Speaker 1: It's I Do Part two.
Speaker 2: I'm Kelly Bensimone, one of your celebrity mentors here on
Speaker 2: the podcast.
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Speaker 2: last time the listener's heard from us and we talked
Speaker 2: all about the kind of things each of us are
Speaker 2: looking for as a partner and what we don't want
Speaker 2: and what we do want. Then we headed out to
Speaker 2: Bottle Rock Show and we kind of had some goals
Speaker 2: in mind. So let's recap, all right, did we find
Speaker 2: anyone that was attractive? No?
Speaker 1: Did we have fun? Yes?
Speaker 3: But let's like bring it back. I mean, I don't
Speaker 3: mean to say no so bluntly. I think it was
Speaker 3: just a unique environment, right, Like we're there to like
Speaker 3: enjoy this concert, and you know, Benson Boone and justin Timberlake,
Speaker 3: and so when your focus is on something else and
Speaker 3: you don't truly have the experience of being at Bottle Rock,
Speaker 3: so it was a little bit kind of you know,
Speaker 3: like trying to you know, like do one thing but
Speaker 3: still experience another thing.
Speaker 1: I mean it was so great.
Speaker 2: I mean, like the music was unbelievable, the food was finale.
Speaker 1: I think we tried absolutely everything now.
Speaker 2: And then the wine people were like sitting there with
Speaker 2: their crafts of like the most beautiful wine, and.
Speaker 1: Just the vibe was so it was it was just great.
Speaker 1: It was sophisticated. Everyone looked great.
Speaker 3: It was just so I wasn't looking at men because
Speaker 3: I was looking at all of these women just in
Speaker 3: the moment of amazing outfits and so creative and yeah stylish.
Speaker 3: So I really love that.
Speaker 1: I know, it was really fun.
Speaker 2: I tried to situate us right near like the food
Speaker 2: court area, where like there was people had to go
Speaker 2: to the bar and get the food, so I was like,
Speaker 2: there was a lot of traffic for people.
Speaker 1: You get a for effort. I tried, you guys, it's
Speaker 1: really fun.
Speaker 2: We had a lot of fun. We had a lot
Speaker 2: of fun. So do you think there was any flirting
Speaker 2: or no? No, okay, did you did you have to
Speaker 2: use Do we have to use.
Speaker 1: Any code words?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 2: No, we did not have to use Yes, we did
Speaker 2: not have to use any code words. It was funny
Speaker 2: because there was one guy that was like, oh, he's
Speaker 2: really good looking. You're like no, So I was like, okay,
Speaker 2: that's fine. So I remember the one that was the
Speaker 2: Spanish guy. He was very good looking.
Speaker 1: I don't remember that one.
Speaker 2: The guy when you were getting the sushi and he
Speaker 2: was like, oh, don't leave now, and I was like,
Speaker 2: that's my Spanish accent. And he was like he was like,
Speaker 2: don't leave. I was like don't okay, and we were like,
Speaker 2: you're not looking at each other and We're like, we're
Speaker 2: not leaving. We're in the line to.
Speaker 1: Get sushi, Like yeah he was yeah.
Speaker 3: I mean I like, there were, you know, a bunch
Speaker 3: of just like attractive people in general. I think that
Speaker 3: that was you know what. I there was a lot
Speaker 3: of couples.
Speaker 1: There were a lot of couples.
Speaker 2: Okay, there was that the two guys that made but
Speaker 2: not have been marketing their T shirt line, which I
Speaker 2: was not aware of.
Speaker 1: I thought there.
Speaker 2: I was really going in because I was like, remember
Speaker 2: in the one of the things was like okay with
Speaker 2: to get them to buy our drinks, and so I
Speaker 2: was like, these are the guys who are going to
Speaker 2: buy the drinks, even though I wasn't drinking alcohol that
Speaker 2: the rest were doing alcohol, but your drink, your lemonade
Speaker 2: kind of looked like it was like some kind of
Speaker 2: like Cosmo Vibe. I was drinking and liquid death. But
Speaker 2: I was like, oh my god, they're going to definitely
Speaker 2: ask us crickets.
Speaker 1: No, it was crickets.
Speaker 2: They were like just trying to promote their T shirts
Speaker 2: and I didn't understand. I was like, because I really
Speaker 2: wasn't paying attention to the T shirts, not to lie.
Speaker 1: I was more interesting.
Speaker 3: The last people that would be buying us drink. They
Speaker 3: came to bought a rock to wear the T shirts
Speaker 3: that they're making to promote themselves, like they that's their promotion,
Speaker 3: that's their marketing budget.
Speaker 1: I actually thought they don't have money. To buy us.
Speaker 2: I actually thought the one woman that was wearing the
Speaker 2: rose gold ray bands and then her friend that had
Speaker 2: those really cool hands on, they would have been like,
Speaker 2: what kind of wine do you want? Yeah, let's hang out,
Speaker 2: let's you know, just chill out and listen to music.
Speaker 3: Better chance of women buying us a drink. And those
Speaker 3: two men, for sure, did we get a phone number?
Speaker 1: No, we faiund We found miserably we had fail. We
Speaker 1: would have just everything we were just like we weren't
Speaker 1: good enough. We failed.
Speaker 2: Definitive you know, just wasn't good enough means there's possibility
Speaker 2: for growth.
Speaker 3: Well, you know, I this like reminds me so much
Speaker 3: of just going out with my friends in my twenties
Speaker 3: and we would you know, go out dancing and we
Speaker 3: would come home and have the most amazing stories about
Speaker 3: that night. But it was all about us enjoying each other.
Speaker 3: Like we wouldn't remember one other person that was actually
Speaker 3: at the club. It was about us having fun. And
Speaker 3: so that's like the same thing that always happens to me,
Speaker 3: is I don't like purposely look you know what I mean.
Speaker 3: And so it was like we were trying a little
Speaker 3: bit to like do it because it was fun and
Speaker 3: that's what we said, you know, we were going to do,
Speaker 3: which was sweet. But I think in real life, at
Speaker 3: places like that, it just doesn't work like that, like
Speaker 3: when you're forcing something or when you're like looking too hard.
Speaker 2: What I think was good is that, like because we
Speaker 2: kind of had this like fun plans, that it like
Speaker 2: set us up for success with our own vibe and
Speaker 2: for just to like have fun. And people were coming
Speaker 2: towards us and talking to us because we were having
Speaker 2: so much fun. Sure, I mean the two guys with
Speaker 2: the weird T shirts. I remember when I said I
Speaker 2: wanted to have you dance. I did pull out some
Speaker 2: of my dance books. I don't know if you saw that.
Speaker 2: I tried to, like I tried to like wave at
Speaker 2: you to see if you were but I think you
Speaker 2: were turned around anyway.
Speaker 1: Probably we danced. I mean I did the whole night.
Speaker 1: We dance. We would a man, but I did the
Speaker 1: whole night. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I took you into the pit or like walking through
Speaker 2: don't even I'm really good at navigating.
Speaker 1: You're really cool.
Speaker 3: I think you're just like this just tall, just wonder
Speaker 3: like walking through this crowd and they just like split
Speaker 3: open for you to walk through, and I'm just a
Speaker 3: short little I just follow. I'm like right behind, and
Speaker 3: it was the most clear path ever.
Speaker 1: I'm like, let's go this way, let's go that way.
Speaker 1: I was very it was warm in there too. It
Speaker 1: was like it was very It was really we needed
Speaker 1: body heating, body.
Speaker 2: Heat, we needed big sweatshirts. But you know what, we
Speaker 2: had so much fun. I literally loved it. So you know,
Speaker 2: we we really you know, we talked before that we're
Speaker 2: not really attracted to the same kind of guys and
Speaker 2: like you were like, I like suits, and I'm like,
Speaker 2: this is not a place for any suits. I think
Speaker 2: one guy in tennis shorts on. They were bougie tennis shorts,
Speaker 2: but I did not see one suit.
Speaker 3: So I was like, it was definitely not the and
Speaker 3: our suits, Like, you know, where do people even wear
Speaker 3: them anymore?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 1: I mean I love a guy too, Yeah, I mean
Speaker 1: in New York City. I may I may or may.
Speaker 2: Not have enlisted Tamara with some advice as to what
Speaker 2: I should do to create more buzz around getting guys.
Speaker 1: To She was like, what are you talking about about
Speaker 1: getting guys for you?
Speaker 2: Just in general, Like I'm just trying to get guys.
Speaker 2: I mean that was I had a mission. I was
Speaker 2: on a mission and I wanted to like bring people
Speaker 2: and just see what was going on. She was making
Speaker 2: me laugh so hard. She was like telling it, no,
Speaker 2: that's not how it works. She's like, I'm like, no, no,
Speaker 2: I was dancing. She's like, no, no, don't dance.
Speaker 3: What does she want you to do?
Speaker 1: She did, She did say she didn't give me advice.
Speaker 1: She was just like, don't dance. I was like, should
Speaker 1: I dance? She's like no, no, no, don't dance. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: that's not cool.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 2: She's in this gorgeous had this gorgeous dress and like
Speaker 2: her beautiful husband and two of them were like this
Speaker 2: picturesque couple.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, what do you think we should do?
Speaker 1: She was like, not what you're doing. I was glad, Well,
Speaker 1: that's what I mean.
Speaker 3: It's you know, fun when you try too hard sometimes
Speaker 3: like to get and just be yourself.
Speaker 1: And yeah, and I think we're naturally organic.
Speaker 2: And we were in the car with the girls for vaccination,
Speaker 2: like it was just because I was really like, I
Speaker 2: just loved this morning when you were talking about like
Speaker 2: how happy you are in your life and like I
Speaker 2: really and I say this all the time, but the
Speaker 2: kinetic energy and just like when you say things like
Speaker 2: how happy.
Speaker 1: You are just makes people feel good. Yeah. So like
Speaker 1: when you're like, so what tonight? What made you feel happy?
Speaker 3: Music makes me feel so happy, especially you know, music
Speaker 3: that takes you back to like certain times. So Justin
Speaker 3: Timberlake does that for I think so many people, especially
Speaker 3: you know, in our like era. Yeah, so it was nostalgic,
Speaker 3: and I think that's like eye blast music all day long.
Speaker 3: It's my therapy. It's like anywhere from you know, Whitney
Speaker 3: Houston to Teddy Swims, like all day long.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: It takes your mind to a different place.
Speaker 1: I love that. I love that.
Speaker 2: So which one was your favorite? Did you like Justin
Speaker 2: or did you like Benson better? Justin Timberlake or Benson Boone.
Speaker 3: I saw Benson Boone already, like his full concert.
Speaker 1: I took the girls. Oh so that was so fun.
Speaker 1: We went to Nashville and.
Speaker 3: I never saw Justin Timberlake perform until tonight, so I was, yeah,
Speaker 3: I was excited to see to see him probably more.
Speaker 3: I mean, he's just like iconic, you know.
Speaker 2: I saw at Berkeley's and it was first of all,
Speaker 2: Barkley's is just a beautiful, beautiful arena. But he was phenomenal.
Speaker 2: I mean, he's just an amazing dancer, singer. Like I love,
Speaker 2: you know, the Tennessee's. I love the whole thing. I
Speaker 2: just like the vibe is really good. Yeah, his presence
Speaker 2: and I really one thing I really really like about
Speaker 2: him or even tonight was when the woman gave showed
Speaker 2: him the jacket that she had embroidered and he was like,
Speaker 2: I'm going to sign this, and he was just really
Speaker 2: he's very like engaging with his fans, which I think.
Speaker 1: Is so cool. I mean, twenty five thirty years he's
Speaker 1: been doing this.
Speaker 3: You could tell he just really still wanted to be
Speaker 3: there and he loves it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he loves it.
Speaker 3: Just to have a tour, right, yeah, twenty five years
Speaker 3: later to have such a big tour.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, Benson Moon is over the top. He's
Speaker 2: a smoke show. You're going to hear it right now.
Speaker 2: I'm going to tell you he's going to be the
Speaker 2: next Calvin Kliinet. He is.
Speaker 1: His vibe is very Calvin Klein. That's what he's going
Speaker 1: to do. That's what I'm forecasting that. Did you hear that? Benson?
Speaker 1: I'm here for it. He is just he's an adult baby.
Speaker 1: Like I just adore him and his new song about
Speaker 1: the mother. I was like, oh my god.
Speaker 2: I was like, I was like, okay, late on the
Speaker 2: timing a great song. Yeah, I'm like Mother's Day pass.
Speaker 2: So we were like that would have been a really
Speaker 2: good song for me but to listen to. But I mean,
Speaker 2: I was just like, oh my gosh, I think I'm.
Speaker 1: Like tearing up.
Speaker 3: No, he's his flips. I could just watch him do
Speaker 3: those slips all day long.
Speaker 1: Yeah, who could do that?
Speaker 3: You just he just stands and then flips.
Speaker 1: But Benson, do not think that Pamelin thinks you're her type,
Speaker 1: because you're not. She likes guys and suits. I could
Speaker 1: be his mother easily. Oh my god.
Speaker 2: So just to kind of wrap things up, what are
Speaker 2: your feelings in love and like, what do you want
Speaker 2: to tell the listeners about going through it?
Speaker 3: Wow? That is just very layered question. Kelly Welly, what
Speaker 3: are my thoughts on love and divorce or what are
Speaker 3: my thoughts.
Speaker 2: On just like after today, Like we've been talking about
Speaker 2: relationships with a lot of different people, of all different ages.
Speaker 2: And we saw a lot of people tonight that were
Speaker 2: like really in love all these you know, different couples,
Speaker 2: and I just wanted to.
Speaker 1: I just wanted to like, you know, what's your takeaway
Speaker 1: from today, and like how do you how do you
Speaker 1: feel about love?
Speaker 3: I think what really hit me was I was talking
Speaker 3: to all of those young bachelor and bachelorette girls and
Speaker 3: they were the sweetest and they came up to me
Speaker 3: and they were just like, we love you. We want
Speaker 3: to be like you when we are old, when we're older,
Speaker 3: and you, you know, like how you take care of
Speaker 3: yourself and how happy you are and your personality and
Speaker 3: how you were explaining things to us about like health
Speaker 3: and wellness and what we should do, you know, to
Speaker 3: to like not have to worry so much, you know
Speaker 3: when when they get to my age. And it just
Speaker 3: made me no matter like what has happened like in
Speaker 3: you know, the past, with like getting divorced and all
Speaker 3: of this, if you don't love who you are, like
Speaker 3: you're never going to be successful, you know, finding another
Speaker 3: love or having you know exactly kind of like what
Speaker 3: you want. And so at the end of the day,
Speaker 3: like that's just what I focus on I love treating myself,
Speaker 3: loving myself like really truly like I and I know
Speaker 3: people say that and it's always overused in this whole
Speaker 3: self love and are people really doing it?
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 3: And like what does that mean to two people? And
Speaker 3: it can mean a number of different things, but just
Speaker 3: hearing like almost like somebody other people saying that that's
Speaker 3: kind of like what I project and that I'm showing
Speaker 3: that and then I'm showing that to my girls and
Speaker 3: and I'm showing that to my clients and like all
Speaker 3: these people that I care about. That's what I have
Speaker 3: control over. I don't have ca control over the next stages.
Speaker 3: And will there be, you know, this new amazing love
Speaker 3: like I have hope and I truly believe that it will.
Speaker 3: But I think the first step is, you know, loving
Speaker 3: yourself and really just like focusing on that and not
Speaker 3: stopping what you want to do in life just because
Speaker 3: you don't have a partner, right, I mean, that's I
Speaker 3: think that the biggest takeaway too. It's like love being
Speaker 3: by yourself, travel by yourself, do all of these things
Speaker 3: by yourself, because once you realize how amazing you are,
Speaker 3: I always want to be But like I choose.
Speaker 1: Me right, you know that.
Speaker 2: But it's also like, you know, it's like you don't
Speaker 2: always get what you want, but you get what you need.
Speaker 2: And that's so true because you know, if you are
Speaker 2: taking care of yourself and you do have respect for yourself, right,
Speaker 2: those people are going to there's You're that's that person
Speaker 2: that you really want to be attracted to or you know,
Speaker 2: be attracted to you.
Speaker 1: Is that he's going to be there because he's going
Speaker 1: to be your mirror image. Yeah, and I totally believe
Speaker 1: that one hundred percent.
Speaker 2: And No, it just was like refreshing to hear, you know,
Speaker 2: another contemporary talk about just being genuinely happy.
Speaker 1: I mean, there's there's I'm around so.
Speaker 2: Many people who are just like blaming and shaming other
Speaker 2: people all day long, and it's just so nice to
Speaker 2: be around someone who is just like, I'm excited about
Speaker 2: my future. I love my kids, and I'm just so
Speaker 2: excited to hear about your journey, your love journey.
Speaker 1: I know it's going to be great. Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3: Well same, And I just learned.
Speaker 1: So much from you too, I mean just about health
Speaker 1: and wellness.
Speaker 2: And I heard with you you on the phone with
Speaker 2: your daughters, and they're so cute and so excited and
Speaker 2: they have such amazing energy, and you know, it's just
Speaker 2: such a special time with them, and you.
Speaker 1: Know, there's so much to look forward to. There is,
Speaker 1: there really is.
Speaker 2: And it's interesting because it was like serendipitous to be
Speaker 2: at a place like Bottle Rock and to see all
Speaker 2: these people that were just like really enjoying themselves, like
Speaker 2: naturally and inherently enjoying themselves.
Speaker 1: It just made it. It was just like it was
Speaker 1: like a very warm it was like a hug there.
Speaker 1: It was like, oh my god, this is amazing.
Speaker 3: I love napp Well, just like the energy with you know,
Speaker 3: a man or a girlfriend, that was that energy that
Speaker 3: I felt when I walked in there. It was like
Speaker 3: that homey, comfy, cozy feeling that like any of that
Speaker 3: would resonate with me, whether it's a friend or a
Speaker 3: you know, a lover or whatever it is, and that's
Speaker 3: kind of like you just felt really homey in there.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just regret not getting the Lula Lemon sweatshirt.
Speaker 2: But that's a side note.
Speaker 3: They weren't sold out.
Speaker 1: Everything was sold out. I was like, I think I'm
Speaker 1: gonna get a sweatshirt.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 1: I was like, I'll take the double xx out there, Like, no,
Speaker 1: it's just so old. We don't have any Nobody was prepared.
Speaker 3: And we were walking in and I'm like, these girls,
Speaker 3: the Bachelor girls, they didn't have coats and they had
Speaker 3: on spaghetti strap dresses and they're gonna be They're gonna
Speaker 3: be really cold. They all had to buy the sweatshirts.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was so fun. It was so fun. Well,
Speaker 1: thank you so much. We need to hear more from Pamelin.
Speaker 1: We need to know what's going on.
Speaker 2: I'm not going to tell you guys again like some
Speaker 2: of your tricks of the trade, but you have to
Speaker 2: listen to the podcast with Jana and hear some of
Speaker 2: the banter back and forth because it's amazing. I was
Speaker 2: listening to it last night. I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 2: these guys are unbelievable. I love, I love we're all
Speaker 2: just together of oz.
Speaker 1: I would love that.
Speaker 2: Yes, I would love to hear like you know what's
Speaker 2: happening in Tennessee. So yay, thank you so so much
Speaker 2: for joining us at Bottle Rock and in Nappa.
Speaker 1: We had so much fun.
Speaker 3: Anyway, you for having me, yay.
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