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Speaker 2: It's time for your first Date follow up. And Brooke
Speaker 2: is on the phone today and she's getting ghosted by
Speaker 2: a guy named DJ. So in a few minutes we'll
Speaker 2: call him and see if he'll tell us why he's
Speaker 2: a ghostinger and maybe get here another date. But Brooke, first,
Speaker 2: how long has it been since you heard from DJ?
Speaker 3: It's been like two weeks?
Speaker 2: Okay, okay. Have you reached out to him in that time? Well?
Speaker 4: I reached out like a couple times right after the
Speaker 4: first date, just to like, you know, hey, how's your day?
Speaker 4: And like then I sent him like a cute pick
Speaker 4: and he responded, but he was really short. And then
Speaker 4: I was like, oh, Lena, let me just wait and see,
Speaker 4: you know, let him reach out to me. And he
Speaker 4: hasn't said anything to me in like two weeks.
Speaker 2: How's the date? Why don't you tell us about that?
Speaker 2: How did you guys meet? And Staff?
Speaker 4: Well, so we met on hinge and you know, he
Speaker 4: seemed really nice. He was very polite, respectful, and we
Speaker 4: started chatting about like travel and stuff like that, and
Speaker 4: we both had taken trips to Spain, so we kind
Speaker 4: of bonded over that.
Speaker 3: We were sending.
Speaker 4: Pictures back and forth, and you know, then he was like, hey,
Speaker 4: you know, let me take you out.
Speaker 3: So I was like okay. So we ended up.
Speaker 4: Going to this nice little Spanish restaurant where we had
Speaker 4: some tap us and you know, it was like we
Speaker 4: were kind of experiencing a little bit of you know, Spain,
Speaker 4: and we were chatting and we really hit it off.
Speaker 4: We drank, we danced, we danced really close, and we
Speaker 4: kind of ended up going back to my place and
Speaker 4: we didn't have the ultimate fun, but we did have
Speaker 4: some fun.
Speaker 3: You know, we had some like pillow talk and you know.
Speaker 4: Talk about hopes and dreams and you know. But then
Speaker 4: I was like, hey, before this goes any further, maybe
Speaker 4: you know, we should end the night here and you
Speaker 4: should get going.
Speaker 2: So well, it seems like it was going well to
Speaker 2: get to that point.
Speaker 4: We had great chemistry, great commerce station and I felt
Speaker 4: like there's definitely a traction.
Speaker 3: On both parts. So I'm not really sure.
Speaker 5: I don't know what's going on.
Speaker 2: Was there anything that happened on the date that could
Speaker 2: have been kind of a.
Speaker 4: Clue, Well, a couple of times when we were dancing,
Speaker 4: I kind of like, I kind of like redirected him
Speaker 4: a little bit.
Speaker 3: You know, because his rhythm.
Speaker 4: Was kind of off, and I mean I was polite
Speaker 4: about it. But and then, you know, I guess a
Speaker 4: couple of times back at my place, I was kind
Speaker 4: of like giving him a little bit of direction, you know.
Speaker 3: In the bedroom. Short, I don't know what that'd be
Speaker 3: a turnoff to you a guy. I don't know what.
Speaker 2: Some guys that I know say they like that. I mean,
Speaker 2: I know I do. I appreciate it because I'm like,
Speaker 2: it's your stuff. I don't know how to use it, right.
Speaker 4: I thought guys liked having like you know, women say hey.
Speaker 3: This is what I want kind of thing.
Speaker 4: But I don't know, maybe that turned him off, Like
Speaker 4: I honestly don't know, because I thought we hit it
Speaker 4: off so well.
Speaker 1: I mean, the alternative to the people liking it is
Speaker 1: the like, oh no, I'm like less of a man
Speaker 1: because I couldn't do it by myself. And so if
Speaker 1: you make me feel less, then then I'm not going
Speaker 1: to feel good.
Speaker 2: Because it's like I'm listening, tell.
Speaker 5: Me what I.
Speaker 4: Really confused, you know, I figured you know, we were
Speaker 4: even talking about like, oh, I can't wait to go
Speaker 4: out on another gate together, like that conversation came up
Speaker 4: and then you know, now it's like, okay, just straight
Speaker 4: ghost Like the.
Speaker 2: Last thing you send him was a picture and he
Speaker 2: didn't respond to it.
Speaker 4: He did, but he was like just really short, like
Speaker 4: oh cute, and then that was it. And I haven't
Speaker 4: heard a word from him since the reaction I would
Speaker 4: have liked.
Speaker 3: In other words, yeah, I can't figure.
Speaker 4: Out, Like I wish I knew what he was thinking,
Speaker 4: but I almost feel like a little embarrassed at this point,
Speaker 4: like I send you a pic and you know nothing,
Speaker 4: So I'm like, I don't know, I don't know what's
Speaker 4: the thing.
Speaker 2: We'll see if we can figure it out for you,
Speaker 2: play a song, come back, and then call him and
Speaker 2: see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you and
Speaker 2: maybe get to another date.
Speaker 3: Okay, all right, okay, thanks guys, Okay.
Speaker 2: Plaus, I'll come back and get your first day follow
Speaker 2: up next. Right in the middle of the first day
Speaker 2: follow up, if you're just joining us, Brooke is on
Speaker 2: the phone and she's getting ghosted by a guy named
Speaker 2: DJ SO on a second we're gonna call him see
Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe
Speaker 2: get her another date. But before we do that, Brooke,
Speaker 2: why don't you catch everybody up on your situation?
Speaker 4: Just basically, I met a guy on Hinge and we
Speaker 4: hit it off really well. We bonded over travel. We
Speaker 4: both saw have gone to Spain, went and had a
Speaker 4: great dinner, had a wonderful time together. Definitely got a
Speaker 4: little heated, and in a good way.
Speaker 2: Yeah, heated in a good way, not like Arguy see
Speaker 2: me all right? Are you ready for us to call him?
Speaker 3: Yes? I'm ready to find out what's going on?
Speaker 2: Here we go.
Speaker 5: Hello, Hi man, speak to DJ please yep, sim DJ.
Speaker 2: Hey man, how are you? My name is Jewbel. I'm
Speaker 2: calling from a radio show. It's called the Jubil Show.
Speaker 1: Hi DJ, the whole show is here. I'm Nina Hian,
Speaker 1: I'm Victoria.
Speaker 5: How's it going pretty good? How are you? I'm I'm yeah,
Speaker 5: I'm good. I'm yeah, I'm great.
Speaker 2: Have you ever heard of the Jubil Show before?
Speaker 5: Yeah? I don't listen.
Speaker 6: I'll be honest, So I'm I'm a little thrown here,
Speaker 6: but yeah, okay, I've heard of you guys.
Speaker 2: Well, if you don't, if you don't listen, I'll tell you.
Speaker 2: We do a segment on the show. It's called the
Speaker 2: First Day follow Up. That means, if you go out
Speaker 2: on a date with somebody and then you end up
Speaker 2: ghosting them, that person can email us to get you
Speaker 2: on the phone and ask why you're ghosting them. So
Speaker 2: we got an email about you from somebody that you're
Speaker 2: a ghost. Uh huh, okay, okay, yes it is. Is
Speaker 2: this an intentional ghosting then.
Speaker 5: No, I mean I feel bad.
Speaker 6: I mean it's intentional in the sense that, like, I
Speaker 6: don't think there's anything there moving forward, but I like
Speaker 6: I would I wasn't meaning to be like rude or whatever.
Speaker 5: I just I think I think I just kind of
Speaker 5: I guess I moved on. I probably should have. I
Speaker 5: don't know. I always I'm not very good about that part.
Speaker 6: I should have been more clear with her or whatever,
Speaker 6: but I yeah, I just didn't.
Speaker 2: You're just not interested. I mean there's no specific reason.
Speaker 5: Oh no, I mean she was great.
Speaker 6: I just it was just kind of disappointing because I, uh,
Speaker 6: it's awkward. I'm kind of I guess I'm kind of
Speaker 6: old fashioned because I like, I'm I'm really looking for
Speaker 6: like who I'm like somebody I'm gonna marry, you know
Speaker 6: what I mean.
Speaker 5: So like it just became clear that like where she's
Speaker 5: not going to be that person, and so I was
Speaker 5: just kind of like, well just kind.
Speaker 2: Of why though, how do you know that?
Speaker 7: Well, She's like I'm looking for someone very specific in
Speaker 7: my head, like just I've I really wanted to Okay,
Speaker 7: so I really wanted to marry somebody who's Spanish, Like
Speaker 7: I just have this dream of like getting married and
Speaker 7: Spain a Spanish person.
Speaker 5: And then like I thought she was Spanish and she's not.
Speaker 5: She's like German or something.
Speaker 1: So okay, did she say she was Spanish?
Speaker 2: Like what made you think that she was?
Speaker 6: Like all my algorithm stuff that I put in on
Speaker 6: the app is like looking for a Spanish person, and
Speaker 6: like she was even like it was like Spanglish, she's
Speaker 6: been to Spain.
Speaker 5: She looked Spanish to me, I just it's my.
Speaker 6: Fault, Like it's my fault because I went back and
Speaker 6: I looked more closely at your profile and like she
Speaker 6: has a picture of herself with a cross, Like no, no, Jesus,
Speaker 6: you know what I mean?
Speaker 5: Protestant.
Speaker 1: Ah.
Speaker 6: Oh, so like that's the first to me after because
Speaker 6: I really need, I really need to marry a Spanish Catholic.
Speaker 2: That's very specific. Yeah that is how do you know
Speaker 2: she's not spent?
Speaker 1: Like did you ask her or did I don't see
Speaker 1: her family tree?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 6: Yeah, and I did actually look her up, Like I
Speaker 6: looked up the name and I was like, oh, that's German.
Speaker 5: Like that's like as white as you can get.
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, I mean I guess if that's what you
Speaker 2: want and you're not willing to settle for anything but
Speaker 2: a Spanish Catholic woman.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean there's so many things I don't know
Speaker 6: about my life, but that that part I have figured
Speaker 6: it out, you know.
Speaker 2: Sure, thank you for being honest with us. I appreciate that.
Speaker 2: And DJ, now I have to let you know that
Speaker 2: Brook is actually on the phone and has been listening
Speaker 2: and wants to talk to you.
Speaker 8: Oh so you we hit it off, we had a
Speaker 8: great time, and you basically ghosted me because I'm not Spanish.
Speaker 5: Yeah I'm sorry. Or Catholic. Yeah, I'm sorry.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and you just assume that I'm not Catholic.
Speaker 9: Okay, all right, yeah, okay, I just cross like I like, so,
Speaker 9: remember I was talking about disagrattep Amelia and you can
Speaker 9: actually get married there, but like somebody, one of one
Speaker 9: of the two people has to.
Speaker 5: Be Catholic, and so like I'm looking for somebody who's Catholic.
Speaker 4: I was hitting it off all the conversation that we had,
Speaker 4: the great time that we had.
Speaker 5: Okay, it was a good time. Okay, you know what,
Speaker 5: You're an amazing Yeah. No, I'm just like you should
Speaker 5: know like it was you did nothing. It's my fall.
Speaker 5: I apologize like I misunderstood, and I like, you're.
Speaker 4: An amazing Oh you misunderstood more than you think. But
Speaker 4: that's okay because the jokes on you because I actually
Speaker 4: am Spanish and my grandfather on my mother's side is
Speaker 4: from outside of Madrid.
Speaker 2: Plot twist.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm not all German.
Speaker 3: I do have German but but that's okay, no problem.
Speaker 6: I mean, if that's true, we should Oh my god, DJ,
Speaker 6: would you like to go out with Brooke on another date?
Speaker 2: We'll pay for it.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you'll pay for yeah for sure. I mean yeah,
Speaker 5: I mean I mean that I could probably we should try.
Speaker 5: I mean, we did hit it up. We had a
Speaker 5: lot of chemistry. Think about it.
Speaker 4: Oh we did. Yeah, that's that's unfortunate for you. Yeah,
Speaker 4: hard pass on the second date. But thanks, guys, I
Speaker 4: appreciate it, not after finding out how superficial you are.
Speaker 6: I here's the thing, I'm willing to admit when I'm wrong, and.
Speaker 5: I was wrong. I was wrong. I was wrong. I
Speaker 5: I you're right. It was superficial to me.
Speaker 6: And maybe maybe I'm just afraid to open up, you know,
Speaker 6: give me another shot, Like, let's just just.
Speaker 5: Me another shot and then like I think I think
Speaker 5: you'll see that. Yes we do, we do have a future.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, what would you guys do? What do
Speaker 3: you guys think?
Speaker 2: I don't know, honestly, because I mean that's he had
Speaker 2: his heart set on this one type of person. He
Speaker 2: obviously didn't.
Speaker 1: He just have his heart set on a person. He
Speaker 1: has his heart getting, like set on getting married at
Speaker 1: the Sigratta Familia to a Spanish Catholic woman. Right, so
Speaker 1: who cares who she is? Insert Spanish Catholic woman. Victoria
Speaker 1: enters the buildings, and.
Speaker 2: That's what you are, a Brooks. So now like it
Speaker 2: makes I mean, I guess you're what he wants.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but it's not me, so I feel like it's,
Speaker 3: uh yeah, it's a lost cause at.
Speaker 4: This point, I'm definitely not interested anymore.
Speaker 5: But she's That's the thing is I was I was wrong.
Speaker 5: It is you.
Speaker 10: It is you because you are Spanish and you could
Speaker 10: I mean you could. I don't know, if you're you
Speaker 10: could be you could convert and the pictures would be
Speaker 10: so beautiful. I just imagine the picture.
Speaker 3: Oh No.
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