1 00:00:07,600 --> 00:00:11,479 Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks for 2 00:00:11,560 --> 00:00:13,480 Speaker 1: joining us. We're so excited to be back. 3 00:00:13,520 --> 00:00:16,759 Speaker 2: How are you doing, Susan, I'm good, Kat. Long time 4 00:00:16,800 --> 00:00:21,160 Speaker 2: no see like three days. Hey, if you haven't done 5 00:00:21,200 --> 00:00:22,840 Speaker 2: it yet, now's the time. 6 00:00:22,960 --> 00:00:23,280 Speaker 1: Guys. 7 00:00:23,320 --> 00:00:26,439 Speaker 2: You got to follow our podcast so you never ever 8 00:00:26,600 --> 00:00:30,360 Speaker 2: miss one of our episodes. Search for Bachelor Happy Hour 9 00:00:30,840 --> 00:00:33,800 Speaker 2: in the podcast app and just hit the follow button. 10 00:00:34,200 --> 00:00:38,000 Speaker 1: Listen, leave us a review, leave us questions. 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We have Noah 24 00:01:19,200 --> 00:01:24,760 Speaker 1: Herb and Abigail Herringer. Oh, he's doing the upside down horn. 25 00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:28,319 Speaker 1: Oh with them fighting words. Noah, We're so glad you 26 00:01:28,319 --> 00:01:30,080 Speaker 1: guys are here. How are you doing them? 27 00:01:30,360 --> 00:01:33,840 Speaker 4: Welcome, Hello, Kathy and Susan. We've been very excited to 28 00:01:33,840 --> 00:01:36,840 Speaker 4: hop on. We think you guys are hilarious. I'm excited 29 00:01:36,840 --> 00:01:40,520 Speaker 4: to talk to somebody other than Joe and get right 30 00:01:40,600 --> 00:01:41,080 Speaker 4: into it. 31 00:01:41,520 --> 00:01:42,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, let's do well. 32 00:01:42,480 --> 00:01:45,200 Speaker 2: First of all, do you need an officiate, because you 33 00:01:45,200 --> 00:01:46,000 Speaker 2: know that's what I do. 34 00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:48,960 Speaker 3: I did not receive a phone call Abigail. 35 00:01:49,680 --> 00:01:52,000 Speaker 5: You did such a great job with the older wed. 36 00:01:52,360 --> 00:01:54,880 Speaker 1: And just to be clear, I come with her, So 37 00:01:55,360 --> 00:01:56,080 Speaker 1: she goes, I. 38 00:01:57,720 --> 00:02:01,200 Speaker 2: Was down in Austin, Texas at Kathy marrying her son 39 00:02:01,280 --> 00:02:05,360 Speaker 2: and his wife. But one more thing. I just loved 40 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:07,920 Speaker 2: viewing your engagement pictures. 41 00:02:08,120 --> 00:02:11,120 Speaker 3: It was so pretty and the way you pick her up, Oh, 42 00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:11,840 Speaker 3: it was just. 43 00:02:15,800 --> 00:02:17,280 Speaker 1: Are you guys ready? 44 00:02:18,040 --> 00:02:19,040 Speaker 6: She said? Are we ready? 45 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:20,440 Speaker 1: Are you ready for the wedding? 46 00:02:23,040 --> 00:02:24,160 Speaker 6: Are you ready for the wedding? 47 00:02:24,800 --> 00:02:28,120 Speaker 7: I think we're like planning wise, everything's pretty much planned. 48 00:02:28,240 --> 00:02:31,400 Speaker 6: And then in terms of like mentally very ready. Yes, 49 00:02:31,680 --> 00:02:33,240 Speaker 6: we're ready to get to. 50 00:02:33,120 --> 00:02:37,960 Speaker 4: The honeymoon and be married already, but very excited for 51 00:02:38,200 --> 00:02:42,200 Speaker 4: the wedding and the life. We're trying to create out here. 52 00:02:42,240 --> 00:02:43,680 Speaker 3: Where are you going on your honeymoon? 53 00:02:44,840 --> 00:02:46,200 Speaker 6: So that's in my department. 54 00:02:46,560 --> 00:02:49,720 Speaker 4: It was a little shocking two nights ago looking at flights. 55 00:02:50,040 --> 00:02:54,440 Speaker 4: But the goal is go to Japan, go to Kyoto, Tokyo, 56 00:02:55,120 --> 00:02:58,600 Speaker 4: fit some of the culture, busy city, and then go 57 00:02:58,639 --> 00:02:59,560 Speaker 4: to Philippines. 58 00:03:00,080 --> 00:03:03,000 Speaker 6: I'm wow myself for a month. I love it. 59 00:03:03,040 --> 00:03:04,880 Speaker 4: I would love to try to go back to some 60 00:03:04,919 --> 00:03:07,520 Speaker 4: of these places you know with her, but that's the goal. 61 00:03:07,840 --> 00:03:12,520 Speaker 1: Well, if it doesn't work out, you're getting married this fall, 62 00:03:13,320 --> 00:03:15,240 Speaker 1: So none of that works out, Why don't you come 63 00:03:15,280 --> 00:03:18,120 Speaker 1: down to Austin and I will treat you to sweet 64 00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:20,480 Speaker 1: seats at a U of Texas football game. 65 00:03:20,680 --> 00:03:23,119 Speaker 6: I know you'd love it. 66 00:03:23,160 --> 00:03:26,840 Speaker 2: Does hey tell me something? Are you guys doing something 67 00:03:26,919 --> 00:03:27,359 Speaker 2: to the home? 68 00:03:27,440 --> 00:03:29,440 Speaker 3: Are you renovating? And hell is that going? 69 00:03:31,280 --> 00:03:34,640 Speaker 7: We are in the middle of renovating our home. I 70 00:03:34,639 --> 00:03:39,520 Speaker 7: feel like we're fixing more problems than actually renovating and 71 00:03:40,400 --> 00:03:41,680 Speaker 7: creating some people out of it. 72 00:03:41,840 --> 00:03:43,760 Speaker 5: But it's a bit about a year. 73 00:03:43,880 --> 00:03:46,920 Speaker 7: We moved here about a year ago and we're pretty 74 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:48,800 Speaker 7: much done with our downstairs. 75 00:03:48,880 --> 00:03:50,040 Speaker 5: We did our kitchen. 76 00:03:50,360 --> 00:03:52,440 Speaker 7: We came here with no furniture, so it was just 77 00:03:52,600 --> 00:03:55,160 Speaker 7: a lot of shopping for that, and then right now 78 00:03:55,320 --> 00:03:57,720 Speaker 7: it's going to be ninety degrees outside and our ac 79 00:03:57,960 --> 00:03:59,080 Speaker 7: decided to stop working. 80 00:03:59,160 --> 00:04:01,400 Speaker 5: So that's know what's project for today. 81 00:04:01,440 --> 00:04:04,280 Speaker 1: So no, no tell us, how are you? What's you 82 00:04:04,360 --> 00:04:07,200 Speaker 1: started before we came on air? You started to tell us, 83 00:04:07,200 --> 00:04:10,080 Speaker 1: But tell everyone else what's going on with this air conditioner? 84 00:04:10,720 --> 00:04:11,960 Speaker 1: You're the mister fix it man? 85 00:04:12,280 --> 00:04:14,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, something fuzzy flying in there or what? 86 00:04:15,680 --> 00:04:18,920 Speaker 6: So long story short, Yes, we are renovating our house. 87 00:04:19,800 --> 00:04:25,520 Speaker 4: Abby has turned into a phenomenal architect designer. She changes 88 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:28,360 Speaker 4: her mind a lot, which is unfortunate, but she's. 89 00:04:28,240 --> 00:04:29,680 Speaker 1: Getting a woman's prerogative. 90 00:04:35,680 --> 00:04:38,559 Speaker 4: I've been kind of leaning into Half of the stuff 91 00:04:38,600 --> 00:04:41,160 Speaker 4: is honestly so expensive. So honestly I'm doing a lot 92 00:04:41,200 --> 00:04:44,520 Speaker 4: of it myself and I have some other rental properties, 93 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 4: but I'm kind of leaning into just the Noah and 94 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:51,919 Speaker 4: Ally stage of the notebook, except for she's not, you know, 95 00:04:52,040 --> 00:04:53,560 Speaker 4: cheating and acting like it's okay. 96 00:04:54,120 --> 00:04:55,560 Speaker 3: Do you guys want to stay there? 97 00:04:56,160 --> 00:05:02,120 Speaker 4: Like a little two man t that totally leaned into it. 98 00:05:02,279 --> 00:05:05,960 Speaker 4: And last night a bat flew up into my air conditioning. 99 00:05:06,040 --> 00:05:08,560 Speaker 4: So it's like eighty five degrees in this house. I'm 100 00:05:08,600 --> 00:05:10,520 Speaker 4: tired of hating h back guys to fix it, so 101 00:05:10,520 --> 00:05:11,880 Speaker 4: I'm fixing it myself today. 102 00:05:15,880 --> 00:05:17,760 Speaker 1: We want to know what was in the air conditioner 103 00:05:17,800 --> 00:05:18,040 Speaker 1: you sent? 104 00:05:19,720 --> 00:05:20,679 Speaker 6: I'll take you back. 105 00:05:21,279 --> 00:05:23,960 Speaker 4: I'm thinking to myself, why does this air conditioners sound 106 00:05:24,040 --> 00:05:26,120 Speaker 4: like a nineteen eighty nine old mobile? 107 00:05:27,080 --> 00:05:29,960 Speaker 6: Cut it off. I took it all apart. 108 00:05:30,440 --> 00:05:32,720 Speaker 4: You know, I spent thousands of dollars in the last 109 00:05:32,760 --> 00:05:34,960 Speaker 4: month paying for HVAC stuff to be fixed, So this 110 00:05:35,080 --> 00:05:37,680 Speaker 4: one I wanted to do myself. And I reached my 111 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:40,560 Speaker 4: little grubby hands in there and I felt something fuzzy 112 00:05:41,680 --> 00:05:43,800 Speaker 4: and kills down my spine. 113 00:05:44,200 --> 00:05:45,120 Speaker 6: It was a bat. 114 00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:48,760 Speaker 1: Where were you? Where were you? 115 00:05:48,920 --> 00:05:50,400 Speaker 3: Were you screaming? 116 00:05:50,760 --> 00:05:54,800 Speaker 5: I was inside, enjoyed the AC decorating room. No idea 117 00:05:54,800 --> 00:05:54,960 Speaker 5: at that. 118 00:05:55,240 --> 00:05:57,159 Speaker 6: I just took a video of this that I'm going 119 00:05:57,240 --> 00:05:57,640 Speaker 6: to post. 120 00:05:57,720 --> 00:06:00,640 Speaker 4: I spent my time trying to find it because she 121 00:06:00,640 --> 00:06:03,360 Speaker 4: doesn't wear her cochlear implant half the day and walks around. 122 00:06:03,480 --> 00:06:06,320 Speaker 6: It's just this game of cat and mouse. Where were you? 123 00:06:09,120 --> 00:06:10,479 Speaker 1: You know what that means? Right? 124 00:06:10,600 --> 00:06:14,400 Speaker 3: She doesn't want to be disturbed. It's doing her own things. 125 00:06:15,839 --> 00:06:20,080 Speaker 4: Meanwhile, I'm in my little batmobile running around trying random stuff. 126 00:06:20,120 --> 00:06:20,480 Speaker 6: All over it. 127 00:06:20,600 --> 00:06:23,960 Speaker 1: Wait, was the BAP dead for a long. 128 00:06:23,760 --> 00:06:27,120 Speaker 6: Time, So I was gas lit by everyone. 129 00:06:27,160 --> 00:06:30,360 Speaker 4: I knew everybody because I knew I smelled something dead, 130 00:06:32,080 --> 00:06:34,040 Speaker 4: and I was like, it's a mouse or something. I 131 00:06:34,120 --> 00:06:36,400 Speaker 4: went crazy. Then a week later the smell went away. 132 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:40,320 Speaker 4: I'm like, okay, I am crazy, there's nothing dead. But 133 00:06:40,560 --> 00:06:43,200 Speaker 4: a month later it came back. 134 00:06:44,760 --> 00:06:47,120 Speaker 3: The air condition was working the whole time, and then 135 00:06:47,200 --> 00:06:47,839 Speaker 3: all of a sudden. 136 00:06:47,839 --> 00:06:49,559 Speaker 6: It's that's the thing. 137 00:06:49,680 --> 00:06:53,360 Speaker 4: I hate that I wasn't there personally, but I'm assuming 138 00:06:53,400 --> 00:06:55,000 Speaker 4: he was just kind of banging around in there for 139 00:06:55,000 --> 00:06:55,360 Speaker 4: a while. 140 00:06:55,680 --> 00:06:58,320 Speaker 3: Oh yes, conditioning. 141 00:06:58,640 --> 00:07:01,400 Speaker 1: Well, Susan and I just got back, not Jess, but 142 00:07:01,520 --> 00:07:04,039 Speaker 1: we were in California. We were playing golf and the 143 00:07:04,080 --> 00:07:06,880 Speaker 1: weather was incredible. That's another story we can get into 144 00:07:06,920 --> 00:07:10,680 Speaker 1: if we have time. Uh huh. That's why I well, 145 00:07:10,720 --> 00:07:13,440 Speaker 1: I live in Austin, Texas. With the heat index tape, 146 00:07:13,440 --> 00:07:14,880 Speaker 1: I think it's supposed to be one hundred and ten. 147 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:18,080 Speaker 1: So you know, you've got nothing on me. The difference 148 00:07:18,160 --> 00:07:20,440 Speaker 1: is I'm chilling in air conditioning right now. 149 00:07:20,920 --> 00:07:23,120 Speaker 6: A difference is you have a working air conditioner. 150 00:07:23,520 --> 00:07:28,160 Speaker 1: Well, you know, I'm really okay. 151 00:07:28,160 --> 00:07:29,600 Speaker 3: Well, you'll get to the bottom of that. 152 00:07:29,920 --> 00:07:32,000 Speaker 6: Thank you. We'll make sure to be updated. 153 00:07:32,440 --> 00:07:34,840 Speaker 1: All right. So we do a topic of the day 154 00:07:35,320 --> 00:07:38,440 Speaker 1: and we want you guys to join in with us 155 00:07:38,520 --> 00:07:41,760 Speaker 1: on this. Okay, So we asked a couple of questions 156 00:07:41,840 --> 00:07:45,200 Speaker 1: and we're just going to discuss it. The first one is, 157 00:07:46,000 --> 00:07:50,040 Speaker 1: what's one question you never want to be asked on 158 00:07:50,080 --> 00:07:53,240 Speaker 1: a first date? Susan, we don't even know what a 159 00:07:53,280 --> 00:07:55,880 Speaker 1: first date is anymore, but you guys, what's one question 160 00:07:56,360 --> 00:07:57,920 Speaker 1: you don't want to be asked? 161 00:07:58,040 --> 00:08:00,320 Speaker 6: Were strangers? A stranger asked me on a first state? 162 00:08:01,160 --> 00:08:01,280 Speaker 5: Oh? 163 00:08:01,320 --> 00:08:02,480 Speaker 3: I mean it's a first date. 164 00:08:02,600 --> 00:08:04,520 Speaker 6: So do you know from the Bachelor? 165 00:08:05,920 --> 00:08:06,240 Speaker 4: That one? 166 00:08:06,320 --> 00:08:08,720 Speaker 6: Why? I don't love that one? That one's weird? 167 00:08:09,520 --> 00:08:11,880 Speaker 1: Would they ask you if you're known from the Bachelor? 168 00:08:12,600 --> 00:08:15,840 Speaker 4: Well they asked me if I am Noah from the Bachelor. 169 00:08:16,040 --> 00:08:17,200 Speaker 4: That one's strange to me. 170 00:08:17,800 --> 00:08:19,520 Speaker 3: That's one you want to want to ask. 171 00:08:19,960 --> 00:08:22,360 Speaker 6: She might know, she might not. This one never did it? 172 00:08:22,440 --> 00:08:26,680 Speaker 5: So I was, but we were on the show. I 173 00:08:26,840 --> 00:08:28,480 Speaker 5: knew you were from the Bachelor. 174 00:08:29,000 --> 00:08:32,600 Speaker 2: Well what about what's one question you wish you could 175 00:08:32,640 --> 00:08:35,240 Speaker 2: ask on a first date but never would? 176 00:08:37,640 --> 00:08:39,000 Speaker 6: What's your credit score. 177 00:08:40,480 --> 00:08:43,120 Speaker 3: Pretty high? 178 00:08:42,600 --> 00:08:45,719 Speaker 1: Or that goes right along with open your mouth and 179 00:08:46,000 --> 00:08:49,840 Speaker 1: show me your teeth that I like that. 180 00:08:50,760 --> 00:08:54,000 Speaker 4: Any of those I think, just the stuff we're all thinking. 181 00:08:54,040 --> 00:08:56,880 Speaker 4: But you don't want to ask it. But it's a 182 00:08:56,920 --> 00:08:58,319 Speaker 4: first date. You might as well get it out of 183 00:08:58,360 --> 00:09:00,520 Speaker 4: the way, you know, find out if it's too much. 184 00:09:01,160 --> 00:09:02,080 Speaker 3: How about you, Abby? 185 00:09:03,080 --> 00:09:06,960 Speaker 7: I think I would ask something just to save myself 186 00:09:06,960 --> 00:09:07,920 Speaker 7: time down the road. 187 00:09:08,360 --> 00:09:11,080 Speaker 5: You know, what's your most toxic trait or what's your breath? 188 00:09:11,120 --> 00:09:11,240 Speaker 7: Fly? 189 00:09:11,440 --> 00:09:11,760 Speaker 1: Like what. 190 00:09:13,840 --> 00:09:15,920 Speaker 5: By the way, and I can decide that in there? 191 00:09:16,760 --> 00:09:19,560 Speaker 1: That is perfect, Abby, That is I think that's what 192 00:09:19,600 --> 00:09:21,440 Speaker 1: I would do. What about you, Susan saying. 193 00:09:21,960 --> 00:09:24,480 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I always do it. I'd pay for 194 00:09:24,520 --> 00:09:25,880 Speaker 2: my own mail and get out of there. 195 00:09:27,480 --> 00:09:29,240 Speaker 1: You know what else i'd want to ask if they 196 00:09:29,240 --> 00:09:32,480 Speaker 1: were divorced, I'd want to say, listen, let's just cut 197 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:35,640 Speaker 1: to the chase. Here, did you cheat? Did she cheat? 198 00:09:35,840 --> 00:09:36,680 Speaker 1: Did she you know? 199 00:09:36,840 --> 00:09:36,920 Speaker 7: Like? 200 00:09:37,040 --> 00:09:40,320 Speaker 1: What? Yeah? How to go down? And I don't want 201 00:09:40,360 --> 00:09:42,920 Speaker 1: your life story, so give it to me in thirty seconds. 202 00:09:43,240 --> 00:09:46,000 Speaker 4: Well, that's the thing about you, ladies, is I'm very 203 00:09:46,000 --> 00:09:49,320 Speaker 4: careful not to say old because you're not old, right, 204 00:09:49,360 --> 00:09:50,640 Speaker 4: But you've lived life. 205 00:09:50,840 --> 00:09:53,199 Speaker 6: You know, you've lived life. You're done with the bs. 206 00:09:53,480 --> 00:09:55,480 Speaker 6: Let's just get down to the bottom of it. Did 207 00:09:55,480 --> 00:09:58,440 Speaker 6: you cheat on him? Did you cheat on her? You know? 208 00:09:59,120 --> 00:10:00,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean you too. 209 00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:03,440 Speaker 3: What did young people think we are old? 210 00:10:03,960 --> 00:10:06,720 Speaker 6: Well, that's it's they're fools. 211 00:10:07,000 --> 00:10:08,240 Speaker 1: They're just fool you know. 212 00:10:08,800 --> 00:10:11,400 Speaker 2: You know it's funny. I say it myself all the time. 213 00:10:11,559 --> 00:10:14,760 Speaker 2: Oh I'm old, but I could still kick your butt. 214 00:10:15,160 --> 00:10:18,040 Speaker 6: That's part of it though, with the whole life experience. 215 00:10:18,120 --> 00:10:20,880 Speaker 4: You know you're not old, but you know you've you've 216 00:10:20,880 --> 00:10:23,959 Speaker 4: got age, and it's just another you know, who cares? 217 00:10:24,200 --> 00:10:27,240 Speaker 1: I mean, do you feel I don't feel old? I mean, 218 00:10:27,240 --> 00:10:31,720 Speaker 1: that's like some more things I do. Abby. Do you 219 00:10:31,840 --> 00:10:35,480 Speaker 1: does anyone ever say to you, gosh, you look good 220 00:10:35,520 --> 00:10:37,840 Speaker 1: for your age? Does anyone ever say that to you? 221 00:10:39,120 --> 00:10:41,280 Speaker 3: I know, she's too young. 222 00:10:41,600 --> 00:10:43,479 Speaker 6: It's a weird thing to say, I think. 223 00:10:43,880 --> 00:10:47,440 Speaker 1: But that that's exactly where I was going. Noah to 224 00:10:47,840 --> 00:10:51,079 Speaker 1: Susan and me. People will stop to go, oh, you 225 00:10:51,120 --> 00:10:53,920 Speaker 1: guys look so great for your age, and I'm like, 226 00:10:54,160 --> 00:10:56,160 Speaker 1: you know, screw you. Well, Like, what does that mean? 227 00:10:56,200 --> 00:10:57,640 Speaker 1: They don't say it to young people? 228 00:10:58,000 --> 00:11:01,080 Speaker 3: How about this one? Oh you can pull that off? 229 00:11:02,080 --> 00:11:02,960 Speaker 3: What does that mean? 230 00:11:03,480 --> 00:11:06,320 Speaker 1: I think they're talking about what's about the guy. I 231 00:11:06,320 --> 00:11:08,120 Speaker 1: can tell you that's the guy that wants the day 232 00:11:08,120 --> 00:11:09,839 Speaker 1: we do, wants you to take your shirt off. That's 233 00:11:09,840 --> 00:11:11,040 Speaker 1: a whole different conversation. 234 00:11:11,480 --> 00:11:13,520 Speaker 2: Women say it all, Oh, you could pull that off. 235 00:11:13,600 --> 00:11:15,360 Speaker 2: I could never, I go, is that? 236 00:11:15,640 --> 00:11:16,400 Speaker 1: What is that? 237 00:11:16,640 --> 00:11:19,280 Speaker 4: I've heard people say to Abby, you sound really good 238 00:11:19,320 --> 00:11:25,040 Speaker 4: for a deaf girl. I'm like that you cannot be serious, 239 00:11:25,080 --> 00:11:27,640 Speaker 4: Like I think it's meant intentionally good. 240 00:11:27,760 --> 00:11:29,520 Speaker 6: But it's all of those things are weird. 241 00:11:29,640 --> 00:11:33,520 Speaker 7: Like if you break it, say the last part, yeah, right, just. 242 00:11:33,440 --> 00:11:37,760 Speaker 2: Say you look good, you speak well, you're hot? 243 00:11:37,920 --> 00:11:40,000 Speaker 6: Well yeah, any of those will work. 244 00:11:40,320 --> 00:11:43,280 Speaker 1: And Noah really is hot? Right now? How's that? How's that. 245 00:11:45,120 --> 00:11:47,080 Speaker 6: In getting hotter with age? 246 00:11:47,360 --> 00:11:47,480 Speaker 7: Just? 247 00:11:47,760 --> 00:11:48,480 Speaker 1: Is the hat on. 248 00:11:51,800 --> 00:11:53,600 Speaker 3: Your hats absorbing your sweat? 249 00:11:53,640 --> 00:11:54,120 Speaker 1: Is that it? 250 00:11:54,320 --> 00:11:55,720 Speaker 6: I'm wearing black for a reason. 251 00:11:56,800 --> 00:11:59,600 Speaker 1: I'm just I'm just telling you if you rooted for 252 00:11:59,640 --> 00:12:02,760 Speaker 1: you to, if you said, right now on air, I 253 00:12:02,800 --> 00:12:05,719 Speaker 1: love the University of Texas, your air conditioner would come 254 00:12:05,800 --> 00:12:07,000 Speaker 1: right back on magically. 255 00:12:08,840 --> 00:12:11,959 Speaker 4: Hey, don't tell me yet again. I know she'll say 256 00:12:11,960 --> 00:12:14,360 Speaker 4: it for anything. I don't hate u. T It's just 257 00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:15,319 Speaker 4: I want to be convinced. 258 00:12:15,320 --> 00:12:16,760 Speaker 6: All right, we'll see. 259 00:12:16,760 --> 00:12:21,040 Speaker 1: I mean fair. I'm not. I'm not from Austin, but 260 00:12:21,120 --> 00:12:23,079 Speaker 1: you know, you can't live here and not support UT 261 00:12:23,360 --> 00:12:24,040 Speaker 1: You just can't. 262 00:12:25,240 --> 00:12:28,560 Speaker 2: Now, you got to have some home routes that I 263 00:12:28,600 --> 00:12:31,600 Speaker 2: had that same issue when I lived in Texas. Coming 264 00:12:31,679 --> 00:12:34,880 Speaker 2: back to being an Eagles girl because that's my hometown. 265 00:12:34,880 --> 00:12:38,000 Speaker 2: But I was with the Dallas Cowboys for nine years. 266 00:12:38,280 --> 00:12:41,000 Speaker 2: I paid taxes there. I root it for the home 267 00:12:41,040 --> 00:12:43,719 Speaker 2: team until they played the Eagles, of course, but up 268 00:12:43,760 --> 00:12:47,440 Speaker 2: here you like get shot. I mean, I couldn't even 269 00:12:47,600 --> 00:12:48,920 Speaker 2: look like I'm excited. 270 00:12:49,720 --> 00:12:54,120 Speaker 4: Is paying property taxes kind of the indicator. 271 00:12:53,600 --> 00:12:54,439 Speaker 6: Of when that's your home. 272 00:12:54,720 --> 00:12:55,959 Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, that's what I. 273 00:12:56,200 --> 00:12:58,000 Speaker 6: Paid property taxes. You're in bed with. 274 00:12:58,000 --> 00:12:59,200 Speaker 3: Them, I'm in it. 275 00:12:59,400 --> 00:13:01,920 Speaker 2: I'm in it to when we did Bible studies with them, 276 00:13:01,960 --> 00:13:03,640 Speaker 2: and we did a lot of things with the Cowboys, 277 00:13:03,679 --> 00:13:06,439 Speaker 2: so they were I was a fan, you know, until 278 00:13:06,600 --> 00:13:07,480 Speaker 2: I was so. 279 00:13:07,520 --> 00:13:10,280 Speaker 1: I'm originally from Massachusetts, and I was a fan of 280 00:13:10,640 --> 00:13:17,040 Speaker 1: the New England Patriots until Bill Belichick. He's seventy two 281 00:13:17,120 --> 00:13:19,240 Speaker 1: day in a twenty four year old I'm so over it. 282 00:13:19,640 --> 00:13:21,000 Speaker 3: That says that a lot. 283 00:13:21,080 --> 00:13:24,320 Speaker 6: You like military era, the Dynasty era. 284 00:13:24,920 --> 00:13:28,640 Speaker 1: Darn right, darn right, listen, I used to go to 285 00:13:28,679 --> 00:13:32,720 Speaker 1: the games because I am old back when they played 286 00:13:33,240 --> 00:13:36,560 Speaker 1: they were the Boston Patriots and they played at Harvard 287 00:13:36,720 --> 00:13:40,080 Speaker 1: Stadium from the Harvard University's College. 288 00:13:40,160 --> 00:13:41,959 Speaker 3: Now we're showing the. 289 00:13:44,120 --> 00:13:46,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, and now and now it's in Foxboro, the 290 00:13:46,400 --> 00:13:58,920 Speaker 1: Foxborough Follies. Okay, let's move on. 291 00:14:00,160 --> 00:14:02,240 Speaker 3: This is going to be fun. Guys. Wait, do you 292 00:14:02,280 --> 00:14:02,600 Speaker 3: hear this? 293 00:14:02,880 --> 00:14:05,600 Speaker 1: All right? Here we go, So for our questions today 294 00:14:05,679 --> 00:14:08,679 Speaker 1: with you, guys, we thought it'd be fun to answer 295 00:14:08,920 --> 00:14:13,679 Speaker 1: five of the top questions you and your partner should 296 00:14:13,880 --> 00:14:17,720 Speaker 1: have answered or talked about before getting married, to see 297 00:14:17,720 --> 00:14:21,800 Speaker 1: if you guys are on the same page. So, and 298 00:14:21,840 --> 00:14:23,360 Speaker 1: you don't have a lot of time since your big 299 00:14:23,440 --> 00:14:28,440 Speaker 1: day is soon approaching, so both of you can answer, 300 00:14:28,840 --> 00:14:31,720 Speaker 1: and Susan and I will chime in if you have 301 00:14:31,800 --> 00:14:34,720 Speaker 1: any words of wisdom or in short, Susan and I 302 00:14:34,760 --> 00:14:39,160 Speaker 1: will chime in. As you know, Sue, we all know 303 00:14:39,520 --> 00:14:42,120 Speaker 1: Susan's a wedding efficient so you know we've got an 304 00:14:42,120 --> 00:14:44,280 Speaker 1: expert here if we need help. All right, let's get 305 00:14:44,280 --> 00:14:46,560 Speaker 1: going with the first one. Why do you want to 306 00:14:46,600 --> 00:14:50,120 Speaker 1: get married? And what does marriage mean to you? Why 307 00:14:50,120 --> 00:14:51,400 Speaker 1: don't you start abby? 308 00:14:54,960 --> 00:14:59,640 Speaker 7: So I want to get married just because I lived 309 00:14:59,680 --> 00:15:02,440 Speaker 7: my life my early twenties single and that was a 310 00:15:02,520 --> 00:15:05,320 Speaker 7: very fun time figuring out who I was. But there's 311 00:15:05,400 --> 00:15:08,160 Speaker 7: just something about going through life with somebody, with the 312 00:15:08,160 --> 00:15:11,000 Speaker 7: best friend and just doing everything together. And I just 313 00:15:11,000 --> 00:15:14,080 Speaker 7: feel like that's what marriage means to me, is going 314 00:15:14,080 --> 00:15:17,320 Speaker 7: through the good times in the bad times, and it's 315 00:15:17,360 --> 00:15:19,960 Speaker 7: been my favorite part. So I am just super excited 316 00:15:19,960 --> 00:15:21,160 Speaker 7: to keep doing what we're doing. 317 00:15:21,280 --> 00:15:26,880 Speaker 5: But Mary, instead of engage and did I answer good? 318 00:15:27,120 --> 00:15:28,200 Speaker 1: No, that's a great yo. 319 00:15:28,160 --> 00:15:28,200 Speaker 5: Know. 320 00:15:28,440 --> 00:15:29,720 Speaker 1: I'm almost crying over here. 321 00:15:29,880 --> 00:15:30,760 Speaker 3: She gets today? 322 00:15:30,960 --> 00:15:33,160 Speaker 1: Yep, you get today? You come on, you got no 323 00:15:33,200 --> 00:15:35,360 Speaker 1: what you got? You got a lot to measure up 324 00:15:35,400 --> 00:15:35,680 Speaker 1: to here. 325 00:15:35,960 --> 00:15:40,320 Speaker 4: Okay, why would get Why would I want to get married? 326 00:15:41,520 --> 00:15:41,560 Speaker 5: Not? 327 00:15:41,720 --> 00:15:44,800 Speaker 1: Why would you? Because that suggests that there you go, 328 00:15:45,080 --> 00:15:47,040 Speaker 1: it's happening. Though. Let's get the temps right. 329 00:15:47,080 --> 00:15:50,479 Speaker 6: I love this woman. I grew up very traditional. 330 00:15:50,680 --> 00:15:53,400 Speaker 4: My view of marriage is, you know, kind of a 331 00:15:53,600 --> 00:15:56,360 Speaker 4: covenant and you work on it, just like you work 332 00:15:56,400 --> 00:15:58,920 Speaker 4: on yourself and your relationship with God and your family. 333 00:15:58,960 --> 00:16:00,560 Speaker 6: It's all kind of a bundle. 334 00:16:00,600 --> 00:16:00,840 Speaker 1: For me. 335 00:16:02,360 --> 00:16:06,560 Speaker 4: I don't plan on us ever separating. We're locked in forever. 336 00:16:07,080 --> 00:16:08,840 Speaker 4: Marriage is a great way to. 337 00:16:09,200 --> 00:16:11,840 Speaker 6: For me, for us to kind of symbolize that and 338 00:16:12,040 --> 00:16:12,720 Speaker 6: stick to it. 339 00:16:12,800 --> 00:16:15,440 Speaker 1: You know, I got'll say they both get you both 340 00:16:15,440 --> 00:16:17,480 Speaker 1: get a's. Honestly, those are two of the best answers 341 00:16:17,520 --> 00:16:22,240 Speaker 1: I've ever heard. Wait a minute, Susan, one more quickly, 342 00:16:23,120 --> 00:16:25,880 Speaker 1: why do you want to get married? Thirty seconds or less? 343 00:16:28,440 --> 00:16:33,360 Speaker 3: Why or how? Next question? 344 00:16:33,440 --> 00:16:33,760 Speaker 1: Please? 345 00:16:34,880 --> 00:16:39,560 Speaker 2: So, how you guys handle disagreements and is there anything 346 00:16:40,720 --> 00:16:44,720 Speaker 2: you could be doing differently? How what happens when you 347 00:16:44,760 --> 00:16:46,120 Speaker 2: disagree or have an argument. 348 00:16:47,680 --> 00:16:51,120 Speaker 5: There's what I'm learning for us because we are very different. 349 00:16:51,280 --> 00:16:55,880 Speaker 7: I think naturally, I'm somebody that I need space, like 350 00:16:56,080 --> 00:16:58,400 Speaker 7: if something happens, I need to kind of step away 351 00:16:58,400 --> 00:17:00,720 Speaker 7: and take some time and just really think through the 352 00:17:00,760 --> 00:17:04,920 Speaker 7: situation and my answer, whereas he's somebody where he wants 353 00:17:04,960 --> 00:17:08,440 Speaker 7: to address it right away and talk through it, conversation, 354 00:17:08,600 --> 00:17:09,320 Speaker 7: figure it out. 355 00:17:09,720 --> 00:17:11,720 Speaker 5: So it was something that we both have had to 356 00:17:11,760 --> 00:17:12,119 Speaker 5: work on. 357 00:17:12,200 --> 00:17:15,040 Speaker 7: So I kind of had to compromise and say, Okay, 358 00:17:15,320 --> 00:17:17,640 Speaker 7: I can't just leave you hating, like that's not fair 359 00:17:17,880 --> 00:17:20,760 Speaker 7: to you to you know, leave you for a day 360 00:17:20,840 --> 00:17:22,840 Speaker 7: or a couple of hours or so forth. So I 361 00:17:22,840 --> 00:17:25,879 Speaker 7: feel like I've been working on trying to talk through 362 00:17:25,920 --> 00:17:28,959 Speaker 7: it the minute something starts bothering me, instead of like 363 00:17:29,040 --> 00:17:31,439 Speaker 7: waiting for it to build up and then pest. 364 00:17:32,040 --> 00:17:35,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, you can't take the implant out and just go. 365 00:17:37,440 --> 00:17:41,720 Speaker 6: That was actually one that just throw across the walls. 366 00:17:42,119 --> 00:17:46,439 Speaker 5: Was growing up, I would after com So I carry 367 00:17:46,480 --> 00:17:47,600 Speaker 5: that relationship. 368 00:17:47,800 --> 00:17:50,880 Speaker 3: I love that, okay. 369 00:17:51,359 --> 00:17:53,760 Speaker 6: And I think we put a lot of effort into it. 370 00:17:53,880 --> 00:17:58,000 Speaker 4: I kind of had the privilege and honor, I guess 371 00:17:58,080 --> 00:18:00,240 Speaker 4: working in the ICU, I got to see a lot 372 00:18:00,240 --> 00:18:05,280 Speaker 4: of old very I mean older than you guys, much older. 373 00:18:05,040 --> 00:18:07,480 Speaker 1: To hear that Susan really old the way he just 374 00:18:07,520 --> 00:18:09,560 Speaker 1: said that old, I mean even older than you guys 375 00:18:09,600 --> 00:18:13,439 Speaker 1: like dust almost dust I had in my sixties. 376 00:18:13,400 --> 00:18:16,240 Speaker 4: Just dialed in their dinosaur age and at the prime 377 00:18:16,280 --> 00:18:19,160 Speaker 4: of their life. And I've watched you know, the couple, 378 00:18:19,280 --> 00:18:23,040 Speaker 4: somebody die and you get to see the family and 379 00:18:23,240 --> 00:18:27,159 Speaker 4: the spouse talk after and whatnot, and almost all of 380 00:18:27,200 --> 00:18:30,640 Speaker 4: it they boil down to, like the. 381 00:18:30,600 --> 00:18:31,920 Speaker 6: Little things really don't matter. 382 00:18:31,960 --> 00:18:35,560 Speaker 4: When you've been married this long, when you're committed to 383 00:18:35,600 --> 00:18:38,520 Speaker 4: each other this long, you don't really care about little. 384 00:18:38,240 --> 00:18:40,720 Speaker 6: Things, especially when it's in comparison to death and life. 385 00:18:41,240 --> 00:18:43,880 Speaker 4: So for us, it's like if it bothers me enough 386 00:18:43,920 --> 00:18:46,840 Speaker 4: that I keep thinking about it, then I stop what 387 00:18:46,880 --> 00:18:47,520 Speaker 4: I'm doing. 388 00:18:48,000 --> 00:18:49,800 Speaker 6: We tackle it. We don't get a bit angry. 389 00:18:49,920 --> 00:18:52,280 Speaker 4: But if it's something that I'm like, maybe I just 390 00:18:52,280 --> 00:18:53,919 Speaker 4: need it, That's where I take from her, Maybe I 391 00:18:53,920 --> 00:18:54,639 Speaker 4: should just think. 392 00:18:54,480 --> 00:18:56,320 Speaker 6: About it more like, am I actually don't actually even 393 00:18:56,359 --> 00:18:59,879 Speaker 6: care about this thing? You know, like the argument or whatever. 394 00:19:00,119 --> 00:19:03,240 Speaker 2: Sometimes in the heat of the moment, people react. 395 00:19:03,480 --> 00:19:06,080 Speaker 6: Of course, you can't help. This is the best case scenario. 396 00:19:06,920 --> 00:19:09,040 Speaker 4: One thing we try to do is let her have 397 00:19:09,119 --> 00:19:13,400 Speaker 4: her space, especially because I found sometimes some of our 398 00:19:13,480 --> 00:19:17,840 Speaker 4: arguments literally come down to miscommunication. And I don't mean like, oh, 399 00:19:17,840 --> 00:19:19,960 Speaker 4: we didn't communicate well, I mean literally there was a 400 00:19:20,000 --> 00:19:21,680 Speaker 4: gap of communication. 401 00:19:21,720 --> 00:19:24,800 Speaker 6: And we work better if we have our conversation. 402 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:27,399 Speaker 4: She gets space, and then I text out kind of 403 00:19:27,400 --> 00:19:30,639 Speaker 4: what I'm saying, so there's no I didn't say this. 404 00:19:30,960 --> 00:19:33,600 Speaker 1: She I gotta say. You two guys, Susan and I 405 00:19:33,800 --> 00:19:35,560 Speaker 1: we you know, we get a lot of people asking 406 00:19:35,560 --> 00:19:39,440 Speaker 1: this advice because, as you've pointed out four times already, Noah, 407 00:19:39,520 --> 00:19:43,520 Speaker 1: we are older than dirt, and so people ask us questions, 408 00:19:44,040 --> 00:19:50,400 Speaker 1: and Susan and I often say it's communication, and uh 409 00:19:50,960 --> 00:19:53,879 Speaker 1: uh cooperation and what's and what's the other one that 410 00:19:55,200 --> 00:19:55,880 Speaker 1: you said. 411 00:19:55,640 --> 00:19:58,280 Speaker 3: It you got to listen to each other. 412 00:19:59,320 --> 00:20:04,720 Speaker 1: Compromise, that's the word cop and you both used those terms. 413 00:20:05,040 --> 00:20:07,960 Speaker 1: So you both said you're on it. You're on it, 414 00:20:08,080 --> 00:20:10,560 Speaker 1: like I have high hopes for this, for this merriage, 415 00:20:10,640 --> 00:20:14,040 Speaker 1: which makes me not want to which makes me don't 416 00:20:14,040 --> 00:20:15,560 Speaker 1: want to even ask the next question. 417 00:20:15,760 --> 00:20:18,359 Speaker 2: Wait, wait before you go on, Kathy, I've been told 418 00:20:18,400 --> 00:20:21,800 Speaker 2: I over communicate, like I don't need to know. 419 00:20:22,000 --> 00:20:26,200 Speaker 3: I mean, you're thinking and you too, well, you know. 420 00:20:27,720 --> 00:20:31,320 Speaker 7: The relationship is over. You can't go wrong over communicating. 421 00:20:31,560 --> 00:20:33,639 Speaker 7: It's only under community. But this is for the guys 422 00:20:33,680 --> 00:20:34,040 Speaker 7: out there. 423 00:20:34,080 --> 00:20:36,600 Speaker 4: If there's guys that listen to this podcast, you know, 424 00:20:37,440 --> 00:20:41,480 Speaker 4: you don't do yourself a favor by over communicating details 425 00:20:41,520 --> 00:20:46,920 Speaker 4: that she doesn't care about understand or doesn't care to learn. 426 00:20:47,440 --> 00:20:49,639 Speaker 3: But women don't get that. We want you to know 427 00:20:49,840 --> 00:20:50,960 Speaker 3: every detail. 428 00:20:51,359 --> 00:20:52,399 Speaker 1: Speak for yourself. 429 00:20:52,520 --> 00:20:54,399 Speaker 6: I don't exactly. 430 00:20:54,640 --> 00:20:56,359 Speaker 4: There's a point where it's like, all right, I just 431 00:20:56,400 --> 00:20:59,840 Speaker 4: need to convey an emotion, the details do not matter, 432 00:21:00,880 --> 00:21:01,720 Speaker 4: and move on. 433 00:21:03,920 --> 00:21:06,440 Speaker 1: All right. So here's what I know. This doesn't apply 434 00:21:06,480 --> 00:21:07,960 Speaker 1: to you, but I'm just going to torture you for 435 00:21:08,000 --> 00:21:13,040 Speaker 1: thirty seconds. Uh, what does cheating mean to you? And 436 00:21:13,280 --> 00:21:16,400 Speaker 1: when is it a deal breaker? And is cheating? How 437 00:21:16,400 --> 00:21:21,640 Speaker 1: do you define it? Kissing, texting, liking posts, sex. I mean, 438 00:21:21,960 --> 00:21:25,040 Speaker 1: I'm going to go out on a limb and say 439 00:21:25,040 --> 00:21:28,560 Speaker 1: that I personally consider having sex with someone cheating. It's 440 00:21:28,600 --> 00:21:30,520 Speaker 1: not my partner. I'm just gonna go out on that limb. 441 00:21:30,760 --> 00:21:33,200 Speaker 1: But what do you guys consider cheating? 442 00:21:34,119 --> 00:21:36,720 Speaker 5: So we both said cheating was a non negotiable. 443 00:21:37,440 --> 00:21:40,560 Speaker 7: If that line gets cross, I think, just naturally, I 444 00:21:40,600 --> 00:21:43,560 Speaker 7: have a really hard time building trusts so that if 445 00:21:43,680 --> 00:21:46,960 Speaker 7: that trust is gone, it's just longer parable for me. 446 00:21:48,040 --> 00:21:51,000 Speaker 7: And what cheating looks like for me is obviously anything physical, 447 00:21:51,240 --> 00:21:55,200 Speaker 7: whether that's kissing, having sex. But I would say minus 448 00:21:55,200 --> 00:21:57,159 Speaker 7: almost a little bit further than that, just because I 449 00:21:57,200 --> 00:22:01,040 Speaker 7: think we have a really strong, I think attachment to 450 00:22:01,119 --> 00:22:03,760 Speaker 7: each other, and I think if somebody were to come 451 00:22:03,840 --> 00:22:09,320 Speaker 7: in and like be like the emotional cheating side, I 452 00:22:09,359 --> 00:22:12,240 Speaker 7: would consider that cheating just because like I should be 453 00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:14,080 Speaker 7: the priority, Like I should be the one your sign 454 00:22:14,160 --> 00:22:16,800 Speaker 7: up to confining everything in, and once you open that 455 00:22:16,960 --> 00:22:20,560 Speaker 7: up to a third party, that only opens the door 456 00:22:20,640 --> 00:22:23,280 Speaker 7: up to more and more issues. So I would consider 457 00:22:23,359 --> 00:22:24,359 Speaker 7: that a form of cheating? 458 00:22:24,480 --> 00:22:28,520 Speaker 3: Is I like this skid? I think both of them. 459 00:22:28,560 --> 00:22:29,399 Speaker 3: Are you kidding me? 460 00:22:29,520 --> 00:22:33,800 Speaker 1: I'm not kidding you two seem to have all the answers. 461 00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:37,240 Speaker 3: And I will say this the shit together you do. 462 00:22:37,800 --> 00:22:40,520 Speaker 1: And I will tell you I was married almost forty 463 00:22:40,560 --> 00:22:43,720 Speaker 1: six years. And I will tell you, Abby, the one 464 00:22:43,760 --> 00:22:46,600 Speaker 1: thing when we were your age, back in the seventeen hundreds, 465 00:22:47,040 --> 00:22:51,760 Speaker 1: we were uh and talking about getting married. That was 466 00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:54,399 Speaker 1: the one thing that you used exactly the word that 467 00:22:54,440 --> 00:22:58,720 Speaker 1: we did. Cheating was non negotiable. Now we didn't have texting, 468 00:22:58,800 --> 00:23:01,280 Speaker 1: you know, but but exactly what you said, you know, 469 00:23:03,119 --> 00:23:07,040 Speaker 1: the heart. I mean, we didn't have social yet. I mean, 470 00:23:07,119 --> 00:23:09,919 Speaker 1: is that a thing for you? Because cheating for me 471 00:23:10,040 --> 00:23:12,520 Speaker 1: with sort of how you just described it. What about 472 00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:17,200 Speaker 1: liking posts, you know, liking someone's social Instagram or whatever. 473 00:23:17,720 --> 00:23:19,800 Speaker 6: I view it like a cup. I do a lot 474 00:23:19,840 --> 00:23:20,800 Speaker 6: of things like a cup. 475 00:23:21,080 --> 00:23:23,440 Speaker 4: Right If I'm wanting to say I'm going to get 476 00:23:23,440 --> 00:23:26,280 Speaker 4: married to her, if not, I'll just stay dating around 477 00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:28,479 Speaker 4: girls my whole life. But I'm going to say I'm 478 00:23:28,480 --> 00:23:31,520 Speaker 4: gonna get married to her one person, lock it down 479 00:23:31,520 --> 00:23:33,600 Speaker 4: the rest of my life, and I want everything in 480 00:23:33,640 --> 00:23:37,320 Speaker 4: my cup to go towards that relationship, and if I'm 481 00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:40,320 Speaker 4: throwing water out at the likes and responding to the 482 00:23:40,400 --> 00:23:42,679 Speaker 4: dms and me personally, I have a lot of friends 483 00:23:42,680 --> 00:23:45,920 Speaker 4: that are girls. I'm probably a pretty flirty person in general. 484 00:23:46,280 --> 00:23:48,439 Speaker 4: I saw the way Susan smiled when I was talking. 485 00:23:49,000 --> 00:23:51,520 Speaker 3: I too. I like it. I just don't like it, 486 00:23:51,640 --> 00:23:53,000 Speaker 3: but I don't mean any harm. 487 00:23:53,600 --> 00:23:55,359 Speaker 6: There's no room for error. 488 00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:57,600 Speaker 4: You know, if I got one cup with one quantity 489 00:23:57,640 --> 00:24:00,199 Speaker 4: of water, I want to put as much water as 490 00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:02,440 Speaker 4: I can where I wanted to go, and it's. 491 00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:03,200 Speaker 6: Just the rest. 492 00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:05,040 Speaker 1: I did the same thing, but I filled my cup 493 00:24:05,080 --> 00:24:09,719 Speaker 1: with wine or either or Okay. 494 00:24:09,760 --> 00:24:14,040 Speaker 2: So do you guys find a balance financially the way 495 00:24:14,080 --> 00:24:16,919 Speaker 2: you spend your habits and how you stay on the 496 00:24:16,960 --> 00:24:20,240 Speaker 2: same page just one the bigger spender than the other or. 497 00:24:21,960 --> 00:24:25,080 Speaker 7: So. I think we were really lucky that we grew 498 00:24:25,160 --> 00:24:29,280 Speaker 7: up pretty similar, like we were number big spenders going 499 00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:32,520 Speaker 7: into the relationship. We're both pretty fruit frugal when it 500 00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:35,000 Speaker 7: comes to our money. We work really hard, and I 501 00:24:35,040 --> 00:24:36,919 Speaker 7: think we just have a lot of value around that. 502 00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:41,679 Speaker 7: So for the most part, we've actually been really on 503 00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:44,160 Speaker 7: the same pace with spunny habits I would say we've 504 00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:46,880 Speaker 7: probably spent equal and bounce by not going through line 505 00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:47,359 Speaker 7: by line. 506 00:24:47,680 --> 00:24:49,480 Speaker 3: You can't get better than this man. 507 00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:52,840 Speaker 4: I grew up too poor to spend a lot, That's 508 00:24:52,840 --> 00:24:56,000 Speaker 4: all I got to say. And she's a finance background, frugal. 509 00:24:56,080 --> 00:24:57,879 Speaker 4: You should meet her mom and her dad. They're all 510 00:24:58,280 --> 00:25:01,800 Speaker 4: similar the way they think. So we got fortunate with that. Wow, 511 00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:04,879 Speaker 4: it makes it easy that we have some of the 512 00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:06,440 Speaker 4: same goals of what we want. 513 00:25:06,680 --> 00:25:09,280 Speaker 1: You know, so joint are you gonna have joint checking accounts? 514 00:25:09,520 --> 00:25:12,880 Speaker 1: Are you gonna have so up? Because today a lot 515 00:25:12,880 --> 00:25:16,919 Speaker 1: of young married couples have his account, her account, and 516 00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:19,000 Speaker 1: then a joint household account. 517 00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:21,640 Speaker 6: And I think that's fine. I think, however people want 518 00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:21,959 Speaker 6: to do it. 519 00:25:21,960 --> 00:25:24,760 Speaker 4: We're going to have a joint you know, we're working 520 00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:27,919 Speaker 4: on building together, so a business we make will have 521 00:25:27,960 --> 00:25:30,480 Speaker 4: a joint in our definitely spending and things like that. 522 00:25:31,920 --> 00:25:34,040 Speaker 4: And we know the sac it was shared because we 523 00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:37,159 Speaker 4: pretty much we do everything together. We split everything, you know. 524 00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:40,760 Speaker 4: And then for house stuff because we're doing house things. 525 00:25:41,200 --> 00:25:43,919 Speaker 4: I do a lot of the work, but obviously we 526 00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:47,000 Speaker 4: want it. It's both of us win to spend money 527 00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:49,520 Speaker 4: on that yuff. It's like yeah, we're both kind of 528 00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:51,960 Speaker 4: fligned with where like if you want to squirt a 529 00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:56,560 Speaker 4: random carpet or whatever, some stupid purse, sure, but overall 530 00:25:56,640 --> 00:25:58,400 Speaker 4: it's mostly just geared towards like. 531 00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:02,040 Speaker 5: Yeah, right now, joint credit cards or anything that we 532 00:26:02,080 --> 00:26:02,600 Speaker 5: do together. 533 00:26:02,800 --> 00:26:04,639 Speaker 7: We just put on the bill at the end of 534 00:26:04,720 --> 00:26:07,040 Speaker 7: the month, and then from when we're mary kind of 535 00:26:07,080 --> 00:26:10,560 Speaker 7: what you said, probably like a joint checking account. It 536 00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:14,359 Speaker 7: just gets so complicated with influencing the home stuff all 537 00:26:14,400 --> 00:26:17,480 Speaker 7: the ls. So we're kind of navigating how to figure 538 00:26:17,600 --> 00:26:18,000 Speaker 7: that out. 539 00:26:18,560 --> 00:26:22,480 Speaker 1: That's a question for I can help you with that one, Abby. 540 00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:24,880 Speaker 1: This is what you look Noah in the eyes and 541 00:26:24,960 --> 00:26:29,560 Speaker 1: say this to him. What's mine is mine and what's 542 00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:33,200 Speaker 1: yours is mine? A problem solved? 543 00:26:33,760 --> 00:26:36,639 Speaker 2: What about picking out furniture and stuff? Do you have 544 00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:39,600 Speaker 2: an eye for furniture? Do you have to ask him 545 00:26:39,600 --> 00:26:42,359 Speaker 2: if he likes it prior to buying it, or like 546 00:26:42,760 --> 00:26:43,800 Speaker 2: just get what you want. 547 00:26:44,040 --> 00:26:46,760 Speaker 4: So when this started, it was kind of like, Okay, 548 00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:50,640 Speaker 4: I want her to just do design and be good 549 00:26:50,640 --> 00:26:51,359 Speaker 4: at it and like it. 550 00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:53,400 Speaker 6: That's the perfect world. And it did kind of turn 551 00:26:53,440 --> 00:26:53,920 Speaker 6: out like that. 552 00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:57,040 Speaker 4: So it started like showing the options and stuff and 553 00:26:57,080 --> 00:26:57,720 Speaker 4: I'd just be like. 554 00:26:57,880 --> 00:27:00,600 Speaker 6: That's terrible or that's very hard to pull off. 555 00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:04,320 Speaker 4: Like you don't know the details behind that's hard. Now 556 00:27:04,359 --> 00:27:06,360 Speaker 4: it's like I don't think she really checks. She might 557 00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:08,320 Speaker 4: get one or two options, but like. 558 00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:09,760 Speaker 5: Everything, they're still point to ask. 559 00:27:09,960 --> 00:27:13,600 Speaker 6: I'm like listening. All of it can be congruent and 560 00:27:13,640 --> 00:27:15,919 Speaker 6: come together and you like it. It's your house. 561 00:27:16,040 --> 00:27:19,480 Speaker 4: I know to look good do it, But don't you know. 562 00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:22,560 Speaker 1: What do you cook? Who cooks in your who cooks 563 00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:24,440 Speaker 1: in your partnership? There? Who's the cook? 564 00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:27,800 Speaker 7: I probably cook more often. He's a really good cook, 565 00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:30,119 Speaker 7: but I think just day to day I really enjoy cooking. 566 00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:31,560 Speaker 7: So I kind of just take that on. 567 00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:34,280 Speaker 6: You're not going to like this. If I work a lot, 568 00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:38,600 Speaker 6: she'll drop off lunch that she cooks and a little 569 00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:39,320 Speaker 6: I didn't get. 570 00:27:39,680 --> 00:27:45,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, but we try to love you too. I want 571 00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:50,480 Speaker 1: I want your father, your uncle, I mean anytime. Yeah, Susan, 572 00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:55,159 Speaker 1: the line forms here, get behind me, one brother. 573 00:27:55,240 --> 00:28:01,639 Speaker 7: That's I thought only a number. 574 00:28:01,720 --> 00:28:02,040 Speaker 4: Nine? 575 00:28:02,280 --> 00:28:04,880 Speaker 1: Why I thought age was only a number? You see 576 00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:07,680 Speaker 1: how fast the worm turns there, Susan, We're back to 577 00:28:07,760 --> 00:28:09,920 Speaker 1: being old as dirt. We're moving on here. 578 00:28:20,920 --> 00:28:23,479 Speaker 3: Okay, this is going to be fun. I put the 579 00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:24,639 Speaker 3: readers on in their row. 580 00:28:26,119 --> 00:28:29,679 Speaker 2: So we have some fan questions and we want you 581 00:28:29,760 --> 00:28:33,240 Speaker 2: guys to help give some advice to these questions. You 582 00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:36,760 Speaker 2: go with that, Okay, okay, guys. This is from Isabella, 583 00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:41,200 Speaker 2: which is my granddaughter's name. Isabella is twenty four and 584 00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:43,480 Speaker 2: she's from Round Rock, Texas. 585 00:28:43,920 --> 00:28:45,440 Speaker 1: WHOA, that's right around the corner. 586 00:28:45,920 --> 00:28:49,880 Speaker 2: Hi, Dallas, I am a bridesmaid in my friend's upcoming 587 00:28:49,960 --> 00:28:54,160 Speaker 2: wedding and I need some advice. Being a bridesmaid is 588 00:28:54,200 --> 00:28:59,240 Speaker 2: already an expensive ask, as we're paying for our dresses, 589 00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:03,239 Speaker 2: the bachelor party, et cetera. And now the bride just 590 00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:07,680 Speaker 2: did something I think is a bit strange. She just 591 00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:14,320 Speaker 2: venmo requested us all for our getting ready pajamas, snacks 592 00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:17,760 Speaker 2: of the day, and for our hair and makeup for 593 00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:21,640 Speaker 2: the day of her wedding. I think I assumed she 594 00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:25,560 Speaker 2: would be covering some of that, especially since she is 595 00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:30,440 Speaker 2: requiring us to get all our hair done and makeup 596 00:29:30,520 --> 00:29:34,160 Speaker 2: done by her stylists. I really don't think I can 597 00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:38,200 Speaker 2: afford all these additional costs, so I'm curious what you 598 00:29:38,400 --> 00:29:41,520 Speaker 2: think I should do. The wedding is coming up next 599 00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:44,880 Speaker 2: month and the bride is already very on edge, so 600 00:29:44,920 --> 00:29:48,320 Speaker 2: I am not sure how to bring this up delicately. 601 00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:50,760 Speaker 2: Any advice is appreciated. 602 00:29:51,000 --> 00:29:51,720 Speaker 3: Thanks y'all. 603 00:29:52,480 --> 00:29:54,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, go, what do you think, Abby? 604 00:29:55,560 --> 00:29:59,080 Speaker 7: Alan's tricky and this is the exact reason why I 605 00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:03,800 Speaker 7: didn't want any bridesmaids just become very common kind of 606 00:30:03,840 --> 00:30:05,360 Speaker 7: in the wedding world. 607 00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:07,080 Speaker 5: It's tricky. 608 00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:10,240 Speaker 7: I get both sides, just because it is the bride's 609 00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:12,840 Speaker 7: day and she wants a certain vision and that's why 610 00:30:12,880 --> 00:30:15,280 Speaker 7: she's getting the hair and makeup done or having all 611 00:30:15,280 --> 00:30:16,680 Speaker 7: her bridesmaids get it done. 612 00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:20,680 Speaker 5: Do I think she's being unreasonable? Yes, I just. 613 00:30:20,880 --> 00:30:28,240 Speaker 1: Think I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Who is the bride? Okay, 614 00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:29,440 Speaker 1: just want to make sure, Okay. 615 00:30:29,640 --> 00:30:32,920 Speaker 7: I just think if you require anything from your bridesmaid, 616 00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:36,000 Speaker 7: so like if you want a very specific dress, hair makeup, 617 00:30:36,080 --> 00:30:41,040 Speaker 7: you're not getting people another option. But like bachelor wrap party, 618 00:30:41,120 --> 00:30:43,120 Speaker 7: Like if it's an Airbnb and you're getting some use 619 00:30:43,160 --> 00:30:45,040 Speaker 7: out of it, then I would think you would pitch 620 00:30:45,120 --> 00:30:47,600 Speaker 7: him for that, or like the snacks up the day 621 00:30:47,640 --> 00:30:50,320 Speaker 7: of the wedding when they're getting ready. If you're consuming 622 00:30:50,360 --> 00:30:53,280 Speaker 7: the neck, I think that's fine a pitching for But 623 00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:56,160 Speaker 7: if you're a bride and telling bridesmaids, hey, you need 624 00:30:56,200 --> 00:30:58,320 Speaker 7: to do X, Y and Z exactly how I want it. 625 00:30:58,800 --> 00:31:01,760 Speaker 5: That should be on the bride personally forever. 626 00:31:02,200 --> 00:31:05,600 Speaker 2: The bride's family takes care of the snacks the day 627 00:31:05,600 --> 00:31:08,640 Speaker 2: of the wedding, I mean, come on, that's really and 628 00:31:08,720 --> 00:31:09,680 Speaker 2: you give them an option. 629 00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:11,560 Speaker 3: Do you want your hair and makeup done? 630 00:31:11,760 --> 00:31:11,960 Speaker 1: Yeah? 631 00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:14,200 Speaker 4: I would at least you don't want to, you know, 632 00:31:14,400 --> 00:31:18,200 Speaker 4: cause extra stress. If they're actually friends and she wants 633 00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:19,760 Speaker 4: her in the wedding and she's happy for her to 634 00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:23,200 Speaker 4: get married, I would have a conversation and say, you know, 635 00:31:23,280 --> 00:31:25,600 Speaker 4: she knows your situation, or she might not. But hey, 636 00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:28,239 Speaker 4: some of this stuff, it's not that embarrassing. It's more 637 00:31:28,280 --> 00:31:31,080 Speaker 4: embarrassing for you guys to burn a bridge. 638 00:31:31,640 --> 00:31:34,400 Speaker 1: So I love that. I love that. No, I'm with you. 639 00:31:34,880 --> 00:31:35,360 Speaker 1: I'm with you. 640 00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:39,320 Speaker 6: We don't need match I'll bring my own pjs whatever, 641 00:31:39,400 --> 00:31:41,440 Speaker 6: I have white pjs. Like if it's that, if it's 642 00:31:41,480 --> 00:31:43,200 Speaker 6: that big of a deal, there's ways around it. 643 00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:45,760 Speaker 2: That should be the gift from the bride, the pajamas 644 00:31:45,760 --> 00:31:46,360 Speaker 2: and the snacks. 645 00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:49,800 Speaker 4: Yeah, But if the bride really, if somebody talk to her, 646 00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:52,360 Speaker 4: and I hope she hears this, if somebody talks to 647 00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:55,800 Speaker 4: you and you realize what you're asking not everyone can do. 648 00:31:56,480 --> 00:31:58,840 Speaker 4: You might too, but you're asking something that not everyone 649 00:31:58,840 --> 00:31:59,920 Speaker 4: can do, and if you actually want them. 650 00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:02,080 Speaker 7: She might only be asking all this stuff because all 651 00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:04,120 Speaker 7: the girls keep saying yes because I mean, they're afraid 652 00:32:04,200 --> 00:32:06,160 Speaker 7: to say no, and so she just keeps thinking, Wow, 653 00:32:06,200 --> 00:32:08,080 Speaker 7: everyone's on boor Okay, let me just add more to 654 00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:10,480 Speaker 7: the list. If no one's told her no or kind 655 00:32:10,480 --> 00:32:13,760 Speaker 7: of express how you know, difficult that. 656 00:32:13,880 --> 00:32:14,880 Speaker 5: Is to kind of pull off. 657 00:32:15,040 --> 00:32:16,840 Speaker 3: I want to get communicate. 658 00:32:18,080 --> 00:32:20,760 Speaker 1: I do think that weddings though, My daughter got married 659 00:32:21,600 --> 00:32:24,720 Speaker 1: a few years ago, and my son Susan Mary their 660 00:32:24,840 --> 00:32:27,520 Speaker 1: their wedding was in March, and I kind of agree 661 00:32:27,520 --> 00:32:32,760 Speaker 1: with you, Abby, these weddings have gotten so crazy out 662 00:32:32,760 --> 00:32:37,960 Speaker 1: of hand. And the pajamas, Noah, what you don't get is, 663 00:32:38,360 --> 00:32:41,800 Speaker 1: you know, the bride's pictures now start you know, ten 664 00:32:41,920 --> 00:32:44,400 Speaker 1: years before the wedding. We've got to have what I 665 00:32:44,840 --> 00:32:46,520 Speaker 1: you know, what I look like at ten, what I 666 00:32:46,520 --> 00:32:49,600 Speaker 1: looked at eleven, and then right up to the wedding 667 00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:52,440 Speaker 1: day when everyone's in there getting ready pajamas. 668 00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:55,440 Speaker 4: It's a thing if I want everyone to have matching 669 00:32:55,480 --> 00:32:57,400 Speaker 4: all my bros to have matching pj's. 670 00:32:58,040 --> 00:33:00,200 Speaker 1: I want to be there if you're I'm going to buy. 671 00:33:00,120 --> 00:33:02,760 Speaker 4: Rose because I'm the one that I wanted to look 672 00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:04,880 Speaker 4: a specific way. 673 00:33:05,280 --> 00:33:08,640 Speaker 2: And what about the what is it called bachelorette parties? 674 00:33:08,680 --> 00:33:11,560 Speaker 2: They traveled? Now used to be went to dinner and 675 00:33:11,640 --> 00:33:14,520 Speaker 2: a strip club or something, and now there, I'm off. 676 00:33:14,800 --> 00:33:16,040 Speaker 1: I'm sorry you buy. 677 00:33:16,160 --> 00:33:23,120 Speaker 7: For the week, cornadi outfants and about financially that has 678 00:33:23,200 --> 00:33:24,400 Speaker 7: to be so expensive? 679 00:33:24,640 --> 00:33:27,600 Speaker 1: Wait, no reaction from you too? 680 00:33:28,600 --> 00:33:32,200 Speaker 3: A strip club that was old school? 681 00:33:32,280 --> 00:33:34,440 Speaker 1: Yes, okay, you are older than dirt. 682 00:33:34,520 --> 00:33:37,040 Speaker 3: Nobody does to Vegas and get a stripper. 683 00:33:37,120 --> 00:33:37,840 Speaker 6: What's the difference. 684 00:33:37,960 --> 00:33:42,880 Speaker 3: I play golf, pickle Yes, golf and dinner. 685 00:33:43,120 --> 00:33:45,520 Speaker 1: Can I come? Can I come to your bro party? I? 686 00:33:46,200 --> 00:33:47,720 Speaker 1: Can I come to your bro party. I can play 687 00:33:47,720 --> 00:33:48,880 Speaker 1: pickle ball, I'll play golf. 688 00:33:49,520 --> 00:33:51,040 Speaker 6: He will plan a date. 689 00:33:51,760 --> 00:33:54,000 Speaker 1: Let's do it. I'll wear pajamas. You know, we're all 690 00:33:55,840 --> 00:33:59,400 Speaker 1: I'll bring the snacks to pajamas. Whatever. All right, let's 691 00:33:59,800 --> 00:34:04,880 Speaker 1: give the next Yeah. The next question is from anonymous 692 00:34:04,920 --> 00:34:09,640 Speaker 1: sixty four from Green Bay, Wisconsin. Hello, Kathy and Susan. 693 00:34:09,840 --> 00:34:12,680 Speaker 1: I'm feeling a little embarrassed writing in, but I thought 694 00:34:12,680 --> 00:34:15,840 Speaker 1: I would ask for some help. My late husband passed 695 00:34:15,880 --> 00:34:18,719 Speaker 1: away over ten years ago, and I've struggled to get 696 00:34:18,760 --> 00:34:21,920 Speaker 1: back out into dating. I feel a bit more ready now, 697 00:34:22,280 --> 00:34:25,520 Speaker 1: but it has been ten years since I've been kissed, 698 00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:29,400 Speaker 1: and certainly haven't done anything else intimate. I am craving 699 00:34:29,440 --> 00:34:32,919 Speaker 1: that intimacy and connection again, but I truly don't even 700 00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:37,080 Speaker 1: remember how to hold someone's hand in that way. How 701 00:34:37,080 --> 00:34:39,280 Speaker 1: do you get back into that part of dating after 702 00:34:39,360 --> 00:34:42,439 Speaker 1: over a decade off. I'm worried I won't be good 703 00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:44,759 Speaker 1: at it anymore, or that it will just make me 704 00:34:44,840 --> 00:34:47,560 Speaker 1: miss my late husband all over again. But I also 705 00:34:47,640 --> 00:34:49,640 Speaker 1: don't want to go the rest of my life without 706 00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:55,560 Speaker 1: kissing again. Curious if you have any thoughts on this, well, 707 00:34:55,680 --> 00:34:56,000 Speaker 1: I mean. 708 00:34:56,680 --> 00:35:01,320 Speaker 2: I do my husband. It's it's like riding a bike. 709 00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:04,600 Speaker 2: If you're feeling something for this guy and he goes 710 00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:08,680 Speaker 2: to hold your hand, your handle automatically, it's agree. 711 00:35:09,239 --> 00:35:13,040 Speaker 1: I agree you guys, I pulled the unlucky chain here. 712 00:35:13,120 --> 00:35:15,800 Speaker 1: My husband passed away about five and a half years ago, 713 00:35:16,400 --> 00:35:22,720 Speaker 1: and I would say to you, anonymous, you will always 714 00:35:22,719 --> 00:35:24,680 Speaker 1: miss your husband. He's always going to be a part 715 00:35:24,719 --> 00:35:29,480 Speaker 1: of your life. But hopefully if you find this new person, 716 00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:32,759 Speaker 1: it will bring new joy into your life and you 717 00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:37,440 Speaker 1: walk hand in hand figuratively and literally with that new person, 718 00:35:38,200 --> 00:35:40,640 Speaker 1: never forgetting the past and the joy you had before, 719 00:35:40,680 --> 00:35:43,560 Speaker 1: but building a new life with someone else. And I 720 00:35:43,600 --> 00:35:46,359 Speaker 1: think you're right, Susan. It's sort of like getting back 721 00:35:46,400 --> 00:35:48,600 Speaker 1: on a bicycle if you if you feel the vibe 722 00:35:48,600 --> 00:35:51,000 Speaker 1: for this guy, it's going to work out fine. 723 00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:53,640 Speaker 2: And don't feel like it's you when you don't feel 724 00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:57,239 Speaker 2: a vibe. Just no, that's not the right one, right. 725 00:35:57,600 --> 00:35:58,880 Speaker 6: I think you hit it on the head. 726 00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:04,080 Speaker 4: The only thing I would add is you maybe bring 727 00:36:04,120 --> 00:36:08,640 Speaker 4: it back to the basics, go back to playfulness, uh, 728 00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:13,399 Speaker 4: just companionship, friendship, and then you know, other memories can 729 00:36:13,400 --> 00:36:17,680 Speaker 4: start to not replace, but fill in some of the gaps. 730 00:36:17,920 --> 00:36:19,560 Speaker 4: But you got to just kind of go back to 731 00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:22,880 Speaker 4: the basics. What's comfortable, what's your idea of what you 732 00:36:22,880 --> 00:36:23,680 Speaker 4: think it would be like? 733 00:36:23,719 --> 00:36:25,520 Speaker 6: You kind of gotta w all those things. 734 00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:27,719 Speaker 2: So I have a quick question for you too. When 735 00:36:27,719 --> 00:36:30,920 Speaker 2: you first met Ice, did you feel that spark? Did 736 00:36:30,960 --> 00:36:32,640 Speaker 2: you know that chemistry was there? 737 00:36:34,360 --> 00:36:37,960 Speaker 7: I mean, I wouldn't say it was like love at 738 00:36:37,960 --> 00:36:40,400 Speaker 7: first sight, like, oh my gosh, I just met my husband, 739 00:36:40,480 --> 00:36:44,160 Speaker 7: because I think we definitely grew. But I would say 740 00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:49,000 Speaker 7: I definitely got like we called it Fanny flutters. 741 00:36:48,640 --> 00:36:52,880 Speaker 5: On Paradise so c but I definitely have that feeling. 742 00:36:52,920 --> 00:36:55,960 Speaker 7: So I felt a sort of attraction to you, But 743 00:36:56,000 --> 00:36:57,160 Speaker 7: I wouldn't say like, oh my. 744 00:36:58,040 --> 00:37:02,879 Speaker 2: My, I can't live without you, but Abby, don't. 745 00:37:02,920 --> 00:37:05,760 Speaker 1: I mean, I think if you had said that without 746 00:37:05,920 --> 00:37:09,640 Speaker 1: knowing him at all. The only fool I know who's 747 00:37:09,640 --> 00:37:12,080 Speaker 1: ever said that was me. When I met my husband 748 00:37:12,239 --> 00:37:14,840 Speaker 1: at a fraternity party. Across the room, I pointed to 749 00:37:14,880 --> 00:37:16,520 Speaker 1: my girlfriend that was with and I said, you see 750 00:37:16,520 --> 00:37:18,680 Speaker 1: that guy over there, I'm going to marry him. So 751 00:37:18,960 --> 00:37:22,720 Speaker 1: I literally did that. But in a more rational state, 752 00:37:22,880 --> 00:37:26,959 Speaker 1: now that I'm over the age of twenty, I think 753 00:37:27,040 --> 00:37:28,719 Speaker 1: that you're right. You have to get You can be 754 00:37:28,840 --> 00:37:30,960 Speaker 1: physically attracted to someone, but you got to get to 755 00:37:31,000 --> 00:37:33,080 Speaker 1: know him to see if it's going to be your husband. 756 00:37:33,600 --> 00:37:36,400 Speaker 5: Well, and for a little bit more context, he was 757 00:37:36,440 --> 00:37:37,880 Speaker 5: the villain on his season. 758 00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:40,360 Speaker 1: I knew I loved you, know what, so was I. 759 00:37:41,160 --> 00:37:43,600 Speaker 7: So that's why I was trying to navigate a little bit. 760 00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:47,319 Speaker 7: Was trying to get to know Noah on Paradise and 761 00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:50,520 Speaker 7: our relationship and kind of separating that from what I 762 00:37:50,719 --> 00:37:52,040 Speaker 7: saw on Tsha's season. 763 00:37:52,120 --> 00:37:55,120 Speaker 5: So I think that was my little hesitation at first. 764 00:37:55,120 --> 00:37:57,080 Speaker 7: So that's why I wasn't like, Oh, that's my husband, 765 00:37:57,080 --> 00:37:59,440 Speaker 7: I'm going to marry him, because I wasn't. 766 00:37:59,239 --> 00:38:02,640 Speaker 1: Sure said zip it. I just said zip it. And 767 00:38:02,680 --> 00:38:07,000 Speaker 1: speaking of zippit, uh, I want to ask you Abby, 768 00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:10,799 Speaker 1: other than picking out your snacks and your pajamas that 769 00:38:10,840 --> 00:38:13,160 Speaker 1: everyone's going to chip in and pay for, because you're 770 00:38:13,200 --> 00:38:15,480 Speaker 1: not doing it. I know you're a busy girl with 771 00:38:15,520 --> 00:38:18,320 Speaker 1: this wedding, but tell me briefly. I heard you have 772 00:38:18,360 --> 00:38:21,000 Speaker 1: a book coming out that you have written with your mom. 773 00:38:21,400 --> 00:38:22,640 Speaker 1: Tell us a little bit about it. 774 00:38:23,360 --> 00:38:26,319 Speaker 7: Yeah, So The Duck Girl is a book that I 775 00:38:26,360 --> 00:38:28,880 Speaker 7: worked on with my mom over the last three years, 776 00:38:29,320 --> 00:38:32,840 Speaker 7: and it really kind of just details our combined experiences, 777 00:38:32,880 --> 00:38:35,920 Speaker 7: so hers as a parent, kind of navigating, you know, 778 00:38:35,960 --> 00:38:38,680 Speaker 7: getting the diagnosis that your child has with disability, and 779 00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:39,520 Speaker 7: kind of just all. 780 00:38:39,360 --> 00:38:41,480 Speaker 5: The emotions and everything on a. 781 00:38:41,440 --> 00:38:45,600 Speaker 7: Personal level outside of kind of doctor's appointments and audiologists. 782 00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:49,120 Speaker 7: Just I think that was something we locked growing up, 783 00:38:49,200 --> 00:38:51,840 Speaker 7: and so that was kind of a bit motivation and 784 00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:54,960 Speaker 7: reading books. And then the second half is kind of 785 00:38:54,960 --> 00:38:57,400 Speaker 7: my journey with hearing loss, so growing up with it, 786 00:38:57,640 --> 00:39:03,719 Speaker 7: navigating school, dating, friendships, the show, and everything as someone 787 00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:06,160 Speaker 7: that has a hearing loss. And our goal is just 788 00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:09,120 Speaker 7: hopefully to support families that are going through a very 789 00:39:09,120 --> 00:39:12,040 Speaker 7: similar situation that we are. I will send you guys 790 00:39:12,040 --> 00:39:14,080 Speaker 7: some copies, and I really hope you. 791 00:39:14,080 --> 00:39:14,759 Speaker 5: Guys enjoy it. 792 00:39:15,160 --> 00:39:18,800 Speaker 4: The perspective her mom have is has very unique something 793 00:39:18,840 --> 00:39:19,920 Speaker 4: I can imagine. 794 00:39:20,120 --> 00:39:23,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, I would love, I would. Where does your mom live? Abby? 795 00:39:24,840 --> 00:39:27,200 Speaker 7: She's in Oregon right now and we're working on getting 796 00:39:27,200 --> 00:39:30,200 Speaker 7: her out to Oklahoma with my dads. So we're getting 797 00:39:30,239 --> 00:39:31,279 Speaker 7: the whole family out here. 798 00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:36,640 Speaker 6: Wow, working on it. They bought a house here. 799 00:39:36,920 --> 00:39:38,640 Speaker 3: In addition, are you really? 800 00:39:38,880 --> 00:39:40,560 Speaker 1: I mean, did you grow up in Oregon? 801 00:39:40,960 --> 00:39:41,759 Speaker 5: I did? Yeah? 802 00:39:42,440 --> 00:39:45,440 Speaker 1: And you grew up Noah in Oklahoma? 803 00:39:46,080 --> 00:39:46,319 Speaker 6: Yep? 804 00:39:47,160 --> 00:39:47,640 Speaker 1: Wow? 805 00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:49,640 Speaker 5: Wow really? 806 00:39:49,680 --> 00:39:52,919 Speaker 1: Now, I just you know, we have just a couple 807 00:39:52,960 --> 00:39:55,440 Speaker 1: of seconds left. I just find it interesting that so 808 00:39:55,560 --> 00:40:01,239 Speaker 1: many people on Bachelor Nation, in Bachelor Nation, both male 809 00:40:01,280 --> 00:40:05,040 Speaker 1: and female, are traveling nurses. Are you still a traveling nurse? 810 00:40:06,320 --> 00:40:06,600 Speaker 6: Once? 811 00:40:06,800 --> 00:40:10,960 Speaker 4: Always? I did the last eight years and I love it. 812 00:40:11,080 --> 00:40:12,680 Speaker 4: Right now, I'm. 813 00:40:12,360 --> 00:40:15,840 Speaker 6: So focused on real estate in our house and other stuff. 814 00:40:15,840 --> 00:40:16,600 Speaker 6: It's hard for me to. 815 00:40:16,520 --> 00:40:19,640 Speaker 4: Do both, to be honest. Yeah, so I'm I'm taking 816 00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:22,319 Speaker 4: I'm on a break right now. I've had to use 817 00:40:22,360 --> 00:40:25,640 Speaker 4: my nursing skills oddly enough randomly back in Tulsa. 818 00:40:25,719 --> 00:40:30,520 Speaker 6: But right now it's all home home stuff. 819 00:40:30,560 --> 00:40:32,120 Speaker 5: It's taking up all his time right now. 820 00:40:32,480 --> 00:40:34,719 Speaker 3: Ready, do you guys plan the have babys? 821 00:40:35,640 --> 00:40:35,879 Speaker 1: Yeah? 822 00:40:37,320 --> 00:40:38,880 Speaker 5: I think I feel we want to wait just a 823 00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:40,200 Speaker 5: couple of years, get this house. 824 00:40:40,320 --> 00:40:45,680 Speaker 4: We want to travel around with each other that yeh, listen, 825 00:40:45,880 --> 00:40:48,640 Speaker 4: I'm you're not asking my how old. 826 00:40:48,440 --> 00:40:49,040 Speaker 1: Are you guys? 827 00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:50,560 Speaker 5: Twenty nine? 828 00:40:52,080 --> 00:40:52,560 Speaker 6: Yeah? 829 00:40:52,640 --> 00:40:55,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, so you know you have you have plenty 830 00:40:55,960 --> 00:40:58,920 Speaker 1: of good years. And I will say to you not 831 00:40:58,960 --> 00:41:01,080 Speaker 1: that you're asking, but as I said, Susan, are full 832 00:41:01,120 --> 00:41:04,879 Speaker 1: of advice. You you have kids when you want them, 833 00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:07,600 Speaker 1: but you understand something. You have them the rest of 834 00:41:07,640 --> 00:41:10,960 Speaker 1: your life. And this is the only time that you 835 00:41:11,000 --> 00:41:13,759 Speaker 1: guys can enjoy each other and do the things you 836 00:41:13,800 --> 00:41:17,520 Speaker 1: want to do because wisdom. 837 00:41:19,000 --> 00:41:21,799 Speaker 6: Yeah, we agree, that's enjoy each other. 838 00:41:22,120 --> 00:41:25,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, I enjoy each other. When you do have babies, Susan, 839 00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:27,480 Speaker 1: I will come and help you take care of them. 840 00:41:27,719 --> 00:41:28,240 Speaker 3: We're good. 841 00:41:29,040 --> 00:41:31,239 Speaker 1: You know we have you. 842 00:41:31,200 --> 00:41:34,040 Speaker 6: Know I have ten brothers and sisters now or not? Now? 843 00:41:34,080 --> 00:41:38,799 Speaker 6: I always have they got what number were you? I'm 844 00:41:38,800 --> 00:41:40,759 Speaker 6: a twin. My twin was just on the show. We're 845 00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:42,400 Speaker 6: number seven and eight. 846 00:41:43,000 --> 00:41:45,120 Speaker 3: Right, I have a twin have I don't have it 847 00:41:45,160 --> 00:41:45,920 Speaker 3: all over. 848 00:41:46,320 --> 00:41:49,839 Speaker 4: But I would love a Susie Kathy babysitter because I'm uncle. No, no, 849 00:41:49,920 --> 00:41:51,000 Speaker 4: I feel like you. 850 00:41:50,920 --> 00:41:54,160 Speaker 2: Guys will come for the weekend. You can have the 851 00:41:54,200 --> 00:41:57,279 Speaker 2: week again. I want pajamas snacks. 852 00:41:57,360 --> 00:42:00,920 Speaker 1: I want pajamas snacks. Yeah, exactly. My grandpa name is 853 00:42:00,960 --> 00:42:05,680 Speaker 1: there you go. My grandmother's name is Kiki. And let 854 00:42:05,680 --> 00:42:08,840 Speaker 1: me just tell you I deserve an award. I was 855 00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:11,760 Speaker 1: at my daughter's house this morning. My daughter is the flu. 856 00:42:12,120 --> 00:42:14,839 Speaker 1: Her baby had the flu. Her husband had to leave 857 00:42:15,400 --> 00:42:18,560 Speaker 1: very early this morning. Again, yeah, she's been She had 858 00:42:18,600 --> 00:42:21,480 Speaker 1: COVID three weeks ago, and so did the baby. I 859 00:42:21,600 --> 00:42:25,200 Speaker 1: was over at her house, in my car at her 860 00:42:25,200 --> 00:42:28,319 Speaker 1: house at six point thirty this morning to be there 861 00:42:28,320 --> 00:42:31,200 Speaker 1: with the baby's bottle when she woke up, change her diaper, 862 00:42:31,280 --> 00:42:34,000 Speaker 1: make her breakfast, feed the dog, let the dog out. 863 00:42:35,680 --> 00:42:42,200 Speaker 1: I'm I love babies. I love babies, all right? Well 864 00:42:42,360 --> 00:42:44,520 Speaker 1: this does it was. We've had so much fun, but 865 00:42:44,760 --> 00:42:47,600 Speaker 1: this is going to do it for this episode of 866 00:42:47,640 --> 00:42:51,800 Speaker 1: Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour. Thank you truly, Thank you guys, 867 00:42:51,960 --> 00:42:56,759 Speaker 1: Abigail and Noah for joining us, your advice, your relationship 868 00:42:56,800 --> 00:43:00,640 Speaker 1: with each other. There's your marriage is going to be wonderful. 869 00:43:00,760 --> 00:43:03,280 Speaker 1: I know what I feel it and I know Susan 870 00:43:03,320 --> 00:43:06,680 Speaker 1: and I, along with everyone else, wish you a lifetime 871 00:43:07,080 --> 00:43:09,840 Speaker 1: of joy and happiness and your upcoming marriage. 872 00:43:10,120 --> 00:43:10,959 Speaker 3: What is the date? 873 00:43:12,120 --> 00:43:14,200 Speaker 5: It is beginning of October. 874 00:43:14,320 --> 00:43:18,360 Speaker 2: We're kind of specific, okay, just. 875 00:43:20,600 --> 00:43:22,840 Speaker 3: I wish you all the very best. 876 00:43:23,040 --> 00:43:25,160 Speaker 4: We love you guys. Thank you guys for having us on. 877 00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:27,400 Speaker 4: I knew we would. 878 00:43:27,960 --> 00:43:30,760 Speaker 6: I was sure what you'd be like here? Exactly? 879 00:43:33,120 --> 00:43:34,480 Speaker 1: Do we look younger in person? 880 00:43:34,560 --> 00:43:34,640 Speaker 6: Know? 881 00:43:34,719 --> 00:43:37,640 Speaker 1: What do we look younger in person? Do what do 882 00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:39,520 Speaker 1: we look younger in person? Yeah? 883 00:43:39,520 --> 00:43:41,880 Speaker 6: You guys look so good for your age. 884 00:43:42,600 --> 00:43:43,359 Speaker 1: I know that was. 885 00:43:47,080 --> 00:43:48,400 Speaker 3: Thank you again, guys. 886 00:43:48,440 --> 00:43:51,160 Speaker 2: I love you both, and thank you all for listening 887 00:43:51,200 --> 00:43:54,400 Speaker 2: and joining us today, and be sure to follow Bachelor 888 00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:57,319 Speaker 2: Happy Hour as we have new episodes coming out every 889 00:43:57,360 --> 00:43:59,520 Speaker 2: week and you don't want to miss them. I mean, 890 00:43:59,520 --> 00:44:02,000 Speaker 2: look at the the perfect couple. 891 00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:04,840 Speaker 1: Really and you saw the fun we had today with 892 00:44:04,880 --> 00:44:08,480 Speaker 1: our questions we answer questions every episode. To send us 893 00:44:08,520 --> 00:44:10,040 Speaker 1: a question, all you have to do is go to 894 00:44:10,080 --> 00:44:14,120 Speaker 1: bachelornation dot com, slash Golden Hour, or hit us up 895 00:44:14,160 --> 00:44:16,759 Speaker 1: on social at Bachelor Happy Hour and. 896 00:44:16,920 --> 00:44:20,000 Speaker 2: Just listen to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour on the 897 00:44:20,080 --> 00:44:23,600 Speaker 2: iHeartRadio app or wherever you listen to your podcast. 898 00:44:23,960 --> 00:44:25,640 Speaker 3: Thanks again to out