Speaker 1: Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife.
Speaker 1: She cleaned, cared for her children and the man of
Speaker 1: the house, and of course she didn't talk back. She
Speaker 1: was both obedient and soft by nature. She was a
Speaker 1: good woman who always made good choices.
Speaker 2: Shared that shit off, we're good Mom's bad choices. Who's
Speaker 2: single mom?
Speaker 3: Who said?
Speaker 2: But the patriarchy shared all their bad choices?
Speaker 3: Sound out they were so bad after all, we're experts.
Speaker 2: Overchairs and your new vesties.
Speaker 4: Sit back and enjoy the ride, can bat Hello and
Speaker 4: welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and
Speaker 4: I'm Mila, and it's Wednesday, bitches, what did it do?
Speaker 4: Happy Hemp Day, Happy hump Day. Today, you guys, we
Speaker 4: have a very special episode. You know, we signed to
Speaker 4: Black Effects a year ago. That's almost our year anniversary,
Speaker 4: and I don't think we've ever collabed with anyone on
Speaker 4: the network yet.
Speaker 3: So this episode, have we no right?
Speaker 2: I guess not. You know half of decisions decisions that
Speaker 2: we had Mandy on. But this is the first this
Speaker 2: is the first time finale.
Speaker 4: And this has been a long time in the making,
Speaker 4: so I'm really really excited to welcome to the show
Speaker 4: AJ and Tammy of We Talk Back podcast and our
Speaker 4: fellow Black Effect network cousins, You're a Girl.
Speaker 2: It makes sense that we would we would start our
Speaker 2: debut of linking up with our Black Effect cousins with
Speaker 2: another female led bessie podcast like Buttter. What better podcasts
Speaker 2: should we collab with? Makes perfect cuiche for sure.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm excited.
Speaker 3: Yes, So ladies, how long ago did y'all start your show?
Speaker 6: How did fruition our anniversary is along with the network? Yeah, essentially, Yeah, we.
Speaker 5: Launched with the network. Yeah, so five years ago, me
Speaker 5: and AJ, but we we had already started like talking
Speaker 5: about being podcasters and getting the things together to start
Speaker 5: our podcast before the network. And then AJ got with
Speaker 5: Charlamagne and we got on the network. So we I
Speaker 5: think we were one of the only shows that started
Speaker 5: with the network, right, a brand.
Speaker 3: New show, origin and original show.
Speaker 6: Yes, yeah, it was then we we think, Yeah, we've
Speaker 6: been called babies, so we own that.
Speaker 5: Yes, the show before we named our show, we Talked Back,
Speaker 5: it was what was it a j oh pod?
Speaker 7: Power over Dick.
Speaker 3: Not power over jd and like, oh so a play
Speaker 3: on the word pod.
Speaker 6: Yeah, yes, and so I used tammy stomach and created
Speaker 6: like you know, like a tupac tattoo.
Speaker 3: You're like, m B, wait, y'all have this photo because
Speaker 3: I need the photo. Where's the photo?
Speaker 5: Like we had to send it to you because it
Speaker 5: was hilarious.
Speaker 2: But what happened with black fact? They're like, no, let's
Speaker 2: let's not launch the pod.
Speaker 6: Ratchet ass loved that name and I was told I
Speaker 6: was just like, what dick in the name?
Speaker 5: I don't what dick in the name? Like, I was just.
Speaker 2: It was po d It was an abbreviation of Dick.
Speaker 5: Right. Imagine like going around and saying power.
Speaker 4: Over I mean that's going to be a long that's
Speaker 4: going to be a long life of saying that over
Speaker 4: and over and over.
Speaker 3: You gotta really be committed.
Speaker 2: I mean there's some power in saying power over Dick weekly,
Speaker 2: weekly and weekly, no rights basically like these niggas right, No,
Speaker 2: I mean we're talking about like the power like pussy power,
Speaker 2: just like the power to not succumb to the dick.
Speaker 3: Like what is the what was this power? All the
Speaker 3: power everything, all the thing?
Speaker 2: What made yeah, what made you guys wanted to call
Speaker 2: it power over Dick? What was what does that mean, you.
Speaker 6: Know a lot a lot of times it's just like,
Speaker 6: you know, how you write me shit on Facebook and
Speaker 6: then like five six years later you go back and
Speaker 6: reread that. She's like, dish, what the fuck was I
Speaker 6: talking about? That's basically I don't know what I was
Speaker 6: on at the time, but yeah.
Speaker 7: It's always pod though. Okay, wait, I speaking of Facebook.
Speaker 4: I recently went way back in my Facebook, like way
Speaker 4: like original Facebook, and why was I making like and
Speaker 4: this was the thing I remember, like a lot of
Speaker 4: people were doing this. You would lead long ass video
Speaker 4: messages on people's pages, like just talking to the camera
Speaker 4: like a solo like a solo podcast. Like I have
Speaker 4: like twenty minute videos of me talking to my gay bestie.
Speaker 4: He's not even involved, it's just me. And I was
Speaker 4: like excited to be a podcaster. Yeah, I just left
Speaker 4: it on his page.
Speaker 3: I'm like, what the fuck? I don't remember.
Speaker 4: Oh, okay, girl, maybe it was just me shit, I
Speaker 4: don't know, but I was like, what, why was I
Speaker 4: leaving these long telegrams on this niggas page for everyone
Speaker 4: to see.
Speaker 2: I did not recall those videos either.
Speaker 3: I'm telling you just go back because Facebook has evolved. Okay,
Speaker 3: because I remember, I can remember.
Speaker 4: I don't know how old y'all are, but I remember
Speaker 4: when I couldn't even get on Facebook. You had to
Speaker 4: have like a college email address, and I couldn't.
Speaker 6: Yeah, basically you were older than y'all. Okay, because he
Speaker 6: definitely had college email addresses to start Facebook. Well, I
Speaker 6: mean Facebook started here freshman year.
Speaker 7: Okay.
Speaker 4: So Facebook came out like my senior year of high school.
Speaker 4: So you know, then I couldn't wait to graduate because
Speaker 4: everyone was talking about the Facebook. And I was like,
Speaker 4: oh my bitch, once I get this e dot eedu,
Speaker 4: bitch is over with.
Speaker 3: And apparently did you.
Speaker 4: I was just leaving long voicemails. I did have Black Planet,
Speaker 4: I did barely use it.
Speaker 2: But do you guys remember the party line?
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, the party Remember press nine?
Speaker 2: If you want to.
Speaker 4: Check the voicemails you had your and then you and
Speaker 4: then you go back and check your voicemail and be
Speaker 4: like random but like, hey, I'm so cute. I'm in
Speaker 4: Englewood and like like that's.
Speaker 2: Problematic as fuck. Why are we just listening to niggas voices?
Speaker 2: And like that's how you know you're a horny, Like
Speaker 2: a horny hormonal teenager.
Speaker 3: Because I was like twelve or thirteen. Oh my god,
Speaker 3: my daughter's ten. What the fuck Jesus your Christ.
Speaker 7: You know when you're ready to.
Speaker 2: Jump her, if you're gonna be a hell, you gotta
Speaker 2: get jumped in like a real point. But you know
Speaker 2: what I feel like, oh okay, like beat her up.
Speaker 2: I feel the kids are not as hormonal, Like I
Speaker 2: know they're exposed to more, but I feel like the
Speaker 2: kids are not as like we couldn't wait to get
Speaker 2: out the house to go to the movies, so you
Speaker 2: can exactly make out for their brain, their brain dew.
Speaker 2: They're not even thinking about other people. They're just thinking
Speaker 2: about playing with people online. Like they're just like that's
Speaker 2: the furthest thing from their mind. And I'm like.
Speaker 7: Perfect watching people play online.
Speaker 6: I'll never understand, like watching people play video games on
Speaker 6: YouTube instead.
Speaker 2: Of playing all right, yeah, like wrap it out, it's
Speaker 2: human time.
Speaker 3: Why should people open gifts that are not yours? Like
Speaker 3: what the fuck Globo?
Speaker 5: Or that ship where they wear the hoodies in a
Speaker 5: hundred degree weather, Like I don't understand what is that about?
Speaker 2: Like I remember doing that though I remember like I'm hot,
Speaker 2: but I'm not going to take off my sweatshirt, like
Speaker 2: I literally remember it so vivid.
Speaker 4: Body odor was too aggressive for me to be sweat
Speaker 4: through this goddamn sweat okay, bitch, like the hormones were hormoning.
Speaker 3: I could not risk it all that way.
Speaker 2: I really can do some scientific research on this, because
Speaker 2: I really specifically, I don't know if it's about like
Speaker 2: body confidence or comfortability. I feel like it's like a
Speaker 2: comfort item. That's what I think it is, something like
Speaker 2: psychologically your sweatshirt is you're covered up because I'm drived
Speaker 2: by the junior high now and I see kids and
Speaker 2: we live an it's hot as fuck and they're wearing
Speaker 2: a speadshirt, Like what the fuck? And then I remember
Speaker 2: doing that hot shit that I just don't I'm gonna
Speaker 2: have to do more scientific research.
Speaker 5: I really need to have to be some science to that,
Speaker 5: because it seems very mismo. Is it?
Speaker 2: Email stage? Yeah, there's unavoidable things as a as a
Speaker 2: like a teenager, like you're gonna go email, You're gonna
Speaker 2: maybe be hot, but keep your sweatshirt on.
Speaker 3: Wait where did y'all grow up?
Speaker 5: South Carolina? Yeah?
Speaker 3: Carols, and when did you? When did you guys become friends.
Speaker 7: So we met in college, was like, okay, we didn't.
Speaker 6: We didn't really start hanging out, hanging out till like
Speaker 6: what twenty sixteen when both.
Speaker 7: Of us are living in Charlotte, North Carolina.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but don't college and don't Yeah, we was one
Speaker 5: of them years.
Speaker 2: What college did you guys go to?
Speaker 3: Not one of them?
Speaker 5: Benedict College and gonna be side.
Speaker 2: Okay, I went to HBC too. How did you guys
Speaker 2: reconnect after not being friends in college but being at
Speaker 2: the same college.
Speaker 5: We weren't not not friends, we were friends. We just
Speaker 5: we were living in different places, you know, because you
Speaker 5: went to Saint Louis after college, right, and then came back.
Speaker 6: I went to Atlanta Saint Lewis and then back. Yeah,
Speaker 6: we just.
Speaker 5: Were in the same Charlotte. Yeah, we just happened to
Speaker 5: be in the same city again. So that's how we
Speaker 5: rekindled our friendship.
Speaker 2: And then we killed your friendship. And then he said,
Speaker 2: we're gonna do power over Decks next.
Speaker 5: So we would just be on the phone, like yeah,
Speaker 5: we would be on the phone like just for hours,
Speaker 5: just laughing and joking. And then AJ was like, we
Speaker 5: need to do a podcast. We funny.
Speaker 7: That's really wast content.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's really how it happened. And in power y'all.
Speaker 7: Talk on the phone now, Like do y'all talk on
Speaker 7: the phone often?
Speaker 5: You know?
Speaker 2: Now that you say that, it has to be like
Speaker 2: something very important that we needed to convey verse, like
Speaker 2: because usually whether we be in person or text messaging.
Speaker 2: But like I feel like it's very rare. That was
Speaker 2: like a voice call, like, hey, this is important, I
Speaker 2: got breaking news.
Speaker 6: Yeah, because I think we're to use your content on
Speaker 6: the phone, is what I write.
Speaker 2: Don't because we got to record on Wednesday.
Speaker 5: Sometimes we'll be on the phone. I feel like we'd
Speaker 5: be like, damn, we should have saved that ship for
Speaker 5: the episode because it was just too good. But you
Speaker 5: can't do as well.
Speaker 4: Just you got need to just hit the record button
Speaker 4: on your computer or just let it run while y'all
Speaker 4: it's a call AJ real quick.
Speaker 3: I know some shit's gonna pop up from here.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 3: I feel you.
Speaker 4: I feel like like talking on the phone, Like I
Speaker 4: just remember like being like young and like talking.
Speaker 3: For hours four or.
Speaker 2: Five, breathing on that motherfucker five.
Speaker 3: Mila still does that.
Speaker 4: Though you always say this, you always Tad literally would
Speaker 4: come to her house, you guys, and you would have
Speaker 4: a nigga on FaceTime and for like an hour and
Speaker 4: I would have no idea.
Speaker 3: No words were no words were being said. He was
Speaker 3: just watching her. He was watching her, and I was like, wait,
Speaker 3: someone's here.
Speaker 2: The fuck Orlando.
Speaker 4: And for her.
Speaker 3: Not making this up, I did not pull this out
Speaker 3: of my ass. This is a phone.
Speaker 4: This is a fact back fact. No, no, just said
Speaker 4: it's beautiful. It's very nostalgic.
Speaker 2: I don't like being on the phone. I really actually
Speaker 2: hate it. Actually recently actually is like, I know you
Speaker 2: hate the phone. That's why I don't really call you
Speaker 2: that much. I'm like, really, thank you for for seeing
Speaker 2: me and respecting me. Orlando just he would force me
Speaker 2: to be on the phone, and he's like, you don't
Speaker 2: want you want to hang up? You don't want to
Speaker 2: you want to hang up now. I'm like, yes, nigga,
Speaker 2: you're gonna be home in two hours. We lived together
Speaker 2: to talk about No, for.
Speaker 7: Real, if we live together, I'm not talking to you
Speaker 7: during the day. I'm talk to me.
Speaker 6: Get home. Like, literally, I don't give a fuck. Don't
Speaker 6: call my phone and I'm not calling you as I
Speaker 6: don't give a fuck. Where are you at, I'll see
Speaker 6: you need you to hear.
Speaker 5: Let me tell you something I talk about. I FaceTime everybody.
Speaker 5: I don't call anyone.
Speaker 3: Well you're one of those.
Speaker 5: Oh you're one of them girl, everybody I don't call.
Speaker 2: Oh no, weird?
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I need you to book an appointment, bitch, Like, what.
Speaker 3: Are you talking about? Hold on, I don't know where
Speaker 3: I'm atter, what I'm doing?
Speaker 2: Hello, this is going on in the world. I can't
Speaker 2: also focus on a FaceTime certain people.
Speaker 3: I don't give a fuck if they FaceTime me.
Speaker 4: But if we don't talk very often and I pop
Speaker 4: up with the FaceTime from you, I'm gonna be like,
Speaker 4: what's is?
Speaker 3: What's happening?
Speaker 5: What's that's?
Speaker 3: Where? Is there an emergency?
Speaker 5: Like I wouldn't just like when we were setting up
Speaker 5: the show. I wouldn't just be like, oh, let me
Speaker 5: just FaceTime Erica like that would have been weird.
Speaker 3: You want to FaceTime me, Tammy?
Speaker 2: What are you doing over there? Taking so long?
Speaker 7: What is going on?
Speaker 2: Show? Show me the setup? Let me let me see
Speaker 2: where you're running behind, bitch.
Speaker 6: That's why it took me so long to even get
Speaker 6: an iPhone because I just felt like iPhone people just
Speaker 6: want to be fucking nosy, like they just want to
Speaker 6: know what you're doing, and bitch, get out my business.
Speaker 7: Yeah, it's a while to get an iPhone.
Speaker 5: Anytime a man who doesn't have an iPhone, he's a cheater.
Speaker 2: No, have you seen the new technology on the iPhone
Speaker 2: where if I FaceTime, if I FaceTime Erica, she if
Speaker 2: she screens shares, there's an option for me to control
Speaker 2: the phone so she can agree. And if I'm like,
Speaker 2: if I'm a bitch and she's my nigga and I
Speaker 2: think you're doing some cheating as ship, I'll be like,
Speaker 2: give me access to your give me give me your
Speaker 2: access and then she'll say access and then I can
Speaker 2: literally go to her DMS, I can go to Instagram,
Speaker 2: I can go through it, Like what I am controlling
Speaker 2: the phone, bitch with my finger from here?
Speaker 3: Why would they do that? They're trying to get purpose.
Speaker 2: Get niggas caught up, Like that's the only That's all
Speaker 2: I could think of, was like, if I had a
Speaker 2: cheating ass nigga, I'd be like, give give me the
Speaker 2: access right now, because I'm gonna look through all your
Speaker 2: GMS and if you don't know you're cheating, fuck you.
Speaker 2: That's my practic side. Well, I can't imagine that.
Speaker 7: I like surprises. I'm not looking for ship.
Speaker 4: I don't like surprises. I'll wait, I'll wait to find
Speaker 4: out if you're cheating on me.
Speaker 2: I'm not like a dumb bitch. So I hope that
Speaker 2: you are allowing me to do so, Okay, don't make me.
Speaker 4: Jamila's the one who's forced me to go through people's phones.
Speaker 4: I'm like, you a j I'd be like, it's going,
Speaker 4: it's gonna pop up. Guy's gonna protect me no matter what.
Speaker 4: But then I'm like, I'm like, God, this could have
Speaker 4: been expedited done digging.
Speaker 2: There's a lot of Mila bashing. Okay, you saved my life.
Speaker 3: Thank god they made me go through that niggas phone.
Speaker 2: I told you because I know the signs. I was like,
Speaker 2: he looks you to your phone, go to his phone
Speaker 2: to do it. I was like, who's your phone? And
Speaker 2: he didn't find shit. Then he found some ship that
Speaker 2: made it some ship that it wasn't, and I was like,
Speaker 2: I was like, I told her, Like okay, I don't
Speaker 2: know if anyone else needs to hear this. Maybe you
Speaker 2: need tips and tricks on how to go through your
Speaker 2: niggas phone and I've retired for going through niggas phones,
Speaker 2: but I'm here to give you the tips and tricks. Okay,
Speaker 2: here are tricks.
Speaker 3: To go niggas phoned with Mila step A.
Speaker 2: If you have to go through these tips and trips,
Speaker 2: you probably need to leave them alone anyway. But number one,
Speaker 2: go out, have a great time, get him drunk, be drinking,
Speaker 2: and then you have your homegirl, okay, or somebody else
Speaker 2: in the middle of the very pop innight, like, oh shit,
Speaker 2: my phone's not working. Can I use your phone real quick?
Speaker 2: And you can either have them go in the bathroom
Speaker 2: and go haym on it because they're not thinking that
Speaker 2: your homegirl's gonna go through it for you, screenshot everything,
Speaker 2: send it to your homegirl, then delete the screenshot or
Speaker 2: air drop them, or like I told Erica, you can
Speaker 2: also get them drunk again and then say, oh wait,
Speaker 2: what's your code. I'm gonna play this song. That's what
Speaker 2: I did, totally not thinking about anything. I'm just going
Speaker 2: through the song and then you're gonna remember it with
Speaker 2: your fucking laser memory. Even if you'd to write it
Speaker 2: down in your notes really quickly, because if you smoke
Speaker 2: a lot of well, you're not gonna remember and they're
Speaker 2: gonna be mad. And then later when he's knocked out
Speaker 2: from drinking so much and you have a lot of
Speaker 2: time and he's like really deep snoring, then you really
Speaker 2: get into it, and then you make sure you process
Speaker 2: every single thing and maybe make notes so he can't
Speaker 2: confuse you when he wakes up. And then you wake
Speaker 2: him up out of his drunken slumber and say wake
Speaker 2: and he's all like disarrayed and drunk and confused, and
Speaker 2: you had a couple of flaps in there, just a
Speaker 2: extra extra get it off real quick, and then so
Speaker 2: Ha's frown out of him and say, fuck you.
Speaker 6: It has a man ever woken y'all up? After going
Speaker 6: through your cell phone.
Speaker 4: Yeah, this is this happened with this person. He woke
Speaker 4: me up out of my slumber sitting at the end
Speaker 4: of the bed like humph, I knew it. And I
Speaker 4: was like, you knew what, nigga away, what did you know?
Speaker 4: There was nothing. He was making it up. And that's
Speaker 4: when Mila was like, these are the steps, bitch. Unfortunately
Speaker 4: I did it on vacation at my one of my
Speaker 4: best friend's weddings, So you stuck.
Speaker 3: We were stuck in another country together.
Speaker 2: I didn't tell her what to do after she's found
Speaker 2: the evidence and get that.
Speaker 4: Well, then I made him call Jamila and tell her
Speaker 4: that he ain't ship. I said, call my friend and
Speaker 4: tell her you ain't shit. Tell her what you did,
Speaker 4: and he did it. I wish we could have recorded
Speaker 4: that phone, but what with who?
Speaker 2: What the fuck are you talking about? You're disgusting and
Speaker 2: you're fucking.
Speaker 5: First of all, you never ruined a vacation though.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Now we carried on after that, we we we we
Speaker 4: we we cursed each other while I cursed him out,
Speaker 4: and then we did because it was my friend's wedding
Speaker 4: was the next night, the next day, and I was like, well,
Speaker 4: what I'm not gonna do is disappear you and then
Speaker 4: make bitches feel like where the fuck did this nigga go,
Speaker 4: and like take attention away from my friend. So I
Speaker 4: just was like, listen, we're just gonna fucking act like
Speaker 4: everything's fine. And I just got really really drunk and
Speaker 4: we had a great time. And then at the very
Speaker 4: end time I did Yeah, I was on. I was thinking,
Speaker 4: I had a great time, and and then he kept
Speaker 4: trying to extend the trip because he knew like when
Speaker 4: this trip was over, this was over. And I was like, yeah,
Speaker 4: let's extend it. Come on, keeps, come on, let's go.
Speaker 4: And then we extended it like two days.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know, you're cheating on me. I know, it's
Speaker 2: make a longer, let's say, and hibernation longer. Perfect I did.
Speaker 3: I made him get a better room and everything. I mean,
Speaker 3: it was devastating. I felt like I was gonna throw
Speaker 3: up every like, you know, two hours.
Speaker 4: But but then the moment he left, like yeah, I
Speaker 4: was like, oh my god, that's when I broke down.
Speaker 3: I was like, oh yeah, I can't believe it.
Speaker 4: And then we broke up, and then we got back together
Speaker 4: like six months later, and then we broke up again,
Speaker 4: and then that was done.
Speaker 2: And that is what we call dictimatization, ladies, that's digimization.
Speaker 2: He digmatized by that dick.
Speaker 3: Power over Dick.
Speaker 4: See if I only if I had, if only I
Speaker 4: had some power over that over the dick.
Speaker 6: Of course, some political thinking political we need, we need.
Speaker 2: Like a skit like you know how like you know
Speaker 2: how Dave Chappelle had that skit white power every time
Speaker 2: every time one of your homegrows has children, Just.
Speaker 3: Dick, it was a bad choice. It was bad choices.
Speaker 4: Speaking of bad choices, we have a segment on our
Speaker 4: show called bad Choice of the Week.
Speaker 3: Do any of you ladies have any bad choices you've
Speaker 3: made this week?
Speaker 5: Bad mom? Not a bad mom, but a bad mom.
Speaker 5: So good. I'm lising I do. And I'm gonna be
Speaker 5: fully transparent with you guys about come on, going on.
Speaker 5: So I've been dealing with this whyan.
Speaker 2: We have a question before we proceed, what ages Whyan?
Speaker 2: Is it like thirty and under?
Speaker 5: Yes?
Speaker 7: I think thirty thirty? Yeah, I think like thirty two
Speaker 7: and under?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 4: Or is it or is it just like amount of
Speaker 4: years younger than you? Because if you're like, if say
Speaker 4: you're like sixty, is a y n like a forty
Speaker 4: year old?
Speaker 3: Like you know what I'm saying, Like, does it it
Speaker 3: just based on how old you are?
Speaker 5: You know?
Speaker 2: I think it's under thirty?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 5: God, God nothing young?
Speaker 2: They young?
Speaker 3: If you sixty, they young?
Speaker 4: Shitam okay, Tam, tell us you're a bad choice.
Speaker 5: They younger than you, but not for the earth. You know,
Speaker 5: they just younger than you. So this like, I've been
Speaker 5: lying to me this whole time, all right. So he
Speaker 5: said he was going on a family vacation this week, right,
Speaker 5: his mom and his dad and his sister, and all
Speaker 5: week he just was like, oh, Jamaica, I ain't got
Speaker 5: no certain servis. He couldn't talk to me on the
Speaker 5: phone at all, you guys, right, no.
Speaker 2: Service in Jamaica, nigga, you're not in Iceland exactly.
Speaker 5: This is the first time out of the country, let
Speaker 5: me just say that.
Speaker 7: So he's making his first time out of the country.
Speaker 5: He's making yes, so he's making rookie mistakes. So when
Speaker 5: he gets back, he's texting me. I started ignoring his
Speaker 5: text because boy, who you playing with? Right, So then
Speaker 5: he comes home and he's like, oh, I miss you,
Speaker 5: and I ignore him and then he's like, I made
Speaker 5: it back, not that you care. Ignore him again. So
Speaker 5: then later on I'm like, who the fuck you was with?
Speaker 5: And he was like what do you mean? He was like,
Speaker 5: I was like, who the fuck were you with? You
Speaker 5: told me you were with your parents and your sister,
Speaker 5: but who were you really with? He was like, I
Speaker 5: was just with family. I'm like, send me a picture
Speaker 5: of you and your family in Jamaica. Send me a picture.
Speaker 5: If you can send me a picture, I'll apologize.
Speaker 2: So y'all he said this betigue and you ai Sorah
Speaker 2: dot Bom.
Speaker 5: So the doctor gotten for a while, right, a picture
Speaker 5: comes through and it's him. No, it's not him, it's
Speaker 5: his family. And they're on a plane, like you know,
Speaker 5: like we're happy, They're about to take off somewhere. I
Speaker 5: was like, you think I'm fucking stupid. And I didn't
Speaker 5: even have no evidence of this being a lie like this.
Speaker 7: Yes, this intuition you had.
Speaker 3: All the evidence was he was he in the photo
Speaker 3: with this family, know.
Speaker 5: It was he was taking the picture, but it was
Speaker 5: his whole family on this plane. But you know, like
Speaker 5: with iPhone, if you save a picture that someone.
Speaker 3: Sends you, you can see the date everything.
Speaker 5: So it did not drop down to the bottom of
Speaker 5: So clearly this did not happen this week. This happened
Speaker 5: some other times. So then I went to my recently
Speaker 5: added photos and I scrolled up so I could see
Speaker 5: the time stamp. October fifth, twenty twenty three. Boy, who
Speaker 5: the fuck is you playing with? Who is you playing
Speaker 5: with you here.
Speaker 2: And you and you even got a lie to me, nigga,
Speaker 2: I don't give a fuck.
Speaker 5: Why are you lying? Why are you lying? I've said
Speaker 5: to this man so many times, you can tell the truth.
Speaker 5: Is still have your way. I've told him that, like,
Speaker 5: you don't have to lie. There's no reason.
Speaker 2: You'll have more of a way if you're telling the truth.
Speaker 2: I respect the real nigga more.
Speaker 5: Exactly. So, this nigga is trying to send me old
Speaker 5: pictures from twenty twenty three? Make it? First of all,
Speaker 5: does screenshot it? Then send it? Dummy? You don't send
Speaker 5: it straight FW.
Speaker 4: But even that's going to be suspicious because now it's
Speaker 4: time stamp for today, touche.
Speaker 6: You can set whatever date you want. You can set
Speaker 6: whatever date you want that day.
Speaker 4: Aj.
Speaker 3: We don't need anybody knowing this information.
Speaker 5: Okay, change yah, you can do it. But so here's
Speaker 5: the dumb part, because I'm probably go fuck with him again.
Speaker 5: I ain't.
Speaker 2: So damn the dick is that? Good?
Speaker 5: Girl?
Speaker 3: We need to exert this power, baby?
Speaker 2: Where's the power?
Speaker 3: Baby?
Speaker 5: Bitch ice for some time. I don't put him on
Speaker 5: ice for some time, but I'm probably going back.
Speaker 3: It must be good it must be good, it must
Speaker 3: be real good.
Speaker 5: It's good. But mhmm, like we were watching binge watching
Speaker 5: Stranger Things and there's a new season about to come out.
Speaker 3: Bitch, I'm something done with you.
Speaker 4: I'm so done not did need a Stranger Things buddy
Speaker 4: watching person.
Speaker 2: Girl FaceTime?
Speaker 4: I'll watch Stranger Things with you. So do you care
Speaker 4: who he was with? Do you have questions? Do you
Speaker 4: need updates to or is it just.
Speaker 5: I know exactly who he was with, so bem was.
Speaker 3: Hey or like a former girlfriend or what baby mama?
Speaker 2: Does he live with her?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 2: Okay, he's trying to get his family back tam damn.
Speaker 5: And I'm trying to see what happens to eleven okay.
Speaker 2: So okay, well I hope it comes back before November.
Speaker 3: What happens to eleven two? Okay?
Speaker 4: I'm invested in Stranger Things also, Okay, So if it
Speaker 4: doesn't work out, bitch, you can FaceTime me, we can
Speaker 4: watch it together.
Speaker 5: Okay.
Speaker 2: I mean honest, honestly, I feel like if you're aware
Speaker 2: of your like stupid bitchness, Like if you're making an aware,
Speaker 2: this informed decision, you're not like he's gonna be my
Speaker 2: husband and he's gonna leave his baby mama and we're
Speaker 2: gonna run off and have a twenty nine year old baby. Like,
Speaker 2: it don't really matters. So as long as like the
Speaker 2: bad choice is conscious and you're not like hurting yourself
Speaker 2: in the process. I feel like, if you want to
Speaker 2: go get the dick and also say tell him you're stupid,
Speaker 2: I still have the upper hand.
Speaker 5: I do it, perious, Perioeah, well that's not bad for
Speaker 5: this week. You got one agent. Don't leave me out
Speaker 5: here by.
Speaker 7: I don't like, I don't have a bad I mean
Speaker 7: you can't.
Speaker 4: That's a really hard one to to outdo.
Speaker 2: I hope his baby mama. I hope his baby mama
Speaker 2: doesn't listen to these podcasts because she's gonna be She's
Speaker 2: gonna know the other side of the story.
Speaker 7: Now right right, we were just in Jamaica.
Speaker 2: I'm just in Jamain love Stranger Things, right?
Speaker 7: You talking to me about this Stranger Thing?
Speaker 2: Shit? You've been watching it lately, haven't you? What a
Speaker 2: geek bitch A bitch named Tam.
Speaker 5: Not a geek bitch. AJ.
Speaker 7: I like Stranger Things too?
Speaker 2: AJ. Are you dating? Like I do you have a boyfriend?
Speaker 2: What your love life?
Speaker 5: Like I do.
Speaker 6: Look, and this is why I said Whyians are thirty
Speaker 6: two and under, because this nigga is thirty three.
Speaker 4: Their own ass man. Okay, he's in his Jesus year. Okay,
Speaker 4: he doesn't exactly delivered. Okay, the year the Lord.
Speaker 6: Okay, it's a good number. So yeah, I'm in a relationship, Chab,
Speaker 6: I'd be in and out.
Speaker 7: Sticking and moving.
Speaker 5: So I got out on one.
Speaker 2: Yes, how long have you guys been together?
Speaker 4: Because she seems kind of surprised, I know, not your
Speaker 4: best friend, not having the update hold on, seems.
Speaker 2: Like this is her first time she's heard this, this news.
Speaker 5: But let me let me just before she answers, I listen.
Speaker 5: I admire AJ so much for how she This girl
Speaker 5: is gonna have a man. Okay, she is gonna have
Speaker 5: I've been like single, single for almost ten years. She's
Speaker 5: had she will have her a man. That's my man,
Speaker 5: My man, my man. I'm like, damn, it's a man.
Speaker 2: Well, this is how long do your relationships usually last? AJ?
Speaker 7: Okay, so the last and the last ten years?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 6: I have had two serious relationships, one engaged and then
Speaker 6: the other one has been a relationship since I was eighteen.
Speaker 6: Basically that I ended this year. The guy who I'm
Speaker 6: dating now, we just started dating in July and our
Speaker 6: first date was in Puerto Rico, Like we met up
Speaker 6: in Puerto Rico. That was my first time seeing him.
Speaker 4: So yeah, it was like it was like through just
Speaker 4: like Instagram or social media or something like that.
Speaker 6: Yeah, he had been in my DM since like twenty
Speaker 6: twenty one. So sorry to the exes who was listening
Speaker 6: to this. Yes, I do be fratenizing, get a little bit.
Speaker 8: Okay, So yeah, just in the case, just a little
Speaker 8: bit working on that, right because I know that me
Speaker 8: fratenizing has always been like a problem in relationships.
Speaker 4: But I feel like everybody do it. I'm just on
Speaker 4: you begetting a girl. Don't be putting off all of
Speaker 4: this category bitch.
Speaker 6: So is initiate to fratenizing, but I'll participate, Okay, Like
Speaker 6: I don't initiate, but I will participate. Right, So somebody
Speaker 6: like hit me up, maybe not tech like damn ship, Like, yeah,
Speaker 6: I'm gonna flirt back a little bit.
Speaker 7: Might leave you on red for a little.
Speaker 3: Bit, but yeah, I like to are you gonna pick
Speaker 3: up the phone and make a phone call?
Speaker 7: I really know or if I even if I know
Speaker 7: I have, like I have had.
Speaker 6: A couple of people in over the years that I
Speaker 6: will act like I'm gonna do some ship and it
Speaker 6: just I just never smoke through. I just like to
Speaker 6: talk about it.
Speaker 2: But you're like a fake ho. That's what I call it.
Speaker 2: Fake ho. Like you might like pretend like you're gonna
Speaker 2: do it like a girl and then you'll never act
Speaker 2: on it.
Speaker 5: Just practicing.
Speaker 7: I see if I still got it a little bit,
Speaker 7: you stille. No, I've been working on and off for
Speaker 7: I have not been fratnizing.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I have not been your podcast. Yes, you do
Speaker 6: listen to the podcast.
Speaker 2: Have you guys ever dated a man who didn't listen
Speaker 2: to the podcast that knows you have a podcast?
Speaker 3: Souse?
Speaker 2: I feel like it's like leaving a fucking cake on
Speaker 2: a table and a baby next to it, like, okay,
Speaker 2: here's all my business. Don't push play man we first
Speaker 2: started back.
Speaker 5: I don't feel like you guys listen to this soil.
Speaker 2: So a j Where is your You're not why?
Speaker 6: I am from Jersey, chah okay.
Speaker 2: But you're in North Carolina or South Carolina.
Speaker 7: South Carolina, Charleston, South Carolina.
Speaker 2: How would you say dating, Like, how is your experience
Speaker 2: in dating down south? I feel like down south there's
Speaker 2: like more gentlemen Like that sounds like there's gonna be
Speaker 2: a wholesome men ready to be husbands and like in
Speaker 2: South Carolina.
Speaker 6: I mean most of the people who I have been
Speaker 6: in relationships with have been from the South, and it'd
Speaker 6: be some bullshit for real, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 6: They might they might take care of you, but they
Speaker 6: definitely still be on some bullshit.
Speaker 4: I think you're negotiables, Like what are you? Non negotiables
Speaker 4: and relationships both y'all.
Speaker 5: Are non negotiable.
Speaker 7: Mus should be changing.
Speaker 2: That's you cannot.
Speaker 7: It depends like you cannot.
Speaker 6: Like what I realized because of my last relationship is
Speaker 6: that in order to cohabitate with somebody like, y'all really
Speaker 6: have to be aligned when it comes to like cleanliness
Speaker 6: right and cleaning up behind yourself. Because I feel like
Speaker 6: I'm trying to figure out, like how niggas keep their
Speaker 6: ship when they bodyself you know. Well, but I've been
Speaker 6: to some men some men's house and it was like neat,
Speaker 6: nice whatever. But it's almost like when they live with you,
Speaker 6: they expect you to clean up after them, like when
Speaker 6: y'all live together, well, it's last lived with somebody.
Speaker 7: Oh this year, oh this year.
Speaker 6: Yeah, so yeah, like you gotta be evenly yoked when
Speaker 6: it comes.
Speaker 3: To like they.
Speaker 2: Moved out and they've moved on. He has a new
Speaker 2: she has a new book. Nigga. I want to I
Speaker 2: want to say strongly as strong I strongly agree because
Speaker 2: I just recently went out of town for like six days.
Speaker 2: And when I say, Orlando did not, it was it
Speaker 2: was almost a test, like you know, you're rushing and
Speaker 2: you're leaving out the door, like I had like dropped
Speaker 2: a jacket, like at a scarf on the floor. When
Speaker 2: I say, I came back and the scarf and the
Speaker 2: bag were in the middle of the floor, like it
Speaker 2: would take more effort to step over than to pick
Speaker 2: it up. I was like, yo, my nigga, like you
Speaker 2: don't see my jacket, Like, oh, it's yours and it's
Speaker 2: your house.
Speaker 7: Right, and how often do I clean up after you?
Speaker 2: It looked almost identical. It looked like I had just
Speaker 2: left the house to the airport. I was I couldn't
Speaker 2: believe that he had been living here for six days
Speaker 2: and just totally oblivious of the shit. And he's like,
Speaker 2: you know, I'll working at a job and you can't
Speaker 2: tell him shit, you know, not work at twelve hour day.
Speaker 2: I said, Nigga, that doesn't mean shit. You still have
Speaker 2: to put shit away. And then I had like an
Speaker 2: organizer come today and he messaged me. He's like, I
Speaker 2: think having help with the organization and cleaning is going
Speaker 2: to save our marriage. And I said absolutely, because I
Speaker 2: literally was thinking about, like maybe I didn't get my
Speaker 2: own apartment because what the fucker you're talking about for
Speaker 2: six days? You stepped over the same goddamn jacket. So yes,
Speaker 2: I totally understand.
Speaker 6: I think, yeah, I'm for like even like when I
Speaker 6: buy a home and I'm living with my husband or
Speaker 6: whoever whatever, I need my own room and I need
Speaker 6: my own fucking bathroom, Like yeah, that shit is oval.
Speaker 7: I need my own space in order for the shit
Speaker 7: to work.
Speaker 2: Good.
Speaker 7: This nia live out of town, But yeah, what about you, Tom?
Speaker 5: So honestly, I'm struggling. I'm working on setting because I
Speaker 5: set firm boundaries, right, but then when I like somebody
Speaker 5: or I love them, I start living outside of those
Speaker 5: boundaries to coexist with this person. So in my next relationship.
Speaker 5: I'm going to try to stay in that box and
Speaker 5: not fold for whoever I'm So that's why I say
Speaker 5: it depends because that's something I that's not my strong suit.
Speaker 5: I'm a cancer, and I just feel like we just
Speaker 5: turn into a mush when we love somebody. So that's
Speaker 5: my honest answer.
Speaker 3: What's your sign?
Speaker 7: A j Gemini? Oh?
Speaker 3: Jemini?
Speaker 2: On your birthdays?
Speaker 7: June eighth, in July sixteenth?
Speaker 5: Okay, what about y'all?
Speaker 7: What's y'all you cancer?
Speaker 2: I'm a cancer.
Speaker 3: I'm a scorpio.
Speaker 5: What what's your birthday is?
Speaker 3: October twenty fifth?
Speaker 5: Oh, you got a birthday coming up in a few minutes.
Speaker 4: I do, I do. I'm getting that plan wiser. That's
Speaker 4: what I'm gonna sart to say. I'm not getting older,
Speaker 4: I'm getting wiser. I'm going at the bay as of now,
Speaker 4: I'm going to the Bay and I'm gonna go to
Speaker 4: the forest and chill for like two days. My man
Speaker 4: and family. There's a wedding in the family on my birthday,
Speaker 4: which I was like, I've been going back and forth
Speaker 4: about because I.
Speaker 3: Get weird on my birthday.
Speaker 4: I don't know if y'all relate to this, but I've
Speaker 4: always like my around my birthday, I get like kind
Speaker 4: of depressed. I get like anxious, I like I want
Speaker 4: to do stuff, but I also want to be left alone.
Speaker 4: But then like as it nears, I get annoyed that
Speaker 4: like no one has thought of me and planned anything
Speaker 4: for me. But then also like I don't want to
Speaker 4: see any of you bitches, And then I'm like, wait,
Speaker 4: I love you please.
Speaker 2: So confusing at all?
Speaker 3: I just said it was confusing.
Speaker 4: And so last year I've shared on the podcast, I
Speaker 4: went and went into a hole an Oregon, like a literal,
Speaker 4: actual hole in the ground.
Speaker 3: I went on a darkness retreat.
Speaker 7: I saw your posts.
Speaker 4: On that, and so I was rebirthed last year out
Speaker 4: of the womb of the earth. And so I'm having
Speaker 4: a different relationship with my birthday and actually putting less
Speaker 4: emphasis I think on the birthday day. So that's why
Speaker 4: I was like, maybe I should just I'm me, just
Speaker 4: go to this wedding on my birthday.
Speaker 3: It's fine, but then part of me is do, like I.
Speaker 4: Really want to go to someone that's fucking wording on
Speaker 4: my motherfucking birthday, my motherfucking like Erica. Hey, there's other
Speaker 4: days there's other birthdays after that. So my man, his
Speaker 4: birthday is three days after mine, so we're gonna be together.
Speaker 3: So we're gonna do something after that.
Speaker 4: As of now, I'm still contemplating because I am quick
Speaker 4: to switch it up last minute, So we'll see where
Speaker 4: I land.
Speaker 2: Oh, you got about you got about ten days to
Speaker 2: switch it up.
Speaker 5: I know, well, technically you too. You were reborn last year,
Speaker 5: so technically you're turning too. Bitch. You're very youthful, exactly.
Speaker 3: Remember I'm actually younger than you, Jamala. Now I'm two.
Speaker 3: Jamila is twenty four, so I'm two.
Speaker 2: Ye got it? Damn right.
Speaker 5: What's your birthday? Me?
Speaker 2: I'm June twenty second. I'm like the first day of
Speaker 2: cancers about Yeah, answer, I'm a gemn answer, But I
Speaker 2: feel like I have more cancer traits, but only the
Speaker 2: good Gemini traits.
Speaker 6: I mean, what the fuck does that mean? All the
Speaker 6: Gemini traits are good?
Speaker 2: Well, well, you know that's arguable. You know, you guys
Speaker 2: have some thing, you know.
Speaker 6: I don't know why we get so much hate like y'all,
Speaker 6: Like you know, Gemini are the only humans.
Speaker 7: Of the zodiac.
Speaker 6: The rest of y'all bitches is like animals and signs
Speaker 6: and symbols and shit.
Speaker 2: And humans can't be trusted. History has proven that humans
Speaker 2: really can't be trusted. That's the problem, or two of them,
Speaker 2: so what the fuck?
Speaker 6: Very confusing, no mutable. See that's the difference. People like,
Speaker 6: we aren't too faced and none of that shit. We
Speaker 6: just on what you want. That's okay. That's why I
Speaker 6: way to look at it. I actually be working on
Speaker 6: not being on with other people on and not allowing
Speaker 6: other people to change my energy.
Speaker 7: I really weren't really, really really hot.
Speaker 2: I need to do better at that. That is something
Speaker 2: I am working on this year because I think as
Speaker 2: a cancer I can take on other people's energy really easily.
Speaker 2: Just as an EmPATH, I can literally be at a
Speaker 2: concert and I see like a bitch that I don't
Speaker 2: know across the fucking walkway crying and I'm like, are
Speaker 2: you okay? Like you don't even know her, leave her alone.
Speaker 2: You're having a good time, okay, bro. That's why I understand.
Speaker 5: That you cannot watch Gray's Anatomy, because I carry that
Speaker 5: ship with me all day. They'd be like, what's going
Speaker 5: to like? Somebody dras Anatomy? Like I really so? I
Speaker 5: won't watch that Extreme Home makeover. Forget about it. I'm
Speaker 5: not watching that ship.
Speaker 2: Have you Home Bankover?
Speaker 4: I cannot that that will make that will make me.
Speaker 3: That's a sad. That's sad. It's beautiful.
Speaker 4: It's beautiful at the end because these people really needed
Speaker 4: those homes.
Speaker 3: Girl, I know, I felieve you. I cry.
Speaker 5: I lost it after watching that ship.
Speaker 2: Yo, what kind of transformation on when they're homeless?
Speaker 7: Like, what do you mean they have like the most
Speaker 7: worst story.
Speaker 5: It'll be like the sad story, like my grandma lost
Speaker 5: her eye trying to help me bake a cake and
Speaker 5: now she can't see she got one, like just all
Speaker 5: the worst story and then they just get this beautiful home.
Speaker 5: Grandma get a new eye, and you just being there.
Speaker 7: Like not you go on ag TV trauma bonding.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, with some shit.
Speaker 3: I'd be crying.
Speaker 4: I'd be crying for like for like chef kids, Okay,
Speaker 4: those kids making them food.
Speaker 3: They'd be making me so proud. Girl, I'm not it's shambles.
Speaker 7: Watched too much TV?
Speaker 2: Yes, because what are you talking about?
Speaker 3: I don't watch them anymore. I had to stop because
Speaker 3: I'd be crying. I was just on the Internet.
Speaker 4: Yesterday I opened up a post without any sort of context,
Speaker 4: and it made me cry. I was like, what the
Speaker 4: Internet in general is just very like it's just violating,
Speaker 4: Like they don't even do trigger warnings no more. Okay,
Speaker 4: Like I really have to stop watching Amanda Steals' content
Speaker 4: because I'm like, bitch, like tell me before you fucking
Speaker 4: about to post this shit?
Speaker 5: Girl?
Speaker 6: Are you not love the black woman getting beat up
Speaker 6: in Jacksonville, Florida by the police.
Speaker 4: That I saw, Yes, that one, Yes, actually that was
Speaker 4: the one that made me cry. And then the same
Speaker 4: day I saw another one about this.
Speaker 3: Little girl who these little these two little.
Speaker 4: Boys like tempted her out of her out of her
Speaker 4: house and was like maybe like five or five or
Speaker 4: six and ripped her hair out in the field and
Speaker 4: did a whole.
Speaker 3: Bunch of other horrible shit. I don't even want to
Speaker 3: stay here.
Speaker 4: But like I guess the city was like trying to
Speaker 4: be like, oh, they're kids, we're not going to prosecute them.
Speaker 4: And they did horrible things to this baby. And it
Speaker 4: took like so, I mean, I guess it took social
Speaker 4: media for it to get any attention. And now things
Speaker 4: are happening. But like before they were just gonna like
Speaker 4: wrap it up and be like she's she's she lived.
Speaker 7: Pardon it was completely did.
Speaker 6: A lot of bad things eight and nine years old, though,
Speaker 6: But just imagine the things that these kids are being
Speaker 6: exposed to online that are shaping or psyche.
Speaker 7: We'll talk about social media.
Speaker 3: As adults.
Speaker 6: You get on social media, you see some happy shit,
Speaker 6: the next lives and slack.
Speaker 7: It's nice.
Speaker 3: It's on purpose.
Speaker 4: It's on purpose to numb you so that everything is like, yeah,
Speaker 4: you're watching murder and then you're watching a tutorial, and
Speaker 4: then you're watching a dance, and then you're watching another
Speaker 4: murder and then you you know, it's like it's it's insane.
Speaker 3: My daughter the other day, I'm driving.
Speaker 4: And she's like, Mommy, you're so lucky that you're born
Speaker 4: in the nineteen hundreds. And I was like, okay, yeah, I'm.
Speaker 5: Slavery life.
Speaker 4: Okay, slight shade, but whatevs. And she was like no,
Speaker 4: because like you got to experience like the two thousands,
Speaker 4: like the early two thousands, and you know, like I'll
Speaker 4: never be able to experience that. I'll never be able
Speaker 4: to like experience that time in life. And just like
Speaker 4: I'm a kid, You'll never be able to experience this time.
Speaker 4: But I kind of wish that I could have experienced
Speaker 4: that time because not everybody was on their phone all
Speaker 4: the time.
Speaker 3: And I was like, oh my god. I was like, yeah,
Speaker 3: it's true.
Speaker 4: I mean, my daughter she'd be she has a phone,
Speaker 4: and she'd be on it, not as much as like
Speaker 4: some like some like some kids I see, but but
Speaker 4: still she's she's plugged in. But just the fact that
Speaker 4: she even had that clarity, I was like, damn, you're right,
Speaker 4: And I said, yeah, you're I was like, I didn't
Speaker 4: even have social media until I was I mean I
Speaker 4: had MySpace, and I guess I had Facebook, but.
Speaker 2: Not a lot from like a like a landline.
Speaker 3: Not to capacity.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like there was my Space on my phone. Like
Speaker 4: I had to go on my Dell.
Speaker 2: P dial up and then no one could use the phone.
Speaker 2: It was like you had to schedule that shit. Remember,
Speaker 2: like you had two lines.
Speaker 6: And kids now think that when they're born they automatically
Speaker 6: get a cell phone. Like my niece one of my
Speaker 6: oldest seasons twenty seven, and she was fist that my
Speaker 6: sister was making her pay her own cell phone bill.
Speaker 6: Now I'm like, bitch, you're twenty seven.
Speaker 7: I was paying.
Speaker 6: I bought you a cell phone as a teenager. I'm
Speaker 6: twenty paying in this little girl's cell phone bill. Like
Speaker 6: you've never had to pay a cell phone bill. It
Speaker 6: doesn't come with birth, bitch.
Speaker 2: This is my birth certificate, my plan, my plan, because
Speaker 2: my birth.
Speaker 7: Certificate exactly like Girl used.
Speaker 2: To wait till she finds out about health insurance, Girl pinion.
Speaker 2: And I know we're lucky to have. Like it's such
Speaker 2: interesting that, like, yeah, like we're probably the last of
Speaker 2: the Mohicans who got to experience the full range because
Speaker 2: we're pretty indoctrinated in social media. But just in general,
Speaker 2: like dating is different. Like, you know, I was listening
Speaker 2: to one of guys' podcasts and you were talking about
Speaker 2: you were talking about, uh Cam Newton's baby mom, Jasmine
Speaker 2: Brown or whatever being a pigmy and like how she
Speaker 2: used to do like a lot of her content was
Speaker 2: about being against pigmies and just like even how that
Speaker 2: part of womanhood has shaped because we were exposed to
Speaker 2: like Kevin Samuels and sucking all the fucking fucks on
Speaker 2: the internet. You know, Like it's just interesting. Dating is
Speaker 2: even different and influenced by fucking losers on social media.
Speaker 2: And there's some time I was I would be responding
Speaker 2: to losers and then I'm like, bitch, you're a loser.
Speaker 2: If your respond to these.
Speaker 7: I just block them.
Speaker 6: Anytime somebody says some extra rue shit to me, I
Speaker 6: just block them.
Speaker 7: I own and say shit.
Speaker 5: Sometimes I engage because it's fun, the verbal sparn but
Speaker 5: I just want to, you know, have.
Speaker 3: A little practicing. See if you still got it.
Speaker 7: Yeah, it was a Friday. I got time on Friday, got.
Speaker 2: It, got a little wine in my cap.
Speaker 3: I don't do back and forth on a Wednesday. Lack
Speaker 3: me on fridayday?
Speaker 5: Right, oh god, oh my god. Just fun like to
Speaker 5: go to their page and see what's going on and
Speaker 5: then come back.
Speaker 2: There's always nothing. And then then I feel like a
Speaker 2: fucking loser. I'm like, you fucking ugly, smut bucket looking.
Speaker 5: Face the animal you need?
Speaker 2: Oh my god, Yeah it's true. I'd be like you
Speaker 2: got your fucking cock eyed bitch ass.
Speaker 5: She asked me your comments under their pictures, like, oh.
Speaker 2: Wait, and then if I have a if I have
Speaker 2: a really good comeback, I'm not going to block you,
Speaker 2: because then it's going to erase our whole conversation, and
Speaker 2: I want people to see how how I got your app.
Speaker 4: I'd be going on I'd be going on posts, and
Speaker 4: I'd be seeing NILA's comments, like on random posts like
Speaker 4: the Shade Room.
Speaker 3: I'd be like, Oh, she already did it. Thank thanks girl,
Speaker 3: she did it for me.
Speaker 2: Fuck you. Fuck you, You're stupid.
Speaker 3: Everybody needs a meal on her on their team.
Speaker 2: Okay, So somethings are so ridiculous. That's why I had
Speaker 2: to really stop engaging, because I'm like, it's actually ridiculously stupid.
Speaker 3: Girls.
Speaker 2: Fuck them people, fuck them people like you know what,
Speaker 2: this is a statistic that I made up, but I'm
Speaker 2: strongly I think like ninety eight percent if the population
Speaker 2: are losers.
Speaker 3: You see losers.
Speaker 5: Okay.
Speaker 3: I don't know why the word loser. I just automatically
Speaker 3: associate with Donald Trump.
Speaker 2: You black people. I love black people.
Speaker 6: No, I always be saying that, like if we actually
Speaker 6: were like how animals are. In a while, a lot
Speaker 6: of these niggas will die having procreative okay, because all
Speaker 6: of them are not supposed to have access to pussy.
Speaker 6: Thus the in cell community, right, they just so mad
Speaker 6: they can't fuck who they think they should be able
Speaker 6: to fuck, but a lot of them should just die
Speaker 6: without ever procreating, without ever having had sex with women.
Speaker 6: Really exercise like discipline in a real way.
Speaker 3: We have power over dick. That's a good episode.
Speaker 2: Running down and it all comes.
Speaker 3: Back to power over dick. Yes, dick and power.
Speaker 5: Snippet of this episode. Niggas is gonna be mad, like
Speaker 5: I think you should die. I think you all should
Speaker 5: die without pussy.
Speaker 3: It's women like you, it's women like you.
Speaker 2: But that's a real statement.
Speaker 3: This is why you're this is why you're single. This
Speaker 3: is why your baby mama.
Speaker 2: Don't procreate with these fucking rea like they're slow. A
Speaker 2: lot of these niggas are slow, like they literally don't
Speaker 2: have the enzymes, and so if you give them fucking
Speaker 2: egg like, it's just it's it's it's really it's keeping
Speaker 2: our popular like, it's keeping like the world intelligence low
Speaker 2: on a long term scale.
Speaker 6: And it's a different fact that the man really plays
Speaker 6: a bigger part in how the baby is going to
Speaker 6: be then the woman, like that's you. Like they talk
Speaker 6: about gay people like y'all the ones with this gay
Speaker 6: ass firm.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what you know.
Speaker 6: They always say, like black women, like we'd be bigging
Speaker 6: up the gay community, bigging up the gay men, like yes,
Speaker 6: because we're nurturing naturally, like like we are everybody come
Speaker 6: as you are, right, But this gay firm that is
Speaker 6: now an adult male came out of your ass, nigga, Like,
Speaker 6: what are we talking about?
Speaker 5: Your I don't gay spurn.
Speaker 7: Gay people will tell you it's from birth.
Speaker 6: They've been that way their whole lives, right, So yeah,
Speaker 6: I believe it is some ship because fucking why, ain't
Speaker 6: nothing but a broken eggs?
Speaker 2: Have you guys heard of ghost Face Killer's son?
Speaker 7: Yes?
Speaker 2: What?
Speaker 5: Yes?
Speaker 2: Ghost Face Killer has a son who's very gay and
Speaker 2: he's also inherited his talent now, but he's distracking him.
Speaker 3: He's distracking his dad.
Speaker 2: It's so good, actually really good.
Speaker 7: That's forever infinite.
Speaker 5: That's not sad to y'all.
Speaker 2: Reach out to him. Maybe maybe he'll come to the
Speaker 2: podcast and talk about his daddy. I don't think it's sad.
Speaker 2: I think it's a rebellious act. And I think it's
Speaker 2: I think when you have a parent like that that
Speaker 2: hasn't claimed you for who you are, and you have
Speaker 2: the audacity and the courage to talk back and use
Speaker 2: his own talent against him. I think, yeah, better than
Speaker 2: that than to heart like harbor and feel saddened. What
Speaker 2: his name? Daddy wasn't there fuck daddy and put it
Speaker 2: on the track.
Speaker 5: I think he just wants his daddy's love. That's a
Speaker 5: cry for help.
Speaker 6: Absolutely at the same time as fuck him. He might not,
Speaker 6: he might never get it.
Speaker 3: He might as well make a bag on it. Period.
Speaker 4: Anyway, ladies, do you all have a horror story that
Speaker 4: you can share for our audience.
Speaker 3: Stories?
Speaker 6: Oh, I kind of, I kind of got one. I
Speaker 6: know Halloween is coming up, right, Yeah.
Speaker 2: We love Halloween over here.
Speaker 3: So I think like.
Speaker 6: A nigga's dead cousin, like watched us have sex one?
Speaker 3: Why the cousin? How you know was the cousin? Like specifically?
Speaker 6: Okay, so me and Mina's guy, we are still really
Speaker 6: really good friends.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 6: This is a long ass time ago, but this shit
Speaker 6: happened in real time, in real fucking life. His cousin
Speaker 6: committed suicide, all right. I know that it's kind of dark,
Speaker 6: right quick, right? His cousin committed suicide, like within the
Speaker 6: same year I met him and we were having some
Speaker 6: super nasty sex one night and like you know, carpet
Speaker 6: doors are not supposed to swing on carpet.
Speaker 2: Carpet's high enough.
Speaker 7: The fucking door just opened while we were having sex.
Speaker 7: Nobody else in the house.
Speaker 3: Did the cousin live in this house?
Speaker 6: No, but they were like, you know, best friend cousins,
Speaker 6: first best friends. Yeah, and he passed away, Like he
Speaker 6: didn't just pass away, He actually committed suicide.
Speaker 2: Did I say that? Yes?
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, he committed suicide.
Speaker 6: And you know, usually when they say people commit suicide,
Speaker 6: they have like some maybe some unfinished shit. They might
Speaker 6: still be around. I don't know, but he definitely was
Speaker 6: watching me suck that dick. Okay, because I.
Speaker 7: Died, this door open like that?
Speaker 3: Did y'all?
Speaker 6: Absolutely, I'm not afraid of ghost Like, just touch me,
Speaker 6: Mike could have given me some platorial stimulation while I'm
Speaker 6: sucking the dick.
Speaker 2: Now, Now you had a Now you had a fucking mms.
Speaker 2: The ghost cousins once once one was a ghost, but
Speaker 2: it was still too I felt it a j I
Speaker 2: just want to know how you knew it could have
Speaker 2: been any ghost, but why specifically had to be the cousin.
Speaker 2: He was there and I kept second the dick.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I just feel like I just feel like that's
Speaker 6: who it was, because who else, Like there was nobody
Speaker 6: else like that was close to him.
Speaker 5: That his grandma, the baby.
Speaker 2: I'm like, you gotta like boa, you guys are faking silly.
Speaker 3: Okay, not aj picking whichever dead relative she thinks it is.
Speaker 2: They all been.
Speaker 7: A nigga and not his grandma. Like, I don't want
Speaker 7: nobody grandma watching me get fucked.
Speaker 2: It would be a nigga. It would be your cousin
Speaker 2: trying to peep in the door and see what's popping,
Speaker 2: you know, And also, you know, sexy sex energy I
Speaker 2: think makes the veil thin. I feel like you go
Speaker 2: in between, you go in between dimensions when you're having
Speaker 2: sex because you're going somewhere else so that you know what,
Speaker 2: that's the best Halloween horry we've had thus far. Okay,
Speaker 2: no I have I think I have one, or like.
Speaker 5: You have one, I do. I don't know if it's
Speaker 5: all all right. It was scary for me. I was
Speaker 5: having sex with my partner at the time in the mirror, right,
Speaker 5: and we were staring at each other in the mirror,
Speaker 5: and it was dark, right, but we could still see
Speaker 5: each other's face in the mirror, and I swear it
Speaker 5: just felt like something else joined us for he felt it,
Speaker 5: and he felt it too. He felt it and it
Speaker 5: just felt like dark you know, like a darkness joined
Speaker 5: us for a second while we were staring at each
Speaker 5: other in this mirror.
Speaker 7: It was that Nigga did his face change.
Speaker 5: I don't, I don't know. It didn't seem like his
Speaker 5: face changed, but he was smiling and like the grin
Speaker 5: just seemed it just felt like and he felt it.
Speaker 5: I was like, did you feel that? And He's like
Speaker 5: I did, like and we stopped and then went out
Speaker 5: there into the room.
Speaker 2: He didn't even stop when the ghost cousin came in.
Speaker 2: You knew it was bad when you stopped in the
Speaker 2: middle of this race.
Speaker 6: So when I think about marror, I think about scribes
Speaker 6: and stuff like that like that, because you know, when
Speaker 6: you do marror work, that's that's what it's about, Like
Speaker 6: you trying to you could see things.
Speaker 3: So that ship you put.
Speaker 5: A scribe is like a crystal ball.
Speaker 6: Or like people use like glass bowls and look into
Speaker 6: the water like you're looking, Yeah.
Speaker 2: You're looking into like portals.
Speaker 7: Mm hmm. Girl, Oh, Mara and mirrors are portals. Girl.
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, you have your careful facing. That's so funny.
Speaker 3: That was the last night my daughter I noticed her mirror.
Speaker 3: She had moved it and was facing her bed, and
Speaker 3: before I went out of her room, I.
Speaker 2: Was like, let me just move this. Yeah, I have
Speaker 2: a mirror in front of my bed. And sometimes I'm
Speaker 2: having like really freaky sacks. I'm like, maybe we need
Speaker 2: to cover this. I don't want nothing. I don't know
Speaker 2: what's coming through here with these we're dirty talk, but
Speaker 2: we did. I put I put a symbol on it,
Speaker 2: but I hate erase it because I was cleaning the
Speaker 2: mirror and I'm like, we're going to put that ship
Speaker 2: back on it. It go cuks go cook.
Speaker 3: Oh, oh my god, weird dark. Well on that note,
Speaker 3: I think it's time.
Speaker 2: Do better. Oh my god. That casts where the friendly ghost?
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness.
Speaker 3: What are the tarot cards saying?
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, when I was shuffling, the seven of Pentacles
Speaker 2: came out. So the seven of seven of Pentacles. The
Speaker 2: seven Pentacles shows you understand the value of putting in
Speaker 2: time and energy now for longer term rewards, and have
Speaker 2: a strong desire to invest in sustainable results. You're not
Speaker 2: looking for quick wins. You also want to make sure
Speaker 2: you're putting your attention on the right areas instead of
Speaker 2: wasting time and effort on tasks that will no longer
Speaker 2: that will not deliver any value. When this card happens
Speaker 2: appears in the Tara reading, see it as an to
Speaker 2: step back from the day to day operations and look
Speaker 2: at the bigger picture. Celebrate what you have created and
Speaker 2: assess your progress so far. Are you on track? Are
Speaker 2: you focused on the right task for your goal? And
Speaker 2: if you're planning for your future? Of the Seven of
Speaker 2: Pentacles encourages you to take a long term view and
Speaker 2: assess where you can best invest your time and energy
Speaker 2: for the maximum output. You do not want to keep
Speaker 2: putting your heart and soul into something if you won't
Speaker 2: reap the rewards for your work. And you have an
Speaker 2: unconditional scene that most some areas in your life are
Speaker 2: just energy.
Speaker 3: Sappers receive that message interesting, we want long term success.
Speaker 2: You do not want to keep putting your heart and
Speaker 2: soul into something if you won't reap the rewards for
Speaker 2: your work. And you have undoubtedly seen that some areas
Speaker 2: in your life are just energy sappers.
Speaker 7: Yeah, that's crazy.
Speaker 3: Should work.
Speaker 5: I hate We're real, man.
Speaker 2: Thank you guys for joining us. This is really fun.
Speaker 2: This was fun.
Speaker 3: Way before you leave. Do you have an affirmation that
Speaker 3: you can share?
Speaker 6: My favorite daily affirmation. From the time I wake up
Speaker 6: and my feet hit the floor, I start saying thank you.
Speaker 6: So I probably say thank you bout one hundred times
Speaker 6: a day. But health, happiness, love, success, posterity, and money.
Speaker 6: I meditate on that even when I'm fucking like just always.
Speaker 6: That's my affirmation.
Speaker 5: So I have everything?
Speaker 3: Okay, all right?
Speaker 5: It's my blackness is sacred, powerful and worthy of celebration.
Speaker 5: I honor my roots and the legacy of those who
Speaker 5: came before me. I released the need to shrink. My
Speaker 5: presence is a gift.
Speaker 2: What are the girls doing?
Speaker 3: Clockt?
Speaker 2: Is that how you call it? Clock it? Clock it?
Speaker 3: That's what my daughter does.
Speaker 2: Whatever.
Speaker 7: Oh they'd be doing like this too.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, does that mean the same thing. Whatever. Thank
Speaker 2: you guys for joining us, Cousins our sister podcast, and
Speaker 2: we talk back. Tell the people where they can find you.
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Speaker 3: the Good Vibe Retreat. We have announced our twenty twenty
Speaker 3: six retreats, not all of them, but there are some
Speaker 3: out specifically Jamaica.
Speaker 2: Bitch Jamaica, Jamaica.
Speaker 4: We're going back to Jamaica for four twenty. We did
Speaker 4: it last year, or we did it this year, We're
Speaker 4: doing it again in twenty twenty six. We're running that
Speaker 4: bitch back because it was a vibe.
Speaker 3: Buh. Okay, it's ocean front. I was telling I was
Speaker 3: telling Aj and Tam they need to bring their ass.
Speaker 2: It is that shit is here bomb.
Speaker 4: When I tell you, like I'm coming here, I'm proud
Speaker 4: of us, I was like, we did this. Okay, it's
Speaker 4: ocean front. All the rooms are ocean front. The food
Speaker 4: is bomb and if you like to smoke cannabis, let
Speaker 4: me tell you, I've never been higher in my life.
Speaker 2: It's a lot of cannabis. It was very care free
Speaker 2: with a very care free four twenty Jamaican time, made
Speaker 2: a really good time and the property makes you feel
Speaker 2: like you're on like a dating show on a love island,
Speaker 2: but like it's no niggas. It's just healthy women frolicking.
Speaker 2: But the house looks like there should be a cameras
Speaker 2: well that we do.
Speaker 4: We do have male greeters. We always have male greets
Speaker 4: at our retreats. And let me the niggas that showed
Speaker 4: up for the Jamaica retreat greets. You might have seen
Speaker 4: the niggas in Costa Rica. Okay, they're fine. Jamaica fine, fine.
Speaker 4: The ones at Jamaica they are whoa. The Jamaicans are
Speaker 4: doing it different. Okay, they're ready. They are doing body
Speaker 4: rolls and all types of sheep. So if you don't
Speaker 4: want to come for us, at least come for that.
Speaker 2: We might need to insert the body roll.
Speaker 3: I'm I'm actually knowing Orlando. Run the clip right here.
Speaker 4: Gift to go on on YouTube to see it because
Speaker 4: it's worth it. But anyway, we love you and we'll
Speaker 4: see you next week.
Speaker 3: By Banks.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm living so good. Can't you tell? I went
Speaker 5: through a drought. That's until I found out well may
Speaker 5: might have been known urch.
Speaker 9: I used to be broken till now I got the blues,
Speaker 9: dancing like Beyonce Jazell throat shot from pop and it's
Speaker 9: power in our voice. Just patriarchy kept it in the
Speaker 9: box to explore this. Women put the pee in power,
Speaker 9: so it's pointless. They want me to be good, so
Speaker 9: I make bad choices.
Speaker 5: Bab mom not a bad mom, but a bad mom.
Speaker 9: Gitter's in on for cannabus in their bath, bomb washed
Speaker 9: in Boston's capting. I blewis cat boss hot dog. Now
Speaker 9: I'm a mute to the cat calls being no. Waisted
Speaker 9: straight to it like a dollar sign, Mother, Ren the lover,
Speaker 9: when so what? It's like a water sign where you're Ren.
Speaker 9: The winter resentual will win the summer sign.
Speaker 5: I do what all ain't no one. I need to
Speaker 5: run it by