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Speaker 1: right now, and you never know, it could be yours.

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Speaker 3: got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, nephew.

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Speaker 1: Subject what goes on at his friend's house stays there? Okay,

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Speaker 1: what goes on at his friend's house stays there? Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, I'm in a dead end marriage and I

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Speaker 1: have not had sex with my husband in months, so

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Speaker 1: I decided to go get it elsewhere. My husband has

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Speaker 1: erectile dysfunction and he refuses to take medication to fix

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Speaker 1: it because the medic medicine makes him gain weight. Since

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Speaker 1: he's being selfish, I am too. I've always had an

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Speaker 1: ace in a hole that I can go to when

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Speaker 1: I needed some really good sex and nothing more. I

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Speaker 1: called up my old friend one day and he was

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Speaker 1: all for it, but he lives with his girlfriend now,

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Speaker 1: so we had to meet up at his friend's house.

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Speaker 1: I've been going over there once a week and we

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Speaker 1: do what we do and then I leave. A few

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Speaker 1: days ago, I finally met the friend that owns the house.

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Speaker 1: He was handsome, sexy, and fine. I was going into

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Speaker 1: the bedroom and he was coming out of his room

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Speaker 1: and didn't even know.

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Speaker 2: I didn't even know he was home. He whispered that.

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Speaker 1: He was watching me while I had sex with his friend,

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Speaker 1: and he said it turned him on. He pointed to

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Speaker 1: how turned on he was. I couldn't help but stare,

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Speaker 1: and he could tell I was very interested. He said

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Speaker 1: he'd see me the next day around one pm. I

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Speaker 1: tossed and turned all that night, and I told myself

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Speaker 1: that I wasn't going over there the next day. But

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Speaker 1: I did go, and I have no regrets. He led

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Speaker 1: me to his bedroom without saying a word, and that

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Speaker 1: really turned me on. It was a marvelous experience, and

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Speaker 1: I think the mystery of it is what had me

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Speaker 1: so excited. Right after I left, my main lover called

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Speaker 1: me and said he knew about what I did with

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Speaker 1: his friend, and he asked for a threesome. I told him,

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Speaker 1: as long as what happened at his friend's house stays

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Speaker 1: at his friend's house friend's house, I'd be down to

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Speaker 1: try it. At this point, should I leave my husband

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Speaker 1: and be uninhibited with these two men?

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Speaker 2: Have I gone too far to turn back? Girl?

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Speaker 1: Come on now, you got to stop some of this.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you're doing way too much. Yeah, way too much.

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Speaker 1: It's never too late to stop. You're married and sleeping

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Speaker 1: with a friend, and you're sleeping with a friend of

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Speaker 1: your friend. Don't you think that's a lot? You're just

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Speaker 1: out here wide open. I get that your husband isn't

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Speaker 1: delivering the goods, but that doesn't mean you know, you

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Speaker 1: should just be out here wilding like this.

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Speaker 2: You can't blame all this and your husband either.

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Speaker 1: And don't try to trick Steve and I, because didn't

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Speaker 1: you say you've always had a spare when you need

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Speaker 1: a good sex You said that in the letter. You

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Speaker 1: can't blame this son your husband. You didn't call it

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Speaker 1: a spare, though you called it an ace in the hole.

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Speaker 1: You said that, so this is what you've been doing.

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Speaker 1: Your ace in the hole wasn't enough for you, though

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Speaker 1: you had to go do his friend too. And here's

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Speaker 1: my question. Now, what if his friend's friend has a friend?

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Speaker 1: Then what what are you gonna do? Then you have

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Speaker 1: to draw the line somewhere, you got.

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Speaker 2: You have to what are you doing?

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Speaker 1: Do you want to just be there pass around, check

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Speaker 1: their little easy toy, their plaything, because right now, that's

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Speaker 1: what's going on.

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Speaker 2: That's what you are to them.

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Speaker 1: They know what you're about, and that's how they can

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Speaker 1: easily flip it up on you like this, Steve, Well.

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Speaker 3: You know this whole letter has so many problems in it,

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Speaker 3: and all of them is huh. So, I don't even

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Speaker 3: know what you wrote the letter about a dead end marriage.

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Speaker 3: I ain't had sex with my husband in mons, so

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Speaker 3: I decided I was gonna get it elsewhere, okay, instead

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Speaker 3: of fixing y'all's problem, Because here's your problem. My husband

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Speaker 3: has a rectile dysfunction and he refuses to take medication

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Speaker 3: to fix it because the medicine makes him gain weight.

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Speaker 3: So I don't understand this, dude. I know a lot

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Speaker 3: of men taking this medicine. I ain't never heard the

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Speaker 3: side effect was gain weight. And if it was, so,

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Speaker 3: my fat ass will just be over here. Yeah, but

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Speaker 3: what we ain't finna have? Is that?

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Speaker 1: Ed?

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Speaker 3: I get me a nice, big ass stomach and be

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Speaker 3: standing over here strong. Give me the extra damn weight.

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna need it to pick your ass up. Any Wait,

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Speaker 3: I don't understand. I've never heard that before, and I've

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Speaker 3: heard a lot of people discuss this medicine right here now.

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Speaker 3: Since he's being selfish, I am too. I've always had

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Speaker 3: an ace in the hole that I could go to

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Speaker 3: when I need some really good sex. Now listen to me, ladies.

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Speaker 3: I want you to pay attention to the term ace

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Speaker 3: in the hole. Ace in the hole is a term

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Speaker 3: that men created for women who give them sex. On

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Speaker 3: the side, we call y'all a ace in the hole.

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Speaker 3: You can erase ace because that's all you are to us.

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Speaker 3: You just a whole h O l E. That's all

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Speaker 3: you are, and I'll prove it when we come back.

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Speaker 3: Everything can be heavy on me.

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Speaker 2: That your coming up at twenty three minutes the hour.

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Speaker 1: Today's Strawberry letter subject what goes on at his friend's

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Speaker 1: house stays there.

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Speaker 2: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening

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Speaker 2: hard morning show, All right, Steve.

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Speaker 1: Come on, let's recap today's Strawberry letter, the subject what

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Speaker 1: goes on at his friend's house stays there.

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Speaker 3: So now you up in a dead end marriage. You

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Speaker 3: and your husband ain't had sex in monks. You decide

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Speaker 3: to go get it somewhell because you say you got

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Speaker 3: an ace in the hole. Keyword here is we created

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Speaker 3: a term for women to give us sex on the side,

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Speaker 3: and you had not really even take the ace out

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Speaker 3: of it. You just a hole. Now I'm finish to

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Speaker 3: show you how we do holes. Okay you ready? Oh no,

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Speaker 3: I'm finna teach you something. Now say see you called yourself.

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Speaker 3: You say you got an ace in a hole? What

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Speaker 3: hole you talk? Is that it? Hey? One person got

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Speaker 3: a hold, and now you finished find out how we

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Speaker 3: treat holes. So now here's some So you have really

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Speaker 3: good sex and nothing more. And you call up your

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Speaker 3: old friend one day and he was all for it,

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Speaker 3: but he lived with his girlfriend now, so we got

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Speaker 3: to meet up at his friend's house. See that's what

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Speaker 3: we do. I ain't even gonna get no room, i

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Speaker 3: ain't wasting no money on no whole. I'm just gonna

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Speaker 3: take you over my friend's house now in order for

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Speaker 3: Tim to use you hit the friend's house. He got

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Speaker 3: to tell his friend what he doing. Now everybody know

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Speaker 3: you married. He done told this, and his friend know

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Speaker 3: he got a girl. So I'm gonna bring my hole

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Speaker 3: over here. I'm gonna do it at your house. Man,

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Speaker 3: Come on cool. I've been going over there once a

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Speaker 3: week and we do it and then I leave. A

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Speaker 3: few days ago, I finally met the friend that owns

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Speaker 3: of his room and I ain't even though he was home.

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Speaker 3: He whispered, he watching me. I've been watching y'all. Saw

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Speaker 3: y'all see what y'all be in at through week, y'all

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Speaker 3: having sex with his friend. He watched it, and he

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Speaker 3: said it turned him on. Then he pointed to how

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Speaker 3: it turned on. He was I couldn't help but stare,

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Speaker 3: and he could tell I was very interested. He said,

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Speaker 3: they see me the next day around one pm. You

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Speaker 3: know why he said that, because you the whole. You

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Speaker 3: the whole. See if you married, He know you married,

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Speaker 3: and you're gonna come with your with your old friend

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Speaker 3: who now has a girlfriend, and you willing to meet

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Speaker 3: at his friend's house with your whole and all you

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Speaker 3: treating it like as a whole. Then guess what he

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Speaker 3: said to you. I see you the next day around

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Speaker 3: one pm. Now you tossed and turned all night. But

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Speaker 3: I told myself I wasn't going over there the next day.

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Speaker 3: You told who You told yourself herself. You should have

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Speaker 3: told the whole.

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Speaker 2: Told you. This is hearing this, but you know it's true.

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Speaker 3: It's very rough ahead question. I'm only don't take a

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Speaker 3: questions in the middle of my respect. I see it's

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Speaker 3: bothering you. Go here.

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Speaker 1: I'll just let you continue your thoughts and then I'll

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Speaker 1: reserve my questions for the ens.

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Speaker 3: Okay, But I did go, and I have no regrets.

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Speaker 3: He led me to his bedroom without saying a word,

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Speaker 3: and that really turned me on. Are you easy? It?

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Speaker 3: Don't take nothing. He ain't even talk. That made me hot.

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Speaker 3: It was a marvelous experience, and I think it was

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Speaker 3: the mystery of it that had me so excited. And

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Speaker 3: right after I left, his friend, the main lover you

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Speaker 3: treating you the same way you treat yourself, just like

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Speaker 3: a whole h O L E. I told, And then

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Speaker 3: he said, he asks for a threesome. Wait a man,

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Speaker 3: holder dog, this dude a threesome. If I'm having you,

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Speaker 3: the last thing gonna turn me on is I bring

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Speaker 3: another dude in the room to have you too. Because

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Speaker 3: I'm telling you right now, I don't really know nothing

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Speaker 3: much about a threesome, but I do know the only

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Speaker 3: person in has zipping payers of has to.

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Speaker 2: Be me, only one man.

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Speaker 3: I can't be in here with this this, I can't

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Speaker 3: see nothing else. So he said he has for a threesome.

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Speaker 3: I told him, as long as what happened at his

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Speaker 3: friend's house stays at his friend's house, I'd be down

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Speaker 3: to try. At this point, should I leave my husband

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Speaker 3: and be uninhibited with these two men? You've already left

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Speaker 3: your husband. What you asking us for? Have I gone

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Speaker 3: too far to turn back? What is you talking about

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Speaker 3: turning back for? Nowhere In that you said that you did,

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Speaker 3: I was going over there and the next day, but

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Speaker 3: I did go, and I have no regrets. You have

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Speaker 3: no regrets about seeing the friend. You have no regrets

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Speaker 3: with being invited by your old friend over his friend's

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Speaker 3: You have no regrets that you have a husband. Your

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Speaker 3: husband don't want to take the red tiled dysfunctioned medicine

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Speaker 3: cause he'd make him gain weight. Have I gone too

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Speaker 3: far to turn back? Turn back? Well, I don't know

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Speaker 3: nobody in this letter that won't you. Your husband won't

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Speaker 3: him gain weight. The friend that you got that's got

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Speaker 3: a girlfriend wouldn't got a girlfriend because he didn't want

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Speaker 3: coming over his friends how to have sex. He don't

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Speaker 3: Now he don't want you. Now they want you so much,

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