1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:03,040 Speaker 1: Buggle up and hold on tight. It is he a 2 00:00:03,160 --> 00:00:11,400 Speaker 1: Strawberry letter subject. I am in love with a Republican. 3 00:00:11,840 --> 00:00:14,760 Speaker 1: Here's Stephen Shirley. I have been in love in a 4 00:00:14,880 --> 00:00:17,560 Speaker 1: loving relationship for about a year with a man who, 5 00:00:17,600 --> 00:00:21,400 Speaker 1: for the most part, has provided, protected, and professed his 6 00:00:21,520 --> 00:00:24,959 Speaker 1: love for me. We have so much in common, but 7 00:00:25,040 --> 00:00:28,600 Speaker 1: we have several issues where there is total disagreement. In 8 00:00:28,680 --> 00:00:32,120 Speaker 1: the beginning, we would laugh as we expressed our divergent 9 00:00:32,240 --> 00:00:37,400 Speaker 1: views on such things as gun control, immigration, and sexual orientation. 10 00:00:37,800 --> 00:00:41,280 Speaker 1: I asked him if he voted Republican, and he swore 11 00:00:41,520 --> 00:00:44,760 Speaker 1: that he didn't. I know that everyone is entitled to 12 00:00:45,040 --> 00:00:48,320 Speaker 1: their opinions and views, but lately we have been having 13 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:51,239 Speaker 1: a few blow ups and disagreements on our current president 14 00:00:51,479 --> 00:00:55,600 Speaker 1: and gun control. I am a Democrat leaning towards more 15 00:00:55,680 --> 00:00:59,080 Speaker 1: republic more a liberal ideals. He, on the other hand, 16 00:00:59,240 --> 00:01:03,440 Speaker 1: has voiced extreme conservative views. I suggested that we not 17 00:01:03,560 --> 00:01:08,400 Speaker 1: discuss politics anymore since it's creating friction. Can we coexist 18 00:01:08,480 --> 00:01:12,039 Speaker 1: having such different views on life? We do love each 19 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:15,720 Speaker 1: other very much. We have been talking about uh marriage, 20 00:01:15,880 --> 00:01:18,480 Speaker 1: so I need to know if this is the for 21 00:01:18,600 --> 00:01:23,520 Speaker 1: better or worse part of love. Your thoughts. Excuse me, Well, Steve, 22 00:01:23,760 --> 00:01:26,440 Speaker 1: I will say this to start off, she definitely listened 23 00:01:26,480 --> 00:01:29,039 Speaker 1: to the show, and she definitely has read your book 24 00:01:29,120 --> 00:01:31,200 Speaker 1: Act like a Lady, Think like a man, because she 25 00:01:31,319 --> 00:01:34,680 Speaker 1: says our man provided protected and professed for her, and 26 00:01:34,720 --> 00:01:36,640 Speaker 1: that's what you talk about in your books one of 27 00:01:36,680 --> 00:01:40,440 Speaker 1: the things. But having said all that, uh, this is 28 00:01:40,480 --> 00:01:45,080 Speaker 1: going to be difficult. Hopefully love can prevail in this relationship, 29 00:01:45,520 --> 00:01:49,200 Speaker 1: but with this president and your views and his views, 30 00:01:49,480 --> 00:01:52,760 Speaker 1: it could be very very you know, challenging. I'll say 31 00:01:52,840 --> 00:01:55,760 Speaker 1: for a relationship, of course, to people who have different 32 00:01:55,760 --> 00:01:59,360 Speaker 1: political views should be able to coexist in a loving 33 00:01:59,440 --> 00:02:02,840 Speaker 1: relation ship without it getting too crazy and you having 34 00:02:02,880 --> 00:02:07,040 Speaker 1: to break up or divorce over over situations. But um, 35 00:02:07,160 --> 00:02:10,320 Speaker 1: with this president, I have known, uh we have talked 36 00:02:10,360 --> 00:02:12,480 Speaker 1: about on this show as a matter of fact, about 37 00:02:12,480 --> 00:02:15,280 Speaker 1: people getting into fights and things like that. So we 38 00:02:15,320 --> 00:02:18,360 Speaker 1: don't want it to get like that. I think maybe, Um, 39 00:02:18,400 --> 00:02:20,400 Speaker 1: you know, there are two issues here. One, you asked 40 00:02:20,440 --> 00:02:23,280 Speaker 1: him if he voted Republican. He swore he didn't. Make 41 00:02:23,320 --> 00:02:26,280 Speaker 1: sure he's not lying about that. You don't necessarily, you know, 42 00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:29,760 Speaker 1: want to be uh in a relationship with someone who 43 00:02:29,800 --> 00:02:34,320 Speaker 1: just lies for no reason. But but um, I think 44 00:02:34,320 --> 00:02:38,200 Speaker 1: what you said about uh not discussing politics anymore, since 45 00:02:38,240 --> 00:02:41,240 Speaker 1: it's creating friction, that may be the way to go 46 00:02:41,520 --> 00:02:44,480 Speaker 1: if you guys can help it, because it's hard not 47 00:02:44,560 --> 00:02:47,000 Speaker 1: to in this day and time. But I'll say it's 48 00:02:47,000 --> 00:02:50,560 Speaker 1: gonna be difficult. Hopefully love will prevail in this relationship. 49 00:02:51,200 --> 00:02:52,840 Speaker 1: You don't let it get to that. You know, maybe 50 00:02:52,840 --> 00:02:54,839 Speaker 1: you need to set some boundaries on what you talk 51 00:02:54,880 --> 00:02:57,440 Speaker 1: about and how far you can go. Maybe you can 52 00:02:57,480 --> 00:02:59,880 Speaker 1: do that and still find the love in the relationship. 53 00:03:00,080 --> 00:03:04,080 Speaker 1: But it'll be tough. Steve. Let me just break it 54 00:03:04,120 --> 00:03:07,760 Speaker 1: down to you. Y'all asks gonna be all and all 55 00:03:08,080 --> 00:03:14,280 Speaker 1: the damn time, hm, all the time when you have 56 00:03:14,639 --> 00:03:18,639 Speaker 1: such opposing views. And this ain't about nothing small. This 57 00:03:18,720 --> 00:03:25,000 Speaker 1: is about life. These are opposing views about life. These 58 00:03:25,040 --> 00:03:30,119 Speaker 1: are living die matters. These are social issues. When you're 59 00:03:30,120 --> 00:03:34,440 Speaker 1: talking about gun control, eventually that gun control gonna turn 60 00:03:34,560 --> 00:03:41,480 Speaker 1: into um, gun violence against black men. Uh, some police 61 00:03:41,560 --> 00:03:45,800 Speaker 1: brutality towards African American communities. I'm telling I say something 62 00:03:45,960 --> 00:03:47,880 Speaker 1: because I always like to put her at the most 63 00:03:47,880 --> 00:03:51,400 Speaker 1: police officers are great people, most of them really really are. 64 00:03:52,200 --> 00:03:54,160 Speaker 1: We have a problem with a few, and it makes 65 00:03:54,200 --> 00:03:56,240 Speaker 1: it bad for the whole thing. And we have some 66 00:03:56,280 --> 00:03:59,880 Speaker 1: police departments that needs a complete, complete washing out, just 67 00:04:00,040 --> 00:04:01,760 Speaker 1: like the one in l A had to go through. 68 00:04:03,080 --> 00:04:06,880 Speaker 1: You're talking about immigration, you're talking about how a person 69 00:04:07,040 --> 00:04:10,120 Speaker 1: feels about the lives of others who are less fortunate, 70 00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:14,840 Speaker 1: and then you're talking about sexual orientation. Here's a guy 71 00:04:14,880 --> 00:04:18,880 Speaker 1: who obviously has some types of feelings that's against your 72 00:04:18,960 --> 00:04:24,720 Speaker 1: viewpoints about sexual orientation, gay and lesbian rights. Hold up, man, 73 00:04:24,920 --> 00:04:28,680 Speaker 1: those are big issues, folks. Because you know why these 74 00:04:28,680 --> 00:04:30,760 Speaker 1: are big issues, and I don't think that love can 75 00:04:30,839 --> 00:04:34,680 Speaker 1: overcome this. It's because this current president that we have 76 00:04:35,160 --> 00:04:38,080 Speaker 1: is in the news every day about one of these 77 00:04:38,760 --> 00:04:42,839 Speaker 1: and if it ain't that it's creating calling NFL players 78 00:04:42,839 --> 00:04:47,000 Speaker 1: sums of bitches or saying something really crazy against a 79 00:04:47,640 --> 00:04:51,880 Speaker 1: fallen member of the military. Are are not making up. 80 00:04:52,040 --> 00:04:55,320 Speaker 1: He's just in the news, man. So how do you 81 00:04:55,360 --> 00:04:58,800 Speaker 1: get around this in a relationship? I don't think you can. 82 00:05:00,200 --> 00:05:02,720 Speaker 1: And I would love to say stop talking about it, 83 00:05:03,240 --> 00:05:05,760 Speaker 1: But how how do you stop talking about something that's 84 00:05:05,760 --> 00:05:09,800 Speaker 1: in the news every day? It's life. I don't see 85 00:05:09,839 --> 00:05:13,799 Speaker 1: how your relationship can can can survive this. I would 86 00:05:13,800 --> 00:05:16,960 Speaker 1: think it could. I would hope it could. But y'all 87 00:05:17,000 --> 00:05:21,279 Speaker 1: gonna be falling out about everything because he's gonna say something. 88 00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:26,359 Speaker 1: He gonna get your drinking, he's gonna fire y'all gonna 89 00:05:26,360 --> 00:05:28,919 Speaker 1: be at a party and he's gonna fire one off. 90 00:05:29,000 --> 00:05:31,240 Speaker 1: Y'all gonna have some people over the house and he's 91 00:05:31,240 --> 00:05:34,839 Speaker 1: gonna fire one off that you asked him was a Republican, 92 00:05:34,880 --> 00:05:40,760 Speaker 1: he said, nobody got all Republican views. Now, exactly, if 93 00:05:40,800 --> 00:05:44,520 Speaker 1: you're sitting up in here fighting your hardest to defend 94 00:05:44,600 --> 00:05:48,719 Speaker 1: President Trump, then that's how you are. And just go 95 00:05:48,839 --> 00:05:50,560 Speaker 1: on and say that. I know people who do it 96 00:05:50,640 --> 00:05:55,680 Speaker 1: all the time, all the time. If you watch Fox News, 97 00:05:55,760 --> 00:06:00,000 Speaker 1: man watch when Don Lemono Anderson Cooper has a republic 98 00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:03,440 Speaker 1: looking on that the conservative radio host I can't think 99 00:06:03,440 --> 00:06:07,200 Speaker 1: of his name, but they defend this man, skip what 100 00:06:07,279 --> 00:06:10,320 Speaker 1: he's doing wrong. They just keep trying to act like 101 00:06:10,360 --> 00:06:14,160 Speaker 1: it ain't but they're trying to make his behavior normal. 102 00:06:14,760 --> 00:06:18,200 Speaker 1: And they're now what's never come out of the White 103 00:06:18,279 --> 00:06:21,960 Speaker 1: House before. They're trying to desensitize us to it and 104 00:06:22,040 --> 00:06:25,240 Speaker 1: make us think it's normal. This is a normal I'm 105 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:27,120 Speaker 1: not finishing it and act like this is all right, 106 00:06:27,720 --> 00:06:32,880 Speaker 1: good luck with this marriage, this relationship. I know you 107 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:37,800 Speaker 1: do better being in love with like the song. Alright, listen, 108 00:06:38,240 --> 00:06:40,960 Speaker 1: we'll let part two if Steve's response. Come on, let's 109 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:43,520 Speaker 1: get to part two of today's Strawberry Letter. I am 110 00:06:43,560 --> 00:06:47,400 Speaker 1: in love with a Republicans. You know, Look, you can 111 00:06:47,440 --> 00:06:50,240 Speaker 1: love a Republican. This. You don't have to recap this 112 00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:53,920 Speaker 1: woman struggling with her decision because her and her husband, 113 00:06:54,200 --> 00:06:57,520 Speaker 1: her soon to be husband or potential husband, has different 114 00:06:57,560 --> 00:07:01,920 Speaker 1: views on gun control, immigration, and sexual orientation. Now this 115 00:07:02,120 --> 00:07:07,039 Speaker 1: might not be so bad thirty forty years ago, but 116 00:07:07,240 --> 00:07:10,920 Speaker 1: now with social media and a president that is in 117 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:15,880 Speaker 1: the news every day, and you got a man who's 118 00:07:15,880 --> 00:07:19,360 Speaker 1: supportive of what he does and you hate it, that's 119 00:07:19,360 --> 00:07:22,320 Speaker 1: gonna be a lot of argument at your house. Trying 120 00:07:22,360 --> 00:07:24,840 Speaker 1: to avoid the subject is gonna be hard because we're 121 00:07:24,880 --> 00:07:30,440 Speaker 1: talking about life. We're talking about life. You know, So 122 00:07:31,120 --> 00:07:34,600 Speaker 1: can you all make it? Yes? You could? But will 123 00:07:34,640 --> 00:07:39,000 Speaker 1: it be rocky? I think so. I think so. It's 124 00:07:39,000 --> 00:07:41,880 Speaker 1: gonna be tough. So you know you can make it. 125 00:07:41,960 --> 00:07:44,200 Speaker 1: But if you want to live and sleep with somebody 126 00:07:44,200 --> 00:07:46,440 Speaker 1: that you argue with a lot, you can go ahead. 127 00:07:46,480 --> 00:07:59,600 Speaker 1: I did it. It's always many. Alright, that's a pretty 128 00:07:59,600 --> 00:08:05,120 Speaker 1: good nine years. I tried, man, I don't know what 129 00:08:05,160 --> 00:08:08,480 Speaker 1: to tell they got Yeah, this is tough, right here 130 00:08:10,160 --> 00:08:13,520 Speaker 1: is politics is well, let me ask this. It's religion 131 00:08:13,840 --> 00:08:18,360 Speaker 1: a little different like verferent religions. If it's two different religions, 132 00:08:18,360 --> 00:08:23,280 Speaker 1: that's almost virtually impossible. Mm. Because you're talking about your 133 00:08:23,280 --> 00:08:27,440 Speaker 1: spirit challenge. So yeah, and you can't ever set that 134 00:08:27,480 --> 00:08:30,480 Speaker 1: down for one moment. What you're doing, I'm saying grace 135 00:08:30,560 --> 00:08:34,400 Speaker 1: to who right to the low one? Not at this table. 136 00:08:34,480 --> 00:08:39,320 Speaker 1: You won't exactly, no man, partner, That is a whole 137 00:08:39,360 --> 00:08:44,040 Speaker 1: another thing. You're so right on that, Steve, You're so 138 00:08:44,200 --> 00:08:48,240 Speaker 1: right on that to who. Can you imagine a Christian 139 00:08:48,280 --> 00:08:53,040 Speaker 1: and an atheist? No? Oh yeah, so you know, come on, 140 00:08:53,880 --> 00:08:57,120 Speaker 1: Christian and an atheist. It won't work. It's not going 141 00:08:57,160 --> 00:09:00,840 Speaker 1: to work, absolutely not. You're you're on so separate ends 142 00:09:00,840 --> 00:09:03,520 Speaker 1: of the coin. How can you be a believer in 143 00:09:03,559 --> 00:09:07,160 Speaker 1: this almighty God and set up and live an attempt 144 00:09:07,160 --> 00:09:10,320 Speaker 1: to sleep with somebody who tells you he does not exist? 145 00:09:11,559 --> 00:09:16,760 Speaker 1: Who ain't praying? Yeah? Is this person moral barometer? Yeah? 146 00:09:16,840 --> 00:09:21,920 Speaker 1: That goes against everything you believe. Everything that would be 147 00:09:21,960 --> 00:09:26,520 Speaker 1: a virtual impossibility. Can these two opposing parties live together? Yeah, 148 00:09:26,679 --> 00:09:30,640 Speaker 1: they can make that work. But to be unequally yoked 149 00:09:30,679 --> 00:09:34,320 Speaker 1: in terms of religion? That right there, my friend, I 150 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:36,920 Speaker 1: just don't see it. I don't. I don't either. I 151 00:09:36,960 --> 00:09:40,880 Speaker 1: agree with you. What what did you doing? I don't 152 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:43,480 Speaker 1: put no rugs down over here? This is my prayer room. 153 00:09:44,440 --> 00:09:48,080 Speaker 1: Oh not in him? Mr Okay, see right there, it's 154 00:09:48,080 --> 00:09:55,160 Speaker 1: a fight right there, right there. Let's go to lunch. 155 00:09:55,280 --> 00:10:02,120 Speaker 1: You can't go to lunch? Yeah, see, is too much 156 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:07,040 Speaker 1: when you're walking to go down to the temple? What temple? 157 00:10:07,720 --> 00:10:14,000 Speaker 1: To the temple? Food? Hey? That because it was Saturday. 158 00:10:14,160 --> 00:10:16,320 Speaker 1: When let's dry it down there? We walks? You can't 159 00:10:16,400 --> 00:10:21,960 Speaker 1: dry we walk walk. Won't do it. It's too much. 160 00:10:23,440 --> 00:10:26,560 Speaker 1: Excuse me? What what are you doing? What is that 161 00:10:26,600 --> 00:10:32,880 Speaker 1: thing you're shaking? Are you talking like tambourine? You guys 162 00:10:32,880 --> 00:10:36,160 Speaker 1: are gonna do what the music ministry? You know, you're 163 00:10:36,200 --> 00:10:43,720 Speaker 1: gonna beat it while people while the people in church. Honey, honey, 164 00:10:43,720 --> 00:10:47,520 Speaker 1: why is this lady running in service? You're getting their 165 00:10:47,520 --> 00:10:55,120 Speaker 1: praise on what something? Let's get some paramedics in here, 166 00:10:57,280 --> 00:10:59,280 Speaker 1: all right. Listen, guys, we gotta get out of here. 167 00:10:59,320 --> 00:11:01,840 Speaker 1: You can email sir Instagram i's your thoughts on today's 168 00:11:01,840 --> 00:11:05,720 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey f M. And don't forget 169 00:11:05,760 --> 00:11:08,600 Speaker 1: this Thursday at one pm, that is tomorrow, Please join 170 00:11:08,679 --> 00:11:12,439 Speaker 1: me for the Strawberry Letter Live after show on Facebook. 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