43:55.120 about being against pigmies and just like even how that 0:43:55.320 --> 0:43:57.920 part of womanhood has shaped because we were exposed to 0:43:57.960 --> 0:44:03.040 like Kevin Samuels and sucking all the fucking fucks on 0:44:03.040 --> 0:44:05.279 the internet. You know, Like it's just interesting. Dating is 0:44:05.560 --> 0:44:09.520 even different and influenced by fucking losers on social media. 0:44:09.680 --> 0:44:11.480 And there's some time I was I would be responding 0:44:11.520 --> 0:44:13.600 to losers and then I'm like, bitch, you're a loser. 0:44:13.640 --> 0:44:14.520 If your respond to these. 0:44:15.120 --> 0:44:16.000 I just block them. 0:44:16.080 --> 0:44:18.480 Anytime somebody says some extra rue shit to me, I 0:44:18.600 --> 0:44:19.120 just block them. 0:44:19.120 --> 0:44:19.719 I own and say shit. 0:44:20.360 --> 0:44:24.560 Sometimes I engage because it's fun, the verbal sparn but 0:44:25.239 --> 0:44:26.360 I just want to, you know, have. 0:44:26.360 --> 0:44:28.239 A little practicing. See if you still got it. 0:44:28.480 --> 0:44:34.360 Yeah, it was a Friday. I got time on Friday, got. 0:44:34.160 --> 0:44:35.520 It, got a little wine in my cap. 0:44:36.000 --> 0:44:38.319 I don't do back and forth on a Wednesday. Lack 0:44:38.440 --> 0:44:39.640 me on fridayday? 0:44:40.320 --> 0:44:44.600 Right, oh god, oh my god. Just fun like to 0:44:44.680 --> 0:44:47.520 go to their page and see what's going on and 0:44:47.520 --> 0:44:48.240 then come back. 0:44:48.080 --> 0:44:49.920 There's always nothing. And then then I feel like a 0:44:49.960 --> 0:44:53.799 fucking loser. I'm like, you fucking ugly, smut bucket looking. 0:44:53.600 --> 0:44:56.320 Face the animal you need? 0:44:57.640 --> 0:45:00.799 Oh my god, Yeah it's true. I'd be like you 0:45:00.840 --> 0:45:03.239 got your fucking cock eyed bitch ass. 0:45:03.320 --> 0:45:06.560 She asked me your comments under their pictures, like, oh. 0:45:06.680 --> 0:45:08.200 Wait, and then if I have a if I have 0:45:08.200 --> 0:45:10.080 a really good comeback, I'm not going to block you, 0:45:10.080 --> 0:45:12.160 because then it's going to erase our whole conversation, and 0:45:12.239 --> 0:45:14.560 I want people to see how how I got your app. 0:45:17.000 --> 0:45:19.120 I'd be going on I'd be going on posts, and 0:45:19.160 --> 0:45:21.920 I'd be seeing NILA's comments, like on random posts like 0:45:21.920 --> 0:45:22.520 the Shade Room. 0:45:22.520 --> 0:45:24.560 I'd be like, Oh, she already did it. Thank thanks girl, 0:45:25.000 --> 0:45:25.759 she did it for me. 0:45:26.080 --> 0:45:28.080 Fuck you. Fuck you, You're stupid. 0:45:30.680 --> 0:45:32.479 Everybody needs a meal on her on their team. 0:45:32.520 --> 0:45:36.600 Okay, So somethings are so ridiculous. That's why I had 0:45:36.600 --> 0:45:39.920 to really stop engaging, because I'm like, it's actually ridiculously stupid. 0:45:40.560 --> 0:45:40.840 Girls. 0:45:40.880 --> 0:45:43.319 Fuck them people, fuck them people like you know what, 0:45:43.440 --> 0:45:45.200 this is a statistic that I made up, but I'm 0:45:45.239 --> 0:45:49.280 strongly I think like ninety eight percent if the population 0:45:49.360 --> 0:45:50.000 are losers. 0:45:52.320 --> 0:45:53.280 You see losers. 0:45:53.440 --> 0:45:53.680 Okay. 0:45:54.280 --> 0:45:56.400 I don't know why the word loser. I just automatically 0:45:56.520 --> 0:45:57.880 associate with Donald Trump. 0:45:58.840 --> 0:46:04.840 You black people. I love black people. 0:46:07.360 --> 0:46:10.160 No, I always be saying that, like if we actually 0:46:10.200 --> 0:46:12.879 were like how animals are. In a while, a lot 0:46:12.880 --> 0:46:17.640 of these niggas will die having procreative okay, because all 0:46:17.719 --> 0:46:20.240 of them are not supposed to have access to pussy. 0:46:20.400 --> 0:46:23.359 Thus the in cell community, right, they just so mad 0:46:23.440 --> 0:46:25.439 they can't fuck who they think they should be able 0:46:25.440 --> 0:46:27.759 to fuck, but a lot of them should just die 0:46:27.800 --> 0:46:31.560 without ever procreating, without ever having had sex with women. 0:46:31.680 --> 0:46:37.160 Really exercise like discipline in a real way. 0:46:37.680 --> 0:46:41.160 We have power over dick. That's a good episode. 0:46:44.400 --> 0:46:46.480 Running down and it all comes. 0:46:46.200 --> 0:46:52.040 Back to power over dick. Yes, dick and power. 0:46:52.320 --> 0:46:55.880 Snippet of this episode. Niggas is gonna be mad, like 0:46:55.960 --> 0:46:58.840 I think you should die. I think you all should 0:46:58.880 --> 0:46:59.760 die without pussy. 0:47:00.360 --> 0:47:03.160 It's women like you, it's women like you. 0:47:03.360 --> 0:47:04.560 But that's a real statement. 0:47:04.600 --> 0:47:06.560 This is why you're this is why you're single. This 0:47:06.600 --> 0:47:08.160 is why your baby mama. 0:47:08.400 --> 0:47:12.320 Don't procreate with these fucking rea like they're slow. A 0:47:12.360 --> 0:47:14.960 lot of these niggas are slow, like they literally don't 0:47:15.280 --> 0:47:18.240 have the enzymes, and so if you give them fucking 0:47:19.440 --> 0:47:22.720 egg like, it's just it's it's it's really it's keeping 0:47:22.760 --> 0:47:25.640 our popular like, it's keeping like the world intelligence low 0:47:25.840 --> 0:47:27.040 on a long term scale. 0:47:27.080 --> 0:47:30.440 And it's a different fact that the man really plays 0:47:30.480 --> 0:47:32.640 a bigger part in how the baby is going to 0:47:32.680 --> 0:47:35.480 be then the woman, like that's you. Like they talk 0:47:35.520 --> 0:47:37.440 about gay people like y'all the ones with this gay 0:47:37.480 --> 0:47:37.960 ass firm. 0:47:38.719 --> 0:47:41.759 Yeah, you know what you know. 0:47:41.680 --> 0:47:43.760 They always say, like black women, like we'd be bigging 0:47:43.840 --> 0:47:46.040 up the gay community, bigging up the gay men, like yes, 0:47:46.080 --> 0:47:49.520 because we're nurturing naturally, like like we are everybody come 0:47:49.560 --> 0:47:53.200 as you are, right, But this gay firm that is 0:47:53.320 --> 0:47:56.160 now an adult male came out of your ass, nigga, Like, 0:47:56.160 --> 0:47:57.000 what are we talking about? 0:47:58.040 --> 0:48:01.560 Your I don't gay spurn. 0:48:03.360 --> 0:48:04.959 Gay people will tell you it's from birth. 0:48:05.040 --> 0:48:07.480 They've been that way their whole lives, right, So yeah, 0:48:07.520 --> 0:48:10.359 I believe it is some ship because fucking why, ain't 0:48:10.400 --> 0:48:11.439 nothing but a broken eggs? 0:48:12.360 --> 0:48:15.399 Have you guys heard of ghost Face Killer's son? 0:48:16.040 --> 0:48:16.400 Yes? 0:48:17.440 --> 0:48:17.680 What? 0:48:18.400 --> 0:48:18.760 Yes? 0:48:19.000 --> 0:48:21.839 Ghost Face Killer has a son who's very gay and 0:48:21.880 --> 0:48:25.919 he's also inherited his talent now, but he's distracking him. 0:48:26.280 --> 0:48:27.640 He's distracking his dad. 0:48:28.000 --> 0:48:31.960 It's so good, actually really good. 0:48:34.960 --> 0:48:36.640 That's forever infinite. 0:48:37.280 --> 0:48:38.160 That's not sad to y'all. 0:48:38.239 --> 0:48:40.920 Reach out to him. Maybe maybe he'll come to the 0:48:41.080 --> 0:48:43.560 podcast and talk about his daddy. I don't think it's sad. 0:48:43.600 --> 0:48:46.080 I think it's a rebellious act. And I think it's 0:48:46.440 --> 0:48:49.160 I think when you have a parent like that that 0:48:49.239 --> 0:48:51.440 hasn't claimed you for who you are, and you have 0:48:51.560 --> 0:48:55.960 the audacity and the courage to talk back and use 0:48:55.960 --> 0:48:58.600 his own talent against him. I think, yeah, better than 0:48:58.600 --> 0:49:01.719 that than to heart like harbor and feel saddened. What 0:49:01.800 --> 0:49:04.400 his name? Daddy wasn't there fuck daddy and put it 0:49:04.440 --> 0:49:04.839 on the track. 0:49:05.840 --> 0:49:08.920 I think he just wants his daddy's love. That's a 0:49:09.000 --> 0:49:09.719 cry for help. 0:49:11.560 --> 0:49:14.160 Absolutely at the same time as fuck him. He might not, 0:49:14.280 --> 0:49:15.399 he might never get it. 0:49:15.800 --> 0:49:18.280 He might as well make a bag on it. Period. 0:49:21.360 --> 0:49:24.799 Anyway, ladies, do you all have a horror story that 0:49:24.880 --> 0:49:28.719 you can share for our audience. 0:49:34.000 --> 0:49:34.719 Stories? 0:49:38.360 --> 0:49:42.520 Oh, I kind of, I kind of got one. I 0:49:42.560 --> 0:49:45.799 know Halloween is coming up, right, Yeah. 0:49:45.280 --> 0:49:46.719 We love Halloween over here. 0:49:46.880 --> 0:49:47.719 So I think like. 0:49:49.440 --> 0:49:53.320 A nigga's dead cousin, like watched us have sex one? 0:49:54.239 --> 0:49:57.120 Why the cousin? How you know was the cousin? Like specifically? 0:49:57.920 --> 0:50:00.879 Okay, so me and Mina's guy, we are still really 0:50:00.920 --> 0:50:01.720 really good friends. 0:50:01.800 --> 0:50:02.000 Right. 0:50:02.840 --> 0:50:05.520 This is a long ass time ago, but this shit 0:50:05.600 --> 0:50:09.440 happened in real time, in real fucking life. His cousin 0:50:09.480 --> 0:50:13.120 committed suicide, all right. I know that it's kind of dark, 0:50:13.200 --> 0:50:16.480 right quick, right? His cousin committed suicide, like within the 0:50:16.520 --> 0:50:20.120 same year I met him and we were having some 0:50:20.160 --> 0:50:24.440 super nasty sex one night and like you know, carpet 0:50:24.480 --> 0:50:26.600 doors are not supposed to swing on carpet. 0:50:28.640 --> 0:50:29.640 Carpet's high enough. 0:50:30.320 --> 0:50:35.879 The fucking door just opened while we were having sex. 0:50:35.960 --> 0:50:37.320 Nobody else in the house. 0:50:37.760 --> 0:50:39.040 Did the cousin live in this house? 0:50:40.040 --> 0:50:42.480 No, but they were like, you know, best friend cousins, 0:50:42.520 --> 0:50:46.120 first best friends. Yeah, and he passed away, Like he 0:50:46.160 --> 0:50:48.480 didn't just pass away, He actually committed suicide. 0:50:49.000 --> 0:50:50.400 Did I say that? Yes? 0:50:50.680 --> 0:50:52.320 Yeah, yeah, he committed suicide. 0:50:52.480 --> 0:50:55.240 And you know, usually when they say people commit suicide, 0:50:55.239 --> 0:50:57.200 they have like some maybe some unfinished shit. They might 0:50:57.239 --> 0:51:01.080 still be around. I don't know, but he definitely was 0:51:01.080 --> 0:51:03.680 watching me suck that dick. Okay, because I. 0:51:03.880 --> 0:51:06.200 Died, this door open like that? 0:51:06.480 --> 0:51:06.839 Did y'all? 0:51:08.080 --> 0:51:10.920 Absolutely, I'm not afraid of ghost Like, just touch me, 0:51:14.440 --> 0:51:17.279 Mike could have given me some platorial stimulation while I'm 0:51:17.280 --> 0:51:17.839 sucking the dick. 0:51:19.200 --> 0:51:22.239 Now, Now you had a Now you had a fucking mms. 0:51:22.239 --> 0:51:26.400 The ghost cousins once once one was a ghost, but 0:51:26.680 --> 0:51:32.799 it was still too I felt it a j I 0:51:32.840 --> 0:51:34.640 just want to know how you knew it could have 0:51:34.640 --> 0:51:37.480 been any ghost, but why specifically had to be the cousin. 0:51:37.840 --> 0:51:39.440 He was there and I kept second the dick. 0:51:39.520 --> 0:51:41.759 Yeah, I just feel like I just feel like that's 0:51:41.760 --> 0:51:44.720 who it was, because who else, Like there was nobody 0:51:44.760 --> 0:51:46.960 else like that was close to him. 0:51:47.080 --> 0:51:50.320 That his grandma, the baby. 0:51:50.840 --> 0:51:58.000 I'm like, you gotta like boa, you guys are faking silly. 0:51:58.080 --> 0:52:02.839 Okay, not aj picking whichever dead relative she thinks it is. 0:52:04.080 --> 0:52:05.560 They all been. 0:52:05.400 --> 0:52:07.560 A nigga and not his grandma. Like, I don't want 0:52:07.600 --> 0:52:09.360 nobody grandma watching me get fucked. 0:52:09.760 --> 0:52:11.320 It would be a nigga. It would be your cousin 0:52:11.360 --> 0:52:13.240 trying to peep in the door and see what's popping, 0:52:13.360 --> 0:52:18.200 you know, And also, you know, sexy sex energy I 0:52:18.200 --> 0:52:20.440 think makes the veil thin. I feel like you go 0:52:20.520 --> 0:52:23.279 in between, you go in between dimensions when you're having 0:52:23.280 --> 0:52:28.560 sex because you're going somewhere else so that you know what, 0:52:28.800 --> 0:52:32.480 that's the best Halloween horry we've had thus far. Okay, 0:52:32.719 --> 0:52:35.200 no I have I think I have one, or like. 0:52:39.880 --> 0:52:43.720 You have one, I do. I don't know if it's 0:52:43.800 --> 0:52:47.040 all all right. It was scary for me. I was 0:52:47.360 --> 0:52:53.399 having sex with my partner at the time in the mirror, right, 0:52:54.040 --> 0:52:56.640 and we were staring at each other in the mirror, 0:52:56.880 --> 0:52:59.000 and it was dark, right, but we could still see 0:52:59.000 --> 0:53:02.839 each other's face in the mirror, and I swear it 0:53:02.960 --> 0:53:09.080 just felt like something else joined us for he felt it, 0:53:09.080 --> 0:53:12.840 and he felt it too. He felt it and it 0:53:13.000 --> 0:53:18.160 just felt like dark you know, like a darkness joined 0:53:18.200 --> 0:53:20.600 us for a second while we were staring at each 0:53:20.640 --> 0:53:21.560 other in this mirror. 0:53:21.680 --> 0:53:24.240 It was that Nigga did his face change. 0:53:24.640 --> 0:53:27.359 I don't, I don't know. It didn't seem like his 0:53:27.480 --> 0:53:31.320 face changed, but he was smiling and like the grin 0:53:31.520 --> 0:53:34.840 just seemed it just felt like and he felt it. 0:53:34.880 --> 0:53:36.520 I was like, did you feel that? And He's like 0:53:36.560 --> 0:53:41.319 I did, like and we stopped and then went out 0:53:41.320 --> 0:53:42.839 there into the room. 0:53:43.000 --> 0:53:45.920 He didn't even stop when the ghost cousin came in. 0:53:46.000 --> 0:53:47.840 You knew it was bad when you stopped in the 0:53:47.880 --> 0:53:49.120 middle of this race. 0:53:49.160 --> 0:53:51.480 So when I think about marror, I think about scribes 0:53:51.520 --> 0:53:54.000 and stuff like that like that, because you know, when 0:53:54.000 --> 0:53:56.080 you do marror work, that's that's what it's about, Like 0:53:56.120 --> 0:53:58.080 you trying to you could see things. 0:53:58.160 --> 0:54:00.600 So that ship you put. 0:54:02.320 --> 0:54:03.920 A scribe is like a crystal ball. 0:54:05.640 --> 0:54:08.160 Or like people use like glass bowls and look into 0:54:08.239 --> 0:54:10.240 the water like you're looking, Yeah. 0:54:10.080 --> 0:54:11.600 You're looking into like portals. 0:54:12.200 --> 0:54:16.000 Mm hmm. Girl, Oh, Mara and mirrors are portals. Girl. 0:54:16.160 --> 0:54:20.120 Yeah, no, you have your careful facing. That's so funny. 0:54:20.360 --> 0:54:23.040 That was the last night my daughter I noticed her mirror. 0:54:23.120 --> 0:54:24.600 She had moved it and was facing her bed, and 0:54:24.840 --> 0:54:26.040 before I went out of her room, I. 0:54:26.120 --> 0:54:29.600 Was like, let me just move this. Yeah, I have 0:54:29.719 --> 0:54:31.719 a mirror in front of my bed. And sometimes I'm 0:54:31.760 --> 0:54:34.040 having like really freaky sacks. I'm like, maybe we need 0:54:34.120 --> 0:54:35.640 to cover this. I don't want nothing. I don't know 0:54:35.680 --> 0:54:38.520 what's coming through here with these we're dirty talk, but 0:54:38.640 --> 0:54:40.680 we did. I put I put a symbol on it, 0:54:40.760 --> 0:54:42.080 but I hate erase it because I was cleaning the 0:54:42.120 --> 0:54:43.480 mirror and I'm like, we're going to put that ship 0:54:43.560 --> 0:54:57.520 back on it. It go cuks go cook. 0:54:59.680 --> 0:55:03.520 Oh, oh my god, weird dark. Well on that note, 0:55:03.520 --> 0:55:04.560 I think it's time. 0:55:10.160 --> 0:55:16.000 Do better. Oh my god. That casts where the friendly ghost? 0:55:16.160 --> 0:55:16.760 Oh my goodness. 0:55:16.760 --> 0:55:18.040 What are the tarot cards saying? 0:55:18.800 --> 0:55:30.239 Okay, Well, when I was shuffling, the seven of Pentacles 0:55:30.320 --> 0:55:36.200 came out. So the seven of seven of Pentacles. The 0:55:36.280 --> 0:55:39.000 seven Pentacles shows you understand the value of putting in 0:55:39.120 --> 0:55:42.239 time and energy now for longer term rewards, and have 0:55:42.360 --> 0:55:45.800 a strong desire to invest in sustainable results. You're not 0:55:45.920 --> 0:55:48.560 looking for quick wins. You also want to make sure 0:55:48.560 --> 0:55:50.800 you're putting your attention on the right areas instead of 0:55:50.880 --> 0:55:53.800 wasting time and effort on tasks that will no longer 0:55:54.320 --> 0:55:57.400 that will not deliver any value. When this card happens 0:55:57.840 --> 0:56:00.480 appears in the Tara reading, see it as an to 0:56:00.520 --> 0:56:02.960 step back from the day to day operations and look 0:56:03.000 --> 0:56:05.440 at the bigger picture. Celebrate what you have created and 0:56:05.480 --> 0:56:08.279 assess your progress so far. Are you on track? Are 0:56:08.320 --> 0:56:10.920 you focused on the right task for your goal? And 0:56:11.000 --> 0:56:12.920 if you're planning for your future? Of the Seven of 0:56:13.000 --> 0:56:15.719 Pentacles encourages you to take a long term view and 0:56:15.880 --> 0:56:18.840 assess where you can best invest your time and energy 0:56:19.320 --> 0:56:22.080 for the maximum output. You do not want to keep 0:56:22.120 --> 0:56:24.680 putting your heart and soul into something if you won't 0:56:24.719 --> 0:56:27.520 reap the rewards for your work. And you have an 0:56:27.600 --> 0:56:29.920 unconditional scene that most some areas in your life are 0:56:30.000 --> 0:56:30.840 just energy. 0:56:30.640 --> 0:56:38.160 Sappers receive that message interesting, we want long term success. 0:56:39.560 --> 0:56:41.239 You do not want to keep putting your heart and 0:56:41.320 --> 0:56:43.680 soul into something if you won't reap the rewards for 0:56:43.760 --> 0:56:47.800 your work. And you have undoubtedly seen that some areas 0:56:47.840 --> 0:56:49.720 in your life are just energy sappers. 0:56:50.440 --> 0:56:53.320 Yeah, that's crazy. 0:56:55.280 --> 0:56:55.839 Should work. 0:56:58.840 --> 0:56:59.879 I hate We're real, man. 0:57:01.120 --> 0:57:03.239 Thank you guys for joining us. This is really fun. 0:57:03.360 --> 0:57:04.239 This was fun. 0:57:05.000 --> 0:57:07.680 Way before you leave. Do you have an affirmation that 0:57:07.800 --> 0:57:08.399 you can share? 0:57:09.200 --> 0:57:12.000 My favorite daily affirmation. From the time I wake up 0:57:12.040 --> 0:57:13.960 and my feet hit the floor, I start saying thank you. 0:57:14.080 --> 0:57:15.799 So I probably say thank you bout one hundred times 0:57:15.840 --> 0:57:21.600 a day. But health, happiness, love, success, posterity, and money. 0:57:22.520 --> 0:57:25.800 I meditate on that even when I'm fucking like just always. 0:57:27.600 --> 0:57:28.400 That's my affirmation. 0:57:29.080 --> 0:57:29.840 So I have everything? 0:57:31.040 --> 0:57:32.040 Okay, all right? 0:57:32.200 --> 0:57:36.120 It's my blackness is sacred, powerful and worthy of celebration. 0:57:36.760 --> 0:57:39.080 I honor my roots and the legacy of those who 0:57:39.160 --> 0:57:42.520 came before me. I released the need to shrink. My 0:57:42.640 --> 0:57:44.000 presence is a gift. 0:57:47.520 --> 0:57:48.320 What are the girls doing? 0:57:48.800 --> 0:57:49.240 Clockt? 0:57:50.080 --> 0:57:52.320 Is that how you call it? Clock it? Clock it? 0:57:54.360 --> 0:57:55.240 That's what my daughter does. 0:57:56.320 --> 0:57:56.600 Whatever. 0:57:58.600 --> 0:57:59.720 Oh they'd be doing like this too. 0:58:00.360 --> 0:58:07.000 Oh yeah, does that mean the same thing. Whatever. 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I was telling I was 0:59:53.160 --> 0:59:54.720 telling Aj and Tam they need to bring their ass. 0:59:55.440 --> 0:59:57.440 It is that shit is here bomb. 0:59:57.880 --> 1:00:00.600 When I tell you, like I'm coming here, I'm proud 1:00:00.640 --> 1:00:03.600 of us, I was like, we did this. Okay, it's 1:00:03.680 --> 1:00:06.000 ocean front. All the rooms are ocean front. The food 1:00:06.160 --> 1:00:10.320 is bomb and if you like to smoke cannabis, let 1:00:10.400 --> 1:00:12.479 me tell you, I've never been higher in my life. 1:00:12.880 --> 1:00:15.320 It's a lot of cannabis. It was very care free 1:00:15.400 --> 1:00:19.800 with a very care free four twenty Jamaican time, made 1:00:19.840 --> 1:00:22.880 a really good time and the property makes you feel 1:00:22.880 --> 1:00:25.320 like you're on like a dating show on a love island, 1:00:25.400 --> 1:00:28.520 but like it's no niggas. It's just healthy women frolicking. 1:00:28.680 --> 1:00:30.880 But the house looks like there should be a cameras 1:00:32.120 --> 1:00:32.600 well that we do. 1:00:33.000 --> 1:00:35.160 We do have male greeters. We always have male greets 1:00:35.200 --> 1:00:37.919 at our retreats. And let me the niggas that showed 1:00:38.000 --> 1:00:40.400 up for the Jamaica retreat greets. You might have seen 1:00:40.400 --> 1:00:44.200 the niggas in Costa Rica. Okay, they're fine. Jamaica fine, fine. 1:00:44.760 --> 1:00:48.280 The ones at Jamaica they are whoa. The Jamaicans are 1:00:48.320 --> 1:00:51.880 doing it different. Okay, they're ready. They are doing body 1:00:52.000 --> 1:00:54.800 rolls and all types of sheep. So if you don't 1:00:54.800 --> 1:00:56.160 want to come for us, at least come for that. 1:00:56.440 --> 1:00:57.960 We might need to insert the body roll. 1:00:58.760 --> 1:01:02.040 I'm I'm actually knowing Orlando. Run the clip right here. 1:01:05.320 --> 1:01:06.760 Gift to go on on YouTube to see it because 1:01:06.800 --> 1:01:09.840 it's worth it. But anyway, we love you and we'll 1:01:09.880 --> 1:01:10.560 see you next week. 1:01:11.200 --> 1:01:12.240 By Banks. 1:01:14.720 --> 1:01:17.840 Yeah, I'm living so good. Can't you tell? I went 1:01:17.960 --> 1:01:20.080 through a drought. That's until I found out well may 1:01:20.200 --> 1:01:21.160 might have been known urch. 1:01:21.280 --> 1:01:23.480 I used to be broken till now I got the blues, 1:01:23.560 --> 1:01:26.760 dancing like Beyonce Jazell throat shot from pop and it's 1:01:26.840 --> 1:01:29.320 power in our voice. Just patriarchy kept it in the 1:01:29.440 --> 1:01:32.160 box to explore this. Women put the pee in power, 1:01:32.320 --> 1:01:34.320 so it's pointless. They want me to be good, so 1:01:34.480 --> 1:01:35.760 I make bad choices. 1:01:35.920 --> 1:01:38.400 Bab mom not a bad mom, but a bad mom. 1:01:38.480 --> 1:01:41.479 Gitter's in on for cannabus in their bath, bomb washed 1:01:41.560 --> 1:01:44.600 in Boston's capting. I blewis cat boss hot dog. Now 1:01:44.680 --> 1:01:47.320 I'm a mute to the cat calls being no. Waisted 1:01:47.360 --> 1:01:49.760 straight to it like a dollar sign, Mother, Ren the lover, 1:01:49.880 --> 1:01:52.000 when so what? It's like a water sign where you're Ren. 1:01:52.080 --> 1:01:54.080 The winter resentual will win the summer sign. 1:01:54.280 --> 1:01:56.040 I do what all ain't no one. I need to 1:01:56.120 --> 1:01:56.640 run it by