WEBVTT - "She Told Me To Shoot Myself!"

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome back to the show. What we're gonna do here

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<v Speaker 1>is answer some questions you email us podcast at grangersmith

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<v Speaker 1>dot com. We answer them like we're riding in the

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<v Speaker 1>truck together, like we're sitting around a campfire. You say, hey, man,

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<v Speaker 1>I got this thing it's been going on. Can you

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<v Speaker 1>help me with it? I got a man with me,

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<v Speaker 1>producer of the show and one of my best friends.

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<v Speaker 1>What's up an Good to see you man, You too,

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<v Speaker 1>there we I don't know a lot about these questions

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<v Speaker 1>that people have sent in for today's show, but I

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<v Speaker 1>do know enough that there is there is a bit

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<v Speaker 1>of a theme going on. There is, and so we'll

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<v Speaker 1>see how that unravels.

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<v Speaker 2>It's funny, it wasn't on purpose too. I read through

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<v Speaker 2>these and put them in in what we call an ROS.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a run a show for uh, for these for you,

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm not thinking about answering them necessarily when I'm

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<v Speaker 2>putting them together. I'm thinking about, this'd be a good

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<v Speaker 2>one to hear from granger on and then I get

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<v Speaker 2>to stay here and talk to you about them, so

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<v Speaker 2>I can read them and rethink you know about them.

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<v Speaker 1>So yep, So let's see if we can unravel this theme.

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<v Speaker 1>The first questionnaire comes from Kyle. It says, Hey, Granger,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll get right into it. My wife and I haven't

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<v Speaker 1>been getting along lately. She says things like I hate

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<v Speaker 1>you and go shoot yourself, and that she wants a divorce.

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<v Speaker 1>Me personally, I don't believe in divorce. I love her

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<v Speaker 1>with all of my being, but her being so mean

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<v Speaker 1>takes a toll on me. Usually the day after she

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<v Speaker 1>says how much she loves me and that she doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>want to split up, but it always comes back. We

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<v Speaker 1>did marriage counseling three sessions and she quit. I ended

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<v Speaker 1>up going back by myself because I'm trying to better myself.

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<v Speaker 1>My question is, do you believe it's okay to file

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<v Speaker 1>for divorce because of the way I'm being treated. I

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<v Speaker 1>just want what's best for my children. Thank you for

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<v Speaker 1>your time. Sorry, this is really hard to talk about.

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<v Speaker 1>Kyle from Ohio. All right, thanks for being vulnerable. Kyle,

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<v Speaker 1>appreciate the email. And there's nothing in here that's that's

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<v Speaker 1>asking if this is biblical or if he's a Christian. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>So that's a little bit different perspective. Because we're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>come to this podcast with a biblical worldview. And so Kyle,

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<v Speaker 1>without you mentioning that some of the stuff I say

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<v Speaker 1>may not make sense to you, but it's okay, that's okay,

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<v Speaker 1>still applies, it still applies. But this is where it

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<v Speaker 1>gets This is where it gets really wonky with you, Kyle,

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<v Speaker 1>is I'm gonna I'm gonna look at from from the

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<v Speaker 1>point of view of you being involved in a church,

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<v Speaker 1>which really changes the dynamic of this because it's Christians.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't say this enough on this podcast, and I'll

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<v Speaker 1>probably say it more on this exact episode. Christians shouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>go through divorce alone. It's not advised in any way

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<v Speaker 1>that you should go through divorce alone. You should do

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<v Speaker 1>it with your brothers and sisters around you, which is

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<v Speaker 1>so encouraging. So with that in mind, let's dive into

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<v Speaker 1>this question. First. First thing on that comes to my

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<v Speaker 1>mind is you say, Kyle, I just want what's best

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<v Speaker 1>for my children. But that kind of contradicts a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit to what he says earlier when he says I

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<v Speaker 1>don't believe in divorce. I love her with all with

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<v Speaker 1>all of my being. Okay, So which one do we

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<v Speaker 1>want here? Which one is it?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? And he's working on himself.

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<v Speaker 1>And he's working on himself, so that we have a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit of a contradiction. Because if you only want

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<v Speaker 1>want what's best for your children's that's one direction. If

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<v Speaker 1>you only you love her with all of your being,

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<v Speaker 1>that's another, And if you want to work on yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a third way. My suggestion is, and my encouragement

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<v Speaker 1>is that if you want what's best for your children,

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<v Speaker 1>that is reconciliation in the marriage agreed. Ok, Okay, So

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<v Speaker 1>you reconciling with the biological mama is better for them

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<v Speaker 1>then you divorcing and trying to figure out a way

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<v Speaker 1>to do what's best for them. That's not always the case.

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<v Speaker 1>That's not always the answer. That's not that's just not

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<v Speaker 1>that's not a cookie cutter cutter answer because, first of all,

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<v Speaker 1>most practically a lot of times reconciliation is not possible.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, sometimes it's not. When I read this email, I

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<v Speaker 2>read it one way again, you know, for the podcast,

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<v Speaker 2>but reading it as a response, the first thing I

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<v Speaker 2>see is she's hurting somewhere and she's lashing out at you.

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<v Speaker 2>And you know, we just went through we're going through

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<v Speaker 2>proverbs at church, and one of the biggest things we

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<v Speaker 2>talked about a couple of weeks ago, the life and

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<v Speaker 2>death being in the power of your tongue. With the

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<v Speaker 2>same tongue you give life and the same tongue you

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<v Speaker 2>give death. You curse somebody and you give life to somebody.

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<v Speaker 2>And when you're spewing out stuff that is hateful, like

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<v Speaker 2>go shoot yourself and I hate you, that's coming from

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<v Speaker 2>something in your heart that is disturbed. And so there's

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<v Speaker 2>some hurt with her somewhere. And I don't know if

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<v Speaker 2>it's in this marriage, if it's for the marriage, or

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<v Speaker 2>what it is. You know, we assume a lot with

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<v Speaker 2>these emails because there you know, what is this? You know,

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<v Speaker 2>seven six lines long, you know, to diagnose an entire

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<v Speaker 2>issue with the marriage. But there's something going here. It's

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<v Speaker 2>not I mean, it is salvageable from what I read.

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<v Speaker 2>I believe if if you both want it to be.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, sometimes you do get to a place where

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<v Speaker 2>one of you wants it with all your heart and

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<v Speaker 2>the other one says, I just don't love you and

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to be part of this anymore. What

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<v Speaker 2>do you do then? And maybe that's where we are

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<v Speaker 2>with this one as well. I come from a divorced family,

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<v Speaker 2>and I am divorce myself, a biblical divorce. But no

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<v Speaker 2>matter what, it's hard. And ultimately, listen, if if it's

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<v Speaker 2>gonna be hard no matter what, choose the hard one

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<v Speaker 2>that keeps things together if you can, m because it's

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<v Speaker 2>gonna be hard either way. You're you're doing one battle

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<v Speaker 2>that's really hard without a helper anymore. And you might

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<v Speaker 2>feel like you don't have a helper right now. But

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<v Speaker 2>if you can salvage and get your helper back in

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<v Speaker 2>that marriage, it is going to help make things better

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<v Speaker 2>and it's worth.

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<v Speaker 1>The fight for sure. That's a great way to look

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<v Speaker 1>at it. So it's gonna be hard, Kyle, It's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be hard no matter which road you pick right now.

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<v Speaker 1>It's gonna be hard in the road to restoration, and

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<v Speaker 1>it's gonna be hard in the road and being a

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<v Speaker 1>single dad and starting over. Sure, and man saying from experience,

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<v Speaker 1>since they're both hard, choose the one that's on the

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<v Speaker 1>road to reconciliation. Is that what you're saying?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, sure, if you can. And I say if

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<v Speaker 2>you can, because some decisions just aren't up to you.

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<v Speaker 2>Have you done everything that are you in a church?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you have brothers? See part of mine involved things

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<v Speaker 2>at a church, and so it makes it it made

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<v Speaker 2>it hard for me to trust a church, not God,

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<v Speaker 2>but a church for a long long time. And even

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<v Speaker 2>so much as we are just now really getting settled

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<v Speaker 2>in a church that I fully am ready to be

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<v Speaker 2>plugged into a church. Healthy church, absolutely, and that's very important.

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<v Speaker 2>So I mean my first advice is where is just

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<v Speaker 2>the question of where are you going? Where are you

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<v Speaker 2>going to church? If you're not well, that's you need

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<v Speaker 2>to get plugged in somewhere that's a healthy place.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Side note another episode, possibly there is a big

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<v Speaker 1>difference everyone between a healthy church and an unhealthy church.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you have church hurt, if you look back

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<v Speaker 1>and you go, I don't like the church because it

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<v Speaker 1>did this and this, I would say there's a just

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<v Speaker 1>as there's a difference between an unhealthy doctor or a

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<v Speaker 1>bad practicing doctor and a good doctor, there is the

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<v Speaker 1>same thing with a massive of chasm between an unhealthy

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<v Speaker 1>church and a healthy church. Now we could do this

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<v Speaker 1>on another episode and actually walk through what it looks

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<v Speaker 1>like to be a healthy church, because you might think

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<v Speaker 1>that you're in one and it actually might not be

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<v Speaker 1>biblically healthy. We could do this in another episode, but

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<v Speaker 1>that's a side note to what you're saying. So here's

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<v Speaker 1>the major problem. Looks like there's a lot of problems,

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<v Speaker 1>but one of them they did counseling three sessions and

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<v Speaker 1>she quit. She left, so he goes back by himself. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>what do you think, Amy, What do you say to

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<v Speaker 1>a separation to begin this process?

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<v Speaker 2>What do you mean to like start.

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<v Speaker 1>To say before we file, we should live separately? What

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<v Speaker 1>do you think about that?

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<v Speaker 2>Man? It's hard to reconcile when you're not together. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I believe, because yeah, I think you know, should you

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<v Speaker 2>have some alone time? Absolutely? I think separating in one

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<v Speaker 2>person living in one house and somebody listens living somewhere else.

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<v Speaker 2>I believe it's like move you're moving towards staying separated

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<v Speaker 2>versus moving towards staying together.

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<v Speaker 1>Unless there's abuse, of course. Yeah, yeah, so that's the

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<v Speaker 1>caveat Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Of course. Yeah. If you're being abused, that's a that's

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<v Speaker 2>a completely different conversation too.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh.

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<v Speaker 2>And this is some verbal abuse. I mean obviously here,

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<v Speaker 2>nine times out of ten I would say that that

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<v Speaker 2>separating some people wake up and go, oh, man, I

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<v Speaker 2>can't do this by myself. And if if that, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>that is good for to get that revelation.

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<v Speaker 1>But so I think he's asking one specific question. My

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<v Speaker 1>question is do you believe it's okay to file for

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<v Speaker 1>divorce because of the way I'm being treated? I just

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<v Speaker 1>want what's best for my children. That's the question. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think because there's so many unknowns, we don't get

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<v Speaker 1>to follow up question. We don't know the situation. We

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<v Speaker 1>don't know anything, Kyle. I don't even know if this

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<v Speaker 1>is your first wife or not. I don't know if

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<v Speaker 1>it's if these are your children and not hers. It

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<v Speaker 1>may be some scenarios this is his children from a

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<v Speaker 1>previous marriage that puts a new spend. So because I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know anything about this, I really only have one

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<v Speaker 1>piece of advice, and that is, don't make this decision

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<v Speaker 1>outside of wise counsel.

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<v Speaker 2>Agreed, agreed, and that would you know? I think that

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<v Speaker 2>that is the answer to this email. It is like

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<v Speaker 2>that this has to go much deeper. This conversation has

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<v Speaker 2>to go much deeper with someone that you trust with

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<v Speaker 2>And if you're going to a counselor what kind of

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<v Speaker 2>counselor too, make sure they're Bible believing counseling.

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<v Speaker 1>And I also and part of what I mean by that,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm talking about a team, and so I'm not just

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<v Speaker 1>talking about professional, paid counseling. I'm talking about wise counsel

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<v Speaker 1>in the aspect of friends, trusted brothers around you. So

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<v Speaker 1>my answer, Kyle, my direct answer to dude, your question

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<v Speaker 1>is is it okay to file for divorce because of

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<v Speaker 1>the way I'm being treated? No without wise counsel. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>with wise counsel. So it can go either way. But

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<v Speaker 1>if you don't have wise counsel, throw this whole question out.

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<v Speaker 1>If you do and they advise you need to walk away,

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<v Speaker 1>then I would say you could trust them in this.

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<v Speaker 1>She's abandoned you. There's abuse, verbal abuse. If you're with

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<v Speaker 1>wise counsel and they say no, don't file for divorce,

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<v Speaker 1>I would trust them on that as well. There's room

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<v Speaker 1>for reconciliation. But ant man and I don't know enough

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<v Speaker 1>about it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And I think the next question or the advice

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<v Speaker 2>would be, is, like or I would ask you, is

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<v Speaker 2>how does he find that? How does he find that

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<v Speaker 2>wise counsel if he's not in a church if they

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<v Speaker 2>didn't grow up in that, how does he go find

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<v Speaker 2>wise counsel?

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<v Speaker 1>Right now, this is something that we should be preparing

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<v Speaker 1>before we end up in the situation, right This is

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<v Speaker 1>this is when you know CPR before you have to

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<v Speaker 1>use it. And so this is why this is reason

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<v Speaker 1>number eight hundre seventy five whire being involved in a

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<v Speaker 1>meaningful relationship with a good, solid, healthy Bible teaching church

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<v Speaker 1>is so important. It is a among other things. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a tribe.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, for sure.

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<v Speaker 1>It's being in a tribe, which humans for centuries and

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<v Speaker 1>centuries millennia have been involved in a tribe, even when

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<v Speaker 1>it's outside of the context of what a Christian church is.

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<v Speaker 1>We're talking about Native American Indians. We're in tribes and

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<v Speaker 1>that those tribes. Sorry I have an airplane voice here,

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<v Speaker 1>I just got off the airplane. So these tribes operated

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<v Speaker 1>multi generations. They weren't age segregated like we're so quick

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<v Speaker 1>in society today to age segregate. Put the youth over here,

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<v Speaker 1>Put the toddlers in this room, Put the babies here,

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<v Speaker 1>put the put the nursing mothers here, Put the young

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<v Speaker 1>adults in this room. Put these seniors over in this room,

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<v Speaker 1>and we segregate everyone, so no one is learning from

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<v Speaker 1>each other. And for millennia, humans have learned from each

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<v Speaker 1>other without age segregating. So now here we are and

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<v Speaker 1>we're stuck in these situations where someone goes, I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>through this big problem, granger, I'm going through this divorce,

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<v Speaker 1>and I have no one.

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<v Speaker 2>To talk to.

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<v Speaker 1>That's because our culture has age segregated. You have no

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<v Speaker 1>wise counsel, you have no tribe. The best we do

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<v Speaker 1>with tribes sometimes is the youth baseball team that your

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<v Speaker 1>kid plays for. That's your tribe. Even worse, social media,

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<v Speaker 1>even worse, your social media is your tribe. So a man,

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<v Speaker 1>your question is what do you do if you're already

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<v Speaker 1>in a situation where you don't have your tribe, you

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<v Speaker 1>don't have your wise counsel, and you need to make

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<v Speaker 1>a decision now. And to that, I say, this is

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<v Speaker 1>doing CPR without ever taking a class. It's very hard.

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<v Speaker 1>There's not a right or wrong answer to this, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's very difficult. So if you're listening and you're not

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<v Speaker 1>in the situation, find your tribe. And I would say,

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<v Speaker 1>above all, a good Bible believing, healthy church is your tribe.

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<v Speaker 1>That's that's what they're that's what that's how they function

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<v Speaker 1>in the many ways that a church functions. It's this,

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<v Speaker 1>it's your family.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's our responsibility is man too. That's part

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<v Speaker 2>of leadership and leading your family is wondering what you're

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<v Speaker 2>supposed to be doing. Well, you know, I don't have

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<v Speaker 2>an issue right now that that I have to address.

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<v Speaker 2>What should I be doing? Things like that? Yeah, looking

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<v Speaker 2>for things where you find your weaknesses. Where are you

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<v Speaker 2>weak right now? Fill those holes? Fill those gaps for

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<v Speaker 2>you and your family.

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<v Speaker 1>If you want to know who to pick for your

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<v Speaker 1>wise counsel, you look at their fruits of their life. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>for sure, not just because they're easy to talk to.

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<v Speaker 1>Are there good listeners? Are they're cool people? Or their

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<v Speaker 1>proximity that their next door neighbors to you look at

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<v Speaker 1>the fruits of their life and go, hey, brother, it

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<v Speaker 1>looks like you have We all have mistakes and we

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<v Speaker 1>all have a track record, but currently it looks like

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<v Speaker 1>you have. You have your You're on a good solid tree.

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<v Speaker 1>You have good fruits coming out from your life. Can

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<v Speaker 1>you help me with this situation? What do I do

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<v Speaker 1>and build a tribe in that way? Have you done time.

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<v Speaker 1>We got it. We let's do another question. Kyle. I

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<v Speaker 1>hope that's enough for you. Next question from David says,

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<v Speaker 1>Hello David from Ohio. Me and my fiance are getting

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<v Speaker 1>married in September. We're both born again Christians and wanted

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<v Speaker 1>your thoughts on birth control. Should Christians use it? Is

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<v Speaker 1>it a sin? If we Lord willing have children? I

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<v Speaker 1>want to give each child enough attention. That's what I'm

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<v Speaker 1>getting at, He says, thank you. Love to listen to

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<v Speaker 1>the podcast when I'm on the road as a trucker.

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<v Speaker 1>God bless all right, David, it's a good question. Then

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<v Speaker 1>we should be thinking through these things. My first answer is,

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<v Speaker 1>have your try, have your wise counsel around you. These

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<v Speaker 1>are great questions.

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<v Speaker 2>We changed the name of the podcast to wise Counsel.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Granger Smith and the Wise Counsel. It's like the

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<v Speaker 1>band name. And by the way, I'm not really considered

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<v Speaker 1>wise counsel because I'm not with these people. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know you. So my encouragement is to direct you towards what.

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<v Speaker 2>Really is why this shouldn't be the sole help.

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<v Speaker 1>This is not the council. But David, I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>a great question and we should be We should be

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<v Speaker 1>thinking through all these things. You say you're a born

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<v Speaker 1>again Christian, and that's great. This is a this is

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<v Speaker 1>a form of your sanctification that's weighing on you on

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<v Speaker 1>theological things, things that matter in life, Having children, planning

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<v Speaker 1>for children matters, and so you should be questioning everything,

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<v Speaker 1>not just because that's the way it's done on social media,

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<v Speaker 1>not because that's the way mom and dad did it.

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<v Speaker 1>But am I thinking through this from a biblical worldview?

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<v Speaker 1>So the you know, the heart of man plans his way,

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<v Speaker 1>but the Lord establishes his steps, the Bible says, So

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<v Speaker 1>that doesn't mean that we don't plan just because the

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<v Speaker 1>Lord establishes steps. Or you could say another proverb, the

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<v Speaker 1>horse is made ready for the day of battle, but

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<v Speaker 1>the victory belongs to the Lord. That doesn't mean because

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<v Speaker 1>the victory belongs to the Lord. And because he establishes

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<v Speaker 1>our steps doesn't mean we don't plan our way, And

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't mean we don't prepare the horse for the

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<v Speaker 1>day of battle. So if you're planning on having children, great,

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<v Speaker 1>If you plan on separating it out due to finances

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<v Speaker 1>or which I think is a great point, you make

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<v Speaker 1>giving enough attention to each child. I don't think there's

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<v Speaker 1>anything wrong with that, but you're also not The victory

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<v Speaker 1>is not up to you, and the steps that you

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<v Speaker 1>take is ultimately not up to you. If you're giving

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<v Speaker 1>all that up to a sovereign God and going Lord.

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<v Speaker 1>If it was up to me, I would have children

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<v Speaker 1>staggered every two years. But Lord is not up to me.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm gonna plan like it is up to me.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm gonna all always know and acknowledge you are

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<v Speaker 1>behind all of it, in your sovereignty, in your purpose.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think there's anything wrong with that. And so

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<v Speaker 1>when it comes to birth control, I don't think there's

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<v Speaker 1>anything wrong. And there would be a gray line if

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<v Speaker 1>I started to name different kinds of contraceptives, there would

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<v Speaker 1>be a gray line on what is biblical or not.

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<v Speaker 1>For instance, the Catholics have long practiced the I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know the word. What's the feminine calendar? You know when

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<v Speaker 1>girls have a cycle, sure, and they have a calendar.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what the name is Catholics. Catholics know

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<v Speaker 1>this that there's a calendar and the woman's cycle is

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<v Speaker 1>on the calendar, and they could literally say we're safe

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<v Speaker 1>to have intercourse during these days and these days. This

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<v Speaker 1>is because Catholics essentially, hey forgive me, I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>a lot about this, but they don't believe in contraceptive, right. So,

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<v Speaker 1>but in following the calendar, that is a contra that is,

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<v Speaker 1>it is a form of s. That's where I'm talking

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<v Speaker 1>about the gray line is. So we're talking about condoms here,

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<v Speaker 1>we're talking about following a calendar. I think there's a

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<v Speaker 1>gray line. Now, you're a lot less likely with the condom,

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<v Speaker 1>with that contraceptive than you are with an accident with

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<v Speaker 1>the calendar. But but it's still a gray line here.

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<v Speaker 1>Here's where I'm gonna draw This is where this is

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<v Speaker 1>where I draw the line. The line is the what

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<v Speaker 1>do you call it? A border fashions? What do you

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<v Speaker 1>call that? What's that word that? The there's pills that

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<v Speaker 1>are that are cell killing plan B a border of fashions?

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<v Speaker 1>I think so something like that after you.

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<v Speaker 2>After you would have sex, you would take a pill

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<v Speaker 2>to basically kill whatever may have happened here.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, So that that's where there's a hard line there

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<v Speaker 1>For me. I'm not gonna come down on you and say, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>you and your wife in your in your practical planning,

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<v Speaker 1>should never use this form of contraception unless it is

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<v Speaker 1>a board of fashion. I think that's the word. I'm sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, but this is a cell killing poison.

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<v Speaker 1>I say, do not do that. I am personally against

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<v Speaker 1>tying tubes. I'm personally against what's the other sectory, the sectomy.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I think someone could make a biblical argument

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<v Speaker 1>against me, and I would be I could change my

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<v Speaker 1>stance on that so that this is not like, this

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<v Speaker 1>is not black and white. But but here's my point.

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<v Speaker 1>Here's my point of everything I'm saying. I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>very important as a family, as a as a you're

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<v Speaker 1>you're not married yet, you're getting married in September. All

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<v Speaker 1>these are great conversations to have before you're married and

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<v Speaker 1>before she has her first baby. Great conversations. Uh, conversations

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<v Speaker 1>about adoption are great conversations to have. And so as

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<v Speaker 1>long as you're walking through it, you're praying through it. Lord.

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<v Speaker 1>We we know that you say we plan our away,

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<v Speaker 1>but you establish our steps. And so Lord, we're going

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<v Speaker 1>to plan on staggering two years between babies. We're going

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<v Speaker 1>to plan on using using a form of contraceptive. So

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<v Speaker 1>that we could we could uh plan this out. But Lord,

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<v Speaker 1>will you crush this idea? If this is wrong or

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<v Speaker 1>if this is not within your will? Were you make

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<v Speaker 1>sanctify us in a way that just makes us so

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<v Speaker 1>uneasy and so uncomfortable with this. And you're in wise counsel,

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<v Speaker 1>You're in your church. You're in your small groups, so

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<v Speaker 1>your your your gatherings, you're with your pastor or your elders,

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<v Speaker 1>however you call it in your church, and you're you're

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<v Speaker 1>talking through this with them and saying where do we

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<v Speaker 1>draw the line on birth control? And your church may

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<v Speaker 1>have some kind of established idea of this. And if

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<v Speaker 1>you love the church and they're a they're they're a

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<v Speaker 1>healthy church and they have a certain encouragement and they

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<v Speaker 1>probably do on birth control, go with that. Not what

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<v Speaker 1>I say on this podcast. But the important thing and

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<v Speaker 1>the point is you're thinking through this with the biblical worldview,

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<v Speaker 1>and God will honor that as long as he gets

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<v Speaker 1>he gets the glory at the end, and you recognize

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<v Speaker 1>his sovereignty in it.

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<v Speaker 2>I think the planning is wise. To not plan is reckless.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah you know, yeah, yeah, yeah, So that your point is,

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<v Speaker 1>let's just not not the Lord brings babies, so let's

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<v Speaker 1>just not worry about it at all. That's the opposite

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<v Speaker 1>end of the spectrum. And I don't think that's wise either.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, right, And then you know, we do see that

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<v Speaker 2>where people just don't care. They're just out for themselves,

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<v Speaker 2>and you know, and they end up with babies that

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<v Speaker 2>were unplanned and they have to change change things in

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<v Speaker 2>their life. Not always a bad thing, obviously, but to

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<v Speaker 2>not if you're in a healthy relationship, you're getting married,

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<v Speaker 2>you're talking about having this conversation, you're planning and thinking

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<v Speaker 2>through stuff, just already on the right track.

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<v Speaker 1>Yep. If you want to get a hold of me,

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<v Speaker 1>go to cameo dot com slash granger Smith and I

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<v Speaker 1>could send you a video message made right here on

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<v Speaker 1>my phone whatever you want me to say, Happy birthday,

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<v Speaker 1>happy anniversary. It's a great way for you and I

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<v Speaker 1>to stay in contact and to get someone a gift

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<v Speaker 1>that might seem to have everything. Hey, get him a

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<v Speaker 1>gift at cameo dot com slash Grangersmith. Okay, let's get

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<v Speaker 1>into this next question. If you have a question for me,

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<v Speaker 1>by the way, email podcast at grangersmith dot com and

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<v Speaker 1>the next question here, I just got off an airplane.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why I have an airplane voice. Is that a thing?

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<v Speaker 1>Have you heard people say that airplane voice?

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<v Speaker 2>But it's also I mean, you're now in the business

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<v Speaker 2>of speaking for a living. This is what it's either

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<v Speaker 2>in front of a front of a crowd, you know, congregation,

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<v Speaker 2>what have you. It's here on the podcast, or it's

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<v Speaker 2>on after midnight mornings with Granger, all of it. That's

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<v Speaker 2>what you do now, So this is to be expected.

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<v Speaker 1>All I do is talk, and that just leaves it

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<v Speaker 1>all in the hands of the Lord, because if the

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<v Speaker 1>Lord wants to shut me up, if he wants to

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<v Speaker 1>shut down everything I do, he just stops my voice

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<v Speaker 1>and voice and I am done seeing music.

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<v Speaker 2>You still play guitar?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, I am done if the Lord decides to

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<v Speaker 1>ship my voice off.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>The next question comes from Brendan. It says, Grandeur, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a longtime fan of country music, even some of your stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh thanks. I'm not the poster child for Christianity, but

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<v Speaker 1>one thing that I've tried to do is watch my language,

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<v Speaker 1>especially when in a crowd of people who don't. I

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<v Speaker 1>figure it's an easy thing to do, and sometimes in

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<v Speaker 1>the room might notice my conviction, and someone in the

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<v Speaker 1>room might notice my conviction and find a similar one

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<v Speaker 1>within themselves, or at least see that the profanity is

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<v Speaker 1>not adding anything to the conversation. Where I've been finding

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<v Speaker 1>an issue is when I'm working on the farm, often alone,

0:24:51.160 --> 0:24:54.959
<v Speaker 1>and I, for example, drop something on my foot. The

0:24:55.000 --> 0:24:58.760
<v Speaker 1>profanity slips out before I can even think to myself,

0:24:59.359 --> 0:25:03.520
<v Speaker 1>don't say that those words in the moment bother me.

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<v Speaker 1>So do you have any advice for a person who

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<v Speaker 1>can control cussing in a crowd but the words are

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<v Speaker 1>enough on the tip of the tongue that they come

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<v Speaker 1>out later, or a mindset you took when you began

0:25:17.640 --> 0:25:22.040
<v Speaker 1>seeing the issue with profanity that helped you. And does

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<v Speaker 1>this mean I can't listen to City Boy Stuck? That's

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<v Speaker 1>part of joke. I listened to a lot of podcasts

0:25:27.560 --> 0:25:30.560
<v Speaker 1>when driving. When I climb into the tractor, yours is

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<v Speaker 1>the first one I always choose. It takes the relaxation

0:25:33.680 --> 0:25:36.360
<v Speaker 1>of the tractor work and combines it with great reflection.

0:25:36.560 --> 0:25:40.760
<v Speaker 1>Keep it coming, Brendan See from Kansas, Hey, Brendan, Thanks buddy.

0:25:40.960 --> 0:25:44.960
<v Speaker 1>I appreciate the encouragement to me, and I appreciate the question.

0:25:45.000 --> 0:25:48.480
<v Speaker 1>I think it's a good question. And I also you

0:25:48.520 --> 0:25:50.399
<v Speaker 1>know what I like to say, I like to see

0:25:50.640 --> 0:25:57.320
<v Speaker 1>is when you say I'm not the poster child for Christianity. Same, yeah, same,

0:25:57.720 --> 0:26:01.680
<v Speaker 1>And I think that should always be our heart position,

0:26:01.800 --> 0:26:05.920
<v Speaker 1>the greed. It's like, Lord, I know what you ask

0:26:06.040 --> 0:26:09.199
<v Speaker 1>from me, and I see it in your word, and

0:26:09.280 --> 0:26:13.359
<v Speaker 1>yet again I have not lived up to your commands,

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<v Speaker 1>to the obedience that you have asked from me as

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<v Speaker 1>a result of the grace that you've given me through

0:26:20.240 --> 0:26:25.080
<v Speaker 1>your son. So amen, I'm not either the poster child

0:26:25.119 --> 0:26:28.240
<v Speaker 1>for Christianity. And I think that's a good heart position

0:26:28.280 --> 0:26:31.600
<v Speaker 1>for the rest of our lives. Brother, And it's also

0:26:31.600 --> 0:26:37.600
<v Speaker 1>a great question. Your question is basically, look, I'm I'm.

0:26:37.680 --> 0:26:40.560
<v Speaker 1>I can pretty much control myself around Mama and Grandma

0:26:41.240 --> 0:26:44.159
<v Speaker 1>when i'm talking, But when I'm out by myself and

0:26:44.200 --> 0:26:46.439
<v Speaker 1>I drop a hair on my foot, out comes the

0:26:46.520 --> 0:26:49.960
<v Speaker 1>F bomb. How do I fix this? And I think

0:26:49.960 --> 0:26:52.760
<v Speaker 1>it's a good question because Jesus was always after the heart.

0:26:53.440 --> 0:26:57.199
<v Speaker 1>He wasn't after the facade, he wasn't after what you

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<v Speaker 1>do in public. He was after all of you, which

0:27:00.280 --> 0:27:02.679
<v Speaker 1>includes what you do in private. In fact, when it

0:27:02.680 --> 0:27:05.800
<v Speaker 1>comes to sin. He was just as interested, if not more,

0:27:05.840 --> 0:27:09.240
<v Speaker 1>interested in what you do in private, because that truly

0:27:09.280 --> 0:27:12.439
<v Speaker 1>reveals who you are. And so I think it's a

0:27:12.480 --> 0:27:17.160
<v Speaker 1>great question to be thinking through. How do I control

0:27:17.320 --> 0:27:24.159
<v Speaker 1>myself in private, not just in public. And it's so

0:27:24.280 --> 0:27:28.000
<v Speaker 1>interesting when people say this is not you, Brendan, but

0:27:28.040 --> 0:27:31.080
<v Speaker 1>when people say things like, man, I just I can't

0:27:31.080 --> 0:27:33.639
<v Speaker 1>control what I say. I am what I am, and

0:27:33.680 --> 0:27:36.280
<v Speaker 1>I always think I have no filter. Yeah, I have

0:27:36.359 --> 0:27:39.560
<v Speaker 1>no filter. And I always think everyone has a filter.

0:27:41.040 --> 0:27:44.760
<v Speaker 1>You wouldn't go to the the superintendent of your school

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<v Speaker 1>district and draw F bombs. You probably wouldn't say it

0:27:47.960 --> 0:27:50.960
<v Speaker 1>around your grandma, depending on your grandma. If you went

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<v Speaker 1>to a cocktail dinner with the governor of your state

0:27:55.680 --> 0:27:58.000
<v Speaker 1>and you got five minutes with him, you probably wouldn't

0:27:58.040 --> 0:28:01.960
<v Speaker 1>drop the F bomb. So everyone has a somewhere. Some

0:28:02.000 --> 0:28:07.080
<v Speaker 1>are smaller than others, but everyone has one. So everyone

0:28:07.160 --> 0:28:11.280
<v Speaker 1>has the same filter in private. Here's here's where I

0:28:11.280 --> 0:28:16.280
<v Speaker 1>want to go, Brendan. Most likely, and I love that

0:28:16.280 --> 0:28:20.520
<v Speaker 1>you're thinking through it. That's great. Most likely in this scenario,

0:28:20.560 --> 0:28:24.040
<v Speaker 1>we need to look at what we're consuming in our lives,

0:28:24.840 --> 0:28:29.160
<v Speaker 1>because if we're consuming rated our movies all the time.

0:28:29.320 --> 0:28:32.840
<v Speaker 1>If we're listening to other podcasts with cussing all the time,

0:28:32.880 --> 0:28:36.080
<v Speaker 1>if we're listening to music with cussing all the time,

0:28:36.680 --> 0:28:39.880
<v Speaker 1>then it is second nature for us and it becomes

0:28:40.360 --> 0:28:43.880
<v Speaker 1>the default. So when we have a facade of filter

0:28:44.240 --> 0:28:47.640
<v Speaker 1>around Grandma and in public, but we what happens in

0:28:47.720 --> 0:28:52.840
<v Speaker 1>private reveals what's really in there. That's also a pretty good,

0:28:53.960 --> 0:28:58.160
<v Speaker 1>pretty good indication of what we're consuming. So I would

0:28:58.200 --> 0:29:05.080
<v Speaker 1>say begin Brendan to eradicate and pay close attention to

0:29:05.200 --> 0:29:08.760
<v Speaker 1>what you're paying attention to, whatever it is in your

0:29:08.800 --> 0:29:12.960
<v Speaker 1>life that you are focused on. Pay attention to what

0:29:13.200 --> 0:29:15.200
<v Speaker 1>that is that you're focused on. What do I mean

0:29:15.200 --> 0:29:18.440
<v Speaker 1>by that? I mean, I mean start taking accountability throughout

0:29:18.440 --> 0:29:22.160
<v Speaker 1>the day. If you're if your way of relaxing is

0:29:22.200 --> 0:29:26.200
<v Speaker 1>watching a movie that's that's got murder and shoot them

0:29:26.240 --> 0:29:30.080
<v Speaker 1>up and sex and adultery and cussing all in the movie,

0:29:30.280 --> 0:29:33.040
<v Speaker 1>and you say that's just the way I relax That

0:29:33.120 --> 0:29:36.240
<v Speaker 1>is penetrating your soul. These are things that are that

0:29:36.280 --> 0:29:41.240
<v Speaker 1>are slowly bleeding into your life, and so eradicate that,

0:29:41.840 --> 0:29:44.560
<v Speaker 1>start to pull out instead of saying, how do I

0:29:44.600 --> 0:29:47.960
<v Speaker 1>control myself in private? Grade er. I say, start to

0:29:48.000 --> 0:29:52.120
<v Speaker 1>control what you're consuming, and I think that that will

0:29:52.120 --> 0:29:56.760
<v Speaker 1>take care of itself. What do you have on this end?

0:29:58.040 --> 0:30:00.560
<v Speaker 2>Pretty elementary and but it goes along with that. And

0:30:00.960 --> 0:30:04.760
<v Speaker 2>I want to have a nice yard. I don't know

0:30:04.880 --> 0:30:07.160
<v Speaker 2>anything about having a nice yard, like I don't know

0:30:07.200 --> 0:30:10.640
<v Speaker 2>all the mechanics of it. And keep it mowed, try

0:30:10.640 --> 0:30:12.720
<v Speaker 2>to keep it green. And then I found out that

0:30:13.560 --> 0:30:15.560
<v Speaker 2>you know, there are weeds in certain parts, but when

0:30:15.560 --> 0:30:19.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm mow, evidently I end up spreading the seed into

0:30:19.560 --> 0:30:22.120
<v Speaker 2>other parts of the yard that didn't have weeds in

0:30:22.160 --> 0:30:24.480
<v Speaker 2>it before. And then I'm trying to battle both of them, right,

0:30:24.920 --> 0:30:26.880
<v Speaker 2>And that's kind of how I see and how it's

0:30:26.880 --> 0:30:29.239
<v Speaker 2>I feel it's been in my life with cursing. Just

0:30:29.280 --> 0:30:32.640
<v Speaker 2>like you said, if you don't eradicate it in one

0:30:32.720 --> 0:30:36.440
<v Speaker 2>area what you listen to and what you consume, it's

0:30:36.480 --> 0:30:38.800
<v Speaker 2>going to spread to other parts of your life. And

0:30:38.840 --> 0:30:43.400
<v Speaker 2>if it becomes I mean, he's concerned with it when

0:30:43.480 --> 0:30:46.400
<v Speaker 2>he's when he drops a hammer. That's really cool that

0:30:46.480 --> 0:30:49.520
<v Speaker 2>you're like that, because if you weren't concerned with it,

0:30:49.560 --> 0:30:53.040
<v Speaker 2>then you'll just eventually not be concerned with it when

0:30:53.080 --> 0:30:55.760
<v Speaker 2>you're with friends and then it becomes normal there and

0:30:55.760 --> 0:30:57.760
<v Speaker 2>then you won't really be concerned with it when you're

0:30:57.960 --> 0:31:00.720
<v Speaker 2>with your parents or in a place where you don't

0:31:00.800 --> 0:31:02.920
<v Speaker 2>And then you say it and you realize you shouldn't

0:31:02.960 --> 0:31:05.320
<v Speaker 2>have said something in that instance or in that in

0:31:05.400 --> 0:31:08.640
<v Speaker 2>that uh, in that atmosphere, and you're like, where how

0:31:08.680 --> 0:31:10.920
<v Speaker 2>did this come about? Well, go back to how you

0:31:10.960 --> 0:31:14.560
<v Speaker 2>were feeling no longer feeling convicted when you said it alone,

0:31:14.800 --> 0:31:17.200
<v Speaker 2>you know, yeah, And it just continues to spread throughout

0:31:17.240 --> 0:31:20.320
<v Speaker 2>your life if you let it and you don't. It's

0:31:20.360 --> 0:31:23.560
<v Speaker 2>a weed, you know, yeah, And you don't take care

0:31:23.600 --> 0:31:26.360
<v Speaker 2>of it when it's small, it starts taking root in

0:31:26.360 --> 0:31:27.320
<v Speaker 2>other parts of your life.

0:31:27.560 --> 0:31:30.920
<v Speaker 1>And Brennan, I've been there. I know exactly. That's that was.

0:31:31.480 --> 0:31:33.719
<v Speaker 1>That was a level of sanctification with me where I

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<v Speaker 1>was frustrated with things that came out of my mouth

0:31:35.960 --> 0:31:39.120
<v Speaker 1>when I it was a reflex, so a knee jerk.

0:31:39.400 --> 0:31:42.880
<v Speaker 2>That's a conversation, you know. I said, I didn't want

0:31:42.880 --> 0:31:45.760
<v Speaker 2>to listen. I like these podcasts, but I wanted to

0:31:45.800 --> 0:31:48.080
<v Speaker 2>start weeding these out because the language and them were

0:31:48.120 --> 0:31:51.040
<v Speaker 2>just awful. It was guy a podcast, so guys just

0:31:51.040 --> 0:31:52.960
<v Speaker 2>cuss around each other. Well, guys don't have to cuss

0:31:52.960 --> 0:31:55.400
<v Speaker 2>around each other like that's it doesn't have to be

0:31:55.440 --> 0:31:56.120
<v Speaker 2>part of your life.

0:31:56.600 --> 0:32:00.720
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, absolutely, And and to the end to the question,

0:32:00.840 --> 0:32:02.840
<v Speaker 1>does this mean I can't listen to City Boy Stuck?

0:32:03.360 --> 0:32:04.320
<v Speaker 1>That's part of what I'm saying.

0:32:04.440 --> 0:32:06.480
<v Speaker 2>The most important question right there's yeah.

0:32:06.480 --> 0:32:09.760
<v Speaker 1>I mean literally, that's what I'm saying. You're gonna hear,

0:32:09.960 --> 0:32:12.000
<v Speaker 1>you know, eventually I put that I will put out

0:32:12.040 --> 0:32:16.000
<v Speaker 1>a live record for the just the last concert that

0:32:16.040 --> 0:32:19.600
<v Speaker 1>I did, and you'll hear if there ever was a

0:32:19.640 --> 0:32:22.880
<v Speaker 1>cuss word, a D word, or an H word, all

0:32:22.920 --> 0:32:32.440
<v Speaker 1>of those were turned into heck heck no on is that?

0:32:32.520 --> 0:32:35.320
<v Speaker 1>Yeah that city boy stuck? Yeah, city boy stuck is

0:32:35.320 --> 0:32:39.400
<v Speaker 1>heck no on the live record, And even that that

0:32:39.560 --> 0:32:41.680
<v Speaker 1>was a form of sanctification for me to get there.

0:32:41.960 --> 0:32:44.160
<v Speaker 1>And then even beyond that, it's like I shouldn't even

0:32:44.200 --> 0:32:47.880
<v Speaker 1>say that, and so so yeah, it depends on what

0:32:47.880 --> 0:32:51.560
<v Speaker 1>you're consuming, what you're surrounding yourself with. And I'm sorry

0:32:51.600 --> 0:32:54.760
<v Speaker 1>I was that influence. I was a bad influence on

0:32:54.840 --> 0:32:58.040
<v Speaker 1>people as Earl Devils Junior and with the music, So

0:32:59.520 --> 0:33:02.360
<v Speaker 1>forgive me of that. I'm I'm trying to eradicate that

0:33:02.400 --> 0:33:03.360
<v Speaker 1>out of my life as well.

0:33:03.440 --> 0:33:06.000
<v Speaker 2>They're close to the end of your year tour. When

0:33:06.040 --> 0:33:08.200
<v Speaker 2>I would go out with you, I would like what

0:33:08.240 --> 0:33:10.200
<v Speaker 2>you have on right now in ears. I would have

0:33:10.320 --> 0:33:14.840
<v Speaker 2>those in while I was shooting photos whatever I was doing,

0:33:15.080 --> 0:33:18.400
<v Speaker 2>and I would because when you have them thata close

0:33:18.400 --> 0:33:21.719
<v Speaker 2>to your ear drum, you hear the full word, not

0:33:21.760 --> 0:33:24.280
<v Speaker 2>what you are used to singing in the song. And

0:33:24.360 --> 0:33:27.080
<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh, he's changing the words the songs. Yeah, yeah,

0:33:27.120 --> 0:33:29.800
<v Speaker 2>there's a change. And he was a started notice on that.

0:33:29.880 --> 0:33:34.960
<v Speaker 1>Then yeah. Next question comes from Travis says, Hey, hope

0:33:35.000 --> 0:33:36.480
<v Speaker 1>you're having I hope it's going I hope your day

0:33:36.560 --> 0:33:38.920
<v Speaker 1>is going well. Sorry. I found your podcast a few

0:33:38.960 --> 0:33:41.680
<v Speaker 1>months ago during some long hours at work, and it

0:33:41.840 --> 0:33:45.080
<v Speaker 1>made me think about God, and that makes me think

0:33:45.080 --> 0:33:49.360
<v Speaker 1>about my old roommate. I'm glad, first of all. On

0:33:49.360 --> 0:33:52.200
<v Speaker 1>the side note, I'm glad that I'll make you think

0:33:52.200 --> 0:33:56.600
<v Speaker 1>of God. Sorry airplane voice. Have I said that yet?

0:33:57.120 --> 0:34:00.840
<v Speaker 1>I found his listing on Facebook, but of looking for

0:34:00.920 --> 0:34:03.400
<v Speaker 1>a renter in a room I had to move for

0:34:03.480 --> 0:34:06.800
<v Speaker 1>school and couldn't find anything I could afford. I moved

0:34:06.800 --> 0:34:08.440
<v Speaker 1>in with him and had a great time with him

0:34:08.440 --> 0:34:12.080
<v Speaker 1>and his fiance. I proposed to my now wife in

0:34:12.120 --> 0:34:14.160
<v Speaker 1>that house and then moved out a few months later.

0:34:14.640 --> 0:34:16.879
<v Speaker 1>We would hang out from time to time. Then one

0:34:16.960 --> 0:34:20.160
<v Speaker 1>Thursday in December, we were supposed to hang out. I

0:34:20.200 --> 0:34:23.000
<v Speaker 1>had a garage with a dartboard. We started a game,

0:34:23.480 --> 0:34:26.200
<v Speaker 1>a game we never got to finish. I texted him

0:34:26.239 --> 0:34:27.960
<v Speaker 1>a few times that day to make sure he was

0:34:28.000 --> 0:34:31.160
<v Speaker 1>still up to hang out. No response. A few hours later,

0:34:31.200 --> 0:34:33.920
<v Speaker 1>he texted or so I thought it was his wife.

0:34:34.520 --> 0:34:38.560
<v Speaker 1>He had taken his life that day. Around one year,

0:34:38.719 --> 0:34:41.520
<v Speaker 1>around the one year mark, I sent a Facebook message

0:34:41.520 --> 0:34:45.080
<v Speaker 1>to his widow, but it never went through. My wife

0:34:45.120 --> 0:34:47.720
<v Speaker 1>was able to message her just fine. I'm not sure

0:34:48.120 --> 0:34:51.239
<v Speaker 1>if this is a message from God or not. He

0:34:51.280 --> 0:34:54.319
<v Speaker 1>was a very religious person. Christmas was his favorite time

0:34:54.320 --> 0:34:57.399
<v Speaker 1>of year. Now for my question, should I keep trying

0:34:57.480 --> 0:34:59.800
<v Speaker 1>to reach out to the widow of my friend or

0:35:00.120 --> 0:35:05.000
<v Speaker 1>leave it? Since since the first time the message didn't

0:35:05.040 --> 0:35:07.760
<v Speaker 1>go through, I've driven by the house a few times

0:35:08.440 --> 0:35:11.359
<v Speaker 1>and it doesn't look to be kept up. I think

0:35:11.400 --> 0:35:15.080
<v Speaker 1>she moved back to her parents' house. They are all

0:35:15.120 --> 0:35:17.640
<v Speaker 1>of us are in our early twenties. Thanks in advanced

0:35:17.640 --> 0:35:23.840
<v Speaker 1>Travis okay, tough situation, Travis, let me kind of dive in.

0:35:23.840 --> 0:35:26.839
<v Speaker 1>There's this is multi layered, so let me dive in

0:35:27.520 --> 0:35:32.120
<v Speaker 1>as if we're sitting in the caboat truck. I'm gonna

0:35:32.120 --> 0:35:35.680
<v Speaker 1>start with you found my podcast a few months ago

0:35:36.480 --> 0:35:39.880
<v Speaker 1>and it made you think about God. That's interesting to me.

0:35:40.080 --> 0:35:46.320
<v Speaker 1>Let's come back to it. Secondly, you got a buddy

0:35:46.360 --> 0:35:53.439
<v Speaker 1>from Facebook because of the room for rent. It wasn't

0:35:53.480 --> 0:35:56.439
<v Speaker 1>a great buddy, it was just a good acquaintance. Right.

0:35:57.320 --> 0:35:58.800
<v Speaker 2>Sounds like they did a lot of life together.

0:35:58.880 --> 0:36:04.680
<v Speaker 1>They did some life together. Yeah. The message to the

0:36:04.719 --> 0:36:07.759
<v Speaker 1>widow that didn't go through, is this a message from

0:36:07.760 --> 0:36:10.960
<v Speaker 1>God or No? God's not going to communicate through a

0:36:11.000 --> 0:36:16.719
<v Speaker 1>failed Facebook message. God is sovereign over everything, including Facebook messages.

0:36:17.120 --> 0:36:18.799
<v Speaker 1>So if God didn't want the message to go through,

0:36:18.840 --> 0:36:21.560
<v Speaker 1>he will do it or not. That's not a question.

0:36:21.640 --> 0:36:23.560
<v Speaker 1>The question is was God trying to send you a

0:36:23.600 --> 0:36:26.600
<v Speaker 1>cryptic message through the mess through the Facebook message not

0:36:26.640 --> 0:36:29.399
<v Speaker 1>going through that? No, the Bible doesn't speak in terms

0:36:29.440 --> 0:36:32.680
<v Speaker 1>of God knowing us in that way or speaking to

0:36:32.760 --> 0:36:35.600
<v Speaker 1>us that way. He speaks to us in one way,

0:36:35.960 --> 0:36:38.840
<v Speaker 1>and that is through the Son, the Word of God,

0:36:39.040 --> 0:36:43.319
<v Speaker 1>the Son made flesh, Jesus through the Bible. We have

0:36:44.320 --> 0:36:48.160
<v Speaker 1>sixty six books God Inspired, written by over forty different

0:36:48.200 --> 0:36:51.840
<v Speaker 1>authors over the course of fifteen hundred years, revealing the

0:36:51.880 --> 0:36:54.120
<v Speaker 1>truth of who God is and how He has revealed

0:36:54.200 --> 0:36:58.000
<v Speaker 1>himself to us to reconcile us to himself, to bring

0:36:58.120 --> 0:37:02.319
<v Speaker 1>us to himself through his on Jesus. That's the way

0:37:02.320 --> 0:37:05.800
<v Speaker 1>he communicates to you, not through a failed Facebook message.

0:37:05.840 --> 0:37:08.320
<v Speaker 1>That's a cryptic. Should I know if this is God

0:37:08.480 --> 0:37:13.120
<v Speaker 1>trying to say something like we're in the movie American Treasure.

0:37:13.120 --> 0:37:21.880
<v Speaker 1>What's that movie treasure? The National Treasure? It's not National Treasure.

0:37:22.000 --> 0:37:22.920
<v Speaker 2>Sorry, I wasn't help there.

0:37:24.200 --> 0:37:27.080
<v Speaker 1>Okay, So we've established that, and then let's look into

0:37:28.560 --> 0:37:31.520
<v Speaker 1>he was a very religious person. Christmas was his famous

0:37:31.840 --> 0:37:37.000
<v Speaker 1>favorite time of year. That's not really part of this topic.

0:37:37.440 --> 0:37:40.000
<v Speaker 1>I'll lay off that. Should you keep reaching out to

0:37:40.040 --> 0:37:43.280
<v Speaker 1>the widow or be very careful because she's a widow,

0:37:43.400 --> 0:37:47.239
<v Speaker 1>she's single, and you're married, so you have to be

0:37:47.280 --> 0:37:50.280
<v Speaker 1>careful with that dynamic. I love that she is reaching

0:37:50.320 --> 0:37:53.239
<v Speaker 1>your wife is reaching out. It's a great thing, but

0:37:53.280 --> 0:37:55.839
<v Speaker 1>you don't want to send them a signal that you

0:37:55.880 --> 0:38:00.719
<v Speaker 1>are reaching out privately to a widow. That is vulnerable

0:38:01.320 --> 0:38:03.879
<v Speaker 1>to a very nice man that just wants to help.

0:38:04.320 --> 0:38:08.359
<v Speaker 1>That's a bad situation. Let's stay clear of that. You've

0:38:08.400 --> 0:38:09.920
<v Speaker 1>been up by the house, it looks like it needs

0:38:09.960 --> 0:38:12.319
<v Speaker 1>to be kept up. Work through your wife in that.

0:38:12.440 --> 0:38:13.000
<v Speaker 2>It's great.

0:38:13.160 --> 0:38:16.360
<v Speaker 1>It's a biblical command, of course to take care of

0:38:16.440 --> 0:38:19.640
<v Speaker 1>widows and orphans. But make sure you're doing this in

0:38:19.680 --> 0:38:23.719
<v Speaker 1>a responsible way. I e. Through your wife and have

0:38:23.880 --> 0:38:26.200
<v Speaker 1>her reach out and say, hey, I saw that the

0:38:26.560 --> 0:38:29.719
<v Speaker 1>house has some weeds. Do you mind if I send

0:38:29.719 --> 0:38:31.319
<v Speaker 1>my husband over there. He's got a weed eater and

0:38:31.800 --> 0:38:34.560
<v Speaker 1>he'd be happy to take care of it. And that way,

0:38:34.600 --> 0:38:39.560
<v Speaker 1>you're protecting your own marriage through a potential temptation as

0:38:39.560 --> 0:38:41.120
<v Speaker 1>simple as that. You don't have to go any further

0:38:41.160 --> 0:38:45.120
<v Speaker 1>than that. And she's in her early twenties, most likely

0:38:45.160 --> 0:38:48.120
<v Speaker 1>she will be remarried. I don't say that with trying

0:38:48.160 --> 0:38:52.960
<v Speaker 1>to be without sensitivity to the situation, but this typically

0:38:53.080 --> 0:38:55.279
<v Speaker 1>typically what's going to happen is she'll re marry. As

0:38:55.320 --> 0:38:59.920
<v Speaker 1>difficult as this situation is, and she's going to be okay,

0:39:02.080 --> 0:39:05.880
<v Speaker 1>very very I mean unbelievably difficult situations. So I'm not

0:39:06.080 --> 0:39:10.480
<v Speaker 1>trying to be insensitive, but this is different. If she's

0:39:11.320 --> 0:39:14.040
<v Speaker 1>she's seventy years old and she's a widow and she

0:39:14.120 --> 0:39:16.520
<v Speaker 1>doesn't have a family, and she doesn't have That's when

0:39:16.520 --> 0:39:18.640
<v Speaker 1>you go over and you go, ma'am, I'd like to

0:39:19.160 --> 0:39:20.640
<v Speaker 1>like to start doing your grass, to take care of

0:39:20.680 --> 0:39:23.120
<v Speaker 1>your grass, if that's okay, And maybe I can come

0:39:23.120 --> 0:39:25.400
<v Speaker 1>and clean some of this stuff off your front porch.

0:39:26.440 --> 0:39:29.719
<v Speaker 1>That's a different situation then she's early twenties, yes, and

0:39:29.760 --> 0:39:33.960
<v Speaker 1>you're going, is there anything I can help you with? Right? Okay? Yeah,

0:39:34.000 --> 0:39:37.880
<v Speaker 1>I agreed. I think the most important part of this

0:39:38.040 --> 0:39:42.320
<v Speaker 1>entire email is the first sentence. I found her podcast

0:39:42.360 --> 0:39:45.960
<v Speaker 1>a few months ago, and it made me think about God.

0:39:46.800 --> 0:39:50.200
<v Speaker 1>I think, if anything, Travis, I want to use this

0:39:50.239 --> 0:39:56.000
<v Speaker 1>as an opportunity, not for the grieving widow, not for

0:39:56.120 --> 0:40:00.799
<v Speaker 1>the guilt that you may have. There's always a weird

0:40:00.800 --> 0:40:04.400
<v Speaker 1>guilt around suicide. In fact, yesterday I was speaking at

0:40:04.400 --> 0:40:07.160
<v Speaker 1>a church and a man came up to me afterward

0:40:07.800 --> 0:40:11.879
<v Speaker 1>and he said that his dad just committed suicide two

0:40:11.920 --> 0:40:17.319
<v Speaker 1>months ago. And he said, I'm having trouble grieving and

0:40:17.360 --> 0:40:22.640
<v Speaker 1>I don't know why, and I'm no grief book seems

0:40:22.680 --> 0:40:25.760
<v Speaker 1>to matter to me, No advice anyone gives me seems

0:40:25.760 --> 0:40:28.400
<v Speaker 1>to matter to me, And I said, I said, that's

0:40:28.440 --> 0:40:32.320
<v Speaker 1>because suicide it carries a different weight to it, because

0:40:32.360 --> 0:40:35.640
<v Speaker 1>it carries a sinister guilt into all the people that

0:40:35.719 --> 0:40:39.960
<v Speaker 1>knew that person, thinking could I have done more? It's

0:40:40.000 --> 0:40:42.840
<v Speaker 1>not like a cancer, it's not like a heart attack,

0:40:43.200 --> 0:40:45.840
<v Speaker 1>it's not like a car accident. This is something that

0:40:46.000 --> 0:40:51.359
<v Speaker 1>everyone around the suicide starts questioning themselves. Oh, you think

0:40:51.400 --> 0:40:53.560
<v Speaker 1>about the last conversation you had, You think about the

0:40:53.640 --> 0:40:55.880
<v Speaker 1>last time you're with him? Should think about it? Should

0:40:55.920 --> 0:40:58.399
<v Speaker 1>I see have seen it? Should I have reported it?

0:40:58.480 --> 0:41:01.400
<v Speaker 1>Should I have done more? Everyone thinks that that's different

0:41:01.440 --> 0:41:06.320
<v Speaker 1>than cancer. So, Travis, this is a little bit of

0:41:06.360 --> 0:41:09.879
<v Speaker 1>what's going on with you. You're thinking, Man, that dart game

0:41:11.920 --> 0:41:14.480
<v Speaker 1>I texted him no response? Should I have texted him

0:41:14.480 --> 0:41:17.680
<v Speaker 1>an hour earlier? Should I have scheduled that dark game

0:41:17.880 --> 0:41:21.080
<v Speaker 1>the day before? If I had, would this have been different?

0:41:21.760 --> 0:41:25.680
<v Speaker 1>So recognize that this is part of your struggle and

0:41:26.719 --> 0:41:27.520
<v Speaker 1>go ahead, Well.

0:41:27.680 --> 0:41:30.360
<v Speaker 2>No, you've already touched on it. But man, that you

0:41:30.520 --> 0:41:34.279
<v Speaker 2>saying that's part of your struggle to then latch onto

0:41:34.320 --> 0:41:37.240
<v Speaker 2>someone of the opposite sex, to go, oh, we're struggling

0:41:37.320 --> 0:41:41.520
<v Speaker 2>with the same thing. Is very, very, very dangerous. So

0:41:41.600 --> 0:41:43.040
<v Speaker 2>if you think that there was a man, and I

0:41:43.120 --> 0:41:44.480
<v Speaker 2>know there's not, but if you think there was a

0:41:44.480 --> 0:41:48.040
<v Speaker 2>message from God and not getting that that message through

0:41:48.080 --> 0:41:50.640
<v Speaker 2>to her on Facebook, I would just consider it protection

0:41:50.840 --> 0:41:51.279
<v Speaker 2>and move on.

0:41:52.920 --> 0:41:53.440
<v Speaker 1>That's great.

0:41:53.960 --> 0:41:57.360
<v Speaker 2>Just you were protected. You made a rash decision and

0:41:57.400 --> 0:42:00.640
<v Speaker 2>shot her a private message that was protection that it

0:42:00.680 --> 0:42:01.360
<v Speaker 2>didn't go through.

0:42:01.840 --> 0:42:04.960
<v Speaker 1>I think that's great. I think it's great. It's not

0:42:05.360 --> 0:42:08.360
<v Speaker 1>there's a difference between God protecting you and God sending

0:42:08.360 --> 0:42:11.440
<v Speaker 1>you a crypt a cryptic message through the message not

0:42:11.480 --> 0:42:15.080
<v Speaker 1>going through like a man saying let it go. And

0:42:15.120 --> 0:42:18.759
<v Speaker 1>then let's start thinking about why my podcast makes you

0:42:18.800 --> 0:42:23.400
<v Speaker 1>think about God. And I'm very grateful that the Lord

0:42:23.719 --> 0:42:27.600
<v Speaker 1>could possibly use this podcast for someone to so that

0:42:27.719 --> 0:42:31.719
<v Speaker 1>he might draw someone to himself. If I'm that if

0:42:31.719 --> 0:42:34.400
<v Speaker 1>this podcast the Lord uses this podcast as a conduit

0:42:34.440 --> 0:42:39.640
<v Speaker 1>for that man, that's amazing and so encouraging. But I

0:42:40.239 --> 0:42:44.880
<v Speaker 1>want to follow up on that and say, Travis, I

0:42:44.960 --> 0:42:50.400
<v Speaker 1>would I would think about how God does reveal himself

0:42:50.520 --> 0:42:53.239
<v Speaker 1>because if you're if you're open to the consideration that

0:42:53.320 --> 0:42:57.360
<v Speaker 1>God might message you, send a cryptic message through Facebook

0:42:57.360 --> 0:43:02.880
<v Speaker 1>to you, I would consider what Christians know to be

0:43:02.960 --> 0:43:06.319
<v Speaker 1>true in the way that God has revealed himself, and

0:43:06.320 --> 0:43:09.080
<v Speaker 1>that is through the Bible. And we spoke a little

0:43:09.080 --> 0:43:11.560
<v Speaker 1>bit about that. But then I would I would consider

0:43:11.719 --> 0:43:15.120
<v Speaker 1>why God has revealed himself in the Bible, and what

0:43:15.160 --> 0:43:17.960
<v Speaker 1>the message of that Bible is. And truly the message

0:43:17.960 --> 0:43:21.920
<v Speaker 1>of that Bible is that you cannot be good enough

0:43:21.960 --> 0:43:26.080
<v Speaker 1>for Him. That you could, you could not make up

0:43:26.160 --> 0:43:31.399
<v Speaker 1>for the sin that has separated you from God, which

0:43:31.440 --> 0:43:35.480
<v Speaker 1>is a rebellion of God, who created the world and

0:43:35.520 --> 0:43:38.279
<v Speaker 1>it was good, and he created man in his own

0:43:38.280 --> 0:43:42.160
<v Speaker 1>image and it was good. And then man rebelled against

0:43:42.239 --> 0:43:47.080
<v Speaker 1>him in the garden, instantly wanting to be God himself

0:43:47.120 --> 0:43:51.040
<v Speaker 1>in a way, and through that we have inherited that sin,

0:43:51.080 --> 0:43:55.040
<v Speaker 1>and all of us have followed suit with our original

0:43:55.080 --> 0:43:59.080
<v Speaker 1>father Adam. And you could testify this to yourself. I can't.

0:43:59.120 --> 0:44:02.040
<v Speaker 1>You can't at and Travis, you can to. Thinking back

0:44:02.080 --> 0:44:05.759
<v Speaker 1>to have you rebelled against Gott? Have you used yourself

0:44:06.320 --> 0:44:10.319
<v Speaker 1>in a self centered, controlling way where you become your

0:44:10.320 --> 0:44:13.399
<v Speaker 1>own God, in charge of your own salvation, in charge

0:44:13.440 --> 0:44:16.600
<v Speaker 1>of your own destiny. The answer is always to that, yes,

0:44:17.120 --> 0:44:20.000
<v Speaker 1>we all have. And so you think, well, what do

0:44:20.040 --> 0:44:22.080
<v Speaker 1>I do to make up for this? How do I

0:44:22.120 --> 0:44:26.040
<v Speaker 1>fix this problem? And the truth is that that would

0:44:26.040 --> 0:44:30.920
<v Speaker 1>be like a murderer sitting in the courtroom saying, Judge,

0:44:31.520 --> 0:44:35.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm really sorry I murdered. I committed a huge crime,

0:44:36.520 --> 0:44:39.520
<v Speaker 1>and I want to tell you I've learned my lesson

0:44:40.000 --> 0:44:41.759
<v Speaker 1>and I want to do better. How could I do it?

0:44:42.120 --> 0:44:46.920
<v Speaker 1>And the judge says, I don't really care what you

0:44:47.040 --> 0:44:50.040
<v Speaker 1>say about who you are now and that you've changed.

0:44:51.200 --> 0:44:53.640
<v Speaker 1>In order for me to be just, in order for

0:44:53.680 --> 0:44:55.839
<v Speaker 1>me to be a good judge, I have to carry

0:44:55.840 --> 0:44:59.480
<v Speaker 1>out my punishment. And so that's a major problem with humans,

0:44:59.480 --> 0:45:02.479
<v Speaker 1>and that steff to God. But God knowing this, knowing

0:45:02.480 --> 0:45:05.160
<v Speaker 1>that we couldn't make our way to him. The story

0:45:05.160 --> 0:45:08.960
<v Speaker 1>of the Bible literally is that God came to us.

0:45:09.560 --> 0:45:14.720
<v Speaker 1>He condescended himself, the creator of the universe, to become man,

0:45:15.160 --> 0:45:19.040
<v Speaker 1>to come into his own universe that he created, to

0:45:19.160 --> 0:45:24.120
<v Speaker 1>live the perfect life, to be the example of what

0:45:24.280 --> 0:45:28.760
<v Speaker 1>atom should have been, the original atom that failed. God

0:45:29.040 --> 0:45:32.160
<v Speaker 1>comes in the form of man as Jesus to be

0:45:32.280 --> 0:45:35.440
<v Speaker 1>the second atom, to be the perfect one, who then

0:45:35.480 --> 0:45:38.360
<v Speaker 1>went to the cross and died as a sacrifice, the

0:45:38.440 --> 0:45:41.239
<v Speaker 1>ultimate sacrifice of all that punishment I said that the

0:45:41.320 --> 0:45:46.040
<v Speaker 1>judge gives to the murder. Jesus takes that punishment on himself.

0:45:46.640 --> 0:45:49.279
<v Speaker 1>He takes the sin of the world, all of it,

0:45:49.760 --> 0:45:52.640
<v Speaker 1>onto himself from the wrath of God, the punishment that

0:45:52.680 --> 0:45:55.640
<v Speaker 1>the just judge has to still punish. So now back

0:45:55.680 --> 0:45:59.040
<v Speaker 1>to the scenario of the murder, he goes, Judge, what

0:45:59.080 --> 0:46:02.880
<v Speaker 1>can I do? Judge gets a notice and he goes, Actually,

0:46:02.880 --> 0:46:05.000
<v Speaker 1>a man has stepped in your place and taking your

0:46:05.000 --> 0:46:08.480
<v Speaker 1>punishment on himself. So now I'm just to set you free.

0:46:09.200 --> 0:46:11.279
<v Speaker 1>And now that you're free, you live a life of

0:46:11.320 --> 0:46:14.839
<v Speaker 1>gratitude in obedience to the one that sets you free.

0:46:15.200 --> 0:46:17.759
<v Speaker 1>That's what the Bible says Jesus did for us. And

0:46:17.840 --> 0:46:22.080
<v Speaker 1>so I want you to explore this idea that the

0:46:22.080 --> 0:46:25.240
<v Speaker 1>Bible says. And if God communicates with us in this way,

0:46:25.480 --> 0:46:27.080
<v Speaker 1>and there is only one way that he made for

0:46:27.160 --> 0:46:29.759
<v Speaker 1>us to be able to know him and to know

0:46:29.800 --> 0:46:32.000
<v Speaker 1>what he wants, to know what he loves, to know

0:46:32.040 --> 0:46:34.960
<v Speaker 1>what he hates. If there is only one way the Bible,

0:46:35.320 --> 0:46:38.600
<v Speaker 1>then then then there must be a need for you

0:46:38.680 --> 0:46:41.400
<v Speaker 1>to read it like an instruction manual for your own life.

0:46:41.680 --> 0:46:44.000
<v Speaker 1>And then there must be a community called the church

0:46:44.320 --> 0:46:48.239
<v Speaker 1>that could surround you and help carry you through situations

0:46:48.280 --> 0:46:52.360
<v Speaker 1>like this, this Facebook thing, Travis. That's my encouragement to you.

0:46:53.880 --> 0:46:59.040
<v Speaker 1>You have anything to add to that encouragement before. I

0:46:59.120 --> 0:47:02.040
<v Speaker 1>appreciate you guys, all of y'all for emailing and if

0:47:02.080 --> 0:47:03.879
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0:47:04.000 --> 0:47:06.680
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0:47:07.160 --> 0:47:10.560
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