1 00:00:19,720 --> 00:00:21,120 Speaker 1: What is going on? Everyone? 2 00:00:21,360 --> 00:00:24,799 Speaker 2: Emily body here bringing you five Minute Friday, and I 3 00:00:24,840 --> 00:00:27,479 Speaker 2: am here to close the loop on something. 4 00:00:27,560 --> 00:00:27,720 Speaker 1: Now. 5 00:00:27,720 --> 00:00:30,640 Speaker 2: If you're an avid listener to five Minute Friday, then 6 00:00:30,680 --> 00:00:34,839 Speaker 2: you may recall that I shared a couple of details 7 00:00:34,840 --> 00:00:37,599 Speaker 2: about a date that I went on, like now at 8 00:00:37,600 --> 00:00:41,080 Speaker 2: this point, over a month and a half ago. And 9 00:00:41,400 --> 00:00:44,680 Speaker 2: in the tidbit that I shared, it was in response 10 00:00:44,720 --> 00:00:47,320 Speaker 2: to a listener question that asked me if there had 11 00:00:47,360 --> 00:00:51,080 Speaker 2: been a particular conversation that really resonated with me lately. 12 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:54,640 Speaker 2: I'll link to this episode of five Minute Friday in 13 00:00:54,680 --> 00:00:58,279 Speaker 2: the show notes, but basically, what happened as I went 14 00:00:58,320 --> 00:00:58,880 Speaker 2: on this date. 15 00:00:59,320 --> 00:01:00,520 Speaker 1: It didn't shake out. 16 00:01:00,920 --> 00:01:05,240 Speaker 2: And I really started to get in my head a 17 00:01:05,280 --> 00:01:09,360 Speaker 2: lot about I mean a lot of things, but in particular, 18 00:01:09,880 --> 00:01:12,520 Speaker 2: I started to create this story in my head that 19 00:01:12,560 --> 00:01:17,960 Speaker 2: many of us create when we may be dating, and 20 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:21,800 Speaker 2: it's like maybe I wasn't good enough for him, which 21 00:01:21,800 --> 00:01:24,440 Speaker 2: is bullshit, right, Like it's I just need to make 22 00:01:24,440 --> 00:01:27,839 Speaker 2: sure that we establish us upfront whoever it is that's 23 00:01:27,959 --> 00:01:30,200 Speaker 2: going to be the right person for me, and whoever 24 00:01:30,240 --> 00:01:32,920 Speaker 2: is the right person for you if you haven't found 25 00:01:32,959 --> 00:01:39,120 Speaker 2: them yet, like this partner will recognize your awesomeness, because 26 00:01:39,160 --> 00:01:42,080 Speaker 2: there's a lot of awesomeness that you have within you. 27 00:01:42,280 --> 00:01:44,720 Speaker 2: And if someone doesn't see how great that you are, 28 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:49,840 Speaker 2: then you're they're They're not your person anyway. Naturally, however, 29 00:01:50,880 --> 00:01:54,400 Speaker 2: I got a little down in the dumps, and I 30 00:01:54,480 --> 00:01:56,720 Speaker 2: was just navigating all of the feelings that go hand 31 00:01:56,720 --> 00:02:00,440 Speaker 2: in hand with this internal struggle that I've done having 32 00:02:00,480 --> 00:02:05,200 Speaker 2: that I am so attracted to someone that is well 33 00:02:05,320 --> 00:02:10,880 Speaker 2: established in their career, perhaps they have made some sort 34 00:02:10,880 --> 00:02:14,560 Speaker 2: of name for themselves in their industry, and I'm also 35 00:02:14,800 --> 00:02:20,040 Speaker 2: equally intimidated by this person. And so when this particular 36 00:02:20,160 --> 00:02:24,640 Speaker 2: man told me that he just wasn't in the place 37 00:02:24,639 --> 00:02:29,000 Speaker 2: to pursue anything, so to speak, I was like, what 38 00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:29,800 Speaker 2: am I doing here? 39 00:02:30,160 --> 00:02:31,600 Speaker 1: Like how am I. 40 00:02:31,600 --> 00:02:36,440 Speaker 2: Equally attracted to but also like frightened by these quasi 41 00:02:36,480 --> 00:02:43,720 Speaker 2: successful humans? And like, yeah, I just really had had 42 00:02:43,800 --> 00:02:47,040 Speaker 2: a moment, maybe a few moments, maybe a little too 43 00:02:47,120 --> 00:02:50,520 Speaker 2: many moments fretting about this. Anyway, I started to tell 44 00:02:50,560 --> 00:02:52,800 Speaker 2: myself all these stories in my mind. In my head, 45 00:02:52,919 --> 00:02:58,240 Speaker 2: that little voice was like not kind. That day, fast 46 00:02:58,280 --> 00:03:03,359 Speaker 2: forward to Thursday morning, I am on a run at 47 00:03:03,480 --> 00:03:07,720 Speaker 2: six like thirty five in the morning. I don't want 48 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:10,399 Speaker 2: to necessarily be on this run, but I told myself 49 00:03:10,440 --> 00:03:14,200 Speaker 2: that I was gonna go out and do it. I'm 50 00:03:14,200 --> 00:03:17,959 Speaker 2: out on the run and I swear, I swear, I swear, 51 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:20,720 Speaker 2: I swear. I run by him, and it's literally six 52 00:03:20,760 --> 00:03:23,600 Speaker 2: thirty five in the morning, and he's chatting to another 53 00:03:23,639 --> 00:03:25,560 Speaker 2: guy on the street, which like funny time to run 54 00:03:25,600 --> 00:03:29,760 Speaker 2: into someone on the street. I run by both of them. 55 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:32,480 Speaker 2: I swear it was him. And I get to the 56 00:03:32,520 --> 00:03:34,400 Speaker 2: next block and I stop and I like do a 57 00:03:34,440 --> 00:03:36,880 Speaker 2: double take, and I'm like, it has to be him. 58 00:03:37,480 --> 00:03:40,800 Speaker 2: I go on to my destination, get up with some friends, 59 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:44,960 Speaker 2: come home, buy myself some sunflowers and a nice coffee, 60 00:03:45,000 --> 00:03:47,760 Speaker 2: which is my like almost forever gift to myself after 61 00:03:47,880 --> 00:03:50,360 Speaker 2: I conquer the hardest workout of the week, which in 62 00:03:50,400 --> 00:03:54,400 Speaker 2: my mind is a tempo run, and I'm like, you 63 00:03:54,480 --> 00:03:59,360 Speaker 2: know what, I'm just gonna text this guy, oh Man, 64 00:03:59,440 --> 00:04:01,080 Speaker 2: So I text him and I'm like, I swear I 65 00:04:01,160 --> 00:04:04,080 Speaker 2: ran by you on Fulton this morning. 66 00:04:04,600 --> 00:04:07,000 Speaker 1: I hope you're doing well. 67 00:04:07,120 --> 00:04:09,560 Speaker 2: Because in his little closure note to me, which was 68 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:12,280 Speaker 2: a voice note, he said that he'd love to be friends, 69 00:04:12,760 --> 00:04:15,200 Speaker 2: which like ninety nine point nine percent of the time 70 00:04:15,280 --> 00:04:16,960 Speaker 2: when a man has told me that he wants to 71 00:04:17,000 --> 00:04:20,039 Speaker 2: be friends, I'm like, h don't think I'm gonna run 72 00:04:20,040 --> 00:04:21,960 Speaker 2: with this one. I think I'm going to fall back. 73 00:04:22,120 --> 00:04:27,560 Speaker 2: I've got some good friends, you know. He messages me. 74 00:04:27,680 --> 00:04:30,880 Speaker 2: He's like, well, I think it's probably impossible for me 75 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:33,160 Speaker 2: to be in the same place at two times, and 76 00:04:33,360 --> 00:04:36,120 Speaker 2: I was definitely home at that time. Although the guy 77 00:04:36,160 --> 00:04:40,760 Speaker 2: that you ran by must have been really good looking. Anyway, 78 00:04:40,960 --> 00:04:44,160 Speaker 2: we go on to chat a little bit and I 79 00:04:44,160 --> 00:04:46,200 Speaker 2: told him I almost sent him a text after I 80 00:04:46,279 --> 00:04:48,599 Speaker 2: released the episode of The Five Minute Friday where I 81 00:04:48,720 --> 00:04:52,440 Speaker 2: mentioned that I told all of you about the conversation 82 00:04:52,480 --> 00:04:55,039 Speaker 2: that we had about red Flags is what the conversation 83 00:04:55,160 --> 00:04:57,839 Speaker 2: was about. And he was like, why did you almost 84 00:04:57,920 --> 00:04:59,760 Speaker 2: send me a text? And so I told him that 85 00:05:00,080 --> 00:05:04,400 Speaker 2: usually when someone says that they want to be friends 86 00:05:04,640 --> 00:05:06,800 Speaker 2: after you want to date with them, that they don't 87 00:05:06,800 --> 00:05:08,120 Speaker 2: really want to be friends and they're just trying to 88 00:05:08,160 --> 00:05:12,960 Speaker 2: be kind. Anyway, he tells me, he's like, I understand 89 00:05:13,040 --> 00:05:16,560 Speaker 2: where you're coming from. I'd really love to hear your 90 00:05:16,600 --> 00:05:19,640 Speaker 2: thoughts about like how everything had gone down from your perspective. 91 00:05:20,080 --> 00:05:23,240 Speaker 2: You should know that to be honest, my response to 92 00:05:23,560 --> 00:05:28,200 Speaker 2: us being friends had nothing to do with you. And 93 00:05:28,400 --> 00:05:30,520 Speaker 2: I really realized after our date that I just wasn't 94 00:05:30,560 --> 00:05:34,720 Speaker 2: ready to date again after my last relationship. And I 95 00:05:34,800 --> 00:05:40,680 Speaker 2: was like, wow, I had told myself like the most elaborate. 96 00:05:40,160 --> 00:05:42,359 Speaker 1: A whole story about what was. 97 00:05:42,360 --> 00:05:45,600 Speaker 2: Wrong with me, which again, I know, I know, I 98 00:05:45,680 --> 00:05:49,679 Speaker 2: know we've established the right person blah blah blah blah blah. 99 00:05:49,680 --> 00:05:52,560 Speaker 2: But man, it was such a moment today that I 100 00:05:52,680 --> 00:05:55,480 Speaker 2: was like, Wow, how easily do we get caught up 101 00:05:55,520 --> 00:05:57,600 Speaker 2: in all these stories that we are telling ourselves? And 102 00:05:57,640 --> 00:06:00,600 Speaker 2: I gave this particular scenario that I I'd crafted in 103 00:06:00,640 --> 00:06:03,719 Speaker 2: my head so much emotional energy, and that's just not 104 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:04,920 Speaker 2: what it was. 105 00:06:05,720 --> 00:06:08,599 Speaker 1: It's not what it was a little kick in the 106 00:06:08,640 --> 00:06:11,400 Speaker 1: pants for me today. I think I've used that phrase 107 00:06:11,400 --> 00:06:12,040 Speaker 1: on the show before. 108 00:06:12,080 --> 00:06:15,360 Speaker 2: I don't know why, and when I became a person 109 00:06:15,400 --> 00:06:17,760 Speaker 2: that says kicking the pants and it's like me trying 110 00:06:17,760 --> 00:06:23,479 Speaker 2: to avoid cussing anyway, Man, my prompt for you, what 111 00:06:23,640 --> 00:06:26,240 Speaker 2: story did you tell yourself this week that, honestly, if 112 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:28,080 Speaker 2: you take a second and you take a step back, 113 00:06:28,279 --> 00:06:29,720 Speaker 2: was a bunch of bowl. 114 00:06:30,640 --> 00:06:32,920 Speaker 1: You know where I'm going with this? Bs. 115 00:06:34,040 --> 00:06:36,760 Speaker 2: What story did you tell yourself this week that was 116 00:06:36,800 --> 00:06:38,280 Speaker 2: a bunch of bs. 117 00:06:38,120 --> 00:06:39,159 Speaker 1: That you gotta let go of? 118 00:06:40,080 --> 00:06:44,000 Speaker 2: Now, before I bring you today's listener question, I do 119 00:06:44,200 --> 00:06:46,160 Speaker 2: want to take just a quick second if you don't 120 00:06:46,200 --> 00:06:50,360 Speaker 2: mind to talk up my friends at good Earth. Listen 121 00:06:50,480 --> 00:06:54,120 Speaker 2: right now. If you're one of those people that are 122 00:06:54,279 --> 00:06:58,360 Speaker 2: going out on your runs or heading outside and not 123 00:06:58,600 --> 00:07:01,840 Speaker 2: bringing with you a pair of sunglasses, I just don't 124 00:07:01,960 --> 00:07:02,680 Speaker 2: understand you. 125 00:07:02,920 --> 00:07:08,880 Speaker 1: No offense. Here's the deal. Why squint through all. 126 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:11,440 Speaker 2: Of your outdoor activities when you could be wearing a 127 00:07:11,760 --> 00:07:18,200 Speaker 2: super comfortable, polarized, no bounce, great looking pair of sunglasses 128 00:07:18,240 --> 00:07:22,000 Speaker 2: from Gooder. They've got shapes and styles for every taste 129 00:07:22,080 --> 00:07:25,600 Speaker 2: and face shape. I have been wearing their style called 130 00:07:25,640 --> 00:07:29,080 Speaker 2: the Nine Dollars pour Over a lot lately. I also 131 00:07:29,480 --> 00:07:34,400 Speaker 2: classically lean into their mock g's the Operation Blackout. But again, 132 00:07:34,680 --> 00:07:39,120 Speaker 2: so many different looks for every single person. So head 133 00:07:39,160 --> 00:07:42,280 Speaker 2: on over to Gooder dot com slash hurdle and use 134 00:07:42,360 --> 00:07:47,280 Speaker 2: hurdle one five at checkout for fifteen percent off today. Again, 135 00:07:47,440 --> 00:07:49,880 Speaker 2: head on over to Gooder dot com slash hurdle and 136 00:07:49,960 --> 00:07:53,640 Speaker 2: use code hurdle one five for fifteen percent off today. 137 00:07:54,360 --> 00:07:58,160 Speaker 2: And now man today's episode is all over the place. 138 00:07:58,400 --> 00:07:59,400 Speaker 2: A listener question. 139 00:08:01,560 --> 00:08:04,440 Speaker 3: Hi, Emily, thank you so much for your podcast. I 140 00:08:04,520 --> 00:08:06,680 Speaker 3: listen to them each time a new one comes out, 141 00:08:06,720 --> 00:08:09,840 Speaker 3: and they make my travel to work so much more enjoyable. 142 00:08:10,480 --> 00:08:13,200 Speaker 3: I find so much information from them as well. I 143 00:08:13,240 --> 00:08:16,120 Speaker 3: have a question for you in regards to running training 144 00:08:16,560 --> 00:08:19,520 Speaker 3: on the treadmill as well as outdoor. I have the 145 00:08:19,560 --> 00:08:22,240 Speaker 3: Peloton app and I've been doing all of my running 146 00:08:22,400 --> 00:08:26,840 Speaker 3: on a treadmill inside and I'm just curious in your opinion, 147 00:08:26,960 --> 00:08:30,320 Speaker 3: is it important to take the training outdoors as well 148 00:08:30,520 --> 00:08:33,720 Speaker 3: or is training indoor on a treadmill just as efficient. 149 00:08:34,280 --> 00:08:36,640 Speaker 3: Thank you so much, and I look forward to your 150 00:08:36,679 --> 00:08:38,199 Speaker 3: future podcast. 151 00:08:38,920 --> 00:08:41,400 Speaker 1: This is a really great question. 152 00:08:41,800 --> 00:08:46,200 Speaker 2: So the good news is that treadmill training is definitely effective. 153 00:08:46,559 --> 00:08:48,120 Speaker 1: I love the treadmill. 154 00:08:48,400 --> 00:08:50,840 Speaker 2: I lean into it quite often, both in the winter 155 00:08:50,960 --> 00:08:53,760 Speaker 2: when it's absolutely freezing and in the summer when it 156 00:08:53,880 --> 00:08:58,240 Speaker 2: is just way too hot to get out there and 157 00:08:58,320 --> 00:09:03,640 Speaker 2: tackle a run. Now, with that said, researchers found that 158 00:09:03,960 --> 00:09:07,120 Speaker 2: the biomechanical patterns, so to speak, they don't change when 159 00:09:07,120 --> 00:09:09,800 Speaker 2: someone runs on a treadmill versus when they run outside. 160 00:09:09,880 --> 00:09:12,680 Speaker 2: But the thing about running outside is that it's more 161 00:09:12,720 --> 00:09:17,319 Speaker 2: suited for your natural gate cycle because when you're outside, 162 00:09:17,360 --> 00:09:20,160 Speaker 2: you're doing all the work yourself, which means that you're 163 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:24,679 Speaker 2: not limited to the functionality of the treadmill. And when 164 00:09:24,720 --> 00:09:27,120 Speaker 2: you're on a treadmill, as you can imagine, you may 165 00:09:27,400 --> 00:09:31,960 Speaker 2: be encouraged, so to speak, to shorten your stride, if 166 00:09:32,000 --> 00:09:34,720 Speaker 2: only slightly. Also, when you're running ouside, you're going to 167 00:09:34,720 --> 00:09:37,800 Speaker 2: be activating a little You're going to be activating more 168 00:09:38,000 --> 00:09:41,600 Speaker 2: muscles because although you're running forward, you are going at 169 00:09:41,600 --> 00:09:44,280 Speaker 2: times a little bit side to side. So if you're 170 00:09:44,360 --> 00:09:48,760 Speaker 2: only running inside, what experts have found is that certain 171 00:09:48,840 --> 00:09:52,160 Speaker 2: muscles could become a little weak, which could set you 172 00:09:52,320 --> 00:09:55,040 Speaker 2: up for With that said, I also do want to 173 00:09:55,040 --> 00:09:57,560 Speaker 2: make sure that I highlight a lot of benefits of 174 00:09:57,760 --> 00:10:01,160 Speaker 2: treadmill running. Again, sometimes you just can't run outside, so 175 00:10:01,240 --> 00:10:04,160 Speaker 2: that's a great opportunity to get on the treadmill. Sometimes 176 00:10:04,200 --> 00:10:06,800 Speaker 2: you're feeling a little unmotivated, or you need a little 177 00:10:06,840 --> 00:10:10,400 Speaker 2: extra push in the right direction, a the speedier direction, 178 00:10:10,800 --> 00:10:13,000 Speaker 2: and that's when a treadmill can be really helpful for me. 179 00:10:13,320 --> 00:10:16,520 Speaker 2: I lean into the tread a lot for tempo running 180 00:10:16,559 --> 00:10:18,320 Speaker 2: when I'm just like not sure that I have it 181 00:10:18,360 --> 00:10:21,200 Speaker 2: in me to definitely run that piece on my own, 182 00:10:21,240 --> 00:10:23,120 Speaker 2: but the tread can be a little bit of a 183 00:10:23,240 --> 00:10:26,320 Speaker 2: helping hand with that. And the last myth that I 184 00:10:26,360 --> 00:10:28,800 Speaker 2: want to dispel is that treadmill running can be bad 185 00:10:28,840 --> 00:10:31,720 Speaker 2: for you. Treadmill running isn't bad for you. In fact, 186 00:10:31,760 --> 00:10:35,080 Speaker 2: it's obviously a much better option than just laying on 187 00:10:35,120 --> 00:10:38,559 Speaker 2: your couch all day, being completely sedentary and watching Netflix 188 00:10:38,559 --> 00:10:39,280 Speaker 2: for hours on end. 189 00:10:39,280 --> 00:10:40,959 Speaker 1: Although there is a time and a place for that. 190 00:10:41,400 --> 00:10:43,640 Speaker 2: The only thing I will not I feel like I'm 191 00:10:43,640 --> 00:10:46,679 Speaker 2: spewing treadmill information at you, is that outside you can 192 00:10:46,760 --> 00:10:50,320 Speaker 2: run downhill. On a treadmill, you can't run downhill. So 193 00:10:50,360 --> 00:10:54,880 Speaker 2: that's just one other example of how getting outside tackling 194 00:10:55,000 --> 00:10:58,680 Speaker 2: natural terrain there are going to be pros and cons 195 00:10:58,760 --> 00:11:01,720 Speaker 2: and benefits and all the things for all of it. 196 00:11:02,120 --> 00:11:03,120 Speaker 1: That's it for this week. 197 00:11:03,160 --> 00:11:06,120 Speaker 2: I hope everyone has something beautiful to do over the 198 00:11:06,120 --> 00:11:08,760 Speaker 2: weekend or over the next few days. Whenever you are 199 00:11:08,880 --> 00:11:11,120 Speaker 2: listening to this, make sure you're following along with Hurdle 200 00:11:11,160 --> 00:11:14,280 Speaker 2: Over at Hurdle podcast. I'm over at Emily A Baddi 201 00:11:15,080 --> 00:11:18,360 Speaker 2: another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.