Speaker 1: Snoring. We have to talk about snoring. I don't know
Speaker 1: why it's a male sport. I don't know that many
Speaker 1: women that snore. I know one woman who says she snores,
Speaker 1: and I've heard people that are my friends that snore sometimes,
Speaker 1: but it's not like a general thing. And then I
Speaker 1: have friends who say that their husband's drink a lot.
Speaker 1: They drink too much wine or alcohol and then they snore,
Speaker 1: so it's related to booze. And I've had ex is
Speaker 1: that would get black out drunk and then the snoring
Speaker 1: will be worse. I don't know what the reason for
Speaker 1: the snoring related to alcohol is, so I don't know.
Speaker 1: Other people say it's because they're they're boyfriend's husbands or
Speaker 1: fiances are overweight. Um, but that also doesn't always work.
Speaker 1: Some people just snore. And do you know anyone who snores?
Speaker 1: Because if someone sn my dog sometimes snores. Biggie snores,
Speaker 1: and I just wanted to know that's snoring. I've been
Speaker 1: talking to a lot of people around here. It could
Speaker 1: drive someone crazy. What about when you're just about to
Speaker 1: fall asleep and then snoring starts, and then you're like
Speaker 1: on that snoring rhythm and it's the only thing you
Speaker 1: can think about. It's like a dripping faucet, and you
Speaker 1: expect it to come, like you expect the snoring to start.
Speaker 1: What about that? What about all the devices? A girlfriend
Speaker 1: of mine, her husband had the surgery to get rid
Speaker 1: of the snoring, and she said it didn't work. Another
Speaker 1: one of my friends said it did work. Uh. A
Speaker 1: lot of women I know sleep on couches, sleep in
Speaker 1: other beds, sleep in their kids beds. Can we talk
Speaker 1: about snoring just in general as a thing, like what
Speaker 1: is it? Why does it happen? Why is it more men? Um?
Speaker 1: Is there a cure for snoring? And what is your
Speaker 1: opinion on the reason. And someone's gonna say sleep apnea.
Speaker 1: I don't even know what that means. I've heard it
Speaker 1: so much, but it doesn't seem like it's a cure
Speaker 1: for that either. So I just want you to tell
Speaker 1: me about your experience with snoring. Do you snore? Are
Speaker 1: you in a relationship with someone that snores? Um? Are
Speaker 1: you a good sleeper? Are you a person that if
Speaker 1: you don't sleep well, it will ruin your entire day?
Speaker 1: Because I can tell you something, I'm that person. I'm
Speaker 1: that person, and I'm that person that does not ever
Speaker 1: want to take anything to sleep. I'm not a person
Speaker 1: that likes to medicate at all, so I'll drink like
Speaker 1: a glass of a half a glass of wine or vodka,
Speaker 1: and I don't I also don't want to do that.
Speaker 1: No one wants to be drinking alcoholic at night just
Speaker 1: to go to sleep. So it's an absolute ship show.
Speaker 1: Sleep as it pertains to snoring and how grouchy you
Speaker 1: get when you don't sleep. It defines my entire life.
Speaker 1: Some people don't like when they wake up and they
Speaker 1: feel bloated, or the scale says something that they don't like. Well,
Speaker 1: for me, my whole thing is about sleep. If I
Speaker 1: didn't sleep, everybody has to hear about it. My daughter
Speaker 1: and my dogs tend to get really close to me
Speaker 1: and want to like wedge me in like their bookends
Speaker 1: that are like made of boulders, and I feel suffocated
Speaker 1: and I want to just nudge everybody and and it
Speaker 1: doesn't work because when people are sleeping, they're not obviously responsive,
Speaker 1: and it makes me very very frustrated. I just get
Speaker 1: very very frustrated. I want a little bit of my space,
Speaker 1: the temperature, I just like it to be chilly. I
Speaker 1: like it to be chilly. They say it optimum temperature
Speaker 1: is I think it's like sixty eight or something like that.
Speaker 1: There's an optimum temperature and it's lower than people think.
Speaker 1: Sixty eight I think is correct. Sixty nine I think
Speaker 1: it's correct. There's an optimum sleeping temperature. I posted on
Speaker 1: social media asking listeners to submit their own questions. It
Speaker 1: was great hearing from you. The Q and A is
Speaker 1: and my speaking engagements are always the best because so
Speaker 1: much comes out in what you want to know, and
Speaker 1: to share those questions with others really seems to be beneficial.
Speaker 1: So let's jump in and try. Chaia on Instagram asks
Speaker 1: what is your advice for someone who feels stuck in
Speaker 1: their job and wants to jump to pursue a dream,
Speaker 1: but it's afraid of not having a steady income. You know,
Speaker 1: it depends upon someone's age and circumstances. I think if
Speaker 1: I think, as we get older, we get more dug
Speaker 1: into our circumstances. We have more bills, we have more homes,
Speaker 1: we have mortgages, we have obligations, we have kids, we
Speaker 1: have school, we have car payments, insurance. So as you
Speaker 1: get older, I can't just tell someone to just light
Speaker 1: there for one k on fire and go get a
Speaker 1: job as a bartender. You know, you have to have
Speaker 1: some sort of a plan. So if it's somebody like that,
Speaker 1: I think you have to get your ducks in a row.
Speaker 1: And I don't know about having a side hustle because
Speaker 1: they usually don't work, but sort of find some way
Speaker 1: to test the market, and and and and ride two
Speaker 1: horses at the same time for a brief period to
Speaker 1: see if if it seems like good idea, go with
Speaker 1: your gut. If you really think you can be successful
Speaker 1: at it, or you think this other idea is really
Speaker 1: worth it, and people around you are honestly supporting you,
Speaker 1: you have to jump. The pandemic is a great time
Speaker 1: to do that because so many people have been dear
Speaker 1: stuck in headlights just waiting for this to be over,
Speaker 1: versus shifting and moving in a different direction and going
Speaker 1: with the tides. You can't fight the tides. You go
Speaker 1: out to swim, and you can't fight the tides. You
Speaker 1: have to sort of roll with them and not fight
Speaker 1: the ocean. So you have to deal with what's actually
Speaker 1: happening right now, and you'll find a whole new set
Speaker 1: of positive circumstances. In an unfortunate situation. If you're young
Speaker 1: and you don't have the responsibility of kids, and you
Speaker 1: have some disposable income, or you just would be living
Speaker 1: on raman im pretzels, I would say, just go for it.
Speaker 1: It's in your gut, it's bothering you. The urge will
Speaker 1: get stronger. You only have more regrets later as we
Speaker 1: get older and you realize you didn't try. Related to that,
Speaker 1: when how do we know when it's time to quit
Speaker 1: a job? I would say, like a relationship, it's not
Speaker 1: bringing out the best in you. It's not a good dynamic.
Speaker 1: You're not feeling good about yourself. You're not liking who
Speaker 1: you are there. You don't feel that it's where you
Speaker 1: should be. It's you know, I had a very serious
Speaker 1: I had so many people tell me not to leave
Speaker 1: the housewives because of the amount of money that I
Speaker 1: was being paid. You really have to look in the
Speaker 1: mirror and you have to decide on your own, between you,
Speaker 1: yourself and you what to do. It didn't reflect who
Speaker 1: I was, what I wanted. I couldn't keep sort of
Speaker 1: you know, explaining to myself that I was different than
Speaker 1: this genre, but still there. There comes a point where
Speaker 1: if you shouldn't be there, you just shouldn't be there,
Speaker 1: and you have to just know that what's right and
Speaker 1: wrong for you, or if it's not um it has
Speaker 1: nothing to do with what you ultimately want to do,
Speaker 1: what you're passionate about. You're on the wrong road. So
Speaker 1: people do that in relationships, people do that in life.
Speaker 1: They get in the wrong car because who cares. It
Speaker 1: looks shiny, it looks cool, the person driving it looks great.
Speaker 1: You get in all of a sudden, you're like, I
Speaker 1: saw the sign that this bus was going to Milwaukee,
Speaker 1: and I wanted to go to San Diego, and I
Speaker 1: got in any way, because once you get in, you
Speaker 1: could go on. You could go down different roads. You know,
Speaker 1: different things happen, and while that can be good and
Speaker 1: positive in a journey, you also should understand the road
Speaker 1: that you are embarking on. So be serious and treat
Speaker 1: yourself well and make decisions based on truth and not fear.
Speaker 1: Another question if Van Underscore loves Underscore Austin on Instagram.
Speaker 1: I was recently watching Old Housewives episodes. How has money
Speaker 1: made your life better more difficult? You're such a hustler.
Speaker 1: I am too, So I appreciate that. Does money give
Speaker 1: your value self worth? If so or not? Has that
Speaker 1: changed over the years. What a good question. That's so complicated,
Speaker 1: So money, huh. You know, I was in my late
Speaker 1: thirties and broke, and it was scary because I don't
Speaker 1: have any kind of safety net. I didn't I don't
Speaker 1: have families. So even if someone comes from a middle
Speaker 1: class or blue caller or background, having a safety net
Speaker 1: of whatever your parents net snag or your brothers or
Speaker 1: sisters or somebody to help you always can help you
Speaker 1: exhale a little bit, like you're not feeling traumatized and suffocated.
Speaker 1: So for me, it was extremely scary to be in
Speaker 1: my late thirties not knowing my job was going to be,
Speaker 1: not have a career, and just be like this is
Speaker 1: not going to be cute. So the stakes were high,
Speaker 1: and it was anxiety producing the fact that that was
Speaker 1: like thirteen years ago and I was broke and now
Speaker 1: I can pretty much do whatever I want and buy
Speaker 1: whatever I want and have houses and all this stuff
Speaker 1: is crazy. But I will say it gets way more
Speaker 1: complicated and the stakes are so much higher now in
Speaker 1: a different way, like your business investments. Your business mistakes
Speaker 1: are much bigger you your financial decisions, your real estate,
Speaker 1: your mortgage. Having so many different people working for you,
Speaker 1: having sort of like a machine, and the machine can
Speaker 1: get really expensive. So if something happens, like a pandemic,
Speaker 1: and you're not and you leave television because you don't
Speaker 1: feel that it reflects who you are and what you
Speaker 1: want to do with your life, and you're doing things
Speaker 1: for yourself morally, but financially, I still have this infrastructure
Speaker 1: of all these employees and all these people and all
Speaker 1: these partners and all these obligations. So everything costs money.
Speaker 1: And sometimes you're breaking even a lot of times I'm
Speaker 1: breaking even I'm working so hard and have so many
Speaker 1: people working for me. I'm not making money. Other people
Speaker 1: are making money. I'm not making money. And because you
Speaker 1: get entangled in it, and sometimes you have to dig
Speaker 1: yourself out and you know you're working so hard that
Speaker 1: you want to spend because what's the point of working
Speaker 1: so hard if you can't do what you want and
Speaker 1: buy what you want and go on vacations. And it's
Speaker 1: just I call it a nut, it's a burn rate.
Speaker 1: It's what you're spending every year. You have to kind
Speaker 1: of know what that is. And I have business managers
Speaker 1: who helped me with that. But it gets gnarly and
Speaker 1: it gets scary, and you think people are taking advantage,
Speaker 1: and they are, and that's partially a reflection of being
Speaker 1: a public person, but they are, and you just kind
Speaker 1: of sometimes you want to go back too simple and simplify.
Speaker 1: And actually, during the pandemic, that's what I've been doing.
Speaker 1: I've you know, I'm selling an apartment in New York
Speaker 1: City because I'm not there that much and it doesn't
Speaker 1: reflect where I really am in my life. So even
Speaker 1: though that's a stunning, amazing, beautiful apartment, it's a different
Speaker 1: lifetime and there's a lot of money. So streamlining, getting
Speaker 1: rid of things, luxury bags and stuff that I've had
Speaker 1: for years, just trying to simplify and not have so much,
Speaker 1: not even financially, but the stuff aspect of it, the
Speaker 1: clutter aspect of it, it can be debilitating. And we
Speaker 1: all saw that during the pandemic. We were home and
Speaker 1: we were organizing and seeing all our stuff, but we
Speaker 1: were online ordering and so, you know, getting rid of stuff,
Speaker 1: but buying different stuff and all of it becomes like
Speaker 1: a stuff fest. So having money, uh is liberating, but
Speaker 1: it's also complicated and entangling in different ways. So if
Speaker 1: you do make money, or if you're trying keep yourself
Speaker 1: under control and stay simple as long as you possibly can,
Speaker 1: because it gets complicated real fast, and you think you
Speaker 1: can afford to do things, and you have to spend
Speaker 1: money to make money, and then you're in this whole web.
Speaker 1: So I love that question. It was a long answer,
Speaker 1: but it's important. The quote some people are so poor
Speaker 1: all they have is money. Thoughts on this, Yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: obviously it's just the cliches. Money is not going to
Speaker 1: keep you warm at night. I always think about the
Speaker 1: fact that if I'm sitting in the last fight on
Speaker 1: an airplane, basically sitting in the toilet bowl, I've never
Speaker 1: cared if I was with my daughter Bryant. I watched
Speaker 1: the show Made and saw this woman sleeping in a
Speaker 1: fairy station, but she's with her daughter, like to be
Speaker 1: together with your family. I've seen this in Puerto Rico
Speaker 1: while doing relief work. People have lost everything and they're
Speaker 1: basically living in sewage, but there with their babies and
Speaker 1: they have their faith, and that's really the most important thing.
Speaker 1: You know, the feeling you have when you buy something
Speaker 1: and it's great for a minute and it goes away.
Speaker 1: And you know the feeling when you're hugging your kids
Speaker 1: and you just have a memory, or in Christmas or
Speaker 1: Halloween or some loving snuggle and there's nothing like that.
Speaker 1: We know that they always keep this in mind as
Speaker 1: I continue to level up in life, I want to
Speaker 1: be so rich, not only have puckering pockets. That way
Speaker 1: you use your wealth is inspiring, and oh the way
Speaker 1: I use my wealth is inspiring and rare. I'm not perfect.
Speaker 1: I'm a spender. I like lucks goods. I have a
Speaker 1: complicated relationship with it, the stuff of it all. But
Speaker 1: I love doing philanthropy more and I it's important to
Speaker 1: me to give back in a meaningful way that I've
Speaker 1: really made an impact, that I've actually saved lives, that
Speaker 1: I've helped people, that I do the work, that I've
Speaker 1: put the time in, that I spend the stress and
Speaker 1: aggravation and focus on it. So there's got to be
Speaker 1: some sort of a balance. Meredith underscore kegan managing finances
Speaker 1: personally and professionally. I have someone at Merrill Lynch who
Speaker 1: helps me with that. You have to be proactive because
Speaker 1: they never call you. They're just reactive. You ask them
Speaker 1: what's going on, and they just answer what you're asking.
Speaker 1: I happen to have a business manager, but that's more
Speaker 1: for day to day bills. And people get scared of
Speaker 1: stuff like that because people have been stolen from and
Speaker 1: have horror stories. I think you have to know what
Speaker 1: you know and know what you don't know. I crowdsource.
Speaker 1: I ask people around me, and I go with my
Speaker 1: gut because I don't know so much. So someone will
Speaker 1: tell me you should be refinancing, or you should think
Speaker 1: about this with taxes, or you do so many hs
Speaker 1: and things in what in your house is the part
Speaker 1: of that should be rite off? Or you just constantly
Speaker 1: It's so much information before oh one k your will,
Speaker 1: your insurance, your employers insurance, your employments insurance, your health insurance,
Speaker 1: like your workers comp your benefits, all of it. Refinancing
Speaker 1: I mentioned before car payments. It's it's not you could
Speaker 1: be stuck in it. So you have to. If you
Speaker 1: can't afford a business manager or have a money manager,
Speaker 1: you know, ask your bank, or ask your friends, ask
Speaker 1: your father, your daughter, your sister just crowdsources information and
Speaker 1: do research online. It's all accessible. Listen to Jim Kramer,
Speaker 1: listen to Susie Orman, watch the news. You know, there's
Speaker 1: so much there. I'm terrible at it. Advice on starting
Speaker 1: over and reinventing yourself. We're all constantly doing that, even
Speaker 1: if it's within the frameworks of where you work. You
Speaker 1: can decide to wake up the next day and change
Speaker 1: I or you can start a whole new career. Go
Speaker 1: with your gut and treat it like a marathon, one
Speaker 1: step at a time or one you know, one foot
Speaker 1: at a time, one sneaker at a time. For me,
Speaker 1: I reinvent. I decided to look at the people around me.
Speaker 1: I want to evolve. I want to be nicer, I
Speaker 1: want to be more positive. I fail all the time,
Speaker 1: but I wake up and you know I wanted today.
Speaker 1: I said I was going to go on an elliptical
Speaker 1: because I've worked out a month, and I honored that commitment.
Speaker 1: And I'm going a shower in the morning and put
Speaker 1: on an outfit, even if it's not like cute, it's
Speaker 1: not pajamas, and it's something like just these little moves
Speaker 1: that I'm trying to do to reinvent myself all the time,
Speaker 1: reinvent myself in my relationship, reinvent myself as a mother
Speaker 1: to a tween. Uh. She's been going through it in
Speaker 1: certain areas, and I was up all night till four
Speaker 1: in the morning thinking about her and thinking about my team,
Speaker 1: and had to be better and had to be a
Speaker 1: better parent. So constantly reinventing ourselves. It doesn't have to
Speaker 1: be a drastic move, but it can be advice on
Speaker 1: being a manager and working with people. Ah, do don't
Speaker 1: ask me, I suck. Be organized, be communicative, face the problem, delegate, execute,
Speaker 1: be clear, spend a lot of time energy and focus
Speaker 1: on staffing. Start over, keep going, go back to the
Speaker 1: root of it. It sucks. It's hard to staff. It's
Speaker 1: hard to find good people. I've found it a constant challenge,
Speaker 1: especially as a public person in this business that's so varied.
Speaker 1: I would say that you you it's like a family.
Speaker 1: If you don't get your team right, you're only as
Speaker 1: good as your weakest link. It's literally one member team
Speaker 1: team is down. The whole team is down. I've started
Speaker 1: daily team calls, weekly check ins. Take everyone's temperature, try
Speaker 1: to be positive, Try to be appreciative and get feedback
Speaker 1: and do the best you can and go with God,
Speaker 1: pray for the best. This is dantable rolling on Instagram
Speaker 1: and at danta be coaching on Twitter friendship, So I
Speaker 1: have to invite everyone to everything. How do you not
Speaker 1: hurt feelings? Oh my god? Well, I have a sort
Speaker 1: of guy who's a therapist slash life life coach. He
Speaker 1: doesn't believe in obligations like that to your family, to
Speaker 1: your kids, obviously. He doesn't believe in doing things you
Speaker 1: don't want to do. I just had a birthday party
Speaker 1: for my fiftieth birthday? Does it do over? And I
Speaker 1: had twenty three people. This is how I would do
Speaker 1: a wedding. This is how I do anything. I always
Speaker 1: say to my daughter when she's having a birthday party,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna invite nineteen people and leave four people
Speaker 1: in a classroom out, obviously, but I say to her,
Speaker 1: who do you really want there? This is your time,
Speaker 1: this is your birthday party. If it's four people in
Speaker 1: a friend group, then you've left out a fifth person
Speaker 1: and then she's gonna have problems at school. Then she
Speaker 1: can make that decision, But we start off with who
Speaker 1: do you really want to be with. So my birthday
Speaker 1: party was, and I said this in my speech, nobody
Speaker 1: was there that I didn't want there. Nobody was there.
Speaker 1: There was an obligation I don't do. Aunt Irma's daughter
Speaker 1: and her new boyfriend have to be there because Aunt
Speaker 1: Irma will be upset. I'd rather not have the party
Speaker 1: if I'm worried about aunt Derma. I want good energy.
Speaker 1: I want people in a space that genuinely want the
Speaker 1: best for me, that I feel will connect with each other.
Speaker 1: And you can explain it to people, or you don't
Speaker 1: have to. I don't care about that. And by the
Speaker 1: same token, and my whole life on Housewives was a
Speaker 1: series of scenes about people being upset that they're not included.
Speaker 1: They're not invited to each each other's thing. You don't
Speaker 1: support me, I didn't support you. What I can't believe
Speaker 1: it in invite or you're not. I don't care. I
Speaker 1: don't want to be invited unless you really want me
Speaker 1: there and unless I and I don't want to go,
Speaker 1: unless I really want to be there. I believe in
Speaker 1: good and positive energy. You have to just be a
Speaker 1: strong person, and you can't don't listen to the noise.
Speaker 1: If you don't do it right, or don't do it
Speaker 1: so you don't have to have the event, you don't
Speaker 1: have to have it. But if you're having it, have
Speaker 1: it the way that you and your child and or
Speaker 1: your partner want to have it. That's my serious advice
Speaker 1: and I live by it. So if Paul and I
Speaker 1: decided to have some sort of elaborate wedding on any level,
Speaker 1: it's going to be the way that we both want it.
Speaker 1: But I won't do obligation weddings. I won't do Oh,
Speaker 1: you gotta invite that person because you work with them.
Speaker 1: I just wanted to be we really want them there.
Speaker 1: That's the only way to go. Thank you. I like this.
Speaker 1: This is fun. We should do this more often. Please rate, review,
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Speaker 1: all of us to sort of get a different perspective
Speaker 1: on something you might not even know, something something you
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