WEBVTT - A Star Was Born 0:00:12.039 --> 0:00:21.000 It's time with no little all right, Who the fuck 0:00:21.120 --> 0:00:25.000 is that me? What's the name Jerzy Draan? 0:00:27.680 --> 0:00:31.080 And you are no, I'm not ship, lead me out 0:00:31.120 --> 0:00:39.479 of it. Blake's Kelly, Kelly. 0:01:03.280 --> 0:01:06.759 What's up y'all? It's your girl lex P And it's 0:01:06.800 --> 0:01:08.920 Sugarlsrea Nicle and. 0:01:09.000 --> 0:01:13.759 You are tuned in to another episode of Poor Mine Birthday? 0:01:13.959 --> 0:01:18.600 Is she my bad? I supposed to say, we're a 0:01:18.720 --> 0:01:22.120 drunk mind speaks sober thoughts and we ain't got no 0:01:22.360 --> 0:01:28.399 gifts today. We ain't got no gifts today. It's my birthday. 0:01:28.800 --> 0:01:34.160 It's it's your birthday. It's your birthday, bad bitch contest 0:01:34.319 --> 0:01:37.920 you and fire black you and fire Bla you in 0:01:38.040 --> 0:01:40.480 fire Bla, bad bitch god. 0:01:44.920 --> 0:01:49.720 Birthday are Oh that was a great intro. You know 0:01:49.840 --> 0:01:53.160 I busted down. You did now you work it down. 0:01:53.280 --> 0:01:57.320 You didn't play no game, you know what I'm saying. Okay, 0:01:57.520 --> 0:02:00.080 another another forest season, the. 0:02:00.160 --> 0:02:02.760 Other tourist season. You see, we got the birthday cupcakes. 0:02:02.840 --> 0:02:05.840 It's your thirty fourth years on this Earth. And if 0:02:05.920 --> 0:02:08.720 y'all didn't know, April twenty second is also Earth Day, 0:02:08.880 --> 0:02:11.680 it is. It is Earth Day every year. April twenty 0:02:11.720 --> 0:02:14.239 second is Earth Day. So you're thirty four years on 0:02:14.320 --> 0:02:16.800 this Earth. How are you feeling? You just ended your 0:02:16.919 --> 0:02:19.880 seventy five hard You've done amazing job. Thank you, thirty 0:02:19.960 --> 0:02:23.399 five days no liquor, working out, you got a six 0:02:23.560 --> 0:02:25.239 pack now I do looking good? 0:02:25.280 --> 0:02:29.639 How you feeling? I feel great? I feel amazing, Like 0:02:30.040 --> 0:02:35.320 I feel so unstoppable. I feel so empowered. I was 0:02:35.440 --> 0:02:38.280 just saying this the other day. I just dropped another 0:02:38.320 --> 0:02:41.919 blog on my YouTube channel, or not blog but a video, 0:02:42.040 --> 0:02:44.400 and it was kind of like a life update, and 0:02:44.520 --> 0:02:47.840 I was just saying how empowered I feel and unstoppable 0:02:47.880 --> 0:02:51.200 I feel from doing this challenge. So many people when 0:02:51.240 --> 0:02:54.200 I posted on Instagram like it was my seventy fifth 0:02:54.320 --> 0:02:56.040 day and I was done, was like, oh, let me 0:02:56.080 --> 0:02:59.679 see you before and after photos. And I feel like 0:03:00.080 --> 0:03:03.480 a post my before and after photos, like physically and 0:03:03.600 --> 0:03:06.040 show people what my body looked like before and then now. 0:03:06.120 --> 0:03:08.000 But I really feel like it's not like a huge 0:03:08.160 --> 0:03:11.160 drastic change, just because I already was like an avid 0:03:11.280 --> 0:03:15.200 gym goer before I started the challenge. But for me, 0:03:15.440 --> 0:03:17.639 it was more of a mental thing, like it was 0:03:17.680 --> 0:03:23.519 a mental challenge. Yeah, because not drinking for seventy five 0:03:23.639 --> 0:03:26.280 days is a lie. Like in my adult life. I'm 0:03:26.320 --> 0:03:29.000 gonna be honest. The longest I've ever went without drinking 0:03:29.120 --> 0:03:32.560 is forty days. It was really hard, especially I feel 0:03:32.600 --> 0:03:35.040 like now our careers and where we're going, we're in 0:03:35.120 --> 0:03:36.920 a space where we always have to go to events, 0:03:37.280 --> 0:03:39.080 we always have to mix a mingle, we always have 0:03:39.160 --> 0:03:41.160 to be social. And I ain't gonna lie. I don't 0:03:41.200 --> 0:03:44.080 have no friends around me that don't drink. Everybody drinks, 0:03:44.560 --> 0:03:48.440 So it's definitely a challenge to be in these spaces 0:03:48.800 --> 0:03:53.000 in places and not succumb to wanting to have a drink. Plus, 0:03:53.120 --> 0:03:55.960 life be life in we all know life being hard 0:03:56.160 --> 0:03:58.800 is f uc k a lot of the time, and 0:03:59.040 --> 0:04:01.600 it's been some things had happened during my seventy five 0:04:01.640 --> 0:04:03.640 part challenge where I really wanted to go have a 0:04:03.720 --> 0:04:06.040 dreams but I was like, no, girl, you have a goal, 0:04:06.600 --> 0:04:09.600 you made a commitment, You're making a sacrifice. And I 0:04:09.680 --> 0:04:12.080 really am a person who I feel like God rewards 0:04:12.160 --> 0:04:15.120 you when you be obed, and I feel like God 0:04:15.440 --> 0:04:17.320 was telling me that this was something that I needed 0:04:17.360 --> 0:04:19.160 to do and that I needed to stay consistent with. 0:04:20.040 --> 0:04:22.120 And I'm just very proud of myself because I feel 0:04:22.200 --> 0:04:25.440 like it just shows a lot of discipline. I feel 0:04:25.440 --> 0:04:27.000 like that's something that a lot of people don't have 0:04:27.279 --> 0:04:30.120 one thing about me. I'm a disciplined girl and a 0:04:30.200 --> 0:04:32.400 resilient girl. I could do whatever I put my mind to. 0:04:32.920 --> 0:04:36.000 So I'm just really proud of myself that I got 0:04:36.080 --> 0:04:39.240 through it. And then also physically working out for seventy 0:04:39.279 --> 0:04:43.320 five days. I ain't never worked out. I have anybody 0:04:43.480 --> 0:04:46.599 ever worked out for seventy five days straight without taking 0:04:46.760 --> 0:04:49.000 a break, you know. I feel like that's a big thing. 0:04:49.240 --> 0:04:52.600 So doing that was a big deal too. And out 0:04:52.600 --> 0:04:54.200 of the seventy five days, I only didn't meet my 0:04:54.279 --> 0:04:57.640 ten thousand step goal three songs. Oh you did it? 0:04:57.920 --> 0:05:00.520 I did not? I tell you did? I said no? No, 0:05:00.640 --> 0:05:06.839 I only did no. Yeah, but I only didn't meet 0:05:06.880 --> 0:05:09.040 it three times, and then I made up for it 0:05:09.120 --> 0:05:12.279 the next day. Yeah. Yeah, But I feel great, good good. 0:05:12.600 --> 0:05:17.880 It was mentally challenging and I feel way more laser focused. 0:05:17.920 --> 0:05:21.440 I'm super focused. I feel like it did wonders for 0:05:21.600 --> 0:05:24.360 my mental health and I feel great. I think it's 0:05:24.360 --> 0:05:27.040 something everybody should try at least once in their life. 0:05:27.640 --> 0:05:29.320 So what are your goals for this year? 0:05:30.480 --> 0:05:33.320 My goals for the year, the thirty fourth year, what 0:05:33.400 --> 0:05:37.560 are your you know, Birthday, New Year, New me goals. 0:05:38.640 --> 0:05:41.800 One of my major goals for myself is just to 0:05:44.640 --> 0:05:47.520 be more present, I would say, be more present in 0:05:47.640 --> 0:05:50.760 the moment. I'm a person who I rarely ever pat 0:05:50.800 --> 0:05:53.400 myself on the back when I accomplish things. And like 0:05:53.520 --> 0:05:55.559 a lot of my friends tell me this about myself, 0:05:55.600 --> 0:05:58.839 and they're like, you just always be glazing over accomplishments, 0:05:58.920 --> 0:06:01.120 like it's a small thing and you be doing big, 0:06:01.320 --> 0:06:04.440 amazing stuff. I think that I never really take the 0:06:04.520 --> 0:06:08.720 time out to just be present and just be like, wow, 0:06:08.880 --> 0:06:11.400 I really did this and live in the moment, because 0:06:11.440 --> 0:06:15.000 I'm always on to the next thing, Like because I'm 0:06:15.080 --> 0:06:16.920 not where I want to be in life, where I 0:06:17.040 --> 0:06:20.360 know my goals are at, and where I see myself being. 0:06:20.920 --> 0:06:23.000 I think that I'm always just like, Okay, it's cool 0:06:23.040 --> 0:06:26.040 that I did this, but what's next? Because I got 0:06:26.160 --> 0:06:29.320 to get to this goal of having this networth or 0:06:29.320 --> 0:06:33.080 accomplishing this specific task, and I don't take enough time 0:06:33.200 --> 0:06:36.000 to appreciate the things that I've already done and how 0:06:36.080 --> 0:06:38.880 far I've came, you know, especially for me to only 0:06:38.920 --> 0:06:40.520 be thirty four years old, I feel like I have 0:06:40.680 --> 0:06:42.400 lived a lot of lives and I've done a lot 0:06:42.520 --> 0:06:45.480 of dope stuff, and I don't really ever just take 0:06:45.520 --> 0:06:49.159 the time out to smell the flowers and be appreciative 0:06:49.440 --> 0:06:53.200 of where I'm at. So I would say being more present. 0:06:55.440 --> 0:06:58.560 And then as far as business goes, of course, like 0:06:58.760 --> 0:07:01.159 I want to take Poor Mind to the next level, 0:07:01.200 --> 0:07:03.400 Like I'm hoping that we end up getting a talk 0:07:03.480 --> 0:07:06.080 show in the next year, which I do feel like 0:07:06.279 --> 0:07:09.000 is a very attainable goal with every where we're going 0:07:09.080 --> 0:07:11.200 and everything that we have going on with the business 0:07:12.720 --> 0:07:15.360 with MWS, I really want to get mused to being 0:07:15.600 --> 0:07:18.280 a million dollar company, and I feel like I could 0:07:18.320 --> 0:07:20.559 do that. I just have to be more intentional about, 0:07:20.880 --> 0:07:23.640 you know, marketing and putting more money into marketing and stuff, 0:07:24.000 --> 0:07:27.480 because it's already a brand that runs itself, and it runs. 0:07:28.240 --> 0:07:31.679 It's already a brand that runs itself, y'all. I started 0:07:31.720 --> 0:07:33.440 Make Drinking today and I feel like you could tell 0:07:34.600 --> 0:07:36.880 it's already a brand that runs itself and it's doing 0:07:36.960 --> 0:07:39.600 really well. And I just feel like I just need 0:07:39.680 --> 0:07:42.720 to be more intentional with it about my goals because 0:07:43.120 --> 0:07:45.480 if I really put more effort into it and more 0:07:45.800 --> 0:07:48.520 money into it. It could really be a multi million 0:07:48.760 --> 0:07:51.280 dollar company because of what it already does without me 0:07:51.600 --> 0:07:56.400 being super intentional. And yeah, like in my personal life, 0:07:56.480 --> 0:08:00.440 I just want to have a healthy, happy relationship, and 0:08:00.560 --> 0:08:02.640 same thing with my friends, Like I just want to 0:08:02.920 --> 0:08:07.320 have healthy, happy relationships, peaceful relationships. I don't want to 0:08:07.440 --> 0:08:11.480 drama with people, no weird energy. And I'm very intentional 0:08:11.520 --> 0:08:15.280 at this point in my life of cutting off any bullshit, 0:08:15.400 --> 0:08:17.440 anything that I don't like, I'm just not dealing with. 0:08:17.680 --> 0:08:20.520 And I'm distance myself because I feel like when I 0:08:20.600 --> 0:08:23.520 was younger, I was way more apprehensive and was a 0:08:23.600 --> 0:08:25.520 people pleasing Yeah. Yeah, so yeah. 0:08:26.120 --> 0:08:28.679 So do you feel like from thirty three to thirty 0:08:28.720 --> 0:08:31.520 four like your goals last year that you, you know, 0:08:31.640 --> 0:08:32.560 wanted for the past year. 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:34.040 Do you feel like you did what you were supposed 0:08:34.040 --> 0:08:35.920 to do. I feel like I exceeded my goals for 0:08:36.040 --> 0:08:39.319 thirty three, okay for sure. Yeah, like the things that 0:08:39.400 --> 0:08:42.200 I'm doing, the things that I've accomplished in this last year, 0:08:42.240 --> 0:08:43.920 because a lot of the goals that I accomplished was 0:08:43.960 --> 0:08:47.400 stuff that I had on my on my list and 0:08:47.520 --> 0:08:49.679 things that I wanted to accomplish in life. But I 0:08:49.800 --> 0:08:52.240 wasn't necessarily thinking that I was going to accomplish it 0:08:52.440 --> 0:08:57.520 last year. So I feel like God exceeded my expectations 0:08:57.600 --> 0:08:59.360 of what I thought was going to happen last year. 0:09:00.240 --> 0:09:02.400 That's amazing. You know. I feel like I agree with 0:09:02.480 --> 0:09:02.760 you on that. 0:09:02.800 --> 0:09:06.400 I think a lot of times people don't ever stop 0:09:06.480 --> 0:09:09.439 and smell the flowers for themselves, and you don't want 0:09:09.440 --> 0:09:11.959 to look up, and you were just always trying to 0:09:12.000 --> 0:09:14.199 reach something and you never clap for yourself. You know, 0:09:14.400 --> 0:09:16.520 You've had an amazing You're like I just told you, like, 0:09:17.080 --> 0:09:22.280 seventy five days of doing anything consistently is hard. Anything consistently, 0:09:22.600 --> 0:09:26.240 that is what people deem not fun. So you were 0:09:26.280 --> 0:09:29.400 working out, not drinking, you know what I'm saying. On 0:09:29.480 --> 0:09:31.120 top of the other things, I know you had probably 0:09:31.200 --> 0:09:33.719 added to your morning routine and things like that. So 0:09:34.400 --> 0:09:36.320 I have to clap for you and giving your flowers 0:09:36.320 --> 0:09:37.920 because the only things I'm doing for seventy five days 0:09:37.960 --> 0:09:38.720 straight is drinking. 0:09:40.120 --> 0:09:43.559 So that is a feat that not too many people 0:09:43.720 --> 0:09:47.320 can reach. So I'll applaud you for that. My sister 0:09:48.080 --> 0:09:50.719 and me, along with the poor crew, we are very 0:09:50.800 --> 0:09:53.600 proud of you. You know what I'm saying. 0:09:54.000 --> 0:09:57.679 And that's something that I think, you know, seventy five hard. 0:09:57.880 --> 0:10:01.040 Will I try seventy five hard? Probably, maybe I'll do 0:10:01.120 --> 0:10:02.760 a thirty. Maybe I'll do a ten hard. 0:10:04.520 --> 0:10:06.679 You know, I feel like you could do ten. I 0:10:06.720 --> 0:10:08.599 feel like you have to push yourself. I don't know. 0:10:09.120 --> 0:10:11.160 I think that I just always been a person where 0:10:11.200 --> 0:10:12.760 it's like I really like to push myself because I 0:10:12.760 --> 0:10:15.079 feel like every time I push myself and I challenge myself, 0:10:15.160 --> 0:10:17.559 God rewards me. On the other side of it, Look, 0:10:17.600 --> 0:10:20.520 I have a lot of amazing things that have happened 0:10:20.520 --> 0:10:22.679 to me while I've been doing this challenge and stuff too, 0:10:22.800 --> 0:10:24.439 Like I done got a new car, a lot of stuff, 0:10:25.080 --> 0:10:27.080 you know, a lot of good, good gud g grades. 0:10:27.240 --> 0:10:30.240 It's twenty twenty five is the year of the up grade. 0:10:30.440 --> 0:10:32.760 We just upgrade. You know. All we doing is livling up, 0:10:32.840 --> 0:10:35.360 continuously livling up. And I do feel like if you 0:10:35.520 --> 0:10:37.160 want to live a up in life, you have to 0:10:37.240 --> 0:10:40.680 make sacrifice. Yeah, you know what I mean. So I'm 0:10:40.720 --> 0:10:46.160 all about sacrificing for the the greater good. Okay, period, 0:10:46.960 --> 0:10:48.600 all right, we're gonna get into these topics. 0:10:49.200 --> 0:10:51.920 So speaking of you know, we in our thirties, we 0:10:52.080 --> 0:10:55.520 are in our thirties, were like deep in our thirties. Now, 0:10:55.800 --> 0:10:59.640 you know what I'm saying, Like, we're not in our 0:10:59.679 --> 0:11:02.480 early twenties no more. You know what I'm saying, Yeah, 0:11:02.720 --> 0:11:05.760 we in our thirties. It's not like, oh, we just 0:11:06.000 --> 0:11:08.520 turned thirty and we're just trying to figure out things 0:11:08.559 --> 0:11:12.079 that I like, we're in the thirties. So with this 0:11:12.280 --> 0:11:15.000 topic today, we're gonna talk about shit that was cute 0:11:15.160 --> 0:11:15.560 in our. 0:11:15.520 --> 0:11:17.280 Twenties but not anymore. 0:11:17.920 --> 0:11:21.920 Because sometimes I give people a pass for even in 0:11:22.000 --> 0:11:25.559 their late twenties or their early thirties, because I'm like 0:11:25.920 --> 0:11:28.720 a lot of shit changed for me when I turned thirty. Yeah, 0:11:28.800 --> 0:11:31.319 but who I was at thirty is not the same 0:11:31.559 --> 0:11:34.559 woman that I am at thirty five or even was 0:11:34.640 --> 0:11:38.040 at thirty four. So I want we don't talk to 0:11:38.160 --> 0:11:40.319 today about like, shit that was cute in your twenties, 0:11:41.000 --> 0:11:42.400 But you can't. 0:11:42.520 --> 0:11:45.240 You don't get a slide no more. Okay, you don't 0:11:45.280 --> 0:11:45.880 get a pass. 0:11:46.000 --> 0:11:47.760 So what's something that you used to do your twenties 0:11:47.800 --> 0:11:50.240 at honestly kind of made you cringe? 0:11:51.200 --> 0:11:54.000 It's a lot of stuff. Where do I begin? Where 0:11:54.040 --> 0:11:56.200 do I begin? I did a lot of cringey things 0:11:57.040 --> 0:11:59.520 in my twenties, for sure, I feel like Number one, 0:11:59.679 --> 0:12:02.280 some of my fashion choices, some of the stuff that 0:12:02.320 --> 0:12:03.959 I used to wear, I'll be looking back and I'd 0:12:03.960 --> 0:12:07.160 be like, you can't believe I wore that, because I 0:12:07.320 --> 0:12:11.880 think that as you get older, you gotta be like class. 0:12:12.280 --> 0:12:14.959 Class can't be bought. You know what I mean. You 0:12:15.040 --> 0:12:17.360 can't buy class. You either have it or you don't. 0:12:18.080 --> 0:12:21.280 It's something that you can learn, but it can't be bought. 0:12:21.480 --> 0:12:24.120 And I feel like when I was younger, the type 0:12:24.160 --> 0:12:26.760 of woman that I know it deep down inside that 0:12:26.880 --> 0:12:29.640 I always wanted to be, I feel like I didn't 0:12:30.040 --> 0:12:32.360 present myself in the way that I really wanted to 0:12:32.440 --> 0:12:34.760 be address And I think they had a lot to 0:12:34.840 --> 0:12:37.400 do with like wardrobe choices, Like it's just certain stuff. 0:12:37.440 --> 0:12:39.240 I'd just be like, yeah, I would never wear that now, 0:12:39.440 --> 0:12:42.280 Like a whole bunch of seed through stuff, a whole 0:12:42.320 --> 0:12:46.040 bunch of really short stuff with your but hanging out 0:12:46.160 --> 0:12:48.679 like I don't know, and it's nothing wrong. But if 0:12:48.720 --> 0:12:51.599 that's certain people style, that's cool. But I think that 0:12:51.760 --> 0:12:53.880 for me, I just have like a certain life in 0:12:54.000 --> 0:12:55.719 mind that I want and I think that that just 0:12:56.200 --> 0:13:00.599 certain aesthetics just doesn't attract the type of people or me, 0:13:00.760 --> 0:13:03.800 and that I think that I want to attracts okay, 0:13:04.240 --> 0:13:04.839 the future me. 0:13:06.360 --> 0:13:09.280 I think for me, one thing that I used to 0:13:09.320 --> 0:13:12.040 do in my twenties that I definitely don't do anymore, 0:13:12.240 --> 0:13:13.959 because I know I joke a lot, because you know, 0:13:14.080 --> 0:13:16.240 I like to get my drink on. But honestly, I 0:13:16.360 --> 0:13:19.600 used to drink every day in my twenties, Like every day. 0:13:19.920 --> 0:13:22.599 It was like wake up, What a party at? What 0:13:22.720 --> 0:13:24.839 a happy hour at? Where we going to eat dinner? 0:13:24.920 --> 0:13:26.880 And where are the drinks at? Like, if I'm being 0:13:27.240 --> 0:13:29.800 one hundred percent honest, I don't keep liquor in my 0:13:29.840 --> 0:13:34.640 house anymore. I drink whenever I film h on the weekends, 0:13:35.600 --> 0:13:38.760 my friends call me, I'm at home, Hey, let me 0:13:38.800 --> 0:13:41.319 call you back. I'm riting in my journal, or you know, 0:13:41.640 --> 0:13:43.679 I'm in church on Sundays. 0:13:43.400 --> 0:13:44.760 Like I am not. 0:13:45.480 --> 0:13:48.240 And I wish honestly not saying that you shouldn't drink 0:13:48.280 --> 0:13:49.960 in your twenties because you're supposed to turn up. 0:13:50.000 --> 0:13:52.840 But I think that I truly probably would be further 0:13:53.040 --> 0:13:53.800 in life. 0:13:53.640 --> 0:13:56.959 If I wasn't spending every I mean I used to 0:13:57.040 --> 0:14:00.360 buy a bottle of soroc on a Friday a big bottle, 0:14:00.520 --> 0:14:02.920 and by Sunday you will be gone between me and 0:14:03.000 --> 0:14:03.679 my homegirls. 0:14:03.800 --> 0:14:05.360 Like that's the type of drinking I used to do. 0:14:05.840 --> 0:14:07.160 So I think that shit that was. 0:14:07.160 --> 0:14:09.559 Cute in my twenties was like drinking all day, like 0:14:09.640 --> 0:14:11.840 being a turn up girl, like being the fun girl. 0:14:12.840 --> 0:14:15.080 It was cool in my twenties, but being the fun 0:14:15.120 --> 0:14:18.120 girl in your thirties, Like, there's no benefit of being 0:14:18.200 --> 0:14:20.280 the fun girl that's outside all the time for me 0:14:20.560 --> 0:14:21.280 and my goals. 0:14:21.520 --> 0:14:22.760 Yeah, I'm not saying this. 0:14:22.840 --> 0:14:25.280 For everybody, Like I said, this is no shade, no tea, 0:14:25.360 --> 0:14:27.200 because there are some fun girls that drink every day 0:14:27.200 --> 0:14:29.040 in their thirties and maybe that works for you, but 0:14:29.240 --> 0:14:31.160 for me, I can't do it. 0:14:31.480 --> 0:14:33.600 Yeah, I feel like I just all I've always been 0:14:33.760 --> 0:14:36.760 a binge drinker, Like I've never been a person who 0:14:36.880 --> 0:14:39.360 drink every day. Like I never been a girl that's 0:14:39.360 --> 0:14:42.080 gonna drink every single day. But when I do drink, 0:14:42.720 --> 0:14:46.280 Oh we gonna turn up right right, we gonna take 0:14:46.280 --> 0:14:50.200 it to the moon, take it to the stars every time. 0:14:50.360 --> 0:14:53.160 But every day. That never really been my thing. What's 0:14:53.240 --> 0:14:55.800 something that you feel like was cute in your twenties, 0:14:55.840 --> 0:14:58.040 It's not cute no more now tie, I feel like 0:14:58.160 --> 0:15:02.080 the over hustling. Like we always like we're go getters. Yeah, 0:15:02.160 --> 0:15:04.840 sometimes we're gonna do everything that needs to possible. But 0:15:05.000 --> 0:15:09.320 now being over thirty, over thirty five, I want to relax. Yeah, 0:15:09.600 --> 0:15:11.400 I want to nap. I think we talked about this before, 0:15:11.520 --> 0:15:13.880 but like living a life of luxury, and luxury is 0:15:13.920 --> 0:15:16.520 waking up when I want to making my breakfast in 0:15:16.600 --> 0:15:20.760 my fiel, go for a walk, slow morning, a slow morning, 0:15:21.120 --> 0:15:23.600 taking a nap in the middle after of the afternoon, 0:15:24.600 --> 0:15:27.440 just those simple pleasantries that we often like as in 0:15:27.520 --> 0:15:29.480 the twenties was just going and going and going. No, 0:15:29.880 --> 0:15:34.760 take it easy, relax, enjoy. What's up? Y'all's your girl 0:15:34.960 --> 0:15:37.000 XP and it's your girl Dray and the call. And 0:15:37.120 --> 0:15:38.160 y'all know one thing about us. 0:15:38.200 --> 0:15:41.040 We are always talking about getting ahead on your finances 0:15:41.160 --> 0:15:43.160 and just setting yourself up for a better future. 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Sue Queen one Glow, Endless Possibility Travel 0:17:18.200 --> 0:17:20.920 Queens series premiere Wednesday, April twenty thirty eight. 0:17:20.960 --> 0:17:22.680 On d Like a thing on Twitter, and they'd be like, 0:17:22.800 --> 0:17:26.960 hashtag team most sleep, We're getting it all night, were up, were. 0:17:26.800 --> 0:17:32.480 Working, y'all? Hashtag workflow? Yeah, y'all about the work work flow? 0:17:32.800 --> 0:17:37.280 Like are we up? And we grinded? Yeah, y'all. It's like, 0:17:37.520 --> 0:17:40.879 but that's not because I'm all here grinding. Remember that 0:17:41.000 --> 0:17:48.520 song what's it that DJ? Kellyesh No forever. But that's 0:17:48.560 --> 0:17:49.120 what I'm saying. 0:17:49.240 --> 0:17:52.040 Over working yourself is the stupidest shit ever it is. 0:17:52.280 --> 0:17:56.159 I'm all about working smarter and not harder like that. 0:17:56.320 --> 0:17:59.399 Over So that was a great point, Ty, and we 0:17:59.520 --> 0:18:02.560 actually talked about this the other day. Wait, who are 0:18:02.560 --> 0:18:03.119 you talking about? 0:18:04.160 --> 0:18:04.920 Think about a lot? 0:18:05.160 --> 0:18:08.400 I know, but I hate this and I don't care 0:18:08.560 --> 0:18:10.560 what y'all say, because I used to do this in 0:18:10.640 --> 0:18:12.560 my twenties, in my early twenties, and this is embarrassing 0:18:12.600 --> 0:18:14.199 for me to But I'm being real right now. 0:18:14.800 --> 0:18:15.959 Sleeping in your makeup? 0:18:16.560 --> 0:18:19.680 Oh, and you be thinking you can wake up and 0:18:19.760 --> 0:18:22.360 maybe like touch it up, and it's okay. I'm telling 0:18:22.400 --> 0:18:24.960 you right now. As a skincare girly, I love skincare. 0:18:25.000 --> 0:18:28.440 I'm super into my skincare and a makeup girly, I 0:18:28.520 --> 0:18:30.480 can tell if your makeup is from yesterday. I don't 0:18:30.480 --> 0:18:32.000 care how much you freshen it up. I don't care 0:18:32.040 --> 0:18:34.680 what beauty blender you got, what brushes you got, I 0:18:34.760 --> 0:18:40.800 don't care if you got Charlotte Tilbury. Uh, Patrick Starr whoever, whatever, 0:18:41.119 --> 0:18:42.080 Patrick Tall whatever. 0:18:42.119 --> 0:18:45.120 I'm sorry, I said, Patrick Star. That's a SpongeBob. Y'all 0:18:45.160 --> 0:18:47.680 know what I am like. Patrick Starr is somebody in 0:18:47.760 --> 0:18:52.199 the beauty industry. Patrick Starr is SpongeBob is Patrick Now 0:18:52.400 --> 0:18:57.480 is somebody star who star? Jeffrey Star Jeffrey Yeah, I 0:18:57.640 --> 0:18:59.320 know it was something we don't talk about him, but 0:18:59.480 --> 0:19:01.159 we don't. We don't. But I just was trying to 0:19:01.240 --> 0:19:05.200 remember here was it was a stall Patrick Ta, it's 0:19:05.280 --> 0:19:08.560 just the birthday episode. I'm the stall. Okay, well, tash 0:19:08.600 --> 0:19:11.400 your wastop watashi wasta. 0:19:11.800 --> 0:19:13.800 But yeah, sleeping in your makeup is a big no no. 0:19:14.000 --> 0:19:16.879 So let me tell y'all something. Sleeping in your makeup. 0:19:16.600 --> 0:19:19.760 It ages you. It makes your skin. 0:19:20.440 --> 0:19:23.320 You start to get layers of dead skin because it's 0:19:23.320 --> 0:19:25.920 trying to protect your skin from that stuff. And then 0:19:26.320 --> 0:19:29.480 if you keep doing it, you're that dead skin is 0:19:29.560 --> 0:19:31.640 gonna be hard to get off. So eventually you're gonna 0:19:31.640 --> 0:19:33.240 have to like laser it to get off, and a 0:19:33.280 --> 0:19:36.280 lot of people can't afford laser. Sleeping in your makeup 0:19:36.400 --> 0:19:40.000 literally will age you. And it always looks dirty. It 0:19:40.119 --> 0:19:43.119 looks dirty as fuck. There'd be some makeup pictures. I 0:19:43.200 --> 0:19:45.880 look at myself when I was younger, and I could tell, bitch, 0:19:45.920 --> 0:19:49.400 that's old makeup. I used to sleep in my because 0:19:49.400 --> 0:19:53.200 you gotta realize though, but I'm I'm not making excuses, 0:19:53.240 --> 0:19:53.960 but I used to. 0:19:54.200 --> 0:19:55.320 This is the grind shit. 0:19:56.200 --> 0:19:58.240 I used to have to go to school, So I 0:19:58.359 --> 0:20:00.440 used to go to school in like the afternoon evening, 0:20:01.240 --> 0:20:02.760 I would get out of school. By the time I 0:20:02.800 --> 0:20:04.920 get out of school, go home, maybe do a little homework. 0:20:05.320 --> 0:20:07.320 Then I will have to go to Dreams. I'll have 0:20:07.400 --> 0:20:08.040 to go to Dreams. 0:20:08.080 --> 0:20:10.000 I will be there till about five six in the morning, 0:20:10.560 --> 0:20:12.800 go home, maybe get a little two hours of sleep. 0:20:12.880 --> 0:20:15.600 Then I had to be at TGI Fridays. Then I 0:20:15.640 --> 0:20:16.320 got to be there. 0:20:16.560 --> 0:20:20.520 We would open on the weekends at ten o'clock eleven o'clock. 0:20:20.880 --> 0:20:22.800 For real, I'm telling you, I used to go to 0:20:22.880 --> 0:20:25.359 school and working two jobs. So I used to be like, oh, 0:20:25.400 --> 0:20:28.119 I can just freshen up my makeup. And then I 0:20:28.200 --> 0:20:32.200 didn't understand the beauty of no makeup. We didn't have 0:20:32.359 --> 0:20:33.240 no makeup looks. 0:20:33.280 --> 0:20:33.399 Then. 0:20:33.560 --> 0:20:37.920 This was when it was blend eyeshadow had to be 0:20:38.080 --> 0:20:42.639 bright orange, pink, blue, brows like. 0:20:43.040 --> 0:20:44.240 And I'm not mad at that. 0:20:44.320 --> 0:20:45.920 Era because that's how I really learned how to do 0:20:46.000 --> 0:20:50.399 my makeup. So but it wasn't an era where little 0:20:50.480 --> 0:20:53.600 light Mascarra light concealer and lip blost and go. It 0:20:53.720 --> 0:20:56.040 was never giving that. I used to work in the club, baby, 0:20:56.280 --> 0:20:58.520 And I'm talking about the club at its peak era 0:20:59.040 --> 0:21:01.080 where you sitting there at work on a Wednesday night 0:21:01.200 --> 0:21:04.320 and young Jeezy walk in. So yeah, bitch, I used 0:21:04.320 --> 0:21:06.840 to sleep in my makeup because I used to be like, Okay, 0:21:07.240 --> 0:21:08.960 do you do you want to get some rest or 0:21:09.000 --> 0:21:10.919 do you want to like stay up and re wash 0:21:11.000 --> 0:21:11.399 your face? 0:21:11.480 --> 0:21:12.960 And because it used to take me like an hour, 0:21:13.000 --> 0:21:13.520 hour and a half to. 0:21:13.520 --> 0:21:17.200 Do my makeup realistically, So yeah, I used to definitely 0:21:17.200 --> 0:21:20.720 sleep in my makeup. And at that time it worked 0:21:21.760 --> 0:21:25.120 for the time because people, let's do my makeup. 0:21:25.800 --> 0:21:28.240 Let your face so beet. But looking back, I was 0:21:28.280 --> 0:21:31.680 like this, you look dirty. You look dirty. But honestly, 0:21:31.760 --> 0:21:34.920 in twenty twenty five, I still see some girls doing that. 0:21:35.200 --> 0:21:39.399 I still need some sleeping. Believable to me, I just 0:21:39.520 --> 0:21:48.600 cannot believe time. Yeah, Tequila, this is unbelievable to me. Literally, 0:21:48.840 --> 0:21:52.640 I cannot believe that y'all are not washing y'all face 0:21:52.680 --> 0:21:55.840 every day. Yep, yep, yep. You have to wipe that 0:21:55.920 --> 0:21:58.359 makeup off. I'm gonna white yr poores. You're gonna end 0:21:58.440 --> 0:22:01.200 up getting black heads. And because when I was younger, 0:22:01.320 --> 0:22:03.960 I was I really started getting into makeup when I 0:22:04.040 --> 0:22:06.440 got older, Like I feel like when I got into 0:22:06.520 --> 0:22:10.000 like what my like me to late twenties, I started 0:22:10.240 --> 0:22:12.600 really trying of getting into makeup. So, like when I 0:22:12.680 --> 0:22:14.760 was in my early twenties, I used to be washing 0:22:14.800 --> 0:22:17.640 my face every day, but I used to say, it's 0:22:17.720 --> 0:22:18.160 the norm. 0:22:18.440 --> 0:22:18.920 No, girl. 0:22:19.000 --> 0:22:20.960 When we was at Dreams, I'm telling you, we used 0:22:20.960 --> 0:22:23.960 to literally like, no, that's crazy. I didn't know. 0:22:24.119 --> 0:22:28.760 Yeah, but I think the life cyeah we lived working 0:22:28.840 --> 0:22:30.480 at Dreams, cause, like I said, Dreams was like the 0:22:30.520 --> 0:22:31.560 popping strip club. 0:22:32.280 --> 0:22:35.200 If you was not, they're living it you. 0:22:35.680 --> 0:22:39.159 It's hard to explain because like it was me, Jazz 0:22:39.520 --> 0:22:42.760 my girl here. We literally used to leave the club 0:22:42.800 --> 0:22:44.600 six seven o'clock in the morning. We would always go 0:22:44.720 --> 0:22:46.600 stay at one of our apartments. Whoever was closest and 0:22:46.640 --> 0:22:49.840 whoever wasn't drunk they could drive, And like I said, 0:22:50.080 --> 0:22:52.159 by the time I laid my head down, I had 0:22:52.200 --> 0:22:53.280 to get back up because. 0:22:53.040 --> 0:22:55.879 I was in school and I had another job. So, 0:22:56.840 --> 0:22:58.480 like I said, I used to have to decide, do. 0:22:58.520 --> 0:23:00.760 You want to wash your face and go to work 0:23:00.800 --> 0:23:02.399 with no makeup on, or do you want to get 0:23:02.440 --> 0:23:05.600 some rest. I'm twenty three years old, I'm going to sleep, bitch. 0:23:06.160 --> 0:23:08.560 Like I said, It's not something I'm like, oh yeah, 0:23:08.640 --> 0:23:10.600 that's what the bitch, that's what the fuck it was. 0:23:11.400 --> 0:23:12.920 And we wasn't living in a time. 0:23:12.760 --> 0:23:16.760 Where you know, cute, but you're so cute without making 0:23:16.840 --> 0:23:19.359 years old. 0:23:19.400 --> 0:23:21.560 I didn't know that though, cause twenty three year old 0:23:21.600 --> 0:23:24.359 me didn't see that. I didn't see girls showing up 0:23:24.400 --> 0:23:26.600 to the club with no makeup on, with little gloss on, 0:23:26.720 --> 0:23:31.120 looking cute. We saw that us with the middle Park 0:23:31.280 --> 0:23:34.480 bust down with the flashes on. That's what we saw. 0:23:34.680 --> 0:23:36.720 So we had to look like that. Because this was 0:23:36.800 --> 0:23:39.880 the era of the girls. The bartenders had to start 0:23:39.920 --> 0:23:40.840 looking like the dancers. 0:23:41.280 --> 0:23:45.159 Y'all didn't lived that era. Y'all got to bartend before 0:23:45.320 --> 0:23:47.680 that or after that. You have to be a bad 0:23:47.720 --> 0:23:49.680 bitch to bar tend, So I got to compete with 0:23:49.720 --> 0:23:53.639 a bitch you got a spaghetti thone in ass and 0:23:54.720 --> 0:23:57.040 the bartenders is still like that. I think it's worse now. 0:23:57.160 --> 0:24:00.920 Oh yeah, it's worse now, but beginning era that so 0:24:01.080 --> 0:24:04.440 it was a lot more pressure. Like I said, nowadays, 0:24:04.600 --> 0:24:06.040 if you cut you cute. 0:24:05.760 --> 0:24:08.160 Because I used to be going to work no make up. Yeah, 0:24:08.200 --> 0:24:10.920 that's what I'm saying. Y'all gonna get this natural phase. 0:24:10.920 --> 0:24:14.600 By the time, like when I moved to Atlanta, and 0:24:14.920 --> 0:24:16.480 like I was still kind of working in the club. 0:24:17.160 --> 0:24:19.960 Oh yeah, it was, I'm showing up. I can do 0:24:20.000 --> 0:24:22.879 a little lash, yeah, a little. But when I was 0:24:22.960 --> 0:24:26.480 twenty three, that was what that was twelve years ago, 0:24:27.440 --> 0:24:31.960 twelve thirteen years ago, maybe it was a different time. 0:24:32.160 --> 0:24:37.360 It was okay. So for me, I would definitely say 0:24:38.200 --> 0:24:41.960 being out all night and then getting up early, that's 0:24:42.080 --> 0:24:45.440 one that was cute back then. But I just can't 0:24:45.480 --> 0:24:48.040 do it now. I'd be so grumpy if I don't 0:24:48.080 --> 0:24:50.439 get at least seven hours of sleep, like I need 0:24:50.560 --> 0:24:55.119 at least a good semi. I'd be so grumpy. And 0:24:55.200 --> 0:24:57.119 you could tell like I'm not trying to be here, 0:24:57.400 --> 0:25:00.080 which well I take that bag. You can't tell. But 0:25:00.200 --> 0:25:03.160 I just know myself and I feel like my temperament 0:25:03.320 --> 0:25:05.440 be a little off when I haven't got enough sleep. 0:25:05.640 --> 0:25:07.159 I think I do my best to see it'll be 0:25:07.240 --> 0:25:10.320 nice and pleasant, but I need my sleep. I can't 0:25:10.359 --> 0:25:13.040 do it. But when I was younger, I'm talking about 0:25:13.600 --> 0:25:16.480 be out till six in the morning, go to the club, 0:25:17.000 --> 0:25:19.800 go to the strip club, go to the after hours, 0:25:20.000 --> 0:25:22.640 creeping in when the sun coming up, and then gotta 0:25:22.680 --> 0:25:25.760 be at work. At eight o'clock. That's how I used 0:25:25.800 --> 0:25:27.720 to be living. I can't do it no more, I 0:25:27.800 --> 0:25:30.600 really cannot. I love to be in my bed, tucked 0:25:30.680 --> 0:25:35.560 in Getting Rid of bed Time story by TMPM. Yeah 0:25:36.119 --> 0:25:38.240 I agree. I think being a homebody is okay. 0:25:38.840 --> 0:25:40.800 Yeah in your twenties, like people make saying, are you 0:25:40.880 --> 0:25:41.920 always gonna be at home? 0:25:42.160 --> 0:25:45.239 Yeah, it's peaceful there. I'm safe there in your twenties, though, 0:25:45.320 --> 0:25:47.520 I do, I feel like that's a little you know, 0:25:48.040 --> 0:25:49.840 you're supposed to be outside and having fun. 0:25:50.119 --> 0:25:53.440 Up about balance, Like I said, if I could go 0:25:53.560 --> 0:25:56.520 back to my twenties, I would be just a little 0:25:56.520 --> 0:25:59.679 bit more focused. Cause if I was focused in my twenties, 0:25:59.840 --> 0:26:02.560 I am now I'll be a millionaire by now. 0:26:04.040 --> 0:26:05.480 You know what I'm saying. But there's people who was 0:26:05.600 --> 0:26:10.800 but to to be the devil's advocate. It's people who 0:26:10.840 --> 0:26:13.000 was focused in a twenties and a stool our meanionaires. 0:26:13.040 --> 0:26:16.639 If that makes you feel better, don't it should? Because 0:26:16.720 --> 0:26:19.720 they was real focused, then they still not really doing it. 0:26:21.240 --> 0:26:24.280 I mean, it happens, Yeah, I guess. I just feel 0:26:24.400 --> 0:26:27.360 like I should have had more balance in my twenties, 0:26:28.440 --> 0:26:30.760 Oh for sure, because if you was out every night. 0:26:31.000 --> 0:26:34.600 You definitely I wasn't working, because, mind you, I work 0:26:34.640 --> 0:26:37.120 at the club, so you would think on my days off, 0:26:37.600 --> 0:26:40.320 I would take a day off because I'm already baby. 0:26:40.400 --> 0:26:42.760 No, I'm like, oh I don't work, somebody, I'm going out. 0:26:43.560 --> 0:26:47.320 That's why I say I was living a wild life. 0:26:48.960 --> 0:26:51.040 But I also think that was our culture too, right 0:26:51.480 --> 0:26:53.600 when I was in college. It was all the way 0:26:53.720 --> 0:26:58.119 turned up, swag service like all of that stuff that. 0:26:58.359 --> 0:27:02.359 Was roside life, all my not making come on. Like 0:27:02.440 --> 0:27:05.119 we were in the in the club cleaning bottles together 0:27:05.200 --> 0:27:08.320 like that, we was leaking. We was wasted. Yeah, white, 0:27:08.640 --> 0:27:14.080 I'm wasted. She wasted. Man. The times now people are 0:27:14.200 --> 0:27:20.720 little type jeans like the white boys. Yes, man. People 0:27:21.359 --> 0:27:23.520 are a little more cognizant on what they're putting in 0:27:23.560 --> 0:27:28.240 their body there in public. Yeah. The new generation is 0:27:28.280 --> 0:27:31.560 more into drugs and other things, not necessarily getting lit 0:27:31.640 --> 0:27:34.080 and turned up like we were, because you know, they 0:27:34.200 --> 0:27:41.119 be into dying what they do. Yeah, oh lord, and 0:27:41.200 --> 0:27:43.280 have mercy. They be doing all the drugs and ship 0:27:45.040 --> 0:27:48.240 all the stuffs and nobody got time to see. We 0:27:48.440 --> 0:27:50.480 we love some good old here the sea. Back in 0:27:50.560 --> 0:27:54.080 my day, a little four loco that's where we was 0:27:54.119 --> 0:27:56.919 gonna take it. Maybe maybe even a little molly if 0:27:56.960 --> 0:28:00.840 you're feeling frisky that night. But I'll be taking these 0:28:01.000 --> 0:28:04.239 too far. Y'all be taking me too yeah, because I'm 0:28:04.280 --> 0:28:05.920 not even gonna lie. I grew up with the white 0:28:06.000 --> 0:28:10.920 boys you did. Yeah, like we used to be drunk. 0:28:11.000 --> 0:28:13.120 But like the drug scene, Like, I'm not gonna lie 0:28:13.160 --> 0:28:15.399 the coke, yeah, but I'm not gonna lie. I'm not 0:28:15.520 --> 0:28:19.040 saying that coke is normal. But coke, that's they used 0:28:19.040 --> 0:28:21.560 to do that. And what's that club called in New York? 0:28:22.119 --> 0:28:26.600 What was fifty four? Like that? That's an old school drug. No, yeah, 0:28:26.680 --> 0:28:29.200 coke was like the drug of the seventies, you know 0:28:29.240 --> 0:28:29.720 what I'm saying. 0:28:29.800 --> 0:28:32.200 But y'all the ship that y'all doing now, like it's 0:28:32.200 --> 0:28:34.280 a little different. They got some names I ain't never 0:28:34.440 --> 0:28:36.640 heard of, and ship like that, y'all have some different types. 0:28:36.680 --> 0:28:40.880 The kids be willing, and they do it in public. 0:28:41.480 --> 0:28:49.720 It used to be at nowadays on stream. Yeah, bitch 0:28:49.840 --> 0:28:52.200 what back in the day, she right, though, they would 0:28:52.200 --> 0:28:53.880 do it in private. The only way people would know 0:28:53.920 --> 0:28:54.480 you come out. 0:28:54.400 --> 0:28:58.160 You got a little oh my, no listen, because that 0:28:58.280 --> 0:29:00.800 was being like when the when the that girl started 0:29:00.840 --> 0:29:02.600 doing it, it was like, oh my god. So when 0:29:02.640 --> 0:29:04.000 we used to be at dreams, like it was like, oh, 0:29:04.080 --> 0:29:05.680 let me look out for you type shit, like it 0:29:05.840 --> 0:29:06.080 was so. 0:29:07.280 --> 0:29:11.680 Down low because it was like, oh my god. Yes, 0:29:12.080 --> 0:29:14.280 it was like, oh my god. It was. It was 0:29:14.400 --> 0:29:16.520 such a big deal. But nowadays it's like, oh, you 0:29:16.600 --> 0:29:19.800 gotta peel bitch, yeah, because you got And they looked 0:29:19.840 --> 0:29:23.800 me like that too, Oh you gotta pell you what 0:29:24.000 --> 0:29:26.680 you got that thing on you? And they'd be like 0:29:26.880 --> 0:29:29.040 they'd be doing it on the open like maybe we 0:29:29.280 --> 0:29:32.480 was ladies back ladies. We were late and I'm not 0:29:32.600 --> 0:29:36.920 gonna lie. Personally, I was always too afraid to try coke, 0:29:37.160 --> 0:29:39.120 Like I just was always scared of what it would 0:29:39.120 --> 0:29:42.040 do to me. So I never tried it. But I did, 0:29:42.440 --> 0:29:45.520 you know, I popped a little little molly popped popped up. 0:29:45.520 --> 0:29:49.920 I'm wating. But it was the influence. 0:29:50.200 --> 0:29:50.440 It was. 0:29:51.640 --> 0:29:54.400 It was. It wasn't We probably shouldn't have said that 0:29:54.640 --> 0:29:55.200 on the show. 0:29:55.600 --> 0:29:57.520 I mean, I think it's a life though, but we're living. 0:29:57.600 --> 0:30:00.320 But we're teaching y'all that this is not something I'm 0:30:00.320 --> 0:30:01.040 not gonna lie to you. 0:30:01.680 --> 0:30:04.600 Did I'm out here now, probably look, yeah I did, 0:30:05.480 --> 0:30:07.520 but I didn't do it no more. But I'm telling 0:30:07.560 --> 0:30:11.320 you every knew the way over there looking shocked. I knew. 0:30:11.360 --> 0:30:13.240 I just wasn't gonna say it because I don't have 0:30:13.320 --> 0:30:14.239 nothing to be a shrap out. 0:30:14.280 --> 0:30:17.360 But I say that to say it wasn't like something 0:30:17.400 --> 0:30:19.400 I continuously did, because let me tell you, the people 0:30:19.480 --> 0:30:21.760 that continuously do it, they not doing this right now. 0:30:22.120 --> 0:30:24.760 I got my shit together. I literally I was like, 0:30:24.840 --> 0:30:26.880 I'm not like I said to this day. I don't 0:30:26.960 --> 0:30:29.360 drink every day. I don't go out every day. I 0:30:29.520 --> 0:30:32.360 knew that that environment that I was in because let 0:30:32.400 --> 0:30:34.400 me tell you, I took some time off from dreams 0:30:34.880 --> 0:30:36.920 and I started I got a regular job, and then 0:30:36.960 --> 0:30:39.320 I had to go back. And when I went back, 0:30:40.120 --> 0:30:43.800 I said, I cannot do this. This is not where 0:30:43.800 --> 0:30:47.760 I want to be. That fun fast lifestyle is something 0:30:47.840 --> 0:30:50.160 that was a short period of my life and I'm 0:30:50.160 --> 0:30:53.120 glad I lived it, but I knew I don't want. 0:30:53.000 --> 0:30:53.760 To be like y'all. 0:30:53.920 --> 0:30:56.440 There was nobody in that club that I was looking 0:30:56.480 --> 0:30:58.640 at like, wow, girl, you made it, you did that. 0:30:58.920 --> 0:31:01.440 You ate that. It was nobody. I didn't have nobody 0:31:01.520 --> 0:31:03.640 to look up to. It was like, oh my god, 0:31:03.760 --> 0:31:05.000 you did it. You made it out. 0:31:05.480 --> 0:31:07.560 It's a few girls that were working in the strip 0:31:07.640 --> 0:31:11.320 club that I see now that are doing well for themselves. 0:31:11.320 --> 0:31:13.480 So when I say few, I'm talking like one or two. 0:31:14.200 --> 0:31:15.880 That's what I was gonna say, because that's all I 0:31:15.960 --> 0:31:18.040 could think. Good were talking about the club. You was it? 0:31:18.280 --> 0:31:22.360 Yes, I can literally think of two women that I 0:31:22.600 --> 0:31:26.240 that were dancers or bartenders or anything that are doing 0:31:26.320 --> 0:31:27.200 well for themselves. 0:31:28.000 --> 0:31:31.240 That's sick. And it was hundreds of them there, and 0:31:31.360 --> 0:31:34.520 they was fine, beautiful girls. 0:31:34.600 --> 0:31:36.760 Beautiful that don't matter if you don't got your head 0:31:36.800 --> 0:31:38.720 on straight. And that's one thing I can say. I 0:31:38.800 --> 0:31:40.240 thank the club for teaching. 0:31:40.000 --> 0:31:42.560 Me what not to do. Oh for sure. I always 0:31:42.600 --> 0:31:44.480 say that too, though, But I think that was always 0:31:44.560 --> 0:31:46.920 a goal that I had for myself, even looking back 0:31:46.960 --> 0:31:50.080 to like when you moved to Atlanta. I remember I 0:31:50.200 --> 0:31:51.400 used to tell you all the time. I used to 0:31:51.440 --> 0:31:53.280 be like, Licks, I'm not gonna be thirty working in 0:31:53.320 --> 0:31:55.160 the club. You did say that. I used to always 0:31:55.200 --> 0:31:56.440 say that. I used to be like, I don't know 0:31:56.760 --> 0:31:59.160 what the fuck I'm gonna do. I don't know what 0:31:59.320 --> 0:32:01.480 I need to figure but I'm gonna figure out something 0:32:01.880 --> 0:32:05.160 because I cannot be thirty years old still working in 0:32:05.200 --> 0:32:08.080 the club. And again, it's not no shade to the 0:32:08.160 --> 0:32:11.320 women who are there who are still working, because sometimes 0:32:11.600 --> 0:32:13.920 you gotta do what you gotta do. People be having situations, 0:32:13.960 --> 0:32:16.640 they be having children. You gotta put food on the 0:32:16.680 --> 0:32:18.200 table for your kids. You have to do what you 0:32:18.320 --> 0:32:20.440 have to do. But for me, it was just something 0:32:20.480 --> 0:32:22.120 that I just knew I didn't want to be a 0:32:22.200 --> 0:32:25.360 part of because it's just so hard to not get 0:32:25.480 --> 0:32:28.240 caught up in it. That's it's all about, with that 0:32:28.440 --> 0:32:31.480 fast money. Like you, before you realize it, it'll be 0:32:31.600 --> 0:32:33.360 five six years you don't have been working at the 0:32:33.440 --> 0:32:35.600 same club, and you don't got so used to making 0:32:35.640 --> 0:32:38.160 that fast money. And because you're making it so fast 0:32:38.320 --> 0:32:40.600 and you know you're gonna make it every week, you're 0:32:40.640 --> 0:32:45.680 not investing, you're not saving, you just blowing money fast. Literally. 0:32:46.280 --> 0:32:50.920 I think you just thought I was big, meaning I 0:32:51.160 --> 0:32:52.800 definitely thought I was Larry Hoovery. 0:32:53.680 --> 0:32:57.080 You could not tell me, Okay, I'm this is funny. 0:32:57.120 --> 0:32:59.800 Now we can laugh at it now. I showed a 0:33:00.120 --> 0:33:02.920 weekend y'all All Star Weekend. I think I made like 0:33:03.880 --> 0:33:07.280 I don't know, like seven thousand dollars and I'm just like, 0:33:08.200 --> 0:33:10.720 and that was in like one night though, and I'm 0:33:10.840 --> 0:33:12.760 just thinking, like, I'm on. 0:33:12.960 --> 0:33:15.880 Top of the world. I thought I was unstoppable. I 0:33:16.000 --> 0:33:20.320 had seven thousand dollars in my pocket. I'm like twenty five, bitch, 0:33:21.000 --> 0:33:23.200 Like I'm thinking, I like it. 0:33:23.440 --> 0:33:26.800 This was the weekend Taana Taylor dropped them Adida shoes. 0:33:26.800 --> 0:33:30.560 Do y'all remember what she had that gold them golden 0:33:30.640 --> 0:33:34.280 black baby. I went to the mall, I had them holes. 0:33:34.720 --> 0:33:36.600 I had a friend that worked at her. They had 0:33:36.640 --> 0:33:38.200 them on the side for me. 0:33:38.400 --> 0:33:38.840 I passed. 0:33:38.840 --> 0:33:42.080 I'm walking past the line, me and Jazz, my friend, 0:33:42.160 --> 0:33:45.320 my bartender, and we like, yeah, we dropped like we 0:33:45.560 --> 0:33:48.360 really thought we was cool. That's what I'm saying. So 0:33:52.800 --> 0:33:55.200 Cau Sierra wasn't there because she was still sleep. I 0:33:55.360 --> 0:33:56.880 was like, oh, I got Kiera shoes. 0:33:58.680 --> 0:34:05.680 Yeah, and night and work Taylor drops bitch. We thought 0:34:05.760 --> 0:34:09.000 we was egg Yeah. I thought y'all was holy. But 0:34:09.120 --> 0:34:12.239 I'm saying, what a simple time though. Used to be 0:34:12.440 --> 0:34:16.359 so excited, y'all. Y'all were so excited about them. Tell 0:34:16.440 --> 0:34:18.399 on the tailor shoes. These days, if you ain't pulling 0:34:18.480 --> 0:34:21.160 up to the club with your Chanelle sneakers on. You 0:34:21.239 --> 0:34:24.239 ain't doing nothing, no, not even the Chanell snickers. Because 0:34:24.239 --> 0:34:25.960 did you pull up in the rosewors or not? Did 0:34:26.000 --> 0:34:27.400 you pull up in a rosworse? Did you put up 0:34:27.400 --> 0:34:30.920 in a g wes If you did any bitch, if 0:34:30.920 --> 0:34:34.160 you pulled up in a shame on you girl. They 0:34:34.239 --> 0:34:38.960 even still make prices. Yeah, yeah, because I oh, I remember, 0:34:39.040 --> 0:34:41.360 I used to want a prize so bad. That's what 0:34:41.440 --> 0:34:46.200 I'm saying, A simple time to cool because oh my god, 0:34:46.239 --> 0:34:48.480 I wanted to PRIs so bad. I was in my 0:34:48.560 --> 0:34:50.800 twenties because I just thought it was so cool. And 0:34:50.920 --> 0:34:52.880 I say all the saying made that song and he 0:34:52.960 --> 0:34:56.000 did pre season. I was like, what's wrong? He said 0:34:56.040 --> 0:34:57.800 on twenty three years old? And I ain't riding in 0:34:57.880 --> 0:35:00.040 the priest And after that I didn't want one. I 0:35:00.600 --> 0:35:04.680 was like, you got shame not the Prince. But I 0:35:04.760 --> 0:35:05.960 found that to say even if you. 0:35:06.160 --> 0:35:08.200 And I'm not trying to talk, we're not trying to 0:35:08.200 --> 0:35:09.839 talk down on people who are in the thirties working 0:35:09.840 --> 0:35:10.239 in the club. 0:35:10.680 --> 0:35:12.760 I think it's all about but mentality that you should 0:35:12.920 --> 0:35:15.440 you should. The goal should be to get the money 0:35:15.840 --> 0:35:18.000 to invest it or to do something else with it 0:35:18.120 --> 0:35:21.279 so that you're not thirty in the club. It's not 0:35:21.400 --> 0:35:24.440 nothing wrong if you are, but I personally just that's 0:35:24.520 --> 0:35:28.040 not ideal. Being thirty in the club is not a 0:35:28.200 --> 0:35:32.000 life plan. That's not where you should be in my opinion. 0:35:32.080 --> 0:35:34.279 It's okay if you are there, but I feel like, 0:35:34.320 --> 0:35:37.400 if you have been doing this for five six years already, 0:35:37.880 --> 0:35:41.640 you should be at the club. After year five, I 0:35:41.719 --> 0:35:44.120 was gonna say, you're three, you a five, you should 0:35:44.160 --> 0:35:46.520 be at the club. You gotta in the club. It's 0:35:46.560 --> 0:35:49.640 not how it even used to, not at all. The 0:35:49.760 --> 0:35:52.200 niggas is not Big Meets or Larry Hoover, no more 0:35:52.800 --> 0:35:53.279 big Meats. 0:35:53.280 --> 0:35:55.719 You got out and he been chilling. He don't even 0:35:55.800 --> 0:35:57.000 like how the club scene look. 0:35:57.920 --> 0:36:01.320 Yeah, it ain't the same. The street dry streets is 0:36:01.520 --> 0:36:05.960 dry people you niggas just But I will say people. 0:36:05.760 --> 0:36:07.319 Are trying to figure out how to get the legal 0:36:07.360 --> 0:36:09.920 money because we've realized it's no longevity in that. 0:36:10.000 --> 0:36:13.440 I'm not gonna lie to you. I thought for a while, 0:36:14.000 --> 0:36:16.680 I was like, being a bartender, is it you wanted 0:36:16.760 --> 0:36:19.520 a trapper? What I was like, I'm finna find my nigga. 0:36:19.640 --> 0:36:22.240 I'm finna be like d bartender, because you gotta realize 0:36:22.719 --> 0:36:25.200 that was a time where the Vegas was popping, and 0:36:25.320 --> 0:36:27.200 it was like, if you can make it to Vegas 0:36:27.239 --> 0:36:30.040 and bartend, it's a career out there. I'm like, they're 0:36:30.080 --> 0:36:31.960 clearing six figures a year. I was like, I can 0:36:32.040 --> 0:36:34.680 do that because not only am I fine and I 0:36:34.800 --> 0:36:36.600 know how to work in the club scene, I can 0:36:36.680 --> 0:36:37.800 actually make drinks. 0:36:38.520 --> 0:36:41.120 So even with that, I still had a bigger vision. 0:36:41.239 --> 0:36:43.720 But it's like, girl, get your old ass out the club. 0:36:44.160 --> 0:36:46.160 When I moved to Atlanta and I turned thirty, I 0:36:46.200 --> 0:36:49.040 said I and they gave me an outfit to where 0:36:50.080 --> 0:36:53.880 I said, hey, I'm gonna have to go when they 0:36:53.960 --> 0:36:56.279 try to give me the little spandex outfit, I said, hey, 0:36:56.600 --> 0:36:58.239 this was my last night work and I said, hey, 0:36:58.280 --> 0:37:00.680 you know what, it has been a fun time. 0:37:00.920 --> 0:37:02.840 I said, I can't do this. That was probably my 0:37:02.960 --> 0:37:05.839 favorite thing though, But like I feel like you could 0:37:05.960 --> 0:37:09.120 dress up and be cute and like, couldn't nobody judge 0:37:09.120 --> 0:37:11.719 you for it? Because alady I did that. 0:37:11.960 --> 0:37:14.080 We did that at Dreams, like we used to wear 0:37:14.160 --> 0:37:16.239 I used to be behind the bar, I used to 0:37:16.280 --> 0:37:16.919 be in the phone. 0:37:17.040 --> 0:37:19.440 Oh I remember you. I used to see you. I 0:37:19.520 --> 0:37:21.960 remember when me and Lex versus became friends. I was like, oh, 0:37:22.000 --> 0:37:24.840 I didn't seen you before. I used to see you 0:37:24.960 --> 0:37:26.680 all the time mixed up. I used to be like, 0:37:28.239 --> 0:37:36.239 I guess she didnt used to love she was the 0:37:36.360 --> 0:37:38.279 love cover to the bar. Give her her shrink. No, 0:37:38.520 --> 0:37:41.719 that wasn't until we became friends. I'm talking about once 0:37:41.800 --> 0:37:45.120 all before before. See I don't remember that because I 0:37:45.200 --> 0:37:48.040 used to be like, Okay, I see you your little 0:37:49.960 --> 0:37:52.200 I remember you with the Medda's fool. That's why I 0:37:52.239 --> 0:37:56.320 said I remember what the fuck? Oh? I was like, okay, 0:37:56.560 --> 0:38:01.080 Lex feed I had all the local raw first, all 0:38:01.160 --> 0:38:05.000 the local rappers. I'm not gonna lie to y'all. Dreams 0:38:05.160 --> 0:38:07.840 was really like, that's a that's one. But that's what 0:38:07.920 --> 0:38:09.760 I'm saying. That's one of the things about getting older 0:38:09.800 --> 0:38:11.759 where it's just like I do feel bad for the 0:38:11.920 --> 0:38:16.600 use they need to experience it in our dreams. Close Baby. 0:38:17.080 --> 0:38:21.600 I got woken up on a random Monday morning. 0:38:21.680 --> 0:38:25.040 By my boss and said, get dressed, get every get 0:38:25.080 --> 0:38:25.960 the girls together. 0:38:26.320 --> 0:38:28.520 We got something happening, like Baby. We went in there. 0:38:28.560 --> 0:38:32.520 It was Drake and like all like his friends, and 0:38:32.600 --> 0:38:34.799 it was like four or five dancers and just us 0:38:34.920 --> 0:38:38.120 and it was a time bitch, like we couldn't bring 0:38:38.160 --> 0:38:40.640 our phones in. But it's like if I said this, 0:38:40.840 --> 0:38:42.680 they'd be like, you're making that up. No I'm not. 0:38:43.000 --> 0:38:45.680 But if you knew dreams, this is what we used 0:38:45.680 --> 0:38:48.080 to do. I mean, and people have to understand, like 0:38:49.320 --> 0:38:52.920 back in the day, I feel like it was easier 0:38:53.000 --> 0:38:56.759 to be around celebrities because everybody wasn't like recording and 0:38:56.880 --> 0:38:57.680 everybody didn't have. 0:38:58.640 --> 0:39:02.439 That from time Drake said right here, yeah, Eric Recipeto 0:39:02.600 --> 0:39:05.319 Soo was DJing, yeah, and nobody was. 0:39:05.360 --> 0:39:07.960 Doing none of this because we wasn't worried about that 0:39:08.040 --> 0:39:10.280 because that wasn't the thing to do back in because 0:39:10.280 --> 0:39:13.000 I was trying to get us one. That's when I mean, 0:39:13.120 --> 0:39:14.640 we were trying to get us one, but we was 0:39:14.719 --> 0:39:17.880 also working. I was really trying to get our money, 0:39:18.040 --> 0:39:20.320 Like you're not worried about because it is before you 0:39:20.360 --> 0:39:24.040 could get popular from cloud from recording people and some 0:39:24.280 --> 0:39:26.480 in a blog picking it up. Blogs wasn't even looking 0:39:26.480 --> 0:39:27.759 at that type of stuff. Back in the day, they 0:39:27.800 --> 0:39:29.120 was posting real celebrities. 0:39:31.560 --> 0:39:33.080 I forgot his name. We used to have him a 0:39:33.200 --> 0:39:36.279 name one of my old bays, but that was not. 0:39:36.400 --> 0:39:38.760 I met him that night that Drake was at the club. 0:39:39.920 --> 0:39:42.239 Time. What a time. We really used to be having 0:39:42.280 --> 0:39:45.080 a good time. No cameras, everybody was having a good time. 0:39:45.120 --> 0:39:48.520 Everybody was getting lit turned up. You wasn't worried about 0:39:48.600 --> 0:39:52.399 trying to get posty and it was just great. Now 0:39:53.239 --> 0:39:55.120 they be taking your phone, they'd be putting what they 0:39:55.160 --> 0:39:59.480 got their little ship that they put your phone. You 0:39:59.520 --> 0:40:01.239 could keep it phone on you, but you gotta have 0:40:01.320 --> 0:40:03.439 it locked. Like, what type of shit is dad? What's 0:40:03.480 --> 0:40:07.319 that man name that was on the BMF show? What mean? 0:40:07.880 --> 0:40:10.439 Not little me? Not little me? Who was his? The dude? 0:40:11.000 --> 0:40:14.399 The Vinci child, Davin She she had a comedy show. 0:40:15.160 --> 0:40:17.279 We go to the comedy show. He made everybody lock 0:40:17.360 --> 0:40:19.439 their phones up. And don't get me wrong, the show 0:40:19.560 --> 0:40:21.080 was good. But we didn't have to lock our phones 0:40:21.160 --> 0:40:21.400 up for that. 0:40:22.760 --> 0:40:27.600 It was straight no. We could have left our phones 0:40:27.640 --> 0:40:30.680 out for that one, big bro. No. So I went 0:40:30.800 --> 0:40:34.800 to I went to Dave chappelle comedy show in Houston 0:40:35.160 --> 0:40:37.799 two years ago, and he made everybody lock they phone 0:40:38.000 --> 0:40:39.960 up too. But that's what I was gonna say to me. 0:40:40.760 --> 0:40:43.640 No matter who it is, I understand because it's like 0:40:43.800 --> 0:40:47.200 if you have content, or you have jokes or whatever, 0:40:47.280 --> 0:40:48.960 it may be that you don't want to be out 0:40:49.080 --> 0:40:51.440 yet or you want people to actually pay to be 0:40:51.520 --> 0:40:53.680 able to see the show. It makes sense to me 0:40:53.760 --> 0:40:57.040 why people provide that service that they shows because they 0:40:57.080 --> 0:40:59.840 don't want their content getting leaked early. 0:41:00.000 --> 0:41:03.040 Well, I think it's more so about people editing content 0:41:03.160 --> 0:41:05.920 to make something that they said and twisting their words. 0:41:06.239 --> 0:41:07.839 Because I'm not gonna lie. I don't give a fuck. 0:41:07.840 --> 0:41:09.759 If you record a poor Mind's I might tell the 0:41:09.880 --> 0:41:12.760 joke again, or I may deliver it in a different 0:41:12.840 --> 0:41:15.000 type of way. We have a different crowd every night, 0:41:15.080 --> 0:41:17.759 so we interact with our crowd. Yeah, those two poor 0:41:17.840 --> 0:41:21.520 mind shows are the same. But with Dave Chappelle Kevin Hart, 0:41:21.840 --> 0:41:23.680 people like that, it's a little different. The only reason 0:41:23.680 --> 0:41:25.640 I said about Da Vinci because I think it was 0:41:25.760 --> 0:41:28.840 more and so of he gets very wrong with his shows, 0:41:28.920 --> 0:41:30.560 So I think it was more so like he don't 0:41:30.600 --> 0:41:33.080 want somebody to record something and they try to like 0:41:33.360 --> 0:41:35.000 twist it and make it seem like he was trying 0:41:35.000 --> 0:41:36.200 to say something that he wasn't. 0:41:36.480 --> 0:41:39.080 Yeah, yeah, I think he'd be a little bit of both. 0:41:39.160 --> 0:41:41.520 I think sometimes they just want to be able to 0:41:41.600 --> 0:41:44.440 publicize their content the way that they want to, monetized 0:41:44.480 --> 0:41:47.400 it the way that they want to. You can control 0:41:47.440 --> 0:41:49.319 the narrative that way, they just gonna be wanted out. 0:41:49.360 --> 0:41:51.200 But I don't see anything wrong with that because we 0:41:51.320 --> 0:41:55.160 live in an era where people are constantly recording everything. 0:41:55.320 --> 0:41:57.439 Like you know, if you have a show nine times 0:41:57.480 --> 0:41:58.920 out of teen and he's gonna end up on the 0:41:58.960 --> 0:42:01.319 Shade Room or he's not end up on Neighborhood Talk 0:42:01.400 --> 0:42:04.120 on one of those websites before you post anything, because 0:42:04.160 --> 0:42:06.879 it's gonna be thousands of people in the crowd that's 0:42:07.000 --> 0:42:10.040 recording something that people didn't have to worry about ten 0:42:10.160 --> 0:42:14.319 fifteen years ago. You know, now what a time it was. Really, 0:42:14.560 --> 0:42:16.840 I stayed all the time. I got a video. I 0:42:16.920 --> 0:42:19.080 have a photo, not a video. I have a photo 0:42:19.160 --> 0:42:22.360 in my phone of Beyonce. We were at the club together. 0:42:23.320 --> 0:42:25.799 We didn't come to get there, but you can say 0:42:25.840 --> 0:42:30.359 y'all did live, y'all. I don't know, y'all was not there. 0:42:30.920 --> 0:42:33.320 It was ten years ago. And I was literally like 0:42:33.520 --> 0:42:35.440 she was right there and I was right here, and 0:42:35.560 --> 0:42:37.640 I took a photo and I still have it in 0:42:37.719 --> 0:42:40.120 my phone because this is back in the day when 0:42:40.200 --> 0:42:42.440 people was in the club not recording stuff. We was 0:42:42.480 --> 0:42:44.960 at Griffin in New York. It was all star wee 0:42:45.000 --> 0:42:47.440 here in twenty fifteen, and me and my best friend 0:42:47.520 --> 0:42:50.480 Jordan were solid because we was like, is that Beyonce 0:42:50.960 --> 0:42:54.160 and she was? She used to be outside? She did, 0:42:54.920 --> 0:42:56.480 and I could say I was outside too. 0:42:57.040 --> 0:42:58.719 I remember the time whch y'all can go out on 0:42:59.000 --> 0:43:01.200 the era Like I said, I used to work in 0:43:01.280 --> 0:43:04.600 the era where Kim Kardashian used to host clubs. 0:43:04.719 --> 0:43:06.640 This is the old Beaches episode that Gonna be Lady 0:43:06.680 --> 0:43:09.960 the Host all Beyonce crazy. 0:43:10.080 --> 0:43:12.360 I was outside when Kim Kardashian was outside because I 0:43:12.400 --> 0:43:14.279 remember at one point, like the clubs in Houston was 0:43:14.360 --> 0:43:16.960 trying to book her but they couldn't afford it because 0:43:16.960 --> 0:43:18.560 she was texting like at that time it was like 0:43:18.600 --> 0:43:20.480 a hundred K. But she used to always be at 0:43:20.520 --> 0:43:22.719 the clubs in Vegas and that's why we used to 0:43:22.760 --> 0:43:24.800 be like, Oh my gosh, imagine bartending a party that 0:43:24.880 --> 0:43:27.120 Kim Kardashian is host and you know that chick finna 0:43:27.160 --> 0:43:29.920 be crazy. So yeah, we was outside during the time 0:43:29.960 --> 0:43:33.200 where the the IT girls was really outside, like we 0:43:33.360 --> 0:43:35.440 had the It girls. Lady go Got used to be 0:43:35.520 --> 0:43:37.600 performing in the clubs during this time. 0:43:39.520 --> 0:43:40.040 With Lady Got. 0:43:40.280 --> 0:43:41.560 No, I've never been in the club with her, but 0:43:42.040 --> 0:43:45.240 during this time, Lady Gotta was in the malls, performing 0:43:45.360 --> 0:43:47.120 in the clubs, performing. 0:43:46.800 --> 0:43:48.000 Like the gay clubs. 0:43:48.040 --> 0:43:51.120 She was there, I know she was outside like I 0:43:51.440 --> 0:43:56.840 lived in era. We was at the club when they premiered. Sorry, 0:43:57.480 --> 0:44:00.480 I got excited when Fattie Wap and Drake's don't drop. 0:44:01.080 --> 0:44:03.879 All I gotta do is cut my mind to his ship. 0:44:04.880 --> 0:44:08.200 They Drake said that ship to DJ Eric and he 0:44:08.360 --> 0:44:09.720 premiered that ship at. 0:44:09.640 --> 0:44:13.719 The club like we were at the time. That was 0:44:13.760 --> 0:44:17.279 when you what what else? That what a time to 0:44:17.320 --> 0:44:18.480 be a lot with some limes U. 0:44:18.760 --> 0:44:21.960 They revealed that Drake in Future was coming out with 0:44:22.000 --> 0:44:24.280 a collap album and they played that album. 0:44:24.280 --> 0:44:27.880 He was in the club when it happened. It was wild, 0:44:28.080 --> 0:44:30.600 Thank you and that's actually one of my favorite albums ever. 0:44:31.160 --> 0:44:33.520 What is time We Got Live is the massive with 0:44:33.640 --> 0:44:36.240 the world premiere premiere. We got that with the world premiere. 0:44:36.400 --> 0:44:40.719 Let's take our shade. Oh lord, yeah, you turn up, 0:44:42.880 --> 0:44:48.040 she said she before we take that trying to get 0:44:48.080 --> 0:44:50.920 white girl wasted. This is what I have to say 0:44:50.960 --> 0:44:57.279 about Big Lex p Okay, come on, gonna lie, And 0:44:57.920 --> 0:45:01.800 in junior high high school volleyball, I was cold. 0:45:02.080 --> 0:45:06.399 My jersey's still up in the gym class clown, been 0:45:06.520 --> 0:45:07.000 that girl. 0:45:07.520 --> 0:45:09.080 In college, I. 0:45:09.920 --> 0:45:12.840 Did my fucking thing. I had a show on TSU network. 0:45:12.920 --> 0:45:15.080 I used to do the radio, and I worked at 0:45:15.080 --> 0:45:18.160 the most popping club. Now I got Poor Minds, the 0:45:18.280 --> 0:45:23.040 number one podcast in with the girls. I've been that 0:45:23.160 --> 0:45:25.759 bitch for a very fucking long time, and it's hard 0:45:25.840 --> 0:45:27.759 to be relevant as long as I have been. 0:45:28.400 --> 0:45:31.760 So cheers to that. Cheers. That's how I be feeling. 0:45:33.000 --> 0:45:35.000 I don't want to go down my resume though, because 0:45:35.000 --> 0:45:39.759 I feel like I don't. I think that'd be like 0:45:39.840 --> 0:45:43.440 the Earth signing me. You know, I think I'm getting 0:45:43.440 --> 0:45:46.400 to a point to where I'm a little googleaboo. Come on, 0:45:46.719 --> 0:45:49.560 big Google, come on, Big Google. Typ what are we 0:45:49.640 --> 0:45:53.200 drinking today? But yeah? 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I do 0:51:16.760 --> 0:51:19.000 like people that are around us on a daily basis. 0:51:19.040 --> 0:51:22.880 I don't be giving a damn, no disrespects, but I 0:51:22.960 --> 0:51:25.000 don't be really giving a damn with people who like 0:51:25.320 --> 0:51:27.520 watch the show who have never met me in real 0:51:27.600 --> 0:51:30.000 life think about me. It's always about the people that 0:51:30.120 --> 0:51:33.160 are around me and really feel my energy and can 0:51:33.280 --> 0:51:35.440 like see my spirit and really get to know me 0:51:35.560 --> 0:51:37.640 for who I am in my core. I don't think 0:51:37.640 --> 0:51:40.160 it's hard for people that are around me and get 0:51:40.239 --> 0:51:43.360 to know me to tell who I really am. I 0:51:43.440 --> 0:51:45.719 think that maybe for people on the outside looking in, 0:51:45.920 --> 0:51:49.399 because you're not able to really witness the energy, you're 0:51:49.440 --> 0:51:52.920 not able to have like conversations with me, you're just 0:51:53.040 --> 0:51:56.680 watching me from a TV screen or whatever. But I 0:51:56.719 --> 0:51:59.919 don't know. I think it's definitely different and when people 0:52:00.080 --> 0:52:02.120 are around you that can feel your or if you 0:52:02.280 --> 0:52:05.560 have like a magnetic energy, they could really No, yeah, 0:52:05.600 --> 0:52:07.839 I agree with that. I was That's what I was saying. 0:52:07.880 --> 0:52:09.200 I was like, I think a lot of times people 0:52:09.360 --> 0:52:12.040 misjudge both of us just from watching, but you're right, 0:52:12.080 --> 0:52:12.799 but they don't know us. 0:52:13.000 --> 0:52:15.120 Yeah, the people that are around us can really you know, 0:52:15.280 --> 0:52:17.560 they can pick up on who we really are, and like, 0:52:17.800 --> 0:52:23.640 since our real personalities, since if we being fake, since 0:52:23.680 --> 0:52:25.880 it's like we really giving off who we say we are. 0:52:25.920 --> 0:52:27.440 Because I think a lot of the time people try 0:52:27.480 --> 0:52:30.800 to say that they one way, but when you around people, 0:52:31.239 --> 0:52:33.960 they can't fake the phone. You're gonna pick up on 0:52:34.200 --> 0:52:36.200 what's real, you know what I mean. And I think 0:52:36.239 --> 0:52:37.800 a lot of the time people get away with that 0:52:37.960 --> 0:52:40.960 because it's easy to portray ourselfs a certain way online, 0:52:41.080 --> 0:52:45.080 but when people are around you, they gonna sensey, you 0:52:45.160 --> 0:52:47.719 can't fake the phone. So yeah, so now it's time 0:52:47.760 --> 0:52:51.120 to get into topic number two. Does your relationship with 0:52:51.239 --> 0:52:53.400 your body change as you get older? 0:52:55.000 --> 0:52:58.880 Ooh, this is interesting. I think it does, and I 0:52:58.920 --> 0:53:02.640 think it also has to. And I'm talking from a 0:53:02.760 --> 0:53:06.480 perspective of thinking of you just being a little girl 0:53:06.600 --> 0:53:09.600 to your body changing to being you know a woman. 0:53:10.040 --> 0:53:11.320 You know, we're in our mid thirties. 0:53:11.400 --> 0:53:16.040 Now, your relationship with your body absolutely has to change. 0:53:16.120 --> 0:53:18.520 You have to change how you view yourself and understand 0:53:19.160 --> 0:53:20.280 that things change. 0:53:20.960 --> 0:53:23.120 You know, I can't eat how I used to eat 0:53:23.160 --> 0:53:23.920 when I was sixteen. 0:53:23.960 --> 0:53:27.800 But I also have to understand that it's okay to 0:53:27.960 --> 0:53:33.160 have a jelly roll, or it's okay to have textured skin, 0:53:33.840 --> 0:53:37.640 It's okay to have stretch marks, it's okay to have cellulite. 0:53:37.760 --> 0:53:39.720 I think that in our younger years. 0:53:39.760 --> 0:53:43.759 You know, when you're fifteen, sixteen, baby, body was tight, body. 0:53:43.640 --> 0:53:46.840 Was smooth, flawless. In my twenty three. 0:53:47.360 --> 0:53:49.120 Yeah, I could go to sleep with my makeup on 0:53:49.200 --> 0:53:51.600 and wake up and then when I did wash my face, 0:53:51.640 --> 0:53:52.600 skin was still clear. 0:53:53.080 --> 0:53:55.760 Because I was twenty three. You could, but you shouldn't. 0:53:55.800 --> 0:53:56.280 I shouldn't. 0:53:56.280 --> 0:53:58.080 I'm not saying that I should have, but I'm saying, 0:53:58.480 --> 0:54:01.160 thirty five year old, if I would sleeping my makeup today, 0:54:01.280 --> 0:54:03.239 which I haven't done in years, but if I did 0:54:03.280 --> 0:54:05.200 that today, baby, I'm waking up with a pimple. 0:54:05.560 --> 0:54:07.439 I'm waking up my nose bumpy as fuck. 0:54:07.640 --> 0:54:10.800 Right, everything just suggested I can't do that now, So 0:54:10.920 --> 0:54:13.920 I think your relationship with your body, it has to 0:54:14.040 --> 0:54:18.239 change as you age, because if it doesn't, you're gonna 0:54:18.280 --> 0:54:19.040 lose your confidence. 0:54:19.680 --> 0:54:22.120 I just think aging is such a beautiful thing, and 0:54:22.239 --> 0:54:24.959 I can't believe that at one point in my life 0:54:25.040 --> 0:54:27.640 it was something that I really was like so terrified 0:54:27.760 --> 0:54:31.279 of and ran from. It's really a beautiful thing. Like, Yeah, 0:54:31.320 --> 0:54:33.560 you're gonna have those changes, but you have to embrace 0:54:33.640 --> 0:54:35.719 them because you only get one body, and the thing 0:54:35.840 --> 0:54:38.359 about your body is you can always make it better. 0:54:39.120 --> 0:54:42.720 You could put more effort into taking care of yourself, 0:54:42.800 --> 0:54:45.719 being more healthy, like the foods you consume, what you're 0:54:45.760 --> 0:54:49.080 actually putting into your body, and then also working out, 0:54:50.040 --> 0:54:53.080 taking better care of your body physically, taking better care 0:54:53.160 --> 0:54:57.080 of your mental, your mind, reading books, meditating, just you 0:54:57.480 --> 0:55:01.680 have to put pride in value into yourself, because I 0:55:01.800 --> 0:55:03.880 think that's something too. As you get older, you do 0:55:04.120 --> 0:55:08.600 realize like I'm gonna be me regardless, I'm only gonna 0:55:08.600 --> 0:55:10.759 ever get to be myself. I'm never gonna be able 0:55:10.840 --> 0:55:12.759 to be anybody else, So I need to put my 0:55:12.920 --> 0:55:16.719 all into making myself a better version of myself. I 0:55:16.800 --> 0:55:19.239 think certain changes with my body that I've noticed as 0:55:19.239 --> 0:55:23.320 I've gotten older, like child dimples, cell you like in 0:55:23.400 --> 0:55:27.080 places that it should not be, stretch marks in places 0:55:27.120 --> 0:55:30.000 that it should not be. And I used to always stand. 0:55:30.000 --> 0:55:33.400 When I was younger, I had it moss, and I 0:55:33.480 --> 0:55:36.600 feel like, but I don't have none. I have one, 0:55:37.440 --> 0:55:44.040 but it'd be getting bigger. I have one right here, 0:55:44.360 --> 0:55:46.560 and it was so little when I was I mean, 0:55:46.560 --> 0:55:49.360 it's still kind of little, but I feel like it's bigger. 0:55:50.560 --> 0:55:52.879 I know I saw that too, but it's okay. I'm 0:55:52.880 --> 0:55:56.120 gonna get it burned off. Don't worry. Why what you mean? 0:55:56.200 --> 0:55:59.719 But why it's not ugly? That's what I'm saying. If 0:55:59.760 --> 0:56:03.200 it it's bigger, if it continues to grow, it will 0:56:03.239 --> 0:56:07.240 be gone. If it stays this, if it stays decides, 0:56:07.320 --> 0:56:09.600 it's fine. I don't know. It's just something about it. 0:56:09.680 --> 0:56:13.600 I don't like this. It's not for me. It's it's 0:56:13.640 --> 0:56:20.560 beautiful on y'all. It's beautiful on y'all love it, magnifiqu 0:56:21.480 --> 0:56:28.399 on me. No, thank you, she said, y'all that movie 0:56:28.480 --> 0:56:30.680 Death becomes hard and they're like, hey, you know that 0:56:30.880 --> 0:56:33.560 is arrey. Oh my No, I don't hate getting older. 0:56:34.160 --> 0:56:37.440 I hate this is this contact you said, right, we 0:56:37.520 --> 0:56:39.600 need to do a black version of death becomes hard 0:56:39.680 --> 0:56:40.160 with me and you. 0:56:41.520 --> 0:56:42.520 Death becomes fan. 0:56:42.960 --> 0:56:45.320 But I feel like I don't hate getting older, like 0:56:45.560 --> 0:56:47.560 I feel like I get fine as fucked, like I 0:56:47.680 --> 0:56:50.600 just get finer and finer every year. I don't hate it. 0:56:51.200 --> 0:56:54.000 It's just certain things that come with being older that 0:56:54.120 --> 0:56:56.560 I just be like, you will get this away from me, 0:56:57.000 --> 0:57:01.440 and that's one of them. Thank god. No, I don't now. 0:57:01.520 --> 0:57:03.799 I did find one on my cuci one time, though, 0:57:04.480 --> 0:57:08.239 but not on my head, on my other on my 0:57:09.040 --> 0:57:10.920 you're not getting enough sex or usually you had a 0:57:11.880 --> 0:57:17.200 maybe that's what it is. Said. Thing is it had 0:57:17.240 --> 0:57:19.960 a hair. I seen it and I pulled it. I 0:57:20.080 --> 0:57:24.440 plucked it and I said, I rebuke. But guess what, 0:57:25.080 --> 0:57:27.960 it didn't grow back. So that was the one time 0:57:28.000 --> 0:57:29.680 I seen a gray hair. But I don't have any 0:57:29.680 --> 0:57:32.720 gray hairs in my head. Knock on wood. I feel 0:57:32.760 --> 0:57:34.880 like I'm a gray late though, to be honest, because 0:57:35.920 --> 0:57:38.480 you know, everything is about genetics, and when I think 0:57:38.480 --> 0:57:40.880 about my family, like my mom and all her siblings 0:57:40.920 --> 0:57:42.600 and he started getting gray hairs to like they was 0:57:42.640 --> 0:57:44.480 like an a fifties and sea. So I think I'm 0:57:44.480 --> 0:57:45.000 a gray late. 0:57:45.960 --> 0:57:47.880 I just feel like the relationship with your body. Like 0:57:47.920 --> 0:57:49.720 I said, I think we need to give ourselves grace 0:57:49.920 --> 0:57:50.520 as women. 0:57:51.080 --> 0:57:51.280 You know. 0:57:52.240 --> 0:57:55.920 I don't know if y'all are fans of this show 0:57:56.160 --> 0:57:58.600 that comes on HBO is called White Lotus. 0:57:58.640 --> 0:57:59.240 I'm a big fan. 0:58:00.040 --> 0:58:04.080 Did you watch this last season? Okay, so White Lotus. 0:58:04.800 --> 0:58:08.640 I love this guy, Walton get Goggins. He's a character 0:58:08.720 --> 0:58:11.040 on White Lotus. He is the older guy with a 0:58:11.160 --> 0:58:15.680 younger girlfriend and he is hilarious. If y'all google his name, 0:58:15.720 --> 0:58:17.880 y'all will know who he is. So anyways, on the show, 0:58:18.360 --> 0:58:20.080 he has like a receding. 0:58:19.800 --> 0:58:23.000 Hairline and a patch and a patch right, And. 0:58:25.440 --> 0:58:27.680 They wrote an article I want to say, maybe in 0:58:27.800 --> 0:58:31.320 Cosmo or someone people magazine that were like, oh, receding 0:58:31.400 --> 0:58:37.200 hairlines are hot now check out Walton Goggins and White Lotus. 0:58:38.560 --> 0:58:41.480 And I'm just like, it's so crazy because they did 0:58:41.560 --> 0:58:43.080 this a couple of years ago with the. 0:58:43.160 --> 0:58:46.000 Dad bod of men who have bellies. 0:58:46.880 --> 0:58:50.880 We will change what the beauty standard is to fit 0:58:51.320 --> 0:58:54.720 what a white man looks like. But when it comes 0:58:54.760 --> 0:58:58.880 to women, white, black, Mexican, whatever, we gotta have a 0:58:59.000 --> 0:59:02.520 twenty three inch away forty inch hips, no cell you 0:59:02.680 --> 0:59:06.480 like no stress, smarks, no wrinkles. We gotta put boat tops, 0:59:06.640 --> 0:59:08.840 we gotta plump up the lips. We gotta make sure 0:59:08.960 --> 0:59:11.120 we got all our edges. Oh my god, you know 0:59:11.160 --> 0:59:13.880 what I'm saying. The beauty stead are never changes for us. 0:59:14.120 --> 0:59:16.400 And speaking of I have a botox appointment tomorrow. 0:59:17.600 --> 0:59:19.560 I need to hit mine up too because mine getting 0:59:19.560 --> 0:59:22.720 a little yeah, I said before the premiere, Yeah, I 0:59:22.800 --> 0:59:26.080 need It's right you, I do need a little reup myself. 0:59:26.560 --> 0:59:27.760 Don't hit right before that. 0:59:27.920 --> 0:59:31.040 Because you know, because comments, let's stop touching your face. 0:59:31.160 --> 0:59:33.720 I haven't seen Helen in a year and a half, bitch, 0:59:33.840 --> 0:59:34.440 leave me alone. 0:59:34.640 --> 0:59:36.280 So any time for my reup. 0:59:37.560 --> 0:59:39.280 Be in the comments. Time my legs stop touching your face. 0:59:39.280 --> 0:59:41.640 I'm like, I haven't gotten anything done in a year 0:59:41.680 --> 0:59:42.080 and a half. 0:59:42.560 --> 0:59:46.160 Like literally, probably they just be looking at old episodes. 0:59:46.640 --> 0:59:49.760 Yeah, because leave me alone. Because baby face card it 0:59:50.400 --> 0:59:52.320 rare does not decline. 0:59:52.400 --> 0:59:53.439 All right, all right, all. 0:59:53.400 --> 0:59:57.120 Right, but anyways, but again, like I said, your relationship 0:59:57.200 --> 1:00:00.520 with your body does have to change, because your body 1:00:00.640 --> 1:00:01.800 is going to change. 1:00:02.440 --> 1:00:06.520 It's natural. You gonna gain weight, you gonna lose weight. 1:00:07.120 --> 1:00:08.560 Like it's okay. 1:00:08.840 --> 1:00:13.360 And like I said, the media and social media is 1:00:13.440 --> 1:00:16.520 easier on men than it is on us. Cause, like 1:00:16.600 --> 1:00:19.160 I said, I love him, but who wants to receive 1:00:19.240 --> 1:00:19.840 in hairline? 1:00:20.280 --> 1:00:24.120 Not me? Just go bald. Yeah, his this haircut is crazy, 1:00:24.160 --> 1:00:28.440 and that's get it's like long, it's long. It's receiving. 1:00:29.320 --> 1:00:31.840 I want to see the photo. But he doesn't really 1:00:32.080 --> 1:00:33.720 wear this in real life? Does he wear it in 1:00:33.760 --> 1:00:35.880 real life? That's how we look on this picture. It 1:00:36.000 --> 1:00:37.680 does look like this on this picture, but this is 1:00:37.720 --> 1:00:38.439 how it is on the show. 1:00:38.480 --> 1:00:41.960 And mind you, he's hilarious. He's really fucking funny. Oh wait, 1:00:42.120 --> 1:00:46.040 I need to see the image of him on white lotus. 1:00:46.080 --> 1:00:49.040 I'm trying to show her the white Lotus picture. Okay, 1:00:49.120 --> 1:00:51.160 here it goes. Here's how he looks on white lotus. 1:00:52.600 --> 1:00:54.720 It's way back there and it's a ball spot in 1:00:54.800 --> 1:00:58.160 the bag. But mind you, he's an amazing actor. And 1:00:58.520 --> 1:01:02.360 I feel like the people, we're not here for the 1:01:02.400 --> 1:01:05.760 way you look. We are here for your talent, and 1:01:05.880 --> 1:01:07.880 he is one of them. He was in The Hateful Eight. 1:01:08.960 --> 1:01:12.160 If you are a fan of he was in Django. 1:01:12.920 --> 1:01:16.320 If you are a fan of what's his name, Quinton Tarantino, 1:01:16.400 --> 1:01:18.800 y'all know, I love me some Quentin Tarantino. Quentin loves 1:01:18.880 --> 1:01:21.600 him down, but he's been in a lot of movies. 1:01:21.600 --> 1:01:24.480 He's an A list actor. He's actually really fucking hilarious. 1:01:24.800 --> 1:01:26.720 But I just think it's so funny because since when 1:01:26.840 --> 1:01:30.200 is receiving hairlines attractive? What are we talking about here? 1:01:30.720 --> 1:01:33.880 So yeah, people will change their views on stuff. You 1:01:33.960 --> 1:01:37.320 should change your views on yourself. Be confident. You get 1:01:37.400 --> 1:01:38.600 this body, this is what you're in. 1:01:39.280 --> 1:01:41.560 So do you feel like confidence in your thirties is 1:01:41.680 --> 1:01:45.640 more about what you look like or how you feel. 1:01:46.320 --> 1:01:49.160 I think it's a mixture of both, because you gotta 1:01:50.320 --> 1:01:54.600 I hate this, it's a little gray area, but you 1:01:54.720 --> 1:01:57.520 gotta look good to feel good, if I'm being honest. 1:01:57.680 --> 1:01:59.960 But that's why I agree with you. You think so, Yeah, 1:02:00.280 --> 1:02:02.480 because I got in the gym like I used to. 1:02:02.760 --> 1:02:05.160 I used to be like like I said, I played 1:02:05.200 --> 1:02:09.400 volleyball year round, and till like when I got to college, 1:02:10.480 --> 1:02:12.400 I just started to get into more media stuff, so 1:02:12.480 --> 1:02:14.200 I really stopped going to the gym. I didn't start 1:02:14.240 --> 1:02:17.200 getting back into the gym till like a year ago. 1:02:17.480 --> 1:02:19.640 Two years I've been in like the gym and like 1:02:19.800 --> 1:02:22.760 I work out and now how I feel about my 1:02:22.840 --> 1:02:24.880 body like, okay, I go to the gym. I know 1:02:24.960 --> 1:02:26.600 what the gym does to my body. I'm like, okay, 1:02:26.680 --> 1:02:28.720 so this is what my body looks like. I'm been 1:02:28.840 --> 1:02:31.880 laid on the table. I done worked out and done dited, 1:02:31.920 --> 1:02:32.880 I done ate everything. 1:02:33.320 --> 1:02:34.600 This is what my body is. 1:02:34.720 --> 1:02:37.640 So it's like you come with that acceptance and I'm like, 1:02:37.840 --> 1:02:41.120 bitchy'all look good though. Yeah I'm thirty five years old 1:02:41.160 --> 1:02:41.960 and I look like this. 1:02:42.880 --> 1:02:43.920 Hell yeah, I look good. 1:02:44.000 --> 1:02:46.720 But it also comes with I do take care of myself. 1:02:47.080 --> 1:02:49.560 I drink a lot of fucking water. I don't drink 1:02:49.640 --> 1:02:51.720 every day. I go to the gym even if I'm 1:02:51.760 --> 1:02:53.439 not lifting weights. Like I said, I kind of fell 1:02:53.480 --> 1:02:55.040 off of the gym, but guess what I was still doing. 1:02:55.280 --> 1:02:57.760 I'm still getting up and I'm moving my ass. And 1:02:57.840 --> 1:03:00.800 that's one thing the girl the girl do. Y'all have 1:03:00.880 --> 1:03:04.840 to realize if you don't get up and move your body, 1:03:04.920 --> 1:03:05.720 don't stop moving. 1:03:06.120 --> 1:03:09.440 I think for me, I have like my mom was beautiful. 1:03:09.520 --> 1:03:11.440 She died at forty eight, but she was gorgeous, Like 1:03:11.720 --> 1:03:13.520 she was the mom that every all my friends would 1:03:13.520 --> 1:03:15.720 be like, damn, my mama. Find type thing. So for 1:03:15.840 --> 1:03:18.800 me I didn't really I had good I feel like 1:03:18.840 --> 1:03:20.400 I had good genes, so I didn't feel like I 1:03:20.480 --> 1:03:22.919 needed to work out all the time. So really last 1:03:23.000 --> 1:03:25.840 year was the first time that I actually started going 1:03:25.960 --> 1:03:28.240 to the gym and being active. But I could feel 1:03:28.320 --> 1:03:31.400 my like my hips would be tight, my aunt. I 1:03:31.560 --> 1:03:34.640 was just very lethargic a lot. And it wasn't until 1:03:34.680 --> 1:03:40.400 I started going consistently that I started to feel more energized. 1:03:40.560 --> 1:03:42.720 I had just a little bit more get up and 1:03:42.840 --> 1:03:46.440 go and feeling more focused and like like you said earlier, 1:03:46.520 --> 1:03:48.600 laser focused on what I wanted to do and what 1:03:48.680 --> 1:03:50.960 I needed to accomplish. So I do think that you 1:03:51.200 --> 1:03:55.040 actually getting active moving your body that not only contributes 1:03:55.080 --> 1:03:59.400 to your fitness goals, but also like your mentality, your 1:03:59.480 --> 1:04:02.560 focus more clear, and it's just I see, I feel 1:04:02.600 --> 1:04:04.920 like a different person than how I was before I 1:04:04.960 --> 1:04:07.120 started going to the gym just last year, in just 1:04:07.240 --> 1:04:09.240 that time, and now I walked by the mirror, like 1:04:09.320 --> 1:04:13.120 Meg said, I'd be like you, Okay, you's on flap flat, 1:04:13.200 --> 1:04:15.920 ass on flap flat, Okay exactly. You know, I one 1:04:16.000 --> 1:04:18.200 hundred percent feel you. I just did a video on 1:04:18.320 --> 1:04:21.160 my YouTube channel where I was talking about things that 1:04:21.240 --> 1:04:23.360 I feel like you should know when you get into 1:04:23.400 --> 1:04:25.760 your thirties, for the girls that are still like in 1:04:25.880 --> 1:04:29.160 their twenties and maybe even like early thirties too. But 1:04:29.600 --> 1:04:32.160 I was just like, I'm so glad that I started 1:04:32.200 --> 1:04:34.400 my fitness journey, but I wish that it was something 1:04:34.440 --> 1:04:37.240 that I took more seriously when I was in my twenties, 1:04:37.320 --> 1:04:39.520 because I think, yeah, when you're in your twenties, you're 1:04:39.600 --> 1:04:43.200 just like, Ooh, I look good, I'm fine, my metabolism 1:04:43.360 --> 1:04:46.600 is slow, and I'm always gonna be like these. But 1:04:46.640 --> 1:04:48.640 then when you get to your thirties, you realize, Okay, 1:04:48.680 --> 1:04:52.640 he's slowing down, the things ain't in the same place. 1:04:53.360 --> 1:04:59.560 Gravity is taking place held no, for real. And it 1:04:59.800 --> 1:05:02.640 was even earlier about the dimples and the freckles. And 1:05:02.960 --> 1:05:04.600 I feel like every day I wake up, I don't 1:05:04.600 --> 1:05:05.920 know about y'all, and every day I wake up, I 1:05:05.960 --> 1:05:07.760 feel like I got like a new little freckle or 1:05:07.840 --> 1:05:10.880 something on my bikey. So it's just something that I 1:05:10.960 --> 1:05:13.280 wish that I took more seriously when I was in 1:05:13.400 --> 1:05:15.920 my twenties because I feel like, not only do you 1:05:16.120 --> 1:05:19.280 look better and you feel better, but it also really 1:05:19.400 --> 1:05:22.720 helps your mentals. Yeah, it's well, and I'm glad it's 1:05:22.760 --> 1:05:23.640 a discipline thing. 1:05:23.840 --> 1:05:25.600 I'm glad that you said that earlier because you were 1:05:25.640 --> 1:05:27.320 like people were asking you to post it before and 1:05:27.400 --> 1:05:29.560 after you were like, it was more a mental thing, 1:05:29.720 --> 1:05:30.720 and that's when it will. 1:05:30.880 --> 1:05:32.080 I realized for me, like. 1:05:33.640 --> 1:05:37.040 I be getting like in my little dark places sometimes 1:05:37.080 --> 1:05:38.800 and I realize a lot of that. Like I was 1:05:38.840 --> 1:05:40.600 talking to my therapist. She was like, when's the last 1:05:40.640 --> 1:05:42.520 time you worked out? Like this was like a conversation 1:05:42.640 --> 1:05:44.840 that we had in December. I was like, damn, And 1:05:45.000 --> 1:05:47.880 that's what really motivated me. Like, girl, even if I'm 1:05:47.920 --> 1:05:49.439 not saying that you got to go to the gym, 1:05:49.800 --> 1:05:52.440 go for a walk, go for a walk, you just 1:05:52.520 --> 1:05:54.720 got to mock you a body past. So even sometimes 1:05:54.760 --> 1:05:56.720 when I'm satisfying, I don't even feel like going to 1:05:56.800 --> 1:05:58.480 the gym, I get on my walking. You have to 1:05:58.520 --> 1:06:00.959 move around because I'm telling you, when you stop moving 1:06:01.040 --> 1:06:03.600 your body, your body gonna stop moving. 1:06:04.000 --> 1:06:06.440 Yeah, And I feel like that's the thing. I've made 1:06:06.480 --> 1:06:08.240 it a happy Like to me, it's more of a 1:06:08.320 --> 1:06:11.520 lifestyle thing now because you're not gonna always. I think 1:06:11.600 --> 1:06:14.240 a good word that I can give people is that 1:06:14.800 --> 1:06:17.840 you're not gonna always have the motivation. But that's where 1:06:17.880 --> 1:06:20.320 your discipline comes in exactly, because you're not gonna want 1:06:20.360 --> 1:06:22.320 to do stuff every day. Like it's hell of days 1:06:22.360 --> 1:06:24.920 that I don't feel like working out, like yes even yesterday. 1:06:25.160 --> 1:06:28.880 Yesterday is a prime example. I went and worked out 1:06:29.040 --> 1:06:32.200 at eight thirty at night because all day I was procrastinating. 1:06:32.240 --> 1:06:33.919 But then I was like, Okay, I gotta get this done. 1:06:34.240 --> 1:06:35.960 That's where your discipline has to come in, cause I 1:06:36.000 --> 1:06:37.800 knew I had to do I knew I had a 1:06:37.880 --> 1:06:40.920 goal to reach. So you just have to do it 1:06:41.080 --> 1:06:42.760 for yourself, and you have to think about how you 1:06:42.840 --> 1:06:44.800 want to look like. I don't know, I like looking fine, 1:06:45.000 --> 1:06:51.520 I like looking like all of that. So I just 1:06:51.600 --> 1:06:53.919 feel like, yeah, it's just it's it's a mental thing, 1:06:54.320 --> 1:06:59.120 and you have to prioritize your health. You have to 1:06:59.160 --> 1:07:01.880 prioritize your willness that I always be thinking about like 1:07:02.040 --> 1:07:04.640 them when I was in my twenties, if I would 1:07:04.680 --> 1:07:08.160 have took my fitness journey more seriously, then my body 1:07:08.160 --> 1:07:11.600 would be even more teaching, even more fire right now. 1:07:11.800 --> 1:07:13.320 So it's just like, you know, you have to It's 1:07:13.360 --> 1:07:17.120 something that you have to prioritize. It's about do you 1:07:17.200 --> 1:07:19.439 want to be the same, because we all might live 1:07:19.600 --> 1:07:21.440 to be like seventy or eighty, But what do you 1:07:21.480 --> 1:07:23.200 want to be doing in your seventies and eighty You 1:07:23.240 --> 1:07:24.240 want to be more? Do you want to be a 1:07:24.320 --> 1:07:26.480 person that can walk around, that can move around on 1:07:26.560 --> 1:07:29.040 your own without assistance, or do you want to be 1:07:29.200 --> 1:07:31.640 somebody that has to have a walker? You want to 1:07:31.720 --> 1:07:34.440 be somebody that has to have somebody exporting you everywhere. 1:07:34.840 --> 1:07:36.880 You have to think about those things, and like I 1:07:36.960 --> 1:07:40.520 think tennis, yeah, And so that's how I think that 1:07:40.720 --> 1:07:43.400 I try to discipline myself. And so even going back 1:07:43.440 --> 1:07:45.040 to what you were saying, like when people asked me 1:07:45.160 --> 1:07:46.720 to post a before and after, I am going to 1:07:46.800 --> 1:07:49.360 post my before and afters, But I think I'm more 1:07:49.440 --> 1:07:51.760 so going to post my before and afters from when 1:07:51.840 --> 1:07:55.040 I first started my fitness journey in twenty twenty two 1:07:55.560 --> 1:07:58.120 to now, because I feel like it's much more of 1:07:58.200 --> 1:08:00.840 a drastic change from then to now that people could 1:08:00.880 --> 1:08:05.000 see then from January when I did seventy five hards 1:08:05.120 --> 1:08:07.440 now because my body was already tea when I started 1:08:07.680 --> 1:08:10.720 the seventy five hard and we had definitely see my 1:08:10.840 --> 1:08:16.800 abs more. Your abs are definitely fine, thanks fine, they are. 1:08:16.920 --> 1:08:19.240 They're definitely way more defined now, and I think that's 1:08:19.280 --> 1:08:22.280 probably the most physical change that you could see. But 1:08:22.360 --> 1:08:24.240 I mean as far as like my shape and my 1:08:24.400 --> 1:08:26.680 waist and stuff, I feel like it's the same, but 1:08:26.800 --> 1:08:30.719 from twenty twenty two, so now it's a big difference 1:08:30.760 --> 1:08:33.600 because I've lost like fifteen sixteen pounds, and. 1:08:33.680 --> 1:08:35.360 I think for me, even like like I said, at 1:08:35.360 --> 1:08:37.800 the beginning of the year, I weighed two hundred pounds 1:08:38.680 --> 1:08:42.720 when we filmed Tribal Queens, I was literally when we left, 1:08:42.800 --> 1:08:44.439 I was two o two That morning, I was like, 1:08:44.520 --> 1:08:46.240 what the fuck. I'm so mad at myself because I 1:08:46.320 --> 1:08:48.200 have to film this shit and I'm big, well not big, 1:08:48.360 --> 1:08:51.000 but I carry my weight a little different because I'm taller. 1:08:51.560 --> 1:08:54.040 And then like right now, like I weighed myself this morning, 1:08:54.200 --> 1:08:56.599 I'm one seventy two right now, So I pretty much 1:08:56.680 --> 1:09:01.120 lost thirty pounds since from January till now. And I 1:09:01.280 --> 1:09:04.880 say that because it's not like for me, it's not 1:09:05.000 --> 1:09:06.800 more so like the number and the scale thing of 1:09:06.960 --> 1:09:09.400 feeling fat and feeling small. But I know how I 1:09:09.520 --> 1:09:12.160 feel in my clothes and I know I had to 1:09:12.240 --> 1:09:14.519 get to a point where I'm like, Okay, I feel 1:09:14.600 --> 1:09:17.519 confident in my clothes and I know what I feel like, 1:09:17.600 --> 1:09:19.000 I know what makes me feel good. 1:09:19.040 --> 1:09:22.320 It's not for how y'all look at me, because one 1:09:22.360 --> 1:09:22.920 thing about it. 1:09:23.800 --> 1:09:26.200 I can be one fifty and it'll be people in 1:09:26.240 --> 1:09:28.160 the comments like ooh Lex, what you ooh Lex? 1:09:28.240 --> 1:09:28.680 You need to do? 1:09:29.080 --> 1:09:30.960 It's not about how y'all view me. It's how I 1:09:31.080 --> 1:09:34.200 view myself and what makes me feel comfortable. So I 1:09:34.280 --> 1:09:36.960 think that's another thing like me losing this way. It 1:09:37.080 --> 1:09:38.120 wasn't like something I'm just. 1:09:38.160 --> 1:09:40.360 Like, oh yeah, y'all, I lost another pound. 1:09:40.520 --> 1:09:42.559 I lost all about cause y'all ain't gonna y'all ain't 1:09:42.560 --> 1:09:44.760 gonna do nothing but critique me anyway. So I think 1:09:45.120 --> 1:09:48.360 as we get older, you have to find what's comfortable 1:09:48.400 --> 1:09:51.240 for you. One seventy is comfortable for me. I don't 1:09:51.240 --> 1:09:51.800 give a fuck what. 1:09:51.880 --> 1:09:52.920 Y'all see or what y'all like. 1:09:53.400 --> 1:09:56.240 So we have to change how we view ourselves and 1:09:56.320 --> 1:09:59.479 what's comfortable to us and what makes us feel good 1:09:59.560 --> 1:10:02.880 and how you look in the mirror. Oh City, Oh, 1:10:03.160 --> 1:10:08.599 I'll be delete that hole. Titty came out. One thing 1:10:08.640 --> 1:10:10.920 about check, she gonna get that times down. Okay, let 1:10:10.960 --> 1:10:13.080 me say that again. So one thing about me is like, 1:10:14.200 --> 1:10:16.800 we gonna get it together. So I can look in 1:10:16.840 --> 1:10:18.680 the mirror and I can feel good about myself and 1:10:18.760 --> 1:10:19.400 I can feel like, you. 1:10:19.479 --> 1:10:22.040 Know what, I like how I look, I like how 1:10:22.120 --> 1:10:22.840 I feel today. 1:10:23.320 --> 1:10:26.760 So yeah, all in all, I feel like your views 1:10:26.840 --> 1:10:29.200 on your body should change as you get older, and 1:10:29.280 --> 1:10:30.240 that's a healthy thing to do. 1:10:30.439 --> 1:10:32.320 And I feel like they should get better because with 1:10:32.560 --> 1:10:36.680 wisdom and age, you care more about your body. Like 1:10:36.800 --> 1:10:39.160 I feel like I care way more about my body 1:10:39.240 --> 1:10:41.599 than I did when I was in my twiny Thank God, 1:10:42.120 --> 1:10:44.680 thank God that he allowed me to live this long 1:10:44.800 --> 1:10:46.840 so that I can take better care of my body 1:10:47.200 --> 1:10:49.400 because I was not taking care. I was treating my 1:10:49.439 --> 1:10:51.920 body like whatever. When I was in my twenties. I'm 1:10:51.920 --> 1:10:55.320 talking about I was eating bullshit every day. I was 1:10:55.520 --> 1:10:59.560 drinking all the time, being drinking all the time, smoking 1:11:00.360 --> 1:11:04.360 that hookah hookah, smoking hookah and weed. Both of them 1:11:05.680 --> 1:11:09.920 clothes close. I remember that came out. I talked about this. 1:11:10.120 --> 1:11:15.800 I was a real buck, love loving. I was out 1:11:15.840 --> 1:11:18.680 here thugging in these streets. I was smoking black and 1:11:18.760 --> 1:11:22.599 miles the wine flavor. Oh you was a real good yeah, 1:11:23.200 --> 1:11:26.960 because that's my good Yeah, that's my good beach. What 1:11:27.120 --> 1:11:29.080 a god be in a week since she could have been. 1:11:31.560 --> 1:11:37.519 I love. We didn't to Texas. We didn't too deep 1:11:37.600 --> 1:11:40.439 in Texas. No, for real, doll, Yeah, I used to 1:11:40.479 --> 1:11:43.559 be doing whatever in my twenties and like God for grow, 1:11:43.720 --> 1:11:45.200 Thank God, this is the show. 1:11:45.240 --> 1:11:47.160 That's why I said, we're not judging anybody what y'all do, 1:11:47.240 --> 1:11:49.080 but we're just trying to tell y'all what we did 1:11:49.240 --> 1:11:50.800 so y'all can do better and y'all can. 1:11:50.720 --> 1:11:53.439 Look like us when y'all get y'all thirties, Me lex 1:11:53.560 --> 1:11:56.679 and time period. 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So, now it's time to get 1:14:18.120 --> 1:14:27.559 into the bab all the b bow about Bobo Bow came. 1:14:28.240 --> 1:14:33.439 So we're going to play a game called Unwrapped or Returning. Okay, 1:14:33.600 --> 1:14:34.960 Birthday six of these ship. 1:14:36.920 --> 1:14:37.160 Girl. 1:14:37.240 --> 1:14:47.519 You know, girl, you know I'm doing the background. You 1:14:47.520 --> 1:14:49.720 don't remember that? Oh, I know what you're talking about now. 1:14:49.960 --> 1:14:51.880 I was like at first first, I just thought you 1:14:52.120 --> 1:14:56.320 agree your birthdays on. You know I won't ride out 1:14:56.840 --> 1:15:01.160 in Moasy Louisy, you know my I know when he 1:15:01.240 --> 1:15:03.639 was in the studio that day, he was like, good, 1:15:04.040 --> 1:15:08.759 but I know you want to cry? Why now? Remember 1:15:08.840 --> 1:15:11.720 Trice Songs did a remake. Trey Songs used to love 1:15:11.800 --> 1:15:14.439 remixing people ship. That's why r Kelly, you know us, 1:15:14.800 --> 1:15:22.760 she don't. She loved y'all count is not having a 1:15:22.880 --> 1:15:29.160 Robert Kelly queen because the compilation together. You bring him 1:15:29.240 --> 1:15:31.920 up every episode every Let me tell y'all what be 1:15:32.040 --> 1:15:35.040 going on? Nobody every licks? 1:15:35.439 --> 1:15:39.439 R Kelly, Yeah, she loved bringing up was saying that 1:15:39.600 --> 1:15:42.720 Trey Songs used to love remixes. R Kelly didn't want 1:15:42.960 --> 1:15:46.440 to remix Trap in the Closet, and he made the character. 1:15:46.240 --> 1:15:52.439 Gay that Trey Songs was right, you love arn't you really? 1:15:52.760 --> 1:15:56.519 We're going to find out which facility, which correctional dog 1:15:56.680 --> 1:16:00.960 facility or no, she not. She's going to come see 1:16:01.560 --> 1:16:06.640 setting on fire alrighty I do not see you and 1:16:09.680 --> 1:16:12.599 he was locked up and getting out. Okay, she don't 1:16:12.600 --> 1:16:14.439 want him to get out. I know she don't want 1:16:14.520 --> 1:16:19.040 him to have access to the other girls. I'll find 1:16:19.040 --> 1:16:20.920 out where he's at. We don't wintter where he asked, 1:16:20.920 --> 1:16:24.920 though she could be his pen pal. J I like him, Yes, 1:16:25.040 --> 1:16:27.040 you do. You bring him up every episode. It was 1:16:27.120 --> 1:16:29.880 just because you said something about Trey songs. Trey songs 1:16:29.920 --> 1:16:31.479 and R. Kelly got to do with each other, so 1:16:31.880 --> 1:16:34.920 you pulled it all. That's what he said on the 1:16:34.960 --> 1:16:37.640 track in the Closet remake. Okay, because he saw he 1:16:37.720 --> 1:16:40.240 got out. But those are fun facts that only you know. 1:16:40.400 --> 1:16:43.640 Because I really was like he said, remember no, I 1:16:43.680 --> 1:16:49.000 didn't even know Trey songs and music I love are 1:16:49.080 --> 1:16:53.000 you a R Kelly Trey song? 1:16:53.439 --> 1:16:56.479 Got out of the closet And on his remax he 1:16:56.680 --> 1:16:58.080 was like when he got off the talk, he was like, 1:16:59.479 --> 1:17:02.080 you pulled that's what he said. 1:17:02.520 --> 1:17:02.840 And R. 1:17:02.920 --> 1:17:05.080 Kelly came back when Trapped in the Closet part two 1:17:05.160 --> 1:17:08.240 and he made that character gay and everybody was like, 1:17:08.320 --> 1:17:08.960 oh he did. 1:17:08.840 --> 1:17:13.120 That because everybody or you take out, because that's what 1:17:13.200 --> 1:17:16.760 media takeout was puffing. Media Takeout taught me how to 1:17:16.800 --> 1:17:19.920 be missing y'all. See I'm showing my age. Y'all don't 1:17:19.920 --> 1:17:24.200 know about media takeout. I used to wake up. They 1:17:24.360 --> 1:17:26.200 was like, you know what I'm saying, wake up in 1:17:26.280 --> 1:17:28.680 the morning to get on media takeout is wild. I 1:17:28.800 --> 1:17:30.880 used to wake up and check media takeout in the cold, 1:17:30.920 --> 1:17:34.240 bitchy m That's why I love lex P is so good. 1:17:35.560 --> 1:17:39.599 The people that were real nosy be I am nosy. 1:17:39.640 --> 1:17:41.960 That's why I love lex P. Like the girls be like, 1:17:42.080 --> 1:17:46.400 oh my god. First no, cause you'd be saying something. 1:17:46.479 --> 1:17:50.240 I just would never know unless I watched. I didn't know. 1:17:50.400 --> 1:17:52.240 He was like, what world do I be in because 1:17:52.240 --> 1:17:53.840 I did not know what was going on? Because, yeah, 1:17:53.880 --> 1:17:55.000 I'd be in the trenches morning. 1:17:56.040 --> 1:17:57.840 I have to keep the people in the know. We 1:17:58.000 --> 1:17:59.519 have to know what's going on in the world. And 1:17:59.680 --> 1:18:02.040 like I said, said, we are not the only people 1:18:02.120 --> 1:18:03.439 in mess. They being messed too. 1:18:04.280 --> 1:18:07.200 I be on the ass. I'm bringing back I'm restoring 1:18:07.360 --> 1:18:08.840 order in the world. I know. 1:18:11.200 --> 1:18:11.240 Y. 1:18:17.439 --> 1:18:20.160 I actually reported on him a few weeks ago. Yes, 1:18:20.240 --> 1:18:22.760 I did, and you wrote him don't forget that far 1:18:24.400 --> 1:18:31.680 dreas Kelly, missus Kelly. I don't like him, then why 1:18:31.720 --> 1:18:33.800 did you report on him because I did not want 1:18:33.800 --> 1:18:40.439 to part and that podcast had with him podcast a 1:18:40.600 --> 1:18:46.080 pot name Kick Big, where we went on there one times. Yes, 1:18:47.640 --> 1:18:53.920 the PAS squad. You are a dirty bitch, that's what 1:18:54.040 --> 1:18:56.160 he called us. He said he was the past squad. 1:18:56.560 --> 1:19:00.879 I know. So why am I dirty? Because you're stupid? 1:19:01.439 --> 1:19:04.600 You're dirty, Miss Kelly. Anyway, I reported on R. 1:19:04.720 --> 1:19:08.920 Kelly because a podcast had called into R. Kelly's jail 1:19:09.080 --> 1:19:11.439 cell and he was singing on the phone and I said, 1:19:11.520 --> 1:19:12.440 no residuals. 1:19:12.960 --> 1:19:14.360 Yes, he was singing residuals. 1:19:14.400 --> 1:19:18.360 And I said it was distasteful, because it is distaste. 1:19:18.520 --> 1:19:20.479 That's how I know that's really young man, because you 1:19:20.560 --> 1:19:25.360 need a rendition of residuals yourself. Copy me. Why she 1:19:25.600 --> 1:19:27.720 know who you are? Because you'll be writing each other. 1:19:28.320 --> 1:19:32.280 You up you. You told him that you were gonna 1:19:32.320 --> 1:19:35.040 do that, and he was like, okay, babe, let's do 1:19:35.160 --> 1:19:39.640 it against This is wild and I don't appreciate this. 1:19:40.120 --> 1:19:45.160 We're gonna have a chat. No we not. We're having 1:19:45.200 --> 1:19:51.240 a cheat named miss Kelly. You do you need to 1:19:51.320 --> 1:19:54.080 do a ninety hard No, it's you need to do tin. 1:19:54.479 --> 1:19:56.360 You ain't even need a team. I'm gonna do too 1:19:56.439 --> 1:20:04.080 hard today. That's crazy. It's get to the bad. Okay, yo, 1:20:05.320 --> 1:20:10.080 Jesus me Alex gonna play Birthday six edition of Unrapids 1:20:10.320 --> 1:20:15.400 or Returning, So we're gonna read at least wow, funny 1:20:15.880 --> 1:20:19.680 freaky Birthday six scenarios and gifts. And you have to 1:20:19.800 --> 1:20:25.000 say if you would Unrapids or if you were returning. Okay, okay, 1:20:25.800 --> 1:20:29.720 so let's see number one, wake up Head before you 1:20:29.800 --> 1:20:35.679 even brush your tea parted, We parted, but you shay 1:20:36.439 --> 1:20:39.040 wait what y'all gonna return up? Wake Up Head? I 1:20:39.080 --> 1:20:41.080 don't want unwrappid. 1:20:41.560 --> 1:20:43.240 No, I don't want wake up Head. And you ain't 1:20:43.280 --> 1:20:46.080 brush your teeth yet? Why that's sound fat my? That 1:20:46.160 --> 1:20:47.280 ain't got ship to the year. 1:20:47.560 --> 1:20:49.640 I don't. We don't have to talk. You talk to her. 1:20:50.200 --> 1:20:50.640 I don't know. 1:20:50.960 --> 1:20:53.719 I feel like I'm not gonna lie like in the morning, 1:20:54.000 --> 1:20:55.320 like if I know, I'm gonna get freaky. 1:20:55.360 --> 1:20:56.760 Sometimes I do like to sneak off and do a 1:20:56.800 --> 1:20:58.240 little quick quick rints. 1:20:58.439 --> 1:21:01.680 You know, I don't brush brush I'll do you know 1:21:01.720 --> 1:21:04.400 what I'm saying, because sucking dick, that's low. I'm not 1:21:04.560 --> 1:21:07.680 to wash her anyways, though, you feet I'm not gonna lie, 1:21:07.720 --> 1:21:08.479 I'm gonna return it. 1:21:08.680 --> 1:21:13.920 I'm not gonna lie. I'm gonna okay, okay. A massage 1:21:14.040 --> 1:21:17.000 with oils that ends in a happy ending, good morning 1:21:17.600 --> 1:21:21.719 to his brick. Oh, I was thinking about good morning, 1:21:21.800 --> 1:21:26.160 then his break breakfeast. 1:21:27.439 --> 1:21:30.120 A massage with oils that ends in a happy ending. 1:21:30.840 --> 1:21:33.760 I love massages. I think massage is just sexy. I'll 1:21:34.520 --> 1:21:37.800 unwrap it. I like a little massage, but with my man. 1:21:38.040 --> 1:21:40.320 Not that like I'm just at a you don't like 1:21:40.400 --> 1:21:45.799 getting you be getting fabbed. No, at the massage parlor. 1:21:46.640 --> 1:21:50.320 That's where I know. I know, I know who. I 1:21:50.320 --> 1:21:52.560 already knew who he was gonna say, I don't do that. 1:21:52.760 --> 1:21:54.640 No, but if it's a massage from my man that 1:21:54.840 --> 1:21:56.720 ends in a happy ending, cool, But not at some 1:21:56.960 --> 1:22:00.680 random like massage parlor. If it's a massage parlor on 1:22:00.760 --> 1:22:04.080 the outside, you know what they up to. You know 1:22:04.200 --> 1:22:07.000 what they up to or if they say free massage. 1:22:06.680 --> 1:22:09.479 Parlor, I don't know. I feel like, if you like 1:22:09.600 --> 1:22:12.120 to get happy in and massages, you are a free 1:22:13.040 --> 1:22:17.040 ass n I g g A you a sixty nine guy? 1:22:17.920 --> 1:22:20.719 Because what run for your life? 1:22:22.400 --> 1:22:25.720 Because what Kenner really went in on him, like he 1:22:25.800 --> 1:22:29.080 went a little too hard. It ain't stop, it didn't 1:22:29.120 --> 1:22:29.599 stop nothing. 1:22:29.600 --> 1:22:32.800 But why would you do that? That's crazy. I feel 1:22:32.800 --> 1:22:35.639 like it's behind us now it is. But why would 1:22:35.680 --> 1:22:39.360 you say that? Because he said what he said? He 1:22:39.560 --> 1:22:44.200 said what he said? I said words to all right? 1:22:44.240 --> 1:22:47.560 What's number three? Draft him? Looking the sweet just to 1:22:47.800 --> 1:22:53.080 bend you over in every corner, unwrappid. I love Hotel six, 1:22:53.439 --> 1:22:56.479 me too, because I can leave that ship looking crazy 1:22:56.560 --> 1:23:01.360 andly m. Somebody had tweeted, ake sure of them on 1:23:02.320 --> 1:23:05.240 next Friday. Remember not on the window. Don't wipe it 1:23:06.920 --> 1:23:10.599 on the window. It's nuts. Then babies gotta go somewhere, 1:23:11.880 --> 1:23:17.679 not up in here. Hobby is a freaking sixty nine. God, 1:23:17.880 --> 1:23:22.280 now he be squirting on the window. Oh wow, Hobby 1:23:22.520 --> 1:23:24.880 be cutting. That's why he would always be having new 1:23:24.920 --> 1:23:26.600 shoes when he come in here and the girls be 1:23:26.720 --> 1:23:30.920 spoiling him, leaving them a little on the window, the 1:23:31.000 --> 1:23:42.080 little Hobby surprise. I shaved it into the shape of 1:23:42.200 --> 1:23:46.240 a three and a four. Shaved what why did you 1:23:46.320 --> 1:23:49.000 want her to read it? What does that even mean? 1:23:49.280 --> 1:23:50.160 Shaved legs? 1:23:52.200 --> 1:23:53.760 And he shaved it into the shape of a three 1:23:53.800 --> 1:23:59.519 and the four. No, I would run for my life Okay, Dre, 1:23:59.680 --> 1:24:01.080 let me ask because water. 1:24:01.040 --> 1:24:04.639 Hell would you even like to me? That's like serial 1:24:04.800 --> 1:24:07.600 killer type sheet? Like why would you How did you 1:24:07.720 --> 1:24:09.960 take the time out to shave your pubic hair in 1:24:10.040 --> 1:24:11.320 a three? Let me ask you this. 1:24:11.439 --> 1:24:13.320 Have you ever been one in the two in the 1:24:13.400 --> 1:24:16.040 three until the fo have you ever been one of 1:24:16.040 --> 1:24:20.160 the man who had a Brazilian wax? No, how would 1:24:20.200 --> 1:24:21.680 y'all feel if you was like went down there and 1:24:21.720 --> 1:24:22.639 there was nothing there? 1:24:22.960 --> 1:24:26.240 I do like that. I have dealt with like I've 1:24:26.280 --> 1:24:28.200 had a man like be here lead That's what I'm saying, 1:24:28.439 --> 1:24:30.919 not Brazilian. Wh it wasn't a whit, not a Brazilian, 1:24:30.960 --> 1:24:32.840 but y'all know what I mean. It was like nothing. Yeah, 1:24:32.880 --> 1:24:36.800 I prefer that you like that the way? Yeah, get 1:24:36.880 --> 1:24:38.800 them hairs out my way that holds more of the 1:24:38.880 --> 1:24:41.760 saliva and stuff down there and more older Yeah, get 1:24:41.800 --> 1:24:45.559 it out of here, okay, and it looks bigger. Oh okay. 1:24:45.880 --> 1:24:48.240 I didn't know that. I've been with one man and 1:24:48.360 --> 1:24:49.479 it was like I went down there and I was 1:24:49.520 --> 1:24:51.040 shot because it was no hair down there, and I 1:24:51.120 --> 1:24:53.240 was like, oh wow. I wasn't mad at it, though, 1:24:53.400 --> 1:24:56.200 I like you, you know, I feel like that's cool. 1:24:56.560 --> 1:25:00.080 A wax is crazy, but like a little shak, I 1:25:00.120 --> 1:25:01.800 don't I don't know if he waxed or shaved. I 1:25:01.840 --> 1:25:03.960 don't know. Yah, it was just smooth. Because when you 1:25:04.000 --> 1:25:07.160 say Brazilian, I also think are they getting that? Yeah, 1:25:07.240 --> 1:25:07.760 I didn't mean that. 1:25:07.880 --> 1:25:09.720 I didn't mean Brazilian because I honestly I don't know. 1:25:09.760 --> 1:25:12.040 I didn't see his butthole, Okay, but I did see 1:25:12.080 --> 1:25:14.240 the balls and it was clear. I don't know if 1:25:14.280 --> 1:25:17.280 it was a wax or a shave, but I was like, oh, 1:25:17.360 --> 1:25:19.479 I'm not mad at it, but it took me by surprise. 1:25:19.880 --> 1:25:21.240 Then if you put the balls in your mouth, you 1:25:21.280 --> 1:25:23.880 don't get like carrying your teeth or anything, you know 1:25:23.920 --> 1:25:25.800 what I mean. I'm more willing to do a little 1:25:25.840 --> 1:25:28.680 bit more. Okay, we're gonna wrap it. We're gonna wrap that. Yeah, 1:25:28.760 --> 1:25:31.640 A three four on the deep raise, I don't even know. 1:25:32.200 --> 1:25:34.160 He don't know what that means. She was saying, like 1:25:34.320 --> 1:25:36.960 if he shaved, oh in the thirty four because you're 1:25:37.080 --> 1:25:41.960 three four, Yeah, like surprise, it's your birthday. It's indeed shave. 1:25:42.280 --> 1:25:48.040 I don't know how I understood. Would you say that 1:25:48.200 --> 1:25:53.040 song just dick? I don't know how we'll feel about that, 1:25:53.160 --> 1:25:58.240 but like a clean shave, I'm cool with that, you know, Okay, okay, 1:25:58.920 --> 1:26:04.720 him bringing a friend your birthday, fantasy threesomes, nigga, him 1:26:04.800 --> 1:26:08.880 bringing a friend for your birthday? No me, Yeah no, 1:26:09.080 --> 1:26:10.920 because I don't trust him in his time, I got 1:26:11.040 --> 1:26:11.800 to bring the friend. 1:26:13.000 --> 1:26:16.240 I don't like threesomes, so it's gonna be a no 1:26:16.439 --> 1:26:18.719 for me. Now if it was a little freaking because 1:26:18.720 --> 1:26:19.679 I know he ain't gonna bring. 1:26:19.600 --> 1:26:24.280 A nigga because it's two niggas. I would rather three 1:26:24.320 --> 1:26:26.720 some with two men. And see, that's not what I want. 1:26:27.400 --> 1:26:30.120 I like the I want this crazy. I want the 1:26:30.200 --> 1:26:36.479 dick in my mouth exactly exactly you want, y'all three, 1:26:36.520 --> 1:26:39.120 Someone let me get them common rolling the blunt one 1:26:39.200 --> 1:26:44.679 cook in the crack. That's too much. I got enough 1:26:44.760 --> 1:26:47.679 holes and I can take it off. And that's wild 1:26:47.760 --> 1:26:51.920 as hell. But how Hobby said, Yeah, black Cuci do 1:26:52.040 --> 1:27:04.120 metal r Kelly liked it. That's crazy. But now, yeah, 1:27:04.200 --> 1:27:06.840 if I could bring the girl, yeah, I would be 1:27:06.880 --> 1:27:09.240 cool with that because I love women like and to 1:27:09.320 --> 1:27:11.080 be honest, I haven't had a threesome in a really 1:27:11.120 --> 1:27:19.080 long time, so maybe I might do that for thirty. Oh, I. 1:27:20.720 --> 1:27:25.559 Don't want to be nowhere near you your birthday, dumb ben. 1:27:25.800 --> 1:27:29.080 You won't be you won't be notified. Don't worry you 1:27:29.280 --> 1:27:32.720 know hearybody. You're not gonna know nobody. You don't have 1:27:32.840 --> 1:27:36.639 to worry at all. You was not gonna know a thing. 1:27:37.600 --> 1:27:42.040 Don't worry about because you would not know nothing. 1:27:42.200 --> 1:27:46.120 Okay, okay, okay, Oh I'm gonna skip down to this 1:27:46.240 --> 1:27:50.240 one role play where he's the delivery man with a 1:27:50.320 --> 1:27:50.960 package for you. 1:27:51.680 --> 1:27:56.120 I've actually done this before. I'm an unwrap it. That's fine. 1:27:56.200 --> 1:27:58.400 I love role play. Roleplay is always fun. 1:27:58.880 --> 1:28:00.880 I feel like if if you can't role play with 1:28:01.000 --> 1:28:05.040 your man, y'all missing out on some fun like role play. 1:28:05.160 --> 1:28:06.400 And it don't even matter. It don't even have to 1:28:06.439 --> 1:28:07.240 be a delivery man. 1:28:07.760 --> 1:28:10.559 It could be anything like I had one time when 1:28:10.600 --> 1:28:13.560 me and my man, like we went and acted like 1:28:13.680 --> 1:28:15.560 we were just meeting each other at a restaurant, and 1:28:15.640 --> 1:28:15.920 it was. 1:28:16.040 --> 1:28:18.680 So much fun. It was like we was acting. It 1:28:18.840 --> 1:28:20.680 was just like, oh, hey, how you doing it? It 1:28:20.840 --> 1:28:24.080 was a ball and we got fucked up. It was 1:28:24.120 --> 1:28:24.479 a time. 1:28:24.600 --> 1:28:27.280 So I think role play should everybody should try role 1:28:27.320 --> 1:28:28.120 play at least once. 1:28:28.280 --> 1:28:30.800 I think we're all playing. It's cool. I like role playing. Yeah, 1:28:31.280 --> 1:28:35.479 under rather, I agree, I'm wrap it okay, recorded birthday six, 1:28:35.640 --> 1:28:38.799 but only you get the footage. I canna do that anyway, 1:28:38.800 --> 1:28:44.599 because that's how I am. Like. I don't gotta be birthday. 1:28:44.880 --> 1:28:47.479 It ain't got to be the birthday. Okay. I think 1:28:47.520 --> 1:28:49.680 you should do maybe number nine. I can't see what 1:28:49.760 --> 1:28:56.839 you on this side. A birthday is stupid. A birthday 1:28:56.920 --> 1:28:59.720 spank for every year you've been fine cause she know 1:28:59.840 --> 1:29:03.160 her anti fine And I like the thirty four. I 1:29:03.360 --> 1:29:06.519 like it. Do y'all like that? You don't like it? 1:29:07.280 --> 1:29:09.479 My boyfriend, well, my man who's not my man, but 1:29:09.560 --> 1:29:11.160 he is my man but not my man. Now we 1:29:11.680 --> 1:29:15.160 oh my god, we all got me and he always 1:29:15.200 --> 1:29:17.559 smacks my ass, which I get, like that's a thing 1:29:17.640 --> 1:29:20.240 for me. But I just because it's roll to you know, 1:29:20.520 --> 1:29:24.599 and it's heavy. Now I'm but I don't like that. Oh. 1:29:24.680 --> 1:29:28.200 I just love like I love I'm talking about during sex, 1:29:28.320 --> 1:29:31.280 during anything like I love smack and I want you 1:29:31.360 --> 1:29:32.320 to smack it hard. 1:29:33.520 --> 1:29:36.880 I want it to be hard. I want to hurt. 1:29:37.200 --> 1:29:45.519 He was talking to me. That's your song. I love. 1:29:46.320 --> 1:29:50.240 I love getting my ass small, like, so I used 1:29:50.280 --> 1:29:52.040 to have it. Like we're speaking of role play. 1:29:52.600 --> 1:29:53.960 I used to have this game like me and my 1:29:54.040 --> 1:29:56.600 eggs used to play, and like we would be in 1:29:56.680 --> 1:29:58.640 public and I would do something that he didn't like. 1:29:58.880 --> 1:30:01.680 He would be like that's one, and I'd be like, oh, 1:30:01.720 --> 1:30:02.519 I'm in trouble. 1:30:03.080 --> 1:30:04.599 Or if I would do something, I'd walk off from 1:30:04.680 --> 1:30:06.479 him and I would come back he'd be like that's two. 1:30:07.320 --> 1:30:10.080 I'm like, I'm being bad at night. Do you like 1:30:10.160 --> 1:30:14.000 to be dominated? Oh? I like a little domination. Oh. 1:30:14.080 --> 1:30:14.920 It was so funny. 1:30:14.920 --> 1:30:16.639 It was like then it got to the points where 1:30:16.640 --> 1:30:19.519 I would like start purposely cutting up because he'd be like, oh. 1:30:20.439 --> 1:30:21.720 And then when we would get to the house, he 1:30:21.720 --> 1:30:23.599 would be like, go upstairs and take your clothes off. 1:30:24.200 --> 1:30:28.120 I'm like, I love a little paddle. Yes, we're not 1:30:28.240 --> 1:30:28.679 a paddle. 1:30:28.760 --> 1:30:30.840 We aint never did it with the pattle, but I 1:30:30.960 --> 1:30:32.879 was like okay, yes, Like I had to go upstairs 1:30:32.960 --> 1:30:35.360 and take my clothes off, and he would be like, yeah, 1:30:35.479 --> 1:30:38.639 get on the bed. You cut up six times, smile, 1:30:38.680 --> 1:30:40.720 You're finna get six spankings. 1:30:41.479 --> 1:30:45.040 Wow a time. I love it. Let me put this down, 1:30:45.120 --> 1:30:50.560 all right, all me spanky all right, let's move on. 1:30:50.760 --> 1:30:52.719 So now let's do the item of the week, mus Beauty. 1:30:52.760 --> 1:30:55.879 What you got for us dre up of course, Musicity 1:30:55.920 --> 1:30:59.919 Collection dot com. Make sure you get your lip glosses, 1:31:00.120 --> 1:31:05.200 matt Liquid lipsticks, lip plumpers, lip liners, we have jelly blushes. 1:31:05.240 --> 1:31:09.439 We also have mescerra and liquid eyeliner. Now we're also 1:31:09.560 --> 1:31:11.880 doing a cell right now, twenty percent off of the 1:31:12.160 --> 1:31:16.439 entire site for my birthday birthday sale, twenty percent off 1:31:16.439 --> 1:31:20.120 of the entire site. We also have a birthday edition 1:31:20.680 --> 1:31:23.400 tab on the site where it's already marked down. But 1:31:23.479 --> 1:31:25.840 then you also get twenty percent off of the entire site. 1:31:26.320 --> 1:31:29.400 No cold, needy, it's my birthday. 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If y'all don't know Deston like he used 1:33:27.680 --> 1:33:30.519 to be like popping like on Vine and the Vine 1:33:30.640 --> 1:33:32.280 days and stuff, and it's like he just made a 1:33:32.320 --> 1:33:35.200 complete transition into like an artist and I absolutely love it. 1:33:35.240 --> 1:33:39.080 He's so amazing. He has a song with uh Tezo Touchdown. 1:33:39.360 --> 1:33:41.920 He's from Beaumont four o nine. Shout out to the 1:33:41.960 --> 1:33:45.479 four all golden, the Golden Triangle period. Nothing betaw us 1:33:45.640 --> 1:33:48.120 come out four o nine. I feel like when you 1:33:48.280 --> 1:33:51.120 talk about four o nine, you gotta talk about Pempcy, 1:33:52.560 --> 1:33:56.080 you gotta talk about lex Pe, and you got to 1:33:56.160 --> 1:33:59.120 talk about bun b is from Houston? 1:34:00.080 --> 1:34:03.920 He is, yes, from Port Arthur. Is he from Port Arthur? Oh? 1:34:03.960 --> 1:34:06.880 He is from I think that you are. No, let's 1:34:06.920 --> 1:34:10.320 look it up because from Houston. But a people used 1:34:10.320 --> 1:34:16.240 to say bun Bee was from Arthur. No is it 1:34:16.360 --> 1:34:19.280 Houston Arthur, Texas? Oh? He was born in Port Authur. 1:34:19.400 --> 1:34:22.240 See that's a damn Shane. No. I got like five 1:34:22.320 --> 1:34:25.200 people he was he was born in a Houston hospital, 1:34:25.280 --> 1:34:27.600 but he is from Port arth Okay. So that's what no. 1:34:27.760 --> 1:34:30.040 I only say that, and that's no disrespect to Bunnee. 1:34:30.080 --> 1:34:32.400 The only reason I say that is because people always 1:34:32.439 --> 1:34:33.200 had that argument. 1:34:33.320 --> 1:34:34.280 But I guess that's the. 1:34:34.280 --> 1:34:36.880 Same thing they do with Meg because she was born 1:34:36.960 --> 1:34:39.320 in San Antonio, but she was raised in Houston. So 1:34:39.439 --> 1:34:41.160 he was born in Houston, but he was raised in 1:34:41.200 --> 1:34:43.840 Port Arthur, So he's from Port Arthur. 1:34:44.680 --> 1:34:45.000 Bun B. 1:34:45.120 --> 1:34:47.800 Shout out to bun Bee. He is right right right, 1:34:47.840 --> 1:34:49.360 shout out to bunn We would love to have you 1:34:49.479 --> 1:34:49.960 come sit. 1:34:49.880 --> 1:34:52.080 On the couch now. But gotta know where he's from. 1:34:52.200 --> 1:34:54.880 I know where he's from, damnit. He from right up 1:34:54.960 --> 1:35:02.720 the street. Like I said, bun Bee, Pipsy and and 1:35:02.840 --> 1:35:06.280 Tezo touched out, so yeah, he's from Bauma. So uh yeah. 1:35:06.360 --> 1:35:09.400 So the my bop of the week, Destin Conrad and 1:35:09.479 --> 1:35:10.240 Tzo touchdown. 1:35:10.280 --> 1:35:12.200 They have a song called the Last Song. It's a 1:35:12.280 --> 1:35:15.320 Bob gold streaming. I just like, like I said, I 1:35:15.479 --> 1:35:18.280 love what R and B is looking like right now. 1:35:18.560 --> 1:35:20.920 It's just like it's fire, It's on fire. I don't 1:35:20.920 --> 1:35:24.240 have no complaints like I've been being fed fed fed 1:35:24.320 --> 1:35:25.920 fed love it right? 1:35:26.080 --> 1:35:29.720 What you got? So my pop is use me by 1:35:29.800 --> 1:35:34.599 bow Wow and Chris Brown. I said, oh my god, 1:35:35.200 --> 1:35:37.120 I love Why are you looking like that? Have you 1:35:37.200 --> 1:35:39.720 listened to the song? No, that's what I'm saying when 1:35:39.720 --> 1:35:41.879 you do that. By the way, I didn't do anything 1:35:42.320 --> 1:35:45.920 looking like what I feel like when you'll be having 1:35:45.960 --> 1:35:48.400 yo viobs, I could look like that too, because you 1:35:48.520 --> 1:35:51.719 go bobs. I'd be like, m questionable. But I don't 1:35:51.760 --> 1:35:55.000 say anything. I just affecting bow Wow to have a 1:35:55.080 --> 1:35:57.080 new song. Does he have a new song? But you 1:35:57.160 --> 1:35:59.240 didn't let me finish what I was saying. You didn't 1:35:59.280 --> 1:36:02.280 let me let you finish looking shady I was, But 1:36:02.400 --> 1:36:06.680 I'm issue what I'm saying. So anyway, how you do me? No, 1:36:06.840 --> 1:36:08.800 it's how you do yourself, because you was already looking 1:36:08.840 --> 1:36:11.720 at it. But the point that I was making is 1:36:11.840 --> 1:36:14.800 bow Wow and Chris Brown have a song and I 1:36:15.000 --> 1:36:17.679 really like it. I said, bow Wow, you were talking 1:36:17.720 --> 1:36:20.840 a little freaky deecky even though you know what's so 1:36:21.040 --> 1:36:25.200 interesting about child stars. You'd be like, you're really grown now. 1:36:25.800 --> 1:36:27.800 And I think it's still hard for me to see 1:36:27.840 --> 1:36:31.400 bow Wows like a grown person because he was a 1:36:31.479 --> 1:36:33.040 child when he first came out, like he was a 1:36:33.080 --> 1:36:34.799 child star. But yeah, he was like a real freaky 1:36:34.880 --> 1:36:36.920 on the song. I'm listen to it and I think 1:36:37.000 --> 1:36:39.280 it's real cute, Like it kind of gives me vibes 1:36:39.320 --> 1:36:41.840 when Chris Brown and bow Wow used to collaborate back 1:36:41.880 --> 1:36:45.360 in the day. I don't like it. That Marion. Yeah, 1:36:45.360 --> 1:36:46.040 that was a Marion. 1:36:46.320 --> 1:36:49.559 The only thing that keeps me yep when I'm coming down. 1:36:49.800 --> 1:36:52.200 I don't know what but you, but I gotta keep money. 1:36:52.680 --> 1:36:54.640 That was a good song. Oh Chris Brown was on 1:36:54.760 --> 1:36:57.320 the song though, Yeah he would remix or something. Yeah, 1:36:57.680 --> 1:37:00.880 probably like mine. Chris Brown was on it, So I 1:37:01.000 --> 1:37:03.439 feel like it's a great song. Then y'all know. Right now, 1:37:03.560 --> 1:37:06.719 the Millennium Tour is going on and I'm so sad 1:37:07.040 --> 1:37:09.800 that I can't go because I wanted to go two times, 1:37:09.840 --> 1:37:12.320 but we had something to do for work when they 1:37:12.400 --> 1:37:14.479 had the Atlanta show in the Houston show. So yeah, 1:37:14.560 --> 1:37:16.840 shout out to the Millennium Tour, shout out to bow Wow. 1:37:17.080 --> 1:37:20.120 And I'm not gonna lie. I said something about, like, damn, 1:37:20.160 --> 1:37:21.639 I wish I could make it to the Millennium Tour. 1:37:22.200 --> 1:37:23.760 One of my homegirls was like, why would you want 1:37:23.760 --> 1:37:26.080 to go see bow Wow before? Because I know every 1:37:26.120 --> 1:37:28.040 single song? Why do y'all want to be at concerts 1:37:28.040 --> 1:37:29.880 where you don't know every single song? Right? 1:37:30.040 --> 1:37:32.000 If you go to the Millennium tour, you will know 1:37:32.200 --> 1:37:33.719 every single bow Wow song. 1:37:34.200 --> 1:37:39.759 He made hit after hit after hit after hit. Let's stop. 1:37:40.760 --> 1:37:43.240 Don't do him like that. And honestly, he's been killing 1:37:43.320 --> 1:37:46.479 it the clips. I've been saying a lot of energy. 1:37:46.560 --> 1:37:48.439 Them needs still work me. 1:37:48.800 --> 1:37:56.599 Hold you, he loves me. Hold you Brown. 1:37:57.760 --> 1:37:59.280 You know so I was listening to the other day. 1:37:59.280 --> 1:38:02.880 I can't lie, though I did listen to Freshness. 1:38:02.560 --> 1:38:04.920 On Me is in the car. Y ain't right, Ye 1:38:04.920 --> 1:38:07.519 ain't rye, y ain't bumping like I'm bumping. Yin't saying 1:38:07.680 --> 1:38:09.360 nothing on me. You ain't fresh as than me? 1:38:09.680 --> 1:38:12.719 Because he was like, I'm eighteen nigga making moding your dad. 1:38:14.200 --> 1:38:16.639 Imagine your nigga's talking ship like that and your daddy 1:38:16.680 --> 1:38:17.400 can't say shit. 1:38:18.439 --> 1:38:20.479 That's the type of shit I like. I don't like that. 1:38:20.760 --> 1:38:22.599 I don't want no nigga making more than my daddy. 1:38:22.800 --> 1:38:26.479 But I'm saying personally, but I'm saying he could, he 1:38:26.520 --> 1:38:26.960 could do that. 1:38:27.600 --> 1:38:32.559 He was making molding your dad. He was, well, yeah, yeah, 1:38:32.720 --> 1:38:35.120 because he's making more than my daddy too. Shit, my 1:38:35.200 --> 1:38:37.400 daddy was dead. I know he was making more of him. Yo, 1:38:37.439 --> 1:38:41.439 daddy wasn't making it. He wouldn't r ip ip he 1:38:41.600 --> 1:38:44.000 just killed. Oh my god, why I was about to 1:38:44.000 --> 1:38:47.600 say that too. That is so crazy. We don't have 1:38:47.640 --> 1:38:50.280 a mental telepathy. I was saying, our I p just 1:38:50.439 --> 1:38:53.960 killed the club. It's not funny though. I did not 1:38:54.200 --> 1:39:02.960 laugh once me neither. Or you're trying to make me laugh. 1:39:03.040 --> 1:39:06.240 I'm not trying to make you laugh. I'm not doing 1:39:06.320 --> 1:39:22.880 it because laughing I lied. She's back, y'all. It's sad. 1:39:23.680 --> 1:39:32.840 It's time with no All right, who the fuck is 1:39:32.920 --> 1:39:36.679 that me? What's the name? D Dan? 1:39:39.360 --> 1:39:42.720 And you are no, I'm not ship Leave me out 1:39:42.800 --> 1:39:45.120 of this licks Kelly. 1:39:50.840 --> 1:39:55.000 Kelly should That's what we're finna do. All right. 1:39:55.160 --> 1:39:59.320 Make sure y'all email us for our minds at gmail 1:39:59.400 --> 1:40:02.080 dot com. If you want your question answer on the 1:40:02.160 --> 1:40:03.760 show and you are a Patrenon, remember you get to 1:40:03.800 --> 1:40:06.240 skip the line, so just put in the subject. You 1:40:06.280 --> 1:40:09.200 know Patrenon, I remember all that good stuff and that's 1:40:09.240 --> 1:40:09.919 on period. 1:40:10.840 --> 1:40:14.240 My girl cute? Oh, go ahead, go ahead, ask for 1:40:14.400 --> 1:40:15.120 minds at Gmail. 1:40:15.240 --> 1:40:17.240 Yeah, I said, thats more minds at gmail dot com. 1:40:17.360 --> 1:40:20.519 Period. Okay, keep me anonymous. She added a photos to 1:40:20.640 --> 1:40:23.240 y'all keep me anonymous. I'm twenty three and been dealing 1:40:23.320 --> 1:40:25.439 with a thirty five year old man for two years. 1:40:25.760 --> 1:40:28.240 It's been a lot of ups and downs. I think 1:40:28.280 --> 1:40:30.759 it's a trauma bond at this point. I just started 1:40:30.880 --> 1:40:33.479 nursing school, so I'm seeing him list and honestly, I'm 1:40:33.520 --> 1:40:37.000 starting to feel the distance. Yeah, two kids doesn't help 1:40:37.040 --> 1:40:40.479 with my hair, nails, or weed, and says all his 1:40:40.640 --> 1:40:44.080 money goes to his VM. He buys groceries, but that 1:40:44.200 --> 1:40:47.000 feels like bare minimum. I'm not scared to be alone. 1:40:47.120 --> 1:40:50.799 I actually hate niggas lol, But I'm a people pleaser 1:40:51.080 --> 1:40:54.160 and hate hurting feelings. I'm scared he might spiral if 1:40:54.240 --> 1:40:56.720 I leave. How do y'all build the courage to leave 1:40:56.800 --> 1:40:59.600 someone who isn't a bad person, just not right for you? 1:41:00.080 --> 1:41:02.960 And she haded help out all. She's cute, Go ahead, 1:41:03.000 --> 1:41:05.160 give it a device. Oh she is really pretty. She's 1:41:05.200 --> 1:41:05.760 twenty three. 1:41:09.960 --> 1:41:13.439 I'm not saying that because you don't. When I say 1:41:13.479 --> 1:41:16.240 you don't look twenty three, It's not like offensively. It's 1:41:16.320 --> 1:41:20.640 just like they just got att like when I was 1:41:20.680 --> 1:41:21.600 twenty three, I was. 1:41:21.680 --> 1:41:26.880 Just they active. They you outside, baby, this looks like 1:41:27.000 --> 1:41:30.519 a grown woman. Maybe that's why the thirty five year 1:41:30.560 --> 1:41:33.800 old likes her too. I need you to walk around here. 1:41:33.720 --> 1:41:35.479 And see this picture, or maybe Drake can hand it 1:41:35.520 --> 1:41:37.800 to you so you can understand what I'm saying. She's beautiful, 1:41:37.880 --> 1:41:44.360 but it's like that's not giving twenty three. That's given 1:41:44.479 --> 1:41:50.240 like thirty, right, and not in a bad way getting. 1:41:50.240 --> 1:41:54.960 I'm saying. It's like you look that is very polished, mature. 1:41:55.080 --> 1:42:00.560 I'm mature. Yeah, sorry, go ahead with your advice. I 1:42:00.680 --> 1:42:03.720 feel like if it's a trauma bund, if you know 1:42:03.840 --> 1:42:05.479 it's a trauma bund, then I think you know what 1:42:05.600 --> 1:42:07.280 to do, Like you need to let it go. Like 1:42:07.400 --> 1:42:10.840 trauma bonds are not good things. You bonding with somebody 1:42:11.080 --> 1:42:14.760 over negative, toxic things. It's not something that you need 1:42:14.840 --> 1:42:17.560 to hold on to. I feel like it's no sustainability 1:42:17.640 --> 1:42:20.320 in that, it's no longevity in a relationship like that, 1:42:20.720 --> 1:42:22.559 And I feel like you know what you need to do. Also, 1:42:22.680 --> 1:42:25.360 you're twenty three and he is thirty five. He's twelve 1:42:25.479 --> 1:42:27.640 years older than you. A lot of the time. I 1:42:27.800 --> 1:42:30.719 feel like men who are older they like today women 1:42:30.760 --> 1:42:33.400 that are significantly younger than them, because they be trying 1:42:33.439 --> 1:42:36.680 to manipulate you. They know exactly what they trying to do. 1:42:37.400 --> 1:42:40.839 I think that you need to maybe focus on yourself, 1:42:40.880 --> 1:42:43.640 explore yourself. He thirty five, he got two kids. He 1:42:43.800 --> 1:42:46.680 clearly still taking care of his baby mama. It's a 1:42:46.720 --> 1:42:49.439 lot of baggage there, and from what it sounds like 1:42:49.720 --> 1:42:52.360 from what you wrote, you don't have any baggage. So 1:42:52.520 --> 1:42:55.599 you need to focus on you. And at the end 1:42:55.600 --> 1:42:57.080 of the day, if that man want to be with you, 1:42:57.160 --> 1:42:58.880 and I'm not saying that you should just write a 1:42:58.960 --> 1:43:02.600 man off just because he has kids and he's you know, 1:43:02.760 --> 1:43:05.680 he has like a situation or whatever. But if he 1:43:06.040 --> 1:43:07.640 wants to be with you and you want to be 1:43:07.720 --> 1:43:10.160 with him, he's going to find a way to make 1:43:10.240 --> 1:43:13.559 you feel comfortable, and y'all are gonna find a way 1:43:13.560 --> 1:43:16.880 to make you work. If he is doing things that 1:43:16.960 --> 1:43:18.720 you're not okay, weed and then on top of that, 1:43:18.840 --> 1:43:20.519 you think that he's a trauma bond, I think you 1:43:20.560 --> 1:43:22.559 should walk away. You twenty three, You don't have nothing 1:43:22.600 --> 1:43:25.160 to lose. You have nothing but time I agree. Oh 1:43:25.920 --> 1:43:28.719 I'm not advice. I agree one hundred percent everything you said. 1:43:28.760 --> 1:43:30.599 I just feel like you're too young. 1:43:30.640 --> 1:43:32.080 I feel like he's trying to take advantage of you, 1:43:32.240 --> 1:43:33.360 talking about he don't want to pay for. 1:43:33.360 --> 1:43:35.800 Your hair and nail that's bear. But he giving all 1:43:35.840 --> 1:43:37.960 this money to these baby mama But he's not doing. 1:43:37.840 --> 1:43:39.840 That because he doesn't want to, because he's thinking, I'm 1:43:39.840 --> 1:43:41.439 a date of twenty three year old. She's not gonna 1:43:41.439 --> 1:43:43.240 ask me for nothing. That's why he's not doing it. 1:43:43.360 --> 1:43:45.439 He's thinking that he can manipulate you. But you just seem, 1:43:45.920 --> 1:43:47.559 you know, a little smarter for him. 1:43:47.600 --> 1:43:49.920 So girl, move on. He'll be alright. He gonna move 1:43:50.000 --> 1:43:51.120 on to the next twenty three year old. 1:43:51.120 --> 1:43:52.920 Because any thirty five year old man dating a twenty 1:43:52.920 --> 1:43:55.880 three year old, I'm questioning his thought process anyway. 1:43:56.000 --> 1:43:59.280 Chat a little weird, he a little weird. So okay, 1:43:59.360 --> 1:43:59.960 where do I eat? 1:44:00.520 --> 1:44:03.040 I'm thirty at my now ex, the father of my 1:44:03.200 --> 1:44:06.240 kids is thirty one. We were together for seven years 1:44:06.280 --> 1:44:08.519 and I finally told him I can't do this anymore. 1:44:08.840 --> 1:44:12.400 I've been through it all with him, multiple cheating situations, 1:44:12.520 --> 1:44:16.280 physical fights, emotional abuse. He even slept with another woman 1:44:16.520 --> 1:44:20.040 in our bed while I was pregnant with our third child, 1:44:20.479 --> 1:44:22.960 after I took him back for getting me locked up. 1:44:23.439 --> 1:44:27.800 I know no judgment zone right now. After I had 1:44:27.840 --> 1:44:30.600 our son, I lost my job and he became the 1:44:30.720 --> 1:44:34.160 only one working. But he instantly stopped. 1:44:33.840 --> 1:44:36.680 Helping with the kids like I wasn't still healing and 1:44:36.800 --> 1:44:40.439 caring for a newborn, a toddler, and a school age child, 1:44:40.920 --> 1:44:44.720 plus keeping up with the house. He's always angry and miserable, 1:44:44.920 --> 1:44:49.000 and I finally hit my breaking point after a feed engagement. 1:44:49.280 --> 1:44:51.760 He sent me on vacations and had our kids with 1:44:51.880 --> 1:44:55.800 another woman. I broke it off the problem we still 1:44:55.840 --> 1:44:59.240 lived together and I can't afford the place alone. I 1:44:59.360 --> 1:45:01.200 know he won't leave me out to dry, but I 1:45:01.320 --> 1:45:04.240 also know I can't heal until he's gone, and seeing 1:45:04.320 --> 1:45:07.439 his fat say face every day is driving me crazy. 1:45:07.560 --> 1:45:08.160 What should I do? 1:45:11.280 --> 1:45:13.360 You know, it's hard for me to relate to these 1:45:13.400 --> 1:45:15.920 type of situations because this is a judgment free zone. 1:45:17.560 --> 1:45:21.559 But it's hard for me to understand because I feel 1:45:21.640 --> 1:45:24.200 like you on child number three. I don't know how 1:45:24.240 --> 1:45:25.880 that feels, cause a nigga can't even get. 1:45:25.760 --> 1:45:26.160 One out of me. 1:45:26.240 --> 1:45:28.600 After he showed me his true colors. And that's just 1:45:28.680 --> 1:45:33.519 coming from because you already in there, you three kids deep. 1:45:34.880 --> 1:45:37.639 You have to lock in and get laser focus. That's 1:45:37.640 --> 1:45:39.080 the best thing I can tell you. Because we don't 1:45:39.120 --> 1:45:40.799 have children, We've never been in that situation. 1:45:40.880 --> 1:45:41.519 Because y'all be. 1:45:41.920 --> 1:45:43.960 Stop letting these men play in y'all face. I know 1:45:44.040 --> 1:45:46.839 it's a little late to say that, but when somebody 1:45:46.920 --> 1:45:51.120 shows you who they are, believe them. Okay, So all 1:45:51.160 --> 1:45:53.160 I can say for you now, because you're already in 1:45:53.200 --> 1:45:55.840 the trenches with them, y'all got three kids. It's too late. 1:45:56.200 --> 1:45:57.600 You gotta deal with this man for the rest of 1:45:57.640 --> 1:46:00.760 your life. All I can tell you now, get you 1:46:00.840 --> 1:46:04.799 a job and lock in, save up your money. Hopefully 1:46:04.880 --> 1:46:07.320 you have some friends and family that can help you out. 1:46:07.800 --> 1:46:10.960 But you already in there. You asked for advice three 1:46:11.080 --> 1:46:15.600 kids too late. Baby, The mistake has been made. So 1:46:15.800 --> 1:46:16.720 sometimes you got you. 1:46:17.000 --> 1:46:18.519 You made your bed. You gotta lay in it. 1:46:19.280 --> 1:46:22.080 And I don't mean to say that harshly, but I 1:46:22.280 --> 1:46:25.400 literally I cannot give you any advice because I don't 1:46:25.720 --> 1:46:28.400 I don't know that life, and I'm not saying that 1:46:28.560 --> 1:46:33.400 to be mean, but I just hope that you can 1:46:33.520 --> 1:46:36.479 understand now that this is your chance to really move 1:46:36.560 --> 1:46:37.240 on and let him go. 1:46:37.360 --> 1:46:38.240 He's not gonna change. 1:46:38.400 --> 1:46:40.479 He's moping around with a sad face because he's trying 1:46:40.520 --> 1:46:42.680 to manipulate you. So I hope you can see that 1:46:42.760 --> 1:46:46.800 before there's a number four on the way, you know 1:46:46.800 --> 1:46:50.840 what I'm saying. So I'm praying that you can really 1:46:50.960 --> 1:46:53.360 lock in and save up your money, get some help 1:46:53.439 --> 1:46:56.720 from your community to get out of that house. But 1:46:56.920 --> 1:46:59.479 it's hard because I think of like if I have 1:46:59.560 --> 1:47:01.080 a friend that has a child, and if she needed 1:47:01.080 --> 1:47:03.040 to come to Atlanta and stay with me, baby, we good. 1:47:03.120 --> 1:47:04.599 What you finna do, what we're finna do, what we're 1:47:04.600 --> 1:47:05.240 finna figure out. 1:47:05.439 --> 1:47:10.920 But if my friend had three kids, yikes. Yeah. 1:47:12.520 --> 1:47:16.040 So all I can tell you is I is to 1:47:16.200 --> 1:47:17.840 lock in and try to do the best that you 1:47:18.000 --> 1:47:20.879 can to get out of that situation. 1:47:21.040 --> 1:47:22.559 But the best thing is for. 1:47:22.640 --> 1:47:25.160 You is to not let him fool you, because he's 1:47:25.200 --> 1:47:30.280 fooled you a lot. Focus on yourself and trying to 1:47:30.360 --> 1:47:33.559 get out. Because he's sitting around there and moping. Girl, 1:47:33.640 --> 1:47:37.120 he's not sad. He said that, he's not manipulating you anymore. 1:47:38.040 --> 1:47:39.680 All he's trying to do is real you back in. 1:47:40.000 --> 1:47:42.280 So the best advice I can give you is stop 1:47:42.360 --> 1:47:44.960 falling for his lies so you can really move on. 1:47:45.479 --> 1:47:47.400 Because it ain't too late to move on. There's plenty 1:47:47.439 --> 1:47:49.560 of men out here that will date you, plenty of 1:47:49.640 --> 1:47:52.439 people you can move on. You can have a life 1:47:52.520 --> 1:47:55.479 after him. I mean, look at cash Dog. Cash Dog 1:47:55.520 --> 1:47:56.360 got hu good one. 1:47:56.520 --> 1:48:01.280 Yeah, two kids go hud outside having a ball. 1:48:01.439 --> 1:48:04.040 So it can happen, but you have to really lock 1:48:04.080 --> 1:48:05.760 in and focus on I think when cash y'all got 1:48:05.800 --> 1:48:06.840 in her relations, she locked in. 1:48:07.520 --> 1:48:10.160 She was working when she met her due. She was 1:48:10.200 --> 1:48:11.200 talking to KICKI Palmer. 1:48:11.320 --> 1:48:13.120 She said, Oh, he just walked up to me and 1:48:13.200 --> 1:48:16.040 I was outside, I'm hosting a party. So sometimes you 1:48:16.120 --> 1:48:18.400 just got to lock in, focus on yourself, and that that. 1:48:18.520 --> 1:48:22.519 Moving on will come to your child. But baby, I 1:48:22.560 --> 1:48:27.000 don't know. Yeah, I agree. I think that you just 1:48:27.200 --> 1:48:30.360 need to focus on yourself. I don't know if you 1:48:30.479 --> 1:48:32.840 have any close knit family that you can go stay in, 1:48:33.360 --> 1:48:35.360 go stay with. But I feel like that's a situation 1:48:35.400 --> 1:48:37.920 where you need to like rely on your family, community 1:48:38.120 --> 1:48:41.400 and community because you have three kids already, and if 1:48:41.439 --> 1:48:42.639 you don't want to be with him and you don't 1:48:42.640 --> 1:48:44.960 want to stay with him, which I completely understand, because 1:48:45.360 --> 1:48:48.479 that seems like a very toxic, unhealthy situation for you, 1:48:49.000 --> 1:48:52.280 and especially to be bringing up three children in so 1:48:52.400 --> 1:48:54.240 I feel like you need to try to see, like 1:48:54.400 --> 1:48:57.280 what are your resources, and like try to rely on 1:48:57.360 --> 1:48:59.960 the people around you, rely on like link said, community, 1:49:00.720 --> 1:49:03.240 and try to get yourself out of that situation, because 1:49:03.240 --> 1:49:05.360 I feel like living in that same house with him 1:49:05.439 --> 1:49:08.559 and being there with him, you gonna fall back into 1:49:08.600 --> 1:49:11.120 the trap. It's inevitable because y'all there, y'all in the 1:49:11.160 --> 1:49:13.840 same household, you looking at him every day, like you said, 1:49:13.840 --> 1:49:15.799 you looking at his sad face, and it be driving 1:49:15.840 --> 1:49:18.360 you crazy. I feel like you need to try to 1:49:18.400 --> 1:49:20.920 get yourself as far removed from that situation as you can. 1:49:21.560 --> 1:49:24.280 I know that if you don't have enough money to 1:49:24.640 --> 1:49:26.519 live on your own, which is what you were saying 1:49:26.560 --> 1:49:28.760 in a letter, then you need to try to rely 1:49:28.880 --> 1:49:30.560 on your family so that you can get stack some 1:49:30.680 --> 1:49:33.280 bread up and make enough money so that you can 1:49:33.320 --> 1:49:35.320 get a place for you and your kids. But I 1:49:35.400 --> 1:49:37.280 don't think you need to see it be in their space, 1:49:37.439 --> 1:49:40.200 in that house with him, figure out what you need 1:49:40.280 --> 1:49:42.120 to do to get away as far away from him 1:49:42.120 --> 1:49:43.840 as possible, because I feel like a nigga that will 1:49:43.880 --> 1:49:46.880 go cheat on you while you're pregnant and get you 1:49:47.040 --> 1:49:50.519 locked up. He don't give a fuck about nothing. You 1:49:50.560 --> 1:49:54.840 don't give a fuck about nothing. Stop believing these men. Man, 1:49:56.360 --> 1:49:59.200 we gotta be smarter to me, you know, to me, 1:49:59.280 --> 1:50:01.360 it's not even so much about tricking you at your womb. 1:50:01.360 --> 1:50:04.800 Because cash y'all speaking of her, she need an interview too, 1:50:05.160 --> 1:50:07.560 or maybe she was on Live where she was just saying, like, 1:50:08.160 --> 1:50:10.559 people be like, also, now you stuck with two kids, 1:50:10.640 --> 1:50:12.320 and she was like, I'm not stuck with two kids 1:50:12.360 --> 1:50:13.439 because I wanted my kids. 1:50:13.680 --> 1:50:17.000 I was taking about heart situation. She was saying, well, 1:50:17.040 --> 1:50:18.479 I'm will you not letting me get. 1:50:18.320 --> 1:50:20.920 To my point. Yeah, But what I'm saying is like 1:50:21.080 --> 1:50:23.000 she was just like yeah, she was like, I wanted 1:50:23.080 --> 1:50:25.840 my kids and I love my kids. She was like, 1:50:25.960 --> 1:50:29.360 so I'm happy that I had them. They're not a mistake. 1:50:30.080 --> 1:50:32.759 It's okay to have kids. But like when the situation 1:50:32.920 --> 1:50:35.000 don't work out, no when to move on? And I 1:50:35.080 --> 1:50:37.160 think the problem is it's not about a nigga tricking you. 1:50:37.160 --> 1:50:39.240 Watch your om because some women want to be mothers. 1:50:39.600 --> 1:50:41.800 Some women want to have children, and let's be real, 1:50:41.920 --> 1:50:43.720 you have a cut off age when it comes to 1:50:43.800 --> 1:50:46.040 you having a child. So it's okay if you want 1:50:46.080 --> 1:50:47.400 to have a child, or you was in love with 1:50:47.479 --> 1:50:49.360 these men and it didn't work out, but no, when 1:50:49.520 --> 1:50:52.800 to walk away, No, when the time is a It's 1:50:52.840 --> 1:50:55.479 okay that y'all had these beautiful years together and y'all 1:50:55.520 --> 1:50:59.200 created these beautiful children, but when it's over, it's over, 1:50:59.320 --> 1:51:01.280 and you need to know know when to walk away 1:51:01.320 --> 1:51:04.280 with grace and dignity, especially for your child and for 1:51:04.400 --> 1:51:06.679 your children so that you could raise them to be strong, 1:51:06.760 --> 1:51:11.120 independent people and know to set boundaries themselves. You have 1:51:11.240 --> 1:51:12.920 to know how to set boundaries first, to set that 1:51:13.040 --> 1:51:16.720 example for your kids. So you're not girl, That's what 1:51:16.840 --> 1:51:19.560 I think. Agree, that's what I think. Can I just 1:51:19.640 --> 1:51:24.000 say something, Sure, y'all are not stuck? Like I know 1:51:24.240 --> 1:51:26.960 that that and again Lex said, we can't really relate 1:51:27.040 --> 1:51:29.880 because we don't have kids, But like you can start 1:51:29.960 --> 1:51:34.920 over at any moment, lock in, focus on yourself, figure 1:51:34.960 --> 1:51:36.920 out if you need to get a job, whatever you 1:51:37.080 --> 1:51:39.760 need for you and your kids. That is your priority. 1:51:39.840 --> 1:51:43.320 Now f thesess for real, for real, you are never 1:51:43.479 --> 1:51:46.240 stuck there's always a way where there's a will, there's 1:51:46.280 --> 1:51:47.960 a way, but there's always a way to get out 1:51:48.000 --> 1:51:50.280 of your current situation. You just really gotta want that 1:51:50.360 --> 1:51:55.600 shit for real, are for sure? Yep, that's advice. You 1:51:55.680 --> 1:52:01.920 gotta know. Good lucks. 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Should men 1:54:11.160 --> 1:54:16.479 pay bill? Should men pay bill? Yes? No? Check answer 1:54:16.560 --> 1:54:22.120 below block block po Like that's literally what the captions. 1:54:22.320 --> 1:54:25.719 I'm like, what that DG is? Bumba claude, Bamba claude. 1:54:26.720 --> 1:54:30.280 I think I'm ready been locked up in the house 1:54:30.360 --> 1:54:34.760 way too long. It starmed a gay because once again 1:54:34.920 --> 1:54:37.160 he is out doing wrong and my girls are so 1:54:37.440 --> 1:54:40.600 real said it's being a minute since I had some. 1:54:41.040 --> 1:54:44.880 He's been acting up, but he won't be the only 1:54:45.160 --> 1:54:48.040 one because when he asks wrong that when you put 1:54:48.120 --> 1:54:51.440 it on, been alone tight? This is how home hold on? 1:54:51.480 --> 1:54:55.720 Are you back so house? Put your freaking dress? Oh 1:54:56.360 --> 1:55:01.720 should dress? So push your freaking dress? Oh every woman 1:55:01.840 --> 1:55:06.800 got one shout it when it's time at the big 1:55:08.280 --> 1:55:11.720 and put your freaking dress. Oh what's your freaking dress? 1:55:12.120 --> 1:55:16.120 Oh what's your freaking dress? Song? So now I just 1:55:16.280 --> 1:55:19.280 saw me turned out about how the dress was fitting tight. 1:55:19.480 --> 1:55:24.360 It was shortened back list seeing my silhouette in the moonlight. 1:55:24.840 --> 1:55:28.600 Such an attraction. Oh, you're telling me how my outfice 1:55:28.720 --> 1:55:33.760 so nice? No, my man gonna take it off tonight. 1:55:34.440 --> 1:55:36.760 Because when he asks wrong, this, when you put it on, 1:55:37.200 --> 1:55:40.280 being a mom tile, this is your suf some your 1:55:40.320 --> 1:55:46.240 w down, the empress a lot, your freakum dress. Oh oh, 1:55:47.080 --> 1:55:52.840 put your freaking dress, the freaking dress, push your freaking comb. 1:55:52.920 --> 1:56:07.240 Drink every woman. What's your freaking dress song? Okay, I 1:56:07.360 --> 1:56:10.280 was doing your back up. You got your freaking dress on. 1:56:10.360 --> 1:56:14.840 This your motherfucking birthday. Hobot that on. It's an invitation 1:56:15.280 --> 1:56:17.440 when they play your song, you on up and shaky 1:56:17.720 --> 1:56:19.840 work it on out when your man, don't waist it, 1:56:20.120 --> 1:56:22.280 spin it all around and take it to the ground. 1:56:22.360 --> 1:56:25.080 And when you put it on, it's an invitation. When 1:56:25.120 --> 1:56:27.640 they play your song, get on up and shaky work 1:56:27.680 --> 1:56:29.360 it out on your man. You don't have to waste 1:56:29.400 --> 1:56:32.000 it spinning all around and take it to the ground. 1:56:32.080 --> 1:56:34.680 And because when he asks wrong, when you put it 1:56:34.920 --> 1:56:37.960 up and on on top, this is your song. Hold 1:56:38.000 --> 1:56:39.880 on your path, trying of impact. 1:56:40.840 --> 1:56:42.080 Brown dress. 1:56:43.600 --> 1:56:51.360 Dress song, A freaking dress song. What's your freaking dress? 1:57:00.960 --> 1:57:04.240 I hate that's out? I hate the background all of 1:57:04.360 --> 1:57:09.640 the first Yeah, put your freaking dress on, Dress three 1:57:09.760 --> 1:57:13.000 sixty for your birthday. She put that freaking dress on 1:57:13.160 --> 1:57:16.080 for her birthday. Always got my freaking dress on. Yeah, 1:57:16.640 --> 1:57:19.720 put your freaking dress. Say nothing but another day, nothing 1:57:19.800 --> 1:57:21.440 but anohing, Always ready,