Speaker 1: Wind Down with Jana Kramer and I'm Heart Radio Podcast.
Speaker 2: This week's listener guest, we've got Brittany Ryan Smith. She's
Speaker 2: got questions about co parenting and how to handle it all,
Speaker 2: so let's get her on.
Speaker 3: Hey.
Speaker 1: I'm Jana.
Speaker 2: It's nice to meet you. Where do you live.
Speaker 3: I live in Houston, Texas, Okay, but I have to
Speaker 3: tell you I'm also from Michigan.
Speaker 1: I will yay.
Speaker 4: I was born in Marquette, so I'm from the up.
Speaker 2: Well that is okay. So I have a and we'll
Speaker 2: just jump right into it if you're good with.
Speaker 4: That, please.
Speaker 2: I have my uncle's parents used to live up in
Speaker 2: Marquette and the only memory that I I have two
Speaker 2: memories of the up. One was there's a jail up
Speaker 2: there apparently, so my mom and I we took like
Speaker 2: a wrong turn and we didn't, you know, We're trying
Speaker 2: to make it back to like my uncle's cabin and
Speaker 2: we just see these like jail workers outside. And again
Speaker 2: I'm like probably six or seven, but I just have that.
Speaker 2: They're like vivid memory and my mom being like, oh,
Speaker 2: we're lost, and then seeing these guys orange jumpsuits.
Speaker 1: And then the second one is the bear.
Speaker 2: The bears literally started pounding down the front porch door.
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, that's so scared.
Speaker 1: Do you have any bear incidents?
Speaker 4: We did.
Speaker 3: We used to do a lot of camping, always in
Speaker 3: an RV. But I just remember like being really little
Speaker 3: and my mom was like, get in the camper, Get
Speaker 3: in the camper, and I'm like, what's going on and
Speaker 3: looking out the little window and there's a huge bear
Speaker 3: and I'm like.
Speaker 2: The copper minds up there, though, are so great.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I've heard.
Speaker 3: I I moved when I was young, so I don't
Speaker 3: remember a whole lot.
Speaker 2: I do.
Speaker 3: My My biggest memory, honestly is the lake and going
Speaker 3: to the lake house and my uncle's and so I
Speaker 3: came and I'm so happy for you that you got
Speaker 3: your lake house.
Speaker 1: Thank you.
Speaker 2: I appreciate it. I know it's been. It's been. It's
Speaker 2: been great memories. So okay, so tell me your situation
Speaker 2: and what is the biggest question you've got.
Speaker 3: Okay, So I got a divorce in twenty twenty, I know,
Speaker 3: like the worst time, Like already the world is scary,
Speaker 3: and then I just added this even bigger change.
Speaker 2: Did you do that during COVID or was it because
Speaker 2: I guess was it because what COVID really March was
Speaker 2: when the lockdowns started to happen, wasn't it right?
Speaker 4: It hid in March.
Speaker 3: We locked down in March. So he ended up going
Speaker 3: to rehab in February, obviously for alcoholism.
Speaker 1: Got it.
Speaker 3: So he's an alcoholic, which I didn't know. We've been
Speaker 3: married for almost ten years together for twelve he lied
Speaker 3: to me the entire time, and obviously, like I had
Speaker 3: inklings about it, and I would question things, but you
Speaker 3: know how the addicts are, They lie and they cover,
Speaker 3: and so he finally came truthful the beginning of twenty twenty,
Speaker 3: went to rehab in February, and then of course I think,
Speaker 3: like he's going to come back and we're going to
Speaker 3: work on it and things are going to be so good,
Speaker 3: and it just it almost seemed like things got worse.
Speaker 3: He met a woman in rehab, and then he was
Speaker 3: lying about that, and it was just I couldn't do
Speaker 3: it anymore.
Speaker 2: Isn't that interesting? Not to cut you off? But I'll
Speaker 2: never forget too. I had a very vivid memory when
Speaker 2: my ex went into rehab came out. I'm expecting like
Speaker 2: this apology, this ownership of I messed up so bad
Speaker 2: our family. I'm so sorry, And it was like I
Speaker 2: have boundaries now, and I'm like what, like, yes, you
Speaker 2: deserve your boundaries, but like where where, like is any
Speaker 2: of the acknowledgment of literally who you destroyed and like
Speaker 2: what you destroyed?
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like and I love that they come out
Speaker 2: with this energy of Okay, they want things to change.
Speaker 1: That's good.
Speaker 2: But I feel like the big piece and what I've
Speaker 2: seen in other people when they go to intensives, they'll
Speaker 2: come back and they they come back still forgetting the
Speaker 2: wound that they left in the first place, and that's
Speaker 2: the piece that always kind of bugs me. Like I
Speaker 2: love when people go do intensives. I think it's great,
Speaker 2: and I don't think it I don't think they do
Speaker 2: a good enough job of helping them also go back
Speaker 2: to because it's like they always like, oh, hey, don't
Speaker 2: talk about it anymore, and like you guess you hurt
Speaker 2: the person, but it's like they don't. I don't feel
Speaker 2: like they do a good treatment plan for how they
Speaker 2: should talk to the person they hurt.
Speaker 1: Post Yeah, that's like a whole other story. So anyway,
Speaker 1: so he comes.
Speaker 3: Out, Yeah, and we we end things, yep. I mean
Speaker 3: I I just couldn't. He was still lying and I
Speaker 3: was just unhappy, and you know, he broke the foundation
Speaker 3: of our of trust and that's kind of what our
Speaker 3: relationship should be built on.
Speaker 4: And so I couldn't do it anymore.
Speaker 3: And so obviously trying to coparent with him was it
Speaker 3: was horrible.
Speaker 4: I couldn't.
Speaker 3: I would have a panic attack every time you would
Speaker 3: call her text.
Speaker 4: I couldn't do it.
Speaker 1: How old are your kids at this point?
Speaker 3: So this was six years ago. So now my daughter
Speaker 3: is going to be fifteen next month, So she was
Speaker 3: like nine, and then my son is eleven, so he
Speaker 3: was like four.
Speaker 4: About the time time, or three, I guess. So they're little.
Speaker 3: Well, shortly after he moves out, he remarries, and so
Speaker 3: in my mind I was like I had like this
Speaker 3: little light. I was like, oh, I can co parent
Speaker 3: through her, Like she'll be our buffer. You know, she
Speaker 3: should be more mature, things will get better. She ends
Speaker 3: up being worse than him. She was awful to me,
Speaker 3: like told me I had no rights to my own children.
Speaker 3: She would keep them from me. She would lie to
Speaker 3: me about times that were supposed to me like she
Speaker 3: was terrible. It made things so much worse. So then
Speaker 3: I couldn't coparent with either of them. I'm like in
Speaker 3: a dark, deep hole, like wanting things to be cordial
Speaker 3: and have like this happy environment. We just couldn't do it.
Speaker 3: Luckily that that marriage ended pretty quickly. So then he
Speaker 3: came around and obviously like now he's trying to work
Speaker 3: on himself. Sure, and so we it took us a
Speaker 3: long time to get to a healthy co parenting where
Speaker 3: I can talk to him where I can't and be
Speaker 3: around him. We you know, So three years post divorce,
Speaker 3: we start sitting close to each other at our kids' games,
Speaker 3: just because my daughter was like, I don't know who
Speaker 3: to sit with. I don't like what do I do?
Speaker 3: It's so awkward, And so I'm like, we can sit
Speaker 3: I don't have to sit right next to him, but
Speaker 3: let's sit close and instead of going through the kids
Speaker 3: to communicate, let's communicate to each other. So when my
Speaker 3: boyfriend came in in twenty twenty three, so it's almost
Speaker 3: been three years because we met in November. So he
Speaker 3: sees us happy and friendly and all the things in
Speaker 3: which he likes. He's very respectful.
Speaker 4: Of my ex but he also like he's.
Speaker 3: Like, do you guys have to talk so much? Like
Speaker 3: why are you texting all the time? You know? Is
Speaker 3: this really important?
Speaker 4: You know?
Speaker 3: Do we have to sit with him at the game,
Speaker 3: Like we can be nice, but do we have to
Speaker 3: be that close? And so obviously you're in the same
Speaker 3: position you have Alan and Mike, and so it's like,
Speaker 3: how did you handle that? How do you kind of
Speaker 3: merge those worlds together?
Speaker 1: Is question for you?
Speaker 2: Is your now boyfriend does he have kids from another marriage?
Speaker 3: He does, he has two children the same age as
Speaker 3: my children. Unfortunately he doesn't see them very bad on
Speaker 3: his exus side and they could not.
Speaker 2: Get away, so they don't have good communication.
Speaker 4: Then is zero community?
Speaker 1: Okay?
Speaker 2: So I think that honestly plays a big piece into
Speaker 2: it and where I can also, I do relate to
Speaker 2: you a lot in that situation, you know, even just
Speaker 2: what you said, you know now you're sitting next to
Speaker 2: him in things. You know, for example, the other day
Speaker 2: there was a parent you know, meet the teacher night
Speaker 2: and the year that you know, we got divorced. I
Speaker 2: remember walking into the gymnasium seeing him and I sat
Speaker 2: the farthest I could possibly sit from him, you know.
Speaker 2: And now it's like I saw him in the gymnasium
Speaker 2: the other day and there was a seat next to him.
Speaker 2: I sat right next to him, you know, And it
Speaker 2: was because it doesn't have to be that tension. And
Speaker 2: I think we as moms, like we know the tension
Speaker 2: that it can bring the kids to if they're and
Speaker 2: I come, I came from a divorce family, and I
Speaker 2: felt that tension. And so what I've always wanted to
Speaker 2: do for my kids is to also for them not
Speaker 2: to feel that. So that's why even when I in
Speaker 2: the very beginning of our divorce, like I still invited
Speaker 2: him to the birthday parties because I'm like, I have
Speaker 2: to separate my own hate for him for the love
Speaker 2: of my children. And you know, through that, it's like
Speaker 2: you form a new relationship no matter how bad your
Speaker 2: ex hurt me, mine hurt me. It's like we have
Speaker 2: we have our children, like we have to co parent.
Speaker 2: We have to come to a good place. So there's
Speaker 2: no point in us having all this friction and animosity.
Speaker 2: There's no point in talking about our past. Yes he
Speaker 2: hurt me, Yes I hurt him, you know, I'm sure
Speaker 2: he has his you know, versions of why he did
Speaker 2: what he did, and that's fine, that's his to have
Speaker 2: and to feel. But all I can do now I
Speaker 2: was just focus on our new relationship now and so
Speaker 2: what is Yes, what I can understand with what you're saying,
Speaker 2: is if people had a harder time with a co
Speaker 2: parent and they can't communicate together, it's sometimes hard for
Speaker 2: other people to see other co parents communing together because
Speaker 2: it's not normal for them.
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 2: It's not because maybe they had more friction and they
Speaker 2: just couldn't couldn't communicate, you know. So Alan is very
Speaker 2: respectful and now back to him, like he's very respectful
Speaker 2: with how he like he's you know, when Mike comes over,
Speaker 2: they do a little like fist bump or whatever. You know,
Speaker 2: Mike would go golfing with him, but Alan is not
Speaker 2: like he he does have a very much like a
Speaker 2: line in the sand with where like he doesn't want
Speaker 2: to have that relationship because he's in his mind he's
Speaker 2: like a kid just go bad, you know, and it
Speaker 2: just he's like, I just have to keep a level
Speaker 2: of distance. And in my mind, I'm always like I
Speaker 2: I just I do not like tension, like it literally
Speaker 2: does something in my body, and you know, sometimes he
Speaker 2: doesn't understand. I'm like, well, we could always invite him here,
Speaker 2: and it's like sometimes it's like he doesn't. He's like,
Speaker 2: but why, And I'm like, because I think it'd be
Speaker 2: good for the kids, and a piece of me like
Speaker 2: also needs it from my nervous system too, you know,
Speaker 2: like I just want there to be peace and to
Speaker 2: not have any issues. But I do respect and see
Speaker 2: like your boyfriend's point of view and Alan's point of
Speaker 2: view too, I really do. And that's where it's like,
Speaker 2: because there should be a line. I think there should be.
Speaker 2: I think obviously we have to communicate because we're parenting
Speaker 2: kids together, but there's a certain point of and I
Speaker 2: think it is respectful to you know at games, like yes,
Speaker 2: I'm standing by him at games, but like sometimes we
Speaker 2: don't have to talk the whole time. You know, like
Speaker 2: there there can still be a line where if your
Speaker 2: boyfriend's not comfortable with it that you know, it's not
Speaker 2: like he doesn't have to be buddy buddy and sit
Speaker 2: there with him the entire game. Like maybe it's like
Speaker 2: a hello and then and then you can go to
Speaker 2: a separate part because you also know that that might
Speaker 2: be more comfortable for him, and sometimes like you don't
Speaker 2: owe your ex anything. All you owe is just to
Speaker 2: be the great co parent on the other side, you
Speaker 2: know what I mean?
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, no, I like that, but I.
Speaker 2: Get it's hard too, because it's like I sometimes over
Speaker 2: I get overly friendly and overly like communicative because I
Speaker 2: just don't want any drama. I don't want any discomfort.
Speaker 2: I want the kids to see us happy. I want
Speaker 2: everybody to get along. And then I'm like, you'd barely
Speaker 2: said hi to him. He's like I said hello. I'm
Speaker 2: like yeah, but you didn't have a conversation. He's like
Speaker 2: I don't need to. And I'm like, oh, you know.
Speaker 2: And so it's like you're right, but there's something within
Speaker 2: me that wants so much peace same even though there
Speaker 2: is peace, and like they don't need to do any
Speaker 2: more than a hello, but like for some reason, it
Speaker 2: does something for me. And that's that's like our own
Speaker 2: issue versus like their issue, you know.
Speaker 3: Right, No, I get that, And it's like I want
Speaker 3: the kids to see, like, look, everyone's talking your friends
Speaker 3: and everything's good. But it's like we're not really friends.
Speaker 3: We're just friendly.
Speaker 4: So there's a difference there.
Speaker 1: Well, and I think that's the piece too.
Speaker 2: And it's like that's where like my where my husband,
Speaker 2: you know, he will go, you know, he he's done
Speaker 2: all these things in the past to you, So what
Speaker 2: what's to think that something like a lie wouldn't happen again,
Speaker 2: or like can you really trust? So he's like, you
Speaker 2: need to still keep your space and boundaries, and like
Speaker 2: I do, I do get that piece. But I'm like,
Speaker 2: if it's not involving me and it's just involving the kids,
Speaker 2: and it doesn't matter, you know. So but I you know,
Speaker 2: I do, I do see his point, and I also
Speaker 2: know that we both have to respect you know, that
Speaker 2: that communication and you know, when it comes to like
Speaker 2: texting and stuff like you have to the amount of
Speaker 2: times like today, I've already had three conversations with my
Speaker 2: ex because he's like, oh, shoot, I forgot Jason's mouth
Speaker 2: guard for football, and since he's out of town this time, hey,
Speaker 2: oh how is the last you know, parent teacher? And
Speaker 2: so it's like, you know, we're on the phone chitting
Speaker 2: and chatting. You know, Well it's our children, you know,
Speaker 2: and so we have to have those conversations.
Speaker 3: But I do feel bad because there are times it's
Speaker 3: like my ex will text me at like nine o'clock
Speaker 3: at night and my boyfriend's like, hey, that's our time,
Speaker 3: like totally have to respond to him right now, and
Speaker 3: he has a like I totally understand respect. But sometimes
Speaker 3: I'm like, let me just do it, because otherwise I'll
Speaker 3: forget and then my kids will suffer because it's like
Speaker 3: we're looking for a retainer or we're looking the book
Speaker 3: was left over there, and I need to make sure
Speaker 3: he brings it in the morning, so it's just hard
Speaker 3: to find it about Like I want to respond, but
Speaker 3: I guess there's things that I guess I need to
Speaker 3: pick and choose better about what I respond to.
Speaker 2: That's a really and that's a really great point too,
Speaker 2: Like if it's not an immediate need or immediate like
Speaker 2: you have to like if they need that library book
Speaker 2: that's you know, needs to be returned tomorrow, sure respond
Speaker 2: to the text. But if it's not something that is
Speaker 2: important that can wait, like you know you're going to respond,
Speaker 2: like we're going to we're going to remember, we will
Speaker 2: you know it'll come back around. But I think that's
Speaker 2: a total legitimate request, and you know, something had made
Speaker 2: my ex my husband uncomfortable, and you know, I'm like, okay,
Speaker 2: you know what, You're right, like I might have overstepped
Speaker 2: on that one, and I can look at it. At first,
Speaker 2: I was defensive because I'm like, no, I'm just trying
Speaker 2: to make everybody happy and this, that and the other.
Speaker 2: But I'm now more mindful because I'm like, you're right.
Speaker 2: I think if that was flipped and that was how
Speaker 2: it was on the other side, I'd feel that same way.
Speaker 2: So I think it is important to to see and
Speaker 2: I would think the same thing. And you know, really
Speaker 2: at nine o'clock, this is like our time together when
Speaker 2: the kids are in bed, you know, so I do
Speaker 2: get that.
Speaker 3: No, you're you're right, and yes, I've seen it from
Speaker 3: his side. And then I made the mistake of you know,
Speaker 3: like I want to be friend, Like I need to
Speaker 3: be friendly with my ex. So here's what I tell
Speaker 3: my boyfriend. You know, he's he's been my ex has
Speaker 3: been sober for a year, and it's not if he
Speaker 3: falls off the wagon, it's when. And I need to
Speaker 3: make sure that I have a good enough relationship with
Speaker 3: my ex that he'll come to me and tell me
Speaker 3: when it happens, so that way our kids don't get
Speaker 3: put in danger.
Speaker 2: Here's the thing though, and I'm going to go thirty
Speaker 2: thousand feet above on this one, please, because I've been
Speaker 2: in a situation where I thought that same situation would happen,
Speaker 2: Like if someone got into a relationship and then you know,
Speaker 2: you find out that they're doing something again that they
Speaker 2: shouldn't be doing. You want to believe, and that I
Speaker 2: think where I was very hurt in a situation where
Speaker 2: you want to believe that they're going to come to
Speaker 2: you and tell you the truth. But what were they
Speaker 2: like when they were married to you? Did they come
Speaker 2: to you and tell you the truth?
Speaker 4: Never?
Speaker 2: Yeah, No, you're expecting something to to happen that most
Speaker 2: likely will be you want them. You want to believe
Speaker 2: in the person that they are changing, that they're doing
Speaker 2: the things to be a better person for not only
Speaker 2: you know, your kids, but for themselves. But the disappointment
Speaker 2: that will come when you realize and you look at
Speaker 2: them in the eyes and you go, are you sure
Speaker 2: there's nothing you want to be honest with me about
Speaker 2: and they look at you and say, no, everything's great.
Speaker 2: That moment will break your heart if you believe that
Speaker 2: they're like again, you can believe and pray and hope,
Speaker 2: but to think that they're going to come to you
Speaker 2: and give you a different version than they were when
Speaker 2: they were married to you, when you were the like
Speaker 2: the their wife and the you know, mother of their children,
Speaker 2: I just would not hold that peace.
Speaker 1: So dear to your heart because it will.
Speaker 2: I could eventually break your heart in that moment because
Speaker 2: you're be like, yead, I really wanted something different.
Speaker 1: I really hope that you changed.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yep, that makes sense.
Speaker 2: So I get why you're wanting to do it. And
Speaker 2: you can still be there. You can still be I
Speaker 2: don't know what your religious background like. You can still
Speaker 2: pray for him and hope that that will be the thing.
Speaker 2: But an addict does normally what they do, and if
Speaker 2: they're going to fall off the wagon, they're gonna lie
Speaker 2: to the person they've lied to before. That's just from
Speaker 2: my own past experiences. Even when you prayed that they
Speaker 2: had changed post you.
Speaker 3: And yeah, when they tell you that they've changed, and yeah,
Speaker 3: they really want to.
Speaker 2: Believe, And that's the heart and that's the piece where
Speaker 2: it's like, that's where like your boyfriend, my husband where
Speaker 2: they're like, don't believe, like you're not friends, like.
Speaker 1: Stop, like, but I'm like, but we are. Everything's like
Speaker 1: it's okay, Like we can be and it still can
Speaker 1: be that.
Speaker 2: But to think that you still have that piece that
Speaker 2: you wanted when you were married, it's not. I still
Speaker 2: don't think you're going to get the response that you wanted.
Speaker 2: Then you're still most likely going to you know, falter
Speaker 2: back to that.
Speaker 4: No, you're right, that makes sense.
Speaker 2: Maybe I don't know, but I mean again, like I
Speaker 2: had experience like that, but again it's maybe you know
Speaker 2: all and all you can do is just be there
Speaker 2: and do your part.
Speaker 1: And that's what I would say to people too.
Speaker 2: I've got, you know, some friends that are going through
Speaker 2: it right now with the exes and it's so hard
Speaker 2: and it's like I don't I will always hope and
Speaker 2: pray that they are the best versions of themselves so
Speaker 2: that they can be the best dad to our kiddos.
Speaker 2: And what they do in their personal time is their
Speaker 2: personal time. And if we can all come together and
Speaker 2: everyone's just kind and respectful, we don't all have to
Speaker 2: go on vacations. Even though in my perfect world, like
Speaker 2: that would be like, let's all go on, you know,
Speaker 2: Like I felt guilty saying I was telling my ex about,
Speaker 2: you know, a trip that we want to plan, so
Speaker 2: I was kind of giving him a heads up. And
Speaker 2: when I hung up the conversation, I was like there
Speaker 2: was a piece of me that felt bad that I
Speaker 2: couldn't be like, you're more than welcome to come, but
Speaker 2: like I know that my husband wouldn't appreciate that, yeah,
Speaker 2: you know. And so it's like, and it sucks because
Speaker 2: I'm like, I just want, like when it comes with
Speaker 2: the kids, like that we can all just be together.
Speaker 2: And I know that's like a fantasy layer the world
Speaker 2: of you know, Gwyneth Paltron and Chris Martin and how
Speaker 2: they were all accucasions, But I mean, and I think
Speaker 2: it maybe ken in the future, like when they're older.
Speaker 2: But I also, you know, we need to respect the
Speaker 2: other halves.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I also you know, if I didn't have
Speaker 3: kids with my ex, we would.
Speaker 4: Not communicate at all. He would be no my life.
Speaker 3: So it's like I don't I don't even want to
Speaker 3: communicate with him now, and I only do it because
Speaker 3: I have to.
Speaker 4: So definitely do not want to vacation with him.
Speaker 3: But it's just because you have a sweetheart and you're
Speaker 3: looking out for your kids.
Speaker 2: So I just don't I just can't handle the the
Speaker 2: that that like feeling, you know, in the in the chest.
Speaker 2: I just want everybody to be happy and get along
Speaker 2: and everyone smile and high five, you know, like and
Speaker 2: I and I appreciate when I, you know, see my
Speaker 2: ex with you know, mine and Alan's kids, like Roman,
Speaker 2: like the effort that he puts into Like there is
Speaker 2: a piece of me that respects that so much because
Speaker 2: he he could never look at his direction, you know
Speaker 2: what I mean and not acknowledge him, and like they're
Speaker 2: a little like So there's things that I so appreciate
Speaker 2: that he's been willing to do and able to do
Speaker 2: post our divorce too, you know. And so that's where
Speaker 2: you can have appreciation for your X and the things
Speaker 2: that he's doing to change himself to be a better person,
Speaker 2: you know. So I think it's I think it's great,
Speaker 2: and I think you have the best energy and you're
Speaker 2: doing all the right things, and I'm just like, I'm
Speaker 2: really happy for you.
Speaker 4: Oh thank you.
Speaker 3: That means a lot coming from you. So I mean,
Speaker 3: and I always said, if I ever got a chance
Speaker 3: to talk to you, I want to. I want to
Speaker 3: tell you thank you because you helped me through the
Speaker 3: darkest time of my life. I know you're probably like
Speaker 3: how we don't even know each other, but listening to
Speaker 3: you on Instagram and your podcast and reading your books
Speaker 3: and you just being so vulnerable and sharing all that
Speaker 3: raw emotion when you're going through your divorce and all
Speaker 3: the things that you went through and just being so
Speaker 3: public with it like that helped me.
Speaker 4: And I cannot thank you enough.
Speaker 3: Like any time I would go through something and always like,
Speaker 3: what would you hanna do?
Speaker 4: Oh? God?
Speaker 3: And then when I saw you become happy with Alan,
Speaker 3: I'm like, Okay, that's hope for me that I could
Speaker 3: be happy again. I might find a man out there
Speaker 3: that could love me the way that Alan loves you,
Speaker 3: and I found him and it's the most amazing feeling.
Speaker 3: But you just you were a light for me and
Speaker 3: so and you continue to be a light. And I
Speaker 3: hope that you come bring Wine down to Houston just.
Speaker 2: I know, hopefully we can reschedule everything, but I so
Speaker 2: appreciate you saying all that. That's very very very kind,
Speaker 2: And yeah, I'm just I'm so grateful you're on the
Speaker 2: other side of things and hopefully you know everything is
Speaker 2: all all works out and everyone's happy.
Speaker 4: Yes, thank you, Thank you, Brittany.
Speaker 1: You're sposed. I really appreciate you coming on.
Speaker 4: I appreciate you having me.
Speaker 2: Thank you all right, bye Brittany, Bye bye.