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Speaker 1: This is Unbreakable with Jay Glazer, a mental health podcast

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Speaker 1: helping you out of the gray and into the blue.

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Speaker 1: Now here's Jay Glazer. Welcome into Unbreakable, a mental health

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Speaker 1: podcast with Jay Glazer. I'm your host, Jay Glazer, And

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Speaker 1: you know, the guests that happen right now probably doesn't

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Speaker 1: know how specially is to me. And the reason why

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Speaker 1: I say that is you just meet some people along

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Speaker 1: the way in your journey and my mental health journey.

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Speaker 1: That for me, I just go, oh man, this guy

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Speaker 1: just resonates with me and I feel like there's help

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Speaker 1: around the corner for me. And that's who he is.

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Speaker 1: His name is Jim Quick. He is a brain coach, podcaster, writer, entrepreneur.

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Speaker 1: Just came out with Limitless, a book which is a

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Speaker 1: best seller across everything. And you know, Jim, I appreciate

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Speaker 1: you joining us, but you probably don't know. When I

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Speaker 1: did your podcast, I was going through a really hard time.

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Speaker 1: I stopped all my treatment for my depression and anxiety

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Speaker 1: and eight eating everything and I got stuck in a

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Speaker 1: dark hole. If you remember, I called you after we

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Speaker 1: did that interview and I was like, hey, man, I

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Speaker 1: gotta go somewhere and get some help you just have

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Speaker 1: some ideas. But you're the only person I had asked, like,

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Speaker 1: I don't know, there's something about you because you're a

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Speaker 1: brain health coach. I looked at it like, man, I

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Speaker 1: haven't I've met twenty brain health coaches who've been through

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Speaker 1: it that like, hey, I feel this guy can help me.

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Speaker 1: You just and you didn't. I told you some places

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Speaker 1: I wanted to go, and you kind of walk me

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Speaker 1: through it. So before anything, I just want to thank

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Speaker 1: you for being there for me. Kay, You're You're a

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Speaker 1: special soul. I'm so glad. I think people connect for reasons,

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Speaker 1: even including those who are listening and part of this

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Speaker 1: conversation right now. That's maybe it's not coincidence. And you

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Speaker 1: know we're here to elevator each other. So yeah, thank

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Speaker 1: you for writing such an incredible book. We had so

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Speaker 1: much positive feedback. I mean, the stories will make you cry.

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Speaker 1: I don't people listen to our episode and so yeah,

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Speaker 1: very very very grateful for the way you show up

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Speaker 1: in the world. I appreciate that. Yeah, I mean that's

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Speaker 1: the whole thing. It's like more, you know, we talk

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Speaker 1: it words enough for people to have the conversation. That's

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Speaker 1: what you're able to do. You're able to give people hope.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to give people hope just to have the conversation,

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Speaker 1: because when you don't, when you know something's off but

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Speaker 1: you can't, you gotta stuff it down to stifle it,

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Speaker 1: it sucks and you just feel like you're trapped. So

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Speaker 1: you know, you gave me a form where I can

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Speaker 1: help people feel less trapped, I guess, and that's everything.

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Speaker 1: It's It's interesting because a lot of people we talked

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Speaker 1: about this in our podcast in the conversation on my show,

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Speaker 1: but people often refer to physical pain as being more

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Speaker 1: intense than mental or emotional pain. It's a lot easier

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Speaker 1: sometimes for somebody say, oh, my knee hurts than you know,

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Speaker 1: my heart is broken, you know, or or my spirit

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Speaker 1: is crushed, you know, and you know, we know that

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Speaker 1: with when it comes to mental health, some of those things,

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Speaker 1: the burdens that were carrying is it's it's often much

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Speaker 1: harder to bear, you know, especially you know in those

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Speaker 1: in those in those darker or there's those greater times.

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Speaker 1: So you know, yeah, I think this is this is

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Speaker 1: the most important conversation that we're having, you know today especially,

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Speaker 1: and you know it's interesting you bring that because, yeah,

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Speaker 1: elbow for me. And that's that. But you know what

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Speaker 1: you do, right, you quick? Brain? You're dealing with the brain.

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Speaker 1: It's not like, hey, there's at least for us, we

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Speaker 1: the knee in your brain. For me, it's just okay,

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Speaker 1: the brain. But there's so many different parts of our

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Speaker 1: brain that affect how we behave and we act. How

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Speaker 1: did you, I'm gonna say, your brain expert, how did

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Speaker 1: you become a brain expert? How did you and yourself taught?

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Speaker 1: Which is a crazy part for me, So kind of

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Speaker 1: I was in kindergarten class and there was these fire

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Speaker 1: in school. I had poor focus, poor memory. I had

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Speaker 1: processing issues teachers. What that means is for me, teachers

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Speaker 1: you know, just the same way I coach. I coach

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Speaker 1: Some people are teaching ability, you know, disabilities you know

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Speaker 1: million people a year live. You know, I could be

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Speaker 1: on three you know lest I was in three continents

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Speaker 1: in one week, you know, speaking And sometimes I'll do

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Speaker 1: these demonstrations, or I'll have like a hundred people in

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Speaker 1: an audience stand up and pass around and mike and

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Speaker 1: introduce themselves and I'll memorize all their names, or you know,

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Speaker 1: they can be one hundred random words or one hundred

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Speaker 1: numbers and over, calling forwards and backwards. But I always

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Speaker 1: tell people, I don't do this to impress you. I

436
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Speaker 1: do just to express you what's possible, because the truth

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Speaker 1: is every single person listening right now, regardless of their age,

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Speaker 1: their background, their career, their education level, their financial situation,

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Speaker 1: their gender, their history, their IQ even, they can do

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Speaker 1: that and a lot more. We just weren't taught. You know,

441
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Speaker 1: going to your kid and saying focus or study. That's

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Speaker 1: like going to a child and say play the ukulele.

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Speaker 1: Who's never taken a class or a seminar on how

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Speaker 1: to play that instrument. But we've never taken a class

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Speaker 1: called focus, just like we've never taken a class on

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Speaker 1: mental health, right, our financial literacy, you know, or some

447
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Speaker 1: of the things that I feel like would be you know,

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Speaker 1: very useful for us, you know, today, in this age

449
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Speaker 1: and stage and that we live in. But my powers,

450
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Speaker 1: if you will, came from just studying and discipline, just

451
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Speaker 1: like anyone else, just like sports, right, it's work in

452
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Speaker 1: the world, right, and and exactly I'm making it practical,

453
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Speaker 1: you know, so you learn, I believe, to earn, to

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Speaker 1: be able to return, you know. But it definitely took work,

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Speaker 1: without a doubt. There was no magic memory pill, certainly,

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Speaker 1: but there were processes, you know. And my my, I

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Speaker 1: think one of the gifts I've developed over time is

458
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Speaker 1: I believe genius leaves clues that if someone is exceptional

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Speaker 1: in some area, that they're doing certain things and there's

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Speaker 1: a method behind what looks like magic to everybody else,

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Speaker 1: you know, And my goal is to kind of show

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Speaker 1: people a blueprint on how to do that, you know.

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Speaker 1: And so like even even everyone listening like they're they're

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Speaker 1: they're like six things that people could do that could

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Speaker 1: really move the needle, like, for example, your brain and

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Speaker 1: let's let's go, let's do these sex Yeah yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: yeah yeah. So my limitless It was endorsed heavily by

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Speaker 1: the founding director of the Cleveland Clinics Center for Brain Health,

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Speaker 1: by the top Alzheimer's Research at a Harvard University. Can

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Speaker 1: I speak validate anybody? Yeah, And I appreciate it. And

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Speaker 1: I appreciate because I have the opportunity to speak at

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Speaker 1: these institutions or at the hospitals, you know, to train

473
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Speaker 1: their their doctors, their caregivers, their researchers, their their patients.

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Speaker 1: About one third of our brain's potential is predetermined by

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Speaker 1: genetics or biology, but more than two thirds is in

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Speaker 1: our control. And so certain things that we could do

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Speaker 1: to move the needle. And and again good brain healthy

478
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Speaker 1: is just a better mental health. So you know, a

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Speaker 1: good thing to recommend, Like I use acronyms a lot

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Speaker 1: to help them, especially people are listening. I know that

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Speaker 1: they might be driving, they might be working out, and

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Speaker 1: they don't might not have access to notes. But um,

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Speaker 1: like you take your meds right, And what I would

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Speaker 1: say is, here are some meds that are really cost

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Speaker 1: nothing and they have zero side effects and it's an

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Speaker 1: acronym right, so um and I didn't come up with this.

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Speaker 1: I don't know who to credit this too, but meds

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Speaker 1: M e eds Actually Brendan Burchard. Recently he wrote Motivation Manifesto.

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Speaker 1: Came out with meds RX and I don't give it

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Speaker 1: to everyone here, and I'm just going to share some

491
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Speaker 1: of my my take for it and some of the research.

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Speaker 1: The M stands for meditation, right, And we know there

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Speaker 1: was a study. It was a joint study done at

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Speaker 1: NYU and I think it was Virginia Tech. It was

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Speaker 1: just a few years ago, in twenty eighteen, I think,

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Speaker 1: and they found that eight weeks of guided meditation, just

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Speaker 1: thirteen minutes a day, had a huge impact on mood

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Speaker 1: of the participants and enhance attention span. It enhanced working memory,

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Speaker 1: recognition memory. It also helped with anxiety, helped improve overall

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Speaker 1: emotional regulation. So, you know, meditation for me and I've

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Speaker 1: done you know, a dozen podcasts on it. It's something

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Speaker 1: that I just take ten fifteen minutes. You know, I

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Speaker 1: think it's important nowadays to disconnect so that we could reconnect.

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Speaker 1: You know, your our brains aren't meant to go one

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Speaker 1: hundred miles an hour all the time, and sometimes it

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Speaker 1: you know, just like with your phones or any part

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Speaker 1: of technology, if it starts to slow down or overheat,

508
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Speaker 1: sometimes it has to unplug it right to be able

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Speaker 1: to Most things work better when you unplug it and

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Speaker 1: plug it back in later. And so some meditations my jam.

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Speaker 1: And certainly people could just google my name meditation and

512
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Speaker 1: go through, you know, my process. But and again I

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Speaker 1: would say meditation for me has never been about becoming enlightened.

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Speaker 1: It's for me. It's it's a training tool that if

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Speaker 1: my mind goes somewhere and invariably will I prow it

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Speaker 1: back to my breath or something in my environment or

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Speaker 1: some some word or mantra, And it's me flexing my

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Speaker 1: focus muscles so I could training what I want to

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Speaker 1: focus put my attention the spotlight of my mind on

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Speaker 1: at a given time. It also reminds me of meditation

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Speaker 1: that it's not about controlling our thoughts, like people think.

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Speaker 1: There's a misnomer that people think that in order to

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Speaker 1: meditate they have set to just have an empty mind

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Speaker 1: and no thoughts. That that's impossible. And so like our

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Speaker 1: heart beats and asking our mind to stop thinking. It's

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Speaker 1: like asking our heart to stop beating. Right, that's the

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Speaker 1: purpose of a heart, it beats. Our purpose of our

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Speaker 1: mind is it thinks, but you don't. The purpose of

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Speaker 1: meditation is not to control our thoughts. It's realizing that

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Speaker 1: our thoughts don't have to control us all the time, right,

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Speaker 1: And so that I think it's a great practice, and

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Speaker 1: certainly all the benefits for mental health in terms of anxiety,

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Speaker 1: reducing stress, reducing blood pressure is powerful. Well, I think

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Speaker 1: I think for meditation as it gives us a break

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Speaker 1: when you know, for those of us with mental health

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Speaker 1: issues where you know, my depression, anxiety. If I meditate

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Speaker 1: for ten minutes, that's ten minutes those roommates in my

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Speaker 1: head aren't saying bad things to me. Yeah, And some

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Speaker 1: people say, well, I don't have ten minutes. Honest to God,

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Speaker 1: if we don't have ten minutes, then we should be

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Speaker 1: meditating for like an hour, right, right. That's probably that's

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Speaker 1: probably reason that we need to do it more often.

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Speaker 1: But I really feel like I'm at a disadvantage if

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Speaker 1: I don't do it, you know, And I think part

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Speaker 1: of self care is prioritizing our time. You know that

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Speaker 1: when we say yes to somebody or yes to something,

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Speaker 1: we're not saying no to our ourself. You know. Part

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Speaker 1: of self care is putting borders and boundaries around the

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Speaker 1: things like our emotions, like our mental health, like our

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Speaker 1: like our time, and you know, the minutes that make

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Speaker 1: up our life. Med's are x THEE in med's our

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Speaker 1: extance for exercise right again, something just like meditation. It's

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Speaker 1: free there as I could quote study upon study you

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Speaker 1: know where there's one actually just a few years ago

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Speaker 1: and twenty fifteen at Cambridge University where they said participants,

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Speaker 1: you know, they tested them cognitively, multiple cognitive tests, and

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Speaker 1: then they tested them after like thirty sixty ninety intervals,

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Speaker 1: like a vigorous of exercise, and they came back and

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Speaker 1: it's just they just did better on focus, they did

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Speaker 1: better on mental acuity, they did better on memory test. Generally,

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Speaker 1: what's good for our heart is going to be good

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Speaker 1: for our head, you know. And so but also like

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Speaker 1: it also helped for hours after the exercise. People that

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Speaker 1: improve their mood had reduced their stress obviously, and so

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Speaker 1: and I don't just mean like doing cross fit three

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Speaker 1: times a week, I mean how much are we moving

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Speaker 1: throughout the day. They say sitting is a new smoking.

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Speaker 1: We're behind screens all the time. And you know, when

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Speaker 1: you move your body, you create brain derived neurotrophic factors BDNF,

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Speaker 1: which is like fertilizer for our brain. And so just

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Speaker 1: moving and the primary reason we have a brain, the

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Speaker 1: number one reason we have a brain to control our movement.

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Speaker 1: And I believe as your body moves, your brain grooves.

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Speaker 1: So even if you're doing your calls, you know, from

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Speaker 1: a walk or maybe maybe taking the dogs out or

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Speaker 1: something like that, and that's where you're doing you're thinking.

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Speaker 1: I feel like that is so very important. The D

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Speaker 1: in meds RX, the D stands for diet. It's probably

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Speaker 1: the only thing that costs money. You know, it's an

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Speaker 1: investment to eat um, maybe it even eat well. But

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Speaker 1: did you know that there are certain foods that that

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Speaker 1: are just supports a greater mood and uh in mental health,

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Speaker 1: certainly greater memory. And so you could put together recipes

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Speaker 1: that are packed with with antioxidants, with magnesium, with healthy

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Speaker 1: omega omega three, yeah, to reduce stress and and all

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00:26:32,840 --> 00:26:39,080
Speaker 1: that exactly exactly exactly, and so that that that brain

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Speaker 1: gut connection is so very important. Probably the biggest neurotoxin

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Speaker 1: that that most of us you know, indulgent is just

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Speaker 1: refined sugar, right um, And so we could go on

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Speaker 1: all the hazardous, you know, challenges that come from that.

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Speaker 1: But there's so many scientific based nutrient foods that you

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Speaker 1: know or supplements that will support emotional wellness. I did

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Speaker 1: an interview on podcast interview with Leanna Warner Gray, and

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Speaker 1: she wrote anxiety free Foods. You know, she was talking

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Speaker 1: about certain foods actually reduced stress and anxiety in the

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Speaker 1: human body, like dark leafy greens like broccoli, kale, spinach, spyrolina.

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Speaker 1: There are other anxiety foods reducing foods also good for

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Speaker 1: the brain. Avocados, blueberries, coconut oil, olive oil, tumeric blueberries.

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Speaker 1: I like to call them brainberries. And these are nutritious,

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Speaker 1: but they could also beat delicious also as well. So

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Speaker 1: you know, when when you're eating something, just ask yourself,

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Speaker 1: is as good for my brain ers as bad for

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Speaker 1: my brain? The fatty fishes certainly that you mentioned salmon's hardines.

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Speaker 1: All good. People want a great video, just search gym

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Speaker 1: quick brain foods and I actually go through my favorite

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Speaker 1: brain foods. I show people how to memorize them, you know,

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Speaker 1: little memory trick that if you're going to the grocery store,

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Speaker 1: some people come back and they forget, you know, that

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Speaker 1: thing that they went to the store for. But yeah,

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Speaker 1: and then finally the acid and meds. Sleep. You and

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Speaker 1: I have had a discussion on this. I mean, how's

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Speaker 1: our mental state if we sleep, you know, orly the

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Speaker 1: next how how are we performing the next day? How's

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Speaker 1: our focus? How's our demeanor, how's the how's our mood,

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Speaker 1: how's our temper how's our memory? You know, ours ability

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Speaker 1: to solve problems and be creative and write or film

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Speaker 1: or you know, and you're always on camera, Hi, how

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Speaker 1: can you perform when you even on sleep? Well? And

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Speaker 1: there's so many you know, studies obviously on on sleep

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Speaker 1: and also just like you know, and whether it's six

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Speaker 1: where seven hours or eight hours or nine hours, But

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Speaker 1: really it's more of the quantity the quality of sleep,

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Speaker 1: deep sleep where we're rejuvenating our body rem sleep or

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Speaker 1: rejuvenating our mind, you know, and getting tested. You know,

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Speaker 1: I have a very severe sleep apnea instead obstructive breathing disorder.

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Speaker 1: I stopped breathing two hundred and fifty times a night.

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Speaker 1: Each time is at least ten seconds. So I was

628
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Speaker 1: at UCLA. It's like, no matter, no wonder. You're like,

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Speaker 1: it's like somebody coming in two hundred fifty times and

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Speaker 1: putting a pillow over your face, you know, so I

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Speaker 1: wake up. You know, I used to see pap and

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Speaker 1: a dental device. It's all very sexy, but none of

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Speaker 1: it really works for me. So I headed look at people, right, yeah,

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Speaker 1: and I done. That's why I've interviewed the top sleep

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Speaker 1: experts in the world, you know, and I ended up

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Speaker 1: doing some surgery and I might I slept ninety minutes

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Speaker 1: a night total for five years from two thousand to

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Speaker 1: two thousand and ten to two thousand and fifteen, um

639
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Speaker 1: is horrible. And then plus you know, like I'd be

640
00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:15,440
Speaker 1: traveling and jet lag and you know, which just compounded.

641
00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:18,560
Speaker 1: But the adverse health challenges is like weight gain, we're

642
00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:22,200
Speaker 1: not sleeping well, weight gain, obesity, diabetes, hypertension, you know,

643
00:29:22,280 --> 00:29:25,640
Speaker 1: heart disease, stroke, depression. I mean, lack of sleep impairs

644
00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:30,520
Speaker 1: every physiological function. So I have well, what you're gonna say, No,

645
00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:32,360
Speaker 1: I was just gonna say my favorite things that helped

646
00:29:32,360 --> 00:29:36,239
Speaker 1: me sleep in no specific order. Direct sunlight, first thing

647
00:29:36,240 --> 00:29:38,120
Speaker 1: in the morning. You know, your your eyes are the

648
00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:40,440
Speaker 1: only part of your brain outside your skull, and it

649
00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:42,200
Speaker 1: helps to be such your circading with them. So not

650
00:29:42,360 --> 00:29:45,320
Speaker 1: sunlight through early the windows because that could filter out

651
00:29:45,360 --> 00:29:47,520
Speaker 1: spectrums of light. But even if you go out on

652
00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:50,280
Speaker 1: a hazy day, it's it's it's very powerful. Um and

653
00:29:50,360 --> 00:29:52,960
Speaker 1: that's free right, and get fresh air and you're grounded.

654
00:29:53,400 --> 00:29:55,960
Speaker 1: No coffee pass two pm. If you're sensitive to caffeine

655
00:29:55,960 --> 00:29:57,920
Speaker 1: like I am. Some people could have expressore before they

656
00:29:57,960 --> 00:30:00,240
Speaker 1: go to bed and they could just I don't. Yeah,

657
00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:02,240
Speaker 1: I've seen those people too. They order a dinner. I'm like,

658
00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:04,440
Speaker 1: how the hell do you do? I'm so jealous of people,

659
00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:07,920
Speaker 1: So jealous of those people. And also drinking, like no alcohol.

660
00:30:08,360 --> 00:30:10,120
Speaker 1: You know, to a lot of people use alcohol then

661
00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:12,080
Speaker 1: they think it helps their sleep, but the science is

662
00:30:12,080 --> 00:30:14,440
Speaker 1: saying different. It knocks you out, but it doesn't mean

663
00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:17,320
Speaker 1: you're getting quality rest also as well. But the other

664
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Speaker 1: thing is melatonin production, and so just think about it

665
00:30:20,280 --> 00:30:24,240
Speaker 1: as a hunter gatherer. There are two triggers that where

666
00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:27,160
Speaker 1: you would naturally produce meltonin which is helps you to

667
00:30:27,520 --> 00:30:29,920
Speaker 1: hormone helps you relax and show you that it's time

668
00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:33,040
Speaker 1: to phase down into rest. It was a decrease in

669
00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:35,360
Speaker 1: two things, a decrease in temperature, a decrease in light.

670
00:30:35,560 --> 00:30:37,240
Speaker 1: That's when we know it's time to go to sleep.

671
00:30:37,360 --> 00:30:40,360
Speaker 1: But today, with modern conveniences where you have you know,

672
00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:43,800
Speaker 1: lights in every room, temperature regulation for the terms that

673
00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:46,520
Speaker 1: we don't get those same triggers unless we're deliberate about it.

674
00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:48,960
Speaker 1: So I would say a colder, darker room will help

675
00:30:48,960 --> 00:30:52,080
Speaker 1: people sleep longer and better. Some people will take a

676
00:30:52,120 --> 00:30:55,040
Speaker 1: warm bath or sauna before they go to sleep, and

677
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:57,720
Speaker 1: the epps and salt, the magnesium is great for helping

678
00:30:57,720 --> 00:31:00,240
Speaker 1: your relax. Also when you leave that bath here, core

679
00:31:00,280 --> 00:31:03,280
Speaker 1: body temperature drops, which is the trigger to h to

680
00:31:03,480 --> 00:31:06,080
Speaker 1: meltonein to be able to sleep. Um, getting off our

681
00:31:06,120 --> 00:31:08,520
Speaker 1: screens late at night. I mean, so many people are

682
00:31:08,520 --> 00:31:12,480
Speaker 1: guilty of looking at the TV, their their pad, their phones,

683
00:31:12,680 --> 00:31:15,040
Speaker 1: their computers, whatever it is. But that blue light he

684
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:17,240
Speaker 1: we've heard this before. It fools the mind and the

685
00:31:17,320 --> 00:31:19,320
Speaker 1: thing is still daylight. And that's what you wonder why

686
00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:21,200
Speaker 1: you can't fall asleep. And plus I don't think the

687
00:31:21,280 --> 00:31:25,960
Speaker 1: human brain but evolved to have the world's information, every

688
00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:28,360
Speaker 1: single thing, like we through just a few scrolls, we

689
00:31:28,680 --> 00:31:31,640
Speaker 1: get bombarded with more information than somebody three hundred years

690
00:31:31,640 --> 00:31:34,640
Speaker 1: ago ever saw in their lifetime, right, and so like,

691
00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:36,880
Speaker 1: I don't I don't think that that's something that helps

692
00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 1: you to kind of phase and be able to relax.

693
00:31:38,800 --> 00:31:41,400
Speaker 1: So those are just some like the sleep. Here's what

694
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Speaker 1: I do for what I've learned from my sleep. One.

695
00:31:44,520 --> 00:31:47,120
Speaker 1: I do breathwork at night now because because I am,

696
00:31:47,120 --> 00:31:49,360
Speaker 1: because I'm one of those people guilty of Yeah, look,

697
00:31:49,360 --> 00:31:51,240
Speaker 1: I gotta constantly check NFL news and this and that,

698
00:31:51,280 --> 00:31:53,600
Speaker 1: you know. So I'm like, man, So I do breath work. Okay,

699
00:31:53,800 --> 00:31:56,000
Speaker 1: slow myself down, Slow myself down. But then one of

700
00:31:56,040 --> 00:31:58,720
Speaker 1: the things I learned from one of my my time

701
00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:02,120
Speaker 1: monk therapists that I know men out there, was take

702
00:32:02,240 --> 00:32:04,200
Speaker 1: a few things during the day. He said, I want

703
00:32:04,240 --> 00:32:06,640
Speaker 1: you to take something what happened today that was that

704
00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 1: was pretty cool? Okay, And you give me something that

705
00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:10,800
Speaker 1: was good. So I told him it was good. He said, Okay,

706
00:32:10,800 --> 00:32:12,360
Speaker 1: Now what I wanted you to do, I want you

707
00:32:12,400 --> 00:32:15,280
Speaker 1: to smile about it, okay, because if you smile, that

708
00:32:15,360 --> 00:32:18,040
Speaker 1: releases certain chemicals in your brain that and your brain

709
00:32:18,080 --> 00:32:19,920
Speaker 1: doesn't know if it's a fake smile or real smile.

710
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:22,200
Speaker 1: It just releasing those chemicals in your brain. Right, So

711
00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:24,440
Speaker 1: he said, smile about it. Then I want you to

712
00:32:25,160 --> 00:32:27,200
Speaker 1: celebrate it, he said, I want you to appreciate it.

713
00:32:27,600 --> 00:32:29,160
Speaker 1: That celebrate it. So what do I mean? He said,

714
00:32:29,320 --> 00:32:31,120
Speaker 1: I want you to throw a party in your heart

715
00:32:31,280 --> 00:32:34,239
Speaker 1: for two minutes, like just be so excited that this

716
00:32:34,320 --> 00:32:37,760
Speaker 1: happened to you today. So you're throwing yourself a little party, okay,

717
00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:39,080
Speaker 1: And then I want you to do it for two

718
00:32:39,080 --> 00:32:41,640
Speaker 1: more things. So three things. So you go to bed

719
00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:44,960
Speaker 1: having had three parties and you had these things to celebrate,

720
00:32:45,280 --> 00:32:47,000
Speaker 1: and it will calm your brain down a little bit

721
00:32:47,080 --> 00:32:49,680
Speaker 1: instead of those things that you're you're going to bed

722
00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:52,600
Speaker 1: with worrying about for the next morning. Right, you go

723
00:32:52,640 --> 00:32:55,640
Speaker 1: to beds celebrating now, and you could wake up having

724
00:32:55,760 --> 00:32:58,000
Speaker 1: just come back from a celebration. And it's worked for me.

725
00:32:58,320 --> 00:33:01,120
Speaker 1: I'm gonna totally try that of that. You know, it

726
00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:03,880
Speaker 1: gets you in that parasympathetic you know, like you hear

727
00:33:03,920 --> 00:33:07,920
Speaker 1: about the autonomic nervous system, how this pendulum swings between

728
00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:12,680
Speaker 1: sympathetic and parasympathetic sympathetics that fight or flight response, and

729
00:33:12,720 --> 00:33:14,520
Speaker 1: that's where a lot of work. That's why we don't

730
00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:16,480
Speaker 1: want to be in that work mode, you know before

731
00:33:16,520 --> 00:33:19,000
Speaker 1: we go to sleep. But that parasympathetic is that rest

732
00:33:19,040 --> 00:33:21,280
Speaker 1: and digest, you know, and anything that puts you in

733
00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:24,720
Speaker 1: that state where you're celebrating, where you're have gratitude and

734
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:28,760
Speaker 1: appreciation for the things, wonderful way to be able to downregulate,

735
00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:32,160
Speaker 1: you know, and doing some yoga, nidra, breathing and anything

736
00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:34,080
Speaker 1: that kind of gets you into into your body and

737
00:33:34,200 --> 00:33:35,840
Speaker 1: out of you're out of your head and you're not

738
00:33:35,920 --> 00:33:40,080
Speaker 1: ruminating like you talked about, ruminating about work or finances

739
00:33:40,280 --> 00:33:43,240
Speaker 1: or you know, things that could happen. Yeah, very problem

740
00:33:43,280 --> 00:33:44,760
Speaker 1: I was. I was thinking plot plan I think of

741
00:33:44,760 --> 00:33:46,400
Speaker 1: platt and planning, think of plat and planic. Yeah, And

742
00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:50,200
Speaker 1: I had to get myself off that track. And it

743
00:33:50,200 --> 00:33:52,520
Speaker 1: takes training to rewire your mind to do it. And

744
00:33:52,560 --> 00:33:55,040
Speaker 1: we're not always perfect without a doubt, but it you know,

745
00:33:55,080 --> 00:33:58,120
Speaker 1: there's a quote in my book Limitless that it's from

746
00:33:58,160 --> 00:34:00,440
Speaker 1: a French philosopher and he says, life is the C

747
00:34:00,880 --> 00:34:03,320
Speaker 1: the letters C between the letter between the letters B

748
00:34:03,520 --> 00:34:06,040
Speaker 1: and D, or B stands for birth and D stands

749
00:34:06,080 --> 00:34:09,279
Speaker 1: for death and life C choice. Then you know, it's

750
00:34:09,280 --> 00:34:11,440
Speaker 1: the choices that were making every single day. And I

751
00:34:11,480 --> 00:34:14,200
Speaker 1: do believe that these difficult times can distract us. These

752
00:34:14,200 --> 00:34:17,360
Speaker 1: difficult times might human diminish us, or these difficult times

753
00:34:17,400 --> 00:34:21,279
Speaker 1: they could develop us. We we always decide. The last

754
00:34:21,320 --> 00:34:24,640
Speaker 1: part of med's the RX, which I got from from

755
00:34:24,640 --> 00:34:28,680
Speaker 1: Brendan Bashard. The R stands for relationships, the power of bonds,

756
00:34:28,719 --> 00:34:31,520
Speaker 1: and a peer group. You know that we're not alone

757
00:34:31,600 --> 00:34:35,480
Speaker 1: going through this. I just interviewed doctor Robert Waldinger, who

758
00:34:35,480 --> 00:34:38,600
Speaker 1: who oversees the Harvard Study of Adult Development. It's the

759
00:34:38,680 --> 00:34:42,279
Speaker 1: longest study on happiness in the world at eighty four

760
00:34:42,360 --> 00:34:46,080
Speaker 1: years on longevity and happiness, and basically I asked him,

761
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:48,560
Speaker 1: you know, bottom line, when it comes down to happiness

762
00:34:48,880 --> 00:34:51,640
Speaker 1: and your health, what is the biggest you know, contributor

763
00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:54,960
Speaker 1: is it? Is it diet? Is it exercise? And He's like, actually,

764
00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:57,719
Speaker 1: it's our relationships. And it doesn't mean you have to

765
00:34:57,760 --> 00:35:00,399
Speaker 1: be married or it doesn't intervert extrovert, that does the matter.

766
00:35:00,400 --> 00:35:03,200
Speaker 1: It's just the bonds that we form, you know, with

767
00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:08,160
Speaker 1: the people around us. Um and that your team. Yeah,

768
00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:13,799
Speaker 1: the same thing, yep, yeah, exactly find your tea. Yes,

769
00:35:14,120 --> 00:35:17,080
Speaker 1: I literally just got goose bumps. I called him truth.

770
00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:18,879
Speaker 1: I call him check on the truth bumps. But yeah,

771
00:35:18,960 --> 00:35:21,920
Speaker 1: find I find your team and so you know, and

772
00:35:21,920 --> 00:35:24,279
Speaker 1: then you know, we all need people you know, that

773
00:35:24,600 --> 00:35:26,960
Speaker 1: encourage us, that are kind to us, that that tell

774
00:35:27,040 --> 00:35:29,240
Speaker 1: us what we need, that are that have our backs

775
00:35:29,360 --> 00:35:31,880
Speaker 1: and cheerlead for us. And if you haven't found that

776
00:35:31,880 --> 00:35:34,920
Speaker 1: person yet, my recommendation would be, you know, be that person,

777
00:35:35,080 --> 00:35:37,319
Speaker 1: you know, be that person for somebody else you know,

778
00:35:37,440 --> 00:35:40,400
Speaker 1: you know, definitely be that person you know for for you.

779
00:35:40,400 --> 00:35:43,319
Speaker 1: You know, you're ourselves. So that's the R in um

780
00:35:43,480 --> 00:35:46,120
Speaker 1: Med's oar X. And then the X is just space

781
00:35:46,160 --> 00:35:48,480
Speaker 1: for all the extras, right, all the extras you want

782
00:35:48,480 --> 00:35:50,719
Speaker 1: to add to that, like for me, two things that

783
00:35:50,760 --> 00:35:54,160
Speaker 1: don't cost anything. It's just like I cold therapy a lot.

784
00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:56,480
Speaker 1: I don't know what it is. I met whim Hoff

785
00:35:56,480 --> 00:35:59,879
Speaker 1: in twenty twelve, ten years ago, the iceman. He had

786
00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:02,920
Speaker 1: um you know, his stories. He had lost his wife

787
00:36:03,360 --> 00:36:05,680
Speaker 1: and he had his kids, and how he would get

788
00:36:05,680 --> 00:36:08,040
Speaker 1: through it. She would jump into the in in in

789
00:36:08,120 --> 00:36:10,879
Speaker 1: the cold water, you know, you know, and it would

790
00:36:10,920 --> 00:36:14,160
Speaker 1: reset his nervous system, you know, increase NORP and nephrin

791
00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:18,040
Speaker 1: a sense of dopamine. For me, it's just it's it's

792
00:36:18,080 --> 00:36:20,200
Speaker 1: a reset. It's like a nervous system reset, you know.

793
00:36:20,280 --> 00:36:24,800
Speaker 1: Could I feel like I've accomplished something. Yeah, And it's hard,

794
00:36:24,880 --> 00:36:26,840
Speaker 1: and that's the other part of it. I hate. I

795
00:36:26,880 --> 00:36:29,799
Speaker 1: grew up in the Northeast, don't love the cold. But

796
00:36:29,960 --> 00:36:31,799
Speaker 1: you know, when you get yourself to do difficult things,

797
00:36:31,880 --> 00:36:34,160
Speaker 1: it gives you. It boosts your self esteem right the

798
00:36:34,200 --> 00:36:37,000
Speaker 1: way you see yourself. It kind of builds some mental toughness.

799
00:36:37,480 --> 00:36:39,760
Speaker 1: So hopefully how we do anything, it's how we do everything.

800
00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:41,680
Speaker 1: We maybe could take it into other areas when we

801
00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:44,799
Speaker 1: need some some grid and some resilience. But cold is great,

802
00:36:45,040 --> 00:36:46,799
Speaker 1: you know, we talked about heat is great. You know,

803
00:36:46,840 --> 00:36:48,799
Speaker 1: my favorite things are actually free. You know. While I

804
00:36:48,840 --> 00:36:50,640
Speaker 1: like all the biohacking and some of the stuff that's

805
00:36:50,640 --> 00:36:53,280
Speaker 1: out there, all that stuff is really meant to mimic nature.

806
00:36:53,400 --> 00:36:56,160
Speaker 1: Like for me, I did a show on the four elements,

807
00:36:56,400 --> 00:37:00,560
Speaker 1: and these are the four elements like air, fire, water, earth, right,

808
00:37:00,800 --> 00:37:03,560
Speaker 1: and back in the Babylonian times, ancient Greeks, they used

809
00:37:03,560 --> 00:37:06,360
Speaker 1: to think that those four elements created everything. Right, everything

810
00:37:06,400 --> 00:37:08,319
Speaker 1: was made of these four elements. Well, in my mind,

811
00:37:08,360 --> 00:37:10,160
Speaker 1: I wake up and like I want to get these

812
00:37:10,200 --> 00:37:13,000
Speaker 1: four elements, you know, going first thing in the morning.

813
00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:15,000
Speaker 1: So what I'll do is I'll go outside, you know,

814
00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:17,440
Speaker 1: after there use the bathroom and go outside and I'll

815
00:37:17,520 --> 00:37:20,280
Speaker 1: touch the earth, you know, like I'll get grounded, right

816
00:37:20,840 --> 00:37:23,879
Speaker 1: because I feel like, you know, sometimes when I feel

817
00:37:23,920 --> 00:37:26,640
Speaker 1: anxiety and stress, I feel like I don't have a foundation,

818
00:37:26,840 --> 00:37:28,600
Speaker 1: and I think touching the ground or sitting on the

819
00:37:28,600 --> 00:37:31,000
Speaker 1: ground is something that's healing for me. I'll do some

820
00:37:31,160 --> 00:37:33,160
Speaker 1: deep breathing first thing in the morning, so I'll get

821
00:37:33,200 --> 00:37:35,239
Speaker 1: my hair, so I get earth and air. I'll be

822
00:37:35,280 --> 00:37:38,280
Speaker 1: looking at the sun because I'll do that sun gazing

823
00:37:38,360 --> 00:37:41,160
Speaker 1: and you know, that's my fire. And then I'll either

824
00:37:41,160 --> 00:37:43,320
Speaker 1: take a cold shower or drink some water. And drinking

825
00:37:43,360 --> 00:37:45,919
Speaker 1: water staying hydrated is so very important for the human

826
00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:48,120
Speaker 1: brain and our mental health. We could lose up to

827
00:37:48,160 --> 00:37:52,160
Speaker 1: a pound of water just at nighttime through respiration and perspiration,

828
00:37:52,200 --> 00:37:54,560
Speaker 1: and our brain is mostly water. So this staying hydrated

829
00:37:54,600 --> 00:37:56,800
Speaker 1: poos your reaction time and your thinging speed upwards a

830
00:37:56,880 --> 00:37:58,960
Speaker 1: thirty percent, you know. So I'll do some water and

831
00:37:59,600 --> 00:38:02,840
Speaker 1: some of electro lights, but that'll be like I'll throughout

832
00:38:02,880 --> 00:38:04,200
Speaker 1: the day, I'll be like, how do I get even

833
00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:07,680
Speaker 1: during brain breaks? I'm on zoom too much or whatever.

834
00:38:07,760 --> 00:38:09,479
Speaker 1: I'll just say I need a five minute brain break.

835
00:38:09,480 --> 00:38:12,440
Speaker 1: And what will I do. I'll move my body, I'll hydrate,

836
00:38:12,480 --> 00:38:14,839
Speaker 1: and I'll do some breathing outside, you know, and get

837
00:38:14,840 --> 00:38:18,080
Speaker 1: some fresh air, and I'll come back refreshed mentally and physically.

838
00:38:18,520 --> 00:38:20,440
Speaker 1: You know, folks, think about this. You never see a

839
00:38:20,480 --> 00:38:23,120
Speaker 1: fight where fighter doesn't get to go and sit on

840
00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 1: the stool and recover for you know, a minute. And

841
00:38:26,040 --> 00:38:27,600
Speaker 1: it's the same thing. We need to post it on

842
00:38:27,640 --> 00:38:32,040
Speaker 1: our school and recover without it. I love it. I

843
00:38:32,120 --> 00:38:34,640
Speaker 1: love I love all the sports analogies. So before I

844
00:38:34,719 --> 00:38:36,160
Speaker 1: let you go, I got one last question here for

845
00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:38,440
Speaker 1: your brother. And this has been just amazing and lightning

846
00:38:38,520 --> 00:38:40,160
Speaker 1: and a You and I just have this bond and

847
00:38:40,200 --> 00:38:43,480
Speaker 1: I appreciate it. Um I asked all my guests, give

848
00:38:43,480 --> 00:38:46,080
Speaker 1: me your unbreakable moment, give me that moment that man,

849
00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:49,319
Speaker 1: something should have broken, you could have didn't, and you

850
00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:51,640
Speaker 1: came through the other side of that tunnel. As a result,

851
00:38:51,680 --> 00:38:54,200
Speaker 1: you're and you're just stronger for the rest of your life.

852
00:38:54,200 --> 00:38:57,040
Speaker 1: And you've already given us so many yea, But is

853
00:38:57,080 --> 00:38:59,839
Speaker 1: there another moment we haven't hit yet? Yeah, I mean

854
00:39:00,560 --> 00:39:03,680
Speaker 1: whether it happen my my, my brain injury or my

855
00:39:03,680 --> 00:39:06,800
Speaker 1: my you know some sleep deprivation experiment which was almost

856
00:39:06,800 --> 00:39:10,480
Speaker 1: as deadly. Um, i'll give you one. I don't share. Um.

857
00:39:10,560 --> 00:39:12,160
Speaker 1: All right, So when I remember when I said I

858
00:39:12,400 --> 00:39:14,239
Speaker 1: learned these skills when I was eighteen years old and

859
00:39:14,280 --> 00:39:16,720
Speaker 1: I was in school and I lost all this weight,

860
00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:19,160
Speaker 1: and I found out that I wanted to tutor and

861
00:39:19,200 --> 00:39:21,600
Speaker 1: help other people because I really think that we're here

862
00:39:21,840 --> 00:39:25,360
Speaker 1: to to pay it forward, right starts like yourself, and

863
00:39:25,400 --> 00:39:27,640
Speaker 1: that really fulfills our heart and our spirit. But I

864
00:39:27,640 --> 00:39:30,040
Speaker 1: didn't know how to do that. And I was walking along, um,

865
00:39:30,560 --> 00:39:32,919
Speaker 1: you know, around the lecture centers. I saw this room

866
00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:35,640
Speaker 1: not being used on a Thursday night. Okay, I definitely

867
00:39:35,680 --> 00:39:38,440
Speaker 1: don't share this story. And I was like, Okay, next Thursday,

868
00:39:38,480 --> 00:39:40,319
Speaker 1: I'm going to put five or ten people in that

869
00:39:40,400 --> 00:39:42,640
Speaker 1: room and teach them for free a couple hours, and

870
00:39:42,640 --> 00:39:44,640
Speaker 1: then maybe afterwards one or two of them want to

871
00:39:44,640 --> 00:39:47,799
Speaker 1: be tutored by me. Right, and then um it works

872
00:39:47,800 --> 00:39:49,879
Speaker 1: out for them. They get these skills and I get

873
00:39:49,880 --> 00:39:52,440
Speaker 1: to have money to eat. Because I was very underweight.

874
00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:54,600
Speaker 1: I lost all this, you know, all this, all this weight,

875
00:39:54,800 --> 00:39:57,120
Speaker 1: and so I don't even know anything about business. So

876
00:39:57,239 --> 00:39:58,799
Speaker 1: but I go back to my room and I take

877
00:39:58,840 --> 00:40:00,920
Speaker 1: a piece of paper and by eleven and I take

878
00:40:00,920 --> 00:40:05,000
Speaker 1: a magic marker and I write free speed reading memory tips,

879
00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:09,399
Speaker 1: get better grades, less time the room. Thursday seven o'clock, right,

880
00:40:09,840 --> 00:40:12,239
Speaker 1: and I the next morning, I just make some photocopies

881
00:40:12,280 --> 00:40:13,640
Speaker 1: on the way to class and put it on some

882
00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:16,200
Speaker 1: bulletin boards. Not a lot, but just you know, around campus.

883
00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:19,799
Speaker 1: Fast forward to Thursday seven o'clock. I'm walking down the

884
00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:22,319
Speaker 1: hall to go to this room and I just I'm

885
00:40:22,440 --> 00:40:25,359
Speaker 1: praying Jay that only like five people just show up,

886
00:40:25,440 --> 00:40:28,280
Speaker 1: just five people. And I turned the corner and there's

887
00:40:28,280 --> 00:40:31,720
Speaker 1: a crowd of people outside the classroom. Now, honest to God,

888
00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:35,680
Speaker 1: my first initial thought was, Wow, I hope whatever's going

889
00:40:35,719 --> 00:40:38,160
Speaker 1: on in that room and soon so I could do

890
00:40:38,239 --> 00:40:41,640
Speaker 1: my thing. This is incredible, and I um, and I

891
00:40:41,760 --> 00:40:43,920
Speaker 1: go today. I can't even get inside because there's this

892
00:40:43,960 --> 00:40:46,520
Speaker 1: tall kid in the doorway and I'm like tapping on,

893
00:40:46,920 --> 00:40:49,400
Speaker 1: like what's going on? And he's like, there's a speed

894
00:40:49,400 --> 00:40:52,239
Speaker 1: reading memory class. Oh man, I'm getting tears right now, Man,

895
00:40:55,520 --> 00:40:58,879
Speaker 1: what happened is I say, like, Wow, what a coincidence?

896
00:40:59,320 --> 00:41:02,320
Speaker 1: What are the chances? There's another speed reading, memory brain

897
00:41:02,520 --> 00:41:04,799
Speaker 1: performance class in the same room at the same time,

898
00:41:04,920 --> 00:41:07,120
Speaker 1: on the same date as mine, and I push my

899
00:41:07,160 --> 00:41:09,960
Speaker 1: way in and there's a crowd of people there, I

900
00:41:09,960 --> 00:41:12,240
Speaker 1: mean people standing in the back. All the seats are taken,

901
00:41:12,520 --> 00:41:15,720
Speaker 1: and there's nobody teaching. And it takes my slow mind

902
00:41:15,840 --> 00:41:19,040
Speaker 1: all that time to realize that they're there for me, right,

903
00:41:19,239 --> 00:41:23,120
Speaker 1: and I freak out because I'm eighteen years old, right,

904
00:41:23,160 --> 00:41:25,840
Speaker 1: I look really young. I'm wearing T shirts and shorts.

905
00:41:25,880 --> 00:41:29,839
Speaker 1: I look like I'm fifteen or fourteen. There's teaching assistance

906
00:41:29,960 --> 00:41:32,560
Speaker 1: graduate students in the room, and I have nothing prepared

907
00:41:32,600 --> 00:41:35,360
Speaker 1: to talk about. But even worse, I've never public spoke

908
00:41:35,400 --> 00:41:37,920
Speaker 1: before because it's my greatest fear. Remember, like I had

909
00:41:37,920 --> 00:41:40,080
Speaker 1: to learning challenges, so I'd always you know, if I

910
00:41:40,120 --> 00:41:41,640
Speaker 1: had to give a book report, I would do the

911
00:41:41,640 --> 00:41:43,279
Speaker 1: book report, but if I had to talk about it,

912
00:41:43,320 --> 00:41:44,840
Speaker 1: I would lie to the teacher, and so I didn't

913
00:41:44,840 --> 00:41:46,400
Speaker 1: do it, and I would throw it out on the

914
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:48,400
Speaker 1: way out of class and take a zero because I

915
00:41:48,440 --> 00:41:50,520
Speaker 1: was so phoebic, like a lot of people are nervous

916
00:41:50,520 --> 00:41:52,960
Speaker 1: about speaking, but I can't even breathe. And so I

917
00:41:53,000 --> 00:41:55,000
Speaker 1: can't breathe. My heart's beating out of my chest. I'm

918
00:41:55,080 --> 00:42:00,200
Speaker 1: spweating like crazy. So I leave. Yeah, yeah, I wish

919
00:42:00,200 --> 00:42:02,480
Speaker 1: I would have said I performed. That's not what happened.

920
00:42:02,520 --> 00:42:05,200
Speaker 1: I was so embarrassed. I left. And I can't even

921
00:42:05,239 --> 00:42:07,319
Speaker 1: go back to my dorm room because I'm gonna get

922
00:42:07,440 --> 00:42:09,880
Speaker 1: you know, I'm gonna get stuff from my you know,

923
00:42:10,080 --> 00:42:12,600
Speaker 1: get teased by my roommates, you know, like you know,

924
00:42:12,719 --> 00:42:15,000
Speaker 1: for what, for being you know, a coward. And so

925
00:42:15,040 --> 00:42:18,080
Speaker 1: I go to this fountain and I just kind of meditate,

926
00:42:18,239 --> 00:42:20,759
Speaker 1: close my eyes and breathe, and and I hear my

927
00:42:20,840 --> 00:42:23,360
Speaker 1: mom's voice and I won't tell you what she says,

928
00:42:23,440 --> 00:42:26,520
Speaker 1: but the point was like one hundred people. By the way,

929
00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:28,080
Speaker 1: there was one hundred and ten people when I did

930
00:42:28,120 --> 00:42:31,320
Speaker 1: account in that room, not five or ten, one hundred

931
00:42:31,360 --> 00:42:34,080
Speaker 1: and ten. And so she says, Wow, all these people

932
00:42:34,120 --> 00:42:36,319
Speaker 1: came out that you promised to help them, and you're not.

933
00:42:36,480 --> 00:42:39,879
Speaker 1: You're disappointing them, and you're disappointing me. And I would

934
00:42:39,880 --> 00:42:43,000
Speaker 1: do anything, you know, for for my mom. And I'm

935
00:42:43,000 --> 00:42:45,800
Speaker 1: doing this walking meditation to my dorm room and I stop,

936
00:42:46,320 --> 00:42:49,239
Speaker 1: and I take one step back to the classroom. And

937
00:42:49,600 --> 00:42:52,440
Speaker 1: huge lesson for me here is that one step in

938
00:42:52,440 --> 00:42:57,400
Speaker 1: another direction can completely change your destination, right or you're

939
00:42:57,520 --> 00:42:59,799
Speaker 1: some people call it their destiny. And I go back

940
00:42:59,800 --> 00:43:04,080
Speaker 1: in that classroom and I honestly don't remember outside of apologizing,

941
00:43:04,360 --> 00:43:07,160
Speaker 1: you know, for starting late, what I said. But you know,

942
00:43:07,480 --> 00:43:09,680
Speaker 1: after two hours, I come out of this trance. I

943
00:43:09,719 --> 00:43:11,240
Speaker 1: don't know, I you've ever done this, like you're speaking

944
00:43:11,320 --> 00:43:13,239
Speaker 1: or you're on camera, just like it just kind of

945
00:43:13,239 --> 00:43:16,800
Speaker 1: flows through you. Yeah. And when I'm done, though, I

946
00:43:16,920 --> 00:43:19,200
Speaker 1: come back into like, oh my god, it has just happened,

947
00:43:19,360 --> 00:43:21,480
Speaker 1: and I don't even know what to say. I was like,

948
00:43:21,840 --> 00:43:23,440
Speaker 1: you know, if you want help with this, I need

949
00:43:23,480 --> 00:43:26,439
Speaker 1: about ten hours with you. I get thirty dollars an hour,

950
00:43:26,560 --> 00:43:29,040
Speaker 1: because that's what I got teaching tennis back in you know,

951
00:43:29,160 --> 00:43:31,560
Speaker 1: like in high school. You know, I'll be at the

952
00:43:31,560 --> 00:43:34,440
Speaker 1: student center tomorrow at noon if you have any questions.

953
00:43:34,560 --> 00:43:36,520
Speaker 1: And I swear to you, Jay, one hundred people got

954
00:43:36,600 --> 00:43:39,239
Speaker 1: up and they all left. Not one person talked to me.

955
00:43:39,960 --> 00:43:42,320
Speaker 1: And it's ten o'clock at night and I'm in a

956
00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:45,280
Speaker 1: classroom by myself, and I feel two emotions. I feel

957
00:43:45,640 --> 00:43:49,120
Speaker 1: totally confused, like what just even happened tonight? And then

958
00:43:49,280 --> 00:43:52,399
Speaker 1: my other emotion was I totally exhausted, because my whole

959
00:43:52,440 --> 00:43:55,320
Speaker 1: fear every single day of being at school, besides being bullied,

960
00:43:55,560 --> 00:43:58,279
Speaker 1: was I would be like I would have to talk right.

961
00:43:58,320 --> 00:44:00,759
Speaker 1: I never said two words in the class room for

962
00:44:00,920 --> 00:44:04,560
Speaker 1: all my school, and so I feel so mentally physically exhausted.

963
00:44:04,600 --> 00:44:07,000
Speaker 1: I fall asleep on the carpet and the best sleep

964
00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:08,680
Speaker 1: in my life. And I get woken up the next

965
00:44:08,680 --> 00:44:11,160
Speaker 1: morning by the class coming in at eight o'clock. I'm

966
00:44:11,239 --> 00:44:13,600
Speaker 1: drawing myself and you know, it's very embarrassing, but I

967
00:44:14,280 --> 00:44:17,280
Speaker 1: run go back to my room, I shower, go to breakfast,

968
00:44:17,320 --> 00:44:19,399
Speaker 1: go to class. Twelve o'clock comes and I was like, oh,

969
00:44:19,440 --> 00:44:21,080
Speaker 1: I promised to be in the student center, and I

970
00:44:21,120 --> 00:44:23,319
Speaker 1: go there hoping just one person didn't think I was

971
00:44:23,320 --> 00:44:26,480
Speaker 1: complete idiot. And when I turned get there, that whole

972
00:44:26,520 --> 00:44:29,279
Speaker 1: group was waiting for me. Oh my god. And at

973
00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:33,440
Speaker 1: the end of ninety minutes, maybe seventy one of the

974
00:44:33,560 --> 00:44:36,680
Speaker 1: hundred kids signed up for a program that didn't even exist,

975
00:44:37,440 --> 00:44:40,440
Speaker 1: you know, like at thirty dollars for ten at three

976
00:44:40,520 --> 00:44:43,560
Speaker 1: hundred dollars a person, and now to get this because

977
00:44:43,560 --> 00:44:45,800
Speaker 1: I didn't know kids had an ATM card because I

978
00:44:45,880 --> 00:44:48,319
Speaker 1: didn't have any money and they could just take out

979
00:44:48,320 --> 00:44:51,080
Speaker 1: three hundred dollars. And so I'm not even nineteen years

980
00:44:51,120 --> 00:44:54,080
Speaker 1: old and I have twenty one thousand dollars cash hit

981
00:44:54,239 --> 00:44:56,719
Speaker 1: my backpack and I think about my mentor what am

982
00:44:56,719 --> 00:44:58,080
Speaker 1: I gonna do with this part of it I used

983
00:44:58,120 --> 00:45:01,000
Speaker 1: to eat because I was starting. But the other part

984
00:45:01,040 --> 00:45:03,680
Speaker 1: I use it to fund my real education and I

985
00:45:03,719 --> 00:45:06,759
Speaker 1: travel around the world and learning everything that I've that

986
00:45:06,880 --> 00:45:10,200
Speaker 1: I've learned, you know. Um, And that's when one of

987
00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:12,800
Speaker 1: my students of the seventy one kids was this college

988
00:45:12,840 --> 00:45:15,960
Speaker 1: freshman who thirty books and thirty days and saber Mom's life,

989
00:45:16,440 --> 00:45:19,200
Speaker 1: you know. But the reason I bring this up is

990
00:45:19,680 --> 00:45:22,440
Speaker 1: like when I was debating going back to that room,

991
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:24,759
Speaker 1: like I was shaking, and I have felt so much

992
00:45:24,800 --> 00:45:28,600
Speaker 1: fear and so much doubt, so much, you know, all

993
00:45:28,640 --> 00:45:31,040
Speaker 1: the insecurities and all the voices in my head about

994
00:45:31,080 --> 00:45:34,000
Speaker 1: being broken and not enough, you know, was like there

995
00:45:34,120 --> 00:45:37,440
Speaker 1: and I really feel that, you know, if whoever's listening

996
00:45:37,520 --> 00:45:39,800
Speaker 1: to this right now, that I believe that there's a

997
00:45:39,920 --> 00:45:43,040
Speaker 1: version of ourselves that's patiently waiting, and the goal is

998
00:45:43,160 --> 00:45:45,160
Speaker 1: we just we show up, that we do the best

999
00:45:45,160 --> 00:45:47,080
Speaker 1: we can with what we have, you know, every single

1000
00:45:47,160 --> 00:45:50,000
Speaker 1: day until we're introduced to that person. You know, and

1001
00:45:50,040 --> 00:45:52,600
Speaker 1: there are people that are light and mentors like yourself

1002
00:45:52,640 --> 00:45:55,920
Speaker 1: that help kind of shine some light in a dim world,

1003
00:45:56,120 --> 00:45:59,440
Speaker 1: you know, and and help us to believe in ourselves again. Rather,

1004
00:45:59,520 --> 00:46:01,560
Speaker 1: that wasn't amazing, man, that was a way to finish

1005
00:46:01,600 --> 00:46:04,600
Speaker 1: off of podcasts. I really appreciate that. Is like, Man,

1006
00:46:04,680 --> 00:46:07,520
Speaker 1: you made me cry there, you made my goosebumps come out,

1007
00:46:07,600 --> 00:46:11,400
Speaker 1: my truth bumps. It's just incredible. I'm really really proud

1008
00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:13,200
Speaker 1: that I get to share this journey with you and

1009
00:46:13,280 --> 00:46:15,480
Speaker 1: continue to learn from you, and we could you know,

1010
00:46:15,600 --> 00:46:17,719
Speaker 1: you and I can continue to be of service to people.

1011
00:46:17,719 --> 00:46:20,640
Speaker 1: So I really appreciate you man for for you and

1012
00:46:20,680 --> 00:46:22,960
Speaker 1: for everybody else out there, let's all keep walking this

1013
00:46:23,040 --> 00:46:26,239
Speaker 1: walk together. I absolutely love it. Thank you also for

1014
00:46:26,320 --> 00:46:29,160
Speaker 1: making this possible. And I would challenge everybody just to

1015
00:46:29,200 --> 00:46:31,000
Speaker 1: do one thing, if they could take a screenshot of

1016
00:46:31,040 --> 00:46:34,560
Speaker 1: whatever they're consuming this, you know, and whatever platform, you know,

1017
00:46:34,600 --> 00:46:36,640
Speaker 1: audio or video, and they maybe could post it and

1018
00:46:36,680 --> 00:46:40,000
Speaker 1: tag both of us and maybe share, like one thing

1019
00:46:40,440 --> 00:46:42,879
Speaker 1: that you learned here, because I think the best way

1020
00:46:42,920 --> 00:46:44,920
Speaker 1: to learn something is to teach it to somebody else,

1021
00:46:45,280 --> 00:46:47,640
Speaker 1: so I'll be fascinated. Maybe maybe it was like the

1022
00:46:47,680 --> 00:46:50,200
Speaker 1: meds arex and maybe or maybe something that I're gonna

1023
00:46:50,239 --> 00:46:52,839
Speaker 1: do once most simple step, like hey, I'm gonna do

1024
00:46:52,920 --> 00:46:55,520
Speaker 1: five minutes of meditation. You know, I'm gonna try that,

1025
00:46:55,640 --> 00:46:57,799
Speaker 1: or I'm gonna look into those blueberries or some of

1026
00:46:57,800 --> 00:47:01,479
Speaker 1: those uh, you know, the toils or what have you,

1027
00:47:01,560 --> 00:47:03,279
Speaker 1: and then tag us so we get to see it,

1028
00:47:03,320 --> 00:47:05,480
Speaker 1: and I'll um as a thank you, I'll repost some

1029
00:47:05,560 --> 00:47:07,040
Speaker 1: of the ones ice because we have tag less, we

1030
00:47:07,080 --> 00:47:09,760
Speaker 1: get to see it, and I'll send out three copies

1031
00:47:09,760 --> 00:47:12,520
Speaker 1: of Limitless to just three people just as just to

1032
00:47:12,600 --> 00:47:15,200
Speaker 1: keep it. Yeah, just as a thank you. Yeah, man,

1033
00:47:15,239 --> 00:47:17,279
Speaker 1: I appreciate you. Man, I can't thank you enough. And

1034
00:47:17,360 --> 00:47:18,080
Speaker 1: I love your brother,