WEBVTT - Clean Livin 0:00:01.920 --> 0:00:07.120 Wind Down with Janet Kramer, an iHeartRadio podcast. You want 0:00:07.120 --> 0:00:09.920 to have a fun little bonus app I do I 0:00:10.000 --> 0:00:11.960 missed you? I missed you too. This is before we 0:00:12.000 --> 0:00:14.640 go to the beach. But what we're recording this so 0:00:15.280 --> 0:00:17.200 but I don't know, I just like, I don't want 0:00:17.200 --> 0:00:22.400 to talk about all the things. But you've been traveling 0:00:22.400 --> 0:00:24.720 a lot. I have a lot to say about traveling 0:00:24.760 --> 0:00:29.600 with kids. Okay, go okay, Oh, I have something too 0:00:29.960 --> 0:00:33.000 about the travel about before going to the beach. Okay, 0:00:33.360 --> 0:00:37.160 but go you a first. Are you gonna remember right down? Yeah, 0:00:37.960 --> 0:00:41.599 welcome to your forties. Okay, So we've traveled a bit. 0:00:41.720 --> 0:00:44.680 We actually have had like we have had four trips 0:00:44.680 --> 0:00:46.120 within three weeks. 0:00:46.720 --> 0:00:47.559 That's a lot for me. 0:00:48.000 --> 0:00:50.680 Yeah, because you don't really I don't want to say, 0:00:50.720 --> 0:00:53.680 because you do travel, but you not like going a 0:00:53.680 --> 0:00:55.960 lot with pressing. This is good, Yeah, this isn't It 0:00:55.960 --> 0:00:58.639 has been like a little bit more saturated, and I'm 0:00:58.680 --> 0:01:04.600 starting to unders stand the the actual Like I've always 0:01:04.680 --> 0:01:08.160 had an importance about like everything that my kids eat, 0:01:08.360 --> 0:01:11.840 about sleep, all of it. But this travel piece over 0:01:11.880 --> 0:01:14.280 the last couple of weeks has really opened my eyes 0:01:14.319 --> 0:01:20.080 to another level. And I so we I've gotten a 0:01:20.080 --> 0:01:21.760 lot of questions about this. I think I might go 0:01:21.800 --> 0:01:23.520 to Instagram and just do like people are like, how 0:01:23.520 --> 0:01:24.280 do you travel with the kids? 0:01:24.319 --> 0:01:25.960 What are you like? What's your like kind of process? 0:01:26.040 --> 0:01:28.000 Right Like, we do it so often that I think 0:01:28.360 --> 0:01:31.960 it's overwhelming to other people when they do this. And 0:01:32.240 --> 0:01:33.880 one of the things I know for sure we have 0:01:33.920 --> 0:01:37.720 to do is I instacart to wherever we're staying, because 0:01:37.720 --> 0:01:40.000 I just need us to have first breakfast, right like, 0:01:40.160 --> 0:01:41.600 you know, to take the edge off in the morning 0:01:41.680 --> 0:01:43.959 when they wake up right away. They're always hungry. And 0:01:44.440 --> 0:01:46.520 if you're staying in a hotel, then you're like, okay, 0:01:46.520 --> 0:01:48.440 well I Don't'm not ready yet to shuffle down and 0:01:48.440 --> 0:01:52.520 get eggs or whatever. And then I also just need 0:01:52.640 --> 0:01:54.280 us to have really good snacks for us. 0:01:54.360 --> 0:01:56.200 So I used to. 0:01:57.680 --> 0:02:01.200 Let Legend get whatever he wanted at the air because 0:02:01.200 --> 0:02:04.680 we don't junk food. Okay we really don't, you know, 0:02:04.760 --> 0:02:08.280 like he loves he calls them orange chips doritos. He 0:02:08.360 --> 0:02:10.200 gets the stuff on the bus when he goes on 0:02:10.240 --> 0:02:12.480 the bus. I think fifty percent of him wanting to 0:02:12.480 --> 0:02:13.840 go on the bus is because of data. I think 0:02:13.880 --> 0:02:17.600 the other fifty is because there's pop tarts, so the 0:02:17.639 --> 0:02:20.480 orange chips. We do the late July version of what 0:02:20.560 --> 0:02:23.400 would be kind of like a dorito. It's cleaner, not 0:02:23.480 --> 0:02:28.519 the cleanness, but cleaner for sure. I am almost positive 0:02:29.280 --> 0:02:36.560 that he has some sort of like allergic reaction to dyes, sugars, 0:02:36.600 --> 0:02:41.680 something something makes him completely unhinged. I watched it. We 0:02:41.720 --> 0:02:43.840 did a really quick Michigan trip. I let him have 0:02:43.919 --> 0:02:45.959 whatever he wants. Now, when I say whatever he wants, 0:02:46.040 --> 0:02:48.720 this isn't he doesn't get candy. But he had cheese 0:02:48.760 --> 0:02:53.480 its and pringles, and then upon arrival I didn't realize 0:02:53.560 --> 0:02:55.080 he was downing Capri sons. 0:02:56.639 --> 0:02:57.440 Uh huh. 0:02:57.480 --> 0:03:00.640 And we don't eat like that his little system and 0:03:00.720 --> 0:03:03.080 for good reason. What I have noticed a difference in 0:03:03.160 --> 0:03:05.440 him when he has a lot of sugar. If he has, 0:03:06.400 --> 0:03:10.280 he just can't. It's like it he needs a detox. Yeah. 0:03:10.680 --> 0:03:13.600 So we did this final trip or this last trip, 0:03:13.600 --> 0:03:16.359 and then I have one coming up this weekend. I'm 0:03:16.360 --> 0:03:18.640 taking a love bug and she eats like me. So 0:03:18.720 --> 0:03:21.280 that's really super easy. You know, we're just a couple 0:03:21.280 --> 0:03:23.040 of forty year old girls out in the wild. But 0:03:24.200 --> 0:03:27.960 there's something, really there's something to be said for the 0:03:27.960 --> 0:03:30.520 consistency of the way we eat and travel. And I'm 0:03:31.040 --> 0:03:34.440 I'm gonna crack down even harder with my family because 0:03:34.520 --> 0:03:37.160 I cannot. I mean, I know, I can't eat like 0:03:37.280 --> 0:03:40.200 junk when we travel. You know, my belly just gets descended. 0:03:40.200 --> 0:03:42.040 I'm gross, I don't feel good, I don't sleep well. 0:03:42.080 --> 0:03:42.360 Whatever. 0:03:42.480 --> 0:03:45.720 But the kids, I've always given a little leeway too, 0:03:45.720 --> 0:03:47.400 because I'm like, oh, you should adventure, you should be 0:03:47.440 --> 0:03:52.640 allergic to anything. So they're not not food tested allergic 0:03:52.680 --> 0:03:56.800 to anything. I know that that is. You know, I 0:03:57.400 --> 0:04:01.400 do wonder if there's something specific, like I've always wondered 0:04:01.440 --> 0:04:03.480 that a little bit with like gluten with love, if 0:04:03.480 --> 0:04:08.160 she has a sensitivity. And I always feel for Loo's parents. 0:04:08.240 --> 0:04:10.440 You know, there's like I remember working with kindergarteners, we 0:04:10.480 --> 0:04:12.480 had this. We used to watch this video. Have you 0:04:12.480 --> 0:04:14.560 ever heard of this? The Alexander the elephant that couldn't 0:04:14.560 --> 0:04:17.680 eat peanuts. It's the sweetest And this is from the 0:04:17.720 --> 0:04:18.800 days of you Are. I don't even know if this 0:04:18.839 --> 0:04:22.440 still circulates because this is like twenty years ago, but 0:04:22.520 --> 0:04:25.839 we used to show this video because you know, twenty 0:04:25.920 --> 0:04:29.039 years ago, specifically, if you had a peanut allergy that 0:04:29.160 --> 0:04:32.279 was really really like a big deal. It is now too, 0:04:32.320 --> 0:04:35.359 but it's more common. So now we have like peanut 0:04:35.360 --> 0:04:37.799 friendly schools or nut friendly schools. All of our snacks 0:04:37.800 --> 0:04:42.200 are vetted blah blah blah. But I am starting to 0:04:42.279 --> 0:04:45.960 understand and wonder the if we have anything going on 0:04:46.000 --> 0:04:48.479 in our family. And I don't know how to test 0:04:48.560 --> 0:04:50.800 for that, but I would really love to know because 0:04:50.800 --> 0:04:53.960 it sends him in a way that I can't. I'm 0:04:54.000 --> 0:04:55.880 telling you, it's like he has to detox it out 0:04:55.920 --> 0:04:58.640 of his system. Yeah, I'll never forget. I did a 0:04:58.640 --> 0:05:02.599 girl's trip with some kids and their kids, and it 0:05:02.720 --> 0:05:05.480 was the first time that I let my and let 0:05:05.520 --> 0:05:09.480 Jolie have lucky charms. But it was because I felt 0:05:09.560 --> 0:05:11.719 pressure of them, like making fun of me that I 0:05:11.720 --> 0:05:14.440 didn't want her to have lucky charms. Yeah, that I 0:05:14.480 --> 0:05:17.560 then like allowed so that that I was being this 0:05:17.680 --> 0:05:19.880 like crunchy mom to not let her have it. So 0:05:20.520 --> 0:05:24.760 therefore we then had the sugary cereals all the things 0:05:24.760 --> 0:05:26.360 that I grew up with, like the fruit loops and 0:05:26.440 --> 0:05:29.800 all the things, and then getting them off of that 0:05:30.800 --> 0:05:34.680 was one of the hardest things because now you know, 0:05:34.720 --> 0:05:36.800 we have. I still let them have cereal, but it's 0:05:36.800 --> 0:05:39.240 the organic kind and that's not filled with all the 0:05:39.560 --> 0:05:44.159 sugars and even so much like with my ex, I'm like, 0:05:44.200 --> 0:05:47.760 please stop giving them this kind of cereal because it's 0:05:48.720 --> 0:05:52.159 it's I've seen what it's doing. But then when they're 0:05:52.440 --> 0:05:54.480 not doing it, it's like Jolie's skin, like she's got 0:05:54.480 --> 0:05:57.360 really bad ezema. When she eats stuff like that, her 0:05:57.360 --> 0:06:01.000 skin gets so much worse. And that's proof, like gut, Yeah, 0:06:01.040 --> 0:06:04.239 your gut is directly related to things like that. Yeah, 0:06:04.000 --> 0:06:06.640 I'm with you, but I just feel and I don't 0:06:06.680 --> 0:06:09.520 know why because it's I feel like it's changing. But 0:06:09.600 --> 0:06:13.680 I do get this. I had, you know, I had 0:06:13.720 --> 0:06:16.719 one family member mentioned it to me. They go this 0:06:16.920 --> 0:06:22.080 over the break over the summer. She was like, your 0:06:22.120 --> 0:06:26.279 kids don't eat any like bad snacks, and I'm like, no, 0:06:26.440 --> 0:06:31.240 they don't like and and but then it was she 0:06:31.320 --> 0:06:33.159 was like praising it. She's like that's great, you know, 0:06:33.240 --> 0:06:35.320 like everything I've seen you give them is all really 0:06:35.360 --> 0:06:38.160 good stuff. But it's the people that make the comments 0:06:38.240 --> 0:06:40.560 like oh, they can't have cheese uts, Like, no, they can't. 0:06:40.920 --> 0:06:43.040 It's wild and even you can't pronounce. 0:06:42.760 --> 0:06:44.880 Anything on those boxes. But then I look like the 0:06:44.920 --> 0:06:47.520 crunchy mom because I'm like, I don't want them to 0:06:47.560 --> 0:06:50.080 have that. I know, but it's what It's been interesting 0:06:50.080 --> 0:06:52.039 because even as studies come out about the dies and 0:06:52.080 --> 0:06:54.560 everything in our foods, Preston even will send it to 0:06:54.560 --> 0:06:56.520 me and he's like, baby, you knew, and I'm like, 0:06:56.600 --> 0:06:59.600 I'm telling there's something, so stay crunchy. 0:07:00.839 --> 0:07:04.200 I I don't like the but I the label that 0:07:04.240 --> 0:07:04.640 we get. 0:07:04.920 --> 0:07:07.400 Yes, yes, but most of the time it comes from 0:07:07.760 --> 0:07:12.840 an older generation that is drinking their diet coke while 0:07:12.840 --> 0:07:14.920 they tell you, but also like I get it. That's 0:07:14.920 --> 0:07:16.520 what I was raised on too. Like you guys, I 0:07:16.640 --> 0:07:20.040 used to down white cheddar cheese. It's like they were 0:07:20.040 --> 0:07:23.720 going out of style. But I also had most like 0:07:24.880 --> 0:07:27.800 in flame stomach, and it was until I stopped doing 0:07:28.680 --> 0:07:31.720 all the and all the bad pro I got rid 0:07:31.720 --> 0:07:34.000 of the cheese its and all the process stuff that 0:07:34.040 --> 0:07:36.560 I was doing, and then on top of my gut 0:07:36.560 --> 0:07:39.960 cleanse that I didn't have anxiety because I was a 0:07:39.960 --> 0:07:41.880 dirt flame with all the stuff. And it is it 0:07:42.360 --> 0:07:46.520 is a direct correlation. And it's like I'm trying to 0:07:46.560 --> 0:07:49.280 tell you it's but it's like them for my kids. 0:07:49.320 --> 0:07:51.440 I'm like, I see how they act different when they 0:07:51.440 --> 0:07:54.480 have certain types of foods, But then I'm almost getting 0:07:54.560 --> 0:07:55.880 judged that. 0:07:57.240 --> 0:07:58.600 They can't. I know. 0:07:58.760 --> 0:08:02.280 So at baseball games sometimes I know this is where 0:08:02.320 --> 0:08:05.040 I was going, I know, and it's hard because what 0:08:05.120 --> 0:08:07.240 do you mean? The kids are going in these bags 0:08:07.280 --> 0:08:09.520 and then the one pulled out the Cheetos and I look. 0:08:09.680 --> 0:08:13.240 Jason's like, Mommy, can I please have these? And I'm like, yes, 0:08:13.800 --> 0:08:15.880 you can have them, I said, but I need you 0:08:15.920 --> 0:08:18.840 to understand that, like Mommy's still not. I know you're 0:08:18.880 --> 0:08:20.960 gonna like them, you know, but I don't. But I 0:08:21.000 --> 0:08:23.640 also there's sometimes I'm like maybe even later and then 0:08:23.760 --> 0:08:25.160 and then I get rid of them. I know, same, 0:08:25.440 --> 0:08:27.560 and that it's when they packed the gatorades for me, 0:08:28.480 --> 0:08:31.559 soe I do think kids do need when they play 0:08:31.600 --> 0:08:34.360 like and they sweat that much. I understand the gatorade combo, 0:08:34.520 --> 0:08:37.440 but I just don't like what good I know. I know, 0:08:37.480 --> 0:08:39.640 I know I have a good electro late for him, 0:08:39.679 --> 0:08:43.600 like I put in, but it's cute because now he'll 0:08:43.640 --> 0:08:46.560 come to me like dig around and the last two 0:08:46.800 --> 0:08:50.760 games he's come over afterwards and he said, I went 0:08:50.800 --> 0:08:52.400 to the very bottom. I found the one that has 0:08:52.440 --> 0:08:55.839 the least amount of die. I'm like, so, Jacob, we'll 0:08:55.880 --> 0:08:58.240 grab Eminem's and go Mommy, I took out the red ones. 0:08:59.000 --> 0:09:03.400 Oh well, like you're on your way, buddy. But I 0:09:04.200 --> 0:09:06.760 don't know. I just wish. I think it's changing. It 0:09:06.840 --> 0:09:12.400 is changing, but it's a certain It's like I I do. 0:09:12.600 --> 0:09:15.400 And my question is there's all these sensitivities and now 0:09:15.440 --> 0:09:18.200 there's all these allergies, and I wonder if we were 0:09:18.320 --> 0:09:23.960 given cleaner food with better ingredients and things that our 0:09:24.000 --> 0:09:27.640 bodies can process and metabolize and digest better, would we 0:09:27.760 --> 0:09:31.320 see a decrease of that we just have healthier guts. 0:09:31.679 --> 0:09:33.480 Well that's the thing too about alcohol and why like 0:09:33.520 --> 0:09:38.760 we're pretty much a dry house now. And again I'm 0:09:38.800 --> 0:09:40.400 not going to say I'm never going to not have 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:44.000 red wine again, But what does it cost my gut? 0:09:44.040 --> 0:09:44.760 Microbiome? 0:09:45.160 --> 0:09:49.560 I found so old? But it's true, it's like I 0:09:49.640 --> 0:09:52.280 have to restart the whole thing. And it's like I've 0:09:52.400 --> 0:09:56.520 gone so far with my gut cleanse and anxiety, all 0:09:56.559 --> 0:09:59.200 of it and feeling good that it's like for what 0:09:59.440 --> 0:10:02.600 for one got of wine? I know, and I did 0:10:02.640 --> 0:10:04.640 say that I go to Europe. This is why I 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:05.800 want to live in Europe. 0:10:06.200 --> 0:10:07.120 Oh so good. 0:10:07.240 --> 0:10:10.520 I lost for like, no, three pounds when I went. 0:10:10.920 --> 0:10:14.760 And you can eat carbs all day long. I even 0:10:14.880 --> 0:10:18.160 ate cheese, Yes you did, and I felt great. I 0:10:18.200 --> 0:10:20.120 know I did too. I ate French fries over there 0:10:20.160 --> 0:10:22.880 and felt great to yeah, all of it. And I 0:10:23.040 --> 0:10:25.240 just felt like, I think, it's just cleaner ingredients. 0:10:25.280 --> 0:10:26.840 Simple. It's about what it's supposed to be. 0:10:27.240 --> 0:10:30.920 I do think, though, there's so much correlation between the 0:10:31.000 --> 0:10:35.080 food allergies and just how your kiddos act. 0:10:35.480 --> 0:10:37.600 Yeah, how I act. Well, I'm tired. 0:10:37.640 --> 0:10:40.120 I'm more tired when I have something that's not great 0:10:40.120 --> 0:10:43.120 for me. Yeah, And I tried my best this last trip. 0:10:43.160 --> 0:10:45.280 I did try my best to like really just have 0:10:45.360 --> 0:10:48.240 salads where we could have salads, you know, but man 0:10:48.440 --> 0:10:51.240 like I had a little bit of pasta one of 0:10:51.280 --> 0:10:53.920 the nights. It looked as if I was four months 0:10:53.960 --> 0:10:56.840 pregnant the next day. I mean, it is wild to 0:10:56.880 --> 0:10:59.640 me how quickly it happens. Yeah, we're just trying to 0:10:59.640 --> 0:11:03.040 process things we're not supposed to process. I think. And 0:11:03.120 --> 0:11:08.720 there's the I mean mentally physically, food wise, nutritionally, we're 0:11:08.720 --> 0:11:23.600 really in it. So I'm going to try something for 0:11:23.640 --> 0:11:27.760 the beach. Okay, kids don't have iPads here, they don't 0:11:27.760 --> 0:11:29.800 ever do iPads. The only time they ever do iPads 0:11:29.960 --> 0:11:34.160 is for a flight. Okay, I'm going to flights, yeah, 0:11:34.280 --> 0:11:36.400 all flights. Okay, I'm going to do a no iPad 0:11:36.400 --> 0:11:36.840 on this flight. 0:11:37.360 --> 0:11:39.319 You can do it. We've had no iPads for two 0:11:39.360 --> 0:11:40.160 years now. Flights. 0:11:40.679 --> 0:11:42.920 Now, I say that if we're going to if we're 0:11:42.920 --> 0:11:45.959 going to Scotland, oh yeah, yeah, yeah, or something like that. 0:11:46.080 --> 0:11:47.800 But I'm like, okay, we're going to Florida. It's an 0:11:47.840 --> 0:11:50.160 hour and a half. That's great, And I think I'm 0:11:50.160 --> 0:11:53.760 going to just be like, no, it's so already prep them, like, guys, 0:11:53.800 --> 0:11:55.679 we're not doing iPads, So bring a coloring book for 0:11:55.920 --> 0:12:00.160 little action figurine because then when we get there, it's 0:12:00.200 --> 0:12:02.160 like the second they have it, they go too much 0:12:02.200 --> 0:12:03.800 of that bad in the morning, and then it becomes 0:12:03.960 --> 0:12:06.960 the obsession again with something I've watched it. Yeah, we 0:12:07.000 --> 0:12:11.480 went through it too. We're cold Turkey. I can't do it. Yeah, 0:12:11.600 --> 0:12:13.720 I'm going to try something this time on travel too 0:12:13.880 --> 0:12:17.400 with the kids, where like you know, then it's so 0:12:17.480 --> 0:12:20.079 it's the pure pressure of ice cream. Right, everyone's getting 0:12:20.120 --> 0:12:22.160 ice cream. Oh, we do the ice cream. Yeah, so 0:12:22.200 --> 0:12:24.040 we're doing the ice cream. That's where I'm not crunchy. 0:12:24.120 --> 0:12:26.040 But we're not doing M and m's on the ice cream. 0:12:26.400 --> 0:12:29.680 Oh okay, like we don't. Leve won't pick that anyways. 0:12:29.679 --> 0:12:30.559 But Leggie is like. 0:12:30.960 --> 0:12:31.800 I took them. 0:12:32.200 --> 0:12:34.720 I took them to the sprinkles or whatever that is 0:12:35.240 --> 0:12:37.800 ben cheese and they lay loaded it up because sometimes 0:12:37.800 --> 0:12:38.600 I just feel bad. 0:12:39.080 --> 0:12:41.200 Well listen and they've got it. Here's the other thing. 0:12:41.240 --> 0:12:42.760 A lot of times when they have it, then they 0:12:42.760 --> 0:12:44.440 get the belly ache and they're like, oh you know. 0:12:44.480 --> 0:12:47.160 It's like okay, well now we're learning, right you see. 0:12:47.280 --> 0:12:49.440 Yeah, I don't think it's so bad, but I do 0:12:49.520 --> 0:12:51.640 think when it comes to travel, the cleaner we can 0:12:51.679 --> 0:12:53.679 keep it. I've we've just gone less of I used 0:12:53.679 --> 0:12:54.920 to let it be a free for all. And I 0:12:55.400 --> 0:12:57.440 think that's also like kind of how we were raised. 0:12:57.440 --> 0:12:59.440 I don't know about you, but like there's a mentality 0:12:59.480 --> 0:13:02.240 that was passed stones, like you're on vacation, you know, yeah, 0:13:02.400 --> 0:13:05.000 like actually not on my gut is not on vacation. 0:13:05.320 --> 0:13:08.920 Speaking of allergies, though, this something has been happening to me, 0:13:09.320 --> 0:13:11.439 and I'm trying to get to the bottom of it 0:13:11.480 --> 0:13:12.000 with Nate. 0:13:12.720 --> 0:13:13.320 What is it? 0:13:13.520 --> 0:13:17.960 Well, So, I think it's the soy. I think I'm 0:13:18.000 --> 0:13:22.400 allergic to soy. Okay, it came up in my food 0:13:22.559 --> 0:13:25.440 thing that I had like a major reaction to soy. 0:13:25.520 --> 0:13:27.800 So I cut soy out right. And so you when 0:13:27.800 --> 0:13:30.280 you do like a food test, you go through all 0:13:30.280 --> 0:13:32.000 the things that like you shouldn't eat. So the top 0:13:32.040 --> 0:13:34.959 two was monk fruit and soy. Wow, and those are 0:13:34.960 --> 0:13:37.360 in a lot of things, a lot of things. So 0:13:37.440 --> 0:13:40.760 I've completely gone cold turkey now, none of it like 0:13:41.000 --> 0:13:45.480 zero speaking of cold turkey, mine was beef. It was 0:13:45.480 --> 0:13:47.400 like red alert, do not do that? You don't have 0:13:47.480 --> 0:13:49.760 any Isn't that wild? Because my body doesn't like it? 0:13:49.800 --> 0:13:51.720 But i'mren't paying attention to what my body doesn't like. 0:13:52.040 --> 0:13:55.160 But I think because some things are cooked in soy 0:13:55.240 --> 0:13:59.720 oil that I'm having a hard time, Like I can't 0:13:59.760 --> 0:14:01.480 swim when I'm eating something. 0:14:01.520 --> 0:14:02.680 Wait, this just happened to you. 0:14:02.840 --> 0:14:05.560 Yeah, at Pan's birthday party, and I like started to 0:14:05.600 --> 0:14:09.360 have an anxiety attack because I'm like, okay, swallow yah, 0:14:09.400 --> 0:14:11.360 and I get like this like cough, so I'm like, 0:14:11.400 --> 0:14:14.600 what is happening? Has anybody else experienced this? Please let 0:14:14.640 --> 0:14:15.720 me know? Yeah, And I was like, I think this 0:14:15.760 --> 0:14:18.480 is anafflunding shock. Isn't that what it's called. I don't know, 0:14:18.520 --> 0:14:19.760 but I don't know what's happening. I'm like, is this 0:14:19.800 --> 0:14:20.680 a food allergy or am? 0:14:20.680 --> 0:14:20.960 I like? 0:14:21.280 --> 0:14:23.760 No, I think it could be. There's something that restaurants 0:14:23.800 --> 0:14:26.040 cook in. It's an oil. I know that because it'll 0:14:26.040 --> 0:14:27.560 be like on a salad. So that's why I always 0:14:27.640 --> 0:14:30.040 dressing on the side and I taste my dressing. Huh, 0:14:30.720 --> 0:14:32.360 some oil And I don't know what it is. I 0:14:32.360 --> 0:14:34.720 should look back at my food test too. But something 0:14:35.160 --> 0:14:38.720 really messes with me, like it is instant, not like 0:14:38.760 --> 0:14:40.960 I'm gonna get sick. And they're like it gives me 0:14:41.000 --> 0:14:42.920 like I feel like I can't swallow my throat is 0:14:43.040 --> 0:14:45.640 like I don't know what. It freaks me out. Yeah, 0:14:45.640 --> 0:14:47.120 I don't like it for I've never. 0:14:48.440 --> 0:14:49.400 Like I don't. 0:14:50.240 --> 0:14:52.160 When we were in Paris, we had gelato every night 0:14:52.200 --> 0:14:56.120 and every night my belly hurt. But yeah, well yeah, 0:14:56.240 --> 0:14:59.720 I don't really eat dairy. Yeah so anyways, wow, we 0:15:00.000 --> 0:15:02.520 but really we really did. We really went in there. 0:15:02.600 --> 0:15:05.040 But vacation is among us, So this time, let's just 0:15:05.080 --> 0:15:06.680 make the pack you want to So we'll just try 0:15:06.720 --> 0:15:08.400 really hard to just keep it as clean as we can, 0:15:08.600 --> 0:15:11.760 and we'll come back with our findings. Yeah, you don't 0:15:11.800 --> 0:15:13.520 think you're gonna be able to do that. I already 0:15:13.520 --> 0:15:19.560 see you in Florida. It's vacation. I I know, I know, 0:15:19.960 --> 0:15:21.840 but I just feel like I'm so But if it 0:15:21.920 --> 0:15:24.000 is vacation, that's the other thing. We're traveling a lot 0:15:24.080 --> 0:15:25.360 right now, so I like we can't be going off 0:15:25.400 --> 0:15:27.960 the deep end once a week on a travel trick, right, 0:15:28.360 --> 0:15:31.280 But if it's once a few months, yeah, maybe so 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:39.120 side note, Yeah, a lot going on this month, and 0:15:39.280 --> 0:15:44.440 we've got quite a bit of people coming up. It's 0:15:44.760 --> 0:15:46.000 should we tease a few of them? 0:15:46.400 --> 0:15:47.120 Yeah? We should. 0:15:48.520 --> 0:15:51.080 Amy, Alexander, I think is my number one. I love 0:15:51.080 --> 0:15:54.720 her that I'm most excited about. She's our therapist. I 0:15:54.760 --> 0:15:56.720 have something pinned for you when you and I and 0:15:56.800 --> 0:16:02.160 Kat are together. Oh that Amy sent me? Okay, bad? No, Okay, 0:16:03.120 --> 0:16:07.800 you remember it? Oh? Yeah, okay, are you nervous to 0:16:07.960 --> 0:16:09.680 I mean, I know we've talked to her a bunch, 0:16:09.920 --> 0:16:13.600 but I just feel like there's a piece of me 0:16:13.720 --> 0:16:15.600 that just kind of wants to open up even more. 0:16:16.400 --> 0:16:19.160 I know. I think that is I've been like really 0:16:19.160 --> 0:16:24.160 prayerful around this piece because I share enough that paints 0:16:24.160 --> 0:16:30.400 a picture, sure, but I don't excessively share because I 0:16:30.440 --> 0:16:34.360 also have this weird there's this weird like not weird. 0:16:34.640 --> 0:16:35.640 It's this obligation. 0:16:35.680 --> 0:16:37.640 I feel that I have this platform, but then the 0:16:37.640 --> 0:16:40.520 people don't have the platform to combat what I would 0:16:40.560 --> 0:16:43.680 want to say. But then also I have a lived experience. 0:16:45.360 --> 0:16:47.160 But I've recently just watched a show and I know 0:16:47.160 --> 0:16:49.640 I had mentioned this to you before, but I had 0:16:49.640 --> 0:16:57.840 watched this show that had this domestic violence scene. But 0:16:57.920 --> 0:17:01.320 it was the first time in a while. I think 0:17:01.360 --> 0:17:04.359 that maybe, I mean I wouldn't say ever, but probably 0:17:04.440 --> 0:17:07.359 in a while where it was from the kid's point 0:17:07.359 --> 0:17:11.040 of view, and I mean, it makes me emotional to 0:17:11.040 --> 0:17:14.679 even think about it. What happened to me was such, 0:17:16.960 --> 0:17:21.280 I mean, I was back in time, my whole body. 0:17:21.359 --> 0:17:25.480 It was I don't even know how to describe it. 0:17:25.520 --> 0:17:28.480 And so that is what I think probably needs to 0:17:28.480 --> 0:17:32.000 be talked about. But I'm just being prayerful on the 0:17:32.040 --> 0:17:35.439 way that I say things, not to protect people, but 0:17:35.720 --> 0:17:39.920 just I mean the impact, but it kind of goes 0:17:39.920 --> 0:17:42.879 to what we spoke about, the one that when I 0:17:42.920 --> 0:17:44.359 was talking about the three M thing where it's like 0:17:44.400 --> 0:17:48.240 your body remembers, Oh, it remembers, like Janda, I was back. 0:17:49.000 --> 0:17:54.239 I was, I was like seven eight nine. I could like, 0:17:54.440 --> 0:17:57.359 I mean when I tell you instant tears, closed my 0:17:57.359 --> 0:18:01.280 eyes and plugged my ears, and Preston saying next to me, 0:18:01.400 --> 0:18:05.600 is like, are you okay? I mean it's wild. And 0:18:05.680 --> 0:18:08.840 this scene, of course was another level. It wasn't to 0:18:08.920 --> 0:18:15.119 that extent, sure, but just I mean, your body remembers, 0:18:14.880 --> 0:18:19.960 it's really interesting. I was like, and I couldn't. I've 0:18:19.960 --> 0:18:21.919 done so much work that I thought for sure I've 0:18:21.960 --> 0:18:24.719 gone back and grabbed her the six seven eight year 0:18:24.760 --> 0:18:28.800 old you know. Yeah, and also too, and I really 0:18:28.840 --> 0:18:34.320 want to give people the opportunity to have Amy there 0:18:34.359 --> 0:18:37.600 for them too, you know, like why like for us, 0:18:37.640 --> 0:18:40.440 it's like, why are we having these body remembering moments 0:18:40.520 --> 0:18:43.719 like was what peace of us? Need to feel this 0:18:43.800 --> 0:18:47.040 part or you know, do this work or whatever it 0:18:47.080 --> 0:18:49.119 may be. But if there's anything that you want to 0:18:49.160 --> 0:18:53.760 ask Amy, please write in, because she is such an 0:18:53.760 --> 0:19:00.160 expert in areas of trauma and She's incredible. She's so 0:19:00.160 --> 0:19:04.040 so good. So if there's anything that you want to 0:19:04.080 --> 0:19:06.760 ask her that you have gone through, I feel like 0:19:06.800 --> 0:19:08.320 it would be really nice to open up a few 0:19:08.359 --> 0:19:09.760 listener questions for her. 0:19:09.960 --> 0:19:10.160 Yeah. 0:19:10.160 --> 0:19:13.080 I think especially when people have the comfortability of sub 0:19:13.119 --> 0:19:16.760 many things anonymously, yes, to just get the answers they 0:19:16.760 --> 0:19:20.520 need from a professional. Yeah, because we I love doing 0:19:20.520 --> 0:19:23.400 the listener questions at the end, but like we don't 0:19:23.400 --> 0:19:24.280 know what we're talking about. 0:19:25.280 --> 0:19:26.399 We're just making our cope. 0:19:26.560 --> 0:19:31.240 Your cope is best weekend, Like I we have enough 0:19:31.359 --> 0:19:35.600 experience in certain areas, but these are just our opinions. Yeah, 0:19:35.640 --> 0:19:39.359 So Amy is phenomenon Me is you gave me Amy. 0:19:39.880 --> 0:19:44.000 I gave you Amy the gift that keeps giving. And 0:19:44.080 --> 0:19:46.880 Amy's really sweet and protective of us, which I love. 0:19:46.920 --> 0:19:48.919 Like she's already called me and was like you have 0:19:49.000 --> 0:19:51.040 a choice, and I was like, I know, I know, 0:19:51.160 --> 0:19:54.520 I have a choice, But I do think it's so 0:19:54.600 --> 0:19:57.040 important to talk about. And I don't know that the 0:19:57.240 --> 0:20:01.520 kids in these situations get enough of a voice. And 0:20:01.600 --> 0:20:04.240 there are a lot of us that grew up in 0:20:04.280 --> 0:20:07.280 these situations. It affects the way we do almost everything. 0:20:08.280 --> 0:20:10.959 Noise level in my house. You're allowed noise, like the 0:20:11.000 --> 0:20:14.680 reaction I have to anything loud. 0:20:15.080 --> 0:20:15.359 Yep. 0:20:16.280 --> 0:20:19.440