Speaker 1: It's time with no little all right, Who the fuck
Speaker 1: is that me? What's the name Jerzy Draan?
Speaker 2: And you are no, I'm not ship, lead me out
Speaker 2: of it. Blake's Kelly, Kelly.
Speaker 1: What's up y'all? It's your girl lex P And it's
Speaker 1: Sugarlsrea Nicle and.
Speaker 3: You are tuned in to another episode of Poor Mine Birthday?
Speaker 1: Is she my bad? I supposed to say, we're a
Speaker 1: drunk mind speaks sober thoughts and we ain't got no
Speaker 1: gifts today. We ain't got no gifts today. It's my birthday.
Speaker 3: It's it's your birthday. It's your birthday, bad bitch contest
Speaker 3: you and fire black you and fire Bla you in
Speaker 3: fire Bla, bad bitch god.
Speaker 1: Birthday are Oh that was a great intro. You know
Speaker 1: I busted down. You did now you work it down.
Speaker 1: You didn't play no game, you know what I'm saying. Okay,
Speaker 1: another another forest season, the.
Speaker 3: Other tourist season. You see, we got the birthday cupcakes.
Speaker 3: It's your thirty fourth years on this Earth. And if
Speaker 3: y'all didn't know, April twenty second is also Earth Day,
Speaker 3: it is. It is Earth Day every year. April twenty
Speaker 3: second is Earth Day. So you're thirty four years on
Speaker 3: this Earth. How are you feeling? You just ended your
Speaker 3: seventy five hard You've done amazing job. Thank you, thirty
Speaker 3: five days no liquor, working out, you got a six
Speaker 3: pack now I do looking good?
Speaker 1: How you feeling? I feel great? I feel amazing, Like
Speaker 1: I feel so unstoppable. I feel so empowered. I was
Speaker 1: just saying this the other day. I just dropped another
Speaker 1: blog on my YouTube channel, or not blog but a video,
Speaker 1: and it was kind of like a life update, and
Speaker 1: I was just saying how empowered I feel and unstoppable
Speaker 1: I feel from doing this challenge. So many people when
Speaker 1: I posted on Instagram like it was my seventy fifth
Speaker 1: day and I was done, was like, oh, let me
Speaker 1: see you before and after photos. And I feel like
Speaker 1: a post my before and after photos, like physically and
Speaker 1: show people what my body looked like before and then now.
Speaker 1: But I really feel like it's not like a huge
Speaker 1: drastic change, just because I already was like an avid
Speaker 1: gym goer before I started the challenge. But for me,
Speaker 1: it was more of a mental thing, like it was
Speaker 1: a mental challenge. Yeah, because not drinking for seventy five
Speaker 1: days is a lie. Like in my adult life. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be honest. The longest I've ever went without drinking
Speaker 1: is forty days. It was really hard, especially I feel
Speaker 1: like now our careers and where we're going, we're in
Speaker 1: a space where we always have to go to events,
Speaker 1: we always have to mix a mingle, we always have
Speaker 1: to be social. And I ain't gonna lie. I don't
Speaker 1: have no friends around me that don't drink. Everybody drinks,
Speaker 1: So it's definitely a challenge to be in these spaces
Speaker 1: in places and not succumb to wanting to have a drink. Plus,
Speaker 1: life be life in we all know life being hard
Speaker 1: is f uc k a lot of the time, and
Speaker 1: it's been some things had happened during my seventy five
Speaker 1: part challenge where I really wanted to go have a
Speaker 1: dreams but I was like, no, girl, you have a goal,
Speaker 1: you made a commitment, You're making a sacrifice. And I
Speaker 1: really am a person who I feel like God rewards
Speaker 1: you when you be obed, and I feel like God
Speaker 1: was telling me that this was something that I needed
Speaker 1: to do and that I needed to stay consistent with.
Speaker 1: And I'm just very proud of myself because I feel
Speaker 1: like it just shows a lot of discipline. I feel
Speaker 1: like that's something that a lot of people don't have
Speaker 1: one thing about me. I'm a disciplined girl and a
Speaker 1: resilient girl. I could do whatever I put my mind to.
Speaker 1: So I'm just really proud of myself that I got
Speaker 1: through it. And then also physically working out for seventy
Speaker 1: five days. I ain't never worked out. I have anybody
Speaker 1: ever worked out for seventy five days straight without taking
Speaker 1: a break, you know. I feel like that's a big thing.
Speaker 1: So doing that was a big deal too. And out
Speaker 1: of the seventy five days, I only didn't meet my
Speaker 1: ten thousand step goal three songs. Oh you did it?
Speaker 1: I did not? I tell you did? I said no? No,
Speaker 1: I only did no. Yeah, but I only didn't meet
Speaker 1: it three times, and then I made up for it
Speaker 1: the next day. Yeah. Yeah, But I feel great, good good.
Speaker 1: It was mentally challenging and I feel way more laser focused.
Speaker 1: I'm super focused. I feel like it did wonders for
Speaker 1: my mental health and I feel great. I think it's
Speaker 1: something everybody should try at least once in their life.
Speaker 1: So what are your goals for this year?
Speaker 3: My goals for the year, the thirty fourth year, what
Speaker 3: are your you know, Birthday, New Year, New me goals.
Speaker 1: One of my major goals for myself is just to
Speaker 1: be more present, I would say, be more present in
Speaker 1: the moment. I'm a person who I rarely ever pat
Speaker 1: myself on the back when I accomplish things. And like
Speaker 1: a lot of my friends tell me this about myself,
Speaker 1: and they're like, you just always be glazing over accomplishments,
Speaker 1: like it's a small thing and you be doing big,
Speaker 1: amazing stuff. I think that I never really take the
Speaker 1: time out to just be present and just be like, wow,
Speaker 1: I really did this and live in the moment, because
Speaker 1: I'm always on to the next thing, Like because I'm
Speaker 1: not where I want to be in life, where I
Speaker 1: know my goals are at, and where I see myself being.
Speaker 1: I think that I'm always just like, Okay, it's cool
Speaker 1: that I did this, but what's next? Because I got
Speaker 1: to get to this goal of having this networth or
Speaker 1: accomplishing this specific task, and I don't take enough time
Speaker 1: to appreciate the things that I've already done and how
Speaker 1: far I've came, you know, especially for me to only
Speaker 1: be thirty four years old, I feel like I have
Speaker 1: lived a lot of lives and I've done a lot
Speaker 1: of dope stuff, and I don't really ever just take
Speaker 1: the time out to smell the flowers and be appreciative
Speaker 1: of where I'm at. So I would say being more present.
Speaker 1: And then as far as business goes, of course, like
Speaker 1: I want to take Poor Mind to the next level,
Speaker 1: Like I'm hoping that we end up getting a talk
Speaker 1: show in the next year, which I do feel like
Speaker 1: is a very attainable goal with every where we're going
Speaker 1: and everything that we have going on with the business
Speaker 1: with MWS, I really want to get mused to being
Speaker 1: a million dollar company, and I feel like I could
Speaker 1: do that. I just have to be more intentional about,
Speaker 1: you know, marketing and putting more money into marketing and stuff,
Speaker 1: because it's already a brand that runs itself, and it runs.
Speaker 1: It's already a brand that runs itself, y'all. I started
Speaker 1: Make Drinking today and I feel like you could tell
Speaker 1: it's already a brand that runs itself and it's doing
Speaker 1: really well. And I just feel like I just need
Speaker 1: to be more intentional with it about my goals because
Speaker 1: if I really put more effort into it and more
Speaker 1: money into it. It could really be a multi million
Speaker 1: dollar company because of what it already does without me
Speaker 1: being super intentional. And yeah, like in my personal life,
Speaker 1: I just want to have a healthy, happy relationship, and
Speaker 1: same thing with my friends, Like I just want to
Speaker 1: have healthy, happy relationships, peaceful relationships. I don't want to
Speaker 1: drama with people, no weird energy. And I'm very intentional
Speaker 1: at this point in my life of cutting off any bullshit,
Speaker 1: anything that I don't like, I'm just not dealing with.
Speaker 1: And I'm distance myself because I feel like when I
Speaker 1: was younger, I was way more apprehensive and was a
Speaker 1: people pleasing Yeah. Yeah, so yeah.
Speaker 3: So do you feel like from thirty three to thirty
Speaker 3: four like your goals last year that you, you know,
Speaker 3: wanted for the past year.
Speaker 1: Do you feel like you did what you were supposed
Speaker 1: to do. I feel like I exceeded my goals for
Speaker 1: thirty three, okay for sure. Yeah, like the things that
Speaker 1: I'm doing, the things that I've accomplished in this last year,
Speaker 1: because a lot of the goals that I accomplished was
Speaker 1: stuff that I had on my on my list and
Speaker 1: things that I wanted to accomplish in life. But I
Speaker 1: wasn't necessarily thinking that I was going to accomplish it
Speaker 1: last year. So I feel like God exceeded my expectations
Speaker 1: of what I thought was going to happen last year.
Speaker 1: That's amazing. You know. I feel like I agree with
Speaker 1: you on that.
Speaker 3: I think a lot of times people don't ever stop
Speaker 3: and smell the flowers for themselves, and you don't want
Speaker 3: to look up, and you were just always trying to
Speaker 3: reach something and you never clap for yourself. You know,
Speaker 3: You've had an amazing You're like I just told you, like,
Speaker 3: seventy five days of doing anything consistently is hard. Anything consistently,
Speaker 3: that is what people deem not fun. So you were
Speaker 3: working out, not drinking, you know what I'm saying. On
Speaker 3: top of the other things, I know you had probably
Speaker 3: added to your morning routine and things like that. So
Speaker 3: I have to clap for you and giving your flowers
Speaker 3: because the only things I'm doing for seventy five days
Speaker 3: straight is drinking.
Speaker 1: So that is a feat that not too many people
Speaker 1: can reach. So I'll applaud you for that. My sister
Speaker 1: and me, along with the poor crew, we are very
Speaker 1: proud of you. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: And that's something that I think, you know, seventy five hard.
Speaker 3: Will I try seventy five hard? Probably, maybe I'll do
Speaker 3: a thirty. Maybe I'll do a ten hard.
Speaker 1: You know, I feel like you could do ten. I
Speaker 1: feel like you have to push yourself. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think that I just always been a person where
Speaker 1: it's like I really like to push myself because I
Speaker 1: feel like every time I push myself and I challenge myself,
Speaker 1: God rewards me. On the other side of it, Look,
Speaker 1: I have a lot of amazing things that have happened
Speaker 1: to me while I've been doing this challenge and stuff too,
Speaker 1: Like I done got a new car, a lot of stuff,
Speaker 1: you know, a lot of good, good gud g grades.
Speaker 1: It's twenty twenty five is the year of the up grade.
Speaker 1: We just upgrade. You know. All we doing is livling up,
Speaker 1: continuously livling up. And I do feel like if you
Speaker 1: want to live a up in life, you have to
Speaker 1: make sacrifice. Yeah, you know what I mean. So I'm
Speaker 1: all about sacrificing for the the greater good. Okay, period,
Speaker 1: all right, we're gonna get into these topics.
Speaker 3: So speaking of you know, we in our thirties, we
Speaker 3: are in our thirties, were like deep in our thirties. Now,
Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying, Like, we're not in our
Speaker 3: early twenties no more. You know what I'm saying, Yeah,
Speaker 3: we in our thirties. It's not like, oh, we just
Speaker 3: turned thirty and we're just trying to figure out things
Speaker 3: that I like, we're in the thirties. So with this
Speaker 3: topic today, we're gonna talk about shit that was cute
Speaker 3: in our.
Speaker 1: Twenties but not anymore.
Speaker 3: Because sometimes I give people a pass for even in
Speaker 3: their late twenties or their early thirties, because I'm like
Speaker 3: a lot of shit changed for me when I turned thirty. Yeah,
Speaker 3: but who I was at thirty is not the same
Speaker 3: woman that I am at thirty five or even was
Speaker 3: at thirty four. So I want we don't talk to
Speaker 3: today about like, shit that was cute in your twenties,
Speaker 3: But you can't.
Speaker 1: You don't get a slide no more. Okay, you don't
Speaker 1: get a pass.
Speaker 3: So what's something that you used to do your twenties
Speaker 3: at honestly kind of made you cringe?
Speaker 1: It's a lot of stuff. Where do I begin? Where
Speaker 1: do I begin? I did a lot of cringey things
Speaker 1: in my twenties, for sure, I feel like Number one,
Speaker 1: some of my fashion choices, some of the stuff that
Speaker 1: I used to wear, I'll be looking back and I'd
Speaker 1: be like, you can't believe I wore that, because I
Speaker 1: think that as you get older, you gotta be like class.
Speaker 1: Class can't be bought. You know what I mean. You
Speaker 1: can't buy class. You either have it or you don't.
Speaker 1: It's something that you can learn, but it can't be bought.
Speaker 1: And I feel like when I was younger, the type
Speaker 1: of woman that I know it deep down inside that
Speaker 1: I always wanted to be, I feel like I didn't
Speaker 1: present myself in the way that I really wanted to
Speaker 1: be address And I think they had a lot to
Speaker 1: do with like wardrobe choices, Like it's just certain stuff.
Speaker 1: I'd just be like, yeah, I would never wear that now,
Speaker 1: Like a whole bunch of seed through stuff, a whole
Speaker 1: bunch of really short stuff with your but hanging out
Speaker 1: like I don't know, and it's nothing wrong. But if
Speaker 1: that's certain people style, that's cool. But I think that
Speaker 1: for me, I just have like a certain life in
Speaker 1: mind that I want and I think that that just
Speaker 1: certain aesthetics just doesn't attract the type of people or me,
Speaker 1: and that I think that I want to attracts okay,
Speaker 1: the future me.
Speaker 3: I think for me, one thing that I used to
Speaker 3: do in my twenties that I definitely don't do anymore,
Speaker 3: because I know I joke a lot, because you know,
Speaker 3: I like to get my drink on. But honestly, I
Speaker 3: used to drink every day in my twenties, Like every day.
Speaker 3: It was like wake up, What a party at? What
Speaker 3: a happy hour at? Where we going to eat dinner?
Speaker 3: And where are the drinks at? Like, if I'm being
Speaker 3: one hundred percent honest, I don't keep liquor in my
Speaker 3: house anymore. I drink whenever I film h on the weekends,
Speaker 3: my friends call me, I'm at home, Hey, let me
Speaker 3: call you back. I'm riting in my journal, or you know,
Speaker 3: I'm in church on Sundays.
Speaker 1: Like I am not.
Speaker 3: And I wish honestly not saying that you shouldn't drink
Speaker 3: in your twenties because you're supposed to turn up.
Speaker 1: But I think that I truly probably would be further
Speaker 1: in life.
Speaker 3: If I wasn't spending every I mean I used to
Speaker 3: buy a bottle of soroc on a Friday a big bottle,
Speaker 3: and by Sunday you will be gone between me and
Speaker 3: my homegirls.
Speaker 1: Like that's the type of drinking I used to do.
Speaker 1: So I think that shit that was.
Speaker 3: Cute in my twenties was like drinking all day, like
Speaker 3: being a turn up girl, like being the fun girl.
Speaker 3: It was cool in my twenties, but being the fun
Speaker 3: girl in your thirties, Like, there's no benefit of being
Speaker 3: the fun girl that's outside all the time for me
Speaker 3: and my goals.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not saying this.
Speaker 3: For everybody, Like I said, this is no shade, no tea,
Speaker 3: because there are some fun girls that drink every day
Speaker 3: in their thirties and maybe that works for you, but
Speaker 3: for me, I can't do it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like I just all I've always been
Speaker 1: a binge drinker, Like I've never been a person who
Speaker 1: drink every day. Like I never been a girl that's
Speaker 1: gonna drink every single day. But when I do drink,
Speaker 1: Oh we gonna turn up right right, we gonna take
Speaker 1: it to the moon, take it to the stars every time.
Speaker 1: But every day. That never really been my thing. What's
Speaker 1: something that you feel like was cute in your twenties,
Speaker 1: It's not cute no more now tie, I feel like
Speaker 1: the over hustling. Like we always like we're go getters. Yeah,
Speaker 1: sometimes we're gonna do everything that needs to possible. But
Speaker 1: now being over thirty, over thirty five, I want to relax. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I want to nap. I think we talked about this before,
Speaker 1: but like living a life of luxury, and luxury is
Speaker 1: waking up when I want to making my breakfast in
Speaker 1: my fiel, go for a walk, slow morning, a slow morning,
Speaker 1: taking a nap in the middle after of the afternoon,
Speaker 1: just those simple pleasantries that we often like as in
Speaker 1: the twenties was just going and going and going. No,
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Speaker 3: On d Like a thing on Twitter, and they'd be like,
Speaker 3: hashtag team most sleep, We're getting it all night, were up, were.
Speaker 1: Working, y'all? Hashtag workflow? Yeah, y'all about the work work flow?
Speaker 1: Like are we up? And we grinded? Yeah, y'all. It's like,
Speaker 1: but that's not because I'm all here grinding. Remember that
Speaker 1: song what's it that DJ? Kellyesh No forever. But that's
Speaker 1: what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: Over working yourself is the stupidest shit ever it is.
Speaker 3: I'm all about working smarter and not harder like that.
Speaker 3: Over So that was a great point, Ty, and we
Speaker 3: actually talked about this the other day. Wait, who are
Speaker 3: you talking about?
Speaker 1: Think about a lot?
Speaker 3: I know, but I hate this and I don't care
Speaker 3: what y'all say, because I used to do this in
Speaker 3: my twenties, in my early twenties, and this is embarrassing
Speaker 3: for me to But I'm being real right now.
Speaker 1: Sleeping in your makeup?
Speaker 3: Oh, and you be thinking you can wake up and
Speaker 3: maybe like touch it up, and it's okay. I'm telling
Speaker 3: you right now. As a skincare girly, I love skincare.
Speaker 3: I'm super into my skincare and a makeup girly, I
Speaker 3: can tell if your makeup is from yesterday. I don't
Speaker 3: care how much you freshen it up. I don't care
Speaker 3: what beauty blender you got, what brushes you got, I
Speaker 3: don't care if you got Charlotte Tilbury. Uh, Patrick Starr whoever, whatever,
Speaker 3: Patrick Tall whatever.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I said, Patrick Star. That's a SpongeBob. Y'all
Speaker 1: know what I am like. Patrick Starr is somebody in
Speaker 1: the beauty industry. Patrick Starr is SpongeBob is Patrick Now
Speaker 1: is somebody star who star? Jeffrey Star Jeffrey Yeah, I
Speaker 1: know it was something we don't talk about him, but
Speaker 1: we don't. We don't. But I just was trying to
Speaker 1: remember here was it was a stall Patrick Ta, it's
Speaker 1: just the birthday episode. I'm the stall. Okay, well, tash
Speaker 1: your wastop watashi wasta.
Speaker 3: But yeah, sleeping in your makeup is a big no no.
Speaker 3: So let me tell y'all something. Sleeping in your makeup.
Speaker 1: It ages you. It makes your skin.
Speaker 3: You start to get layers of dead skin because it's
Speaker 3: trying to protect your skin from that stuff. And then
Speaker 3: if you keep doing it, you're that dead skin is
Speaker 3: gonna be hard to get off. So eventually you're gonna
Speaker 3: have to like laser it to get off, and a
Speaker 3: lot of people can't afford laser. Sleeping in your makeup
Speaker 3: literally will age you. And it always looks dirty. It
Speaker 3: looks dirty as fuck. There'd be some makeup pictures. I
Speaker 3: look at myself when I was younger, and I could tell, bitch,
Speaker 3: that's old makeup. I used to sleep in my because
Speaker 3: you gotta realize though, but I'm I'm not making excuses,
Speaker 3: but I used to.
Speaker 1: This is the grind shit.
Speaker 3: I used to have to go to school, So I
Speaker 3: used to go to school in like the afternoon evening,
Speaker 3: I would get out of school. By the time I
Speaker 3: get out of school, go home, maybe do a little homework.
Speaker 1: Then I will have to go to Dreams. I'll have
Speaker 1: to go to Dreams.
Speaker 3: I will be there till about five six in the morning,
Speaker 3: go home, maybe get a little two hours of sleep.
Speaker 1: Then I had to be at TGI Fridays. Then I
Speaker 1: got to be there.
Speaker 3: We would open on the weekends at ten o'clock eleven o'clock.
Speaker 3: For real, I'm telling you, I used to go to
Speaker 3: school and working two jobs. So I used to be like, oh,
Speaker 3: I can just freshen up my makeup. And then I
Speaker 3: didn't understand the beauty of no makeup. We didn't have
Speaker 3: no makeup looks.
Speaker 1: Then.
Speaker 3: This was when it was blend eyeshadow had to be
Speaker 3: bright orange, pink, blue, brows like.
Speaker 1: And I'm not mad at that.
Speaker 3: Era because that's how I really learned how to do
Speaker 3: my makeup. So but it wasn't an era where little
Speaker 3: light Mascarra light concealer and lip blost and go. It
Speaker 3: was never giving that. I used to work in the club, baby,
Speaker 3: And I'm talking about the club at its peak era
Speaker 3: where you sitting there at work on a Wednesday night
Speaker 3: and young Jeezy walk in. So yeah, bitch, I used
Speaker 3: to sleep in my makeup because I used to be like, Okay,
Speaker 3: do you do you want to get some rest or
Speaker 3: do you want to like stay up and re wash
Speaker 3: your face?
Speaker 1: And because it used to take me like an hour,
Speaker 1: hour and a half to.
Speaker 3: Do my makeup realistically, So yeah, I used to definitely
Speaker 3: sleep in my makeup. And at that time it worked
Speaker 3: for the time because people, let's do my makeup.
Speaker 1: Let your face so beet. But looking back, I was
Speaker 1: like this, you look dirty. You look dirty. But honestly,
Speaker 1: in twenty twenty five, I still see some girls doing that.
Speaker 1: I still need some sleeping. Believable to me, I just
Speaker 1: cannot believe time. Yeah, Tequila, this is unbelievable to me. Literally,
Speaker 1: I cannot believe that y'all are not washing y'all face
Speaker 1: every day. Yep, yep, yep. You have to wipe that
Speaker 1: makeup off. I'm gonna white yr poores. You're gonna end
Speaker 1: up getting black heads. And because when I was younger,
Speaker 1: I was I really started getting into makeup when I
Speaker 1: got older, Like I feel like when I got into
Speaker 1: like what my like me to late twenties, I started
Speaker 1: really trying of getting into makeup. So, like when I
Speaker 1: was in my early twenties, I used to be washing
Speaker 1: my face every day, but I used to say, it's
Speaker 1: the norm.
Speaker 2: No, girl.
Speaker 1: When we was at Dreams, I'm telling you, we used
Speaker 1: to literally like, no, that's crazy. I didn't know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I think the life cyeah we lived working
Speaker 3: at Dreams, cause, like I said, Dreams was like the
Speaker 3: popping strip club.
Speaker 1: If you was not, they're living it you.
Speaker 3: It's hard to explain because like it was me, Jazz
Speaker 3: my girl here. We literally used to leave the club
Speaker 3: six seven o'clock in the morning. We would always go
Speaker 3: stay at one of our apartments. Whoever was closest and
Speaker 3: whoever wasn't drunk they could drive, And like I said,
Speaker 3: by the time I laid my head down, I had
Speaker 3: to get back up because.
Speaker 1: I was in school and I had another job. So,
Speaker 1: like I said, I used to have to decide, do.
Speaker 3: You want to wash your face and go to work
Speaker 3: with no makeup on, or do you want to get
Speaker 3: some rest. I'm twenty three years old, I'm going to sleep, bitch.
Speaker 3: Like I said, It's not something I'm like, oh yeah,
Speaker 3: that's what the bitch, that's what the fuck it was.
Speaker 3: And we wasn't living in a time.
Speaker 1: Where you know, cute, but you're so cute without making
Speaker 1: years old.
Speaker 3: I didn't know that though, cause twenty three year old
Speaker 3: me didn't see that. I didn't see girls showing up
Speaker 3: to the club with no makeup on, with little gloss on,
Speaker 3: looking cute. We saw that us with the middle Park
Speaker 3: bust down with the flashes on. That's what we saw.
Speaker 3: So we had to look like that. Because this was
Speaker 3: the era of the girls. The bartenders had to start
Speaker 3: looking like the dancers.
Speaker 1: Y'all didn't lived that era. Y'all got to bartend before
Speaker 1: that or after that. You have to be a bad
Speaker 1: bitch to bar tend, So I got to compete with
Speaker 1: a bitch you got a spaghetti thone in ass and
Speaker 1: the bartenders is still like that. I think it's worse now.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, it's worse now, but beginning era that so
Speaker 3: it was a lot more pressure. Like I said, nowadays,
Speaker 3: if you cut you cute.
Speaker 1: Because I used to be going to work no make up. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying. Y'all gonna get this natural phase.
Speaker 3: By the time, like when I moved to Atlanta, and
Speaker 3: like I was still kind of working in the club.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, it was, I'm showing up. I can do
Speaker 3: a little lash, yeah, a little. But when I was
Speaker 3: twenty three, that was what that was twelve years ago,
Speaker 3: twelve thirteen years ago, maybe it was a different time.
Speaker 1: It was okay. So for me, I would definitely say
Speaker 1: being out all night and then getting up early, that's
Speaker 1: one that was cute back then. But I just can't
Speaker 1: do it now. I'd be so grumpy if I don't
Speaker 1: get at least seven hours of sleep, like I need
Speaker 1: at least a good semi. I'd be so grumpy. And
Speaker 1: you could tell like I'm not trying to be here,
Speaker 1: which well I take that bag. You can't tell. But
Speaker 1: I just know myself and I feel like my temperament
Speaker 1: be a little off when I haven't got enough sleep.
Speaker 1: I think I do my best to see it'll be
Speaker 1: nice and pleasant, but I need my sleep. I can't
Speaker 1: do it. But when I was younger, I'm talking about
Speaker 1: be out till six in the morning, go to the club,
Speaker 1: go to the strip club, go to the after hours,
Speaker 1: creeping in when the sun coming up, and then gotta
Speaker 1: be at work. At eight o'clock. That's how I used
Speaker 1: to be living. I can't do it no more, I
Speaker 1: really cannot. I love to be in my bed, tucked
Speaker 1: in Getting Rid of bed Time story by TMPM. Yeah
Speaker 1: I agree. I think being a homebody is okay.
Speaker 3: Yeah in your twenties, like people make saying, are you
Speaker 3: always gonna be at home?
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's peaceful there. I'm safe there in your twenties, though,
Speaker 1: I do, I feel like that's a little you know,
Speaker 1: you're supposed to be outside and having fun.
Speaker 3: Up about balance, Like I said, if I could go
Speaker 3: back to my twenties, I would be just a little
Speaker 3: bit more focused. Cause if I was focused in my twenties,
Speaker 3: I am now I'll be a millionaire by now.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. But there's people who was
Speaker 1: but to to be the devil's advocate. It's people who
Speaker 1: was focused in a twenties and a stool our meanionaires.
Speaker 1: If that makes you feel better, don't it should? Because
Speaker 1: they was real focused, then they still not really doing it.
Speaker 3: I mean, it happens, Yeah, I guess. I just feel
Speaker 3: like I should have had more balance in my twenties,
Speaker 3: Oh for sure, because if you was out every night.
Speaker 1: You definitely I wasn't working, because, mind you, I work
Speaker 1: at the club, so you would think on my days off,
Speaker 1: I would take a day off because I'm already baby.
Speaker 3: No, I'm like, oh I don't work, somebody, I'm going out.
Speaker 3: That's why I say I was living a wild life.
Speaker 3: But I also think that was our culture too, right
Speaker 3: when I was in college. It was all the way
Speaker 3: turned up, swag service like all of that stuff that.
Speaker 1: Was roside life, all my not making come on. Like
Speaker 1: we were in the in the club cleaning bottles together
Speaker 1: like that, we was leaking. We was wasted. Yeah, white,
Speaker 1: I'm wasted. She wasted. Man. The times now people are
Speaker 1: little type jeans like the white boys. Yes, man. People
Speaker 1: are a little more cognizant on what they're putting in
Speaker 1: their body there in public. Yeah. The new generation is
Speaker 1: more into drugs and other things, not necessarily getting lit
Speaker 1: and turned up like we were, because you know, they
Speaker 1: be into dying what they do. Yeah, oh lord, and
Speaker 1: have mercy. They be doing all the drugs and ship
Speaker 1: all the stuffs and nobody got time to see. We
Speaker 1: we love some good old here the sea. Back in
Speaker 1: my day, a little four loco that's where we was
Speaker 1: gonna take it. Maybe maybe even a little molly if
Speaker 1: you're feeling frisky that night. But I'll be taking these
Speaker 1: too far. Y'all be taking me too yeah, because I'm
Speaker 1: not even gonna lie. I grew up with the white
Speaker 1: boys you did. Yeah, like we used to be drunk.
Speaker 3: But like the drug scene, Like, I'm not gonna lie
Speaker 3: the coke, yeah, but I'm not gonna lie. I'm not
Speaker 3: saying that coke is normal. But coke, that's they used
Speaker 3: to do that. And what's that club called in New York?
Speaker 1: What was fifty four? Like that? That's an old school drug. No, yeah,
Speaker 1: coke was like the drug of the seventies, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: But y'all the ship that y'all doing now, like it's
Speaker 3: a little different. They got some names I ain't never
Speaker 3: heard of, and ship like that, y'all have some different types.
Speaker 1: The kids be willing, and they do it in public.
Speaker 1: It used to be at nowadays on stream. Yeah, bitch
Speaker 1: what back in the day, she right, though, they would
Speaker 1: do it in private. The only way people would know
Speaker 1: you come out.
Speaker 3: You got a little oh my, no listen, because that
Speaker 3: was being like when the when the that girl started
Speaker 3: doing it, it was like, oh my god. So when
Speaker 3: we used to be at dreams, like it was like, oh,
Speaker 3: let me look out for you type shit, like it
Speaker 3: was so.
Speaker 1: Down low because it was like, oh my god. Yes,
Speaker 1: it was like, oh my god. It was. It was
Speaker 1: such a big deal. But nowadays it's like, oh, you
Speaker 1: gotta peel bitch, yeah, because you got And they looked
Speaker 1: me like that too, Oh you gotta pell you what
Speaker 1: you got that thing on you? And they'd be like
Speaker 1: they'd be doing it on the open like maybe we
Speaker 1: was ladies back ladies. We were late and I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna lie. Personally, I was always too afraid to try coke,
Speaker 1: Like I just was always scared of what it would
Speaker 1: do to me. So I never tried it. But I did,
Speaker 1: you know, I popped a little little molly popped popped up.
Speaker 1: I'm wating. But it was the influence.
Speaker 2: It was.
Speaker 1: It was. It wasn't We probably shouldn't have said that
Speaker 1: on the show.
Speaker 3: I mean, I think it's a life though, but we're living.
Speaker 3: But we're teaching y'all that this is not something I'm
Speaker 3: not gonna lie to you.
Speaker 1: Did I'm out here now, probably look, yeah I did,
Speaker 1: but I didn't do it no more. But I'm telling
Speaker 1: you every knew the way over there looking shocked. I knew.
Speaker 1: I just wasn't gonna say it because I don't have
Speaker 1: nothing to be a shrap out.
Speaker 3: But I say that to say it wasn't like something
Speaker 3: I continuously did, because let me tell you, the people
Speaker 3: that continuously do it, they not doing this right now.
Speaker 3: I got my shit together. I literally I was like,
Speaker 3: I'm not like I said to this day. I don't
Speaker 3: drink every day. I don't go out every day. I
Speaker 3: knew that that environment that I was in because let
Speaker 3: me tell you, I took some time off from dreams
Speaker 3: and I started I got a regular job, and then
Speaker 3: I had to go back. And when I went back,
Speaker 3: I said, I cannot do this. This is not where
Speaker 3: I want to be. That fun fast lifestyle is something
Speaker 3: that was a short period of my life and I'm
Speaker 3: glad I lived it, but I knew I don't want.
Speaker 1: To be like y'all.
Speaker 3: There was nobody in that club that I was looking
Speaker 3: at like, wow, girl, you made it, you did that.
Speaker 1: You ate that. It was nobody. I didn't have nobody
Speaker 1: to look up to. It was like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: you did it. You made it out.
Speaker 3: It's a few girls that were working in the strip
Speaker 3: club that I see now that are doing well for themselves.
Speaker 1: So when I say few, I'm talking like one or two.
Speaker 1: That's what I was gonna say, because that's all I
Speaker 1: could think. Good were talking about the club. You was it?
Speaker 3: Yes, I can literally think of two women that I
Speaker 3: that were dancers or bartenders or anything that are doing
Speaker 3: well for themselves.
Speaker 1: That's sick. And it was hundreds of them there, and
Speaker 1: they was fine, beautiful girls.
Speaker 3: Beautiful that don't matter if you don't got your head
Speaker 3: on straight. And that's one thing I can say. I
Speaker 3: thank the club for teaching.
Speaker 1: Me what not to do. Oh for sure. I always
Speaker 1: say that too, though, But I think that was always
Speaker 1: a goal that I had for myself, even looking back
Speaker 1: to like when you moved to Atlanta. I remember I
Speaker 1: used to tell you all the time. I used to
Speaker 1: be like, Licks, I'm not gonna be thirty working in
Speaker 1: the club. You did say that. I used to always
Speaker 1: say that. I used to be like, I don't know
Speaker 1: what the fuck I'm gonna do. I don't know what
Speaker 1: I need to figure but I'm gonna figure out something
Speaker 1: because I cannot be thirty years old still working in
Speaker 1: the club. And again, it's not no shade to the
Speaker 1: women who are there who are still working, because sometimes
Speaker 1: you gotta do what you gotta do. People be having situations,
Speaker 1: they be having children. You gotta put food on the
Speaker 1: table for your kids. You have to do what you
Speaker 1: have to do. But for me, it was just something
Speaker 1: that I just knew I didn't want to be a
Speaker 1: part of because it's just so hard to not get
Speaker 1: caught up in it. That's it's all about, with that
Speaker 1: fast money. Like you, before you realize it, it'll be
Speaker 1: five six years you don't have been working at the
Speaker 1: same club, and you don't got so used to making
Speaker 1: that fast money. And because you're making it so fast
Speaker 1: and you know you're gonna make it every week, you're
Speaker 1: not investing, you're not saving, you just blowing money fast. Literally.
Speaker 1: I think you just thought I was big, meaning I
Speaker 1: definitely thought I was Larry Hoovery.
Speaker 3: You could not tell me, Okay, I'm this is funny.
Speaker 3: Now we can laugh at it now. I showed a
Speaker 3: weekend y'all All Star Weekend. I think I made like
Speaker 3: I don't know, like seven thousand dollars and I'm just like,
Speaker 3: and that was in like one night though, and I'm
Speaker 3: just thinking, like, I'm on.
Speaker 1: Top of the world. I thought I was unstoppable. I
Speaker 1: had seven thousand dollars in my pocket. I'm like twenty five, bitch,
Speaker 1: Like I'm thinking, I like it.
Speaker 3: This was the weekend Taana Taylor dropped them Adida shoes.
Speaker 3: Do y'all remember what she had that gold them golden
Speaker 3: black baby. I went to the mall, I had them holes.
Speaker 3: I had a friend that worked at her. They had
Speaker 3: them on the side for me.
Speaker 1: I passed.
Speaker 3: I'm walking past the line, me and Jazz, my friend,
Speaker 3: my bartender, and we like, yeah, we dropped like we
Speaker 3: really thought we was cool. That's what I'm saying. So
Speaker 3: Cau Sierra wasn't there because she was still sleep. I
Speaker 3: was like, oh, I got Kiera shoes.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and night and work Taylor drops bitch. We thought
Speaker 1: we was egg Yeah. I thought y'all was holy. But
Speaker 1: I'm saying, what a simple time though. Used to be
Speaker 1: so excited, y'all. Y'all were so excited about them. Tell
Speaker 1: on the tailor shoes. These days, if you ain't pulling
Speaker 1: up to the club with your Chanelle sneakers on. You
Speaker 1: ain't doing nothing, no, not even the Chanell snickers. Because
Speaker 1: did you pull up in the rosewors or not? Did
Speaker 1: you pull up in a rosworse? Did you put up
Speaker 1: in a g wes If you did any bitch, if
Speaker 1: you pulled up in a shame on you girl. They
Speaker 1: even still make prices. Yeah, yeah, because I oh, I remember,
Speaker 1: I used to want a prize so bad. That's what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, A simple time to cool because oh my god,
Speaker 1: I wanted to PRIs so bad. I was in my
Speaker 1: twenties because I just thought it was so cool. And
Speaker 1: I say all the saying made that song and he
Speaker 1: did pre season. I was like, what's wrong? He said
Speaker 1: on twenty three years old? And I ain't riding in
Speaker 1: the priest And after that I didn't want one. I
Speaker 1: was like, you got shame not the Prince. But I
Speaker 1: found that to say even if you.
Speaker 3: And I'm not trying to talk, we're not trying to
Speaker 3: talk down on people who are in the thirties working
Speaker 3: in the club.
Speaker 1: I think it's all about but mentality that you should
Speaker 1: you should. The goal should be to get the money
Speaker 1: to invest it or to do something else with it
Speaker 1: so that you're not thirty in the club. It's not
Speaker 1: nothing wrong if you are, but I personally just that's
Speaker 1: not ideal. Being thirty in the club is not a
Speaker 1: life plan. That's not where you should be in my opinion.
Speaker 1: It's okay if you are there, but I feel like,
Speaker 1: if you have been doing this for five six years already,
Speaker 1: you should be at the club. After year five, I
Speaker 1: was gonna say, you're three, you a five, you should
Speaker 1: be at the club. You gotta in the club. It's
Speaker 1: not how it even used to, not at all. The
Speaker 1: niggas is not Big Meets or Larry Hoover, no more
Speaker 1: big Meats.
Speaker 3: You got out and he been chilling. He don't even
Speaker 3: like how the club scene look.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it ain't the same. The street dry streets is
Speaker 1: dry people you niggas just But I will say people.
Speaker 3: Are trying to figure out how to get the legal
Speaker 3: money because we've realized it's no longevity in that.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie to you. I thought for a while,
Speaker 1: I was like, being a bartender, is it you wanted
Speaker 1: a trapper? What I was like, I'm finna find my nigga.
Speaker 3: I'm finna be like d bartender, because you gotta realize
Speaker 3: that was a time where the Vegas was popping, and
Speaker 3: it was like, if you can make it to Vegas
Speaker 3: and bartend, it's a career out there. I'm like, they're
Speaker 3: clearing six figures a year. I was like, I can
Speaker 3: do that because not only am I fine and I
Speaker 3: know how to work in the club scene, I can
Speaker 3: actually make drinks.
Speaker 1: So even with that, I still had a bigger vision.
Speaker 1: But it's like, girl, get your old ass out the club.
Speaker 3: When I moved to Atlanta and I turned thirty, I
Speaker 3: said I and they gave me an outfit to where
Speaker 3: I said, hey, I'm gonna have to go when they
Speaker 3: try to give me the little spandex outfit, I said, hey,
Speaker 3: this was my last night work and I said, hey,
Speaker 3: you know what, it has been a fun time.
Speaker 1: I said, I can't do this. That was probably my
Speaker 1: favorite thing though, But like I feel like you could
Speaker 1: dress up and be cute and like, couldn't nobody judge
Speaker 1: you for it? Because alady I did that.
Speaker 3: We did that at Dreams, like we used to wear
Speaker 3: I used to be behind the bar, I used to
Speaker 3: be in the phone.
Speaker 1: Oh I remember you. I used to see you. I
Speaker 1: remember when me and Lex versus became friends. I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: I didn't seen you before. I used to see you
Speaker 1: all the time mixed up. I used to be like,
Speaker 1: I guess she didnt used to love she was the
Speaker 1: love cover to the bar. Give her her shrink. No,
Speaker 1: that wasn't until we became friends. I'm talking about once
Speaker 1: all before before. See I don't remember that because I
Speaker 1: used to be like, Okay, I see you your little
Speaker 1: I remember you with the Medda's fool. That's why I
Speaker 1: said I remember what the fuck? Oh? I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: Lex feed I had all the local raw first, all
Speaker 1: the local rappers. I'm not gonna lie to y'all. Dreams
Speaker 1: was really like, that's a that's one. But that's what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. That's one of the things about getting older
Speaker 1: where it's just like I do feel bad for the
Speaker 1: use they need to experience it in our dreams. Close Baby.
Speaker 1: I got woken up on a random Monday morning.
Speaker 3: By my boss and said, get dressed, get every get
Speaker 3: the girls together.
Speaker 1: We got something happening, like Baby. We went in there.
Speaker 1: It was Drake and like all like his friends, and
Speaker 1: it was like four or five dancers and just us
Speaker 1: and it was a time bitch, like we couldn't bring
Speaker 1: our phones in. But it's like if I said this,
Speaker 1: they'd be like, you're making that up. No I'm not.
Speaker 1: But if you knew dreams, this is what we used
Speaker 1: to do. I mean, and people have to understand, like
Speaker 1: back in the day, I feel like it was easier
Speaker 1: to be around celebrities because everybody wasn't like recording and
Speaker 1: everybody didn't have.
Speaker 3: That from time Drake said right here, yeah, Eric Recipeto
Speaker 3: Soo was DJing, yeah, and nobody was.
Speaker 1: Doing none of this because we wasn't worried about that
Speaker 1: because that wasn't the thing to do back in because
Speaker 1: I was trying to get us one. That's when I mean,
Speaker 1: we were trying to get us one, but we was
Speaker 1: also working. I was really trying to get our money,
Speaker 1: Like you're not worried about because it is before you
Speaker 1: could get popular from cloud from recording people and some
Speaker 1: in a blog picking it up. Blogs wasn't even looking
Speaker 1: at that type of stuff. Back in the day, they
Speaker 1: was posting real celebrities.
Speaker 3: I forgot his name. We used to have him a
Speaker 3: name one of my old bays, but that was not.
Speaker 3: I met him that night that Drake was at the club.
Speaker 1: Time. What a time. We really used to be having
Speaker 1: a good time. No cameras, everybody was having a good time.
Speaker 1: Everybody was getting lit turned up. You wasn't worried about
Speaker 1: trying to get posty and it was just great. Now
Speaker 1: they be taking your phone, they'd be putting what they
Speaker 1: got their little ship that they put your phone. You
Speaker 1: could keep it phone on you, but you gotta have
Speaker 1: it locked. Like, what type of shit is dad? What's
Speaker 1: that man name that was on the BMF show? What mean?
Speaker 1: Not little me? Not little me? Who was his? The dude?
Speaker 1: The Vinci child, Davin She she had a comedy show.
Speaker 3: We go to the comedy show. He made everybody lock
Speaker 3: their phones up. And don't get me wrong, the show
Speaker 3: was good. But we didn't have to lock our phones
Speaker 3: up for that.
Speaker 1: It was straight no. We could have left our phones
Speaker 1: out for that one, big bro. No. So I went
Speaker 1: to I went to Dave chappelle comedy show in Houston
Speaker 1: two years ago, and he made everybody lock they phone
Speaker 1: up too. But that's what I was gonna say to me.
Speaker 1: No matter who it is, I understand because it's like
Speaker 1: if you have content, or you have jokes or whatever,
Speaker 1: it may be that you don't want to be out
Speaker 1: yet or you want people to actually pay to be
Speaker 1: able to see the show. It makes sense to me
Speaker 1: why people provide that service that they shows because they
Speaker 1: don't want their content getting leaked early.
Speaker 3: Well, I think it's more so about people editing content
Speaker 3: to make something that they said and twisting their words.
Speaker 1: Because I'm not gonna lie. I don't give a fuck.
Speaker 3: If you record a poor Mind's I might tell the
Speaker 3: joke again, or I may deliver it in a different
Speaker 3: type of way. We have a different crowd every night,
Speaker 3: so we interact with our crowd. Yeah, those two poor
Speaker 3: mind shows are the same. But with Dave Chappelle Kevin Hart,
Speaker 3: people like that, it's a little different. The only reason
Speaker 3: I said about Da Vinci because I think it was
Speaker 3: more and so of he gets very wrong with his shows,
Speaker 3: So I think it was more so like he don't
Speaker 3: want somebody to record something and they try to like
Speaker 3: twist it and make it seem like he was trying
Speaker 3: to say something that he wasn't.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I think he'd be a little bit of both.
Speaker 1: I think sometimes they just want to be able to
Speaker 1: publicize their content the way that they want to, monetized
Speaker 1: it the way that they want to. You can control
Speaker 1: the narrative that way, they just gonna be wanted out.
Speaker 1: But I don't see anything wrong with that because we
Speaker 1: live in an era where people are constantly recording everything.
Speaker 1: Like you know, if you have a show nine times
Speaker 1: out of teen and he's gonna end up on the
Speaker 1: Shade Room or he's not end up on Neighborhood Talk
Speaker 1: on one of those websites before you post anything, because
Speaker 1: it's gonna be thousands of people in the crowd that's
Speaker 1: recording something that people didn't have to worry about ten
Speaker 1: fifteen years ago. You know, now what a time it was. Really,
Speaker 1: I stayed all the time. I got a video. I
Speaker 1: have a photo, not a video. I have a photo
Speaker 1: in my phone of Beyonce. We were at the club together.
Speaker 1: We didn't come to get there, but you can say
Speaker 1: y'all did live, y'all. I don't know, y'all was not there.
Speaker 1: It was ten years ago. And I was literally like
Speaker 1: she was right there and I was right here, and
Speaker 1: I took a photo and I still have it in
Speaker 1: my phone because this is back in the day when
Speaker 1: people was in the club not recording stuff. We was
Speaker 1: at Griffin in New York. It was all star wee
Speaker 1: here in twenty fifteen, and me and my best friend
Speaker 1: Jordan were solid because we was like, is that Beyonce
Speaker 1: and she was? She used to be outside? She did,
Speaker 1: and I could say I was outside too.
Speaker 3: I remember the time whch y'all can go out on
Speaker 3: the era Like I said, I used to work in
Speaker 3: the era where Kim Kardashian used to host clubs.
Speaker 1: This is the old Beaches episode that Gonna be Lady
Speaker 1: the Host all Beyonce crazy.
Speaker 3: I was outside when Kim Kardashian was outside because I
Speaker 3: remember at one point, like the clubs in Houston was
Speaker 3: trying to book her but they couldn't afford it because
Speaker 3: she was texting like at that time it was like
Speaker 3: a hundred K. But she used to always be at
Speaker 3: the clubs in Vegas and that's why we used to
Speaker 3: be like, Oh my gosh, imagine bartending a party that
Speaker 3: Kim Kardashian is host and you know that chick finna
Speaker 3: be crazy. So yeah, we was outside during the time
Speaker 3: where the the IT girls was really outside, like we
Speaker 3: had the It girls. Lady go Got used to be
Speaker 3: performing in the clubs during this time.
Speaker 1: With Lady Got.
Speaker 3: No, I've never been in the club with her, but
Speaker 3: during this time, Lady Gotta was in the malls, performing
Speaker 3: in the clubs, performing.
Speaker 1: Like the gay clubs.
Speaker 3: She was there, I know she was outside like I
Speaker 3: lived in era. We was at the club when they premiered. Sorry,
Speaker 3: I got excited when Fattie Wap and Drake's don't drop.
Speaker 1: All I gotta do is cut my mind to his ship.
Speaker 3: They Drake said that ship to DJ Eric and he
Speaker 3: premiered that ship at.
Speaker 1: The club like we were at the time. That was
Speaker 1: when you what what else? That what a time to
Speaker 1: be a lot with some limes U.
Speaker 3: They revealed that Drake in Future was coming out with
Speaker 3: a collap album and they played that album.
Speaker 1: He was in the club when it happened. It was wild,
Speaker 1: Thank you and that's actually one of my favorite albums ever.
Speaker 1: What is time We Got Live is the massive with
Speaker 1: the world premiere premiere. We got that with the world premiere.
Speaker 1: Let's take our shade. Oh lord, yeah, you turn up,
Speaker 1: she said she before we take that trying to get
Speaker 1: white girl wasted. This is what I have to say
Speaker 1: about Big Lex p Okay, come on, gonna lie, And
Speaker 1: in junior high high school volleyball, I was cold.
Speaker 3: My jersey's still up in the gym class clown, been
Speaker 3: that girl.
Speaker 1: In college, I.
Speaker 3: Did my fucking thing. I had a show on TSU network.
Speaker 3: I used to do the radio, and I worked at
Speaker 3: the most popping club. Now I got Poor Minds, the
Speaker 3: number one podcast in with the girls. I've been that
Speaker 3: bitch for a very fucking long time, and it's hard
Speaker 3: to be relevant as long as I have been.
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Speaker 3: Love y'all, y'all, but no I'm saying a testament to
Speaker 3: what you were saying.
Speaker 1: Though.
Speaker 3: It's so oh good when people really see you, like
Speaker 3: they can get past the hooplah and what.
Speaker 1: Everybody, but they really see you and who you are,
Speaker 1: Oh for sure. But I think that it's easy to
Speaker 1: see that about us or whatever you're like. Why, I
Speaker 1: like it's easy to see that about me. I do
Speaker 1: like people that are around us on a daily basis.
Speaker 1: I don't be giving a damn, no disrespects, but I
Speaker 1: don't be really giving a damn with people who like
Speaker 1: watch the show who have never met me in real
Speaker 1: life think about me. It's always about the people that
Speaker 1: are around me and really feel my energy and can
Speaker 1: like see my spirit and really get to know me
Speaker 1: for who I am in my core. I don't think
Speaker 1: it's hard for people that are around me and get
Speaker 1: to know me to tell who I really am. I
Speaker 1: think that maybe for people on the outside looking in,
Speaker 1: because you're not able to really witness the energy, you're
Speaker 1: not able to have like conversations with me, you're just
Speaker 1: watching me from a TV screen or whatever. But I
Speaker 1: don't know. I think it's definitely different and when people
Speaker 1: are around you that can feel your or if you
Speaker 1: have like a magnetic energy, they could really No, yeah,
Speaker 1: I agree with that. I was That's what I was saying.
Speaker 3: I was like, I think a lot of times people
Speaker 3: misjudge both of us just from watching, but you're right,
Speaker 3: but they don't know us.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the people that are around us can really you know,
Speaker 1: they can pick up on who we really are, and like,
Speaker 1: since our real personalities, since if we being fake, since
Speaker 1: it's like we really giving off who we say we are.
Speaker 1: Because I think a lot of the time people try
Speaker 1: to say that they one way, but when you around people,
Speaker 1: they can't fake the phone. You're gonna pick up on
Speaker 1: what's real, you know what I mean. And I think
Speaker 1: a lot of the time people get away with that
Speaker 1: because it's easy to portray ourselfs a certain way online,
Speaker 1: but when people are around you, they gonna sensey, you
Speaker 1: can't fake the phone. So yeah, so now it's time
Speaker 1: to get into topic number two. Does your relationship with
Speaker 1: your body change as you get older?
Speaker 3: Ooh, this is interesting. I think it does, and I
Speaker 3: think it also has to. And I'm talking from a
Speaker 3: perspective of thinking of you just being a little girl
Speaker 3: to your body changing to being you know a woman.
Speaker 1: You know, we're in our mid thirties.
Speaker 3: Now, your relationship with your body absolutely has to change.
Speaker 3: You have to change how you view yourself and understand
Speaker 3: that things change.
Speaker 1: You know, I can't eat how I used to eat
Speaker 1: when I was sixteen.
Speaker 3: But I also have to understand that it's okay to
Speaker 3: have a jelly roll, or it's okay to have textured skin,
Speaker 3: It's okay to have stretch marks, it's okay to have cellulite.
Speaker 1: I think that in our younger years.
Speaker 3: You know, when you're fifteen, sixteen, baby, body was tight, body.
Speaker 1: Was smooth, flawless. In my twenty three.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I could go to sleep with my makeup on
Speaker 3: and wake up and then when I did wash my face,
Speaker 3: skin was still clear.
Speaker 1: Because I was twenty three. You could, but you shouldn't.
Speaker 1: I shouldn't.
Speaker 3: I'm not saying that I should have, but I'm saying,
Speaker 3: thirty five year old, if I would sleeping my makeup today,
Speaker 3: which I haven't done in years, but if I did
Speaker 3: that today, baby, I'm waking up with a pimple.
Speaker 1: I'm waking up my nose bumpy as fuck.
Speaker 3: Right, everything just suggested I can't do that now, So
Speaker 3: I think your relationship with your body, it has to
Speaker 3: change as you age, because if it doesn't, you're gonna
Speaker 3: lose your confidence.
Speaker 1: I just think aging is such a beautiful thing, and
Speaker 1: I can't believe that at one point in my life
Speaker 1: it was something that I really was like so terrified
Speaker 1: of and ran from. It's really a beautiful thing. Like, Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're gonna have those changes, but you have to embrace
Speaker 1: them because you only get one body, and the thing
Speaker 1: about your body is you can always make it better.
Speaker 1: You could put more effort into taking care of yourself,
Speaker 1: being more healthy, like the foods you consume, what you're
Speaker 1: actually putting into your body, and then also working out,
Speaker 1: taking better care of your body physically, taking better care
Speaker 1: of your mental, your mind, reading books, meditating, just you
Speaker 1: have to put pride in value into yourself, because I
Speaker 1: think that's something too. As you get older, you do
Speaker 1: realize like I'm gonna be me regardless, I'm only gonna
Speaker 1: ever get to be myself. I'm never gonna be able
Speaker 1: to be anybody else, So I need to put my
Speaker 1: all into making myself a better version of myself. I
Speaker 1: think certain changes with my body that I've noticed as
Speaker 1: I've gotten older, like child dimples, cell you like in
Speaker 1: places that it should not be, stretch marks in places
Speaker 1: that it should not be. And I used to always stand.
Speaker 1: When I was younger, I had it moss, and I
Speaker 1: feel like, but I don't have none. I have one,
Speaker 1: but it'd be getting bigger. I have one right here,
Speaker 1: and it was so little when I was I mean,
Speaker 1: it's still kind of little, but I feel like it's bigger.
Speaker 1: I know I saw that too, but it's okay. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna get it burned off. Don't worry. Why what you mean?
Speaker 1: But why it's not ugly? That's what I'm saying. If
Speaker 1: it it's bigger, if it continues to grow, it will
Speaker 1: be gone. If it stays this, if it stays decides,
Speaker 1: it's fine. I don't know. It's just something about it.
Speaker 1: I don't like this. It's not for me. It's it's
Speaker 1: beautiful on y'all. It's beautiful on y'all love it, magnifiqu
Speaker 1: on me. No, thank you, she said, y'all that movie
Speaker 1: Death becomes hard and they're like, hey, you know that
Speaker 1: is arrey. Oh my No, I don't hate getting older.
Speaker 1: I hate this is this contact you said, right, we
Speaker 1: need to do a black version of death becomes hard
Speaker 1: with me and you.
Speaker 2: Death becomes fan.
Speaker 1: But I feel like I don't hate getting older, like
Speaker 1: I feel like I get fine as fucked, like I
Speaker 1: just get finer and finer every year. I don't hate it.
Speaker 1: It's just certain things that come with being older that
Speaker 1: I just be like, you will get this away from me,
Speaker 1: and that's one of them. Thank god. No, I don't now.
Speaker 1: I did find one on my cuci one time, though,
Speaker 1: but not on my head, on my other on my
Speaker 1: you're not getting enough sex or usually you had a
Speaker 1: maybe that's what it is. Said. Thing is it had
Speaker 1: a hair. I seen it and I pulled it. I
Speaker 1: plucked it and I said, I rebuke. But guess what,
Speaker 1: it didn't grow back. So that was the one time
Speaker 1: I seen a gray hair. But I don't have any
Speaker 1: gray hairs in my head. Knock on wood. I feel
Speaker 1: like I'm a gray late though, to be honest, because
Speaker 1: you know, everything is about genetics, and when I think
Speaker 1: about my family, like my mom and all her siblings
Speaker 1: and he started getting gray hairs to like they was
Speaker 1: like an a fifties and sea. So I think I'm
Speaker 1: a gray late.
Speaker 3: I just feel like the relationship with your body. Like
Speaker 3: I said, I think we need to give ourselves grace
Speaker 3: as women.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 3: I don't know if y'all are fans of this show
Speaker 3: that comes on HBO is called White Lotus.
Speaker 1: I'm a big fan.
Speaker 3: Did you watch this last season? Okay, so White Lotus.
Speaker 3: I love this guy, Walton get Goggins. He's a character
Speaker 3: on White Lotus. He is the older guy with a
Speaker 3: younger girlfriend and he is hilarious. If y'all google his name,
Speaker 3: y'all will know who he is. So anyways, on the show,
Speaker 3: he has like a receding.
Speaker 1: Hairline and a patch and a patch right, And.
Speaker 3: They wrote an article I want to say, maybe in
Speaker 3: Cosmo or someone people magazine that were like, oh, receding
Speaker 3: hairlines are hot now check out Walton Goggins and White Lotus.
Speaker 3: And I'm just like, it's so crazy because they did
Speaker 3: this a couple of years ago with the.
Speaker 1: Dad bod of men who have bellies.
Speaker 3: We will change what the beauty standard is to fit
Speaker 3: what a white man looks like. But when it comes
Speaker 3: to women, white, black, Mexican, whatever, we gotta have a
Speaker 3: twenty three inch away forty inch hips, no cell you
Speaker 3: like no stress, smarks, no wrinkles. We gotta put boat tops,
Speaker 3: we gotta plump up the lips. We gotta make sure
Speaker 3: we got all our edges. Oh my god, you know
Speaker 3: what I'm saying. The beauty stead are never changes for us.
Speaker 1: And speaking of I have a botox appointment tomorrow.
Speaker 3: I need to hit mine up too because mine getting
Speaker 3: a little yeah, I said before the premiere, Yeah, I
Speaker 3: need It's right you, I do need a little reup myself.
Speaker 1: Don't hit right before that.
Speaker 3: Because you know, because comments, let's stop touching your face.
Speaker 3: I haven't seen Helen in a year and a half, bitch,
Speaker 3: leave me alone.
Speaker 1: So any time for my reup.
Speaker 3: Be in the comments. Time my legs stop touching your face.
Speaker 3: I'm like, I haven't gotten anything done in a year
Speaker 3: and a half.
Speaker 1: Like literally, probably they just be looking at old episodes.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because leave me alone. Because baby face card it
Speaker 3: rare does not decline.
Speaker 1: All right, all right, all.
Speaker 3: Right, but anyways, but again, like I said, your relationship
Speaker 3: with your body does have to change, because your body
Speaker 3: is going to change.
Speaker 1: It's natural. You gonna gain weight, you gonna lose weight.
Speaker 1: Like it's okay.
Speaker 3: And like I said, the media and social media is
Speaker 3: easier on men than it is on us. Cause, like
Speaker 3: I said, I love him, but who wants to receive
Speaker 3: in hairline?
Speaker 1: Not me? Just go bald. Yeah, his this haircut is crazy,
Speaker 1: and that's get it's like long, it's long. It's receiving.
Speaker 1: I want to see the photo. But he doesn't really
Speaker 1: wear this in real life? Does he wear it in
Speaker 1: real life? That's how we look on this picture. It
Speaker 1: does look like this on this picture, but this is
Speaker 1: how it is on the show.
Speaker 3: And mind you, he's hilarious. He's really fucking funny. Oh wait,
Speaker 3: I need to see the image of him on white lotus.
Speaker 3: I'm trying to show her the white Lotus picture. Okay,
Speaker 3: here it goes. Here's how he looks on white lotus.
Speaker 3: It's way back there and it's a ball spot in
Speaker 3: the bag. But mind you, he's an amazing actor. And
Speaker 3: I feel like the people, we're not here for the
Speaker 3: way you look. We are here for your talent, and
Speaker 3: he is one of them. He was in The Hateful Eight.
Speaker 3: If you are a fan of he was in Django.
Speaker 3: If you are a fan of what's his name, Quinton Tarantino,
Speaker 3: y'all know, I love me some Quentin Tarantino. Quentin loves
Speaker 3: him down, but he's been in a lot of movies.
Speaker 3: He's an A list actor. He's actually really fucking hilarious.
Speaker 3: But I just think it's so funny because since when
Speaker 3: is receiving hairlines attractive? What are we talking about here?
Speaker 3: So yeah, people will change their views on stuff. You
Speaker 3: should change your views on yourself. Be confident. You get
Speaker 3: this body, this is what you're in.
Speaker 1: So do you feel like confidence in your thirties is
Speaker 1: more about what you look like or how you feel.
Speaker 3: I think it's a mixture of both, because you gotta
Speaker 3: I hate this, it's a little gray area, but you
Speaker 3: gotta look good to feel good, if I'm being honest.
Speaker 3: But that's why I agree with you. You think so, Yeah,
Speaker 3: because I got in the gym like I used to.
Speaker 3: I used to be like like I said, I played
Speaker 3: volleyball year round, and till like when I got to college,
Speaker 3: I just started to get into more media stuff, so
Speaker 3: I really stopped going to the gym. I didn't start
Speaker 3: getting back into the gym till like a year ago.
Speaker 3: Two years I've been in like the gym and like
Speaker 3: I work out and now how I feel about my
Speaker 3: body like, okay, I go to the gym. I know
Speaker 3: what the gym does to my body. I'm like, okay,
Speaker 3: so this is what my body looks like. I'm been
Speaker 3: laid on the table. I done worked out and done dited,
Speaker 3: I done ate everything.
Speaker 1: This is what my body is.
Speaker 3: So it's like you come with that acceptance and I'm like,
Speaker 3: bitchy'all look good though. Yeah I'm thirty five years old
Speaker 3: and I look like this.
Speaker 1: Hell yeah, I look good.
Speaker 3: But it also comes with I do take care of myself.
Speaker 3: I drink a lot of fucking water. I don't drink
Speaker 3: every day. I go to the gym even if I'm
Speaker 3: not lifting weights. Like I said, I kind of fell
Speaker 3: off of the gym, but guess what I was still doing.
Speaker 3: I'm still getting up and I'm moving my ass. And
Speaker 3: that's one thing the girl the girl do. Y'all have
Speaker 3: to realize if you don't get up and move your body,
Speaker 3: don't stop moving.
Speaker 1: I think for me, I have like my mom was beautiful.
Speaker 1: She died at forty eight, but she was gorgeous, Like
Speaker 1: she was the mom that every all my friends would
Speaker 1: be like, damn, my mama. Find type thing. So for
Speaker 1: me I didn't really I had good I feel like
Speaker 1: I had good genes, so I didn't feel like I
Speaker 1: needed to work out all the time. So really last
Speaker 1: year was the first time that I actually started going
Speaker 1: to the gym and being active. But I could feel
Speaker 1: my like my hips would be tight, my aunt. I
Speaker 1: was just very lethargic a lot. And it wasn't until
Speaker 1: I started going consistently that I started to feel more energized.
Speaker 1: I had just a little bit more get up and
Speaker 1: go and feeling more focused and like like you said earlier,
Speaker 1: laser focused on what I wanted to do and what
Speaker 1: I needed to accomplish. So I do think that you
Speaker 1: actually getting active moving your body that not only contributes
Speaker 1: to your fitness goals, but also like your mentality, your
Speaker 1: focus more clear, and it's just I see, I feel
Speaker 1: like a different person than how I was before I
Speaker 1: started going to the gym just last year, in just
Speaker 1: that time, and now I walked by the mirror, like
Speaker 1: Meg said, I'd be like you, Okay, you's on flap flat,
Speaker 1: ass on flap flat, Okay exactly. You know, I one
Speaker 1: hundred percent feel you. I just did a video on
Speaker 1: my YouTube channel where I was talking about things that
Speaker 1: I feel like you should know when you get into
Speaker 1: your thirties, for the girls that are still like in
Speaker 1: their twenties and maybe even like early thirties too. But
Speaker 1: I was just like, I'm so glad that I started
Speaker 1: my fitness journey, but I wish that it was something
Speaker 1: that I took more seriously when I was in my twenties,
Speaker 1: because I think, yeah, when you're in your twenties, you're
Speaker 1: just like, Ooh, I look good, I'm fine, my metabolism
Speaker 1: is slow, and I'm always gonna be like these. But
Speaker 1: then when you get to your thirties, you realize, Okay,
Speaker 1: he's slowing down, the things ain't in the same place.
Speaker 1: Gravity is taking place held no, for real. And it
Speaker 1: was even earlier about the dimples and the freckles. And
Speaker 1: I feel like every day I wake up, I don't
Speaker 1: know about y'all, and every day I wake up, I
Speaker 1: feel like I got like a new little freckle or
Speaker 1: something on my bikey. So it's just something that I
Speaker 1: wish that I took more seriously when I was in
Speaker 1: my twenties because I feel like, not only do you
Speaker 1: look better and you feel better, but it also really
Speaker 1: helps your mentals. Yeah, it's well, and I'm glad it's
Speaker 1: a discipline thing.
Speaker 3: I'm glad that you said that earlier because you were
Speaker 3: like people were asking you to post it before and
Speaker 3: after you were like, it was more a mental thing,
Speaker 3: and that's when it will.
Speaker 1: I realized for me, like.
Speaker 3: I be getting like in my little dark places sometimes
Speaker 3: and I realize a lot of that. Like I was
Speaker 3: talking to my therapist. She was like, when's the last
Speaker 3: time you worked out? Like this was like a conversation
Speaker 3: that we had in December. I was like, damn, And
Speaker 3: that's what really motivated me. Like, girl, even if I'm
Speaker 3: not saying that you got to go to the gym,
Speaker 3: go for a walk, go for a walk, you just
Speaker 3: got to mock you a body past. So even sometimes
Speaker 3: when I'm satisfying, I don't even feel like going to
Speaker 3: the gym, I get on my walking. You have to
Speaker 3: move around because I'm telling you, when you stop moving
Speaker 3: your body, your body gonna stop moving.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I feel like that's the thing. I've made
Speaker 1: it a happy Like to me, it's more of a
Speaker 1: lifestyle thing now because you're not gonna always. I think
Speaker 1: a good word that I can give people is that
Speaker 1: you're not gonna always have the motivation. But that's where
Speaker 1: your discipline comes in exactly, because you're not gonna want
Speaker 1: to do stuff every day. Like it's hell of days
Speaker 1: that I don't feel like working out, like yes even yesterday.
Speaker 1: Yesterday is a prime example. I went and worked out
Speaker 1: at eight thirty at night because all day I was procrastinating.
Speaker 1: But then I was like, Okay, I gotta get this done.
Speaker 1: That's where your discipline has to come in, cause I
Speaker 1: knew I had to do I knew I had a
Speaker 1: goal to reach. So you just have to do it
Speaker 1: for yourself, and you have to think about how you
Speaker 1: want to look like. I don't know, I like looking fine,
Speaker 1: I like looking like all of that. So I just
Speaker 1: feel like, yeah, it's just it's it's a mental thing,
Speaker 1: and you have to prioritize your health. You have to
Speaker 1: prioritize your willness that I always be thinking about like
Speaker 1: them when I was in my twenties, if I would
Speaker 1: have took my fitness journey more seriously, then my body
Speaker 1: would be even more teaching, even more fire right now.
Speaker 1: So it's just like, you know, you have to It's
Speaker 1: something that you have to prioritize. It's about do you
Speaker 1: want to be the same, because we all might live
Speaker 1: to be like seventy or eighty, But what do you
Speaker 1: want to be doing in your seventies and eighty You
Speaker 1: want to be more? Do you want to be a
Speaker 1: person that can walk around, that can move around on
Speaker 1: your own without assistance, or do you want to be
Speaker 1: somebody that has to have a walker? You want to
Speaker 1: be somebody that has to have somebody exporting you everywhere.
Speaker 1: You have to think about those things, and like I
Speaker 1: think tennis, yeah, And so that's how I think that
Speaker 1: I try to discipline myself. And so even going back
Speaker 1: to what you were saying, like when people asked me
Speaker 1: to post a before and after, I am going to
Speaker 1: post my before and afters, But I think I'm more
Speaker 1: so going to post my before and afters from when
Speaker 1: I first started my fitness journey in twenty twenty two
Speaker 1: to now, because I feel like it's much more of
Speaker 1: a drastic change from then to now that people could
Speaker 1: see then from January when I did seventy five hards
Speaker 1: now because my body was already tea when I started
Speaker 1: the seventy five hard and we had definitely see my
Speaker 1: abs more. Your abs are definitely fine, thanks fine, they are.
Speaker 1: They're definitely way more defined now, and I think that's
Speaker 1: probably the most physical change that you could see. But
Speaker 1: I mean as far as like my shape and my
Speaker 1: waist and stuff, I feel like it's the same, but
Speaker 1: from twenty twenty two, so now it's a big difference
Speaker 1: because I've lost like fifteen sixteen pounds, and.
Speaker 3: I think for me, even like like I said, at
Speaker 3: the beginning of the year, I weighed two hundred pounds
Speaker 3: when we filmed Tribal Queens, I was literally when we left,
Speaker 3: I was two o two That morning, I was like,
Speaker 3: what the fuck. I'm so mad at myself because I
Speaker 3: have to film this shit and I'm big, well not big,
Speaker 3: but I carry my weight a little different because I'm taller.
Speaker 3: And then like right now, like I weighed myself this morning,
Speaker 3: I'm one seventy two right now, So I pretty much
Speaker 3: lost thirty pounds since from January till now. And I
Speaker 3: say that because it's not like for me, it's not
Speaker 3: more so like the number and the scale thing of
Speaker 3: feeling fat and feeling small. But I know how I
Speaker 3: feel in my clothes and I know I had to
Speaker 3: get to a point where I'm like, Okay, I feel
Speaker 3: confident in my clothes and I know what I feel like,
Speaker 3: I know what makes me feel good.
Speaker 1: It's not for how y'all look at me, because one
Speaker 1: thing about it.
Speaker 3: I can be one fifty and it'll be people in
Speaker 3: the comments like ooh Lex, what you ooh Lex?
Speaker 1: You need to do?
Speaker 3: It's not about how y'all view me. It's how I
Speaker 3: view myself and what makes me feel comfortable. So I
Speaker 3: think that's another thing like me losing this way. It
Speaker 3: wasn't like something I'm just.
Speaker 1: Like, oh yeah, y'all, I lost another pound.
Speaker 3: I lost all about cause y'all ain't gonna y'all ain't
Speaker 3: gonna do nothing but critique me anyway. So I think
Speaker 3: as we get older, you have to find what's comfortable
Speaker 3: for you. One seventy is comfortable for me. I don't
Speaker 3: give a fuck what.
Speaker 1: Y'all see or what y'all like.
Speaker 3: So we have to change how we view ourselves and
Speaker 3: what's comfortable to us and what makes us feel good
Speaker 3: and how you look in the mirror. Oh City, Oh,
Speaker 3: I'll be delete that hole. Titty came out. One thing
Speaker 3: about check, she gonna get that times down. Okay, let
Speaker 3: me say that again. So one thing about me is like,
Speaker 3: we gonna get it together. So I can look in
Speaker 3: the mirror and I can feel good about myself and
Speaker 3: I can feel like, you.
Speaker 1: Know what, I like how I look, I like how
Speaker 1: I feel today.
Speaker 3: So yeah, all in all, I feel like your views
Speaker 3: on your body should change as you get older, and
Speaker 3: that's a healthy thing to do.
Speaker 1: And I feel like they should get better because with
Speaker 1: wisdom and age, you care more about your body. Like
Speaker 1: I feel like I care way more about my body
Speaker 1: than I did when I was in my twiny Thank God,
Speaker 1: thank God that he allowed me to live this long
Speaker 1: so that I can take better care of my body
Speaker 1: because I was not taking care. I was treating my
Speaker 1: body like whatever. When I was in my twenties. I'm
Speaker 1: talking about I was eating bullshit every day. I was
Speaker 1: drinking all the time, being drinking all the time, smoking
Speaker 1: that hookah hookah, smoking hookah and weed. Both of them
Speaker 1: clothes close. I remember that came out. I talked about this.
Speaker 1: I was a real buck, love loving. I was out
Speaker 1: here thugging in these streets. I was smoking black and
Speaker 1: miles the wine flavor. Oh you was a real good yeah,
Speaker 1: because that's my good Yeah, that's my good beach. What
Speaker 1: a god be in a week since she could have been.
Speaker 1: I love. We didn't to Texas. We didn't too deep
Speaker 1: in Texas. No, for real, doll, Yeah, I used to
Speaker 1: be doing whatever in my twenties and like God for grow,
Speaker 1: Thank God, this is the show.
Speaker 3: That's why I said, we're not judging anybody what y'all do,
Speaker 3: but we're just trying to tell y'all what we did
Speaker 3: so y'all can do better and y'all can.
Speaker 1: Look like us when y'all get y'all thirties, Me lex
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Speaker 1: It's going down. Thanks. So, now it's time to get
Speaker 1: into the bab all the b bow about Bobo Bow came.
Speaker 1: So we're going to play a game called Unwrapped or Returning. Okay,
Speaker 1: Birthday six of these ship.
Speaker 2: Girl.
Speaker 1: You know, girl, you know I'm doing the background. You
Speaker 1: don't remember that? Oh, I know what you're talking about now.
Speaker 1: I was like at first first, I just thought you
Speaker 1: agree your birthdays on. You know I won't ride out
Speaker 1: in Moasy Louisy, you know my I know when he
Speaker 1: was in the studio that day, he was like, good,
Speaker 1: but I know you want to cry? Why now? Remember
Speaker 1: Trice Songs did a remake. Trey Songs used to love
Speaker 1: remixing people ship. That's why r Kelly, you know us,
Speaker 1: she don't. She loved y'all count is not having a
Speaker 1: Robert Kelly queen because the compilation together. You bring him
Speaker 1: up every episode every Let me tell y'all what be
Speaker 1: going on? Nobody every licks?
Speaker 3: R Kelly, Yeah, she loved bringing up was saying that
Speaker 3: Trey Songs used to love remixes. R Kelly didn't want
Speaker 3: to remix Trap in the Closet, and he made the character.
Speaker 1: Gay that Trey Songs was right, you love arn't you really?
Speaker 1: We're going to find out which facility, which correctional dog
Speaker 1: facility or no, she not. She's going to come see
Speaker 1: setting on fire alrighty I do not see you and
Speaker 1: he was locked up and getting out. Okay, she don't
Speaker 1: want him to get out. I know she don't want
Speaker 1: him to have access to the other girls. I'll find
Speaker 1: out where he's at. We don't wintter where he asked,
Speaker 1: though she could be his pen pal. J I like him, Yes,
Speaker 1: you do. You bring him up every episode. It was
Speaker 1: just because you said something about Trey songs. Trey songs
Speaker 1: and R. Kelly got to do with each other, so
Speaker 1: you pulled it all. That's what he said on the
Speaker 1: track in the Closet remake. Okay, because he saw he
Speaker 1: got out. But those are fun facts that only you know.
Speaker 1: Because I really was like he said, remember no, I
Speaker 1: didn't even know Trey songs and music I love are
Speaker 1: you a R Kelly Trey song?
Speaker 3: Got out of the closet And on his remax he
Speaker 3: was like when he got off the talk, he was like,
Speaker 3: you pulled that's what he said.
Speaker 1: And R.
Speaker 3: Kelly came back when Trapped in the Closet part two
Speaker 3: and he made that character gay and everybody was like,
Speaker 3: oh he did.
Speaker 1: That because everybody or you take out, because that's what
Speaker 1: media takeout was puffing. Media Takeout taught me how to
Speaker 1: be missing y'all. See I'm showing my age. Y'all don't
Speaker 1: know about media takeout. I used to wake up. They
Speaker 1: was like, you know what I'm saying, wake up in
Speaker 1: the morning to get on media takeout is wild. I
Speaker 1: used to wake up and check media takeout in the cold,
Speaker 1: bitchy m That's why I love lex P is so good.
Speaker 1: The people that were real nosy be I am nosy.
Speaker 1: That's why I love lex P. Like the girls be like,
Speaker 1: oh my god. First no, cause you'd be saying something.
Speaker 1: I just would never know unless I watched. I didn't know.
Speaker 1: He was like, what world do I be in because
Speaker 1: I did not know what was going on? Because, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'd be in the trenches morning.
Speaker 3: I have to keep the people in the know. We
Speaker 3: have to know what's going on in the world. And
Speaker 3: like I said, said, we are not the only people
Speaker 3: in mess. They being messed too.
Speaker 1: I be on the ass. I'm bringing back I'm restoring
Speaker 1: order in the world. I know.
Speaker 3: Y.
Speaker 1: I actually reported on him a few weeks ago. Yes,
Speaker 1: I did, and you wrote him don't forget that far
Speaker 1: dreas Kelly, missus Kelly. I don't like him, then why
Speaker 1: did you report on him because I did not want
Speaker 1: to part and that podcast had with him podcast a
Speaker 1: pot name Kick Big, where we went on there one times. Yes,
Speaker 1: the PAS squad. You are a dirty bitch, that's what
Speaker 1: he called us. He said he was the past squad.
Speaker 1: I know. So why am I dirty? Because you're stupid?
Speaker 1: You're dirty, Miss Kelly. Anyway, I reported on R.
Speaker 3: Kelly because a podcast had called into R. Kelly's jail
Speaker 3: cell and he was singing on the phone and I said,
Speaker 3: no residuals.
Speaker 1: Yes, he was singing residuals.
Speaker 3: And I said it was distasteful, because it is distaste.
Speaker 1: That's how I know that's really young man, because you
Speaker 1: need a rendition of residuals yourself. Copy me. Why she
Speaker 1: know who you are? Because you'll be writing each other.
Speaker 1: You up you. You told him that you were gonna
Speaker 1: do that, and he was like, okay, babe, let's do
Speaker 1: it against This is wild and I don't appreciate this.
Speaker 1: We're gonna have a chat. No we not. We're having
Speaker 1: a cheat named miss Kelly. You do you need to
Speaker 1: do a ninety hard No, it's you need to do tin.
Speaker 1: You ain't even need a team. I'm gonna do too
Speaker 1: hard today. That's crazy. It's get to the bad. Okay, yo,
Speaker 1: Jesus me Alex gonna play Birthday six edition of Unrapids
Speaker 1: or Returning, So we're gonna read at least wow, funny
Speaker 1: freaky Birthday six scenarios and gifts. And you have to
Speaker 1: say if you would Unrapids or if you were returning. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: so let's see number one, wake up Head before you
Speaker 1: even brush your tea parted, We parted, but you shay
Speaker 1: wait what y'all gonna return up? Wake Up Head? I
Speaker 1: don't want unwrappid.
Speaker 3: No, I don't want wake up Head. And you ain't
Speaker 3: brush your teeth yet? Why that's sound fat my? That
Speaker 3: ain't got ship to the year.
Speaker 1: I don't. We don't have to talk. You talk to her.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm not gonna lie like in the morning,
Speaker 3: like if I know, I'm gonna get freaky.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I do like to sneak off and do a
Speaker 1: little quick quick rints.
Speaker 3: You know, I don't brush brush I'll do you know
Speaker 3: what I'm saying, because sucking dick, that's low. I'm not
Speaker 3: to wash her anyways, though, you feet I'm not gonna lie,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna return it.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. I'm gonna okay, okay. A massage
Speaker 1: with oils that ends in a happy ending, good morning
Speaker 1: to his brick. Oh, I was thinking about good morning,
Speaker 1: then his break breakfeast.
Speaker 3: A massage with oils that ends in a happy ending.
Speaker 3: I love massages. I think massage is just sexy. I'll
Speaker 3: unwrap it. I like a little massage, but with my man.
Speaker 1: Not that like I'm just at a you don't like
Speaker 1: getting you be getting fabbed. No, at the massage parlor.
Speaker 1: That's where I know. I know, I know who. I
Speaker 1: already knew who he was gonna say, I don't do that.
Speaker 3: No, but if it's a massage from my man that
Speaker 3: ends in a happy ending, cool, But not at some
Speaker 3: random like massage parlor. If it's a massage parlor on
Speaker 3: the outside, you know what they up to. You know
Speaker 3: what they up to or if they say free massage.
Speaker 1: Parlor, I don't know. I feel like, if you like
Speaker 1: to get happy in and massages, you are a free
Speaker 1: ass n I g g A you a sixty nine guy?
Speaker 1: Because what run for your life?
Speaker 3: Because what Kenner really went in on him, like he
Speaker 3: went a little too hard. It ain't stop, it didn't
Speaker 3: stop nothing.
Speaker 1: But why would you do that? That's crazy. I feel
Speaker 1: like it's behind us now it is. But why would
Speaker 1: you say that? Because he said what he said? He
Speaker 1: said what he said? I said words to all right?
Speaker 1: What's number three? Draft him? Looking the sweet just to
Speaker 1: bend you over in every corner, unwrappid. I love Hotel six,
Speaker 1: me too, because I can leave that ship looking crazy
Speaker 1: andly m. Somebody had tweeted, ake sure of them on
Speaker 1: next Friday. Remember not on the window. Don't wipe it
Speaker 1: on the window. It's nuts. Then babies gotta go somewhere,
Speaker 1: not up in here. Hobby is a freaking sixty nine. God,
Speaker 1: now he be squirting on the window. Oh wow, Hobby
Speaker 1: be cutting. That's why he would always be having new
Speaker 1: shoes when he come in here and the girls be
Speaker 1: spoiling him, leaving them a little on the window, the
Speaker 1: little Hobby surprise. I shaved it into the shape of
Speaker 1: a three and a four. Shaved what why did you
Speaker 1: want her to read it? What does that even mean?
Speaker 1: Shaved legs?
Speaker 3: And he shaved it into the shape of a three
Speaker 3: and the four. No, I would run for my life Okay, Dre,
Speaker 3: let me ask because water.
Speaker 1: Hell would you even like to me? That's like serial
Speaker 1: killer type sheet? Like why would you How did you
Speaker 1: take the time out to shave your pubic hair in
Speaker 1: a three? Let me ask you this.
Speaker 3: Have you ever been one in the two in the
Speaker 3: three until the fo have you ever been one of
Speaker 3: the man who had a Brazilian wax? No, how would
Speaker 3: y'all feel if you was like went down there and
Speaker 3: there was nothing there?
Speaker 1: I do like that. I have dealt with like I've
Speaker 1: had a man like be here lead That's what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: not Brazilian. Wh it wasn't a whit, not a Brazilian,
Speaker 1: but y'all know what I mean. It was like nothing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I prefer that you like that the way? Yeah, get
Speaker 1: them hairs out my way that holds more of the
Speaker 1: saliva and stuff down there and more older Yeah, get
Speaker 1: it out of here, okay, and it looks bigger. Oh okay.
Speaker 1: I didn't know that. I've been with one man and
Speaker 1: it was like I went down there and I was
Speaker 1: shot because it was no hair down there, and I
Speaker 1: was like, oh wow. I wasn't mad at it, though,
Speaker 1: I like you, you know, I feel like that's cool.
Speaker 1: A wax is crazy, but like a little shak, I
Speaker 1: don't I don't know if he waxed or shaved. I
Speaker 1: don't know. Yah, it was just smooth. Because when you
Speaker 1: say Brazilian, I also think are they getting that? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I didn't mean that.
Speaker 3: I didn't mean Brazilian because I honestly I don't know.
Speaker 3: I didn't see his butthole, Okay, but I did see
Speaker 3: the balls and it was clear. I don't know if
Speaker 3: it was a wax or a shave, but I was like, oh,
Speaker 3: I'm not mad at it, but it took me by surprise.
Speaker 1: Then if you put the balls in your mouth, you
Speaker 1: don't get like carrying your teeth or anything, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. I'm more willing to do a little
Speaker 1: bit more. Okay, we're gonna wrap it. We're gonna wrap that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: A three four on the deep raise, I don't even know.
Speaker 1: He don't know what that means. She was saying, like
Speaker 1: if he shaved, oh in the thirty four because you're
Speaker 1: three four, Yeah, like surprise, it's your birthday. It's indeed shave.
Speaker 1: I don't know how I understood. Would you say that
Speaker 1: song just dick? I don't know how we'll feel about that,
Speaker 1: but like a clean shave, I'm cool with that, you know, Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: him bringing a friend your birthday, fantasy threesomes, nigga, him
Speaker 1: bringing a friend for your birthday? No me, Yeah no,
Speaker 1: because I don't trust him in his time, I got
Speaker 1: to bring the friend.
Speaker 3: I don't like threesomes, so it's gonna be a no
Speaker 3: for me. Now if it was a little freaking because
Speaker 3: I know he ain't gonna bring.
Speaker 1: A nigga because it's two niggas. I would rather three
Speaker 1: some with two men. And see, that's not what I want.
Speaker 1: I like the I want this crazy. I want the
Speaker 1: dick in my mouth exactly exactly you want, y'all three,
Speaker 1: Someone let me get them common rolling the blunt one
Speaker 1: cook in the crack. That's too much. I got enough
Speaker 1: holes and I can take it off. And that's wild
Speaker 1: as hell. But how Hobby said, Yeah, black Cuci do
Speaker 1: metal r Kelly liked it. That's crazy. But now, yeah,
Speaker 1: if I could bring the girl, yeah, I would be
Speaker 1: cool with that because I love women like and to
Speaker 1: be honest, I haven't had a threesome in a really
Speaker 1: long time, so maybe I might do that for thirty. Oh, I.
Speaker 3: Don't want to be nowhere near you your birthday, dumb ben.
Speaker 1: You won't be you won't be notified. Don't worry you
Speaker 1: know hearybody. You're not gonna know nobody. You don't have
Speaker 1: to worry at all. You was not gonna know a thing.
Speaker 1: Don't worry about because you would not know nothing.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, okay, Oh I'm gonna skip down to this
Speaker 3: one role play where he's the delivery man with a
Speaker 3: package for you.
Speaker 1: I've actually done this before. I'm an unwrap it. That's fine.
Speaker 1: I love role play. Roleplay is always fun.
Speaker 3: I feel like if if you can't role play with
Speaker 3: your man, y'all missing out on some fun like role play.
Speaker 1: And it don't even matter. It don't even have to
Speaker 1: be a delivery man.
Speaker 3: It could be anything like I had one time when
Speaker 3: me and my man, like we went and acted like
Speaker 3: we were just meeting each other at a restaurant, and
Speaker 3: it was.
Speaker 1: So much fun. It was like we was acting. It
Speaker 1: was just like, oh, hey, how you doing it? It
Speaker 1: was a ball and we got fucked up. It was
Speaker 1: a time.
Speaker 3: So I think role play should everybody should try role
Speaker 3: play at least once.
Speaker 1: I think we're all playing. It's cool. I like role playing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: under rather, I agree, I'm wrap it okay, recorded birthday six,
Speaker 1: but only you get the footage. I canna do that anyway,
Speaker 1: because that's how I am. Like. I don't gotta be birthday.
Speaker 1: It ain't got to be the birthday. Okay. I think
Speaker 1: you should do maybe number nine. I can't see what
Speaker 1: you on this side. A birthday is stupid. A birthday
Speaker 1: spank for every year you've been fine cause she know
Speaker 1: her anti fine And I like the thirty four. I
Speaker 1: like it. Do y'all like that? You don't like it?
Speaker 1: My boyfriend, well, my man who's not my man, but
Speaker 1: he is my man but not my man. Now we
Speaker 1: oh my god, we all got me and he always
Speaker 1: smacks my ass, which I get, like that's a thing
Speaker 1: for me. But I just because it's roll to you know,
Speaker 1: and it's heavy. Now I'm but I don't like that. Oh.
Speaker 3: I just love like I love I'm talking about during sex,
Speaker 3: during anything like I love smack and I want you
Speaker 3: to smack it hard.
Speaker 1: I want it to be hard. I want to hurt.
Speaker 1: He was talking to me. That's your song. I love.
Speaker 1: I love getting my ass small, like, so I used
Speaker 1: to have it. Like we're speaking of role play.
Speaker 3: I used to have this game like me and my
Speaker 3: eggs used to play, and like we would be in
Speaker 3: public and I would do something that he didn't like.
Speaker 3: He would be like that's one, and I'd be like, oh,
Speaker 3: I'm in trouble.
Speaker 1: Or if I would do something, I'd walk off from
Speaker 1: him and I would come back he'd be like that's two.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm being bad at night. Do you like
Speaker 1: to be dominated? Oh? I like a little domination. Oh.
Speaker 1: It was so funny.
Speaker 3: It was like then it got to the points where
Speaker 3: I would like start purposely cutting up because he'd be like, oh.
Speaker 3: And then when we would get to the house, he
Speaker 3: would be like, go upstairs and take your clothes off.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I love a little paddle. Yes, we're not
Speaker 1: a paddle.
Speaker 3: We aint never did it with the pattle, but I
Speaker 3: was like okay, yes, Like I had to go upstairs
Speaker 3: and take my clothes off, and he would be like, yeah,
Speaker 3: get on the bed. You cut up six times, smile,
Speaker 3: You're finna get six spankings.
Speaker 1: Wow a time. I love it. Let me put this down,
Speaker 1: all right, all me spanky all right, let's move on.
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Speaker 1: time to get into the bop. A abou abo about
Speaker 1: bo boo. All Right, the bop this week, my bop
Speaker 1: this week. Y'all know I love a good RB song
Speaker 1: Destin Conrad. If y'all don't know Deston like he used
Speaker 1: to be like popping like on Vine and the Vine
Speaker 1: days and stuff, and it's like he just made a
Speaker 1: complete transition into like an artist and I absolutely love it.
Speaker 3: He's so amazing. He has a song with uh Tezo Touchdown.
Speaker 3: He's from Beaumont four o nine. Shout out to the
Speaker 3: four all golden, the Golden Triangle period. Nothing betaw us
Speaker 3: come out four o nine. I feel like when you
Speaker 3: talk about four o nine, you gotta talk about Pempcy,
Speaker 3: you gotta talk about lex Pe, and you got to
Speaker 3: talk about bun b is from Houston?
Speaker 1: He is, yes, from Port Arthur. Is he from Port Arthur? Oh?
Speaker 1: He is from I think that you are. No, let's
Speaker 1: look it up because from Houston. But a people used
Speaker 1: to say bun Bee was from Arthur. No is it
Speaker 1: Houston Arthur, Texas? Oh? He was born in Port Authur.
Speaker 1: See that's a damn Shane. No. I got like five
Speaker 1: people he was he was born in a Houston hospital,
Speaker 1: but he is from Port arth Okay. So that's what no.
Speaker 3: I only say that, and that's no disrespect to Bunnee.
Speaker 3: The only reason I say that is because people always
Speaker 3: had that argument.
Speaker 1: But I guess that's the.
Speaker 3: Same thing they do with Meg because she was born
Speaker 3: in San Antonio, but she was raised in Houston. So
Speaker 3: he was born in Houston, but he was raised in
Speaker 3: Port Arthur, So he's from Port Arthur.
Speaker 1: Bun B.
Speaker 3: Shout out to bun Bee. He is right right right,
Speaker 3: shout out to bunn We would love to have you
Speaker 3: come sit.
Speaker 1: On the couch now. But gotta know where he's from.
Speaker 1: I know where he's from, damnit. He from right up
Speaker 1: the street. Like I said, bun Bee, Pipsy and and
Speaker 1: Tezo touched out, so yeah, he's from Bauma. So uh yeah.
Speaker 1: So the my bop of the week, Destin Conrad and
Speaker 1: Tzo touchdown.
Speaker 3: They have a song called the Last Song. It's a
Speaker 3: Bob gold streaming. I just like, like I said, I
Speaker 3: love what R and B is looking like right now.
Speaker 3: It's just like it's fire, It's on fire. I don't
Speaker 3: have no complaints like I've been being fed fed fed
Speaker 3: fed love it right?
Speaker 1: What you got? So my pop is use me by
Speaker 1: bow Wow and Chris Brown. I said, oh my god,
Speaker 1: I love Why are you looking like that? Have you
Speaker 1: listened to the song? No, that's what I'm saying when
Speaker 1: you do that. By the way, I didn't do anything
Speaker 1: looking like what I feel like when you'll be having
Speaker 1: yo viobs, I could look like that too, because you
Speaker 1: go bobs. I'd be like, m questionable. But I don't
Speaker 1: say anything. I just affecting bow Wow to have a
Speaker 1: new song. Does he have a new song? But you
Speaker 1: didn't let me finish what I was saying. You didn't
Speaker 1: let me let you finish looking shady I was, But
Speaker 1: I'm issue what I'm saying. So anyway, how you do me? No,
Speaker 1: it's how you do yourself, because you was already looking
Speaker 1: at it. But the point that I was making is
Speaker 1: bow Wow and Chris Brown have a song and I
Speaker 1: really like it. I said, bow Wow, you were talking
Speaker 1: a little freaky deecky even though you know what's so
Speaker 1: interesting about child stars. You'd be like, you're really grown now.
Speaker 1: And I think it's still hard for me to see
Speaker 1: bow Wows like a grown person because he was a
Speaker 1: child when he first came out, like he was a
Speaker 1: child star. But yeah, he was like a real freaky
Speaker 1: on the song. I'm listen to it and I think
Speaker 1: it's real cute, Like it kind of gives me vibes
Speaker 1: when Chris Brown and bow Wow used to collaborate back
Speaker 1: in the day. I don't like it. That Marion. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that was a Marion.
Speaker 3: The only thing that keeps me yep when I'm coming down.
Speaker 3: I don't know what but you, but I gotta keep money.
Speaker 1: That was a good song. Oh Chris Brown was on
Speaker 1: the song though, Yeah he would remix or something. Yeah,
Speaker 1: probably like mine. Chris Brown was on it, So I
Speaker 1: feel like it's a great song. Then y'all know. Right now,
Speaker 1: the Millennium Tour is going on and I'm so sad
Speaker 1: that I can't go because I wanted to go two times,
Speaker 1: but we had something to do for work when they
Speaker 1: had the Atlanta show in the Houston show. So yeah,
Speaker 1: shout out to the Millennium Tour, shout out to bow Wow.
Speaker 1: And I'm not gonna lie. I said something about, like, damn,
Speaker 1: I wish I could make it to the Millennium Tour.
Speaker 1: One of my homegirls was like, why would you want
Speaker 1: to go see bow Wow before? Because I know every
Speaker 1: single song? Why do y'all want to be at concerts
Speaker 1: where you don't know every single song? Right?
Speaker 3: If you go to the Millennium tour, you will know
Speaker 3: every single bow Wow song.
Speaker 1: He made hit after hit after hit after hit. Let's stop.
Speaker 3: Don't do him like that. And honestly, he's been killing
Speaker 3: it the clips. I've been saying a lot of energy.
Speaker 3: Them needs still work me.
Speaker 1: Hold you, he loves me. Hold you Brown.
Speaker 3: You know so I was listening to the other day.
Speaker 3: I can't lie, though I did listen to Freshness.
Speaker 1: On Me is in the car. Y ain't right, Ye
Speaker 1: ain't rye, y ain't bumping like I'm bumping. Yin't saying
Speaker 1: nothing on me. You ain't fresh as than me?
Speaker 3: Because he was like, I'm eighteen nigga making moding your dad.
Speaker 3: Imagine your nigga's talking ship like that and your daddy
Speaker 3: can't say shit.
Speaker 1: That's the type of shit I like. I don't like that.
Speaker 1: I don't want no nigga making more than my daddy.
Speaker 3: But I'm saying personally, but I'm saying he could, he
Speaker 3: could do that.
Speaker 1: He was making molding your dad. He was, well, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: because he's making more than my daddy too. Shit, my
Speaker 1: daddy was dead. I know he was making more of him. Yo,
Speaker 1: daddy wasn't making it. He wouldn't r ip ip he
Speaker 1: just killed. Oh my god, why I was about to
Speaker 1: say that too. That is so crazy. We don't have
Speaker 1: a mental telepathy. I was saying, our I p just
Speaker 1: killed the club. It's not funny though. I did not
Speaker 1: laugh once me neither. Or you're trying to make me laugh.
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to make you laugh. I'm not doing
Speaker 1: it because laughing I lied. She's back, y'all. It's sad.
Speaker 1: It's time with no All right, who the fuck is
Speaker 1: that me? What's the name? D Dan?
Speaker 2: And you are no, I'm not ship Leave me out
Speaker 2: of this licks Kelly.
Speaker 1: Kelly should That's what we're finna do. All right.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I said, thats more minds at gmail dot com.
Speaker 1: Period. Okay, keep me anonymous. She added a photos to
Speaker 1: y'all keep me anonymous. I'm twenty three and been dealing
Speaker 1: with a thirty five year old man for two years.
Speaker 1: It's been a lot of ups and downs. I think
Speaker 1: it's a trauma bond at this point. I just started
Speaker 1: nursing school, so I'm seeing him list and honestly, I'm
Speaker 1: starting to feel the distance. Yeah, two kids doesn't help
Speaker 1: with my hair, nails, or weed, and says all his
Speaker 1: money goes to his VM. He buys groceries, but that
Speaker 1: feels like bare minimum. I'm not scared to be alone.
Speaker 1: I actually hate niggas lol, But I'm a people pleaser
Speaker 1: and hate hurting feelings. I'm scared he might spiral if
Speaker 1: I leave. How do y'all build the courage to leave
Speaker 1: someone who isn't a bad person, just not right for you?
Speaker 1: And she haded help out all. She's cute, Go ahead,
Speaker 1: give it a device. Oh she is really pretty. She's
Speaker 1: twenty three.
Speaker 3: I'm not saying that because you don't. When I say
Speaker 3: you don't look twenty three, It's not like offensively. It's
Speaker 3: just like they just got att like when I was
Speaker 3: twenty three, I was.
Speaker 1: Just they active. They you outside, baby, this looks like
Speaker 1: a grown woman. Maybe that's why the thirty five year
Speaker 1: old likes her too. I need you to walk around here.
Speaker 3: And see this picture, or maybe Drake can hand it
Speaker 3: to you so you can understand what I'm saying. She's beautiful,
Speaker 3: but it's like that's not giving twenty three. That's given
Speaker 3: like thirty, right, and not in a bad way getting.
Speaker 1: I'm saying. It's like you look that is very polished, mature.
Speaker 1: I'm mature. Yeah, sorry, go ahead with your advice. I
Speaker 1: feel like if it's a trauma bund, if you know
Speaker 1: it's a trauma bund, then I think you know what
Speaker 1: to do, Like you need to let it go. Like
Speaker 1: trauma bonds are not good things. You bonding with somebody
Speaker 1: over negative, toxic things. It's not something that you need
Speaker 1: to hold on to. I feel like it's no sustainability
Speaker 1: in that, it's no longevity in a relationship like that,
Speaker 1: And I feel like you know what you need to do. Also,
Speaker 1: you're twenty three and he is thirty five. He's twelve
Speaker 1: years older than you. A lot of the time. I
Speaker 1: feel like men who are older they like today women
Speaker 1: that are significantly younger than them, because they be trying
Speaker 1: to manipulate you. They know exactly what they trying to do.
Speaker 1: I think that you need to maybe focus on yourself,
Speaker 1: explore yourself. He thirty five, he got two kids. He
Speaker 1: clearly still taking care of his baby mama. It's a
Speaker 1: lot of baggage there, and from what it sounds like
Speaker 1: from what you wrote, you don't have any baggage. So
Speaker 1: you need to focus on you. And at the end
Speaker 1: of the day, if that man want to be with you,
Speaker 1: and I'm not saying that you should just write a
Speaker 1: man off just because he has kids and he's you know,
Speaker 1: he has like a situation or whatever. But if he
Speaker 1: wants to be with you and you want to be
Speaker 1: with him, he's going to find a way to make
Speaker 1: you feel comfortable, and y'all are gonna find a way
Speaker 1: to make you work. If he is doing things that
Speaker 1: you're not okay, weed and then on top of that,
Speaker 1: you think that he's a trauma bond, I think you
Speaker 1: should walk away. You twenty three, You don't have nothing
Speaker 1: to lose. You have nothing but time I agree. Oh
Speaker 1: I'm not advice. I agree one hundred percent everything you said.
Speaker 1: I just feel like you're too young.
Speaker 3: I feel like he's trying to take advantage of you,
Speaker 3: talking about he don't want to pay for.
Speaker 1: Your hair and nail that's bear. But he giving all
Speaker 1: this money to these baby mama But he's not doing.
Speaker 3: That because he doesn't want to, because he's thinking, I'm
Speaker 3: a date of twenty three year old. She's not gonna
Speaker 3: ask me for nothing. That's why he's not doing it.
Speaker 3: He's thinking that he can manipulate you. But you just seem,
Speaker 3: you know, a little smarter for him.
Speaker 1: So girl, move on. He'll be alright. He gonna move
Speaker 1: on to the next twenty three year old.
Speaker 3: Because any thirty five year old man dating a twenty
Speaker 3: three year old, I'm questioning his thought process anyway.
Speaker 1: Chat a little weird, he a little weird. So okay,
Speaker 1: where do I eat?
Speaker 3: I'm thirty at my now ex, the father of my
Speaker 3: kids is thirty one. We were together for seven years
Speaker 3: and I finally told him I can't do this anymore.
Speaker 3: I've been through it all with him, multiple cheating situations,
Speaker 3: physical fights, emotional abuse. He even slept with another woman
Speaker 3: in our bed while I was pregnant with our third child,
Speaker 3: after I took him back for getting me locked up.
Speaker 1: I know no judgment zone right now. After I had
Speaker 1: our son, I lost my job and he became the
Speaker 1: only one working. But he instantly stopped.
Speaker 3: Helping with the kids like I wasn't still healing and
Speaker 3: caring for a newborn, a toddler, and a school age child,
Speaker 3: plus keeping up with the house. He's always angry and miserable,
Speaker 3: and I finally hit my breaking point after a feed engagement.
Speaker 3: He sent me on vacations and had our kids with
Speaker 3: another woman. I broke it off the problem we still
Speaker 3: lived together and I can't afford the place alone. I
Speaker 3: know he won't leave me out to dry, but I
Speaker 3: also know I can't heal until he's gone, and seeing
Speaker 3: his fat say face every day is driving me crazy.
Speaker 1: What should I do?
Speaker 3: You know, it's hard for me to relate to these
Speaker 3: type of situations because this is a judgment free zone.
Speaker 3: But it's hard for me to understand because I feel
Speaker 3: like you on child number three. I don't know how
Speaker 3: that feels, cause a nigga can't even get.
Speaker 1: One out of me.
Speaker 3: After he showed me his true colors. And that's just
Speaker 3: coming from because you already in there, you three kids deep.
Speaker 3: You have to lock in and get laser focus. That's
Speaker 3: the best thing I can tell you. Because we don't
Speaker 3: have children, We've never been in that situation.
Speaker 1: Because y'all be.
Speaker 3: Stop letting these men play in y'all face. I know
Speaker 3: it's a little late to say that, but when somebody
Speaker 3: shows you who they are, believe them. Okay, So all
Speaker 3: I can say for you now, because you're already in
Speaker 3: the trenches with them, y'all got three kids. It's too late.
Speaker 3: You gotta deal with this man for the rest of
Speaker 3: your life. All I can tell you now, get you
Speaker 3: a job and lock in, save up your money. Hopefully
Speaker 3: you have some friends and family that can help you out.
Speaker 3: But you already in there. You asked for advice three
Speaker 3: kids too late. Baby, The mistake has been made. So
Speaker 3: sometimes you got you.
Speaker 1: You made your bed. You gotta lay in it.
Speaker 3: And I don't mean to say that harshly, but I
Speaker 3: literally I cannot give you any advice because I don't
Speaker 3: I don't know that life, and I'm not saying that
Speaker 3: to be mean, but I just hope that you can
Speaker 3: understand now that this is your chance to really move
Speaker 3: on and let him go.
Speaker 1: He's not gonna change.
Speaker 3: He's moping around with a sad face because he's trying
Speaker 3: to manipulate you. So I hope you can see that
Speaker 3: before there's a number four on the way, you know
Speaker 3: what I'm saying. So I'm praying that you can really
Speaker 3: lock in and save up your money, get some help
Speaker 3: from your community to get out of that house. But
Speaker 3: it's hard because I think of like if I have
Speaker 3: a friend that has a child, and if she needed
Speaker 3: to come to Atlanta and stay with me, baby, we good.
Speaker 3: What you finna do, what we're finna do, what we're
Speaker 3: finna figure out.
Speaker 1: But if my friend had three kids, yikes. Yeah.
Speaker 3: So all I can tell you is I is to
Speaker 3: lock in and try to do the best that you
Speaker 3: can to get out of that situation.
Speaker 1: But the best thing is for.
Speaker 3: You is to not let him fool you, because he's
Speaker 3: fooled you a lot. Focus on yourself and trying to
Speaker 3: get out. Because he's sitting around there and moping. Girl,
Speaker 3: he's not sad. He said that, he's not manipulating you anymore.
Speaker 3: All he's trying to do is real you back in.
Speaker 1: So the best advice I can give you is stop
Speaker 1: falling for his lies so you can really move on.
Speaker 3: Because it ain't too late to move on. There's plenty
Speaker 3: of men out here that will date you, plenty of
Speaker 3: people you can move on. You can have a life
Speaker 3: after him. I mean, look at cash Dog. Cash Dog
Speaker 3: got hu good one.
Speaker 1: Yeah, two kids go hud outside having a ball.
Speaker 3: So it can happen, but you have to really lock
Speaker 3: in and focus on I think when cash y'all got
Speaker 3: in her relations, she locked in.
Speaker 1: She was working when she met her due. She was
Speaker 1: talking to KICKI Palmer.
Speaker 3: She said, Oh, he just walked up to me and
Speaker 3: I was outside, I'm hosting a party. So sometimes you
Speaker 3: just got to lock in, focus on yourself, and that that.
Speaker 1: Moving on will come to your child. But baby, I
Speaker 1: don't know. Yeah, I agree. I think that you just
Speaker 1: need to focus on yourself. I don't know if you
Speaker 1: have any close knit family that you can go stay in,
Speaker 1: go stay with. But I feel like that's a situation
Speaker 1: where you need to like rely on your family, community
Speaker 1: and community because you have three kids already, and if
Speaker 1: you don't want to be with him and you don't
Speaker 1: want to stay with him, which I completely understand, because
Speaker 1: that seems like a very toxic, unhealthy situation for you,
Speaker 1: and especially to be bringing up three children in so
Speaker 1: I feel like you need to try to see, like
Speaker 1: what are your resources, and like try to rely on
Speaker 1: the people around you, rely on like link said, community,
Speaker 1: and try to get yourself out of that situation, because
Speaker 1: I feel like living in that same house with him
Speaker 1: and being there with him, you gonna fall back into
Speaker 1: the trap. It's inevitable because y'all there, y'all in the
Speaker 1: same household, you looking at him every day, like you said,
Speaker 1: you looking at his sad face, and it be driving
Speaker 1: you crazy. I feel like you need to try to
Speaker 1: get yourself as far removed from that situation as you can.
Speaker 1: I know that if you don't have enough money to
Speaker 1: live on your own, which is what you were saying
Speaker 1: in a letter, then you need to try to rely
Speaker 1: on your family so that you can get stack some
Speaker 1: bread up and make enough money so that you can
Speaker 1: get a place for you and your kids. But I
Speaker 1: don't think you need to see it be in their space,
Speaker 1: in that house with him, figure out what you need
Speaker 1: to do to get away as far away from him
Speaker 1: as possible, because I feel like a nigga that will
Speaker 1: go cheat on you while you're pregnant and get you
Speaker 1: locked up. He don't give a fuck about nothing. You
Speaker 1: don't give a fuck about nothing. Stop believing these men. Man,
Speaker 1: we gotta be smarter to me, you know, to me,
Speaker 1: it's not even so much about tricking you at your womb.
Speaker 1: Because cash y'all speaking of her, she need an interview too,
Speaker 1: or maybe she was on Live where she was just saying, like,
Speaker 1: people be like, also, now you stuck with two kids,
Speaker 1: and she was like, I'm not stuck with two kids
Speaker 1: because I wanted my kids.
Speaker 3: I was taking about heart situation. She was saying, well,
Speaker 3: I'm will you not letting me get.
Speaker 1: To my point. Yeah, But what I'm saying is like
Speaker 1: she was just like yeah, she was like, I wanted
Speaker 1: my kids and I love my kids. She was like,
Speaker 1: so I'm happy that I had them. They're not a mistake.
Speaker 1: It's okay to have kids. But like when the situation
Speaker 1: don't work out, no when to move on? And I
Speaker 1: think the problem is it's not about a nigga tricking you.
Speaker 1: Watch your om because some women want to be mothers.
Speaker 1: Some women want to have children, and let's be real,
Speaker 1: you have a cut off age when it comes to
Speaker 1: you having a child. So it's okay if you want
Speaker 1: to have a child, or you was in love with
Speaker 1: these men and it didn't work out, but no, when
Speaker 1: to walk away, No, when the time is a It's
Speaker 1: okay that y'all had these beautiful years together and y'all
Speaker 1: created these beautiful children, but when it's over, it's over,
Speaker 1: and you need to know know when to walk away
Speaker 1: with grace and dignity, especially for your child and for
Speaker 1: your children so that you could raise them to be strong,
Speaker 1: independent people and know to set boundaries themselves. You have
Speaker 1: to know how to set boundaries first, to set that
Speaker 1: example for your kids. So you're not girl, That's what
Speaker 1: I think. Agree, that's what I think. Can I just
Speaker 1: say something, Sure, y'all are not stuck? Like I know
Speaker 1: that that and again Lex said, we can't really relate
Speaker 1: because we don't have kids, But like you can start
Speaker 1: over at any moment, lock in, focus on yourself, figure
Speaker 1: out if you need to get a job, whatever you
Speaker 1: need for you and your kids. That is your priority.
Speaker 1: Now f thesess for real, for real, you are never
Speaker 1: stuck there's always a way where there's a will, there's
Speaker 1: a way, but there's always a way to get out
Speaker 1: of your current situation. You just really gotta want that
Speaker 1: shit for real, are for sure? Yep, that's advice. You
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Speaker 1: I'm like, what that DG is? Bumba claude, Bamba claude.
Speaker 1: I think I'm ready been locked up in the house
Speaker 1: way too long. It starmed a gay because once again
Speaker 1: he is out doing wrong and my girls are so
Speaker 1: real said it's being a minute since I had some.
Speaker 1: He's been acting up, but he won't be the only
Speaker 1: one because when he asks wrong that when you put
Speaker 1: it on, been alone tight? This is how home hold on?
Speaker 1: Are you back so house? Put your freaking dress? Oh
Speaker 1: should dress? So push your freaking dress? Oh every woman
Speaker 1: got one shout it when it's time at the big
Speaker 1: and put your freaking dress. Oh what's your freaking dress?
Speaker 1: Oh what's your freaking dress? Song? So now I just
Speaker 1: saw me turned out about how the dress was fitting tight.
Speaker 1: It was shortened back list seeing my silhouette in the moonlight.
Speaker 1: Such an attraction. Oh, you're telling me how my outfice
Speaker 1: so nice? No, my man gonna take it off tonight.
Speaker 1: Because when he asks wrong, this, when you put it on,
Speaker 1: being a mom tile, this is your suf some your
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Speaker 1: Drink every woman. What's your freaking dress song? Okay, I
Speaker 1: was doing your back up. You got your freaking dress on.
Speaker 1: This your motherfucking birthday. Hobot that on. It's an invitation
Speaker 1: when they play your song, you on up and shaky
Speaker 1: work it on out when your man, don't waist it,
Speaker 1: spin it all around and take it to the ground.
Speaker 1: And when you put it on, it's an invitation. When
Speaker 1: they play your song, get on up and shaky work
Speaker 1: it out on your man. You don't have to waste
Speaker 1: it spinning all around and take it to the ground.
Speaker 1: And because when he asks wrong, when you put it
Speaker 1: up and on on top, this is your song. Hold
Speaker 1: on your path, trying of impact.
Speaker 2: Brown dress.
Speaker 1: Dress song, A freaking dress song. What's your freaking dress?
Speaker 1: I hate that's out? I hate the background all of
Speaker 1: the first Yeah, put your freaking dress on, Dress three
Speaker 1: sixty for your birthday. She put that freaking dress on
Speaker 1: for her birthday. Always got my freaking dress on. Yeah,
Speaker 1: put your freaking dress. Say nothing but another day, nothing
Speaker 1: but anohing, Always ready,