Speaker 1: Let's talk to Daniel. Hello, Daniel, Hello, Hi, Hey, thanks
Speaker 1: for having me. I had to have someone, you know, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I suppose so. Was that? Was that a dick thing
Speaker 1: of me to say? You can tell me if it was?
Speaker 2: No, No, I just didn't. I didn't want to be
Speaker 2: one of those people to ask how are you? But
Speaker 2: here I am?
Speaker 1: What do you? Why is it? Why is such a
Speaker 1: bad thing to ask me how I am?
Speaker 2: It seems like everyone does and we know you're doing fine?
Speaker 1: How do you know I'm doing fine? I could be
Speaker 1: doing that, could be severely depressed. Daniel here, you're from Philadelphia,
Speaker 1: twenty six years old? You said, he says you have
Speaker 1: a neighbor who is being a dick to you? Is
Speaker 1: that is that correct? Is that what you wanted to
Speaker 1: talk about?
Speaker 2: Well, he's he's just no, he's kind of a dick
Speaker 2: in general. I've lived next to him for about ten years.
Speaker 2: I live with my parents still. And he comes up
Speaker 2: to me the other day and he informs me that
Speaker 2: his dog had passed away, which is not really surprising
Speaker 2: his dog had been sick for a while, but also
Speaker 2: is his wife is, on top of that, is terminally
Speaker 2: ill with cancer and I've known this man for a while,
Speaker 2: and I certainly have sympathy for him, but I don't
Speaker 2: really know if I feel bad for him in a way.
Speaker 1: Why why is this? Why? Why do you feel as
Speaker 1: though you don't feel bad for him?
Speaker 2: Like empathy and more of a sense like I don't
Speaker 2: really want to talk it out with him because he's
Speaker 2: kind of He's made some racist comments in the past
Speaker 2: about people in general, and we've never not gotten along.
Speaker 2: But he's just not really someone I spark up a
Speaker 2: conversation with.
Speaker 1: Hmm, and uh, do you feel as though he is
Speaker 1: turning to you specifically as somebody to be a shoulder
Speaker 1: to cry on in this in this time of need?
Speaker 2: Yeah, so background, he's he's he's older, I'd say, maybe
Speaker 2: in the sixties, mid to late sixties. And they don't
Speaker 2: have any children, so he's he's kind of alone in
Speaker 2: this journey with his wife right now. And and and
Speaker 2: as a person, like most people, I would I would
Speaker 2: feel really bad about that, and and I certainly do
Speaker 2: in a way, but I don't necessarily have as much
Speaker 2: empathy as I would like someone I get along with better.
Speaker 1: Mm hm, And well, like I said, is he is
Speaker 1: he asking you specifically for sympathy, Like, do you do
Speaker 1: you feel him trying to talk to you a lot
Speaker 1: about this situation?
Speaker 2: He's been out a little more. I stand outside in
Speaker 2: my backyard when I let my dog out, which he
Speaker 2: also made comments about he doesn't like my dog being
Speaker 2: a pitbull, but so it made fun of my dog.
Speaker 2: But anyway, Yeah, he's he's been outside more and trying
Speaker 2: to spark up a conversation. But I mean, I just
Speaker 2: kind of keep it short and simple, you.
Speaker 1: Know, Daniel, I'm I'm not a moral authority of any kind,
Speaker 1: and you have no oblig You have no obligation to
Speaker 1: do anything for anyone. Ever, you really don't, and I
Speaker 1: believe that you have no obligation to do any no
Speaker 1: obligation to be nice to anyone or to sympathize to anyone.
Speaker 1: You are just born on this earth and you can
Speaker 1: see things and hear things if you're lucky, and then
Speaker 1: you die. And that's really the basics of it. Do
Speaker 1: you do you doa wants to be nice to this guy? Like?
Speaker 1: What how do you feel about the situation? First? Like?
Speaker 1: Where do your desires lie?
Speaker 2: I think it comes more from I'm more of a
Speaker 2: like I'm not really usually like this, but because of
Speaker 2: the relationship I've had with him over the last ten years,
Speaker 2: I don't really have any interest in really discussing things
Speaker 2: with him.
Speaker 1: M Okay, well, here's the thing. You don't have to
Speaker 1: because you don't really have to do anything. But you know,
Speaker 1: it's one thing to deploy kindness when it's easy, you know,
Speaker 1: like when people have been kind to you and you
Speaker 1: know your friends are coming to you with you know, things,
Speaker 1: and it's like, oh, I like this person, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: show sympathy to them. But I think if you want,
Speaker 1: and again it's only if you want, I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: tell you what you should have shouldn't do. But if
Speaker 1: you want to be a guy who's constantly radiating with
Speaker 1: kindness and you want to really think of yourself as
Speaker 1: a kind person and act with kindness to the world,
Speaker 1: I think you have to do it, even in situations
Speaker 1: where it's difficult, such as this, you know, because to
Speaker 1: look at this guy, to look at this guy and
Speaker 1: to be able to go, you know, this guy said
Speaker 1: some things that I really don't like. This guy's really
Speaker 1: never been nice to me. This guy's really been uh,
Speaker 1: just just a jerk to me, and I just I
Speaker 1: don't like him, But all thatwithstanding, i still love him
Speaker 1: as a fellow human being on this earth. I still
Speaker 1: want to be kind, and I'm still gonna say to him,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry for your loss. I still don't wish any
Speaker 1: ill upon him. Whether or not I believe he deserves
Speaker 1: these things, I'm still going to think of him sympathetically
Speaker 1: and want good things for him. I feel like today
Speaker 1: we don't really do that a lot. I feel like
Speaker 1: we kind of pick our heroes and our villains and
Speaker 1: and you know, that's a way to do it. You know, again,
Speaker 1: I'm not telling anyone what they should do, but I
Speaker 1: think that there is a lot of strength in saying,
Speaker 1: you know, I want the best for everyone, even if
Speaker 1: I mean that's that's what I want for myself. You know,
Speaker 1: I'm trying to get there. There's a lot of strength
Speaker 1: in being like, this person did me wrong. I don't
Speaker 1: like them, don't agree with them, I might even think
Speaker 1: that they're kind of evil, but I still want the
Speaker 1: best from them, because that's that's just how I am.
Speaker 1: So I'm just presenting that as an option for you
Speaker 1: to take. Should it be appealing to you.
Speaker 2: Now, I really appreciate that different perspective. I didn't really
Speaker 2: think about it like that, and I kind of want
Speaker 2: to kill him with kindness.
Speaker 1: Now my favorite this is a tangent my favorite parts
Speaker 1: and movies. Like when I was a kid, I used
Speaker 1: to love these parts and movies, And as I'm growing up,
Speaker 1: I'm kind of understanding why is. I have an example
Speaker 1: from he Man and an example from Toy Story three.
Speaker 1: You've ever seen? You ever see Toy Story three?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: You ever see? This makes me cry when I think
Speaker 1: about it. You ever see in a Toy Story three
Speaker 1: when they're all going into the trash compactor and like
Speaker 1: lots so hugging but this is lots so hugging bear.
Speaker 1: He like uh throws, he like throws them all away,
Speaker 1: and I forget how he gets there too. But lots
Speaker 1: of huggin Bear has already established himself as a villain.
Speaker 1: He's already fucked over the toys, He's already screwed everyone over,
Speaker 1: and like the everyone's like picking up a magnetic thing
Speaker 1: right to get away from the fire that's gonna kill him,
Speaker 1: And lots of hugging Bear is stuck under the this
Speaker 1: like metal thing or whatever, and everyone's like, come on,
Speaker 1: what are you we gonna go? And what he and
Speaker 1: you know what he does. He goes and he saves
Speaker 1: lots of hugging Bear, even though lots of hugging Bear
Speaker 1: put them in that situation, even though he has established
Speaker 1: himself as an evil antagonist who has bad intentions, Wood,
Speaker 1: he goes and he saves them anyway. Do you know why?
Speaker 1: Because he's a fucking good guy. Because that's who Wood
Speaker 1: he is, because he doesn't carry he that's what he does.
Speaker 1: He Man did the same thing with Skeletorre. I don't
Speaker 1: remember the exact situation, but I've seen that movies all
Speaker 1: the time. It always gets to me and that that
Speaker 1: feels analogous to the situation.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's my next stark.
Speaker 1: Beautiful. Well, anything else you want to say to the
Speaker 1: people of the computer Daniel.
Speaker 2: I appreciate them joining and I really appreciate you giving
Speaker 2: me that.
Speaker 1: Advice for sure, Man, thank you for calling.
Speaker 2: All right, take care.
Speaker 1: Yeah, when I was a kid, they always used to
Speaker 1: resonate with me because you because you watch that scene
Speaker 1: and you're like, and you know what's and you know
Speaker 1: what happens, what he saves lots of hugging Bear and
Speaker 1: then afterwards, lots of hugging Bear has an opportunity to
Speaker 1: save Woody and he still doesn't do it, and he
Speaker 1: doesn't do it. But that's that's the kind of guy
Speaker 1: what he is. I want to be more like that
Speaker 1: in my own life. I've thought about it. I've really
Speaker 1: thought about it. I'm like, because I talk about this stuff,
Speaker 1: and I try to come at it from a way
Speaker 1: of like, I'm not a moral authority because I don't.
Speaker 1: This is just a thing I'm striving for, not a
Speaker 1: thing from a point of I do this and everyone
Speaker 1: else should. But you know, I think about it all
Speaker 1: the time. I think like, if somebody really did something
Speaker 1: fucked up to me, like you know, something like they
Speaker 1: you know, did something to hurt one of my family
Speaker 1: members or or myself or something like that, I'm like,
Speaker 1: could I, maybe even after a little bit of time,
Speaker 1: could I eventually find a way to love them? Like
Speaker 1: wouldn't that be Isn't that what I would want? Wouldn't
Speaker 1: that be the best thing for me personally? To have
Speaker 1: that strike That's a hard thing to do. It's a
Speaker 1: really hard thing to do. If I think about it
Speaker 1: as like a I just think about it for myself
Speaker 1: a lot. It's interesting to come on here on this
Speaker 1: podcast and talk about it because I think about it
Speaker 1: all the time. All right, next call you guys. Remember
Speaker 1: that toy story three reference? Right? Hello?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 5: Hello?
Speaker 1: Hey is Ian? Ian?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 5: Hello?
Speaker 1: What's up?
Speaker 2: Ian?
Speaker 5: Not much, just getting ready to work.
Speaker 1: Where do you work?
Speaker 5: I'm at Cavana?
Speaker 1: You work at Carvana? Yeah, I've seen advertisements for that.
Speaker 1: What is that?
Speaker 6: It's a I believe we are wholesale youth car service,
Speaker 6: So we sell use cars to people and will buy
Speaker 6: you a youth car and we'll come and pick it
Speaker 6: up for you, and then we'll send it to you
Speaker 6: for free as well if you buy a new car.
Speaker 1: And is working there as boring as it sounds.
Speaker 5: Do you know what? It's okay?
Speaker 6: I did pay decently. I get paid above men. I'm
Speaker 6: my wage for what I do, and I really don't
Speaker 6: do nothing. I work for security, so I work from
Speaker 6: three to eleven thirty and it's such a great schedule, so.
Speaker 1: You don't do any You really don't have to do anything.
Speaker 1: You said, yeah, yeah, do you like that? Do you
Speaker 1: like having a job where you don't really do anything?
Speaker 1: You're kind of biding your time.
Speaker 6: Oh no, no, I'm looking for another job. I'm thinking
Speaker 6: about babysitting currently for three children.
Speaker 1: Your babysitting currently?
Speaker 6: Oh no, I'm thinking about babysitting for three children.
Speaker 1: What's what's is now? And you say you're thinking about
Speaker 1: babysitting for three children? Did you find a group of
Speaker 1: three children specifically that want to have you babysit for them?
Speaker 1: Or are you about to go in search specifically for
Speaker 1: three children? Because you know no.
Speaker 6: I use this app call we Care, and it basically
Speaker 6: I got a babysitter, I guess. And so if somebody
Speaker 6: has a need for a babysitter or in my case,
Speaker 6: a manny, then I would come and help.
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm learning a lot about companies today.
Speaker 1: What's the name of this we Care?
Speaker 5: Oh? Yeah, great, great?
Speaker 6: Oh we Care w ee and then care? Now?
Speaker 1: How do they background check you to make sure that
Speaker 1: you're not like a crazy person, You're not gonna do
Speaker 1: anything weird to the kids.
Speaker 6: Yes, you do have to go through a background. So
Speaker 6: I did that, but I'm also like, I was a
Speaker 6: teacher support staff, so I had to do also like
Speaker 6: a background for the Arizonto Department of Safety, so I
Speaker 6: also have more. So pretty chill, pretty chill.
Speaker 1: What is it that you enjoy about working with children?
Speaker 6: I think that it's they're just like little little sponges
Speaker 6: that will play any thing, do anything, So it's everything.
Speaker 5: You could be different every day.
Speaker 1: Mmmmmmm. Do you which do you enjoy better between working
Speaker 1: with children and working with cars?
Speaker 4: I say I would say children.
Speaker 5: I want to be a principal or a superintendent.
Speaker 1: Sometimes you want to be a principal when you when
Speaker 1: you Uh, I was gonna say when you grow up,
Speaker 1: but it says here that, well, you're twenty, so you
Speaker 1: have more time. I feel like twenty I mean that
Speaker 1: makes sense for you to say I want to be
Speaker 1: that when I grow up, because there's no twenty year
Speaker 1: old principles? Is there? You know, how to be the
Speaker 1: president you have to have like a b like thirty five.
Speaker 1: Is there an age? Is there a minimum age for principal?
Speaker 1: I believe it's fine say that again. Wasn't it twenty
Speaker 1: five or is that like twenty five? You can be
Speaker 1: a principal at twenty five.
Speaker 6: I believe so as long as you finish your full
Speaker 6: years and get your bachelor's I believe.
Speaker 1: So that's pretty wild. I couldn't imagine going to the
Speaker 1: principal's office and the principal looks kind of life. He
Speaker 1: could be in your class. Yeah, what do you want
Speaker 1: to do as principal.
Speaker 6: I'm more into education or independency. So independency kind of
Speaker 6: teach you to be independent. The academics, I would kind
Speaker 6: of be more independent. I guess you could say more
Speaker 6: home x kind of course of agriculture, teaching you to
Speaker 6: do things on your own, indeed having to pay thousand
Speaker 6: dollars to go and learn it somewhere else.
Speaker 1: It's true, it's true. I feel like that makes sense,
Speaker 1: you know, trying to give the children practical skills that
Speaker 1: they can use in their life, like how to cook
Speaker 1: or clean, or drive a car or do various things
Speaker 1: that you need to be you know, pay taxes. They
Speaker 1: never taught us how to pay taxes. It's crazy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: they never taught us that. And the thing we have
Speaker 1: to do well.
Speaker 6: We learned how to start, We learned how to do things,
Speaker 6: and then in high school we learned about like politics,
Speaker 6: and we learned about how to take care of ourselves,
Speaker 6: how to do our taxes.
Speaker 5: How to go.
Speaker 6: About getting a car. What's a good interest rate? What's
Speaker 6: not a good interest rate?
Speaker 1: Oh man, that sounds incredibly interesting. What was your relationship
Speaker 1: like with your principle when you were when you were
Speaker 1: in in school.
Speaker 6: For school, I was what would you call a handbook reader.
Speaker 6: So if we didn't do what the handbook said, I'm sorry.
Speaker 6: I boked the rule so that we.
Speaker 5: Could do what the handbook said.
Speaker 6: So I was I being on.
Speaker 5: The edge of the rule book. I guess you could say.
Speaker 1: You were on the edge of the rule book. You said,
Speaker 1: tell me, tell me what rule do you remember breaking
Speaker 1: the most?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 6: Okay, So one time, I believe it was full of
Speaker 6: my junior year, I had to dare to bring an
Speaker 6: obscene toy to school.
Speaker 5: And I was not eighteen at the moment. So I
Speaker 5: had gone to Spensers.
Speaker 6: And bought the toy in little did they know, they
Speaker 6: just sold it to me. And so my job was
Speaker 6: to get it through security on the plane, then get
Speaker 6: it to school because I had to fly to school.
Speaker 6: And so then when we got to school, they also
Speaker 6: like checked us and everything and make sure we didn't
Speaker 6: have weapons or drugs and stuff.
Speaker 5: So I had to.
Speaker 6: Also hide it inside, like around my clothes so they
Speaker 6: wouldn't notice it. And so I worked like a whole
Speaker 6: two months with it in my dorm and we would
Speaker 6: basically kind of like sow it around like a baseball around.
Speaker 1: The dorm in your dorm. Okay, all right, So you
Speaker 1: went to like some boarding school, it sounds like, right, okay,
Speaker 1: and you you were you were dared to bring a
Speaker 1: sex toy there, correct, spend I did not Spencer's Gifts
Speaker 1: sold you a sex toy when you were in high school?
Speaker 6: Yeah, I was sixteen, and they told me that they
Speaker 6: didn't asked me for no ID.
Speaker 1: Really, that's crazy. They didn't ask you for any sort
Speaker 1: of idea, did they? Like, do you think they knew
Speaker 1: that you were sixteen and they just sold it to you? Anyway?
Speaker 6: I have no idea, I don't I don't even know
Speaker 6: what they thought they were thinking. They probably just found
Speaker 6: their little gay boy wanted a little fake toy, so
Speaker 6: they're going to sell it to him, make some money.
Speaker 1: You know what I get? You know, I feel like
Speaker 1: in all of your adventures with this sex toy, every
Speaker 1: adult that you come into contact with is like they
Speaker 1: just don't want to get involved. At all. They don't
Speaker 1: want to have a car. They don't want to talk
Speaker 1: to you about it. Like I, like, I wouldn't be
Speaker 1: surprised if, like the security guard did see it on you.
Speaker 1: It was just like, I'm not touching this with a
Speaker 1: ten foot poll. You know, I don't want to get
Speaker 1: involved in this situation even slightly because that's an awkward
Speaker 1: conversation to have with a stranger's child.
Speaker 6: And it was funny because to like get it onto
Speaker 6: onto campus at the airport, I took it out of
Speaker 6: my suitcase before we got picked up on the bus.
Speaker 5: At the airport.
Speaker 6: So I took it out and it was like twelve
Speaker 6: inches I think, And so I basically wrapped it around
Speaker 6: the waste of the waste of my front and so
Speaker 6: when they checked it, they didn't check that area of us.
Speaker 6: So it was just like basically wrapped around my waist and.
Speaker 1: Then you wrapped it around your waist like a belt.
Speaker 6: Uh No, I'm not fas skinny, So it was like
Speaker 6: just like the front of my Torso.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, if I saw if I were like a
Speaker 1: TSA agent and I saw some kid with a dildo
Speaker 1: wrapped around his waist, I would not say anything at all.
Speaker 1: I would be like, I'm going to pretend like I
Speaker 1: did not see that and move on with my day.
Speaker 1: So I know you think you might have been slick,
Speaker 1: but there were probably just a lot of extremely uncomfortable
Speaker 1: adults who made the decision not to intervene with that.
Speaker 1: But now I feel like, Okay, so you're going to
Speaker 1: become a principal, and you know what is your style
Speaker 1: of principle? Okay, Well you said your style is going
Speaker 1: to be that you want to teach the children stuff
Speaker 1: that they know about in real life. If you were
Speaker 1: a principal, let's say, Okay, I'm gonna throw this at you.
Speaker 1: If you were a principal and you saw some kid
Speaker 1: running around the hallway with a dildo, what would you do?
Speaker 6: Oh, well, that would be happening in mine because in
Speaker 6: our hands, but we wouldn't have no we wouldn't be
Speaker 6: allowed to obsceeme object on school campus. So I would
Speaker 6: hope both kids would not do that. So that was
Speaker 6: what made me brought it, because everybody knew not to
Speaker 6: bring it.
Speaker 5: But in public school.
Speaker 1: Well, hold on, well, hold on and answer the question.
Speaker 1: If you were a principal and you saw that happening.
Speaker 1: What would you do?
Speaker 6: I would laugh and stop, stop them and take it.
Speaker 1: You said, obviously you would take it.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I would have to take it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, okay, what are you gonna do with it? Though?
Speaker 1: You know you're a kid. Just keep it in your office?
Speaker 5: No, you just you just solved the best.
Speaker 6: So hopefully he don't go dumpster diving or they don't
Speaker 6: go dumpster diving for it.
Speaker 1: Mm hmmm. So when you said you would confront them,
Speaker 1: how would you do, Like, what would you say to them?
Speaker 6: Like?
Speaker 1: What would you like? I assume you would sit them
Speaker 1: down and have a some form of a serious discussion.
Speaker 1: What would that would that sound like?
Speaker 7: Well?
Speaker 6: I don't really know on that part because I kind
Speaker 6: of more of like a social, kind of cute person.
Speaker 6: So if they're freaking out kind of like, oh I
Speaker 6: got caught with this thing and I know I'm not
Speaker 6: supposed to be I'm going to be like, okay, give
Speaker 6: it to me here, Brenda, and then just take it
Speaker 6: and throw it away.
Speaker 5: But if it's someone who's like kind of just dared to.
Speaker 6: Kind of take it and they don't know what they're
Speaker 6: kind of doing, of course I'm going to kind of.
Speaker 5: Like talk to them and like basically tell them why
Speaker 5: it's not allowed what it is. Hopefully they wouldn't know
Speaker 5: what it is. M M.
Speaker 1: The disposal part is tricky because you would have to
Speaker 1: like you couldn't You couldn't put it in a fresh
Speaker 1: trash bin. You would have to sort of submerge it
Speaker 1: and cover it with some other trash. Because if you
Speaker 1: get caught with that, you can't be blaming it on
Speaker 1: the kid. I mean you could, but you know, then
Speaker 1: people would think that you brought a dildo to school
Speaker 1: and you're blaming it on the kids, which would.
Speaker 6: Be fucked up of you should report me and says
Speaker 6: I have it.
Speaker 1: Well listen. I hope that that doesn't happen to you, Ian,
Speaker 1: I hope that your principal career is filled with children
Speaker 1: following the rules to the t of your handbook and
Speaker 1: that it's a smooth ride for you. Breck, thank you
Speaker 1: very much for calling in. Anything else you want to
Speaker 1: say to the people of the computer before.
Speaker 6: We go, don't buy Janny pigs from pep smart.
Speaker 1: Perfect. Thank you for calling in.
Speaker 5: GOP bye bye.
Speaker 1: Ian sounded like a good person. Their phone, on the
Speaker 1: other hand, really sucked. The reason why they said that
Speaker 1: guinea pig thing is because we have a call screener
Speaker 1: who screens the calls and writes down what people want
Speaker 1: to talk about, and like, ninety five percent of the time,
Speaker 1: I'll ask them what they wanted to talk about, unless
Speaker 1: if they bring up something slightly more interesting. Ian apparently
Speaker 1: told the call screen or that he has a murderous
Speaker 1: guinea pig that uh kills every other guinea pig that
Speaker 1: his friends get. Oh oh no, okay, not that, because
Speaker 1: I was gonna ask, like, why are what's up with you?
Speaker 1: And all your friends are like guinea pig people. No,
Speaker 1: he buys this guinea pig, and he buys multiple of them,
Speaker 1: and one of them continues to kill the other guinea pigs.
Speaker 1: That's what Ian wanted to talk about when we talked
Speaker 1: about the principal thing. You know what. The guinea pig
Speaker 1: thing might have been kind of interesting, but it is
Speaker 1: lost in time now and we will never get closure
Speaker 1: on the murderous guinea pig. But to give some context
Speaker 1: to Ian's advice, I would probably ta it to heart
Speaker 1: if they tell us not to buy guinea pigs from
Speaker 1: pet smart Bunny.
Speaker 2: Hello, how are you?
Speaker 7: Oh my gosh, I didn't know if this is real.
Speaker 1: This is uh. I have as much of a diagnosis
Speaker 1: on whether or not this is real as you do, Bunny.
Speaker 7: But well, here's the thing. All everyone everyone like, there's
Speaker 7: like four voices. They all sound the same. It's like
Speaker 7: you have two guys and then two girls, and I
Speaker 7: feel like they just call in and they just have
Speaker 7: like little prompts and everybody just, you know, just does
Speaker 7: their little thing.
Speaker 6: So I'm I'm stoked, you.
Speaker 1: Know what, You're one hundred percent right. I get fucking
Speaker 1: comments all the time of people being like all the
Speaker 1: callers sound the same, it's just some guy. This guy
Speaker 1: just has his friends call in and stuff, and it's
Speaker 1: like that that's not true. But you're right. There's like
Speaker 1: a sort of a high pitched male voice and a
Speaker 1: low pitched male voice, and everyone fits into one of
Speaker 1: those two categories. And then there's two girl voices that
Speaker 1: everyone fits into those categories. Which girl voice do you
Speaker 1: think you are of the two that are on the show?
Speaker 7: Ask you what you think I am?
Speaker 1: I don't know, And you know what, you don't need
Speaker 1: to know. You don't need to know a damn thing
Speaker 1: to be on here. Bunny. But listen, Bunny, it says
Speaker 1: here that you're twenty four years old, you're from Wisconsin. Yes,
Speaker 1: I wonder what that's like. You hate compliments. You get
Speaker 1: compliments on your appearance a lot, and you say that
Speaker 1: it actually makes you more self conscious to receive a compliment.
Speaker 1: Tell me about that.
Speaker 7: I don't know, it's just ever been since like junior high,
Speaker 7: Like whenever i'd like wear a shirt and someone would
Speaker 7: be like, oh, hey, I like your shirt, like it
Speaker 7: makes me just super self conscious, like, oh, what's wrong
Speaker 7: with my outfit? Like it in the back because my
Speaker 7: underwear sticking out, you know, like what's going on? And
Speaker 7: like still to this day, like I still have that fear,
Speaker 7: and I've tried to get over it, but I just can't.
Speaker 7: And you know, I dress kind of eccentric and I
Speaker 7: really like the way I dress and I feel really
Speaker 7: good about it until somebody, like I'm out and somebody
Speaker 7: gives me a compliment, and then I'm just like, oh,
Speaker 7: I just like want to go and change into something
Speaker 7: normal and just like not want to be seen, and
Speaker 7: I don't know why.
Speaker 1: So are we talking mainly compliments of regarding your your appearance?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 7: Mostly in my appearance. Sometimes I'll get it about my
Speaker 7: personality and they're just lying, They're just trying to be nice.
Speaker 7: Look I don't believe them, but it's like not as
Speaker 7: severe as like the outfit compliments. And sometimes when I
Speaker 7: go into sorts, I usually get it mostly just like
Speaker 7: some strange. I like pretend I'm on the phone when
Speaker 7: I'm walking through stores, just so like I don't get
Speaker 7: people talking to me or you know.
Speaker 1: Interesting. Interesting, Have you ever received a compliment that did
Speaker 1: not have this effect?
Speaker 7: Not from a stranger? Probably not, But like if it's
Speaker 7: from like a sister or like a really close friend,
Speaker 7: and I know that they're genuine about it, then it
Speaker 7: doesn't bug me. But from strangers, it just like drives
Speaker 7: me up the wall.
Speaker 1: M Okay, So if you receive a compliment from someone
Speaker 1: you know, like a close friend or a family member,
Speaker 1: you do not have the same thought train as when
Speaker 1: it's a stranger. Why do you think that is?
Speaker 7: Just because I know their intentions and I know that
Speaker 7: they're genuine about it, and it's not like if I
Speaker 7: did have something wrong with my outfits, then they would
Speaker 7: tell me, whereas like a stranger, it's like, oh are
Speaker 7: they trying to tell me something.
Speaker 1: So I was going to say that. I mean, I
Speaker 1: feel like, typically this is I'm gonna do some armchair
Speaker 1: therapy here. I feel like, typically this is like a
Speaker 1: self esteem thing. But you're telling me that you actually
Speaker 1: you like how you dressed. You sound to me, well,
Speaker 1: you know, at least when you were talking about the
Speaker 1: way that you present yourself, you sound to me like
Speaker 1: you like it. That there is a sort of fire
Speaker 1: of confidence within you in regards to how you dress,
Speaker 1: and your opinion of yourself sounds to be in a
Speaker 1: good place. What I mean, do you agree with that.
Speaker 7: Totally?
Speaker 1: Okay? So if your opinion of yourself seems to be
Speaker 1: in a good place, do you are you does? Does
Speaker 1: that get rattled when people, I mean, you know, confirm
Speaker 1: it and you know, say hey, you know they really
Speaker 1: do like your dress or fingernails or whatever it is.
Speaker 7: I don't know, see, like, I just like, I still
Speaker 7: feel good about my outfit, but just like, I don't know,
Speaker 7: something about getting a compliment just throws it off. And
Speaker 7: then I go home and I'm like, yeah, I do
Speaker 7: look good, I do look bomb. I'm like, why did
Speaker 7: I ever feel self conscious about somebody?
Speaker 1: Saying something right, Well, I mean the foundation of your confidence,
Speaker 1: uh should come from you, and it sounds like it does.
Speaker 1: Is that accurate?
Speaker 7: I would say you?
Speaker 1: Okay? Mm hm you have you ever talked to a
Speaker 1: real therapist about this?
Speaker 7: Not really? I probably should though.
Speaker 1: How is your confidence in general?
Speaker 7: I'm pretty good. It's gotten a lot better of the years.
Speaker 7: I do tend to be quiet and shy, but over
Speaker 7: the years I've been able to be more confident and
Speaker 7: be able to show myself except for just getting compliments
Speaker 7: that just on my outfits.
Speaker 1: That okay, now, I don't know. Now, how do you
Speaker 1: feel about insults? If somebody came up to you and
Speaker 1: they were like, your your dress looks like shit and
Speaker 1: your fingernails suck? How would that make you feel?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 6: I would love that.
Speaker 7: I want people to be more mean to me. And
Speaker 7: it's like, I think that's the problem is everybody's just
Speaker 7: so nice to me that I just want somebody to
Speaker 7: walk up and just like give me the worst and
Speaker 7: just tell me straight up what I.
Speaker 1: What's your name again?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 8: What was it?
Speaker 1: What's your name?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 7: Bunny?
Speaker 1: Bunny? I fully empathize with you. I I people, I
Speaker 1: totally I totally get it you're making I'm sort of
Speaker 1: realizing now that I have a similar thing that you have,
Speaker 1: where like you know, people will tell me things about
Speaker 1: myself and I'll be like, ah, they're just saying that.
Speaker 1: But when people say a negative thing to me, I'm like,
Speaker 1: finally someone's telling me the fucking business. Here, Someone's telling
Speaker 1: me the truth. Okay, not everything can be positive all
Speaker 1: the time. I love it too. I'm totally with you,
Speaker 1: not alone. I love it too.
Speaker 7: And I get it because I can't be negative to
Speaker 7: other people. To show that that's what I want, I
Speaker 7: have to be so nice to them too because they're
Speaker 7: so nice to me. It's just like I just I
Speaker 7: can't handle it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's hard. I'm always trying to let people know,
Speaker 1: like listen, if you have a genuine criticism of me,
Speaker 1: I want you to tell me, and I want people
Speaker 1: to know I can handle it. You know. I just
Speaker 1: want people to know I can have But nobody wants
Speaker 1: to wants to wants to do it. People are afraid
Speaker 1: to criticize other people because of you know whatever social
Speaker 1: Soka shows social conventions. So I mean, look, if you
Speaker 1: leave this call with anything, just you know, know, that
Speaker 1: you are. You are not alone in this very fucking
Speaker 1: weird thing that that we see him to share because
Speaker 1: I also I love I love when people tell me that,
Speaker 1: you know, some insult about uh me that is that
Speaker 1: confirms something that I was self conscious about, because I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: I'm not funcuse that I see. Someone will be like,
Speaker 1: you know, oh, your fucking show sucks, and I'll be like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm not crazy here, but these thoughts that I've been
Speaker 1: having are Okay, I'm not insane in having these thoughts.
Speaker 7: Mm hmm, but I honestly don't think you show so
Speaker 7: I can't see that.
Speaker 1: Get the fuck out of here.
Speaker 7: That's what I'm calling it. Okay, next time I'll call
Speaker 7: you and.
Speaker 1: No, no, no, Well, Bunny, I think uh, I think
Speaker 1: I think you've been. You've been. I'm trying to think
Speaker 1: of a compliments that's not weird. Uh you have been
Speaker 1: nice to talk to.
Speaker 7: Oh, thank you, of course.
Speaker 1: Is there anything you want to say to the people
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Speaker 4: It's beautiful life.
Speaker 1: Thank you for calling, buddy.
Speaker 7: I think you goodbye.
Speaker 1: I agree with that. I like when when people are
Speaker 1: mean to me because people I'm I'm very luck, I'm
Speaker 1: very low, I'm very lucky. I'm very lucky. Most people
Speaker 1: are pretty nice to me. I'm blessed that, like the
Speaker 1: majority of people are not. I don't I never get
Speaker 1: offended by anything that I read on the internet because
Speaker 1: it's like, most people are pretty nice to me. So
Speaker 1: it's every time I see something that is me and
Speaker 1: I'm like, finally, when I was way up because I'm prepared,
Speaker 1: I'm like, it's this inevitable. You can't get too upset
Speaker 1: when someone's a dick to you because there's like seven billion,
Speaker 1: seven hundred thousand, there's like seven there's infinite people in
Speaker 1: the universe, and what they're all supposed to be nice
Speaker 1: to you? What are you nuts? Of course, of course
Speaker 1: somebody is going to be mean to you. So when
Speaker 1: it happens, I don't get upset because I'm like, all right,
Speaker 1: this was just an inevitability. This is to be expected.
Speaker 1: This is part of the process of being a human being,
Speaker 1: especially being someone who's you know, putting themselves out there.
Speaker 1: So I just accept it as part of the thing.
Speaker 1: I'm lucky that everyone is. Most people are nice to me,
Speaker 1: but it's exciting when they're not. It's a break in form.
Speaker 1: I'm grateful for every single message that I respond to them.
Speaker 1: When I can messages of people being like I love
Speaker 1: the show and you've been great, I'm like, thank you
Speaker 1: very much. But sometimes you get something that's like, you know,
Speaker 1: you're a fucking fat piece of shit and I hope
Speaker 1: that uh, and you should quit. And I'm like, finally,
Speaker 1: I've been waiting for this. It's like, uh, it's inevitable.
Speaker 1: I just want to get it over with. I just
Speaker 1: want to get the you know, you know the punch
Speaker 1: is coming. You know that people being jerks is just
Speaker 1: an inevitability of existing in society. So when it happens,
Speaker 1: I don't get upset. I'm just going through the motions.
Speaker 1: I'm driving down the road, I'm stopping at stop signs,
Speaker 1: I'm eating food, I'm sleeping, I'm brushing my teeth, and
Speaker 1: I'm getting yelled at. Occasionally it's fine, Hello.
Speaker 5: Hello, Hi?
Speaker 4: Is this John?
Speaker 5: Uh? John Carlo?
Speaker 1: Yeah, John Carlo? How you? Oh wait? Okay, so is
Speaker 1: your like your first name is John Carlo?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Call one word.
Speaker 1: I have a friend his name is John Tom and
Speaker 1: he hates when people call him John or when they
Speaker 1: call him Tom because a lot of the times he'll say, hey,
Speaker 1: my name is John Tom. People go with that's a
Speaker 1: that's a cross that I feel like both of you
Speaker 1: guys have to bear where you tell people your name
Speaker 1: and they go, what is it is that your full name?
Speaker 1: Is that your first name? What's you know? The deal? Here?
Speaker 1: Go ahead.
Speaker 4: It's so it's so annoying because all my life I've
Speaker 4: grown up and just had to accept that people will
Speaker 4: assume that my last name is Carlow and have to
Speaker 4: be like no, and it's just such a hassle. But yeah,
Speaker 4: I don't totally understand that and get it.
Speaker 1: It's the way.
Speaker 4: No.
Speaker 1: My friend he says the same thing. He's like, I
Speaker 1: hate it. People won't just accept it. It's a hassle.
Speaker 1: It's a whole thing, and you know, I I tell him,
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, if it really bothers you that much,
Speaker 1: just go by John. And he's like, no, that's my
Speaker 1: fucking name. He got pissed off of me when I
Speaker 1: suggested that. So I respect you guys for, even in
Speaker 1: the face of such a hassle, continuing to live by
Speaker 1: your actual name, because if I were you, I would
Speaker 1: have changed or if I were you, or if I
Speaker 1: were my friend John Tom, I would have changed my
Speaker 1: name to John when I was you know, eleven. So
Speaker 1: I am not as strong.
Speaker 6: As you use this for me.
Speaker 4: I feel like I would be more upset at my
Speaker 4: mom for like choosing the name, because the creativity with
Speaker 4: their like just went downhill right after my name.
Speaker 1: Why, what's what are your brother's names?
Speaker 4: So there's me John Carlow, and there's Joseph Nicole, Bobby.
Speaker 1: Randy jose Okay, so they did They were like, Okay,
Speaker 1: we're not going to do the weird double name thing
Speaker 1: for two kids, and then they were they named their
Speaker 1: last kid Bobby Randy just for nostalgia. By the way,
Speaker 1: Bobby Randy has it way worse than you do. I mean,
Speaker 1: that is an incomprehensible to name name.
Speaker 4: It's the worst.
Speaker 1: How can I get you this evening, John car though.
Speaker 4: So my dilemma pretty much starts with the fact that
Speaker 4: my half brother recently immigrated to the United States and
Speaker 4: he is living at my aunt's house in my hometown. Unfortunately,
Speaker 4: I've been feeling a lot of pressure from all of
Speaker 4: my family members to interact and reach out and like,
Speaker 4: you know, say hi. But I'm an extremely anxious person
Speaker 4: and don't I've never been in this situation before, so
Speaker 4: I don't exactly know how I'm supposed to just drive
Speaker 4: over there and like say hi or anything.
Speaker 1: So your half brother, he recently immigrated to Let's see,
Speaker 1: where does it say you live? Where do you live?
Speaker 4: I live in Indiana?
Speaker 1: You live in Indiana and your half brother immigrated to
Speaker 1: Indiana from where.
Speaker 4: Honduras?
Speaker 1: From Honduras? And do you live with any of your
Speaker 1: other family in Indiana or not necessarily with them, but
Speaker 1: are any of them or any other of your family
Speaker 1: in Indiana.
Speaker 4: Yeah, So, like I'd say, like of my family live
Speaker 4: in Indiana and then the rest are split between Honduras
Speaker 4: and then North Carolina. Believe I don't live with any
Speaker 4: of my family members. I live with my roommate and
Speaker 4: my girlfriend.
Speaker 1: So I'm confused because it'd be one thing if you
Speaker 1: lived in some place and your family lived in a
Speaker 1: different place, and your half brother was coming and your
Speaker 1: family was like, hey, take care of your half brother
Speaker 1: when you're there, and you're like, I'm kind of anxious.
Speaker 1: I don't want to do that. But if your family
Speaker 1: lives there too, why don't you see your half brother
Speaker 1: alongside the rest of your family. Why don't you like
Speaker 1: plan a you know, a whole you know, dinner or
Speaker 1: something like that, or if if they care so much
Speaker 1: about entertaining and why don't they plan a dinner and
Speaker 1: invite you. What's why does it have to be your
Speaker 1: thing to take care of them.
Speaker 4: So it's a tricky situation because all of my family's
Speaker 4: on my mother's side, and as for my aunt and
Speaker 4: him there on my dad's side, and I don't really
Speaker 4: have a whole lot of family on that side except
Speaker 4: for my aunt, him and like maybe two other people.
Speaker 1: Okay, so the family that is, so the family that
Speaker 1: is related to the half brother, you do not have
Speaker 1: a lot of in Indiana.
Speaker 4: Yeah, No, Like I don't really have any relationship with
Speaker 4: them like at all.
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, that makes a little bit more sense.
Speaker 1: So you're the so in the eye from the perspective
Speaker 1: of your half brother, you are the only family member
Speaker 1: of his living in Indiana.
Speaker 4: Except for my brother because he my Joseph, he's also
Speaker 4: his half brother, so it's only him and I.
Speaker 1: Okay, So why don't you go visit him with your brother?
Speaker 4: We were supposed to this weekend. He ended up going
Speaker 4: to see him without me, and I was too caught
Speaker 4: up in doing something so I wasn't able to And
Speaker 4: I feel like I kind of like blew that opportunity
Speaker 4: to try to break the ice and like kind of
Speaker 4: tag team it. But now it's just where I'm kind
Speaker 4: of in the situation where I have to do it myself.
Speaker 4: So I'm extremely anxious about it.
Speaker 1: Tell me, Tell me why you're anxious about it.
Speaker 4: So it's just like a really weird new situation for
Speaker 4: me to be in, especially because they don't go out
Speaker 4: of my way to really interact or talk to too
Speaker 4: many people, so I don't know too much about what
Speaker 4: I should really do or like how I should go
Speaker 4: about it, or like what I should like invite him
Speaker 4: to do because I don't want to take him to
Speaker 4: go see a movie where we just sit in the
Speaker 4: dark for an hour hour movie.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm do take it? How old he twenty twenty one?
Speaker 1: Why did you take it? Do you drink? Does he drink?
Speaker 4: I don't know, honestly. I know that he's a couple
Speaker 4: months older than I am, but I really don't know
Speaker 4: anything about him or like what he's into. So I
Speaker 4: feel like drinking him could.
Speaker 1: Be kind of fit or bess, look, ask him if
Speaker 1: he wants to go to a bar, Ask him if
Speaker 1: he wants to go to a restaurant, anything like that.
Speaker 1: Although for you this doesn't feel like a like a
Speaker 1: what to do situation because we already know what to do.
Speaker 1: If the problem lies in the fact that you're just
Speaker 1: kind of anxious to do what it sounds Yeah, and
Speaker 1: so you have just a general anxiety you said about
Speaker 1: meeting other people and interact with them.
Speaker 4: Yeah, hmmmmmmmmmmm.
Speaker 1: When's the last time that you, well, you have a girlfriends, right, maybe?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 1: And you have friends?
Speaker 4: I have like two friends.
Speaker 1: Did any part of you desire because there's a lot
Speaker 1: of people out there the world that they're like cool with,
Speaker 1: you know, staying inside and not talking to a lot
Speaker 1: of people and having a few friends and being comfortable
Speaker 1: and sort of living life that way. And that's a
Speaker 1: fine way to live life. Is that is that you
Speaker 1: would you describe yourself as that? Or are you you know,
Speaker 1: do you do you desire to uh heighten your social
Speaker 1: skills at all?
Speaker 4: So I used to be a very social person, but
Speaker 4: then like when the pandemic like hit, my social skills
Speaker 4: just like went down the gutter. So my friend groups
Speaker 4: have become my very close knit and ever since I
Speaker 4: got into three D printing, it's just been like my
Speaker 4: entire life. So I don't really think it interacts people.
Speaker 1: Damn three D printing. We thought it was gonna be
Speaker 1: video games. We thought it was gonna be VR porn.
Speaker 1: We thought it was gonna be the wife who bed pillows.
Speaker 1: All these are all the things that we thought we're
Speaker 1: going to keep people inside forever. But no, it was
Speaker 1: three D printing.
Speaker 4: I'm really obsessed with it, like it's like it's bad, Like,
Speaker 4: oh my lord, I spent so much time watching videos
Speaker 4: and like learning about it.
Speaker 1: John Carlo, I would you know, here's this is this
Speaker 1: is the issue that I have when I when I
Speaker 1: talk to people who have like because I can't magically
Speaker 1: bestow upon you the confidence or desire to go and
Speaker 1: hang out with your half brother. But I will say
Speaker 1: I think this is an opportunity for you to jump
Speaker 1: into the cold water and just go and and sort
Speaker 1: of in a way be forced to put yourself out
Speaker 1: there and make conversation with a new person. And maybe
Speaker 1: that could be a helpful chance for you to take.
Speaker 4: Well, if it does make you feel better. I had
Speaker 4: already like decided that if you had picked up my call,
Speaker 4: I was going to go do it anyway.
Speaker 1: Perfect weekend, Okay, good, well, I mean I.
Speaker 4: Am going to do it now. I'm just like trying
Speaker 4: to figure out what to do and how to go
Speaker 4: about the situation.
Speaker 1: Great news is this is the easy part.
Speaker 3: Dude.
Speaker 1: You can just go to a bar and hang out
Speaker 1: with him at the bar. Easy, peasy.
Speaker 4: I am worried that there might be a slight language
Speaker 4: barrier because I don't know if he speaks English and
Speaker 4: my Spanish just kind of shit.
Speaker 1: You know what, That'll be a fun thing for you
Speaker 1: guys to work through. All right, consider it a good
Speaker 1: challenge for you.
Speaker 4: I will think of it as a mighty challenge.
Speaker 1: Good luck to you, John. Okay, you want to keep
Speaker 1: what is John? Good luck to you John Carlow. Wow, yeah, man,
Speaker 1: go kill it. It's your cousin. Wait, no, not your cousin,
Speaker 1: your half brother. He's your half brother, so there's no
Speaker 1: way for you to really embarrass yourself in front of him,
Speaker 1: because he's also has your blood. So anything he thinks
Speaker 1: of you, he's a little bit thinking of himself as well. Half.
Speaker 4: I think it'll be funny.
Speaker 1: Thanks for Coln, John Carlo. I keep thinking, I keep
Speaker 1: thinking of your name is Juan Carlow because I've heard
Speaker 1: oh yeah, because I've never I've never met someone named
Speaker 1: John Carlo, but I've heard the name Wan Carlo a lot.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Won Carlo is a lot more common than John Carlow. Like,
Speaker 4: it's just it's so annoying. I actually go by GC
Speaker 4: a lot of the time just to make it easier
Speaker 4: for people. And I tend to like kind of whitewash
Speaker 4: my name so that like people can say it or
Speaker 4: pronounce it a lot easier, just to make my life easier.
Speaker 1: Well, JC, have fun with your brother, right, Thank you,
Speaker 1: have a good night. Take care of boss. Yeah, let's
Speaker 1: see John Carlow. The only way sometimes to do this
Speaker 1: shit of getting confidence and put yourself out there is
Speaker 1: to just jump into the cold water. I've tried many
Speaker 1: times to get to improve my social skills, to learn
Speaker 1: how to talk to more people, and some people they
Speaker 1: like connecting with others just inherently more than other people do.
Speaker 1: And it's hard if you're not one of those people
Speaker 1: to force yourself to do it. But I feel like
Speaker 1: this whole half brother thing is a little little opportunity
Speaker 1: for John Carlow to work up with social skills in
Speaker 1: like a pretty safe environment. I mean, they have plenty
Speaker 1: to talk about. They're both of the same ilk, and
Speaker 1: it's not like he's just going up to some girl
Speaker 1: at a bar and trying to make conversation out of nothing.
Speaker 1: You know, it's a solid, solid arena for him to
Speaker 1: practice in. Hello, Lyle, Hi.
Speaker 3: Is this Lyle?
Speaker 1: This is is? It's definitely someone? What's your name? I'm Pixie, Pixie.
Speaker 1: How's it going?
Speaker 3: I'm I'm doing great, it's going good. Is this actually Lyle?
Speaker 3: I can't tell? You sound so different?
Speaker 1: I sound differ in what way? Do I sound different?
Speaker 3: You sound so different? You literally sound so different.
Speaker 1: I don't know in what way. How if you could,
Speaker 1: in any way, shape orform, describe how I sound different,
Speaker 1: how would you describe it?
Speaker 3: You sound more normal? You sound more normal.
Speaker 1: Well, now I'm offended that you ever assumed that I
Speaker 1: sounded weird.
Speaker 3: Well maybe it's like without the visual, without the get
Speaker 3: go costume. Yeah?
Speaker 1: Uh so, Pixie, are you Are you with somebody? It
Speaker 1: says that you're with somebody or that you wanted to
Speaker 1: talk about somebody.
Speaker 3: Yep, I got my girlfriend right here. She is in
Speaker 3: the background. Her name is Moss.
Speaker 1: Moth and Pixie. Interesting, both are the did you guys
Speaker 1: can ask? Did you guys pick those names for yourselves?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah we did. We're both trans.
Speaker 1: Now did you two both like kind of agree to
Speaker 1: uh do? Because because you both picked winged characters, I
Speaker 1: guess they're not care your winged beings.
Speaker 3: Well, her name is actually moss m o s s
Speaker 3: like the plant like that.
Speaker 8: Grows on trees.
Speaker 3: She also she also goes by moth like m O
Speaker 3: t h. She goes by that online for selling content.
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. Interesting. I feel like it's I'd rather be
Speaker 1: a pixie than a moth. I feel like that's a
Speaker 1: more glamorous life.
Speaker 3: Oh, I think you're right. I think it is a
Speaker 3: more glamorous life. But that I think that describes us
Speaker 3: pretty well, like in comparison to each other.
Speaker 1: So, Pixie and Moth, what is it that you guys,
Speaker 1: if anything at all? What is it that you guys
Speaker 1: wanted to talk about today?
Speaker 3: Well, you were talking a lot about existentialism and whatnot,
Speaker 3: and I was resonating a lot with that because I
Speaker 3: have a really hard time like even perceiving other people
Speaker 3: perceiving me, Like I can't I can't even understand that
Speaker 3: these people have their own consciousness just like me, and
Speaker 3: that they have to figure everything out like I'm doing
Speaker 3: it right now.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: And it's also really really hard because I don't see
Speaker 3: how half of these people are even wanting to do
Speaker 3: it because I don't want to do it most of
Speaker 3: the time. So I don't understand how Like.
Speaker 1: Slow down real quick, like, sorry, what is what is it?
Speaker 1: What is it? Just? Life?
Speaker 4: All of it?
Speaker 1: Man?
Speaker 4: Just the shit.
Speaker 1: Can I tell you this one thing about because you're
Speaker 1: talking about you don't understand, uh, people perceiving you and whatnot? Yeah,
Speaker 1: your life? Well, and I've just this is just my
Speaker 1: own opinion from my own experience. Uh. The I think
Speaker 1: it's important to a degree to understand that other people
Speaker 1: have perceptions and thoughts the same as you do, because
Speaker 1: it makes you more empathetic towards them. But uh, the
Speaker 1: more that you just fucking completely ignore the fact that
Speaker 1: other people have thoughts and perceptions, you'll feel a little
Speaker 1: bit better because if you're always thinking about how other
Speaker 1: people have thoughts and perceptions, do it enough that you
Speaker 1: have empathy for people, but not too much that you're
Speaker 1: self conscious about yourself all the time? You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, that makes a lot of sense. I spend
Speaker 3: a lot of time just wondering looking at people and
Speaker 3: being like, is that like an AI that I created
Speaker 3: in my brain? Or are they real? Because it's hard
Speaker 3: for me to perceive that. Like, you exist, and you
Speaker 3: have a brain right now, and you're thinking things just
Speaker 3: like I am, Like, sure, am, oh, I've never done
Speaker 3: this before.
Speaker 1: How a much I'm thinking? I am thinking horrible, horrible
Speaker 1: thoughts that I could never share with anyone else. Oh No,
Speaker 1: if anyone ever found out about the thoughts that I
Speaker 1: think they would be disgusted with me and that's why
Speaker 1: I never share them.
Speaker 3: No, I disagree. I think like that too, but I have,
Speaker 3: but I tell them. I tell people the thoughts because
Speaker 3: I want to remove the tabooists from it. Like, here's
Speaker 3: the thing I haven't trusted thoughts, And I mean this
Speaker 3: in the in the that's way possible if you can.
Speaker 3: I've thought about killing you before. And it's not that
Speaker 3: I want to. It's just like bad interessive thoughts, and
Speaker 3: that's okay. We can share them because then it'll be like, hey, hey,
Speaker 3: actually I think about that too, and then we can
Speaker 3: be like, oh, okay, cool, we're both awful people like
Speaker 3: you know.
Speaker 1: And it's thoughts. Let's say is that? Can we talk
Speaker 1: about that? I relaxed. I feel like we're totally not
Speaker 1: talking about that, but well we're talking about it in
Speaker 1: a theory, we're talking about it in thoughts. No, of course,
Speaker 1: I hate the Internet. I hate that we have to
Speaker 1: think about what we are talking about because I don't
Speaker 1: think you actually, I don't think you want to kill
Speaker 1: at all. No, I get what you're saying. I get
Speaker 1: what you're saying. Your brain, your brain does this thing,
Speaker 1: and ever anyone who doesn't under anyone who's like actively
Speaker 1: trying to not understand what we're talking about right now,
Speaker 1: is lying to themselves. But your brain does this thing
Speaker 1: sometimes where it just sort of independently of you as
Speaker 1: a real person and your own morality, your brain just goes,
Speaker 1: what's the most fucked up thing I could possibly think
Speaker 1: right now? Just recreation? Your brain just does that with
Speaker 1: awful leash. Not it's not a real thought, it's not
Speaker 1: something you have any actual uh what what is the word?
Speaker 1: Not something you have any actual whatever to like, real
Speaker 1: genuine feelings about. But your brain just goes, like for sport,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna stretch the limits. It's almost like when you're
Speaker 1: this is I don't know if this is a good
Speaker 1: analogy or not, but like when you're in the gym, uh,
Speaker 1: you're you expand by picking by you just pick up
Speaker 1: a heavier weight when you picked before, And maybe your
Speaker 1: brain does this weird thing that's like, in order to expand,
Speaker 1: I'm going to think something more fucked up than I've
Speaker 1: ever thought before in my life, just so I can.
Speaker 1: And you're and you're not you're not even an active
Speaker 1: participant in your thoughts. Sometimes you just watch, Yeah, so
Speaker 1: I get where you're coming from in a sense what
Speaker 1: I don't know if I should answer this question. What
Speaker 1: else do you think about?
Speaker 3: Always think about a lot of things. I like to
Speaker 3: propose this what I do have, Like, uh, I'm psychoactive,
Speaker 3: and I have like a BPD and o CD. And
Speaker 3: there's a name for those and they're called intrusive thoughts.
Speaker 3: And they just thoughts that like you can't control and stuff.
Speaker 3: And I think about it a lot. My therapist told
Speaker 3: me this a few years ago. Think of them like cars,
Speaker 3: like passing. Like you're sitting by a highway. All these
Speaker 3: cars is zooming, and like you don't have to stop
Speaker 3: and stare at all of them, like not at all.
Speaker 3: You don't have to go run into it. You can
Speaker 3: just like watch them pass because you have no control
Speaker 3: over it. And I think I think that makes it
Speaker 3: a lot.
Speaker 8: Easier to understand.
Speaker 1: Okay, we did it, we got.
Speaker 3: Through that psychotic. I'm not psychotic. Psychoactive is like a
Speaker 3: trait of like depression. But I don't sorry, I'm reading
Speaker 3: the chat. No, I'm not.
Speaker 1: What's the pixie? Pixie, don't pixie, don't read, don't read
Speaker 1: the stupid chat. Don't No, I know, I know I know.
Speaker 1: I'm just I'm upset at you that you're reading.
Speaker 3: Sorry, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 1: Low, don't do it. Okay, well, okay, we're done. Okay,
Speaker 1: all right, done, completely right. How did you and moth me?
Speaker 3: You won't believe this. We met don't know megl We
Speaker 3: met don't know Meg.
Speaker 1: Megal and then you guys both are in the same
Speaker 1: How are you guys both in the same room. I
Speaker 1: feel like you're meeting matching people. Yeah, no random places.
Speaker 3: Yep, there's a story. We were both we don't even
Speaker 3: use the megal and we both we're on there and
Speaker 3: we found out like to find other people our age,
Speaker 3: like eighteen nineteen, we're both eighteen. Uh, we had to
Speaker 3: go on like the TikTok chat to find like cool
Speaker 3: people that are like us. I guess I don't know,
Speaker 3: just like but a lot of people will know suck.
Speaker 3: So I was about to get off anyways, but I
Speaker 3: saw her on there and she was dancing in her room,
Speaker 3: and I was like, I gotta get her number. So
Speaker 3: I literally asked and she was like yeah, and then
Speaker 3: we started talking, and two weeks later I bought her
Speaker 3: a plane ticket to come see me for Christmas. Which
Speaker 3: was a really dumb idea in hindsight, like why would
Speaker 3: you do that? But it worked out great, and it's great,
Speaker 3: it worked out perfectly.
Speaker 1: Well, I'm glad to hear the things. Uh what what
Speaker 1: is Moth saying?
Speaker 3: She said, I was looking at the chat, but I wasn't.
Speaker 1: You don't have the check you know what. Well, listen,
Speaker 1: Pixie Moth, thank you guys for sharing about the intrusive thoughts,
Speaker 1: and she was, the thoughts thing is a weird thing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're definitely gonna have to censor. Uh, we're neverthing that
Speaker 1: a censor part of that, but yes, intrusive thoughts thing
Speaker 1: is a weird It's a weird thing that I think
Speaker 1: happens to everyone that we just don't talk about because
Speaker 1: it's too fucked up to talk about. I've always expressed this.
Speaker 1: I feel like like thoughts and feelings are like kind
Speaker 1: of fair. You can think and feel anything at all
Speaker 1: in the realm of whatever, and I don't think that
Speaker 1: it taints your your soul or your morality or anything
Speaker 1: like that. I think it's when the thoughts become, you know,
Speaker 1: more than just thoughts, is when it's when things start
Speaker 1: to get tricky. But just the thoughts there. That's that's
Speaker 1: when they're in a realm of like, Okay, maybe we
Speaker 1: should do something about this. But the intrusive thoughts, I
Speaker 1: mean that that's not real. You know, that's just your brain.
Speaker 1: That's just your brain off a leash, going crazy for sport.
Speaker 1: You know. I'm glad you have a real therapist to
Speaker 1: talk about with this stuff.
Speaker 3: Yes, I do, But I don't think I said that.
Speaker 1: No you did?
Speaker 3: Oh I did? Oh yeah, no I did. Yeah, you're right,
Speaker 3: you don't.
Speaker 1: Want your therapist was telling you. I like what I
Speaker 1: like what they said with the cars.
Speaker 3: I like that, Yeah, the cars, the cars.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Well, Pixie, is there anything else you want to
Speaker 1: say to the people of the computer before we go? Oh?
Speaker 3: Yes, I I think that there's something else. I don't
Speaker 3: know if the the person wrote it down the screener that.
Speaker 3: I don't know if you'd be interested to talk about
Speaker 3: related in like pirates and goblins? Did you see that
Speaker 3: on there?
Speaker 1: Uh? I did? What did? What did? Uh? What did
Speaker 1: you want to talk about in terms of goblins?
Speaker 3: Well, m this is a complete flip a whole one eighty.
Speaker 3: But we we really like to role play like goblins
Speaker 3: and pirates bed and that's like our favorite thing, like
Speaker 3: number one turn on And I guess that's like kind
Speaker 3: of weird.
Speaker 1: Who is the pirate and who is the goblin? Or
Speaker 1: do you guys take.
Speaker 3: Turns no One at a time, like like we do
Speaker 3: pirates and then we do goblins. Like we're both pirates
Speaker 3: and we're both Scotlins.
Speaker 1: What is it that turns you on about pirates like.
Speaker 3: Our I don't.
Speaker 8: Know, like our it's like your level of aggressiveness and
Speaker 8: like uh oh okay, hello. It's like there's like there
Speaker 8: are kind of different things. Like with goblins, it's like
Speaker 8: this animalistic like mischievous nature that makes it fun. But
Speaker 8: with pirates, the pirates are a new thing. Like we
Speaker 8: kind of just go our yeah, and then and then
Speaker 8: it escalates them and then we like make those kinds
Speaker 8: of noises. I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable. No
Speaker 8: oh yeah, you know.
Speaker 1: I I just uh, you know, it's it's a pleasure
Speaker 1: talking to you guys, because yeah, it's great to know
Speaker 1: that this big, beautiful world's got something for everyone. You know.
Speaker 8: Yeah, there's something for everybody.
Speaker 1: Something for everybody. Uh see, that's you know, in terms
Speaker 1: of the things that people you know, have going on
Speaker 1: they don't talk about. There's a there's probably five hundred
Speaker 1: people and maybe more on the podcast, uh that will
Speaker 1: listen to this, And one of those motherfuckers wants to
Speaker 1: fuck a pirate or a goblin, and they're like and
Speaker 1: and they probably it's like one of the most shameful
Speaker 1: things and to them in their brain and they have
Speaker 1: no idea that there's other human beings out there that
Speaker 1: want to fuck pirates and goblins. And so you've you've
Speaker 1: comforted that with that. So thank you for your openness,
Speaker 1: Pixie and Moth, and I hope you both have a
Speaker 1: great rest of the day.
Speaker 7: Exactly.
Speaker 8: Yeah, it's good to know the other people out there
Speaker 8: share experiences and stuff, and thank you for talking to us.
Speaker 2: We appreciate a good night.
Speaker 6: Guess hello you not night?
Speaker 1: All right, Brandon, we're gonna censor the word. We're gonna
Speaker 1: censor the word, Brandon, Okay, and then and then in
Speaker 1: the post this can be part of the post call.
Speaker 1: You can even censor the word when I say, you
Speaker 1: can censor the word when I say to censor it.
Speaker 1: Just now you can include this part. Yeah, I have
Speaker 1: intrusive thoughts of course, everyone I have, everyone has intrusive thoughts.
Speaker 1: There's nobody in the world. Then you're just fucking lying.
Speaker 1: There's nobody in the world that puts every single maybe there,
Speaker 1: maybe there is, I'm not gonna I don't know anything
Speaker 1: for sure, but there's very few people in the world
Speaker 1: who put every single thing out there on the table.
Speaker 1: Oh practically no one. Why would you? And we all
Speaker 1: have crazy thoughts because of our brains. I think the
Speaker 1: danger is when those crazy thoughts manifest themselves to things
Speaker 1: that are not just thoughts.
Speaker 7: But that.
Speaker 1: Is a thought process, breakdown, whatever have you for. A
Speaker 1: person who is a real therapist and not a gecko.
Speaker 8: Really goes on the line taking your phone calls every night.
Speaker 1: Demon goes to his d just teaching you cloud in
Speaker 1: the memory life, but he's not really an expert.