Speaker 1: I think I get this from my dad. But tell
Speaker 1: me if you guys do this. Sometimes I will kid.
Speaker 1: I'll kid with somebody he's a stranger. I'll start kidding
Speaker 1: and I'll start joking around with them, and then sometimes
Speaker 1: they think that I'm serious, And that's the moment where
Speaker 1: you could either continue the joke and say I'm just
Speaker 1: messing with you, or sometimes that moment feels like it
Speaker 1: might be a little too awkward, so you just extend
Speaker 1: the joke a little longer, the lie, and make it
Speaker 1: a little bit more outrageous so that then they go,
Speaker 1: you're kidding, right, But if that doesn't happen, you take
Speaker 1: it a little further and keep making a little bit
Speaker 1: more outrageous, hoping eventually they're going to say, oh, you're joking.
Speaker 1: But sometimes they don't. Sometimes they keep going and by
Speaker 1: then you're so far out there that you cannot turn
Speaker 1: back and say you're kidding, because then you're gonna make
Speaker 1: them think that you're just making fun of them. I've
Speaker 1: had this happen a few times. Then I'm gonna talk
Speaker 1: about one of those times on this podcast and let
Speaker 1: me know comment will if you have had this or
Speaker 1: if you're that kind of person sometimes being a joking
Speaker 1: person backfars on you. So I got my buddy Bernie Calcot,
Speaker 1: one of my favorite guests on this podcast, to answer
Speaker 1: your questions. If you have one, email Granger Smith Podcast
Speaker 1: at gmail dot com. I'd love to hear from you,
Speaker 1: even if it's just a shout out or a question
Speaker 1: about anything. I'm gonna help you with that. Welcome to
Speaker 1: the Granger Smith Podcast. Ye yee roll. The intro did
Speaker 1: change in DC. My tires and school, long line of
Speaker 1: my fool of husband down, going back range your coronage. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that gation. Thanks for having me back. You're back, Bernie's back.
Speaker 1: We're gonna answer some questions. And Bernie is one of
Speaker 1: my favorite people to have with me. In fact, I
Speaker 1: had him last week. And the reason I have Bernie
Speaker 1: helped me answer these questions is because when I have
Speaker 1: a question about life, could be anything, career, family, faith, outdoors,
Speaker 1: it's like it sounds like I'm describing eegee. If I
Speaker 1: have a question, I will call Bernie. I've done it
Speaker 1: for twenty years, So I just figured you guys asked
Speaker 1: me all these questions and it'd be nice to have
Speaker 1: someone that I trust helping me answer them. If you
Speaker 1: have anything, email Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com. Could
Speaker 1: be any kind of subject I have kind of categorized
Speaker 1: some today for the podcast. Happy Monday morning to everyone.
Speaker 1: I'm going to dig in. Yeah, let's do it. So
Speaker 1: last week we answered a bunch of questions and we
Speaker 1: left one that unanswered. That's right. The subject line was
Speaker 1: boyfriend wanting to be in the music industry. M hm.
Speaker 1: So I figured today I'll open this box and see
Speaker 1: what it says. Yeah, says hey Granger. My name is Marissa.
Speaker 1: I'm twenty three years old, currently in Franklin, Tennessee. Oh, Franklin, Tennessee. Yeah,
Speaker 1: my boyfriend is trying to become a drummer and a band.
Speaker 1: He is attending dark Horse Institute. Do you have any
Speaker 1: advice for him? What is the best thing I could
Speaker 1: do to show him my love and support him in
Speaker 1: his dream? I am a mechanic apprentice and financially want
Speaker 1: to let him go full on with his passion without
Speaker 1: spreading himself too thin. He has an opportunity to do
Speaker 1: an internship with dark Horse, but we would need to
Speaker 1: get a job to pay the bills. On top of that,
Speaker 1: I'm not afraid to get a second job to help
Speaker 1: him get there. We're coming up on three years together.
Speaker 1: I honestly want to do whatever needed to take care
Speaker 1: of him. We picked up our whole lives in Colorado,
Speaker 1: and I'm afraid he won't continue following his dream just
Speaker 1: because we may not financially be able to do it.
Speaker 1: How do we find the financial balance with following his
Speaker 1: dreams without either of us draining out? And she says,
Speaker 1: I saw you at Grizzly Rose in Colorado. Keep up
Speaker 1: the good work. Thanks, Marissa Drummer, she say the drummer's name. Okay,
Speaker 1: let's start with this. You're really asking for advice that
Speaker 1: we could only really give to a married couple. And
Speaker 1: it's kind of digging a little deep here, and that's
Speaker 1: kind and I don't want to. I don't want to
Speaker 1: disrespect you in that way at all, or your boyfriend,
Speaker 1: but just being honest, you're asking me to answer financial
Speaker 1: goal oriented questions when you aren't legally married, and so
Speaker 1: it's almost irrelevant. So my first advice to you is
Speaker 1: get that taken care of, because yeah, it sounds like
Speaker 1: you're trying to I mean, yeah, it sounds like you're
Speaker 1: all in on the guy, and he's all in on you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you love him, You obviously love him. That's why you're
Speaker 1: asking all these questions. So go ahead and take care
Speaker 1: of that so that you know, in a court of law.
Speaker 1: First of all, everything I mean what you're all, the
Speaker 1: stuff you're saying, if one of you dies or something happens,
Speaker 1: none of it matters because in the court of law,
Speaker 1: none of it's going to hold together. Yeah. So and
Speaker 1: then it's not your money helping him. It's y'all's money together. Yeah,
Speaker 1: everything is is y'all's together. It also just protects you.
Speaker 1: I mean, I know you love him, I know you
Speaker 1: trust him, but the dude, he's a drummer. Yeah, if
Speaker 1: he takes off on you, and you've invested not only
Speaker 1: your money, but your time, and not only your time,
Speaker 1: but even more importantly, your home from Colorado to ten See,
Speaker 1: you've given this up, and you're probably thinking, oh, absolutely,
Speaker 1: I love him, I trust him, I get it, I
Speaker 1: get that, But you get you've sacrificed a lot for this,
Speaker 1: and the first thing you need to get in return
Speaker 1: is a ring on your finger. It's probably not at
Speaker 1: all what she was expecting to say. Answer was going
Speaker 1: to go, Yeah, I think there's a lot of questions
Speaker 1: that I would have for Marissa about you know, your
Speaker 1: relationship and did you guys move from Colorado to Franklin,
Speaker 1: which is outside of Nashville. That's it sounds like to
Speaker 1: be close to the music business. And again, you know,
Speaker 1: I'll every time I come on, I always try to stay.
Speaker 1: You can't replace the value of sitting with somebody in
Speaker 1: a in a conversation, there's a dialogue, it's a back
Speaker 1: and forth, like we have questions about like the more
Speaker 1: of the situation. So it's a challenge to like give
Speaker 1: you answers that are kind of like broad without knowing
Speaker 1: because she may say, oh, yeah, we're engaged or we
Speaker 1: are going to get married or you know, there's a
Speaker 1: lot of questions you know to that that I would
Speaker 1: be asking. But so make sure you're talking with other people,
Speaker 1: you know, connected with other people that and asking him
Speaker 1: the questions and you're walking through life with people. That's
Speaker 1: why Granger and I do this, you know, or have
Speaker 1: done it together, you know, for twenty years, and why
Speaker 1: we help to help out some other people. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: think that he shouldn't as a drummer how do you
Speaker 1: how do you go all in as a drummer and
Speaker 1: like not be able to you know, just kind of
Speaker 1: give everything to it like this, you know, internship at
Speaker 1: dark Horse. I've never heard of that, Like have you
Speaker 1: heard of dark Horse? You know, I don't know what
Speaker 1: that is. And I feel like dark Horse sounds familiar
Speaker 1: from that Nashville days. But yeah, it's probably great, it's
Speaker 1: probably expensive. And I've seen many drummers in my life.
Speaker 1: I've known many drummers known. I've known drummers that play
Speaker 1: on the you know, the bar down the street, and
Speaker 1: I've known drummers that play for worldwide touring bands and
Speaker 1: you know, justin Timberlake level, and none of them have
Speaker 1: gone to dark Horse, and none of them needed dark
Speaker 1: Horse to get them to where they were. Sure. I've
Speaker 1: also known many studio musicians that are the top studio
Speaker 1: musicians in the world, and none of them needed an
Speaker 1: institute to get them there. What got them there was
Speaker 1: ultimately meeting well, first of all, like you said in
Speaker 1: the last podcast, practicing, like being absolutely obsessed with practicing,
Speaker 1: and then after that, meeting the right people, getting in
Speaker 1: the right band, getting down the road, meeting other people,
Speaker 1: at festivals and you just you become the guy where
Speaker 1: someone says, do you have a recommend nation for a drummer,
Speaker 1: and you become on the top three of that list
Speaker 1: for everyone that meets you. Yeah, oh dude, I got
Speaker 1: a drummer. Yeah. Absolutely, So I think this Marissa Mersa, right. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I think if you have reservations or you're kind of
Speaker 1: wondering or like what I'm hoping, that you've had these open,
Speaker 1: honest conversations with him, and regardless if you're out there
Speaker 1: listening and you have these life changes or you're trying
Speaker 1: to support your husband or wife or these things, there
Speaker 1: has to be a dialogue and an honest dialogue about Hey,
Speaker 1: I want to do this, okay, I want to support
Speaker 1: you one hundred percent. Here's here's my fears in this,
Speaker 1: and maybe you can help me rationalize those fears and
Speaker 1: call them those or maybe they're valid reasons that we
Speaker 1: need to like, maybe there's a different path to him
Speaker 1: being a full time rummer in the industry. But I
Speaker 1: think there has to be a dialogue to where you
Speaker 1: feel good and not just okay, but you feel excited
Speaker 1: and enthusiastic about the adventure. You guys are going to
Speaker 1: be on together, and I think grizz is right, Like
Speaker 1: the best way for y'all to be kind of all
Speaker 1: in on each other ups and down the highs and
Speaker 1: lowses is to you know, get married. Yeah, commit for
Speaker 1: the rest of your life. I need to say on
Speaker 1: this podcast. And if you if you followed me for
Speaker 1: a long time, you understand this. If you're new, let
Speaker 1: me just be clear about something. I don't ever intend
Speaker 1: to hurt anyone's feelings. I don't ever intend to piss
Speaker 1: anyone off. I don't ever intend to throw hate or
Speaker 1: shade your way. What I do intend is for this
Speaker 1: podcast to be as if we are on a personal
Speaker 1: level and we're friends and we're sitting around a campfire
Speaker 1: and you ask advice, and we've been we've known each
Speaker 1: other for twenty years, and I say, Marissa, I've known
Speaker 1: you for twenty years. Let me tell you straight up,
Speaker 1: you need to marry this dude. No girlfriend ever needs
Speaker 1: to feel a responsibility to get a second job to
Speaker 1: help a boyfriend. That's it. That's what I would tell you.
Speaker 1: That's not throwing shade your way or being disrespectful. That's
Speaker 1: how I'm trying to attempt to answer a question as
Speaker 1: if we were close friends. So as I go through
Speaker 1: these questions, I'm just going to tell you what's on
Speaker 1: my heart. And part of the part of Bernie Talk
Speaker 1: Bernie and I talked earlier, but part of the mission
Speaker 1: of this podcast is to build family based, integrity driven,
Speaker 1: faith oriented family life. And you're not going to get
Speaker 1: there making these kind of decisions as a as a girlfriend.
Speaker 1: So don't put the cart in front of the horse here,
Speaker 1: or the horse in front of the cart. What do
Speaker 1: you say? What's that? Because usually don't get it fixed
Speaker 1: up right, like get your pro He's right, Okay, we
Speaker 1: got that straight. Yeah, thank you, MIRSSA and good luck.
Speaker 1: Good luck. Drumming is uh crazy? You see that guy
Speaker 1: can drum? You are good. Sorry. We did this last
Speaker 1: podcast and I kind of liked it. I'll throw titles here.
Speaker 1: I'm throwing some subject lines of these emails. If you
Speaker 1: have anything, guys, email Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com.
Speaker 1: Any subject could just be a shout out give it
Speaker 1: to me, dealing with adversity, cease and desist, what's next, anonymous,
Speaker 1: please help podcast question or insert witty line to catch
Speaker 1: your attention here, I gotta go with the last guy
Speaker 1: or girl. Okay, all right, And I got to know
Speaker 1: the date, like when was that from? It's from November
Speaker 1: twenty twenty. Yeah, because I feel like we've talked about that,
Speaker 1: you know before the US, about having you know, witty titles,
Speaker 1: and that's what's going to catch so yeah. So and
Speaker 1: it's kind of like a grab bag. We don't know
Speaker 1: we're going to get here, so so is it long? Yeah?
Speaker 1: But I know exactly where to go. Heygre and your
Speaker 1: my name is Faith and my husband and I live
Speaker 1: outside of a small town for about an hour outside
Speaker 1: of Edmonton, Alberta, Canada. And she has says some really
Speaker 1: sweet things and I'm going to get straight to her
Speaker 1: question here. Says, we are approaching our time for having kids,
Speaker 1: and we talk all the time about it. What values
Speaker 1: we want to be important, what life we would like,
Speaker 1: how we need to prep et, cetera. How did you
Speaker 1: and Amber know it was time and what things did
Speaker 1: you consider before bringing part of you another part of
Speaker 1: you into this world. We struggle with if we have
Speaker 1: a baby, then if we want to make life changes
Speaker 1: new house, specifically, if we what do we do if
Speaker 1: we're able to do it and what do we focus
Speaker 1: on before having kids? Which we both don't really want
Speaker 1: to wait as long as it might take to pan
Speaker 1: all this out. And it is a case of can
Speaker 1: you always find something you want to accomplish or have
Speaker 1: done before having a baby. I know I'm we're mentally ready,
Speaker 1: but it seems very daunting. I'll be completely doing a
Speaker 1: happy dance if you read this on your podcast and
Speaker 1: have some advice. Thank you for reading this and taking
Speaker 1: the time of the chat. Faith Faith the Canadian. Here
Speaker 1: we go. I'm jump right into this faith. Yep, she says, yeah, husband, cool.
Speaker 1: The time is now. Yeah, That's how I'm gonna dive
Speaker 1: into it. The time is right now. The time is now. Faith.
Speaker 1: There is no prep, there is no consideration. There is you.
Speaker 1: There is always going to be a new life change
Speaker 1: around the corner. There's always going to be a potential
Speaker 1: new house or a new job or spurning I talked
Speaker 1: earlier a new dog. Life will always give you an
Speaker 1: excuse to not grow or start your family. Last week,
Speaker 1: we had you know a question about I'm forty having
Speaker 1: a baby? Am I too old? Yeah? So some people
Speaker 1: are going to say I'm twenty two and we've only
Speaker 1: been married nine months. Is it too early to have
Speaker 1: a baby. So life is always going to throw excuses
Speaker 1: to you. But the time is now, and God has
Speaker 1: a purpose for you. He has he has a reason.
Speaker 1: He is a meaning for you. And not only that,
Speaker 1: but He's going to give you the tools to do
Speaker 1: the work that these cultures do and you know, raise
Speaker 1: these kids or whatever it is. And so, were you
Speaker 1: guys ready for London? I don't. I don't think we
Speaker 1: were ready. You say you're mentally ready, which is pretty awesome.
Speaker 1: I don't think we I mean, I guess we were
Speaker 1: kind of No. I might have said I was, but
Speaker 1: when she was born, I knew I wasn't. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: was like, wow, I wasn't ready for this. Yeah. So
Speaker 1: like there's yeah, just get busy. You're good. Yeah, you're good.
Speaker 1: I have run into this happens a lot in the
Speaker 1: music world. I've had so many musicians, young musicians that
Speaker 1: have come out on tour with us, and they they're
Speaker 1: always like, yeah, me and my wife like we're just
Speaker 1: waiting because I would like to have a record deal
Speaker 1: before or I would like to get I the single
Speaker 1: just released, or the album's coming out in November, So
Speaker 1: we'd like to get the album out and get the
Speaker 1: single out because I'm you know, I'm gonna a radio tour.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be busy and I'm gonna have to go
Speaker 1: on the radio tour. So our thought is like, wait
Speaker 1: till after the radio tour, like next summer, we could
Speaker 1: start trying. And I'm just like, I'm always like, man,
Speaker 1: you don't realize that after that single, there's another one coming.
Speaker 1: There's another single, right, and that there is no preparation
Speaker 1: for the next obstacle that life is going to bring
Speaker 1: or your career is going to bring. So yeah, that faith,
Speaker 1: Ye have some faith. It's time Bernie. Yeah, Okay, name
Speaker 1: your first kid Bernie or Granger. I guarantee you people
Speaker 1: have named their kid Granger because you have you gotten
Speaker 1: like letters like we named our kid Granger. I've seen
Speaker 1: the tattoos, but have you gotten like I have heard that?
Speaker 1: You're the half heard that. Yeah, and there's not a
Speaker 1: lot of Bernie's out there, guys, come on help me
Speaker 1: out like we need we need more, like solid is
Speaker 1: Bernie short for anything? Not Bernard or something? No? So, dude,
Speaker 1: is this a secret about me? You don't know I
Speaker 1: don't know. Okay, do you know my name is not Bernie.
Speaker 1: My name is not Bernard. My name I feel like
Speaker 1: I did know this. Yeah, my name is Brian. Yeah,
Speaker 1: my name is Brian. And if you have a sibling
Speaker 1: like I've had, like I have my brother and sister,
Speaker 1: my brother Jason, who you know, will give you a
Speaker 1: nickname thirty seconds after he meets you. And so since
Speaker 1: I've known him my whole life, I've had a thousand
Speaker 1: different nicknames. He started calling me Bernie when we were
Speaker 1: playing Little League, and so it was that time that
Speaker 1: the announcer said, coming up to bat, Bernie Calcoat. And
Speaker 1: after that it was like everybody just called me Bernie.
Speaker 1: And right before that he called me Bonnie Bonnie Ball
Speaker 1: or something weird like that, and I like cried. I
Speaker 1: was like, Jason, you've got to do something different because
Speaker 1: that one's going to stick and I cannot have that
Speaker 1: be my Yeah, so we did Bernie and then they
Speaker 1: announced it and it stuck and I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: thank god, And so you're driver, says Brian. Brian, Yep,
Speaker 1: very few people actually know that. I guess a lot more. No, now,
Speaker 1: a lot of people know now, Yeah, I knew that,
Speaker 1: I just couldn't remember that Jason was the one that
Speaker 1: gave you the nickname. Yeah he did, that is wild Man.
Speaker 1: Next up, we're gonna go. I'm gonna throw it back
Speaker 1: to you. Dealing with adversity. I think the first one
Speaker 1: was the first one that jumped out. I think we
Speaker 1: go one, then two. Dealing with adversity. Yep, what you said? Yep, Okay,
Speaker 1: this is a fresh one. This came last week. It says,
Speaker 1: Hey Grager, my name is Cole. I'm from uh Patascala, Ohio.
Speaker 1: Pascala from Potascal, Ohio. I've been following you for a
Speaker 1: good amount of time with the Smithson, with your podcast.
Speaker 1: I've been dealing with a lot of adversity. Seems like
Speaker 1: it keeps on piling up. It started with my girlfriend
Speaker 1: breaking up with me on Valentine and after that I
Speaker 1: was trying to take her out the night before to
Speaker 1: give her something special. It wasn't anything major, but I
Speaker 1: truly tried, and she said that she saw that and
Speaker 1: appreciated it, but just wasn't happy anymore wanted to split.
Speaker 1: A couple weeks later, I was pulling out of the
Speaker 1: parking lot and someone slammed into the side of my car.
Speaker 1: A week later, I was playing at my first home
Speaker 1: game my senior year of college football at Ohio Wesleyan
Speaker 1: and hyper extended my elbow and I was out the
Speaker 1: rest of the game, very similar to what I did
Speaker 1: to my right up with my senior ye of high school,
Speaker 1: which I broke it. I saw something that said, being
Speaker 1: positive doesn't mean being happy all the time. It means
Speaker 1: that even on the hard days, better days are coming.
Speaker 1: My question is do you keep that mindset? I was
Speaker 1: always trying to remember. I was always trying to remember
Speaker 1: it's just a rough patch in life, but then something
Speaker 1: else would happen and it would start me all a
Speaker 1: little again to lose hope. I appreciate the podcast and
Speaker 1: the advice you give. I try to mimic my personal
Speaker 1: podcast after yours. That's Cole Nixon. Nice Coal, so repeating
Speaker 1: Cole's little mantra here says being positive doesn't mean being
Speaker 1: happy all the time. It means that even on the
Speaker 1: hard days, better days are coming. Dude, there's a lot
Speaker 1: to unpack there. I don't know how sub zero deep
Speaker 1: we want to go, but Coal and I know Granger
Speaker 1: does this too. There is zero value to any words
Speaker 1: that I could come up with and advice I could
Speaker 1: come up with. What we have to do is always
Speaker 1: go back to the word. What does the word say
Speaker 1: and how do we find a way to communicate that
Speaker 1: to you in your circumstance. So what jumped out to
Speaker 1: me was the first part of James where it says
Speaker 1: consider it pure joy when you experience trials of many kinds.
Speaker 1: You're experiencing trials of many kinds. The way that we
Speaker 1: can consider those joy is by one understanding the ultimate
Speaker 1: reason that they are having the ultimate refinement and building
Speaker 1: of our faith perseverance that it's building in you and
Speaker 1: what ultimately that is leading us back to our reliance,
Speaker 1: you know, and our faith in God. I don't know
Speaker 1: if I can answer the question about like on the
Speaker 1: bad day, you know, you can't be positive every day.
Speaker 1: I don't know specifically that. But what I do know
Speaker 1: is if we can wake up each morning and just
Speaker 1: saturate ourselves in the Word, no matter what adversity or
Speaker 1: challenges that we're facing, we can start to not just
Speaker 1: view them as something that we have to get past,
Speaker 1: but an opportunity to grow into the person that God
Speaker 1: wants us to be. He's preparing us for what is next.
Speaker 1: A lot of times we get into these situations just
Speaker 1: like I just wish this was over. I wish my
Speaker 1: arm was better. I wish that I found a new girlfriend. Like,
Speaker 1: don't miss these opportunities. Yeah, don't miss that's great. Yep,
Speaker 1: that's awesome. Obstacle is the way. And if you could
Speaker 1: switch your mindset, because what you're describing here, it's life, man,
Speaker 1: it's dude. It's life. Dude. Your girl broke up with you,
Speaker 1: you got in a car wreck, and you hyper extend
Speaker 1: your elbow. Welcome to life. You know this, man. And
Speaker 1: once again, this is not like a knock on you, Nicole.
Speaker 1: This is if we were on sitting around a campfire,
Speaker 1: I'd say, welcome to life. You go through rough patches,
Speaker 1: you go through easy patches, you go through clear days,
Speaker 1: you go through stormy days. So it's a mindset, like
Speaker 1: Bernie's saying, to switch when you hit those obstacles, to
Speaker 1: switch it and say, all right, what am I gonna
Speaker 1: learn from this? I got to set back on my
Speaker 1: my elbow. What am I gonna What am I gonna learn?
Speaker 1: During the rehab process, during the the healing process. What
Speaker 1: will I have to learn to be a little bit
Speaker 1: better from in my life next time. That's why old
Speaker 1: people are so smart. For the most part. It's just
Speaker 1: been through a lot of stuff. So your girlfriend, that's
Speaker 1: the easiest one out of this whole group. You're dude,
Speaker 1: You're gonna find somebody better. You're gonna find somebody better.
Speaker 1: And the reason you're gonna find somebody better is because
Speaker 1: you learn just a little bit more through this breakup
Speaker 1: about what's not what you don't need. Yeah, the car,
Speaker 1: the car slamming into the side of you. It's very inconvenient. See,
Speaker 1: here's here's something good for you. I keep a journal.
Speaker 1: I know Bernie does two. I keep a journal and
Speaker 1: I mine. Me and Bernie different. Here mine's digital, here's
Speaker 1: you write it? So mine is digital. When I use
Speaker 1: an app called day one. And what's been cool for
Speaker 1: the first time with Day one that I've been I've
Speaker 1: been loving lately is that every morning when I do
Speaker 1: my little journal journal entry, I go back to twenty
Speaker 1: twenty and twenty twenty is crazy. Right now in March
Speaker 1: of twenty twenty, my journaling, yeah, is like what's happening?
Speaker 1: Those cases are going up No One, the world's loss,
Speaker 1: it's mine, tours canceled, no One. And so I'll ask
Speaker 1: myself little questions. Now I'll ask my future self questions like, well,
Speaker 1: well the COVID cases are spiking again, and will this,
Speaker 1: you know, will this? Will this this little thing matter
Speaker 1: to you, mister twenty twenty one? So then and now
Speaker 1: I'll go answer it in my current journal. So I'll
Speaker 1: write my what's going on today, and then then I'll
Speaker 1: skip a line and then i'll do oh and to
Speaker 1: answer twenty twenty now, it doesn't matter. Yeah, you're good,
Speaker 1: that's cool. I'm hoping that then years will go by
Speaker 1: and I'll be able to answer questions all the way back.
Speaker 1: And so my point is with you, Cole, you could
Speaker 1: if you start this journal and you're like, hey, mister
Speaker 1: twenty twenty twenty two, coal, this car just sideswiped me
Speaker 1: and then it really pissed me off. Does it even
Speaker 1: matter in twenty twenty two? And then you'll answer yourself
Speaker 1: and you go, no, dude, I got actually a really
Speaker 1: cool truck, now, yeah, And I got the cool truck
Speaker 1: because I was gonna get it repaired and it was
Speaker 1: gonna cost too much and then I found this truck
Speaker 1: on Craigslist and then it's actually, I'll actually love it
Speaker 1: and it's way better. Yeah. So then you go, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: and if you're out there living life, these things are
Speaker 1: going to happen. If you don't have any of these
Speaker 1: stories to tell, it means you're not living life. If
Speaker 1: everything is just yeah, well I woke up and then
Speaker 1: I did this and I went back to bed. It's
Speaker 1: like if you get out there and you're pursuing things,
Speaker 1: you're passionate about things, and you invest in people and causes,
Speaker 1: like things are going to happen. I mean, I just
Speaker 1: think back to some of like it's just created a
Speaker 1: great story for both of us to be in our lives,
Speaker 1: the things that we've been through that you then get
Speaker 1: to sit around campfire and be like, dude, let me
Speaker 1: tell you this one time, Cole, Like my car broke
Speaker 1: down and I was a thousand miles from home and
Speaker 1: I didn't have any money and I didn't have cell
Speaker 1: phones back then, and it's like you get to tell
Speaker 1: people the story of like this is what I overcame.
Speaker 1: It's another cookie in the cookie jar, as Goggin says,
Speaker 1: something you can draw back on the next time that
Speaker 1: you face something really hard, it's like, dude, I got
Speaker 1: this man, you went that's it. I had a friend
Speaker 1: and in high school. He's a couple of years older
Speaker 1: than me, and he hyper extended his knee and he
Speaker 1: was an offensive lineman in high school football and he
Speaker 1: blew out his knee. The doctor said, you can't play
Speaker 1: football again. He said, well, what if I was a kicker?
Speaker 1: And the doctor's like, mean, I guess you could be
Speaker 1: a kicker, but you just can't have you can't be contacts,
Speaker 1: like you can't play offensive line. So he's like, okay,
Speaker 1: So he started being He started practicing every day and
Speaker 1: every single day, everyone else is out there hitting with
Speaker 1: paths and he's over there by the goalpost just kicking, kicking, kicking, kicking.
Speaker 1: And he got to the point. I remember at his
Speaker 1: house he would kick from his front yard to his backyard,
Speaker 1: like chipping over the house. Nice back. He would have
Speaker 1: like a huge bag of balls. Well, this guy ends
Speaker 1: up getting a scholarship at the University of Texas, plays
Speaker 1: for Texas, and then after that he goes into the pros.
Speaker 1: He has since had one of the longest careers in
Speaker 1: the pro. His name is Phil Dawson, and I think
Speaker 1: he's currently with San Francisco. But the dude has played
Speaker 1: made a lifetime out of a knee and one knee injury. Yeah. So,
Speaker 1: and that's speaking directly to your hy brixtoned elbow. I
Speaker 1: know that's that's an extreme case. But you could take
Speaker 1: everything and go what good can come out of this?
Speaker 1: Because you imagine if Phil Dawson just said I blew
Speaker 1: up my knee. Life sucks. I mean it seems like
Speaker 1: everything's out to get me up. I'm dealing with a
Speaker 1: lot of adversity and just keeps piling up. Yeah, well
Speaker 1: what if he said that he just bypassed a multimillion
Speaker 1: dollar NFL career. If you thought that way, that's right.
Speaker 1: It's a mindset, dude. Yeah, so think about And this
Speaker 1: is not just for Cole, but for anybody out there
Speaker 1: that's going through a really rough season of life or
Speaker 1: really even a rough situation. And this is the mindset
Speaker 1: I always try to like keep my team in and
Speaker 1: keep myself in. Is you're gonna get to a point
Speaker 1: where you're past it, whatever is happening, the season's gonna change,
Speaker 1: and you're gonna get to watch the game film of
Speaker 1: how you responded. I always try to think, like, Okay,
Speaker 1: if I'm going to look back on how I responded
Speaker 1: to this adversity, how I responded to the challenge, how
Speaker 1: I responded to the suffering. Like I want to be
Speaker 1: able to look back at it and say, man, I
Speaker 1: gave it everything I had. I had a great attitude
Speaker 1: and that's it, and that kind of helps me center
Speaker 1: in the situation to be like, no, man, like this.
Speaker 1: I want to look back at the journal jury during
Speaker 1: this time and say, man, I continue to like center
Speaker 1: myself and say, no, man, these are the things that
Speaker 1: I have to do. These are my standards, and these
Speaker 1: are going to get me through this. And then six
Speaker 1: months from now, when I look back at it, you
Speaker 1: you can be like, yeah, man, that's that worked. Like
Speaker 1: that was you know, helped me get through it. So yeah,
Speaker 1: So here ats the mindset. Let me change your mantra here.
Speaker 1: You said being positive doesn't always mean being happy all
Speaker 1: the time. It means even on the hard days, better
Speaker 1: days are coming. Let me change that for you. Being
Speaker 1: positive doesn't mean being happy all the time. It means
Speaker 1: that even on the hard days you find the good
Speaker 1: in them. And that's a big difference between during the
Speaker 1: hard days, You'll think better days are coming, Like what
Speaker 1: what kind of life is that to have a hard
Speaker 1: day and go, yeah, better days are I hope better
Speaker 1: days are coming instead of going this is tough. But
Speaker 1: you know, I could find I could find positivity now today,
Speaker 1: in this moment, in this present moment of hard I
Speaker 1: could find the good or I could I could see
Speaker 1: that this is the beginning of something new, like this
Speaker 1: car wreck is the beginning of something new, like maybe
Speaker 1: a new truck. Yeah, yeah, that's perfect. We're gonna take
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Speaker 1: get into this question that the subject is cease and
Speaker 1: desist request. This is a true story, and this is
Speaker 1: I know what this is about, and this is personal
Speaker 1: for me. So and I saw this email come in,
Speaker 1: like you know this person part of this case. I
Speaker 1: was part of this. I'm actually part of this whole thing.
Speaker 1: And it's it's pretty funny. So this is a guy
Speaker 1: named Paul Underwood. He has a restaurant in Brownwood, Texas.
Speaker 1: You know brown Wood. It's called Underwood's Cafe. Driven by
Speaker 1: It before No, it's a legendary doing cowboy out front
Speaker 1: Underwoods Underwood's Cafeteria thing, and so and and Paul's writing
Speaker 1: seasoned this his request and he's writing from a he's
Speaker 1: joking with me because it's a story that happened. And
Speaker 1: I don't remember what year. Paul, if you're listening, I
Speaker 1: know he listened to this podcast. You're gonna have to
Speaker 1: help me. But we we roll through Brownwood, Texas. We
Speaker 1: all get out, me and the band and crew. We're
Speaker 1: gonna eat at one of our favorite stops on the road.
Speaker 1: And people usually see a group of guys and they're like,
Speaker 1: are you all a band? What's what kind of music
Speaker 1: is it? You know, it's like a question. It happens
Speaker 1: every time. During this time, no one knew who we were.
Speaker 1: You still get the question, But it never really because
Speaker 1: people say, are you all a band? And then yes,
Speaker 1: what kind of music? Country music? Have I heard of you? No, Like,
Speaker 1: it's kind of just something. It always ends on a
Speaker 1: bad So I got into a very unhealthy habit of
Speaker 1: joking with that question. This one particular time, you really
Speaker 1: got my foot up in my mouth because this one
Speaker 1: guy says you got a band? And I was like
Speaker 1: kind of and he's like, oh, what do you mean?
Speaker 1: Kind of was like, well, we're a crew. He was like,
Speaker 1: oh cool, what kind of music? I was like country music?
Speaker 1: And he goes, have I heard of the band? And
Speaker 1: I was like, maybe Keith Urban And he goes seriously
Speaker 1: And I thought when he said seriously, I thought he meant,
Speaker 1: of course, not yeah. But he was serious seriously and
Speaker 1: I was like yeah, and he's like, do you guys play?
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, we're the lighting crew and
Speaker 1: he's like, is Keith playing locally? And We're like he's
Speaker 1: in a Oh my god. Somewhere around this point in
Speaker 1: the conversation, I kept it going and didn't stop, and
Speaker 1: I didn't. It was like it was like a train.
Speaker 1: I couldn't stop it. Yeah, and I didn't know where
Speaker 1: I was too stupid. Were the other guys with you? Yes?
Speaker 1: Were they not laughing? By then they're just like were
Speaker 1: they not laughing? Head first? But then they're just like,
Speaker 1: shut up, Granger, shut up, Granger, shut it up. Great,
Speaker 1: it so happens. This guy's like part owners of this restaurant.
Speaker 1: And so I was like, oh no, he goes man.
Speaker 1: He said something along the lines of I have a
Speaker 1: daughter who's a massive Keith Urpan fan. I would love
Speaker 1: to get some tickets if there's anyway. So I said,
Speaker 1: let me get you my email and I'll help you
Speaker 1: with the tickets. And I mean, I mean by this time,
Speaker 1: I'm just like, where's the back door? I gotta get
Speaker 1: out of here. This is I thought in my head
Speaker 1: this was gonna just be like haha Keith Urban ha
Speaker 1: ha No, but really a Granger Smith, I know you
Speaker 1: never heard of us. No one's ever heard of me.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, cool, maybe I'll look you up with it.
Speaker 1: That's how I thought it was going to go this
Speaker 1: and it had before this one went terribly wrong. So
Speaker 1: this is a joke by Paul. What's funny is I
Speaker 1: my conscience killed me. I got him in the van,
Speaker 1: emailed them later, it was like, hey, Paul, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 1: My name is Granger. I feel like an idiot. I
Speaker 1: have nothing to do with Keith Urban. We're a band
Speaker 1: and we are playing in Abilene, but it's just little
Speaker 1: old me. And he replied he was such a good sport.
Speaker 1: And then we basically became friends, like PenTile friends. We're
Speaker 1: still right back and forth. So he wrote me this
Speaker 1: song email from Vern Wobbly, his alter ego, and basically
Speaker 1: making fun of the entire conversation. He said, enclosed, you
Speaker 1: will find an invoice for nine hundred and twenty two
Speaker 1: dollars in Keith Urban merchandise that we gave to the
Speaker 1: fans that I promised I would get it. So yeah,
Speaker 1: that's pretty good. He said. Ps, this could perhaps lead
Speaker 1: to a larger discussion on your podcast about road pranks,
Speaker 1: So yeah, shout out to Paul, shout out to Underwoods.
Speaker 1: And I'm still it's one of the stupidest conversations I've had.
Speaker 1: Are you guys prankers? Like? Do y'all do pranks? You know?
Speaker 1: I love pranks. Yeah, I like to do pranks on
Speaker 1: other people. Yeah, man, we have pranked other bands, But
Speaker 1: when it comes to our band. We have traveled together
Speaker 1: so long that any prank becomes really bad. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: dare you one. We set up one rule a long
Speaker 1: time ago that's never messed with a dude when he's sleeping. Never. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and everyone. So while we'd hire a new crew guy
Speaker 1: and he would break that rule, then we'd have to
Speaker 1: remember to tell him. But it's like, when you're on
Speaker 1: the road, sleep is so important that you start messing
Speaker 1: with some dud's nap time or middle of the night.
Speaker 1: You're drawing faces with a sharpie on his face, you
Speaker 1: know whatever. But yeah, there's there is that's a whole
Speaker 1: different podcast of the pranks that I probably can't even
Speaker 1: say on this one. But yeah, shout out to Paul.
Speaker 1: Sorry about that, buddy, still storry, I'm stupid, all right,
Speaker 1: so Bernie, we have what's next anonymous help please and
Speaker 1: podcast question. I hear your cry for help. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: says hey Granger, my name is Destiny. I'd like I
Speaker 1: hate it. I hate what it says. The next sentence says,
Speaker 1: I'd like to remain anonymous. Guys. That happens all the time. Guys.
Speaker 1: If you're hey, that's a little bit on her. I'm sorry. Destiny.
Speaker 1: But if you want to remain anonymous, I'm not going
Speaker 1: to say where you're from or how old. Yeah, have
Speaker 1: a lot of destinies out there, Okay, but yeah, guys, please,
Speaker 1: if you're writing me, don't put your name at the
Speaker 1: first sentence and the second sentences you want to remain anonymous.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry that happens. I'm connecting with you and hopes
Speaker 1: that you can help me. And I'm get serious because
Speaker 1: she says helpfully, so I can be laughing through this.
Speaker 1: I'm connecting with you in hopes that you can help me.
Speaker 1: I've watched your podcast from start and your most recent
Speaker 1: You have become such a inspiration and it's helped me
Speaker 1: get closer to God and faith. I use your words
Speaker 1: as daily motivation and as a guide for how I
Speaker 1: want to live my life and how I want my
Speaker 1: sons to be. I recently got into a relation two
Speaker 1: months ago with a guy I've known for a while.
Speaker 1: The only problem is he lives in Oklahoma, and that's
Speaker 1: a long way from where she lives. By the way.
Speaker 1: I've made visit with him, visits with him, and I've
Speaker 1: met with him and his family, and I've thought I
Speaker 1: instantly clicked with him and vice versa. However, he just
Speaker 1: told me today, two months after getting together, that he
Speaker 1: went and met with a girl and intended on cheating
Speaker 1: but couldn't and use me as the excuse to leave
Speaker 1: the other girl. And that was a month ago. I'm
Speaker 1: not sure what to do. He has been part of
Speaker 1: my son's life, and I've put so much time and
Speaker 1: effort and affection into wanting this to work. My son
Speaker 1: loves him. Reminder, we have known each other for almost
Speaker 1: a year and a half before getting together. I fell
Speaker 1: for him in the beginning, and he said that he
Speaker 1: couldn't continue with the act. Hang on a second. I
Speaker 1: fell for him at the beginning, and he said that
Speaker 1: he couldn't continue with the act with her, and it
Speaker 1: was a mistake. He regrets it, but was always told
Speaker 1: to leave and not continue being with a cheater. I'm
Speaker 1: sorry trying to follow this the writing here. I just
Speaker 1: bought a plane ticket for me and my son for
Speaker 1: New Year's and I'm just not sure what to do.
Speaker 1: My heart says stay, but my brain says it's not right.
Speaker 1: I'm glad you said the last sentence because that really
Speaker 1: helps me. That last sentence really helps me a lot. Yep.
Speaker 1: So her brain says stay, but her heart says it's
Speaker 1: not opposite. My brain says stay. Yeah, I'm sorry. My
Speaker 1: heart says stay, my brain says it's not right. Okay,
Speaker 1: And does she mean stay home or stay with the
Speaker 1: stay with the guy. Yeah. Oh that's a good question, Bernie. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because she bought plane tickets to fly there. Ye, my
Speaker 1: heart says to stay, but my brain says, but my
Speaker 1: brain knows it's not right. I think she means not
Speaker 1: right to stay with him with him? Yeah, okay, Okay,
Speaker 1: where do you want to start? I'll jump in dude. Well,
Speaker 1: I like that you said the heart brain thing because
Speaker 1: that really helps me because that's very biblical, that the
Speaker 1: heart is evil in a lot of ways, and it's
Speaker 1: a misconception in our world to follow your heart, follow
Speaker 1: your feelings, follow what makes you feel good, man, follow
Speaker 1: what your heart tells you is right. But God gave
Speaker 1: you this brain that's able to calculate and manipulate situations
Speaker 1: and overcome adversities and obstacles and have discernment and where
Speaker 1: to when to not go down dark alleys, and when
Speaker 1: to when to eat and when to you know, like
Speaker 1: that's what your brain does. The heart is just this
Speaker 1: pumping organ that pumps blood that is synonymous with feelings,
Speaker 1: and in this situation, your brain says it's not right.
Speaker 1: You gotta trust your brain. Yeah. Absolutely. You also have
Speaker 1: to think about your son and being very, very protective.
Speaker 1: I'm sure you love your son dearly, want the best
Speaker 1: for him. Just being even more thoughtful about what you
Speaker 1: expose him to and what kink of effect that that has.
Speaker 1: Look at this Oh wowah, okay, young too. What you
Speaker 1: would have thought? You would have thought this girl thirty eight?
Speaker 1: I thought that that's how old she was. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: then you said, you know my son and blah blah,
Speaker 1: And I was like, okay, well maybe she's a little
Speaker 1: bit older. She's young. Yeah, Destiny, this is easy. Leave
Speaker 1: the dude. Yeah, leave the dude. A he's in Alklahoma.
Speaker 1: That a long way away. Yeah. You have a son
Speaker 1: that's your number one priority. And this dude has already
Speaker 1: already flirted with the idea of cheating on you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: if he if he hasn't come in and completely wooed
Speaker 1: you by the way he pursues you and loves you
Speaker 1: and gives himself up for you, which is all biblical,
Speaker 1: which and he is not making you fall in love
Speaker 1: with Jesus Moore, there's no question if it's like a yeah,
Speaker 1: but I kind of like him. He's cute, Like there's
Speaker 1: there's a greater person out there for you. Absolutely, and
Speaker 1: I'm not sure I can quote exactly what Parker said
Speaker 1: last week, but becoming that person, she can become that
Speaker 1: person that will be worthy of that one that she
Speaker 1: will meet. I think that, Yeah, I think that needs
Speaker 1: to be your focus now and on your son and
Speaker 1: being the mother, you know, the best mother that you
Speaker 1: can be, and then yeah, become the mother that you
Speaker 1: want to be, so then you could open up to
Speaker 1: meet the person that you deserve. You can't meet that
Speaker 1: person that you deserve unless you become the mother you
Speaker 1: want to be, or at least you're on the path.
Speaker 1: And let me just say where you live, there's I'm
Speaker 1: not going to say it because you're anonymous, but there's
Speaker 1: a lot of really good guys where you live a
Speaker 1: lot and you don't have to go all the way
Speaker 1: to Oklahoma to find one. So there's too many red
Speaker 1: flags in this. This is a very clear cut to me.
Speaker 1: Sometimes questions come in where Bernie and I have to
Speaker 1: really think about it. This is really clear cut to me.
Speaker 1: You have other priorities. You're still really young, there's no
Speaker 1: sense of urgency. Take care of what you do. You
Speaker 1: probably have family where you live to you don't want
Speaker 1: to get you don't want to leave them. You don't
Speaker 1: want to spend money on plane tickets. This email came
Speaker 1: in in November, so something has already happened since we're
Speaker 1: reading it. So right back in and tell us, tell us, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm pretty stupid because the subject line said a anonymous
Speaker 1: please up, and I still pretty I'm sorry. It's okay, okay,
Speaker 1: So we're looking at podcast question or what's next? Those
Speaker 1: are both very ambiguous. Let's go. Let's go what's next?
Speaker 1: That says, Hey, my name is Jason. I'm from Arkansas.
Speaker 1: Longtime fans since my son, my son showed me Earl
Speaker 1: Dibbles Junior back when he was in school in twenty thirteen.
Speaker 1: What is your plan after music? By that, I mean
Speaker 1: if you couldn't perform anymore and you had to choose
Speaker 1: between making music touring over family, what would you do
Speaker 1: to support your family? This isn't a knock or anything
Speaker 1: like that. But if your music wasn't an option anymore,
Speaker 1: what would your life look like in the future. Loved
Speaker 1: the new album, both volumes g glad I picked that.
Speaker 1: I was reading the title as like, what's next, you
Speaker 1: know for me, you know, like help me figure out
Speaker 1: what's next? But hmm, yeah, Well, let's say, first of all, well,
Speaker 1: shout out to Arkansas. Thank you Jason. Let me say
Speaker 1: first of all, you said if I had to choose
Speaker 1: making music touring over family, I don't really know what
Speaker 1: that means, but of course it's obvious what I would choose.
Speaker 1: But what you mean is if I didn't have music
Speaker 1: and touring, how would I take care of my family?
Speaker 1: I think that's what you mean, So it's a good question.
Speaker 1: The easiest answer is, well, I'll say this, I'm not
Speaker 1: going to be making music and touring. I'll at least
Speaker 1: not be touring my whole rest of my life. If
Speaker 1: I was going to plan it out, now we all
Speaker 1: know we only have today. Tomorrow's not guaranteed. But if
Speaker 1: I was going to map out my life, I would say,
Speaker 1: I'm not going to be torn when I'm an old man.
Speaker 1: If you know, God will and I'm an old man,
Speaker 1: I'll probably always be making music just because I love
Speaker 1: making music. But the obvious answer is we have Ye Apparel,
Speaker 1: and that is one of the biggest blessings outside of
Speaker 1: other humans in my life. It's one of the biggest
Speaker 1: blessings that's monetary, as Ye Apparel it is. It has
Speaker 1: kept me alive during the pandemic. The growth of Ye
Speaker 1: Apparel happened at the same time the decline of touring happened,
Speaker 1: which is just a miracle in itself, and I love it.
Speaker 1: I love this company. I love you Apparel. I loved
Speaker 1: the brand. I love the faith, family, outdoor value that
Speaker 1: it stands for. I love that it's a great foundation
Speaker 1: for not only this podcast, but for future albums and
Speaker 1: touring and meet and greets, and it's just all kind
Speaker 1: of connects together. So if you take any component out
Speaker 1: of that little circle of mine, it's the circle still lives.
Speaker 1: So that's my first answer. My second answer could be
Speaker 1: that I have felt a calling lately for maybe jumping
Speaker 1: into some kind of public speaking type environment, and so
Speaker 1: much so that I've actually talked to my book an
Speaker 1: Agent about what would be the steps we need to
Speaker 1: take if if opportunities came up where someone said, we
Speaker 1: have this convention and we want Granger to speak at
Speaker 1: the convention. We have a twenty minute slot for him,
Speaker 1: and then there's Joe Montana is headlining it, and then
Speaker 1: someone else. You know, that's how same as music but speaking.
Speaker 1: So I kind of started uncovering a little bit of
Speaker 1: that world through my book and AI because they do that,
Speaker 1: they do that too, and it's really intriguing to me because, Ay,
Speaker 1: there's a ton of fulfillment in being able to speak
Speaker 1: almost like we do on this podcast, but actually with
Speaker 1: a live audience. And then and the second thing is
Speaker 1: the longevity of being able to go and do public
Speaker 1: speaking last a lot longer than going out with a
Speaker 1: band and playing music. What I mean is you see
Speaker 1: a lot more old gray hair men speaking and not
Speaker 1: as many of them a singing. Sure, So yeah, I don't.
Speaker 1: I haven't unpacked it any more than that. Really, I'll
Speaker 1: tell you what the conversation with the book an agent was.
Speaker 1: The conversation was, we need to connect you to our
Speaker 1: book department because typically the way that you do what
Speaker 1: you're saying is you start with the book and then
Speaker 1: you pitch the book to these speaking engagements and they say,
Speaker 1: what is what did he talk about? Well, here's a bit. Yeah,
Speaker 1: here's the book he could he can talk about these
Speaker 1: ten subjects. He can talk about career, music, faith, life
Speaker 1: after loss. You could talk about these things. Or here's
Speaker 1: his book he talks about that. So that's kind of
Speaker 1: the So then I talked to the book department at
Speaker 1: my book an agency, and so this is all pretty
Speaker 1: new and I've never really talked about it. So I'd
Speaker 1: love to hear your thoughts on this podcast. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm excited, buddy, either way, no matter what, you coming
Speaker 1: with me. I'm coming with you, all right, coming with you? Okay,
Speaker 1: all right. The last question here today is titled podcast question,
Speaker 1: and that's why it's last because it was a little
Speaker 1: bit of a boring subject line. But it's probably probably
Speaker 1: really good. Let's find out. It says, Hey Granger, my
Speaker 1: name is Josh, I'm from Texas. I love your music,
Speaker 1: your family, and your YouTube. I've seen you every time
Speaker 1: you come to Billy Bob's and I can't wait for
Speaker 1: the next time for meet and greets. So I could
Speaker 1: give you a challenge coin from my department, try to
Speaker 1: sum this up. My wife and I've been married for
Speaker 1: twelve years, and we've struggled to have kids. We've had
Speaker 1: two miscarriages, We've spent over twenty grand on IVF treatments,
Speaker 1: and have been told it's impossible. God's since has blessed
Speaker 1: us with two beautiful miracles. But that is a testimony
Speaker 1: for a longer format if you're interested. I'm a man
Speaker 1: of God. I understand that I am supposed to let
Speaker 1: go of things and I don't understand and turn away
Speaker 1: from it. Oh, I'm supposed to let go of things
Speaker 1: that I don't understand and turn away from anger. But
Speaker 1: anytime I see people who had children by accident and
Speaker 1: don't appreciate it, our people who give up on their
Speaker 1: kids or have abortions, it angers me so much. I
Speaker 1: find difficulty in showing these people love. I thought it
Speaker 1: would be so different once we had our kids of
Speaker 1: our own, but it hasn't. How do I move past
Speaker 1: this anger and learn to love these people well as
Speaker 1: some are close friends or family. I love how you
Speaker 1: take deep questions and give Godly insight and advice. Thanks
Speaker 1: for all you do. Keep it up. Gig them and
Speaker 1: ye ye Josh deep Yeah, I share, Josh, I share
Speaker 1: with you in this miscarriage, and I share with you
Speaker 1: I v F so we have that in common. And
Speaker 1: you didn't know that when you wrote this email. But
Speaker 1: you didn't know as you're writing that that we had
Speaker 1: more in common than you think your thoughts burn. You're
Speaker 1: such a you're such a good family dad too, and
Speaker 1: you have you had an adopted child, which kind of
Speaker 1: helps that perspective as well. Yeah. Yeah, I think that
Speaker 1: there can be a difference between a righteous anger and
Speaker 1: judgment anger. This is a really tough question that can
Speaker 1: get controversial really fast. Sure, but I share with you
Speaker 1: in that anger, and that just I don't know if
Speaker 1: it's anger. I don't know if anger is the right word,
Speaker 1: as much as it should be heartbreak. When you see
Speaker 1: children neglected, no matter where in development stage they are,
Speaker 1: it's it's neglect, it's lack of accountability, it's lack of support,
Speaker 1: it it's brokenness of our world. Just it's very front
Speaker 1: and center. I would just advise to I mean, if
Speaker 1: I had to, I don't know, man, I think that
Speaker 1: we're all kind of in the same boats sometimes dealing
Speaker 1: with seeing people neglect their kids or or just leave
Speaker 1: their kids at the hospital after they're born. But I
Speaker 1: also know that we are all by nature just sinful
Speaker 1: and prone to it. So I don't think that we
Speaker 1: can what what should we expect? What more should we
Speaker 1: expect from from a sinful people and sinful humans? Good?
Speaker 1: And how did we forget that? It was only by
Speaker 1: God's grace that our eyes were open to our need
Speaker 1: for Him and his and his grace. How can we
Speaker 1: not view these things with anything but grace and brokenheartedness
Speaker 1: unless we're also viewing ourselves as the chief of sinners
Speaker 1: as well. Yeah, you're expecting too much from man kind. Man,
Speaker 1: you look to man for that kind of thing, that
Speaker 1: kind of perfection that you want so desperately to see,
Speaker 1: You're never going to see it unless you're looking up,
Speaker 1: because that's the only place you're going to see it.
Speaker 1: You're saying, you're finding difficulty showing these people love. I
Speaker 1: get it, man, I get it. But this is what
Speaker 1: you got to remember, Especially with the friends and family
Speaker 1: that you're talking about, the close friends and family, the
Speaker 1: only way you're going to affect them is through love.
Speaker 1: Anger will get you nowhere with these people. How do
Speaker 1: you do that? You're asking, You're thinking, how do I
Speaker 1: show these people love. I don't even respect their life
Speaker 1: decisions about their kids. How about this, You're with friends
Speaker 1: and family, You're sitting around, and you just go, Man,
Speaker 1: I cannot tell you how thankful and grateful and blessed
Speaker 1: I am with these babies. Can you believe the twelve
Speaker 1: year struggle I had and the money that was so
Speaker 1: hard to come by that we put towards this, and
Speaker 1: the heartbreak of miscarriages, And I look at these two.
Speaker 1: I'm reading your words, buddy, I'm looking at these two
Speaker 1: beautiful miracles that are a testimony to my life and
Speaker 1: the love of God. You say that to them, you
Speaker 1: don't think in their mind they're gonna be like, dang,
Speaker 1: I know exactly what he's talking about with me. I
Speaker 1: feel exactly what Like that's the way to get instead
Speaker 1: of approaching them with their life is just pull back
Speaker 1: on your own life and just pour in the gratefulness
Speaker 1: and show them what a miracle that a little baby is. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and not only that, Granger mentioned that my wife and
Speaker 1: I had a bio child and then we were foster
Speaker 1: parents and adopted a little girl, and then we had
Speaker 1: another bio. So I and I think that this is
Speaker 1: going to be you know in the word as well,
Speaker 1: like sometimes the energy that we spend looking at other
Speaker 1: people saying why are you not doing this? Instead of hey,
Speaker 1: go adopt another kid, Go be a foster parent as well.
Speaker 1: You have these two if you want to like display
Speaker 1: what God's love is, it's an orphan being brought into
Speaker 1: a family, someone who did not deserve the love being
Speaker 1: brought in and made their own like she is our own.
Speaker 1: And so I'm going to be a strong advocate for
Speaker 1: let's turn our energy energy away from saying y'all don't
Speaker 1: need to do this too, Hey, I can't. I mean,
Speaker 1: you would be astonished at the number of foster kids
Speaker 1: there are in the system, justin Travis County. I know
Speaker 1: that there's a lot of love probably in your heart still,
Speaker 1: and a lot of anger that could easily be turned
Speaker 1: to love for one or two or three more adopted
Speaker 1: kids or foster kids or whatever whatever you feel called to.
Speaker 1: But I think that in that God will just continue
Speaker 1: to give you grace. I think as you just continue
Speaker 1: to divide His word and really push into it, you're
Speaker 1: going to start to see yourself more and more broken
Speaker 1: and in need of Him. And that's going to allow
Speaker 1: you to just look at others with so much more
Speaker 1: grace and your own situation with so much more gratitude.
Speaker 1: So good. I'm going to talk about one sentence that
Speaker 1: you said, I'm a man of God and I'm supposed
Speaker 1: to let go of things I don't understand. I don't
Speaker 1: really think there's any Yeah, there's nothing biblical about that sentence, right,
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, I think he may be saying, like,
Speaker 1: you know, like God's ways or higher than our ways,
Speaker 1: and we don't understand them, and so it's like I
Speaker 1: need to let go of it. But I also agree
Speaker 1: with you, like, I don't think we let go of that.
Speaker 1: I think kind loves us to wrestle within in the
Speaker 1: hard And where do we find it? In the scripture?
Speaker 1: We go straight there, we run to it, and you're going,
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm flipping these pages and I don't see
Speaker 1: anything about people aborting their babies. And that's why I'm
Speaker 1: so angry right now. Dude. There's stuff in there that
Speaker 1: you can find that's really close to what you are
Speaker 1: talking about. You'll find it in there, and then you'll
Speaker 1: find the reaction, and then you'll find God's reaction. This
Speaker 1: is crazy how you could find stuff that's very relevant
Speaker 1: to exactly what you're talking about in those pages. So
Speaker 1: don't run or let go of things you don't understand.
Speaker 1: Just just give it to God and look. But that
Speaker 1: doesn't mean just go I don't understand, So God you
Speaker 1: got it. No dig into it, but make sure the
Speaker 1: grounding of what you're digging into is correct. It's good word.
Speaker 1: Man's a good question, Man, good question. Thank you, Josh,
Speaker 1: Thank you for everyone that I emailed today and Burns
Speaker 1: appreciate you, dude. I'll have you back if you want
Speaker 1: to see more. Bernie, say say more, Bernie. Thank you guys. Hey,
Speaker 1: before we get off, let me do some of these
Speaker 1: shout outs. I get them all the time. Yeah, DH
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Speaker 1: Jacob Green, and Dwight Martin. Shout out to all you
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