1 00:00:12,920 --> 00:00:16,400 Speaker 1: Snoring. We have to talk about snoring. I don't know 2 00:00:16,400 --> 00:00:18,840 Speaker 1: why it's a male sport. I don't know that many 3 00:00:18,880 --> 00:00:21,599 Speaker 1: women that snore. I know one woman who says she snores, 4 00:00:21,640 --> 00:00:24,440 Speaker 1: and I've heard people that are my friends that snore sometimes, 5 00:00:24,480 --> 00:00:26,119 Speaker 1: but it's not like a general thing. And then I 6 00:00:26,200 --> 00:00:28,360 Speaker 1: have friends who say that their husband's drink a lot. 7 00:00:28,400 --> 00:00:31,480 Speaker 1: They drink too much wine or alcohol and then they snore, 8 00:00:31,520 --> 00:00:34,600 Speaker 1: so it's related to booze. And I've had ex is 9 00:00:34,640 --> 00:00:37,120 Speaker 1: that would get black out drunk and then the snoring 10 00:00:37,120 --> 00:00:38,839 Speaker 1: will be worse. I don't know what the reason for 11 00:00:38,880 --> 00:00:41,080 Speaker 1: the snoring related to alcohol is, so I don't know. 12 00:00:41,479 --> 00:00:46,000 Speaker 1: Other people say it's because they're they're boyfriend's husbands or 13 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:50,960 Speaker 1: fiances are overweight. Um, but that also doesn't always work. 14 00:00:51,040 --> 00:00:55,520 Speaker 1: Some people just snore. And do you know anyone who snores? 15 00:00:55,760 --> 00:00:59,960 Speaker 1: Because if someone sn my dog sometimes snores. Biggie snores, 16 00:01:00,120 --> 00:01:03,000 Speaker 1: and I just wanted to know that's snoring. I've been 17 00:01:03,120 --> 00:01:05,520 Speaker 1: talking to a lot of people around here. It could 18 00:01:05,600 --> 00:01:09,039 Speaker 1: drive someone crazy. What about when you're just about to 19 00:01:09,200 --> 00:01:13,160 Speaker 1: fall asleep and then snoring starts, and then you're like 20 00:01:13,319 --> 00:01:15,640 Speaker 1: on that snoring rhythm and it's the only thing you 21 00:01:15,640 --> 00:01:17,399 Speaker 1: can think about. It's like a dripping faucet, and you 22 00:01:17,520 --> 00:01:20,880 Speaker 1: expect it to come, like you expect the snoring to start. 23 00:01:21,600 --> 00:01:24,480 Speaker 1: What about that? What about all the devices? A girlfriend 24 00:01:24,480 --> 00:01:27,440 Speaker 1: of mine, her husband had the surgery to get rid 25 00:01:27,440 --> 00:01:30,360 Speaker 1: of the snoring, and she said it didn't work. Another 26 00:01:30,360 --> 00:01:34,360 Speaker 1: one of my friends said it did work. Uh. A 27 00:01:34,400 --> 00:01:37,520 Speaker 1: lot of women I know sleep on couches, sleep in 28 00:01:37,640 --> 00:01:40,920 Speaker 1: other beds, sleep in their kids beds. Can we talk 29 00:01:40,920 --> 00:01:43,559 Speaker 1: about snoring just in general as a thing, like what 30 00:01:43,760 --> 00:01:46,840 Speaker 1: is it? Why does it happen? Why is it more men? Um? 31 00:01:47,560 --> 00:01:50,040 Speaker 1: Is there a cure for snoring? And what is your 32 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:53,120 Speaker 1: opinion on the reason. And someone's gonna say sleep apnea. 33 00:01:53,280 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 1: I don't even know what that means. I've heard it 34 00:01:54,720 --> 00:01:56,080 Speaker 1: so much, but it doesn't seem like it's a cure 35 00:01:56,120 --> 00:01:58,400 Speaker 1: for that either. So I just want you to tell 36 00:01:58,400 --> 00:02:01,800 Speaker 1: me about your experience with snoring. Do you snore? Are 37 00:02:01,840 --> 00:02:04,840 Speaker 1: you in a relationship with someone that snores? Um? Are 38 00:02:04,840 --> 00:02:07,240 Speaker 1: you a good sleeper? Are you a person that if 39 00:02:07,240 --> 00:02:10,000 Speaker 1: you don't sleep well, it will ruin your entire day? 40 00:02:10,160 --> 00:02:13,320 Speaker 1: Because I can tell you something, I'm that person. I'm 41 00:02:13,360 --> 00:02:17,520 Speaker 1: that person, and I'm that person that does not ever 42 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 1: want to take anything to sleep. I'm not a person 43 00:02:20,200 --> 00:02:23,680 Speaker 1: that likes to medicate at all, so I'll drink like 44 00:02:23,720 --> 00:02:26,079 Speaker 1: a glass of a half a glass of wine or vodka, 45 00:02:26,639 --> 00:02:29,040 Speaker 1: and I don't I also don't want to do that. 46 00:02:29,120 --> 00:02:31,160 Speaker 1: No one wants to be drinking alcoholic at night just 47 00:02:31,400 --> 00:02:34,200 Speaker 1: to go to sleep. So it's an absolute ship show. 48 00:02:34,800 --> 00:02:40,040 Speaker 1: Sleep as it pertains to snoring and how grouchy you 49 00:02:40,080 --> 00:02:42,320 Speaker 1: get when you don't sleep. It defines my entire life. 50 00:02:42,360 --> 00:02:44,280 Speaker 1: Some people don't like when they wake up and they 51 00:02:44,280 --> 00:02:48,200 Speaker 1: feel bloated, or the scale says something that they don't like. Well, 52 00:02:48,360 --> 00:02:51,160 Speaker 1: for me, my whole thing is about sleep. If I 53 00:02:51,160 --> 00:02:54,080 Speaker 1: didn't sleep, everybody has to hear about it. My daughter 54 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:56,440 Speaker 1: and my dogs tend to get really close to me 55 00:02:56,480 --> 00:02:59,200 Speaker 1: and want to like wedge me in like their bookends 56 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:03,480 Speaker 1: that are like made of boulders, and I feel suffocated 57 00:03:03,520 --> 00:03:06,080 Speaker 1: and I want to just nudge everybody and and it 58 00:03:06,120 --> 00:03:10,080 Speaker 1: doesn't work because when people are sleeping, they're not obviously responsive, 59 00:03:10,120 --> 00:03:13,160 Speaker 1: and it makes me very very frustrated. I just get 60 00:03:13,320 --> 00:03:15,639 Speaker 1: very very frustrated. I want a little bit of my space, 61 00:03:15,919 --> 00:03:18,320 Speaker 1: the temperature, I just like it to be chilly. I 62 00:03:18,400 --> 00:03:21,600 Speaker 1: like it to be chilly. They say it optimum temperature 63 00:03:21,880 --> 00:03:25,000 Speaker 1: is I think it's like sixty eight or something like that. 64 00:03:25,040 --> 00:03:27,400 Speaker 1: There's an optimum temperature and it's lower than people think. 65 00:03:28,000 --> 00:03:31,080 Speaker 1: Sixty eight I think is correct. Sixty nine I think 66 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:42,240 Speaker 1: it's correct. There's an optimum sleeping temperature. I posted on 67 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:46,120 Speaker 1: social media asking listeners to submit their own questions. It 68 00:03:46,240 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 1: was great hearing from you. The Q and A is 69 00:03:48,800 --> 00:03:51,760 Speaker 1: and my speaking engagements are always the best because so 70 00:03:51,840 --> 00:03:54,320 Speaker 1: much comes out in what you want to know, and 71 00:03:54,480 --> 00:03:57,280 Speaker 1: to share those questions with others really seems to be beneficial. 72 00:03:57,520 --> 00:04:07,280 Speaker 1: So let's jump in and try. Chaia on Instagram asks 73 00:04:07,560 --> 00:04:09,840 Speaker 1: what is your advice for someone who feels stuck in 74 00:04:09,880 --> 00:04:11,920 Speaker 1: their job and wants to jump to pursue a dream, 75 00:04:11,960 --> 00:04:15,440 Speaker 1: but it's afraid of not having a steady income. You know, 76 00:04:15,560 --> 00:04:19,120 Speaker 1: it depends upon someone's age and circumstances. I think if 77 00:04:20,520 --> 00:04:24,400 Speaker 1: I think, as we get older, we get more dug 78 00:04:24,520 --> 00:04:28,520 Speaker 1: into our circumstances. We have more bills, we have more homes, 79 00:04:28,560 --> 00:04:31,919 Speaker 1: we have mortgages, we have obligations, we have kids, we 80 00:04:32,000 --> 00:04:35,240 Speaker 1: have school, we have car payments, insurance. So as you 81 00:04:35,279 --> 00:04:37,680 Speaker 1: get older, I can't just tell someone to just light 82 00:04:37,800 --> 00:04:40,719 Speaker 1: there for one k on fire and go get a 83 00:04:40,800 --> 00:04:43,320 Speaker 1: job as a bartender. You know, you have to have 84 00:04:43,800 --> 00:04:45,880 Speaker 1: some sort of a plan. So if it's somebody like that, 85 00:04:46,240 --> 00:04:47,839 Speaker 1: I think you have to get your ducks in a row. 86 00:04:48,120 --> 00:04:50,040 Speaker 1: And I don't know about having a side hustle because 87 00:04:50,040 --> 00:04:52,640 Speaker 1: they usually don't work, but sort of find some way 88 00:04:52,680 --> 00:04:55,720 Speaker 1: to test the market, and and and and ride two 89 00:04:55,720 --> 00:04:57,880 Speaker 1: horses at the same time for a brief period to 90 00:04:57,920 --> 00:05:01,120 Speaker 1: see if if it seems like good idea, go with 91 00:05:01,200 --> 00:05:03,039 Speaker 1: your gut. If you really think you can be successful 92 00:05:03,040 --> 00:05:04,760 Speaker 1: at it, or you think this other idea is really 93 00:05:04,760 --> 00:05:07,479 Speaker 1: worth it, and people around you are honestly supporting you, 94 00:05:07,480 --> 00:05:10,400 Speaker 1: you have to jump. The pandemic is a great time 95 00:05:10,440 --> 00:05:12,400 Speaker 1: to do that because so many people have been dear 96 00:05:12,720 --> 00:05:14,800 Speaker 1: stuck in headlights just waiting for this to be over, 97 00:05:15,040 --> 00:05:18,919 Speaker 1: versus shifting and moving in a different direction and going 98 00:05:18,960 --> 00:05:20,599 Speaker 1: with the tides. You can't fight the tides. You go 99 00:05:20,640 --> 00:05:24,320 Speaker 1: out to swim, and you can't fight the tides. You 100 00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:27,120 Speaker 1: have to sort of roll with them and not fight 101 00:05:27,240 --> 00:05:29,560 Speaker 1: the ocean. So you have to deal with what's actually 102 00:05:29,600 --> 00:05:32,440 Speaker 1: happening right now, and you'll find a whole new set 103 00:05:32,440 --> 00:05:36,400 Speaker 1: of positive circumstances. In an unfortunate situation. If you're young 104 00:05:36,640 --> 00:05:39,120 Speaker 1: and you don't have the responsibility of kids, and you 105 00:05:39,200 --> 00:05:42,240 Speaker 1: have some disposable income, or you just would be living 106 00:05:42,240 --> 00:05:45,120 Speaker 1: on raman im pretzels, I would say, just go for it. 107 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:47,360 Speaker 1: It's in your gut, it's bothering you. The urge will 108 00:05:47,400 --> 00:05:51,640 Speaker 1: get stronger. You only have more regrets later as we 109 00:05:51,680 --> 00:05:54,720 Speaker 1: get older and you realize you didn't try. Related to that, 110 00:05:54,880 --> 00:05:57,240 Speaker 1: when how do we know when it's time to quit 111 00:05:57,279 --> 00:06:01,560 Speaker 1: a job? I would say, like a relationship, it's not 112 00:06:01,600 --> 00:06:03,760 Speaker 1: bringing out the best in you. It's not a good dynamic. 113 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:06,520 Speaker 1: You're not feeling good about yourself. You're not liking who 114 00:06:06,560 --> 00:06:09,479 Speaker 1: you are there. You don't feel that it's where you 115 00:06:09,480 --> 00:06:12,680 Speaker 1: should be. It's you know, I had a very serious 116 00:06:14,160 --> 00:06:16,160 Speaker 1: I had so many people tell me not to leave 117 00:06:16,160 --> 00:06:18,400 Speaker 1: the housewives because of the amount of money that I 118 00:06:18,440 --> 00:06:20,080 Speaker 1: was being paid. You really have to look in the 119 00:06:20,080 --> 00:06:22,560 Speaker 1: mirror and you have to decide on your own, between you, 120 00:06:22,560 --> 00:06:26,120 Speaker 1: yourself and you what to do. It didn't reflect who 121 00:06:26,160 --> 00:06:29,400 Speaker 1: I was, what I wanted. I couldn't keep sort of 122 00:06:30,600 --> 00:06:34,040 Speaker 1: you know, explaining to myself that I was different than 123 00:06:34,279 --> 00:06:37,400 Speaker 1: this genre, but still there. There comes a point where 124 00:06:38,040 --> 00:06:39,840 Speaker 1: if you shouldn't be there, you just shouldn't be there, 125 00:06:39,839 --> 00:06:41,640 Speaker 1: and you have to just know that what's right and 126 00:06:41,680 --> 00:06:44,600 Speaker 1: wrong for you, or if it's not um it has 127 00:06:44,640 --> 00:06:46,280 Speaker 1: nothing to do with what you ultimately want to do, 128 00:06:46,360 --> 00:06:49,240 Speaker 1: what you're passionate about. You're on the wrong road. So 129 00:06:49,279 --> 00:06:51,280 Speaker 1: people do that in relationships, people do that in life. 130 00:06:51,279 --> 00:06:53,359 Speaker 1: They get in the wrong car because who cares. It 131 00:06:53,360 --> 00:06:55,920 Speaker 1: looks shiny, it looks cool, the person driving it looks great. 132 00:06:56,160 --> 00:06:57,640 Speaker 1: You get in all of a sudden, you're like, I 133 00:06:57,680 --> 00:07:01,040 Speaker 1: saw the sign that this bus was going to Milwaukee, 134 00:07:01,080 --> 00:07:02,599 Speaker 1: and I wanted to go to San Diego, and I 135 00:07:02,640 --> 00:07:05,599 Speaker 1: got in any way, because once you get in, you 136 00:07:05,640 --> 00:07:08,560 Speaker 1: could go on. You could go down different roads. You know, 137 00:07:08,640 --> 00:07:10,960 Speaker 1: different things happen, and while that can be good and 138 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:14,840 Speaker 1: positive in a journey, you also should understand the road 139 00:07:14,880 --> 00:07:19,200 Speaker 1: that you are embarking on. So be serious and treat 140 00:07:19,240 --> 00:07:22,800 Speaker 1: yourself well and make decisions based on truth and not fear. 141 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:29,040 Speaker 1: Another question if Van Underscore loves Underscore Austin on Instagram. 142 00:07:29,080 --> 00:07:32,920 Speaker 1: I was recently watching Old Housewives episodes. How has money 143 00:07:32,960 --> 00:07:35,520 Speaker 1: made your life better more difficult? You're such a hustler. 144 00:07:35,600 --> 00:07:37,640 Speaker 1: I am too, So I appreciate that. Does money give 145 00:07:37,680 --> 00:07:40,720 Speaker 1: your value self worth? If so or not? Has that 146 00:07:40,840 --> 00:07:45,440 Speaker 1: changed over the years. What a good question. That's so complicated, 147 00:07:45,480 --> 00:07:48,400 Speaker 1: So money, huh. You know, I was in my late 148 00:07:48,440 --> 00:07:51,160 Speaker 1: thirties and broke, and it was scary because I don't 149 00:07:51,160 --> 00:07:54,440 Speaker 1: have any kind of safety net. I didn't I don't 150 00:07:54,480 --> 00:07:59,360 Speaker 1: have families. So even if someone comes from a middle 151 00:07:59,400 --> 00:08:02,680 Speaker 1: class or blue caller or background, having a safety net 152 00:08:02,680 --> 00:08:05,000 Speaker 1: of whatever your parents net snag or your brothers or 153 00:08:05,080 --> 00:08:08,520 Speaker 1: sisters or somebody to help you always can help you 154 00:08:09,000 --> 00:08:12,680 Speaker 1: exhale a little bit, like you're not feeling traumatized and suffocated. 155 00:08:12,720 --> 00:08:14,600 Speaker 1: So for me, it was extremely scary to be in 156 00:08:14,640 --> 00:08:16,560 Speaker 1: my late thirties not knowing my job was going to be, 157 00:08:16,680 --> 00:08:18,920 Speaker 1: not have a career, and just be like this is 158 00:08:18,960 --> 00:08:21,240 Speaker 1: not going to be cute. So the stakes were high, 159 00:08:21,320 --> 00:08:25,040 Speaker 1: and it was anxiety producing the fact that that was 160 00:08:26,120 --> 00:08:29,000 Speaker 1: like thirteen years ago and I was broke and now 161 00:08:29,040 --> 00:08:30,760 Speaker 1: I can pretty much do whatever I want and buy 162 00:08:30,760 --> 00:08:33,000 Speaker 1: whatever I want and have houses and all this stuff 163 00:08:33,120 --> 00:08:36,160 Speaker 1: is crazy. But I will say it gets way more 164 00:08:36,240 --> 00:08:40,200 Speaker 1: complicated and the stakes are so much higher now in 165 00:08:40,240 --> 00:08:43,480 Speaker 1: a different way, like your business investments. Your business mistakes 166 00:08:43,480 --> 00:08:47,320 Speaker 1: are much bigger you your financial decisions, your real estate, 167 00:08:47,360 --> 00:08:51,480 Speaker 1: your mortgage. Having so many different people working for you, 168 00:08:51,600 --> 00:08:54,439 Speaker 1: having sort of like a machine, and the machine can 169 00:08:54,480 --> 00:08:57,439 Speaker 1: get really expensive. So if something happens, like a pandemic, 170 00:08:58,000 --> 00:09:00,200 Speaker 1: and you're not and you leave television because you don't 171 00:09:00,240 --> 00:09:02,000 Speaker 1: feel that it reflects who you are and what you 172 00:09:02,000 --> 00:09:04,240 Speaker 1: want to do with your life, and you're doing things 173 00:09:04,240 --> 00:09:08,199 Speaker 1: for yourself morally, but financially, I still have this infrastructure 174 00:09:08,200 --> 00:09:10,880 Speaker 1: of all these employees and all these people and all 175 00:09:10,920 --> 00:09:14,160 Speaker 1: these partners and all these obligations. So everything costs money. 176 00:09:14,440 --> 00:09:17,040 Speaker 1: And sometimes you're breaking even a lot of times I'm 177 00:09:17,080 --> 00:09:19,040 Speaker 1: breaking even I'm working so hard and have so many 178 00:09:19,040 --> 00:09:21,360 Speaker 1: people working for me. I'm not making money. Other people 179 00:09:21,360 --> 00:09:24,080 Speaker 1: are making money. I'm not making money. And because you 180 00:09:24,080 --> 00:09:25,880 Speaker 1: get entangled in it, and sometimes you have to dig 181 00:09:25,920 --> 00:09:29,400 Speaker 1: yourself out and you know you're working so hard that 182 00:09:29,440 --> 00:09:31,400 Speaker 1: you want to spend because what's the point of working 183 00:09:31,440 --> 00:09:32,680 Speaker 1: so hard if you can't do what you want and 184 00:09:32,679 --> 00:09:35,040 Speaker 1: buy what you want and go on vacations. And it's 185 00:09:35,080 --> 00:09:36,959 Speaker 1: just I call it a nut, it's a burn rate. 186 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:38,679 Speaker 1: It's what you're spending every year. You have to kind 187 00:09:38,679 --> 00:09:40,440 Speaker 1: of know what that is. And I have business managers 188 00:09:40,440 --> 00:09:42,760 Speaker 1: who helped me with that. But it gets gnarly and 189 00:09:42,760 --> 00:09:45,000 Speaker 1: it gets scary, and you think people are taking advantage, 190 00:09:45,200 --> 00:09:47,319 Speaker 1: and they are, and that's partially a reflection of being 191 00:09:47,360 --> 00:09:50,760 Speaker 1: a public person, but they are, and you just kind 192 00:09:50,800 --> 00:09:53,920 Speaker 1: of sometimes you want to go back too simple and simplify. 193 00:09:53,960 --> 00:09:56,600 Speaker 1: And actually, during the pandemic, that's what I've been doing. 194 00:09:56,960 --> 00:09:59,559 Speaker 1: I've you know, I'm selling an apartment in New York 195 00:09:59,600 --> 00:10:01,720 Speaker 1: City because I'm not there that much and it doesn't 196 00:10:01,720 --> 00:10:04,080 Speaker 1: reflect where I really am in my life. So even 197 00:10:04,080 --> 00:10:06,960 Speaker 1: though that's a stunning, amazing, beautiful apartment, it's a different 198 00:10:07,000 --> 00:10:10,560 Speaker 1: lifetime and there's a lot of money. So streamlining, getting 199 00:10:10,600 --> 00:10:13,760 Speaker 1: rid of things, luxury bags and stuff that I've had 200 00:10:13,760 --> 00:10:16,440 Speaker 1: for years, just trying to simplify and not have so much, 201 00:10:17,320 --> 00:10:20,000 Speaker 1: not even financially, but the stuff aspect of it, the 202 00:10:20,000 --> 00:10:22,680 Speaker 1: clutter aspect of it, it can be debilitating. And we 203 00:10:22,720 --> 00:10:25,480 Speaker 1: all saw that during the pandemic. We were home and 204 00:10:25,480 --> 00:10:27,800 Speaker 1: we were organizing and seeing all our stuff, but we 205 00:10:27,800 --> 00:10:31,240 Speaker 1: were online ordering and so, you know, getting rid of stuff, 206 00:10:31,240 --> 00:10:33,520 Speaker 1: but buying different stuff and all of it becomes like 207 00:10:33,559 --> 00:10:38,679 Speaker 1: a stuff fest. So having money, uh is liberating, but 208 00:10:38,760 --> 00:10:41,679 Speaker 1: it's also complicated and entangling in different ways. So if 209 00:10:41,720 --> 00:10:44,240 Speaker 1: you do make money, or if you're trying keep yourself 210 00:10:44,320 --> 00:10:48,240 Speaker 1: under control and stay simple as long as you possibly can, 211 00:10:48,400 --> 00:10:52,120 Speaker 1: because it gets complicated real fast, and you think you 212 00:10:52,160 --> 00:10:53,839 Speaker 1: can afford to do things, and you have to spend 213 00:10:53,840 --> 00:10:56,319 Speaker 1: money to make money, and then you're in this whole web. 214 00:10:56,640 --> 00:10:58,640 Speaker 1: So I love that question. It was a long answer, 215 00:10:58,640 --> 00:11:01,720 Speaker 1: but it's important. The quote some people are so poor 216 00:11:01,760 --> 00:11:04,719 Speaker 1: all they have is money. Thoughts on this, Yeah, I mean, 217 00:11:05,280 --> 00:11:08,280 Speaker 1: obviously it's just the cliches. Money is not going to 218 00:11:08,400 --> 00:11:11,320 Speaker 1: keep you warm at night. I always think about the 219 00:11:11,360 --> 00:11:13,400 Speaker 1: fact that if I'm sitting in the last fight on 220 00:11:13,440 --> 00:11:16,120 Speaker 1: an airplane, basically sitting in the toilet bowl, I've never 221 00:11:16,160 --> 00:11:18,320 Speaker 1: cared if I was with my daughter Bryant. I watched 222 00:11:18,320 --> 00:11:20,600 Speaker 1: the show Made and saw this woman sleeping in a 223 00:11:20,679 --> 00:11:23,000 Speaker 1: fairy station, but she's with her daughter, like to be 224 00:11:23,080 --> 00:11:25,160 Speaker 1: together with your family. I've seen this in Puerto Rico 225 00:11:25,200 --> 00:11:28,520 Speaker 1: while doing relief work. People have lost everything and they're 226 00:11:28,520 --> 00:11:30,960 Speaker 1: basically living in sewage, but there with their babies and 227 00:11:30,960 --> 00:11:33,520 Speaker 1: they have their faith, and that's really the most important thing. 228 00:11:33,559 --> 00:11:35,360 Speaker 1: You know, the feeling you have when you buy something 229 00:11:35,720 --> 00:11:37,640 Speaker 1: and it's great for a minute and it goes away. 230 00:11:38,120 --> 00:11:40,000 Speaker 1: And you know the feeling when you're hugging your kids 231 00:11:40,000 --> 00:11:41,719 Speaker 1: and you just have a memory, or in Christmas or 232 00:11:41,760 --> 00:11:45,240 Speaker 1: Halloween or some loving snuggle and there's nothing like that. 233 00:11:45,280 --> 00:11:47,160 Speaker 1: We know that they always keep this in mind as 234 00:11:47,160 --> 00:11:48,719 Speaker 1: I continue to level up in life, I want to 235 00:11:48,760 --> 00:11:51,480 Speaker 1: be so rich, not only have puckering pockets. That way 236 00:11:51,480 --> 00:11:53,840 Speaker 1: you use your wealth is inspiring, and oh the way 237 00:11:53,920 --> 00:11:57,080 Speaker 1: I use my wealth is inspiring and rare. I'm not perfect. 238 00:11:57,240 --> 00:12:00,160 Speaker 1: I'm a spender. I like lucks goods. I have a 239 00:12:00,240 --> 00:12:03,320 Speaker 1: complicated relationship with it, the stuff of it all. But 240 00:12:03,600 --> 00:12:07,640 Speaker 1: I love doing philanthropy more and I it's important to 241 00:12:07,679 --> 00:12:10,600 Speaker 1: me to give back in a meaningful way that I've 242 00:12:10,640 --> 00:12:13,040 Speaker 1: really made an impact, that I've actually saved lives, that 243 00:12:13,040 --> 00:12:14,800 Speaker 1: I've helped people, that I do the work, that I've 244 00:12:15,160 --> 00:12:17,880 Speaker 1: put the time in, that I spend the stress and 245 00:12:17,920 --> 00:12:20,400 Speaker 1: aggravation and focus on it. So there's got to be 246 00:12:20,440 --> 00:12:30,240 Speaker 1: some sort of a balance. Meredith underscore kegan managing finances 247 00:12:30,320 --> 00:12:36,800 Speaker 1: personally and professionally. I have someone at Merrill Lynch who 248 00:12:36,840 --> 00:12:39,640 Speaker 1: helps me with that. You have to be proactive because 249 00:12:39,960 --> 00:12:42,320 Speaker 1: they never call you. They're just reactive. You ask them 250 00:12:42,360 --> 00:12:44,360 Speaker 1: what's going on, and they just answer what you're asking. 251 00:12:44,720 --> 00:12:46,440 Speaker 1: I happen to have a business manager, but that's more 252 00:12:46,480 --> 00:12:48,360 Speaker 1: for day to day bills. And people get scared of 253 00:12:48,360 --> 00:12:50,800 Speaker 1: stuff like that because people have been stolen from and 254 00:12:50,840 --> 00:12:52,720 Speaker 1: have horror stories. I think you have to know what 255 00:12:52,760 --> 00:12:54,959 Speaker 1: you know and know what you don't know. I crowdsource. 256 00:12:55,000 --> 00:12:56,800 Speaker 1: I ask people around me, and I go with my 257 00:12:56,840 --> 00:12:59,240 Speaker 1: gut because I don't know so much. So someone will 258 00:12:59,240 --> 00:13:01,360 Speaker 1: tell me you should be refinancing, or you should think 259 00:13:01,400 --> 00:13:04,520 Speaker 1: about this with taxes, or you do so many hs 260 00:13:04,640 --> 00:13:06,280 Speaker 1: and things in what in your house is the part 261 00:13:06,280 --> 00:13:08,480 Speaker 1: of that should be rite off? Or you just constantly 262 00:13:08,520 --> 00:13:12,160 Speaker 1: It's so much information before oh one k your will, 263 00:13:12,400 --> 00:13:16,760 Speaker 1: your insurance, your employers insurance, your employments insurance, your health insurance, 264 00:13:16,800 --> 00:13:21,559 Speaker 1: like your workers comp your benefits, all of it. Refinancing 265 00:13:21,559 --> 00:13:24,800 Speaker 1: I mentioned before car payments. It's it's not you could 266 00:13:24,800 --> 00:13:26,920 Speaker 1: be stuck in it. So you have to. If you 267 00:13:26,920 --> 00:13:30,000 Speaker 1: can't afford a business manager or have a money manager, 268 00:13:30,840 --> 00:13:32,880 Speaker 1: you know, ask your bank, or ask your friends, ask 269 00:13:32,920 --> 00:13:37,800 Speaker 1: your father, your daughter, your sister just crowdsources information and 270 00:13:37,840 --> 00:13:41,679 Speaker 1: do research online. It's all accessible. Listen to Jim Kramer, 271 00:13:41,720 --> 00:13:45,040 Speaker 1: listen to Susie Orman, watch the news. You know, there's 272 00:13:45,040 --> 00:13:49,160 Speaker 1: so much there. I'm terrible at it. Advice on starting 273 00:13:49,160 --> 00:13:53,520 Speaker 1: over and reinventing yourself. We're all constantly doing that, even 274 00:13:53,600 --> 00:13:55,880 Speaker 1: if it's within the frameworks of where you work. You 275 00:13:55,880 --> 00:13:58,800 Speaker 1: can decide to wake up the next day and change 276 00:13:58,960 --> 00:14:01,880 Speaker 1: I or you can start a whole new career. Go 277 00:14:02,000 --> 00:14:04,920 Speaker 1: with your gut and treat it like a marathon, one 278 00:14:05,000 --> 00:14:08,480 Speaker 1: step at a time or one you know, one foot 279 00:14:08,520 --> 00:14:11,160 Speaker 1: at a time, one sneaker at a time. For me, 280 00:14:11,400 --> 00:14:13,800 Speaker 1: I reinvent. I decided to look at the people around me. 281 00:14:13,800 --> 00:14:15,280 Speaker 1: I want to evolve. I want to be nicer, I 282 00:14:15,280 --> 00:14:17,680 Speaker 1: want to be more positive. I fail all the time, 283 00:14:18,000 --> 00:14:20,680 Speaker 1: but I wake up and you know I wanted today. 284 00:14:20,720 --> 00:14:22,200 Speaker 1: I said I was going to go on an elliptical 285 00:14:22,240 --> 00:14:25,440 Speaker 1: because I've worked out a month, and I honored that commitment. 286 00:14:25,560 --> 00:14:28,080 Speaker 1: And I'm going a shower in the morning and put 287 00:14:28,080 --> 00:14:30,000 Speaker 1: on an outfit, even if it's not like cute, it's 288 00:14:30,040 --> 00:14:33,480 Speaker 1: not pajamas, and it's something like just these little moves 289 00:14:33,520 --> 00:14:36,160 Speaker 1: that I'm trying to do to reinvent myself all the time, 290 00:14:36,280 --> 00:14:39,800 Speaker 1: reinvent myself in my relationship, reinvent myself as a mother 291 00:14:39,880 --> 00:14:42,920 Speaker 1: to a tween. Uh. She's been going through it in 292 00:14:42,960 --> 00:14:45,160 Speaker 1: certain areas, and I was up all night till four 293 00:14:45,160 --> 00:14:48,040 Speaker 1: in the morning thinking about her and thinking about my team, 294 00:14:48,080 --> 00:14:49,400 Speaker 1: and had to be better and had to be a 295 00:14:49,400 --> 00:14:52,800 Speaker 1: better parent. So constantly reinventing ourselves. It doesn't have to 296 00:14:52,840 --> 00:14:56,080 Speaker 1: be a drastic move, but it can be advice on 297 00:14:56,200 --> 00:15:00,240 Speaker 1: being a manager and working with people. Ah, do don't 298 00:15:00,280 --> 00:15:09,600 Speaker 1: ask me, I suck. Be organized, be communicative, face the problem, delegate, execute, 299 00:15:10,560 --> 00:15:17,600 Speaker 1: be clear, spend a lot of time energy and focus 300 00:15:17,880 --> 00:15:21,280 Speaker 1: on staffing. Start over, keep going, go back to the 301 00:15:21,360 --> 00:15:23,920 Speaker 1: root of it. It sucks. It's hard to staff. It's 302 00:15:23,960 --> 00:15:27,200 Speaker 1: hard to find good people. I've found it a constant challenge, 303 00:15:27,520 --> 00:15:31,280 Speaker 1: especially as a public person in this business that's so varied. 304 00:15:31,760 --> 00:15:34,600 Speaker 1: I would say that you you it's like a family. 305 00:15:34,680 --> 00:15:38,360 Speaker 1: If you don't get your team right, you're only as 306 00:15:38,360 --> 00:15:42,240 Speaker 1: good as your weakest link. It's literally one member team 307 00:15:42,480 --> 00:15:45,960 Speaker 1: team is down. The whole team is down. I've started 308 00:15:46,040 --> 00:15:50,360 Speaker 1: daily team calls, weekly check ins. Take everyone's temperature, try 309 00:15:50,400 --> 00:15:53,960 Speaker 1: to be positive, Try to be appreciative and get feedback 310 00:15:54,240 --> 00:15:56,560 Speaker 1: and do the best you can and go with God, 311 00:15:56,600 --> 00:16:00,880 Speaker 1: pray for the best. This is dantable rolling on Instagram 312 00:16:00,880 --> 00:16:03,280 Speaker 1: and at danta be coaching on Twitter friendship, So I 313 00:16:03,360 --> 00:16:05,040 Speaker 1: have to invite everyone to everything. How do you not 314 00:16:05,160 --> 00:16:08,400 Speaker 1: hurt feelings? Oh my god? Well, I have a sort 315 00:16:08,440 --> 00:16:11,120 Speaker 1: of guy who's a therapist slash life life coach. He 316 00:16:11,160 --> 00:16:13,840 Speaker 1: doesn't believe in obligations like that to your family, to 317 00:16:13,880 --> 00:16:16,560 Speaker 1: your kids, obviously. He doesn't believe in doing things you 318 00:16:16,600 --> 00:16:19,160 Speaker 1: don't want to do. I just had a birthday party 319 00:16:19,240 --> 00:16:23,400 Speaker 1: for my fiftieth birthday? Does it do over? And I 320 00:16:23,440 --> 00:16:25,720 Speaker 1: had twenty three people. This is how I would do 321 00:16:25,720 --> 00:16:27,640 Speaker 1: a wedding. This is how I do anything. I always 322 00:16:27,640 --> 00:16:29,280 Speaker 1: say to my daughter when she's having a birthday party, 323 00:16:29,320 --> 00:16:31,280 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna invite nineteen people and leave four people 324 00:16:31,320 --> 00:16:33,920 Speaker 1: in a classroom out, obviously, but I say to her, 325 00:16:34,120 --> 00:16:36,360 Speaker 1: who do you really want there? This is your time, 326 00:16:36,360 --> 00:16:38,640 Speaker 1: this is your birthday party. If it's four people in 327 00:16:38,680 --> 00:16:40,920 Speaker 1: a friend group, then you've left out a fifth person 328 00:16:40,960 --> 00:16:42,680 Speaker 1: and then she's gonna have problems at school. Then she 329 00:16:42,720 --> 00:16:44,960 Speaker 1: can make that decision, But we start off with who 330 00:16:45,000 --> 00:16:48,200 Speaker 1: do you really want to be with. So my birthday 331 00:16:48,240 --> 00:16:51,800 Speaker 1: party was, and I said this in my speech, nobody 332 00:16:51,920 --> 00:16:54,040 Speaker 1: was there that I didn't want there. Nobody was there. 333 00:16:54,040 --> 00:16:58,200 Speaker 1: There was an obligation I don't do. Aunt Irma's daughter 334 00:16:58,400 --> 00:17:00,560 Speaker 1: and her new boyfriend have to be there because Aunt 335 00:17:00,600 --> 00:17:03,880 Speaker 1: Irma will be upset. I'd rather not have the party 336 00:17:03,920 --> 00:17:07,480 Speaker 1: if I'm worried about aunt Derma. I want good energy. 337 00:17:07,600 --> 00:17:10,760 Speaker 1: I want people in a space that genuinely want the 338 00:17:10,800 --> 00:17:13,080 Speaker 1: best for me, that I feel will connect with each other. 339 00:17:13,640 --> 00:17:15,840 Speaker 1: And you can explain it to people, or you don't 340 00:17:15,840 --> 00:17:18,840 Speaker 1: have to. I don't care about that. And by the 341 00:17:18,920 --> 00:17:21,720 Speaker 1: same token, and my whole life on Housewives was a 342 00:17:21,720 --> 00:17:25,480 Speaker 1: series of scenes about people being upset that they're not included. 343 00:17:25,480 --> 00:17:27,600 Speaker 1: They're not invited to each each other's thing. You don't 344 00:17:27,600 --> 00:17:29,600 Speaker 1: support me, I didn't support you. What I can't believe 345 00:17:29,600 --> 00:17:32,399 Speaker 1: it in invite or you're not. I don't care. I 346 00:17:32,400 --> 00:17:34,760 Speaker 1: don't want to be invited unless you really want me 347 00:17:34,800 --> 00:17:36,439 Speaker 1: there and unless I and I don't want to go, 348 00:17:36,520 --> 00:17:38,399 Speaker 1: unless I really want to be there. I believe in 349 00:17:38,480 --> 00:17:41,320 Speaker 1: good and positive energy. You have to just be a 350 00:17:41,359 --> 00:17:45,120 Speaker 1: strong person, and you can't don't listen to the noise. 351 00:17:45,160 --> 00:17:48,480 Speaker 1: If you don't do it right, or don't do it 352 00:17:48,640 --> 00:17:50,040 Speaker 1: so you don't have to have the event, you don't 353 00:17:50,040 --> 00:17:51,480 Speaker 1: have to have it. But if you're having it, have 354 00:17:51,640 --> 00:17:55,199 Speaker 1: it the way that you and your child and or 355 00:17:55,240 --> 00:17:58,560 Speaker 1: your partner want to have it. That's my serious advice 356 00:17:58,600 --> 00:18:01,479 Speaker 1: and I live by it. So if Paul and I 357 00:18:01,520 --> 00:18:05,359 Speaker 1: decided to have some sort of elaborate wedding on any level, 358 00:18:06,000 --> 00:18:09,240 Speaker 1: it's going to be the way that we both want it. 359 00:18:09,240 --> 00:18:12,000 Speaker 1: But I won't do obligation weddings. I won't do Oh, 360 00:18:12,040 --> 00:18:14,240 Speaker 1: you gotta invite that person because you work with them. 361 00:18:14,280 --> 00:18:16,680 Speaker 1: I just wanted to be we really want them there. 362 00:18:16,880 --> 00:18:20,040 Speaker 1: That's the only way to go. Thank you. I like this. 363 00:18:20,040 --> 00:18:26,040 Speaker 1: This is fun. We should do this more often. Please rate, review, 364 00:18:26,080 --> 00:18:30,240 Speaker 1: and subscribe. Watch out for more questions. Post more questions. 365 00:18:30,400 --> 00:18:33,040 Speaker 1: I love answering them, and I think it's good for 366 00:18:33,080 --> 00:18:35,399 Speaker 1: all of us to sort of get a different perspective 367 00:18:35,480 --> 00:18:38,119 Speaker 1: on something you might not even know, something something you 368 00:18:38,160 --> 00:18:39,439 Speaker 1: might not have even known. You want to know the 369 00:18:39,440 --> 00:18:43,160 Speaker 1: answer to have a terrific day. 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