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Speaker 1: that's cool. I'm hoping that then years will go by

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Speaker 1: and I'll be able to answer questions all the way back.

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Speaker 1: And so my point is with you, Cole, you could

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Speaker 1: if you start this journal and you're like, hey, mister

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Speaker 1: and then it really pissed me off. Does it even

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Speaker 1: and you go, no, dude, I got actually a really

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Speaker 1: cool truck, now, yeah, And I got the cool truck

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Speaker 1: because I was gonna get it repaired and it was

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Speaker 1: gonna cost too much and then I found this truck

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Speaker 1: on Craigslist and then it's actually, I'll actually love it

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Speaker 1: and it's way better. Yeah. So then you go, oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: and if you're out there living life, these things are

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Speaker 1: going to happen. If you don't have any of these

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Speaker 1: stories to tell, it means you're not living life. If

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Speaker 1: everything is just yeah, well I woke up and then

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Speaker 1: I did this and I went back to bed. It's

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Speaker 1: like if you get out there and you're pursuing things,

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Speaker 1: you're passionate about things, and you invest in people and causes,

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Speaker 1: like things are going to happen. I mean, I just

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Speaker 1: think back to some of like it's just created a

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Speaker 1: great story for both of us to be in our lives,

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Speaker 1: the things that we've been through that you then get

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Speaker 1: to sit around campfire and be like, dude, let me

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Speaker 1: tell you this one time, Cole, Like my car broke

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Speaker 1: you face something really hard, it's like, dude, I got

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Speaker 1: was an offensive lineman in high school football and he

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Speaker 1: blew out his knee. The doctor said, you can't play

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Speaker 1: And the doctor's like, mean, I guess you could be

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Speaker 1: So he started being He started practicing every day and

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Speaker 1: every single day, everyone else is out there hitting with

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Speaker 1: paths and he's over there by the goalpost just kicking, kicking, kicking, kicking.

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Speaker 1: And he got to the point. I remember at his

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Speaker 1: like chipping over the house. Nice back. He would have

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Speaker 1: like a huge bag of balls. Well, this guy ends

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Speaker 1: He has since had one of the longest careers in

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Speaker 1: made a lifetime out of a knee and one knee injury. Yeah. So,

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Speaker 1: and that's speaking directly to your hy brixtoned elbow. I

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Speaker 1: know that's that's an extreme case. But you could take

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Speaker 1: everything and go what good can come out of this?

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Speaker 1: Because you imagine if Phil Dawson just said I blew

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Speaker 1: everything's out to get me up. I'm dealing with a

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Speaker 1: lot of adversity and just keeps piling up. Yeah, well

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Speaker 1: what if he said that he just bypassed a multimillion

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Speaker 1: It's a mindset, dude. Yeah, so think about And this

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Speaker 1: and you're gonna get to watch the game film of

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Speaker 1: how you responded. I always try to think, like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I responded to the suffering. Like I want to be

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Speaker 1: able to look back at it and say, man, I

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Speaker 1: gave it everything I had. I had a great attitude

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Speaker 1: and that's it, and that kind of helps me center

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Speaker 1: in the situation to be like, no, man, like this.

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Speaker 1: I want to look back at the journal jury during

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Speaker 1: this time and say, man, I continue to like center

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Speaker 1: myself and say, no, man, these are the things that

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Speaker 1: So here ats the mindset. Let me change your mantra here.

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Speaker 1: You said being positive doesn't always mean being happy all

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Speaker 1: for me. So and I saw this email come in,

637
00:38:57,440 --> 00:38:59,600
Speaker 1: like you know this person part of this case. I

638
00:38:59,680 --> 00:39:02,440
Speaker 1: was part of this. I'm actually part of this whole thing.

639
00:39:03,200 --> 00:39:07,640
Speaker 1: And it's it's pretty funny. So this is a guy

640
00:39:07,800 --> 00:39:13,000
Speaker 1: named Paul Underwood. He has a restaurant in Brownwood, Texas.

641
00:39:13,120 --> 00:39:17,040
Speaker 1: You know brown Wood. It's called Underwood's Cafe. Driven by

642
00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:21,160
Speaker 1: It before No, it's a legendary doing cowboy out front

643
00:39:21,280 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 1: Underwoods Underwood's Cafeteria thing, and so and and Paul's writing

644
00:39:32,719 --> 00:39:38,360
Speaker 1: seasoned this his request and he's writing from a he's

645
00:39:38,440 --> 00:39:44,320
Speaker 1: joking with me because it's a story that happened. And

646
00:39:44,680 --> 00:39:46,960
Speaker 1: I don't remember what year. Paul, if you're listening, I

647
00:39:47,040 --> 00:39:48,600
Speaker 1: know he listened to this podcast. You're gonna have to

648
00:39:49,360 --> 00:39:53,440
Speaker 1: help me. But we we roll through Brownwood, Texas. We

649
00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:55,440
Speaker 1: all get out, me and the band and crew. We're

650
00:39:55,440 --> 00:39:57,600
Speaker 1: gonna eat at one of our favorite stops on the road.

651
00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:03,400
Speaker 1: And people usually see a group of guys and they're like,

652
00:40:04,239 --> 00:40:09,000
Speaker 1: are you all a band? What's what kind of music

653
00:40:09,160 --> 00:40:11,560
Speaker 1: is it? You know, it's like a question. It happens

654
00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:14,920
Speaker 1: every time. During this time, no one knew who we were.

655
00:40:15,239 --> 00:40:18,040
Speaker 1: You still get the question, But it never really because

656
00:40:18,040 --> 00:40:21,080
Speaker 1: people say, are you all a band? And then yes,

657
00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:26,480
Speaker 1: what kind of music? Country music? Have I heard of you? No, Like,

658
00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:28,600
Speaker 1: it's kind of just something. It always ends on a

659
00:40:28,680 --> 00:40:34,279
Speaker 1: bad So I got into a very unhealthy habit of

660
00:40:34,520 --> 00:40:39,719
Speaker 1: joking with that question. This one particular time, you really

661
00:40:39,800 --> 00:40:42,480
Speaker 1: got my foot up in my mouth because this one

662
00:40:42,600 --> 00:40:45,120
Speaker 1: guy says you got a band? And I was like

663
00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:48,920
Speaker 1: kind of and he's like, oh, what do you mean?

664
00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:51,080
Speaker 1: Kind of was like, well, we're a crew. He was like,

665
00:40:51,160 --> 00:40:54,640
Speaker 1: oh cool, what kind of music? I was like country music?

666
00:40:55,200 --> 00:40:57,279
Speaker 1: And he goes, have I heard of the band? And

667
00:40:57,360 --> 00:41:03,320
Speaker 1: I was like, maybe Keith Urban And he goes seriously

668
00:41:04,719 --> 00:41:07,120
Speaker 1: And I thought when he said seriously, I thought he meant,

669
00:41:07,280 --> 00:41:10,520
Speaker 1: of course, not yeah. But he was serious seriously and

670
00:41:10,600 --> 00:41:13,160
Speaker 1: I was like yeah, and he's like, do you guys play?

671
00:41:13,200 --> 00:41:15,600
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, we're the lighting crew and

672
00:41:15,719 --> 00:41:18,719
Speaker 1: he's like, is Keith playing locally? And We're like he's

673
00:41:18,760 --> 00:41:22,360
Speaker 1: in a Oh my god. Somewhere around this point in

674
00:41:22,400 --> 00:41:26,279
Speaker 1: the conversation, I kept it going and didn't stop, and

675
00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:28,520
Speaker 1: I didn't. It was like it was like a train.

676
00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:31,759
Speaker 1: I couldn't stop it. Yeah, and I didn't know where

677
00:41:31,960 --> 00:41:34,839
Speaker 1: I was too stupid. Were the other guys with you? Yes?

678
00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:37,359
Speaker 1: Were they not laughing? By then they're just like were

679
00:41:37,400 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 1: they not laughing? Head first? But then they're just like,

680
00:41:40,360 --> 00:41:42,959
Speaker 1: shut up, Granger, shut up, Granger, shut it up. Great,

681
00:41:43,320 --> 00:41:46,160
Speaker 1: it so happens. This guy's like part owners of this restaurant.

682
00:41:47,000 --> 00:41:50,960
Speaker 1: And so I was like, oh no, he goes man.

683
00:41:51,880 --> 00:41:54,360
Speaker 1: He said something along the lines of I have a

684
00:41:54,520 --> 00:41:57,640
Speaker 1: daughter who's a massive Keith Urpan fan. I would love

685
00:41:57,719 --> 00:42:03,040
Speaker 1: to get some tickets if there's anyway. So I said,

686
00:42:04,239 --> 00:42:06,480
Speaker 1: let me get you my email and I'll help you

687
00:42:06,520 --> 00:42:09,239
Speaker 1: with the tickets. And I mean, I mean by this time,

688
00:42:09,280 --> 00:42:11,080
Speaker 1: I'm just like, where's the back door? I gotta get

689
00:42:11,120 --> 00:42:13,960
Speaker 1: out of here. This is I thought in my head

690
00:42:14,000 --> 00:42:16,840
Speaker 1: this was gonna just be like haha Keith Urban ha

691
00:42:17,000 --> 00:42:19,279
Speaker 1: ha No, but really a Granger Smith, I know you

692
00:42:19,360 --> 00:42:21,200
Speaker 1: never heard of us. No one's ever heard of me.

693
00:42:21,960 --> 00:42:23,759
Speaker 1: Oh okay, cool, maybe I'll look you up with it.

694
00:42:23,880 --> 00:42:25,759
Speaker 1: That's how I thought it was going to go this

695
00:42:26,000 --> 00:42:30,520
Speaker 1: and it had before this one went terribly wrong. So

696
00:42:32,840 --> 00:42:36,080
Speaker 1: this is a joke by Paul. What's funny is I

697
00:42:37,400 --> 00:42:39,919
Speaker 1: my conscience killed me. I got him in the van,

698
00:42:40,600 --> 00:42:45,040
Speaker 1: emailed them later, it was like, hey, Paul, I'm so sorry.

699
00:42:45,400 --> 00:42:49,320
Speaker 1: My name is Granger. I feel like an idiot. I

700
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:53,560
Speaker 1: have nothing to do with Keith Urban. We're a band

701
00:42:54,239 --> 00:42:57,839
Speaker 1: and we are playing in Abilene, but it's just little

702
00:42:57,920 --> 00:43:01,440
Speaker 1: old me. And he replied he was such a good sport.

703
00:43:01,560 --> 00:43:04,960
Speaker 1: And then we basically became friends, like PenTile friends. We're

704
00:43:05,000 --> 00:43:07,120
Speaker 1: still right back and forth. So he wrote me this

705
00:43:07,200 --> 00:43:12,960
Speaker 1: song email from Vern Wobbly, his alter ego, and basically

706
00:43:13,080 --> 00:43:16,320
Speaker 1: making fun of the entire conversation. He said, enclosed, you

707
00:43:16,320 --> 00:43:18,080
Speaker 1: will find an invoice for nine hundred and twenty two

708
00:43:18,080 --> 00:43:21,120
Speaker 1: dollars in Keith Urban merchandise that we gave to the

709
00:43:21,320 --> 00:43:27,600
Speaker 1: fans that I promised I would get it. So yeah,

710
00:43:27,680 --> 00:43:31,239
Speaker 1: that's pretty good. He said. Ps, this could perhaps lead

711
00:43:31,280 --> 00:43:34,080
Speaker 1: to a larger discussion on your podcast about road pranks,

712
00:43:34,880 --> 00:43:37,120
Speaker 1: So yeah, shout out to Paul, shout out to Underwoods.

713
00:43:37,239 --> 00:43:41,359
Speaker 1: And I'm still it's one of the stupidest conversations I've had.

714
00:43:42,560 --> 00:43:46,040
Speaker 1: Are you guys prankers? Like? Do y'all do pranks? You know?

715
00:43:46,120 --> 00:43:48,600
Speaker 1: I love pranks. Yeah, I like to do pranks on

716
00:43:48,680 --> 00:43:53,920
Speaker 1: other people. Yeah, man, we have pranked other bands, But

717
00:43:54,080 --> 00:43:57,080
Speaker 1: when it comes to our band. We have traveled together

718
00:43:57,239 --> 00:44:03,279
Speaker 1: so long that any prank becomes really bad. Yeah, I

719
00:44:03,480 --> 00:44:06,080
Speaker 1: dare you one. We set up one rule a long

720
00:44:06,160 --> 00:44:09,520
Speaker 1: time ago that's never messed with a dude when he's sleeping. Never. Yeah,

721
00:44:10,520 --> 00:44:12,239
Speaker 1: and everyone. So while we'd hire a new crew guy

722
00:44:12,320 --> 00:44:13,880
Speaker 1: and he would break that rule, then we'd have to

723
00:44:14,000 --> 00:44:16,400
Speaker 1: remember to tell him. But it's like, when you're on

724
00:44:16,520 --> 00:44:19,560
Speaker 1: the road, sleep is so important that you start messing

725
00:44:19,560 --> 00:44:22,399
Speaker 1: with some dud's nap time or middle of the night.

726
00:44:22,440 --> 00:44:25,279
Speaker 1: You're drawing faces with a sharpie on his face, you

727
00:44:25,320 --> 00:44:31,120
Speaker 1: know whatever. But yeah, there's there is that's a whole

728
00:44:31,160 --> 00:44:33,680
Speaker 1: different podcast of the pranks that I probably can't even

729
00:44:33,719 --> 00:44:38,040
Speaker 1: say on this one. But yeah, shout out to Paul.

730
00:44:38,200 --> 00:44:41,319
Speaker 1: Sorry about that, buddy, still storry, I'm stupid, all right,

731
00:44:41,400 --> 00:44:46,040
Speaker 1: so Bernie, we have what's next anonymous help please and

732
00:44:46,200 --> 00:44:53,799
Speaker 1: podcast question. I hear your cry for help. Yeah, yeah,

733
00:44:57,120 --> 00:45:01,080
Speaker 1: says hey Granger, my name is Destiny. I'd like I

734
00:45:01,160 --> 00:45:04,319
Speaker 1: hate it. I hate what it says. The next sentence says,

735
00:45:04,320 --> 00:45:10,680
Speaker 1: I'd like to remain anonymous. Guys. That happens all the time. Guys.

736
00:45:11,400 --> 00:45:14,520
Speaker 1: If you're hey, that's a little bit on her. I'm sorry. Destiny.

737
00:45:16,120 --> 00:45:18,920
Speaker 1: But if you want to remain anonymous, I'm not going

738
00:45:19,000 --> 00:45:20,960
Speaker 1: to say where you're from or how old. Yeah, have

739
00:45:21,000 --> 00:45:24,239
Speaker 1: a lot of destinies out there, Okay, but yeah, guys, please,

740
00:45:24,280 --> 00:45:26,040
Speaker 1: if you're writing me, don't put your name at the

741
00:45:26,120 --> 00:45:28,880
Speaker 1: first sentence and the second sentences you want to remain anonymous.

742
00:45:28,920 --> 00:45:34,399
Speaker 1: I'm sorry that happens. I'm connecting with you and hopes

743
00:45:34,440 --> 00:45:36,799
Speaker 1: that you can help me. And I'm get serious because

744
00:45:36,920 --> 00:45:39,000
Speaker 1: she says helpfully, so I can be laughing through this.

745
00:45:40,320 --> 00:45:42,080
Speaker 1: I'm connecting with you in hopes that you can help me.

746
00:45:42,120 --> 00:45:45,480
Speaker 1: I've watched your podcast from start and your most recent

747
00:45:45,800 --> 00:45:49,160
Speaker 1: You have become such a inspiration and it's helped me

748
00:45:49,239 --> 00:45:52,440
Speaker 1: get closer to God and faith. I use your words

749
00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:55,440
Speaker 1: as daily motivation and as a guide for how I

750
00:45:55,560 --> 00:45:57,960
Speaker 1: want to live my life and how I want my

751
00:45:58,080 --> 00:46:00,520
Speaker 1: sons to be. I recently got into a relation two

752
00:46:00,560 --> 00:46:02,520
Speaker 1: months ago with a guy I've known for a while.

753
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:06,120
Speaker 1: The only problem is he lives in Oklahoma, and that's

754
00:46:06,120 --> 00:46:07,759
Speaker 1: a long way from where she lives. By the way.

755
00:46:08,840 --> 00:46:11,879
Speaker 1: I've made visit with him, visits with him, and I've

756
00:46:11,960 --> 00:46:15,160
Speaker 1: met with him and his family, and I've thought I

757
00:46:15,880 --> 00:46:19,200
Speaker 1: instantly clicked with him and vice versa. However, he just

758
00:46:19,239 --> 00:46:22,400
Speaker 1: told me today, two months after getting together, that he

759
00:46:22,560 --> 00:46:26,360
Speaker 1: went and met with a girl and intended on cheating

760
00:46:26,800 --> 00:46:30,000
Speaker 1: but couldn't and use me as the excuse to leave

761
00:46:30,040 --> 00:46:32,200
Speaker 1: the other girl. And that was a month ago. I'm

762
00:46:32,239 --> 00:46:35,480
Speaker 1: not sure what to do. He has been part of

763
00:46:35,560 --> 00:46:37,840
Speaker 1: my son's life, and I've put so much time and

764
00:46:37,960 --> 00:46:41,520
Speaker 1: effort and affection into wanting this to work. My son

765
00:46:41,640 --> 00:46:45,880
Speaker 1: loves him. Reminder, we have known each other for almost

766
00:46:45,920 --> 00:46:49,040
Speaker 1: a year and a half before getting together. I fell

767
00:46:49,640 --> 00:46:52,120
Speaker 1: for him in the beginning, and he said that he

768
00:46:52,200 --> 00:46:58,200
Speaker 1: couldn't continue with the act. Hang on a second. I

769
00:46:58,280 --> 00:46:59,800
Speaker 1: fell for him at the beginning, and he said that

770
00:46:59,840 --> 00:47:02,680
Speaker 1: he couldn't continue with the act with her, and it

771
00:47:02,760 --> 00:47:08,359
Speaker 1: was a mistake. He regrets it, but was always told

772
00:47:08,520 --> 00:47:11,839
Speaker 1: to leave and not continue being with a cheater. I'm

773
00:47:11,880 --> 00:47:14,880
Speaker 1: sorry trying to follow this the writing here. I just

774
00:47:14,960 --> 00:47:17,640
Speaker 1: bought a plane ticket for me and my son for

775
00:47:17,840 --> 00:47:20,320
Speaker 1: New Year's and I'm just not sure what to do.

776
00:47:20,680 --> 00:47:23,919
Speaker 1: My heart says stay, but my brain says it's not right.

777
00:47:25,200 --> 00:47:27,319
Speaker 1: I'm glad you said the last sentence because that really

778
00:47:27,440 --> 00:47:30,600
Speaker 1: helps me. That last sentence really helps me a lot. Yep.

779
00:47:33,320 --> 00:47:36,399
Speaker 1: So her brain says stay, but her heart says it's

780
00:47:36,440 --> 00:47:40,279
Speaker 1: not opposite. My brain says stay. Yeah, I'm sorry. My

781
00:47:40,400 --> 00:47:43,600
Speaker 1: heart says stay, my brain says it's not right. Okay,

782
00:47:44,480 --> 00:47:47,640
Speaker 1: And does she mean stay home or stay with the

783
00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:54,439
Speaker 1: stay with the guy. Yeah. Oh that's a good question, Bernie. Yeah,

784
00:47:55,440 --> 00:47:58,920
Speaker 1: because she bought plane tickets to fly there. Ye, my

785
00:47:59,160 --> 00:48:05,239
Speaker 1: heart says to stay, but my brain says, but my

786
00:48:05,360 --> 00:48:08,600
Speaker 1: brain knows it's not right. I think she means not

787
00:48:08,719 --> 00:48:11,440
Speaker 1: right to stay with him with him? Yeah, okay, Okay,

788
00:48:12,880 --> 00:48:15,279
Speaker 1: where do you want to start? I'll jump in dude. Well,

789
00:48:16,200 --> 00:48:18,200
Speaker 1: I like that you said the heart brain thing because

790
00:48:18,239 --> 00:48:21,640
Speaker 1: that really helps me because that's very biblical, that the

791
00:48:21,880 --> 00:48:25,879
Speaker 1: heart is evil in a lot of ways, and it's

792
00:48:25,960 --> 00:48:29,839
Speaker 1: a misconception in our world to follow your heart, follow

793
00:48:29,880 --> 00:48:32,760
Speaker 1: your feelings, follow what makes you feel good, man, follow

794
00:48:32,840 --> 00:48:35,640
Speaker 1: what your heart tells you is right. But God gave

795
00:48:35,719 --> 00:48:42,600
Speaker 1: you this brain that's able to calculate and manipulate situations

796
00:48:42,840 --> 00:48:48,160
Speaker 1: and overcome adversities and obstacles and have discernment and where

797
00:48:48,239 --> 00:48:51,080
Speaker 1: to when to not go down dark alleys, and when

798
00:48:51,160 --> 00:48:54,200
Speaker 1: to when to eat and when to you know, like

799
00:48:54,800 --> 00:48:56,640
Speaker 1: that's what your brain does. The heart is just this

800
00:48:56,760 --> 00:49:02,080
Speaker 1: pumping organ that pumps blood that is synonymous with feelings,

801
00:49:03,280 --> 00:49:06,399
Speaker 1: and in this situation, your brain says it's not right.

802
00:49:07,080 --> 00:49:11,960
Speaker 1: You gotta trust your brain. Yeah. Absolutely. You also have

803
00:49:12,040 --> 00:49:16,719
Speaker 1: to think about your son and being very, very protective.

804
00:49:16,760 --> 00:49:18,640
Speaker 1: I'm sure you love your son dearly, want the best

805
00:49:18,800 --> 00:49:27,600
Speaker 1: for him. Just being even more thoughtful about what you

806
00:49:27,800 --> 00:49:32,040
Speaker 1: expose him to and what kink of effect that that has.

807
00:49:32,280 --> 00:49:40,080
Speaker 1: Look at this Oh wowah, okay, young too. What you

808
00:49:40,120 --> 00:49:42,359
Speaker 1: would have thought? You would have thought this girl thirty eight?

809
00:49:42,920 --> 00:49:45,320
Speaker 1: I thought that that's how old she was. Yeah, and

810
00:49:45,440 --> 00:49:48,319
Speaker 1: then you said, you know my son and blah blah,

811
00:49:48,320 --> 00:49:49,680
Speaker 1: And I was like, okay, well maybe she's a little

812
00:49:49,680 --> 00:49:56,759
Speaker 1: bit older. She's young. Yeah, Destiny, this is easy. Leave

813
00:49:56,800 --> 00:49:59,759
Speaker 1: the dude. Yeah, leave the dude. A he's in Alklahoma.

814
00:49:59,840 --> 00:50:01,920
Speaker 1: That a long way away. Yeah. You have a son

815
00:50:02,040 --> 00:50:04,240
Speaker 1: that's your number one priority. And this dude has already

816
00:50:04,800 --> 00:50:08,000
Speaker 1: already flirted with the idea of cheating on you. Yeah,

817
00:50:08,400 --> 00:50:12,400
Speaker 1: if he if he hasn't come in and completely wooed

818
00:50:12,520 --> 00:50:15,800
Speaker 1: you by the way he pursues you and loves you

819
00:50:15,960 --> 00:50:18,680
Speaker 1: and gives himself up for you, which is all biblical,

820
00:50:19,080 --> 00:50:22,359
Speaker 1: which and he is not making you fall in love

821
00:50:22,400 --> 00:50:26,799
Speaker 1: with Jesus Moore, there's no question if it's like a yeah,

822
00:50:26,880 --> 00:50:29,479
Speaker 1: but I kind of like him. He's cute, Like there's

823
00:50:29,960 --> 00:50:35,279
Speaker 1: there's a greater person out there for you. Absolutely, and

824
00:50:36,160 --> 00:50:38,399
Speaker 1: I'm not sure I can quote exactly what Parker said

825
00:50:38,560 --> 00:50:44,120
Speaker 1: last week, but becoming that person, she can become that

826
00:50:44,280 --> 00:50:48,279
Speaker 1: person that will be worthy of that one that she

827
00:50:48,440 --> 00:50:51,879
Speaker 1: will meet. I think that, Yeah, I think that needs

828
00:50:51,960 --> 00:50:54,200
Speaker 1: to be your focus now and on your son and

829
00:50:54,280 --> 00:50:58,480
Speaker 1: being the mother, you know, the best mother that you

830
00:50:58,560 --> 00:51:03,239
Speaker 1: can be, and then yeah, become the mother that you

831
00:51:03,400 --> 00:51:07,400
Speaker 1: want to be, so then you could open up to

832
00:51:07,560 --> 00:51:11,000
Speaker 1: meet the person that you deserve. You can't meet that

833
00:51:11,080 --> 00:51:13,600
Speaker 1: person that you deserve unless you become the mother you

834
00:51:13,680 --> 00:51:15,160
Speaker 1: want to be, or at least you're on the path.

835
00:51:15,600 --> 00:51:19,000
Speaker 1: And let me just say where you live, there's I'm

836
00:51:19,040 --> 00:51:21,439
Speaker 1: not going to say it because you're anonymous, but there's

837
00:51:21,520 --> 00:51:23,680
Speaker 1: a lot of really good guys where you live a

838
00:51:23,840 --> 00:51:25,520
Speaker 1: lot and you don't have to go all the way

839
00:51:25,520 --> 00:51:28,680
Speaker 1: to Oklahoma to find one. So there's too many red

840
00:51:28,760 --> 00:51:31,880
Speaker 1: flags in this. This is a very clear cut to me.

841
00:51:32,360 --> 00:51:34,360
Speaker 1: Sometimes questions come in where Bernie and I have to

842
00:51:34,440 --> 00:51:37,200
Speaker 1: really think about it. This is really clear cut to me.

843
00:51:37,800 --> 00:51:40,880
Speaker 1: You have other priorities. You're still really young, there's no

844
00:51:41,080 --> 00:51:44,279
Speaker 1: sense of urgency. Take care of what you do. You

845
00:51:44,400 --> 00:51:46,279
Speaker 1: probably have family where you live to you don't want

846
00:51:46,280 --> 00:51:48,359
Speaker 1: to get you don't want to leave them. You don't

847
00:51:48,360 --> 00:51:51,040
Speaker 1: want to spend money on plane tickets. This email came

848
00:51:51,080 --> 00:51:54,160
Speaker 1: in in November, so something has already happened since we're

849
00:51:54,239 --> 00:51:59,359
Speaker 1: reading it. So right back in and tell us, tell us, Yeah,

850
00:52:01,080 --> 00:52:04,719
Speaker 1: I'm pretty stupid because the subject line said a anonymous

851
00:52:04,800 --> 00:52:12,440
Speaker 1: please up, and I still pretty I'm sorry. It's okay, okay,

852
00:52:12,800 --> 00:52:23,640
Speaker 1: So we're looking at podcast question or what's next? Those

853
00:52:23,680 --> 00:52:29,520
Speaker 1: are both very ambiguous. Let's go. Let's go what's next?

854
00:52:31,520 --> 00:52:34,520
Speaker 1: That says, Hey, my name is Jason. I'm from Arkansas.

855
00:52:34,760 --> 00:52:37,440
Speaker 1: Longtime fans since my son, my son showed me Earl

856
00:52:37,480 --> 00:52:41,040
Speaker 1: Dibbles Junior back when he was in school in twenty thirteen.

857
00:52:41,840 --> 00:52:45,799
Speaker 1: What is your plan after music? By that, I mean

858
00:52:46,120 --> 00:52:48,000
Speaker 1: if you couldn't perform anymore and you had to choose

859
00:52:48,080 --> 00:52:50,640
Speaker 1: between making music touring over family, what would you do

860
00:52:50,719 --> 00:52:54,480
Speaker 1: to support your family? This isn't a knock or anything

861
00:52:54,760 --> 00:52:57,520
Speaker 1: like that. But if your music wasn't an option anymore,

862
00:52:57,800 --> 00:53:00,799
Speaker 1: what would your life look like in the future. Loved

863
00:53:00,800 --> 00:53:04,400
Speaker 1: the new album, both volumes g glad I picked that.

864
00:53:04,800 --> 00:53:08,719
Speaker 1: I was reading the title as like, what's next, you

865
00:53:08,800 --> 00:53:11,040
Speaker 1: know for me, you know, like help me figure out

866
00:53:11,040 --> 00:53:16,640
Speaker 1: what's next? But hmm, yeah, Well, let's say, first of all, well,

867
00:53:16,680 --> 00:53:20,399
Speaker 1: shout out to Arkansas. Thank you Jason. Let me say

868
00:53:20,440 --> 00:53:26,480
Speaker 1: first of all, you said if I had to choose

869
00:53:26,600 --> 00:53:31,920
Speaker 1: making music touring over family, I don't really know what

870
00:53:32,040 --> 00:53:35,280
Speaker 1: that means, but of course it's obvious what I would choose.

871
00:53:36,120 --> 00:53:41,680
Speaker 1: But what you mean is if I didn't have music

872
00:53:41,760 --> 00:53:43,560
Speaker 1: and touring, how would I take care of my family?

873
00:53:43,640 --> 00:53:48,760
Speaker 1: I think that's what you mean, So it's a good question.

874
00:53:49,080 --> 00:53:52,520
Speaker 1: The easiest answer is, well, I'll say this, I'm not

875
00:53:52,760 --> 00:53:54,839
Speaker 1: going to be making music and touring. I'll at least

876
00:53:55,040 --> 00:53:58,560
Speaker 1: not be touring my whole rest of my life. If

877
00:53:58,640 --> 00:54:00,279
Speaker 1: I was going to plan it out, now we all

878
00:54:00,400 --> 00:54:03,880
Speaker 1: know we only have today. Tomorrow's not guaranteed. But if

879
00:54:03,920 --> 00:54:06,359
Speaker 1: I was going to map out my life, I would say,

880
00:54:06,360 --> 00:54:08,120
Speaker 1: I'm not going to be torn when I'm an old man.

881
00:54:08,560 --> 00:54:10,560
Speaker 1: If you know, God will and I'm an old man,

882
00:54:11,880 --> 00:54:14,200
Speaker 1: I'll probably always be making music just because I love

883
00:54:14,280 --> 00:54:19,800
Speaker 1: making music. But the obvious answer is we have Ye Apparel,

884
00:54:20,560 --> 00:54:23,759
Speaker 1: and that is one of the biggest blessings outside of

885
00:54:24,440 --> 00:54:28,040
Speaker 1: other humans in my life. It's one of the biggest

886
00:54:28,080 --> 00:54:34,359
Speaker 1: blessings that's monetary, as Ye Apparel it is. It has

887
00:54:34,480 --> 00:54:38,880
Speaker 1: kept me alive during the pandemic. The growth of Ye

888
00:54:39,080 --> 00:54:42,640
Speaker 1: Apparel happened at the same time the decline of touring happened,

889
00:54:43,200 --> 00:54:47,520
Speaker 1: which is just a miracle in itself, and I love it.

890
00:54:47,640 --> 00:54:49,719
Speaker 1: I love this company. I love you Apparel. I loved

891
00:54:49,719 --> 00:54:54,320
Speaker 1: the brand. I love the faith, family, outdoor value that

892
00:54:54,440 --> 00:54:58,680
Speaker 1: it stands for. I love that it's a great foundation

893
00:54:58,840 --> 00:55:01,800
Speaker 1: for not only this podcast, but for future albums and

894
00:55:01,880 --> 00:55:04,080
Speaker 1: touring and meet and greets, and it's just all kind

895
00:55:04,080 --> 00:55:08,160
Speaker 1: of connects together. So if you take any component out

896
00:55:08,200 --> 00:55:11,520
Speaker 1: of that little circle of mine, it's the circle still lives.

897
00:55:12,760 --> 00:55:17,800
Speaker 1: So that's my first answer. My second answer could be

898
00:55:19,200 --> 00:55:24,960
Speaker 1: that I have felt a calling lately for maybe jumping

899
00:55:25,000 --> 00:55:30,040
Speaker 1: into some kind of public speaking type environment, and so

900
00:55:30,160 --> 00:55:31,719
Speaker 1: much so that I've actually talked to my book an

901
00:55:31,719 --> 00:55:37,000
Speaker 1: Agent about what would be the steps we need to

902
00:55:37,040 --> 00:55:40,960
Speaker 1: take if if opportunities came up where someone said, we

903
00:55:41,080 --> 00:55:43,279
Speaker 1: have this convention and we want Granger to speak at

904
00:55:43,320 --> 00:55:46,520
Speaker 1: the convention. We have a twenty minute slot for him,

905
00:55:46,680 --> 00:55:50,680
Speaker 1: and then there's Joe Montana is headlining it, and then

906
00:55:50,719 --> 00:55:54,320
Speaker 1: someone else. You know, that's how same as music but speaking.

907
00:55:55,160 --> 00:55:57,880
Speaker 1: So I kind of started uncovering a little bit of

908
00:55:57,960 --> 00:56:00,920
Speaker 1: that world through my book and AI because they do that,

909
00:56:01,280 --> 00:56:06,359
Speaker 1: they do that too, and it's really intriguing to me because, Ay,

910
00:56:06,719 --> 00:56:09,360
Speaker 1: there's a ton of fulfillment in being able to speak

911
00:56:09,840 --> 00:56:12,840
Speaker 1: almost like we do on this podcast, but actually with

912
00:56:12,960 --> 00:56:16,840
Speaker 1: a live audience. And then and the second thing is

913
00:56:19,400 --> 00:56:22,120
Speaker 1: the longevity of being able to go and do public

914
00:56:22,160 --> 00:56:24,719
Speaker 1: speaking last a lot longer than going out with a

915
00:56:24,760 --> 00:56:28,560
Speaker 1: band and playing music. What I mean is you see

916
00:56:28,600 --> 00:56:31,640
Speaker 1: a lot more old gray hair men speaking and not

917
00:56:31,760 --> 00:56:36,640
Speaker 1: as many of them a singing. Sure, So yeah, I don't.

918
00:56:36,760 --> 00:56:40,680
Speaker 1: I haven't unpacked it any more than that. Really, I'll

919
00:56:40,719 --> 00:56:42,880
Speaker 1: tell you what the conversation with the book an agent was.

920
00:56:42,920 --> 00:56:45,759
Speaker 1: The conversation was, we need to connect you to our

921
00:56:45,840 --> 00:56:49,520
Speaker 1: book department because typically the way that you do what

922
00:56:49,600 --> 00:56:52,960
Speaker 1: you're saying is you start with the book and then

923
00:56:53,000 --> 00:56:58,000
Speaker 1: you pitch the book to these speaking engagements and they say,

924
00:56:59,600 --> 00:57:02,600
Speaker 1: what is what did he talk about? Well, here's a bit. Yeah,

925
00:57:02,719 --> 00:57:05,080
Speaker 1: here's the book he could he can talk about these

926
00:57:05,239 --> 00:57:12,520
Speaker 1: ten subjects. He can talk about career, music, faith, life

927
00:57:12,560 --> 00:57:15,399
Speaker 1: after loss. You could talk about these things. Or here's

928
00:57:15,440 --> 00:57:18,200
Speaker 1: his book he talks about that. So that's kind of

929
00:57:18,240 --> 00:57:21,200
Speaker 1: the So then I talked to the book department at

930
00:57:21,240 --> 00:57:25,600
Speaker 1: my book an agency, and so this is all pretty

931
00:57:25,640 --> 00:57:28,320
Speaker 1: new and I've never really talked about it. So I'd

932
00:57:28,360 --> 00:57:32,000
Speaker 1: love to hear your thoughts on this podcast. But yeah,

933
00:57:32,040 --> 00:57:35,840
Speaker 1: I'm excited, buddy, either way, no matter what, you coming

934
00:57:35,920 --> 00:57:39,160
Speaker 1: with me. I'm coming with you, all right, coming with you? Okay,

935
00:57:39,680 --> 00:57:45,280
Speaker 1: all right. The last question here today is titled podcast question,

936
00:57:45,520 --> 00:57:48,840
Speaker 1: and that's why it's last because it was a little

937
00:57:48,840 --> 00:57:51,200
Speaker 1: bit of a boring subject line. But it's probably probably

938
00:57:51,280 --> 00:57:54,040
Speaker 1: really good. Let's find out. It says, Hey Granger, my

939
00:57:54,120 --> 00:57:56,080
Speaker 1: name is Josh, I'm from Texas. I love your music,

940
00:57:56,120 --> 00:57:58,960
Speaker 1: your family, and your YouTube. I've seen you every time

941
00:57:59,000 --> 00:58:00,480
Speaker 1: you come to Billy Bob's and I can't wait for

942
00:58:00,560 --> 00:58:02,680
Speaker 1: the next time for meet and greets. So I could

943
00:58:02,680 --> 00:58:05,200
Speaker 1: give you a challenge coin from my department, try to

944
00:58:05,240 --> 00:58:07,560
Speaker 1: sum this up. My wife and I've been married for

945
00:58:07,600 --> 00:58:11,480
Speaker 1: twelve years, and we've struggled to have kids. We've had

946
00:58:11,520 --> 00:58:14,920
Speaker 1: two miscarriages, We've spent over twenty grand on IVF treatments,

947
00:58:15,440 --> 00:58:19,560
Speaker 1: and have been told it's impossible. God's since has blessed

948
00:58:19,640 --> 00:58:23,240
Speaker 1: us with two beautiful miracles. But that is a testimony

949
00:58:23,280 --> 00:58:25,880
Speaker 1: for a longer format if you're interested. I'm a man

950
00:58:25,920 --> 00:58:28,480
Speaker 1: of God. I understand that I am supposed to let

951
00:58:28,600 --> 00:58:32,040
Speaker 1: go of things and I don't understand and turn away

952
00:58:32,080 --> 00:58:36,320
Speaker 1: from it. Oh, I'm supposed to let go of things

953
00:58:36,360 --> 00:58:38,480
Speaker 1: that I don't understand and turn away from anger. But

954
00:58:38,640 --> 00:58:42,040
Speaker 1: anytime I see people who had children by accident and

955
00:58:42,120 --> 00:58:44,640
Speaker 1: don't appreciate it, our people who give up on their

956
00:58:44,720 --> 00:58:48,480
Speaker 1: kids or have abortions, it angers me so much. I

957
00:58:48,600 --> 00:58:52,200
Speaker 1: find difficulty in showing these people love. I thought it

958
00:58:52,240 --> 00:58:54,280
Speaker 1: would be so different once we had our kids of

959
00:58:54,400 --> 00:58:57,520
Speaker 1: our own, but it hasn't. How do I move past

960
00:58:57,600 --> 00:59:00,680
Speaker 1: this anger and learn to love these people well as

961
00:59:00,760 --> 00:59:05,800
Speaker 1: some are close friends or family. I love how you

962
00:59:05,840 --> 00:59:08,520
Speaker 1: take deep questions and give Godly insight and advice. Thanks

963
00:59:08,560 --> 00:59:10,280
Speaker 1: for all you do. Keep it up. Gig them and

964
00:59:10,360 --> 00:59:18,400
Speaker 1: ye ye Josh deep Yeah, I share, Josh, I share

965
00:59:19,080 --> 00:59:22,200
Speaker 1: with you in this miscarriage, and I share with you

966
00:59:22,640 --> 00:59:26,600
Speaker 1: I v F so we have that in common. And

967
00:59:26,840 --> 00:59:28,600
Speaker 1: you didn't know that when you wrote this email. But

968
00:59:29,480 --> 00:59:31,040
Speaker 1: you didn't know as you're writing that that we had

969
00:59:31,080 --> 00:59:37,040
Speaker 1: more in common than you think your thoughts burn. You're

970
00:59:37,040 --> 00:59:39,920
Speaker 1: such a you're such a good family dad too, and

971
00:59:40,160 --> 00:59:42,840
Speaker 1: you have you had an adopted child, which kind of

972
00:59:42,840 --> 00:59:48,000
Speaker 1: helps that perspective as well. Yeah. Yeah, I think that

973
00:59:48,520 --> 00:59:55,560
Speaker 1: there can be a difference between a righteous anger and

974
00:59:59,160 --> 01:00:07,600
Speaker 1: judgment anger. This is a really tough question that can

975
01:00:07,680 --> 01:00:12,840
Speaker 1: get controversial really fast. Sure, but I share with you

976
01:00:13,160 --> 01:00:17,920
Speaker 1: in that anger, and that just I don't know if

977
01:00:17,960 --> 01:00:19,680
Speaker 1: it's anger. I don't know if anger is the right word,

978
01:00:19,720 --> 01:00:24,960
Speaker 1: as much as it should be heartbreak. When you see

979
01:00:26,040 --> 01:00:30,920
Speaker 1: children neglected, no matter where in development stage they are,

980
01:00:31,080 --> 01:00:36,840
Speaker 1: it's it's neglect, it's lack of accountability, it's lack of support,

981
01:00:38,280 --> 01:00:44,640
Speaker 1: it it's brokenness of our world. Just it's very front

982
01:00:44,680 --> 01:00:55,280
Speaker 1: and center. I would just advise to I mean, if

983
01:00:55,320 --> 01:00:57,240
Speaker 1: I had to, I don't know, man, I think that

984
01:00:57,360 --> 01:01:00,760
Speaker 1: we're all kind of in the same boats sometimes dealing

985
01:01:00,880 --> 01:01:06,000
Speaker 1: with seeing people neglect their kids or or just leave

986
01:01:06,760 --> 01:01:19,080
Speaker 1: their kids at the hospital after they're born. But I

987
01:01:19,240 --> 01:01:24,600
Speaker 1: also know that we are all by nature just sinful

988
01:01:24,640 --> 01:01:26,320
Speaker 1: and prone to it. So I don't think that we

989
01:01:26,440 --> 01:01:31,200
Speaker 1: can what what should we expect? What more should we

990
01:01:31,360 --> 01:01:38,640
Speaker 1: expect from from a sinful people and sinful humans? Good?

991
01:01:39,640 --> 01:01:41,960
Speaker 1: And how did we forget that? It was only by

992
01:01:42,040 --> 01:01:44,360
Speaker 1: God's grace that our eyes were open to our need

993
01:01:44,480 --> 01:01:47,560
Speaker 1: for Him and his and his grace. How can we

994
01:01:47,720 --> 01:01:53,040
Speaker 1: not view these things with anything but grace and brokenheartedness

995
01:01:54,440 --> 01:01:57,480
Speaker 1: unless we're also viewing ourselves as the chief of sinners

996
01:01:57,520 --> 01:02:01,320
Speaker 1: as well. Yeah, you're expecting too much from man kind. Man,

997
01:02:02,360 --> 01:02:04,240
Speaker 1: you look to man for that kind of thing, that

998
01:02:04,360 --> 01:02:07,880
Speaker 1: kind of perfection that you want so desperately to see,

999
01:02:08,120 --> 01:02:10,360
Speaker 1: You're never going to see it unless you're looking up,

1000
01:02:10,880 --> 01:02:12,680
Speaker 1: because that's the only place you're going to see it.

1001
01:02:13,880 --> 01:02:16,640
Speaker 1: You're saying, you're finding difficulty showing these people love. I

1002
01:02:16,720 --> 01:02:18,800
Speaker 1: get it, man, I get it. But this is what

1003
01:02:18,840 --> 01:02:21,240
Speaker 1: you got to remember, Especially with the friends and family

1004
01:02:21,280 --> 01:02:23,960
Speaker 1: that you're talking about, the close friends and family, the

1005
01:02:24,160 --> 01:02:28,240
Speaker 1: only way you're going to affect them is through love.

1006
01:02:29,080 --> 01:02:31,320
Speaker 1: Anger will get you nowhere with these people. How do

1007
01:02:31,360 --> 01:02:33,600
Speaker 1: you do that? You're asking, You're thinking, how do I

1008
01:02:33,680 --> 01:02:36,960
Speaker 1: show these people love. I don't even respect their life

1009
01:02:37,040 --> 01:02:40,360
Speaker 1: decisions about their kids. How about this, You're with friends

1010
01:02:40,400 --> 01:02:42,240
Speaker 1: and family, You're sitting around, and you just go, Man,

1011
01:02:44,320 --> 01:02:49,520
Speaker 1: I cannot tell you how thankful and grateful and blessed

1012
01:02:49,600 --> 01:02:54,560
Speaker 1: I am with these babies. Can you believe the twelve

1013
01:02:54,640 --> 01:03:00,560
Speaker 1: year struggle I had and the money that was so

1014
01:03:00,840 --> 01:03:03,440
Speaker 1: hard to come by that we put towards this, and

1015
01:03:04,040 --> 01:03:07,760
Speaker 1: the heartbreak of miscarriages, And I look at these two.

1016
01:03:08,320 --> 01:03:11,280
Speaker 1: I'm reading your words, buddy, I'm looking at these two

1017
01:03:11,400 --> 01:03:15,360
Speaker 1: beautiful miracles that are a testimony to my life and

1018
01:03:15,480 --> 01:03:18,480
Speaker 1: the love of God. You say that to them, you

1019
01:03:18,560 --> 01:03:21,320
Speaker 1: don't think in their mind they're gonna be like, dang,

1020
01:03:21,680 --> 01:03:25,880
Speaker 1: I know exactly what he's talking about with me. I

1021
01:03:26,000 --> 01:03:29,000
Speaker 1: feel exactly what Like that's the way to get instead

1022
01:03:29,040 --> 01:03:31,800
Speaker 1: of approaching them with their life is just pull back

1023
01:03:32,080 --> 01:03:35,160
Speaker 1: on your own life and just pour in the gratefulness

1024
01:03:36,200 --> 01:03:40,680
Speaker 1: and show them what a miracle that a little baby is. Yeah,

1025
01:03:41,560 --> 01:03:45,000
Speaker 1: and not only that, Granger mentioned that my wife and

1026
01:03:45,080 --> 01:03:48,960
Speaker 1: I had a bio child and then we were foster

1027
01:03:49,120 --> 01:03:52,680
Speaker 1: parents and adopted a little girl, and then we had

1028
01:03:52,840 --> 01:03:57,920
Speaker 1: another bio. So I and I think that this is

1029
01:03:58,040 --> 01:04:01,160
Speaker 1: going to be you know in the word as well,

1030
01:04:01,360 --> 01:04:06,160
Speaker 1: like sometimes the energy that we spend looking at other

1031
01:04:06,240 --> 01:04:11,080
Speaker 1: people saying why are you not doing this? Instead of hey,

1032
01:04:11,240 --> 01:04:15,160
Speaker 1: go adopt another kid, Go be a foster parent as well.

1033
01:04:15,240 --> 01:04:18,600
Speaker 1: You have these two if you want to like display

1034
01:04:19,240 --> 01:04:24,360
Speaker 1: what God's love is, it's an orphan being brought into

1035
01:04:24,440 --> 01:04:29,479
Speaker 1: a family, someone who did not deserve the love being

1036
01:04:29,640 --> 01:04:33,560
Speaker 1: brought in and made their own like she is our own.

1037
01:04:34,280 --> 01:04:36,400
Speaker 1: And so I'm going to be a strong advocate for

1038
01:04:37,440 --> 01:04:41,439
Speaker 1: let's turn our energy energy away from saying y'all don't

1039
01:04:41,480 --> 01:04:44,200
Speaker 1: need to do this too, Hey, I can't. I mean,

1040
01:04:44,360 --> 01:04:46,760
Speaker 1: you would be astonished at the number of foster kids

1041
01:04:46,800 --> 01:04:49,720
Speaker 1: there are in the system, justin Travis County. I know

1042
01:04:49,840 --> 01:04:53,040
Speaker 1: that there's a lot of love probably in your heart still,

1043
01:04:53,400 --> 01:04:56,440
Speaker 1: and a lot of anger that could easily be turned

1044
01:04:56,480 --> 01:05:01,320
Speaker 1: to love for one or two or three more adopted

1045
01:05:01,440 --> 01:05:04,280
Speaker 1: kids or foster kids or whatever whatever you feel called to.

1046
01:05:04,440 --> 01:05:12,080
Speaker 1: But I think that in that God will just continue

1047
01:05:12,120 --> 01:05:14,800
Speaker 1: to give you grace. I think as you just continue

1048
01:05:14,880 --> 01:05:17,400
Speaker 1: to divide His word and really push into it, you're

1049
01:05:17,440 --> 01:05:23,080
Speaker 1: going to start to see yourself more and more broken

1050
01:05:23,520 --> 01:05:28,800
Speaker 1: and in need of Him. And that's going to allow

1051
01:05:28,880 --> 01:05:30,920
Speaker 1: you to just look at others with so much more

1052
01:05:31,000 --> 01:05:33,960
Speaker 1: grace and your own situation with so much more gratitude.

1053
01:05:34,560 --> 01:05:37,120
Speaker 1: So good. I'm going to talk about one sentence that

1054
01:05:37,200 --> 01:05:40,040
Speaker 1: you said, I'm a man of God and I'm supposed

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Speaker 1: to let go of things I don't understand. I don't

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Speaker 1: really think there's any Yeah, there's nothing biblical about that sentence, right,

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Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, I think he may be saying, like,

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Speaker 1: you know, like God's ways or higher than our ways,

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Speaker 1: and we don't understand them, and so it's like I

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Speaker 1: need to let go of it. But I also agree

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Speaker 1: with you, like, I don't think we let go of that.

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Speaker 1: I think kind loves us to wrestle within in the

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Speaker 1: hard And where do we find it? In the scripture?

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Speaker 1: We go straight there, we run to it, and you're going,

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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm flipping these pages and I don't see

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Speaker 1: anything about people aborting their babies. And that's why I'm

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Speaker 1: so angry right now. Dude. There's stuff in there that

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Speaker 1: you can find that's really close to what you are

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Speaker 1: talking about. You'll find it in there, and then you'll

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Speaker 1: find the reaction, and then you'll find God's reaction. This

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Speaker 1: is crazy how you could find stuff that's very relevant

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Speaker 1: to exactly what you're talking about in those pages. So

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Speaker 1: don't run or let go of things you don't understand.

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Speaker 1: Just just give it to God and look. But that

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Speaker 1: doesn't mean just go I don't understand, So God you

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Speaker 1: got it. No dig into it, but make sure the

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Speaker 1: grounding of what you're digging into is correct. It's good word.

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Speaker 1: Man's a good question, Man, good question. Thank you, Josh,

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Speaker 1: Thank you for everyone that I emailed today and Burns

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Speaker 1: appreciate you, dude. I'll have you back if you want

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Speaker 1: to see more. Bernie, say say more, Bernie. Thank you guys. Hey,

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Speaker 1: before we get off, let me do some of these

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Speaker 1: shout outs. I get them all the time. Yeah, DH

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Speaker 1: has a birthday shout out Cole Nixon, Jacob Fulton, Gloria Strong,

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Speaker 1: Marty Moserve, Keenan Ferr, Jen Dias Hayden Lancaster, Adam Blakely,

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Speaker 1: Jacob Green, and Dwight Martin. Shout out to all you

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Speaker 1: guys for listening. He says your name. You got to

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Speaker 1: part of the deal. In fact, if you heard anything

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Speaker 1: today that you were like, hey, that relates to my

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Speaker 1: friend or my life, share it with them. Absolutely love

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Speaker 1: you guys. See thanks for joining me on the Grangersmith Podcast.

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