WEBVTT - FORGIVE AND FORGECK 0:00:00.320 --> 0:00:15.680 Let's talk to Daniel. Hello, Daniel, Hello, Hi, Hey, thanks 0:00:15.720 --> 0:00:23.520 for having me. I had to have someone, you know, Yeah, 0:00:23.520 --> 0:00:27.840 I suppose so. Was that? Was that a dick thing 0:00:27.880 --> 0:00:29.280 of me to say? You can tell me if it was? 0:00:30.960 --> 0:00:33.080 No, No, I just didn't. I didn't want to be 0:00:33.080 --> 0:00:34.760 one of those people to ask how are you? But 0:00:34.920 --> 0:00:35.440 here I am? 0:00:36.320 --> 0:00:37.960 What do you? Why is it? Why is such a 0:00:38.000 --> 0:00:41.880 bad thing to ask me how I am? 0:00:41.920 --> 0:00:45.000 It seems like everyone does and we know you're doing fine? 0:00:46.640 --> 0:00:48.080 How do you know I'm doing fine? I could be 0:00:48.120 --> 0:00:59.680 doing that, could be severely depressed. Daniel here, you're from Philadelphia, 0:01:00.000 --> 0:01:02.000 twenty six years old? You said, he says you have 0:01:02.040 --> 0:01:06.560 a neighbor who is being a dick to you? Is 0:01:06.560 --> 0:01:08.720 that is that correct? Is that what you wanted to 0:01:08.760 --> 0:01:09.200 talk about? 0:01:09.480 --> 0:01:13.240 Well, he's he's just no, he's kind of a dick 0:01:13.280 --> 0:01:16.440 in general. I've lived next to him for about ten years. 0:01:16.480 --> 0:01:21.440 I live with my parents still. And he comes up 0:01:21.480 --> 0:01:24.640 to me the other day and he informs me that 0:01:25.520 --> 0:01:28.800 his dog had passed away, which is not really surprising 0:01:28.840 --> 0:01:32.119 his dog had been sick for a while, but also 0:01:32.280 --> 0:01:35.000 is his wife is, on top of that, is terminally 0:01:35.080 --> 0:01:40.000 ill with cancer and I've known this man for a while, 0:01:40.080 --> 0:01:43.319 and I certainly have sympathy for him, but I don't 0:01:43.400 --> 0:01:47.680 really know if I feel bad for him in a way. 0:01:49.520 --> 0:01:51.560 Why why is this? Why? Why do you feel as 0:01:51.600 --> 0:01:53.880 though you don't feel bad for him? 0:01:54.320 --> 0:01:57.080 Like empathy and more of a sense like I don't 0:01:57.240 --> 0:02:03.720 really want to talk it out with him because he's 0:02:03.800 --> 0:02:07.160 kind of He's made some racist comments in the past 0:02:07.200 --> 0:02:11.280 about people in general, and we've never not gotten along. 0:02:11.480 --> 0:02:13.760 But he's just not really someone I spark up a 0:02:13.800 --> 0:02:14.520 conversation with. 0:02:15.800 --> 0:02:20.240 Hmm, and uh, do you feel as though he is 0:02:21.040 --> 0:02:25.320 turning to you specifically as somebody to be a shoulder 0:02:25.320 --> 0:02:27.240 to cry on in this in this time of need? 0:02:28.919 --> 0:02:32.520 Yeah, so background, he's he's he's older, I'd say, maybe 0:02:32.520 --> 0:02:35.959 in the sixties, mid to late sixties. And they don't 0:02:36.000 --> 0:02:40.000 have any children, so he's he's kind of alone in 0:02:40.040 --> 0:02:43.920 this journey with his wife right now. And and and 0:02:44.000 --> 0:02:46.040 as a person, like most people, I would I would 0:02:46.040 --> 0:02:48.600 feel really bad about that, and and I certainly do 0:02:48.760 --> 0:02:52.040 in a way, but I don't necessarily have as much 0:02:52.160 --> 0:02:55.080 empathy as I would like someone I get along with better. 0:02:55.880 --> 0:03:01.480 Mm hm, And well, like I said, is he is 0:03:01.520 --> 0:03:04.920 he asking you specifically for sympathy, Like, do you do 0:03:04.960 --> 0:03:08.079 you feel him trying to talk to you a lot 0:03:08.200 --> 0:03:09.239 about this situation? 0:03:11.560 --> 0:03:14.120 He's been out a little more. I stand outside in 0:03:14.400 --> 0:03:16.480 my backyard when I let my dog out, which he 0:03:16.520 --> 0:03:18.520 also made comments about he doesn't like my dog being 0:03:18.520 --> 0:03:21.680 a pitbull, but so it made fun of my dog. 0:03:21.760 --> 0:03:26.360 But anyway, Yeah, he's he's been outside more and trying 0:03:26.360 --> 0:03:30.079 to spark up a conversation. But I mean, I just 0:03:30.160 --> 0:03:34.040 kind of keep it short and simple, you. 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:41.400 Know, Daniel, I'm I'm not a moral authority of any kind, 0:03:42.480 --> 0:03:46.240 and you have no oblig You have no obligation to 0:03:46.600 --> 0:03:49.880 do anything for anyone. Ever, you really don't, and I 0:03:49.920 --> 0:03:53.800 believe that you have no obligation to do any no 0:03:53.840 --> 0:03:57.840 obligation to be nice to anyone or to sympathize to anyone. 0:03:58.480 --> 0:04:01.880 You are just born on this earth and you can 0:04:01.920 --> 0:04:05.840 see things and hear things if you're lucky, and then 0:04:05.880 --> 0:04:12.000 you die. And that's really the basics of it. Do 0:04:12.400 --> 0:04:21.440 you do you doa wants to be nice to this guy? Like? 0:04:21.880 --> 0:04:26.960 What how do you feel about the situation? First? Like? 0:04:27.000 --> 0:04:28.440 Where do your desires lie? 0:04:31.120 --> 0:04:34.159 I think it comes more from I'm more of a 0:04:34.320 --> 0:04:37.800 like I'm not really usually like this, but because of 0:04:37.839 --> 0:04:41.080 the relationship I've had with him over the last ten years, 0:04:41.120 --> 0:04:45.480 I don't really have any interest in really discussing things 0:04:45.520 --> 0:04:45.880 with him. 0:04:46.839 --> 0:04:50.760 M Okay, well, here's the thing. You don't have to 0:04:52.960 --> 0:04:57.880 because you don't really have to do anything. But you know, 0:04:58.120 --> 0:05:06.440 it's one thing to deploy kindness when it's easy, you know, 0:05:06.680 --> 0:05:12.000 like when people have been kind to you and you 0:05:12.000 --> 0:05:16.839 know your friends are coming to you with you know, things, 0:05:16.880 --> 0:05:18.880 and it's like, oh, I like this person, I'm gonna 0:05:18.880 --> 0:05:24.640 show sympathy to them. But I think if you want, 0:05:25.440 --> 0:05:27.400 and again it's only if you want, I'm not gonna 0:05:27.400 --> 0:05:29.160 tell you what you should have shouldn't do. But if 0:05:29.160 --> 0:05:35.320 you want to be a guy who's constantly radiating with 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:38.240 kindness and you want to really think of yourself as 0:05:38.240 --> 0:05:42.240 a kind person and act with kindness to the world, 0:05:42.720 --> 0:05:45.080 I think you have to do it, even in situations 0:05:45.080 --> 0:05:49.640 where it's difficult, such as this, you know, because to 0:05:49.680 --> 0:05:51.720 look at this guy, to look at this guy and 0:05:51.760 --> 0:05:54.200 to be able to go, you know, this guy said 0:05:54.200 --> 0:05:56.360 some things that I really don't like. This guy's really 0:05:56.400 --> 0:06:00.640 never been nice to me. This guy's really been uh, 0:06:01.200 --> 0:06:03.040 just just a jerk to me, and I just I 0:06:03.080 --> 0:06:10.120 don't like him, But all thatwithstanding, i still love him 0:06:10.160 --> 0:06:13.800 as a fellow human being on this earth. I still 0:06:13.839 --> 0:06:17.800 want to be kind, and I'm still gonna say to him, 0:06:17.839 --> 0:06:21.360 I'm sorry for your loss. I still don't wish any 0:06:21.400 --> 0:06:25.359 ill upon him. Whether or not I believe he deserves 0:06:25.400 --> 0:06:32.640 these things, I'm still going to think of him sympathetically 0:06:32.760 --> 0:06:37.160 and want good things for him. I feel like today 0:06:37.200 --> 0:06:39.200 we don't really do that a lot. I feel like 0:06:39.200 --> 0:06:42.520 we kind of pick our heroes and our villains and 0:06:42.520 --> 0:06:44.800 and you know, that's a way to do it. You know, again, 0:06:44.839 --> 0:06:47.360 I'm not telling anyone what they should do, but I 0:06:47.400 --> 0:06:51.800 think that there is a lot of strength in saying, 0:06:52.440 --> 0:06:55.279 you know, I want the best for everyone, even if 0:06:55.400 --> 0:06:57.359 I mean that's that's what I want for myself. You know, 0:06:57.400 --> 0:07:01.080 I'm trying to get there. There's a lot of strength 0:07:01.120 --> 0:07:04.400 in being like, this person did me wrong. I don't 0:07:04.440 --> 0:07:06.480 like them, don't agree with them, I might even think 0:07:06.520 --> 0:07:09.159 that they're kind of evil, but I still want the 0:07:09.160 --> 0:07:12.920 best from them, because that's that's just how I am. 0:07:13.360 --> 0:07:15.440 So I'm just presenting that as an option for you 0:07:15.520 --> 0:07:17.840 to take. Should it be appealing to you. 0:07:18.000 --> 0:07:21.800 Now, I really appreciate that different perspective. I didn't really 0:07:21.800 --> 0:07:24.240 think about it like that, and I kind of want 0:07:24.240 --> 0:07:25.200 to kill him with kindness. 0:07:25.240 --> 0:07:30.480 Now my favorite this is a tangent my favorite parts 0:07:30.520 --> 0:07:32.080 and movies. Like when I was a kid, I used 0:07:32.120 --> 0:07:34.400 to love these parts and movies, And as I'm growing up, 0:07:34.480 --> 0:07:39.400 I'm kind of understanding why is. I have an example 0:07:39.400 --> 0:07:42.080 from he Man and an example from Toy Story three. 0:07:42.120 --> 0:07:43.800 You've ever seen? You ever see Toy Story three? 0:07:45.720 --> 0:07:46.360 Yeah? 0:07:46.560 --> 0:07:48.920 You ever see? This makes me cry when I think 0:07:48.920 --> 0:07:50.920 about it. You ever see in a Toy Story three 0:07:51.080 --> 0:07:55.120 when they're all going into the trash compactor and like 0:07:55.240 --> 0:07:57.880 lots so hugging but this is lots so hugging bear. 0:07:57.960 --> 0:08:01.920 He like uh throws, he like throws them all away, 0:08:02.040 --> 0:08:04.160 and I forget how he gets there too. But lots 0:08:04.160 --> 0:08:07.200 of huggin Bear has already established himself as a villain. 0:08:07.280 --> 0:08:10.920 He's already fucked over the toys, He's already screwed everyone over, 0:08:11.240 --> 0:08:14.040 and like the everyone's like picking up a magnetic thing 0:08:14.520 --> 0:08:17.000 right to get away from the fire that's gonna kill him, 0:08:17.440 --> 0:08:23.080 And lots of hugging Bear is stuck under the this 0:08:23.160 --> 0:08:25.960 like metal thing or whatever, and everyone's like, come on, 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:27.280 what are you we gonna go? And what he and 0:08:27.320 --> 0:08:30.480 you know what he does. He goes and he saves 0:08:30.600 --> 0:08:33.600 lots of hugging Bear, even though lots of hugging Bear 0:08:34.120 --> 0:08:37.319 put them in that situation, even though he has established 0:08:37.400 --> 0:08:42.440 himself as an evil antagonist who has bad intentions, Wood, 0:08:42.440 --> 0:08:44.839 he goes and he saves them anyway. Do you know why? 0:08:46.320 --> 0:08:50.160 Because he's a fucking good guy. Because that's who Wood 0:08:50.200 --> 0:08:54.000 he is, because he doesn't carry he that's what he does. 0:08:55.120 --> 0:08:57.240 He Man did the same thing with Skeletorre. I don't 0:08:57.240 --> 0:09:00.600 remember the exact situation, but I've seen that movies all 0:09:00.640 --> 0:09:04.040 the time. It always gets to me and that that 0:09:04.080 --> 0:09:05.600 feels analogous to the situation. 0:09:07.440 --> 0:09:11.320 Yeah, that's my next stark. 0:09:11.679 --> 0:09:14.040 Beautiful. Well, anything else you want to say to the 0:09:14.040 --> 0:09:15.520 people of the computer Daniel. 0:09:17.280 --> 0:09:21.200 I appreciate them joining and I really appreciate you giving 0:09:21.240 --> 0:09:21.520 me that. 0:09:21.760 --> 0:09:24.600 Advice for sure, Man, thank you for calling. 0:09:26.240 --> 0:09:27.000 All right, take care. 0:09:32.480 --> 0:09:34.200 Yeah, when I was a kid, they always used to 0:09:34.200 --> 0:09:36.360 resonate with me because you because you watch that scene 0:09:36.360 --> 0:09:37.800 and you're like, and you know what's and you know 0:09:37.840 --> 0:09:40.520 what happens, what he saves lots of hugging Bear and 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:42.800 then afterwards, lots of hugging Bear has an opportunity to 0:09:42.840 --> 0:09:44.559 save Woody and he still doesn't do it, and he 0:09:44.600 --> 0:09:48.679 doesn't do it. But that's that's the kind of guy 0:09:48.720 --> 0:09:56.800 what he is. I want to be more like that 0:09:56.920 --> 0:09:59.120 in my own life. I've thought about it. I've really 0:09:59.160 --> 0:10:02.280 thought about it. I'm like, because I talk about this stuff, 0:10:02.280 --> 0:10:04.160 and I try to come at it from a way 0:10:04.200 --> 0:10:06.440 of like, I'm not a moral authority because I don't. 0:10:06.520 --> 0:10:09.000 This is just a thing I'm striving for, not a 0:10:09.000 --> 0:10:11.320 thing from a point of I do this and everyone 0:10:11.320 --> 0:10:13.600 else should. But you know, I think about it all 0:10:13.640 --> 0:10:15.600 the time. I think like, if somebody really did something 0:10:15.679 --> 0:10:19.679 fucked up to me, like you know, something like they 0:10:19.920 --> 0:10:23.120 you know, did something to hurt one of my family 0:10:23.160 --> 0:10:27.560 members or or myself or something like that, I'm like, 0:10:27.720 --> 0:10:30.320 could I, maybe even after a little bit of time, 0:10:30.800 --> 0:10:35.200 could I eventually find a way to love them? Like 0:10:35.240 --> 0:10:38.440 wouldn't that be Isn't that what I would want? Wouldn't 0:10:38.480 --> 0:10:41.360 that be the best thing for me personally? To have 0:10:41.520 --> 0:10:44.040 that strike That's a hard thing to do. It's a 0:10:44.160 --> 0:10:46.760 really hard thing to do. If I think about it 0:10:46.800 --> 0:10:48.959 as like a I just think about it for myself 0:10:49.000 --> 0:10:52.520 a lot. It's interesting to come on here on this 0:10:52.600 --> 0:10:54.240 podcast and talk about it because I think about it 0:10:54.240 --> 0:11:00.800 all the time. All right, next call you guys. Remember 0:11:00.800 --> 0:11:03.880 that toy story three reference? Right? Hello? 0:11:04.679 --> 0:11:04.839 Oh? 0:11:04.920 --> 0:11:05.120 Hello? 0:11:06.280 --> 0:11:10.360 Hey is Ian? Ian? 0:11:12.120 --> 0:11:12.280 Oh? 0:11:12.320 --> 0:11:12.560 Hello? 0:11:13.920 --> 0:11:14.280 What's up? 0:11:14.320 --> 0:11:14.560 Ian? 0:11:16.320 --> 0:11:17.880 Not much, just getting ready to work. 0:11:19.440 --> 0:11:20.080 Where do you work? 0:11:23.280 --> 0:11:24.480 I'm at Cavana? 0:11:25.679 --> 0:11:31.760 You work at Carvana? Yeah, I've seen advertisements for that. 0:11:31.800 --> 0:11:32.360 What is that? 0:11:34.800 --> 0:11:39.040 It's a I believe we are wholesale youth car service, 0:11:39.520 --> 0:11:42.200 So we sell use cars to people and will buy 0:11:42.200 --> 0:11:45.240 you a youth car and we'll come and pick it 0:11:45.320 --> 0:11:47.120 up for you, and then we'll send it to you 0:11:47.240 --> 0:11:49.160 for free as well if you buy a new car. 0:11:51.480 --> 0:11:57.320 And is working there as boring as it sounds. 0:11:57.040 --> 0:11:58.600 Do you know what? It's okay? 0:11:58.720 --> 0:12:01.319 I did pay decently. I get paid above men. I'm 0:12:01.320 --> 0:12:04.080 my wage for what I do, and I really don't 0:12:04.080 --> 0:12:07.360 do nothing. I work for security, so I work from 0:12:07.360 --> 0:12:11.120 three to eleven thirty and it's such a great schedule, so. 0:12:11.040 --> 0:12:13.040 You don't do any You really don't have to do anything. 0:12:13.040 --> 0:12:17.440 You said, yeah, yeah, do you like that? Do you 0:12:17.520 --> 0:12:19.640 like having a job where you don't really do anything? 0:12:19.679 --> 0:12:21.400 You're kind of biding your time. 0:12:22.080 --> 0:12:25.360 Oh no, no, I'm looking for another job. I'm thinking 0:12:25.360 --> 0:12:29.320 about babysitting currently for three children. 0:12:29.480 --> 0:12:31.120 Your babysitting currently? 0:12:32.720 --> 0:12:36.079 Oh no, I'm thinking about babysitting for three children. 0:12:36.720 --> 0:12:40.360 What's what's is now? And you say you're thinking about 0:12:40.400 --> 0:12:44.720 babysitting for three children? Did you find a group of 0:12:44.760 --> 0:12:47.960 three children specifically that want to have you babysit for them? 0:12:48.040 --> 0:12:52.520 Or are you about to go in search specifically for 0:12:52.559 --> 0:12:55.760 three children? Because you know no. 0:12:55.840 --> 0:13:01.600 I use this app call we Care, and it basically 0:13:01.679 --> 0:13:05.200 I got a babysitter, I guess. And so if somebody 0:13:05.280 --> 0:13:08.760 has a need for a babysitter or in my case, 0:13:08.920 --> 0:13:11.200 a manny, then I would come and help. 0:13:12.040 --> 0:13:15.199 I feel like I'm learning a lot about companies today. 0:13:15.640 --> 0:13:17.120 What's the name of this we Care? 0:13:17.320 --> 0:13:18.640 Oh? Yeah, great, great? 0:13:19.400 --> 0:13:23.360 Oh we Care w ee and then care? Now? 0:13:23.400 --> 0:13:26.000 How do they background check you to make sure that 0:13:26.080 --> 0:13:28.920 you're not like a crazy person, You're not gonna do 0:13:28.960 --> 0:13:31.599 anything weird to the kids. 0:13:32.880 --> 0:13:34.640 Yes, you do have to go through a background. So 0:13:34.720 --> 0:13:37.440 I did that, but I'm also like, I was a 0:13:37.520 --> 0:13:40.840 teacher support staff, so I had to do also like 0:13:40.920 --> 0:13:44.640 a background for the Arizonto Department of Safety, so I 0:13:44.679 --> 0:13:47.480 also have more. So pretty chill, pretty chill. 0:13:48.600 --> 0:13:52.040 What is it that you enjoy about working with children? 0:13:55.280 --> 0:13:59.079 I think that it's they're just like little little sponges 0:13:59.120 --> 0:14:02.240 that will play any thing, do anything, So it's everything. 0:14:02.280 --> 0:14:03.680 You could be different every day. 0:14:04.760 --> 0:14:09.880 Mmmmmmm. Do you which do you enjoy better between working 0:14:09.880 --> 0:14:13.800 with children and working with cars? 0:14:15.440 --> 0:14:16.800 I say I would say children. 0:14:16.880 --> 0:14:19.120 I want to be a principal or a superintendent. 0:14:19.200 --> 0:14:22.640 Sometimes you want to be a principal when you when 0:14:22.680 --> 0:14:24.520 you Uh, I was gonna say when you grow up, 0:14:24.520 --> 0:14:27.840 but it says here that, well, you're twenty, so you 0:14:27.880 --> 0:14:30.480 have more time. I feel like twenty I mean that 0:14:30.520 --> 0:14:31.840 makes sense for you to say I want to be 0:14:31.960 --> 0:14:33.800 that when I grow up, because there's no twenty year 0:14:33.840 --> 0:14:36.160 old principles? Is there? You know, how to be the 0:14:36.160 --> 0:14:38.240 president you have to have like a b like thirty five. 0:14:38.360 --> 0:14:40.720 Is there an age? Is there a minimum age for principal? 0:14:40.920 --> 0:14:46.800 I believe it's fine say that again. Wasn't it twenty 0:14:46.800 --> 0:14:49.880 five or is that like twenty five? You can be 0:14:49.920 --> 0:14:51.160 a principal at twenty five. 0:14:53.040 --> 0:14:55.800 I believe so as long as you finish your full 0:14:55.880 --> 0:14:57.640 years and get your bachelor's I believe. 0:14:57.640 --> 0:15:01.520 So that's pretty wild. I couldn't imagine going to the 0:15:01.520 --> 0:15:05.640 principal's office and the principal looks kind of life. He 0:15:05.760 --> 0:15:14.680 could be in your class. Yeah, what do you want 0:15:14.720 --> 0:15:16.640 to do as principal. 0:15:19.240 --> 0:15:27.040 I'm more into education or independency. So independency kind of 0:15:27.400 --> 0:15:30.880 teach you to be independent. The academics, I would kind 0:15:30.920 --> 0:15:34.120 of be more independent. I guess you could say more 0:15:35.040 --> 0:15:39.600 home x kind of course of agriculture, teaching you to 0:15:39.640 --> 0:15:43.640 do things on your own, indeed having to pay thousand 0:15:43.840 --> 0:15:45.960 dollars to go and learn it somewhere else. 0:15:46.960 --> 0:15:49.320 It's true, it's true. I feel like that makes sense, 0:15:49.360 --> 0:15:54.960 you know, trying to give the children practical skills that 0:15:55.000 --> 0:15:57.600 they can use in their life, like how to cook 0:15:57.720 --> 0:16:03.680 or clean, or drive a car or do various things 0:16:03.680 --> 0:16:05.480 that you need to be you know, pay taxes. They 0:16:05.520 --> 0:16:08.880 never taught us how to pay taxes. It's crazy. Yeah, 0:16:08.960 --> 0:16:11.080 they never taught us that. And the thing we have 0:16:11.240 --> 0:16:12.440 to do well. 0:16:12.440 --> 0:16:15.240 We learned how to start, We learned how to do things, 0:16:15.560 --> 0:16:17.960 and then in high school we learned about like politics, 0:16:18.000 --> 0:16:20.400 and we learned about how to take care of ourselves, 0:16:20.440 --> 0:16:21.600 how to do our taxes. 0:16:22.240 --> 0:16:22.840 How to go. 0:16:22.760 --> 0:16:26.240 About getting a car. What's a good interest rate? What's 0:16:26.360 --> 0:16:27.480 not a good interest rate? 0:16:28.280 --> 0:16:33.560 Oh man, that sounds incredibly interesting. What was your relationship 0:16:33.760 --> 0:16:37.600 like with your principle when you were when you were 0:16:37.640 --> 0:16:39.320 in in school. 0:16:42.040 --> 0:16:46.920 For school, I was what would you call a handbook reader. 0:16:47.280 --> 0:16:49.720 So if we didn't do what the handbook said, I'm sorry. 0:16:49.800 --> 0:16:51.120 I boked the rule so that we. 0:16:51.080 --> 0:16:52.440 Could do what the handbook said. 0:16:53.000 --> 0:16:56.320 So I was I being on. 0:16:56.240 --> 0:16:58.480 The edge of the rule book. I guess you could say. 0:16:58.840 --> 0:17:02.400 You were on the edge of the rule book. You said, 0:17:02.520 --> 0:17:09.000 tell me, tell me what rule do you remember breaking 0:17:09.040 --> 0:17:10.040 the most? 0:17:11.359 --> 0:17:11.560 Oh? 0:17:11.720 --> 0:17:14.600 Okay, So one time, I believe it was full of 0:17:14.600 --> 0:17:19.080 my junior year, I had to dare to bring an 0:17:19.080 --> 0:17:21.800 obscene toy to school. 0:17:22.000 --> 0:17:24.760 And I was not eighteen at the moment. So I 0:17:24.800 --> 0:17:26.320 had gone to Spensers. 0:17:25.840 --> 0:17:27.919 And bought the toy in little did they know, they 0:17:27.960 --> 0:17:30.520 just sold it to me. And so my job was 0:17:30.560 --> 0:17:33.720 to get it through security on the plane, then get 0:17:33.760 --> 0:17:36.240 it to school because I had to fly to school. 0:17:36.920 --> 0:17:39.879 And so then when we got to school, they also 0:17:40.000 --> 0:17:42.080 like checked us and everything and make sure we didn't 0:17:42.119 --> 0:17:43.919 have weapons or drugs and stuff. 0:17:44.160 --> 0:17:44.920 So I had to. 0:17:44.920 --> 0:17:49.639 Also hide it inside, like around my clothes so they 0:17:49.680 --> 0:17:52.280 wouldn't notice it. And so I worked like a whole 0:17:52.320 --> 0:17:55.440 two months with it in my dorm and we would 0:17:55.440 --> 0:18:00.359 basically kind of like sow it around like a baseball around. 0:17:59.520 --> 0:18:02.560 The dorm in your dorm. Okay, all right, So you 0:18:02.600 --> 0:18:08.280 went to like some boarding school, it sounds like, right, okay, 0:18:09.080 --> 0:18:13.320 and you you were you were dared to bring a 0:18:13.359 --> 0:18:19.560 sex toy there, correct, spend I did not Spencer's Gifts 0:18:20.640 --> 0:18:22.919 sold you a sex toy when you were in high school? 0:18:24.600 --> 0:18:26.600 Yeah, I was sixteen, and they told me that they 0:18:26.600 --> 0:18:27.720 didn't asked me for no ID. 0:18:28.359 --> 0:18:31.720 Really, that's crazy. They didn't ask you for any sort 0:18:31.760 --> 0:18:34.480 of idea, did they? Like, do you think they knew 0:18:34.480 --> 0:18:38.399 that you were sixteen and they just sold it to you? Anyway? 0:18:38.520 --> 0:18:40.639 I have no idea, I don't I don't even know 0:18:40.680 --> 0:18:42.680 what they thought they were thinking. They probably just found 0:18:42.680 --> 0:18:45.119 their little gay boy wanted a little fake toy, so 0:18:45.119 --> 0:18:47.320 they're going to sell it to him, make some money. 0:18:47.240 --> 0:18:48.919 You know what I get? You know, I feel like 0:18:49.080 --> 0:18:52.160 in all of your adventures with this sex toy, every 0:18:52.200 --> 0:18:55.840 adult that you come into contact with is like they 0:18:56.119 --> 0:18:59.480 just don't want to get involved. At all. They don't 0:18:59.480 --> 0:19:01.080 want to have a car. They don't want to talk 0:19:01.119 --> 0:19:04.199 to you about it. Like I, like, I wouldn't be 0:19:04.200 --> 0:19:07.399 surprised if, like the security guard did see it on you. 0:19:07.520 --> 0:19:11.040 It was just like, I'm not touching this with a 0:19:11.080 --> 0:19:12.560 ten foot poll. You know, I don't want to get 0:19:12.600 --> 0:19:16.639 involved in this situation even slightly because that's an awkward 0:19:16.640 --> 0:19:18.919 conversation to have with a stranger's child. 0:19:20.800 --> 0:19:22.760 And it was funny because to like get it onto 0:19:23.800 --> 0:19:27.159 onto campus at the airport, I took it out of 0:19:27.160 --> 0:19:29.920 my suitcase before we got picked up on the bus. 0:19:29.640 --> 0:19:30.280 At the airport. 0:19:30.600 --> 0:19:32.800 So I took it out and it was like twelve 0:19:32.840 --> 0:19:35.679 inches I think, And so I basically wrapped it around 0:19:35.720 --> 0:19:38.600 the waste of the waste of my front and so 0:19:38.680 --> 0:19:41.159 when they checked it, they didn't check that area of us. 0:19:41.320 --> 0:19:44.000 So it was just like basically wrapped around my waist and. 0:19:43.880 --> 0:19:47.560 Then you wrapped it around your waist like a belt. 0:19:48.880 --> 0:19:51.040 Uh No, I'm not fas skinny, So it was like 0:19:51.160 --> 0:19:52.840 just like the front of my Torso. 0:19:56.720 --> 0:19:58.520 Oh yeah, if I saw if I were like a 0:19:58.520 --> 0:20:01.480 TSA agent and I saw some kid with a dildo 0:20:01.600 --> 0:20:06.000 wrapped around his waist, I would not say anything at all. 0:20:06.040 --> 0:20:09.200 I would be like, I'm going to pretend like I 0:20:09.240 --> 0:20:14.400 did not see that and move on with my day. 0:20:15.320 --> 0:20:17.159 So I know you think you might have been slick, 0:20:17.240 --> 0:20:19.840 but there were probably just a lot of extremely uncomfortable 0:20:19.840 --> 0:20:23.399 adults who made the decision not to intervene with that. 0:20:23.600 --> 0:20:27.920 But now I feel like, Okay, so you're going to 0:20:27.960 --> 0:20:33.920 become a principal, and you know what is your style 0:20:34.119 --> 0:20:36.400 of principle? Okay, Well you said your style is going 0:20:36.440 --> 0:20:38.840 to be that you want to teach the children stuff 0:20:38.880 --> 0:20:42.399 that they know about in real life. If you were 0:20:42.440 --> 0:20:44.639 a principal, let's say, Okay, I'm gonna throw this at you. 0:20:44.680 --> 0:20:46.879 If you were a principal and you saw some kid 0:20:47.400 --> 0:20:51.119 running around the hallway with a dildo, what would you do? 0:20:53.119 --> 0:20:55.040 Oh, well, that would be happening in mine because in 0:20:55.119 --> 0:20:57.119 our hands, but we wouldn't have no we wouldn't be 0:20:57.160 --> 0:21:00.480 allowed to obsceeme object on school campus. So I would 0:21:00.480 --> 0:21:02.680 hope both kids would not do that. So that was 0:21:02.720 --> 0:21:05.840 what made me brought it, because everybody knew not to 0:21:05.840 --> 0:21:06.280 bring it. 0:21:06.720 --> 0:21:08.600 But in public school. 0:21:09.119 --> 0:21:11.480 Well, hold on, well, hold on and answer the question. 0:21:11.560 --> 0:21:13.479 If you were a principal and you saw that happening. 0:21:13.480 --> 0:21:14.040 What would you do? 0:21:17.280 --> 0:21:23.600 I would laugh and stop, stop them and take it. 0:21:26.080 --> 0:21:27.640 You said, obviously you would take it. 0:21:29.119 --> 0:21:30.360 Yeah, I would have to take it. 0:21:30.760 --> 0:21:32.760 Yeah, well, okay, what are you gonna do with it? Though? 0:21:32.800 --> 0:21:35.560 You know you're a kid. Just keep it in your office? 0:21:37.520 --> 0:21:39.240 No, you just you just solved the best. 0:21:40.520 --> 0:21:42.800 So hopefully he don't go dumpster diving or they don't 0:21:42.800 --> 0:21:44.200 go dumpster diving for it. 0:21:44.960 --> 0:21:47.200 Mm hmmm. So when you said you would confront them, 0:21:47.240 --> 0:21:49.400 how would you do, Like, what would you say to them? 0:21:49.480 --> 0:21:49.560 Like? 0:21:49.600 --> 0:21:52.120 What would you like? I assume you would sit them 0:21:52.160 --> 0:21:55.440 down and have a some form of a serious discussion. 0:21:55.440 --> 0:21:56.639 What would that would that sound like? 0:21:59.440 --> 0:21:59.640 Well? 0:22:00.640 --> 0:22:03.200 I don't really know on that part because I kind 0:22:03.240 --> 0:22:05.399 of more of like a social, kind of cute person. 0:22:05.480 --> 0:22:08.679 So if they're freaking out kind of like, oh I 0:22:08.720 --> 0:22:10.560 got caught with this thing and I know I'm not 0:22:10.600 --> 0:22:12.840 supposed to be I'm going to be like, okay, give 0:22:12.880 --> 0:22:15.040 it to me here, Brenda, and then just take it 0:22:15.080 --> 0:22:15.920 and throw it away. 0:22:16.200 --> 0:22:18.440 But if it's someone who's like kind of just dared to. 0:22:18.440 --> 0:22:19.760 Kind of take it and they don't know what they're 0:22:19.800 --> 0:22:21.680 kind of doing, of course I'm going to kind of. 0:22:21.600 --> 0:22:23.520